Him "knowing how psycho she (cheating partner) can get" is not an excuse for him to have treated his bride coldly at all, let alone for their wedding night and for days after.
He claims he sided with her at the wedding because she's psycho and he didn't want to upset her more. Yeah, so why was he telling his wife, while they were ALONE at home, that she needed to apologize to Sarah??
I thought the same thing! If there were ever anything worse than Ascon 1 for him, he would be that. The husband, Sarah & Nicole were infuriating. OP is better than me cause I would be giving a tongue lashing to all 3 of them if it were me. 🤬
The absolute NERVE of Sarah and her friend for acting like any of this was OP’s fault! Sarah was the one that ruined the wedding and made it all public. The ex husband ruined it by cheating.
I don't get why he CONTINUED to be pissy with OP for days after the wedding if his only reason for defending Sarah was to alleviate the potential for psychotic behavior at the wedding. The wedding was over. Where was the threat at that point? That dude is just garbage all around.
If she's only 23 then they've been together for 9 years and he was cheating for more than 5 of those years. So he was cheating for more than half of their relationship. This doesn't get to be stuffed in the "it happened years ago" category.
If Sarah was so worried about what would happen if OP found out, why did she go to the wedding and go nuts? This is how she wanted it to end. You don't get to cause a situation and then b*tch to the person you wronged and try to guilt them for reacting.
Josh and OP were together for what, 7 years? And he was with Sara for nearly 6. Sara and Nicole are really bad at math if they saybthis was something that happened "years ago." Good for OP for getting out. What she thought was love sounds a whole lot like lovebombing, and was intended to assuage his guilt while making sure she didn't notice anything that he was up to.
Not three minutes in and I'm calling it: Husband cheated on OP with the other woman. The MOMENT he said OP should apologize to her because she hurt her feelings.
Wait okay if she was 23 and he's 26 he would've been a junior or senior when she was a freshman. Did he cheat on her with Sarah or did he cheat on Sarah with her and choose OP??
I found out after my divorce that my ex cheated on me during his bachelor party. He became abusive and continued to cheat on me the whole 3 years we were married.
Her comment: How could men live like this. Well, it depends on the culture. In japan, for example, it's acceptable to have affairs and sleep well. Because that is what men do. The same can be said about france and spain and italy. Men feel obligated to do what they wish because the culture says so. No argentina well same spot as the others. The US well, that's different because it depends on culture. It depends on the community. It depends on selfishness. It depends on The stupidity of family and partners. Rule one finances are always separate. Two never trust always verify. Rule three follows your code of ethics. Whatever that might be and make sure you both are on the ethics list. And the next time any of them say, well, it was in the past. You say the past is prolog for the future. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I would have him and his family. Pay for anything regarding the wedding that they haven't already paid for they are responsible for raising such an individual.
Josh seems very manipulative. Him accusing the ex he cheated with of being "psycho" as a justification for taking her side doesnt even make sense. Why would he still be cold and angry with his new bride days later if thats what it was about? So he was still lying even when he was "comming clean". And OP kind of glosses over how that conversation went, but it sounds like he tried to deny it until he couldnt. I wouldnt be surprised if he was still manipulating Nicole and Sarah and thats why they felt a need to defend him and attack OP. Which means he still has relationships with both of them, despite one of them supposedly being "psycho" and one supposedly being a racist who hated his almost wife. I also wouldnt be surprised if the idea that "nicole never liked [OP]" was also manipulation from Josh to make sure someone who had knowledge of his cheating never got too close to the person he was cheating on and felt compelled to rat him out.
OP, as much as it hurt it could have been so much worse. That you learned the way you did is horrible. The one thing you can be grateful for is no children were involved. Best wishes for your future OP!
It’s so important to live on your own for at least a while before getting married!! And always keep your finances separate and be able to support yourself no matter what. Leaving relationships can be hard enough, don’t make it harder.
just goes to show that cheating has long term effects and you KNOW he never would have cut that biotch Nicole out of their lives and how did his parents NOT know he was dating someone else.
When brozo's red flag was revealed, he made the biggest red flag parade! Not because of his reaction on the wedding, but with threatening OP to be back to him, and turning his blame to her and still feeling sad because of reputation? Which one? And about those excessive love demonstration, I must say... the loudest "romantic" guys are mostly attempts to cover the red flag actions. OP is better without him and I hope she can recover and find someone who can really be a partner with her.
