Fun animal (& Viking) fact: Vikings gave the cutest wedding presents. They might be famous for their battle skills, but Nordic tradition also meant that they gave kittens as wedding gifts!
I just don’t get relationships at all. 😓 I’d rather just be playing video games with my friends than be in anything like that. Then again. I have been told that it’s probably because I’m autistic. But I have been noticing some asexual tendencies in me.
@@kempolar9768 there's a little evidence, but there's SO MUCH misinformation from the purity crowd that, ironically it's hard to find a reliable source.
Conservatives be like don’t think about sex don’t lust don’t flaunt yourself don’t get pregnant but also Asexuals are evil your body is for making babies you cant not have sex thats just wrong. make it make sense
For the record, the mom saying "Yes I am" when being called awful was NOT self-awareness. It was guilt tripping and strawmaning. My mom does it all the time when her behavior is called out. "Because I'm the worst mother ever, right?" She wanted her kid to say "No, you're not." in order to deflect from whatever she was called out for.
My biomom did this too. I eventually just started agreeing with her. She got a former friend to call me to “catch up,” which was really just so former friend could talk up biomom. Probably on speaker in the same room. “She’s so sad, she wants to reconnect, but she says she thinks you just want her to die.” “I’m surprised she still knows me so well after all these years, because that’s exactly how I feel! I’ll be very happy when she dies. Probably gonna throw a party.” “…are you serious?” “Absolutely. She’s already produced the only thing of value she ever will. The only way she can enrich the world now would be through her absence.” The harassment stopped after that. And yes, I’m really going to throw that party. My real (step) mom will be there.
For the record, calling it self-awereness is sarcasm. My mother doesn't understand it too and starts long explanation every time I answer her ironically, just like you did.
19:15 the really scary part is that not only she has just plastered her underage daughters name, face and approximate location all over the internet, she’s also told every creep and predator out there the times she will be out on the streets unsupervised and armed them with enough information to make that little girl think they’re a familiar or safe person. I really hope she’s safe.
yeah even the "i took her phone and everything away" ... she is making her daughter a PRIME target for kidnappers and sex traffickers ... I mean what more do you want a parent to do ? .. put their kid in a bag and hand it over ? ... there is actually not much more you can legally do to make your own child as available to predators as this mother did .. WILD .. just FUGGING WILD
AND told them that usually she has a phone, but for the foreseeable future she won't. Now the mom just has to put up some chloroform dispensers along her route and she'll be golden.
I’m honestly not surprised she ‘accidentally’ doxxed her own child given the fact that she’s PUBLICLY SHAMING HER ELEMENTARY SCHOOL DAUGHTER ON THE INTERNET 🙄🙄🙄
Family: If you don't tolerate the insane sh^t they do, even accept it, then you are the "bad" family member. You are only a "good" family member if you let yourself be their punching bag while giving them every once of your time, heart, and soul. Welcome to the "family values" mind-set.
One thing that I've heard with generational trauma is that a lot of people want to be "better than their parents," which leads to small changes over time, but that trauma is still passed on. It takes a lot more courage to heal from the trauma and to refuse not to give any onto another person. I'm in that process now, and I'm solidly not having children until I'm healed from what my parents did to me
@@caicat722 My generation fanned the flames of a reverse version of child abuse that became very common. George Carlin (God rest his soul) dubbed it "Child Worship". The epidemic of adults who grew up thinking that they are smarter than they were, are more special than they are, and so extremely passive of that form of thinking that Karens got their on term ("Karen") and thus they are confidentially open about who and what they are. Going the other direction without guidance has blowback, too. Lots of my generation also forced public schools to lower their standards for grading because their kids got bad grades... instead of helping their kids study or just accepting their kid is a C or D student. "Why won't this college accept me? I have a 3.8 GPA"... well, son, that's because being an A or B student in your school is very easy.
Yes absolutely! My mom still does this I've become 25 and she still expects me to put her in front of everything and have her on my mind 24/7. Even after all the trauma she put me through:D , the moment I get the chance I'm outta here
I genuinely don't understand gals who gladly make motherhood their whole life and personality. You can be a mom and still be your own person Why tf would you make wiping someone else's ass the most interesting thing about you 💀
it's not good for anyone. but I suppose it's easy to see where it comes from. I mean... looking at children's toys alone ... girls get groomed into wanting nothing but motherhood, into seeing motherhood as their sole purpose and only reason for their existance. and it often takes careful parents and other parenting grown ups to shield little girls from that. I don't want to excuse toxic mums here. but I see a bigger picture.
I suspect a lot of it comes from the same place Keranism seems to comes from; It used to be something they could use to both validate their self worth and wield power over people. Mothers get benefits, trust, empathy, justification, special treatment, on top of the automatic "pretty privileged" society has given them purely for the sake of being female. The moment all that clout and power dries up, they become ravenous in their desperate attempts to pour any old oil on the wound. The facade is gone, and only the demanding brat remains, regardless of context or reason.
My mother still does it. She still can't figure out even after telling her multiple times this shit before going back to NC with her. I have my own family to worry about and not being her therapist for her fuckin up her own life
The first video is why I fear women who make being a mother their ENTIRE PERSONALITY. Once the kids grow up and become adults, they have a meltdown, can't function, and act like the whole universe slighted them.
I was talking to an acquaintance recently and someone had told her about my oldest kid’s situation, which boils down to they’re gonna live with me probably for the rest of their life. Her comment… “Oh that is just so wonderful! I would love it if my son had (condition)!” …wtf lady?! Of course I don’t mind my kid living with me but the condition causes him to struggle… A lot. It’s heartbreaking. Small town so she knows this and the only thing she focused on was wow if only my kid had that condition so I could control them forever. Wtf lady?
@@MemristerBoogieDown That. That right there. That's the BS I'm talking about. That deranged woman would probably do a reverse-Norman Bates her son to keep her child with her forever...
@@MemristerBoogieDown Not related really but sometimes I forget actual adults either while ass children are on this channel lmao. (This is actually coming from someone who is very much technically a fellow adult and has at least been biologically able to have kids for like a decade now lol).
I had my mom try the "you are a tenent from now on" bullshit with me before. Malicious Compliance is a bitch. I had her on the hook for thousands on repairs to the house because if i was a tenant she had to fix them. Also whenever she wanted me to do chores i told her I will get to them when i get to them, as my landlord she doesn't have that sort of granular say on when or even what chores I do. On top of that when rent came due, i just refused to pay and she was required by law to give me 30 day notice before kicking me out. It gave me about 2 months to get out of there 😂
My mother did something kinda similar with me. Basically I argued that I never see anything of my fathers childcare money (400$) and I had to pay for a lot of things myself with my pocket money and savings. So she gave me that money and I guess wanted to see how long I would survive?! I didn’t have to pay rent or electricity and water, but I would’ve made an agreement if she wanted to. I did. However pay for my own food, my phone, clothes, hygiene products, school supplies, electronic devices and such. I spent around 250$ per month and thus saved a lot. Then one month she just gave me 200$ without any explanation. When I asked her about it she got mad which ended in her throwing me out of the house to live with my dad.
The only way this would be my child is if this was their choice. And I would put every rent payment into a separate account so they'll have it when they move. I'm so sorry your parent is (in Clicks words) a piece of poo.
14:29 - those are pics from CHILDREN'S BEAUTY PAGENTS. As in that horrific Toddlers and Tiaras show. Yes, people actually do this to their kids. The exact same people who accuse their gay neighbors of 'grooming' children.
Yep. Those are also the kind of people where I get concerned if they say "think of the children", because they make it very clear what kind of thoughts they have.
19:15 "Here's my child's name, face, and location. We let them outside to walk the dog on their own and they don't have a phone to call the police! Stalk them for us!" The parents are really rolling the dice with this one.
So that 6yo shooting teacher case is even worse. He was known to be violent, the teacher went to the principle to try and have them search the kids bag because kid said he had the gun, and principle did nothing. It's a pretty wild case to be honest.
@glitchhoffe1293 Yeah, the teacher recently won a court case against the school district for several millions due to the lase fair treatment of the kid at school. Also due to the kid being a kid, he will likely go to Juvie and get counseling for a few years that he should have gotten sooner. Hopefully, the kid learns from these events in a positive way and integrates into society a healthy person.
@wmdkitty yeah I totally forgot about how garbage the mom was and still is in this whole thing. She was trying to put the blame on anyone but herself and the dad who failed to make sure the gun was properly stored away from the kids' reach.
My mom beat me when I was 8 for ASKING for a dress, had no idea what the internet or LGBT was. Then she forced me into the closet when I got caught kissing boys at 12. Now she thinks it was the internet that "brainwashed me" and "it was so sudden." Editing my Edit for Clarification: Thank you for the support. I am a Transwoman, my grandmother is 70 but has 1 Brother alive who is gay and been with his partner for nearly 60 years now. The other died during the aids crisis in America by the hospital refusing to treat him because he was gay. My grandma doesn't understand how her daughter, my mother, is so awful. I have a chance at being happy in spite of everything that has happened to me. I make music and try to work on these emotions everyday. It's more then difficult but it's why I appreciate the support when it does come. Even if it's a few thousand people enjoying my content as an escape or to feel seen or heard.
Yep, my friends in university, one of whom I met after coming out, made me trans because "but there was never any sign". Yeah, apparently 18+ years of joking that I "was the son we never had" never happened. 🙄
Yeah, it surely was not the case that I was into the idea of having a girlfriend ever since I knew that was a possibility in general. Nope, my 15 year old friends made me lesbian because they were all lesbians (I'm bi, and they were all straight).
That's because that heqting over the dress was just another Tuesday to her. It was just another day of beating her child, it meant nothing to her. Meanwhile to you, a young child with very little life experience, it was a major life event of the time. It's amazing how parents don't remember doing that sorta shite because to them it didn't actually mean anything.
I love that that one christian parent is fine with their son being atheist. It shows a high level of respect for your child and their thoughts and feelings to allow them to pick their own path in regards to religion and spirituality.
Not all religious people are nutjobs, Both my neighbors are pretty devout Catholic Christians, knowing very well, that I don't attend church - and we still see eye to eye and have a good neighborly relationship. A lot of my customers are also religious, even a few of the local priests frequent my shop. I don't hide that I don't attend church and don't have that much to do with religion - still getting along fine. On the other hand - I live in Germany and even living in a more conservative part is a far cry from what you hear from America.
My grandma dragged me to her church before I could even walk. A church where they tell you to dance when they worship which is supposed to make it more fun but they completely ignore kids with disabilities (except the obvious ones like not being able to walk) and I have asthma. When I was about 6 or 7 years old, I was actually able to dance so they made me dance no matter what. I would be exhausted or barely able to breath and they would just say "just breath and dance, you'll be fine!" I'm so glad that when I was 11 I realized that Christianity was not making any sense and that the church was being abusive to me and escaped that church and am now atheist.
Eyyyy fellow atheist! I was the same age when I started taking issues with religion. Left all of that behind more than a decade ago, and I'm much happier and more at peace. Never looked back☺️ Good for u for coming to ur own conclusions! Best of luck to u 😊👍
@@thisisastrobbery363Well, it brings up the question of what the point is when it doesn't make its adherents act any better than anyone else. And if anything, the most religious people I've met are some of the absolute worst.
A thing I've learned watching my friends with their parents is that if u dont restrict your kid from anything and actually let them have a childhood then they are more likely to not do any bad stuff since they have nothing to rebel against. They are also more likely to respect you
For me. It was kinda in the middle. I grew up as a happy child until I turned 13. Then my parents started asking me for help for everything. Even if there was someone in the room with them. Then at 16 I figured out I was gay. And tried to see how my parents reacted to LGBTQ people. Didn’t end well. Still haven’t come out to them because I’m not out of the house yet. Then at 20 I figure out that I’m a trans female. So I’ve been bottling up my emotions. To the point where I can’t smile anymore.
My favorite part about this sub is that my own mother is literally insane, diagnosed schizophrenic, who refuses meds, and she's not as bad as these people.
As a 23 yo with relatively normal and loving parents these videos always make me kinda sad. My parents are major advisors in all of my bigger life decisions and I can't imagine what it must be like to not have this backup from your family...
I mean while my mom was alive that was the case but after she died well things did not go so well needless to say I was only really considered a member of my family because of my mom. I have not talked to any family members in 10 years.
I had an ex with family that was pretty toxic and it bled into our relationship. His mom and his sister were very rude to me and my ex didn’t do anything to defend me. His mom even threatened to call campus police (I lived on campus in college and she didn’t know where I went to school) on me for the stupidest of reasons. Whenever my ex hung out with me, his mom would random call to cuss him out. Every call ended in a screaming match. One day it was so bad that while it was happening in public, I had to walk away because I couldn’t bear the looks people were giving us, especially me. I got a lot of pity looks from people.
It's like knowing that you're going to fail in life, and knowing there's absolutely nothing you can do to stop it. Like a runaway train.. Some people are capable of stopping a train, but not you. All you can do is panic as the track shortens before you.
It’s unimaginably painful and I’m living it and I still can’t really comprehend it. That’s what having abusive parents is like. Your brain just can’t process how your own parents could be this cruel to you. It really fs you up…
this came at the perfect time. Just moved out of my abusive mothers house for the second time, and got put into foster care. It's nice to see I'm not alone with parents who are psychotic.
Fun fact about the name Yaweh; it’s not a casual name to be said! Religiously speaking, it’s meant to be whispered in times of need (like war, life risking situations, or fear!) because it’s a sacred name!
actual religious jews never say it out loud. it was said exactly once a year by priests in the temple on yom kippur, but the temple was destroyed almost 2000 years ago. the only people who say it now are evangelical christians who feel entitled to anything jewish, or who outright pretend to be jewish while still believing in jesus.
I have family members who are pastors that would be tearing her a new one for misuse of that name all while praying to the LORD for blessings on the daughter's relationship.
Yaweh also isn't the actual spelling or pronounciation. The ancient Hebrew texts have the name written as YWH because there were no vowels in that written language. We can't be certain how it was actually said.
The mother said she knows "CI". I suspect that this means "Christian Identity", a belief that Anglo-Saxons (and possibly related white people) are descended from the Lost Tribes of Israel and that they (and not the Jews) are the true Israelites and thus they feel entitled to use the Sacred Name.
8:44, Fun fact, that kid is fully aware what shooting someone with a gun does. Last year he was kicked out of a different school for attacking a teacher there. Kid also wrote teacher a note saying he hated her and would set her on fire. The shooting was premeditated, and the kid knew full well what he was doing.
@@kissit012 It doesn't really have to be that. Some people are just a little off. It's a super small minority of people, but there's just a group of people who are violent just for the sake of being violent. No rhyme or reason to it, they just are.
