These are major issues this man is dealing with, which typically takes years to focus on (having done so myself.) The fact that this man can confront himself, now, in one session tells us how serious he is in growing. Great session!
This man is now level 2 IFS trained. I was also unburden from another major issue, the death of my mom when I was 15...this was done in another demo with Dick Schwartz in 2021. The model is powerful. Thanks for watching.
I am a counsellor, learning to practice IFS, and this really helped me to conceptualize the process around polarities. You made it very easy. Thank you so much for sharing.@@tycutner
@@contempl8ivemy pleasure. This demo was my very first IFS session, back in 2018. I’m level 2 trained in the model now. The best way to practice is with your own parts work. You’ll learn a lot faster and be effective because it’s an inside out model.
Ty is SO good at this as a client, that it almost makes it hard to imagine how to work with a client who does *not* find it easy to get into this stuff. He pictures these "guys" his polarized parts, dresses them in their representative clothes, is easily able to locate them in his body, and comfortable quietly talking to them and having them talk to each other. Many clients are not so facile.
I'm now Level 2 trained and working with my own clients. Still new to it, maybe 3 dozen sessions under my belt. I've noticed some systems have strong protectors. The client doesn't see it as protectors but they're unable, unwilling or uncomfortable moving Parts that don't trust them yet. Taking it slow and guiding them to develop that trust will help them get better at it. It could take several sessions. Luckily for me my parts trusted me, they knew nothing bad can or will happen especially if we keep it to "safe" topics.
@@ChannelMathread his comment above, he himself has now become a facilitator. He’s not faking it. He has an open imagination and that is why he has facility with this process. It’s part of why his “lazy” side was so stubborn, so to speak, because his strong imagination needed time to be, to be free, imagine and play. These sound like silly terms for an adult, but creative people require periods of time to be in certain states of mind, illogical and not analytic. His time with his son let’s him do that, his son facilitates his imaginative, right brain. ❤. If he has suffered trauma in his life, which he probably has if he’s getting therapies, there may be a part of him that was scolded down, he may not feel free to be expressive. He is also new to the situation and was asked by someone to participate. He may have been under pressure. It’s really hard for therapists to get anyone to publish their own inner mental anguish on the world stage.
@@tycutnerthank you for doing the demo. We have a lot in common but my “lazy” side’s reasons were a little different. I found the similarity in how we felt things fascinating.
I’ll speak to some of that trauma @tentenj My mom died when I was 15 after of years of being sick with AIDS. At 12/13 I realized I needed to step up to take care of things in the house. I was the oldest with a younger sister. That’s when my self-sufficient and figure-it-out parts came online. My childhood ended for those (worker) parts. Yet there were still kid parts that like to play and have fun. My leisure parts. There’s a second session with Dr. Schwartz and I where the 15 year old part was unburdened from the lost of my mom. That was back in 2021. I contributed to an IFS book coming out next month (October) that dives into my external family history.
I could relate to those two internal guys, I have them too... work hard vs relax, and neither one ever gets enough of me. All or nothing. You showed a good friendly outcome and a compromise! It felt like a victory✌
It was a victory. Now 4 years later and IFS trained myself I have a very loving relationship with my parts. I see them all as younger versions of myself. They may play tug of war sometimes but they realize that they're all on the same team...or more accurately all apart of the same internal family. Thanks for watching.
I love seeing Richard Schwartz do these demos. As a person is who is training to learn this modality myself with Derek Scott. I can see the similarities and differences each IFS therapist brings to the table. Thank you for sharing these!
IFS Is probably next to Brain-spotting which I have been a part of both for all I would say brain spotting was first and then after about a year and six months I was introduced to 1 IFS by my trauma therapist I have been fire fighting for 35 years attempted suicide two years ago because of the Darkside caught up with me but I never wanted to stop fire fighting I want to help people these two types of therapy plus my therapist saved my life and save my fire fighting and my marriage. Thank you both for the video
Thank you for sharing that Johnny. The great thing about IFS is it helps us develop a more loving relationship with ourselves (our parts). I've recently spent some time with some of my firefighters, after the session...I appreciate those parts so much more.
