Please remember that not all suicides are from depressed people. I have been studying psychology for years and one of the reason why some or most depressed people don’t commit a suicide is because they don’t even have the effort, energy, determinacy or motivation to take their life away.
@@mnstxr please remember you'll always be loved I don't know about you yet I care because life is a gift I'm sure about that and as she said things will get better 💖 youre loved God loves you and so does more people even if you think there's no one
@@rememberme5642Don't get me wrong but please try not to do this anymore you matter dont blame yourself remember we're human and we all make mistakes there's no need to punish yourself this way... 😔 You need to forgive yourself and love yourself a bit more I'm sure you must be someone precious inside and out 💖💖🌷 May God bless you!!
@@rememberme5642 i am sorry for you too, i used to cut mu arms and legs but i stopped since i have some blood illness (sorry i dont speak english very well) but i learnt something by it, no matter what big is the cut, our mistakes are made and cutting ourselves don't help at all.. so i stopped. i suppose thats better than hearing my family get mad at me because i try to punish myself... good luck little human, i feel you.
When my teacher sent me to my school counselor, the counselor was like "have you ever tried to not be shy? How about try to talk more? It's weird to not be able to talk u know" Oh I've never thought about that 🙄
Right, i really hate it when someone tried their way to change for what made me comfortable. How is it not okay to be shy? I sometimes have trouble expressing what I truly wanted to say in words. So being shy and quiet almost all the time makes me so comfortable, people would only ask few questions and they will be okay with it because they will think I am just too shy for them. Of course I will change it if I wanted to, but I really don't like it if being shy and quiet becomes the negative points in our daily life that it is seen as something you must change immediately to fit into the society.
@@woojinbloo44 yeah, I agree, friends too but sometimes friends are just plastic, they're only there to have fun but when you're in trouble, they ghost you like you don't exist
@@woojinbloo44 it depends on the parent. I can't even trust my own mother with my feelings, because she'll laugh or yell at me just because I'm 'not happy'
@@youtubeaccount1441 look I don't know if you ever suffered a loss before but this is a sensitive issue where you can't just spread your insensitive bullshit. If you don't care then fine but there was no need for you to comment in the first place. If you lost someone and someone said I don't care you would be pissed as well and we both know it. So kindly if you're going to be insensitive do it in your head and don't leave unnecessary comments. Thank you and goodbye.
See? People think that only bullied 14 yr olds can commit suicide, but everyone can. Even as a 9 yr old, i still couldnt shake the thought that i would commit one day
I am so sorry for your loss. It must be very painful to go through that. But dont worry, someday we will ALL meet again with our friends, loved ones, family, etc.
They call you a widow when you loose a husband,a widower when you loose a wife.They call you an orphan when you loose parents.But there is no name for the pain of loosing a child!There is no name for that pain!!!
one thing that i have never forgotten and never regreted is preventing a kid from suicide. he was se depressed about their parents divorce and the aggressive behavor that he wanted to kill himself. we were online friends but we talked and facetimed a lot. i knew what he came through. i am 15yo and i am very proud of myself for what i did.
This is why many communities in my country of Afghanistan don't like divorce that much when a child is part of that marriage. It's allowed, but it's not very liked. Kids have to go through way too much stress during the divorce and it can really tear their mentality a lot. For me a divorce would only be reasonable if the other is either abusive or is just a lazy and rude person. But anyways enough of that, you are my friend a amazing person. One time I met somebody who very likely had a eating disorder and was extremely depressed cuz of it. For only one day I remained contact with her and now she is silent and I worry about her, wondering if she is okay or not or if I could've done more. We need more people like you! Hope you live a amazing life.
As a 2nd generation Asian American this is a little difficult to watch. Sometimes 1st generation immigrants don’t understand how different things are for their children. There’s absolutely no empathy because they don’t know what their kids are going through. Sometimes they are so focused on making a better life for their kids, they forget about focusing on happiness. They want you to achieve more than them, but not realizing they are asking things from their kids that they themselves have not achieved. My comment is totally biased on my experience. I do not attend Asian churches because they are nothing more than a competition on who has the better kids. I’ve done the straight A’s, gone to college. I know what it’s like. Knowing that, I plan on focusing on my sons happiness rather than focusing on his achievements. He needs to discover who he is and figure out what he likes. Hopefully be able to do what he loves for the rest of his life. Not grow up living life trying to be a model citizen. I do feel bad for the 2 mothers. This is just the thoughts that flood my mind watching this. I hope I will never experience what they have.
this is so well-worded, unfortunately i too can relate with what you wrote. for ex. i don’t plan on going to university at least not right now and when i told my mother she was disappointed, since i’m a valedictorian in hs, to the point she asked me what i wanted to do only with a diploma, but she said it in a negative and upset tone implying that if i don’t go to uni i won’t be able to achieve what i want in my life almost as if it’s a precept. i pointed out though that it was hypocritical from her to tell me such things since she graduated with a major in english literature but then came to italy and became a housecleaner: nothing wrong with it as a job but like you said they’re pretentious and demand certain objectives they haven’t achieved themselves, it truly is stifling and can take a toll on you.
I feel you, one of the reasons I never pressure my kids to do well academically. I have been there and done that, it makes me feel like i am worthless and wasting family money and parental love is conditional on achieving great things in life
Everyone here must be from the same the boat, we're the children of 1st generation Asian immigrants living in a western country. I was born in Australia, from refugee parents who fled Vietnam, the suffering they went through to get their happiness reflects on the high standards and expectations they put on me. It's like they want us to have a better life and not have to go through what they did by having a higher education, better status, more money but they don't know the cost to get there. I've gone through all of that. As long as old traditions and mental health stigmatism exists, they're not going to change. Happiness isn't always measured through success, not everyone got to grow up in a healthy environment, our parents never got to experience that kind of life style and so their mindset is stuck to the past and trauma (war, boat people, detention camps, racism etc). And we, as the children are their outlets. So the ones to change had to be me. I'm fortunate to have access to therapy or else I wouldn't know how to cope anymore.
I agree. I really wished these types of videos would open up more on the possible reasons why they did it. Thought it may be selfish or too personal for me to ask ahh
The psychological torment of suicide in the mind is unbearable (theirs so much to it), because it’s demonic. But i’ll tell you this much i learned, that out of desperation the human will try anything to stop the pain. I know this because i went through it, the day i had decided i couldn’t live like that anymore Jesus Christ stepped in and removed the panic attack and gave me peace and spoke directly to my heart. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🤍
@@YarelySilvas Depression isnt demonic. Its caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. That can be caused by mutiple things that could happen in someones life. Depression affects mutiple parts of your brain including your amygdala which controls emotions like anger, sorrow and fear. Depression also affects brain cells that produce neurotransmitters that keep you moving along. Those become altered during depression.
Lots don’t feel and understand what there going especially when they i your not my child no more I don’t need u then after then ppl tell then don’t push then to something there path they can only find what right for then if u don’t u will have this feeling that u did something Wong your whole life
Our parents are the people who claim they will build our layers up, but are the same people who’d rip our layers off until we’re nothing. Medication shouldn’t be the thing keeping me together, it should be my mother. It’s a loop.
I'm so sorry, there are people who love you, and please, don't give up because your mother is a bad person, be brave and tell yourself "i can do it, i WILL do it". Don't hold yourself back, anything is possible as long as you try, you can achieve your dreams and goals in life, as long as you try hard. But, please seek a therapist and just try to make yourself feel better as much as you can! Please, don't lose your life to a bad person that happened to be your mother!
Seek help, tell someone you can trust and if it reaches that point then please call the suicide hotline! You'll get though this virtual hugs and love ❤❤
Hey, don’t know if you believe in God, or in my religion, Jehovah, suicide is a way of harming life, which I believe he has created, but whether you believe God exist or not, you are harming a very precious creation that has been made. It deeply saddens and if you really cared about your parents and the people you know, you really shouldn’t attempt it! It really deeply effects the people around you after you have committed it. I know it can be hard, and if they don’t realize it, maybe it’s because they don’t see it. If it’s getting to this point, YOU need to be the one that makes the effort to talk to them. Now, I can’t really say much because I only have my mom, but I know I can do it, so I hope you can too.
"We are the first line of Defence for our children." Some kids become the first line of Defence themselves. Afterwards, either they grow up stronger or wither away..
@@idontknowgezvic its called honesty, but I get it. Your mind is so weak that you have to say that I am being toxic as a coping mechanism for you to not face the truth lol
I feel most parents don't realize that they are the reason I'm depressed and attempt suicide. "Edit: My advice for anyone reading this is to tell someone you trust how you really feel. It's the toughest decision that I haven't had the courage to make, but if there is any strength left in you, you might as well try. Good luck, only you can make it better. My motivation for me to live is to help my brother not grow up and go through the same trauma my parents put me through. It's sad because I see myself in him all the time.
I do understand that there are parents who are not perfect and unaware. I know it's tough for some of you but please don't ever give up and there is hope.
