I'm a 77 yr old Caucasian man with a 35 yr old Filipina wife who has a 12 yr old daughter from a previous relationship. We concentrate on providing the needs of each other. Don't overthink this stuff. EVERY relationship is different and unique. Life happens so fast. Enjoy what you have, cherish the present, and be grateful that someone loves you.
So you're 42 years older than your wife ...you're old enough to be her Grandfather seriously she wouldn't marry you if you weren't a cash register thats the truth 🤷♀
Black guy in L.A., was 44 and my Filipina wife was 22 when we married. 13 years later still doing well. Even after she moved to Southern California 9 years ago. I retired in Las Vegas and my wife works as a BSN-RN.. 11 year age gap was my biggest until my wife. Remakes of songs has been a learning lesson for her. Plus 1000 other things. I suggest to my 20 year old son, that he needs to get married now and stay together. Beginning to work on getting his passport. Hopefully he'll come to Mindanao one day to experience the friendly people. I've dated many many many women throughout the United States and Canada (some super fine and even models), but none compared to my loving Filipina.
@@dsrrellgriffith1161 Vegas is definitely a lot different than living in Southern California. Once you're outside of the strip it's more of a small town atmosphere. A little bit country. LoL. Depending on where you are now. I'm not sure if I would recommend moving here. It can get a little expensive. It was just a lot cheaper than living in Los Angeles.
Im a single 31 year old female from New Zealand. While I first found your age gap with Chrissy odd, at the end of the day you managed to find love at your age and I'm happy for you and the family you now have. I also thank you for being extremely honest about the challenges you face with that gap. You'll be surprised at how hard it has now become for young people like myself to find true love because social media standards have ruined and influenced people's expectations. It's really difficult but I still have hope for myself that I can find someone who loves me for me, just like how you found Chrissy. All the best guys xx
Same here in the US. As a 50yo man looking for a traditional relationship I have had younger women like way younger contact me explaining that they want love and can't find it due to the majority of youth going the hookup culture route. One girl was far too young for me I did give her what tips I could. But now she wants me even more because I won't date her. I really don't get it but she seems to believe we have something special together. I really am attracted to her I want to be with her long term but I feel like the age gap would be a killer in society plus I'm feeling guilty even talking with her. I wish more average women would just date average men like we did before the web. Now it's so damn complicated that we have the youth seeking out older men for true love. This maybe great for older men but not so great for the younger average man whom she was intended to be with. He will now struggle with why do average women not want me? I don't know if we will ever get back to reality but I pray we do!
I am 41 originally from Poland, I understand exactly where you are coming from, but I don't think this is all about the age gap. Filipino culture in itself is different from Western world, different priorities. And then there is this very personal development through family upbringing, surrounding, education, interests and so on.
Hey Tim, 66 year old geezer here who married a 36 year old Filipina beauty almost 4 months ago. [K1] Our age gap has not really been too much an issue, but the cultural gap has been the challenge in our relationship. We both embrace each others culture, but misunderstandings can arise when one of us sees an issue through the lenses of our own culture and the other sees it another way. Living together for the first time has been a learning experience in getting to really know each other, communication being the key. So grateful and happy I married my Filipina, she makes me a better person and I hope I do her.
You are correct about the cultural differences. I'm 72 from the U.S. married to a 36-year-old with 2 teen daughters. I have learned from her and her daughters, and they have learned from me. I just roll with the flow and laugh my way through the relationship and Philippine processes, and so does she. I accept the cultural differences -- it is what it is. Life is great, and we are doing well here in the Philippines, and my wife and daughters are loving life.
I am 55 and my Jen is 38. We have physically been together in Santa Rosa, Laguna since May 2013. We met online in Apr 2011 and talked for 2 years before I moved out here. I think the differences are more cultural than age-related and for me, the positives of those differences vastly outshine any negatives. My Jen was no shy flower when I met her but to me, it is obvious she has even more confidence since being with me. She works hard in Real Estate and I help in the background and we are thriving together. For a guy that lost/wasted 20 years of his life to mental illness being with Jen has been a second chance. I know I have someone that I will support in every way I can and I know she will always be there for me. To me, the only downside to the age gap is if I was nearer her age I would have a greater shot at even more years with her.
Mental illness is a good way of saying it. Any man married in USA to an American girl can probably claim mental illness. Just 5% of American women are worthy of a decent man. Then of that 5%, you must find a reasonable match while limited by time, geography & resources AND she has 12 other guys also trying to win her attention + 8 really bad guys who might trick her. NOT GOOD ODDS!
I'm a 71 year old white American male. I was fortunate to have met the love of my life when I was 47. At that time, she was 35. She is one of the most hard working Filipina woman maybe in the world. She was in the process of getting a divorce from her 1st husband she met in the Philippines in 1988 and had 3 children with. We will celebrate our 20th anniversary this coming September. I hadn't had any lasting relationships that lasted more than a year. I regret not having children of my own but love my wife's as mine. It's been mostly a great 24 year relationship. By the way, we met on AOL.
I remember a comment made on a much earlier video where a female commented that you picked Chrissy because she was young, unworldly and therefore easy for you to control. And through the following years i watch you teaching her how to become independent ect. Now the young woman that i see is very independent.......college, a mom and able to navigate the modern world so much better than i would be able to at my 65 years of experience. I see true love between the two of you and mutual respect.
Once a person get past 18, independency & maturity does not really increase by age anymore, really depends on the person. Lots of 35+ persons are still immature, super dependent &/or cant be relied on, and articulate stuffs on their mind very poorly.
Totally agree, if Tim wanted to keep her shelter, barefoot in the kitchen that totally could have happened, right! I think Tim got incredibly lucky, but he also did and does the work behind that luck! Remember luck is opportunity meeting preparation!
I am 7 years your senior but I identify as 42. You have well reasoned points. I don't often "like" videos but this was an exception. There are different stages of life, or circumstances of life, where an age gap relationship is entirely reasonable! Personally, I can see myself in an age gap relationship in the future. But I have too much going on right now. Dad died 3 yrs ago. Brother died 2 yrs ago. I'm caregiver to my 89 yr old mom. Family has fallen to pieces. Other family has cancer. I've been diagnosed with a brain tumor (seemingly benign and easily operable as brain tumors go). 63 months to a pensioned retirement. BUT MY POINT... Life is uncertain. Circumstances vary but one cannot fault another for their reasons for being in an age gap relationship!
I'm a 64 year old guy, and after watching many vlogers from the Philippines and Thailand, I've decided to date a Philippina. When I originally went on the dating site, I was hoping to find a 40-something girl to be happy with, but to my surprise, almost all the attention comes from 20 something girls, lol. I agree that after talking to what seems to be 100s of them, province girls seem to be the best. Obviously, I'm looking at a 40-year age gap, but I've seen several happy relationships with the same age gap from there. So I'll be there in June to meet what I hope will be my next last relationship. If you're in Cebu in June, give me a shout-out, and I'll buy you a beer. Thanks again for the videos.
@M.O.T I signed up to Pinalove pay for the membership it will allow unlimited texting. Then move it to What's app and then video chats, but be very careful of scammers. My numbers are like 40%, lol. Good luck.
As an afro-canadian guy who married a pinay I feel that the age gap is not very important as long as both parties are comfortavle with each other. Our age gap is 25 years and so far after 15 years of being happily married...I have no regrets. I applaud you for dealing with some sensitive topics in a very honest and straight forward manner without the benefit of a script...keep up the good work....I might not always comment, but I follow you religiously. I think that Chrissy in her own inexperience made a good choice with you .....well done Big Guy.
MY RICH RUSSIAN SUGAR DADDY IS OVER 50 YRS OLDER THAN ME AS LONG AS HE GIVES ALL THE MONEY DIAMONDS PEARL'S GOLD & FURS & REAL ESTATE ALL IS FINE 🌹🌹🌹I'm not his only Sugar Baby but the most beautiful 😊
Bro, I don't think it's an age gap issue so much as a language and cultural issue. I am married to a Filipina too staying in a beautiful beach community called Santiago, Ilocos Sur. Americans are so used to freedom and abundance. Relationships are hard in this cancel culture world. Where it seems integrity and humility are looked down upon. Praying for you and your family. My wife's US visa was finally granted. Now, I have been waiting over 2 weeks for an appointment for the CRBA interview. Then we are planning on moving back to the United States temporarily. Unfortunately, people choose worship family above God and it causes all kinds of evil. Prayers for you!
Hi Tim, stumbled upon you today and watched this with interest. I was in a 20 year age gap relationship 20 years ago............with a pinay. I was your age and she was your wifes age...........coincidently. It was a 2 year long-distance relationship at first and we chatted most days and sometimes literally for the whole day - it was effortless and it was wonderful. She was incredible..........from a good family, excellent English, smart, funny. I felt like I'd found someone special who could change my entire life. So - we eventually agreed to meet and I went to Philippines and we met. Things actually went "ok" but the age difference did become noticeable and gradually more so as the trip went on......to the point where I cut my trip short and went home. We stayed in touch after that and she accepted her behaviour wasn't ideal and she apologised. But for me it was over, I wasn't one for making rash decisions and I'd lived in SG for a year before that time anyway so I was acclimatised to S.E.Asia to a degree. She was great company and we still had a great laugh but the spark that existed for 2 yearsonline wasn't there in real life........I had broached the aged gap issue numerous times while we were getting to know each other and was met with "age isn't important" every time, to the point where she asked that we stop even talking about it. But...............my wise head suspected that it would be different in real life, and it was. My overall feeling was disappointment - disappointed with myself more than anything for not listening to my instinct, also disappointed at the expense I incurred, disappointed that I hadn't found the love of my life too. But I dont regret any of it. She was incredible and fun and smart..............she just wasn't ready to be with someone 20 years older than she was. 8 years later I moved to Thailand and I've been here almost 14 years and I am married - to a Thai. Its my first marriage and she is just 3 years younger than me and.......................I am tempted to trade her in for a younger model (joking). Things still aren't ideal if I'm being frank because of our different backgrounds and our life experiences. There are lots of expats here too who get caught up in a relationship with a younger woman and I dont have an issue with it at all, I'm quite sure some of them are happy. Whether it works or fails though pretty much rests on the expat adjusting to her culture and her way more than the other way around. We have that ability with our education and our emotional maturity. So if you can adjust and integrate then you'll be okay, if you can't then as the song says............there may be trouble ahead. Good luck, great video.
A well thought out & presented video. I have been married 22 years, we have a 14 year age gap. Yes we have different tastes in music, movies, etc. But rather than have a debate on what we watch together. It is simple enough for one us to watch other media. I can tell you it's a great experience travelling with your Filipina wife around the Philippine Islands. We've been here last four weeks and have had a great time.
Native American/German. 69 yrs old military traveled/Civilian traveled American. Married at 17 two years younger than her. Widowed at 41. Grew up in the 60s. Came back to the Philippines and had a 12 yr younger fiancé for 3 years. She passed away in a car accident. Came back to Illinois and after awhile became friends with a 17 year younger lady with a child. I find myself missing the Philippines very much. You make me smile and remember the good and the bad. I loved the Province life, fishing and snorkeling and traveling to all the different islands. I did not like the big city life. I would avoid it at all cost. I was never a big drinker so the nite life was not for me. I would have to say that most of my big problems were foreigners. I will always consider the Philippines my second home. God Bless you and yours Tim. I watched you evolve and was surprised to see you turn away from the initial shock. Proud of you bro. I remember my first year there. It closely relates to yours. God Bless the Philippines. 😊
I am a Filipina 35 years old and married my English man 48 y/o (11 years gap) For me Its about knowing the person before you decide to marry on how you can get along. And once you are married, you need to always commit to each other in always looking to improve to have a better version of yourself then embrace differences. Learn to compromise if its for the better. But you don’t have to understand her just love her.
