How I learned to love again after my fiancé passed away | How I met my husband
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I love how Brandon understands that the love she has for her first love takes absolutely nothing away from the love she has for him. He created space for him to exist in this moment knowing it doesn’t define their love.
Sure👍👍
Amen
Truly truly such a beautiful partnership
Absolutely agree. I would hope she would do the same if roles were reversed.
thank you
100% agree👍🏻
Brandon is really emotionally intelligent, mature, and a supportive partner.
Emotional Maturity is huge. Thank you both for posting this video and supporting each other
Was just about to say this. It is beautiful to see and I'm very happy for them both.
its surprising but awesome
100% He's an awesome cool dude.
You are right about Brandon being emotionally intelligent and I bet that his attachment style is Secure. It’s hard not to make relationships about yourself and be able to be so compassionate. I am inspired by you Brandon!
I was 22 yrs old also. May 25, 1996 when me and my fiance, Sheldon got into a terrible car accident. I survived it and he passed. He just proposed to me May 18th. I worked at a bank also. All my friends in SC were getting married and having kids too. I understand how you feel. It wasn't easy. God's grace brought me through it all
so glad you are doing better, yes only God can bring you through something like that.
My condolences. I'm sorry you went through that. God calls his angels home, when he's ready. He knows when from the time we are thought of, bc he makes a plan for us. I lost my daddy in 2015, and I'm still not the same. I just wanted to say, " I'm sorry and you're in my thoughts and prayers."
@@amandaburkhalter36 Amanda and Laura, you both are so strong. Sorry for the losses of such significant people in your lives. I'll whisper a prayer tonight for you two 💜
Am so sorry for your loss, praise God for seeing you through. Its been 3yrs since i lost my husband and father to our babies but God has been so faithful.
Same thing happened to me I finally met a guy who treated me so good & vice versa, we got along together just like two peas n one pod. Talk about true love. He left one day to go take care of some business in Montana got into a train
wreck and passed. I was so overwrought
with grief for such a long time. Unfortunately christ has never brought me another man like my Robert, I miss him everyday of my life & would give just about anything if he was still here on earth with me. So Destene you're really blessed to have a sweet guy like Brandon
2 share your life with, some of us out here who've had real love in our life aren't
so lucky or blessed 2 find it a second time around. STAY BLESSED N LOVE W/
ONE ANOTHER FOREVER💜👑💛💜👑💛💜👑💛💜👑💛💜👑💛💜👑💛
Had to watch this again. This is awesome. He took her to church. Jesus, that was healing. Beautiful.
My daughter just buried her fiancé. I pray she finds a nice guy like Brandon that makes her smile like you.
Praying in JESUS NAME. AMEN
She will in Jesus name 🙏 amen
Father God cover her in your superior blood.
She will, In Jesus name
She will with God's grace
I love your husband's maturity, he is definitely the One God chose for you.
Amen!! Yes indeed!!
@SiArra Williams how?
@SiArra Williams girl whaaat tf is you talking about.
My boyfriend passed away 2 years ago from a terrible car accident and then we were expecting a baby boy but his death put me in a huge depression stage and I had miscarriage. It was a terrible time for me but by God’s grace I made it through everything and I met an amazing guy. I really needed to hear this. Thank you!
The lord is with you. I pray the lord continues to give you comfort and peace as you heal ❤❤❤
Praise the Lord, that's amazing sister! ❤ much love
Your first date you invited her to church that was beautiful! Yes He is a healer. This is so beautiful and I thank God for bringing you through. Your husband is an absolute blessing, when he said I'm here, you can do this. I know every word he said came from his heart, it was with so much love and passion for his wife. And I know your testimony will help others one way or another even if it's to let others see God in both of your lives.
We all need a Brandon in our lives. HE is so supportive.!
"You can not be selfish enough to not let somebody express their past."
That is beautiful.
That it growth.
That is maturity.
I think Brandon was brought to you when you had become your best self again. It wouldn’t have worked anytime before. ♥️ Thank you for opening up and sharing your past with us.
Even though he's passed away, it amazes me,how mature of a man Brandon is, to let her sit right beside him and tell such a touching story of her pass and still support her.. no jealousy,hate, envy.. all love 🥰🥰.. I wish you all the best
Your husband is a standard for all husbands or husband to be. May God bless you two!
Each man is different.