@@Korogiri_Koenagi i hope that you are not serious. If you are, i strongly urge you not to and rethink about your decision. I have been through deep depression as well and suicidal thoughts are inevitable but once I decided to pull myself out and look at the world and how big and beautiful the world is, dying without having the chance to explore the world is such a waste. Do not let circumstances in life to tear you down, life is more than just whats happening around you. Be hopeful, life has it own ups and downs. There are people out there in the 3rd world country struggling to live on despite being in such a terrible country. There are people on earth that in far worst situation in life yet they are still fighting to live on because of hope. Do not lose hope my fellow friend
@@marcn5140 true that’s what I exactly think too when I am having suicidal thoughts, but you are fight my man, there is light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how king the tunnel maybe and hopefully one day the light at the end of the tunnel will shine, there are always lighter days after dark days, and dying before you experience this amazing and beautiful world is sure a waste and there are many other people living much worse but still going forward and they are still very happy
I couldn't stop crying watching this. Kinda glad my suicide attempts were not that serious. Hope I'll live to the day that I'll say "thank you for not giving up"
Fear Allah as a Muslim you shouldn’t even think about it ,, all hamdulilah we have Islam the absolute happiness and truth to happiness,, no matter what happens to u as a Muslim it’s actually good thing for u and sins forgiveness,,, Islam is the absolute gift and the best blessing ever ,,,, suicide is a major sin and hell fire awaits that person ,, we seek refuge to Allah from that
The fact that it’s called the “please stay” movements says everything. People always shame and scoff at suicide as a “choice/decision” but I can tell they genuinely hope to just express their love and emotion for those they’ve lost and those at risk
@@juwanbantug5465 thats what happens when you’re depressed. you feel as if there’s only one way out of misery. as someone who used to be extremely suicidal, looking back, i didnt even want to die. i just wanted to stop feeling the way i did every day.
As someone who has suicidal thoughts this brought me to tears, just knowing your parents actually cared for you but they only show it after youre gone forever. This is why suicide isnt a good thing.. It doesnt end your sadness, it just passes it to someone else
Yeah, whenever I think about that, I imagine how my parents would react if one day the found me dead without a warning. (also we have similar usernames lol) edit: *had
Sometimes true... but I also argue ... sometimes it could be completely coming from undigested cultural and historical trauma that passed through epigenetically which parents are often not equipped in dealing with it... because cultural, historical, inherited trauma are still very new scientific fields (although made logical sense) that even the top experts are exploring. We can only hope us as human beings can grow bigger capacity to hold spaces for one another without judgment when people talk about why they’re suicidal rather than invalidating/shaming them. Until we can do that, suicide rate cannot drop.
As a son/child who suffers with suicidal thoughts and s/h. This is a message for parents. When you take a look at our grades,and notice the F's and D's not the A's or B's, nor the C's Your first thought might be to discipline your child. But what you dont see is how much that affects them. Do you know the struggle? You may say you do. But do you really know it? Do you know how long we stay in bed too tired to get up,even if we had enough sleep. Do you know how tired we are to have motivation to do homework,when we dont even have motivation to live. The reason I'm talking about school, is because that's all the parents pay attention to. "Have you done your homework? Go do your homework. What are your grades? Let me see your grades. F's? Are you serious? Go and do your homework. Those f's and d's better be a's and b's." "what ever is keeping you from doing your homework, stop doing that" I hope you know you're practicing telling us to stop trying to find a will to live. A lot of us are more focused on trying to find a reason to live,which is why we barely do hw or attend school. We're just kids. You treat us like nothing and your petty little excuses are just "I'm giving you tough skin" WE ARE CHILDREN. We dont have to have tough skin, we need to live our lives! Instead of yelling at your child and telling them "I had it worse,suck it up" you should help them. We'll be the ones saying "suck it up" after we're dead even if you cant hear it. We'll be the ones laughing and screaming at you when you're at our funeral crying saying "i should've payed more attention I should've been there" YOU HAVE THE CHANCE. EVERY DAY. EVERY HOUR. EVER DAMN MINUTE. I am sick and tired of you all telling us to suck it up when we're bawling our eyes out begging for you to be a better parent. Sure you had it worse. Suck.it.up. oh your mom and dad hit you? Suck it up. Stop telling us to suck it up. One day those will be the last words you tell us before we're 6 ft under. Parents. Please try to be there for your kids. Dont yell at them. Dont hit them. Dont gaslight them Dont guilt trip them Dont make them cry. Try to make them happy and help them live a better life before it's too late
I think schools should have mandatory therapy sessions for students every once in a while. I was a troubled kid, but I was too afraid to approach a counsellor because I worried my friends would judge me if I went to seek help, but if the counselling was mandatory for everyone I wouldn't feel so alone
the second woman , she's actually quite well informed about depression considering she's asian. lots of asian parents like to deny depression being an illness and usually would either deny their child having it , or they'll tell their child that they're "having a phase" , mine included. so im actually quite surprised to see her talk very thoroughly about what causes / happens in depression , its a nice thing to see
@Ivanka Cerqueira ohh that explains it , so sadly , i was right. this isnt a parent being serious about mental health n concerned for their child despite not having it , just , someone who already knows of it. not that its bad , just , i thought it was a parent who didnt have it but still believes its real , yknow ??
I to lost my only child 4 years ago. He died alone which breaks my heart. I couldn't have asked for a better son, he was a wonderful human being. 4 years on and I still cannot believe I'll never see him again. Love you Adam. Life is very much over for his Dad & I.
NO it is not, if the parents are abusive or created a dysfunctional environment then the best thing is to quiet plot a day when you aggressively expose them in PUBLIC like at a grand family dinner then leave them and never talk to them again (obviously have your things ready to go fast ).
As a daughter, I just want my parent to understand my difficulties and hardships that I’m going through without criticisms like “If you this or that, your life would be better” or “you just overreact things.” Sometimes they mock me and say that I’m stupid not naive even though I contribute to the family by getting good grades, getting top-score student awards, and medals. I also manage myself to use less money so that they can spend for their own. I have a lot of traumas since kids like my mother yelled at me to get off the car if I can not memorize English days (I’m Asian btw and kindergarten during that time), hit me with a stick when I did sth wrong(I can’t remember tbh), told me to killed or fought with my own sister with a kitchen knife, my father broke my things when I did not take his order immediately and etc. . I still remember. My parents also remember that and said those stories pieced their heart. They also shared experiences as a new parents, and I have to admit that it is hard to be a parent according to their stories. But still, they criticize and mock me like I’m stupid and can not manage my life (yeah since I’m only a teen, but I have a certain level of responsibility.) I used to think of running away from my house and live with my aunt in another city or commuting suicide. I talked to them about this and they said that it is a karma and I will go straight to hell. I used to scare, and still scare, but I do not see this as a solution to stop your kid from committing suicide. I should thank to this religious myth for making me avoid suicide at all cost. I mean adults always say something like we yell at you because we love you. Is it true? I mean is it that complex to tell what they are thinking instead of yelling? But like it’s a method for controlling a kid somehow (idk if it works or it causes trauma.) Still, Kids are kids, and they can not take that much. I really want to ask myself that should I thank them for being harsh so I can accomplish this much? Or I make myself to this own step? The thing that I learn from my own experience is sometimes you don’t have to listen to everything they say. I mean if they advise you then sure if it’s a good advice. This is your life, not them. Do not lose your life because of some else makes you. Isn’t it too easy? Think about what you have been through (you can think of school, projects, sports, competition, or even small goals like drinking coffee), and you just gonna give up your life because of these people? There are more than just these people in this world, you just need the courage and conscious to stand up and walk out from that toxic place. I hope that my story help those people (idc if someone think it’s fake bc people might see this not realistic) who feel depressed or want to end their life. Be strong because after the storm there will always be a rainbow. P.S. I lie to myself sometimes too, so don’t worry if you also lie that you have a pretty decent life. Stay Positive! Edit: free hug for everyone whoever come and read or have the same traumatized story.
My brother took his own life at 25. It’s been three years, and the pain is slowly subsiding as I move on with life. But my parents are still broken. I wish my brother passed in a different way. Terminal disease, car accident,,, anything but suicide. He had big dreams and would tell me about his future plans all the time. I did not know that he was mentally unstable, though in hindsight, there were faint hints and signs. The guilt of not noticing his cry for help lives with me forever.
I'm 25 this year, I have 2 younger siblings I adore very much. I have big dreams of becoming a surgeon. Yet suicide is lurking in my head all year long. I wish I had someone who would go out of their way to ask about me. Things that are more important than academic achievements or when am I gonna come "home"... But in the end, if I was to take my own life, I wouldn't want my siblings to feel this guilt that you are feeling. I am sure your brother would want you to continue your life without guilt too.
