What goes around comes around. 30 years back ever one left our parents in indian. Now its our turn. Did we ever think what our parents might have gone through. Karma is a boomerang
Situation is not same with everyone. Sometimes, parents themself want children to go abroad because their financial condition is not good in India. I have seen many people who have lived miserable life abroad to support their family in India, and people think they are living a good life their. In the end, they loose everything. People in India start forgetting them, and their kids are born and brought up in forien contoury don't care about them.
I think overseas born kids do this because they’re mostly isolated from family, relationships, cousins, and they get used to if it. So not having their parents around when they grow up of course does not make them uncomfortable. My aussie born friends do keep their parents at home and happy, because their uncle, aunt, cousins are here and their childhood spent in Australia with them. It’s more about family culture. But you’re right. Mostly families are alone with minimum family members here when they immigrate so..in most cases you’re absolutely right.
Can I ask a question. I have a PR and have also found a job . My plan is to move to Canada and then bring my mother with me. She is 70 years old. I love my mother dearly. My heart says that she will not be happy in Canada but I don’t want to take an emotional decision which I might regret later. I will apply for her PR later but till then I will have to buy medical insurance. Medical insurance is costly but I will have a job that pays well (close to 80k). Also is the medical system in Canada slow because if she needs help then she should not have to wait. Can you please give me some info ?
Hi Budsyremo, I think it's best for you to come and experience yourself , and there would be no regrets later on. No doubt Medical Insurance is expensive but regarding medical system whether its slow or not , that will depend on what type of attention is required. It's true that we need to wait for 3 to 12 months to see a specialist , as first they are referred through your family doctor and then waiting starts. This is the only thing regarding medical which I don't like. But anyway I would suggest that experience it along with your mother , there is no harm in it , may be you like it as everyone's preferences are different. In the end if you don't like it you can always come back and you wont have any regret.
Also find place near good community where old people also have events etc...i know many people whose parents are in Canada for PR or stayed for summer and enjoying.
Life in western country is individualistic one can not enforce Indian culture in second generation kids born otherwise they get confused let them live life as they want we should not expect Indian culture if they are born here we came here for our well being so why are we enforcing them to behave as per our expectations?
It's selfish to expect our children to take care of us. They have their own life. instead of hoping for such things we should save for our retirement and old age and then live with content
taking care of elderly is also a duty of government as canada government taking care of elderly because we paid taxes life long , in india taxes is similar like up to 28% gst average + Income tax but goverment dont looking at elderly people after children get married they have there own responsibility we cant force them to do our seva that days gone long back gratitude gos forward there responsibilities is there children
Ye bahut sahi video hai . I live in USA and citizen here. There are many cause of this problem . first one is greed . I know a couple who is 80 Plus years live alone all their kids are multi mill. Those old people hate India and consider it as trash but they are willing to work in the house cooking cleaning etc but do not want to go to India. Second reason thinking USA and Canada is heaven. Third Can not accept reality . there are endless reason
It’s true. I think parents never want anything in return but always want their children to be happy and successful. They just miss them and nothing else. It’s our responsibility to take care of our parents when they really want us. Again it’s my view which can differ from yours…
Honourable madam. I live in india 35 years and in foreign countries 36 years .those people born in india they have some memory about religious practice, there for in some way some how they scare to do wrong things. But those children born in foreign country they don't have any religious practice as a went in temples or pilgrims area.or any stories with good example heard in child hood. So those children born in foreign ,thei childhood grown up in close door. There for they becomes selfish and self centre. And carry some type of self ego about their knowledge. Iam Hindu, I only trust who born in india. I don't trust those Indians who born in western countries and their child hood pass and grown up in close door. thanks. mmp.london
Hi Patel, thanks for sharing your viewpoint, the way these kids are groomed from young age in schools their whole viewpoint changes as they grow older and secondly they stay and mingled with other communities kids , they end up learning all that and don’t see anything wrong in it. Again it’s not their fault , it’s the Society in which they are growing which make them like that. I am talking from my own personal experience..
this is so toxic! , after listening to ur words i am feeling so depressed. Only for the lure of some $$$ we have sold out our souls. BTW, they are the same people who used to look down upon their less privileged relatives/frnds in India while they are working is some foreign country.
