Pediatricians dealing with Doctor Parents
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- Опубликовано: 28 авг 2024
- Developmental milestones can cause a lot of unneeded stress. Thanks to Dr. Alok Patel for joining me! Check him out on Instagram and on ABC News!
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First baby and I NEVER put that development chart down during the first year!
Second baby and I was like, she'll get to it when she gets to it!
This was my parent😂
Relatable! Mine are 18 and 21 now, but I definitely remember those moments where I was so worried when they were young if a certain milestone wasn’t progressing on my timeline. My wise neighbor told me, “don’t worry, she’ll be walking and potty trained by the time she goes to kindergarten.”
I don’t know, if they still can’t walk or use the toilet at 18 or 21 years old, I think it may be a problem
I found a mother's day card one year that I thought was the best:
On the front it was syrupy-sweet, about how a mother teaches their child how to go through life, and these lessons are invaluable, etc...
On the inside:
The potty-training has been especially useful, I can't thank you enough!
Yes, only not all kids do that and when people say things like that to you when you have a special needs child it can be very hurtful. Eventually you learn to grow a thick skin because the truth is unless you have been the parent or sibling of a disabled child, you don't know and can't know. Still, comments like that can be very unhelpful, however well-meaning. A comment that says something along the lines of 'you're a great parent and you have a wonderful child' is more reassuring.
@@JaneAustenAteMyCat Thank you for this reminder. I appreciate you bringing this up here. I always try to be a considerate to everyone evidently sometimes I need that reminder.
My wife (a peds nurse) & my mom were driving me (a peds nurse) nuts about our 21 month old not really talking yet, mostly making sounds with like 5 words total used. (2 year olds are supposed to use 400 words or so.) Pediatrician rechecked their hearing just to appease the family but reassured that speech generally rockets around 2 years. Just turned two today and has been a complete chatterbox the past few weeks, right on time.
Yep! The recent 2 year olds at daycare have all started adding more words and it’s starting to sound like the market scene in Aladdin when all four are playing. Daycare is Lindsey, they call her Linny. I am Lanie, or “B’s mom!” Linny picked up one little man and he went “No, LANIE!” Cracked me up and he came right over for some snuggles.
My brother didn’t talk until almost 3 and self-soothed by rocking back and forth in a chair, letting his head whack the back. It was 1989, so no one was too worried. Nowadays everyone would be on high alert for autism. Turns out a sister who is 13 months older did all his talking for him, and he’s now a polyglot so I think he’s fine. Still twitchy, though.
“Kids are crazy like that”
Ahhh, so accurate. Even the way he said it, it’s *chef’s kiss*
I prefer the more chaotic variant: pediatricians dealing with parents who THINK they are doctors and are demanding an MRI for their two week old with a slightly bumpy head
(In truth, it was dandruff and newborn eczema)
My mom experienced the opposite. My sis needed a day of testing when she was 6 or 7 years old. They wanted to put a catheter in to prevent accidents. My mom protested thinking it was unnecessary to do because sis has some kidney issues and pain etc. Docs agreed with her. But also made a note in the medical records: parents are against testing. Which was absolutely not true.. sometimes it is the docs overreacting and not the parents ;)
@@marielle7133 Those kinds of doctors deserve be sued. They're literally creating a prejudice against those parents that could have disastrous results for the health of their child.
@@marielle7133 that’s a very poor form of documentation on the docs part. I’m not familiar to which test you speak of, but it sounds like the catheter was to assist with the test but not part of it? (unless it was some sort of urine collection). In that way I don’t see how refusal of a catheter should be documented as “against testing,” and that was a mistake on the doctors part.
Regardless of what the test was, the documentation should have been something along the lines of “pt parent declined urinary catheter for *test* on *date of test*”. Short and specific, including what was refused and when.
The only reason that would even need to be documented is to prepare staff in case a similar situation happened in the future with the same patient.
Even with a previous refusal documented, the catheter should still be suggested first (assuming that’s the standard procedure), but the staff should be prepared with a plan B if the parents said no again.
I’m sorry your mom and sister had to experience that. I agree that doctors can overreact too, and it can be harmful.
@@limiv5272 agreed. The one who suffers the most in those cases is the child.
While it is good to document treatment refusals, that must not impact future care of the pt.
I had a similar situation, my daughter was almost 18 months and not walking. I started to get worried, we had her check up appointment and her pediatrician said to give her a little more time and if she is still not walking, she can go to PT, literally the next day she started walking.
