You ever wonder why infidelity and paternity fraud are not felony crimes? I worked with a guy in the Navy who was paying child support for a child that was not his because he signed the birth certificate. Paternity test should be mandatory at birth.
Anyone that is a "people please" or "peace keeper" are *worse* than the ones doing it. As: It takes a terrible person to for example: Grape a child. But... the person that looks at that and go "... How do I enable this?" is pure evil.
@@Kattlarvdisagree. The person who creates the whole situation is by far the worst. Those who allow it are bad but not as bad as those actually doing it. Make sure the blame goes to the person who truly deserves it, not those caught in it by accident or circumstance.
@@kirksnowden8023 Unfortunately, some people consider it "freedom of expression" to cheat. In some places, though, including some states, adultery IS illegal, though some sections of society (e.g. feminists) think it's sexist.
They sound fairly typical. I'm also a woman. I've had to deal with this kind of BS behavior for my entire life because some really do believe that esh is peachy keen. My grandmother had a saying about women like that. "She's no better than she oughta be."
OP First story - mistake was confronting them. If you have evidence, you send it anonymously and keep your mouth shut. It may be sneaky, but so much safer that way. Anybody brazen enough to show up at your job is reckless and dangerous. You need to get away from ALL of them. Good Luck, you are going to need it.
plus him telling the girls first means they can spin the story..which seems like they tried. he should've dropped the message, dumped gf, and stand back.
100 percent. I made that mistake when some incel on Facebook was getting more and more explicit and vulgar at me (implied repulsities involving my kid brother and what the rest of my family *may do* with said kid brother *(This entire conversation simply started with me saying how my kid brother couldn’t use his Pikman game from the E-Shop online.* (And we would later find out this was because he wasn’t the main account on his switch, but while that may be the case, there’s still no way in hell we’d let that happen, given what kids of today can do) just so you know the monstrosities uttered by his garbage lips were just absolute garbage lies)) I made the mistake of ending it saying something like “enjoy being on r/niceguys” and *only then* did I go over to make my post. See, R/Niceguys has a stupid system where if you go into the negative *at all,* it’s ‘the community has voted this wasn’t a NiceGuy.’ All he had to do was stalk the thread til I stupidly posted then, and one -1 later, my post was deleted, even though others (who took the time to comment instead of hitting the upvote button, something I never would have thought of as an issue before then) were positively on my side with what a monster he was. Never tell an opponent you’re about to attack that you’re about to attack. Just gives them time to block or attack you.
Remember that story in which Op's girlfriend and her parents knew a couple were cheating, but still chose to be friends with them. And when Op told his girl to convince her parents to cut off the cheating couple or to cut the parents off Reddit accused him of being controlling, told him he had mental problems, told him it was none of his business, and said his girlfriend would be better off without him?
That was different. If OP had a friend who was cheating, her boyfriend would have every right to want her to end that friendship. But the boyfriend wanted OP to tell her parents to stop being friends with a cheating couple. He wanted to control who and what OPs parents did and control OP. He was a fool and was way out of line. If he disapproved so much, he should have just broken up with OP.
Stew story - how can someone like stew but not like left-overs. Do they not know that stew is best reheated the next day? I love stews of all types and cook them all the time.
Leftovers are great with just anything. During the holidays we have leftovers that are safely consumed for the next four days or so. Wasting expensive food like that shows that OP's boyfriend has zero financial awareness.
2: OP needs to dump the man child. I can't imagine spending nearly $50 on a large serving of stew and then wasting the leftovers. Then throwing a fit because it contains an ingredient I don't like but can't even taste? Ridiculous. On the upside, he's no longer wasting money on it.
Indeed.... safe food... really? I was a small child when I learned that when cooking sometimes things you dont like solo can be key in a recipe. Is the boyfriend a small child?
He's autistic. Part and parcel with being autistic is that some foods aren't just gross. They're viscerally upsetting. If food is the wrong texture or even the wrong temperature, it's like our body rejects it and causes us to choke. For an autistic adult, this can be really embarrassing because we know what our brain is telling us might not be rational. Having said all that, being autistic doesn't mean you're incapable of being a twat. OP should absolutely dump his ass.
Never defended cheaters. Don’t cover for them. You would never be able to look at yourself in the mirror if you cover for a cheater. Especially someone who is trying to commit fraud on her “boyfriend.”
Story #2: Tell his family that you're packing him up and sending him back home to mama!! They can feed him!! Separate your account and then separate from him!
S2: My mom had NEVER eaten left overs until she got with my dad. That being said, tell the sister: "I am glad that you said that! I'll let him know that, from here on out, you'll be providing a budget for him!"
And yet, a lot of the commenters are blaming the fiance. He only tried to let her down GENTLY by offering a different role for her. Sounds like his whole family was pressuring him to make his niece a flower girl, even though one was already chosen
@@nancyomalley6286 I'd blame the fiancee for not holding to the originally planned roles. I have a feeling he was pressured by his sister (or whichever relative) to give his niece the slot, but then hope OP would cave to keep the peace. Or that he just naturally feels that his family has precedence.
