At 75 I have recently been blessed (through adversity, the death of my beloved spouse, uprooting and relocating, a long pandemic) to finally stop apologizing and making myself small to fit the expectations of others. Now I celebrate being an eccentric, opinionated, outrageous, creative, soul-full old lady! Rock On!
that is such a good point why does society make us think that we will be old and washed up by the time we are in our late 20’s when THAT IS SO DAMN YOUNG it’s ridiculous !
It is! I remember some older person telling me to enjoy high school because "it's the best time of your life" - Pretty twisted thing to say, when you think about it :)
I am about to turn 50 and will be applying to Phd Programs in the History of Art for 2022 as I am completing my MA in Art History and Visual Culture this year. The only time you are too old not to go for your dreams is when you pass on. I am hoping to attend Oxford and live in one of their colleges. I am usually one of the older ones in class, but I have made great friendships with people much younger than me. Age ain't nothing but a number!!
I actually really needed to hear this right now. I'm going back to school at 36 for visual communications. For so long I felt like it was too late and I was too old but then I realized "Ya know, if you had started already, you'd be done by now." So I'm finally just going to do it and pursue something that would make me feel fulfilled.
I work at the front office of my college, and my absolute favorite calls were the ones where people had decided they wanted to take a chance on something new and join our department after being a professional in another field for years. We would always have a little celebration over the phone while I got them their information. Life is to be celebrated at all ages! The fear of getting older will crush a person. You can do anything at any age!
"Oldest bitch in the class?" Girl, try being old enough to be everyone's mom! Horrible, at first. Then you realize, it's YOUR LIFE! College is awesome especially AFTER kids. Loved it!
There was a woman in my MA course like this and she was everyones FAVORITE - we all learned so much from her, it felt like a blessing to have known her there! I'm glad you did had a great experience :)
I'm struggling with my mental health at the moment and I wanted to let you know that your videos have been part of my healing. I went through a break-up a few weeks ago and followed your example in feeling my feelings, speaking to myself kindly, and 'dating' myself (long walks, trips to galleries and museums, pastries whenever I wanted), and girl, that shit WORKS. First breakup ever that didn't leave me devastated and hating myself. Thank you 🙏🏼 PS your plant babies are thriving! 💚
Hi can understand where you are coming from are now. My MH is shaky at the moment but every one handles life changes differently so just stick in here, you are great, you are you, no one else should critisise you for feeling like only you can. xx
You literally voiced everything that I had on my min for this passed year. I m 31and an artist that has been stuck in accounting job for 10 years. This last year I got a pay cut due to Covid. And had to make up for it. So I opened 4 Etsy stores. Working during the day and prepping orders at night. With no weekends. I finally braved up to open a RUclips channel. Very excited to leave my accounting job soon and do art full time. Love you - thank you so much for this chat 😘🦋
"You don't have to wait until you're 50 to have a crisis" 😂 I'm 25 and am currently transitioning from a career in marine biology and starting fashion school this fall. Me and my dreams are cool ❤
Turning 30 this year and deciding that I want to change the entire trajectory of my life and now just learning to discover me, this video was right on time. Me and my dreams are cool 💜
I graduated college in my 30s with four kids and single parent i am in debt for it but it helped me out of poverty at the time. When you are angry you can use that energy to fuel you to do positive things .
omg yess the best decision i made was not going to a college that was gonna give me 100k worth of debt! it’s crazy how we expect highschoolers to make these massive financial decisions when they don’t even know what they really want to do in life, they just feel pressured to follow the status quo
I agree. I wish there was a better way to articulate the heaviness of that debt to younger people. I remember adults in my life telling me that its a lot of debt and to be sure, but what experience does a high schooler really have with money? You could tell me 10,000 was a lot and you could tell me 100,000 was a lot. But, I wouldn't truly understand the huge difference and life implications between taking out 10,000 in student loans and 100,000 in student loans right out of high school. Lol
I am 42 and feel like my life is just starting in a way, I have so many new things going, and always look forward to new beginnings. So my take is that we are not starting "late", it's never late when the time is just right for you at that moment in time.
Great video! Great advice. I moved to France when I was 50 and my loved ones non-stop want to know when I’m “coming home.” I AM HOME. I’ve been living in France for 10 years and now I have French nationality. The pressure is real even at 50 and 60. I think it makes others feel insecure when we’re not doing what looks “normal” to them :0) Me and my dreams are cool …
I resonated so much with this video. after high school, I didn't get into any of the prestigious fashion schools of my choice because of my grades. the only school that would take me was also community college and city colleges that were not my first choice but affordable. I hated it at the time, but learned to love the diversity of being in these schools because everyone was on your wavelength , working side jobs, hustling, experimenting, etc. I took semesters off, worked odd jobs, partied, traveled, went to therapy, had mental breakdowns, all within my own timeline. i went back to school and then said im gonna do studio art in community college so I did that and the college low-key had scholarships to travel to any part of the world to study abroad for a semester. ended up in art school by scholarship in Europe then ended up staying for the last 6 years on my own, i fell in love, fell out of love, and still living in Europe. life is a crazy adventure
Late bloomer here as well lol. I'm still plugging away at that bachelor's degree at 25. I try to remind myself that I shouldn't have to apologize or be embarrassed for not being where I'm "supposed" to be in life.
At age 45 I starred college with no idea what I wanted to do so starred in Pastoral Ministry. Soon my Advisor asked me if I wanted to take a dance class? I had never taken dance as a child and asked her why I wostarr now? She said, You look like a dancer. So I did and went on to LOVE it and at age 50 studied classical ballet 5 nights a week. People would ask, why are you spending so much money on dance when you can't do anything with it? Or say, don't you wish you would have started dance much younger???? I would answer, I dont know I am.loving it NOW. At age 76 my body said it's time to move on and so I have. This LIFE is a blink of an eye. Thank you Shayna for sharing your life.
