Her Friend Ghosted On Her Because She Got Married!
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- She hasn't spoken to one of her best friends since she got married, and she's not sure what happened! We'll help her get closure.
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She says she would’ve been willing to pay her back but she should have done that first thing…not offered…she should’ve paid!
I hate people who lack a sense of self-awareness. Obviously, you have to think your maid of honor and/or bridesmaids are planning parties for you and you need to tell them to halt it if you are not going through with a traditional wedding. Even if she didn't buy the dress, I would be saving money for all the expenses: dress, shoes, hair, makeup, gift. It's not fair the the wedding party at all.
As a BFF, I wouldn’t care about the time, energy, and money I spent. I would feel confident in my friend that she would reimburse certain things. However, I would be upset that she didn’t at least confide in me that she decided to elope beforehand. I can keep my BFF’s secrets. I would’ve supported that. Being told after the fact would hurt
Eloping is one thing but to have a wedding planned and then decide to not have the wedding is really 💩.
...and to not tell people until almost a week AFTER
We don't know if this was a one-off. Casey could have consistently been a selfish friend && the other woman is just done with it all - like, last straw kind of thing
Agreed. Sounds like Casey might be the bad friend here. And it took her 2 years to reach out to a radio show. Casey you could have got off your butt and talked to her. You failed at friendship
Yeah she obviously hasn't "been to therapy" enough.. Understanding someone's feelings are valid is one thing, being genuinely sympathetic to what you did to cause those feelings is so different. Elaine deserves better.
Well at least she has been in therapy so she's got that going for her
Yes if cancelled bride/groom should reimburse all parties for out of pocket expenses AND your friends should support your decisions about your wedding, friend could have shifted her party plans to celebrate the bride and groom instead of just the bride/bridal shower, honestly what if a baby comes early you don’t cancel the baby shower, you change the vibe, like a sip n’ see 🥰 12:17
My friends and family doesn’t believe me trusting me at all. And it’s not fair.
I'd be mad too. I dont have a lot of money to throw around, and to tell the truth, 3 of the 4 bridesmaids dresses I had to buy to be in weddings were pretty ugly. I never altered them to a more casual useable dress--never wore thrm again. They were just trashed.
The bride and her fiancé should have told her they would pay her back for her outfit at that time, not wait til now...years later.
I have a feeling the best friend probably did say all of those things, but the bride was too self-absorbed to even notice or care about it.
I mean the bride got back her deposits and she didn't even think about all the money that the bridal party spent? Give me a break.
she should have told her best friend that plans change. That’s your best friend then you should respect her feelings too knowing that she was supposed to be apart of the wedding. I don’t think it was just all about money it’s the communication that didn’t take place
I think Casey is leaving a lot of details out to make herself look like it’s not her fault that the friendship ended.
Honestly, I don't think she's even "trying"to leave out details. I think she just didn't think about anything that anybody else had been doing to help plan for the wedding.
It is messed up not even telling her best friend until almost a week later. Honestly I don't see how you can even hardly go a week without talking your best friend when they're about to get married.
@@laurao8099yall need to get a life 😂
You didn't want to tell people because you wanted to avoid the whoopsie you gave them....I don't blame you but you need to recompense people.
💯 agree!
5:20 She didn't bail on her husband but she certainly bailed on everyone else
Im thinking it was a common occurrence of the friend being this way. No way this is the first time
She was a good enough friend to do all the work in prep for your wedding but not good enough to have shared your secret. She would have kept it to herself. It goes both ways guys. Best friends trust each other.
It's because she didn't TELL her
The bride she didn't communicate anything, neither did you.
The bride did actually communocate in the beginning that she was going to have a wedding she wanted her friend to be in the bridal party and they went shopping together. That part was well communicated. The bride just stopped communicating when she bailed on everyone (except of course the groom). There is a chance the friend in the bridal party may have been able to return the dress of the bride did not wait a week to tell her they eloped.
What does she owe the bride for not being a real friend? She only cared about herself, yes it's your wedding but if you're not ready for a big wedding, don't freaking plan one.
I'm at 1:55, and sounds to me like your wedding day was her day and your day. Female "best friends" expect to be each other's Maid-of-Honours. It's sort of assumed. You didn't tell her, and got married, and now she's left out of her day, which is your day. In other words, you wrecked what she saw as HER day. This is how some men can feel with Bridezillas who say their wedding day is "my day", and the fiance is left bring second.
Ulyimately, the friend sees the sociopathy attached to the spontaneity of just dropping the wedding. This is extreme selfishness b/c Casey just did what she wanted to (following the husband's lead, supporting HIM, and just leaving her friend completely out id the equation, which in turn would midigate the fallout. All of the listed items the friend gad pur efgort into is not a simple thing, its a bunch of things that have more major effects. Casey js just not recognizing that what dhe diss - or doesn't do, has consequences to more than just Casey's world in A general way. It impacts many ppl, in many ways, and in specific outcomes. Pticess over here snaps get fingers and w/o any warning, she just takes the selfish route, even if ger husband was the motivation. Dropping evetything was dimply cold. And if the best friend was seeing this behaviour over a period, and expected Casey to never do "this" or "that" to her, snd dhe did, Casey may hsve stepped kver a line that SHE has no say in.
I think the friend just wanted in on the secret maybe
She not really your friend 🤷🏽♂️
They both have their own way of being wrong here but isn't that the point of eloping?you jus go out and do it lol
But not usually after planning a wedding and going dress shopping.
@@laurao8099 hahaha I agree
Selfish brides maid wanted all the attention
Yeah but that's on her. The bride didnt know she was doing all of that. That wasn't her job it was the maid of honors. She was ahead of the bride in planning, buying her dress, spending money on the various parties, etc. She was expecting accolades and was disappointed when it didn't happen. Good riddance.
NO NO AND NOPE...so, if her maid of honor would have done her job and was the one who was "shopping ahead of the bride" you would think differently?!?
I hate to throw anyone under the bus, but the bride was the arsehole...ppl who you ask to be in your wedding aren't shopping ahead of anyone...usually they would put a deposit on dresses, but she might have gotten the dress and all the other things she listed...it's hard for me to believe she didn't know that her friend already spent money that she maybe didn't have...maybe even her sister, being the MOH, might've asked for the help with planning things, who knows...
Then it took bride two years before she got around to saying something??
Bride may not have told the Bert show everything like if she knew her friend had already spent the money...she knew that ppl would've spent money already bc wedding was planned so far in...she might not be the only person to get her dress, shoes, etc
She could've come back and told her ladies so they could have returned stuff...
I would have said the same thing
Money isn't the only thing she said...I agree 100%with her friend...if you're BFF, you would just assume that she would've told her, but no
So, I think the bride dropped the ball on this and get some money to her friend(ex)
I don't think she wanted accolades, she was just doing things for the bride and she bounced