Your hubby is so supportive and emotionally intelligent... What a BLESSING.
I was 23 hun. It was terrible! We had a 5 month old at the time. I spent 10 years grieving. I am so happy you found happiness again! Brandon is amazingly supportive too, God bless him!
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If you don't mind me asking, were you able to find happiness again? I hope the answer is yes! 😊
@@loriking7165 Actually yes. It took me 12 years to find it, but I finally have. Thank you so much Lori and God bless. ❤️
@@catherinerivers7883 you are so inspiring & strong 💗 I'm so happy you were able to find happiness again after such awful tragedy. It is so so difficult to do
Wow Katherine! I lost my love @ 36 w a 5 month old baby as well.
Grieved for 8 yrs b4 I went on a date again.
Never found another.
2 good guys in a lifetime is remarkable. So sorry what had happened, so happy to know you’re being supported by husband and others.
I can't believe men like Brandon exist, he's a keeper Brandon big up to you you're amazing true gentleman we need men like this in numbers Yall
I know right. Extremely hard to find a man like this. Handsome, funny and caring. I’m happy God blessed her with him and vice versa.
Makes it a little rough with so called modern woman keeping great fellas at bay I know there’s great females out there
"We all have a past".... what an extremely mature and emotionally balanced person he is, to not be jealous and to accept his partners pain and past if that is what she needs to heal
I swear me too. Finding a dedicated, gorgeous, intelligent, loyal, creative girls like Destine is somehow not that rare. But men like Brandon? Damn I don't think I even know any in my direct environment
Brandon do you have a brother? Over 50??
My husband passed away in an motorcycle accident too when we were 25 y/o. My son was 19 months old. I can really relate to your story. I was very depressed for a long time too. I never married again. You’re very lucky to have found your husband! ❤️
🙏you’ll find love again
God... found Him, for Her.
My extended CONDOLENCES to you, as well. I'm a Widow as well... blessings, continually. Amen
Im Sorry, I hope you find love again 💜💙🙏
@@jadelajewell ààa
You will find love again. 🙏🏾
Thank you, Brandon, for encouraging your wifey to do this to help someone else. It takes a strong mate to be able to do this
Brandon = Secure Man
Destene = Blessed Woman
Them = Depiction of a Beautiful Relationship
Thank you for sharing ❤❤❤
My husband passed away last year, he was 26, I was 27. I’ve been in therapy heavy. I hope I find true love again. I needed this. Thank you.
i came across your touching comment in the death of love ones post here on you tube. Well am really sorry about that okay 😒☹️and I know how it feels to be lonely without our love ones, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life must move on because death is inevitable no matter how hard we try! And we'll all have to face it someday..
I’m so very sorry for your lost I’m praying for you ❤️
@tiara Monet be encouraged! God heals all pains. I can’t imagine the depth of your pain to loose someone you thought you’d share forever but always remember his memories and all the things just you and him shared will live on with you as a way to keep him alive. If that makes sense! Prayer changes any situation. Give it a try🙏🏽
So sorry dear, but healing and comfort is on its way to you thats for sure.
God take a note 📝
I was 14 tears old when my boyfriend was killed by a drunk driver. Literally, we stayed up all night on the phone until we would fall asleep. Still to this day, and I am 49 years old, I still think about him. My middle daughter was born on his birthday.
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16 when mine was killed shot in the back several times on New Year's Eve/New Year
“I lost so many friends a long the way..” 👏🏻
When my mom passed away, it was when I truly found out who my real friends were. People just don’t know how to deal with death, until it happens close to them.
Thank you for sharing this ❤️
This is so true. People honestly don't know how to deal with death 🥰
Real situations show you who your real friends are
I know honey my apologies my mom also dead last year but the pain is still there
@@mobolajioluwole4746 True 😭😭😭😭
Same here. I agree. When my mom passed none of my friends were around. One sent a flower arrangement but no one showed up to her home where I was for a whole week. Literally stayed 10 minutes away from my mom smh
Brandon, you're a unique star, the few gems still left on this earth.
Destene, you are so highly favoured.
Bless the Lord for this couple. You're an inspiration to thousands.
When my ex died from covid my husband was the one who broke the news to me and I broke down in tears,my husband cried with me.It showed me a different side of him.❤
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@@mslondonlove1435 ❣
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Pure blk love.
