the answer is that someone's behavior towards you reinforces your prior beliefs about yourself. if you have low self esteem, even if you imagine you have very high self esteem, and you respond positively to bad behavior, this low self image is reinforced. additionally, there is a sense of conquest if you are chasing or accepting bad behavior from a man, because you imagine if he can afford to behave this way, then he must have other options and is fine leaving you. this sense of detachment is actually very attractive and intoxicating, but once you are confident in your own desirability it will lose its shine
Nah because this is so important to hear. Everyone judges people in abusive relationships that stay. We don’t know how to leave. We have no one to leave too because the people that raised us are the reason we are in these adult abusive relationships. I can’t escape.
I wish Alex would have let Dr Orna speak more. I feel like Dr Orna’s perception of Alex probably changed a bit after this interview. In the first interview with her Alex was listening more to what Dr. Orna had to say and now she’s lucky to even get a word in lol
A - because you grew up experiencing something toxic between your parents & you're repeating it B - because some kind of abuse happened at a formative age & that messed up your radar for other people That probably covers 95% of the women that have this issue. You seek out more of what you KNOW, & if what you know is messed up, you'll find yourself in more messed up situations.
I enjoy the topics and insights presented in your podcast, but I've noticed a recurring issue that could enhance the listening experience. It would be great if the host allowed their guests to speak without interruptions. Often, the guests are cut off mid-conversation, which disrupts the flow and depth of the discussion.
i had gotten involved in toxic relationships because i didnt know my self worth, not because i was trying to re-enact bad situations. psychoanalytical=outdated
Never ceases to amaze me how majority of deeply broken women seek healing by looking inward and finding their broken parts and fixing them and growing, while deeply broken men not only refuse to do so, they also despise those who do. Good luck staying stuck in your anger and self hatred
I love Dr. Orna and the way she gets comfortable and cozy by take her shoes off her feet curled on the couch.
Oh where is Orna's book and self-narrated Audible? She is so incredible.
the answer is that someone's behavior towards you reinforces your prior beliefs about yourself. if you have low self esteem, even if you imagine you have very high self esteem, and you respond positively to bad behavior, this low self image is reinforced.
additionally, there is a sense of conquest if you are chasing or accepting bad behavior from a man, because you imagine if he can afford to behave this way, then he must have other options and is fine leaving you. this sense of detachment is actually very attractive and intoxicating, but once you are confident in your own desirability it will lose its shine
Nah because this is so important to hear. Everyone judges people in abusive relationships that stay. We don’t know how to leave. We have no one to leave too because the people that raised us are the reason we are in these adult abusive relationships. I can’t escape.
I will take you in.
You can. Have more faith in your beautiful self. You have strength
@@rubypetralli yoooooo u a real life immoral have fun with that lol
Not everyone is meant to be the main character. Not everyone is meant to memorable
Loved her couples therapy show, gave me a whole new appreciation for therapists!
I feel the interviewer is speaking more (a lot more) than the interviewe.
she's a therapist, they talk less, but drop gems
OhmyGod it’s better than her interview in Armchair Experts
I love Orna, and could listen to her all-day ♥
your best guest yet!
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I LOVE Dr. Orna, I am so excited she's on the podcast!
I wish Alex would have let Dr Orna speak more. I feel like Dr Orna’s perception of Alex probably changed a bit after this interview. In the first interview with her Alex was listening more to what Dr. Orna had to say and now she’s lucky to even get a word in lol
@doctorviviana talked about this in her book "The 4 Intimacy Styles"! I totally agree you should have her on!
A - because you grew up experiencing something toxic between your parents & you're repeating it
B - because some kind of abuse happened at a formative age & that messed up your radar for other people
That probably covers 95% of the women that have this issue. You seek out more of what you KNOW, & if what you know is messed up, you'll find yourself in more messed up situations.
this is great work well done
I enjoy the topics and insights presented in your podcast, but I've noticed a recurring issue that could enhance the listening experience. It would be great if the host allowed their guests to speak without interruptions. Often, the guests are cut off mid-conversation, which disrupts the flow and depth of the discussion.
Agreed
it's exciting your life isn't boring
I like this more of a psychology analysis
Interviewer seems to know more and talk more than the doctor? Ugh, so annoying like be quiet and listen
OMG I love coyples therapy!!!!! Where can I get anything and everything from her???? TIA
LOVE HER
EMDR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I always wanted ( and never got) hugs as a child. I always wanted ( and never got) a loving sex life with my husband. I "married" my mother.
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i had gotten involved in toxic relationships because i didnt know my self worth, not because i was trying to re-enact bad situations. psychoanalytical=outdated
That’s the point of psychoanalysis. Lack of self worth is rooted in trauma usually and you would have to analyze your psyche to figure that out.
your inability to understand the subconscious has been studied.
No fucking way!!!
Its playing games
God help the deeply broken women who cope with this insane podcast.
booooooo
Never ceases to amaze me how majority of deeply broken women seek healing by looking inward and finding their broken parts and fixing them and growing, while deeply broken men not only refuse to do so, they also despise those who do. Good luck staying stuck in your anger and self hatred
Could you have @doctorviviana on your show!!!?