@@__TK___ In order to do that there has to be a war with an enemy so racist that they made all of America realize that they had to be slightly less racist
As someone who has gone no contact with an abusive mother, Mother’s Day is always so frustrating for me every year. All the advertising about how mothers are so important really goes to these monsters’ heads.
My abusive mother was angry I didn't say a happy Mother's Day like she deserved it. She should be lucky I'm talking to her again after 3 years of no contact
Same, especially when so many people are posting things like "Hey everybody, remember to call your mothers and tell them how much you love them". Like no. Firstly not everyone's mother is alive, and not everyone loves their mother.
@@waffles3629 your feelings are justified but remember that Mothers day is for the good mothers. Any mother that mistreats their children aren't really mothers; They are just a bad parental guardian. In addition, your hatred towards mother's day could make you seem ignorant and create envy as shown from this comment section. You don't necessarily have to celebrate mother's day. On the other hand, you can celebrate with a person that you see as a mother or treated you better than your own mother.
I went NC with my mother after my brother's funeral, sent a whole explanation and never wrote back. One of my coworkers decided to question why I wasn't doing anything for mother's day when "she's your family and that's all you can count on" when she'd been told before what all happened. And now I don't talk to that coworker about anything outside work.
That parent who posted all of their child's information should honestly get arrested if anything happens to that child. Literally asking people to stalk their kid, horrible
"My child, who answers to X and goes to Y school will be outside of this house for this long every day. She will also not have her GPS tracking device with her due to punishment. She will also be expecting unpleasant strangers approaching her while she is out walking the dog."
Im a mom, grandma, and great grandma, and i never reacted or acted like my mother did with me. So all my kids still talk and see me, unlike i was with my mother, who i had limited contact with to protect my sanity. Be careful being a parent, you dont own your child, your job is to prepare them for life, and help when life gets hard as it will.
The 6 year old didn't "play with a gun that accidentally went off" unfortunately. He actively went to school with the gun specifically to shoot his teacher. Still not the fault of ADHD, but it wasn't just "a kid playing with something he shouldn't have"
He brought it in, hid it when the administration searched his bag after being notified that someone thought he had a weapon, then shot the teacher. No part of that was playing, it was irresponsible parent/parent(s), insufficient search and/or disciplinary action (or even adherence to his ed plan) by the administration, and a seriously disturbed child
@@justine8387 so? It was still premeditated. Whether or not he knew the consequences, he still did it deliberately. As opposed to "ooo look a cool gun I'm gonna hold it *bang*". Very different situations. I was literally just clarifying since Click said it was an accident
@@justine8387 The kid got a gun, HID THE GUN, then shot his teacher. Kid's a fucking sociopath and needs to be held responsible. The parents groomed him to be a monster.
A 6 yo dosnt do shit like tgat without reasons. Bullying? Abuse? Definitely something must has happened way before this which wasn't the 6 you fault. Also fucking get your priority straight. Protect your kids not your weapons. Damn
I am a woman. There are 4 items in my shower: A bar of soap, a bottle of whatever shampoo was on sale, a similar bottle of conditioner collecting proverbial dust, and a dull plastic razor I bought in a bulk pack over a decade ago. Likewise, I'm sure there are plenty of cis-het men out there who use a dozen kinds of beauty products, and there is nothing wrong with that. The gender divide is bs.
@@wintergray1221 laziness, honestly. When I'm planning to go out or do something with my hair I condition it, but when just pulling it back into a ponytail to go to work or the grocery store, my goal in the shower is just to not be dirty. Edit: I should probably mention that I only wash my hair two or three times a week (when it starts to get greasy) so my hair isn't getting as dried out as some people's might.
Trans guy from Montana here. I believe it. Lot of our legislators have trans kids and actively make laws against their kids interests. They also just banned TikTok from our state. I love MT
Fellow trans man here - I live in South Australia and there are some interesting people trying to start the transphobic rhetoric from the US and UK. Keep fighting the good fight mate 💪
@@TheOysteibanning a social media app because of the country it came from is an extremely bad precedent. None of the people making laws against tiktok are using any of the actual things bad about it, just spouting conspiracy shit about china.
@@lulolieas someone how has experience working with a Chinese media company, that is just incorrect. The propaganda and the information gathering on TikTok is terrible and deliberate.
I tracked down a supposed update to the mom who was suing for visitation with a kid OP didnt even have. Its on a facebook group and according the the poster, she told her mom the kid isnt hers. They went to court. She proved the kid wasnt hers and the judge says OPs mom wasnt allowed to contact her anymore before dismissing the case
I know the joke about therapists telling you to masturbate against depression was not serious, but that actually happened to me. I was 16. My mom was in the room. F.
9:28 That kid had tried to strangle other students with a belt, had threatened to kill the teachers many times, was violent and impropriet with other students.. teachers and kids were afraid of him.. school did nothing and now mom claims it's ADHD??! That kid was a psychopath and mom irresponsible af..
Thank you for actually acknowledging that all three are at fault. The amount of comments pinning the blame solely on the school's negligence and his shitty mom while completely glossing over the fact that the kid's a monster is honestly repulsive. I mean, I get that children aren't fully developed and are bound to do stupid stuff they later regret, but that doesn't mean they don't know basic right from wrong and it sure as hell doesn't mean they shouldn't be held accountable when they literally commit violent crimes. There's a big difference between kids making typical kid mistakes and things like THIS.
@@EagleTimberWolf Yeah, there's definitely a big difference between this 6yo and normal 6yo.. I was probably eating and selling sand cakes in my playhouse, not sexually abusing others and plotting to murder my pre school teachers and then actually acting on it.. kid is dangerous and should be in professional care. Mother is horribly irresponsible and not living in reality about her son. School knew about all of this and didn't protect the other kids or the teachers.. a perfect sh*t storm.
@@adrianblake8876 I have been following the case, but hadn't heard about the adhd claim, I saw she was going to break her silence, but that was not what I expected from her.. she doubled down with a bogus excuse.
The one about porn reminded me of my mom. During the pandemic, she encouraged me to download tinder when i told her i was lonely. Not quite the same, but my mom thought me being lonely meant i needed to lose my virginity to a woman. Love that subtle pandemic doubt, homophobia, and denial of my asexuality. Now I'm out as a trans woman and she mostly leaves me alone, which im fine with because i dont need the misgendering
Just to note for the child at like 19:50 this is literally a 5 year old walking a dog by herself apparently and being nitpicked for not doing everything properly
The mom sharing all the information abt her daughter is too wrapped up in the punishment that she doesn’t realize how dangerous they could be. Anyone could see that and possibly kidnap the child
One thing I've noticed somewhat recently is there are a lot of people that view children as solely extensions of their parents. As in they don't see the children as human beings, but rather the property of their parents. I started to note how prevalent this attitude is with the talks of government funded school lunches. People will say they oppose school lunches funded by tax dollars because a child going hungry is "a personal responsibility issue"... Which is just insane to me. Personal responsibility?! Who's?! The kid?! Because of its the personal responsibility of the parent, then doing nothing to help feed the kid makes no sense from an angle of personal responsibility... Unless you consider the kid property and not a person. I think there are a shocking number of people that hold this view point... And I think that is where at lot of this parent entitlement comes from. They never consider that *they* chose to have a kid and the kid never got to choose anything. They then act as if the kid owes them a life debt for bringing them into the world and paying to raise them when the kid had zero say in that. If you start from the premise that the kid is a person who unfortunately doesn't have the mental, physical, or legal tools to live their own life... Then a good deal of this entitlement becomes crystal clear how backwards it is. It isn't charity for these parents, it is investing... And they expect a return on their investment. There are a lot of people who should never be parents. I might even wager to say most couples aren't cut out for it.
Fun Fact: I recently talked to school friend of mine who's a lawyer. In Austria it is technically illegal to post a picture of your child online. The child is not your property and just because it can't understand or say no, does not give you freedom to violate their rights. Of course this whole thing is a massive grey area. If you follow the law though, you would have to ask the family court every time you want to post a picture. He told me he really wanted a client that had a problem with that, just to see if he could push it through. He is confident about it though.
My former mother used to make up arguments and problems to then punish me for. She was abusive, and did things to me and my siblings that were literally criminal. I’ve been no contact with her for almost three full years, and it was a great decision on my part. The only thing that sucks is that she admitted that whatever I didn't take with me, she was going to sell (and, of course, keep the money.) Y'all. She sold over $2,000 worth of belongings that I had bought with my own money. I hate that woman.
Just today my sister's boyfriend said unironically that Karen is a slur. I worry that her being with him will turn her into someone from this subreddit.
The mother blaming her son's ADHD... I have ADHD and it doesn't make ME want to randomly shoot people. If anything, it makes focus on the right thing hard and distraction stupidly easy which means memory gets impacted since with a sufficient distraction I WILL forget what I was doing right before the distraction.
Let's be perfectly honest-- ADHD is more likely to cause you to kill YOURSELF rather than somebody else. And I don't mean intentionally. Watch my distracted ass leave the gas stove on and burn the house down while I'm sleeping.
As someone who grew up christian and is still one to this day, i remember that my parents took me to church with them. but luckily, they had special children’s services, which was mostly just a daycare for kids while their parents attended the grown-up service. They taught us some bible lessons, but they were basically about moral things like don’t take whats not yours, forgive others, treat others how you want to be treated, etc. i was always really excited to go to church because it was a lot of fun as a kid. on behalf of all so-called “christians” in this video, im sorry. i believe god told us to not judge others, but some of these people clearly didnt get the memo.
20:20 my dad used to be super abusive to me, mentally and physically, and was very anti-lgbtq. The last time we fought, I told him how I spent my entire childhood wanting to die, and that the day I found out I was allowed to live as my true self, I wanted to live, and that if he loves me that should make him happy no matter how invested he was in my being a specific gender. He stormed off and five minutes later he came back and apologized, it was the second time I ever saw him cry. Once it finally hit him that I could have been dead, he completely turned around because he actually loves me, even though he was an abusive asshole because he was raised in a toxic environment, he forced himself to change because he didn't want to lose me and he realized he was about to, and he changed basically overnight, that fast, he let go of all his selfish demands and just started treating me like a normal person for once. If losing your kid doesn't scare you more than watching them change, which is a natural part of the human condition that makes us a stronger species, then you never loved them, really. Parents who refused to let their kids change and develop into individuals, are the exact reason why today's generations can't handle adulthood and have crippling anxiety. Millennials were the first to really be hit by this and we get blamed for being meek and anxious when Boomers intentionally conditioned us to be meek and anxious for their benefit. They love having a sensitive kid who is easy to bully, then get mad if that kid is easily bullied as an adult and never gets anywhere in life. Every time we tried to grow up, parents flipped out on us, so we stopped trying to be adults, and then parents flip out on us for not supporting them, that's a toxic generation disconnect. Their parents rejoiced when they moved out of their home to be independent, now Boomers lose their mind when their kids move on from them. Even though I got my parents to change and grow and learn, their past attitudes toward change left lasting damage. I wasn't allowed to even go to an extracurricular club after school, now I'm terrified to take on more responsibility because they only wanted to enroll me in the bare minimum. I never even took the SAT because it costs $25 and they didn't want to pay for "extra unnecessary things", so if anything takes a little too much effort, I back out of it just like they made me back out of anything exciting or challenging that I wanted to try. And they apologize over and over, because now they're calm and level headed and understand that they often made the wrong chocies for me. But though the apology means a lot to me in my heart, it can't take back the conditioning they left in me, and this is the biggest problem with my generation and thise after, Boomer parents make their kids afraid to ask for anything extra, or to engage in anything new and different. So then when those kids grow up and have to move to a new city to get that big career changing new job, they're going to back out, because when mom and dad didn't want them going to summer camp, they taught them to be afraid of travelling too far from home without mom and dad, afraid of making a commitment that might fail, all those little things parents say to their kids to keep them from doing something. "Don't try out for [sport], look at this video of this man breaking his leg playing it, we don't have health insurance for that". Okay, now I'll never ever do sports. "You can't go on that trip, planes are dangerous and you can't go that far from us even though you're 17 and nearly grown up" okay, then I'll be afraid to ever fly a plane, and I'll have panic attacks going more than an hour outside of town. Is that what they want? Their kids so scared of change that they stay kids? You have to embrace change, even drastic change, it's how humans grow up.
I’m really glad to hear of someone turning it around like that in a big way. Gives me hope for the world as a fellow T in the lgbt (or at least going by the context from your post that that’s what you are classed as too) Thank you for sharing your and your fathers story.
@@The_Trident_Masterbeing LGBTQ? Fitting and ironic simultaneously. If you're someone who worries about Christianity being left behind, this attitude is why. Because it belongs in the past. No one needs a supposed moral framework that arbitrarily calls things evil and balks at the idea of explaining itself. Everything good from Christianity is reached through good moral philosophy anyways. You only need it for the bad stuff.
I was raised Evangelical and my mom sobbed when my youngest sibling and I came out as queer and when I told her I was a polytheist and no longer Christian (had an unbaptism too just to solidify for me the breaking of the abusive system I grew up in). I'm openly agender, but my sibling is not. Mom still calls me by my birthname instead of MY name. Mom still believes we're living in sin and have turned our backs on God and blah blah blah but she still tries to have a relationship with us and we've just learned not to talk about certain things with her. Our dad is another story and I'm pretty sure he'd have beaten us had we come out still living in that house. He wonders why I don't talk to him or share things with him. But I have a general idea based off of past experiences how he'd react if I told him I planned on getting top surgery and a hysterectomy as soon as I possibly can. It wouldn't be pretty. If you can't fully unconditionally love your child and use your fucked up version of your religion to abuse and berate them then don't fucking have kids because you clearly aren't mature enough or trustworthy enough to have children. Dad is the reason I went into therapy initially as soon as I became an adult. Been in therapy for over a decade. Child abuse I've worked on and am honestly more or less recovered from. The PTSD from other things partially stemming from him, not so much but I'm getting there. Also really friggin tired of people saying organized religion is bad and evil and blah blah blah when 99% of the time they mean Christianity. Just say Christianity. Religion isn't a bad thing. It's how humans can bastardize and use it for control. Religion is a personal thing and should remain personal.
@@t1ff4nyall3n In Catholicism it is a peace of paper with your signature on it, delivered to the church where you were baptised. Then priest will try to ask you "Why?", "Are you sure?" and so on, in mine case the guy was so bored and spewing such banalities that I had answered with similar banalities so he would just f&^k off. Then the paper goes to the bishop, and they have to agree within a month and took you out of their books. Sometimes they try to forget about the document and you would need a phone call or two, but most often it goes without a hitch. Again this is Roman Catholicism, as for other Christian denominasions, you would need to check is it similar, or are there differences. It is basically self excommunication in technical terms, and one of the best decisions I ever made.