Is it true that children who grow to be 18 years of age be they boy or girl do not stay with their parents rather they stay on their own and when they stay with parents they pay for their stay like room rent, food etc though they do not listen to their parents about their movements or jobs or what ever they want to do in their life?
taking care of elderly is also a duty of government as canada government taking care of elderly because we paid taxes life long , in india taxes is similar like up to 28% gst average + Income tax but goverment dont looking at elderly people after children get married they have there own responsibility we cant force them to do our seva that days gone long back gratitude gos forward there responsibilities is there children
Well, govt in Canada not only take care of elderly but also children , so do we leave our children on the road for the govt to take care, I guess not. Same theory then applies on elderly. Besides all this reality is completely different which most of the people sitting in India don’t know. Anyway now a days people are more selfish and self centred so I don’t blame you for your thinking. God bless your parents..
. @su_per33 Hi , it all depends on you and your parents. If you are in a position to sponsor them and can keep them nicely (instead with many other peoples in single house), then you should invite them. Every single parents at least want to visit one time to foreign country. And you can fulfill their wish. I always say that if you get the opportunity to go abroad then should go and experience it yourself as everyone is different
We Indian are bent upon sending our intelligent educated children to Australia, America and Canada and spend life saving on t hem for their futur er life.But our culture and foreign co I n tries are totally diffe t entry wher r cj o Loren are not cared during free education upto a certain schooling and when the times comes for their future life through college degrees education very costly the parents asked the ch I Loren to leave home and do work for your own degree educative carrier for own future.this led to separation of family and selfishness and some hatred starts where future generations are lost for ever. But a few of our educated children married with Indian girls take care of their parents having remembering of parents sacrifices in mind ,for their children and fulfilling their wishes and pay proper respect to parents and speak in their local language to maintain their culture and united family but all this Indian culture and joint family is lost when governed by citizenship of a new resident country. So the bes t way is only to remain attached to your original country and don't help the new country of migration and this is only due to Indian parents love for their children future only but most of parents suffer at their old age when care is lacking in the most needed period of life and it is very late.people should think over it and avoid foreign citizenship and marriages with new foreign girls of white colourway may find difficult to adopt india joint family system where there are many give and take with sacrifices and tolerances for the interest of joint family .
Children in India are also changing fast like their western counterparts. They are not so inclined towards their parents. Many are unwilling to live with their parents. Sadly even single mothers are left alone to fend for themselves as their children move away either by marrying or live. They even have started purchasing their own apartments. So, like their western counterparts, they like their independence & are becoming more & more narcissistic & selfish.😢
Shaadi k baad bache maa baap ko bhul jaate hai this is the bitter truths. Kids who are born and brought up here think themselves as gora and they do everything like gore.Here children they use their parents and grandparents like maid so they don't have to pay others to do these jobs especially those parents who live with their children as you know nothing is free here if you live with me you have to work. It's better parents should stay in India and enjoy their old age in peace.
Mam, huge respect to you. But in INDIA 🇮🇳 children stay with their parents and grandparents but hardly earn 10k - 20k. In that they should take care of everybody... They go through Financial hardships, which westerns could never imagine. Majority of Indians 🇮🇳 never took a vacation, boarded an airplane, drove a car. This is literally bad... You are in heaven, plz don't complain. You are in land of opportunity. People in heaven can't be unhappy
Hi Ganesh, boarding an airplanes etc is not heaven , that’s the necessity . For me heaven is something when you are content. Anyways I am trying to show the reality which no one talks about and just show the rosy picture, which unfortunately people like you believe it. You cannot survive in 10 k or 20k in Canada, it’s just like rs10000 in India . Lastly I am not unhappy here but I prefer India where I am at peace and fully content.