Great video Tim! Many good points and well said! Figure out what you want in life, and go for it. The earlier the better. You can always reinvent yourself if need be, and make adjustments as you get older. I waited until I was 40s to find my wife. Wish I had acted sooner, but the right one came along when she did. I'm going to miss the chance of having kids, but at least I know I have a great partner/wife/best friend all rolled into one! And yes, she is a Filipina!
Hi Tim, I’m a 38 y/o American mom married to a 63 y/o American- he is controlling & abusive, trying to get out. I enjoy watching you & Chrissy. I hope to have fun like ya’ll soon. Blessings to you & your family. ❤
Hey Tim, this was a good vid. Yes I was married at 19 to a woman who was 29 a little reversal in age roles but still applies. After we were married we discovered a lot of differences even at only ten years, This did put a lot of strain on the marriage, but we worked through this. As the years past the age difference did not matter that much, the more time that past the less it mattered. This is something that is to be expected when you marry a younger or older person. Anyway I buried my last after 49 years of marriage. By that time we were not only husband and wife but best friends. So it can work if you give it time and patience. If the female is younger, she may still want to go out and party. Whereas the old boy would rather put his feet up and relax. Just an example for you. Thanks for the vid, keep up the good work.
As an older American that has been previously married to an American woman a few times, I was always with someone who was 4 years older to my wives. I am in an LDR, and she is 8 years younger than me, but we are now both over 60. She will be meeting me with her family at the airport in Dumaguete. I have had some pretty bad experiences in marriage, but I see the relationship between my Filipina and I will be great. I feel being a Vietnam era-cold war Veteran, I have been around a few cultures. I never wanted a younger Filipina, as many guys my age Gondor, and I am happy for them, in what they want. I am happy with my choice.😊
Great vid, Tim - I'm 61,single, retired in America but was stationed in the Philippines back in 85 and 86 at Clark, and have visited the PI several times since then. I think it takes the "take it easy" kind of guy to have a good relationship with a Pinay. Most Pinays are good women but they have the're typical traits and an older western guy just needs to be ok with that. Otherwise, it can be a clash and a challenging relationship. I'm a bit too independent and enjoy being single too much so for me, just a GF works. And I've evolved to think marriage may not be the best arrangement anymore, especially living in the PI. But I know that's just my opinion - many other guys seem to be happy, even with big age gaps. Keep rolling!
I am a 60 year old American, in a relationship with a 58 year age gap. My chihuahua named Moji is 2 years old. She is the only woman for me! No Matter how much you love your dog, she will always love you more. 😍😍😍😍😍
Tim, I'm an American white guy. I dream about coming to Phil. Due to many circumstances, trying to get my gf to come to America. Seems it would have been easier to come there first, but that's what we are doing. I'm 58. She's 34. So far, age doesn't seem to be an issue. I can also say, in America the expectation is that you'd date someone close to your age. I see my friends who I grew up with dating or married to women that look like their mom. I'd never be attracted or desire a woman close to my age. I didn't seem to age, as many did, being 58. So, do I wait until I age enough to want those women or do I go for the women I want, which has always been age gap, rather than close range. I just can't force myself to want or desire a woman close to my age. You are so blessed my friend. Love your videos and possibly we'll meet someday
Tim, I used to watch your vlogs and when you met Chrissy I thought that she is a clever capable girl and wondered if she could ever knock some sense into you. She hasn't had your background from the states, and I see that as a good thing. Don't try to change her, she's perfect, change yourself, lose some weight (consuming sugar is your problem) feel better about yourself. If you stop cosuming sugar ( beer, sweets, pop, anything that has sugar or turns into sugar like starchy veg potatoes etc corn syrup) drink water or black coffee, nothing with sugar, the weight will fall of you, you'll get fit, and your whole attitude will change. You'll become a man. It's really easy, I was you ten years ago, it took 3months to lose 30kg of blubber. Good luck and take care.
You cannot be committed to forming a true relationship when your interactions are with a camera in the face. Few bloggers succeed in both relationship building and vlogging
My grandfather was 40 and married my grandmother, who was 19 years old at the time. This was in 1920, and everyone was happy about the situation. They lived a happy life for many years until December 7th 1941 it was announced the attack on Pearl Harbor. He passed away from a heart attack.
no disrespect intended, but on 19 yr old would be happy with a 40 yr old. In those days, poor women had little choice in matters. They had to grin and bare it. Same as Phillipines now
I had a 20y age gap relationship. We went through some of the same things but found a way to compliment our differences. I was able to provide depth and history to many cultural and political events. She was able to share the perspective of her generation and the rapid development of technology and how she saw modern relationships. As long as you can stay open and continue to share and grow together there will not be a problem.
I was once married with a 7 year gap to a woman here in the US and I couldn't imagine a 20 year gap. I understand though because they're so physically beautiful and would blow my mind if I was over there. Just never give up and if ever you think about it just take a trip back to these states to see what you're missing. It will cure you for sure.
I am an American, 56 and my Filipina wife is 28. (28 year gap). Like you I found a wonderful girl in a province in Bohol. She is now here living with me in the U.S. after several years of getting her Visa approved. The thing I love about my wife is that she had very little of the pre-conceived ideas floating around westernized society and is very much a traditional family values type of person. She may be "simple" by some standards, but she is loving, smart, caring and fun. She loved her tik tok and online media a bit too much for my taste, but really we get along very well. I am very conservative values wise and I feel like she is learning and is respects my opinions on many things. I look at partially as an opportunity to show her the reality of things and offer her some experience and education.
I am so happy for you and your wife. Unfortunately for me, I am much older than you and have a 36- year age gap with my Filipina fiancée, but she is also like you said: simple, loving, caring, smart, fun, and respectful. She is 36, college degree, a Province girl, but her life has been very hard. She was married, her husband gave her two twin daughters, then he died, leaving her with nothing. I new she was in trouble. So I starting helping her long distance with no expectations of even seeing her. She was a really nice person, and I just wanted to help her. But romance started after time, and I moved to Cebu City where we live together and having a marriage soon. Good luck to both of you. I will be going to Bohol in July 2023 for a vacation at Henann Resort Alona Beach, Bohol. Good luck to you both.
I married a Filipina, and our age gap is 3 years only. I'm not keen marrying someone that could be my daughter. We have no issues about what goes on, as we both are of the same mindset. I find growing old together more important than anything.
I totally enjoy your RUclips !! Fan since 2019. I am from NorCal, surfed all over/ love Newport Surf & Sport! Mission Beach & Santa Cruz my former spots. Anyway, I am in Nevada to divorce Filipina in Nueva Ecija, Luzon. 3 1/2 years ago we separated I accepted early US Fed Govt retirement at 52 w/ 30 years career to be with now ex...3 years later = scamed out of $68K my 401K ! Found my Babe of 3 yrs ago in Subic Bay, Luzon, her family from Southern Leyte. You & family are Rad !!! I am 57 & she is 25 = Best relationship Ever & I had many. ❤
I am American Persian, married 3 times and few other relationships too. Don’t feel awkward with your age gap, I am 75, and my girlfriend is 27, almost 50 years age gap, everything good but as you mentioned there are challenges!
Hi Tim, i can identify with everything you have said here, however boring it was LoL. Mate, i'm an 82yo Infantry Veteran, NZ Army been there done that, just like you Tim. I had been married twice and divorced before, when i met my present Filipina wife over 26 years ago. We have been married 26 years and i wouldn't change her for any reason. She is my soul mate and i wish i had met her long before i did. Like you and Chrissy we have a 20 year age gap, but it doesn't mean a thing to us. She was 34 and i was 54 at the time we met here in New Zealand. Trust me, this relationship was life changing for me in a good way. I have no regrets and i know she loved me because i was not well off during that time. She taught me the true value of the dollar, which i certainly didn't know before i met her. We have a property in Cebu which we will be returning permanently to in the near future and we will see out our retirement years together there. Cheers Tim and Chrissy. Bless you both. Bob n Lina.
Hi Tim, I’m 55 and was married to a Vietnamese man for 35 years. He was 20 years my senior. I’m American, white. I was 18 when I met my husband. He passed away May 2021. He was the love of my life. My everything. I totally understand what you are sharing.
i lived in the Philippines for 2 years. I worked with young Filipino men and women. Family is everything to Filipinos. Much of the culture and many decisions they make are viewed through the lens of family (i.e.: Is this good for my family? Family before self, they find their value more in the group they are a part of…family… friend group (Barkada) etc…(Collectivism I think it’s called…many Asian countries are similar in this regard) Westerners find their value in who they are as an individual. Not all, or even most, by any means, but many Filipinos marry for money. In Western culture we marry for love, romance, compatibility, etc. Many Filipinos do as well… but some marry for money and stability. When a westerner marries a Filipino they hopefully know they are marrying the whole family (at least financially), because the Filipino will expect them to contribute to the whole extended family. Anytime a Filipino marries someone that is from a group that’s considered of a greater ‘status’, it pulls them up in status as well. Many Filipinos think highly of Americans, and other groups as well. If they marry someone from one of these groups it pulls them up in “status” somehow. For example, I have a Filipino friend who married a Taiwanese girl. He was, in turn, thought of a greater status because of who he married. Keep in mind, that when viewed through western culture it may look “off” or gross that these young girls marry old white men…And it may be… but I’ve met many that were truly happily married to these older men… Whether they learned to love them or truly loved them from the beginning I don’t know. In dealing with different cultures than our own we must always be careful not to pass judgement as well as look at it through that culture’s own lens. (Any Filipinos out there, feel free to correct or clarify anything I’ve said here.)
52 year old American in a relationship with a 25 year old Thai lady in Thailand. The age gap is honestly not a big problem. Cultural, language, and different financial up bringings are often more common areas of problems in our relationship. You never needed to learn to budget if you never had any money for example. You never learned how to board a plane if you could never afford to travel etc. The more similar your backgrounds are the less areas there are for misunderstanding. Age is simply one area that lets your background be more similar (grew up watching the same television shows, similar music period etc).
You always hear the older person saying age gap is not a problem. I like to hear this from a young kid who is in a relationship with someone that's older than their own father.
Everyone's individually different. With different needs, desires, etc. As you mature, you are constantly moulded and remoulded. Being happy takes effort. I don't take it for granted. I've got to work for it.
Hi Tim, I m 57 now and I meet my Filipino wife 20 years ago,I meet here in Europe ,my wife is 12 years younger than me, I have to say that the age gap was never one issue. We are having around the same interests , so yeah, we are happy together. I hope that you and Christy will be happy together. Greetings 🙏
After watching several videos, I can only say... I was hooked by your most recent videos. So I dug deeper. I liked your most recent, because all I want to do is investigate that much more I decided to start from the beginning. I decided to start watching your very first video, and going from that one to the next one and all the way up until I get to the point where I have watched all of your videos.
I’m a white old guy lol You make good points. I just returned from Mindanao a few days ago . I married my Filipina and our age gap is 25 years but we see most everything eye to eye. I wait 2 years before I could get there so we talked and videoed constantly and I thank communication and honesty made the age difference seem less of a hindrance. Btw i can’t wait to get back home to the Philippines my new home!!!
Tim, I'm an American. My first marriage was a 4 year age gap with an American girl.. I was older. Lasted 5 years. My 2nd was a filipina who was 10 years younger we divorced after 17 years, but separated after 14 years. I moved to the Philippines and was in a relationship for 8 years with a filipina that was 25 years younger. My 3rd and current marriage is to the loveliest lady I have ever met! (filipina) We have been together for 12 years and have never been as happy as now. She is 31 years younger than me. She is far more mature than her age. She is not subservient but rather an equal partner. I value her opinions as she does mine. We jointly make life decisions. We have an 11 year old daughter who is a great kid, smart, polite an is always on the high honor role! People in our country disapprove of such large age gaps, but in the Philippines it is not uncommon. Hope you and your lovely wife and son are well. Doc
I'm a regular Army Veteran of 11 years, 2 tours, I have seen and experienced too much. When it comes to the military there is too much that happened I do not want to talk about. Some guys get the opportunity to serve their country, and it is boy scout camp. My experience was different. I struggle everyday to pretend I am a normal person. After all of the explosions and fire fights. I found your channel 2 months ago.