I've been doing thos in trauma therapy for several years. I has no idea this was a real thing. I've felt crazy, like I could be making this up unconsciously and hopeless. I relate to DID, but not in the traditional sense. My parts aren't different people, or other grnders. They're all me. They are very different distinct parts of me separated by age. My whole childhood and teen life was trauma filled. I never developed a sense of self and didn't understand why I couldn't "control" myself n a lot of areas. Knowing this is actually a thing is liberating. Thank you.
Bravo, Ty!! This is beautiful work, and so helpful to see it demonstrated after hearing about this type of therapy and how it works. Thank you for being willing to let Dr. Schwartz record your session for us to see!❤
I agree that this man’s openness for change and commitment to the process is commendable and a HUGE factor in his development. I definitely believe that the potential for the IFS model to facilitate transformation through honest assessment of one’s multi-dimensional needs and their innate capacity for compassion and flexible thinking in the interest of healing the whole person is truly incredible.
Most appreciative for your willingness to share this dialog publicly. Thank you, Ty! Hope y'all have continued to benefit from the insights and connections you made here!
I'm happy to see how much this demo has help others. I have continued to benefit from IFS. In the 4 years since this demo was recorded, I've achieved Level 2 IFS training, had an exile unburdened in another demo with Dr. Schwartz and now use IFS in the various audiences I serve. Thanks for watching.
Thank you Dr. Schwartz and Ty for letting us see your session. Ty is great at this type of work on himself. If you ever need a volunteer for a demo, I would love to! Dr. Schwartz, I am always in awe when I watch you in session. It comes so natural to you. I hope that I will be able to do that as well. When I get licensed as an MFT. Thank you again for sharing!
Thank you Dick and @tycutner9629! I also struggle with polarization on a daily basis and my parts were needing to see this. This was beautiful to watch. Ty, I love what you are doing in your work and how you're incorporating IFS into it as well.
The one thing that really helped my parts in this session was realizing they had similar goals. Once they realized we're all on the same team it give them the desire to solve the issue instead of simply getting their way.
Watching this i cant help smile and get this feeling of excitement for ty.... And myself! They make it look so simple and like magic. I love this it is basically having a very calm conversation with the different versions yourself. Im taking note of the questions swartz asks and i will be doing this to myself towards parts that keep showing up. I love how ty figures out his own solutions. It seems we usually have the answers inside us. It is really empowering watching this. I think thats why i am excited... Thank you :)
We do have the answers inside of us. Just like the body can heal itself, so can our mind. Since this demo I've discovered more about the relationship of these parts. In fact in a recent session I realized the leisure part is very young while the worker part is slightly older but also young (teenage vs elementary school age). Introducing those very young parts to me of today was a shock to them. They didn't realize I have gray hair "like grandpa" and that I can drive a car etc. Once I updated them I now have more focus to complete big projects.
Wow . What an intelligent man you are Ty. For me, this is the best, most clear demo. I commend your willingness & commitment. Bravo ! Keep up the amazing work , you’re making great strides in just one session. Truly inspirational 👍🏼
Thank you for watching. I'm happy so many have gained value from this. When I did it 4 years ago I didn't think much of it. Now IFS trained myself, this has become a resource for me to improve my skills.
Thank you both from my heart, I have been doing this along with you and it's been amazing. I have good tools for healing my trauma and finding IFS has been like everything falling into place, and so compassionate.
Yes, I have met the exiles. There are a few younger parts that the worker part feels he's responsible for because he's older. Before my mom passed there were times I couldn't rely on her. "We can't get sent back to our grandpa or we'll be bored to death alone in the living room." is their fear. At grandpa's we can't be ourselves. The leisure parts are even younger, they know the worker part is only a little bit older. In a way they're protecting my childhood because it ended too soon. I unburden the 15 year old exile in another demo with Dick Schwartz.
@@tycutner Thank you for being willing to share your process, it is invaluable for many of us. For instruction, and as example of how to be a good human doing a great job and being courageous to take the next step. Best wishes!
I love you, Dr. Schwartz. Just admire so much your beautiful compassion and courage in bringing IFS to the world. Truly a Self-led leader in our world. You make the world a better place because you're here.