I've been watching grace and frankie lately. It's essentially about women who have a second lease on life in their 70s and your talk makes me think of it because you're right, we can totally remake our lives at any point! (also I highly recommend grace and frankie, it's hilarious)
I have always been afraid of making the “wrong” choice and things not working out, so thank you for this reminder 😊 it is so true that we have the right to change direction at any point and that we just need the courage to follow through. Me and my dreams are cool :)
This is such an important point you're making! I waited four years before I started university. In the mean time I studied to be a tailor, studied art and did a lot of volunteer work. Somehow I found a love for math and data. Now at age 28 I'm studying a master in engineering where I'm working with machine learning. I never imagined myself ending up here and I never would have if I hadn't given myself the time to explore the possibilities. Me and my dreams are cool ;-)
i'm in my last semester of my masters and have nooooooo idea what i'm doing and am finally starting to feel ok with that!!! ok with knowing not everything will always be a linear trajectory!!! there is such an expectation that after you finish high school/college that everything will be up and up and up. getting bigger and better. but thats not realistic or healthy for anyone. after all these years of school and grinding towards this fantastical dream i've become disillusioned with labor and higher education and "accomplishments" in the traditional sense. i'm shifting away from the compulsion to produce. being and existing is living and thats enough!!! enthusiasm over expertise
Capitalism and society put a pressure on you that you have to be extremely successful in a young age in your 20s and when it’s happening what the hell you will do later? You will be burn out early on your life and toss you to a really depressed fase. I see it all around celebrities and influencers. Life is not a horse race!!! You have to slow down and enjoy it not just hustle all the time while you burn your energy and time for something which won’t make you happy and fulfilled. ❤️🫖
Hon, I’m most likely your mom’s age and I find you artistry and content AND your wisdom are so enlightening! I look forward to your vlogs weekly, your insight is rich and universal! You’re teaching ME something every week! 🙏 merci ma belle, je te remercie! ME AND MY DREAMS ARE COOL! 😂😂😂😜😎
I'm honestly impressed that you were able to stay focused on school and prioritize your creativity while also undergoing a divorce this past year. I think we're about the same age. I recently got out of a 4 year relationship, and the anxiety of things falling apart in the last 2 years or so completely wiped my creative energy. Now in lockdown a year on I feel like I'm only just starting to pick up the pieces, and beginning to access the "better" version of myself that's been missing. It's so tough to trust the process when you feel like you're trapped in a waiting game.
Thank you always! When friends and family think your dreams are too big, it is lovely to have someone like you that inspires me💕 I hope you have the loveliest of days ✨😊
I just came here to find out what she meant by “late in life“?? If she is “late in life“, what am I at 40 - closr to death?? PS yay for you starting to skateboard... i'd like to try it too. But i just started pole dance classes at 38 :D
I think she is 29 or 30. Not old at all, but she means that she is older than typical for having started and finished at the times that she did. Being 33, I can understand. It is scary when your 20’s have gone by and you are still figuring things out. It’s not how society tells us we’re supposed to be. But I would guess it’s actually pretty normal.
I went to art school late because I was ill with depression and had to defer until I was in a better place. I ended up being 2 years older than everyone (2 years seems huge when you're younger) and in hindsight it was such a blessing. I'd been drunk through most of college (UK college!) so when i finally made it to university after my 2 year gap I was ready to get my head down, and make the most of every minute on campus and the facilities! Really greateful for how it all played out. I'm 35 now and I think i'm just about to have some sort of creative crisis about what comes next! I was due to come to Paris on a solo trip at the start of the pandemic in an attempt to get some inspiration but alas. BUT! that's what help me find your videos, when I used youtube to quench my wonderlust last year. Hoping to come in September for croissants and soul searching. Thanks for putting out your vids! xx PS going to save buying your book until I can get it from Shakespeare and Co
I went out to a bar this past weekend with my friend and I was telling her about my dream to start booking DJ gigs - 10 minutes later I get talking to a guy at the same bar, turns out he is the owner and he is looking for a DJ! Life is crazy, and it's crazy that you pretty much described this exact situation at 5:10! Lots of love from Melbourne, Australia
I’ve never met her but I absolutely adore her. Her videos are not only entertaining, but also very meaningful (which I know she wouldn’t have it any other way 😉!) She’s such a kindred spirit to me and I can’t wait to watch her videos every time they’re uploaded. She makes me want to celebrate my life and myself, when we always put ourselves last. We are worth it!!!
I was always super afraid of doing the wrong thing, I always tried to make the best possible decision and it stressed me out so much. And recently I started thinking: I am excited to see what I end up doing. And somehow this trust in my future self really seems to be a better perspective for me
watching you and Damon/Jo through my undergrad actually helped me decide to do all my postgrad in Europe (Berlin)!! I'm from a small Midwest town so y'all really helped me envision what moving my life abroad could look like. ty for your light 💖
Shayna, you’re such a special person and unique mind. Constantly evolving, sharing your insights and to me, pursuing true happiness. You radiate through the screen. This video was gold.
When I was about to turn 41 I started Ludosport, which is lightsaber combat. I am one of the oldest people there. Noone cares about that. I am about to turn 47 now and I had to stop training in 2019 for health reasons but I hope to go back once I am better. I can superrelate to being young and not knowing what to do and having the pressure to pick an education that you're supposed to do for the rest of your life. It was like that when I was that age too and it is quite antiquated. Do try a lot of things out! I used to fear failure and doing things wrong but those have turned out to be my best teachers. Pretty much everything I have done, wether they have been successful or not, have been useful to me in one way or another. Worry less and do more! Enjoy life!
I have a big exam today and I’m so happy to listen to your stories and perspective for a bit before I take it to destress and refocus. You’re the best Shayna! I look forward to this every Tuesday. I love you KWEEN!!!!!🤍🦋🌱🌙🌷
It’s never too late to follow your dreams! At 40 I chose a completely different path and started to study to become a nurse. It took me 4 years but now I‘m so happy and living me dream! I know I was lucky to have my husbands support otherwise ist would have been harder, especially with our kids. But the whole family now profits from a happy and more relaxed mum/wife 😉
GIRL! You just about read my mind with this video! I passed up an opportunity to live in France at 26, four years later I've realized I still have that dream and need to make it work. But tell me, how is it that everything seems scarier when you're older? It's WILDLY counterintuitive. Anyway, thank you for this! It's exactly what I needed to hear right now.
