My grandma has this saying she's said many times to us kids: "Your son is your son till he finds him a wife, your daughter's your daughter the rest of her life."
True Dat! Daughters are the brick layers of the family where the mother is the foundation and the cement and glue. Daughters try to keep everything and everyone together when the parents can't anymore. Daughters have a built-in thing that we know when our mothers are not there anymore we will take over the duty of being part of the foundation of the family or the glue that binds the family
@@labreynth the bricks probably. The sons are also important for a house family build 😁 without bricks the house wouldn't be a house🫣 well something along the line right?😁
@@mohammadnajeeb5541might be just my family but I’ve seen it a lot where the family spends more time with the wife’s side of the family. So in that case it could make sense with that quote he put. So in that case if you flip it around the wife is now the daughter that family will spend more time with that family. Idk I’ve seen it with a lot of friends even other cousins. I’m definitely closer to my mom’s side than my dad’s. Sorry for the ramble
@@Broncomat12 You are very correct. growing up was more with my mum family and now trhat i am married, my kids know more of their mum family as we tend to be closer to them than my people. I think its a natural thing.
This is so accurate. I have 7 kids. 2 daughters are married (We have 5) and 2 sons are (we have 3) and the daughters (and their husbands) come over all the time and are fine with us coming over and seeing the grand babies etc. We have dinners together and they hang out with our younger kids all the time too. But our sons have to ask their wives and their wives usually say they're busy so we can't come over. They only usually want anything to do with us when they want a babysitter. I always say yes though or I probably wouldn't ever get to see the babies. I'm not an intrusive or judgmental mother-in-law either, they just don't really want to be close I guess.
This is so true me and my sister loved hanging out with my mom. When she would come visit me I would be so ecstatic that I would taker her around introducing her to all of my friends. 🥰
@@LindaJones-gq6bbif that were true, she could only do that because the husband is carrying her. There's a reason divorce rates are so high among lesbian couples.
Let's not forget the boys be using their wife as an excuse to get out of a lot of things. No wonder in laws be hating on daughter in laws too for this hahaha
I get that pb my husband was lieng on me to his family a lot and they bilieve him and hate me is when he died they start the truth but I was done with all those mother fucker
I think people underestimate how important it is for the families of the bride and groom to like each other. My grandmother always made a point to invite the families of our aunts spouses to get togethers. There was never fighting over grandchildren or holidays. They all partied together, traveled together and celebrated all major holidays and events together. Everyone knew each other well and you had people to call apon when help was needed.
And yet the parents run after their sons. My aunts took loans to keep my grandma on life support. My father said "there's no need to go down with a sinking ship" He was her favourite. 😂
This has 2sides . Both good intentioned. What if life support meant there was hope vs no hope?. Only issue your dad shouldn't have used the word sinking ship😅
Yeah my uncle and my 2 aunts are collectively the favorite but my mom and dad are the ones looking after my grandparents (dad’s side) - they’re so ungrateful about it too
Yep. In African families the daughter will literally slave away during her childhood taking care of the whole family while the son is treated like a Prince. Yet when the son leaves he never looks back and the daughter is somehow still expected to think about and take care of everyone.
@@jhou-uu7cvdoesn't matter. kids dont ask to be born. using that as an emotional card is so manipulative. its common sense. your kids are adults. they might have plans. they might not be home. they might hv another party to attend or an appointment etc.
@jhou-uu7cv Parents or not, when you get married you have your own family and anybody with the most basic amount of respect for you should call ahead if they're going to come visit. If you're all dressed and walking out the door, or feeling really sick, you shouldn't have to drop everything for visitors (yes, even your parents) Dropping by unannounced and getting mad when the family has things to do already shows the parents don't respect their child as an adult
@@jhou-uu7cv if we're sitting around doing nothing fine. But if we are literally on our way out the door because we have other plans, we're not just dropping everything. Same if someone is sick and not up to having anyone around. If you drop over unannounced, then don't be offended if its not a good time. A phone call or text takes 2 seconds and is the courteous thing to do.
It's crazy how people are going at an angle of "doesn't matter if you're busy drop everything for your parents." I love my parents but if I have plans, I am not cancelling last minute for them. I understand that some cultures view this differently but to take shots at those who believe otherwise is insane. What if those plans were with other people made weeks in advance? How incredibly rude would it be to cancel.
you see your parents as normal people in your life and you treat them like your friend thats why do dont understand why people in the comments are shocked by people like you. parents are very important people in ones life we dont just love them. we would die for them. yeah canceling a plan that is not related to work or hospital is nothing. we should treature them more and more as they grow older.
@@saloni2244hella 😂or they could’ve called like a considerate parent. I’m not canceling plans I had for my family just because my dad decided to show up announced 😂 we’ll schedule something (Yes I realize it’s a skit y’all)
It’s not a skit. My parents pulled this the other day and the next time they came over my Mom pouted in the car until I told her to come in. So dramatic.
Yet they always visit the son first. I really hate that parents that tolarate sons soo much and would give everything to them with zero expectation, yet ask soo much from us daughters but still take us for granted.