I totally agree. This was my very first IFS session. I will be presenting at the 2023 IFS conference with something truly amazing for the IFS community. This model help me unlock parts in ways I didn’t believe possible. Now I’m bringing the power of IFS out of the therapy setting so it’s more accessible. Stay tuned.
Thank you both for your energy Don't should on your Self and don't should on me and I won't should on you. "Should" can be a tool or a weapon. I haven't learned to use it as a tool so I choose not to use it. Rest or lazy 🤔 Love or fear 🤔 Connection is strength 💯
Listening to Dr. Schwartz helping these people just by talking to them I can't get rid of a feeling that it's very similar to Jesus healing others, casting out their (inner) demos, and leading the way with love and compassion.
Franz Fanon would have also analyzed the influence of the macronarrative on the personal micronarrative and possible introjects from culture that perpetuate internalized oppression. I really like this model, though.
I think everything we know about evolution and how the brain works is more compatible with IFS than with a singular self. But it's also very compatible with the *illusion* of a singular self. It's been really difficult for me to find my parts. Ty makes it look so easy, even though his issues are almost the same as mine
It’s amazing how these parts work together after realizing they’re on the same team. The leisure parts are elementary school age and the worker parts are high school age. Now that they realize me (Self) they play together in leisure and work. It’s a beautiful thing.
Wow! Fantastic & very informative session - many thanks for the upload. Although I am a bit curious of where the Part got the belief that being a bus driver was connected with being lazy - a bus driver is an important role,, and has a lot of responsibility, you have to be present, and are responsible for the safety of many passengers, and other road users. If it weren't for bus drivers countless people would be unable to get to work, of visit their friends and relatives, and the already over choked roads would become even more busy and gridlocked with cars. Bus drivers, I believe are heroes!
To that part being a bus driver was mind numbing and lacked quality social interactions. We hated the job but was too lazy to make a change according to that part. In an IFS session curiosity towards a part is how we know Self is present. However, if we allow our parts to share their opinions (it's an important role, etc) you may be met with parts that jump out to defend their position.
@@kingofdubb2133 I would imagine there's a part of you that sounds like your mom. I recommend starting with curiosity while holding compassion for what ever comes up. This works well when speaking to your parts and other's (parts). You can get curious with the part that's content with being a dog walker, without judgement or a desire to change...just curiosity.
I thought there is always an exile. So some parts can just figure things out and they are not driven by exiles? I thought it will go like: the workaholic part and lazy guy are protecting a part that was hurt by his wife cheating
There is usually an exile and there is one here however progress can take place without getting to the unburdening of an exile. This was my very first session, first time meeting Dick so there were protectors up (didn't know or understand that then). But the greatness that happened here was the relationship that was established between the parts. They witness a solution being put in place, that was huge for my entire system.
All protective parts must be willing and open for the unburdening of an exile. That can’t happen while protectors are polarized. Depolarizing the inner system for the exile to return to is typically the flow of it. Imagine unburdening an exile and bringing it back to an inner civil war
Hello Joanna, this session took place in 2018. Right after the session I had a new relationship with the resistance to work and leisure time. Those parts were kinder to each other similar to a big brother/little brother relationship. In 2021 I had a second session with Dr. Schwartz where I was unburdened from the passing of my mom which happened over 20 years ago. If you google "Ty Cutner IFS" a few podcast will come up as well as the book Freeing Self IFS Beyond the Therapy Room. I contributed a chapter discussing the work I've done with men using IFS. I even turned that chapter into a mini audiobook.
@@tycutner thanks so much for your reply! I appreciate hearing the update and the additional info you included. I had to make an addition to this earlier comment, after I listened to your interview on The Robin Smith Show. No matter what the modality is, I like to hear updates of changes if there are any. I appreciated how you talked about the career changes and enhancements after IFS! Great stuff, Ty!
I think that there is something in this that is interesting , which is the work of a bus driver . Once I did a family photo session for a family in which the father was a NYC bus driver . The guy was totally on time , on target , and really dominant . As I was watching his dynamic with his wife , which was totally supportive but bossy , I realized that he was driving the bus , what he did all day . I would like to offer to this young man the idea that the get there or be square is possibly pulling that bus driving energy , go go go , to his person . He knows how to get somewhere like a bus driver does . So ... maybe he should think that the character is getting a new job , could be a long haul truck driver , could be a limo driver , could be a bike courrier , could be the pony express or trans atlantic shipping ! But the idea is , that strength is gonna get you there .