They were both so gleeful and unrepentant about what they were doing. Not the tiniest scrap of a conscience. OP was playing chicken with a missile and won when he left.
Grown folk who throw literal tantrums bc of picky eating should not be in relationships. like i genuinely dont know how ppl can find these children attractive.
S1: I don't know why she feels the need to confront this person and that person. Just give Stan the video and move on. These people are not your friends
Story 1: so she was cheating, Becca gaslit OP to let go not for the sake of her friend, but because she was cheating with them. And the more he digging in to it the more likely he was going to find out about her too. And it’s probably a bad to assume it’s been going on before she even met OP. So what was all of this for? The 3 of them could just have each other, they could all be in a relationship or just stay casual and find other people that are fine with open relationship. Why involve more people, getting in relationship with the cheat on them?
Because wants kids but no responsibilities, he straight up told them. I also think he gets off from banging people's partners because it's a power move.
stew story, I don't like tomatoes but I will eat things with tomato based products in them as long as there isn't chunks of tomato which I will just pick out and not complain.
Yeah, that’s something more and more people with texture or taste sensitivity are coming around to. Like I found out the hard way that I CANNOT eat onions (very traumatic. I loved the pizza I tried it with, then my dad happily revealed them, and I wasn’t super excited, but that’s because I was hoping somehow it’d be broccoli. I have a shrug and figured ‘well, better than nothing’, next thing I knew, my tongue became an eldritch horror, ignoring the taste of the pizza (so the texture there sucked enough) until it found the ‘culprit’ and then began forcing me to gag. I did my best to fight it, even slapped a hand over my mouth when the puking started, but there was no chance of fighting it. I never hated food sensitivity more than that moment of realizing I was unable to eat my favorite pizza) But then I found that I CAN eat onion powder, and fun fact, you can dump in a TRUCKLOAD of fine onion powder into a lovely risotto, and thus get all the nutrients from that!!! (I’m about to cook it up once again. I swear I end up using like half a cup to almost a cup of the stuff!! (Can’t measure, I just give a massive heaping, mix until it’s part of it, then add more, mix again, gradually mix in *even more* throughout the process, yeah. It’s an extremely flavorful bite, but given I’ve gone my *whole life* with very little flavor besides junk, you can see why I’m so crazed with it and love it)) Plus, I found many foods I could ether not tolerate or barely tolerate before, if I shove them through a freeze dryer, I can actually eat them no problem and they have most to *all* of their nutrition in them still!!! (Been getting plenty of fruits, and I’m looking forward to grinding up vegetables and trying it like the fine onion powder once I set up my personal freeze dryer. (Until then, I buy packets at the store.😅 better than candy, at least)) The modern age may suck, but we do have many ways to make *everything* accessible now a days, *especially food!!!* 😋😋😋😋😋😋
BF Stew Story: Haha, BF is an idiot. My brother did that with a fruit juice that he didn't know had carrot juice in it too but he was in elementary school. OP should dump him. Autism is a reason but not an excuse for his actions.
Stew story: You HAVE to use tomatoe paste to thicken up soups, stews, and tomatoe sauce. He is making up crap just to be difficult. Find a new man! Good luck, girl!
Last story: “I had 8 flower girls!” Good for you. OP doesn’t want 8 flower girls, she wants 1. Why does your personal preference take priority over OP’s in HER wedding? The deal was OP handles bridesmaids and flower girl, fiancé handle groomsmen and ring barer. How would it be fair for her fiancé to then also pick a second flower girl when she likely doesn’t have a young boy in her life that she also wants to be a ring barer?
Yeah. If someone wants multiple at their wedding, that's fine for them and I keep my mouth shut. But I wouldn't want multiples at mine either. I prefer a more traditional wedding party. That said "ring bearer proposal?" Seems to me that's the problem right there that her fiance made a big deal out of it instead of just asking him. And so of course the little girl got jealous of whatever production was made over her brother and doesn't understand why she wouldn't get one, too. Sounds like fiance handled things poorly, and since this is HIS mess, he can clean it up.
"I had 500 ppl at my wedding (btw not true, just an example) and this commenter only had 150, so she is the AH for having to disapoint her hairdresser's 2nd cousing for not being invited! If I could have '500', so should she " /s
@jenniferhanses it's either fiance or the girl's parents who handled this wrong. I'm going to go with both. Fiance probably made a show of asking the brother and then the parents got the niece's hopes up about being asked to be part of OP's wedding party, but the fiance did nothing about it. I would be MORTIFIED if my child just assumed they would be part of a wedding party at any age, but at the age of 5 I would be immediately jumping in to gently correct them and apologizing profusely! The fact that the parents didn't and now fiance us doubling down... I would be sitting fiance down for a long talk about this before making anymore wedding plans.