Honestly, she could sue him for fraud. But i hope she gets therapy. Im so proud of her for standing up for herself because truly, she sounds like a doormat. And i say that as a recovering doormat who didnt have the courage to leave. I want the best for her
Heard all the updates elsewhere and I was doing the same thing. Dude is just as crazy as Sarah. He gaslit OP for literally doing nothing when Sarah was the one who flew off the handle like a lunatic unprovoked. Cheaters and homewreckers always blame the victims of the actions.
It wasn't really that long ago, she's 23. If it happened in high school (only 4 years) and lasted 6 they would have been at least 19 more the likely 20 or 21 when it ended. So not even 5 years.
Someone should of told op and nicole should be disoned or something poor op. Play stupid games win stupid prizes is what i say to the ex and he shouldn't of messed around on her. Sarah is lucky not to be charged with something in my opinion, I feel sorry for op and wish them all the best in the future.😊
In high school you're children. Get Over It. - as for the wedding, hubby needs to cut all ties with ex and Nicole needs a short leash - she's toxic. If he can't agree to that get out now
If she hadn’t shown up to the wedding and behaved as she did, OP would be living a lie with a cheater. Blessing in a hideous disguise
Very true
The only reason he defended her at the wedding was because he knew she was crazy enough to spill the beans.
The worst part of me hopes he and Sarah get together. She deserves a serial cheater, he deserves a crazy wife.
OP is accused of "ruining his reputation"? Honey, he committed character assassination all on his own. and I'm with DT.. Sarah can just eat glass.
Him "knowing how psycho she (cheating partner) can get" is not an excuse for him to have treated his bride coldly at all, let alone for their wedding night and for days after.
He claims he sided with her at the wedding because she's psycho and he didn't want to upset her more. Yeah, so why was he telling his wife, while they were ALONE at home, that she needed to apologize to Sarah??
I thought the same thing! If there were ever anything worse than Ascon 1 for him, he would be that. The husband, Sarah & Nicole were infuriating. OP is better than me cause I would be giving a tongue lashing to all 3 of them if it were me. 🤬
The absolute NERVE of Sarah and her friend for acting like any of this was OP’s fault! Sarah was the one that ruined the wedding and made it all public. The ex husband ruined it by cheating.
If my son did something this awful, I'd disown him and keep OP.
Living alone is great! Everyone should experience it, because that's how you really get to know yourself.
I don't get why he CONTINUED to be pissy with OP for days after the wedding if his only reason for defending Sarah was to alleviate the potential for psychotic behavior at the wedding. The wedding was over. Where was the threat at that point? That dude is just garbage all around.
This is why you don't 100% rely on anyone regarding your overall living expenses.
Nicole did her a favor bringing Sarah to the wedding
I think perhaps the guy was on some level, flattered that the ex girlfriend showed up to ruin his wedding
I hate the “They were drunk” excuse. Your actions have consequences wether you are intoxicated or not and you have to deal with those consequences.
They call it "dutch courage" for a reason.
drunk actions are sober thoughts
If she's only 23 then they've been together for 9 years and he was cheating for more than 5 of those years. So he was cheating for more than half of their relationship. This doesn't get to be stuffed in the "it happened years ago" category.
She would be better off divorced. He did this stuff out of guilt not love!
Good for you OP. You are doing great for yourself. I hope and pray you will find an amazing person that treats you like you deserve to be treated .
If Sarah was so worried about what would happen if OP found out, why did she go to the wedding and go nuts? This is how she wanted it to end. You don't get to cause a situation and then b*tch to the person you wronged and try to guilt them for reacting.
Josh and OP were together for what, 7 years? And he was with Sara for nearly 6. Sara and Nicole are really bad at math if they saybthis was something that happened "years ago." Good for OP for getting out. What she thought was love sounds a whole lot like lovebombing, and was intended to assuage his guilt while making sure she didn't notice anything that he was up to.
My heart breaks for OP 😢
Oh gosh OP is only 23? The cheating hurts even more when it was only a few years back! It was NOT that long ago!
Not three minutes in and I'm calling it: Husband cheated on OP with the other woman. The MOMENT he said OP should apologize to her because she hurt her feelings.
Wait okay if she was 23 and he's 26 he would've been a junior or senior when she was a freshman. Did he cheat on her with Sarah or did he cheat on Sarah with her and choose OP??