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I was nervous about Brandon being there but he demonstrated the highest level of maturity. Thank you both for being vulnerable and transparent which is difficult. ❤
People need to understand that the past is past and it's the present and future that really matters. If a partner can't accept this they are not for you.
@@misselle1430 I would word this different. I understand what you mean, but the past develops who we become as long as we pay attention to the "lesson" learned maturity instead of being a victim. Thank you Soo much for sharing your story, you two are a well matched couple. Stay safe and blessed.
Facts!!!
@@telisah9611 American men who are mature are RARE. I find men here to be excessively self centered and reactive. This husband is a gem who understands his wife. Love is understanding. It’s quite beautiful.
@@rainforestsanctuary-sounds6489 vice versa. Goes both ways. Especially city girls.
You helped this middle age lady. I lost my husband Jan 24, 2022. We were together over 37 years married 31. This is one of the hardest deaths to happen in my life. Your testimony will help so many people. I'm struggling through loosing him and I sometimes feel stuck knowing God is with me through it all. I have hope that I can and will laugh and maybe even love again. Girl that's a book. Love you guys🙏🏽💖
@Tracy Murry, I'm sorry sorry for your loss. Praise the Lord for the time you had together. Praying for you. Thank you for sharing your story too. And hoping has it's place and so does memories. Don't rush the process of both. God bless .
So sad for your loss, I can’t even imagine. Being married that long I imagine it’s like losing a limb. But God is good and he’ll heal you❤
Tracy I am so sorry for your devastating loss. I pray you heal as well as possible. May God comfort you. 💖
I'm so sorry for your loss I pray God bless you with another husband soon! God bless you!
Actually may God bless you all who have loss spouses or significant others.
Your husband is wonderful, you guys are a blessing for each other. I can see you being married forever! God bless you guys.☺️
The fact that Brandon understands her pain and is sitting by her side to help her through talking about it. You guys are a beautiful couple! May God continue to bless you all!
💓 My daughter lost her husband when she was 22, he was in the Marines, but he left us with a beautiful seedling, my grandson is a spitting image of him
Praise God that is so awesome thank you Jesus I'm sorry for your loss but I'm so glad God blessed her with a son that looks just like him just he trusting God he will take the sting out of it and he will not put too much on you that you can't bear amen 🤗🙏❤️
My 1st husband past away just one year before your first love , and we also were together since I was 14, we met really young and he was diagnosed with cancer just before our wedding, we were able to celebrate 1 year of marriage and 23 days after he passed away. I know your pain and what you felt.
7 years later I also found love again and God is always at the Center of our relationship.
I wish you a life full of happiness 😘
What a wonderful, mature, and completely whole man Brandon is. Once we understand our place in people's lives, there's nothing to fear or be jealous of.
God put this in front of my eyes intentionally. My fiancé passed 2 weeks ago. Thank you for your transparency, courage, and bravery. God bless you both!
Praying for you
So sorry dear
Blessings to you I pray for you and the healing of your heart
May God comfort you, dear!
God strengthen you and uphold you. It is well with you ijmn.
Brandon is a beautiful soul, we need men like you in our community. God bless you both
Wow that's a man right there able to listen to his wife speak about her first love after deceased 😩
Hi there, I am a 72 year old great grandmother and I have been following you guys for several month now, on RUclips and TicTic. You guys are awesome and I love your skits. It is wonderful to see Black Love in full bloom. Thank you for sharing such a personal part of your life, it really touch my heart. Brandon is a one of a kind sweetheart. Thank you 😊😊
This is deep. Your husband seems like a really good dude. Bless both of you.
He really is. For anyone to think that you should be over your previous mate especially if they died so tragically like hers did, would be like saying you should be over your mother or your father dying. It's apparent that this young man was in her life and they were about to marry and then suddenly she loses him. That happened to me and then I met someone who also had lost their wife of 21 years and we've been together for 8 years now.
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"You never know what someone went through to get to where they're at." -Destene
I love this and I love this video.
Thanks Honey for telling your story. I was 22 as well when my fiancé passed in a car crash. I’m 41yrs now and your right it’s hard to tell out loud. I’m so proud of you. An Brandon to see your emotional support is beautiful.
It takes someone special, loving, caring, and strong to support you through that. Kudos to you Brandon. I am glad you two met
As a therapist I can honestly say most can’t handle or understand grief. No counseling is better than bad counseling. I’m very proud of you. You two are my favorite tik tok couple
Agreed! I had terrible therapy that turns out has left me scarred and extremely leery.