@@akl2k7 and imagin3 having 8 flower girls at your wedding. The role was made to get small children involved in the wedding. 8 little girls of varying ages standing quietly in a line for an hour is NEVER going to happen without a hitch.
Last story: YTA comment, just because it worked for you doesn’t mean it works for everyone. And frankly I don’t think OP should have to do anything, she’s not making any demands for her family to be included in his wedding party, so why isn’t she giving the same respect?
Yeah, I'd be taking a hard look at the "groom to be" on this one. They agree who gets to pick out the wedding party members, but he then later tries to put it on OP for not doing the right thing by not picking his family member. If he wanted the niece to be the ring bearer, he should have brought it up before agreeing its OP's choice to make.
Story 2: I don’t know if this is because of his autism or he just being petty. Honestly, if there’s anyone out there that can give some idea on it please do if you can. But OP really should rethink this relationship, I mean he’s losing his crap over tomato, something he could not taste or detect in his favorite food for years, but now it’s a serious issue with OP ruined his life? Then there’s the finances. Why is he working part-time if he has so much debt to take care of. OP may not be paying off his debts for him directly. But because of her financial support, he can take his sweet time with it.
It is a texture thing, autistic people can not like certain food textures but they usually tell these kind of things at the beginning of the relationship
I have autism. Safe foods isn't a thing otherwise I could declare chocolate my "safe food" because it makes me feel very happy when I eat it. But I don't because "safe foods" is made up bs to allow grown adults to throw temper tantrums and verbally and emotionally abuse their partners and then hand-wave it away as "it's okay to do this to you, I have autism" I really hate what the whole therapist industry has done to people with autism: instead of trying to find ways for us to overcome our disability or find ways to manage it, they just made up new buzzwords to make excuses for antisocial autistic behaviour. I learnt to mask so that I could hold down a job and interact with normies, every autist should and can be taught the same.
OP, you wouldn't be breaking up because of other people's drama. You'd be breaking up because you're girlfriend has a sh*ty character. And so do you if you don't warn the guy being suckered
The commenter that said she'd be fine with having multiple flower girls. Yeah, that's for your wedding. This person does not want multiple flower girls just because that's the point. Doesn't mean she's an ah. Remember your mindset Isn't everyone else's mindset or standard
Is... is there a stew that DOESN'T have tomato paste??? I don't think she should date someone immature enough to throw a tantrum when there's an ingredient in his food he wouldnt like on his own. I'm not a fan of baking soda, but I know it's integral to most baking dishes, and i can't taste it there...
Harem story - OP, I will never call anyone an id10t for helping someone like that, but if it happens again, do it sooner! Unless the angry loser owns the gym, I would call the owner and give them a heads up about his antics! Stew story - OP, NTI. Is that guy really worth all that abuse he’s putting you through? I hope you have separate finances, cards, accounts, ext…. cause he’s going to be trouble if he already isn’t.
Maybe OP needs to look into suing that guy then. Money is the only thing that talks, not to mention it could end up in the media and the guy could lose all of his businesses.
Sometimes people need to know that someone, even strangers on the internet, actually has their back when it comes to making difficult choices or choices with harsh/messy consequences. Other times people need to hear from others what they went through by not making a that difficult choice or how that choice panned out for them when they did make it. Thing is once he read the responses he did finally step up.
lol I knew Becca was cheating too. You sit down at a table of 4 people - 1 is a cheater and 3 are cheater apologists. Your dinner company is 4 cheaters.
I don't really get the "You can't have more than one ring bearer/flower girl." thing. Unless you are trying to exclude an actual nightmare child, or it's some sort of financial thing, what's the problem? I was in a wedding that had two ring bearers and four flower girls, including a baby who was carried down the aisle by her mother. Keep an experienced child wrangler with the kids when they are lining up to walk out who stays out of shot once they leave the line and you should be fine. Kids walk to the end of the aisle, everyone says "Aww", and then they go sit with their parent/guardian. It's also just a nice way to connect with your new family. I was a maid of honor and one of my favorite memories of that day was hyping up the nervous flower girls while we waited our turn to go out and they were all so happy to be included.
Story1: are you serious? This is coward behavior, go talk to Stan face to face show him the video and tell him about the baby. Dump Becca and run from this family and grow a backbone. Update: You should have told Stan yourself. What is wrong with you you sound like a teenage girl get a backbone. Glad you finally sent him the video it only took a month to do so. This could have altered Stan’s life forever
The OP was involved the moment the cheating was witnessed. No decent person can witness a betrayal of trust that bad and just do nothing without being as scummy as the people actively enabling it. Sometimes, a lack of action is the same thing as taking a side. In this case, not revealing that she cheated is taking the side of the cheaters with their paternity scam.
What is stopping your girlfriend from doing this to you? Or something worse. You really should have told him the next day. Bro code does not condone lying about paternity. Why are you still trying to talk to Becca? See the person she is and what she is willing to do for a friend and most likely have done for her.