@@foxsnightmare this is awful that the only thing that retains us is guilty of making the loved and cared one crying into tears ... I understand that communication is the only key to help get out of this spiral and painful thoughts , talking will help you to understand that they maybe don't only love you cause you are achieving so much that makes them proud of you , maybe they is a bond of blood , but also the time you shared, the good moments . We are maybe living a generation where things goes so fast , we don't have enough time and energy for so many things ... I am sure handling it alone won't help you to get through this , being alone make it most of the time even worse , being listened and understood is one of the first step of healing
@@foxsnightmare What a great goal/dream you have. Please don’t give in to those thoughts. Life sometimes is really hard an can take its toll. Let’s hold on it and keep going. Better days are coming for those who wait, it’s a sentence that also says that after difficulty comes ease🌟🌟 So Dont give up. Also try to change your subconscious mind through self talk self speak, write positive affirmations try doing something you like or listen to music. Some things to heal you. But definitely seek someone or something that you can hold on into, that will get you out of these thoughts. Believe me sis or brother, better days are definitely coming🌟
@@foxsnightmare i am so proud of you for standing strong!!! please remember that you are so loved and cherished and i cant wait for you to become a surgeon! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
These same parents would've been the ones pressurizing their kids to get into good unis or not being supportive of them. I don't regret that the pain passes onto people who use their children as punching bags for their anger or their ambitions.
altrough im not a parent myself, but i lost my dad when i was 5 years old due to suicide, he was 27. Today im 30 and my grandma still visits his grave and talks to him almost every day, she said the pain never went away.
I'm a young mother, sometimes i felt depressed and wanted to commit suicide very seriously.. But i can't stop thinking about my child.. Im so sorry for your lost and thank u for giving me strength
@@idamaya3398 it is alright to feel in that way because of too much pressure but i’m really proud that you’re sustaining yourself and taking care of your family along with other stuff. I hope that you’re also taking care of yourself, please don’t overwork yourself. Please stay safe, stay healthy and lots of love :)) **hugs**
This is why having children is not a 100% on my to-do list. To think I will have to make it my own problem other people's problem. And you'll be responsible somehow.
Omg! A fu$*ing Zoldyck!!! How dare you assassinate my son. I watched Hunter X Hunter so now i know how to get to your mansion .I will get my revenge!!!😂😂😂
Please get help...hopefully you are getting support from your friends. I know life can be careful, but please push through. When you feel happiness, it’s a great feeling. Feel it as many times as you can. Watch something funny, go outside, even with covid, your mental health is so important. Go online shopping for clothes, I mean what the heck. Just do what makes you happy. I’m so proud of you for talking to your friends, and getting off the noose. By just doing that, you’re already on a better path ❤️
I mean, not really. You can't blame a particular person for being the reason someone k*lls themselves. Yea, that may have been the trigger but I think he had a lot of other issues as well
@@lavanyajoglekar5379 you dont need to censor that. The filters are sophisticated enough that it knows to replace * with another possible letter. So if your able to censor your comment like that and it didnt get deleted, then you didnt need to censor it
I lost a friend to suicide a few years ago and I still very much cry deeply about it. Her parents never got her room cleaned after that day but then they moved. I don’t know if it was the guilt and sorrow that chased them away or if it was me and my friends leaving notes for them telling them to admit the abuse. My friend never admitted the abuse to authorities because she wanted to keep her parents, especially her father out of jail. A few weeks after losing her I also came to a realization that if I had succeed with all those times I’ve attempted, this is what my family and friends would’ve gone through. Will always love you Sylv! I miss you more and more every day but I’m happy that you’re finally resting in peace. Please take care of your mental health. And please be patient and understanding with each other, we are all fighting wars within ourselves.
@M W think? do you even know what comprehension is? nowhere in my comment did I said I think or implied that I thought there was abuse. the only person sick here is you for assuming.
The sad thing is that the suffering of people with depression will mostly be understood only after it’s too late. I have depression myself, I am also suicidal, it’s hard when you know people knows you have depression but doesn’t have the capability to understand what you’re really going through.
I hope I can help a little: 1. Seek some professional help. 2. If that's not a option due to maybe your parents not letting you and getting mad or because of some other problem then here are some advice and reasons to live: Even if you feel like there are people who don't care about you, don't let that conquer your mind, there will definitely always be somebody that cares for you and wants you to live whether it's on the internet or in real life or in the future. Realize that death can be a very scary thing, you can't be certain what would happen after death so you have to live your life to the fullest and die happily. Imagine all the fun things you can do later in life! Having a family and spending time with them, having a fun job, walking outside, going to parks whenever you feel like to, Rollercoaster rides, traveling across countries, being able to make friends and etc. Life is filled of endless possibilities and when we are living let's try to fulfill all our dreams. Don't die with regret and sadness. People out here in the internet can help you, I understand you, and I will urge you to keep going as it got better for me and got better for many other people who have been through way worse. Don't suicide it isn't the only option you have and it isn't a option you should ever choose no matter what.
No,the worst thing is that all those suffering you experienced will be understood by anyone else except yourself,and no one will know it until they received the news of it
Abraham Lincoln nothing really excites me anymore, and when something does, fate really finds a way to crumble all the motivation I have gathered. And I’m back to square one. I’m living for others, that’s why I won’t commit it, but will the time come for me to decide what’s for me? I don’t know why people call those who commit suicide as selfish, without thinking that calling a suicide victim as selfish because they’re hurt is selfishness itself.
@@ablueyoungkangaroo8729 I agree I don't people should use suicide is selfish as a excuse as it can be a result of another person's selfishness, but one things for certain suicide isn't the choice. Though maybe if I know your age I would be able to help a little more?
This really brought tears to my eyes. No sane and loving parents want to bury their child. It’s really painful seeing these mothers talked about their children that passed away from suicide. I can’t imagine how heartbroken and shocked they were when their child passed away. In this life there’s no check point where you can save and reload. We need to think things carefully and live without regret.
This Is why I dont want to have kids. The fact is that this world is so cruel to us--in more ways than one. For me to birth an innocent minded child into a world with such hate and disease, etc. scares me. I'm afraid I won't be able to protect them form the harsh reality, or give them the emotional support a child desperately needs to handle certain situations. I'm only 17 now and in my developmental years still. But I have experienced so much in my lifetime so far. I know there are good things in life, but to me it seems like the bad outweighs the good. I wish the best for these parents who are going through similar circumstances.
I’ve always believed that adoption is the only true ethical way to have a child. There are so many children in the system that need a home, bringing another one in by yourself in itself is kinda of messed up if you think about it I’m not going to shame people for having their own kids of course but I will always heavily encourage adoption As for being able to support your child, I fully understand that fear, and if you don’t think you’re ready or will ever be ready for that kind of responsibility there is no shame in just not having children at all It’s a very interesting topic and debate overall, as depressing as it can be to think about
Yep my parent keep on telling me that i should get married and have children. Bruh i dont even like being in this world why should i make a child then let them to experience the same pain as mine 😑😑 Thats why they say, having a child is the biggest egoistic thing human did, it would be lucky if they born in a rich warm family but what if they born in some 3rd world slump village ? They didnt even asked to be born and have to be forced to survive 🙂🙂
@@martiea5787 I completely hear this, and totally agree. My mom and grandma often say stuff like "you'll make a great wife and mom" or "when you get older you can teach your kids this or show them that." Mainly due to my cooking skills 😑Society really puts standards and pressure on people to fulfill these goals because it appears like the "natural" way of living. Anything you do that's not part of those standards, you will most likely be questioned or looked down upon. Ex: This is one of the reasons why lgbtq community is looked down upon. Or, like us who don't comply with having children. There are many, many more examples other than this and it's just sad. I also agree when you said that having kids was (is) the most egotistical thing the human race does.
To anybody reading this, I’m proud of you today. No matter how much or little you did, I’m proud of you. And if things are hard right now, please believe they will get better. Trust me, I know it can be incredibly hard to believe. I myself spent so many years only feeling worse but it will happen. One day you will be surrounded by people you love who love you: friends, family, lovers etc. Whatever appeals most. You’ll be in control of your own time and be free to make your own choices and you will look back at these moments in your life and feel pride at your strength. Keep trying your best, I believe in you
same here , my big family (not parents) keep me alive , even though my father is authoritarian hardcore and my mother who lazy , neglecting me and foul-mouthed everyone else.
He committed suicide due to family pressure... Parents never try to understand our feelings, someday I will be in that position too and they will be in regret...
It's a big loss. Support your parents as they supported you. Love one another and cross the life line happily when the relieving end comes to take us away.
"lol he committed suicide only bc he lost his girlfriend what a simp" please be careful with your keyboard. it may have been more than that, there were a bunch of reasons and we wouldn't know, people wouldn't know. his mother just assumed from all possibilities she knew, maybe he had more than being heartbroken. the reason of our suicidal thoughts sometimes isn't something we would share or talk to anybody, so yeah, she prolly didn't know.
