I'm autistic (diagnosed autism, not tiktok autism) and our brain comes with no filter, we have to learn it but many don't even get it and others just forget to turn on the filter before speaking, so we tend to talk like this but not angry or trying to be rude, we just say what we think. It is awful most of the time, you get misunderstood, everyone thinks you are a jerk or trying to be edgy by being rude, but also nerd in a bad way and it makes it way more difficult to socialize, work, make friends, or even ask for something at the grocery store. It is not as cool or funny as it sounds.
@@christopherstein2024 Just because she isn't initially attracted doesn't mean much. I've given guys a chance and found other qualities I was attracted to, and that turned into physical attraction. That's up to her if she's interested in exploring or not.
Honestly, that would be the best answer to hear personally. It's direct, honest, and wouldn't leave me with a "is she trying to tell me something, or do I just walk away." I got my answer and move on.
I once had a girl in a club flat out tell me she wanted to talk but my breath was bad, she was right and I never forgot to freshen up again before going out. Unfiltered honesty fucking rules.
Everytime a woman told me something honest like that it helped me in the long run with my game. I appreciate you ladies and so do others even if they don't know it
@@razenburnThat's not true. Men stopped approaching women because they'd get assaulted and falsely accused by them. You are why the situation's become unsafe.
@@scootinkermie Do it with laughter anytime you say something I have built up an entire persona of sarcasm around being brutally honest and laughing while doing so and people are just like "he is just sarcastic!" Haha
The problem is that you have a lot of entitled men who get angry when a girl directly rejects them. This is part of why women are so ridiculously subtle with rejection. Another part of it is that they constantly test men to see their emotional fortitude. Are they weak, needy, conniving, and overly emotional followers. Or are they strong, independent, honest, and stoic leaders. This is why they say nice guys finish last because they often give off the vibe of the former, while the bad boy comes off as the latter. The real trick is to be a good guy who is nice to everyone and to not completely change your behavior around a girl you like.
@@scootinkermie growing up with ASD, you take things literally and rely on rules for structure. So I was honest to a fault. Broke up with a girlfriend of about six months and she asked why. I told her it was because I had come to realize over that time that while I respect her humanity and wanted her to be happy and fulfilled in life, I didn't really respect her personally and didn't want to be part of what that meant for her, which made staying with her morally wrong for me since we were holding each other back from what we wanted out of life. That didn't go well.
i used to work somewhere FOR FREE just like my colleagues. every freaking saturday 3 people who worked there (again for free) would be going ''' omg i haent eaten all day'' EVERY week. at some point it was clear to me these people just refused to get a quick sandwich or something, i dont understand why?!?! you arent even getting paid BRUH you're not impressing me either.
Id be the onr doin this but because i legitimately forget to eat xD id hear them do this Pause Eyes widen Oh shit i didnt eat today yet! ....or dinner yesterday fuck. Move i gotta make somethin or my brothers gonna be mad Lmao
@@yentlcloud it's their way to bring attention... They might want others to feel sorry for them or they think it's a cool skill to not eat🤣 My mother also thinks this way, she doesn't eat for hours while scrolling on her phone and then sighs theatrically and, using a lot of pain in her voice, goes 'I haven't eaten all day🥺😣' 🤣
Growth....not many experience it, but it's one hell of a gift that keeps on giving. Glad you guys survived and were patient enough with each other to gain it.
@mac it’s boys who act immaturely. Men take it with dignity and move on. They don’t waste time chasin a girl who clearly said her piece. Boys on the other hand will do.
@mac I feel like I see comments like this a lot online, that women are too afraid to turn down guys, but from what I've seen with my friends, it seems like women are more likely to be cruel or laugh when turning down a guy instead of being scared.
Easiest way to attract women at bars is to look like the happiest guy in the room. Their natural instinct is to destroy happiness, and they will practically bang you right there in front of everyone.
THANK YOU. This is the level of honesty that I hope to find in a woman. You don't wanna hang out with me... okay have a nice night. Once asked a coworker out on a date. She said yes, then she showed up with another coworker. I wish she would have just said no instead.
I am forever honest with men, yet I have been stalked and pestered for several years and one time even 2 decades. Even when I become ugly in speech. To be fair, this also happened with one woman as well. But the woman persistence lasted under a year.... she attempted a second time and when I became extremely ugly... she decided it was too painful to keep interacting with me as a friend when she was in love with me and wanted me as a girlfriend. It sucks... because she was a friend I enjoyed hanging with, but I respected her boundaries and kept away. Why couldn't tge men do this... only one male friend did.
I'd come up with a comparably elaborate reply that would basically mean, ok you're not initially attracted to me but that can change if we talk a little because now you got my sincere interest.
do keep in mind that women don't feel safe with men they don't know and being honest about not being attracted to them might set that man off. yes some see it as honesty, as it is, but some see it as her being rude, or an "entitled b*tch" (something a man told my female friend after she didn't give him her phone number). so it's better to learn to understand signs of her not wanting to hang out with you
Good for you, that's nice. With a lot of people tho it isn't so easy. It doesn't matter if I find a dude attractive or not, I don't feel safe in that scenario because it generally means I owe them something. But sometimes you just have to say you have a boyfriend or smth because a lot of people won't take a no. And saying this only makes them respond with "that can change" or them just pressuring you. Also, in a noisy club I doubt the guy would even hear a half of my monologue xD
@@janaelqubatan wild you think I’m a desperate pig off of one comment lol how about this one: don’t go for the first guy that gives you any attention, ignore how he treats you like shit, then paint all men as evil after he leaves you used and abused. There’s a classic blunder
I think a lot of men don't know that some women go to clubs for this and are confused by the "brush off" as to them the only reason to go clubbing is to hook up
Same, the last part was me when I went clubbing with my girlfriends. Sometimes I just want to shake my behind without some dude trying to rub up on me 😂
We really need to change society so it's the rule for women to approach men/make the first move. It'd be so much less bullshit and trauma on both sides. Let's face it's it's mostly down to the woman's selection, men just haveto kiss a lot of frogs and hope they eventually get a positive outcome. But it just breeds a world where women get hastled and men get increasingly negative views of women due to being told to f-off etc.
@megeles That's why you do it in public in front of a lot of people. Never do it privately If you have any doubts about the person accepting it gracefully. Same rule of thumb applies if someone is coming too close to you You don't wait till they're close to call them out You call them out when they're starting to advance to find out what their intentions are.
"Yes I would like a free drink that sounds great, but only if I don't have to engage with you or ever see you again the moment the drink has left your hand and entered mine, thank you"
@@joezar33 We replicate the things that happened to us because that’s what kids do, woman and men both but men learned to accept it because of how long we had to face the reality of things. I agree though just thought I would explain it further so no negative thoughts develop
Ok the dancing one was unreal.... I feel violated. I never even knew thats exactly how i felt and now someone else has expressed my feelings using their words.....
That answer seems more than reasonable to me, just say it lol. "Hey sorry I am not really interested in you and just wanna dance but id like a drink anyway if you want" lol.
@@Watcher-in-the-Dark Yep and you know what even though she just shut down anything physical happening id buy her that drink just to show her i appreciated the honest answer
If every person was like this, I'd feel much more comfortable talking to strangers. Honesty like this is super helpful to the furthering of humanity. Too bad very few people value honesty.
idk. sometimes what people say due to their unfiltered honesty can be perceived as offensive. plus i think if someone was honest all the time about their opinions, they'd get judged a lot.
@@eeo1156 Yeah, have you seen Twitter (or the internet in general)? People are completely unfiltered there and it's a fucking cesspool XD There is a certain level of honesty that people need to practice in real life though. The type of honesty in this short, for instance. Though I have to wonder how many "alpha males" would still throw an absolute tantrum about it.