What messed with me is the fact that they put in the effort to go see the sons, but not the daughter. They just gave up after the sons hurt their feelings and didn't even go over. The dad then turns around and says "I knew I loved my daughters more than my sons." When she comes comes in catering to a rejection they wouldn't have even had to go through. Soooo... is she just the security blanket then?🤨 Caaaauuussseee THAT'S what it's giving.🤚🏼😑
That's the most messed up thing I heard today, isn't it the son's fault for not standing up if it is his parents. But obviously u guys need reason to hate woman
That’s so true, I live in other country but still visit my parents more than my brothers who live next door… I also think every wife should try to encourage her husband to visit and welcome his parents no matter what she thinks about them, they may not been the sweetest to you but still he’s their son and they deserve some love from him
@@Als1822Always deal with situations with wisdom, especially if you have a good caring husband. Don't let insecurities cloud your judgement. Stay blessed💐
As a daughter, I don’t see anything wrong with the men and their responses. It doesn’t take much to shoot a text over and let your family know you’re swinging by, that way there won’t be time conflicts or anything like that. If someone is really sick or has preexisting plans it’s not fair to expect them to drop everything and cater to your plans, no matter how much you love each other.
That’s what I was thinking like it’s rude to just come over with out notice and it’s not really fair to use this example either since the daughter came to them instead of them visiting her without notice so this video doesn’t really make sense. Btw this is coming from a girl since some of y’all are too defensive
Reminded once more of the saying that I've heard long long ago.... "A son is a son till he finds a wife.... A daughter is a daughter all her life!! " Truth said!! ❤❤❤ Exceptions are still there of course🤷😂😂
pops deserves this...he used to charge money for food from boys and used to give food freely to Linda...he deserves this..he can't be unkind to his sons..both his daughters and sons deserve to be treated equally with love without partiality..
I know this is a skit, but it still makes me sad! Can’t imagine this. I make sure my MIL is welcome in our home. Every mom sacrificed to raise their children they deserve to feel comfortable in their children’s homes and not to be forgotten.
I had inlaws do this regularly and at the worst times. It isn't wrong to turn un announced visitors away no matter who they r. Sometimes it's a really bad time and ppl will resent that.
Im with the sons, its their house and their lives now, you teach your children to grow up and have responsibilities. Its not hard to call or text instead of showing up. Your still family, but they made their own family now. Respect that.
@@paridhityagi617 not American. I'm Swedish and sure, ppl can randomly come over, but they need to be aware that we might be busy. We tend to plan things really far ahead
When i was in college, i heard my neighbour granny telling my mom, sons are sons until they get married [get a wife], and daughters are daughters, forever.
Well of course. All women want their husband to prioritize their wife above their mother no matter what. If your friend is telling you that their husband cares for their mother, you will tell them that he's a red flag.
He must prioritise his wife above the woman who gave birth to him? He shouldn't have to choose. Both women must respect each other's place in the man's life. @@ajurydiha
Wow imagine your parents doing their job as parents. You're parents raising u is smt they literally have to do, u don't owe them anything. Cold calling is illegal in alot of places so them just showing up is illegal and rude.
It’s why the bible specifically says ‘a son shall leave his father and mother and join his wife to become one flesh’ not the other way around!! This is the way God has made us
We as children invaded our parents privacy like if it never existed , do u care abt ur parents privacy what plan could be more important than parents I would never mind canceling my plans for parents or in laws
@user-ti6yg5kv8g If your children had a doctors appt or your spouse was ill, it would be pretty inconvenient if inlaws or parents came to visit out of the blue. Children are supposed to need parents undivided attention and care. That's why they are children. Adults can and should manage their own needs. As the child becomes an adult, yes they should care about their parents privacy and call first before stopping by because they could have other plans that day as well. The dynamics and expectations naturally shift once a child becomes an adult and starts his/her family of their own.
@@AMOSounds by plans I meant like outings or parties not appointments or other serious issues… when children become adult and adults get old and yes old ppl do need care I don’t know where u belong to bt i m an indian it is our culture that teach us to take care of our parents when they get old and not leave them alone dying after our needs are over we can’t be selfish
Seriously so accurate! I can go to my sisters' houses and move everywhere around freely but if I go to my brother's I just can't she's more waiting for you to leave 🤣💔
This is really true. I take care my poor parents. But my brother takes care of his own family. If I wasn’t born couldn’t imagine what will happen them. Girls blessing ❤
@@simrafatima6775 true, some boys are very loving towards family, but in most cultures, men focus on their family after moving out. Girls know they can depend on mom and dad with their kids.
When mom and dad got in the argument I was like the pigeon who deliver the message that was funny situation for me, while my brother just playing games on the phone 😂
My people have a saying,'nwa nwanyi gi nga ile gi nka'. Literally meaning,your girl child will take care of you in your old age. I was desperate for a daughter and the Lord blessed me with one 🥰🥰🥰🥰.
There is a striking difference in showing up uninvited with no notice as things are happening and having someone show up and bring you food when they have time. Both sons had valid reasons why they couldn't hang out. The daughter had time off and came on her own accord.
Glad I wasn't born as a westerner. Your relationship is so shallow it's no wonder many cut ties with their parents with the reason of "toxic parents" .
You're right. I think the side note though, is that it's often WAY less likely that the son WILL stop by to see his parents when he has time. So the parents feel the need to drop by cuz he never does.
I think the point is the parents have to go out of their way to see their sons because the boys don’t come over or invite them. The sons have moved on from the parents. The parents don’t have to visit their girl because she is still part of their lives and includes them. Also, it’s cultural. My mom shows up unannounced and vice versa. It’s just what your culture norm is.