When a person who is battling depression, they can't feel and see love from anybody, and feel that he will always be alone no matter how much he tried. He will feel that he is not good enough, as he felt rejected from people and the world. He will feel worthless, hopeless, very very sad. He will feel he belongs to no where, there are no place for him and there are no where out of this world he feel he doesn't belongs to. He may feel that he is not a human being as he think and feel differently from any individual who don't understand him. No one can understand how a person battling depression feel, only one who is battling it knows. There are people who is supportive, and there are people who do not understand by just throwing cold water. Depression is not a choice of easily 释怀，it is because the brain may be genetically have lesser serotonin compare to people who are not depressed. Depression is a mental illness due to lack of serotonin in the brain and needed to be treated with medication such as antidepressant which increase the serotonin level in the brain. As it will help one to manage depression better. Some people will judge when they don't understand what is depression, and do not understand how a depressed person feel. I hope when people hear someone who is suffering from depression, do not think that they just seek attention, but it was their cry for help. Do not judge them even if they post their negative thoughts or suicidal thoughts on social media, sometime they are crying for help but no one can hear them. Have compassion and be there for them, and give them all the positivity you can, and constantly talk to them and make them feel that they are not alone. As talking is a good therapy for one who is depressed.
I thought of it... that maybe my death would cause people to actually care... I didn't do it however, I was too much of a coward so I just didn't do my duties to take care of my body so that maybe a disease could kill me off, regret that now though multiple disease came alright none of them are fatal though, most of them cause immense pain. just a few years after I stopped being depressed. Also the reason why I love self sacrifice in any mediums of storyline, I'd rather die than let others die. That means Atleast I did something and not just waste it.
@@animesenpai1163 No, your death wouldn’t make people happy, it will only make people feel pain and sad... They can’t do anything to make you alive again, they can’t cry to god or get angry, they can’t end their own life because of the stress and pressure after you died, it is true, that people will regret, but that doesn’t mean you can hurt yourself, the more you hurt yourself, the more people surround you feel bad and sad but can’t do anything about it, although you might think no one in this world love you or notice you, but there always will be, god always were there for you too, whether you believe in god or not, he still loves you. Remember, a lot of people regret it once they jump off the building, they can’t stop of what they are doing, they can’t shout for help, that’s why, please never ever hurt yourself. You should love yourself first before getting people to love you, there will always be nice people surround you if you try and reach for help, there won’t be anybody else able to replace you or be you, you are precious, wonderful and awesome, you are pretty no matter what. Please don’t let others judge you, stay strong, keep positive, no matter how hard your life is.. please.. keep pushing yourself until you see the exit, don’t let darkness sallows you, keep forward and don’t look back, please, keep safe and protect yourself, god bless you no matter what. :>
@@chillysubbie1407 there are ways children can find out about things we wouldn't know they would do, it's quite sad and heartbraking once you put it into thought..
I used to think about suicide when I was a teenager, but then i could not commit it cuz I don't want my parents to live with pain for their entire life. They brought me to the world they give me love ofc if I can't live for myself at least I stay alive for them.
@@youtubeaccount1441 I don't think u get what she said. When we die ofc we don't feel anything anymore, but to ppl who really care about us they will feel the pain and live with those memories till the day they die.
I know how you feel.😢 I suffer from depression as well and I am trying to fight it because I don’t want my family to suffer like you do and I am really sorry for your lost. I’m just letting you know that he will always love you no matter what.💕😭
I applaud them for sharing their stories publicly. Asian parents (based on my personal experience at least ) don’t ever acknowledge depression. Speaking up your struggle is seen as weakness. They would rather have filthy rich successful depressed kids with big titles after their name than happy well adjusted kids
Have never used the chinese words 节哀顺变 after my mum death 17 years ago. One can never feel the " " from another's loss. Comforting words are no longer required to remind them of the loss, except the miracle of bringing the lost souls back to exchange their last good byes.😭😭😭
Sweetheart, they do care. Parents get so caught up in their own lives they forget how precious their children are. I know. My son killed himself last March and I was three weeks from graduating with a Master's in teaching so I was all wrapped up in my own life. I promise you if he had given me an indication that he was considering suicide I would have dropped every damn thing in my life to stop it. Let them know how you feel...please, for God's..and their sakes..i never want another parent to feel the pain i endure everyday because i was too focused on making straight A's and making something of my wretched life to know my son was hurting. Bozarre as it was, the day he did it I called him(he lived wit h his dad because i was messed up for a long time but had finally straightened out my life and was making something of myself he could be proud of...none of which matters at all now) and he did not answer...he was already gone. Ten minutes after I made the call his dad showed up at my house and told me my son was gone. My life will never be whole again and my heart is broken forever. I would join him if I could but I have a daughter who is 7 so I make it through one more day for her. Please, please, please....try to do the same. It will get better...they do care regardless of how it seems...there is no pain greater than losing a child, especially when you feel its your fault for not knowing. Take care of yourself, and if you ever, and i mean EVER need someone to talk you down, I will be here and will stay up all night to make sure you do, too.
Your mom cared to keep you in her stomach for 9 months, go through labor, educate you, provide you with shelter. Maybe you have this block in your mind to think they don't care enough. Trust me they do, way more than any of your friends or anyone. Let's assume they don't which is definitely not the case but you do care about them right? And would never want them to go through what these moms did. Please know they do care, on the days of all your occasions they will be happiest, even more than you probably and when they see you cry, their hearts will melt. Trust me they love you and care about you, please grow out of your silly notion.
I tell my parents that love is not just putting food on the table, putting clothes on my back, having a roof over my head and giving me money when I needed it. They insist it is, and I explain it is not. 5 languages of love plays.. but they never listen. This kills me everyday.
@@rakshitaramaprasad6634 The items you mentioned are obligatory and their responsibility. Children don't ask to be brought into this world. It's the parents responsibility to give the best chance of life to a child and that includes *Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.* When you say "trust me they do" that's absolute BS. Trust is earned and parents must/need to show. Children grow up to be a product of their environment.
I'm so glad I didn't do it. It would have broken my mom. That's the only reason why I didn't do it. I wanted to commit suicide at 12. You may think its because of me being exposed to things online. I didn't have much access to the internet and I wasn't really exposed to that type of thing. But even so wanting to die at the age of 12. Is just scary to think because a child literally wanting to end their life. I'm glad I didn't do it. I'm 24 now. Going to be 25 in a week. I'm happy with my life. There's so much to experience in this life. The pain won't last forever. It does get better. Some will disagree. But that's because I had to do the self work to get better.
Noooo plz nooo , please know that ur parents gave u birth and this life u are the most precious person to them and think when they will pass away and see u doing the same thing how broken they will be I am sure u know how it feels like to loose the most precious person of ur life so please promise urself u will not give the same feeling to ur beautiful parents they love u we love u they will want a beautiful life and future for u even after they leave think how much it will hurt them that u won't be alive to see that so plz stop think about ur parents think about this person who cares about u and took time to tell u that and think about the gift ur parents have given u in name of life yea I know it's hard and cruel but we all are with u tons of people feeling the same let's not loose hope so that when our parents see us from above they will be proud and happy that their child is so strong and cherishes their gift so much even if u don't have anyone u wanna live for apart from ur parents plz live for me and urself I am sure ur parents will be the happiest in heaven seeing u plz don't give up we can do this I believe in u ,me and all of us 💜!!! - from a person who wants u to live and loves u❤️
I used to say the same...well...until life got a little bit better unexpectedly. So I say hang in there a little bit more, the world won't change that much for the better...yes,but I believe it has something good in store for everyone that keeps stayin' around. So that's what I hope you'll do. Stay alive a little bit more,the way you know how...and who knows what will follow.
Please don’t give in to those thoughts. Life sometimes is really hard an can take its toll. Let’s hold on it and keep going. Better days are coming for those who wait, it’s a sentence that also says that after difficulty comes ease🌟🌟 So Dont give up. Also try to change your subconscious mind through self talk self speak, write positive affirmations try doing something you like or listen to music. Some things to heal you. But definitely seek someone or something that you can hold on into, that will get you out of these thoughts. Believe me sis or brother, better days are definitely coming🌟
It's ilegal to put things related to suicide in the news because this may trigger people I don't know about your country but thats how things happens in mine
I tried suicide one , didn't scare of death at all. But imagine my parents suffering like this day by day made me stop. It's hard to live a life u don't want to
To anyone reading this: I promise everything will get better. Sending virtual hugs ❤️ Edit: do not mind the person saying suicided is ok. It is not and never will be. Please seek help if you feel worthless or suicidal. Remember that life is worth so much and don’t throw it away
@@youtubeaccount1441 Experience. When you life feels awful and you think you’ll have to cope with this and live a miserable life, remember you have potential to do great things. Choose your path, before you run out of time.
Suicide is never ok. You’re giving away something so valuable. You’re giving away potential to do great things, you could save lives, you could do anything. It’s never worth it.
@@BookishCat you have potential to win the lottery if you spend your money on lottery tickets. Does that mean you should spend money on lottery tickets?
@@BookishCat I have no obligation to have to use my potential and abilities and be a slave to society and those around me. Also, not all lives are valued and it matters if the person values their own life in most cases, not others.
@@youtubeaccount1441 That’s gambling, it’s different. I can’t control what you do, I can only give advice. This is comfort for people who need it, clearly not you though.
This makes me want to cry. I’m the child thinking about suicide. And I know others who think the same. This gives me a huge new perspective to this topic, thank you
My father commited suicide one year ago. My heart goes out to all the people who stay behind, and have to go through life scarred so deeply by the tragic death of their loved ones. I feel that i will never be happy again in my life, not truly happy at least. There will always be a part of me that is scarred and in pain by the reality of my fathers choice. Power to you, and hope you can keep on going, find adequete support, be strong, and find happiness in the gift that is life, despite the tragic moments you had to live through. May we all do...
