My mom always told me that there is no such thing as "lazy". If you dig deeper, you always find a real reason behind that word, and it's not "laziness". It may be exhaustion, fears, subconscious logic, physics, chemistry, or something else.
If there's on thing I learned from my few years bodybuilding. Your rest days are when you make your most gains, you can spend 4 to 6 hours in the gym everyday, but if you don't rest, you won't see any progress. Likewise, if you work yourself to the ground, you get progressively worse results than you would have with small rest breaks & hitting the gym (or whatever you are doing) at full energy again. That rest day is when your body refills and recovers so you can get back at it tomorrow.
Jorge 1. exercise (releases endorphins) 2. reframe your mind 3. Eat better quality food. Fruits, vegetables, stay away from processed and fast foods. 4. Sleep hygiene (read a book, drink decaf green tea before bed, or l-theanine) 5. Take action to change
There is a giant hole in this video. For years I thought I was lazy and worthless. I got depression and believed I did not have the discipline of other people. I watched RUclips and played lots of games, and struggled to keep a full-time job. Turns out I had Hashimoto's hypothyroidism. I was chronically fatigued. The fatigue would not go away, regardless of how much I slept or how many breaks I took. There was nothing I could do to help, except get treatment for my medical condition. I am still struggling to get proper/effective treatment but doing much better now that I know what is going on with my body. Hypothyroidism is not rare. Other conditions that cause chronic fatigue are not rare. It took me about 10 years to find out about it, since my symptoms started. People need to know that if they have this chronic struggle, they may have a medical problem. Depression can cause it too. For me, my depression was caused by a physical condition that could be treated.
The point of this video is to express a point in simple, not exhaustive terms. It doesn't come from a MD, it comes from a guy that does mindfulness or self development videos. He's not going to cover EVERY reason ever of why people may be tired, or every shade of grey between lazy and tired. You missed the point unfortunately.
i can relate,i got diagnosed with Hashimoto encephalitism at 15yo. auto-immune diseases are really hard to deal with when you don't find your proper treatment and even after the symptoms can still remain. like you said you can feel exhausted but you can't recover from it by resting.
I have a same kind of experience. For years I thought I was lazy, but then during one week I became unable to walk, got a terrible vertigo and double-vision. I ended up for weeks in hospital and after an MRI and a spinal tap was diagnosed with MS which, according to the MRI findings, I had had for years. The acute symptoms were a relapse. So, turned out my laziness was actually fatigue caused by a disease. The symptoms I mentioned above went away eventually, thank God.
I don't feel like any of you are bringing up the fact that he's not demonising anyone who naturally does less work than others. He doesn't name the specific disease or kind of disease, sure. But he still gives a solution to all the "Lazy" people who find it hard to do work. Work for 5 - 10 minutes every 45 minutes of time spent not working. I don't have any of your illnesses, so I could never understand how it feels, but I still doubt the 5-10 minutes of work could too hard to do
It's not all that easy to differentiate..it's a fine line sometimes and it can be a mixture. Laziness will make you feel tired and fatigue will make you feel lazy. Most people are tired now because of the 24/7 lifestyle.. we're overstimulated. Wired but tired!
All my life I beat myself up over my laziness, lack of discipline, lack of motivation and inability to make sustained physical or mental effort. For years I took anti depressants after being diagnosed with depression even when I clearly knew the depression stemmed from my laziness and inability to be perpetually productive and not the other way around. At 42 I found out that I had ADHD and while things are pretty much the same, at least I have no guilt, am happy and most importantly my family is happy as a result.
I probably do too, but I'm too lazy to go find out. Is there anything that can be done to improve the situation? If not and it's just about peace of mind, then I'll just decide to be ok with it. Solved. Ok, I guess that doesn't really work, but ...
This was helpful, but at the same time it was based on comparing two neuro-normative people and din't take into account people who struggle with mental health or nuero-divergency. For years I thought I was lazy and consistently beat myself up about it (and my parents didn't help). Turns out I'm autistic (or have an SPD, my doctor still isn't sure yet), and I've been struggling with depression and anxiety for y ears but didn't realise it. Now, when I'm struggling to get the motivation, I try to be more understanding of what my body's going through and not be so harsh on myself. Every day is a struggle though.
Yeah, a very critical differentiation to make. ALSO: Determine if you might simply be physically tired as in 'you need sleep'. Because that is also definitely something that absolutely kills your motivation, mood and productivity.
The way it was explained to me a few years ago is that laziness will provide no results and productivity will. Being productive dose not mean working really hard. My neighbor and I would mow our lawns every Sunday. The other neighbor every now and then. Our lawns were getting infested with Johnson grass a nuisance weed. My neighbor started mowing his lawn three times a week to keep it under control. I went and bought weed killer concentrate and started spraying my lawn during the week targeting the areas that were concentrated with weed, being the weeds grew faster than the ornamental grass. I had dry spots where the poison had eradicated large patches of weeds which annoyed some of my neighbors and the began saying I was lazy because they felt I should be like my neighbor mowing three times a week instead to control the issue. A few months later the ornamental grass took over the dead spots and I was easily mowing my lawn on Sunday, my neighbor had a nice lawn as well but worked twice as hard with the same results. The third neighbor had his yard covered in overgrown weeds and eventually payed someone to mow his lawn. So who is really the lazy person.
This feels like you could make a philosophical question out of it. I'd be the fourth neighbor, the one that doesn't care at all and let's a forest take over his garden lol.
How does this video not have more views? Straight forward, clear, and really hits home for me (and a lot of people). I’ll be watching these during the quarantine.
Remember: you can get tired of doing pointless things and feel you're not lazy and not productive at the same time. Like all of us that keep watching motivational and great videos like this over and over and never take action.
I'm a therapist and I love your videos, particularly around sleep as I know those videos are evidence based and helpful for myself and clients alike. However, this particular video concerns me. To call the first chap lazy seemed critical. There are so many reasons that could explain this individual's lack of motivation and I was seriously thinking if he has no goals and isn't motivated there is something psychologically deeper happening there. Even though this video does well to say others shouldn't be judged, no one should be brandished lazy if we don't know the facts. I agree with some other comments that 'lazy' is a harmful world that gets thrown around too often.
Your channel has been a wonderful part of my daily continuing education regime for a long time now. You will like to hear that now, it is a regular part of my wife's continuing education regime, too! Her office is off the bedroom, and mine in the living room, and sometimes I hear that piano, and I know she is becoming Better Than Yesterday!
I had similar thoughts watching the video. When I was at a really dark depressive episode earlier this year, it coincided with my summer break, and I had no obligations, and I literally had no mental energy for creative hobbies or exercise, all effort I could afford was tapping through some games on my tablet. So I was like this guy: never studied, never exercised, never worked on hobbies. Thank God I had enough self-love to NOT beat myself up for being “lazy” back then, or it would’ve made the matters even worse. So I agree, the analysis of the first guy lacks context.