My late husband was 18 years older, I’m 63.5 now he passed away 2019 but we were married 42 years had three kids one adopted. Lived in the US, in five different States for 16 years and 26 in the Philippines. The age gap wasn’t so bad we made it work, Russ went back to the USA to find a job and I worked out my visa followed him after two months, 1982 was my first year in America. Blessings to you and Crissy.
I am a 78 yr old white VN vet. Retired LC. PhD. Experimental psychologist , etc. I seek wisdom. I think your advice is good. But every life has a unique trajectory. Yours is entirely honorable. The most important thing is to be loving, courageous, and honest with honor. You seem to be those. Let Christi see the innermost you as she can handle it - your son, too.
I'm 44 years older than my wife. My dad was 43 years older than my mom when I was born. I think the main problem with the age difference I experience is our difference in how we view technology. I think most of these gadgets are problematic. They interfere with human-to-human communication between couples. They cause more problems than they solve.
“Prequalifiers” sounds like “pronouns” and “identifier’s” Older in a married relationship 53/26 and we are very happy and compatible. There are a lot of comparable situations with our relationship and yours and Chrissy’s. We also have a child together, a little girl… Yes there are times when I have to remind myself her inexperience needs a moment of explanation and patience. And she realizes I need her assistance with my short temper and frustration with things aka letting go of my western anger 😂. We work well together…
Hi Tim, always enjoy your videos because you have a relaxing calm cadence about the way you talk that allows new ideas to be absorbed. I'm a 59 year old American mixed race(Canadian/Portuguese). First marriage at 21was to a woman who is 18 years older than I am. It lasted six years and produced a son but she really showed her age in that she didn't want to go out anywhere or do anything. My second marriage was to a woman two years my junior and that lasted twenty years without love or understanding of each other and much different interests and was a disaster. So now I have been looking in the Philippines because when I was 18, in the Navy, had a Philippine girlfriend and I really enjoyed the Philippines back then. This new journey that started before the pandemic, I posted on a Facebook Filipina dating page and got a thousand responses and over the course of the last four years whittled down to just one. I know that sounds ridiculous but I work for the Army the first year and the following two plus years was a covid pandemic that didn't allow for travel. Back in November I met three that I had been talking to and the one I connected with and fell in love with is 25 years my junior. So we've been talking for 4.5 years and she is 34, I'm 59, but she didn't really act like the typical younger woman, always self absorbed or surgically attached to her phone all day. It helps that I don't look (or act) my age. Most people think I'm in my forties which makes our physical appearance much closer in age than it really is. We are truly happy and planning our futures together when I fully retire. So with you and Chrissy I would hope that regardless of your age gap, you and Chrissy have things in common enough to have meaningful dialogue. Things that interest you that don't interest Chrissy mean that you might have to have friends to share those common interests but I don't see any kind of other issue here with you and her. I'm sure you both talk.
Tim I am American from Las Vegas. Enjoying your videos started your channel, while still in the States. This video was spot on!!! Enjoy watching your videos, good to see you are active again. Thanks
Great video. I identify as a 43 year old, straight, Caucasian, American male. So basically I’m the reason for all the problems in the world 😂 I am talking to a woman that is 20 years my junior in the Philippines. This video is a great resource for a topic that is difficult to bring up and research without being judged pretty heavily even when I flash my white privilege card. Keep up the great work.
I’m not sure why and how “skin color and age” are QUALIFIERS for speaking on ANY TOPIC…… life EXPERIENCE is what obviously gives you FIRST HAND KNOWLEDGE !!! I Pray that you have NOT wasted this young woman’s time and on top of that “giving” her a child to care for on her own !!! You are never going to understand life from her perspective either and if you are so knowledgeable and SMART, what you are now speaking on should have been clear to you before you started “messing with Chrissy”…….
@@alveradavis9537 Well said. Qualifiers in this context is not even making sense. So when he first made that clear, I knew that this man is never going to understand anything. In one of his latest videos, he's back in California and broke. Without RUclips, he'll end up to be a burden in the society not understanding why and how.
I’m 17 years older than my girlfriend but it’s not really any age gap that makes it difficult at times… it’s more the cultural differences and her not so perfect English causes her difficulty in describing things coherently to me at times 😊
You should never expect your partner to be who you want them to be. Everyone is an individual & should be able to live a life of their own. If you can't accept them for who they are then you should not be with that person. That does not mean you don't care about the relationship or what happens to that person or how you treat that person. When you marry you commit to that person but you don't give your life up for that person, it works both ways. I am in a 15 year gap relationship. Left a 26 year relationship with an abusive narcissist 15 years ago, best thing I ever did. I am truly in love with an amazing person who I know God brought us together. He is a god fearly man who is just an amazing person!!
My age gap is 7-8 years. I would just say you always have to be open, forgiving, and adaptable. Being from different countries is already something you have to overcome or be adaptable about. I think age gap is a little less of an issue.
I'm a widower out about 9 years. My first wife was from Mexico and I was almost 3 years her junior. I remarried a widow with 2 boys 10 and 14 about 3 years ago. Our age gap is 18 years 7 months to the day. I notice the age gap often. I sometimes wished I had someone within 2 to 3 years of my birth year. I'm 59 and If I were to marry someone more than 25 years younger here in the states, it would feel completely wrong. In your situation being 42 and marrying a province girl from the Philippines, I'm sure that you are more likely to have cultural differences than age gap differences. My first wife was from Mexico and I enjoyed the cultural differences we have. My current wife is American. She is a picky eater. Has 2 closets of clothes with "Nothing good to wear". So I completely get why you married Chrissy. You are living the dream, but I also see some of your struggles. I served an LDS mission in the Philippines from 1982 to 1984 on Northern Luzon and get what you are going through. I have previously dated some Filipinas and understand their unique culture.
Been following Philippines vloggers for ages, you've cropped up many times, not always not always in the best light but watching your recent posts you really have matured into someone worth listening to. Respect to you.
Being an interacial person that's white from the waist up and black from the waist down age has certain factor but you have a small age gap 75 years ago that was very common. Any real man will say awesome unless they're with an aged women then they will lie and say that's terrible etc. I'll ask this bisexual girl I'm dating I know she's bisexual becasue every time I want sex she says bye. And regarding younger people they have so many issues nowdays many don't even know if they're a boy or a girl. 😂
I’m a 61 year old widower from the USA. I’m engaged to a 45 yr old Filipina from the Province although she lived 10 years in Manila. She is never married and no children. I’ve been to the Philippines 4 times with her while we’re waiting for her K1 visa. I would have preferred a 10 year age gap but she was so perfect in every other way. She is completely fine with my age. Hopefully we’ll have a long happy life together God willing. We each can’t imagine life without each other.
64 yr old Canadian.. my Filipina wife is 32 yrs old.. 32 year age gap.. we have been together 8 years, married 6 yrs.. we spend our time between Canada and the Philippines.. she is my best friend and partner.. we are having our first child this year.. I have never been happier at any time in my life.. she had been working in Hongkong for 8 years as an end of life care giver when we first met there and have been together ever since.. age gap has no relevance.. it is the respect, faith and love for one another that makes it work..
As an American in USA, my wife is from china and is 5 years older than me with a son. I have ex gfs. They weren’t good. My wife is amazing. Age gap is fine but yes there are issues of course. I guess it depends on how both people in the relationship feel about each other.
I am a white 76 year old guy, retired 23 year nam vet married to white gal (20 years), who passed away. married Korean gal, spoke little English, I spoke little Korean, so was a real culture and comunication struggle, but great relationship of 12 years, she passed away from accident. Then the 28 year old Filipina who contacted me to see if I was interested in her, heck no too young! I went to Lety to meet her. stayed in the Philippines for half year, had a great time learning the wacky ways of the culture. 36 year age difference, that is a lot. Like being grandfather, husband, and special friend. Angie and I have been married just over great ten years. Best relationship ! Otto from Gulf of Mexico, Florida, USA
From Russian Subscriber Seems all your chics die! Scary like the Lunatic Hitler all his chics killed themselves! Just get a pet cat or a dog! Seems like your bad karma for any woman. Yuliya
I just wanted to drop you a quick note to say that I've been following your work for a few years now, and I'm continually impressed by your content. From mind-blowing topics to a relaxed chat, your videos are always engaging and leave me wanting more. Keep up the amazing work, and my regards to you and your lovely family. Best regards, @povden Regenerate response
As a man that is with a Chinese woman thats only been in america for 5 years now, our age gap is 3 years I'm 37 she's 34, I believe you in everything you said, we produced a beautiful 3 yr old daughter , your insight is on point and we love all the advice you always give , thanks brother, hope you get to visit America soon and show Chrissy some cool things here, if ever in Texas let me know , we could all go out for some Texas BBQ
My wife as I put in my comment is also Chinese. She’s from guangzho? I think that’s the spelling. She has a son from her 1st marriage. Also, she was here in USA on a visa while I’m born here…. Unless anyone asks my older sister because according to my sister, I’m an alien from space….
bro who the hell cares about a 3 years age Gap nobody's going to talk about that that's completely irrelevant to this video with this man it's a big age Gap not a 3 year age Gap
I am white guy and married my wife, she was 19 and I was 24 years old. we had two daughters and my wife passed away at age 47 I was 52 years old. We would be married today and happy if she lived. Now I am in a LDR with a 35 year old Philippine woman and I hope to move over there at the end of summer. All relationships require work and you have a son to love too.
for my own opinion, age doesn't matter when it comes to love as long as the consequences can be accepted when the days change mentally, emotionally, and physically, but because it is probably common for the minor to marry someone older age especially with the capacity to lift the family out of poverty. So let's just embrace being married at an age rather than living a difficult life, anyways I saw in your previous vlogs that you are happy with your life here with Crisy and your kiddos. Stay happily married and God bless.
I am an RN Filipina US citizen , I was 4 years younger than my husband , I thought that was great , we my husband retired approx. 10 years b4 I did , he went home and bought a cable company that was kind of successful except for mismanagement , at the same time a resort house was under construction so I help a lot with the cable company expenses , I was working a lot of OT to keep up all our expenditures , after our daughter graduated in nursing here in USA private school she got married and I joined my husband in Philippines , found out she has many young mistresses one after another , so I came back here in USA and living wt my daughter and her family …..❤and prayers from California
I am commenting as a Filipina wife of a 64-year-old disabled English Man, and we have a 10 years gap, and I don't feel any difference, what a wonderful place you got there. sub and llike
I’m 55 and my PH GF of 8 years is now 31. I can relate to much you spoke about. Especially watching movies. I might put on a classic like Shawshank, Good Will Hunting, Goodfellas, or any Quentin movie and she just can’t relate. I grew up in the late 80’s and 90’s and worked on Wall Street most of my career and was on the trading desk 9/11 when the world changed for all of us. Someone in their 20’s or 30’s over here in the Phils just will never be able to relate to that. That said change is constant and a new relationship at any age will face challenges. I personally think if you are younger than her parents it’s not that big a gap but that’s just me. Congrats on a wonderful relationship that works for you and beautiful child !
It is more than age gap. It is culture gap. It is financial gap. It is language gap. It is gender gap. It is legal gap. It is 'as gap' as it gets. It is real love, where you have to give more than receive. It was your decision and your responsibility Tim, and mine too. It gave me a purpose, and especially when I needed one.