@@melindaunknown113 this is true. It also didn’t help that I was comparing her to my son who walked at 10 months.
My son didn’t get his first tooth until he 12 months old. He didn’t start walking until he was 14 months old. My granddaughter q didn’t start walking until she was 18 month old too. She only did that Waldo’s walk for 1 more month and started crawling. Right after she learned to crawl up and down the stairs (2 mo ago) she started climbing up and down on everything. My son finally went and screwed al the dressers (anything big and heavy)down. I had been nagging him. His wife told me the first my son saw his daughter climb up the first big shelf unit it scared him so bad that when the baby went to take her nap he went and got the stuff to screw everything down. When we went to visit I pretended that I didn’t know. The first piece of furniture she climbed up on I pretended that I had had been scared to death🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
She Really didn’t want PT 🤣🤣🤣
My youngest was that age one day when we had an appointment for an older kid, but since he was there the paediatrician asked how he was doing and if he were walking yet. I said, "Nearly," and then he walked his first unaided steps right in front of her!
Funny, I feel like after reading the comments I'm one of the few who didn't worry about when they started walking. I'm a grandmother now of 6. What did bother me is that my second boy figured out how to ride his tiny bike with no training wheels and started riding it in my neighbors yards. He was only three. I've heard of babies scooting on their buttons instead of crawling. My oldest brother fell trying to walk at around 7 or 8 months. He didn't attempt it again until 10 months. Baby's are all over the place about when and how they reach a mile stone.
Our pediatrician still doesn’t know I’m an internist for this reason haha. That being said… I know nothing about pediatrics so it doesn’t matter in the end.
Fair. I’m peds. Know nothing about old people.
And you know what? Even if your kid doesn't hit the milestones and you eventually discover they have autism and learning disabilities and you watch as they grow, hoping that maybe they'll catch up, yet the gap between them and their peers grows ever wider... even then, life isn't over. Every life is precious. When you have a kid with special needs every milestone reached is a celebration
Very well stated 💜 cherish every moment and milestone you get the privilege to experience with your children because nothing in life is permanent or certain.
Or they become a math genius who gets accepted to University at age 16
Has their first psychotic break at 18
And then spends the rest of their life in a psychiatric hospital
You just never know.....
Shout out to peds! After going through my rotation and learning about their salaries, they're criminally underpaid (compared to other docs).
I stopped worrying about developmental miles stone when my son was 11 months old and he started walking. Before that they told when he was not showing any interest in crawling at 10 months old that he would probably not walk before he was 13-14 months. That day I thought will see about that. I went with him on the floor put one of his favorite toys in front of him and made his little arms move like he was crawling. A light bulb went on in his head and in less than a month he was running all around us. He teaches me every day to just trust him to get it his way. At 3 yo he’s not completely verbal yet, but he’s on all the professional’s waiting lists and if they see him they see him. If not, I’m still sure he’ll do great. He’s so bright and full of life. We’ll be fine. Good luck to you.
Hit it out of the park again, Doc! I lost it at "glycogen storage disorder" 🤣 Dr. Patel is great, too! Cheers.
Heh.
And, of course, some kids just sort of skip milestones - From what I'm told, I didn't talk until I was 2. When I started using sentence fragments to communicate specific concepts rather than the isolated word stuff most kids do. (My first words, apparently, were "Daddy bath now please")
My preemie son was on his own curve below but mirroring normal but being OB/NICU nurse...poor kid got exercised and stimulated til he started crawling under furniture, when ignored him he sat up, pulled up and gave me a disgusted teen look. Our poor kids gotta live through all our fears.
Bless you! I can't IMAGINE being a NICU nurse. I'm not even all that keen on babies, lol.
But I worked in animal sheltering for decades, and people were always saying it's got to be the hardest job. Yeah, I've gotten compassion fatigue, but still....
I think what you do has to be the toughest. I know as professionals, we have to have a sort of detachment to be able to perform up to high standards and not fall apart.
Maybe that's what those people meant, they didn't believe they'd have the emotional fortitude.🤔
Anyway, thank you for doing what you do.♥️
I had two preemies 2yrs apart. We joke the first 31wk 2lb prepared us for the 2nd- 29wk and just over a pound. He watched his big sister constantly. They developed a sibling rivalry with developmental stages. Both were stuck at 12-18 months until she was nearly 5. Then it took off and they each packed 6months of stages into every 10 days one summer. The developmental dr was thrilled and I was exhausted by the end.