Agreed. I had undiagnosed chronic fatigue syndrome for years, and was constantly exhausted. I was always labeled lazy. It was such a relief to have the diagnostic, even though I knew something was wrong with me, socially it was really hard.
gerafina li I'm sorry you had to go through that. I have CFS as well, but my doctor told me right away. I can't imagine how it would have been if I didn't know what was going on.
@@creativename3256 I'm glad you were diagnosed straight away. It does help in the long term prognostic. Many years ago it wasn't recognized as a real illness, and then I had children so they refused to test me on the ground that children were tiring. Take care of yourself and be especially kind to yourself.
My name is John, and the John in this video almost describes me perfectly. I didn't study in high school. I stopped exercising in high school. I've never really had any goals, or any hobbies. I usually just sit around watching TV, movies, sports, or RUclips, and sometimes playing video games. And sadly I find myself not really trying to work more hours at work. I find myself getting unmotivated easily too. I've always known I was lazy, but because I'm so unmotivated, and have no goals, or hobbies, I just don't know what to do with myself, or how and/or where to get started. When I left high school, there was one friend I stayed in contact with. But that past 2 years, we've moved further apart from each other. We barely talk, and barely even hang out anymore. So it's basically like I have no friends to motivate me either.
While this video makes some great points, it lumps a lot of people who AREN'T lazy into the lazy category. But the premise behind the video is right, that context is required to understand behavior. I bet you're not lazy, that instead there's something else going on.
I watched those video because i'm studying english and i wanna learn this amazing english besides to watch video is a way to improve the lenguage :v Viva latinoamerica xd
2 weeks of checking off all my daily grueling physical goals, yesterday my body insisted "NO" so flaked on my 2 martial arts classes, 100 push ups, and 2.8 mile run. I am awake today after an entire day of intentional rest and 11+ hours sleep, I am ready to step back in! Thanks body for trumping the ambitions of my mind and showing me when it's time to rest.
Helpful indeed. This what I feel right now.. I tought I was wasting time when I take a day off so I even push myself harder. too much work will make us burned out.
What if I'm stressed and depressed and it's taking a toll on my body that I become sick mentally and physically. So that after work I stop doing anything. I just wanna watch youtube and tv series
@Lauren SilverSpike Wow, Lauren, I replied to your other comment... PTSD is a terrible thing so you are not very well, you ARE NOT lazy and you really need to heal and recover... are you getting some counseling or is there a support group you could visit... the isolation goes when you find others in the same boat...
Pretty much the same here. I have phases of depression and anxiety, and when it happens, every little task feels so hard to do... So I end up with RUclips & Netflix, feeling guilty. But instead of feeling guilty, I should just accept that it's ok to not always be "productive", and focus on taking care of myself.. And you should too.. I hope you'll get better ♡
@Lauren SilverSpike I was the same way but then I got a grocery job for about 4hrs a day, a couple days a week. I never thought I could work 8hr like most people ...but then I did. Although I dreaded it, I knew it had to be done. Now I'm working 12hrs, 5 days a week. Still depressed and PTSD but the money helps. 😁
Married with a wife, full time job, twins, hobbies, trying to stay active, working on the house...... I need a break. Oh wait there's not enough time in the day for that. I wake up at 4:30 am to get my video game time in. Yes I loose some sleep for it, but it's a good way for me to start the day with a cup of coffee. Live the Americana dream until it kills you. Yay.
The American dream sounds so great until you're living it. :( I'm with you here. I graduated from school and got a nice job, but found that that life was not worth it. I was so tired all the time and I just felt like a little hamster on a hamster wheel who can't get off. So I quit my job and I'm trying to live a different type of life. It isn't the standard American dream life, but I'm much happier. I hope you can get a break soon.
Thank you for this videos. I always have this thoughts in the back of my mind and I really needed someone to say it out loud. It's really helpful and comforting, as I tend to close myself when it comes to those topics. I'm willing to work on myself even more now, this time in a more constructive way. Thank you for everything
Oh, the joy of being manic depressive. I stay up all day and night because I become fixated on getting more done, then I crash for days at a time and convince myself I'm lazy.
I feel like regardless if we are tired or lazy, we are the only Person who can take positive action in our lives and we need to push as hard as we can to improve ourselves! 🔥
You practically described me, even down to the name. I'm John, and I'm lazy. However you say I need to take action towards my goals if I want to get away from being lazy. The thing is, I've never known what I wanted to do. I've been pretty unmotivated since I was in high school. So I've never really had any hobbies, or goals. So I've never known what it is I should go and do.
The suggestion I can give you is to try something (anything that inspires you at least a bit) and dive in deep into that. Chances are you don't really like that activity, and when you realize it you simply pick the next one in the list. Sooner or later something will stick.
My goals pretty much ended after I finished college. I have spent 20+ years of my life living for others, living the life they want for me. Now that I have broken free from all of those, I don't know where to start or what I really want. All my life I have worked and studied hard and did my best. I feel tired of everything......
@@chihuhahuana4863 Oh, I remember seeing this video during a difficult period. Time sure flies fast. Last year I began starting over again but now I'm working for myself and my future. I think it's just a phase I had to go through, especially after looking more into my birth chart.
Frederick the Great said that everyone had two traits: Industry and intelligence. People were a mixture of these two traits, and he evaluated that mixture to determine what job a person was suitable for in his army. He got rid of stupid and industrious people immediately -- they were just too dangerous to keep around. There was always some use to be found for stupid and lazy people. The intelligent and industrious were put to work on his staff. But above all, he prized the intelligent and lazy. These people he made commanders of his corps. They were lazy enough that they wanted to find the easiest way to get things done and smart enough to figure out how. Plus, they were courageous enough to defy convention and do what was easy. The point of all this is that laziness is not a problem -- if it motivates you to find the easiest and best way to accomplish your goal. It only becomes a problem when you are too lazy to implement the method you develop. As long as you accomplish your goals, you SHOULD be lazy.
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Actually mentally exhaustion is what makes us feel that we have no energy and make us believe we can't do and feel physically exhausted, it's the fact I've experimented his on myself so many times, most of the times you can't do any physical activity just because you believe you can't do even though you are not physically tired your mind make you feel like you are and this hurts our productivity, that's why positive people are more successful.
Damn this speaks to me on a spiritual level. I’m someone who is always doing something productive (studying, working on personal goals, staying organized etc.) and now that I’m on break from college I’ve barely gotten anything done. All I did yesterday was play video games. During the day I started feeling mad at myself for not doing anything productive because I’m always the one who is on top of everything and is usually ahead of others because of how hard I work. It’s always so hard for me to actually take a break even though I know deep down that I need rest because I feel like I’m being lazy... im slowly working on it though lol
I honestly don't even know in which category I fall, probably lazy... I used to be more motivated, but I've lost that over the years of having school and having to do stuff I don't want to do.