You are dead on target with the Gap assessment. I live in Cebu City with my Fiancée and soon to be wife. She is from Mindanao. We have a 36-year gap. I guess I am lucky, I give a lot, but I also receive a lot from her. That's new! I took on her and her two beautiful twin daughters, and care for them too - put them in an Private International School. We have many things in common and like similar activities.
Have you heard of karma? It bites hard in the ass, specially when your twin stepdaughter end up marrying a man old enough to be her dad/grandfather lol ..
@@Iamflying123 i would do it for my kids. A woman will do literally anything for her kids' future. No matter what I had to sacrifice or, even, who i had to sleep with...if they did not have proper food, shelter, and a shot at a better future.
As a 72-year-old twice divorced and three times retired American White male from the Northeast, 43-years working in the Army, Air Force, and DoD, and lived in half the states of the USA, I gave up on American women and moved to the Philippines. I now live in Cebu with my Fiancée and her two daughters, and we have a 36-year age gap. She is 36. We like similar food, same music, and same movies and activities. The daughters are great and we get along well. It's all in the head -- in my mind I feel in my 20s or 30s. So we are a good match, and she says I look in my 50s because I take good care of myself. So it can work. True what you say, I lived in the 1950s, 60s, 70s, and 80s, and felt much more freedom from repressive governments and society. After 9-11, the U.S. changed even more for the worse. I felt like I was getting some of that freedom back when Trump was elected, only to have all his good policies reversed with a new election. Now I am in the US visiting, and what a bad difference. When I left, gas was $1.98 to $2.25 a gallon under Trump, we were a world exporter of oil and gas, now its $3.50 to $4.00 a gallon. I just went to the food market, and there appears to be a national egg shortage??? Inflation is crazy, in Virginia I ordered a McDonald's Egg McMuffin meal and small orange juice for $10.00. I used to buy jeans at Target for $19 a year ago, now they are $32.00. ETC.
@@TheWayner987 Let's tell the truth. I never said Trump was my hero. You did. Most Americans have no idea what Trump did in his term of office because the Media refused to report it, so they have no knowledge foundation to say anything about Trump. I worked 43-years in the Federal Government for a number of Presidents starting with Jimmy Carter and ending with Joe Biden, working for the military, Department of Defense, and The White House, and taught at top Universities on U.S. Government policies and National Security Affairs. I've also been trained in operational and strategic intelligence assessments. We are trained to look at actual policies, not people. We don't care who the President is. Despite Trumps twitter and mouth problems that sometimes undermined his own policies because they were normally the only news the Media reported, I know what Trump did, and I focus on what any President's actual government policies and actions are. Trump did more for the Black Community in America than any Democrat or Republican President over the past 80 years. But he received no credit. The media didn't report it, because they did not want him reelected. They would not report any positive actions he did, only attack him 24/7 for 4 years, treatment no other President has received. It was a miracle he could do anything. He kept Putin from invading Ukraine, and I knew and reported that Russia would invade Ukraine if Trump was replaced by President Biden, which Russia did. That is because I know the Russians. I have been studying Ukraine and Russia for the Government since the early 1990s when I was an advisor to the Pentagon. Trump patched up foreign relations with many countries that President Obama destroyed. That's a fact. But some Presidents have the luxury of hiding their failures behind the national news media. He made the U.S. a world leader in oil and gas, something we have been trying to do since the 1970s. Despite President Obama's declaration that is was "impossible" to bring back small business in America, you would "need a magic wand" he said, Trump rebuilt small businesses in America, and brought back many major corporations overseas to the United States creating more jobs. Trump had hundreds of his successes hidden from the public. It is very easy to criticize any President when you are not doing their job and carrying their huge responsibilities, or being lied to by a corrupt news media. In fact, in 1994, I finished my Ph.D. Dissertation on the American News Media, and I know what they do. I have monitoring them since the 1950s.
Age is just a number in my opinion. My wife and I have a age gap of 27 Years, 10 Months and 6 days. I am an American from Western New York and have lived in the Philippines for almost 14 years. We have been married over 8 years and together almost 10 years. This is both of ours first and only marriage's. I married her when I was 49 years old. I dated dozens of American girls and dozens of Filipino girls over the years and finally found the right one to marry. My wife was and still is a province girl but we have taken a few trips out of the country and she is learning more and more every day. Where we live in the Philippines is about as remote as you can get. Our island is 10.6 kilometres (6.59 mi) long and 3.7 kilometres (2.30 mi) wide with a population of around 12,000 people with 6 full time foreigner's living here. We have 1 gas station and a few local so called restaurants. Everything comes here by boat. It is extremely safe, no bars on the windows, can leave doors unlocked, zero issues. It is a easy Island life.
@@halfsquaredoubleinverse4014 My body thick's it is 40 years old yet in reality I am 76. The only health related issue I ever had was my 2019 open heart surgery where I replaced my aortic valve that had become calcified and word not open or close properly. I now have a cow's valve in there but haven't mooed too much.
I'm a 67 y.o Brit living in Mindanao with a 43 y.o Filipina wife. We've been married 9 year's and we don't even notice our age gap of 24 years. Early days were rocky but we have grown together and now have a loving relationship. I was a widower when we married which is vastly different to being a divorcee. Divorcees are less likely to still have fond feelings for their past wife. This can be an issue and I had to learn to 'let go' of my deceased wife. This was what made the early years with my Beautiful Filipina difficult. God Bless you.
I'm 45, and my Mindanao province girl just turned 38. Been together since 2016 here in the States. Gap hasn't been a problem for us, but my friend is navigating a 20-year gap, and watching his patience get tested regularly is amusing 😄 because like you, he will never be able to say no to the cute little Filipina. I'm guilty of it, too. They're worth the challenges and then some! I'm hoping to live there if the world survives the next number of years. It's so hard to decouple from the west, but I feel the need to. Getting more dystopian. No happy faces like over there. Thanks for all the work sharing your life there. It's really inspiring. So there's my random garbled response back at you two. Not sure the relevance, but i relate, brother. 🤣
68 year old American living in Germany and Malaysia since 1991. My Filipina has been working overseas and out of the Philipines for the past 7 years! We met online 6 months ago and talk or video chat everyday. She‘s 30 and I’ve booked a trip where we will meet for the very first time in person in July. Chatting and video chatting is just an indication to me if I want to meet in person! I don’t do love over a chat or at first sight! I know we like each other, have similar values and goals and have strong feelings for each other. But until we meet, we just won’t know how far we are supposed to take this! We have talked about it and I have told her that no matter what, that we both have to be honest with our feelings and if it isn’t happening we have to tell each other the truth! I like her independence and the fact she left the Philipines to support her family and had sacrifice to build her family a house in the Provence! She is also supporting her nephew‘s education and left school early to do this! She also told me she doesn’t expect me to support her family and has never asked for a cent! The hardest part is that she is very shy and doesn’t speak much. But that is mostly due to the fact that she is not confident in her accent and English skills! So we are working on that! I’ve been married and divorced twice, both long term and have had two other long term committed relationships, with 4 kids, totaling 36 years of my life! I’ve also spent the last 7 years reflecting on my past relationships and have an idea of what I don’t want and a better understanding of what I do want! My past age gap relationships were between 1-11 years and did not factor into any of the breakups! I also enjoy learning about other cultures and sharing cultural differences! I want a relationship based on love, respect and connection and don’t believe in putting obstacles, such as age differences in the way! If it works and both are fulfilled why question it? My biggest failure in my previous relationships was that they were based on physical attraction first and me providing financial security second, which I mistook for love! My priorities were backwards! I really really enjoy watching your channel Tim and p.s. I used to live on 44th in Newport Beach and played hoops at the court on 46th street and the Laguna Beach tournaments!
Hey Tim, I’m actually very similar to your qualifiers. I’m American/ Baltic/ Scandinavian with the same gap with my Filipina girlfriend from the province. I honestly had nothing in common with US women my age that tend to be bitter and jaded and anti relationship. I have an amazing amount in common with my province girlfriend. We share values and even like the same music and movies once I introduce them to her. We can talk about anything. I plan to marry her. Age is not a big factor in compatibility compared to old fashioned values that we share. I think the real unicorn in relationships are those high school sweethearts that manage to grow together. They are very rare and lucky. But I think if you have old fashioned values it’s better to marry a wonderful keeper like your Chrissy and stay in her country than try to westernize her or find someone based on superficial criteria like age or to find someone that has all the same cultural references as you. It’s incredibly fun to introduce my girlfriend to a classic song or movie like Back to the Future or Raiders of the Lost Ark and vicariously enjoying it through her…
I am an American woman & I have to agree with you, old fashioned values are very hard to find here in the United States. There are always a few but by & large the absence of God in people's lives & many communities that don't even have a church anymore has removed biblical values from the younger generations lives. It sure does not seem to be changing. I think being a Christian & having biblical values added what is needed in a good union!
I'm 67, and almost all my relationships have had a considerable age gap. Now, here in the Philippines, the age gap tends towards 3 decades! And that can be with a mature 30ish woman! Of course, my use of the word "all" should clue you in to how successful these relationships have been! LOL ! Good, heartfelt video, Tim.
I'm really enjoying the intersectionality and diversity of the commentator's qualifiers!
hey Tim did you want people to send the numbers and information to whatsApp or is this an imposter
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Bahahahahahaha ffs love it very progressive as harold would say
Not a age Gap it's just American women are only raised to marry men with money foreign women are raised like that. Never marry a American woman!
@@Aaronthedegen haha 😂 that Ukranazi lover
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I'm a 77 yr old Caucasian man with a 35 yr old Filipina wife who has a 12 yr old daughter from a previous relationship. We concentrate on providing the needs of each other. Don't overthink this stuff. EVERY relationship is different and unique. Life happens so fast. Enjoy what you have, cherish the present, and be grateful that someone loves you.
Agreed
Dude is tripping!
So you're 42 years older than your wife ...you're old enough to be her Grandfather seriously she wouldn't marry you if you weren't a cash register thats the truth 🤷♀
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Black guy in L.A., was 44 and my Filipina wife was 22 when we married. 13 years later still doing well. Even after she moved to Southern California 9 years ago. I retired in Las Vegas and my wife works as a BSN-RN.. 11 year age gap was my biggest until my wife. Remakes of songs has been a learning lesson for her. Plus 1000 other things. I suggest to my 20 year old son, that he needs to get married now and stay together. Beginning to work on getting his passport. Hopefully he'll come to Mindanao one day to experience the friendly people. I've dated many many many women throughout the United States and Canada (some super fine and even models), but none compared to my loving Filipina.
@@dsrrellgriffith1161 Vegas is definitely a lot different than living in Southern California. Once you're outside of the strip it's more of a small town atmosphere. A little bit country. LoL. Depending on where you are now. I'm not sure if I would recommend moving here. It can get a little expensive. It was just a lot cheaper than living in Los Angeles.
I seen your Filipina in your videos your Filipina don't count look at his Filipina and then look at yours please don't post again 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
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Im a single 31 year old female from New Zealand. While I first found your age gap with Chrissy odd, at the end of the day you managed to find love at your age and I'm happy for you and the family you now have. I also thank you for being extremely honest about the challenges you face with that gap. You'll be surprised at how hard it has now become for young people like myself to find true love because social media standards have ruined and influenced people's expectations. It's really difficult but I still have hope for myself that I can find someone who loves me for me, just like how you found Chrissy. All the best guys xx
dude hes 35 not 80
@@unknownperson2973 lmao he is definitely NOT 35 lol
@@FlatulEssence New Zealand is definitely a place to settle, maybe not launch a big city career but good if ur raising kids
@@tls4022 how old is he? I’m 22
Same here in the US. As a 50yo man looking for a traditional relationship I have had younger women like way younger contact me explaining that they want love and can't find it due to the majority of youth going the hookup culture route. One girl was far too young for me I did give her what tips I could. But now she wants me even more because I won't date her. I really don't get it but she seems to believe we have something special together. I really am attracted to her I want to be with her long term but I feel like the age gap would be a killer in society plus I'm feeling guilty even talking with her. I wish more average women would just date average men like we did before the web. Now it's so damn complicated that we have the youth seeking out older men for true love. This maybe great for older men but not so great for the younger average man whom she was intended to be with. He will now struggle with why do average women not want me? I don't know if we will ever get back to reality but I pray we do!