I would also suggest to him that he and his son SHARE the idea that they have these inner drivers , or drives , and talk about motivation energizers together , as a shared "Father" figure , or chain of command format . I think that they both might bring great perspectives to the table from their different ages , at nine and 30 - I am guessing the young man is about 30 . Build on this experience - it is so healthy and healing .
Being a bus driver was not in alignment with our talents and skills. During my second IFS session with Dr. Schwartz 3 years after this demo, we unburdened a 15 year old part who's biggest fear was "We won't reach our full potential in life". Being a bus driver was a nightmare to parts who had those fears. The reason the parts had those fears is, when I was 15 my mom passed away. She made me believe that I was special with great potential. We didn't have anyone to guide me towards greatness after she passed...somewhere along the way I was wasting my life away as a bus driver.
@@tycutner It's so insightful and valuable to me to see your session AND read all your comments here. Our lives are superficially very different, but inside I'm just like you! Thank you so much, you've done a great service
Thank you for saying that. There is a lot that has happened since this session. I lot has happened since my last comment on this video. I’m working on something very special for the IFS community and humanity. Like you said, we’re superficially different but we both have parts and a Self…so we’re the same. What works for me and my parts will work for you and yours. Being Self-led is AMAZING! I’m going to show the world how to do it, after therapy. Stay tuned.
@@tycutner I am listening to a talk now about mimatics , a teacher talking about the work of Rene Girard . - the youtube lecture is " Introduction to Rene Girard's Mimetic Theory " / I am listening to this on the back of listening to a lot of Keith Cunningham , a man who teaches business principles . As you observe your place in society , and strive to reach your goals , it is always good to listen to people who did a lot of serious thinking . I highly recommend these two thinkers as important , not just at a personal level , but at a global humanity level . - Blessings on your growth - and on mind too !
I've tried to do this myself.. Finding the parts.I know must be locked inside.. After reading the book " No Bad Parts". Although it has almost been impossible. How can I get a session with DR Schwartz, or participate?
These are major issues this man is dealing with, which typically takes years to focus on (having done so myself.) The fact that this man can confront himself, now, in one session tells us how serious he is in growing. Great session!
This man is now level 2 IFS trained. I was also unburden from another major issue, the death of my mom when I was 15...this was done in another demo with Dick Schwartz in 2021. The model is powerful. Thanks for watching.
Thank you for generously allowing us to learn from your journey. Onward and upward!
I am a counsellor, learning to practice IFS, and this really helped me to conceptualize the process around polarities. You made it very easy. Thank you so much for sharing.@@tycutner
@@contempl8ivemy pleasure. This demo was my very first IFS session, back in 2018. I’m level 2 trained in the model now. The best way to practice is with your own parts work. You’ll learn a lot faster and be effective because it’s an inside out model.
@@tycutner thank you so much for making your session public, I can totally relate to how you described your parts
Ty is SO good at this as a client, that it almost makes it hard to imagine how to work with a client who does *not* find it easy to get into this stuff. He pictures these "guys" his polarized parts, dresses them in their representative clothes, is easily able to locate them in his body, and comfortable quietly talking to them and having them talk to each other. Many clients are not so facile.
I'm now Level 2 trained and working with my own clients. Still new to it, maybe 3 dozen sessions under my belt. I've noticed some systems have strong protectors. The client doesn't see it as protectors but they're unable, unwilling or uncomfortable moving Parts that don't trust them yet. Taking it slow and guiding them to develop that trust will help them get better at it. It could take several sessions. Luckily for me my parts trusted me, they knew nothing bad can or will happen especially if we keep it to "safe" topics.
It looks too easy, and his affect is so flat, I wonder if he's really "doing it" so to speak
@@ChannelMathread his comment above, he himself has now become a facilitator. He’s not faking it. He has an open imagination and that is why he has facility with this process. It’s part of why his “lazy” side was so stubborn, so to speak, because his strong imagination needed time to be, to be free, imagine and play. These sound like silly terms for an adult, but creative people require periods of time to be in certain states of mind, illogical and not analytic. His time with his son let’s him do that, his son facilitates his imaginative, right brain. ❤. If he has suffered trauma in his life, which he probably has if he’s getting therapies, there may be a part of him that was scolded down, he may not feel free to be expressive. He is also new to the situation and was asked by someone to participate. He may have been under pressure. It’s really hard for therapists to get anyone to publish their own inner mental anguish on the world stage.
