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Trust me that's true I spent my whole life focusing on relationships and chasing but this summer I forgot about everything and just started to focus on my glow up and just myself and how I can improve, and here I am finding the love of my life suddenly... guys just focus on urself and love yourself first❤
i came to confirm that love definitely finds you when you're not looking for it. met my fiance at a time when i was happy being single and having my "freedom". funny thing is, now i'm sharing my freedom with someone else and i couldn't be happier
“You’ll find love when you look for it as if you already have it”!! What a great way to put it. ☺️ 👍🏾 I’m definitely going to check out that gratitude meditation.
Absolutely the truth! I was so happy and enjoying my life. I love me and told people I’m dating myself 😊 Then one day two years ago a gentleman came into my life and love came my way. The key is being happy and in love with yourself
I stopped looking for love like 15 years ago... It hasn't turned up yet... But thankfully I enjoy the life I have, but I honestly don't think I will find love again, but most days I have a smile on my face anyway. Small things makes me happy. Thank god.
I really needed this right now. I haven’t had a girlfriend in like 10 years. On Saturday it was my cousins bday. There was one of her friends at the party that I liked but I didn’t go up to talk to her. The next day I though “I’m gonna tell my cousin about it”. I spent that whole day creating nice fantasies in my head, I was really looking forward to getting to know her, and I was thinking about possible nice moments with her. I got home I told my cousin about it and she told me that of all her friends at the party she was the gayest. And I was very hopeful and excited and it actually kinda hurt me. I’ve spent this whole day feeling emotionally down so I decided to look for something that could help me out of this feeling. I’m glad I saw this video.
I absolutly agree with that statment.I was like you looking for love everywhere.When I got tired I gave up than It came to me when I the least expected (time and place) Love is tricky 🙂 Excuse my errors English is not my first language Do not give up on love It is too beautiful❤️
Yes make sure you willing to wait on true love then to just get a partner and try to make a person fix when you know that’s not what you want but we do that when we not loving ourselves first...then one day we meet our soulmate and discover who we are and that God has plans for us and show us that the one you get its not the one for you then what do you do.,do you keep hurting the person and living a lie are you let them go for the person God has for you because he knows what’s best for us .so don’t give upon on love it’s just when you know that not the one let them go why keep hurting the person.you not happy and they not either so now the relationship is at a stands still and and both of you unhappy you know that not who God has for you so now anything out side of that is temporarily because you stay in a relationship That God has already warn you aboutit it want last.🧡🧡
No the relationship had to happen to get to this point God allowed it remember we have free will but now what do you do that’s the question do you Continue any knowing that that’s not the one or do you let it go.
I found my fiance when I least expected him. I had been online dating for 11 months and the final month of my paid subscription was about to end. I was feeling really discouraged because I had tried something for almost an entire year without "success". I finally surrendered the outcome to God and started being grateful for the lessons I learned from online dating. 2 weeks later I met the love of my life online. So like does attract like.
For me the phrase is true. Because if you are not looking for Love means, you are Happy in your Life. Happiness within you attract things that makes you Happy. The best relationship we have is the relationship with ourselves. Thank you mat for giving us useful advice . I appreciate you 🙏😍
Love that! I just did a video talking about sth similar.. it's like, when you see it in your mind and in your heart, you start to see it in your life too. Beautifully said, Matt! 💚
I agree with you on this, Matthew. It's like claiming love even before you have it. When you know what you want, you just go with it and scrap those people who you think are not meant for you. It's not about being discouraged when you knew someone's not meant for you but to remain positive that you will find the best for you. By the way, the last adage was funny hahaha
You're helping me so much. Love your Simplistic explanation and approach. I'm no longer "working on myself" for the sake of hoping I'll get it that way and it'll fix me. I'm working on building happiness and defining a simple wholesome life. Doing basic things I enjoy, guitar, motorcycle, getting good at my cooking job. I'm gonna step up, fill my own inner voids and go add to someone else's cup once I'm happier.
It is true, when you're emotionally invested in wanting to find someone it never seems to happen. I've been single for almost 2 years now, I don't think I've actually been genuinely in love or felt loved as stupid as it sounds. With the current state of the world and my mental health I can't help but feel like I need or want someone. Seeing friends in relationships, enjoying their lives and stuff and I'm just stuck in this rut. Even dating sites, you start talking to someone and it seems to just drop off as soon as it started. I don't think it'll happen to me at this point. If it happens it happens.
I love myself, and I am very grateful and content, however I have been looking for love for the past 6 years... as I live in a remote place,which I love and work from home I always thought I had to actively pursue love. I will change that thought. I am here after a heart break, reading all your beautiful messages that really give me hope again. Sending Gratitute to all of you❤️🌺
I guess this is something we need to reflect on as individuals. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Loving oneself and one's life makes a person attractive.
Absolutely true! My own experience! I’m not one of those pretty ones in my teenage years, but cheerful and easy to mingle. Had a boyfriend t’was very brief relationship. Then when least expected, I met someone fell in love, subsequently settled down, with offsprings and sadly it lasted after 40 years. Wish, I’ll have the second time around.