Definitely understand this. Lost my spouse in 2012.. I was 29.... We were only married 3 years 😔. Got remarried and was a complete disaster. Now going through the healing phase again and therapy... I know God will restore and bring the right person in due season.
I suffer from 2017 after I Lost my brother just suddenly like that. So it takes me to believe or accept that he is not here anymore but after that 6month just something happens at work it just terrible afraid scared to comunicati with some one just esolatted from any one..... From that day I'm not the same person and now from September I lost my confidence job no one around just hate myself been in hospital the say it majority depression it come and go when any think it happened let me scare myself just indoors never go out nothing in this life let me
"No counseling is better than bad counseling." Ameeeennnnn
@@astermartinazzo4309 💛💛💛.
Giving someone the space and time to heal is an element of unconditional love.
My fiancé Brandon passed 12/6 in 2010 & it was a similar situation of him coming to see me and I got his last text 6:58 & he was pronounced dead at 7:02pm…
I definitely understand that pain & I’m so grateful to see what life has brought you to because life DOES in fact go on but now you’re in a beautiful place. That’s God! 💛
12/10/22. I lost my fiance. Together for 12 years. Moved to a new home, new life at 58..brain aneurysm for 2 minutes. We just kissed. When i heard your story, I always thought how hard it must have been. And now I'm so lost. Thank you both for bringing love and joy to us. May God bless you both.
I’m sorry for your loss I too lost my fiancé 12/30/22 to a car accident ❤ 😢 my prayers are with you I understand how you feel
As a therapist I can say that 3 years is the appropriate amount of time to grieve. Your support system was key! You are blessed to have had these factors in your life at that time! You were also wise to open up to a new relationship. Brandon seems to be a blessing as and so are you!
Destene was young and in love with Christian that passed away but with maturity and understanding she found genuine love with Brandon, who is unselfish and real ! I wish them happy life onward! Love can get better with treatment and understanding.
i know you mean well, but there is no "appropriate" amount of time to grieve. everyone is different and not everyone has the same social support or other factors in their life. many people can grieve for years and are given a hard time for it by the people around them. some people get over grief very quickly like I did, and that's okay too. there's no formula for grief.
@@wge621 I was going to say the same thing. Giving a specific time frame puts people in a box that says it shouldn't take longer or shorter. Let people heal how they heal. Just HEAL.
Amen ♥️🙏
@@wge621 I will say that I will say is that I disagree with many ppl on the idea of having to fully heal before you marry...for some people it takes 10 years to heal from something. I feel like as long as your working on yourself, and your wounds don't damage the relationship it should be fine. It is beautiful to have someone come in your life when your in the final stages of healing. People say to heal completely before you marry but it also puts pressure on the person and makes them feel unworthy to marry. In a sense it's like telling someone to become perfect. It's beautiful to have a partner walk with you in the final stages of healing....I personally want to know that compassionate side of my future one, I want to know how he will treat me if he meets me while I'm still healing.....If I arrived whole that would be great but I want to discover that aspect of him and say for a fact that he didn't mind my wounds..... especially ones that were inflicted in me growing up in which I had no control
If I never meet a guy like Brandon who understands that this was just her past that she needed to process and heal from (and whatever else God knew she needed), I am at least grateful to have sat here and watched this man's respect, love, understanding, maturity, and security as he sat by her side. THANK YOU.
And besides the guy already passed away so he had to understand grieving takes a long time.
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Amen, amen, and amen!
The security, support, and genuine love displayed in this video was beautiful to watch. You two seem made for each other!
I can definitely relate! My first husband passed away 7 years tomorrow and my current husband has always been understanding including when we were dating. It’s an absolute blessing to have a loving and understanding spouse! I love watching your content. ❤️
May God continue to bless you both on your journey. You did great Destene! And Brandon, I applaud you sir…such a great example of a real man🥰
Thank you God bless you🖤🖤
@@DesteneandBrandon awwww look how he smiles when you start talking about him. You guys are so beautiful ❤
Absolutely@ a real man. He definitely is an example of a real man👏👏👏
One day, people will call Brandon a legend, others will call him a myth. We need youngsters like you, reaching the younger crowds and I hope this video helps many generations to come.