No, this makes her come across as extremely insufferable and neurotic to an almost psychopathic degree lol. Women know this about themselves and keep it hidden for a reason. If they let their neuroticism run rampant, men would flee for the hills lop
I actually speak like this and you can see the instant my husband's eyes glaze over. Usually 0.02 seconds into the explanation of what I'm thinking and why I'm about to make the decision I'm about to
IS THE TEST A TEST? To test if you failed the test that isn't infact a test but is?😭 Legit how some guys gotta think when they think a girl tests them😂 we get so fcking confused
I (girl...not Aaron) said no and he was like you don't have to talk to me...just want to buy you a drink. Ok, I took my beer, said thanks and walk away. He called me a bitch...so guys make up your mind cuz I was completely honest. LOL
Yeah… women will get killed. You have no idea how many times I got harmed and threatened just because I reject men politely. Men do not take rejection very well.
“ You guys want a F ing award ?!? .. shut the F up !!” … oh how I’m laffing !!! .. this was HILARIOUS !!! … LOVE THIS WOMAN .. and that Freddie painting on the wall is BEAUTIFUL !!!! … the BEST SINGER EVER !!! … Wembly shows are my bucket list that I can never have …. You keep going girl !!! … your talented and funny !!! … I’ll watch for ya !!!! 💯🤙❤️😂
My partner is like this and I love her for it, I told her on our first date to just be blunt with me at all times cos I’ll miss literally everything otherwise. 6 years strong.
Fax. 😅But tbh that rejection was pretty polite 😆 hell, I'm pretty sure most of us guys would've taken that answer and been like: Understandable, Have a nice night 🗿👌
Sooo you’re being led on of a girl accepts your drink and doesn’t mess around with you? Maybe guys should be honest and say, “ can I buy you a drink with the expectation of you hanging out with me or fkn me?” because it’s one of the two and you never really just want to be generous and buy a girl a drink for the hell of it. Works both ways.
I will almost always dance with a guy even when I’m not interested & tell the guy while we are dancing so he can always save face with the boys and ask someone else who will probably dance with you! Cuz she watched you dance and not try to grope the last girl! Good luck! The odds are in your favor! Talk to girls and Listen!!!🎉❤
@@-KMA-women feel "led on" by way less as long as they find him attractive. A man could do basic acts of kindness and they would take that as a "green light" for attachment... Then accuse him later of leading them on.
@@kadiridav Come off it, men are rarely kind to women they don’t find attractive. They usually do something nice with the expectation of getting something they want from them.
@catalinat4721 you don't know what I think. And I didn't say it was entirely uncommon. But I think the reason people think it happens more often than it does, is because people who complain, are louder than people who don't.
@@loonbyrd3688 your comment was more than clear, I obviously don't know what you think. I do however, understand the meaning of the comment you made but apparently you don't. AnYwAy, good day!
@@V8_screw_electric_cars pretty sure that doesn't work unless she finds you incredibly attractive already. Average or below men would be called creepy for staring. Most women are already terrified of random men trying to do something to hurt them
They get a software update after every major event in their life(social, emotional, family stuff, work, politics...ect.) once you figure them out they change a bit here and there.
Ngl my mom asked my dad if he thought her outfit made her look weird or something and he said “yah but in a hot way.” It caught her so of gard that she didn’t know if she should be upset or flattered lmao
“Hey babe” “yeah” “ I am testing you right now and your answer will set the tone in my mood for the rest of the evening all right does this make me look fat?” Got me dying on the floor 😂
I offer this solution for what its worth. YMMV. My wife was pretty cute. But occasionally she would hit me with the "does this make me look fat?" grenade. Originally I would stupidly answer (truthfully) "No". But that didnt work, for no reason that a Y chromosome can fathom. Eventually tho I hit on a good technique. She would ask me that, and no matter what our schedule was or what she was wearing, I would say "It makes you look like someone Id like to be amorous with"* and then I would proceed to disrobe her and sometimes it led to stuff and sometimes not, but either way at least it wasnt cold shoulder for the rest of the day. *paraphrased
@@07foxmulderwhy do ppl feel the need to correct ppls grammar and spelling? I don’t see you runnin into those comment section and crawlin up their asses abt it.
When I'm at a bar I literally just say "I appreciate the offer and you can buy me a drink if you want to, but I'm going to be upfront and tell you I'm not looking for a relationship or even a one night stand right now." Sometimes they still buy me the drink anyway. Sometimes they don't. They appreciate my honesty and sometimes it event urns into really nice conversations. Remember, being honest and straightforward isn't rude. Its good for everyone.
This is the thing, I don`t want to have it be the ONE time a guy is trying to be friendly and not trying to hook up and then I seem unreasonable and weird
@@himesilva that doesn't seem unreasonable or weird and if the dude isn't trying to hook up he won't be offended. If he IS offended then what you have on your hands is an immature adult. Those are dangerous af, but let's be honest, yall know that better than we do.
Exactly. Men are so much worse at reading signs than women. In a truly gender-equal society, they'd have women lead/start most relationships because merit-based role-assignment is the only way that makes sense.
@@mckitty4907 You're not listening to what the men are telling you here. Men appreciate the truth, and will actually respect you for it because we've been lied to so many times.
@@Matt_from_Florida Ive told dudes no straight up before and they would not take it as an answer, they took it as a challenge to be persistant or change my mind. Honesty doesnt always work and the times it doesnt can lead to uncomfortable or sometimes even dangerous situations. There was one incident in broad daylight in public transit i had it happen to me, and another kind man on the train stepped in to help me out/get the guy out of my face until i got to my stop. Some men are pieces of shit, and we dont know which ones are and which ones arent, so often times we lie because we don't want to risk it.
@@globalist6574you do realize menaced women process information the same way...society can change the way people look at thinks but we do process the same way.
Then society should have raised us like that instead of raising us to be NICE, and SWEET and to SMILE and be ACCOMMODATING...oh, so sorry, I appear to be shouting, and I was raised never to shout so please pardon me and I'll just politely walk away and continue to keep my pretty little thoughts to myself like I was raised to do...
@@nobody-xh6ii That's an absurd statement. But lets entertain it for a second. You're telling us that men are more upset and more likely to be violent when women are honest than when women are deceitful and manipulative and they find out? 11/10 logic
This but also literally any obvious sign of interest and/or attraction instead of the woman expecting the man to do it first then acting like he's creepy when he does.
@@mystraunt2705 Also if women could please stop acting interested in other guys when they have fiancés it would be great too. The most cringe inducing time of my life resulted from this. Also it's the only woman who ever showed interest.
@@cgg2621 Nah dude lmfao. So many men and women in relationships flirt with other people. It's ridiculous. It's like they test to see if they still have game or are attractive or something. Or sometimes they go through with the cheating.
Many of us would like to, but some men hit on us in such a forceful way that we're scared of the consequences if we were to be this blunt. Some women get stalked and beaten up by men just for saying "no." :(
@@thatdamnjezebel6858 -- I've had a guy from the bar stalk me halfway home. Luckily, I noticed him following me before I got home and managed to lose him.
If you try it, you'll see that most men can't take it. But of course you're right, it also feels shit not to be honest. But a mens pride can be very dangerous for women.
It's hard to state the rejection in such words because it demands that she herself first understands why she is rejecting. In a situation like that, women often panic because they don't know how to turn down anyone kindly but firmly so, clearly, they don't have time or brainpower to analyze why they feel the way they feel.
And then it would quickly be used against us later in relationship. Literally always happens. That’s why I’ve started to change and adapt accordingly. Being honest is literally a vulnerability for women. It’s only got me burned and used against me in the long run. Prolly why women have put up so many walls
@sum bunniii dude, literally!!!! something in our culture has to change so that men and women can find harmony. Like how the hell have we as a species let this shit go on for so long?
@@sumbunniii8721 because the dudes you got with were attractive/financially sound men. they know they are a commodity and don't have to be decent to women. that is not a dig against you - attractive women do the same to men. its just the nature of things. my best wishes to you in the dating / relationship field.
@@badwolf3618 Very true. But the easy and not so hurtful option would just be to say "No thank you" to the drink offer. Honesty (especially with strangers) is not always the best option.
@@badwolf3618 unfortunately many woman learn from an early age being that honest leads to confrontation that can easily lead to harassment or worse yet violence. Its easier to lie and avoid the situation. I know that's not comforting but it is honest
@@Dominicus13You are absolutely right. The people who say they want unfiltered honesty are the very ones who can’t handle it when you are absolutely honest with them.