I remember I was told that phrase by a guy at work I had a crush on, and then he said good luck you'll find someone. It was a heartbreaking moment of indirect rejection
Two years ago I divorced my husband of 8 years. I wasn't looking for love at that point I was focusing on getting to know myself and grow again. It was at this point in my life that I found a great man who was my only true friend at my job. We kissed one night at work and our love for each other has grown significantly over the past 2 years. I'm grateful we found one another.
I stopped believing in love BUT when I on Twitter starting signing for supporting many things, there suddenly I got a lot of attention from this guy, and we started to see each other and he kept showing me that he really wanted to know me and 2 weeks later he told me that he loved me and that he wanted to marry me someday, I was so surprised on a good way, because I'd fallen in love with him as well. I didn't look for it, but now I'm so happy and excited for what the future will bring us.
Everyone tells me that too. I believe it bc on labor day i went to a bar to meet friends and came upon this beauty. Wasnt looking to for anyone just to go have fun on laborday bc i was off of work. For the first time on laborday in a long time. But she captured me!! We are talking and its going somewhere!!
Mat that is a very interesting question about 'finding love when you're not looking'. I don't think it's about looking or not looking for love, I think it's about having a rich and full life that serves you that others want to be a part of regardless of. This attracts more people into our lives. Other people can't know whether or not you're looking unless you tell them, so it's exactly as you have described before - love abundance.
I will never give up on finding love! Yeah I need to rebuild myself some more. Tell me something I don't know! I found love when I was looking for it a couple times. One of them was a great relationship (until I ruined it) never move in with her! Anyway. I do need to stop telling myself that I'm a failure and that love is no longer meant for me because I haven't found it yet though. I been getting VERY DEPRESSED LAST FEW YEARS.IF I MET SOMEONE SPECIAL RIGHT NOW I WOULD FEEL SO HONORED AND ID DEFINITELY MAKE SURE THAT I DO MY BEST TO NOT RUIN IT.
Yes, absolutely, it's true. The most beautiful relationship I had, happened like that. Every time I go and search for love, I never end up finding good options. Better to seat back and relax. The Universe is Wise.
There's a country song that says "looking for love in all the wrong places, searching for love in to many faces, " and that can be a great place to start. Where are you looking? But before either of those can be understood we must care and love ourselves. If we look in trash thats what we find, we must look in what is going to strengthen, encourage, respect, honesty and support our relationship of each other that we desire. Thank you Matt, your a blessing 🙏
Excellent portrayal of how it all works, Matt! I remember contemplating what it would be like to be loved by my ideal woman and who I'd need to be, and soon after saw some fascinating developments!
In my case that is so false, when I was not looking, I was not finding. You have to be prepared like at an interview for a job, when you go on a date. When I met my husband, I was dating 5 other guys, I was doing a lot of fitness, eating clean, shopping for clothes, going out, was online. I think you have to take dating serious if you wanna make it. ;)
I have been feeling grateful for the love in my life and I finally told my friend how I feel he had already told me how he feels but then he had got in a fast serious relationship so I waited and distracted myself it didn't work out for them but now I faced my feelings and he actuallystill feels the same. It is great to have shred feelings no matter how far we are. Before I had a long crush where he knew how I felt and the guy didn't feel the same it took a while for my heart to face the truth
I recently came from a long term relationship which started off well but I then realised he doesn't really care about me but stays anyway. It did hurt a bit to the point where I now try to find a "replacement". He sometimes calls and I feel anxious. I'm just exhausted and I want to learn to love myself again and not be dependent on him for validation. This is soo complicated 😢
👏👏👏👏👏 very well said Matt. I really like the point you made there! At first I thought the saying was true, but now I agreeee that the point you made is EXACTLY what we have been meaning to say all along. You are so brilliant! Where did that come from!??!! 😉 😃😆
I am in a great relationship with an awesome man. We were both 'looking' BUT were both grateful and had good lives. As in good jobs, good friends, purpose in life etc. We both wanted someone to 'share' with. Found each other on a dating site, first time for both of us. Talked for a couple months before meeting in person but we talked everyday. And by doing so learned soo much about each other. The attraction was building. When we met in person, I am very much an introvert with strangers or in crowds, I felt immediately at ease and knew he was going to be in my life forever. I didn't know if as friends or more but I just learned to relax and trust the process, live in the moment, and here we are 4 yrs together next month. Up until recently it was kinda long distance. Over the years, I searched out advice as I hadn't dated in years, and between you Matt and Mark Rosenfeld, I got soo much knowledge that I could stay relaxed and not stress, but also open to discuss and build on this relationship. With his help of course. He's a great guy and I feel blessed. Everyday. ❤ so thank you.
I praised God for my life, content with it despite my life long desire to be a wife and mother. A few weeks later, I was approached online by a man that is better than my dreams. We're going on 3 months and are hopeful for a future...
The reason I said true to this question; was you have to love yourself first, before you can love anyone else. Personally, I feel that it is no ones job to make us happy. It is up to us to be happy , with who we are.
Been awake since 9pm last night because of fear and anxiety. My 2nd bf blocked me in fb after he pursued me. I was single and content for years since I broke up with my first bf then he showed up and left me broken. I was lonely and scared being single as I nearly approach my 30s on November. Leaving a message here. Well, I wont chase. Stay calm and relaxed. Will drop intentions of looking for love and will focus and what makes me happy and alive.