@@raabta8106 Yes, I understand your concern and your love for mother India.. But, West has enough choice of nourishment and choice of lifestyle. You can embark on spiritual journey without worrying about finances. This is not possible in India. If we don't work 10-12 hrs a day, we cannot pay our bills. I am just saying, every nation has its pros and cons
Aunty ji, I do understand where u r coming from and I don’t wish to sound insensitive or rude, but Tell me one thing, should a child move out into the world and make a world for themselves and make their own love or should he again go backwards to home? Build your own home and life and then include your parents in that life. You take care after a few years or after they fall sick. If both are well and healthy then one should never stay in d same space as their parents. Aur ye rona rona chhodo yar. Koi genuine parents nahi rote. Only when they r sick and thankful, only then kids should start taking care of their parents. Rona to insan ki fitrat me hi hai. Expectations and complaints. That’s it.
Again we are discussing an issue which is prevalent in foreign countries, I totally agree with you for one thing that take care of your parents when they are really old or sick. I believe in this as well ..
Yes, it is but there is difference. In India children leave their elders out of greed or hate or sometimes it’s elder problem as well but they still have emotions towards each other but the story is different for the kids born and brought up outside, they don’t hate their parents but they find that this is the way the life is , they lack emotional feelings. I will make video on this to explain it in detail .
Mam 🙏, I am from Varanasi (uttar pradesh) many people (well to do couples, mostly retired or whose children are far away for jobs) make houses in city near by schools, they design the houses in such a manner to give it on rent only to young couples with school going children and they charge very less rent because most of them they are not interested in money they all ready have it,all they want is company of good family and childrens(you know how we Indians live)so it's a win win situation for both landlord and tenant . landlord gets good company without paying and tenants which comes to city mostly for better education of their children gets a home away from home .In Canada they hire caregivers (paid)same can be done in Canada people from India want to earn well so they want to move to Canada most of them will be happy to take care and also work earn else were,if the bonding or relationship between the two is good they can continue or move (it's like live in relation with children) without monitory transaction
Aunti. Ye dikkat to har jagah hai. India me bhi bahot hai ye. Aap negativity hi fela rahe ho. This all depends on all parenting style. This will change more, parents need to modify the way of parenting.
What goes around comes around. 30 years back ever one left our parents in indian. Now its our turn. Did we ever think what our parents might have gone through. Karma is a boomerang
Harsh reality but true..
@@raabta8106 yes we have to accept it
@@rohanutep81 yes, everyone is accepting it there is no other way left.
Situation is not same with everyone. Sometimes, parents themself want children to go abroad because their financial condition is not good in India. I have seen many people who have lived miserable life abroad to support their family in India, and people think they are living a good life their. In the end, they loose everything. People in India start forgetting them, and their kids are born and brought up in forien contoury don't care about them.
Thank you for talking about this, no one talks about this, all just want money and get out of India without thinking of the long term consequences.
I am really glad that you understand what I am trying to say otherwise some think that I am crying or weeping.
Sad reality of the life abroad. V happy u spoke on this topic
I think overseas born kids do this because they’re mostly isolated from family, relationships, cousins, and they get used to if it. So not having their parents around when they grow up of course does not make them
uncomfortable. My aussie born friends do keep their parents at home and happy, because their uncle, aunt, cousins are here and their childhood spent in Australia with them. It’s more about family culture. But you’re right. Mostly families are alone with minimum family members here when they immigrate so..in most cases you’re absolutely right.
You are absolutely right and on dot, we Indians here are more after making dollars.
Thanks for your video. Eye opener thoughts 🤔. Really we have to take care of our parents. Please keep sharing your videos
Thanks for liking the video..
Very true mam. Happened with lots of my family members. The elderly just look forward to taking holiday in India.
Right , this is what they do .
Great content
I am glad you liked it. Thanks
India has lot of advantages really. Happy life. Only thing is we cannot put our collar up because we are not in canada
True
Can I ask a question. I have a PR and have also found a job . My plan is to move to Canada and then bring my mother with me. She is 70 years old. I love my mother dearly. My heart says that she will not be happy in Canada but I don’t want to take an emotional decision which I might regret later.