Once, some years ago, my best friend and I were out at lunch together; most people mistook us for a married couple, but we never went the romantic route, we were both already married. I was getting us a couple drinks at the bar, and a woman, I'm assuming tipsy, was trying to get me to go back to her place with her, probably because she saw me with my friend and the typical "What's she got that I don't?" thing reared it's head because my friend was admittedly incredibly sexy, beautiful and attractive. When I got back to our booth, the tipsy woman dropped all pretense, got between me and the booth and virtually shouted, "Don't you even want a one-night stand!?" I handed my friend her drink, sipped mine, and calmly told her that I had enough bedroom furniture already. I heard the bartender laugh at that. My friend just about chortled her drink out her nostrils. Miss Tipsy looked confused, but wandered back to her barstool.
@Ricardo Paez idk a no thanks is a pretty good sign but a lot of men don't seem to get it unless we're rude. I told a guy no thanks and he was like "are you sure?" Like would I have said no if I wasn't?
I would actually love to have a friend who was this brutally honest all the time, lol. Edit: bro i didnt realize the there was an entire army of you fellas
@@rocketta.chique5761 Unfortunately it’s easier for most people to play it safe & stay in their comfort zones. It’s the same link to why so many rather stay home & complain why nothing gets done on the internet.
I would love this kind of honesty. The one though where she askedoes this make me look.Fat is the one question that scares the hell out of men the most. No matter how you answer you can't win.
@@BabylonPatrol yes I suppose so. I can't speak for all girls, but I certainly would rather not be touched - can be a bit invasive. The staring can't always be helped though
@@cceerrs I would say staring at a dance floor isn't really objectionable because the set up essentially suggests it's a stage. And I'd say it's one of the minor disadvantages of being a western woman or child that women feel entitled to touch or hug you. It's by and large unpleasant to be touched by women because there tends to be manipulative intent... at least under consideration. Asian culture, for example, is far better protocolled in that regard.
@@imjustsayin34 the guys who go to clubs and bars for the sole purpose of picking up women are the same ones who get salty over rejection. But you'll never run into the guys who like brutal honesty there because clubbing and alcoholism are inherently dishonest activities
I bet you get called ugly things because of it... Personally, I prefer the direct approach! It does make things so much easier! So, I will say thank you, dear, keep it up!
Yeah I practiced this in a few years and gradually lots of things getting easier. Some people will appreciate ur honestly or hate u for it lol. But u will feel lighter because u got what u want & people understand what u want.
I think it's more about being unnecessarily insecure and attention-seeking, rather than simply being polite. Being polite is something totally different.
It's about having no idea who could snap on you and kill you for rejecting them, and having to treat everyone with kid gloves because you can't know which is which before they do it.
@@aliceh5289 stop looking at everyone like a threat and you won't have that issue because 95% of people aren't going to attack you for being honest. If you keep looking for goblins, eventually you're going to start seeing them everywhere. They don't exist, go outside more.
@@bakerboat4572 Women have been violently attacked, raped, and killed for being completely honest. It’s unfortunate that we have to go to the lengths of putting sugar on everything to try to prevent that, but here we are.
give it a few years and you'll learn. Or listen to dr Denis Leary if you want to speed it up because we're never gonna get more of this kind of honesty ;)
She was on point with the offering the drink. So many guys think you are stuck up if you say no., but if u say yes then they expect your number. You can't win.
I am gay and I have been offered drinks from other guys at gay bars lots of times and have said no. Its not that you said no its how you say it. I don't accept drinks from others male, or female for that matter, as I don't know what is in it. But I don't say that. I just smile and say thank you for the nice offer but I have to decline your kind offer. People that kind of know me know not to offer me drinks as I don't drink alcohol at all, and the people that really know me know that I am paranoid about being drugged. If I don't watch the bartender pour the drink my self or if it is ever out of my sight at any time I wont drink it. I have more fingers on one hand than there has ever been people that I have ever trusted to give me a drink that I had not watched the bartender to pour personally.
@@aquamarinerain damn you gotta check your anger issues. Btw he is right "mommy I got shot after standing in shooting range!" You knew it was a bad idea to be around those people, yet you still did it. Find any other bar, also concerts happen at concerts at outside, not in bars.
It's shit that a small minority of absolute dickheads have destroyed all opportunities for the majority...which might be a bit shyer. I just tend to ignore all women on the dance floor just because that...
@@Serenitie3 Hum, I can assure you that most men would love to be touch, and they don't care that much if they are looked at or not ;-) For men being look at is fine, but getting to the actual touching is the real goal.
The tragedy is women are compromising their self respect and sexual integrity by doing this. Their desire for attention is their sexual motivator. They are inherently sexualizing themselves in the feminine, and in order to justify it as not self compromising they then have to masculinize the rest of their behaviour. It's just a lose lose in the long run for a short term Hugh in the moment. Lack of delayed gratification has poisoned them.
My girlfriend actually does this. She's straightforward most of the time. It's refreshing compared to the majority of other people I come across with work and life.
@@laurenfulton2510 Right!? Thankfully I have found a few friends that appreciate my directness, but they always have to give warnings to people before they meet me for the first time so they don't misunderstand. Still doesn't work all that often.
2023 should be the year we practice unfiltered honesty like this.
Ah, were it so easy
Some people just want to watch the world burn
I'm autistic (diagnosed autism, not tiktok autism) and our brain comes with no filter, we have to learn it but many don't even get it and others just forget to turn on the filter before speaking, so we tend to talk like this but not angry or trying to be rude, we just say what we think. It is awful most of the time, you get misunderstood, everyone thinks you are a jerk or trying to be edgy by being rude, but also nerd in a bad way and it makes it way more difficult to socialize, work, make friends, or even ask for something at the grocery store.
It is not as cool or funny as it sounds.
@@31tentacles I have ADHD and also have the same no filter thingy it can be annoying and I lost some friends bc of it
Hell yes
Damn that honest answer at the club deserves praises and respect for honesty 😳
It should be the standard answer. Nobody wants to pay a drink for a person that doesn't want anything to do with them.
@@christopherstein2024 Just because she isn't initially attracted doesn't mean much. I've given guys a chance and found other qualities I was attracted to, and that turned into physical attraction. That's up to her if she's interested in exploring or not.
Honestly, that would be the best answer to hear personally. It's direct, honest, and wouldn't leave me with a "is she trying to tell me something, or do I just walk away."
I got my answer and move on.
@@Luboltz3301 the whole cat-and-mouse thing silly to me.
well now you know thats what that means. should be obvious but ok
I once had a girl in a club flat out tell me she wanted to talk but my breath was bad, she was right and I never forgot to freshen up again before going out. Unfiltered honesty fucking rules.
And people who can take unfiltered honesty also rule 👑
@@ggmochie2615 ikr
It's very hard to take unfiltered honesty but also very important
@@ggmochie2615lol you want to test that on a woman?
@@camelio10 hate to break it to ya but...i am a woman. honestly, no filter. ;)
Everytime a woman told me something honest like that it helped me in the long run with my game. I appreciate you ladies and so do others even if they don't know it
Agreed 💯🔥😎
The fact that men have "game" is why women are not honest, especially that you don't even know it.
Shame that sometimes their honesty gets them beat up by assholes; We'd be able to get constructive, honest criticism more often if they felt safer.
@@razenburnThat's not true. Men stopped approaching women because they'd get assaulted and falsely accused by them. You are why the situation's become unsafe.
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Honestly, that one at the end is the single greatest rejection I've ever heard at a club. If only
Ya, I wish I could get that kind of feedback from women.
Typically women would take the drink and start chatting with Chad.
Yeah. It would be great if we weren't afraid of rape and murder due to simple rejection, too.🤷
That's the type of rejection I do, but honestly I don't go to clubs, so that may have something to do with it. 😅
That's a lot of words, give them a break sometimes. seriously some of us can't take a hint
Honestly if I was given that answer about ordering her a drink I would have been delighted at such clear communication.
Yeah. I mean I prefer a direct "no" so I can get everything she said in just one word and I don't have to be water boarded with the rest lol.
