How to Pray for Your Future Spouse (The Right Way) | ACW103
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- Опубликовано: 25 дек 2020
- Desiring and imagining about a future spouse is normal and natural, but it’s so important that we keep all of our desires open to God in prayer. His love for us is what ultimately satisfies our hearts. To the degree that you recognize it is your relationship with God that ultimately fulfills all the longings of your heart, you become free to love other in His image.
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Chris you are a beacon of light in the path of those pursuing a true Christian relationship (including myself). Your videos always help me a lot, thanks a lot for your work. God bless you and your family! 🙏🏻
My mom prayed for what God wanted and met my dad :) I believe in the power of prayer
She almost became a nun.
wow this gives me new perspective!! thank you!!💗💗
The Vocational Pre-Determination by God When I was a vocation director, I would visit the Catholic schools in my diocese to teach the children about vocations. I explained to them that before God had even created the world, he knew them and he loved them. He already knew your name, he knew every thought you would ever think, he knew how many hairs were on your head, he knew your sins, he knew your good deeds, and he even saw the moment of your death and your entrance into heaven. And God had already decided your vocation before he had even made the world! Or at least, he had already planned to which vocation you would be called. When it finally became time for you to be born, God created your soul to go inside your tiny body, and it was created specifically for that pre-determined vocation. I call this concept the vocational pre-determination by God, or vocational pre-destination. If God is calling you to marriage, then he prepared your soul and gave you the gifts of body and soul to live out the vocation of marriage. If God is calling you to priesthood, then your soul and body were made with that vocation in mind. This will be an important hint for you as you discern. Look at the gifts God has given to you and where those gifts are best used to build up the Kingdom.
Fr Brett Brannen
@@lionrugissant Our Primary Vocation is Holiness Happiness is doing the will of God. Interestingly, that could also be the definition of holiness. The primary and universal vocation of every person in the world is to be holy-to become like Jesus Christ. Christ-likeness is the only success recognized by God. Or, as St. Bonaventure said: “If you learn everything except Christ, you learn nothing. If you learn nothing except Christ, you learn everything.”11 Interestingly, the people who take holiness seriously are also the people who experience the most happiness here in this life. Why? Because our holiness is preparing us for the supreme happiness of heaven, the true destiny for which we were made, not some glimmer of happiness which we might experience here. Holiness directly leads to fulfillment and human flourishing, and the entire concept of vocation encompasses both. The first vocation of every baptized person is to become a saint. While that may seem daunting, the good news is that this vocation does not require any discernment. The Church and Sacred Scripture both tell us clearly and definitively that holiness is everyone’s primary vocation. The Church on earth is endowed already with a sanctity that is real though imperfect. In her members, perfect holiness is something yet to be acquired. Strengthened by so many and such great means of salvation, all the faithful, whatever their condition or state-though each in his own way-are called by the Lord to that perfection of sanctity by which the Father himself is perfect. CCC #825 Discerning and accepting one’s vocation is like building a pyramid. It must be constructed from the bottom up. A man will not be able to know and accept his secondary or particular vocation-marriage or priesthood, for example-until he has been seriously striving towards his primary vocation of holiness. Some have tried to do it in reverse, and almost always have failed.
Fr Brett Brannen
from book( To Save a Thousand Souls) Who Will You Bring With You Into Heaven? I once heard a priest tell his vocation story. I grew up in a very close, devout Catholic family with loving parents and we prayed together as a family every day. I attended a Catholic school with wonderful teaching Sisters and everything in my life revolved around the Church. I lived in a very Catholic culture. I was the number one altar server, the star student, and a leader in my class. Because of this, and the fact that I loved being around the parish, serving and helping out the priests, everyone would say the same thing, “You will be a priest when you grow up. Won’t you?” I heard this constantly from the other kids in my class, from the sisters who taught me, and from the two assistant priests, who were always visiting the classes and interacting with me around the church. But I never heard it from the pastor, which I appreciated. I got tired of people urging the priesthood on me, because I did not especially want to become a priest. I always wondered why the pastor, an elderly Monsignor, never asked me about priesthood as everyone else did, though he was always very kind to the altar servers. One day, as I was coming close to graduation from the parish school, I was assigned to serve the seven o’clock morning Mass and the elderly pastor was the celebrant. Only the two of us were in the sacristy and he vested in silence, mumbling the vesting prayers in Latin and preparing himself for Holy Mass. With just two minutes to go before the Mass began, the Monsignor suddenly turned and said, “John, what will you be doing when you grow up?” I thought to myself, “Oh boy, here it comes. Even from Monsignor.” But I replied, “Monsignor, I am still not certain but I am thinking about going into medicine. I would like to become a doctor.” And the pastor replied, “Good. Good. And what will you do after that?” I said, “Well, I suppose I will marry and have a family of my own.” The priest said, “Good, and what after that?” Not sure exactly where he was going with this line of questioning, I replied, “I guess I will grow old, practicing medicine, and eventually retire. And then I guess I will die and go to heaven.” The pastor nodded his head knowingly, thoughtfully, and he was quiet for a few seconds. Then he looked at me earnestly and said, “And who will you bring with you into heaven?” Immediately, he rang the sacristy bell and we walked out to begin the Mass. I thought to myself, “How clever you are, Monsignor. How clever you are.” I thought about that comment all during the Mass and many more times during my adolescent and young adult years. “And who will you bring with you into heaven?” It was asking myself that question repeatedly that really turned the tide and convinced me eventually that I should become a priest. Every vocation is about helping other people reach heaven. I tell this story not to minimize the greatness of the sacrament of marriage, because marriage serves the same purpose! I suppose the young man might have used the same comment made by the pastor to move him towards the vocation of marriage. But the story illustrates the critical point that a vocation is not primarily about self-fulfillment, but about being the instrument of God in saving others. “What will you do with your life? What are your plans? Have you ever thought of committing your existence totally to Christ? Do you think that there can be anything greater than to bring Jesus to people and people to Jesus?” Pope John Paul II
This is a very enlightening story. Thanks for sharing!!