I will apply for her PR later but till then I will have to buy medical insurance. Medical insurance is costly but I will have a job that pays well (close to 80k).
Also is the medical system in Canada slow because if she needs help then she should not have to wait.
Can you please give me some info ?
Hi Budsyremo, I think it's best for you to come and experience yourself , and there would be no regrets later on. No doubt Medical Insurance is expensive but regarding medical system whether its slow or not , that will depend on what type of attention is required. It's true that we need to wait for 3 to 12 months to see a specialist , as first they are referred through your family doctor and then waiting starts. This is the only thing regarding medical which I don't like. But anyway I would suggest that experience it along with your mother , there is no harm in it , may be you like it as everyone's preferences are different. In the end if you don't like it you can always come back and you wont have any regret.
Also find place near good community where old people also have events etc...i know many people whose parents are in Canada for PR or stayed for summer and enjoying.
Also if your parent live with you...your child will also learn it...if you live your child at day care then they will send you to senior age..
@@Vvpatel15 70 year old lady cannot help here much.
Especially when you cannot drive or speak English.
Such a truth. We are loosing everything when we leave our country. Please make more such videos
Thanks
This happens in India too. In search of wealth and fame, many things are left out behind.
you are right , I agree with you but its not all of them..
Thanks for sharing this reality... so that people understands and does not only decide on monetary basis.
Glad you find the information helpful.
Thanks for sharing harsh reality !
Life in western country is individualistic one can not enforce Indian culture in second generation kids born otherwise they get confused let them live life as they want we should not expect Indian culture if they are born here we came here for our well being so why are we enforcing them to behave as per our expectations?
that's what I am pointing it out the sad reality..
My sister is dr.she is i in depression.she is facing same situation. Mam.you are true.
Thanks
It's selfish to expect our children to take care of us. They have their own life. instead of hoping for such things we should save for our retirement and old age and then live with content
Now that's selfish, how can you leave your parents on neighbors mercy when they really need you.
taking care of elderly is also a duty of government as canada government taking care of elderly because we paid taxes life long , in india taxes is similar like up to 28% gst average + Income tax but goverment dont looking at elderly people after children get married they have there own responsibility we cant force them to do our seva that days gone long back gratitude gos forward there responsibilities is there children
Nice to hear sensible talk.
Thanks
Ye bahut sahi video hai . I live in USA and citizen here. There are many cause of this problem . first one is greed . I know a couple who is 80 Plus years live alone all their kids are multi mill. Those old people hate India and consider it as trash but they are willing to work in the house cooking cleaning etc but do not want to go to India. Second reason thinking USA and Canada is heaven. Third Can not accept reality . there are endless reason
You are 100% correct , thanks for sharing your views..
What u r saying is getting true in india too. We should not be burden on our children.
It’s true. I think parents never want anything in return but always want their children to be happy and successful. They just miss them and nothing else. It’s our responsibility to take care of our parents when they really want us. Again it’s my view which can differ from yours…
Honourable madam. I live in india 35 years and in foreign countries 36 years .those people born in india they have some memory about religious practice, there for in some way some how they scare to do wrong things. But those children born in foreign country they don't have any religious practice as a went in temples or pilgrims area.or any stories with good example heard in child hood. So those children born in foreign ,thei childhood grown up in close door. There for they becomes selfish and self centre. And carry some type of self ego about their knowledge. Iam Hindu, I only trust who born in india. I don't trust those Indians who born in western countries and their child hood pass and grown up in close door. thanks. mmp.london
Religious is a choice and it is just to gave a social gathering nothing more.
Hi Patel, thanks for sharing your viewpoint, the way these kids are groomed from young age in schools their whole viewpoint changes as they grow older and secondly they stay and mingled with other communities kids , they end up learning all that and don’t see anything wrong in it. Again it’s not their fault , it’s the Society in which they are growing which make them like that. I am talking from my own personal experience..
this is so toxic! , after listening to ur words i am feeling so depressed. Only for the lure of some $$$ we have sold out our souls. BTW, they are the same people who used to look down upon their less privileged relatives/frnds in India while they are working is some foreign country.