I found out after my divorce that my ex cheated on me during his bachelor party. He became abusive and continued to cheat on me the whole 3 years we were married.
12:16 I'm so glad he didn't try to take her money!
Her comment: How could men live like this. Well, it depends on the culture. In japan, for example, it's acceptable to have affairs and sleep well. Because that is what men do. The same can be said about france and spain and italy. Men feel obligated to do what they wish because the culture says so. No argentina well same spot as the others. The US well, that's different because it depends on culture. It depends on the community. It depends on selfishness. It depends on
The stupidity of family and partners.
Rule one finances are always separate. Two never trust always verify. Rule three follows your code of ethics. Whatever that might be and make sure you both are on the ethics list.
And the next time any of them say, well, it was in the past. You say the past is prolog for the future. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I would have him and his family. Pay for anything regarding the wedding that they haven't already paid for they are responsible for raising such an individual.
Josh seems very manipulative.
Him accusing the ex he cheated with of being "psycho" as a justification for taking her side doesnt even make sense. Why would he still be cold and angry with his new bride days later if thats what it was about?
So he was still lying even when he was "comming clean". And OP kind of glosses over how that conversation went, but it sounds like he tried to deny it until he couldnt.
I wouldnt be surprised if he was still manipulating Nicole and Sarah and thats why they felt a need to defend him and attack OP. Which means he still has relationships with both of them, despite one of them supposedly being "psycho" and one supposedly being a racist who hated his almost wife.
I also wouldnt be surprised if the idea that "nicole never liked [OP]" was also manipulation from Josh to make sure someone who had knowledge of his cheating never got too close to the person he was cheating on and felt compelled to rat him out.
OP, as much as it hurt it could have been so much worse. That you learned the way you did is horrible. The one thing you can be grateful for is no children were involved. Best wishes for your future OP!
Go get your own car, let him have the other one
You have to be 100% financially independent so you’re not ruined just in case something like this happens.
It’s so important to live on your own for at least a while before getting married!! And always keep your finances separate and be able to support yourself no matter what. Leaving relationships can be hard enough, don’t make it harder.
just goes to show that cheating has long term effects
and you KNOW he never would have cut that biotch Nicole out of their lives
and how did his parents NOT know he was dating someone else.
When brozo's red flag was revealed, he made the biggest red flag parade! Not because of his reaction on the wedding, but with threatening OP to be back to him, and turning his blame to her and still feeling sad because of reputation? Which one? And about those excessive love demonstration, I must say... the loudest "romantic" guys are mostly attempts to cover the red flag actions. OP is better without him and I hope she can recover and find someone who can really be a partner with her.
If he wanted her to talk better of him, he should have treated her better.
At least kids weren't evolved so she has no reason to see him again.
Honestly, she could sue him for fraud. But i hope she gets therapy. Im so proud of her for standing up for herself because truly, she sounds like a doormat. And i say that as a recovering doormat who didnt have the courage to leave. I want the best for her
He got away with it for 6 years he would have cheated again eventually
Divorce…… that is it, that is all!
Sarah called her to tell her off and he's upset with her and she should apologize 🤔. She's going to find out 'it's not over'
I keep saying WTF
Heard all the updates elsewhere and I was doing the same thing. Dude is just as crazy as Sarah. He gaslit OP for literally doing nothing when Sarah was the one who flew off the handle like a lunatic unprovoked. Cheaters and homewreckers always blame the victims of the actions.
@@LunaP1 100%
LOVE the shirt!!
It wasn't really that long ago, she's 23. If it happened in high school (only 4 years) and lasted 6 they would have been at least 19 more the likely 20 or 21 when it ended. So not even 5 years.
I can't even believe he had the balls to suggest that his wife apologize to Sarah after the wedding. Brozo to infinity.
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Annulment. Edited to add - I wrote that before he got to the update. Ye gods, run fast.
Someone should of told op and nicole should be disoned or something poor op. Play stupid games win stupid prizes is what i say to the ex and he shouldn't of messed around on her. Sarah is lucky not to be charged with something in my opinion, I feel sorry for op and wish them all the best in the future.😊
In high school you're children. Get Over It. - as for the wedding, hubby needs to cut all ties with ex and Nicole needs a short leash - she's toxic. If he can't agree to that get out now
Most of these people should have never gotten merried! They don't know what it means to be committed. They need therapy.
Nicole can eat glass
I don't believe this story.