My grandfather went to live with his new wife in another province, leaving his daughter (my mother) with his son's wife. My mother's mother died when my mother was 7 years old. Still my mother calls him, He pays her fare to come visit him and his wife and takes care of him in every way she can. But he keeps asking about his other 3 sons who don't even call him to ask how he is. Also the same thing happens with the wife of the son of my grandfather my mother stayed with when she was a child. The woman has two children, a daughter and a son. The son never does anything for her, but it's still her favorite child, her cute baby and so on. I hope it's understood hahaha maybe the relationships are difficult to follow, but English is not my native language 😅.
your English is good for a non native well done. But to be clear not all sons are like that. I have 3 sisters who don't bother with my parents whereas I look after them, their bills and socialise with them often. Not all families are the same and this video is bullsh*t
I mean "why didn't you guys call me?" part was not wrong at all. After all, we are talking about two separate houses and two separate lives. Not everyone may be available at any time even your child who has already got married
Yes, we have our own lives and respect for others. You must be missing that in your perfect family world. Being there at all times has nothing to do with love. It's called dependence and neediness@@Griemmy
@@GriemmyI'm turkish and expect my parents and in-laws to call me if they want to visit us. If we want to go see them we call and ask if they are home too. We are married for over 7 years already and never had any issues with both sides of the family
I do agree one should call to let the other party know you'd to like visit, but this should be communicated to parents in a kind, respectful way. Some of us grew up in a different era when things were done differently. A little education, communicated with caring, love and respect could make the world of difference. Don't ever be hurtful.
@@Griemmy Ah yes, says so much about Western culture that showing up totally unexpected at a bad time results in being rejected. I hope you try to invite yourself over to someone's house while they're sick and get thrown up on.
It has nothing to do with the wife, it's also how the family treats the daughter in law and the daughters. Daughters get away with anything but daughter in laws have to be perfect.
To have a Parents Is a Blessing.. They will be appreciated only when they are gone. Parents cannot be replaced. Don't takes thing for granted. Love them with all your heart. A Parent can take care of 5 Children, but not all 5 Children can take care of 1 Parent. Family is Most important.
While I love this video because I am a daughter we also have to understand that our sons have married someone’s daughter and his soul must make sure he cares for her. I have 4 sons and I want them to care for their wives and I will too so that she feels comfortable to let me in. If I act like this and go to their home uninvited anytime then it won't work because it's his family and every family has their own rules and schedule etc. Of course, my in-laws are invited but basic respect needs to be followed. You have to accept someone else’s daughter as your own and her needs under consideration as well. I would be happy to see my sons take care of their wives so nicely which means I did a decent job raising them. Daughter-in-laws need to be respected like your own daughter. Also, communication is the key to relationships. If everyone is treated equally that helps as well. 💕
You're a wonderful parent as you visited your boys. You're supposed to stay home and wait for them. Anyway, thank you so much for sharing the video. Happy holidays ⛄.
Not even then. I'm the youngest girl of my family, I've been taking care of my elderly aging parents since I was a teen. I lost jobs because I had to run back and forth and do overnight hospital stays for my father who was very sick and had dementia. I'm in my twenties, I didn't marry, I didn't anything. I essentially had very little life of my own and suffersd heavily from depression. Once I got very sick, I asked help from my elder siblings to come sometimes to feed my parents and to help a little when they can, just for an hour. A few came for one day and never again, and the others never came. My father had passed now. My mum always asks for her elder children but they never visit, they come when they need something or like twice a year for an hour or two maybe. I can write a whole book on what crappy things my sister in laws have done and what some of my siblings have done.
A lot of times boys become like that bcoz their wives dont like the inlaws visiting and the boy choses peace at home instead of fighting with wife for his parents
Wow that’s harsh and I can remember back when ppl didn’t have cellphones even phones the neighbors or family would just pop up and everyone made accommodations for them. No matter what. They took time and they feed ppl sit on the porch and talk. Now it’s like the more blessed that we are to have all this material stuff opportunities and places to go we have less time for the ppl we say we love. We use to just pop up. I knew nothing of phoning first because during those times there were no phones to phone first. Take time for older family they may not be with you long. My mom dad step parents and my husband are all now gone lord what I would do to spend time with them now. Make time for your love ones.
Why do people expect a daughter-in-law to behave or be available everytime as per their convenience? If she wants her privacy she is given tags like mean and rude and selfish.... And a daughter is appreciated even for a small thing she does And this is the reason why they behave differently 😅
@@Als1822 men are not expected to be kind so when they are even a little bit kind they are appreciated a lot , but women are expected to be kind and caring and they wont be regarded as kind if they showed the same amount of kindness as men its like when good people commit a single irresponsible act , they will be criticized but when a literal thief does a small act of kindness then people say "atleast he has a heart"
yeah daughter in law doesnt owe the parents anything . its the SON who owes them love and attention cause they HIS birth parents . but still daughter in law is blamed and the son gets away. and they excuse their son as "he is trapped by his wife" "my son could do no wrong, its definitely the daughter in law who manipulated my son"" misogyny exists everywhere in small or big doses
I would love to have parents that are interested in seeing me and their grandchildren. ❤❤ I’m going to be showing up to all my grandkids events and having them over and cooking big meals. God bless the future.
Nah. I'm a daughter, but I'm with the sons on this one. Love my parents, but don't come over unannounced and then get offended if we're on the way out or someone is sick. Takes 2 secs to send a text.
Not someones house its there kids which they probably funded it 🤦♂️ And by the way i wasnt aiming the funding of the house towards you i was talking about the videos and i know its a skit most ethnic cultures help there kids buy there house but this society i bought it myself and screw my parents if they want to play with there grandchildren sorry for if i struck a nerve !
@@pani887 my husband and I bought our own house with our own money, thanks. And we continue to pay for it and for our own bills and children. My parents and I are all adults. If they want to come by, I'm happy to have them. But call and see if we're busy or not. And if you're going to stop by on the fly, don't be offended if it isn't a good time.