@@tycutnerthank you for doing the demo. We have a lot in common but my “lazy” side’s reasons were a little different. I found the similarity in how we felt things fascinating.
I’ll speak to some of that trauma @tentenj
My mom died when I was 15 after of years of being sick with AIDS. At 12/13 I realized I needed to step up to take care of things in the house. I was the oldest with a younger sister. That’s when my self-sufficient and figure-it-out parts came online. My childhood ended for those (worker) parts. Yet there were still kid parts that like to play and have fun. My leisure parts.
There’s a second session with Dr. Schwartz and I where the 15 year old part was unburdened from the lost of my mom. That was back in 2021. I contributed to an IFS book coming out next month (October) that dives into my external family history.
I could relate to those two internal guys, I have them too... work hard vs relax, and neither one ever gets enough of me. All or nothing. You showed a good friendly outcome and a compromise! It felt like a victory✌
It was a victory. Now 4 years later and IFS trained myself I have a very loving relationship with my parts. I see them all as younger versions of myself. They may play tug of war sometimes but they realize that they're all on the same team...or more accurately all apart of the same internal family. Thanks for watching.
I love seeing Richard Schwartz do these demos. As a person is who is training to learn this modality myself with Derek Scott. I can see the similarities and differences each IFS therapist brings to the table. Thank you for sharing these!
I’m training with the IFS Institute. I’ve heard great things about Derek Scott’s Stepping Stones training also!
So amazing you were able to work with Derek Scott. He was absolutely amazing
IFS Is probably next to Brain-spotting which I have been a part of both for all I would say brain spotting was first and then after about a year and six months I was introduced to 1
IFS by my trauma therapist I have been fire fighting for 35 years attempted suicide two years ago because of the Darkside caught up with me but I never wanted to stop fire fighting I want to help people these two types of therapy plus my therapist saved my life and save my fire fighting and my marriage. Thank you both for the video
Thank you for sharing that Johnny. The great thing about IFS is it helps us develop a more loving relationship with ourselves (our parts). I've recently spent some time with some of my firefighters, after the session...I appreciate those parts so much more.
I've been doing thos in trauma therapy for several years. I has no idea this was a real thing. I've felt crazy, like I could be making this up unconsciously and hopeless. I relate to DID, but not in the traditional sense. My parts aren't different people, or other grnders. They're all me. They are very different distinct parts of me separated by age. My whole childhood and teen life was trauma filled. I never developed a sense of self and didn't understand why I couldn't "control" myself n a lot of areas. Knowing this is actually a thing is liberating. Thank you.
Wow, he did a remarkable job at keeping his parts separate and clear. That is the hardest for me during my work with polarized parts. Thanks guys!
Bravo, Ty!! This is beautiful work, and so helpful to see it demonstrated after hearing about this type of therapy and how it works. Thank you for being willing to let Dr. Schwartz record your session for us to see!❤
I agree that this man’s openness for change and commitment to the process is commendable and a HUGE factor in his development. I definitely believe that the potential for the IFS model to facilitate transformation through honest assessment of one’s multi-dimensional needs and their innate capacity for compassion and flexible thinking in the interest of healing the whole person is truly incredible.
Brilliant. This kind of courageous sharing of vulnerability while working through personal challenges is priceless. Thank you so much!
Most appreciative for your willingness to share this dialog publicly. Thank you, Ty! Hope y'all have continued to benefit from the insights and connections you made here!
I'm happy to see how much this demo has help others. I have continued to benefit from IFS. In the 4 years since this demo was recorded, I've achieved Level 2 IFS training, had an exile unburdened in another demo with Dr. Schwartz and now use IFS in the various audiences I serve. Thanks for watching.
Wow, @@tycutner, that's exciting! Good on you. Thx for the reply and the update. Kind regards...