Story 2: Autism and Safe foods are difficult to deal with on a tight budget. And it's not exactly a rational response when you find out your safe food has an "unsafe" ingredient. Rationally, I know the food tastes good. I know I like it. My brain isn't wired right, however, so instead of enjoying it, I feel like I want to throw up.
Then don't get into relationships with normies if you won't try to get therapy to resolve your issues. I learnt to mask my autism and curb my ticks and fidgeting. There are ways to learn coping mechanisms for neurotic behaviours - I've managed to stop incessant picking through determination and persistence - you just have to stop making excuses and put the effort in.
OP is missing missing reasons. BF sounds like he is the poster child for autism and ARFID. She cleverly left that out to make herself seem better. ARFID is not just a physiological disorder, the thought of certain foods are unappealing on a deep, fundamental level to the point they're revolting, when you try to eat them knowing that they're in the food you eat, you WILL have physiological reactions. I don't have ARFID but there are a few specific foods that absolutely will revolt me and if I try to eat them I am literally trying to choke them down when I start; if I keep going I'll gag, if I keep going after that I will throw up. It's not funny nor something put on. It's real, and the social stigma means we're often treated like OP and everyone else is treating and saying of the BF. Do you HONESTLY think we WANT something that stigmatizes us even _more_ ? Seriously? Now that BF knows tomatoes are in the stew he won't be able to get through a bowl without choking. Like grow up and stop stigmatizing people for their eating issues, sit down, and stfu especially if it doesn't affect YOU. Let people eat what they want and stop trying to control what others eat. Y'wanna know what clued me in? The fact tomatoes aren't a "safe food" and the fact he is perfectly happy eating one dish for all meals constantly, every day. Right now for me it's beef stroganoff over cauliflower rice.
Why are you making excuses for a grown man having a toddle meltdown over food? I’m neurodivergant and have foods I wouldn’t touch with a 10 foot pool, yet even I’m not this bad about it. You sound very pathetic. Please work on that and stop infantaluzing an entire community of people.
She can't afford his "safe food" sk what happens when they are homeless? She also did mention his autism and if he hasn't been diagnosed with ARFID, she can't assume he has it.
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Story 1: he's not ending a relationship because of other people's drama. He's ending it because he found out his girlfriend was an immoral douchebag
Which is still a good reason to end a relation!
So there yo go oh can't make a wife out of a ho-oh
Anybody that is complicit in cheating and or paternity fraud is just as much of a scumbag as the person who's doing it
They are definitely someone whose moral compass points to the bad place
You ever wonder why infidelity and paternity fraud are not felony crimes? I worked with a guy in the Navy who was paying child support for a child that was not his because he signed the birth certificate. Paternity test should be mandatory at birth.
Anyone that is a "people please" or "peace keeper" are *worse* than the ones doing it. As: It takes a terrible person to for example: Grape a child. But... the person that looks at that and go "... How do I enable this?" is pure evil.
@@Kattlarvdisagree. The person who creates the whole situation is by far the worst. Those who allow it are bad but not as bad as those actually doing it. Make sure the blame goes to the person who truly deserves it, not those caught in it by accident or circumstance.
@@kirksnowden8023 Unfortunately, some people consider it "freedom of expression" to cheat. In some places, though, including some states, adultery IS illegal, though some sections of society (e.g. feminists) think it's sexist.
Story 1: The women in this story are delusional... Selfish and delusional. I feel terrible for the baby who is going to have a mother like this.
They sound fairly typical.
I'm also a woman.
I've had to deal with this kind of BS behavior for my entire life because some really do believe that esh is peachy keen.
My grandmother had a saying about women like that.
"She's no better than she oughta be."
OP First story - mistake was confronting them. If you have evidence, you send it anonymously and keep your mouth shut. It may be sneaky, but so much safer that way. Anybody brazen enough to show up at your job is reckless and dangerous. You need to get away from ALL of them. Good Luck, you are going to need it.
He also at least needed to record him being in his ex's place too. That could have ended badly.
plus him telling the girls first means they can spin the story..which seems like they tried. he should've dropped the message, dumped gf, and stand back.
100 percent. I made that mistake when some incel on Facebook was getting more and more explicit and vulgar at me (implied repulsities involving my kid brother and what the rest of my family *may do* with said kid brother *(This entire conversation simply started with me saying how my kid brother couldn’t use his Pikman game from the E-Shop online.* (And we would later find out this was because he wasn’t the main account on his switch, but while that may be the case, there’s still no way in hell we’d let that happen, given what kids of today can do) just so you know the monstrosities uttered by his garbage lips were just absolute garbage lies))
I made the mistake of ending it saying something like “enjoy being on r/niceguys” and *only then* did I go over to make my post.
See, R/Niceguys has a stupid system where if you go into the negative *at all,* it’s ‘the community has voted this wasn’t a NiceGuy.’ All he had to do was stalk the thread til I stupidly posted then, and one -1 later, my post was deleted, even though others (who took the time to comment instead of hitting the upvote button, something I never would have thought of as an issue before then) were positively on my side with what a monster he was.