@@pani887 its not really touching a nerve. Just making the point that once you're all adults, you treat each other with the same common courtesy you'd give to anyone. I think showing up to my parents house unannounced and expecting them to drop everything is rude just as I think it would be rude for them to expect the same.
Proud to say each 1 of us children ( 2 girls, 1 boy) called or saw our parents each day. Only time not done was when military service called overseas duty, my brother-in-law and sister wrote as to expensive to call. Parents are so special and so important. All of us and our spouses all treated the parents wonderful. Thank you Jesus for such a gift. ❤
,,You're welcome to stay but don't eat my snacks"😂❤
How rude!😂😂😂
New Generation that came in western culture what can u say
Atleast she welcomed them unlike their sons who asked them to leave😂😂
😅😂
But in real life that sucks
My grandma has this saying she's said many times to us kids: "Your son is your son till he finds him a wife, your daughter's your daughter the rest of her life."
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True Dat! Daughters are the brick layers of the family where the mother is the foundation and the cement and glue. Daughters try to keep everything and everyone together when the parents can't anymore. Daughters have a built-in thing that we know when our mothers are not there anymore we will take over the duty of being part of the foundation of the family or the glue that binds the family
@@misshoneybear90 And what are sons for?
@@labreynth the bricks probably. The sons are also important for a house family build 😁 without bricks the house wouldn't be a house🫣 well something along the line right?😁
@@labreynthTo sit up like pretty princesses and be told how cruel and mean the world is to them.
I heard someone once say that “your sons are your sons until they’re married but your daughters are your daughters for life”
What is the prove every boy is not like that
@@mohammadnajeeb5541might be just my family but I’ve seen it a lot where the family spends more time with the wife’s side of the family. So in that case it could make sense with that quote he put. So in that case if you flip it around the wife is now the daughter that family will spend more time with that family. Idk I’ve seen it with a lot of friends even other cousins. I’m definitely closer to my mom’s side than my dad’s. Sorry for the ramble
its wrong
Sons will visit their mother's
@@Broncomat12 You are very correct. growing up was more with my mum family and now trhat i am married, my kids know more of their mum family as we tend to be closer to them than my people. I think its a natural thing.
this is facts, I literally sit around thinking about my parents all day 😂❤. they inspire me to love whole heartedly.
Fifi is so caring 😊😊
WELL..EVERY RESPONSIBLE CHILD IS CARING!
Ya i love her cats too
Is she Chase's mom?
@@fallingrain1466haha yes
@@fallingrain1466 yep
And the fact that Fifi is actually the one who’s pregnant in this scenario but still took care of her parents
Nah she just fat bro
"the one"😅
@@BlackChrishi ????
This is so accurate. I have 7 kids. 2 daughters are married (We have 5) and 2 sons are (we have 3) and the daughters (and their husbands) come over all the time and are fine with us coming over and seeing the grand babies etc. We have dinners together and they hang out with our younger kids all the time too. But our sons have to ask their wives and their wives usually say they're busy so we can't come over. They only usually want anything to do with us when they want a babysitter. I always say yes though or I probably wouldn't ever get to see the babies. I'm not an intrusive or judgmental mother-in-law either, they just don't really want to be close I guess.
bro u need to stop breeding like that 💀💀💀
Like you son-in-law visit your house , you son is visiting his mother in law house ....😂😂😂
Your son's wife r doing the same as your daughters r.
This is so true me and my sister loved hanging out with my mom. When she would come visit me I would be so ecstatic that I would taker her around introducing her to all of my friends. 🥰
It’s so true! The daughters are always the light in the family. When I moved out my mom said the energy changed.
A Son is a Son til he takes a wife but a Daughter is a Daughter all her Life. 😊
Come to India, you'll see the real family
@@LindaJones-gq6bb Once the daughter is married, her husband and kids if they have them should be her priority, not her parents.
@@LindaJones-gq6bbif that were true, she could only do that because the husband is carrying her. There's a reason divorce rates are so high among lesbian couples.
@@artisticgamer545lol in India you make daughter in law's to take care of the parents, it's still son not doing their jobs
Let's not forget the boys be using their wife as an excuse to get out of a lot of things. No wonder in laws be hating on daughter in laws too for this hahaha
True
Exactly that why the husband family should treat their daughter in law good so they can know what’s is going on
I get that pb my husband was lieng on me to his family a lot and they bilieve him and hate me is when he died they start the truth but I was done with all those mother fucker
This comment so true
God Bless You for that point you raised 🎉
I think people underestimate how important it is for the families of the bride and groom to like each other. My grandmother always made a point to invite the families of our aunts spouses to get togethers. There was never fighting over grandchildren or holidays. They all partied together, traveled together and celebrated all major holidays and events together. Everyone knew each other well and you had people to call apon when help was needed.
That first guy "my wife has plans" hits me really hard 😅
And yet the parents run after their sons.
My aunts took loans to keep my grandma on life support. My father said "there's no need to go down with a sinking ship"
He was her favourite. 😂
Ouch you sure got a worst dad make sure you also do the same just to make him realize before he die 😂
This has 2sides . Both good intentioned. What if life support meant there was hope vs no hope?. Only issue your dad shouldn't have used the word sinking ship😅
Yeah my uncle and my 2 aunts are collectively the favorite but my mom and dad are the ones looking after my grandparents (dad’s side) - they’re so ungrateful about it too
Yep. In African families the daughter will literally slave away during her childhood taking care of the whole family while the son is treated like a Prince. Yet when the son leaves he never looks back and the daughter is somehow still expected to think about and take care of everyone.