Stop the money $$$ chasing.
I am so sorry for making you depressed but you are right in your views..
Is it true that children who grow to be 18 years of age be they boy or girl do not stay with their parents rather they stay on their own and when they stay with parents they pay for their stay like room rent, food etc though they do not listen to their parents about their movements or jobs or what ever they want to do in their life?
That’s true
I am not Indian, but other African immigrants facing this as well
Chinese community too Western world teach indenpendent I am 60 I live on my own.
You are right
I think all other communities are facing same issue
I just would like to ask that retired or old parents in all religion or Societies are much more respectful.
Didn’t get it what you are trying to say …
Informational!
Thanks!
Trust me madam, I am a new parent. I dread this day.. I am in India and I stay with my family.. I took Pay cut to be able to stay with my parents
you are setting up an example...
taking care of elderly is also a duty of government as canada government taking care of elderly because we paid taxes life long , in india taxes is similar like up to 28% gst average + Income tax but goverment dont looking at elderly people after children get married they have there own responsibility we cant force them to do our seva that days gone long back gratitude gos forward there responsibilities is there children
Well, govt in Canada not only take care of elderly but also children , so do we leave our children on the road for the govt to take care, I guess not. Same theory then applies on elderly. Besides all this reality is completely different which most of the people sitting in India don’t know. Anyway now a days people are more selfish and self centred so I don’t blame you for your thinking. God bless your parents..
Canada is not worth it anymore. Don't waste your and your parents' life there.
100 percent correct
. @su_per33 Hi , it all depends on you and your parents. If you are in a position to sponsor them and can keep them nicely (instead with many other peoples in single house), then you should invite them. Every single parents at least want to visit one time to foreign country. And you can fulfill their wish. I always say that if you get the opportunity to go abroad then should go and experience it yourself as everyone is different
@@su_per33 i totally understand but then its your call and have to decide what works better for you and your family. Good luck.
Indian culture is the best, i totally agree with you
correct but its changing due to internet world..
so sad truth
We Indian are bent upon sending our intelligent educated children to Australia, America and Canada and spend life saving on t hem for their futur er life.But our culture and foreign co I n tries are totally diffe t entry wher r cj o Loren are not cared during free education upto a certain schooling and when the times comes for their future life through college degrees education very costly the parents asked the ch I Loren to leave home and do work for your own degree educative carrier for own future.this led to separation of family and selfishness and some hatred starts where future generations are lost for ever. But a few of our educated children married with Indian girls take care of their parents having remembering of parents sacrifices in mind ,for their children and fulfilling their wishes and pay proper respect to parents and speak in their local language to maintain their culture and united family but all this Indian culture and joint family is lost when governed by citizenship of a new resident country. So the bes t way is only to remain attached to your original country and don't help the new country of migration and this is only due to Indian parents love for their children future only but most of parents suffer at their old age when care is lacking in the most needed period of life and it is very late.people should think over it and avoid foreign citizenship and marriages with new foreign girls of white colourway may find difficult to adopt india joint family system where there are many give and take with sacrifices and tolerances for the interest of joint family .
Very true
Children in India are also changing fast like their western counterparts. They are not so inclined towards their parents. Many are unwilling to live with their parents. Sadly even single mothers are left alone to fend for themselves as their children move away either by marrying or live. They even have started purchasing their own apartments. So, like their western counterparts, they like their independence & are becoming more & more narcissistic & selfish.😢
Actually you are 100 percent right , I have seen that as well .
True.
Shaadi k baad bache maa baap ko bhul jaate hai this is the bitter truths. Kids who are born and brought up here think themselves as gora and they do everything like gore.Here children they use their parents and grandparents like maid so they don't have to pay others to do these jobs especially those parents who live with their children as you know nothing is free here if you live with me you have to work. It's better parents should stay in India and enjoy their old age in peace.
Bahut sahi
Mam, huge respect to you.