I thought it was true. My perception around it is to not be desperate, but yes have the desire to be in love and attract what you have faith that you can have.
I am super grateful of what i have, that feeling of being a very loving person and i am pretty sure that i am secreting that pheromones which attracts love from others.... love is so magical !!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤#Chicago
True for me matt and I'm very thankful to God that he gave me him. Hope i can also read some comments from a man's experience.. coz i wanna know how's their feeling when they met their better half when they're not looking for it..
I tried a couple words that you were talking about and my boyfriend was working a lot of people have quit and some got sick and he came over yesterday and told them that he was going to take a few hours off because he worked if you extra hours and he said he's going to have to make more time for me thank you very much for helping me because that little word you had in there really worked
41 years ago I was a mess…I met my husband of 40 years at that time. Wasn’t looking, he was a neighbor, we kept running into each other at the bank, the gas station, the grocery store, etc. He passed away a few months ago…and now I’m suddenly single & ready to find love again, or rather, for it to find me.
I found love on the top of the stairs right outside of my apartment. I was recently divorced, had just got my own apartment, I was free, happy and doing my thing. Then one day I ran into this super cute guy and the instant our eyes locked my legs stopped working. Turns out he was the neighbour living just the floor above and loooong story short, he’s the one💛 Your videos have really helped me navigate, inspired me to build strong connection, listen to my inner voice and detangle all the feelings and emotions. And I will continue to watch them so that I can work on this beautiful relationship☺️
Okay in regards to you will find it when you're not looking this is what happened to me, My husband died in 2018 an Two years later with the help of my family and friends, I found my happy spot. I was happy again. My friends encouraged me to go on a dating site 2 put myself out there , they kept harassing me to do this in a loving way and I thought about it but then I decided just to wait because I was happy right where I was. So I decided to go on Facebook that day instead and an old acquaintance was on there out of the blue, we start to hang out before I knew it and this is about 4 months later I started to care deeply for him , it snuck up on me I wasn't looking because I've already found love and I was comfortable. it just happened but I was open to it it was kind of serendipitous.
Nope. Stopped looking for it. Furthered my education. Redecorated my apartment. Took a job promotion. Took up kayaking. Take myself camping. It’s been 7yrs. I didn’t find a partner. I did find happiness.
This was such a great video! It was a perfect time for me to hear this as I continue to work on myself and open to having a relationship again. I have been hearing that line over and over again, but your explanation makes so much more sense. Thank you!
I was looking for love so I tried online dating and just kept meeting these guys who were half-heartedly interested in me. I kept getting my hopes up just to end up disappointed when they’d just string me along. I finally had enough so I decided to take down my profile. But before I did, I got a message from my now boyfriend. I remember I almost didn’t answer it, but I’m so glad I did. Once I finally felt I had enough and I didn’t want to look anymore, is when love came to me.
I’m there right now. I’m turning 36 Monday and moved to a new city and with Covid did a few apps and although it was cool to see new places when I started I’m pretty over it and found the guys to be pretty douchey and disrespectful. It’s everyone serial dating each other and nobody knows when to stop. Done with the toxicity of it and although initially I was sad now I’m at peace I don’t have to deal with that anymore
I like it. But I still can't put my fingers on, why when I simulate the feeling of "I already have the relationship or love I want" in my mind, a part of me feels like being cheated. Maybe I should do the "Gratitude Meditation" from more authentic place,.......🤔
Yes So Totally True & Agrees Matt! When You Are Not Looking For A Relationship But Good Thing's Comes After The Rain Drops When You Are Not Looking But What If A 'Friend's With Specials Bonds Falling In Love's While A Guy Has Deep Cut Or Did Not Really Keen On Any Woman? Will A Friend Turns To A ' Real Boyfriend After Going Distant Or Attract Love's UnConditional Vibrations Or Start Wondering How & Why Do You Attract Certain Kind Of People's While Thinking That Maybe Not Looking At AnyOne's? Can A Guy Or A Woman Falls In Love's With Gratitude & Loving Sincerely & Honest To One-Another?
Matt, I have got a question for you please 😊 I am watching a lot of videos about relationships ... as a non native English I struggle to understand the difference between a man being committed and being exclusive. What I am hearing is basically when a man is committed, there is one woman he is focusing on?? But being exclusive wouldn’t mean that he has got one woman in his life (love life) too? Please enlighten me please 🙏🏿
Can agree. After a breakup from someone whom I've been engaged to, I was wrecked and desperate to find someone. No luck. Finally gave up and did stuff by myself and became content and happy. Years later, Low and behold, a girl appeared in my life who became my girlfriend
The problem for me is that once i am happy and not looking I go into my own little world and I don't realize that people are interested. I've had friends tell me "Loads of guys like you! They are looking at yoi all the time." I had NO IDEA. How do you find a middle ground between I'm looking for a potential match everywhere i go and I'm so happy i dont even notice that someone is interested.