@@Rosechakma917idk, I'd much rather my son pull the plug than go into a fuck ton of debt.
Ngl though who shows up without warning and gets upset when it's not a good time? 💀 Just call ahead and maybe that won't be an issue lmao
They're parents. Not friends. They raised you up so why not invite them in when they took the trouble to see you.
@@jhou-uu7cvdoesn't matter. kids dont ask to be born. using that as an emotional card is so manipulative.
its common sense. your kids are adults. they might have plans. they might not be home. they might hv another party to attend or an appointment etc.
@jhou-uu7cv Parents or not, when you get married you have your own family and anybody with the most basic amount of respect for you should call ahead if they're going to come visit. If you're all dressed and walking out the door, or feeling really sick, you shouldn't have to drop everything for visitors (yes, even your parents)
Dropping by unannounced and getting mad when the family has things to do already shows the parents don't respect their child as an adult
I raise my kids I will never expect them to drop their plans and show up at THEIR house unannounced.
@@jhou-uu7cv if we're sitting around doing nothing fine. But if we are literally on our way out the door because we have other plans, we're not just dropping everything. Same if someone is sick and not up to having anyone around. If you drop over unannounced, then don't be offended if its not a good time. A phone call or text takes 2 seconds and is the courteous thing to do.
It's crazy how people are going at an angle of "doesn't matter if you're busy drop everything for your parents." I love my parents but if I have plans, I am not cancelling last minute for them. I understand that some cultures view this differently but to take shots at those who believe otherwise is insane. What if those plans were with other people made weeks in advance? How incredibly rude would it be to cancel.
you see your parents as normal people in your life and you treat them like your friend thats why do dont understand why people in the comments are shocked by people like you. parents are very important people in ones life we dont just love them. we would die for them. yeah canceling a plan that is not related to work or hospital is nothing. we should treature them more and more as they grow older.
People who have daughters are the luckiest❤
Big difference is you went to the boys home unannounced and your daughter came to your home unannounced. 😂 A call could have save 85% of this video 😂
You do realize it's a skit right?😂
They could have cancelled their plans
@@saloni2244hella 😂or they could’ve called like a considerate parent. I’m not canceling plans I had for my family just because my dad decided to show up announced 😂 we’ll schedule something (Yes I realize it’s a skit y’all)
@@crosales8184bad one if they came unannounced it destroys the point of the skit
It’s not a skit. My parents pulled this the other day and the next time they came over my Mom pouted in the car until I told her to come in. So dramatic.
Yet they always visit the son first. I really hate that parents that tolarate sons soo much and would give everything to them with zero expectation, yet ask soo much from us daughters but still take us for granted.
exactly. my parents say bcs hes a son..we cant tell him much but we can tell you because you're our daughter
What messed with me is the fact that they put in the effort to go see the sons, but not the daughter. They just gave up after the sons hurt their feelings and didn't even go over. The dad then turns around and says "I knew I loved my daughters more than my sons." When she comes comes in catering to a rejection they wouldn't have even had to go through. Soooo... is she just the security blanket then?🤨 Caaaauuussseee THAT'S what it's giving.🤚🏼😑
Very true.. They behave like that right up to the end..the Ingrates!!!
@@ambecappmanikam3351It's sad that you should speak about elders like this😢
Facts they gave up after the boys😂.. didn't even call the daughters, smh.
This the truth. 👌🏾
“.. You’re welcome to stay but don’t eat my snacks..”😂
Pops already knows most of the time the daughter in laws rule the house because the attitude 😂
That's the most messed up thing I heard today, isn't it the son's fault for not standing up if it is his parents. But obviously u guys need reason to hate woman
@@avipsa304 lmao I have plenty just adds another to the pile 😁
@@avipsa304well, it's not a lie in most cases tho.
@@avipsa304yeah but spineless men do exist. So it's true
Nd same daughter in law z also daughter of sumonelse😢.
That’s so true, I live in other country but still visit my parents more than my brothers who live next door… I also think every wife should try to encourage her husband to visit and welcome his parents no matter what she thinks about them, they may not been the sweetest to you but still he’s their son and they deserve some love from him
i think as wives we get insecure when in laws dont know their boundaries and try to gv unsolicited advice
@@Als1822u can listen but don't implement.
100%!!!! Wives literally make and break bonds in their man's life and so a good woman will keep good company
@@Als1822Always deal with situations with wisdom, especially if you have a good caring husband. Don't let insecurities cloud your judgement.
Stay blessed💐
Totally agree 👍
Moral of the story. The wife is always in charge. I can't wait to never make my own decisions again 👍😂😢
Typical man
As a daughter, I don’t see anything wrong with the men and their responses. It doesn’t take much to shoot a text over and let your family know you’re swinging by, that way there won’t be time conflicts or anything like that. If someone is really sick or has preexisting plans it’s not fair to expect them to drop everything and cater to your plans, no matter how much you love each other.
That’s what I was thinking like it’s rude to just come over with out notice and it’s not really fair to use this example either since the daughter came to them instead of them visiting her without notice so this video doesn’t really make sense. Btw this is coming from a girl since some of y’all are too defensive
But calling beforehand is so important.
I would give that same energy when they would arrive to my house unannounced.
Mmmmhm.
Hmmm
Yeah you can't say nothing if you didn't call ahead...
@@margocrenshaw4944same bro.
Reminded once more of the saying that I've heard long long ago.... "A son is a son till he finds a wife.... A daughter is a daughter all her life!! " Truth said!! ❤❤❤ Exceptions are still there of course🤷😂😂
pops deserves this...he used to charge money for food from boys and used to give food freely to Linda...he deserves this..he can't be unkind to his sons..both his daughters and sons deserve to be treated equally with love without partiality..