@@theroachden6195 But then you get a “Why not it’s just one drink.”
Lol me fucking too. Why waste both of our times?
@@soulhunter59 exactly. u have to absolutely crush their soul or they will not give up. and even then
@@esme_melody Thats why I ask “would you like to have a drink with me.” I think it worked because I was a pretty boy with blue eyes.
I honestly feel like this kind of honesty is the breath of fresh air
You'd think so but it really backfires a lot.
@@Stethacanthus yep gotta keep up the good face or whatever
@@scootinkermie Do it with laughter anytime you say something I have built up an entire persona of sarcasm around being brutally honest and laughing while doing so and people are just like "he is just sarcastic!" Haha
The problem is that you have a lot of entitled men who get angry when a girl directly rejects them. This is part of why women are so ridiculously subtle with rejection. Another part of it is that they constantly test men to see their emotional fortitude. Are they weak, needy, conniving, and overly emotional followers. Or are they strong, independent, honest, and stoic leaders. This is why they say nice guys finish last because they often give off the vibe of the former, while the bad boy comes off as the latter. The real trick is to be a good guy who is nice to everyone and to not completely change your behavior around a girl you like.
@@scootinkermie growing up with ASD, you take things literally and rely on rules for structure. So I was honest to a fault.
Broke up with a girlfriend of about six months and she asked why. I told her it was because I had come to realize over that time that while I respect her humanity and wanted her to be happy and fulfilled in life, I didn't really respect her personally and didn't want to be part of what that meant for her, which made staying with her morally wrong for me since we were holding each other back from what we wanted out of life.
That didn't go well.
This kind of honesty would be so helpful for everyone navigating life.
the “DO YOU WANT A FCKN AWARD?” one was so spot on.
facts, the stfu was priceless! 🙌🏽🤌🏽
i used to work somewhere FOR FREE just like my colleagues. every freaking saturday 3 people who worked there (again for free) would be going ''' omg i haent eaten all day'' EVERY week. at some point it was clear to me these people just refused to get a quick sandwich or something, i dont understand why?!?! you arent even getting paid BRUH you're not impressing me either.
Id be the onr doin this but because i legitimately forget to eat xD id hear them do this
Pause
Eyes widen
Oh shit i didnt eat today yet! ....or dinner yesterday fuck. Move i gotta make somethin or my brothers gonna be mad
Lmao
@@yentlcloud it's their way to bring attention... They might want others to feel sorry for them or they think it's a cool skill to not eat🤣 My mother also thinks this way, she doesn't eat for hours while scrolling on her phone and then sighs theatrically and, using a lot of pain in her voice, goes 'I haven't eaten all day🥺😣' 🤣
I prefer cookies. Thank you😂😂
After 15 years of marriage, i'm realizing that this level of honesty is actually very effective for both my husband AND myself.
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Growth....not many experience it, but it's one hell of a gift that keeps on giving. Glad you guys survived and were patient enough with each other to gain it.
@Derek Wrede i thought that youre a Cat using a device conected to the Internet.
Really? It took you that long? A decade and a half? People, I swear…
You've put on about 10 pounds
Ngl I’d actually prefer to be rejected like that than given some rude remark. It’s genuinely respectful.
@mac it’s boys who act immaturely. Men take it with dignity and move on. They don’t waste time chasin a girl who clearly said her piece. Boys on the other hand will do.
@@STARKILLER15100 men sized boys
@mac I feel like I see comments like this a lot online, that women are too afraid to turn down guys, but from what I've seen with my friends, it seems like women are more likely to be cruel or laugh when turning down a guy instead of being scared.
Problem is they don't have respect, but they want respect.
Easiest way to attract women at bars is to look like the happiest guy in the room. Their natural instinct is to destroy happiness, and they will practically bang you right there in front of everyone.
THANK YOU. This is the level of honesty that I hope to find in a woman. You don't wanna hang out with me... okay have a nice night. Once asked a coworker out on a date. She said yes, then she showed up with another coworker. I wish she would have just said no instead.
😳
I am forever honest with men, yet I have been stalked and pestered for several years and one time even 2 decades. Even when I become ugly in speech. To be fair, this also happened with one woman as well. But the woman persistence lasted under a year.... she attempted a second time and when I became extremely ugly... she decided it was too painful to keep interacting with me as a friend when she was in love with me and wanted me as a girlfriend. It sucks... because she was a friend I enjoyed hanging with, but I respected her boundaries and kept away. Why couldn't tge men do this... only one male friend did.
Real talk, if a woman answered the drink question that way I’d high five her and go on my way. That kind of honesty is incredible.
I'd come up with a comparably elaborate reply that would basically mean, ok you're not initially attracted to me but that can change if we talk a little because now you got my sincere interest.
do keep in mind that women don't feel safe with men they don't know and being honest about not being attracted to them might set that man off. yes some see it as honesty, as it is, but some see it as her being rude, or an "entitled b*tch" (something a man told my female friend after she didn't give him her phone number). so it's better to learn to understand signs of her not wanting to hang out with you
@@pauldanyliuk6356 just take the no and go dude
Good for you, that's nice.
With a lot of people tho it isn't so easy. It doesn't matter if I find a dude attractive or not, I don't feel safe in that scenario because it generally means I owe them something. But sometimes you just have to say you have a boyfriend or smth because a lot of people won't take a no. And saying this only makes them respond with "that can change" or them just pressuring you. Also, in a noisy club I doubt the guy would even hear a half of my monologue xD
@@pauldanyliuk6356 I would accept the drink then and hang for a bit. I like that response.
That last one would save alotta people alotta time and frustration
It would have been funny if the guy said
.......Aye fair enough
And money for the guy. But then again girls love free drinks regardless if it’s at the buyer’s expense
@@FireGuyPiglove how y’all blaming the women lmao don’t be a pig and go after every single woman you see and maybe you won’t waste any money
@@janaelqubatan wild you think I’m a desperate pig off of one comment lol how about this one: don’t go for the first guy that gives you any attention, ignore how he treats you like shit, then paint all men as evil after he leaves you used and abused. There’s a classic blunder
@@FireGuyPig lmao never me 🤣 never let a man even raise his voice at me try again 🤣🤣
“I’d rather dance by myself and be looked at, but not touched”. I’m feeling that vibe.
I think a lot of men don't know that some women go to clubs for this and are confused by the "brush off" as to them the only reason to go clubbing is to hook up
Same, the last part was me when I went clubbing with my girlfriends. Sometimes I just want to shake my behind without some dude trying to rub up on me 😂
Do girls like to be looked at clubs ?... All drunk man out of their senses
A simple "No" would do.
We really need to change society so it's the rule for women to approach men/make the first move.
It'd be so much less bullshit and trauma on both sides.
Let's face it's it's mostly down to the woman's selection, men just haveto kiss a lot of frogs and hope they eventually get a positive outcome. But it just breeds a world where women get hastled and men get increasingly negative views of women due to being told to f-off etc.
Frankly, I would appreciate this level of honesty.
Clear is kind ladies. Clear is kind.
Clear provokes retaliation.
@megeles That's why you do it in public in front of a lot of people. Never do it privately If you have any doubts about the person accepting it gracefully. Same rule of thumb applies if someone is coming too close to you You don't wait till they're close to call them out You call them out when they're starting to advance to find out what their intentions are.
All is clear. To us. It's called efficiency to make an answer short.
My wife is totally unfiltered like this. It's great. No games, no BS, just honesty.
That’s because you’re already hooked
I hate to tell you this.... but you married a dude!
probably cause you give her the safety to be honest, most men get mad and throw a fit.
Women cannot be totally honest because they are afraid of the backlash a lot of abusive men will inflict.
Only strong men can be with strong women. Fragile men throw a fit very easily so they want to find even more fragile women to be with
I would actually appreciate this level of honesty.
People say they do, but then they learn they don't.
@@phixterso damn true 😂
Same! At least we know what they really want!
@@phixter as a Dutch person, what you talking about?!? it is so nice to hear the truth and not the endless blabla
omg! I love this level of honest! So pure and crystally! Its shining! keep them coming!