The problem with this categorization is the binarity of it. The video helped it a little by showing a third state, illness, which is completely different than laziness and fatigue. But still... The frustrating part is when you don't actually know, whether you are lazy or tired (or even ill enough to stay home). For instance: What defines "always studies"? 2 hours a day? 4 hours? 6? 8? 10? 12? It's easier to define "never studies", but this is just a construct of a stereotypical person. There simply aren't that many people who go to college who "never study", as in "0 hours a week on study related activities". Same with work, exercises and hobbies. So, in conclusion, the hardest question for an individual to ask modern society is: How much is enough, in my case?
I have a friend who I used to play games together with on the internet a lot. Firstly, we played on the PC and everything was well. Then one day he said he wanted to start playing consoles instead because he thought it was more "grown up" to play on consoles. One day I realized he had lied, and he actually just wanted to try to play less games, and he thought that he would become more of a casual gamer if he threw away his computer. Surely, we spent less time playing together, partly because there is a monthly fee on consoles to play online, and I am pretty broke always. However, it seems it wasn't enough for him, and he constantly keeps reducing the time we play together, and now he wants to sell his playstation. He also told me that it is very easy for him to create a habit of playing too much games if he has them available, and that this is the reason he needs to sell it. I told him that I rarely play multiplayer games without a friend and that he could do it in the same way, thereby keeping it just as a social hobby. He instead presented me with the idea that we can play if I come over to his house but I tried to argue that it is the same action regardless of if we play online or in the couch with each other. Needing to commute one hour just to play an hour is not always a journey worth taking. We both have fun playing together and I think that the time we spend socializing/talking together while playing is more important than the game itself, but we very seldomly call each other on the phones to just talk. We basically loose contact with his strategy. Anyway, my friend is the kind of guy who goes to the gym every day, and he also never wants to eat sugar nor food like pizza (although I know he slips often). But in principle, he believes that he must live this kind of life since effort/suffering gives reward, and pleasures like playing video games are bad. But, I also know that he enjoys having a good time socializing and he likes to have good spontaneous experiences. He does in other words not think it is unnecessary to have fun. But I was wondering, if he don't want to play games, why is he still watching movies or TV? Shouldn't he stop all kinds of activities that are not "healthy". Why is he labeling some sorts of fun activities as bad and others as okay? Why is he so unnecessary obsessed with being healthy? Even to the extent that he sacrifices his social life? He is exactly like the guy in this video, thinking that he has never exercised enough, thinking that he can never reward himself with a treat of sugar, a fatty meal or some time together just chilling. Is it possible to do a video that can explain to him that he does not need to be so extremely strict with everything? His rules are stupid and I think it makes more harm than good. It is not as if he has decided to become a nun. For me, it seems he just randomly labels some things as bad (in this case online games, pizza, chips, soda), thereby preventing us from hanging out which we both like. It is so irritating. If I try to argue with him, it only sounds like I try to persuade him into "bad" habits like excessive gaming. Therefore, I wanted to just show him a video instead that can explain it to him, but this video is only partly relevant for his problem. That is why I was wondering if you think this is enough material to make a video about guys who are stuck in this constant 100% healthy life thinking, when he in reality only is very selective with his rules, and also breaks them from time to time, even though he always speaks as if he never eats sugar and so on. It seems he is 100% strict on the wrong occasions. And in other occasions when he should not be strict, he isn't. Like some days ago, he went to a BBQ and ate something like 10 hamburgers/steaks and stuff in one evening. Just because it wasn't pizza or sugar, he allowed himself to eat this huge amount of food even though he goes on a diet. Another time we went out together eating after a long day of bicycling. I said we should go get a sturdy meal after all the exercise but he insisted we go to an asian restaurant so that he could get some "healthy" sushi. He was so hungry that he started to be irritated so we went to the sushi place. After finishing his medium sized sushi meal, he announced that he needs to go home quickly since he will become hungry again soon and needs to prepare dinner at home. It was already late, and I was perplexed. Rice is a pretty heavy food, and he was still planning on eating a second dinner that day. Why can't he see that his effort is going to waste when he eats two dinners, which both were pretty high in calories. Just because sushi is labeled as healthy, it does not mean it is low on calories and that he can eat multiple dinners. I think he constantly makes these mistakes, preventing him from getting any success in his endeavors as well as preventing him from enjoying life when he should do. Please, we need to make a video to make his thinking become straight, and to make him realize when he should be abstemious and when it is okay to enjoy things. It is not as if every time we suffer, we automatically get something as a reward although he seems to think this is how it works.
From my experience I suspect that laziness can lead to tiredness long-term because you're less healthy and not used to being busy. It's a bit like the way that an unhealthy diet can contribute to insulin resistance and difficulty in losing weight. Psychological factors can influence motivation and behaviour, so it's always an individual mix. However, it's obviously best to do what you can. I know the feeling of feeling energetic but not getting on with anything.
I call it Do Nothing Theory. The idea that you should pro-actively "do nothing" between every task you do in your day. For example, if you start your work day by checking the stock page, checking the news headlines, and then checking your in box items, my thought is that after checking the stock page, maybe you stare out your window at the sky for a minute. Yes, a full minute. Get lost for a piece of time. Then, check the headlines, and then close your eyes and listen to some office jazz or some nature sounds for a minute. See how it works? You let the nothing be a margin (a layer of business bubble wrap!) between activities. It widens the transition, allowing the first task to truly wrap up, and the new task to start on solid footing. The bubble wrap keeps tasks from blending together. When tasks blend together, stress builds up to unbearable levels.
It's hard for me to know the difference sometimes. I mean I've spent the last month working at both my jobs while trying to remodel my own house and I still feel like I'm not getting enough done. I told all my customers I'm taking the weekend off because I'm just beyond exhausted but still feel like I"m being lazy.
If I have anxiety and depression am I lazy or just tired . I have a chronic illness too , so I have no energy left whatsoever most of the time. Am I lazy or tired. It's not like I haven't tried to regain myself I try and I push myself so much so much that instead of benefiting me it makes my health worse. Everyone wants me to work work work. It's not like I am happy not being able to be productive . But everyone lables me as lazy , excuse making person . I don't know want to do anymore
I'm actually lazy, but I'm slowly trying to take action, last year I did nothing and failed, this year I'm still studying and doing better, It was really hard to start taking action, but when I study a lot for a whole week, I normally have a breakdown and the next week I do absolutely nothing, I'm trying to not blame myself for that because that makes me anxious and even more lazy, but I'm still tired of doing the same, If I had more consistency and do a little every day, I wouldn't so stressful, but is so hard to keep consistency, even more, when I've been 3 months in quarantine and just waking up and take a shower is so hard
The person trying to lose weight will go without food for periods of time, but when they do eat, they do not enjoy it! Same here. Mike "feels" bad about doing nothing, because nobody ever told him that nothing is one of the most important things a person can do, and it should be peppered all through your day! The dieter does not enjoy eating food when they can because they see food as the problem, where decisions were actually the problem. I practice intermittent fasting. I eat one meal a day, and regularly skip days to constitute a 2 day fast. The difference is, when I do eat, I have taken the time to create uber delicious foods to fervently delight in. To SAVOR! You should indulge in the restrictions, and then indulge in the action. Mike indulged in responsibility, so he should have freely indulged in the recreation that made him more productive via amping down!