I believe what Mat is saying here is true. I would also add when you’re content with yourself and love who you are. I don’t believe we should look for it but much more just keep an open heart and mind for it. I also believe that for myself I’ve had to work through resentment and trying not to be bitter because some people are cruel and or don’t know what they are doing to you emotionally- then I was like online dating! UHHH NO. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not ready for it. I wouldn’t want someone to feel the way I did being played with knowing in myself I can’t handle a relationship right now but that doesn’t mean I’m going to close myself off from it either. Forgive those who have wronged and hurt you and make peace within yourself. Be grateful you still have your heart and not stuck in a one sided relationship where you gave all and they gave very little. I actually liked this video because it makes me feel that I’m ok and I’m on the right track for myself. Being hurt is real but I don’t want it damaging the rest of my life. Thanks Mat 🙂
Yes,. They always say that we find love when we least expected it. Since my husband and I parted ways years ago I became so lonely being alone, thinking if there's still someone who will love and care for me truly. But I guess love did not yet come on me. I still didn't find the one I'm looking for to love to hold and to care. Didn't even have any boyfriend, I guess Love is still somewhere out there, not seeing each other yet. I hope in God's will I will find my only love, hopefully. Only God knows.
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I always believed the statement to be true bc when ur looking for love ur always "on" & not being ur genuine self & people probably don't vibe with that false version of u...just stay true to yourself
I think I may have met my soulmate 2 years ago at work. I had started a new job with my dad’s business and came across this girl who I was drawn to, she was an examiner but we are both in the driving business. Interestingly, I was not really looking for someone (but I had marriage on my mind) and I never expected to meet someone out of all places over there. She is not there anymore and I am I am sad. I blew it and now I am 30 , unmarried and so depressed!
This only works for people that are easily approachable. You have to be the one that approaches if that's the case, so you always have to be subconsciously looking for it other wise you'll get older and miss chances
Problem is nowhere to go safely to find love at 10 ft apart or more. I totally agree gratitude is the attitude and practice leading to being attractive. I just don’t believe in online dating sites after bad experiences there. I work out outside all the time and am friendly to those i see along the way. But im alone so that prolly doesnt look good. My friends and i have opposing work schedules.
Before I see if its true...let me tell you what I believe I believe as a woman it is not our job to *look* for a man. It is our job to rest in our feminity. It is a man's job to find a wife. Like the scripture say *HE* who findeth wife finds a good thing. I dont want a feminine man that can't take the lead and wants me to go after him lol 🙊🤷🏿♀️. I want a man that knows what he wants and can speak up for himself and initiate.
Yup I just finish watching the video and this is completely true!!🙌🏿👏🏾I truly believe this as well!! I say do all the things you would do now as if you have a relationship. Take yourself out on dates, travel etc thats what I do. We are always in a marriage/relationship with ourselves. Be the best Husband or wife to you 1st!
I besieged (chased after) my man for a while, and it was so rewarding when he could finally feel the love. This has been so much better than all the times I was chosen by someone; I am in control. I decide for the aspects of my life, including my life partner. I feel so empowered! Take the initiative if it's worth it!
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I gave up looking, and just focused on my own life. Met my bf in an place we both were unexpected to be. Been going strong for 3 years now.
‘’YES ‘’
Ahhh love,it works in many weird nd strange bizzare ways 4 all of us😍🖤🖤🖤💦
That's good to hear.
I’m in that place now too. I feel oddly at peace after letting myself feel sad at first
Congratulations!!!
Trust me that's true I spent my whole life focusing on relationships and chasing but this summer I forgot about everything and just started to focus on my glow up and just myself and how I can improve, and here I am finding the love of my life suddenly... guys just focus on urself and love yourself first❤
True when we begin to love ourself everything else will be added ...our true journey will beginning.....❤️
So very true...
Did that. didn’t do anything in terms of me meeting men
No, it does'nt work, it's not true
@@kamiennykamien9578 it's the devil after the glow up chii
i came to confirm that love definitely finds you when you're not looking for it. met my fiance at a time when i was happy being single and having my "freedom". funny thing is, now i'm sharing my freedom with someone else and i couldn't be happier
It's complitated, that's true
“You’ll find love when you look for it as if you already have it”!! What a great way to put it. ☺️ 👍🏾 I’m definitely going to check out that gratitude meditation.
Absolutely the truth! I was so happy and enjoying my life. I love me and told people I’m dating myself 😊 Then one day two years ago a gentleman came into my life and love came my way. The key is being happy and in love with yourself
I love that! I am "dating myself". I take myself out all the time, too funny, thanks!
Uh I did this
I stopped looking for love like 15 years ago... It hasn't turned up yet... But thankfully I enjoy the life I have, but I honestly don't think I will find love again, but most days I have a smile on my face anyway. Small things makes me happy. Thank god.
You will find more then you can imagine. See it, believe it.
"You'll find love when you look for love as if you already have it."
Wow you blew my mind Matt! I agree 100%... Somehow I forgot to be grateful for what I already have, I will focus on that now 🙂
Matt was set up w someone intentionally.
I really needed this right now. I haven’t had a girlfriend in like 10 years. On Saturday it was my cousins bday. There was one of her friends at the party that I liked but I didn’t go up to talk to her. The next day I though “I’m gonna tell my cousin about it”. I spent that whole day creating nice fantasies in my head, I was really looking forward to getting to know her, and I was thinking about possible nice moments with her. I got home I told my cousin about it and she told me that of all her friends at the party she was the gayest. And I was very hopeful and excited and it actually kinda hurt me. I’ve spent this whole day feeling emotionally down so I decided to look for something that could help me out of this feeling. I’m glad I saw this video.