@@milchahava try to read that book ...full of wisdom... To save a Thousand of Souls by fr Brett Brannen
I've been praying for a girlfriend/wife for like a really long time but i'm slowly losing hope. I already completed Saint Augustine's novena and Saint Anne's novena for love. I'm even doing the Saint anne novena again since its her feast day soon, but I really hope all my requests are granted...
“He is the author and perfector, beautiful” ✨- thank you
I really needed this, fantastic and beautiful message! Blessxoxo
Thanks a lot!!! Very illuminating!
Love finally meeting Wendy!! Great story!!
Gosh his stuff is SO good. I always have to come back again and listen to it several times to grasp ALL of the little nuances.
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you! It can be so easy to get lost in my thoughts! Need God to rein it back in so I can stay solid and not doubt!
Are there any other videos similar to this?
I’ve heard several Catholic talks on this topic and some suggest a list or share that it worked for them and that they received everything on their list when they found their spouse. I agree that it can be, not the best, to have a super detailed list for a spouse.
Wow! She is an active listening. Allowing God to purify my desire. That is my highlight. Thank you! Thank you!
You're so welcome! Please pray for us.
Thanks for this 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you! Please keep us single people in your prayers... 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏
A new perspective to choosing your life partner that we've been working on. Absolutely divine. Thank you for sharing.
Christ do you think may ask in prayer to tge second spouse?
I’m 44 been discerning marriage up till now, when shall I give up and think that maybe I’m not into marriage? Im on Catholic dating site but it seems I’m not really blessed to have someone.
Never give up!
Do you have a spiritual director?
Our Primary Vocation is Holiness Happiness is doing the will of God. Interestingly, that could also be the definition of holiness. The primary and universal vocation of every person in the world is to be holy-to become like Jesus Christ. Christ-likeness is the only success recognized by God. Or, as St. Bonaventure said: “If you learn everything except Christ, you learn nothing. If you learn nothing except Christ, you learn everything.”11 Interestingly, the people who take holiness seriously are also the people who experience the most happiness here in this life. Why? Because our holiness is preparing us for the supreme happiness of heaven, the true destiny for which we were made, not some glimmer of happiness which we might experience here. Holiness directly leads to fulfillment and human flourishing, and the entire concept of vocation encompasses both. The first vocation of every baptized person is to become a saint. While that may seem daunting, the good news is that this vocation does not require any discernment. The Church and Sacred Scripture both tell us clearly and definitively that holiness is everyone’s primary vocation. The Church on earth is endowed already with a sanctity that is real though imperfect. In her members, perfect holiness is something yet to be acquired. Strengthened by so many and such great means of salvation, all the faithful, whatever their condition or state-though each in his own way-are called by the Lord to that perfection of sanctity by which the Father himself is perfect. CCC #825 Discerning and accepting one’s vocation is like building a pyramid. It must be constructed from the bottom up. A man will not be able to know and accept his secondary or particular vocation-marriage or priesthood, for example-until he has been seriously striving towards his primary vocation of holiness. Some have tried to do it in reverse, and almost always have failed.
Fr Brett Brannen ( To Save a Thousand of Souls)
The Vocational Pre-Determination by God When I was a vocation director, I would visit the Catholic schools in my diocese to teach the children about vocations. I explained to them that before God had even created the world, he knew them and he loved them. He already knew your name, he knew every thought you would ever think, he knew how many hairs were on your head, he knew your sins, he knew your good deeds, and he even saw the moment of your death and your entrance into heaven. And God had already decided your vocation before he had even made the world! Or at least, he had already planned to which vocation you would be called. When it finally became time for you to be born, God created your soul to go inside your tiny body, and it was created specifically for that pre-determined vocation. I call this concept the vocational pre-determination by God, or vocational pre-destination. If God is calling you to marriage, then he prepared your soul and gave you the gifts of body and soul to live out the vocation of marriage. If God is calling you to priesthood, then your soul and body were made with that vocation in mind. This will be an important hint for you as you discern. Look at the gifts God has given to you and where those gifts are best used to build up the Kingdom.