Never tell an opponent you’re about to attack that you’re about to attack. Just gives them time to block or attack you.
Dude didn’t dodge a bullet… he dodged a global exchange of nuclear warheads.
And chlamydia from the sound of it
The reason that dude has been on and off with the GF's friend is because he's also been on and off with the GF.
Yep: Last update had her reveal "hookups with Mike and Cindy were done for good".
Yep, so apparently on both of them at the same time too.
@SH-qs7ee consecutively and concurrently!
Remember that story in which Op's girlfriend and her parents knew a couple were cheating, but still chose to be friends with them. And when Op told his girl to convince her parents to cut off the cheating couple or to cut the parents off Reddit accused him of being controlling, told him he had mental problems, told him it was none of his business, and said his girlfriend would be better off without him?
That was different. If OP had a friend who was cheating, her boyfriend would have every right to want her to end that friendship. But the boyfriend wanted OP to tell her parents to stop being friends with a cheating couple. He wanted to control who and what OPs parents did and control OP. He was a fool and was way out of line. If he disapproved so much, he should have just broken up with OP.
Stew story - how can someone like stew but not like left-overs. Do they not know that stew is best reheated the next day? I love stews of all types and cook them all the time.
also if you look really well a lot of things you can order in the form of takeout can be made at home
I feel the same about next day stew as I do next day pizza. It just tastes better dang it!
@@marahbaker8615 Stew ages better - and have it on toast for breakfast the next day. Breakfast of Champions.
Leftovers are great with just anything. During the holidays we have leftovers that are safely consumed for the next four days or so.
Wasting expensive food like that shows that OP's boyfriend has zero financial awareness.
Also low key a lot of some stews are made of leftovers
2: OP needs to dump the man child. I can't imagine spending nearly $50 on a large serving of stew and then wasting the leftovers. Then throwing a fit because it contains an ingredient I don't like but can't even taste? Ridiculous. On the upside, he's no longer wasting money on it.
What an infant. He needs to move out and pay for his own stew.
He's an infant. Do you really want to support a man-child?
A woman who will be an accomplice in cheating and paternity fraud will commit both actions at any point in time.
A quick question for the OP in story 2, are all the other men in your town dead, is your toddler BF the last living boy in town?
Indeed.... safe food... really? I was a small child when I learned that when cooking sometimes things you dont like solo can be key in a recipe. Is the boyfriend a small child?
Yes i would love to know the answer to that one 😂
And have you gotten therapy for your low self esteem?
I can’t imagine he’s that great in bed, either, given his selfish behavior otherwise.
He's autistic. Part and parcel with being autistic is that some foods aren't just gross. They're viscerally upsetting. If food is the wrong texture or even the wrong temperature, it's like our body rejects it and causes us to choke. For an autistic adult, this can be really embarrassing because we know what our brain is telling us might not be rational. Having said all that, being autistic doesn't mean you're incapable of being a twat. OP should absolutely dump his ass.
Never defended cheaters. Don’t cover for them. You would never be able to look at yourself in the mirror if you cover for a cheater. Especially someone who is trying to commit fraud on her “boyfriend.”
Story #2: Tell his family that you're packing him up and sending him back home to mama!! They can feed him!! Separate your account and then separate from him!
S2: My mom had NEVER eaten left overs until she got with my dad. That being said, tell the sister: "I am glad that you said that! I'll let him know that, from here on out, you'll be providing a budget for him!"
Exactly!
I'd be upset with the parents who told their young daughter that she was going to be the flower girl w/o talking to OP about it first.
And yet, a lot of the commenters are blaming the fiance. He only tried to let her down GENTLY by offering a different role for her. Sounds like his whole family was pressuring him to make his niece a flower girl, even though one was already chosen
@@nancyomalley6286 I'd blame the fiancee for not holding to the originally planned roles. I have a feeling he was pressured by his sister (or whichever relative) to give his niece the slot, but then hope OP would cave to keep the peace. Or that he just naturally feels that his family has precedence.
They were both so gleeful and unrepentant about what they were doing. Not the tiniest scrap of a conscience. OP was playing chicken with a missile and won when he left.
Grown folk who throw literal tantrums bc of picky eating should not be in relationships. like i genuinely dont know how ppl can find these children attractive.
If you're going to be a picky eater, be quiet about it and learn to go hungry. Best thing you can do.
Story 1: Messi, Messi, Messi... he needs to run the other way and don't look back 😅
Somehow, I heard that in Professor Hinckle's voice (the villain in "Frosty the Snowman")
Story 2: Yeah your BF is trash. Sorry you had to find out like this.
S1: I don't know why she feels the need to confront this person and that person. Just give Stan the video and move on. These people are not your friends
Well by dragging this mess out he found out his girlfriend was also cheating which in hindsight was extremely obvious
@joimumu lol you are so very right. I would've been done with her regardless because her snake behavior was turned all the way up
She Makes More Money Than Him... BINGO whoop there it is 💯💯💯
Story 1: so she was cheating, Becca gaslit OP to let go not for the sake of her friend, but because she was cheating with them. And the more he digging in to it the more likely he was going to find out about her too. And it’s probably a bad to assume it’s been going on before she even met OP.