I am 41 originally from Poland, I understand exactly where you are coming from, but I don't think this is all about the age gap. Filipino culture in itself is different from Western world, different priorities. And then there is this very personal development through family upbringing, surrounding, education, interests and so on.
Excellent assessment -- they are culturally different.
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you are lucky you are from poland so many buties there.....
Hey Tim, 66 year old geezer here who married a 36 year old Filipina beauty almost 4 months ago. [K1] Our age gap has not really been too much an issue, but the cultural gap has been the challenge in our relationship. We both embrace each others culture, but misunderstandings can arise when one of us sees an issue through the lenses of our own culture and the other sees it another way. Living together for the first time has been a learning experience in getting to really know each other, communication being the key. So grateful and happy I married my Filipina, she makes me a better person and I hope I do her.
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you cant bring her to america. have to keep her dependent on you financially
You are correct about the cultural differences. I'm 72 from the U.S. married to a 36-year-old with 2 teen daughters. I have learned from her and her daughters, and they have learned from me. I just roll with the flow and laugh my way through the relationship and Philippine processes, and so does she. I accept the cultural differences -- it is what it is. Life is great, and we are doing well here in the Philippines, and my wife and daughters are loving life.
@@JulieRamone-li3tware you in a relationship???
I am 55 and my Jen is 38. We have physically been together in Santa Rosa, Laguna since May 2013. We met online in Apr 2011 and talked for 2 years before I moved out here. I think the differences are more cultural than age-related and for me, the positives of those differences vastly outshine any negatives. My Jen was no shy flower when I met her but to me, it is obvious she has even more confidence since being with me. She works hard in Real Estate and I help in the background and we are thriving together. For a guy that lost/wasted 20 years of his life to mental illness being with Jen has been a second chance. I know I have someone that I will support in every way I can and I know she will always be there for me. To me, the only downside to the age gap is if I was nearer her age I would have a greater shot at even more years with her.
Mental illness is a good way of saying it. Any man married in USA to an American girl can probably claim mental illness.
Just 5% of American women are worthy of a decent man. Then of that 5%, you must find a reasonable match while limited by time, geography & resources AND she has 12 other guys also trying to win her attention + 8 really bad guys who might trick her. NOT GOOD ODDS!
I'm a 71 year old white American male. I was fortunate to have met the love of my life when I was 47. At that time, she was 35. She is one of the most hard working Filipina woman maybe in the world. She was in the process of getting a divorce from her 1st husband she met in the Philippines in 1988 and had 3 children with. We will celebrate our 20th anniversary this coming September. I hadn't had any lasting relationships that lasted more than a year. I regret not having children of my own but love my wife's as mine. It's been mostly a great 24 year relationship. By the way, we met on AOL.
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Ok but I thought you couldn't get divorced in the Philippines ?, how did she get the divorce ?
I remember a comment made on a much earlier video where a female commented that you picked Chrissy because she was young, unworldly and therefore easy for you to control. And through the following years i watch you teaching her how to become independent ect. Now the young woman that i see is very independent.......college, a mom and able to navigate the modern world so much better than i would be able to at my 65 years of experience. I see true love between the two of you and mutual respect.
Thanks Reid. I'm glad someone sees that.
Once a person get past 18, independency & maturity does not really increase by age anymore, really depends on the person. Lots of 35+ persons are still immature, super dependent &/or cant be relied on, and articulate stuffs on their mind very poorly.
Totally agree, if Tim wanted to keep her shelter, barefoot in the kitchen that totally could have happened, right!
I think Tim got incredibly lucky, but he also did and does the work behind that luck!
Remember luck is opportunity meeting preparation!
@@johnmichaelvito1730 I agree - but only to us men?
So he is raising her and sleeping with her. You don't see a problem?
I am 7 years your senior but I identify as 42. You have well reasoned points. I don't often "like" videos but this was an exception. There are different stages of life, or circumstances of life, where an age gap relationship is entirely reasonable! Personally, I can see myself in an age gap relationship in the future. But I have too much going on right now. Dad died 3 yrs ago. Brother died 2 yrs ago. I'm caregiver to my 89 yr old mom. Family has fallen to pieces. Other family has cancer. I've been diagnosed with a brain tumor (seemingly benign and easily operable as brain tumors go). 63 months to a pensioned retirement. BUT MY POINT... Life is uncertain. Circumstances vary but one cannot fault another for their reasons for being in an age gap relationship!
I'm a 64 year old guy, and after watching many vlogers from the Philippines and Thailand, I've decided to date a Philippina. When I originally went on the dating site, I was hoping to find a 40-something girl to be happy with, but to my surprise, almost all the attention comes from 20 something girls, lol. I agree that after talking to what seems to be 100s of them, province girls seem to be the best. Obviously, I'm looking at a 40-year age gap, but I've seen several happy relationships with the same age gap from there. So I'll be there in June to meet what I hope will be my next last relationship. If you're in Cebu in June, give me a shout-out, and I'll buy you a beer. Thanks again for the videos.
And what was the site ? I am 47 and have had enough of western relationships ....thanks in advance for reply
@M.O.T I signed up to Pinalove pay for the membership it will allow unlimited texting. Then move it to What's app and then video chats, but be very careful of scammers. My numbers are like 40%, lol. Good luck.
Yeah give me serious guy plz
As an afro-canadian guy who married a pinay I feel that the age gap is not very important as long as both parties are comfortavle with each other. Our age gap is 25 years and so far after 15 years of being happily married...I have no regrets. I applaud you for dealing with some sensitive topics in a very honest and straight forward manner without the benefit of a script...keep up the good work....I might not always comment, but I follow you religiously. I think that Chrissy in her own inexperience made a good choice with you .....well done Big Guy.
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MY RICH RUSSIAN SUGAR DADDY IS OVER 50 YRS OLDER THAN ME AS LONG AS HE GIVES ALL THE MONEY DIAMONDS PEARL'S GOLD & FURS & REAL ESTATE ALL IS FINE 🌹🌹🌹I'm not his only Sugar Baby but the most beautiful 😊
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Bro, I don't think it's an age gap issue so much as a language and cultural issue. I am married to a Filipina too staying in a beautiful beach community called Santiago, Ilocos Sur. Americans are so used to freedom and abundance. Relationships are hard in this cancel culture world. Where it seems integrity and humility are looked down upon. Praying for you and your family. My wife's US visa was finally granted. Now, I have been waiting over 2 weeks for an appointment for the CRBA interview. Then we are planning on moving back to the United States temporarily. Unfortunately, people choose worship family above God and it causes all kinds of evil. Prayers for you!
Hi Tim, stumbled upon you today and watched this with interest. I was in a 20 year age gap relationship 20 years ago............with a pinay. I was your age and she was your wifes age...........coincidently. It was a 2 year long-distance relationship at first and we chatted most days and sometimes literally for the whole day - it was effortless and it was wonderful. She was incredible..........from a good family, excellent English, smart, funny. I felt like I'd found someone special who could change my entire life. So - we eventually agreed to meet and I went to Philippines and we met. Things actually went "ok" but the age difference did become noticeable and gradually more so as the trip went on......to the point where I cut my trip short and went home. We stayed in touch after that and she accepted her behaviour wasn't ideal and she apologised. But for me it was over, I wasn't one for making rash decisions and I'd lived in SG for a year before that time anyway so I was acclimatised to S.E.Asia to a degree. She was great company and we still had a great laugh but the spark that existed for 2 yearsonline wasn't there in real life........I had broached the aged gap issue numerous times while we were getting to know each other and was met with "age isn't important" every time, to the point where she asked that we stop even talking about it. But...............my wise head suspected that it would be different in real life, and it was. My overall feeling was disappointment - disappointed with myself more than anything for not listening to my instinct, also disappointed at the expense I incurred, disappointed that I hadn't found the love of my life too. But I dont regret any of it. She was incredible and fun and smart..............she just wasn't ready to be with someone 20 years older than she was.
8 years later I moved to Thailand and I've been here almost 14 years and I am married - to a Thai. Its my first marriage and she is just 3 years younger than me and.......................I am tempted to trade her in for a younger model (joking). Things still aren't ideal if I'm being frank because of our different backgrounds and our life experiences. There are lots of expats here too who get caught up in a relationship with a younger woman and I dont have an issue with it at all, I'm quite sure some of them are happy. Whether it works or fails though pretty much rests on the expat adjusting to her culture and her way more than the other way around. We have that ability with our education and our emotional maturity. So if you can adjust and integrate then you'll be okay, if you can't then as the song says............there may be trouble ahead. Good luck, great video.
A well thought out & presented video. I have been married 22 years, we have a 14 year age gap. Yes we have different tastes in music, movies, etc. But rather than have a debate on what we watch together. It is simple enough for one us to watch other media. I can tell you it's a great experience travelling with your Filipina wife around the Philippine Islands. We've been here last four weeks and have had a great time.
Native American/German. 69 yrs old military traveled/Civilian traveled American. Married at 17 two years younger than her. Widowed at 41. Grew up in the 60s. Came back to the Philippines and had a 12 yr younger fiancé for 3 years. She passed away in a car accident. Came back to Illinois and after awhile became friends with a 17 year younger lady with a child. I find myself missing the Philippines very much. You make me smile and remember the good and the bad. I loved the Province life, fishing and snorkeling and traveling to all the different islands. I did not like the big city life. I would avoid it at all cost. I was never a big drinker so the nite life was not for me. I would have to say that most of my big problems were foreigners. I will always consider the Philippines my second home. God Bless you and yours Tim. I watched you evolve and was surprised to see you turn away from the initial shock. Proud of you bro. I remember my first year there. It closely relates to yours. God Bless the Philippines. 😊
I am a Filipina 35 years old and married my English man 48 y/o (11 years gap) For me Its about knowing the person before you decide to marry on how you can get along. And once you are married, you need to always commit to each other in always looking to improve to have a better version of yourself then embrace differences. Learn to compromise if its for the better. But you don’t have to understand her just love her.
Great video Tim! Many good points and well said! Figure out what you want in life, and go for it. The earlier the better. You can always reinvent yourself if need be, and make adjustments as you get older. I waited until I was 40s to find my wife. Wish I had acted sooner, but the right one came along when she did. I'm going to miss the chance of having kids, but at least I know I have a great partner/wife/best friend all rolled into one! And yes, she is a Filipina!
Hi Tim, I’m a 38 y/o American mom married to a 63 y/o American- he is controlling & abusive, trying to get out. I enjoy watching you & Chrissy. I hope to have fun like ya’ll soon. Blessings to you & your family. ❤
very sorry to hear that.
Hey Tim, this was a good vid. Yes I was married at 19 to a woman who was 29 a little reversal in age roles but still applies. After we were married we discovered a lot of differences even at only ten years, This did put a lot of strain on the marriage, but we worked through this. As the years past the age difference did not matter that much, the more time that past the less it mattered. This is something that is to be expected when you marry a younger or older person. Anyway I buried my last after 49 years of marriage. By that time we were not only husband and wife but best friends. So it can work if you give it time and patience. If the female is younger, she may still want to go out and party. Whereas the old boy would rather put his feet up and relax. Just an example for you. Thanks for the vid, keep up the good work.