Her husband is so cool. She got a good one
Hi 💖💖😍😍🌷🌷🌷🌷
Omg I'm so glad that this came up on my timeline. My fiance was murdered 8 days after our 15 yr anniversary . He was my first love. My high school sweetheart. It's been a couple of years ago but I still can't move on. My heart still breaks everytime I wake up and realize I'm in a whole new place and he is not beside me. 💔. I don't want to ever love again. I'm emotionally detached from love. But seeing this maybe just maybe makes me think could there be another love that is meant for me.. I just can't picture myself open enough to love again. Idk.. Your husband is such a blessing and you are such a sweetheart. I wish you guys so many more years to love each other. May you guys be filled with so much love and light and peace for the rest of your lives. 🙏🏽💙🖤
Also we had twin boys and they were still born. I went into labor at 8 in a half months and they were born dead. My fiance was my rock and who I leaned on every day while mourning them . Ughhh this breaks my heart all over again. I don't like talking about it but hearing you just now made me want to share my story with you. My only comfort is knowing that he is with our twin baby boys waiting for me one day... Damn I'm crying 😢 but I needed to get that out. Thank you so much for this video, I needed to see this. Again so much blessings to the 2 of you ..
I pray healing for your soul.....
@@cindydavis6398 thank you love. Many blessings to you and your family..💙🙏🏽💯
🫂 you are not alone, love! It's not a place to be; my husband also left to be the Lord and OMG! The heart aches 💔 really hurt. When I hear people in our shoes talk about moving on, I just stay glue and blank; may God heal us for his glory in Jesus Mighty Name Amen. I am thankful to God Almighty that she has heal.
@@Myhearthisworld Bless you always 🙏🏽. Thank you for that I appreciate your kind words. Again blessing to you always and Amen to that ..
@4ever in peace my 3 angels They truly want you to be very fine!!
Believe that!!!
I'm so sorry Destene had to go through that pain. Major props to Brandon for being so supportive. That's a mature man right there. You two are a lovely couple.
Of course Brandon is supportive, he’s a great husband. All great husbands support their wife.
I can tell by his expression how much he feels for his lady watching her recall the events leading up towards the tragedy.. it’s admirable how he seems to look at her intently making sure she is okay with how devastating and difficult this awful experience has impacted her life she is now blessed to have someone equally as wonderful as her lost love to respect adore and love her unconditionally🌹Congratulations on your love and true blessings with one another❤️you both deserve the very best
I’m in shambles! Brandon seems so emotionally mature and secure within himself and his manhood. I am so sorry for your loss, though I am happy God sent Brandon to you. Blessings to you two forever! 💕 I know Christian is smiling down, happy that you’re happy!
I am extremely proud of you for this, we will never forget Christian and those times. And in the same breath, we feel honored and blessed to have Brandon in our family.
That’s beautiful ❤️
That's so lovely
Sadly I can relate. I was 21 years old when I was widowed. I had married my high school sweetheart as well. We were only married three months before he was tragically killed. It’s been 10 years ago now. Therapy was vital for me and I recommend seeking counsel for anyone experiencing or has experienced anything traumatic.
For two years now, I’m comfortable with sharing this story of my life and it has helped many who’ve I crossed paths with. I applaud your courage for sharing your story. If you read through your comments you will see you’ve helped others as well. ♥️
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All I have to say is you have a great and supportive husband. You are blessed to make it out of the depression and to even find love again.
God please continue to bless this couple and couples like this that genuinely love each other. Happy she was able to push through and meet someone that is supportive and funny loving to her. Her story bought tears to my eyes, and I pray that anyone else going through a similar situation pushs through as well and finds love again as well. God bless 🙌🏾 🙏🏾 ❤️
My dad was killed on his motorcycle 1mile from home when I was 23. A lady went left of center killed him instantly. I actually text him at the time on his death certificate too. Never heard of anyone else experience the same. Love that you shared this. Love you two!!
Sorry for your loss! 🙏🏽
My Sincerest Condolences 🙏🏽
Or u marriad
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God bless you
I’m sorry😢
I love how she lit up immediately she starts talking about how she met with Brandon...Love lives here❤
I needed to see this. I had to let go of a relationship and didn’t realize I was dealing with depression as a result of things not working out. I literally thought I was dealing with my emotions but in fact I was overwhelmed and overworking myself to avoid the pain. I appreciate your honesty. In my situation I didn’t realize grief could last so long but it’s important to take time to heal. Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing!!