But in INDIA 🇮🇳 children stay with their parents and grandparents but hardly earn 10k - 20k. In that they should take care of everybody...
They go through Financial hardships, which westerns could never imagine.
Majority of Indians 🇮🇳 never took a vacation, boarded an airplane, drove a car. This is literally bad...
You are in heaven, plz don't complain. You are in land of opportunity. People in heaven can't be unhappy
Hi Ganesh, boarding an airplanes etc is not heaven , that’s the necessity . For me heaven is something when you are content. Anyways I am trying to show the reality which no one talks about and just show the rosy picture, which unfortunately people like you believe it. You cannot survive in 10 k or 20k in Canada, it’s just like rs10000 in India . Lastly I am not unhappy here but I prefer India where I am at peace and fully content.
@@raabta8106 Yes, I understand your concern and your love for mother India..
But, West has enough choice of nourishment and choice of lifestyle. You can embark on spiritual journey without worrying about finances.
This is not possible in India. If we don't work 10-12 hrs a day, we cannot pay our bills.
I am just saying, every nation has its pros and cons
@@raabta8106 I am not the supporter of westren shitty culture.
Nobody should abandon thier parents. That's uncivilized.
Aunty ji, I do understand where u r coming from and I don’t wish to sound insensitive or rude, but
Tell me one thing, should a child move out into the world and make a world for themselves and make their own love or should he again go backwards to home? Build your own home and life and then include your parents in that life. You take care after a few years or after they fall sick. If both are well and healthy then one should never stay in d same space as their parents. Aur ye rona rona chhodo yar. Koi genuine parents nahi rote. Only when they r sick and thankful, only then kids should start taking care of their parents. Rona to insan ki fitrat me hi hai. Expectations and complaints. That’s it.
Uncle ji ...jub apk bache apko laat Mardengy tab apni yahi comment padhna akar
Very true husband left give my life to my kids but there don't give me time been hurt
Again we are discussing an issue which is prevalent in foreign countries, I totally agree with you for one thing that take care of your parents when they are really old or sick. I believe in this as well ..
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V very true.
Yeh problem sirf Canada mein hi nahi, India ke big cities mein bhi hai.
Yes, it is but there is difference. In India children leave their elders out of greed or hate or sometimes it’s elder problem as well but they still have emotions towards each other but the story is different for the kids born and brought up outside, they don’t hate their parents but they find that this is the way the life is , they lack emotional feelings. I will make video on this to explain it in detail .
If possible ask them to adopt me I'm 35 from India, I will earn and will take care of them.
Like it , you got good humor ... but who is going to take care of your parents then.
Mam I think I really have a solution to this problem if you want i can explain
@@sheru9884 please share it..
Mam 🙏, I am from Varanasi (uttar pradesh) many people (well to do couples, mostly retired or whose children are far away for jobs) make houses in city near by schools, they design the houses in such a manner to give it on rent only to young couples with school going children and they charge very less rent because most of them they are not interested in money they all ready have it,all they want is company of good family and childrens(you know how we Indians live)so it's a win win situation for both landlord and tenant . landlord gets good company without paying and tenants which comes to city mostly for better education of their children gets a home away from home .In Canada they hire caregivers (paid)same can be done in Canada people from India want to earn well so they want to move to Canada most of them will be happy to take care and also work earn else were,if the bonding or relationship between the two is good they can continue or move (it's like live in relation with children) without monitory transaction
@@sheru9884 it's a great idea and people can try it. I personally have seen one example from India , young couple staying in Germany like that.
very true....
its better to be in India
True, I am also moving back soon..
@@raabta8106 are you sure?
Aunti. Ye dikkat to har jagah hai. India me bhi bahot hai ye. Aap negativity hi fela rahe ho. This all depends on all parenting style. This will change more, parents need to modify the way of parenting.
Hi...
hello
This generation is selfish
true or may be its our fault.
Every generation is selfish
Elders also have to keep on adapting
They do as they don’t see any other alternative.
Content and presentation is substandard. Can't be watched 😐🙄
Thanks for the feedback