This is what RUclips was made for.
You write a title. And then you deliver what's in the title.
Perfect
B-b-but how will I know to like/comment/subscribe if no one tells me to at the beginning of every video ever? HOW, YOU MONSTER??? *HOW??????*
Shouldn't be such a turn of events, but here we are
Or you make a video and give the video afterwards a title 😂
@@BooBar2521 rickest rick out here to bend the laws of physics, hm? Go back to you universe where such things are possible. Burps
@@sebastianshine4262 🤣🤣🤣
"Looked at but not touched" is so accurate call em a sharp shooter.
First comment 😮
Not touched unless it's the 1/10000 guy that walks in*
"Yes I would like a free drink that sounds great, but only if I don't have to engage with you or ever see you again the moment the drink has left your hand and entered mine, thank you"
Hi
@@mediasheeple6143not touched period actually because we don't know u 🙃
The world would be a much better place with all that honesty
It would be annoying at first but overall I agree
There would be murder all over the place
@@heinousgamer7610 I agree and it’s because we just follow the teachings of our parents that tracks all the way u our ancestry
Yo I wish ladies where based like that .. seems like it can save people lots of time being direct and too the point .
@@joezar33 We replicate the things that happened to us because that’s what kids do, woman and men both but men learned to accept it because of how long we had to face the reality of things. I agree though just thought I would explain it further so no negative thoughts develop
I miss your skits! I’m glad you’re happy and living in Texas but we need your comedy❤
Ok the dancing one was unreal....
I feel violated. I never even knew thats exactly how i felt and now someone else has expressed my feelings using their words.....
I feel so attacked by that one. Lol. 😅
I would actually accept that answer as a guy. I'd rather know than not know
@@JamesLeeRebudz i agree, just tell me what you want
That answer seems more than reasonable to me, just say it lol. "Hey sorry I am not really interested in you and just wanna dance but id like a drink anyway if you want" lol.
@@Watcher-in-the-Dark Yep and you know what even though she just shut down anything physical happening id buy her that drink just to show her i appreciated the honest answer
If every person was like this, I'd feel much more comfortable talking to strangers.
Honesty like this is super helpful to the furthering of humanity. Too bad very few people value honesty.
idk. sometimes what people say due to their unfiltered honesty can be perceived as offensive. plus i think if someone was honest all the time about their opinions, they'd get judged a lot.
@@eeo1156 Yeah, have you seen Twitter (or the internet in general)? People are completely unfiltered there and it's a fucking cesspool XD
There is a certain level of honesty that people need to practice in real life though. The type of honesty in this short, for instance. Though I have to wonder how many "alpha males" would still throw an absolute tantrum about it.
I agree. I try to be kindly blunt. Gotta choose your timing and words verrry carefully. Spinning for humor also helps.
I get what you're saying, mate. But do think, the strangers would be comfortable talking to you?
when I'm honest I usually use sarcasm but it doesn't seem to soften the blowback
Men, including myself, would welcome this. 9 times out of 10 this would help us to understand your mood and/or make you feel better.
They would find another way to cover everything up?? Just asking.. Rgr
No, this makes her come across as extremely insufferable and neurotic to an almost psychopathic degree lol. Women know this about themselves and keep it hidden for a reason. If they let their neuroticism run rampant, men would flee for the hills lop
@@harrypike5140 I would MUCH prefer the honesty. All of us hide so much of ourselves.
I actually speak like this and you can see the instant my husband's eyes glaze over. Usually 0.02 seconds into the explanation of what I'm thinking and why I'm about to make the decision I'm about to
@@harrypike5140 No, real men would love this. Douchebags who are afraid of women would run for the hills.
I wish women could be like that for real...
I love how the reaction of the guy is always just vague confusion.
Like "...wait...that answer was straightforward...is this real life?"
To be fair you would be confused too if you were in "read between the lines mode" but there was nothing in between the line's
@@someoneudontknow3709 it’s a single line
@@mysocksarewet don't make it more confusing my brain already hurts from trying to find a double meaning in a blunt statement
@@someoneudontknow3709 😏
@@someoneudontknow3709 tbh I wouldn’t be confused :/
Honestly the Bar scene was valid af. I would accept that 💯
2 drinks for the lady and ima peace out
For real
In realtor though the girl will always take the free drink and then call security on the guy to get rid of him
That was honestly still a good response, wouldn't be mad at that but most cases are the girl just taking the free drink and walking away.
@@jemand8462 'always'
As a man, and a very literal creature, this is relationship goals.
i feel you man, sometimes it's so goddamn hard to understand what someone really wants, why can't everyone be simple like us? lol
Good luck literal creature, I send you good vibes!
As a man, sometimes men are just as cryptic as women
I wish all humans were like this, upfront and honest
Instant proposal material
let's hope all humans be like this CUZ I'M LOSING MY MIND FROM ALL THE CRYPTIC BS.
So well done and worded perfectly. I’m 60 and this is timeless it was the same in the 70s and 80s and so on
The guy still trying to find hidden meaning in the statements because he’s not used to a straightforward answer is very accurate 😂
"I know she said this was a test, but what if that was *part* of the test and there's some secret meaning?" 🤔
😂😂😂😂
IS THE TEST A TEST? To test if you failed the test that isn't infact a test but is?😭 Legit how some guys gotta think when they think a girl tests them😂 we get so fcking confused
@@itjustworks7386 Who promised life would be easy?????? Rgr
open a book, maybe you'll understand words better.
It'd be way better like this if everyone was honest like this lol
Frr
@Jack Wrath i keep seeing this guy in different comment sections doing the same thing
If you’re honest like this with some guys they would be offended and say or do something stupid
As someone on the autistic spectrum.. that would be a true relief 😂
Vegan Teacher is that you?
Tbh would love if a woman at a club or bar was honest like that.
Every dude would
That seems fair to me that way we would not waste each other time
I (girl...not Aaron) said no and he was like you don't have to talk to me...just want to buy you a drink. Ok, I took my beer, said thanks and walk away. He called me a bitch...so guys make up your mind cuz I was completely honest. LOL
Yeah, unfortunately a lot of guys would get really angry (and some would get dangerous) in reaction to an answer like that.
Yeah… women will get killed. You have no idea how many times I got harmed and threatened just because I reject men politely. Men do not take rejection very well.
“ You guys want a F ing award ?!? .. shut the F up !!” … oh how I’m laffing !!! .. this was HILARIOUS !!! … LOVE THIS WOMAN .. and that Freddie painting on the wall is BEAUTIFUL !!!! … the BEST SINGER EVER !!! … Wembly shows are my bucket list that I can never have …. You keep going girl !!! … your talented and funny !!! … I’ll watch for ya !!!! 💯🤙❤️😂
My partner is like this and I love her for it, I told her on our first date to just be blunt with me at all times cos I’ll miss literally everything otherwise. 6 years strong.
I'll be like this with my future boyfriend and husband
Good advice, I'm taking it
U interested in proposing
I'm like this with my girlfriend. It's cause I'm generally bad socially, and I've found just being super honest and unfiltered works best for us both.
Let me guess, you’re still not married.
Rejection hurts but hurts way less than being led on
Fax. 😅But tbh that rejection was pretty polite 😆 hell, I'm pretty sure most of us guys would've taken that answer and been like: Understandable, Have a nice night 🗿👌
Sooo you’re being led on of a girl accepts your drink and doesn’t mess around with you? Maybe guys should be honest and say, “ can I buy you a drink with the expectation of you hanging out with me or fkn me?” because it’s one of the two and you never really just want to be generous and buy a girl a drink for the hell of it. Works both ways.
I will almost always dance with a guy even when I’m not interested & tell the guy while we are dancing so he can always save face with the boys and ask someone else who will probably dance with you! Cuz she watched you dance and not try to grope the last girl! Good luck! The odds are in your favor! Talk to girls and Listen!!!🎉❤
@@-KMA-women feel "led on" by way less as long as they find him attractive. A man could do basic acts of kindness and they would take that as a "green light" for attachment... Then accuse him later of leading them on.