🙏🏽🙏🏽 Christian is my first Born son name ❤️ My condolences 🙏🏽🙏🏽💕💕
I feel like he put Brandon in Your Path For A Reason ❤👏🏽👏🏽
He’s such a BLESSING look how he’s naturally just supporting her emotionally and mentally
He is ajolly good Man
Listen to this just hit hard because I just lost my fiance back in October and she was 5 months with our first child. So I lost both and everyday is a struggle so I understand.
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I pray for strength, peace and love around you for support during this challenging time. 🙏🏾
Sending you love and light 💫💜💫💜
Hope that you find some comfort in yall love and your angel baby.
Prayers for you ❣️
I found myself in the same situation. Mine was not actual death, but in a way that feels like it. This was six months before my wedding the young man says he is not ready to marry, I thought I was going crazy out of my mind , to this day I’m still hurt
I lost my fiancé on Friday 12/30 He was killed in a car accident on his way home from work the day before our NYE 1 year engagement anniversary! We had plans to celebrate and then marry in a few months! My dress is hanging in the closet 😢.My fiancé was telling me on Christmas it’s time to let that go and not to be afraid God was going to bless me immensely very soon! We shared you guys vids all the time he reminds me of him in how much he loves you. What a way to bring in the new year my heart is shattered . I’m trying to take each breath at a time and moment by moment. He was so excited I started on my art work again as we just got our first home and he picked this home because it has a studio for me downstairs now he’s Gone ! I’m in shock I don’t know if I will be able to live here anymore because of his death and feeling the essence in the home and considering finances. I’m pissed because we had so many blessings and now I’m not even sure especially since one of our dreams of marriage was happening very soon. I’m just trying to wake up from this nightmare . for so long my story was mourning, I lost my mother and baby than I met this wonderful gift of a human being and He’s gone. He ministered to me and so many people I realize I had to share my time with him and those he helped. He was my best friend I’ll never take this ring off . A mentor Artist has reached out to me offering time to spend together and to do some work. My hope Is that I can look back and understand why I feel so lost and my mind spinning . Your testimony i so relatable thank you for letting me ramble off I really needed to get this off my chest
Sorry for your loss! May God bless you!❤️
I like the fact that Brandon is there to support her while she's telling this story.
For Brandon to be such a healing force is not by mistake…May God grant the both of you favor and grace for the rest of your life💫
Destene, your testimony will help so many people. God bless the two of you for doing this. Brandon you are an angel 😇 to be so supportive. Depression is not an easy thing to get over. And others may need longer or shorter times to heal it varies. Thank you so much for sharing.
The fact that your husband is right there while u talk through this is a blessing your story is amazing and you are strong continue to live with god in your heart we love you ❤️
Girl your husband is a good one.. very mature! I would have been so uncomfortable talking about my first love in front of my husband but yet Brandon made u feel so relaxed! I love it. All men need to take a page out of Brandon book. I don’t think my husband is this mature! He feel like nobody existed before he came along lol but god bless y’all!!
No it's disrespectful
@@timwilliams3906 how is that disrespectful? She’s speaking about something in her past…about someone who is no longer alive. Besides it’s a part of her healing. She should be able to speak to her partner about it. The video was also about how she overcame depression, how she met her husband and how they are where they are today.
@@timwilliams3906 I agree. It's really disrespectful if the husband won't support her
Because he's dead so there's no competition.
It’s disrespectful if you’re that comfortable talking about your ex’s you might aswell go back to him. I don’t care if he’s dead or alive don’t talk about him cos I don’t want about my ex girlfriends or hoes to you.
I lost my husband to cancer in February 2013 when my daughter was 3 1/2 months old. It broke me. I am just now starting to get back on my feet after all of that. I tried to out run my grief and now nine years later I’m facing stuff I should have very early on. You give me hope that there’s love after loss.
Any burden too heavy for you to carry, Jesus wants to carry t for you, if you ask him to take it from you. There is no problem God can't fix. A lot of progress can happen really quickly when you come to God. Take care of yourself physically, stay healthy and looking good. Have hope
I'm so very sorry for your loss, and with a precious little one to care for also😰. My 6yr old grandson suddenly died in March 2013 its not an easy process at all. I pray for much blessings for you and your 9yr old now.🙏🏽❤✝️
@@hazelpetersen172 I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Sending love and prayers.