This us staged...It’s not that serious even charging them money for food is also a game
"I knew I love my daughters more than my sons" that explains it.
I know this is a skit, but it still makes me sad! Can’t imagine this. I make sure my MIL is welcome in our home. Every mom sacrificed to raise their children they deserve to feel comfortable in their children’s homes and not to be forgotten.
So sad that this happens in reality. I felt sad too looking at this ❤ 🙏
This happens for sons and daughters this video = bs
@@sanshizer1836The statistics of ot happening with sons are higher. Video is definitely not bs
I had inlaws do this regularly and at the worst times. It isn't wrong to turn un announced visitors away no matter who they r. Sometimes it's a really bad time and ppl will resent that.
Parents also should respect their children’s space and autonomy and call ahead.
Fifi is the best & my favorite!! She’s going to be a great Mom! ❤️
this is heartwarming❤
Im with the sons, its their house and their lives now, you teach your children to grow up and have responsibilities. Its not hard to call or text instead of showing up. Your still family, but they made their own family now. Respect that.
This sounds so American. If your parents start calling you to just come over, you have messed up your relation with them
It's common courtesy. @paridhityagi617
@@paridhityagi617 not American. I'm Swedish and sure, ppl can randomly come over, but they need to be aware that we might be busy. We tend to plan things really far ahead
@toxicstarbot6701 aren't you guys literally the WORST hosts in the world?
@@paridhityagi617 it's called communication. Being on the same page. Ever heard of it?
When i was in college, i heard my neighbour granny telling my mom, sons are sons until they get married [get a wife], and daughters are daughters, forever.
Well of course. All women want their husband to prioritize their wife above their mother no matter what. If your friend is telling you that their husband cares for their mother, you will tell them that he's a red flag.
He must prioritise his wife above the woman who gave birth to him? He shouldn't have to choose. Both women must respect each other's place in the man's life. @@ajurydiha
"your son is your son until he takes a wife, your daughters are your daughters for life"😊
I feel like that’s an excuse there are plenty of sons that put their parents on a pedestal
I could never ask my parents who love and took care of me my whole life y they would come to my house uninvited 💀 AND RUFUSE TO LET THEM IN 💀💀💀
I hope you feel the same way when your wifes parents show up unannounced
they had plans...
@@surlespasdondine the one with the pregnant wife
Well his wife is not feeling well and is pregnant- don't just show up!!
Wow imagine your parents doing their job as parents. You're parents raising u is smt they literally have to do, u don't owe them anything. Cold calling is illegal in alot of places so them just showing up is illegal and rude.
That's why I love Indian culture
It’s why the bible specifically says ‘a son shall leave his father and mother and join his wife to become one flesh’ not the other way around!!
This is the way God has made us
It costs nothing to send a message a few hours before you plan to come though
Exactly 😅, thought so too
We as children invaded our parents privacy like if it never existed , do u care abt ur parents privacy what plan could be more important than parents I would never mind canceling my plans for parents or in laws
@user-ti6yg5kv8g
If your children had a doctors appt or your spouse was ill, it would be pretty inconvenient if inlaws or parents came to visit out of the blue.
Children are supposed to need parents undivided attention and care. That's why they are children. Adults can and should manage their own needs.
As the child becomes an adult, yes they should care about their parents privacy and call first before stopping by because they could have other plans that day as well.
The dynamics and expectations naturally shift once a child becomes an adult and starts his/her family of their own.
They would get that same energy when they arrive to my house unannounced.
@@AMOSounds by plans I meant like outings or parties not appointments or other serious issues… when children become adult and adults get old and yes old ppl do need care
I don’t know where u belong to bt i m an indian it is our culture that teach us to take care of our parents when they get old and not leave them alone dying after our needs are over we can’t be selfish
Seriously so accurate! I can go to my sisters' houses and move everywhere around freely but if I go to my brother's I just can't she's more waiting for you to leave 🤣💔
form a good relationship with your sister in law then. don't exclude her then expect to feel welcomed
Literally me living down the road to my parents, always popping over with the kittens to brighten their days
Daughters are always special ❤
Daughters are a blessing
Are sons not equally as important?
@@KaiBateson no they are pathetic
So people that don't have daughter should cry right ❤?
Facts😂😂😂😂
My dad was telling me this the other day about me vs my brother after we got married 😂😂😂😂
This is really true. I take care my poor parents. But my brother takes care of his own family. If I wasn’t born couldn’t imagine what will happen them. Girls blessing ❤
Deadass i live across the country from my parents and i video call them as much as i can😂😂
Y'all are such a beautiful family. Love Fifi she's absolutely adorable
My mom always said girls get married and come back with the husband and kids, boys get married and leave!
wow!!..this is such an amazing statement, though not true in all cases but still, this is a great way to put up a sentence!
@@simrafatima6775 true, some boys are very loving towards family, but in most cultures, men focus on their family after moving out. Girls know they can depend on mom and dad with their kids.
Yes the same girl who visits her parents with family is daughter in law for her in laws..who say the same things about their daughter
Finally, the actual truth
FR FR
I talk with my MIL about this. She has 3 sons and no daughters. We’re far away but I’m so glad we talk almost daily. ❤❤❤
This is the truth, son is only son.. But daughter is always with you no matter what.. 🥰🥰❤️❤️
Fifi is a caring daughter❤She always know if her parents need anything ❤😢
Its really shame for society who don't teach equality for both boys and girls ,
It’s for content
When mom and dad got in the argument I was like the pigeon who deliver the message that was funny situation for me, while my brother just playing games on the phone 😂
My people have a saying,'nwa nwanyi gi nga ile gi nka'. Literally meaning,your girl child will take care of you in your old age. I was desperate for a daughter and the Lord blessed me with one 🥰🥰🥰🥰.