@@kadiridav Come off it, men are rarely kind to women they don’t find attractive. They usually do something nice with the expectation of getting something they want from them.
"You guys want a f***ing award?" just killed me lol
I know! I hate diet culture and people glorifying it!! It’s not cool, you’re just annoying 😅
@@Monika-mb6jh Depends, when you are an athlete, sometimes you have no choice.
Me toooo 😂
I feel terrible that I thought “There’s no winner to this hunger game” as the preceding sentence 🤦🏽♂️😂
@@ghostbravo7127 almost no athlete diet includes fasting though lol.
intermittent fasting is ok on lazy days though
I'm a blunt woman. Honesty tends to be the best policy in the long run 🏃🏼♀️ fact. Be authentic ✨️ 💯 💛 💕
This is so accurate. Esp the "i wanna be looked at but not touched"
Not necessarily. Some call it S.H. just by being looked at when the guy's not attractive to them. Nowadays you never know.
@@catalinat4721 that's the exception, not the rule.
@@loonbyrd3688 not as uncommon as you think.
@catalinat4721 you don't know what I think. And I didn't say it was entirely uncommon. But I think the reason people think it happens more often than it does, is because people who complain, are louder than people who don't.
@@loonbyrd3688 your comment was more than clear, I obviously don't know what you think. I do however, understand the meaning of the comment you made but apparently you don't. AnYwAy, good day!
“I’d rather be looked at but not touched.” 💯😂
Then talk shit about the male gaze
@@daleford8621 yeah bc most dudes make it obvious😂
@@Ur2ndfyp as obvious as walking around with visible underwear/ a whole titty out?
@@Ur2ndfyp WTF is this logic?
Yes
Perfect. That rejection at the end is honestly really nice in comparison to what usually happens
Don't ask them just look into her eyes until she comes to you.
@@V8_screw_electric_cars pretty sure that doesn't work unless she finds you incredibly attractive already. Average or below men would be called creepy for staring. Most women are already terrified of random men trying to do something to hurt them
Realistically her big boyfriend would come and assault you, and then everyone would cheer him on because he beat up a loser.
@@V8_screw_electric_cars
Wow... How many women have you forced into compliance, or were you just verbally & physically abusive and narcissistic?
What usually happens?
Need more of this, 14 years married and still learning.
Your SO needs some of that. You know, "communication is key to a healthy relationship". And it says "Mr" in your name..
They get a software update after every major event in their life(social, emotional, family stuff, work, politics...ect.) once you figure them out they change a bit here and there.
@@Repent2Christ that's called development..? Pretty much everyone should relate to that
nope
I'm pretty sure after 14 years you would have learned the "does this make me look fat" comment, that's women 101 😄
The council of men politely requests more of this.
As a member of the council, I vote in favor of this(1).
I vote in favor (2)
I also vote in favor
I vote in favor
I also humbly affirm this request of the council of men.
ladies, it's okay to be this honest. This is such a relief
@Melody Baird Nah
@melodybaird Better that then beat around the bush for a while then ghost you.
@Melody Baird I’d way prefer that
@Melody Baird, Being taken advantage of with lies and deception is way more brutal, don't you think?
Yeah right if women said half this stuff, especially the last one, they'd get called a b*tch.
Ngl my mom asked my dad if he thought her outfit made her look weird or something and he said “yah but in a hot way.” It caught her so of gard that she didn’t know if she should be upset or flattered lmao
“Hey babe”
“yeah”
“ I am testing you right now and your answer will set the tone in my mood for the rest of the evening all right does this make me look fat?”
Got me dying on the floor 😂
My aunt's favorite answer it's: "girl it ain't the outfit"
I offer this solution for what its worth. YMMV. My wife was pretty cute. But occasionally she would hit me with the "does this make me look fat?" grenade. Originally I would stupidly answer (truthfully) "No". But that didnt work, for no reason that a Y chromosome can fathom. Eventually tho I hit on a good technique. She would ask me that, and no matter what our schedule was or what she was wearing, I would say "It makes you look like someone Id like to be amorous with"* and then I would proceed to disrobe her and sometimes it led to stuff and sometimes not, but either way at least it wasnt cold shoulder for the rest of the day.
*paraphrased
Why do people feel the need to type out the entire joke? Do they think no one else saw it?
@@07foxmulderwhy do ppl feel the need to correct ppls grammar and spelling? I don’t see you runnin into those comment section and crawlin up their asses abt it.
rip
When I'm at a bar I literally just say "I appreciate the offer and you can buy me a drink if you want to, but I'm going to be upfront and tell you I'm not looking for a relationship or even a one night stand right now." Sometimes they still buy me the drink anyway. Sometimes they don't. They appreciate my honesty and sometimes it event urns into really nice conversations.
Remember, being honest and straightforward isn't rude. Its good for everyone.
this, right here, is gold nugget: you go to bar for conversation.
that thought never occurred to any man in history.
thanks
I stopped being a bar rat 🐀 👀 I don’t drink either so, you kiddos have fun with your irresponsible YOLO philosophy #youdoyouboo
I have to remember this next time a girl bakes me a surprise pie that takes 3-4 days to make.
I can tell. I can always tell.
This is the thing, I don`t want to have it be the ONE time a guy is trying to be friendly and not trying to hook up and then I seem unreasonable and weird
@@himesilva that doesn't seem unreasonable or weird and if the dude isn't trying to hook up he won't be offended. If he IS offended then what you have on your hands is an immature adult. Those are dangerous af, but let's be honest, yall know that better than we do.
She’s so pretty and annoyingly relatable
Omg the “69 years ago”
Got me real good💀
@Jack Wrath wtf 💀
@@Wolfchan-n1k I didn't see it until you pointed it out
@Jack Wrath sorry shan't chance clicking on a link just incase it's a scam.
@Jack Wrath stop lying challenge
Yes! That's what men need!! Honest words, no hints
we need more of this shit to understand life better
Like it
It seems to me like you're not going to please them no matter what you do
@@kel4461 Yeah, okay "lady killer."
@@kel4461 Then don't please them and marry a man. It's 2023.
@@load7791🤣
This would make dating much easier
Exactly. Men are so much worse at reading signs than women. In a truly gender-equal society, they'd have women lead/start most relationships because merit-based role-assignment is the only way that makes sense.
Swipe left? Lol
@@dana102083 im not that sad. I talk to women.
She’s blessed us with the answers, men….She’s a real one for this
This is literally common sense. Men are really not that bright 😅
@@00Mali00 As a female, I think it's pretty harsh to say that _all_ men aren't bright.
Love how she calls out the delusion of wonen 😂
@jericoj3312 Love how you misspelled “women” 😂
Maybe 2025 will be the year we practice unfiltered honesty like this.
I would bow and salute for such a rejection. This is a lot more respectful than being lied to, or taken advantage of.
_"I'm gonna string you along 'cuz it makes me feel good about myself and I don't give a 'uck about your feelings."_
@@Matt_from_Florida it's not that, it's the fear of being murdered when saying no, like happens all the time to women.
@@mckitty4907 You're not listening to what the men are telling you here. Men appreciate the truth, and will actually respect you for it because we've been lied to so many times.
@@Matt_from_Florida Ive told dudes no straight up before and they would not take it as an answer, they took it as a challenge to be persistant or change my mind.
Honesty doesnt always work and the times it doesnt can lead to uncomfortable or sometimes even dangerous situations. There was one incident in broad daylight in public transit i had it happen to me, and another kind man on the train stepped in to help me out/get the guy out of my face until i got to my stop.
Some men are pieces of shit, and we dont know which ones are and which ones arent, so often times we lie because we don't want to risk it.
@@starlette7820 In other words: you become a piece of shit yourself. An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind as Gandhi said.
Ironically, this would make communication absurdly more simple and easier.
There's nothing ironic or absurd about communicating effectively
@@ArcaneAnoukiand nobody said it was
@@globalist6574you do realize menaced women process information the same way...society can change the way people look at thinks but we do process the same way.
I know people who communicate like this
@@lillyisaacs2929 science proves men and women do NOT think the same. Google it. Really interesting stuff.