@@MelB868 No, she was at work and didn't believe my dad when he told her that there's something wrong on the phone. I wasn't able to breath but I wasn't trying to gasp for air, just laid there. To be fair I never got up easily but this time I wouldn't have gotten up if the house was on fire. I can only hazily remember it but I do remember my mom getting back from work, super annoyed and angry as she thought I'm just being lazy, but then when I was not responding she realized that I need to go to hospital ^^
If you're not doing much and you can't figure out if you're lazy or tired, then I'd suggest to assume that you're tired. Take a day or two to rest. Don't worry about getting stuff done. And after those days you start to be productive while making sure to take a break regularly.
This seems a bit surface-level though... What if I have a lot of motivation to work on my hobbies, but I feel guilty because I actually need to study, so I end up doing nothing at all. This went on for several weeks at this point and I can't seem to find a way out of this rut.
I was heavily affected by this for a while, now I've learned to pace myself much better. I know activities that give me rest both mentally and physically, often by being each others opposite, e.g. working out, studying, but also simple activities like walking, cooking, cleaning.) I've not stumbled and fallen for ages, building up slowly. But recently it's been gaining more awareness and I'm often being told to 'take it easy' and to 'stop pushing myself' with activities that are routine, give me calm and set me up for a great day. Yet told to do things that stress me the hell out, especially socialising, to 'relax'. No-one trusts me to know what works for me, despite having improved massively over the years and still improving, step by step. :/
Esmee This! Jupp! For me the basics takes strength stuff includes eating breakfast, having a shower etc whilst reading an academic papper gives me energy many times.
@@annarehbinder7540 I find it funny how we're often perceived as people who can't empathise or read other people, yet when push comes to shove so many people push us in a box, make assumptions based on that box mixed with their own preference, then just assume we're 'too incapable' of recognising what does or doesn't work for us. My parents did this so strongly I ended up too terrified to get out of bed or do anything, show any emotion or even to talk. (I've since broken free and am almost the exact opposite of whom I used to be.)
I’m tired and stressed out. Believe me nothing stresses me out more or makes me very sad is a friend hanging himself I found out 2 days later, having a period more than 2 weeks, people yelling or gripping on me everything is just stressful to me
hobbies should be productive in one way or another. If you play games that teach you things, are social or make you think, then they can be a productive hobby. However, many people play games that don’t have much of a purpose and don’t add anything of value to their life. This might be mobile games or shooters. You’d have to judge for yourself whether you are getting anything out of playing games. Just like you have to judge whether watching videos or tv is valuable or a waste of time.
I really wish you would've brought up medical burn-out. It's the worst. You need rest but you also need to learn how to take action - just not too much or too little or you'll never get better. I've suffered from burnout for four years now. I feel absolutely useless because every time I try to slowly add habits in I do it too fast and end up burning myself out again. It's a real pain to get professional help, too. I've mostly had those issues ignored in favour of other issues I also have that are less pressing right now.
I am that tired person. I indulge my self into so much of learning different different things that i hv become a jack of all but ace of none. I am constantly distracted. Sad thing is that i am aware of this issue but cant really help to get rid of this habit.
I feel like it's a bit more nuanced then you're either lazy or tired. There are days where I am extremly productive, and then there are days where I don't do anything. I would really like to know how I can balance the two, and determine when I can actually say that I should've worked harder or that it was good that I didn't do anything.
My mom always told me that there is no such thing as "lazy". If you dig deeper, you always find a real reason behind that word, and it's not "laziness". It may be exhaustion, fears, subconscious logic, physics, chemistry, or something else.
She sounds like a wise lady
If my parents were like that- they legit do not hesitate to say “ ur lazy “
Good!
Depression
You're mom is smart, I barely see any parents that think that way, especially from asian families lol
I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired
🤣🤣🤣Yep me too
Nick!
If I had a dollar for every time I ever said that... 🤣
Lazy is such an ugly word...I prefer the word "Selective Participation"- GARFIELD
Garfield is such a wise boi 🐱
I just have no will to do anything
True tho
I lack discipline. thank you for pointing that out, I will work on it.
Tip, strengthen your vaule you have towards your goal/goals. The more bad we what something the harder we'll work on it.
@@shaunfrick2043 Yeah, and make them a habit, so you don't have to think much doing anything, just follow thought your schedule.
If there's on thing I learned from my few years bodybuilding. Your rest days are when you make your most gains, you can spend 4 to 6 hours in the gym everyday, but if you don't rest, you won't see any progress. Likewise, if you work yourself to the ground, you get progressively worse results than you would have with small rest breaks & hitting the gym (or whatever you are doing) at full energy again. That rest day is when your body refills and recovers so you can get back at it tomorrow.
Nice to know, thank you. I've been doing that intuitively and it's nice to hear a confirmation from someone with experience.
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rest is actually when new/more muscle is form for exercise
its always between lazy, tired, or depresed for me
guess I'd recommend exercise
Facts
@Anton Boludo how tho bru lifes ass
Jorge
1. exercise (releases endorphins)
2. reframe your mind
3. Eat better quality food. Fruits, vegetables, stay away from processed and fast foods.
4. Sleep hygiene (read a book, drink decaf green tea before bed, or l-theanine)
5. Take action to change
I guess that means always depressed.
This is one of these things you don't really think about but is actually really important.
Yes!
There is a giant hole in this video.
For years I thought I was lazy and worthless. I got depression and believed I did not have the discipline of other people. I watched RUclips and played lots of games, and struggled to keep a full-time job. Turns out I had Hashimoto's hypothyroidism. I was chronically fatigued. The fatigue would not go away, regardless of how much I slept or how many breaks I took. There was nothing I could do to help, except get treatment for my medical condition. I am still struggling to get proper/effective treatment but doing much better now that I know what is going on with my body.
Hypothyroidism is not rare. Other conditions that cause chronic fatigue are not rare. It took me about 10 years to find out about it, since my symptoms started. People need to know that if they have this chronic struggle, they may have a medical problem. Depression can cause it too. For me, my depression was caused by a physical condition that could be treated.
Can pls tell me what are the symptoms ??
The point of this video is to express a point in simple, not exhaustive terms. It doesn't come from a MD, it comes from a guy that does mindfulness or self development videos. He's not going to cover EVERY reason ever of why people may be tired, or every shade of grey between lazy and tired.
You missed the point unfortunately.
i can relate,i got diagnosed with Hashimoto encephalitism at 15yo. auto-immune diseases are really hard to deal with when you don't find your proper treatment and even after the symptoms can still remain. like you said you can feel exhausted but you can't recover from it by resting.