When u realize guys acted like that bcoz they are scared of their wife getting mad but girl didn't bcoz she her husband will do nothing😂
Boundaries are so Needed for Healthy Marriages 😊🙏🏼
I can't stop looking at buddy's bald spot with the fade. Like homie, that ain't it 😅😅
Dad's got good style with the comb-back😂😂😂 just let it go😂
There is a striking difference in showing up uninvited with no notice as things are happening and having someone show up and bring you food when they have time. Both sons had valid reasons why they couldn't hang out. The daughter had time off and came on her own accord.
exactly this is stupid
Glad I wasn't born as a westerner. Your relationship is so shallow it's no wonder many cut ties with their parents with the reason of "toxic parents" .
A hit dog will holler 😏
You're right. I think the side note though, is that it's often WAY less likely that the son WILL stop by to see his parents when he has time. So the parents feel the need to drop by cuz he never does.
I think the point is the parents have to go out of their way to see their sons because the boys don’t come over or invite them. The sons have moved on from the parents. The parents don’t have to visit their girl because she is still part of their lives and includes them. Also, it’s cultural. My mom shows up unannounced and vice versa. It’s just what your culture norm is.
My grandfather went to live with his new wife in another province, leaving his daughter (my mother) with his son's wife. My mother's mother died when my mother was 7 years old.
Still my mother calls him, He pays her fare to come visit him and his wife and takes care of him in every way she can. But he keeps asking about his other 3 sons who don't even call him to ask how he is.
Also the same thing happens with the wife of the son of my grandfather my mother stayed with when she was a child. The woman has two children, a daughter and a son. The son never does anything for her, but it's still her favorite child, her cute baby and so on.
I hope it's understood hahaha maybe the relationships are difficult to follow, but English is not my native language 😅.
I'd say you did pretty good. Even to a native speaker, it's hard to get relationships right without some kind of visual 🤣🤣
It's heartbreaking but you told the story so well❤
Moms play a big role to how sons behave when they get older. I see a pattern of mothers coddling their sons till they die 😅
your English is good for a non native well done. But to be clear not all sons are like that. I have 3 sisters who don't bother with my parents whereas I look after them, their bills and socialise with them often. Not all families are the same and this video is bullsh*t
A girl always loves her father more than anything else.❤❤
When your girl walked in.
Me: "Hold on is that-?!"
Theres an old saying, A SONS A SON TILL HE TAKES A WIFE,, A DAUGHTERS A DAUGHTER ALL OF HER LIFE.
I mean "why didn't you guys call me?" part was not wrong at all. After all, we are talking about two separate houses and two separate lives. Not everyone may be available at any time even your child who has already got married
Says a lot of western culture.
Yes, we have our own lives and respect for others. You must be missing that in your perfect family world. Being there at all times has nothing to do with love. It's called dependence and neediness@@Griemmy
@@GriemmyI'm turkish and expect my parents and in-laws to call me if they want to visit us. If we want to go see them we call and ask if they are home too. We are married for over 7 years already and never had any issues with both sides of the family
I do agree one should call to let the other party know you'd to like visit, but this should be communicated to parents in a kind, respectful way.
Some of us grew up in a different era when things were done differently. A little education, communicated with caring, love and respect could make the world of difference. Don't ever be hurtful.
@@Griemmy Ah yes, says so much about Western culture that showing up totally unexpected at a bad time results in being rejected.
I hope you try to invite yourself over to someone's house while they're sick and get thrown up on.
Mom looks like more pretty day by day ❤
India🇮🇳 is the best country.here every child respect and love their parents lifetime ❤❤
That's what a daughter is.. Proud to be a daughter ❤ i love my parents ❤
Proud 😅 ...your cheerleader died?
But you don't love his parents
yess
That's my army gurllll💅
Hahahah because of wife’s their sons can’t do anything for their parents
It has nothing to do with the wife, it's also how the family treats the daughter in law and the daughters. Daughters get away with anything but daughter in laws have to be perfect.
Indians stay with their parents their whole life..i just love them❤
To have a Parents Is a Blessing.. They will be appreciated only when they are gone.
Parents cannot be replaced. Don't takes thing for granted. Love them with all your heart. A Parent can take care of 5 Children, but not all 5 Children can take care of 1 Parent. Family is Most important.
Daughters are the best ever❤
While I love this video because I am a daughter we also have to understand that our sons have married someone’s daughter and his soul must make sure he cares for her. I have 4 sons and I want them to care for their wives and I will too so that she feels comfortable to let me in. If I act like this and go to their home uninvited anytime then it won't work because it's his family and every family has their own rules and schedule etc. Of course, my in-laws are invited but basic respect needs to be followed. You have to accept someone else’s daughter as your own and her needs under consideration as well. I would be happy to see my sons take care of their wives so nicely which means I did a decent job raising them. Daughter-in-laws need to be respected like your own daughter. Also, communication is the key to relationships. If everyone is treated equally that helps as well. 💕
Exactly….my daughter calls for a chat…son calls when he wants something.
You're a wonderful parent as you visited your boys. You're supposed to stay home and wait for them. Anyway, thank you so much for sharing the video. Happy holidays ⛄.
That’s so true !! The boys it’s when they lose a parent that they realise it’s too late !