As an older American that has been previously married to an American woman a few times, I was always with someone who was 4 years older to my wives. I am in an LDR, and she is 8 years younger than me, but we are now both over 60. She will be meeting me with her family at the airport in Dumaguete. I have had some pretty bad experiences in marriage, but I see the relationship between my Filipina and I will be great. I feel being a Vietnam era-cold war Veteran, I have been around a few cultures. I never wanted a younger Filipina, as many guys my age Gondor, and I am happy for them, in what they want. I am happy with my choice.😊
Great vid, Tim - I'm 61,single, retired in America but was stationed in the Philippines back in 85 and 86 at Clark, and have visited the PI several times since then. I think it takes the "take it easy" kind of guy to have a good relationship with a Pinay. Most Pinays are good women but they have the're typical traits and an older western guy just needs to be ok with that. Otherwise, it can be a clash and a challenging relationship. I'm a bit too independent and enjoy being single too much so for me, just a GF works. And I've evolved to think marriage may not be the best arrangement anymore, especially living in the PI. But I know that's just my opinion - many other guys seem to be happy, even with big age gaps. Keep rolling!
I am a 60 year old American, in a relationship with a 58 year age gap. My chihuahua named Moji is 2 years old. She is the only woman for me!
No Matter how much you love your dog, she will always love you more.
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Tim, I'm an American white guy. I dream about coming to Phil. Due to many circumstances, trying to get my gf to come to America. Seems it would have been easier to come there first, but that's what we are doing. I'm 58. She's 34. So far, age doesn't seem to be an issue. I can also say, in America the expectation is that you'd date someone close to your age. I see my friends who I grew up with dating or married to women that look like their mom. I'd never be attracted or desire a woman close to my age. I didn't seem to age, as many did, being 58. So, do I wait until I age enough to want those women or do I go for the women I want, which has always been age gap, rather than close range. I just can't force myself to want or desire a woman close to my age. You are so blessed my friend. Love your videos and possibly we'll meet someday
Are there any women close to your age who exercise and are fit etc? You can bring your gf to America but it is a bit of a risk
Tim, I used to watch your vlogs and when you met Chrissy I thought that she is a clever capable girl and wondered if she could ever knock some sense into you. She hasn't had your background from the states, and I see that as a good thing. Don't try to change her, she's perfect, change yourself, lose some weight (consuming sugar is your problem) feel better about yourself. If you stop cosuming sugar ( beer, sweets, pop, anything that has sugar or turns into sugar like starchy veg potatoes etc corn syrup) drink water or black coffee, nothing with sugar, the weight will fall of you, you'll get fit, and your whole attitude will change. You'll become a man. It's really easy, I was you ten years ago, it took 3months to lose 30kg of blubber. Good luck and take care.
Amazing comments
Very good health advice
Disagree. Sugar is life. Fats are the problem. The fat you eat is the fat you get.
You cannot be committed to forming a true relationship when your interactions are with a camera in the face. Few bloggers succeed in both relationship building and vlogging
@Phillip - u r right. @David - sorry, but you need to educate more.
My grandfather was 40 and married my grandmother, who was 19 years old at the time. This was in 1920, and everyone was happy about the situation. They lived a happy life for many years until December 7th 1941 it was announced the attack on Pearl Harbor. He passed away from a heart attack.
no disrespect intended, but on 19 yr old would be happy with a 40 yr old. In those days, poor women had little choice in matters. They had to grin and bare it. Same as Phillipines now
I had a 20y age gap relationship. We went through some of the same things but found a way to compliment our differences. I was able to provide depth and history to many cultural and political events. She was able to share the perspective of her generation and the rapid development of technology and how she saw modern relationships. As long as you can stay open and continue to share and grow together there will not be a problem.
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One of days I would love to have a channel like yours. Have a wonderful day my friends 😊
I was once married with a 7 year gap to a woman here in the US and I couldn't imagine a 20 year gap. I understand though because they're so physically beautiful and would blow my mind if I was over there. Just never give up and if ever you think about it just take a trip back to these states to see what you're missing. It will cure you for sure.
I am an American, 56 and my Filipina wife is 28. (28 year gap). Like you I found a wonderful girl in a province in Bohol. She is now here living with me in the U.S. after several years of getting her Visa approved. The thing I love about my wife is that she had very little of the pre-conceived ideas floating around westernized society and is very much a traditional family values type of person. She may be "simple" by some standards, but she is loving, smart, caring and fun. She loved her tik tok and online media a bit too much for my taste, but really we get along very well. I am very conservative values wise and I feel like she is learning and is respects my opinions on many things. I look at partially as an opportunity to show her the reality of things and offer her some experience and education.
I am so happy for you and your wife. Unfortunately for me, I am much older than you and have a 36- year age gap with my Filipina fiancée, but she is also like you said: simple, loving, caring, smart, fun, and respectful. She is 36, college degree, a Province girl, but her life has been very hard. She was married, her husband gave her two twin daughters, then he died, leaving her with nothing. I new she was in trouble. So I starting helping her long distance with no expectations of even seeing her. She was a really nice person, and I just wanted to help her. But romance started after time, and I moved to Cebu City where we live together and having a marriage soon. Good luck to both of you. I will be going to Bohol in July 2023 for a vacation at Henann Resort Alona Beach, Bohol. Good luck to you both.
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@@user-DrJoe-Future thanks for sharing what you've experience in the Phil. And to yor fiancee
I married a Filipina, and our age gap is 3 years only. I'm not keen marrying someone that could be my daughter. We have no issues about what goes on, as we both are of the same mindset. I find growing old together more important than anything.
I totally enjoy your RUclips !! Fan since 2019. I am from NorCal, surfed all over/ love Newport Surf & Sport! Mission Beach & Santa Cruz my former spots. Anyway, I am in Nevada to divorce Filipina in Nueva Ecija, Luzon. 3 1/2 years ago we separated I accepted early US Fed Govt retirement at 52 w/ 30 years career to be with now ex...3 years later = scamed out of $68K my 401K ! Found my Babe of 3 yrs ago in Subic Bay, Luzon, her family from Southern Leyte. You & family are Rad !!! I am 57 & she is 25 = Best relationship Ever & I had many. ❤
I am American Persian, married 3 times and few other relationships too. Don’t feel awkward with your age gap, I am 75, and my girlfriend is 27, almost 50 years age gap, everything good but as you mentioned there are challenges!
Great video Tim! I really like how you share your personal experiences. I am 70 and my wife is 76. Your words make a lot of sense. Thanks for sharing.
Hi Tim, i can identify with everything you have said here, however boring it was LoL. Mate, i'm an 82yo Infantry Veteran, NZ Army been there done that, just like you Tim. I had been married twice and divorced before, when i met my present Filipina wife over 26 years ago. We have been married 26 years and i wouldn't change her for any reason. She is my soul mate and i wish i had met her long before i did. Like you and Chrissy we have a 20 year age gap, but it doesn't mean a thing to us. She was 34 and i was 54 at the time we met here in New Zealand. Trust me, this relationship was life changing for me in a good way. I have no regrets and i know she loved me because i was not well off during that time. She taught me the true value of the dollar, which i certainly didn't know before i met her. We have a property in Cebu which we will be returning permanently to in the near future and we will see out our retirement years together there. Cheers Tim and Chrissy. Bless you both. Bob n Lina.
Hi Tim, I’m 55 and was married to a Vietnamese man for 35 years. He was 20 years my senior. I’m American, white. I was 18 when I met my husband. He passed away May 2021. He was the love of my life. My everything. I totally understand what you are sharing.
Thanks for sharing and I'm sorry you lost your husband. Your story gives me and many others hope. Take care and thanks for stopping by the channel :)
i lived in the Philippines for 2 years. I worked with young Filipino men and women.
Family is everything to Filipinos. Much of the culture and many decisions they make are viewed through the lens of family (i.e.: Is this good for my family? Family before self, they find their value more in the group they are a part of…family… friend group (Barkada) etc…(Collectivism I think it’s called…many Asian countries are similar in this regard) Westerners find their value in who they are as an individual.
Not all, or even most, by any means, but many Filipinos marry for money. In Western culture we marry for love, romance, compatibility, etc. Many Filipinos do as well… but some marry for money and stability. When a westerner marries a Filipino they hopefully know they are marrying the whole family (at least financially), because the Filipino will expect them to contribute to the whole extended family.
Anytime a Filipino marries someone that is from a group that’s considered of a greater ‘status’, it pulls them up in status as well. Many Filipinos think highly of Americans, and other groups as well. If they marry someone from one of these groups it pulls them up in “status” somehow. For example, I have a Filipino friend who married a Taiwanese girl. He was, in turn, thought of a greater status because of who he married.
Keep in mind, that when viewed through western culture it may look “off” or gross that these young girls marry old white men…And it may be… but I’ve met many that were truly happily married to these older men… Whether they learned to love them or truly loved them from the beginning I don’t know. In dealing with different cultures than our own we must always be careful not to pass judgement as well as look at it through that culture’s own lens.
(Any Filipinos out there, feel free to correct or clarify anything I’ve said here.)
Beautiful background of the ocean but you do make me dizzy pacing back and forth 😂 enjoy your talks, I’m always looking to learn 👍🏻
52 year old American in a relationship with a 25 year old Thai lady in Thailand. The age gap is honestly not a big problem. Cultural, language, and different financial up bringings are often more common areas of problems in our relationship. You never needed to learn to budget if you never had any money for example. You never learned how to board a plane if you could never afford to travel etc.
The more similar your backgrounds are the less areas there are for misunderstanding. Age is simply one area that lets your background be more similar (grew up watching the same television shows, similar music period etc).
You always hear the older person saying age gap is not a problem. I like to hear this from a young kid who is in a relationship with someone that's older than their own father.
@@westerlywinds5684 you will hear it all day from poor young filipinas. What the channels where they interview them lol
@@JulieRamone-li3tw It will never be a healthy, balanced relationship. I don’t believe that.
Everyone's individually different. With different needs, desires, etc.
As you mature, you are constantly moulded and remoulded.
Being happy takes effort. I don't take it for granted. I've got to work for it.
Hi Tim, I m 57 now and I meet my Filipino wife 20 years ago,I meet here in Europe ,my wife is 12 years younger than me, I have to say that the age gap was never one issue. We are having around the same interests , so yeah, we are happy together. I hope that you and Christy will be happy together. Greetings 🙏
After watching several videos, I can only say... I was hooked by your most recent videos. So I dug deeper. I liked your most recent, because all I want to do is investigate that much more I decided to start from the beginning. I decided to start watching your very first video, and going from that one to the next one and all the way up until I get to the point where I have watched all of your videos.
I’m a white old guy lol
You make good points. I just returned from Mindanao a few days ago . I married my Filipina and our age gap is 25 years but we see most everything eye to eye. I wait 2 years before I could get there so we talked and videoed constantly and I thank communication and honesty made the age difference seem less of a hindrance. Btw i can’t wait to get back home to the Philippines my new home!!!
hon, she has to see things eye to eye with you and be accommodating. she is dirt poor and needs you financially.
..hey Tim..yet another brilliant ..and thoughtful video..posted..while you are walking ..right along this beautiful beach..over there ..in paradise..
Tim, I'm an American.
My first marriage was a 4 year age gap with an American girl.. I was older. Lasted 5 years.
My 2nd was a filipina who was 10 years younger we divorced after 17 years, but separated after 14 years.
I moved to the Philippines and was in a relationship for 8 years with a filipina that was 25 years younger.
My 3rd and current marriage is to the loveliest lady I have ever met! (filipina) We have been together for 12 years and have never been as happy as now. She is 31 years younger than me. She is far more mature than her age. She is not subservient but rather an equal partner. I value her opinions as she does mine. We jointly make life decisions. We have an 11 year old daughter who is a great kid, smart, polite an is always on the high honor role!