@@MrocnyZbik Cool. Southern Baptist. I haven't gone to that church in over 6 years, and even back when I went, the pastor who performed my baptism has retired. So, I think I would just tell my birthgiver. I like the self-excommunication definition. That's probably what I'll go with for myself.
As a christian I agree with you so many people use religion to hurt people. I'm so sorry that your parents treated you and your siblings like this. I hope your safe from them
Oooh! Queer Jew here - thank you thank you for both our sakes for knowing that there is life - and faith - outside your parents' house. Come dance - there's a wonderful world out here.
As someone who lives in the Hampton Roads area (aka near Newport News) I'm so appalled by that mother. My family has a history of ADHD and autism, yet none of us have ever shot someone, or done something like that which caused harm to others. In addition to that, the teacher cannot sue due to the shooting being covered under "workman's comp"
Before I came out as trans and still identified as a mom, I visited my mom on mother's day, and instead of her thinking about the fact that I was a mom and maybe wanted something nice, she made me and my siblings make breakfast for her. I think she later said that I'll just have to wait until my kids are old enough to do the same for me. My kids were 2 and 0 years old at the time. Now she never gets a mothers day present from me anymore because I've been no contact for over 3 years now :)
the one where the mom was suing for visitation of a child that wasn't even theirs: lmao I would probably also ask for a restraining order while I'm there. Literally she already proved herself to be completely bonkers by going to such lengths, I'd say it's worth a try lol
I would ask the child’s actual mother and, if available, the child’s two actual grandmothers to attend the court hearing so they can chew the NC mother out for wanting access to *their* grandchild. 😆
Posts like these are always a good reminder to be grateful that I have (mostly) loving parents that care about me. I really hope everyone in situations like these are able to get away from them safely.
My mother complained because MY kids didnt wish her a happy mothers day this year...i dont think my son even wished me a happy mothers day, but ok lol. (Tbf, he cant read a calendar to save his life, and no...hes NOT a toddler, just gregorianly challenged...)
Oh, also, i corrected my mom and told how she DIDNT use to make me breakfast as a kid...as i didnt even eat breakfast...by my own choice...and somehow she translated that into :youve never done anything for me! 🤦🏼♀️
Lol I like that one Both me and my partner are gregorianly challenged. This will be fourth time in a row we both forget our anniversary and remember a week late 😂
My parents are both atheists. They still made sure I knew about the general branches of Christianity the rest of their respective families believed in, as well as about other religions, in an age appropriate and free-thinking way. I went through several phases of spirituality, with gentle guidance and lots of information at hand. Several of my friends were raised extremely similarly. I'm an atheist, my best friend is agnostic, and our other friends are a mix of religious and non-religious people. Everyone gets along fine and we have great conversations about religion and belief, mostly BECAUSE we were allowed to choose freely for ourselves without being forced into anything specific as children, with appropriate knowledge of what the different religions themselves entailed and what they meant to our families. Of course I also know people who were forced into or out of certain religions, almost all of those ended up going through an extremely rebellious phase where they rejected everything they were ever forced to do, say or think. Forcing someone never works.
Your parents sound like very good parents! I was raised Baptist, but even with that, I still want to learn about other religions and cultures. With that, I have pagan friends, atheist friends and one of my dearest friends is Muslim. We exchanged Christmas gifts for the last few years and stay in touch!
My parents are atheists as well- but my mom was a junior high teacher at a Catholic school for 25 years, and she loved teaching there. I went to it for preschool and kindergarten, and had no problem with taking part in prayer and Friday church services, despite being an atheist as well. I understood that my teachers would be sad if I didn’t. I’ve also had several best friends over the years who were believers of various religions. My problem isn’t with religions themselves, it’s with people who use their religion as an excuse for bigotry- an excuse to hurt and dehumanize others. Your parents sound wonderful.
By and large religion influences culture. So knowing or, even better, understanding religion helps a lot in understanding cultures. Not only ones foreign to you - but your own, as it most likely was (or still is) inlfuenced by one or another belief. Being atheist myself - I am intrigued by religious buildings of all sorts, how and what people regard as holidays and such stuff.
Fun Fact: In the US, grandparents can only sue for visitation under certain circumstances. 1.) They haven't seen the child for over 60 days and the parents are divorcing 2.) Their access has been restricted by 1 parent after the 2nd parent has passed away 3.) The child actually lived with them for 6 months, and they filed within 24 months of the child living with them. So that mom suing her kid for visitation after the kid cut her out of their life? Even if the kid was related to her, the case would not go very far at all because the court would rule in the favor of the parent(s). But that case would be tossed immediately and the mom's lawyer would be banging their head against the desk for her stupidity. And if the child brought enough hard evidence, might be able to get a restraining order for the physical abuse they suffered.
As someone whose m*ther is dead, the anniversary of which is coming up, and whose only reaction when they first found out was hidden relief, I cannot stand these types of parents. Ik I wouldn't have been able to get away from her, so I commend all those who succeed in going no-contact, y'all are so strong 💛
Hi Click! My name is Michael and I love watching your videos. You’ve helped me through my ftm transition with memes in funny voices that make me laugh. It realizes the stress I have in my life right now as I try to make the best of it all. Thank you for everything ❤
This was the first mothers day in a new state. We just moved & my brother is now 1200 miles away. We woke up & I gave my mom her mothers day gift, she barely blinked at it. She was more upset with my brother "not calling her" for mothers day. We woke up at 8, my brother woke up at 1 & my parents went to the beach from 10am to 2pm. When he woke up he called her immediately... twice. Dad told me when they got home that my mother ignored his calls ON PURPOSE. The woman is a giant child.
This subreddit is full of awful mothers. I, myself am not a mother (although I very much wish I could be. Mothers day is a punch in the face for me) but like, God, I wish I could be all these people's mom so that they actually wouldn't have an awful mom and would have a mom that loves and appreciates them. These "mothers" have no idea how lucky they are to have such good children despite how they were raised by an a-hole. Anyway, sorry about that rant. If anyone has a horrible mother, I'll adopt you right here and now.
They still walk amongst us. One of the lesser presidential candidates wants to be president to get rid of the Bolsheviks talking over the US. The last 70+ years of history have completely passed him by….
I saw the video about the woman who would rather let her kid die than transition. That was so awful, I feel so bad for them. I really hope none of you ever have to deal with crazy shit like that
she later said that her child isn’t actually trans, as if that’s any better somehow? like yeah, I sure hope not, not when she’s said that if her child comes out as trans she would want them to unalive themself
When I was in junior high I'd go to my friend's house because our moms worked together and it was easier to consolidate children at one house until they got off work. Because my friend was the eldest she'd have to clean the house before her mom came home. The younger siblings would wait until like 3 minutes until the moms arrive to make messes on purpose to get the eldest in trouble because eldest said "No you can't play with that knife, it's not a toy" and things like that. It would ALWAYS work because while we're desperately cleaning the mess they'd run to another room to make another and eldest was always screamed at by her mom. I wasn't required to help clean but I usually did because I felt so bad for her. No matter how much we tried the demons would always get her in trouble and even when the mom was home the youngest cut her own hair and yelled "SHUT UP" at us (we didn't even notice she did it, we were just chilling on the couch) we were sent outside for bullying her. Normally not a problem but it was summer in Texas and we couldn't come inside for like 3 hours. Funny enough that mom abandoned her whole family after popping out 5 kids. Eldest and her dad had to raise the kids.
I use to get screamed at for going out and not cleaning the house well enough. It's not my fault my parents thought buying 3 dogs and acquiring a cat was reasonable. The place would be covered in fur in such a short amount of time
@Lamppost 🦕 Yeah. I feel like a maid in my own home. Which is funny because that’s what my mom complained about. “You don’t do nearly as much work as me. I’m not a maid.” Cut to: “hey shattered. You’re a boy. Can you do [Insert job here].” When someone is literally in the same room. It’s all just because I’m a “guy.” I just want to scream. “I’m not a boy mom! And I’m not your personal maid! Please!” Doesn’t help that most of my siblings don’t help out at all. And if they do then they complain the whole time…sorry. I feel better now.
14:23 about the bit with “making your child look like they’re 24”, I would bet a solid $20 that those girls were part of child beauty pageants. And yes, it’s just as bad as it sounds.
26:30 CI stands for Christian Intent, which is the belief that only Celtic & Germanic people are decended from Abraham, therefore are the only ones who can be Christian.
its the best to cut contact with touse people. but if you struggle by thinking" its me" try to get some neutral 3 person perspective (people who you are not close related or friend with. it helps a lot. i got no contact too. because of shitty childhood (parrents divorce mental healt problems on parrent and my side. now i am 30 and my mother is like a good friend to me.
As someone who comes from the opposite experience (loving and supportive parents), please don't take the blame on yourself. I often see people with good relationships with their parents say things like, "but it's your Mum, you should try to make it work" etc, but if there is any situation where you shouldn't be expected to be the 'better person' or suffer in silence, it's your parents. You're already being the better person by not returning the abuse you've experienced. You are not obliged to spend time with your parents to let them make you miserable just because they are the reason for your existence or they fed and housed you or some other bull. That's literally not even the bare minimum. With good parents, you want to spend time with them, it's enjoyable (barring specific sad circumstances). If your parents don't give you that, try to find it elsewhere but don't feel like a bad person for cutting them out. In the long run it's the healthiest option and I have massive respect for people who manage it because I've seen how difficult it can be for some of my friends. Also, if you have the resources, I strongly recommend trying to find a good psychologist.
Your not and it's sucks it's so hard. I get you. It will be worth it I hope you find somone who reminds you tgat your worth it. (That somone can even be yourself. But I know tgats realy hard.) Rooting for you.
Amen to the parent and the other parent talking about religion! I agree 1000% that children should not go to church when they're not even old enough to know what's right for them in any sense of the word! I was raised and forced to go to an evangelical/pentecostal/apostolic, which is a lot! It was a good church as in the people were good and I made a lot of good friends but they taught us a lot things that have stuck with me my whole 34 years of life that are quite traumatic still. I cant enjoy the naughties without the anxiety of going to hell or bad things happening... I'm still a Christian but I've deconstructed in a way. But I still have to overcome a lot of teachings that I don't agree with and I will never and have never forced my children to go to church! Sorry this was so long sometimes you just hear something that hits you right in the heart and you've just gotta put you're feeling somewhere and try to heal!
Very true. My mother never wanted me to experience the religious guilt/trauma she did being raised in a Catholic school. She didn't make me do Sunday school, would never send me to a religious school in general, etc. She made a point to take me to different religions' places of worship and wanted me to figure out what I believed myself. But even the limited exposure of going to church sometimes, reading about it, and knowing her beliefs still input some things in my brain that I've had to work through. Particularly about sex and self pleasure.
It's nuts to me how as a child adults got to tell me that I was going to be tortured for any thought that I had but apparently me cutting my hair and going by a different name was "too much"
While I agree with what the texter said, the comment later quoted is only mostly right (they additionally said mass is no place to bring a kid): I do believe mass is a good place to bring kids... ONCE. Once for all major religions to be exact. In fact, that is something we have as part of the school-curriculum (albeit for teenagers - So it's still kids, but I can agree that *6* might be a bit early. At least do it at an age where there's a chance for them to remember it at the least _vaguely,_ rather than be entirely amnesic about and non-comprehending) to make class visitations to each house of worship to learn basic contextual etiquette (men takes of hats for some, yay sexism!), see the architecture, and partake in a mock mass. Again, mostly for ceremonial etiquette (line up to eat a piece of paper disguised as bread and a sip of sour wine. OR you can perform a specific sign to opt out of the torture without disruption ceremony. Also useful if you have any diseases that can transmit through saliva etc.), but also so you have some context of what it involves when you encounter ppl ascribing to the faiths in your future life). And as a historically christian country (somehow we are majority atheist AND christian over here xD) they do receive some additional bias through sheer historical traditions. Such as how there has simply been more churches built historically, and a tradition of renting out the locations for some non-religious activities, which results in most schools using those locales for graduations and year-ends (good acoustics, plenty of seating, and cheap). In other words, my butt is well-accustomed with how extremely uncomfortable pews are to sit on, and I got a fairly good grasp on a specific handful of hymns written/translated by Britt G Hallqvist (having a collection of psalm-books with lyrics provided to everyone without hassle, and a musician handy and cheap to hire who knows most in it, means picking songs from that collection is both easiest and cheapest. And they are honestly not bad songs. What else would we sing anyway? The national anthem? HAH! We are swedes, not patriotic!). Or how at 14 it is tradition to spend a couple days there to learn about the faith and become officially christian (called "confirmation"; this is btw why we are majority christians despite being majority atheists. Most of us are christians on *paper*). Overall? I think I gained culturally by all of those school visits and other traditions. Doesn't make me any less of an atheist, but I can imagine sheer exposure at least made me much more tolerant and respectful of (reasonable) ppl who aren't? Cause that's how humans generally work and react to exposure (but I admittedly have no method to know _for sure_ whether or not I would be any less so if I _hadn't_ had the exposure).
😂 "You can use it as a shampoo or toothpaste..." I almost fell from the chair at the physio therapist! So many blank faces... No reaction to me lmao in the waiting room. 🤷
7:00 I am confused about how the mother's lawyer could have filed anything. To file the paperwork you would need the full name of the child that you are demanding visitation rights for. A lawyer would need to hash out all the details before proceeding to court.
I went to a mental health place once. Left me so traumatized that I ended up repressing any memories of that place for almost 8 years. It did not help me at all.
@@doodlesyoru2108 It was mostly down to the fact that there were other teens in there that were actually homicidal and made open threats. Proooobably not the best place for an autistic teen dealing with major life changes to be...
@@doodlesyoru2108my mom wanted to sue the nurses at the mental hospital for the terrible way they behaved with my sister, forcing her to take the wrong meds and being flat out rude and not doing their job, and the lawyer said "I will not go against the hospital personnel because it's a lost cause unkess someone died". I'm from Italy for context. I don't know how it is on a larger scale but those nurses know damn well they're not going to be punished.
"Just wait when I die" was my grandma's favorite guilt trip. Well, in the ended she had dementia and didn't even know if I visited. She's been dead for two decades and I still don't know what I was supposed to wait for.
I wasn't sure at first, either. But it was Angie Johnson(he said Angie J), and she has a comment thanking him that is currently a few above yours, but I know that might change by the time you see this...
I feel so happy to have good parents. When I had surgery my dad drove me to the hospital, called me everyday to ask how I was and took care of me because I had my uterus removed since it made me sick.
Jesus. And then there's my mom, surprised that I even care to remember about mothers day enough to at least call her. Sadly she's the one about to die, not the absolute horrors mentioned in this video. This world is so cruel.