I absolutly agree with that statment.I was like you looking for love everywhere.When I got tired I gave up than It came to me when I the least expected (time and place)
Love is tricky 🙂
Excuse my errors
English is not my first language
Do not give up on love
It is too beautiful❤️
Yes make sure you willing to wait on true love then to just get a partner and try to make a person fix when you know that’s not what you want but we do that when we not loving ourselves first...then one day we meet our soulmate and discover who we are and that God has plans for us and show us that the one you get its not the one for you then what do you do.,do you keep hurting the person and living a lie are you let them go for the person God has for you because he knows what’s best for us .so don’t give upon on love it’s just when you know that not the one let them go why keep hurting the person.you not happy and they not either so now the relationship is at a stands still and and both of you unhappy you know that not who God has for you so now anything out side of that is temporarily because you stay in a relationship
That God has already warn you aboutit it want last.🧡🧡
@@beverlyschaffer47 I don understend your comment
God has warn me about?
What do you mean?
Are you trying to say that im in relationship that is wrong and wont last?
Well,time will tell
No the relationship had to happen to get to this point God allowed it remember we have free will but now what do you do that’s the question do you Continue any knowing that that’s not the one or do you let it go.
@@beverlyschaffer47 I know i have feelings for that man but I dont know yet if he is the one
I found my fiance when I least expected him. I had been online dating for 11 months and the final month of my paid subscription was about to end. I was feeling really discouraged because I had tried something for almost an entire year without "success". I finally surrendered the outcome to God and started being grateful for the lessons I learned from online dating. 2 weeks later I met the love of my life online. So like does attract like.
For me the phrase is true. Because if you are not looking for Love means, you are Happy in your Life. Happiness within you attract things that makes you Happy. The best relationship we have is the relationship with ourselves. Thank you mat for giving us useful advice . I appreciate you 🙏😍
No one else explains it like you do perfectly
So true I wasn't looking for love and I found my one true love
Love that! I just did a video talking about sth similar.. it's like, when you see it in your mind and in your heart, you start to see it in your life too. Beautifully said, Matt! 💚
Ask! Believe! Receive ! Gratitude! Before it comes.
@@cahilpeterson4978 hi! first time .😀
@@cahilpeterson4978 I am currently on lockdown, I live in the UK. However I am alright thanks!. I am guessing you are in the U.S.?
I agree with you on this, Matthew. It's like claiming love even before you have it. When you know what you want, you just go with it and scrap those people who you think are not meant for you. It's not about being discouraged when you knew someone's not meant for you but to remain positive that you will find the best for you.
By the way, the last adage was funny hahaha
You're helping me so much. Love your Simplistic explanation and approach. I'm no longer "working on myself" for the sake of hoping I'll get it that way and it'll fix me. I'm working on building happiness and defining a simple wholesome life. Doing basic things I enjoy, guitar, motorcycle, getting good at my cooking job. I'm gonna step up, fill my own inner voids and go add to someone else's cup once I'm happier.
It is true, when you're emotionally invested in wanting to find someone it never seems to happen. I've been single for almost 2 years now, I don't think I've actually been genuinely in love or felt loved as stupid as it sounds. With the current state of the world and my mental health I can't help but feel like I need or want someone. Seeing friends in relationships, enjoying their lives and stuff and I'm just stuck in this rut. Even dating sites, you start talking to someone and it seems to just drop off as soon as it started. I don't think it'll happen to me at this point. If it happens it happens.
did it happen? I wish you all the best 🤗
Did you find it?
True love always finds you when you least expect it
That's true! You're right
Well said
I don't believe it
Thats facts
If love could really find you then we wouldn't need speed dating events or useless dating apps
I love myself, and I am very grateful and content, however I have been looking for love for the past 6 years... as I live in a remote place,which I love and work from home I always thought I had to actively pursue love. I will change that thought. I am here after a heart break, reading all your beautiful messages that really give me hope again. Sending Gratitute to all of you❤️🌺
I guess this is something we need to reflect on as individuals. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Loving oneself and one's life makes a person attractive.
You have to love yourself and love will find you
That’s so true
Not true. Many people love themselves and are still single
@@hannahscott6604 exactly
@@hannahscott6604also there are many people who don’t love themselves and found love
@@Dana-kc7gl🎯
Absolutely true! My own experience! I’m not one of those pretty ones in my teenage years, but cheerful and easy to mingle. Had a boyfriend t’was very brief relationship. Then when least expected, I met someone fell in love, subsequently settled down, with offsprings and sadly it lasted after 40 years. Wish, I’ll have the second time around.
I remember I was told that phrase by a guy at work I had a crush on, and then he said good luck you'll find someone. It was a heartbreaking moment of indirect rejection
Kinda late asking.
Did you tell him directly?
We guys are kinda dense when we are not interested or busy.
Or did he have someone already?
Who was that
Sadly people think love just pops into your life..unless it's God 😅 rarely does it happen. At this point I would purposely reject it
Two years ago I divorced my husband of 8 years. I wasn't looking for love at that point I was focusing on getting to know myself and grow again. It was at this point in my life that I found a great man who was my only true friend at my job. We kissed one night at work and our love for each other has grown significantly over the past 2 years. I'm grateful we found one another.