Every time Shayna, every damn time! I feel like I’m just conversing with a friend who gets me. Thank you for being such an inspiration. I started my RUclips channel at 33 and it’s funny how these negative thoughts come into your mind about , "what are others going to think?" I’m so glad be I went for it because it’s been such a creative outlet and being able to connect with others is what makes me happiest. I love these sit down and talk videos and I can’t wait for the south of France videos! Me and my dreams are cool!💭
that sounds so cool, thanks for sharing this with all of us^-^ it really takes courage to do what you did, such a special story all the best for your journey, i'm absolutely sure you'll get what you want! edit: just watched the short video where you introduce yourself and gotta send some love from one vegan to another
Me and my dreams are cool❤️ This was such a blessing. I am 50 this year and STILL have just under 30k in student loans to pay. And I am a wife and mom with lots of plates spinning. I feel inspired to map out a plan to work a side hustle (around my husband’s hours) to pay off those loans and maybe sign up for an art class or a writing class?! When I was in grade school, I loved to draw and to write…
Me and my dreams are cool...and anything is possible. ✌ deciding my goal in life is nothing other than to be happy. And that takes many forms throughout life. Follow your heart and go for it! Love these long chats. They are the best ❤
yk this might sound kinda weird but although I watch u through the screen but watching your videos have always been comforting it’s like someone is there for me
Really loved this video. I know exactly what you meant when you said "the older we get the smaller we feel". It's like life was only for really young people and we didn't have the right to do some things after a certain age, like study, getting maried or having kids. And this pressure is even worst for women.
Totally agree with you. I started studying art in my early 50s . Gained a Ba and Ma in Fine Art. Now at 66 I am following my dream. Living by the ocean, painting and drawing all the wonderful things I see around me.. Dont listen to others do what feels right for you
My friend and I are planning, if it is safe and okay, a trip to Paris later on in summer and I'm going to scope it out and try to figure out when I can move, how and where within the next year or two, again depending on how the world is. We're so excited, and watching your videos the past few years has helped me so much in accepting and establishing Paris as a goal of mine and really practically planning it. I have so much love for you and your content, and this format of video just embodies everything I love!! Thank you for giving us your time and feelings and such, you are so appreciated 💕🌼🌿😌
I'm following my dreams late in life too. I graduated in fashion design 22 years ago. I am going to start it up again! Love watching your videos and your art...always fascinating 😊
This really resonated with me, thank you so much for sharing your experiences! I'm about to go back to school at 25 and have been feeling nervous about being the oldest in my classes but I'm also super excited to embark on my journey to become a licensed therapist. I'm definitely open to changing my mind and welcome the flow and changes that come with time and experience and I can't wait to learn more about my purpose along the way. Me and my dreams are cool
Thank you so much for this video, you keep inspiring me every week. I am a high school junior who wants to study abroad but everyday I feel like giving up on this dream. I always feel like i'm not enough and I keep thinking of how I will fail in the end. Thank you so much for restoring my hope. At least for today i am full of confidence! ❤️
I am lost in myself wondering what I should do, I no longer have anything here in this barren land of opportunities and my heart calls for a new place to rest my hopes, to be the person I want to be and to follow my passions but the reality of the material forces me to stagnate my feet on the ground. I don't have a single penny with me, my parents are an obstacle and I am scared. God, I'm scared to death but I'm more terrified of living every day imagining myself with another life, dissatisfied with the one I have. I want more but I only know how to cry right now. I don't know what to do or where to start. I love u, I truly love u dear thank you so much.
I love that you said being older was your biggest strength. I’m also going back to school but I’m nervous as I took two years out. All the kids are going to be younger and I worry I’ll feel out of place. But your motivational talk was so beautiful because as you said you’ll be the same age whether or not you follow your dreams. Thank you for being such a radiant soul! 💗
Me and my dreams are cool! Wow this message I really needed today thank you. I've been throwing myself into work and feeling so exhausted after and feeling just like a complete disappointment. But after listening to this I realize its because I've been defining myself based off of my job. Making time for my own dreams and art is truly the only thing that helps me break that cycle. Thank you ily!
Thank you for posting this video, it's so lovely to take a break from thesis writing to hear your perspective and good energy! 💞💖💕❤ Here in the Netherlands, terraces have finally opened up as well. It's mostly definitely summer here, plus tulip season passed by very quick.
"Me and my dreams are cool" I love these sit down videos so much too! They're so inspiring and help me so much just at the perfect time. Thank you so much for sharing all of this:)
I relate so much to your story! I’m in my late 20s, finally pursuing something I’m passionate about (chiropractic school). I spent my early 20s following a more conventional path - worked in corporate america after undergrad, got married, then divorced. It took me awhile to figure out what I wanted apart from everyone else’s input. Thank you for sharing you story and empowering other people to follow their intuition and live an unconventional/more passionate life. :)
Crazy how i thought me being 23 was too old to follow my dreams of being music , but i knew that if i continued on the path i was on i would be deeply unhappy forever and then it would truly be too late. Im so grateful for more videos like this cause it makes me feel normal for wanting a complete change in my life.
Goddess bless you! Your videos are like gentle pushes and a salve for the absolute despair and crap I’ve been living through in the US tryin to make something work that will probably be detrimental to my happiness, thank you!
Ill be 37 this year and ive left behind a job i went to school for to move abroad with hubs. i loved that job, but i dont mind the idea of starting again and i want it to be art. Im struggling though...its different at this age for me - not sure why. The artist way workbook...i took your suggestion and its lovely. Its getting the brain juices flowing.. I hope to come out of this rut soon. Thanks, girly!