My dad attempt suicide first and passed away not knowing what reason in 2014. Until today 2021, I still haven't overcome it. Ever since he passed away. My life just went spiral and spiral down. During 2019, I lost my grandma and uncle. That kind of grief and agony is really very terrible.. ever since I've been trying to end my life. Hope that you'll live a more meaningful life.
All fathers were boys once. Having their own childhood and growing up life experiences. Before they were gone or still around, we as children should do up a journal or memoir of their life for the next generations and next. This should be a proud heritage as a father of handing down your duties and responsibilities, not evading or hiding from them. As a real father, be a strong life source and a pillar of hope for the family, till your last breathe.
To anyone who's watching this? Please. PLEASE do not let someone make you feel so low about yourself, that you end up taking your own life. Ex partners, ex friends, bad family member etc It's not worth leaving your dearest loved ones in pain and life WILL get better for you.
Think of all your problems that lead to the thought of suicide. Can't I just stop thinking about the problem and go on with my life? It always work for me not to get sad, I may be alone but I find myself happier when no one is judging me.
@@TheAfrilazeeq I understand completely where you're coming from. Sometimes, it's better to accept the truth of certain events that have occured in your life and keep moving forward no matter what. We have a tendency of holding ourselves back from ever making peace in our own minds to the point, we end up trapping ourselves. Talk about your problems openly with loved ones, take action to solve them and more importantly, try not to over analyse the past too. It's done and it no longer exists.
And what if it's no one else? What if it's just me and my absolute lack of any redeeming quality? The fact that I have no brains? Failing college? I feel unable to do anything properly
@@razzvyberry4694 you are not alone. I am a senior in highschool, struggling to keep my grades up! I feel like giving up but I’m literally almost there. I stay motivated by thinking of my future and how I want to live. Traveling, having my dream cars (Tesla’s and gwagon- no one asked) and being happy. You have brains! You made it to college. You can do it, I know it can be hard to stay positive so I won’t tell you to. But I will tell you that I love you and I hope you can live without worry one day♥️ good luck in college. I know you can do it.
wow i started watching the first 3 seconds and i’m already crying. a mother’s pain is worse than anything in this world and i can’t help but regret the time when i felt the same way as the young people portrayed in this video who have since passed on.
dear soul, Suicide is not the answer for your marks..probably it means a lot to you to have things all the time in order but this is life ...unfortunately we go through good days, bad days. Life is more than a mark, a bill ecc. Life is about experiences, love(in any way you want to express it. For example : MUSIC it is and will always be my first love.) I try not to depend on people's love because they will dissapoint you when you are least expeting it. So you must be depending on yourself and not on your teachers' tests and marks...you got a bad mark? It's okay..even Einstein failed twice to get to his university. ...keep running and keep growing because life is GROWTH. 💜💜💜
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Please remember that not all suicides are from depressed people. I have been studying psychology for years and one of the reason why some or most depressed people don’t commit a suicide is because they don’t even have the effort, energy, determinacy or motivation to take their life away.
i agree, i am one of them but i am more like a coward...
This is me
@@mnstxr please remember you'll always be loved I don't know about you yet I care because life is a gift I'm sure about that and as she said things will get better 💖 youre loved God loves you and so does more people even if you think there's no one
@@rememberme5642Don't get me wrong but please try not to do this anymore you matter dont blame yourself remember we're human and we all make mistakes there's no need to punish yourself this way... 😔 You need to forgive yourself and love yourself a bit more I'm sure you must be someone precious inside and out 💖💖🌷 May God bless you!!
@@rememberme5642 i am sorry for you too, i used to cut mu arms and legs but i stopped since i have some blood illness (sorry i dont speak english very well) but i learnt something by it, no matter what big is the cut, our mistakes are made and cutting ourselves don't help at all.. so i stopped. i suppose thats better than hearing my family get mad at me because i try to punish myself... good luck little human, i feel you.
“Dead people receive more flowers than the living ones because regret
is stronger than gratitude.”
-Anne Frank
@Mike B ayo?
Is this real?
This saying is smart as hell
Damn, Anne Frank truly did have a way with words.
@@user-dr3pz4se4v yes it is
Especially for some asian kids , our parents only see how far we can achieve success for the future rather than loving what we do
This is so true. Asian parents treat their children as investment plans.
@@butterfly-pz6bp not all though
@@butterfly-pz6bp wow this hit me really hard
@@butterfly-pz6bp this is why I always joke about children being long term investment
True
When my teacher sent me to my school counselor, the counselor was like "have you ever tried to not be shy? How about try to talk more? It's weird to not be able to talk u know" Oh I've never thought about that 🙄
Sadly, experiences like these is what makes many people turn away from counselling and therapy.
Why are school counselors always like that
mr mackey
I hated my school counselors. They would talk to me similar to that and make me feel like shit on purpose.
Right, i really hate it when someone tried their way to change for what made me comfortable. How is it not okay to be shy? I sometimes have trouble expressing what I truly wanted to say in words. So being shy and quiet almost all the time makes me so comfortable, people would only ask few questions and they will be okay with it because they will think I am just too shy for them. Of course I will change it if I wanted to, but I really don't like it if being shy and quiet becomes the negative points in our daily life that it is seen as something you must change immediately to fit into the society.
As a son, we just want parents who will love us, money or not, good house or not, we don't care as long as we have someone on our side
Clearly, there are kids out there who prefers more to be with their friends despite their parents loving and understanding them.
@@woojinbloo44 yeah, I agree, friends too but sometimes friends are just plastic, they're only there to have fun but when you're in trouble, they ghost you like you don't exist
@@cyb8490 yep and that's the thing most teens don't realize. Their parents will stick with them till the end, but most "friends" won't.
@@woojinbloo44 it depends on the parent. I can't even trust my own mother with my feelings, because she'll laugh or yell at me just because I'm 'not happy'
@@woojinbloo44 this is so true
The moment when she said "he was my only child", I instantly feel pain and sad, hopefully she is okay now.
@@youtubeaccount1441 Obviously you do ,you are constantly posting negativity
@@youtubeaccount1441 then why click just to spread negativity? Do you enjoy ruining days?
@@youtubeaccount1441 then get off this video asshole
I don't think she'll ever be completely okay but I do hope that she has accepted it.
@@youtubeaccount1441 look I don't know if you ever suffered a loss before but this is a sensitive issue where you can't just spread your insensitive bullshit. If you don't care then fine but there was no need for you to comment in the first place. If you lost someone and someone said I don't care you would be pissed as well and we both know it. So kindly if you're going to be insensitive do it in your head and don't leave unnecessary comments. Thank you and goodbye.
The fact that Evan (the second mother’s son) was only 10 years old breaks my heart, he was just a child and he was hurt 😢
See? People think that only bullied 14 yr olds can commit suicide, but everyone can. Even as a 9 yr old, i still couldnt shake the thought that i would commit one day
@@whythehelldoineedahandle Exactly, I was 10 when I had a few moments where I'd just believe it would be better if I died than stay alive.
@@whythehelldoineedahandle me I'm only 9 when I wanted to die either but as a 14 yrs old right now I think I the same thing 🙂
There isnt really a specific age for it i think, as long as youre capable of doing actions already and have a mind you can.
@@chonaestabillo1660 me too, i really wanted to die and had a suicide attempt sometimes thoughts.
People say suicide passes the pain to someone else but forget how much pain the person must've been in to attempt suicide
I know this feeling. I lost a daughter to suicide. It’s been three years now and I am still In so much pain. I miss her so much. I love you Samantha.
Rest in peace
I’m so sorry to hear that
Hopefully she's in a much better place...and is finally at peace💖
RIP
I am so sorry for your loss. It must be very painful to go through that. But dont worry, someday we will ALL meet again with our friends, loved ones, family, etc.
They call you a widow when you loose a husband,a widower when you loose a wife.They call you an orphan when you loose parents.But there is no name for the pain of loosing a child!There is no name for that pain!!!
@@youtubeaccount1441 dd you just say deserve?????Which parent deserves that???
@@mariequeen7417 He probably means (abusive)parents that drove their child to commit suicide. I think.
@@mariequeen7417 the parents that cause their children to exist, even though those children are at risk of suffering horribly
@@Tristan-nd4it That is better explanation...But I guess they dnt feel remorsein the first place
@@youtubeaccount1441 calm down edgelord
one thing that i have never forgotten and never regreted is preventing a kid from suicide. he was se depressed about their parents divorce and the aggressive behavor that he wanted to kill himself. we were online friends but we talked and facetimed a lot. i knew what he came through. i am 15yo and i am very proud of myself for what i did.
Nice! 🙂👍 You're a good person.
We need more people like you💖
You’re a hero man. I mean, 15 years old? I’m 17 and you achieved so much than me.
😌
This is why many communities in my country of Afghanistan don't like divorce that much when a child is part of that marriage.