My doctor mom started when I was in utero and convinced my dad I was going to have a cleft palate based on something she glimpsed in an ultrasound. They both got so worked up and everything was totally normal when I was born.
I have twins so when one was even a little bit behind the other I stressed. One twin was doing simple maths and writing sentences before they started school and I clearly remember asking the nursery nurse why the other wasn't doing anything more than counting to 10. I'm a teacher and we're the worst for schools to deal with as parents.
The first twin finishes med school in 8 month
My entire family is tall. Like my mom was 6' tall. I was 5'2" in grade 3. I didn't grow after grade 3. At all. I'm still 5'2". And, when I was diagnosed with Celiac disease at 20, the rheumatologist said Celiac probably stunted my growth. But, babies are wild...they just do new stuff all of the time.
Didn't you feel any symptoms all those years, or did you think it was nothing to worry about and didn't go to the doctor? I'm just asking because if it was bad enough to stunt your growth, you'd think it would be bad enough to bother you enough to get to a doctor
@@limiv5272 I grew up on a reservation and there wasn't a ton of medical care for specialized care. But, yeah, my nickname was barfy with the kids and teeny with the adults. Although, a doctor off of the rez diagnosed me with peptic ulcers at 14, I was considered a fragile child. I also have Ehlers Danlos Syndrome which was undiagnosed until I was 30. This caused me to be extremely flexible but super prone to joint dislocations. There simply wasn't any health care. But, I made it to NYC and now a Psychotherapist and once I finish my Nurse Practitioner degree I am heading back to the rez to offer a full scope if practice that includes mental health, and primary care services.
@@tmm6884 Good luck with all your plans, sounds like this is exactly what that community needs
@@tmm6884 Wow! That's fantastic. What a wonderful life you are living - giving back to your community. You'll be such an inspiration for the young people 💚
Wait I’m 5’2, is 5’2 really that short?
As a pediatric's nurse i can say i do this with the kids in my life too🥸
"Are you sure she doesn"t need a lumbar puncture?" 😂😂
"Oh, go on then. But only 1, don't want the spoil the kid('s neurotic parent)" 🤣
A lumbar puncture! 😂😂 man you’re amazing with those videos. Thank you for all the work you put in them! Kind regards, ciao!
AN LP 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
I can only imagine physicians in the ER are like “Yeah my DD list is pretty thorough, went through all of VINDICATE, and I’m thinking the most likely cause of this failure to thrive is linked to a 1/100000000 genetic defect leading to muscular atrophy along the spinal column.”
*baby sits up*
“Ok, well next most likely is going to be pediatric onset of Alzheimer’s, she can’t even recognize me as her dad.”
I was a home-birth and never had any of the testing done, so I had undiagnosed hypothyroidism for the first 7-8 years of my life. Therefore my milestones were super delayed, I always looked a year or three younger than I was and didn't start talking or walking until I was 2. When I finally got treatment (after my mom fighting the doctors for a year or so because they all refused to test for hypothyroidism) I had a wild growth spurt and went from being way shorter than my sister to like 3-4 inches taller.
Awe. Deep love always triggers deep worry. ❤️
First time parents fun 🤣. It's okay Doc, the first kid you sterilize everything, the second kid you clean everything and any beyond that the dog can lick it 🤣
Like in those Luvs commercials
This is TRUE!
We always joked about our daughter (first born) getting "third kid treatment" because we wanted to not freak out like most new parents.
I read somewhere "First kid drops their pacifier, you wash and sterilize it before handing it back. Second kid you rinse it in the sink and wipe it off on your shirt. Third kid you kick it back across the floor to them."
Sometimes it takes a whole year or 5 months. People are like that .
If it’s taking a year to sit up, I would have been concerned before then
After doing an ER rotation, I have no desire to bring in any child that is not profusely bleeding/broken/actively dying. Noping all over that.
Yes, you're doing great...just another doctor breakdown...I know, they're in my family. Breakdown as in analyzing every tiny thing as you've been taught. Remember human feelings and development..you're doing great.
As a medical student that just went over glycogen storage disorders this summer, I snorted.
My Pops always said doctors make the worst patients. I was in the room after his angiogram and I could tell the nurse was getting aggravated with him. But with me most the time I probably in a normal situation would’ve went to the ER but he was a good one for home treatment. Except for broken bones. He would go get them casted. Who knows how many concussions I had? Mom and dad said just don’t let her go to sleep. 😳 but what do kids wanna do after crying for awhile? We wanted to go to sleep! So I’d cry more cus I was so tired.