People in our country disapprove of such large age gaps, but in the Philippines it is not uncommon.
Hope you and your lovely wife and son are well.
Doc
I'm a regular Army Veteran of 11 years, 2 tours, I have seen and experienced too much. When it comes to the military there is too much that happened I do not want to talk about. Some guys get the opportunity to serve their country, and it is boy scout camp. My experience was different. I struggle everyday to pretend I am a normal person. After all of the explosions and fire fights. I found your channel 2 months ago.
Stay busy
Find new hobbies travel on bicycles.
I seen riders pedaling with hands
as a Puerto rican from china who speaks french fluently, i disagree. i didn't watch the video and i disagree
My late husband was 18 years older, I’m 63.5 now he passed away 2019 but we were married 42 years had three kids one adopted. Lived in the US, in five different States for 16 years and 26 in the Philippines. The age gap wasn’t so bad we made it work, Russ went back to the USA to find a job and I worked out my visa followed him after two months, 1982 was my first year in America. Blessings to you and Crissy.
I am a 78 yr old white VN vet. Retired LC. PhD. Experimental psychologist , etc. I seek wisdom. I think your advice is good. But every life has a unique trajectory. Yours is entirely honorable. The most important thing is to be loving, courageous, and honest with honor. You seem to be those. Let Christi see the innermost you as she can handle it - your son, too.
Thank you for sharing and your honesty!
I'm 44 years older than my wife. My dad was 43 years older than my mom when I was born. I think the main problem with the age difference I experience is our difference in how we view technology. I think most of these gadgets are problematic. They interfere with human-to-human communication between couples. They cause more problems than they solve.
GOOD LORD
Twenty year age gap here Tim,no issues. It keeps life interesting,go with the flow it will keep you young! Province girl,simply the best!
“Prequalifiers” sounds like “pronouns” and “identifier’s”
Older in a married relationship 53/26 and we are very happy and compatible. There are a lot of comparable situations with our relationship and yours and Chrissy’s. We also have a child together, a little girl…
Yes there are times when I have to remind myself her inexperience needs a moment of explanation and patience. And she realizes I need her assistance with my short temper and frustration with things aka letting go of my western anger 😂. We work well together…
Hi Tim, always enjoy your videos because you have a relaxing calm cadence about the way you talk that allows new ideas to be absorbed. I'm a 59 year old American mixed race(Canadian/Portuguese). First marriage at 21was to a woman who is 18 years older than I am. It lasted six years and produced a son but she really showed her age in that she didn't want to go out anywhere or do anything.
My second marriage was to a woman two years my junior and that lasted twenty years without love or understanding of each other and much different interests and was a disaster. So now I have been looking in the Philippines because when I was 18, in the Navy, had a Philippine girlfriend and I really enjoyed the Philippines back then. This new journey that started before the pandemic, I posted on a Facebook Filipina dating page and got a thousand responses and over the course of the last four years whittled down to just one. I know that sounds ridiculous but I work for the Army the first year and the following two plus years was a covid pandemic that didn't allow for travel. Back in November I met three that I had been talking to and the one I connected with and fell in love with is 25 years my junior. So we've been talking for 4.5 years and she is 34, I'm 59, but she didn't really act like the typical younger woman, always self absorbed or surgically attached to her phone all day. It helps that I don't look (or act) my age. Most people think I'm in my forties which makes our physical appearance much closer in age than it really is. We are truly happy and planning our futures together when I fully retire. So with you and Chrissy I would hope that regardless of your age gap, you and Chrissy have things in common enough to have meaningful dialogue. Things that interest you that don't interest Chrissy mean that you might have to have friends to share those common interests but I don't see any kind of other issue here with you and her. I'm sure you both talk.
Tim I am American from Las Vegas. Enjoying your videos started your channel, while still in the States. This video was spot on!!! Enjoy watching your videos, good to see you are active again. Thanks
Great video. I identify as a 43 year old, straight, Caucasian, American male. So basically I’m the reason for all the problems in the world 😂
I am talking to a woman that is 20 years my junior in the Philippines. This video is a great resource for a topic that is difficult to bring up and research without being judged pretty heavily even when I flash my white privilege card.
Keep up the great work.
be careful where you get advice and declare what is your resource for “living”
I’m not sure why and how “skin color and age” are QUALIFIERS for speaking on ANY TOPIC…… life EXPERIENCE is what obviously gives you FIRST HAND KNOWLEDGE !!! I Pray that you have NOT wasted this young woman’s time and on top of that “giving” her a child to care for on her own !!!
You are never going to understand life from her perspective either and if you are so knowledgeable and SMART, what you are now speaking on should have been clear to you before you started “messing with Chrissy”…….
@@alveradavis9537 Well said. Qualifiers in this context is not even making sense. So when he first made that clear, I knew that this man is never going to understand anything. In one of his latest videos, he's back in California and broke. Without RUclips, he'll end up to be a burden in the society not understanding why and how.
Straight white male = devil 😂
That's racist!!!!
You're a very clever man and I really like these videos where you just give your perspectives and learnings throughout your life
I’m 17 years older than my girlfriend but it’s not really any age gap that makes it difficult at times… it’s more the cultural differences and her not so perfect English causes her difficulty in describing things coherently to me at times 😊
Make the effort to learn our language too.
I first started watching your channel with your latest videos because that is how most people are introduced to a new RUclips channel.
You should never expect your partner to be who you want them to be. Everyone is an individual & should be able to live a life of their own. If you can't accept them for who they are then you should not be with that person. That does not mean you don't care about the relationship or what happens to that person or how you treat that person. When you marry you commit to that person but you don't give your life up for that person, it works both ways. I am in a 15 year gap relationship. Left a 26 year relationship with an abusive narcissist 15 years ago, best thing I ever did. I am truly in love with an amazing person who I know God brought us together. He is a god fearly man who is just an amazing person!!
Love the bit where the ba-boy points back at you and squeals, 'Look at that !"
My age gap is 7-8 years. I would just say you always have to be open, forgiving, and adaptable. Being from different countries is already something you have to overcome or be adaptable about. I think age gap is a little less of an issue.
As an American white male who identifies as a black lesbian female I think that ...............
I'm a widower out about 9 years. My first wife was from Mexico and I was almost 3 years her junior. I remarried a widow with 2 boys 10 and 14 about 3 years ago. Our age gap is 18 years 7 months to the day. I notice the age gap often. I sometimes wished I had someone within 2 to 3 years of my birth year. I'm 59 and If I were to marry someone more than 25 years younger here in the states, it would feel completely wrong. In your situation being 42 and marrying a province girl from the Philippines, I'm sure that you are more likely to have cultural differences than age gap differences. My first wife was from Mexico and I enjoyed the cultural differences we have. My current wife is American. She is a picky eater. Has 2 closets of clothes with "Nothing good to wear". So I completely get why you married Chrissy. You are living the dream, but I also see some of your struggles. I served an LDS mission in the Philippines from 1982 to 1984 on Northern Luzon and get what you are going through. I have previously dated some Filipinas and understand their unique culture.
Been following Philippines vloggers for ages, you've cropped up many times, not always not always in the best light but watching your recent posts you really have matured into someone worth listening to. Respect to you.
Being an interacial person that's white from the waist up and black from the waist down age has certain factor but you have a small age gap 75 years ago that was very common. Any real man will say awesome unless they're with an aged women then they will lie and say that's terrible etc. I'll ask this bisexual girl I'm dating I know she's bisexual becasue every time I want sex she says bye. And regarding younger people they have so many issues nowdays many don't even know if they're a boy or a girl. 😂
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I’m a 61 year old widower from the USA. I’m engaged to a 45 yr old Filipina from the Province although she lived 10 years in Manila. She is never married and no children. I’ve been to the Philippines 4 times with her while we’re waiting for her K1 visa. I would have preferred a 10 year age gap but she was so perfect in every other way. She is completely fine with my age. Hopefully we’ll have a long happy life together God willing. We each can’t imagine life without each other.
Omg!! You guys have split up!!! I knew you were a jerk!!
Now I’ll watch the video.🤣😂🤣😂🤣
64 yr old Canadian.. my Filipina wife is 32 yrs old.. 32 year age gap.. we have been together 8 years, married 6 yrs.. we spend our time between Canada and the Philippines.. she is my best friend and partner.. we are having our first child this year.. I have never been happier at any time in my life.. she had been working in Hongkong for 8 years as an end of life care giver when we first met there and have been together ever since.. age gap has no relevance.. it is the respect, faith and love for one another that makes it work..
does she have canadian citizenship?
As an American in USA, my wife is from china and is 5 years older than me with a son. I have ex gfs. They weren’t good. My wife is amazing. Age gap is fine but yes there are issues of course. I guess it depends on how both people in the relationship feel about each other.
I am a mentally unstable mancunian and I am in an age gap marriage! I am six days older than my parter and sometimes their immaturity is taxing!
I am 77, been married to a 34 yr old Filipina for 6 years in Canada. We have a wonderful marriage.
Won’t be with you much longer haha she’s waiting for that 💰
@@jumpy2xstreaming so you felt you had to say that ? happy retired is way happier than you. enjoy your hag you probably have
@@conquer228 haha your talking to an 18 year old who’s single and has more life to live than all of you shut up pal
I'm native American here in the usa🇺🇸
Qualifier: As an avid Tim K subscriber and supporter I get you brother…thanks for continuing to share your experiences.
I am a white 76 year old guy, retired 23 year nam vet married to white gal (20 years), who passed away. married Korean gal, spoke little English, I spoke little Korean, so was a real culture and comunication struggle, but great relationship of 12 years, she passed away from accident. Then the 28 year old Filipina who contacted me to see if I was interested in her, heck no too young! I went to Lety to meet her. stayed in the Philippines for half year, had a great time learning the wacky ways of the culture. 36 year age difference, that is a lot. Like being grandfather, husband, and special friend. Angie and I have been married just over great ten years. Best relationship ! Otto from Gulf of Mexico, Florida, USA
From Russian Subscriber Seems all your chics die! Scary like the Lunatic Hitler all his chics killed themselves! Just get a pet cat or a dog! Seems like your bad karma for any woman. Yuliya
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I am filipino, you are safe with a filipina, especially from the province.
As a man that is with a Chinese woman thats only been in america for 5 years now, our age gap is 3 years I'm 37 she's 34, I believe you in everything you said, we produced a beautiful 3 yr old daughter , your insight is on point and we love all the advice you always give , thanks brother, hope you get to visit America soon and show Chrissy some cool things here, if ever in Texas let me know , we could all go out for some Texas BBQ
My wife as I put in my comment is also Chinese. She’s from guangzho? I think that’s the spelling.
She has a son from her 1st marriage.
Also, she was here in USA on a visa while I’m born here…. Unless anyone asks my older sister because according to my sister, I’m an alien from space….
Be careful with bringing ur girl to US and influenced her with that feminist sht..unless that's what u want
bro who the hell cares about a 3 years age Gap nobody's going to talk about that that's completely irrelevant to this video with this man it's a big age Gap not a 3 year age Gap
I am white guy and married my wife, she was 19 and I was 24 years old. we had two daughters and my wife passed away at age 47 I was 52 years old. We would be married today and happy if she lived. Now I am in a LDR with a 35 year old Philippine woman and I hope to move over there at the end of summer. All relationships require work and you have a son to love too.
for my own opinion, age doesn't matter when it comes to love as long as the consequences can be accepted when the days change mentally, emotionally, and physically, but because it is probably common for the minor to marry someone older age especially with the capacity to lift the family out of poverty. So let's just embrace being married at an age rather than living a difficult life, anyways I saw in your previous vlogs that you are happy with your life here with Crisy and your kiddos. Stay happily married and God bless.