It's allowed, but it's not very liked.
Kids have to go through way too much stress during the divorce and it can really tear their mentality a lot. For me a divorce would only be reasonable if the other is either abusive or is just a lazy and rude person. But anyways enough of that, you are my friend a amazing person. One time I met somebody who very likely had a eating disorder and was extremely depressed cuz of it. For only one day I remained contact with her and now she is silent and I worry about her, wondering if she is okay or not or if I could've done more. We need more people like you! Hope you live a amazing life.
I don’t know why I burst into tears when she was talking about how her son did magic because he wanted to see the smiles on other’s faces.
I also feel sad about her only child that born by 9 month of pain as mother but loss of it because pain that josh suffer over and over again
Breakup of dad mom and loss girlfriend it's like so many strike at once
Hi I m very sad ..as i m in 11th standard in India..I m unable to complete my syllabus.....I m very depressing
As a 2nd generation Asian American this is a little difficult to watch. Sometimes 1st generation immigrants don’t understand how different things are for their children. There’s absolutely no empathy because they don’t know what their kids are going through. Sometimes they are so focused on making a better life for their kids, they forget about focusing on happiness. They want you to achieve more than them, but not realizing they are asking things from their kids that they themselves have not achieved. My comment is totally biased on my experience. I do not attend Asian churches because they are nothing more than a competition on who has the better kids. I’ve done the straight A’s, gone to college. I know what it’s like. Knowing that, I plan on focusing on my sons happiness rather than focusing on his achievements. He needs to discover who he is and figure out what he likes. Hopefully be able to do what he loves for the rest of his life. Not grow up living life trying to be a model citizen. I do feel bad for the 2 mothers. This is just the thoughts that flood my mind watching this. I hope I will never experience what they have.
this is so well-worded, unfortunately i too can relate with what you wrote. for ex. i don’t plan on going to university at least not right now and when i told my mother she was disappointed, since i’m a valedictorian in hs, to the point she asked me what i wanted to do only with a diploma, but she said it in a negative and upset tone implying that if i don’t go to uni i won’t be able to achieve what i want in my life almost as if it’s a precept. i pointed out though that it was hypocritical from her to tell me such things since she graduated with a major in english literature but then came to italy and became a housecleaner: nothing wrong with it as a job but like you said they’re pretentious and demand certain objectives they haven’t achieved themselves, it truly is stifling and can take a toll on you.
I feel you, one of the reasons I never pressure my kids to do well academically. I have been there and done that, it makes me feel like i am worthless and wasting family money and parental love is conditional on achieving great things in life
Everyone here must be from the same the boat, we're the children of 1st generation Asian immigrants living in a western country. I was born in Australia, from refugee parents who fled Vietnam, the suffering they went through to get their happiness reflects on the high standards and expectations they put on me. It's like they want us to have a better life and not have to go through what they did by having a higher education, better status, more money but they don't know the cost to get there. I've gone through all of that. As long as old traditions and mental health stigmatism exists, they're not going to change. Happiness isn't always measured through success, not everyone got to grow up in a healthy environment, our parents never got to experience that kind of life style and so their mindset is stuck to the past and trauma (war, boat people, detention camps, racism etc). And we, as the children are their outlets. So the ones to change had to be me. I'm fortunate to have access to therapy or else I wouldn't know how to cope anymore.
i felt this on multiple levels. it is so so SO true.
I don't think this is an American thing. It's Asian thing. I always feel pressured like this too. What you are saying is 100% relatable
Nobody is talking why young people commit suicide, we are just viewing the 1 st layer of what happened not the other chain of events
I agree. I really wished these types of videos would open up more on the possible reasons why they did it. Thought it may be selfish or too personal for me to ask ahh
Imagine killing yourself over a girl. WHAT A SIMP 🤣👌
@@feliksdzerzhinskij800 shut the fuck up
@@feliksdzerzhinskij800 dude that’s not nice
@@feliksdzerzhinskij800 shut up
The internet really works wonders. Just when I'm having suicidal thoughts again, this video got recommended to me.
Same lol
Hah same...
Same
I search for it many times of how to suicide
I remember watching this and preventing my suicidal thoughts, and right now i am having it again so i thought this will help.
The second child seemed so young... I cant imagine what would push him to do something like that it's extremely heartbreaking.
The second child was 10 years old when he passed 💔 I saw another video with his mom. Very sad 😞
The psychological torment of suicide in the mind is unbearable (theirs so much to it), because it’s demonic. But i’ll
tell you this much i learned, that out of desperation the human will try anything to stop the pain. I know this because i went through it, the day i had decided i couldn’t live like that anymore Jesus Christ stepped in and removed the panic attack and gave me peace and spoke directly to my heart. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🤍
@@YarelySilvas Depression isnt demonic. Its caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. That can be caused by mutiple things that could happen in someones life. Depression affects mutiple parts of your brain including your amygdala which controls emotions like anger, sorrow and fear. Depression also affects brain cells that produce neurotransmitters that keep you moving along. Those become altered during depression.
@@YarelySilvas you’re demonic.
@@YarelySilvas Very nice of him to not step in with all these other children that felt terribly depressed. They are dead now, why didnt he help them?
The way she touched her son's photo frame was so touching, as if she cud feel him..she wanted to hold him ,feel his body, love him ...
Lots don’t feel and understand what there going especially when they i your not my child no more I don’t need u then after then ppl tell then don’t push then to something there path they can only find what right for then if u don’t u will have this feeling that u did something Wong your whole life
@@stephenlam3536 what?
@@LeafyMelodies lkr. It's kind of hard to understand because of the spelling mistakes but l get the idea
@@sindanokapatanenwa.4241 same whatever they're saying they're probably saying something good
@@stephenlam3536 this makes me lose braincells and im not gonna read that again.
Our parents are the people who claim they will build our layers up, but are the same people who’d rip our layers off until we’re nothing. Medication shouldn’t be the thing keeping me together, it should be my mother. It’s a loop.
You ok?
I'm so sorry, there are people who love you, and please, don't give up because your mother is a bad person, be brave and tell yourself "i can do it, i WILL do it". Don't hold yourself back, anything is possible as long as you try, you can achieve your dreams and goals in life, as long as you try hard. But, please seek a therapist and just try to make yourself feel better as much as you can! Please, don't lose your life to a bad person that happened to be your mother!
Seek help, tell someone you can trust and if it reaches that point then please call the suicide hotline! You'll get though this virtual hugs and love ❤❤
im sorry to hear that. please dont give up and even if we dont know each other, you have my support and ill be cheering for you.
Hey, don’t know if you believe in God, or in my religion, Jehovah, suicide is a way of harming life, which I believe he has created, but whether you believe God exist or not, you are harming a very precious creation that has been made. It deeply saddens and if you really cared about your parents and the people you know, you really shouldn’t attempt it! It really deeply effects the people around you after you have committed it. I know it can be hard, and if they don’t realize it, maybe it’s because they don’t see it. If it’s getting to this point, YOU need to be the one that makes the effort to talk to them. Now, I can’t really say much because I only have my mom, but I know I can do it, so I hope you can too.
"We are the first line of Defence for our children."
Some kids become the first line of Defence themselves. Afterwards, either they grow up stronger or wither away..
this needs to have more likes... so many languages yet you chose to speak facts
"Suiside doesn't end the pain, it just passes it on to someone else."
I try my best to remind me this.. I hope u are too..
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@@youtubeaccount1441 bro whats with your cringe toxicity, if ur here to spread hate, dont it here cb
@@idontknowgezvic its called honesty, but I get it. Your mind is so weak that you have to say that I am being toxic as a coping mechanism for you to not face the truth lol
@@youtubeaccount1441 so? Just because you say its "its the truth"doesnt give you the right to talk shit
@@idontknowgezvic I absolutely have the right to. They posted a comment in a public comment section, they should expect criticism
I feel most parents don't realize that they are the reason I'm depressed and attempt suicide.
"Edit: My advice for anyone reading this is to tell someone you trust how you really feel. It's the toughest decision that I haven't had the courage to make, but if there is any strength left in you, you might as well try. Good luck, only you can make it better. My motivation for me to live is to help my brother not grow up and go through the same trauma my parents put me through. It's sad because I see myself in him all the time.
Im thinking of doing it
I do understand that there are parents who are not perfect and unaware. I know it's tough for some of you but please don't ever give up and there is hope.
Parents give all of their love to children, and drowning them till they choose kill themself to resease the pain.