@@namowadriver Hello! It is never too late. Even when keeping your day job (which is good), you can work on it little by little each day! perhaps find local groups on fb that get together to talk about or make art together. ok here goes - Im trying to make sense of it myself, but I think I struggle because I became structured. One can become very routined in..almost everything. I dabbled in painting/drawing in community college right after HS...i then went to an art school, worked in the fashion industry as a technical designer and that..is structured, lol. Thats how my brain works. Anywho, I still have all these lovely thoughts, feelings, ideas in my mind but i struggle on how to express them. SO...going back to beginning of my babbles, diving into painting in my 20s felt easier/freer probably because i just didnt have this sort of structure yet. or life wasnt as distracting. another thing is the fear of being judged in some odd way. this is something i need to work on and get over. i think being surrounded by creatives is important. we need to uplift each other. I miss that feeling. Why i love this channel! I have obtained the freedom to explore all this more, but its a bit hard. And as we ease off some more restrictions, it'd be nice to find a group. Now, did any of this make sense?? I told you im still trying to figure it out. lol This is why i like the book i mentioned in my first comment. thank you for reading this...novel. :) Would like to hear yours, or anyone's, thoughts.
I have found myself watching your videos at a point in my life where at 22 years old I am about to start art school and your long chats about your experience and emotions give me a stronger sense of anticipation for what will come in these next few years of exploring my creative expression!
Shayna. You tend to be one of those magical people in my life that always brings me back to my center. My inner child is dancing there and tearing me up from pure Joy. Thank you for being and sharing your thoughts and stories. What a "Flower storm" you are and how you help us all find that enchantment with in. love.
Every time I start to feel scared about my upcoming art school journey you just seem to post these videos that touch my heart and just prove that just because I spent 4 years at community college and am now at 22 just starting my BFA it will be worth it and just give me so much inspiration and it just really feels like I needed to find this right now so thank you for these videos when I get discouraged I come here and cry and just feel joy and hope I cannot wait to enter this chapter of my life 💕 me and my dreams are cool!
Really enjoy listening to you! I feel like our journeys were similar in a way, since I also spent a couple years studying art and working abroad. Unfortunately, it didn't work out for me and I had to move to my home country. Back then it felt like a failure, but now I am happy to have made that decision. :) Me and my dreams are cool.
you are so encouraging and inspiring i'm 17 living in finland and im doing upper secondary scool in 4 years instead of 3 so i have been stressing alot that i would be behind from my peers but i have lately been realizing it’s okay not fit into a mold and it’s okay not to go with the flow and find yourself and take time to truly think what you really want to do and again i'm only 17. Hearing you tell your story has put things into perspective for me and i think this video gave me a very important life lesson that i am glad to have learned at such and early age and it will probably save me a lot of anxiety in my future prospects.
After a year of doubt I am going back to art, entering a master of visual/plastic arts in september and it scared me so much because if I fell I don't have anything else but I know I won't be happy and I would remain lost if I don't do these art studies to become an artist-photographer So thank you for this video, it is extremely useful
You have made a really excellent stand on do not let people define who or what you should do or be. They do not live your life!! Not always easy to be hurt by social conditioned society but the ' Do not care' what they think approach is perfect. We keep growing and learning as much as we choose to. Better to keep looking for your spark and let's face it we do not want life to be full of empty dreams and a life half lived. So thanks for your thoughts. I feel we all need to feel freedom to enjoy whatever path we want, when we want.
I love your message!! And more than that, I love the confidence you bring to the subject, because the voices that say otherwise are loud af so it's nice to hear someone who's actually experienced it talk about it
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Can i translated your videos to portuguese so a friend of mine can understand?
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At 75 I have recently been blessed (through adversity, the death of my beloved spouse, uprooting and relocating, a long pandemic) to finally stop apologizing and making myself small to fit the expectations of others. Now I celebrate being an eccentric, opinionated, outrageous, creative, soul-full old lady! Rock On!
I love this comment, and you're amazing!
You go, girl!!! 😁
Yes! Love this, made my day!
Please start a RUclips channel! 😍👍
@@willowway42 Yes! I would def. Follow that
I'm 29 and I'm just getting past this idea that my dreams are foolish and childish. But my dreams are cool.
Hell yeah they are 💕
Way to go!!! Your dreams are totally valid and you're capable of making them come to life
I’m 30 & I feel that way around family but oh well ! We are born to do this.
I’ve just finished my first year of art school and I’m 26.. life is different for everyone! ❤️
Good on you!
me tooo!! (27, second year)
beautiful 🤍 wish you all the best!! ✨
"I think we should normalize wanting to change your life." AMENNNN. This shouldn't be taboooo haha.
OMG MY NAME IS ALSO RIA HAHAH
@@riaaa7504 OMG HI RIA! Nice to meet you LOL!!! ✨the magic of the internet!
At 32, as your elders get older and you ask them about their lives... The journey is never in one straight line. Ever.
that is such a good point why does society make us think that we will be old and washed up by the time we are in our late 20’s when THAT IS SO DAMN YOUNG it’s ridiculous !
yes!!! so true girl, so so true
It is! I remember some older person telling me to enjoy high school because "it's the best time of your life" - Pretty twisted thing to say, when you think about it :)
I am about to turn 50 and will be applying to Phd Programs in the History of Art for 2022 as I am completing my MA in Art History and Visual Culture this year. The only time you are too old not to go for your dreams is when you pass on. I am hoping to attend Oxford and live in one of their colleges. I am usually one of the older ones in class, but I have made great friendships with people much younger than me. Age ain't nothing but a number!!
That's so cool! I absolutely agree. Good luck!
I actually really needed to hear this right now. I'm going back to school at 36 for visual communications. For so long I felt like it was too late and I was too old but then I realized "Ya know, if you had started already, you'd be done by now." So I'm finally just going to do it and pursue something that would make me feel fulfilled.
Good for you! That is awesome! 💛
That's great!!! Enjoy it ❤️
Same here.
HEY! Yess for pursuing a new career in your 30s! I am 32 and just starting out as well. You got this!
Go go go!!! I'm back too and its never too late Goodluck love!!!
I'm 36 and I'm sick of people asking me what I do for a living too.
I work at the front office of my college, and my absolute favorite calls were the ones where people had decided they wanted to take a chance on something new and join our department after being a professional in another field for years. We would always have a little celebration over the phone while I got them their information. Life is to be celebrated at all ages! The fear of getting older will crush a person. You can do anything at any age!
"Oldest bitch in the class?" Girl, try being old enough to be everyone's mom!
Horrible, at first. Then you realize, it's YOUR LIFE!
College is awesome especially AFTER kids. Loved it!