I have a same kind of experience. For years I thought I was lazy, but then during one week I became unable to walk, got a terrible vertigo and double-vision. I ended up for weeks in hospital and after an MRI and a spinal tap was diagnosed with MS which, according to the MRI findings, I had had for years. The acute symptoms were a relapse. So, turned out my laziness was actually fatigue caused by a disease. The symptoms I mentioned above went away eventually, thank God.
I don't feel like any of you are bringing up the fact that he's not demonising anyone who naturally does less work than others. He doesn't name the specific disease or kind of disease, sure. But he still gives a solution to all the "Lazy" people who find it hard to do work. Work for 5 - 10 minutes every 45 minutes of time spent not working. I don't have any of your illnesses, so I could never understand how it feels, but I still doubt the 5-10 minutes of work could too hard to do
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It's not all that easy to differentiate..it's a fine line sometimes and it can be a mixture. Laziness will make you feel tired and fatigue will make you feel lazy. Most people are tired now because of the 24/7 lifestyle.. we're overstimulated. Wired but tired!
Sometimes we are so tired that 1 day rest isn't enough. We ended up resting more days, and that is when the line between lazy and tired disappears.
All my life I beat myself up over my laziness, lack of discipline, lack of motivation and inability to make sustained physical or mental effort. For years I took anti depressants after being diagnosed with depression even when I clearly knew the depression stemmed from my laziness and inability to be perpetually productive and not the other way around. At 42 I found out that I had ADHD and while things are pretty much the same, at least I have no guilt, am happy and most importantly my family is happy as a result.
What kind of ADHD do you have? At 35, I'm getting tested for inattentive type in two weeks.
@@angelictigerette inattentive which is also called ADD. All the best with your diagnosis
@@mariamtee thank you.
I probably do too, but I'm too lazy to go find out. Is there anything that can be done to improve the situation? If not and it's just about peace of mind, then I'll just decide to be ok with it. Solved. Ok, I guess that doesn't really work, but ...
This was helpful, but at the same time it was based on comparing two neuro-normative people and din't take into account people who struggle with mental health or nuero-divergency. For years I thought I was lazy and consistently beat myself up about it (and my parents didn't help). Turns out I'm autistic (or have an SPD, my doctor still isn't sure yet), and I've been struggling with depression and anxiety for y ears but didn't realise it. Now, when I'm struggling to get the motivation, I try to be more understanding of what my body's going through and not be so harsh on myself. Every day is a struggle though.
God the "if you're lazy start by doing 5-10 minutes of work for every 45 minutes of rest" part is SO SMART! I can definitely do that!
Yeah, a very critical differentiation to make.
ALSO: Determine if you might simply be physically tired as in 'you need sleep'. Because that is also definitely something that absolutely kills your motivation, mood and productivity.
Dude: this complete me my self-analisis about 'why i felt so lazy' at the end of this week of quarantine. Big thanks
Me: *Studies every single day*
Also me: *Rests*
My parents: God our child is so _lazy_
So mee too
The way it was explained to me a few years ago is that laziness will provide no results and productivity will. Being productive dose not mean working really hard. My neighbor and I would mow our lawns every Sunday. The other neighbor every now and then. Our lawns were getting infested with Johnson grass a nuisance weed. My neighbor started mowing his lawn three times a week to keep it under control. I went and bought weed killer concentrate and started spraying my lawn during the week targeting the areas that were concentrated with weed, being the weeds grew faster than the ornamental grass. I had dry spots where the poison had eradicated large patches of weeds which annoyed some of my neighbors and the began saying I was lazy because they felt I should be like my neighbor mowing three times a week instead to control the issue. A few months later the ornamental grass took over the dead spots and I was easily mowing my lawn on Sunday, my neighbor had a nice lawn as well but worked twice as hard with the same results. The third neighbor had his yard covered in overgrown weeds and eventually payed someone to mow his lawn.
So who is really the lazy person.
This feels like you could make a philosophical question out of it. I'd be the fourth neighbor, the one that doesn't care at all and let's a forest take over his garden lol.
How does this video not have more views? Straight forward, clear, and really hits home for me (and a lot of people). I’ll be watching these during the quarantine.
Remember: you can get tired of doing pointless things and feel you're not lazy and not productive at the same time. Like all of us that keep watching motivational and great videos like this over and over and never take action.
Thanks!
I'm a therapist and I love your videos, particularly around sleep as I know those videos are evidence based and helpful for myself and clients alike. However, this particular video concerns me. To call the first chap lazy seemed critical. There are so many reasons that could explain this individual's lack of motivation and I was seriously thinking if he has no goals and isn't motivated there is something psychologically deeper happening there. Even though this video does well to say others shouldn't be judged, no one should be brandished lazy if we don't know the facts. I agree with some other comments that 'lazy' is a harmful world that gets thrown around too often.
Your channel has been a wonderful part of my daily continuing education regime for a long time now. You will like to hear that now, it is a regular part of my wife's continuing education regime, too! Her office is off the bedroom, and mine in the living room, and sometimes I hear that piano, and I know she is becoming Better Than Yesterday!
I needed that years ago. Now I completely burnt out and am permanently tired. I am investigating chronic fatigue syndrome.
The first dude could have chronic exhaustion, but you've labeled him as lazy. What causes laziness?
I had similar thoughts watching the video. When I was at a really dark depressive episode earlier this year, it coincided with my summer break, and I had no obligations, and I literally had no mental energy for creative hobbies or exercise, all effort I could afford was tapping through some games on my tablet. So I was like this guy: never studied, never exercised, never worked on hobbies. Thank God I had enough self-love to NOT beat myself up for being “lazy” back then, or it would’ve made the matters even worse. So I agree, the analysis of the first guy lacks context.
@@dr.snowman4883 I do my best not to do things I don't want to. If something doesn't bring you joy, don't waste precious life on it.
Agreed. I had undiagnosed chronic fatigue syndrome for years, and was constantly exhausted. I was always labeled lazy. It was such a relief to have the diagnostic, even though I knew something was wrong with me, socially it was really hard.
gerafina li I'm sorry you had to go through that. I have CFS as well, but my doctor told me right away. I can't imagine how it would have been if I didn't know what was going on.
@@creativename3256 I'm glad you were diagnosed straight away. It does help in the long term prognostic. Many years ago it wasn't recognized as a real illness, and then I had children so they refused to test me on the ground that children were tiring. Take care of yourself and be especially kind to yourself.
Your site is one of the best things i've found this year. God bless you!
My name is John, and the John in this video almost describes me perfectly. I didn't study in high school. I stopped exercising in high school. I've never really had any goals, or any hobbies. I usually just sit around watching TV, movies, sports, or RUclips, and sometimes playing video games. And sadly I find myself not really trying to work more hours at work. I find myself getting unmotivated easily too. I've always known I was lazy, but because I'm so unmotivated, and have no goals, or hobbies, I just don't know what to do with myself, or how and/or where to get started.