I just found out, john is dead
I stopped believing in love BUT when I on Twitter starting signing for supporting many things, there suddenly I got a lot of attention from this guy, and we started to see each other and he kept showing me that he really wanted to know me and 2 weeks later he told me that he loved me and that he wanted to marry me someday, I was so surprised on a good way, because I'd fallen in love with him as well.
I didn't look for it, but now I'm so happy and excited for what the future will bring us.
You use Twitter 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Everyone tells me that too. I believe it bc on labor day i went to a bar to meet friends and came upon this beauty. Wasnt looking to for anyone just to go have fun on laborday bc i was off of work. For the first time on laborday in a long time. But she captured me!! We are talking and its going somewhere!!
Mat that is a very interesting question about 'finding love when you're not looking'. I don't think it's about looking or not looking for love, I think it's about having a rich and full life that serves you that others want to be a part of regardless of. This attracts more people into our lives. Other people can't know whether or not you're looking unless you tell them, so it's exactly as you have described before - love abundance.
So rich man attracts poor girl
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“The answer is food! Now, what were you thinkin’ on that one?” 😂
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Thanks so much for this reminder. I know this intellectually, but have trouble practicing it daily.
The law of attraction. Great video
I will never give up on finding love! Yeah I need to rebuild myself some more. Tell me something I don't know! I found love when I was looking for it a couple times. One of them was a great relationship (until I ruined it) never move in with her! Anyway. I do need to stop telling myself that I'm a failure and that love is no longer meant for me because I haven't found it yet though. I been getting VERY DEPRESSED LAST FEW YEARS.IF I MET SOMEONE SPECIAL RIGHT NOW I WOULD FEEL SO HONORED AND ID DEFINITELY MAKE SURE THAT I DO MY BEST TO NOT RUIN IT.
Yes, absolutely, it's true.
The most beautiful relationship I had, happened like that.
Every time I go and search for love, I never end up finding good options.
Better to seat back and relax.
The Universe is Wise.
Stay out of the way
There's a country song that says "looking for love in all the wrong places, searching for love in to many faces, " and that can be a great place to start. Where are you looking? But before either of those can be understood we must care and love ourselves.
If we look in trash thats what we find, we must look in what is going to strengthen, encourage, respect, honesty and support our relationship of each other that we desire.
Thank you Matt, your a blessing 🙏
True it hits you when you least expect it
Excellent portrayal of how it all works, Matt!
I remember contemplating what it would be like to be loved by my ideal woman and who I'd need to be, and soon after saw some fascinating developments!
Hei Peter
OK, let me stop looking for it, thanks for the great advise
In my case that is so false, when I was not looking, I was not finding. You have to be prepared like at an interview for a job, when you go on a date. When I met my husband, I was dating 5 other guys, I was doing a lot of fitness, eating clean, shopping for clothes, going out, was online. I think you have to take dating serious if you wanna make it. ;)
Thank you so very much for sharing and for the inspiration you give with each video!
You're so funny and entertaining whilst giving valuable information. Definitely watching more...
That is a lesson I’ve learnt. You don’t find romance, romance finds you
I have been feeling grateful for the love in my life and I finally told my friend how I feel he had already told me how he feels but then he had got in a fast serious relationship so I waited and distracted myself it didn't work out for them but now I faced my feelings and he actuallystill feels the same. It is great to have shred feelings no matter how far we are. Before I had a long crush where he knew how I felt and the guy didn't feel the same it took a while for my heart to face the truth
Yes it's true.. always found it when I least expected it or wasn't looking for it or didn't want it... pisses me off royally..
I recently came from a long term relationship which started off well but I then realised he doesn't really care about me but stays anyway. It did hurt a bit to the point where I now try to find a "replacement". He sometimes calls and I feel anxious. I'm just exhausted and I want to learn to love myself again and not be dependent on him for validation. This is soo complicated 😢
I believe you do find love when your not focused on getting love because you feel confident in who you are.
👏👏👏👏👏 very well said Matt. I really like the point you made there!
At first I thought the saying was true, but now I agreeee that the point you made is EXACTLY what we have been meaning to say all along.
You are so brilliant! Where did that come from!??!! 😉
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I am in a great relationship with an awesome man. We were both 'looking' BUT were both grateful and had good lives. As in good jobs, good friends, purpose in life etc. We both wanted someone to 'share' with. Found each other on a dating site, first time for both of us. Talked for a couple months before meeting in person but we talked everyday. And by doing so learned soo much about each other. The attraction was building. When we met in person, I am very much an introvert with strangers or in crowds, I felt immediately at ease and knew he was going to be in my life forever. I didn't know if as friends or more but I just learned to relax and trust the process, live in the moment, and here we are 4 yrs together next month. Up until recently it was kinda long distance. Over the years, I searched out advice as I hadn't dated in years, and between you Matt and Mark Rosenfeld, I got soo much knowledge that I could stay relaxed and not stress, but also open to discuss and build on this relationship. With his help of course. He's a great guy and I feel blessed. Everyday. ❤ so thank you.
I praised God for my life, content with it despite my life long desire to be a wife and mother. A few weeks later, I was approached online by a man that is better than my dreams. We're going on 3 months and are hopeful for a future...