There was a woman in my MA course like this and she was everyones FAVORITE - we all learned so much from her, it felt like a blessing to have known her there! I'm glad you did had a great experience :)
I'm struggling with my mental health at the moment and I wanted to let you know that your videos have been part of my healing. I went through a break-up a few weeks ago and followed your example in feeling my feelings, speaking to myself kindly, and 'dating' myself (long walks, trips to galleries and museums, pastries whenever I wanted), and girl, that shit WORKS. First breakup ever that didn't leave me devastated and hating myself. Thank you 🙏🏼
PS your plant babies are thriving! 💚
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Hi can understand where you are coming from are now. My MH is shaky at the moment but every one handles life changes differently so just stick in here, you are great, you are you, no one else should critisise you for feeling like only you can. xx
Thank you
As a 28 year old woman, who still don't know what to do with her life, this was very comforting 🤗✨
✨me and my dreams are cool✨
You literally voiced everything that I had on my min for this passed year. I m 31and an artist that has been stuck in accounting job for 10 years. This last year I got a pay cut due to Covid. And had to make up for it. So I opened 4 Etsy stores. Working during the day and prepping orders at night. With no weekends. I finally braved up to open a RUclips channel. Very excited to leave my accounting job soon and do art full time. Love you - thank you so much for this chat 😘🦋
"You don't have to wait until you're 50 to have a crisis" 😂 I'm 25 and am currently transitioning from a career in marine biology and starting fashion school this fall. Me and my dreams are cool ❤
Turning 30 this year and deciding that I want to change the entire trajectory of my life and now just learning to discover me, this video was right on time. Me and my dreams are cool 💜
I totally relate. Being almost 26 it’s like society has written you off as being able to live out your dreams and discover what you want to do.
Uhg I'm almost 26 too. I can't believe Britney Spears was only 26 when she was put into a conservatorship and basically discarded as "Old".
@@KaylaNoelle1 it’s ridiculous. Especially since the majority of us only realize what we want to do after 30.
@@tanatswataruvinga Yes! everything comes together, in the best way, later. When it is time.
I'm on that way now and i really want to do something with my lifeeee. Something i really want
I graduated college in my 30s with four kids and single parent i am in debt for it but it helped me out of poverty at the time. When you are angry you can use that energy to fuel you to do positive things .
Just turned 26 and decided I want to go back to art school so I’ll be applying around fall. I’ll be 27 in my first year!
omg yess the best decision i made was not going to a college that was gonna give me 100k worth of debt! it’s crazy how we expect highschoolers to make these massive financial decisions when they don’t even know what they really want to do in life, they just feel pressured to follow the status quo
I agree. I wish there was a better way to articulate the heaviness of that debt to younger people. I remember adults in my life telling me that its a lot of debt and to be sure, but what experience does a high schooler really have with money? You could tell me 10,000 was a lot and you could tell me 100,000 was a lot. But, I wouldn't truly understand the huge difference and life implications between taking out 10,000 in student loans and 100,000 in student loans right out of high school. Lol
It's insane and it's time for a rethink/rebel.
I am 42 and feel like my life is just starting in a way, I have so many new things going, and always look forward to new beginnings. So my take is that we are not starting "late", it's never late when the time is just right for you at that moment in time.
Honestly so relatable! Just finished my first year in art school at 23 (24 soon 😭)
congrats girl!!!!
After changing my major three times I'm finally finishing my first year in art school
It's so young
These chats make me so happy, get my brain activated and make me feel like me and my dreams are so cool 😎💗☺
aw I love that!
Great video! Great advice. I moved to France when I was 50 and my loved ones non-stop want to know when I’m “coming home.” I AM HOME. I’ve been living in France for 10 years and now I have French nationality. The pressure is real even at 50 and 60. I think it makes others feel insecure when we’re not doing what looks “normal” to them :0) Me and my dreams are cool …
I resonated so much with this video. after high school, I didn't get into any of the prestigious fashion schools of my choice because of my grades. the only school that would take me was also community college and city colleges that were not my first choice but affordable. I hated it at the time, but learned to love the diversity of being in these schools because everyone was on your wavelength , working side jobs, hustling, experimenting, etc. I took semesters off, worked odd jobs, partied, traveled, went to therapy, had mental breakdowns, all within my own timeline. i went back to school and then said im gonna do studio art in community college so I did that and the college low-key had scholarships to travel to any part of the world to study abroad for a semester. ended up in art school by scholarship in Europe then ended up staying for the last 6 years on my own, i fell in love, fell out of love, and still living in Europe. life is a crazy adventure
yes! age is a privilege, and ageism is so often paired with sexism. also, community college is so underrated! one of the best decisions of my life
Late bloomer here as well lol. I'm still plugging away at that bachelor's degree at 25. I try to remind myself that I shouldn't have to apologize or be embarrassed for not being where I'm "supposed" to be in life.
That's absolutely normal at your age.
At age 45 I starred college with no idea what I wanted to do so starred in Pastoral Ministry. Soon my Advisor asked me if I wanted to take a dance class? I had never taken dance as a child and asked her why I wostarr now? She said, You look like a dancer. So I did and went on to LOVE it and at age 50 studied classical ballet 5 nights a week. People would ask, why are you spending so much money on dance when you can't do anything with it? Or say, don't you wish you would have started dance much younger???? I would answer, I dont know I am.loving it NOW. At age 76 my body said it's time to move on and so I have. This LIFE is a blink of an eye. Thank you Shayna for sharing your life.
So inspiring, thank you!
I've been watching grace and frankie lately. It's essentially about women who have a second lease on life in their 70s and your talk makes me think of it because you're right, we can totally remake our lives at any point! (also I highly recommend grace and frankie, it's hilarious)
I have always been afraid of making the “wrong” choice and things not working out, so thank you for this reminder 😊 it is so true that we have the right to change direction at any point and that we just need the courage to follow through. Me and my dreams are cool :)
This is such an important point you're making! I waited four years before I started university. In the mean time I studied to be a tailor, studied art and did a lot of volunteer work. Somehow I found a love for math and data. Now at age 28 I'm studying a master in engineering where I'm working with machine learning. I never imagined myself ending up here and I never would have if I hadn't given myself the time to explore the possibilities.