I watched this to make me feel a little better about my own no contact relationship with my abusive mother. I think we should all form a support group and host meet ups on Mother’s Day! Who’s in?
3:49 some parents never stop and think back to when they were their child’s age. Did they spend every day with their parents when they were 35? Did they call every evening? Or did they sometimes go weeks or months without talking to their parents? And when they did get together, just like good friends you instantly feel comfortable in their company. It’s not pretending to be casual and relaxed - it IS casual and relaxed because you all know and love each other. Gahh. Some people have no insight.
My mom is still the “have you tried being happy?” Thing. Yes mom I have been trying to be happy. But considering the fact that I don’t even remember how to smile without it looking forced I’d say it’s not working.
Im glad my mom has gotten much better. About 5 years ago, she would fall under this category of crazy, but she got therapy, my siblings and I got therapy, and we all found we get along better not living together. My mom went from ready to call tge police if I didnt answer a text in minutes to now texting me something like "proof of life text please" like once every 1-2 weeks if we havent called or texted, and she gives me like 24 hours to respond before she calls me. She has bipolar and severe anxiety, and was very controlling amd obsessive when I was a kid, but she finally got enough therapy to find herself outside of being a mom. So now I no longer feel the pressure to validate my mom all the time like I did as a kid. I endured way, way too many guilt trips like shown on this sub. Im the oldest and am 22 now. I hated her from 12-17, but we slowly healed our relationship after I went off to college and she realized she had to chill out if she wanted me to come visit her and maintain a relationship.
Tbh the fact that people like you can forgive people like her is astounding to me, congratulations on being able to repair that relationship though!! Your capacity for love is amazing :3
@elizakarnopp8921 I just saw this reply but thank you! Honestly, most of it was seeing her put in the effort, and it took me a lot of therapy to forgive her and move forward in our relationship. At this point it's more of a friendship than a parent/child relationship, but it's better that way I think for both of us. If she hadn't changed significantly and put in the work in therapy, I don't know that we would have any relationship today, because it was hanging on by a thread when I left for college 5 years ago. It took a ton of compassion, understanding, and long talks together with her and my therapist to come to a place where I enjoy spending time with my mom now, but she's a completely different person now that she's mentally stable, which I'm very thankful for.
Wow, that’s amazing! I’m so glad she chose to get better, for you and your siblings’ sake. You’re a kind and loving person, and you went above and beyond to forgive all that.
As someone who had insane parents, I always get excited to see this subreddit! Its super validating to both see other people sharing my experiences as well as open shame and ridicule towards these parents for their unreasonable behaviors. If any of you reading this are still trapped in a home like this, I hope you find freedom and safety soon
Same! My mother is horrible in every way. During the divorce hearing, a random woman was going in and out of the courtroom to feed info to my younger siblings who weren't of age yet (17 and 16). Her absolute fury at some of the things she said, and probably the fact that she was also there to get full custody of her own children, made all of us feel validated like we never had before.
I looked up the story with the 6 yr old shooter. He did know what he was going to hurt someone. Had apparently shown another kid the gun during recess and threatened to shoot him if he said anything.
Also, the teacher had been aware of the gun all day. The boy said something about it and she kept asking administers to search his bag, but they refused. They all ignored her pleas.
@@aligoam2 He might not have realised what death really was, he still wanted to hurt her badly. He must have learned about shooting people you don't like somewhere, still blaming the parents. Wtf is wrong with the school? Why not look into the bag, that's too weird.
I swear my mom was so upset that I and my brother didn't get her anything... she said we should "give her a surprise" every once in a while. like, why? Sure she birthed us and stuff, but I already struggle with social stuff and her demand of my attention drains more of my social battery than the rest of the people i know put together. I really feel tempted to send her this video as a "surprise" ^^ Edit: also the hypocracy of "Answer me or i'll call the police" and "Children hang on their phones all the time these days :(" Like what do you want from me
Regarding your edit, i think that goes hand in hand. Because they think that "the kids" are constantly on their phone they expect an instant reply... that this isn't real doesn't register
I had to cut off contact with my dad because he couldn’t respect boundaries and demanded all my attention. It’s been 2 years and my mental health has never been so good ❤
8:55 I live less than 15 minutes from the elementary school that the 6 year old shot his teacher and my mother knows the school psychologist. He was loud, argumentative, and no one took him seriously especially upper officials. The mother was “hands off”, the assistant principal was useless, and the principle is still feigning ignorance. It’s sick.
A lot of these parents don’t see children as people but as objects they can us to improve their external image onto the world around them. When you have no sense of identity outside of your external relationships, you’ll use whatever objects you can to carry the weight for you instead of doing the work to learn who you are. And children are the easiest props to manipulate
My mom and sister used to open ever piece of mail I got until I got my own post office box at 16, and then couldn't figure out why I did it. I couldn't even order something as a surprise for one of them because they tore open my parcels, too.
my dad (despite being 60yo and actually not an idiot about most things) has somehow fallen down the like rightwing rabbithole of bullshit and gets upset when I argue with him because he'll randomly start spewing unscientific nonsense when i'm just CHILLING IN MY OWN HOUSE but somehow it's always MY fault we fight because he refuses to show any actual evidence of his claims and is in complete denial that he's been brainwashed by the media he consumes aaaanndd then he wonders why doesn't my only child ever wanna spend time with me??? gee idk dad it's a ~mystery~ edit: ok there is actual science that like uhhh masturbat!on can help improve mood and such but,,, it's absolutely WILD for a parent to bring that up MULTIPLE TIMES in a casual conversation with their child edit the second: i've had adhd and been around guns my ENTIRE 30 YEARS of living,,, not once has that ever made me ~dangerous~
I wouldn't encourage using masturbation as regulator of emotions so easily. Just like anything which releases happy chemicals in your brain it can transform into an unhealthy coping mechanism. It's OK as long you use it along side therapy tho. Still better than alcohol
My mom is NC with her father (I don’t call my my grandpa bc her stepfather has fulfilled that role in my life). If you were to ask him, he’d say that out of the blue she just wrote him a letter saying she wanted nothing to do with him. The reality is that he don’t years failing to do the bare minimum in raising her and was barely present, though he had her on weekends. His raging substance abuse and lack of interest in his daughter’s life was the reason she stopped speaking to him, not some bitterness or something. Toxic parents love to present themselves as the victim-a close friend’s father claims he never laid a hand on his children (both of whom are in therapy for severe PTSD from physical and mental abuse). IMO, it’s a mix of denial and genuine delusion.
And the thing is, these insane parents are incapable of the self-awareness required to see how badly they treat their kids. Sit down and talk to them about their reasoning, if you dare. I wouldn't advise it. The sophistry they blurt out will give you a migraine headache, and you will feel like talking to them made you dumber, mentally damaged, or both just by hearing it.
Thank you for your kind words. Click, they mean mean a lot. I'm having a hydrocortisone injection into my spine on the 27th, but if it doesn't work, then it's surgery. I'm very nervous, and your words of encouragement are very much appreciated. Love ya, dude ❤
Hi, I have ADHD, we do not claim them! I have never shot someone! My husband took me on a date once to a gun range, I shot three times, hated in and demanded to leave. He is lucky I didn't break up with him them. ADHD does not make people shoot people!
I have mild diagnosed dyslexia and probably ADHD, own guns and go hunting and I don't even have murderous intrusive thoughts. Was like "wtf" when I found out they were normal for people to have. Blaming that on ADHD was obviously just an attempt to deny her own culpability.
The best part of being a dual citizen (one of which is Swedish), I get to celebrate mother's day twice and neither is with my mom. So many mothers keep saying they'll die or something. My egg donor were actually really close of dying a month ago and my only thought was "urgh, she can't even do that right".
That guilt trip about not calling enough is something my dad does. And yet he almost never calls me either. But every time we talk, it feels like he needs to disagree with me. Last time we talked, it was a couple days before college graduation, and I was telling him how I decorated my cap to say “Fund The Arts”. But then he felt the need to say that the arts aren’t the most necessary thing to fund. I went to a _Liberal Arts_ school.
That’s a child beauty pageant and the weird thing that freaks me out the most is something they use called flippers. They are false teeth that fit over the children’s teeth so the children Don having missing teeth and it’s the freakiest thing. A child with a full set of teeth, none missing and even is frightening like a doll, which freak me out also
27:27 "WHAT DO YOU MEAN ENEMY?!! IT'S HER BOYFRIEND!!!" xD I absolutely adore you Click, please keep on creating these videos to make us laugh and forget for a little about the trauma our parents gave us. Been a fan for a long time and always will be
Fun animal (& Viking) fact: Vikings gave the cutest wedding presents. They might be famous for their battle skills, but Nordic tradition also meant that they gave kittens as wedding gifts!
So what I'm hearing is that I'm having a Viking wedding
@@definitelynotthefoundation5646You should
I want to have a Viking wedding, even though I'm probably never gonna get married
God I wish we still did that… then I would finally have a reason to get married
@Alice B (the Gacha weirdo)
What about a friendship wedding? Not a real wedding but a celebration of a6long and happy friendship?
2:55 as an asexual who's been told my depression is from not being "sexually liberated" enough that was way too funny xD
So confusing, you are literally liberated from sex...
/s
"Oh, you aren't interested in sex? Have you tried having more sex?" Nailed it, problem solved
I just don’t get relationships at all. 😓
I’d rather just be playing video games with my friends than be in anything like that.
Then again. I have been told that it’s probably because I’m autistic. But I have been noticing some asexual tendencies in me.
It's the "Peak of human existance" when many other animals have it AND pokemon mystery dungeon exists.
Then it get into the werid red pul universe, "what aren't you a v?"
Imagine going through depression and your mom starts sexually harassing you
Also isn't it scientifically proven to be the other way round typically? Watching too much is a big cause of depression.
Makes one wonder what exactly happened to her growing up that she associates porn/sex as a form to forget darker thoughts….
Depression also causes to lose interest in sexual activities.
@@kempolar9768 there's a little evidence, but there's SO MUCH misinformation from the purity crowd that, ironically it's hard to find a reliable source.
Conservatives be like don’t think about sex don’t lust don’t flaunt yourself don’t get pregnant but also Asexuals are evil your body is for making babies you cant not have sex thats just wrong. make it make sense
For the record, the mom saying "Yes I am" when being called awful was NOT self-awareness. It was guilt tripping and strawmaning. My mom does it all the time when her behavior is called out. "Because I'm the worst mother ever, right?" She wanted her kid to say "No, you're not." in order to deflect from whatever she was called out for.
My biomom did this too. I eventually just started agreeing with her. She got a former friend to call me to “catch up,” which was really just so former friend could talk up biomom. Probably on speaker in the same room.
“She’s so sad, she wants to reconnect, but she says she thinks you just want her to die.”
“I’m surprised she still knows me so well after all these years, because that’s exactly how I feel! I’ll be very happy when she dies. Probably gonna throw a party.”
“…are you serious?”
“Absolutely. She’s already produced the only thing of value she ever will. The only way she can enrich the world now would be through her absence.”
The harassment stopped after that. And yes, I’m really going to throw that party. My real (step) mom will be there.
@@Axqu7227okay that’s fucking brilliant
Oh god, my mother does the exact same thing, ughh...
@@Axqu7227If I'm still around when my old man croaks, I'm going to sing "Ding-dong the wicked witch is dead" at the top of my lungs.
For the record, calling it self-awereness is sarcasm. My mother doesn't understand it too and starts long explanation every time I answer her ironically, just like you did.
19:15 the really scary part is that not only she has just plastered her underage daughters name, face and approximate location all over the internet, she’s also told every creep and predator out there the times she will be out on the streets unsupervised and armed them with enough information to make that little girl think they’re a familiar or safe person. I really hope she’s safe.
yeah even the "i took her phone and everything away" ... she is making her daughter a PRIME target for kidnappers and sex traffickers ...
I mean what more do you want a parent to do ? .. put their kid in a bag and hand it over ? ... there is actually not much more you can legally do to make your own child as available to predators as this mother did .. WILD .. just FUGGING WILD
AND told them that usually she has a phone, but for the foreseeable future she won't. Now the mom just has to put up some chloroform dispensers along her route and she'll be golden.
@@EskChan19Don’t forget about the rope dispensers as well.
Maybe a free white van while we're at it.
I’m honestly not surprised she ‘accidentally’ doxxed her own child given the fact that she’s PUBLICLY SHAMING HER ELEMENTARY SCHOOL DAUGHTER ON THE INTERNET 🙄🙄🙄
The amount of untreated mental illness and generational trauma I see from parents like this is yikes.
It's very sad, yeah
Family: If you don't tolerate the insane sh^t they do, even accept it, then you are the "bad" family member. You are only a "good" family member if you let yourself be their punching bag while giving them every once of your time, heart, and soul.
Welcome to the "family values" mind-set.
@@That80sGuy1972 Thank god I was born into a family without any apparent mental cases then. Good lord.
One thing that I've heard with generational trauma is that a lot of people want to be "better than their parents," which leads to small changes over time, but that trauma is still passed on. It takes a lot more courage to heal from the trauma and to refuse not to give any onto another person. I'm in that process now, and I'm solidly not having children until I'm healed from what my parents did to me
@@caicat722 My generation fanned the flames of a reverse version of child abuse that became very common. George Carlin (God rest his soul) dubbed it "Child Worship". The epidemic of adults who grew up thinking that they are smarter than they were, are more special than they are, and so extremely passive of that form of thinking that Karens got their on term ("Karen") and thus they are confidentially open about who and what they are. Going the other direction without guidance has blowback, too. Lots of my generation also forced public schools to lower their standards for grading because their kids got bad grades... instead of helping their kids study or just accepting their kid is a C or D student. "Why won't this college accept me? I have a 3.8 GPA"... well, son, that's because being an A or B student in your school is very easy.
So many mothers make motherhood their entire personality and have this holier than thou attitude. Glad to make fun of it every once in a while.
Yes absolutely! My mom still does this I've become 25 and she still expects me to put her in front of everything and have her on my mind 24/7. Even after all the trauma she put me through:D , the moment I get the chance I'm outta here
I genuinely don't understand gals who gladly make motherhood their whole life and personality. You can be a mom and still be your own person
Why tf would you make wiping someone else's ass the most interesting thing about you 💀
it's not good for anyone. but I suppose it's easy to see where it comes from. I mean... looking at children's toys alone ... girls get groomed into wanting nothing but motherhood, into seeing motherhood as their sole purpose and only reason for their existance. and it often takes careful parents and other parenting grown ups to shield little girls from that. I don't want to excuse toxic mums here. but I see a bigger picture.