"And thus the perfect society was formed"
It couldn’t hurt
893 likes and 1 reply let me fix that
If only women weren’t such highly expected to be following the woman’s law, which is to always look good and look happy, or they will be judged
If only we were aloud to act like this without being called unladylike and all other kinds of awful things 🥲🙃
@@zoenelson3340 fr, at least I don’t have to put on makeup every day, it doesn’t really look good on me
How refreshing that level of truth would be.
Honestly, this is exactly what men need to hear. Just clear, obvious and simple.
Then society should have raised us like that instead of raising us to be NICE, and SWEET and to SMILE and be ACCOMMODATING...oh, so sorry, I appear to be shouting, and I was raised never to shout so please pardon me and I'll just politely walk away and continue to keep my pretty little thoughts to myself like I was raised to do...
@YRP Yes it's bad that society teaches boys the opposite of reality knowing fully they'll have to learn the hard way or stay miserable.
@@nobody-xh6ii Cite any example for this, because that's a strawman (no pun intended) if I've ever seen one.
@@yrp237 society is bs
@@nobody-xh6ii That's an absurd statement.
But lets entertain it for a second. You're telling us that men are more upset and more likely to be violent when women are honest than when women are deceitful and manipulative and they find out?
11/10 logic
These are the direct signals men are looking for
This but also literally any obvious sign of interest and/or attraction instead of the woman expecting the man to do it first then acting like he's creepy when he does.
@DGneoseeker1 This.
@@mystraunt2705 Also if women could please stop acting interested in other guys when they have fiancés it would be great too.
The most cringe inducing time of my life resulted from this. Also it's the only woman who ever showed interest.
@@DGneoseeker1 maybe they were interested in you as a person rather than a sexual partner. Seems unsurprising that it was the only time, though.
@@cgg2621 Nah dude lmfao. So many men and women in relationships flirt with other people. It's ridiculous. It's like they test to see if they still have game or are attractive or something. Or sometimes they go through with the cheating.
Women need to be this brutally honest! Come on ladies, make it happen!
Many of us would like to, but some men hit on us in such a forceful way that we're scared of the consequences if we were to be this blunt. Some women get stalked and beaten up by men just for saying "no." :(
@@MakingtheCase also many of us have faced those feared consequences before and would like to simply avoid that happening again
@@thatdamnjezebel6858 -- I've had a guy from the bar stalk me halfway home. Luckily, I noticed him following me before I got home and managed to lose him.
If you try it, you'll see that most men can't take it. But of course you're right, it also feels shit not to be honest. But a mens pride can be very dangerous for women.
yes
Your song at the end made me laugh. Thank you for your service to womankind. ❤
Kris says “shut the f*ck up”….I immediately hit the like button 😂😂😂
Honestly, i think that would be the best possible rejection ANYONE has ever had…
It's hard to state the rejection in such words because it demands that she herself first understands why she is rejecting. In a situation like that, women often panic because they don't know how to turn down anyone kindly but firmly so, clearly, they don't have time or brainpower to analyze why they feel the way they feel.
That last one would come in handy.
All the rest I pretty much knew. 👍
@@TheAlpenelvis Just saying 'I'm not interested but thanks, I appreciate it' is enough, without brainpower.
And yet more and more woman everyday are getting shot or otherwise harmed for rejecting someone
Life would be easier for everyone if it was okay for both women and men to be this honest. Know what you want and enforce your boundaries.
Only thing making it "not ok" is our collective decision as a species to continue the disingenuous dance of BS we do now.
This makes me sad its ok for both genders to be honest and men face the same issues. Talk about insensitive…
Yes this would make it much simpler.
Enforce your boundaries? With what?
@@woollymammoth2123 It’s not okay for men to be honest. And women can only be honest if they are unattractive.
That last one is respectable and I like that kind of honesty
Everybody wants honesty until they're honest with you.
Factz
I wish... it turns out, that you don't get what you give when it comes to honesty.
They are never respectable and honest, normally just disrespectful honest. Thats the difference.
@@BrunoInterlandi The truth is rarely kind and mostly ugly. The delivery of it has nothing to do with it.
this is exactly what i feel reading these comments
Tbh if a woman said that to me at a club, I'd thank her for her honesty, still buy her a drink, wish her a fun and safe night; Then move along.
As a men, I would do the same.
"The worst she can say is no"
If a woman said that to me in a club... My respect for her would 📈📈📈
Before or after being friendzoned 🤣
And then it would quickly be used against us later in relationship. Literally always happens. That’s why I’ve started to change and adapt accordingly. Being honest is literally a vulnerability for women. It’s only got me burned and used against me in the long run. Prolly why women have put up so many walls
@sum bunniii dude, literally!!!! something in our culture has to change so that men and women can find harmony. Like how the hell have we as a species let this shit go on for so long?
@@sumbunniii8721 because the dudes you got with were attractive/financially sound men. they know they are a commodity and don't have to be decent to women. that is not a dig against you - attractive women do the same to men. its just the nature of things. my best wishes to you in the dating / relationship field.
@@heehoopeanut420agreed
"Worst she can say is no bro"
The last one:
@@badwolf3618 this
@@badwolf3618 Very true. But the easy and not so hurtful option would just be to say "No thank you" to the drink offer. Honesty (especially with strangers) is not always the best option.
@@badwolf3618 unfortunately many woman learn from an early age being that honest leads to confrontation that can easily lead to harassment or worse yet violence. Its easier to lie and avoid the situation. I know that's not comforting but it is honest
I've heard worse
BUT when she doesn't say no people are like just say no
I wish women were this honest. I wish people in general were this honest regardless of gender.
People say they want this level of honesty, and then they meet me. Most people don’t want this. Trust.
@@Dominicus13 Same
I mean. Yes, with my whole heart, but that may just be the autism talking.
@@Dominicus13You are absolutely right. The people who say they want unfiltered honesty are the very ones who can’t handle it when you are absolutely honest with them.
No, when we are this honest, people look at us strangely and avoid us. Our partners just say, “that’s a trap” and walk away.
I love this woman's stuff. She's awesome.
We definitely need more women like this
Once, some years ago, my best friend and I were out at lunch together; most people mistook us for a married couple, but we never went the romantic route, we were both already married. I was getting us a couple drinks at the bar, and a woman, I'm assuming tipsy, was trying to get me to go back to her place with her, probably because she saw me with my friend and the typical "What's she got that I don't?" thing reared it's head because my friend was admittedly incredibly sexy, beautiful and attractive. When I got back to our booth, the tipsy woman dropped all pretense, got between me and the booth and virtually shouted, "Don't you even want a one-night stand!?" I handed my friend her drink, sipped mine, and calmly told her that I had enough bedroom furniture already. I heard the bartender laugh at that. My friend just about chortled her drink out her nostrils. Miss Tipsy looked confused, but wandered back to her barstool.
The last one was brutally honest to both sexes, the whole wanting to be looked at part.
I’ll pass personally it’ll make me feel uncomfortable
Yeah, if this was reality I would really appreciate the honesty, then I’d know I’m not being creepy, she just isn’t interested
@Ricardo Paez idk a no thanks is a pretty good sign but a lot of men don't seem to get it unless we're rude. I told a guy no thanks and he was like "are you sure?" Like would I have said no if I wasn't?
@@samwebb3577 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@samwebb3577 Some are stubborn 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I would actually love to have a friend who was this brutally honest all the time, lol.
Edit: bro i didnt realize the there was an entire army of you fellas
i am. most ppl are irritated at first. but those who can take it come for my opinion often. all two of them ;-)
@@triforce_xiii Same. I have a friend we’re we can literally insult & terrorize each other relentlessly & still be cool.
That’s me 😂😂😂
Lol my experience is like 5% of people actually want this person in their life
@@rocketta.chique5761 Unfortunately it’s easier for most people to play it safe & stay in their comfort zones. It’s the same link to why so many rather stay home & complain why nothing gets done on the internet.
I would love this kind of honesty. The one though where she askedoes this make me look.Fat is the one question that scares the hell out of men the most. No matter how you answer you can't win.