So what was all of this for? The 3 of them could just have each other, they could all be in a relationship or just stay casual and find other people that are fine with open relationship. Why involve more people, getting in relationship with the cheat on them?
Because wants kids but no responsibilities, he straight up told them. I also think he gets off from banging people's partners because it's a power move.
It amazes me how people are able to marry toddlers.
He throws fits, only wants takeout, and is freaked out that obviously tomato based soups have tomatos in them. That is a todder.
stew story, I don't like tomatoes but I will eat things with tomato based products in them as long as there isn't chunks of tomato which I will just pick out and not complain.
Yeah, that’s something more and more people with texture or taste sensitivity are coming around to.
Like I found out the hard way that I CANNOT eat onions (very traumatic. I loved the pizza I tried it with, then my dad happily revealed them, and I wasn’t super excited, but that’s because I was hoping somehow it’d be broccoli. I have a shrug and figured ‘well, better than nothing’, next thing I knew, my tongue became an eldritch horror, ignoring the taste of the pizza (so the texture there sucked enough) until it found the ‘culprit’ and then began forcing me to gag. I did my best to fight it, even slapped a hand over my mouth when the puking started, but there was no chance of fighting it. I never hated food sensitivity more than that moment of realizing I was unable to eat my favorite pizza)
But then I found that I CAN eat onion powder, and fun fact, you can dump in a TRUCKLOAD of fine onion powder into a lovely risotto, and thus get all the nutrients from that!!! (I’m about to cook it up once again. I swear I end up using like half a cup to almost a cup of the stuff!! (Can’t measure, I just give a massive heaping, mix until it’s part of it, then add more, mix again, gradually mix in *even more* throughout the process, yeah. It’s an extremely flavorful bite, but given I’ve gone my *whole life* with very little flavor besides junk, you can see why I’m so crazed with it and love it))
Plus, I found many foods I could ether not tolerate or barely tolerate before, if I shove them through a freeze dryer, I can actually eat them no problem and they have most to *all* of their nutrition in them still!!! (Been getting plenty of fruits, and I’m looking forward to grinding up vegetables and trying it like the fine onion powder once I set up my personal freeze dryer. (Until then, I buy packets at the store.😅 better than candy, at least))
The modern age may suck, but we do have many ways to make *everything* accessible now a days, *especially food!!!* 😋😋😋😋😋😋
im the same with peppers, hate the taste of them but i can eat salsa since everything tastes the same in the end, so i eat salsa
BF Stew Story: Haha, BF is an idiot. My brother did that with a fruit juice that he didn't know had carrot juice in it too but he was in elementary school. OP should dump him. Autism is a reason but not an excuse for his actions.
Stew story: You HAVE to use tomatoe paste to thicken up soups, stews, and tomatoe sauce. He is making up crap just to be difficult. Find a new man! Good luck, girl!
Last story: “I had 8 flower girls!” Good for you. OP doesn’t want 8 flower girls, she wants 1. Why does your personal preference take priority over OP’s in HER wedding? The deal was OP handles bridesmaids and flower girl, fiancé handle groomsmen and ring barer. How would it be fair for her fiancé to then also pick a second flower girl when she likely doesn’t have a young boy in her life that she also wants to be a ring barer?
Yeah. If someone wants multiple at their wedding, that's fine for them and I keep my mouth shut. But I wouldn't want multiples at mine either. I prefer a more traditional wedding party.
That said "ring bearer proposal?" Seems to me that's the problem right there that her fiance made a big deal out of it instead of just asking him. And so of course the little girl got jealous of whatever production was made over her brother and doesn't understand why she wouldn't get one, too.
Sounds like fiance handled things poorly, and since this is HIS mess, he can clean it up.
Yeah, that YTA was dumb. Plus, that would cost more. Not everybody can afford that.
"I had 500 ppl at my wedding (btw not true, just an example) and this commenter only had 150, so she is the AH for having to disapoint her hairdresser's 2nd cousing for not being invited!
If I could have '500', so should she " /s
@jenniferhanses it's either fiance or the girl's parents who handled this wrong. I'm going to go with both. Fiance probably made a show of asking the brother and then the parents got the niece's hopes up about being asked to be part of OP's wedding party, but the fiance did nothing about it. I would be MORTIFIED if my child just assumed they would be part of a wedding party at any age, but at the age of 5 I would be immediately jumping in to gently correct them and apologizing profusely! The fact that the parents didn't and now fiance us doubling down... I would be sitting fiance down for a long talk about this before making anymore wedding plans.
@@akl2k7 and imagin3 having 8 flower girls at your wedding. The role was made to get small children involved in the wedding. 8 little girls of varying ages standing quietly in a line for an hour is NEVER going to happen without a hitch.