I suspect a lot of it comes from the same place Keranism seems to comes from; It used to be something they could use to both validate their self worth and wield power over people. Mothers get benefits, trust, empathy, justification, special treatment, on top of the automatic "pretty privileged" society has given them purely for the sake of being female. The moment all that clout and power dries up, they become ravenous in their desperate attempts to pour any old oil on the wound. The facade is gone, and only the demanding brat remains, regardless of context or reason.
My mother still does it. She still can't figure out even after telling her multiple times this shit before going back to NC with her. I have my own family to worry about and not being her therapist for her fuckin up her own life
The first video is why I fear women who make being a mother their ENTIRE PERSONALITY. Once the kids grow up and become adults, they have a meltdown, can't function, and act like the whole universe slighted them.
And they're never the ones who were good mothers in the first place either
I was talking to an acquaintance recently and someone had told her about my oldest kid’s situation, which boils down to they’re gonna live with me probably for the rest of their life.
Her comment… “Oh that is just so wonderful! I would love it if my son had (condition)!”
…wtf lady?! Of course I don’t mind my kid living with me but the condition causes him to struggle… A lot. It’s heartbreaking. Small town so she knows this and the only thing she focused on was wow if only my kid had that condition so I could control them forever.
Wtf lady?
@@MemristerBoogieDown That. That right there. That's the BS I'm talking about. That deranged woman would probably do a reverse-Norman Bates her son to keep her child with her forever...
@@MemristerBoogieDown Not related really but sometimes I forget actual adults either while ass children are on this channel lmao. (This is actually coming from someone who is very much technically a fellow adult and has at least been biologically able to have kids for like a decade now lol).
Sometimes you're lucky like me in that starts before they even grow up
I had my mom try the "you are a tenent from now on" bullshit with me before. Malicious Compliance is a bitch. I had her on the hook for thousands on repairs to the house because if i was a tenant she had to fix them. Also whenever she wanted me to do chores i told her I will get to them when i get to them, as my landlord she doesn't have that sort of granular say on when or even what chores I do. On top of that when rent came due, i just refused to pay and she was required by law to give me 30 day notice before kicking me out. It gave me about 2 months to get out of there 😂
Malicious Compliance is the best form of revenge. Respect.
My mother did something kinda similar with me. Basically I argued that I never see anything of my fathers childcare money (400$) and I had to pay for a lot of things myself with my pocket money and savings. So she gave me that money and I guess wanted to see how long I would survive?! I didn’t have to pay rent or electricity and water, but I would’ve made an agreement if she wanted to. I did. However pay for my own food, my phone, clothes, hygiene products, school supplies, electronic devices and such. I spent around 250$ per month and thus saved a lot. Then one month she just gave me 200$ without any explanation. When I asked her about it she got mad which ended in her throwing me out of the house to live with my dad.
The only way this would be my child is if this was their choice. And I would put every rent payment into a separate account so they'll have it when they move. I'm so sorry your parent is (in Clicks words) a piece of poo.
Please re-post this often. Flipping brilliant.
Oh I LOVE a good malicious compliance story XD always so satisfying to see them lose their temper when you are simply enforcing their rules.
14:29 - those are pics from CHILDREN'S BEAUTY PAGENTS. As in that horrific Toddlers and Tiaras show. Yes, people actually do this to their kids. The exact same people who accuse their gay neighbors of 'grooming' children.
Yep.
Those are also the kind of people where I get concerned if they say "think of the children", because they make it very clear what kind of thoughts they have.
19:15 "Here's my child's name, face, and location. We let them outside to walk the dog on their own and they don't have a phone to call the police! Stalk them for us!"
The parents are really rolling the dice with this one.
Stranger Danger? THE HOME IS THE DANGER!
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It's like russian roulette 😰
@@Ramsey276oneprobably both. Let's be sadly realistic here.
Yeah. Only thing missing was setting up some chloroform dispensers along the route. I have a feeling someone really wanted to get rid of their kid.
There's a good chance it backfired and encouraged neighbors to watch out for her
So that 6yo shooting teacher case is even worse. He was known to be violent, the teacher went to the principle to try and have them search the kids bag because kid said he had the gun, and principle did nothing. It's a pretty wild case to be honest.
Everything gets worse every time I hear about that case!
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@glitchhoffe1293 Yeah, the teacher recently won a court case against the school district for several millions due to the lase fair treatment of the kid at school. Also due to the kid being a kid, he will likely go to Juvie and get counseling for a few years that he should have gotten sooner. Hopefully, the kid learns from these events in a positive way and integrates into society a healthy person.
Worse yet, his mother is acting like this is just normal six year old with ADHD behavior. (Hint: it isn't.)
@wmdkitty yeah I totally forgot about how garbage the mom was and still is in this whole thing. She was trying to put the blame on anyone but herself and the dad who failed to make sure the gun was properly stored away from the kids' reach.
My mom beat me when I was 8 for ASKING for a dress, had no idea what the internet or LGBT was. Then she forced me into the closet when I got caught kissing boys at 12. Now she thinks it was the internet that "brainwashed me" and "it was so sudden."
Editing my Edit for Clarification:
Thank you for the support. I am a Transwoman, my grandmother is 70 but has 1 Brother alive who is gay and been with his partner for nearly 60 years now.
The other died during the aids crisis in America by the hospital refusing to treat him because he was gay. My grandma doesn't understand how her daughter, my mother, is so awful. I have a chance at being happy in spite of everything that has happened to me. I make music and try to work on these emotions everyday.
It's more then difficult but it's why I appreciate the support when it does come. Even if it's a few thousand people enjoying my content as an escape or to feel seen or heard.
She probably can’t remember how you can. You deserve a happy life my best wishes to you!
Yep, my friends in university, one of whom I met after coming out, made me trans because "but there was never any sign". Yeah, apparently 18+ years of joking that I "was the son we never had" never happened. 🙄
Yeah, it surely was not the case that I was into the idea of having a girlfriend ever since I knew that was a possibility in general. Nope, my 15 year old friends made me lesbian because they were all lesbians (I'm bi, and they were all straight).
*hugs* Sorry, that is awful.
That's because that heqting over the dress was just another Tuesday to her. It was just another day of beating her child, it meant nothing to her. Meanwhile to you, a young child with very little life experience, it was a major life event of the time. It's amazing how parents don't remember doing that sorta shite because to them it didn't actually mean anything.
I love that that one christian parent is fine with their son being atheist. It shows a high level of respect for your child and their thoughts and feelings to allow them to pick their own path in regards to religion and spirituality.
Not all religious people are nutjobs, Both my neighbors are pretty devout Catholic Christians, knowing very well, that I don't attend church - and we still see eye to eye and have a good neighborly relationship. A lot of my customers are also religious, even a few of the local priests frequent my shop. I don't hide that I don't attend church and don't have that much to do with religion - still getting along fine.
On the other hand - I live in Germany and even living in a more conservative part is a far cry from what you hear from America.
I'm not sure I would be fine with it, as I would want my children to go to heaven, but at the same time, I would understand it's their choice to make
My grandma dragged me to her church before I could even walk. A church where they tell you to dance when they worship which is supposed to make it more fun but they completely ignore kids with disabilities (except the obvious ones like not being able to walk) and I have asthma. When I was about 6 or 7 years old, I was actually able to dance so they made me dance no matter what. I would be exhausted or barely able to breath and they would just say "just breath and dance, you'll be fine!" I'm so glad that when I was 11 I realized that Christianity was not making any sense and that the church was being abusive to me and escaped that church and am now atheist.
That's the church's problem, not christianity's
that's the church's fault, not christianity's
Thats the church, not Christianity. Im guessing you had to deal with Evangelicals or Baptists? Maybe Pentecostals?
Eyyyy fellow atheist! I was the same age when I started taking issues with religion. Left all of that behind more than a decade ago, and I'm much happier and more at peace. Never looked back☺️
Good for u for coming to ur own conclusions! Best of luck to u 😊👍
@@thisisastrobbery363Well, it brings up the question of what the point is when it doesn't make its adherents act any better than anyone else. And if anything, the most religious people I've met are some of the absolute worst.
A thing I've learned watching my friends with their parents is that if u dont restrict your kid from anything and actually let them have a childhood then they are more likely to not do any bad stuff since they have nothing to rebel against. They are also more likely to respect you
:0 whaaaaat? Really? How shocking xD
For me. It was kinda in the middle.
I grew up as a happy child until I turned 13. Then my parents started asking me for help for everything. Even if there was someone in the room with them.
Then at 16 I figured out I was gay. And tried to see how my parents reacted to LGBTQ people. Didn’t end well. Still haven’t come out to them because I’m not out of the house yet.
Then at 20 I figure out that I’m a trans female. So I’ve been bottling up my emotions. To the point where I can’t smile anymore.
Now I’m just trying to show my support to everyone in the LGBTQ community. To help people feel better about themselves.
@@sirei01 Yeah. I don't support fully controlling your child but there have to be limitations to some stuff
@@shadowking278 this hit me like a truck.
My favorite part about this sub is that my own mother is literally insane, diagnosed schizophrenic, who refuses meds, and she's not as bad as these people.
I'm fairly sure, many of these people have some undiagnosed illnesses.
As a 23 yo with relatively normal and loving parents these videos always make me kinda sad. My parents are major advisors in all of my bigger life decisions and I can't imagine what it must be like to not have this backup from your family...
yeah it sucks
I mean while my mom was alive that was the case but after she died well things did not go so well needless to say I was only really considered a member of my family because of my mom. I have not talked to any family members in 10 years.
I had an ex with family that was pretty toxic and it bled into our relationship. His mom and his sister were very rude to me and my ex didn’t do anything to defend me. His mom even threatened to call campus police (I lived on campus in college and she didn’t know where I went to school) on me for the stupidest of reasons. Whenever my ex hung out with me, his mom would random call to cuss him out. Every call ended in a screaming match. One day it was so bad that while it was happening in public, I had to walk away because I couldn’t bear the looks people were giving us, especially me. I got a lot of pity looks from people.
It's like knowing that you're going to fail in life, and knowing there's absolutely nothing you can do to stop it. Like a runaway train.. Some people are capable of stopping a train, but not you. All you can do is panic as the track shortens before you.
It’s unimaginably painful and I’m living it and I still can’t really comprehend it. That’s what having abusive parents is like. Your brain just can’t process how your own parents could be this cruel to you. It really fs you up…
this came at the perfect time. Just moved out of my abusive mothers house for the second time, and got put into foster care. It's nice to see I'm not alone with parents who are psychotic.
Hopefully you find a really caring new mom in foster care!
Fun fact about the name Yaweh; it’s not a casual name to be said! Religiously speaking, it’s meant to be whispered in times of need (like war, life risking situations, or fear!) because it’s a sacred name!
also, in casual conversation, Hashem is the term used more, hashem translates to "Name"
actual religious jews never say it out loud. it was said exactly once a year by priests in the temple on yom kippur, but the temple was destroyed almost 2000 years ago. the only people who say it now are evangelical christians who feel entitled to anything jewish, or who outright pretend to be jewish while still believing in jesus.
I have family members who are pastors that would be tearing her a new one for misuse of that name all while praying to the LORD for blessings on the daughter's relationship.
Yaweh also isn't the actual spelling or pronounciation. The ancient Hebrew texts have the name written as YWH because there were no vowels in that written language. We can't be certain how it was actually said.
The mother said she knows "CI". I suspect that this means "Christian Identity", a belief that Anglo-Saxons (and possibly related white people) are descended from the Lost Tribes of Israel and that they (and not the Jews) are the true Israelites and thus they feel entitled to use the Sacred Name.
8:44, Fun fact, that kid is fully aware what shooting someone with a gun does. Last year he was kicked out of a different school for attacking a teacher there. Kid also wrote teacher a note saying he hated her and would set her on fire. The shooting was premeditated, and the kid knew full well what he was doing.
This is out of a scary movie pitch that hasn't been approved yet!
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Ah. So this is michael myers childhood. 😅
@rach3092nope. Abused by his parents. Taking it out on others by targeting authority figures.
@@kissit012
It doesn't really have to be that.
Some people are just a little off. It's a super small minority of people, but there's just a group of people who are violent just for the sake of being violent. No rhyme or reason to it, they just are.
@Some Guy The parents failing to get the boy treatment for his violent tendencies is neglect, and neglect is a form of abuse.
"What is this, 1950s America?"
Don't joke, Mark. They're trying to get back there!
If they really take America back to the 50s then at least with the cool car designs, livable wages and clothing style of the 50s
We shall become the underground freedom fighters. ✊
Yes that is a reference to something. If you get it. Good job. 👍
@@__TK___ In order to do that there has to be a war with an enemy so racist that they made all of America realize that they had to be slightly less racist
It worked out for John Paul II
As someone who has gone no contact with an abusive mother, Mother’s Day is always so frustrating for me every year. All the advertising about how mothers are so important really goes to these monsters’ heads.
My abusive mother was angry I didn't say a happy Mother's Day like she deserved it. She should be lucky I'm talking to her again after 3 years of no contact
Same, especially when so many people are posting things like "Hey everybody, remember to call your mothers and tell them how much you love them". Like no. Firstly not everyone's mother is alive, and not everyone loves their mother.
@@waffles3629 I was getting tired of the RUclips advertisements. "Give you mom the gift she deserves". What? A therapy appointment?
@@naolucillerandom5280 yep. Like therapy? A box of shit? Restraining order? That's appropriate gifts for many mothers.
@@waffles3629 your feelings are justified but remember that Mothers day is for the good mothers. Any mother that mistreats their children aren't really mothers; They are just a bad parental guardian.
In addition, your hatred towards mother's day could make you seem ignorant and create envy as shown from this comment section.
You don't necessarily have to celebrate mother's day. On the other hand, you can celebrate with a person that you see as a mother or treated you better than your own mother.
I went NC with my mother after my brother's funeral, sent a whole explanation and never wrote back.
One of my coworkers decided to question why I wasn't doing anything for mother's day when "she's your family and that's all you can count on" when she'd been told before what all happened.
And now I don't talk to that coworker about anything outside work.
That parent who posted all of their child's information should honestly get arrested if anything happens to that child. Literally asking people to stalk their kid, horrible
Not to mention trying to pass it off as if asking for help in punishing the child also just irks me on another level too. Truly disgusting!
"My child, who answers to X and goes to Y school will be outside of this house for this long every day. She will also not have her GPS tracking device with her due to punishment. She will also be expecting unpleasant strangers approaching her while she is out walking the dog."
Im a mom, grandma, and great grandma, and i never reacted or acted like my mother did with me. So all my kids still talk and see me, unlike i was with my mother, who i had limited contact with to protect my sanity. Be careful being a parent, you dont own your child, your job is to prepare them for life, and help when life gets hard as it will.