@@Korogiri_Koenagi i hope that you are not serious. If you are, i strongly urge you not to and rethink about your decision. I have been through deep depression as well and suicidal thoughts are inevitable but once I decided to pull myself out and look at the world and how big and beautiful the world is, dying without having the chance to explore the world is such a waste. Do not let circumstances in life to tear you down, life is more than just whats happening around you. Be hopeful, life has it own ups and downs. There are people out there in the 3rd world country struggling to live on despite being in such a terrible country. There are people on earth that in far worst situation in life yet they are still fighting to live on because of hope. Do not lose hope my fellow friend
@@marcn5140 true that’s what I exactly think too when I am having suicidal thoughts, but you are fight my man, there is light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how king the tunnel maybe and hopefully one day the light at the end of the tunnel will shine, there are always lighter days after dark days, and dying before you experience this amazing and beautiful world is sure a waste and there are many other people living much worse but still going forward and they are still very happy
This is the main reason why I would never attempt suicide, I can't bare the thought for my parents having to go through that pain
I HATE GOD AND MY PARENTS I HOPE I FUCKING DIE
@@nukedestroyernwe9189 shouldn’t be saying that but okay
@@BabyFungus strong minds think alike lol
@@nukedestroyernwe9189 Are you delusional
@@belonn6121 yes
When she said "Give who u luv a chance to make u happy" I just fell on my knees and cried
They are so strong
You are everywhere-
@@Blxssom_Olive for real
3RD
Yes may all of them R.I.P.
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I couldn't stop crying watching this. Kinda glad my suicide attempts were not that serious. Hope I'll live to the day that I'll say "thank you for not giving up"
I hope you will never have suicidal thoughts again
@@azkiahasan4642 thank you so much! I hope if you do think about it, that you'd never think about it ever again too💙
Fear Allah as a Muslim you shouldn’t even think about it ,, all hamdulilah we have Islam the absolute happiness and truth to happiness,, no matter what happens to u as a Muslim it’s actually good thing for u and sins forgiveness,,, Islam is the absolute gift and the best blessing ever ,,,, suicide is a major sin and hell fire awaits that person ,, we seek refuge to Allah from that
@@mbekka1 I know, that's the only thing that has made me survive❤
I had a suicidal thought the day before yesterday. Life is too tough. But I am trying to give myself a second chance. I hope it would work out.
The fact that it’s called the “please stay” movements says everything. People always shame and scoff at suicide as a “choice/decision” but I can tell they genuinely hope to just express their love and emotion for those they’ve lost and those at risk
It’s so sad hearing people say you’re weak if you commit or it’s a choice.
obviously, when people commit suicide they are driven to their last whims..and it's unfortunate but ultimately it is their choice to end their lives.
@@helloisitmeurlookingfor5898 That doesn't excuse the fact that the choice is a morbid one that no sane individual would do.
@@juwanbantug5465 thats what happens when you’re depressed. you feel as if there’s only one way out of misery. as someone who used to be extremely suicidal, looking back, i didnt even want to die. i just wanted to stop feeling the way i did every day.
Juwan Bantug You're disgusting. I'm hoping I just read your comment wrong.
i can’t imagine putting my mom through that pain i literally love her so much
Its her fault you exist
@@youtubeaccount1441 i know? lmao
For a person who thinks about ending my life short already, this is one of the things that stops me from doing so
As someone who has suicidal thoughts this brought me to tears, just knowing your parents actually cared for you but they only show it after youre gone forever. This is why suicide isnt a good thing.. It doesnt end your sadness, it just passes it to someone else
@@apocalyptica119 if dat is actually happening to u call da cps or something-
@@apocalyptica119 umm.. are you okay?
@@apocalyptica119 do i need to call the cops-
Yeah, whenever I think about that, I imagine how my parents would react if one day the found me dead without a warning.
(also we have similar usernames lol)
edit: *had
? What did Legoshi said Im assuming he/she deleted the comment
A lot of the times the parents have a hand in pushing the kid towards that end.
yup :(
High expectations and constant comparisons. I detest both.
Sometimes true... but I also argue ... sometimes it could be completely coming from undigested cultural and historical trauma that passed through epigenetically which parents are often not equipped in dealing with it... because cultural, historical, inherited trauma are still very new scientific fields (although made logical sense) that even the top experts are exploring.
We can only hope us as human beings can grow bigger capacity to hold spaces for one another without judgment when people talk about why they’re suicidal rather than invalidating/shaming them. Until we can do that, suicide rate cannot drop.
We don't know they are dead and can't comeback to tell us
The parents in this video seem like great parents tho
As a son/child who suffers with suicidal thoughts and s/h. This is a message for parents.
When you take a look at our grades,and notice the F's and D's not the A's or B's, nor the C's
Your first thought might be to discipline your child. But what you dont see is how much that affects them. Do you know the struggle? You may say you do. But do you really know it? Do you know how long we stay in bed too tired to get up,even if we had enough sleep. Do you know how tired we are to have motivation to do homework,when we dont even have motivation to live.
The reason I'm talking about school, is because that's all the parents pay attention to. "Have you done your homework? Go do your homework. What are your grades? Let me see your grades. F's? Are you serious? Go and do your homework. Those f's and d's better be a's and b's."
"what ever is keeping you from doing your homework, stop doing that"
I hope you know you're practicing telling us to stop trying to find a will to live. A lot of us are more focused on trying to find a reason to live,which is why we barely do hw or attend school. We're just kids. You treat us like nothing and your petty little excuses are just "I'm giving you tough skin"
WE ARE CHILDREN. We dont have to have tough skin, we need to live our lives!
Instead of yelling at your child and telling them "I had it worse,suck it up" you should help them. We'll be the ones saying "suck it up" after we're dead even if you cant hear it. We'll be the ones laughing and screaming at you when you're at our funeral crying saying "i should've payed more attention I should've been there"
YOU HAVE THE CHANCE. EVERY DAY. EVERY HOUR. EVER DAMN MINUTE.
I am sick and tired of you all telling us to suck it up when we're bawling our eyes out begging for you to be a better parent. Sure you had it worse. Suck.it.up. oh your mom and dad hit you? Suck it up.
Stop telling us to suck it up. One day those will be the last words you tell us before we're 6 ft under. Parents. Please try to be there for your kids. Dont yell at them. Dont hit them. Dont gaslight them
Dont guilt trip them
Dont make them cry. Try to make them happy and help them live a better life before it's too late
Everyday I tell myself, I cannot do this to my parents. And I stay alive a little longer
I think schools should have mandatory therapy sessions for students every once in a while. I was a troubled kid, but I was too afraid to approach a counsellor because I worried my friends would judge me if I went to seek help, but if the counselling was mandatory for everyone I wouldn't feel so alone
Oh hell nah
This is probably a nice idea.
@Bread Neo oh. That's true tho.
@Bread Neo damn I think you're right
Oh yeah. School. No parents know what does it *really really* feels like
the second woman , she's actually quite well informed about depression considering she's asian.
lots of asian parents like to deny depression being an illness and usually would either deny their child having it , or they'll tell their child that they're "having a phase" , mine included.
so im actually quite surprised to see her talk very thoroughly about what causes / happens in depression , its a nice thing to see
this is so true
They will say, its all in ur head 🙂🙂
Or “you’re spending too much time watching videos”
@Ivanka Cerqueira ohh that explains it , so sadly , i was right.
this isnt a parent being serious about mental health n concerned for their child despite not having it , just , someone who already knows of it.
not that its bad , just , i thought it was a parent who didnt have it but still believes its real , yknow ??
They will say “you’re just sad” damn ppl ive been depressed for 6 years and self harm for 6 years now.
I to lost my only child 4 years ago. He died alone which breaks my heart. I couldn't have asked for a better son, he was a wonderful human being. 4 years on and I still cannot believe I'll never see him again. Love you Adam. Life is very much over for his Dad & I.
Is it impossible to move on?
I actually love it when parents lose their kids to suicide because its the best punishment any child can give to their parents...
NO it is not, if the parents are abusive or created a dysfunctional environment then the best thing is to quiet plot a day when you aggressively expose them in PUBLIC like at a grand family dinner then leave them and never talk to them again (obviously have your things ready to go fast ).
As a daughter, I just want my parent to understand my difficulties and hardships that I’m going through without criticisms like “If you this or that, your life would be better” or “you just overreact things.” Sometimes they mock me and say that I’m stupid not naive even though I contribute to the family by getting good grades, getting top-score student awards, and medals. I also manage myself to use less money so that they can spend for their own.
I have a lot of traumas since kids like my mother yelled at me to get off the car if I can not memorize English days (I’m Asian btw and kindergarten during that time), hit me with a stick when I did sth wrong(I can’t remember tbh), told me to killed or fought with my own sister with a kitchen knife, my father broke my things when I did not take his order immediately and etc. .
I still remember. My parents also remember that and said those stories pieced their heart. They also shared experiences as a new parents, and I have to admit that it is hard to be a parent according to their stories. But still, they criticize and mock me like I’m stupid and can not manage my life (yeah since I’m only a teen, but I have a certain level of responsibility.)
I used to think of running away from my house and live with my aunt in another city or commuting suicide. I talked to them about this and they said that it is a karma and I will go straight to hell. I used to scare, and still scare, but I do not see this as a solution to stop your kid from committing suicide. I should thank to this religious myth for making me avoid suicide at all cost.
I mean adults always say something like we yell at you because we love you. Is it true? I mean is it that complex to tell what they are thinking instead of yelling? But like it’s a method for controlling a kid somehow (idk if it works or it causes trauma.) Still, Kids are kids, and they can not take that much.