Me and my dreams are cool ;-)
i'm in my last semester of my masters and have nooooooo idea what i'm doing and am finally starting to feel ok with that!!! ok with knowing not everything will always be a linear trajectory!!! there is such an expectation that after you finish high school/college that everything will be up and up and up. getting bigger and better. but thats not realistic or healthy for anyone. after all these years of school and grinding towards this fantastical dream i've become disillusioned with labor and higher education and "accomplishments" in the traditional sense. i'm shifting away from the compulsion to produce. being and existing is living and thats enough!!! enthusiasm over expertise
congrats on your masters Olivia!! sending love to you angel :) :) :)
@@thepurplepalace85 congrats to you too!!!!! we made it out the other side of art school in one piece :P
Capitalism and society put a pressure on you that you have to be extremely successful in a young age in your 20s and when it’s happening what the hell you will do later? You will be burn out early on your life and toss you to a really depressed fase. I see it all around celebrities and influencers. Life is not a horse race!!! You have to slow down and enjoy it not just hustle all the time while you burn your energy and time for something which won’t make you happy and fulfilled. ❤️🫖
a(fuckn)men to that!!
Hon, I’m most likely your mom’s age and I find you artistry and content AND your wisdom are so enlightening! I look forward to your vlogs weekly, your insight is rich and universal! You’re teaching ME something every week! 🙏 merci ma belle, je te remercie! ME AND MY DREAMS ARE COOL! 😂😂😂😜😎
"you're going to be the same age in 20 years whether or not you followed your dream" this video was so inspiring thank you for posting it!
It's funny how we all feel like we're doing stuff "late in life" .....at all ranges of life. We are just impatient or feel behind 💀
I'm honestly impressed that you were able to stay focused on school and prioritize your creativity while also undergoing a divorce this past year. I think we're about the same age. I recently got out of a 4 year relationship, and the anxiety of things falling apart in the last 2 years or so completely wiped my creative energy. Now in lockdown a year on I feel like I'm only just starting to pick up the pieces, and beginning to access the "better" version of myself that's been missing. It's so tough to trust the process when you feel like you're trapped in a waiting game.
Thank you always! When friends and family think your dreams are too big, it is lovely to have someone like you that inspires me💕 I hope you have the loveliest of days ✨😊
sending love Mary!!
You exude radiance, peace and calm in this video. Thank you for being such a beacon of hope and positivity on RUclips ☀️☀️☀️
"Late" in life? You're still so young. You can't be a day over 25. I'm 2 decades over that and décidéd to learn to skateboard this summer ❤
I just came here to find out what she meant by “late in life“??
If she is “late in life“, what am I at 40 - closr to death??
PS yay for you starting to skateboard... i'd like to try it too. But i just started pole dance classes at 38 :D
I think she is 29 or 30. Not old at all, but she means that she is older than typical for having started and finished at the times that she did. Being 33, I can understand. It is scary when your 20’s have gone by and you are still figuring things out. It’s not how society tells us we’re supposed to be. But I would guess it’s actually pretty normal.
Starting skateboard at 36 here 🙌🏻
@@Emi_72 Yay!
@@lindsey.eldritch yes i meant it in a way that, there is no age for anything too :)
I went to art school late because I was ill with depression and had to defer until I was in a better place. I ended up being 2 years older than everyone (2 years seems huge when you're younger) and in hindsight it was such a blessing. I'd been drunk through most of college (UK college!) so when i finally made it to university after my 2 year gap I was ready to get my head down, and make the most of every minute on campus and the facilities! Really greateful for how it all played out.
I'm 35 now and I think i'm just about to have some sort of creative crisis about what comes next! I was due to come to Paris on a solo trip at the start of the pandemic in an attempt to get some inspiration but alas. BUT! that's what help me find your videos, when I used youtube to quench my wonderlust last year. Hoping to come in September for croissants and soul searching. Thanks for putting out your vids! xx PS going to save buying your book until I can get it from Shakespeare and Co
I went out to a bar this past weekend with my friend and I was telling her about my dream to start booking DJ gigs - 10 minutes later I get talking to a guy at the same bar, turns out he is the owner and he is looking for a DJ! Life is crazy, and it's crazy that you pretty much described this exact situation at 5:10! Lots of love from Melbourne, Australia
My dream is to be a DJ too 😭 it’s the one thing I know I’ll regret if I never get to do it
I really do appreciate your channel, filled with creativity, wisdom and chill vibes, your raw and real something very much lacking online.
I appreciate that! this means so much xx
@@thepurplepalace85 Me and my dreams are cool 😊 xo
I’ve never met her but I absolutely adore her. Her videos are not only entertaining, but also very meaningful (which I know she wouldn’t have it any other way 😉!) She’s such a kindred spirit to me and I can’t wait to watch her videos every time they’re uploaded. She makes me want to celebrate my life and myself, when we always put ourselves last. We are worth it!!!
I was always super afraid of doing the wrong thing, I always tried to make the best possible decision and it stressed me out so much. And recently I started thinking: I am excited to see what I end up doing. And somehow this trust in my future self really seems to be a better perspective for me
watching you and Damon/Jo through my undergrad actually helped me decide to do all my postgrad in Europe (Berlin)!! I'm from a small Midwest town so y'all really helped me envision what moving my life abroad could look like. ty for your light 💖
Shayna, you’re such a special person and unique mind. Constantly evolving, sharing your insights and to me, pursuing true happiness. You radiate through the screen. This video was gold.
When I was about to turn 41 I started Ludosport, which is lightsaber combat. I am one of the oldest people there. Noone cares about that. I am about to turn 47 now and I had to stop training in 2019 for health reasons but I hope to go back once I am better.
I can superrelate to being young and not knowing what to do and having the pressure to pick an education that you're supposed to do for the rest of your life. It was like that when I was that age too and it is quite antiquated. Do try a lot of things out! I used to fear failure and doing things wrong but those have turned out to be my best teachers. Pretty much everything I have done, wether they have been successful or not, have been useful to me in one way or another. Worry less and do more! Enjoy life!