If you wouldn't mind, how old are you?
@@SpaceTempest her name is water witch. I think sheight be immortal...
@@MinaOmega fair
That's the biggest blessing a parent can give a child.
To not pass on their dumb trauma.
@@SpaceTempest I'm sure to be older than most here.
The 6 year old didn't "play with a gun that accidentally went off" unfortunately. He actively went to school with the gun specifically to shoot his teacher. Still not the fault of ADHD, but it wasn't just "a kid playing with something he shouldn't have"
He brought it in, hid it when the administration searched his bag after being notified that someone thought he had a weapon, then shot the teacher. No part of that was playing, it was irresponsible parent/parent(s), insufficient search and/or disciplinary action (or even adherence to his ed plan) by the administration, and a seriously disturbed child
A six year old does not have a concept of the permanency of their actions.
@@justine8387 so? It was still premeditated. Whether or not he knew the consequences, he still did it deliberately. As opposed to "ooo look a cool gun I'm gonna hold it *bang*". Very different situations. I was literally just clarifying since Click said it was an accident
@@justine8387 The kid got a gun, HID THE GUN, then shot his teacher. Kid's a fucking sociopath and needs to be held responsible. The parents groomed him to be a monster.
A 6 yo dosnt do shit like tgat without reasons. Bullying? Abuse? Definitely something must has happened way before this which wasn't the 6 you fault. Also fucking get your priority straight. Protect your kids not your weapons. Damn
I am a woman. There are 4 items in my shower: A bar of soap, a bottle of whatever shampoo was on sale, a similar bottle of conditioner collecting proverbial dust, and a dull plastic razor I bought in a bulk pack over a decade ago. Likewise, I'm sure there are plenty of cis-het men out there who use a dozen kinds of beauty products, and there is nothing wrong with that. The gender divide is bs.
I guarantee my brother has at least 3 times the hair products I do. The situation is excellent.
If I may ask, why don't you use the conditioner?
@@wintergray1221 their hair more than likely doesn’t need it depending on the condition of the hair but I don’t know op just guessing
@@wintergray1221 laziness, honestly. When I'm planning to go out or do something with my hair I condition it, but when just pulling it back into a ponytail to go to work or the grocery store, my goal in the shower is just to not be dirty.
Edit: I should probably mention that I only wash my hair two or three times a week (when it starts to get greasy) so my hair isn't getting as dried out as some people's might.
@@hiccuphufflepuff176 speaking the truth, clean (but not squeaky) girls unite 💪
Trans guy from Montana here. I believe it. Lot of our legislators have trans kids and actively make laws against their kids interests. They also just banned TikTok from our state. I love MT
checking in 8 months later - what does it mean for tiktok to be banned in your state? is it just straight up not available or do people still use it?
tbf though, banning tik tok is probably not really such a bad idea.
Fellow trans man here - I live in South Australia and there are some interesting people trying to start the transphobic rhetoric from the US and UK. Keep fighting the good fight mate 💪
@@TheOysteibanning a social media app because of the country it came from is an extremely bad precedent. None of the people making laws against tiktok are using any of the actual things bad about it, just spouting conspiracy shit about china.
@@lulolieas someone how has experience working with a Chinese media company, that is just incorrect. The propaganda and the information gathering on TikTok is terrible and deliberate.
I tracked down a supposed update to the mom who was suing for visitation with a kid OP didnt even have. Its on a facebook group and according the the poster, she told her mom the kid isnt hers. They went to court. She proved the kid wasnt hers and the judge says OPs mom wasnt allowed to contact her anymore before dismissing the case
I know the joke about therapists telling you to masturbate against depression was not serious, but that actually happened to me. I was 16. My mom was in the room. F.
YIKES
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Please tell me you got a new therapist.
What
Jeez disgusting
9:28 That kid had tried to strangle other students with a belt, had threatened to kill the teachers many times, was violent and impropriet with other students.. teachers and kids were afraid of him.. school did nothing and now mom claims it's ADHD??! That kid was a psychopath and mom irresponsible af..
Thank you for actually acknowledging that all three are at fault. The amount of comments pinning the blame solely on the school's negligence and his shitty mom while completely glossing over the fact that the kid's a monster is honestly repulsive. I mean, I get that children aren't fully developed and are bound to do stupid stuff they later regret, but that doesn't mean they don't know basic right from wrong and it sure as hell doesn't mean they shouldn't be held accountable when they literally commit violent crimes. There's a big difference between kids making typical kid mistakes and things like THIS.
@@EagleTimberWolf Yeah, there's definitely a big difference between this 6yo and normal 6yo.. I was probably eating and selling sand cakes in my playhouse, not sexually abusing others and plotting to murder my pre school teachers and then actually acting on it.. kid is dangerous and should be in professional care. Mother is horribly irresponsible and not living in reality about her son. School knew about all of this and didn't protect the other kids or the teachers.. a perfect sh*t storm.
Well, we don't have that kind of intel, and even then, as the click explicitly said, it's neglectful endorsement...
@@adrianblake8876 I have been following the case, but hadn't heard about the adhd claim, I saw she was going to break her silence, but that was not what I expected from her.. she doubled down with a bogus excuse.
The mom is the one who is at fault for all of that. She raised a killer kid, and she's proud of it.
Some say birth control is effective but this Subreddit works too.
well said
Pretty sure it might be the only 100% effective one
I just have furry kids!😊
@@Mrs_Sugar_Min abandon them
@@Velvet_star I think they’re talking about dogs and cats
The one about porn reminded me of my mom. During the pandemic, she encouraged me to download tinder when i told her i was lonely. Not quite the same, but my mom thought me being lonely meant i needed to lose my virginity to a woman. Love that subtle pandemic doubt, homophobia, and denial of my asexuality. Now I'm out as a trans woman and she mostly leaves me alone, which im fine with because i dont need the misgendering
Just to note for the child at like 19:50 this is literally a 5 year old walking a dog by herself apparently and being nitpicked for not doing everything properly
The mom sharing all the information abt her daughter is too wrapped up in the punishment that she doesn’t realize how dangerous they could be. Anyone could see that and possibly kidnap the child
One thing I've noticed somewhat recently is there are a lot of people that view children as solely extensions of their parents. As in they don't see the children as human beings, but rather the property of their parents. I started to note how prevalent this attitude is with the talks of government funded school lunches. People will say they oppose school lunches funded by tax dollars because a child going hungry is "a personal responsibility issue"... Which is just insane to me. Personal responsibility?! Who's?! The kid?! Because of its the personal responsibility of the parent, then doing nothing to help feed the kid makes no sense from an angle of personal responsibility... Unless you consider the kid property and not a person.
I think there are a shocking number of people that hold this view point... And I think that is where at lot of this parent entitlement comes from. They never consider that *they* chose to have a kid and the kid never got to choose anything. They then act as if the kid owes them a life debt for bringing them into the world and paying to raise them when the kid had zero say in that. If you start from the premise that the kid is a person who unfortunately doesn't have the mental, physical, or legal tools to live their own life... Then a good deal of this entitlement becomes crystal clear how backwards it is. It isn't charity for these parents, it is investing... And they expect a return on their investment.
There are a lot of people who should never be parents. I might even wager to say most couples aren't cut out for it.
Overpopulation is becoming a problem too. Why have more kids?
Fun Fact: I recently talked to school friend of mine who's a lawyer. In Austria it is technically illegal to post a picture of your child online. The child is not your property and just because it can't understand or say no, does not give you freedom to violate their rights.
Of course this whole thing is a massive grey area. If you follow the law though, you would have to ask the family court every time you want to post a picture.
He told me he really wanted a client that had a problem with that, just to see if he could push it through. He is confident about it though.
2:44 " Oh! You're depressed, have you tried watching adult films?"
Psssst! Thats the trick the pharma industrie does not want you to know! 😆
Finally! I've always wondered what doctors didn't want me to know?
My former mother used to make up arguments and problems to then punish me for. She was abusive, and did things to me and my siblings that were literally criminal. I’ve been no contact with her for almost three full years, and it was a great decision on my part. The only thing that sucks is that she admitted that whatever I didn't take with me, she was going to sell (and, of course, keep the money.) Y'all. She sold over $2,000 worth of belongings that I had bought with my own money.
I hate that woman.
I despise it when parents don't respect property
It's amazing how our parents say "they did their best to raise us", yet despise the persons we turn out to be.
Woah, I am gonna use this sentence if I ever have to confront them
@@_butter.cup_ lol go for it!
Just today my sister's boyfriend said unironically that Karen is a slur. I worry that her being with him will turn her into someone from this subreddit.
The mother blaming her son's ADHD... I have ADHD and it doesn't make ME want to randomly shoot people. If anything, it makes focus on the right thing hard and distraction stupidly easy which means memory gets impacted since with a sufficient distraction I WILL forget what I was doing right before the distraction.
Let's be perfectly honest-- ADHD is more likely to cause you to kill YOURSELF rather than somebody else. And I don't mean intentionally. Watch my distracted ass leave the gas stove on and burn the house down while I'm sleeping.
As someone who grew up christian and is still one to this day, i remember that my parents took me to church with them. but luckily, they had special children’s services, which was mostly just a daycare for kids while their parents attended the grown-up service. They taught us some bible lessons, but they were basically about moral things like don’t take whats not yours, forgive others, treat others how you want to be treated, etc. i was always really excited to go to church because it was a lot of fun as a kid. on behalf of all so-called “christians” in this video, im sorry. i believe god told us to not judge others, but some of these people clearly didnt get the memo.
20:20 my dad used to be super abusive to me, mentally and physically, and was very anti-lgbtq. The last time we fought, I told him how I spent my entire childhood wanting to die, and that the day I found out I was allowed to live as my true self, I wanted to live, and that if he loves me that should make him happy no matter how invested he was in my being a specific gender. He stormed off and five minutes later he came back and apologized, it was the second time I ever saw him cry. Once it finally hit him that I could have been dead, he completely turned around because he actually loves me, even though he was an abusive asshole because he was raised in a toxic environment, he forced himself to change because he didn't want to lose me and he realized he was about to, and he changed basically overnight, that fast, he let go of all his selfish demands and just started treating me like a normal person for once.
If losing your kid doesn't scare you more than watching them change, which is a natural part of the human condition that makes us a stronger species, then you never loved them, really.
Parents who refused to let their kids change and develop into individuals, are the exact reason why today's generations can't handle adulthood and have crippling anxiety. Millennials were the first to really be hit by this and we get blamed for being meek and anxious when Boomers intentionally conditioned us to be meek and anxious for their benefit. They love having a sensitive kid who is easy to bully, then get mad if that kid is easily bullied as an adult and never gets anywhere in life. Every time we tried to grow up, parents flipped out on us, so we stopped trying to be adults, and then parents flip out on us for not supporting them, that's a toxic generation disconnect.
Their parents rejoiced when they moved out of their home to be independent, now Boomers lose their mind when their kids move on from them. Even though I got my parents to change and grow and learn, their past attitudes toward change left lasting damage. I wasn't allowed to even go to an extracurricular club after school, now I'm terrified to take on more responsibility because they only wanted to enroll me in the bare minimum. I never even took the SAT because it costs $25 and they didn't want to pay for "extra unnecessary things", so if anything takes a little too much effort, I back out of it just like they made me back out of anything exciting or challenging that I wanted to try.
And they apologize over and over, because now they're calm and level headed and understand that they often made the wrong chocies for me. But though the apology means a lot to me in my heart, it can't take back the conditioning they left in me, and this is the biggest problem with my generation and thise after, Boomer parents make their kids afraid to ask for anything extra, or to engage in anything new and different.
So then when those kids grow up and have to move to a new city to get that big career changing new job, they're going to back out, because when mom and dad didn't want them going to summer camp, they taught them to be afraid of travelling too far from home without mom and dad, afraid of making a commitment that might fail, all those little things parents say to their kids to keep them from doing something. "Don't try out for [sport], look at this video of this man breaking his leg playing it, we don't have health insurance for that". Okay, now I'll never ever do sports. "You can't go on that trip, planes are dangerous and you can't go that far from us even though you're 17 and nearly grown up" okay, then I'll be afraid to ever fly a plane, and I'll have panic attacks going more than an hour outside of town. Is that what they want? Their kids so scared of change that they stay kids? You have to embrace change, even drastic change, it's how humans grow up.
Too long to read but good luck
I’m really glad to hear of someone turning it around like that in a big way. Gives me hope for the world as a fellow T in the lgbt (or at least going by the context from your post that that’s what you are classed as too) Thank you for sharing your and your fathers story.
You should totally get this published. More parents need to know this stuff.
it's not your true self. Not excusing your father, but you're lying to yourself as well
@@The_Trident_Masterbeing LGBTQ? Fitting and ironic simultaneously. If you're someone who worries about Christianity being left behind, this attitude is why. Because it belongs in the past. No one needs a supposed moral framework that arbitrarily calls things evil and balks at the idea of explaining itself. Everything good from Christianity is reached through good moral philosophy anyways. You only need it for the bad stuff.
I was raised Evangelical and my mom sobbed when my youngest sibling and I came out as queer and when I told her I was a polytheist and no longer Christian (had an unbaptism too just to solidify for me the breaking of the abusive system I grew up in). I'm openly agender, but my sibling is not. Mom still calls me by my birthname instead of MY name. Mom still believes we're living in sin and have turned our backs on God and blah blah blah but she still tries to have a relationship with us and we've just learned not to talk about certain things with her. Our dad is another story and I'm pretty sure he'd have beaten us had we come out still living in that house. He wonders why I don't talk to him or share things with him. But I have a general idea based off of past experiences how he'd react if I told him I planned on getting top surgery and a hysterectomy as soon as I possibly can. It wouldn't be pretty. If you can't fully unconditionally love your child and use your fucked up version of your religion to abuse and berate them then don't fucking have kids because you clearly aren't mature enough or trustworthy enough to have children. Dad is the reason I went into therapy initially as soon as I became an adult. Been in therapy for over a decade. Child abuse I've worked on and am honestly more or less recovered from. The PTSD from other things partially stemming from him, not so much but I'm getting there. Also really friggin tired of people saying organized religion is bad and evil and blah blah blah when 99% of the time they mean Christianity. Just say Christianity. Religion isn't a bad thing. It's how humans can bastardize and use it for control. Religion is a personal thing and should remain personal.
I read in here you had an "unbaptism". How would one do this, and how fast could I do this to myself?
@@t1ff4nyall3n In Catholicism it is a peace of paper with your signature on it, delivered to the church where you were baptised. Then priest will try to ask you "Why?", "Are you sure?" and so on, in mine case the guy was so bored and spewing such banalities that I had answered with similar banalities so he would just f&^k off. Then the paper goes to the bishop, and they have to agree within a month and took you out of their books. Sometimes they try to forget about the document and you would need a phone call or two, but most often it goes without a hitch. Again this is Roman Catholicism, as for other Christian denominasions, you would need to check is it similar, or are there differences. It is basically self excommunication in technical terms, and one of the best decisions I ever made.