When I left high school, there was one friend I stayed in contact with. But that past 2 years, we've moved further apart from each other. We barely talk, and barely even hang out anymore. So it's basically like I have no friends to motivate me either.
Right. Sometimes an animal is better off because the only goal they worry about is their next meal.
Context is so important when it comes to people's behaviors. Thanks for highlighting one of the distinctions!
Ok, now I know that I really need a proper break. Thanks!
Me: I'm probably lazy
Video: Explains the difference between lazy and tired
Me: Oh I guessed correct, back to watching more videos
While this video makes some great points, it lumps a lot of people who AREN'T lazy into the lazy category. But the premise behind the video is right, that context is required to understand behavior. I bet you're not lazy, that instead there's something else going on.
I watched those video because i'm studying english and i wanna learn this amazing english besides to watch video is a way to improve the lenguage :v
Viva latinoamerica xd
This is so helpful. I have a hard time giving myself a break even when I am so exhausted.
same and I feel like I am lazy when I already have clean my cat room. The first thing in the morning
2 weeks of checking off all my daily grueling physical goals, yesterday my body insisted "NO" so flaked on my 2 martial arts classes, 100 push ups, and 2.8 mile run. I am awake today after an entire day of intentional rest and 11+ hours sleep, I am ready to step back in! Thanks body for trumping the ambitions of my mind and showing me when it's time to rest.
Helpful indeed. This what I feel right now.. I tought I was wasting time when I take a day off so I even push myself harder. too much work will make us burned out.
Third option: exhaustion by depression, even if you're usually not active either. Just being alive feels heavy and barely manageable.
Wow this is pure gold, I finally understand why I can't kill my laziness, thank you!
I'm lazy and tired !
he forggot to mention this option because there is no solutin to this. i also have both of them.
Join the club
yay lol
What if I'm stressed and depressed and it's taking a toll on my body that I become sick mentally and physically. So that after work I stop doing anything. I just wanna watch youtube and tv series
Be excellent to yourself...
@Lauren SilverSpike Wow, Lauren, I replied to your other comment... PTSD is a terrible thing so you are not very well, you ARE NOT lazy and you really need to heal and recover... are you getting some counseling or is there a support group you could visit... the isolation goes when you find others in the same boat...
Pretty much the same here. I have phases of depression and anxiety, and when it happens, every little task feels so hard to do... So I end up with RUclips & Netflix, feeling guilty. But instead of feeling guilty, I should just accept that it's ok to not always be "productive", and focus on taking care of myself.. And you should too.. I hope you'll get better ♡
@Lauren SilverSpike I was the same way but then I got a grocery job for about 4hrs a day, a couple days a week. I never thought I could work 8hr like most people ...but then I did. Although I dreaded it, I knew it had to be done. Now I'm working 12hrs, 5 days a week.
Still depressed and PTSD but the money helps. 😁
You need the proper help and learn to do something else. Otherwise you will always be stressed out.
I once wrote a song called 'im.not lazy, I'll just tired'.
This video pops up in my feed.
Cheers for the vid, and the memories :)
Have you posted the song somewhere?
@@ni3070 search for Kunzi Q on soundcloud ;)
Married with a wife, full time job, twins, hobbies, trying to stay active, working on the house...... I need a break. Oh wait there's not enough time in the day for that. I wake up at 4:30 am to get my video game time in. Yes I loose some sleep for it, but it's a good way for me to start the day with a cup of coffee. Live the Americana dream until it kills you. Yay.
The American dream sounds so great until you're living it. :( I'm with you here. I graduated from school and got a nice job, but found that that life was not worth it. I was so tired all the time and I just felt like a little hamster on a hamster wheel who can't get off. So I quit my job and I'm trying to live a different type of life. It isn't the standard American dream life, but I'm much happier. I hope you can get a break soon.
Thank you for this videos. I always have this thoughts in the back of my mind and I really needed someone to say it out loud. It's really helpful and comforting, as I tend to close myself when it comes to those topics. I'm willing to work on myself even more now, this time in a more constructive way. Thank you for everything
Oh, the joy of being manic depressive. I stay up all day and night because I become fixated on getting more done, then I crash for days at a time and convince myself I'm lazy.
I feel like regardless if we are tired or lazy, we are the only Person who can take positive action in our lives and we need to push as hard as we can to improve ourselves! 🔥
You practically described me, even down to the name. I'm John, and I'm lazy. However you say I need to take action towards my goals if I want to get away from being lazy. The thing is, I've never known what I wanted to do. I've been pretty unmotivated since I was in high school. So I've never really had any hobbies, or goals. So I've never known what it is I should go and do.
The suggestion I can give you is to try something (anything that inspires you at least a bit) and dive in deep into that. Chances are you don't really like that activity, and when you realize it you simply pick the next one in the list. Sooner or later something will stick.
Maybe the first guy has depression...
I love this kind of videos! I'm learning english and watch these videos not only help with my english but also motivates me. Thanks c:
Discovered something recently that resulted with me understanding more about my behaviors and my mindset. Paying it forward...
My goals pretty much ended after I finished college. I have spent 20+ years of my life living for others, living the life they want for me. Now that I have broken free from all of those, I don't know where to start or what I really want. All my life I have worked and studied hard and did my best. I feel tired of everything......
how've you been doing? was it just a phase or did you come out a different person?
@@chihuhahuana4863 Oh, I remember seeing this video during a difficult period. Time sure flies fast. Last year I began starting over again but now I'm working for myself and my future. I think it's just a phase I had to go through, especially after looking more into my birth chart.
Thank God, I came across this video. I definitely needed to hear this!!!
I have anxiety that exhausts and sometimes paralizes me. Sometimes I forget to take it into account
me too. i didn’t realize that for too long ☹️
Frederick the Great said that everyone had two traits: Industry and intelligence. People were a mixture of these two traits, and he evaluated that mixture to determine what job a person was suitable for in his army. He got rid of stupid and industrious people immediately -- they were just too dangerous to keep around. There was always some use to be found for stupid and lazy people. The intelligent and industrious were put to work on his staff. But above all, he prized the intelligent and lazy. These people he made commanders of his corps. They were lazy enough that they wanted to find the easiest way to get things done and smart enough to figure out how. Plus, they were courageous enough to defy convention and do what was easy.
The point of all this is that laziness is not a problem -- if it motivates you to find the easiest and best way to accomplish your goal. It only becomes a problem when you are too lazy to implement the method you develop. As long as you accomplish your goals, you SHOULD be lazy.
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Actually mentally exhaustion is what makes us feel that we have no energy and make us believe we can't do and feel physically exhausted, it's the fact I've experimented his on myself so many times, most of the times you can't do any physical activity just because you believe you can't do even though you are not physically tired your mind make you feel like you are and this hurts our productivity, that's why positive people are more successful.