I am an RN Filipina US citizen , I was 4 years younger than my husband , I thought that was great , we my husband retired approx. 10 years b4 I did , he went home and bought a cable company that was kind of successful except for mismanagement , at the same time a resort house was under construction so I help a lot with the cable company expenses , I was working a lot of OT to keep up all our expenditures , after our daughter graduated in nursing here in USA private school she got married and I joined my husband in Philippines , found out she has many young mistresses one after another , so I came back here in USA and living wt my daughter and her family …..❤and prayers from California
Without money most Filipinas will prefer a male their age range.
I am commenting as a Filipina wife of a 64-year-old disabled English Man, and we have a 10 years gap, and I don't feel any difference, what a wonderful place you got there. sub and llike
I’m 55 and my PH GF of 8 years is now 31. I can relate to much you spoke about. Especially watching movies. I might put on a classic like Shawshank, Good Will Hunting, Goodfellas, or any Quentin movie and she just can’t relate. I grew up in the late 80’s and 90’s and worked on Wall Street most of my career and was on the trading desk 9/11 when the world changed for all of us. Someone in their 20’s or 30’s over here in the Phils just will never be able to relate to that. That said change is constant and a new relationship at any age will face challenges. I personally think if you are younger than her parents it’s not that big a gap but that’s just me. Congrats on a wonderful relationship that works for you and beautiful child !
It is more than age gap. It is culture gap. It is financial gap. It is language gap. It is gender gap. It is legal gap. It is 'as gap' as it gets. It is real love, where you have to give more than receive. It was your decision and your responsibility Tim, and mine too. It gave me a purpose, and especially when I needed one.
You are dead on target with the Gap assessment. I live in Cebu City with my Fiancée and soon to be wife. She is from Mindanao. We have a 36-year gap. I guess I am lucky, I give a lot, but I also receive a lot from her. That's new! I took on her and her two beautiful twin daughters, and care for them too - put them in an Private International School. We have many things in common and like similar activities.
Have you heard of karma? It bites hard in the ass, specially when your twin stepdaughter end up marrying a man old enough to be her dad/grandfather lol ..
@@Iamflying123 what's the issue with that?
I don't care who they marry or what their age is as long as they love and care for one another.
@@Iamflying123 i would do it for my kids. A woman will do literally anything for her kids' future. No matter what I had to sacrifice or, even, who i had to sleep with...if they did not have proper food, shelter, and a shot at a better future.
As a 60 yo Caucasian, my wife and I were born two weeks apart, grew up together, been married 35 years last week. 😁
Can we get back to travel videos..
I like all you say. My girl is 56 and I am 58 but I agree with all you have spoken. Sending love and prayers to your family.
LOL! Tim... keep it up brother 😅
Mark Twain wrote: "Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.”
As a 72-year-old twice divorced and three times retired American White male from the Northeast, 43-years working in the Army, Air Force, and DoD, and lived in half the states of the USA, I gave up on American women and moved to the Philippines. I now live in Cebu with my Fiancée and her two daughters, and we have a 36-year age gap. She is 36. We like similar food, same music, and same movies and activities. The daughters are great and we get along well. It's all in the head -- in my mind I feel in my 20s or 30s. So we are a good match, and she says I look in my 50s because I take good care of myself. So it can work. True what you say, I lived in the 1950s, 60s, 70s, and 80s, and felt much more freedom from repressive governments and society. After 9-11, the U.S. changed even more for the worse. I felt like I was getting some of that freedom back when Trump was elected, only to have all his good policies reversed with a new election. Now I am in the US visiting, and what a bad difference. When I left, gas was $1.98 to $2.25 a gallon under Trump, we were a world exporter of oil and gas, now its $3.50 to $4.00 a gallon. I just went to the food market, and there appears to be a national egg shortage??? Inflation is crazy, in Virginia I ordered a McDonald's Egg McMuffin meal and small orange juice for $10.00. I used to buy jeans at Target for $19 a year ago, now they are $32.00. ETC.
As soon as you brought up Trump being your hero, I just about puked! Bloody criminal!
@@TheWayner987 Let's tell the truth. I never said Trump was my hero. You did. Most Americans have no idea what Trump did in his term of office because the Media refused to report it, so they have no knowledge foundation to say anything about Trump. I worked 43-years in the Federal Government for a number of Presidents starting with Jimmy Carter and ending with Joe Biden, working for the military, Department of Defense, and The White House, and taught at top Universities on U.S. Government policies and National Security Affairs. I've also been trained in operational and strategic intelligence assessments. We are trained to look at actual policies, not people. We don't care who the President is. Despite Trumps twitter and mouth problems that sometimes undermined his own policies because they were normally the only news the Media reported, I know what Trump did, and I focus on what any President's actual government policies and actions are. Trump did more for the Black Community in America than any Democrat or Republican President over the past 80 years. But he received no credit. The media didn't report it, because they did not want him reelected. They would not report any positive actions he did, only attack him 24/7 for 4 years, treatment no other President has received. It was a miracle he could do anything. He kept Putin from invading Ukraine, and I knew and reported that Russia would invade Ukraine if Trump was replaced by President Biden, which Russia did. That is because I know the Russians. I have been studying Ukraine and Russia for the Government since the early 1990s when I was an advisor to the Pentagon. Trump patched up foreign relations with many countries that President Obama destroyed. That's a fact. But some Presidents have the luxury of hiding their failures behind the national news media. He made the U.S. a world leader in oil and gas, something we have been trying to do since the 1970s. Despite President Obama's declaration that is was "impossible" to bring back small business in America, you would "need a magic wand" he said, Trump rebuilt small businesses in America, and brought back many major corporations overseas to the United States creating more jobs. Trump had hundreds of his successes hidden from the public. It is very easy to criticize any President when you are not doing their job and carrying their huge responsibilities, or being lied to by a corrupt news media. In fact, in 1994, I finished my Ph.D. Dissertation on the American News Media, and I know what they do. I have monitoring them since the 1950s.
Hi Tim. Any problems finding clothes that fit there? I am also a big guy 6-4 230. Thanks. Enjoying your videos
Age is just a number in my opinion. My wife and I have a age gap of 27 Years, 10 Months and 6 days. I am an American from Western New York and have lived in the Philippines for almost 14 years. We have been married over 8 years and together almost 10 years. This is both of ours first and only marriage's. I married her when I was 49 years old. I dated dozens of American girls and dozens of Filipino girls over the years and finally found the right one to marry. My wife was and still is a province girl but we have taken a few trips out of the country and she is learning more and more every day. Where we live in the Philippines is about as remote as you can get. Our island is 10.6 kilometres (6.59 mi) long and 3.7 kilometres (2.30 mi) wide with a population of around 12,000 people with 6 full time foreigner's living here. We have 1 gas station and a few local so called restaurants. Everything comes here by boat. It is extremely safe, no bars on the windows, can leave doors unlocked, zero issues. It is a easy Island life.
Age is just a number, very true! My girl is 35 yo younger than me and accepting her into my life was the best decision I´ve ever made
@@halfsquaredoubleinverse4014 My body thick's it is 40 years old yet in reality I am 76. The only health related issue I ever had was my 2019 open heart surgery where I replaced my aortic valve that had become calcified and word not open or close properly. I now have a cow's valve in there but haven't mooed too much.
Very mindful thoughts!
Thank you...
Always be nice to Krissy Tim, 20 years from now she will be choosing which Home for the aged to send you.
I'm a 67 y.o Brit living in Mindanao with a 43 y.o Filipina wife. We've been married 9 year's and we don't even notice our age gap of 24 years. Early days were rocky but we have grown together and now have a loving relationship.
I was a widower when we married which is vastly different to being a divorcee. Divorcees are less likely to still have fond feelings for their past wife. This can be an issue and I had to learn to 'let go' of my deceased wife.
This was what made the early years with my Beautiful Filipina difficult.
God Bless you.
I'm 45, and my Mindanao province girl just turned 38. Been together since 2016 here in the States. Gap hasn't been a problem for us, but my friend is navigating a 20-year gap, and watching his patience get tested regularly is amusing 😄 because like you, he will never be able to say no to the cute little Filipina. I'm guilty of it, too. They're worth the challenges and then some! I'm hoping to live there if the world survives the next number of years. It's so hard to decouple from the west, but I feel the need to. Getting more dystopian. No happy faces like over there. Thanks for all the work sharing your life there. It's really inspiring. So there's my random garbled response back at you two. Not sure the relevance, but i relate, brother. 🤣
68 year old American living in Germany and Malaysia since 1991.
My Filipina has been working overseas and out of the Philipines for the past 7 years!
We met online 6 months ago and talk or video chat everyday. She‘s 30 and I’ve booked a trip where we will meet for the very first time in person in July.
Chatting and video chatting is just an indication to me if I want to meet in person! I don’t do love over a chat or at first sight!
I know we like each other, have similar values and goals and have strong feelings for each other. But until we meet, we just won’t know how far we are supposed to take this!
We have talked about it and I have told her that no matter what, that we both have to be honest with our feelings and if it isn’t happening we have to tell each other the truth!
I like her independence and the fact she left the Philipines to support her family and had sacrifice to build her family a house in the Provence! She is also supporting her nephew‘s education and left school early to do this!
She also told me she doesn’t expect me to support her family and has never asked for a cent!
The hardest part is that she is very shy and doesn’t speak much. But that is mostly due to the fact that she is not confident in her accent and English skills! So we are working on that!
I’ve been married and divorced twice, both long term and have had two other long term committed relationships, with 4 kids, totaling 36 years of my life!
I’ve also spent the last 7 years reflecting on my past relationships and have an idea of what I don’t want and a better understanding of what I do want!
My past age gap relationships were between 1-11 years and did not factor into any of the breakups! I also enjoy learning about other cultures and sharing cultural differences!
I want a relationship based on love, respect and connection and don’t believe in putting obstacles, such as age differences in the way! If it works and both are fulfilled why question it?
My biggest failure in my previous relationships was that they were based on physical attraction first and me providing financial security second, which I mistook for love!
My priorities were backwards!
I really really enjoy watching your channel Tim and p.s. I used to live on 44th in Newport Beach and played hoops at the court on 46th street and the Laguna Beach tournaments!
Hey Tim, I’m actually very similar to your qualifiers. I’m American/ Baltic/ Scandinavian with the same gap with my Filipina girlfriend from the province.
I honestly had nothing in common with US women my age that tend to be bitter and jaded and anti relationship. I have an amazing amount in common with my province girlfriend. We share values and even like the same music and movies once I introduce them to her. We can talk about anything.
I plan to marry her. Age is not a big factor in compatibility compared to old fashioned values that we share. I think the real unicorn in relationships are those high school sweethearts that manage to grow together. They are very rare and lucky. But I think if you have old fashioned values it’s better to marry a wonderful keeper like your Chrissy and stay in her country than try to westernize her or find someone based on superficial criteria like age or to find someone that has all the same cultural references as you. It’s incredibly fun to introduce my girlfriend to a classic song or movie like Back to the Future or Raiders of the Lost Ark and vicariously enjoying it through her…
I am an American woman & I have to agree with you, old fashioned values are very hard to find here in the United States. There are always a few but by & large the absence of God in people's lives & many communities that don't even have a church anymore has removed biblical values from the younger generations lives. It sure does not seem to be changing. I think being a Christian & having biblical values added what is needed in a good union!
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I'm 67, and almost all my relationships have had a considerable age gap. Now, here in the Philippines, the age gap tends towards 3 decades! And that can be with a mature 30ish woman! Of course, my use of the word "all" should clue you in to how successful these relationships have been! LOL ! Good, heartfelt video, Tim.
Have to go for four decades, then
When your father in law is younger then your youngest brother.
@@westerlywinds5684 And your youngest son, lol
@@Michael_Arnold Yeah, the idea is to grow old together. Not one 3 decades later.