@@MrocnyZbik Cool. Southern Baptist. I haven't gone to that church in over 6 years, and even back when I went, the pastor who performed my baptism has retired. So, I think I would just tell my birthgiver. I like the self-excommunication definition. That's probably what I'll go with for myself.
As a christian I agree with you so many people use religion to hurt people. I'm so sorry that your parents treated you and your siblings like this. I hope your safe from them
Oooh! Queer Jew here - thank you thank you for both our sakes for knowing that there is life - and faith - outside your parents' house. Come dance - there's a wonderful world out here.
As someone who lives in the Hampton Roads area (aka near Newport News) I'm so appalled by that mother. My family has a history of ADHD and autism, yet none of us have ever shot someone, or done something like that which caused harm to others. In addition to that, the teacher cannot sue due to the shooting being covered under "workman's comp"
But what about the parents having such a weapon in the vicinity of said child.
Before I came out as trans and still identified as a mom, I visited my mom on mother's day, and instead of her thinking about the fact that I was a mom and maybe wanted something nice, she made me and my siblings make breakfast for her. I think she later said that I'll just have to wait until my kids are old enough to do the same for me. My kids were 2 and 0 years old at the time.
Now she never gets a mothers day present from me anymore because I've been no contact for over 3 years now :)
You may never ever have a mothersday now ... BUT ... Free beer on fathersday (i hope) :3
@@yuzuchi5381 I don't drink but I appreciate the sentiment!
@@jackriver8385 nyuuuu well .. then .. idk .. what else do fathers do on fathers day ? ... hälp :'D
@@yuzuchi5381 they barbecue stuff/throw stuff on the grill i think idk how this shit works either oops
@@S3lkie-Gutz Hahaha well .. only thing that matters is that youre having fun :3
the one where the mom was suing for visitation of a child that wasn't even theirs: lmao I would probably also ask for a restraining order while I'm there. Literally she already proved herself to be completely bonkers by going to such lengths, I'd say it's worth a try lol
I would ask the child’s actual mother and, if available, the child’s two actual grandmothers to attend the court hearing so they can chew the NC mother out for wanting access to *their* grandchild. 😆
Posts like these are always a good reminder to be grateful that I have (mostly) loving parents that care about me. I really hope everyone in situations like these are able to get away from them safely.
My mom literally thinks masturbation is the way to solve mental illness. She was worried I wasnt getting laid enough as an adult...
think positive. at lerast you getting laid
Bro literally just made this comment to flex that they gets laid....
That's disgusting and actualy harmful. Porn and masturbation addiction do exist after all.
At least she cares but w h a t
@kawaibakaneko she thinks the temporary endorphins you get from what le funtime gives to the brain ÷_÷' fixes everything
My mother complained because MY kids didnt wish her a happy mothers day this year...i dont think my son even wished me a happy mothers day, but ok lol. (Tbf, he cant read a calendar to save his life, and no...hes NOT a toddler, just gregorianly challenged...)
Oh, also, i corrected my mom and told how she DIDNT use to make me breakfast as a kid...as i didnt even eat breakfast...by my own choice...and somehow she translated that into :youve never done anything for me! 🤦🏼♀️
Gregorianly challenged. I like that, 8d miss my own b-day if people didn't remind me.
Lol I like that one
Both me and my partner are gregorianly challenged. This will be fourth time in a row we both forget our anniversary and remember a week late 😂
Gregorianly challenged 🤣 me too
My parents are both atheists. They still made sure I knew about the general branches of Christianity the rest of their respective families believed in, as well as about other religions, in an age appropriate and free-thinking way. I went through several phases of spirituality, with gentle guidance and lots of information at hand. Several of my friends were raised extremely similarly.
I'm an atheist, my best friend is agnostic, and our other friends are a mix of religious and non-religious people. Everyone gets along fine and we have great conversations about religion and belief, mostly BECAUSE we were allowed to choose freely for ourselves without being forced into anything specific as children, with appropriate knowledge of what the different religions themselves entailed and what they meant to our families.
Of course I also know people who were forced into or out of certain religions, almost all of those ended up going through an extremely rebellious phase where they rejected everything they were ever forced to do, say or think. Forcing someone never works.
Your parents sound like very good parents! I was raised Baptist, but even with that, I still want to learn about other religions and cultures. With that, I have pagan friends, atheist friends and one of my dearest friends is Muslim. We exchanged Christmas gifts for the last few years and stay in touch!
My parents are atheists as well- but my mom was a junior high teacher at a Catholic school for 25 years, and she loved teaching there. I went to it for preschool and kindergarten, and had no problem with taking part in prayer and Friday church services, despite being an atheist as well. I understood that my teachers would be sad if I didn’t.
I’ve also had several best friends over the years who were believers of various religions.
My problem isn’t with religions themselves, it’s with people who use their religion as an excuse for bigotry- an excuse to hurt and dehumanize others.
Your parents sound wonderful.
By and large religion influences culture. So knowing or, even better, understanding religion helps a lot in understanding cultures. Not only ones foreign to you - but your own, as it most likely was (or still is) inlfuenced by one or another belief.
Being atheist myself - I am intrigued by religious buildings of all sorts, how and what people regard as holidays and such stuff.
Fun Fact: In the US, grandparents can only sue for visitation under certain circumstances.
1.) They haven't seen the child for over 60 days and the parents are divorcing
2.) Their access has been restricted by 1 parent after the 2nd parent has passed away
3.) The child actually lived with them for 6 months, and they filed within 24 months of the child living with them.
So that mom suing her kid for visitation after the kid cut her out of their life? Even if the kid was related to her, the case would not go very far at all because the court would rule in the favor of the parent(s).
But that case would be tossed immediately and the mom's lawyer would be banging their head against the desk for her stupidity.
And if the child brought enough hard evidence, might be able to get a restraining order for the physical abuse they suffered.
As someone whose m*ther is dead, the anniversary of which is coming up, and whose only reaction when they first found out was hidden relief, I cannot stand these types of parents. Ik I wouldn't have been able to get away from her, so I commend all those who succeed in going no-contact, y'all are so strong 💛
Why did you censor mother?
Hi Click! My name is Michael and I love watching your videos. You’ve helped me through my ftm transition with memes in funny voices that make me laugh. It realizes the stress I have in my life right now as I try to make the best of it all. Thank you for everything ❤
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Congrats 🎊
Congratulations! I hope you have alot of love and support
congrats!!
@Michael Afton
My man!
hoping your having the best day ever. 🥰
This was the first mothers day in a new state. We just moved & my brother is now 1200 miles away. We woke up & I gave my mom her mothers day gift, she barely blinked at it. She was more upset with my brother "not calling her" for mothers day. We woke up at 8, my brother woke up at 1 & my parents went to the beach from 10am to 2pm. When he woke up he called her immediately... twice. Dad told me when they got home that my mother ignored his calls ON PURPOSE. The woman is a giant child.
What a frickin moron. Doesn’t appreciate her kids. Jeeeezus
This subreddit is full of awful mothers. I, myself am not a mother (although I very much wish I could be. Mothers day is a punch in the face for me) but like, God, I wish I could be all these people's mom so that they actually wouldn't have an awful mom and would have a mom that loves and appreciates them. These "mothers" have no idea how lucky they are to have such good children despite how they were raised by an a-hole.
Anyway, sorry about that rant. If anyone has a horrible mother, I'll adopt you right here and now.
Will you be my mother
@@Itmedontask yes
@mellohiwastaken
You just gave me flashbacks to chugguconroy playing Mario galaxy.
He did say in the first episode “will you be my mommy?”
I'll happily accept being adopted by you. :D
I assume you mean being a bio mom, have you considered adoption
12:07 I would never talk to this man again. In fact I'd file a restraining order.
"Poisoned with communist thoughts" made me burst out laughing. Holy crap.
13:15
They still walk amongst us. One of the lesser presidential candidates wants to be president to get rid of the Bolsheviks talking over the US. The last 70+ years of history have completely passed him by….
I saw the video about the woman who would rather let her kid die than transition. That was so awful, I feel so bad for them. I really hope none of you ever have to deal with crazy shit like that
she later said that her child isn’t actually trans, as if that’s any better somehow? like yeah, I sure hope not, not when she’s said that if her child comes out as trans she would want them to unalive themself
Parents be like "Why is this house dirty?" When they dirtied it and I havent been home
Way too many parents treat their kids as free labor
When I was in junior high I'd go to my friend's house because our moms worked together and it was easier to consolidate children at one house until they got off work. Because my friend was the eldest she'd have to clean the house before her mom came home. The younger siblings would wait until like 3 minutes until the moms arrive to make messes on purpose to get the eldest in trouble because eldest said "No you can't play with that knife, it's not a toy" and things like that. It would ALWAYS work because while we're desperately cleaning the mess they'd run to another room to make another and eldest was always screamed at by her mom. I wasn't required to help clean but I usually did because I felt so bad for her. No matter how much we tried the demons would always get her in trouble and even when the mom was home the youngest cut her own hair and yelled "SHUT UP" at us (we didn't even notice she did it, we were just chilling on the couch) we were sent outside for bullying her. Normally not a problem but it was summer in Texas and we couldn't come inside for like 3 hours. Funny enough that mom abandoned her whole family after popping out 5 kids. Eldest and her dad had to raise the kids.
I use to get screamed at for going out and not cleaning the house well enough. It's not my fault my parents thought buying 3 dogs and acquiring a cat was reasonable. The place would be covered in fur in such a short amount of time
My mother still blames me for random stuff she can’t find around the house. I’ve lived in a different country for the last eight years.
@Lamppost 🦕
Yeah. I feel like a maid in my own home.
Which is funny because that’s what my mom complained about.
“You don’t do nearly as much work as me. I’m not a maid.”
Cut to: “hey shattered. You’re a boy. Can you do [Insert job here].”
When someone is literally in the same room. It’s all just because I’m a “guy.”
I just want to scream. “I’m not a boy mom! And I’m not your personal maid! Please!”
Doesn’t help that most of my siblings don’t help out at all. And if they do then they complain the whole time…sorry.
I feel better now.
Minor point for some of our viewers: Mother's Day is on different days around the world. In Sweden, it's actually on May 28th.
Brit here; ours is in March.
Oh that's today
14:23 about the bit with “making your child look like they’re 24”, I would bet a solid $20 that those girls were part of child beauty pageants. And yes, it’s just as bad as it sounds.
26:30 CI stands for Christian Intent, which is the belief that only Celtic & Germanic people are decended from Abraham, therefore are the only ones who can be Christian.
Oh... yikes.
That's really gross. And makes zero sense, given Abraham was from the Middle East?
Wait so the Italy thing probably means he is italian
So still white, wth, this isnt just racism, this is *advanced racism*
19:40 THATS BASICALLY just saying "KIDNAP MY CHILD! SHE HAS NO PHONE!"
i love these videos because i still struggle with feeling like i’m the problem for cutting out my toxic abusive pos parents
its the best to cut contact with touse people. but if you struggle by thinking" its me" try to get some neutral 3 person perspective (people who you are not close related or friend with. it helps a lot.
i got no contact too. because of shitty childhood (parrents divorce mental healt problems on parrent and my side. now i am 30 and my mother is like a good friend to me.
As someone who comes from the opposite experience (loving and supportive parents), please don't take the blame on yourself. I often see people with good relationships with their parents say things like, "but it's your Mum, you should try to make it work" etc, but if there is any situation where you shouldn't be expected to be the 'better person' or suffer in silence, it's your parents. You're already being the better person by not returning the abuse you've experienced. You are not obliged to spend time with your parents to let them make you miserable just because they are the reason for your existence or they fed and housed you or some other bull. That's literally not even the bare minimum. With good parents, you want to spend time with them, it's enjoyable (barring specific sad circumstances). If your parents don't give you that, try to find it elsewhere but don't feel like a bad person for cutting them out. In the long run it's the healthiest option and I have massive respect for people who manage it because I've seen how difficult it can be for some of my friends. Also, if you have the resources, I strongly recommend trying to find a good psychologist.
Your not and it's sucks it's so hard. I get you. It will be worth it I hope you find somone who reminds you tgat your worth it. (That somone can even be yourself. But I know tgats realy hard.) Rooting for you.
@@ktm9292damn your amazing. Thank you so much. I'm happy for you btw. Thank you.
Amen to the parent and the other parent talking about religion! I agree 1000% that children should not go to church when they're not even old enough to know what's right for them in any sense of the word! I was raised and forced to go to an evangelical/pentecostal/apostolic, which is a lot! It was a good church as in the people were good and I made a lot of good friends but they taught us a lot things that have stuck with me my whole 34 years of life that are quite traumatic still. I cant enjoy the naughties without the anxiety of going to hell or bad things happening... I'm still a Christian but I've deconstructed in a way. But I still have to overcome a lot of teachings that I don't agree with and I will never and have never forced my children to go to church! Sorry this was so long sometimes you just hear something that hits you right in the heart and you've just gotta put you're feeling somewhere and try to heal!
Very true. My mother never wanted me to experience the religious guilt/trauma she did being raised in a Catholic school. She didn't make me do Sunday school, would never send me to a religious school in general, etc. She made a point to take me to different religions' places of worship and wanted me to figure out what I believed myself. But even the limited exposure of going to church sometimes, reading about it, and knowing her beliefs still input some things in my brain that I've had to work through. Particularly about sex and self pleasure.
It's nuts to me how as a child adults got to tell me that I was going to be tortured for any thought that I had but apparently me cutting my hair and going by a different name was "too much"
While I agree with what the texter said, the comment later quoted is only mostly right (they additionally said mass is no place to bring a kid): I do believe mass is a good place to bring kids... ONCE. Once for all major religions to be exact.
In fact, that is something we have as part of the school-curriculum (albeit for teenagers - So it's still kids, but I can agree that *6* might be a bit early. At least do it at an age where there's a chance for them to remember it at the least _vaguely,_ rather than be entirely amnesic about and non-comprehending) to make class visitations to each house of worship to learn basic contextual etiquette (men takes of hats for some, yay sexism!), see the architecture, and partake in a mock mass. Again, mostly for ceremonial etiquette (line up to eat a piece of paper disguised as bread and a sip of sour wine. OR you can perform a specific sign to opt out of the torture without disruption ceremony. Also useful if you have any diseases that can transmit through saliva etc.), but also so you have some context of what it involves when you encounter ppl ascribing to the faiths in your future life).