@@tycutner wow! Congratulations! Do you have a link to the exile unburdening video?
"y'all" -- I see what you did there ;-)
Beautiful process. I'm actually moved and excited by this type of therapy
Really appreciate this guy volunteering this session! Thank you!
Thank you Dr. Schwartz and Ty for letting us see your session. Ty is great at this type of work on himself. If you ever need a volunteer for a demo, I would love to! Dr. Schwartz, I am always in awe when I watch you in session. It comes so natural to you. I hope that I will be able to do that as well. When I get licensed as an MFT. Thank you again for sharing!
This young man is an inspiration, seeking self-awareness and personal growth.
Thank you Dick and @tycutner9629! I also struggle with polarization on a daily basis and my parts were needing to see this. This was beautiful to watch. Ty, I love what you are doing in your work and how you're incorporating IFS into it as well.
The one thing that really helped my parts in this session was realizing they had similar goals. Once they realized we're all on the same team it give them the desire to solve the issue instead of simply getting their way.
Thanks for letting us watch this Ty!
Deeply moving. Thank you both - Ty for your courage and openess. Dr. Schwartz for your expertise and kindness.
I've been doing IFS on my own as best I can. This was AMAZING to watch! Incredible work ✨ Thank you so much for sharing 🙏
The additional facet of having the practitioner as a witness - and a guide for anything more severe that may come up - is priceless ❤
Watching this i cant help smile and get this feeling of excitement for ty.... And myself! They make it look so simple and like magic. I love this it is basically having a very calm conversation with the different versions yourself. Im taking note of the questions swartz asks and i will be doing this to myself towards parts that keep showing up. I love how ty figures out his own solutions. It seems we usually have the answers inside us. It is really empowering watching this. I think thats why i am excited... Thank you :)
We do have the answers inside of us. Just like the body can heal itself, so can our mind. Since this demo I've discovered more about the relationship of these parts. In fact in a recent session I realized the leisure part is very young while the worker part is slightly older but also young (teenage vs elementary school age). Introducing those very young parts to me of today was a shock to them. They didn't realize I have gray hair "like grandpa" and that I can drive a car etc. Once I updated them I now have more focus to complete big projects.
Thank you for sharing Ty, God Bless you and your son!
Thank you Joyce.
Wow . What an intelligent man you are Ty. For me, this is the best, most clear demo. I commend your willingness & commitment. Bravo ! Keep up the amazing work , you’re making great strides in just one session. Truly inspirational 👍🏼
Dick,
I just love watching you do this!! I review your demos several time to catch as much as I can. Tysm!!!
IFS has changed my therapy practice like nothing else, I've trained in!
Thank you for being willing to share, Ty. This has been valuable to me as well 🙏🏼🙂 Best wishes to you and your son 🌻
Thank you for watching. I'm happy so many have gained value from this. When I did it 4 years ago I didn't think much of it. Now IFS trained myself, this has become a resource for me to improve my skills.
Thank you dear Tyron and dear Dr Schwartz for perfect interesting session! ❤❤
Thank you both from my heart, I have been doing this along with you and it's been amazing. I have good tools for healing my trauma and finding IFS has been like everything falling into place, and so compassionate.
this was really great!! while he was talking i too was talking with my parts. its the zorba and the budha complex. i loved it. thank you
The additional facet of having the practitioner as a witness - and a guide for anything more severe that may come up - is priceless ❤
It sounds like these are 2 protectors. I wonder if he met the exile they are protecting....
Yes, I have met the exiles. There are a few younger parts that the worker part feels he's responsible for because he's older. Before my mom passed there were times I couldn't rely on her. "We can't get sent back to our grandpa or we'll be bored to death alone in the living room." is their fear. At grandpa's we can't be ourselves. The leisure parts are even younger, they know the worker part is only a little bit older. In a way they're protecting my childhood because it ended too soon. I unburden the 15 year old exile in another demo with Dick Schwartz.
@@tycutner Thank you for being willing to share your process, it is invaluable for many of us. For instruction, and as example of how to be a good human doing a great job and being courageous to take the next step. Best wishes!
Such a wholesome video. Beautiful work, Ty.
Thank you Ty for sharing your process with us!