Thank you for your video! They are great to improve ourselves
Damn this speaks to me on a spiritual level. I’m someone who is always doing something productive (studying, working on personal goals, staying organized etc.) and now that I’m on break from college I’ve barely gotten anything done. All I did yesterday was play video games. During the day I started feeling mad at myself for not doing anything productive because I’m always the one who is on top of everything and is usually ahead of others because of how hard I work. It’s always so hard for me to actually take a break even though I know deep down that I need rest because I feel like I’m being lazy... im slowly working on it though lol
I needed this you know, thanks a lot for this!!!
Quarantine is making me go crazy
Now when my mom calls me lazy I can tell her no I’m just tired
I am both lazy and tired. So if i take action, it gets worse, if i take a break, it gets worse.
Excellent content, I've had a hard time getting going lately; this is very helpful...thanks for posting!
I honestly don't even know in which category I fall, probably lazy... I used to be more motivated, but I've lost that over the years of having school and having to do stuff I don't want to do.
I'm not " lazy " but I have alot of laziness😉 thank you so much great video
Yeah I knew it. 😉
I am not lazy, I am exhausted just since a few months, That's all!
This is a great channel. Thank you for your work! I enjoy and I have learned valuable stuff here :)
The problem with this categorization is the binarity of it. The video helped it a little by showing a third state, illness, which is completely different than laziness and fatigue.
But still... The frustrating part is when you don't actually know, whether you are lazy or tired (or even ill enough to stay home). For instance:
What defines "always studies"? 2 hours a day? 4 hours? 6? 8? 10? 12?
It's easier to define "never studies", but this is just a construct of a stereotypical person. There simply aren't that many people who go to college who "never study", as in "0 hours a week on study related activities".
Same with work, exercises and hobbies.
So, in conclusion, the hardest question for an individual to ask modern society is: How much is enough, in my case?
Information is gold, thanks for your awesome videos!
Laziness saves lives. Work/study all day every day and you will destroy yourself at a young age. Money can't buy inner peace
*Understand that half the game is keeping quiet, and carefully watching those around you. ₩*
Wow! So well put. You explained this so clearly. Thank you!
Thank you, I needed this video right now...
I have a friend who I used to play games together with on the internet a lot. Firstly, we played on the PC and everything was well. Then one day he said he wanted to start playing consoles instead because he thought it was more "grown up" to play on consoles. One day I realized he had lied, and he actually just wanted to try to play less games, and he thought that he would become more of a casual gamer if he threw away his computer. Surely, we spent less time playing together, partly because there is a monthly fee on consoles to play online, and I am pretty broke always. However, it seems it wasn't enough for him, and he constantly keeps reducing the time we play together, and now he wants to sell his playstation. He also told me that it is very easy for him to create a habit of playing too much games if he has them available, and that this is the reason he needs to sell it. I told him that I rarely play multiplayer games without a friend and that he could do it in the same way, thereby keeping it just as a social hobby. He instead presented me with the idea that we can play if I come over to his house but I tried to argue that it is the same action regardless of if we play online or in the couch with each other. Needing to commute one hour just to play an hour is not always a journey worth taking. We both have fun playing together and I think that the time we spend socializing/talking together while playing is more important than the game itself, but we very seldomly call each other on the phones to just talk. We basically loose contact with his strategy. Anyway, my friend is the kind of guy who goes to the gym every day, and he also never wants to eat sugar nor food like pizza (although I know he slips often). But in principle, he believes that he must live this kind of life since effort/suffering gives reward, and pleasures like playing video games are bad. But, I also know that he enjoys having a good time socializing and he likes to have good spontaneous experiences. He does in other words not think it is unnecessary to have fun. But I was wondering, if he don't want to play games, why is he still watching movies or TV? Shouldn't he stop all kinds of activities that are not "healthy". Why is he labeling some sorts of fun activities as bad and others as okay? Why is he so unnecessary obsessed with being healthy? Even to the extent that he sacrifices his social life? He is exactly like the guy in this video, thinking that he has never exercised enough, thinking that he can never reward himself with a treat of sugar, a fatty meal or some time together just chilling. Is it possible to do a video that can explain to him that he does not need to be so extremely strict with everything? His rules are stupid and I think it makes more harm than good. It is not as if he has decided to become a nun. For me, it seems he just randomly labels some things as bad (in this case online games, pizza, chips, soda), thereby preventing us from hanging out which we both like. It is so irritating. If I try to argue with him, it only sounds like I try to persuade him into "bad" habits like excessive gaming. Therefore, I wanted to just show him a video instead that can explain it to him, but this video is only partly relevant for his problem. That is why I was wondering if you think this is enough material to make a video about guys who are stuck in this constant 100% healthy life thinking, when he in reality only is very selective with his rules, and also breaks them from time to time, even though he always speaks as if he never eats sugar and so on. It seems he is 100% strict on the wrong occasions. And in other occasions when he should not be strict, he isn't. Like some days ago, he went to a BBQ and ate something like 10 hamburgers/steaks and stuff in one evening. Just because it wasn't pizza or sugar, he allowed himself to eat this huge amount of food even though he goes on a diet. Another time we went out together eating after a long day of bicycling. I said we should go get a sturdy meal after all the exercise but he insisted we go to an asian restaurant so that he could get some "healthy" sushi. He was so hungry that he started to be irritated so we went to the sushi place. After finishing his medium sized sushi meal, he announced that he needs to go home quickly since he will become hungry again soon and needs to prepare dinner at home. It was already late, and I was perplexed. Rice is a pretty heavy food, and he was still planning on eating a second dinner that day. Why can't he see that his effort is going to waste when he eats two dinners, which both were pretty high in calories. Just because sushi is labeled as healthy, it does not mean it is low on calories and that he can eat multiple dinners. I think he constantly makes these mistakes, preventing him from getting any success in his endeavors as well as preventing him from enjoying life when he should do. Please, we need to make a video to make his thinking become straight, and to make him realize when he should be abstemious and when it is okay to enjoy things. It is not as if every time we suffer, we automatically get something as a reward although he seems to think this is how it works.
From my experience I suspect that laziness can lead to tiredness long-term because you're less healthy and not used to being busy. It's a bit like the way that an unhealthy diet can contribute to insulin resistance and difficulty in losing weight.
Psychological factors can influence motivation and behaviour, so it's always an individual mix. However, it's obviously best to do what you can. I know the feeling of feeling energetic but not getting on with anything.
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Meditation during sunset and sunrise outside will regenerate your energy
John is my spirit animal.
Great video, thanks for sharing the knowledge. 💪🏽
Glad you liked it :)
I call it Do Nothing Theory. The idea that you should pro-actively "do nothing" between every task you do in your day. For example, if you start your work day by checking the stock page, checking the news headlines, and then checking your in box items, my thought is that after checking the stock page, maybe you stare out your window at the sky for a minute. Yes, a full minute. Get lost for a piece of time. Then, check the headlines, and then close your eyes and listen to some office jazz or some nature sounds for a minute. See how it works?