I have a big exam today and I’m so happy to listen to your stories and perspective for a bit before I take it to destress and refocus. You’re the best Shayna! I look forward to this every Tuesday. I love you KWEEN!!!!!🤍🦋🌱🌙🌷
love you girl!!!
It’s never too late to follow your dreams! At 40 I chose a completely different path and started to study to become a nurse. It took me 4 years but now I‘m so happy and living me dream! I know I was lucky to have my husbands support otherwise ist would have been harder, especially with our kids. But the whole family now profits from a happy and more relaxed mum/wife 😉
This video literally inspired me so much 😭❤️ it was so so good!
GIRL! You just about read my mind with this video! I passed up an opportunity to live in France at 26, four years later I've realized I still have that dream and need to make it work. But tell me, how is it that everything seems scarier when you're older? It's WILDLY counterintuitive. Anyway, thank you for this! It's exactly what I needed to hear right now.
So excited for this. You've really made a difference in my life✨
I love you! thank you for letting me be apart of your life in some way xx
Every time Shayna, every damn time! I feel like I’m just conversing with a friend who gets me. Thank you for being such an inspiration. I started my RUclips channel at 33 and it’s funny how these negative thoughts come into your mind about , "what are others going to think?" I’m so glad be I went for it because it’s been such a creative outlet and being able to connect with others is what makes me happiest. I love these sit down and talk videos and I can’t wait for the south of France videos! Me and my dreams are cool!💭
that sounds so cool, thanks for sharing this with all of us^-^ it really takes courage to do what you did, such a special story
all the best for your journey, i'm absolutely sure you'll get what you want!
edit: just watched the short video where you introduce yourself and gotta send some love from one vegan to another
@@antoniaaltenkamp4879 awww thank you so much Antonia! I love all the positivity and love the purple palace fam has💜
I forgot it's Tuesday today, I'm so happy it is :) thank you
yay!! Tuesday gang xx
*Bathes under the moon surrounded by crystals* "me and my dreams are cool"
Me and my dreams are cool❤️
This was such a blessing. I am 50 this year and STILL have just under 30k in student loans to pay. And I am a wife and mom with lots of plates spinning.
I feel inspired to map out a plan to work a side hustle (around my husband’s hours) to pay off those loans and maybe sign up for an art class or a writing class?! When I was in grade school, I loved to draw and to write…
Inspiring!! Do It!
Me and my dreams are cool...and anything is possible. ✌ deciding my goal in life is nothing other than to be happy. And that takes many forms throughout life. Follow your heart and go for it! Love these long chats. They are the best ❤
btw, you really look like a fairy! 🧚🏻♀️
thank you!
yk this might sound kinda weird but although I watch u through the screen but watching your videos have always been comforting it’s like someone is there for me
Yees!!! Just handed in the draft of my postgrad thesis and this is the perfect way to celebrate this milestone!
congrats!!
This made me feel SO seen and heard. Thank you for being so open! I relate to so much of your story.
Really loved this video.
I know exactly what you meant when you said "the older we get the smaller we feel". It's like life was only for really young people and we didn't have the right to do some things after a certain age, like study, getting maried or having kids. And this pressure is even worst for women.
Totally agree with you. I started studying art in my early 50s . Gained a Ba and Ma in Fine Art. Now at 66 I am following my dream. Living by the ocean, painting and drawing all the wonderful things I see around me.. Dont listen to others do what feels right for you
I’m 30 and I’m heading back to school so this comes at the perfect time ☺️
My friend and I are planning, if it is safe and okay, a trip to Paris later on in summer and I'm going to scope it out and try to figure out when I can move, how and where within the next year or two, again depending on how the world is. We're so excited, and watching your videos the past few years has helped me so much in accepting and establishing Paris as a goal of mine and really practically planning it. I have so much love for you and your content, and this format of video just embodies everything I love!! Thank you for giving us your time and feelings and such, you are so appreciated 💕🌼🌿😌
I'm following my dreams late in life too. I graduated in fashion design 22 years ago. I am going to start it up again! Love watching your videos and your art...always fascinating 😊
That is awesome! congrats on your new journey :) I love u!
@@thepurplepalace85 Thank you so much 😊 Love u too!
This really resonated with me, thank you so much for sharing your experiences! I'm about to go back to school at 25 and have been feeling nervous about being the oldest in my classes but I'm also super excited to embark on my journey to become a licensed therapist. I'm definitely open to changing my mind and welcome the flow and changes that come with time and experience and I can't wait to learn more about my purpose along the way. Me and my dreams are cool
Me and my dreams are still cool after 7 decades of life.
i’m 17 right now and I already feel the pressure to know what to do with my whole life, so this was super comforting ❤️ me and my dreams are cool!
Thank you so much for this video, you keep inspiring me every week. I am a high school junior who wants to study abroad but everyday I feel like giving up on this dream. I always feel like i'm not enough and I keep thinking of how I will fail in the end. Thank you so much for restoring my hope. At least for today i am full of confidence! ❤️
I am lost in myself wondering what I should do, I no longer have anything here in this barren land of opportunities and my heart calls for a new place to rest my hopes, to be the person I want to be and to follow my passions but the reality of the material forces me to stagnate my feet on the ground. I don't have a single penny with me, my parents are an obstacle and I am scared. God, I'm scared to death but I'm more terrified of living every day imagining myself with another life, dissatisfied with the one I have. I want more but I only know how to cry right now. I don't know what to do or where to start.
I love u, I truly love u dear thank you so much.
“I couldn’t get out of my alligator suit...” you truly are a Florida girl
I just watched this today and it lifted my spirits so much ❤ thank you
Hi Shayna, I wanted to let you know I've started making my way through The Artist's Way. Thanks for such a good rec!
amazing! such a transformative book
I love that you said being older was your biggest strength. I’m also going back to school but I’m nervous as I took two years out. All the kids are going to be younger and I worry I’ll feel out of place. But your motivational talk was so beautiful because as you said you’ll be the same age whether or not you follow your dreams. Thank you for being such a radiant soul! 💗
Associates degrees from community colleges are the best bargain, smaller classes and tuition 👏🏻 me and every single one of my dreams are cool 😎
Me and my dreams are cool! Wow this message I really needed today thank you. I've been throwing myself into work and feeling so exhausted after and feeling just like a complete disappointment. But after listening to this I realize its because I've been defining myself based off of my job. Making time for my own dreams and art is truly the only thing that helps me break that cycle. Thank you ily!