"I would just like to dance and be looked at but not touched" omg 😭💖💕 What a mood
Why? Wouldn't most women feel like that most of the time?... and minus the dancing, most men?
@@BabylonPatrol Women are not sex objects.
@@BabylonPatrol Pretty sure most men don't mind being touched nearly as much.. That's a woman thing.
@@BabylonPatrol yes I suppose so. I can't speak for all girls, but I certainly would rather not be touched - can be a bit invasive. The staring can't always be helped though
@@cceerrs I would say staring at a dance floor isn't really objectionable because the set up essentially suggests it's a stage.
And I'd say it's one of the minor disadvantages of being a western woman or child that women feel entitled to touch or hug you. It's by and large unpleasant to be touched by women because there tends to be manipulative intent... at least under consideration.
Asian culture, for example, is far better protocolled in that regard.
I wish more people (Men and Women) would speak like this.
No you don't lol
The world would be a much worse place
People hate truth.
Guys already do
Cause we don’t care
@@jlih6271 Agreed
If a girl actually answered that way about the drink I'd buy her one anyway on principle and leave her alone.
“A toast to your honesty. Have a great rest of your night.”
I doubt it lol
@@-KMA- right 😂😂they’re only agreeable online irl I’ve had guys literally stalk me over a drink
@@-KMA- I understand your doubt, most people wouldn't, but I like this sort of behavior and would like to encourage it.
@@imjustsayin34 the guys who go to clubs and bars for the sole purpose of picking up women are the same ones who get salty over rejection. But you'll never run into the guys who like brutal honesty there because clubbing and alcoholism are inherently dishonest activities
Lets just DO this. It will save so much time and BS! Thanks for posting this.
This woman is my spirit animal for the most part I do in fact speak this bluntly because I'm tired of awkward social misunderstandings.
Same, the reception isn’t as good as these comments
I bet you get called ugly things because of it... Personally, I prefer the direct approach! It does make things so much easier! So, I will say thank you, dear, keep it up!
That was the nicest letdown I've ever heard. Would've saved me so much time and money.
Hurray!!
Yeah, it'll only be awkwardly social 😅
Honestly we all should be like this. Its much more simple living like this
Yeah I practiced this in a few years and gradually lots of things getting easier. Some people will appreciate ur honestly or hate u for it lol. But u will feel lighter because u got what u want & people understand what u want.
@@GwenMahdi same I have been like this forever.
And incels should be provided free access to self-termination materials.
The vast majority of the U.S. population over 30 are hideous
@@GwenMahdi also you're better off without those people who don't like honesty
Petition for us women to start being more honest and less needlessly polite! (Unless the situation genuinely calls for it) Who’s with me??
I think it's more about being unnecessarily insecure and attention-seeking, rather than simply being polite. Being polite is something totally different.
It's about having no idea who could snap on you and kill you for rejecting them, and having to treat everyone with kid gloves because you can't know which is which before they do it.
Seconded
@@aliceh5289 stop looking at everyone like a threat and you won't have that issue because 95% of people aren't going to attack you for being honest. If you keep looking for goblins, eventually you're going to start seeing them everywhere. They don't exist, go outside more.
@@bakerboat4572 Women have been violently attacked, raped, and killed for being completely honest. It’s unfortunate that we have to go to the lengths of putting sugar on everything to try to prevent that, but here we are.
2023 should be the year we practice unfiltered honesty like this
As a card carrying member of the male society, we need more of this last bit.
give it a few years and you'll learn. Or listen to dr Denis Leary if you want to speed it up because we're never gonna get more of this kind of honesty ;)
We have a card? Probably lost it with my last wallet.
@@Montaph you have to find one of the women who dispense them...and ask them about their father
Only a trans would think there’s a card and carry it 👀
We can neither confirm nor deny the existence of any form of male ID, regardless of format
I want to live in a world like this.
This is what heaven is like. Only good people will want to go there, because only they will be able to stand the exposure of who they really are.
Actually, in Russia everyone lives like this if you didn’t know
I wish it was safe.
Most men would.
Woah! The first one bout ordering!!! MIND BLOWN 🤯 ITS SO SIMPLE AND MAKES SOOO MUCH SENSE
She was on point with the offering the drink. So many guys think you are stuck up if you say no., but if u say yes then they expect your number. You can't win.
I am gay and I have been offered drinks from other guys at gay bars lots of times and have said no. Its not that you said no its how you say it. I don't accept drinks from others male, or female for that matter, as I don't know what is in it. But I don't say that. I just smile and say thank you for the nice offer but I have to decline your kind offer. People that kind of know me know not to offer me drinks as I don't drink alcohol at all, and the people that really know me know that I am paranoid about being drugged. If I don't watch the bartender pour the drink my self or if it is ever out of my sight at any time I wont drink it. I have more fingers on one hand than there has ever been people that I have ever trusted to give me a drink that I had not watched the bartender to pour personally.
@@Donkeyearsa they’ll likely insist. Thus where the problem actually arises.
@Aquamarine Rain have you and your friends considered hanging out in places other than bars?
@@aquamarinerainyou’re going to wrong bars i think
@@aquamarinerain damn you gotta check your anger issues. Btw he is right "mommy I got shot after standing in shooting range!" You knew it was a bad idea to be around those people, yet you still did it. Find any other bar, also concerts happen at concerts at outside, not in bars.
Based on things I've seen online.I think this is one hundred percent accurate and also hilarious
The worst she can say is no 😭😂
Apparently not 😂😂
This is way better than no: you got an actual reason!
This is far better than no what you on abouy
The worst she can say is no…..the best thing is you dodged a nuke, because she said no….
"I want to be looked at but I don't want to be touch". This is 100% woman honesty right here.
The last scenario is the exact same shit that I think every time😂
It's shit that a small minority of absolute dickheads have destroyed all opportunities for the majority...which might be a bit shyer.
I just tend to ignore all women on the dance floor just because that...
I think that can be said for most people lol
@@Serenitie3 Hum, I can assure you that most men would love to be touch, and they don't care that much if they are looked at or not ;-)
For men being look at is fine, but getting to the actual touching is the real goal.
The tragedy is women are compromising their self respect and sexual integrity by doing this. Their desire for attention is their sexual motivator. They are inherently sexualizing themselves in the feminine, and in order to justify it as not self compromising they then have to masculinize the rest of their behaviour. It's just a lose lose in the long run for a short term Hugh in the moment.
Lack of delayed gratification has poisoned them.
Kris is legit my internal thoughts turned into a person 😂😂😂
the dance/drink sitch.. soooooooo relatable - along with the never ending paranoia of group/date food consumption!!!
My girlfriend actually does this. She's straightforward most of the time. It's refreshing compared to the majority of other people I come across with work and life.
Fuckin propose to them asap. You won't find another like that.
yeah, "Refreshing' for YOU
😆😆😆😆
This is d-mb and most women do not do that! This is just Kall going off of common stereotypes that must primarily apply to the suburban types!
@@crystalfelicia9924 why the fuck you censor the word dumb
Ever think she's so dishonest that shes comes off straightforward most of the time?
She should be the new spokesperson for “GAP” clothing line.
As someone who is this honest, a lot of people don't like when you're this honest.
THANK YOU👏🏾👏🏾alot of these ppl lying. Being honest has always gotten me a harsh response or looked at weird.
@@laurenfulton2510 Right!? Thankfully I have found a few friends that appreciate my directness, but they always have to give warnings to people before they meet me for the first time so they don't misunderstand. Still doesn't work all that often.
@@1DJRikkiBee Who cares being honest may not get you the most likes but it will bring you the right likes the ones that matter.
@@stevenkitchen1482 Truer words
@@stevenkitchen1482 I was just about to comment this. Wise man
Excellent reality! Guys need to learn the brutal truth… it goes both ways
Most men, probably close to 90% would love this clarity and honesty.
It would save much time and money-for men.
In all honesty, it'd make the world a vastly better place if women were all straight fuckin' forward about everything.
entire vid of honesty about meaningless trivialities ignoring the honesty that matters when lying about the few important things in life
Most women have to avoid being straightforward for their safety tho :/
@@user-xq6cn3xx3e Kinda right Ig