There's no timeline for grief and healing. You're stronger now and that's all that matters ❤❤❤❤❤
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You have probably helped so many people. I needed this because I’ve been trapped in a cycle of depression for almost 3 years.
Brandon is so so supportive 😢❤I love you two.
Brandon you’re a great guy, way to show support and allow her to feel the emotion of her story and you not being jealous. #realmendorealthings
Your husband Brandon seems to be a PHENOMENAL young man. More significantly you must be a PHENOMENAL young woman. God is indescribably amazing… 🙏🏽
You two are, by far, my favorite RUclipsrs! I am so sorry for your loss! Thank you for being so open & genuine! I know you’ve touched more lives than you could possibly imagine with this one video. Much love & happiness to you always! ❤️
Thank you for sharing with us. As hard as it was, I hope you find comfort in knowing that your story helped someone. Talking about depression and how badly you had hit rock bottom and to be where you are today, gives a glimpse of hope for others that are going through depression no matter the reason. Being in that state of mind literally feels like there's no way out, the emotions you feel are unbearable, uncontrollable, and you completely lose yourself if you don't do something about it. It can be difficult to understand for those around you. It's inspiring to hear stories like this and still see the outcome from someone such as yourself, that as much as that broke you, you decided it was time, you had your time to heal, realized life was still moving forward regardless and it was ultimately up to you to get yourself out. It's definitely hard to do, but none the less, it 100% has a solution.
I hope anyone feeling this way or going through hard times and feels stuck, feels like life is just passing you by, you feel lost....
Please know you are not alone. Allow yourself to feel and heal but don't stay there too long, especially if you have kids. Its going to take effort, it's going to require some change but all it takes is to take that one step. Write a list of things you believe would help you, even if its the smallest things like taking a shower, getting ready, looking nice, cooking yourself your favorite meal or going for a walk. Exercise like your life depended on it, even just going for a walk in nature. Adding exercise to your life consistently makes a massive difference. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what advise is given to you and from who, YOU have to want it and do something about it. You are the only one that can fix you and I hope you climb out of this stronger than ever. Sending everyone love and light!!
Know that you are enough and your life matters!
Abuse survivor here with severe PTSD. Your channel has been helping me see that healthy relationships are possible. Thank you for the advice of healing before getting into another relationship. I'm working on getting my life together & trusting God with the rest. It's scary, though, wondering if the PTSD will ever subside enough to not hurt my next boyfriend. But also, like you said, it's part of my story, something that changed me, & I need someone who'll respect my scars.
So happy for you from one woman to another! I also expressed PTSD and can relate very briefly from that connection point. If it helps, I was able to overcome it by exposing myself to my triggers, working through them in therapy with CBT and once desensitizing myself to them, gradually creating new memories related to them. It’s a very difficult process so keep having compassion! I also have a fear of bringing the past into my next relationship. What has helped me here is having compassion, keeping your therapist around and making a plan in case you notice a ‘relapse’ to get back on track. I’m happy to share that when I started having ‘relapses’, my experience was that they weren’t as severe by even 75% and I was able to get back on track with the help of my therapist. Took me about 2 years to get to this point with lots of trial and error, but gradual improvement over time. Have faith and you got this! ❤️
@@jennifermartinez7293 Thanks so much for the encouragement & wisdom! It's still a minute by minute battle but I've got hope for better days. ❤️
Matthew 6:33 “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” God got you!
Amen! Prayers you get your knight in shining armor. God put a godly man in her life.
I have been single for almost 10 years now, and a loner for almost 8 years now after leaving an abusive relationship ... I like the freedom in my mind to focus on myself 😊
It brought tears to my eyes seeing this much support from your husband and the level of simplicity and honesty that you carry. You’re my inspiration♥️
Man that is profound, I m proud of you too. You two were meant to be
I enjoy your shorts all the time...but today...was the first time that I saw more than the humour....I am seeing the HUMANITY between you two.....GOD BLESS YOU....
Sadly I can relate. It’s comforting to know that I’m not alone. My fiancé passed away when I was 22 years old in October 2019. I’m still healing from the excruciating experience. I hope I have the same fate as you, Destene. You’re blessed. Thank you so much for sharing your story
Sorry for you loss.