Fr Brett Brannen ( To Save a Thousand of Souls)
Fr Brett Brannen ( To Save a Thousand of Souls)
The Vocational Pre-Determination by God When I was a vocation director, I would visit the Catholic schools in my diocese to teach the children about vocations. I explained to them that before God had even created the world, he knew them and he loved them. He already knew your name, he knew every thought you would ever think, he knew how many hairs were on your head, he knew your sins, he knew your good deeds, and he even saw the moment of your death and your entrance into heaven. And God had already decided your vocation before he had even made the world! Or at least, he had already planned to which vocation you would be called. When it finally became time for you to be born, God created your soul to go inside your tiny body, and it was created specifically for that pre-determined vocation. I call this concept the vocational pre-determination by God, or vocational pre-destination. If God is calling you to marriage, then he prepared your soul and gave you the gifts of body and soul to live out the vocation of marriage. If God is calling you to priesthood, then your soul and body were made with that vocation in mind. This will be an important hint for you as you discern. Look at the gifts God has given to you and where those gifts are best used to build up the Kingdom.
I am praying for god to bring me a godly wife
Fr Brett Brannen ( To Save a Thousand of Souls)
Our Primary Vocation is Holiness Happiness is doing the will of God. Interestingly, that could also be the definition of holiness. The primary and universal vocation of every person in the world is to be holy-to become like Jesus Christ. Christ-likeness is the only success recognized by God. Or, as St. Bonaventure said: “If you learn everything except Christ, you learn nothing. If you learn nothing except Christ, you learn everything.”11 Interestingly, the people who take holiness seriously are also the people who experience the most happiness here in this life. Why? Because our holiness is preparing us for the supreme happiness of heaven, the true destiny for which we were made, not some glimmer of happiness which we might experience here. Holiness directly leads to fulfillment and human flourishing, and the entire concept of vocation encompasses both. The first vocation of every baptized person is to become a saint. While that may seem daunting, the good news is that this vocation does not require any discernment. The Church and Sacred Scripture both tell us clearly and definitively that holiness is everyone’s primary vocation. The Church on earth is endowed already with a sanctity that is real though imperfect. In her members, perfect holiness is something yet to be acquired. Strengthened by so many and such great means of salvation, all the faithful, whatever their condition or state-though each in his own way-are called by the Lord to that perfection of sanctity by which the Father himself is perfect. CCC #825 Discerning and accepting one’s vocation is like building a pyramid. It must be constructed from the bottom up. A man will not be able to know and accept his secondary or particular vocation-marriage or priesthood, for example-until he has been seriously striving towards his primary vocation of holiness. Some have tried to do it in reverse, and almost always have failed.
thank you for sharing this, beautiful. God bless you
Praying and dreaming about an unnamed future spouse is pointless for singles in the Church today. In the last generation, parishes quit providing social activities where, say, a single man might volunteer along side an older couple who might then offer an introduction to their neighbor's co-worker's single niece who attends a neighboring parish. That used to be oh so common, and not all that long ago, but it's all gone now. This video fails to address the basic fact that singles simply need opportunities to meet and our parishes no longer provide ANY help with that. Single women loudly whine that there are no suitable single men, and single men wonder how they are supposed to identify the single women short of stalking them into the parking lot after mass. The Catholic marriage rate is all but zero and nobody sees the obvious reason for it.
I somewhat agrée! Although I don’t think praying is pointless I do believe there is a lack of opportunity for singles to meet within the church and it can be very frustrating because it seems like everything is catered to married couples- even sermons!
100 percent agree. Most of our Catholic singles here in the UK end up pairing off with protestants in workplaces etc. The end of Catholic families...
I disagree because I knew an Evangelical guy who did that and within a few months met a wonderful woman who was his spiritual equal. She was very committed to pro-life work. That's how they met. Before he became a Christian, his girlfriend got pregnant and he married her but on condition she abort. She did and of course the marriage didn't last. He became a Christian and that's when his wife left. He repented and the woman who became his second wife interviewed him for her radio broadcast (well before the Internet). I don't want to get into a discussion about him being Evangelical and the theology of his salvation. He certainly got on the right path from where he had been.
So, if identifying single Catholic women is as easy as walking through a parking lot, then, well, guess we'll have to take the stroll across that parking lot near the church after Holy Mass and have a look over yander: "Greetings, ma'am, that's one nice car you've got ..."
Joke aside, there still might be opportunities to meet some single lady and talk to her, although getting to know here more seriously is another issue ...
You just have to follow God and pray that he prepares you and your future spouse. Then put yourself out there. Go to Catholic events or ask your parish to give programming for singles