Bullshit. I was the one that took care of my parents until they took their last breath.
Not even then. I'm the youngest girl of my family, I've been taking care of my elderly aging parents since I was a teen. I lost jobs because I had to run back and forth and do overnight hospital stays for my father who was very sick and had dementia. I'm in my twenties, I didn't marry, I didn't anything. I essentially had very little life of my own and suffersd heavily from depression. Once I got very sick, I asked help from my elder siblings to come sometimes to feed my parents and to help a little when they can, just for an hour. A few came for one day and never again, and the others never came. My father had passed now. My mum always asks for her elder children but they never visit, they come when they need something or like twice a year for an hour or two maybe. I can write a whole book on what crappy things my sister in laws have done and what some of my siblings have done.
@@abz4674 Yep, daughters are the best.
A lot of times boys become like that bcoz their wives dont like the inlaws visiting and the boy choses peace at home instead of fighting with wife for his parents
Boys are raised to be more independent. Females are raised with caution.
Awww fifi is the sweetest to pops and mama ❤💕boys will be always boys. 😂
I don't know why, but this made me cry😭❤
This is true store of every house I wish we value daughters more then sons 🙏
Daughters are blessing.
Daughters are Blessings ❤🎉🙏
She is so sweet❤
I'm so glad my mom respects my boundaries enough to never just show up unannounced 😅
The bawl spot caught me off guard 😂 love yall
Do you mean bald spot?
😭🤣
Either way !!😂😂😂😂😂
Fifi loves her Dad and Mom. You gotta keep it down. 😂.
Mom and Dad are a stunning couple
Wow that’s harsh and I can remember back when ppl didn’t have cellphones even phones the neighbors or family would just pop up and everyone made accommodations for them. No matter what. They took time and they feed ppl sit on the porch and talk. Now it’s like the more blessed that we are to have all this material stuff opportunities and places to go we have less time for the ppl we say we love. We use to just pop up. I knew nothing of phoning first because during those times there were no phones to phone first. Take time for older family they may not be with you long. My mom dad step parents and my husband are all now gone lord what I would do to spend time with them now. Make time for your love ones.
Why do people expect a daughter-in-law to behave or be available everytime as per their convenience? If she wants her privacy she is given tags like mean and rude and selfish....
And a daughter is appreciated even for a small thing she does
And this is the reason why they behave differently 😅
Yes you are so right
son in laws are appreciated more than daughter in laws even if former does little to nothing than the latter
@@Als1822 men are not expected to be kind so when they are even a little bit kind they are appreciated a lot , but women are expected to be kind and caring and they wont be regarded as kind if they showed the same amount of kindness as men
its like when good people commit a single irresponsible act , they will be criticized but when a literal thief does a small act of kindness then people say "atleast he has a heart"
yeah daughter in law doesnt owe the parents anything . its the SON who owes them love and attention cause they HIS birth parents . but still daughter in law is blamed and the son gets away. and they excuse their son as "he is trapped by his wife"
"my son could do no wrong, its definitely the daughter in law who manipulated my son""
misogyny exists everywhere in small or big doses
@@thewizard555men are not expected to be kind really?
damn. I'm a boy and girl mom and raising both my kids with same expectations
That daughter is also someones DIL AND running other home 😂
Daughters always precious
Daughters are the pride of the family
Here in India u dont have to face these..u will always be happily welcomed
or the daughter in laws are forced to accept?
right?
My mama always tell me , hey girl make sure you try for a baby girl, boys are beautiful too but when they all grow up hmmmmm.....😂😂😂😂
The ringtone😂💀
I would love to have parents that are interested in seeing me and their grandchildren. ❤❤ I’m going to be showing up to all my grandkids events and having them over and cooking big meals. God bless the future.
Am sure the daughter’s in laws feel the same way 😂
Nah. I'm a daughter, but I'm with the sons on this one. Love my parents, but don't come over unannounced and then get offended if we're on the way out or someone is sick. Takes 2 secs to send a text.
Yeah they should've called, idk why so many comments find it normal to go to someone's house and expect them to host you with no warning
Not someones house its there kids which they probably funded it 🤦♂️
And by the way i wasnt aiming the funding of the house towards you i was talking about the videos and i know its a skit most ethnic cultures help there kids buy there house but this society i bought it myself and screw my parents if they want to play with there grandchildren sorry for if i struck a nerve !
@@pani887 my husband and I bought our own house with our own money, thanks. And we continue to pay for it and for our own bills and children. My parents and I are all adults. If they want to come by, I'm happy to have them. But call and see if we're busy or not. And if you're going to stop by on the fly, don't be offended if it isn't a good time.
@@CC-rv4zc i guess I touched a nerve they only raised him just like your parents sheesh
@@pani887 its not really touching a nerve. Just making the point that once you're all adults, you treat each other with the same common courtesy you'd give to anyone. I think showing up to my parents house unannounced and expecting them to drop everything is rude just as I think it would be rude for them to expect the same.
Daughters are always 🥰 loving to parents ...true ..❤
It's reality ...
Boys change it's bitter reality 😢
This is so true man 😂
I’ve noticed this with my uncles with my grandparents and my aunt and my mom with my grandparents and the difference is big--
Proud to say each 1 of us children ( 2 girls, 1 boy) called or saw our parents each day. Only time not done was when military service called overseas duty, my brother-in-law and sister wrote as to expensive to call. Parents are so special and so important. All of us and our spouses all treated the parents wonderful. Thank you Jesus for such a gift. ❤
Fifi is adorable
Always respect parents ❤
I legit thought they were visiting their friends and didn’t understand why they were that upset