@@xBelleNoire Thank you
Sorry for what happened. May you find solace in the Lord. Hugs to you 😊
I will say to anyone who has lost a loved one weather it may be a parent, child, spouse, partner, friend or fiance. Death is final and do call up on GOD and ask him to help you get thru this part of your life. It helped me go thru my mom's passing.
I will say you will think about that person and cry in places you wouldn't think why is this happening. Just understand the grieving and loss of a person has it's on time for each person. But as time goes on just remember the Good time's you had with that person. Concertrating on the bad won't help you heal. Because we all have something that went wrong in relationships.
Just be happy for the time you have shared with that other human being.
Think of those things that made you laugh about the person that will really help you. Laughter is the best medicine to help you heal. Just learn to Love and laugh will help you thru the tough times.
Good luck in your life and live your best life helping people that also helps with living in this world 🌎.
I'm so sorry
I love you guys! I’m so glad Brandon is supportive of you Destene. This is true love.
Yes so thankful!! Thank youuuu 🖤
I love how you gave yourself time to heal, and was able to share your testimony and be so supported! ❤
This was a fantastic video. Thank you for the understanding and showing where healing and true support really comes from!
She took the time to greive her fiance and that relationship. It may be sad but it's a beautiful thing. I encourage everyone to honor the chapters of their lives and allow that honor to begin the healing.
This is the kind of content that our community needs. This was really beautiful. Thank you for sharing.
I went through this similar situation in 2006! And I thank God for being on my side! My husband and I got married in 2008 and we have 3 beautiful children. I’m grateful for how my husband handled it as well. Thank you for this ❤️
I just want to say thank you. Your words and maturity have inspired me to stay positive. I am going threw the hardest breakup and it feels like I am losing everything. The right time to hear these kind words. Going to follow your guy's advice, healing, and growth, and focus on myself. Again thank u ♥️ God continues blessing u guys.
I lost my baby brother to a motorcycle accident 3 years ago. He left behind a wife and 4 kids. He was an amazing father, brother, and son. Just an awesome person and a great friend to so many. Even tho it was my brother I know your pain of sudden loss. My brother started his own business and gave ex-offenders jobs. He made them believe that they could turn their lives around and be hard working productive members of society and they did. I applaud you for allowing yourself to grieve properly. Your husbands unconditional love and support is awesome. God bless you both
That’s an amazing story and Brandon came along when you decided you were ready to move forward. I love that Brandon invited you to church and things took off from there. I love how supportive he is of you
That was the work of God. See, when God is involved the relationship thrives!
You guys really support each other in a really healthy way. That is SO nice to see. Keep it up guys.
This was an emotional listen for me, but thank you for sharing so much and also showing us the beautiful bond you and Brandon have. This gives me hope.
My husband recently passed away. Its definitely not easy. Especially when you have kids involved. Moving forward has been the hardest thing to wrap my mind around. Having a strong support system is game changing.
Wow. My boyfriend passed away 2 months ago the exact same way, but I was trailing in him in my car and he was on his bike. We were literally 5 minutes from the bike shop we were going to. I've been following you for some time now, and this video is a blessing. I'm so happy that God brought you someone in your life that loves you and supports you the way Brandon does. I can only hope and pray that God blesses me the same way.
GOD GOT YOU SIS.....MY CONDOLENCES
I’m so sorry for your loss. I pray for healing and blessings to come your way 💜
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Goo blees you girl
Sorry for your loss
Thank you so much! I lost the love of my life too and whew you’ve really helped me. I feel like you in the aspects of thinking there’s no other guy like the one I lost. You give me hope that I may find love again. You really do lose a lot of people you thought were there for you but really wasn’t. It’s been almost 5 years now I feel healed and I’m taking my time finding love. So thank you for being real and sharing that pain. I truly appreciate you. You’re so blessed to have a man that supports you the way Brandon supports you. Y’all stay blessed.
I’ve been watching y’all’s channel’s Shorts for a while and I just saw this video! My boyfriend passed away at 31, and it took me up to 3 years as well to really consider another relationship. I did the work as well to heal because I wanted to move forward the best way I can. My current boyfriend is very similar to Brandon where he doesn’t mind that I talk about him sometimes and it’s such a blessing! I love that you were able to share that with us, and it further pushes the love I have for y’all and y’all’s channel!!! Thank you for sharing!!!
Your husband is phenomenal and I'm so glad your paths crossed.