Last story: YTA comment, just because it worked for you doesn’t mean it works for everyone. And frankly I don’t think OP should have to do anything, she’s not making any demands for her family to be included in his wedding party, so why isn’t she giving the same respect?
Yeah, I'd be taking a hard look at the "groom to be" on this one. They agree who gets to pick out the wedding party members, but he then later tries to put it on OP for not doing the right thing by not picking his family member. If he wanted the niece to be the ring bearer, he should have brought it up before agreeing its OP's choice to make.
Make a police report on Mike's threat and the reasons for it. It will be useful if they try to pin the paternity fraud on the poor sod.
S2, dump the boy child you are dating/ living with.
Judge a man by the company he keeps
Story #1: Please update us on the DNA test!!
I'm not a huge fan of stew, but isn't stew one of those foods that's BETTER the next day? 😮
Yes stew tends to absorb the juices and flavor of itself making it taste better the next day
Absolutely!
Depends on the stew. Some get thicker.
Story 2: I don’t know if this is because of his autism or he just being petty. Honestly, if there’s anyone out there that can give some idea on it please do if you can.
But OP really should rethink this relationship, I mean he’s losing his crap over tomato, something he could not taste or detect in his favorite food for years, but now it’s a serious issue with OP ruined his life? Then there’s the finances. Why is he working part-time if he has so much debt to take care of. OP may not be paying off his debts for him directly. But because of her financial support, he can take his sweet time with it.
It is a texture thing, autistic people can not like certain food textures but they usually tell these kind of things at the beginning of the relationship
I have autism. Safe foods isn't a thing otherwise I could declare chocolate my "safe food" because it makes me feel very happy when I eat it. But I don't because "safe foods" is made up bs to allow grown adults to throw temper tantrums and verbally and emotionally abuse their partners and then hand-wave it away as "it's okay to do this to you, I have autism"
I really hate what the whole therapist industry has done to people with autism: instead of trying to find ways for us to overcome our disability or find ways to manage it, they just made up new buzzwords to make excuses for antisocial autistic behaviour. I learnt to mask so that I could hold down a job and interact with normies, every autist should and can be taught the same.
Story 2: YTA.... To yourself... Dump this guy, you deserve so much better than him. You have already wasted 4 years with him, don't waste a few more.
Thank you so much for your videos! They're a staple of my daily routine.
Stew: what kind of fool will pay 50 bucks for a bucket of stew that he refuses to reheat?
One that is deliberately trying to drain OP'S money!
OP, you wouldn't be breaking up because of other people's drama. You'd be breaking up because you're girlfriend has a sh*ty character. And so do you if you don't warn the guy being suckered
S1: don’t break up over someone else’s drama, break up because your girl is crappy.
2: YTA for staying in this relationship!!
The commenter that said she'd be fine with having multiple flower girls. Yeah, that's for your wedding. This person does not want multiple flower girls just because that's the point. Doesn't mean she's an ah. Remember your mindset Isn't everyone else's mindset or standard
Story 2: NTA and op isn’t in the wrong .
I thought the stew story was about their partner's kid and not the partner's itself
The guy in the first story couldn't be messier.😂 The whole story smells like Frito-Lay's
Story 1: I’m mad at op because he could’ve just dumped Becca immediately after that paternity fraud plan and sent the video to stan then.
Is... is there a stew that DOESN'T have tomato paste??? I don't think she should date someone immature enough to throw a tantrum when there's an ingredient in his food he wouldnt like on his own. I'm not a fan of baking soda, but I know it's integral to most baking dishes, and i can't taste it there...
And I don't like tomatoes on their own, but I love tomato sauce!
Story 2 is giving "essence of tomato" vibes
Harem story - OP, I will never call anyone an id10t for helping someone like that, but if it happens again, do it sooner!
Unless the angry loser owns the gym, I would call the owner and give them a heads up about his antics!
Stew story - OP, NTI.
Is that guy really worth all that abuse he’s putting you through?
I hope you have separate finances, cards, accounts, ext…. cause he’s going to be trouble if he already isn’t.
He DOES own the gym, and 2 other locations as well
Maybe OP needs to look into suing that guy then. Money is the only thing that talks, not to mention it could end up in the media and the guy could lose all of his businesses.
"Could you have 2 flower girls? Or kindergartener?" This dude is like Ron Burgundy. He just reads whatever the AI editor says!
Story 2 It's so surprising that someone stays with with a toddler in a grown adult's body. She's a mother, not a partner.
The first OP is kinda dumb or maybe naive, but geez he saw all these red flags and still had to go to Reddit for answers 🙄
Sometimes people need to know that someone, even strangers on the internet, actually has their back when it comes to making difficult choices or choices with harsh/messy consequences. Other times people need to hear from others what they went through by not making a that difficult choice or how that choice panned out for them when they did make it. Thing is once he read the responses he did finally step up.
Because the people around OP have their own agendas and will not give him impartial advice or judgments
lol I knew Becca was cheating too. You sit down at a table of 4 people - 1 is a cheater and 3 are cheater apologists. Your dinner company is 4 cheaters.