The reason I said true to this question; was you have to love yourself first, before you can love anyone else. Personally, I feel that it is no ones job to make us happy. It is up to us to be happy , with who we are.
Love your statement ❤ We need to feel love to be able to attract love.
Great video Mathew 😊😊
Been awake since 9pm last night because of fear and anxiety.
My 2nd bf blocked me in fb after he pursued me. I was single and content for years since I broke up with my first bf then he showed up and left me broken.
I was lonely and scared being single as I nearly approach my 30s on November.
Leaving a message here. Well, I wont chase. Stay calm and relaxed. Will drop intentions of looking for love and will focus and what makes me happy and alive.
thank u for a great advice,keep up the good work doc.from phils.SHALAM
Don't play with your.. time???
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Food.
😂😂 you got me!
My mind said "money"!
Matt thnx alot. I 4 one am starting to apply this knowledge and then I will give u the feed back when it works 4 me.
I thought it was true. My perception around it is to not be desperate, but yes have the desire to be in love and attract what you have faith that you can have.
OH IT'S SO TRUE! HAPPENED TO ME ! WHEN I WAS LEAST EXPECTING IT
I am super grateful of what i have, that feeling of being a very loving person and i am pretty sure that i am secreting that pheromones which attracts love from others.... love is so magical !!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤#Chicago
Very good explanation thank you :)
I really needed this video! Thanks!
True for me matt and I'm very thankful to God that he gave me him. Hope i can also read some comments from a man's experience.. coz i wanna know how's their feeling when they met their better half when they're not looking for it..
I tried a couple words that you were talking about and my boyfriend was working a lot of people have quit and some got sick and he came over yesterday and told them that he was going to take a few hours off because he worked if you extra hours and he said he's going to have to make more time for me thank you very much for helping me because that little word you had in there really worked
Woww.. Amazing! What you said really are the truth n fact! Thank you so much, Matt !
41 years ago I was a mess…I met my husband of 40 years at that time. Wasn’t looking, he was a neighbor, we kept running into each other at the bank, the gas station, the grocery store, etc. He passed away a few months ago…and now I’m suddenly single & ready to find love again, or rather, for it to find me.
This is so fascinating!
I found love on the top of the stairs right outside of my apartment. I was recently divorced, had just got my own apartment, I was free, happy and doing my thing. Then one day I ran into this super cute guy and the instant our eyes locked my legs stopped working. Turns out he was the neighbour living just the floor above and loooong story short, he’s the one💛
Your videos have really helped me navigate, inspired me to build strong connection, listen to my inner voice and detangle all the feelings and emotions. And I will continue to watch them so that I can work on this beautiful relationship☺️
Okay in regards to you will find it when you're not looking this is what happened to me,
My husband died in 2018 an
Two years later with the help of my family and friends, I found my happy spot.
I was happy again.
My friends encouraged me to go on a dating site 2 put myself out there , they kept harassing me to do this in a loving way and I thought about it but then I decided just to wait because I was happy right where I was.
So I decided to go on Facebook that day instead and an old acquaintance was on there out of the blue, we start to hang out before I knew it and this is about 4 months later I started to care deeply for him , it snuck up on me I wasn't looking because I've already found love and I was comfortable.
it just happened but I was open to it it was kind of serendipitous.
I just found out, john is dead
Be happy with what u have. Very true
Thank you Matt, this was exactly what i needed to hear
I truly appreciate you
True! Worth the wait!
wow, thank you for that video
Nope. Stopped looking for it. Furthered my education. Redecorated my apartment. Took a job promotion. Took up kayaking. Take myself camping. It’s been 7yrs. I didn’t find a partner. I did find happiness.
This was such a great video! It was a perfect time for me to hear this as I continue to work on myself and open to having a relationship again. I have been hearing that line over and over again, but your explanation makes so much more sense. Thank you!
Good things happen to those who are prepared and willing to have them, that includes love
I was looking for love so I tried online dating and just kept meeting these guys who were half-heartedly interested in me. I kept getting my hopes up just to end up disappointed when they’d just string me along. I finally had enough so I decided to take down my profile. But before I did, I got a message from my now boyfriend. I remember I almost didn’t answer it, but I’m so glad I did.
Once I finally felt I had enough and I didn’t want to look anymore, is when love came to me.
I’m there right now. I’m turning 36 Monday and moved to a new city and with Covid did a few apps and although it was cool to see new places when I started I’m pretty over it and found the guys to be pretty douchey and disrespectful. It’s everyone serial dating each other and nobody knows when to stop. Done with the toxicity of it and although initially I was sad now I’m at peace I don’t have to deal with that anymore
False, I that phrase to it makes me mad when people say that
Like attracts like perfect your a great teacher bigup Mathew watching you from Jordan 💞
I like it. But I still can't put my fingers on, why when I simulate the feeling of "I already have the relationship or love I want" in my mind, a part of me feels like being cheated. Maybe I should do the "Gratitude Meditation" from more authentic place,.......🤔
Yes So Totally True & Agrees Matt! When You Are Not Looking For A Relationship But Good Thing's Comes After The Rain Drops When You Are Not Looking But What If A 'Friend's With Specials Bonds Falling In Love's While A Guy Has Deep Cut Or Did Not Really Keen On Any Woman? Will A Friend Turns To A ' Real Boyfriend After Going Distant Or Attract Love's UnConditional Vibrations Or Start Wondering How & Why Do You Attract Certain Kind Of People's While Thinking That Maybe Not Looking At AnyOne's? Can A Guy Or A Woman Falls In Love's With Gratitude & Loving Sincerely & Honest To One-Another?