I love you, Dr. Schwartz. Just admire so much your beautiful compassion and courage in bringing IFS to the world. Truly a Self-led leader in our world. You make the world a better place because you're here.
I totally agree. This was my very first IFS session. I will be presenting at the 2023 IFS conference with something truly amazing for the IFS community. This model help me unlock parts in ways I didn’t believe possible. Now I’m bringing the power of IFS out of the therapy setting so it’s more accessible. Stay tuned.
Really impressed with Ty and his insights...wow! Thank you!
Thank you both for your energy
Don't should on your Self and don't should on me and I won't should on you. "Should" can be a tool or a weapon. I haven't learned to use it as a tool so I choose not to use it. Rest or lazy 🤔
Love or fear 🤔
Connection is strength 💯
Thanks to Ty for letting us see this- helps me as a helper 💕
Thank you Ty ,Excellent Work. Very instructing, I learned a lot.
Thanks, Ty and Dr. Scheatz.
Great demo! Thanks for sharing Ty!
Thanks for sharing, Ty. Super helpful. And thanks for IFS!
Thanks to the 2 of you for this video!!
Fantastic work, Ty! Thank you for sharing this!
Amazing result with this system.
Listening to Dr. Schwartz helping these people just by talking to them I can't get rid of a feeling that it's very similar to Jesus healing others, casting out their (inner) demos, and leading the way with love and compassion.
Thank you so much for sharing, this is a wonderful demo!
This is great. I can really relate to this. Thank you so much!
Best wishes to you and your son 🍀
Franz Fanon would have also analyzed the influence of the macronarrative on the personal micronarrative and possible introjects from culture that perpetuate internalized oppression. I really like this model, though.
Fascinating as always!
siempre serás mi maestro . Encatada de haberte conocido
Thank you, Tyrone! For sharing.
I think everything we know about evolution and how the brain works is more compatible with IFS than with a singular self. But it's also very compatible with the *illusion* of a singular self.
It's been really difficult for me to find my parts. Ty makes it look so easy, even though his issues are almost the same as mine
So, what Part is keeping you from finding the other Parts?
Thank you for this video. It is really helpful. I found out my parts too whşle watching it.
Thanks! I relate to this and I have similar parts in conflict. Very helpful, thank you.
It’s amazing how these parts work together after realizing they’re on the same team. The leisure parts are elementary school age and the worker parts are high school age. Now that they realize me (Self) they play together in leisure and work. It’s a beautiful thing.
Wow! Fantastic & very informative session - many thanks for the upload. Although I am a bit curious of where the Part got the belief that being a bus driver was connected with being lazy - a bus driver is an important role,, and has a lot of responsibility, you have to be present, and are responsible for the safety of many passengers, and other road users. If it weren't for bus drivers countless people would be unable to get to work, of visit their friends and relatives, and the already over choked roads would become even more busy and gridlocked with cars. Bus drivers, I believe are heroes!
To that part being a bus driver was mind numbing and lacked quality social interactions. We hated the job but was too lazy to make a change according to that part. In an IFS session curiosity towards a part is how we know Self is present. However, if we allow our parts to share their opinions (it's an important role, etc) you may be met with parts that jump out to defend their position.
@@tycutner yes, I thought that after making my comment, I was blending with my judgemental part :)
@@tycutner I work as a dog walker - my mum used to always say - "When are you going to get a proper job?" 😊
@@kingofdubb2133 I would imagine there's a part of you that sounds like your mom. I recommend starting with curiosity while holding compassion for what ever comes up. This works well when speaking to your parts and other's (parts). You can get curious with the part that's content with being a dog walker, without judgement or a desire to change...just curiosity.
Thank you so much for sharing this!
Thanks for sharing ❤️
I thought there is always an exile. So some parts can just figure things out and they are not driven by exiles? I thought it will go like: the workaholic part and lazy guy are protecting a part that was hurt by his wife cheating
Yeah really interesting. Would love to know your findings as well
There is usually an exile and there is one here however progress can take place without getting to the unburdening of an exile. This was my very first session, first time meeting Dick so there were protectors up (didn't know or understand that then). But the greatness that happened here was the relationship that was established between the parts. They witness a solution being put in place, that was huge for my entire system.