If I have a disagreement with my SO and one of her family members calls me our relationship is over.🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Story 2: The boyfriend is being a baby. If that's what OP wants, then more power to her. If it's not, then she needs to leave.
Yeah GF showed her character!!!
Bruh you can't be with a women who would cover for someone like that. Dump her and let the dude getting baby trapped
I don't really get the "You can't have more than one ring bearer/flower girl." thing. Unless you are trying to exclude an actual nightmare child, or it's some sort of financial thing, what's the problem? I was in a wedding that had two ring bearers and four flower girls, including a baby who was carried down the aisle by her mother. Keep an experienced child wrangler with the kids when they are lining up to walk out who stays out of shot once they leave the line and you should be fine. Kids walk to the end of the aisle, everyone says "Aww", and then they go sit with their parent/guardian. It's also just a nice way to connect with your new family. I was a maid of honor and one of my favorite memories of that day was hyping up the nervous flower girls while we waited our turn to go out and they were all so happy to be included.
What is the deal with so many women gravitating to deadbeats lately? Does anyone else notice that?
Story 1 does this dude not realize he was next in line?
Thanks
Stew story: op you’re not dating a man you’re raising a child.
Sick people 😢
Story1: are you serious? This is coward behavior, go talk to Stan face to face show him the video and tell him about the baby. Dump Becca and run from this family and grow a backbone. Update: You should have told Stan yourself. What is wrong with you you sound like a teenage girl get a backbone. Glad you finally sent him the video it only took a month to do so. This could have altered Stan’s life forever
The gf told you who they really are exposing them is right thing to do dumping cheating ho . Dump her tell world who these two are
Story 1 op got what he deserved and is a loser for waiting so long to tell. The other guy and not breaking it off with his gf sooner. 😂
Story 1: NTA but don’t get involved op . Also Becca wasn’t cheating. Oh never mind she was into the man’s pants.
To your knowledge
The OP was involved the moment the cheating was witnessed. No decent person can witness a betrayal of trust that bad and just do nothing without being as scummy as the people actively enabling it. Sometimes, a lack of action is the same thing as taking a side. In this case, not revealing that she cheated is taking the side of the cheaters with their paternity scam.
@@vincentlucario5450 becca basically confessed to hooking up with Cindy and Mike and said "they are over NOW"
This channel has the _weirdest_ AI voice ever
What is stopping your girlfriend from doing this to you? Or something worse. You really should have told him the next day. Bro code does not condone lying about paternity. Why are you still trying to talk to Becca? See the person she is and what she is willing to do for a friend and most likely have done for her.
Story 2: Autism and Safe foods are difficult to deal with on a tight budget. And it's not exactly a rational response when you find out your safe food has an "unsafe" ingredient. Rationally, I know the food tastes good. I know I like it. My brain isn't wired right, however, so instead of enjoying it, I feel like I want to throw up.
Then don't get into relationships with normies if you won't try to get therapy to resolve your issues. I learnt to mask my autism and curb my ticks and fidgeting. There are ways to learn coping mechanisms for neurotic behaviours - I've managed to stop incessant picking through determination and persistence - you just have to stop making excuses and put the effort in.
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Stu brain is a Re ard for stu. Tell him to get over it
Ableism is so gross.
OP is missing missing reasons. BF sounds like he is the poster child for autism and ARFID. She cleverly left that out to make herself seem better. ARFID is not just a physiological disorder, the thought of certain foods are unappealing on a deep, fundamental level to the point they're revolting, when you try to eat them knowing that they're in the food you eat, you WILL have physiological reactions.
I don't have ARFID but there are a few specific foods that absolutely will revolt me and if I try to eat them I am literally trying to choke them down when I start; if I keep going I'll gag, if I keep going after that I will throw up. It's not funny nor something put on. It's real, and the social stigma means we're often treated like OP and everyone else is treating and saying of the BF. Do you HONESTLY think we WANT something that stigmatizes us even _more_ ? Seriously? Now that BF knows tomatoes are in the stew he won't be able to get through a bowl without choking. Like grow up and stop stigmatizing people for their eating issues, sit down, and stfu especially if it doesn't affect YOU. Let people eat what they want and stop trying to control what others eat.
Y'wanna know what clued me in? The fact tomatoes aren't a "safe food" and the fact he is perfectly happy eating one dish for all meals constantly, every day.
Right now for me it's beef stroganoff over cauliflower rice.
Why are you making excuses for a grown man having a toddle meltdown over food? I’m neurodivergant and have foods I wouldn’t touch with a 10 foot pool, yet even I’m not this bad about it. You sound very pathetic. Please work on that and stop infantaluzing an entire community of people.
She can't afford his "safe food" sk what happens when they are homeless?
She also did mention his autism and if he hasn't been diagnosed with ARFID, she can't assume he has it.
How the hell does a soup cost close to $50.00?!?! I can buy 3 lobsters for that price.