And as a historically christian country (somehow we are majority atheist AND christian over here xD) they do receive some additional bias through sheer historical traditions.
Such as how there has simply been more churches built historically, and a tradition of renting out the locations for some non-religious activities, which results in most schools using those locales for graduations and year-ends (good acoustics, plenty of seating, and cheap). In other words, my butt is well-accustomed with how extremely uncomfortable pews are to sit on, and I got a fairly good grasp on a specific handful of hymns written/translated by Britt G Hallqvist (having a collection of psalm-books with lyrics provided to everyone without hassle, and a musician handy and cheap to hire who knows most in it, means picking songs from that collection is both easiest and cheapest. And they are honestly not bad songs. What else would we sing anyway? The national anthem? HAH! We are swedes, not patriotic!).
Or how at 14 it is tradition to spend a couple days there to learn about the faith and become officially christian (called "confirmation"; this is btw why we are majority christians despite being majority atheists. Most of us are christians on *paper*).
Overall? I think I gained culturally by all of those school visits and other traditions. Doesn't make me any less of an atheist, but I can imagine sheer exposure at least made me much more tolerant and respectful of (reasonable) ppl who aren't? Cause that's how humans generally work and react to exposure (but I admittedly have no method to know _for sure_ whether or not I would be any less so if I _hadn't_ had the exposure).
😂 "You can use it as a shampoo or toothpaste..." I almost fell from the chair at the physio therapist! So many blank faces... No reaction to me lmao in the waiting room. 🤷
7:00 I am confused about how the mother's lawyer could have filed anything. To file the paperwork you would need the full name of the child that you are demanding visitation rights for. A lawyer would need to hash out all the details before proceeding to court.
She somehow found out the kid's name without learning that she has no bio or legal link to them, I guess? It's hard to picture how ...
Probably just a subpoena.
Maybe the mom lied to her attorney.
My favourite hobby is watching The Click reacting to parents more unhinged than mine.
Ikr.
These people sound crazier than me, and I spent a week in a mental hospital.
I went to a mental health place once. Left me so traumatized that I ended up repressing any memories of that place for almost 8 years. It did not help me at all.
@@LloydTheZephyrian They had one job. If you sued them earlier, you could have made some big money.
@@doodlesyoru2108 It was mostly down to the fact that there were other teens in there that were actually homicidal and made open threats. Proooobably not the best place for an autistic teen dealing with major life changes to be...
If it makes you feel better you could have been in a facility for years and been more sane than most of them.
@@doodlesyoru2108my mom wanted to sue the nurses at the mental hospital for the terrible way they behaved with my sister, forcing her to take the wrong meds and being flat out rude and not doing their job, and the lawyer said "I will not go against the hospital personnel because it's a lost cause unkess someone died". I'm from Italy for context. I don't know how it is on a larger scale but those nurses know damn well they're not going to be punished.
"Just wait when I die" was my grandma's favorite guilt trip. Well, in the ended she had dementia and didn't even know if I visited. She's been dead for two decades and I still don't know what I was supposed to wait for.
7:15 person:“your honour, the child isn’t mine! It was my friends!”
Judge: “Then why did you come here?”
Person: “for the FUNNI”
Insane parents are crazy wth-
But to the person who is going through surgery, I wish you the best of luck! ♥︎
im attempting to figure out the name that was said and i just cant
@@sunnywunny Yeah neither can I 😰
I wasn't sure at first, either. But it was Angie Johnson(he said Angie J), and she has a comment thanking him that is currently a few above yours, but I know that might change by the time you see this...
I feel so happy to have good parents. When I had surgery my dad drove me to the hospital, called me everyday to ask how I was and took care of me because I had my uterus removed since it made me sick.
Jesus. And then there's my mom, surprised that I even care to remember about mothers day enough to at least call her.
Sadly she's the one about to die, not the absolute horrors mentioned in this video. This world is so cruel.
I watched this to make me feel a little better about my own no contact relationship with my abusive mother. I think we should all form a support group and host meet ups on Mother’s Day! Who’s in?
🎉 that would be nice
I'm in! 😂😂😂
Me! Pretty new to the group so it'd be nice to navigate
Can you still come if you are still in contact with your mother because yours parents haven’t divorced so your mother can remarry and move out?
@@sasori5993 Sure. I honestly think I should start a Facebook group but then again all my family is on Facebook so maybe Reddit? Idk lol
3:49 some parents never stop and think back to when they were their child’s age. Did they spend every day with their parents when they were 35?
Did they call every evening?
Or did they sometimes go weeks or months without talking to their parents?
And when they did get together, just like good friends you instantly feel comfortable in their company. It’s not pretending to be casual and relaxed - it IS casual and relaxed because you all know and love each other.
Gahh. Some people have no insight.
My mother immediately jumps to the, "You'll regret this when I'm dead" and honestly, I've just been tuning her out.
2:13
Mothers then: depressed? have you tried being happy?
Mothers now: depressed? have you tried being h*rny?
My mom is still the “have you tried being happy?” Thing.
Yes mom I have been trying to be happy. But considering the fact that I don’t even remember how to smile without it looking forced I’d say it’s not working.
I mean, sounds like a slight improvement to me 😅
@Dorito Bot 9000
If your into it. But if not then I’d say don’t. 😅
@@shadowking278 same
As funny as it is, this is more or less what my mother told me a few days ago. Really awkward
Im glad my mom has gotten much better. About 5 years ago, she would fall under this category of crazy, but she got therapy, my siblings and I got therapy, and we all found we get along better not living together. My mom went from ready to call tge police if I didnt answer a text in minutes to now texting me something like "proof of life text please" like once every 1-2 weeks if we havent called or texted, and she gives me like 24 hours to respond before she calls me. She has bipolar and severe anxiety, and was very controlling amd obsessive when I was a kid, but she finally got enough therapy to find herself outside of being a mom. So now I no longer feel the pressure to validate my mom all the time like I did as a kid. I endured way, way too many guilt trips like shown on this sub. Im the oldest and am 22 now. I hated her from 12-17, but we slowly healed our relationship after I went off to college and she realized she had to chill out if she wanted me to come visit her and maintain a relationship.
Tbh the fact that people like you can forgive people like her is astounding to me, congratulations on being able to repair that relationship though!! Your capacity for love is amazing :3
@elizakarnopp8921 I just saw this reply but thank you! Honestly, most of it was seeing her put in the effort, and it took me a lot of therapy to forgive her and move forward in our relationship. At this point it's more of a friendship than a parent/child relationship, but it's better that way I think for both of us. If she hadn't changed significantly and put in the work in therapy, I don't know that we would have any relationship today, because it was hanging on by a thread when I left for college 5 years ago. It took a ton of compassion, understanding, and long talks together with her and my therapist to come to a place where I enjoy spending time with my mom now, but she's a completely different person now that she's mentally stable, which I'm very thankful for.
Wow, that’s amazing! I’m so glad she chose to get better, for you and your siblings’ sake. You’re a kind and loving person, and you went above and beyond to forgive all that.
@Axqu7227 thank you! It means a lot hearing that from others. It's very validating
She's lucky to have you. Best of the future to you all, in your careful, plenty-of-space family.
Cliccky: you smell great.
Me who hasn't showered in days because I'm very sick and don't have the energy: *in tears* thank you.
I hope, you get well soon :)
I will pray for your swift recovery. *Starts praying to the emotional support demon.*
I thought I smelled something, tell your illness I'm gonna kick its butt if it doesnt let you shower soon 'cause, damn. lol
i want you to get some brass knuckles and beat the crap out of it
I, too, was unsure if I had some form of ADHD until I held out my hand and summoned a gun, giving me my diagnosis
8:56 , just going out on a limb as someone with ADHD, i don't think this has anything to do with the shooting.
As someone who had insane parents, I always get excited to see this subreddit! Its super validating to both see other people sharing my experiences as well as open shame and ridicule towards these parents for their unreasonable behaviors.
If any of you reading this are still trapped in a home like this, I hope you find freedom and safety soon
Same! My mother is horrible in every way. During the divorce hearing, a random woman was going in and out of the courtroom to feed info to my younger siblings who weren't of age yet (17 and 16). Her absolute fury at some of the things she said, and probably the fact that she was also there to get full custody of her own children, made all of us feel validated like we never had before.
I looked up the story with the 6 yr old shooter. He did know what he was going to hurt someone. Had apparently shown another kid the gun during recess and threatened to shoot him if he said anything.
Also, the teacher had been aware of the gun all day. The boy said something about it and she kept asking administers to search his bag, but they refused. They all ignored her pleas.
And you think a 6 year old knows what is really death? Odd.
@@aligoam2 Dunno. Some kids learn earlier than others. Either way, the mom should not have let a 6 year old have access to a gun.
@@aligoam2 He might not have realised what death really was, he still wanted to hurt her badly.
He must have learned about shooting people you don't like somewhere, still blaming the parents.
Wtf is wrong with the school? Why not look into the bag, that's too weird.
I swear my mom was so upset that I and my brother didn't get her anything... she said we should "give her a surprise" every once in a while. like, why? Sure she birthed us and stuff, but I already struggle with social stuff and her demand of my attention drains more of my social battery than the rest of the people i know put together. I really feel tempted to send her this video as a "surprise" ^^
Edit: also the hypocracy of "Answer me or i'll call the police" and "Children hang on their phones all the time these days :(" Like what do you want from me
Regarding your edit, i think that goes hand in hand. Because they think that "the kids" are constantly on their phone they expect an instant reply... that this isn't real doesn't register
I had to cut off contact with my dad because he couldn’t respect boundaries and demanded all my attention. It’s been 2 years and my mental health has never been so good ❤
Yep. I'm simultaneously always on my phone and never answer my phone because I'm not near it. Like which is it? It can't be both.
8:55 I live less than 15 minutes from the elementary school that the 6 year old shot his teacher and my mother knows the school psychologist. He was loud, argumentative, and no one took him seriously especially upper officials. The mother was “hands off”, the assistant principal was useless, and the principle is still feigning ignorance. It’s sick.
13:55
"DEMOCRACY IS NON-NEGOTIABLE."
A lot of these parents don’t see children as people but as objects they can us to improve their external image onto the world around them. When you have no sense of identity outside of your external relationships, you’ll use whatever objects you can to carry the weight for you instead of doing the work to learn who you are. And children are the easiest props to manipulate
My mom and sister used to open ever piece of mail I got until I got my own post office box at 16, and then couldn't figure out why I did it. I couldn't even order something as a surprise for one of them because they tore open my parcels, too.
That's hella illegal to do to an adult.
my dad (despite being 60yo and actually not an idiot about most things) has somehow fallen down the like rightwing rabbithole of bullshit and gets upset when I argue with him because he'll randomly start spewing unscientific nonsense when i'm just CHILLING IN MY OWN HOUSE but somehow it's always MY fault we fight because he refuses to show any actual evidence of his claims and is in complete denial that he's been brainwashed by the media he consumes
aaaanndd then he wonders why doesn't my only child ever wanna spend time with me??? gee idk dad it's a ~mystery~
edit: ok there is actual science that like uhhh masturbat!on can help improve mood and such but,,, it's absolutely WILD for a parent to bring that up MULTIPLE TIMES in a casual conversation with their child
edit the second: i've had adhd and been around guns my ENTIRE 30 YEARS of living,,, not once has that ever made me ~dangerous~
I wouldn't encourage using masturbation as regulator of emotions so easily. Just like anything which releases happy chemicals in your brain it can transform into an unhealthy coping mechanism. It's OK as long you use it along side therapy tho. Still better than alcohol
I know the feeling of having a family member go down the rabbithole. My uncle went down the leftwing rabbithole and spouts insane unscientific BS too.
My mom is NC with her father (I don’t call my my grandpa bc her stepfather has fulfilled that role in my life). If you were to ask him, he’d say that out of the blue she just wrote him a letter saying she wanted nothing to do with him. The reality is that he don’t years failing to do the bare minimum in raising her and was barely present, though he had her on weekends. His raging substance abuse and lack of interest in his daughter’s life was the reason she stopped speaking to him, not some bitterness or something. Toxic parents love to present themselves as the victim-a close friend’s father claims he never laid a hand on his children (both of whom are in therapy for severe PTSD from physical and mental abuse). IMO, it’s a mix of denial and genuine delusion.
And the thing is, these insane parents are incapable of the self-awareness required to see how badly they treat their kids. Sit down and talk to them about their reasoning, if you dare. I wouldn't advise it. The sophistry they blurt out will give you a migraine headache, and you will feel like talking to them made you dumber, mentally damaged, or both just by hearing it.
Thank you for your kind words. Click, they mean mean a lot. I'm having a hydrocortisone injection into my spine on the 27th, but if it doesn't work, then it's surgery. I'm very nervous, and your words of encouragement are very much appreciated. Love ya, dude ❤
good luck with your injection dude! I hope it's all going to go well
Best of luck to you! And hey, you got a call out from Click for it so...silver lining, I guess?
I hope it goes well, Angie, best of luck! :]
Good luck, my love 😘 Hope everything goes smoothly for you
Good luck
Hi, I have ADHD, we do not claim them! I have never shot someone! My husband took me on a date once to a gun range, I shot three times, hated in and demanded to leave. He is lucky I didn't break up with him them. ADHD does not make people shoot people!
Same. I have ADHD and a butt load of other stuff. I also play violent video games. I’ve never shot someone, more have I ever wanted to.
I have mild diagnosed dyslexia and probably ADHD, own guns and go hunting and I don't even have murderous intrusive thoughts. Was like "wtf" when I found out they were normal for people to have. Blaming that on ADHD was obviously just an attempt to deny her own culpability.
The best part of being a dual citizen (one of which is Swedish), I get to celebrate mother's day twice and neither is with my mom.
So many mothers keep saying they'll die or something. My egg donor were actually really close of dying a month ago and my only thought was "urgh, she can't even do that right".
That guilt trip about not calling enough is something my dad does.
And yet he almost never calls me either. But every time we talk, it feels like he needs to disagree with me.
Last time we talked, it was a couple days before college graduation, and I was telling him how I decorated my cap to say “Fund The Arts”. But then he felt the need to say that the arts aren’t the most necessary thing to fund. I went to a _Liberal Arts_ school.
That’s a child beauty pageant and the weird thing that freaks me out the most is something they use called flippers. They are false teeth that fit over the children’s teeth so the children Don having missing teeth and it’s the freakiest thing. A child with a full set of teeth, none missing and even is frightening like a doll, which freak me out also
27:27 "WHAT DO YOU MEAN ENEMY?!! IT'S HER BOYFRIEND!!!" xD
I absolutely adore you Click, please keep on creating these videos to make us laugh and forget for a little about the trauma our parents gave us. Been a fan for a long time and always will be