That's actually called manifestating🙌🏻🙌🏻😊
Matt, I have got a question for you please 😊 I am watching a lot of videos about relationships ... as a non native English I struggle to understand the difference between a man being committed and being exclusive. What I am hearing is basically when a man is committed, there is one woman he is focusing on?? But being exclusive wouldn’t mean that he has got one woman in his life (love life) too? Please enlighten me please 🙏🏿
hi :) I think both mean that the man is just focused on one woman :)
It’s like this you got a love yourself first before you can love another
Can agree. After a breakup from someone whom I've been engaged to, I was wrecked and desperate to find someone. No luck. Finally gave up and did stuff by myself and became content and happy. Years later, Low and behold, a girl appeared in my life who became my girlfriend
Did you force yourself to love yourself and then end up actually loving yourself? Or did loving yourself took time until you could notice it?
Omg you must be young . I’m old so it’s over. .
The problem for me is that once i am happy and not looking I go into my own little world and I don't realize that people are interested. I've had friends tell me "Loads of guys like you! They are looking at yoi all the time." I had NO IDEA. How do you find a middle ground between I'm looking for a potential match everywhere i go and I'm so happy i dont even notice that someone is interested.
Thank you Matt for this video
@@cahilpeterson4978 I'm getting better
I believe what Mat is saying here is true. I would also add when you’re content with yourself and love who you are. I don’t believe we should look for it but much more just keep an open heart and mind for it. I also believe that for myself I’ve had to work through resentment and trying not to be bitter because some people are cruel and or don’t know what they are doing to you emotionally- then I was like online dating! UHHH NO. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m not ready for it. I wouldn’t want someone to feel the way I did being played with knowing in myself I can’t handle a relationship right now but that doesn’t mean I’m going to close myself off from it either. Forgive those who have wronged and hurt you and make peace within yourself. Be grateful you still have your heart and not stuck in a one sided relationship where you gave all and they gave very little. I actually liked this video because it makes me feel that I’m ok and I’m on the right track for myself. Being hurt is real but I don’t want it damaging the rest of my life.
Thanks Mat 🙂
I don't know if it'll ever happen, but I'm Stopping the search to preserve my mental health. I can't keep hurting.
Yes,. They always say that we find love when we least expected it. Since my husband and I parted ways years ago I became so lonely being alone, thinking if there's still someone who will love and care for me truly. But I guess love did not yet come on me. I still didn't find the one I'm looking for to love to hold and to care. Didn't even have any boyfriend, I guess Love is still somewhere out there, not seeing each other yet. I hope in God's will I will find my only love, hopefully. Only God knows.
Yup only God knows that’s tru
Typo at 3:12...alrady. Just FYI. Great message!
🌿 as you age, unfortunately this likelihood becomes less and less... especially now when there is the pandemic scare.
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I always believed the statement to be true bc when ur looking for love ur always "on" & not being ur genuine self & people probably don't vibe with that false version of u...just stay true to yourself
True. It just happened. Absolutely not looking.
I think I may have met my soulmate 2 years ago at work. I had started a new job with my dad’s business and came across this girl who I was drawn to, she was an examiner but we are both in the driving business. Interestingly, I was not really looking for someone (but I had marriage on my mind) and I never expected to meet someone out of all places over there.
She is not there anymore and I am I am sad. I blew it and now I am 30 , unmarried and so depressed!
This only works for people that are easily approachable. You have to be the one that approaches if that's the case, so you always have to be subconsciously looking for it other wise you'll get older and miss chances
Problem is nowhere to go safely to find love at 10 ft apart or more. I totally agree gratitude is the attitude and practice leading to being attractive. I just don’t believe in online dating sites after bad experiences there. I work out outside all the time and am friendly to those i see along the way. But im alone so that prolly doesnt look good. My friends and i have opposing work schedules.
😎 I agree!!
76 , in love with my SOULMATE!
It is SO true.
Before I see if its true...let me tell you what I believe I believe as a woman it is not our job to *look* for a man. It is our job to rest in our feminity. It is a man's job to find a wife. Like the scripture say *HE* who findeth wife finds a good thing. I dont want a feminine man that can't take the lead and wants me to go after him lol 🙊🤷🏿♀️. I want a man that knows what he wants and can speak up for himself and initiate.
Yup I just finish watching the video and this is completely true!!🙌🏿👏🏾I truly believe this as well!! I say do all the things you would do now as if you have a relationship. Take yourself out on dates, travel etc thats what I do. We are always in a marriage/relationship with ourselves. Be the best Husband or wife to you 1st!
I guess it's our job to be found
So true Amen
I besieged (chased after) my man for a while, and it was so rewarding when he could finally feel the love.
This has been so much better than all the times I was chosen by someone; I am in control. I decide for the aspects of my life, including my life partner. I feel so empowered!
Take the initiative if it's worth it!