Thank you for posting this video, it's so lovely to take a break from thesis writing to hear your perspective and good energy! 💞💖💕❤ Here in the Netherlands, terraces have finally opened up as well. It's mostly definitely summer here, plus tulip season passed by very quick.
hey Vicky :) sending love to you!! hope you're having a nice spring xx
"Me and my dreams are cool"
I love these sit down videos so much too! They're so inspiring and help me so much just at the perfect time. Thank you so much for sharing all of this:)
I relate so much to your story! I’m in my late 20s, finally pursuing something I’m passionate about (chiropractic school). I spent my early 20s following a more conventional path - worked in corporate america after undergrad, got married, then divorced. It took me awhile to figure out what I wanted apart from everyone else’s input. Thank you for sharing you story and empowering other people to follow their intuition and live an unconventional/more passionate life. :)
Crazy how i thought me being 23 was too old to follow my dreams of being music , but i knew that if i continued on the path i was on i would be deeply unhappy forever and then it would truly be too late. Im so grateful for more videos like this cause it makes me feel normal for wanting a complete change in my life.
Okay but.. we need your haircare routine how does it always look so good
thanks so much!!
Goddess bless you! Your videos are like gentle pushes and a salve for the absolute despair and crap I’ve been living through in the US tryin to make something work that will probably be detrimental to my happiness, thank you!
Ill be 37 this year and ive left behind a job i went to school for to move abroad with hubs. i loved that job, but i dont mind the idea of starting again and i want it to be art. Im struggling though...its different at this age for me - not sure why. The artist way workbook...i took your suggestion and its lovely. Its getting the brain juices flowing.. I hope to come out of this rut soon. Thanks, girly!
@@namowadriver Hello! It is never too late. Even when keeping your day job (which is good), you can work on it little by little each day! perhaps find local groups on fb that get together to talk about or make art together.
ok here goes -
Im trying to make sense of it myself, but I think I struggle because I became structured. One can become very routined in..almost everything. I dabbled in painting/drawing in community college right after HS...i then went to an art school, worked in the fashion industry as a technical designer and that..is structured, lol. Thats how my brain works.
Anywho, I still have all these lovely thoughts, feelings, ideas in my mind but i struggle on how to express them. SO...going back to beginning of my babbles, diving into painting in my 20s felt easier/freer probably because i just didnt have this sort of structure yet. or life wasnt as distracting. another thing is the fear of being judged in some odd way. this is something i need to work on and get over.
i think being surrounded by creatives is important. we need to uplift each other. I miss that feeling. Why i love this channel!
I have obtained the freedom to explore all this more, but its a bit hard. And as we ease off some more restrictions, it'd be nice to find a group.
Now, did any of this make sense?? I told you im still trying to figure it out. lol This is why i like the book i mentioned in my first comment.
thank you for reading this...novel. :) Would like to hear yours, or anyone's, thoughts.
I have found myself watching your videos at a point in my life where at 22 years old I am about to start art school and your long chats about your experience and emotions give me a stronger sense of anticipation for what will come in these next few years of exploring my creative expression!
So today Shayna decided to look like a freaking moon godess and I'm here for it... Also me and my dreams are cool
Shayna. You tend to be one of those magical people in my life that always brings me back to my center. My inner child is dancing there and tearing me up from pure Joy.
Thank you for being and sharing your thoughts and stories. What a "Flower storm" you are and how you help us all find that enchantment with in. love.
Beautiful! Yessssssss thank you for sharing! 💗👏 Currently on a path towards bringing in my dream life 💗 so your healing and beautiful words helped.
so happy they resonate! your life is magic
Shayna!!! You're literally glowing
I have so much love for you and your conversations!!
I love you too!!
Every time I start to feel scared about my upcoming art school journey you just seem to post these videos that touch my heart and just prove that just because I spent 4 years at community college and am now at 22 just starting my BFA it will be worth it and just give me so much inspiration and it just really feels like I needed to find this right now so thank you for these videos when I get discouraged I come here and cry and just feel joy and hope I cannot wait to enter this chapter of my life 💕 me and my dreams are cool!
Really enjoy listening to you! I feel like our journeys were similar in a way, since I also spent a couple years studying art and working abroad. Unfortunately, it didn't work out for me and I had to move to my home country. Back then it felt like a failure, but now I am happy to have made that decision. :) Me and my dreams are cool.
you are so encouraging and inspiring i'm 17 living in finland and im doing upper secondary scool in 4 years instead of 3 so i have been stressing alot that i would be behind from my peers but i have lately been realizing it’s okay not fit into a mold and it’s okay not to go with the flow and find yourself and take time to truly think what you really want to do and again i'm only 17. Hearing you tell your story has put things into perspective for me and i think this video gave me a very important life lesson that i am glad to have learned at such and early age and it will probably save me a lot of anxiety in my future prospects.
the quarter life crisis is the new standard 😌
hahah yes!!!
you are the only youtuber who truly inspires me
After a year of doubt I am going back to art, entering a master of visual/plastic arts in september and it scared me so much because if I fell I don't have anything else but I know I won't be happy and I would remain lost if I don't do these art studies to become an artist-photographer
So thank you for this video, it is extremely useful
You have made a really excellent stand on do not let people define who or what you should do or be. They do not live your life!! Not always easy to be hurt by social conditioned society but the ' Do not care' what they think approach is perfect. We keep growing and learning as much as we choose to. Better to keep looking for your spark and let's face it we do not want life to be full of empty dreams and a life half lived. So thanks for your thoughts. I feel we all need to feel freedom to enjoy whatever path we want, when we want.
That's so inspiring!
I'm 27 and I want start all over again. How old is she?
I love your message!! And more than that, I love the confidence you bring to the subject, because the voices that say otherwise are loud af so it's nice to hear someone who's actually experienced it talk about it