You let the nothing be a margin (a layer of business bubble wrap!) between activities. It widens the transition, allowing the first task to truly wrap up, and the new task to start on solid footing. The bubble wrap keeps tasks from blending together. When tasks blend together, stress builds up to unbearable levels.
That is a GREAT idea! Thanks!
I had never really thought about it! 🧡🧡🧡
It's hard for me to know the difference sometimes. I mean I've spent the last month working at both my jobs while trying to remodel my own house and I still feel like I'm not getting enough done. I told all my customers I'm taking the weekend off because I'm just beyond exhausted but still feel like I"m being lazy.
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So im lazy, not a surprise
Nothing wrong with being lazy once in a while :)
Same
If I have anxiety and depression am I lazy or just tired . I have a chronic illness too , so I have no energy left whatsoever most of the time. Am I lazy or tired. It's not like I haven't tried to regain myself I try and I push myself so much so much that instead of benefiting me it makes my health worse. Everyone wants me to work work work. It's not like I am happy not being able to be productive . But everyone lables me as lazy , excuse making person . I don't know want to do anymore
I'm actually lazy, but I'm slowly trying to take action, last year I did nothing and failed, this year I'm still studying and doing better, It was really hard to start taking action, but when I study a lot for a whole week, I normally have a breakdown and the next week I do absolutely nothing, I'm trying to not blame myself for that because that makes me anxious and even more lazy, but I'm still tired of doing the same, If I had more consistency and do a little every day, I wouldn't so stressful, but is so hard to keep consistency, even more, when I've been 3 months in quarantine and just waking up and take a shower is so hard
You've left out depression, anxiety, and a myriad of other conditions which constitute a third classification (if not more).
The person trying to lose weight will go without food for periods of time, but when they do eat, they do not enjoy it! Same here. Mike "feels" bad about doing nothing, because nobody ever told him that nothing is one of the most important things a person can do, and it should be peppered all through your day!
The dieter does not enjoy eating food when they can because they see food as the problem, where decisions were actually the problem. I practice intermittent fasting. I eat one meal a day, and regularly skip days to constitute a 2 day fast. The difference is, when I do eat, I have taken the time to create uber delicious foods to fervently delight in. To SAVOR!
You should indulge in the restrictions, and then indulge in the action. Mike indulged in responsibility, so he should have freely indulged in the recreation that made him more productive via amping down!
My mom thought I was just being lazy but I was actually just dying. Luckily my dad insisted on taking me to hospital xD
She didn’t know you were dying?
@@MelB868 No, she was at work and didn't believe my dad when he told her that there's something wrong on the phone. I wasn't able to breath but I wasn't trying to gasp for air, just laid there. To be fair I never got up easily but this time I wouldn't have gotten up if the house was on fire. I can only hazily remember it but I do remember my mom getting back from work, super annoyed and angry as she thought I'm just being lazy, but then when I was not responding she realized that I need to go to hospital ^^
If you're not doing much and you can't figure out if you're lazy or tired, then I'd suggest to assume that you're tired. Take a day or two to rest. Don't worry about getting stuff done. And after those days you start to be productive while making sure to take a break regularly.
This seems a bit surface-level though... What if I have a lot of motivation to work on my hobbies, but I feel guilty because I actually need to study, so I end up doing nothing at all. This went on for several weeks at this point and I can't seem to find a way out of this rut.
Actually many who have adhd or autism are judged as lazy when they are just overwhelmed by everyday activities
THANK YOU! I HAVE BOTH!
I was heavily affected by this for a while, now I've learned to pace myself much better. I know activities that give me rest both mentally and physically, often by being each others opposite, e.g. working out, studying, but also simple activities like walking, cooking, cleaning.) I've not stumbled and fallen for ages, building up slowly. But recently it's been gaining more awareness and I'm often being told to 'take it easy' and to 'stop pushing myself' with activities that are routine, give me calm and set me up for a great day. Yet told to do things that stress me the hell out, especially socialising, to 'relax'. No-one trusts me to know what works for me, despite having improved massively over the years and still improving, step by step. :/
Esmee This! Jupp! For me the basics takes strength stuff includes eating breakfast, having a shower etc whilst reading an academic papper gives me energy many times.
@@annarehbinder7540 I find it funny how we're often perceived as people who can't empathise or read other people, yet when push comes to shove so many people push us in a box, make assumptions based on that box mixed with their own preference, then just assume we're 'too incapable' of recognising what does or doesn't work for us. My parents did this so strongly I ended up too terrified to get out of bed or do anything, show any emotion or even to talk. (I've since broken free and am almost the exact opposite of whom I used to be.)
Man. I’m lazier than I realized.
yo man watch neffex careless and never give up maybe it can give you a hope of non laziness
yo man watch neffex careless and never give up maybe it can give you a hope of non laziness
just cut sugar intake. It helps a lot
I’m tired and stressed out. Believe me nothing stresses me out more or makes me very sad is a friend hanging himself I found out 2 days later, having a period more than 2 weeks, people yelling or gripping on me everything is just stressful to me
videogames, by definition, are hobbies.....
hobbies should be productive in one way or another. If you play games that teach you things, are social or make you think, then they can be a productive hobby.
However, many people play games that don’t have much of a purpose and don’t add anything of value to their life. This might be mobile games or shooters.
You’d have to judge for yourself whether you are getting anything out of playing games. Just like you have to judge whether watching videos or tv is valuable or a waste of time.
@@birdeynamnam Hobby: noun
1. an activity done regularly in one's leisure time for pleasure.
Brian I don’t need you to define hobby for me. I was telling you how he distinguishes between “hobby” and wasting time
@@birdeynamnam im telling you both that by definition, you are wrong..
I feel getting around to making that cʋck shed in Minecraft might be a productive hobbie
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Then there's me with anemia so I'm always tired but since I'm tired I always rest, and because I always rest, I'm lazy.
I really wish you would've brought up medical burn-out. It's the worst. You need rest but you also need to learn how to take action - just not too much or too little or you'll never get better. I've suffered from burnout for four years now. I feel absolutely useless because every time I try to slowly add habits in I do it too fast and end up burning myself out again. It's a real pain to get professional help, too. I've mostly had those issues ignored in favour of other issues I also have that are less pressing right now.
I am that tired person. I indulge my self into so much of learning different different things that i hv become a jack of all but ace of none. I am constantly distracted. Sad thing is that i am aware of this issue but cant really help to get rid of this habit.
Alternating periods of activity and rest are necessary to survive let alone thrive.
-Tim Ferriss, The 4 hour work week
I feel like it's a bit more nuanced then you're either lazy or tired. There are days where I am extremly productive, and then there are days where I don't do anything.
I would really like to know how I can balance the two, and determine when I can actually say that I should've worked harder or that it was good that I didn't do anything.