Congrats on the baby! Love your stuff. ♿️
My husband is FM, I am SO glad we managed not to be ‘those parents’ 😂
I watch your short and laugh and laughed. My daughter in law is retired army, deployed to Iraq twice and her philosophy is if you aren’t crying,bleeding or dead then you are fine🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😱
💜💜💜🤣🤣🤣 Rockin as usual, Doc Schmidt!
First time parents will always freak out if a baby misses a milestone
Haaaaa😁🤣😁!!! I remember those “first time as a new mom days!! 😃🤣😁”. After giving birth to all 5 lbs 6 oz of him, I was so nervous that he wasn’t getting enough breast milk that at 1 week I called the office crying for an appointment!!😔 My son’s pediatrician weighed him and then told me and I quote: “I want you to go home home, lie down on the floor and when your husband gets home have him walk all over your head!” 😨😓😖😢 (that was 45 years ago… I was 22 years old and yes I was married)
Nurse parents can be just as bad….. 😉 not that I would know from experience or anything!!
why did we eleminate the glycogene storage enzyme problem?
true story: when I was a med student, a young specialist brought his kid saying that's they're hypotonix, "too relaxed".
Try getting by a nurse…supposedly the top rheumatologist in our area diagnosed our daughter with lupus and started her on Plaquinil my wife read up on lupus and kept asking the doctor for further testing which he refused. shortening the story a allergist, second rheumatologist and a pediatric gastroenterologist reading ALL the test results my wife had filed and ordering others…later. Our daughter is a 30 year old Art Teacher with allergies, no lupus…a good nurse is like a pit bull at keeping patients and family safe.
Ps. Judging a doctor by how many nurse patients they have is not a bad start.
I sat up at seven months (I had a large head)
Well right on cue
Wait.. Kids have clocks to start sitting up exactly at 6 months? 😶
ohh,i dont know about that "I promise" part!
but besides that! great defusion ^^
This hit home 🤣🤣🤣 poor pediatrists
Next video: my baby is a child prodigy because she did something 1 month early
Truth!!! I work in Pediatrics When I go into Dr office I have a Very nuanced list of concerns… things Most people don’t think of I will b walking in discussing my child’s sensory issues I have half way diagnosed 🤣🤣🙏🤣🤣
When he said celiac disease
Me: ✨that’s me!✨
Ok i lost it at lumbar puncture lmao
Hell Yeah!!!
Are you sure we don’t need a lumbar puncture? 🥴
Well? Are you?
@@Doc_Schmidt I’m sure, Doc.
very good video! im an italian pediatrician
Funny, my pediatrician was also a doctor Patel, and I actually got put on cows milk early because of failure to thrive.
Lol, But no well trained doctor should react dis way. Values in medicine are almost always a range
Omg this is so hilarious 6 months and 15 minutes and shall we wait 6 months and 2 hours 🤣🤣🤣
About...3 to 5 mg of Lorazepam two or three times a day might help
"That seems like a pretty high dosage for an infant. ..."
Ummmm.....
What about the parents that are like this? Who aren’t even in the medical field 😮💨
True , 👍
My kid walked at 8 months. Humble bragging
I would rather study about it again!
it's not easy to be a parent. my daughter was 7 days old and she was having vomiting, high pitch cry and irritability and the pediatrician doesn't want to believe me cos am physician even he was late to do lumbar puncture but I insisted on starting of antibiotics the next day lp was performed and the wbc was high around 13000 then he says oh she has neonatal meningitis
I'm a nurse and I do this with my doctor for myself so... I can only imagine if i had kids. 🙃
Unrelated but, do eggs get flushed out or reabsorbed before a period?
I'm getting both answers and idk who to believe 🤔
Jesus! Suggesting a lumbar puncture?! For a 6 month old?!
Haha first! Great vid
Pediatrician VS physician parents.....not easy!
Do videos about food comas. explain how and why.. the doctors that I had and have are useless...
You forgot cystic fibrosis! 😛
You sure she doesn't need a LP? Lol
Lol don't LP the baby!!!!
Lol
Saving the kid from a life of certain failures. This is why they kill the majority of the young in the wild.
😅❤️❤️❤️😅
Maybe nurse mothers are more chill. 🤣
Why I didn't go into peds. I liked it but I wanted to punch so many parents
glycogen storage disorder.....😂
If only med school would deal in diversity instead of averages…