@@tycutner wow! thank you, that explains a lot! Very informative and helpful
All protective parts must be willing and open for the unburdening of an exile. That can’t happen while protectors are polarized. Depolarizing the inner system for the exile to return to is typically the flow of it. Imagine unburdening an exile and bringing it back to an inner civil war
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@tycutner could you share what changes you felt after the session or what has changed for you since doing this? That would be so helpful to know.
Hello Joanna, this session took place in 2018. Right after the session I had a new relationship with the resistance to work and leisure time. Those parts were kinder to each other similar to a big brother/little brother relationship. In 2021 I had a second session with Dr. Schwartz where I was unburdened from the passing of my mom which happened over 20 years ago. If you google "Ty Cutner IFS" a few podcast will come up as well as the book Freeing Self IFS Beyond the Therapy Room. I contributed a chapter discussing the work I've done with men using IFS. I even turned that chapter into a mini audiobook.
@@tycutner thanks so much for your reply! I appreciate hearing the update and the additional info you included. I had to make an addition to this earlier comment, after I listened to your interview on The Robin Smith Show. No matter what the modality is, I like to hear updates of changes if there are any. I appreciated how you talked about the career changes and enhancements after IFS! Great stuff, Ty!
I think that there is something in this that is interesting , which is the work of a bus driver . Once I did a family photo session for a family in which the father was a NYC bus driver . The guy was totally on time , on target , and really dominant . As I was watching his dynamic with his wife , which was totally supportive but bossy , I realized that he was driving the bus , what he did all day . I would like to offer to this young man the idea that the get there or be square is possibly pulling that bus driving energy , go go go , to his person . He knows how to get somewhere like a bus driver does . So ... maybe he should think that the character is getting a new job , could be a long haul truck driver , could be a limo driver , could be a bike courrier , could be the pony express or trans atlantic shipping ! But the idea is , that strength is gonna get you there .
I would also suggest to him that he and his son SHARE the idea that they have these inner drivers , or drives , and talk about motivation energizers together , as a shared "Father" figure , or chain of command format . I think that they both might bring great perspectives to the table from their different ages , at nine and 30 - I am guessing the young man is about 30 . Build on this experience - it is so healthy and healing .
Being a bus driver was not in alignment with our talents and skills. During my second IFS session with Dr. Schwartz 3 years after this demo, we unburdened a 15 year old part who's biggest fear was "We won't reach our full potential in life". Being a bus driver was a nightmare to parts who had those fears. The reason the parts had those fears is, when I was 15 my mom passed away. She made me believe that I was special with great potential. We didn't have anyone to guide me towards greatness after she passed...somewhere along the way I was wasting my life away as a bus driver.
@@tycutner It's so insightful and valuable to me to see your session AND read all your comments here. Our lives are superficially very different, but inside I'm just like you! Thank you so much, you've done a great service
Thank you for saying that. There is a lot that has happened since this session. I lot has happened since my last comment on this video. I’m working on something very special for the IFS community and humanity. Like you said, we’re superficially different but we both have parts and a Self…so we’re the same. What works for me and my parts will work for you and yours. Being Self-led is AMAZING! I’m going to show the world how to do it, after therapy. Stay tuned.
@@tycutner I am listening to a talk now about mimatics , a teacher talking about the work of Rene Girard . - the youtube lecture is " Introduction to Rene Girard's Mimetic Theory " / I am listening to this on the back of listening to a lot of Keith Cunningham , a man who teaches business principles . As you observe your place in society , and strive to reach your goals , it is always good to listen to people who did a lot of serious thinking . I highly recommend these two thinkers as important , not just at a personal level , but at a global humanity level . - Blessings on your growth - and on mind too !
Like listening to myself
I've tried to do this myself.. Finding the parts.I know must be locked inside.. After reading the book " No Bad Parts". Although it has almost been impossible. How can I get a session with DR Schwartz, or participate?
I need Ty’s assistance. Please have him reach out to me. -Ronin
How can I help?
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Can my parts kind of just ride on this if I ask and implement in my own life
I’m wondering why is being a bus driver considered being lazy.
Being a bus driver wasn’t considered lazy. Staying/remaining a bus driver when I hated the job was considered lazy to some parts.
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