I really want to ask myself that should I thank them for being harsh so I can accomplish this much? Or I make myself to this own step?
The thing that I learn from my own experience is sometimes you don’t have to listen to everything they say. I mean if they advise you then sure if it’s a good advice. This is your life, not them. Do not lose your life because of some else makes you. Isn’t it too easy? Think about what you have been through (you can think of school, projects, sports, competition, or even small goals like drinking coffee), and you just gonna give up your life because of these people? There are more than just these people in this world, you just need the courage and conscious to stand up and walk out from that toxic place.
I hope that my story help those people (idc if someone think it’s fake bc people might see this not realistic) who feel depressed or want to end their life. Be strong because after the storm there will always be a rainbow.
P.S. I lie to myself sometimes too, so don’t worry if you also lie that you have a pretty decent life. Stay Positive!
Edit: free hug for everyone whoever come and read or have the same traumatized story.
Some of the things you mentioned happened to me |:(
@@AbsoluteFilth Free hug for you;-;
No more there's a rainbow after whatever rain I'ma just rip life's eyes out and replace them with my own take that life 🖕
I used to get hit by my father too, plus hes death glaring me right now
Did u just say that your mon tell you to kill your own sister with a kitchen knife? Or did i miss something? 😅
My brother took his own life at 25. It’s been three years, and the pain is slowly subsiding as I move on with life. But my parents are still broken. I wish my brother passed in a different way. Terminal disease, car accident,,, anything but suicide. He had big dreams and would tell me about his future plans all the time. I did not know that he was mentally unstable, though in hindsight, there were faint hints and signs. The guilt of not noticing his cry for help lives with me forever.
I'm 25 this year, I have 2 younger siblings I adore very much. I have big dreams of becoming a surgeon.
Yet suicide is lurking in my head all year long. I wish I had someone who would go out of their way to ask about me. Things that are more important than academic achievements or when am I gonna come "home"...
But in the end, if I was to take my own life, I wouldn't want my siblings to feel this guilt that you are feeling. I am sure your brother would want you to continue your life without guilt too.
@@foxsnightmare this is awful that the only thing that retains us is guilty of making the loved and cared one crying into tears ... I understand that communication is the only key to help get out of this spiral and painful thoughts , talking will help you to understand that they maybe don't only love you cause you are achieving so much that makes them proud of you , maybe they is a bond of blood , but also the time you shared, the good moments . We are maybe living a generation where things goes so fast , we don't have enough time and energy for so many things ... I am sure handling it alone won't help you to get through this , being alone make it most of the time even worse , being listened and understood is one of the first step of healing
@@foxsnightmare What a great goal/dream you have. Please don’t give in to those thoughts. Life sometimes is really hard an can take its toll. Let’s hold on it and keep going. Better days are coming for those who wait, it’s a sentence that also says that after difficulty comes ease🌟🌟 So Dont give up. Also try to change your subconscious mind through self talk self speak, write positive affirmations try doing something you like or listen to music. Some things to heal you. But definitely seek someone or something that you can hold on into, that will get you out of these thoughts. Believe me sis or brother, better days are definitely coming🌟
@@foxsnightmare i am so proud of you for standing strong!!! please remember that you are so loved and cherished and i cant wait for you to become a surgeon! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Same I lost my friend 5 years ago Too I want To forget It but it's like haunting me Everyday
See this is the only reason I’m still here, I would never ever want my guardian to feel like this..
These same parents would've been the ones pressurizing their kids to get into good unis or not being supportive of them. I don't regret that the pain passes onto people who use their children as punching bags for their anger or their ambitions.
altrough im not a parent myself, but i lost my dad when i was 5 years old due to suicide, he was 27. Today im 30 and my grandma still visits his grave and talks to him almost every day, she said the pain never went away.
im so sorry for your loss, i hope you're doing fine :)
I'm a young mother, sometimes i felt depressed and wanted to commit suicide very seriously.. But i can't stop thinking about my child.. Im so sorry for your lost and thank u for giving me strength
@@idamaya3398 it is alright to feel in that way because of too much pressure but i’m really proud that you’re sustaining yourself and taking care of your family along with other stuff. I hope that you’re also taking care of yourself, please don’t overwork yourself. Please stay safe, stay healthy and lots of love :)) **hugs**
I want to give you a tight hug.... But it's not possible. Stay strong bro, everything will be alright
This is why having children is not a 100% on my to-do list. To think I will have to make it my own problem other people's problem. And you'll be responsible somehow.
I hope you and your family are getting along better
Edit: ur gay lol
Omg! A fu$*ing Zoldyck!!! How dare you assassinate my son. I watched Hunter X Hunter so now i know how to get to your mansion .I will get my revenge!!!😂😂😂
@@lakshmithesussybaka edit was unnecessary af but ok
Same I don't wanna have children but for more reason than this lol I just wanna live alone
@@theheel209 dude
When they showed his empty room at the beginning I instantly cried. I imagined my room empty.
i had a noose on my neck just minutes ago..chatted my friends for some kind of help..now here i am seeing this..
Please get help...hopefully you are getting support from your friends. I know life can be careful, but please push through. When you feel happiness, it’s a great feeling. Feel it as many times as you can. Watch something funny, go outside, even with covid, your mental health is so important. Go online shopping for clothes, I mean what the heck. Just do what makes you happy. I’m so proud of you for talking to your friends, and getting off the noose. By just doing that, you’re already on a better path ❤️
@@belugas4life785 thank you..
So, in the first case, her son took his own life and the reason was another person (his girlfriend).
Ufffff, what a stab in the heart.
I mean, not really. You can't blame a particular person for being the reason someone k*lls themselves. Yea, that may have been the trigger but I think he had a lot of other issues as well
@Zeth Thorn You should read @Lavanga’s Studio’s comment -_-
Well, thank you for reminding me about 13 reasons why, I guess.
He was already suffering. It wasn't because of his gf.
@@lavanyajoglekar5379 you dont need to censor that. The filters are sophisticated enough that it knows to replace * with another possible letter. So if your able to censor your comment like that and it didnt get deleted, then you didnt need to censor it
I lost a friend to suicide a few years ago and I still very much cry deeply about it. Her parents never got her room cleaned after that day but then they moved. I don’t know if it was the guilt and sorrow that chased them away or if it was me and my friends leaving notes for them telling them to admit the abuse. My friend never admitted the abuse to authorities because she wanted to keep her parents, especially her father out of jail. A few weeks after losing her I also came to a realization that if I had succeed with all those times I’ve attempted, this is what my family and friends would’ve gone through.
Will always love you Sylv! I miss you more and more every day but I’m happy that you’re finally resting in peace.
Please take care of your mental health. And please be patient and understanding with each other, we are all fighting wars within ourselves.
A bit hard for me to come to that same realization when i have no friends nor family that truly cares
I can't bare the pain to losing a friend to suicide especially my best friend
I want to end the pain but I don't wanna make my best friend sad
@M W think? do you even know what comprehension is? nowhere in my comment did I said I think or implied that I thought there was abuse. the only person sick here is you for assuming.
@M W im confused- how did she bully her family
The sad thing is that the suffering of people with depression will mostly be understood only after it’s too late. I have depression myself, I am also suicidal, it’s hard when you know people knows you have depression but doesn’t have the capability to understand what you’re really going through.
I hope I can help a little:
1. Seek some professional help.
2. If that's not a option due to maybe your parents not letting you and getting mad or because of some other problem then here are some advice and reasons to live:
Even if you feel like there are people who don't care about you, don't let that conquer your mind, there will definitely always be somebody that cares for you and wants you to live whether it's on the internet or in real life or in the future. Realize that death can be a very scary thing, you can't be certain what would happen after death so you have to live your life to the fullest and die happily.
Imagine all the fun things you can do later in life! Having a family and spending time with them, having a fun job, walking outside, going to parks whenever you feel like to, Rollercoaster rides, traveling across countries, being able to make friends and etc. Life is filled of endless possibilities and when we are living let's try to fulfill all our dreams. Don't die with regret and sadness. People out here in the internet can help you, I understand you, and I will urge you to keep going as it got better for me and got better for many other people who have been through way worse. Don't suicide it isn't the only option you have and it isn't a option you should ever choose no matter what.
No,the worst thing is that all those suffering you experienced will be understood by anyone else except yourself,and no one will know it until they received the news of it
UtoMajiTenshi VIRUS [12th apostle of the twelve] worst thing for us or for the people around us?
Abraham Lincoln nothing really excites me anymore, and when something does, fate really finds a way to crumble all the motivation I have gathered. And I’m back to square one. I’m living for others, that’s why I won’t commit it, but will the time come for me to decide what’s for me? I don’t know why people call those who commit suicide as selfish, without thinking that calling a suicide victim as selfish because they’re hurt is selfishness itself.
@@ablueyoungkangaroo8729 I agree I don't people should use suicide is selfish as a excuse as it can be a result of another person's selfishness, but one things for certain suicide isn't the choice. Though maybe if I know your age I would be able to help a little more?
This really brought tears to my eyes. No sane and loving parents want to bury their child. It’s really painful seeing these mothers talked about their children that passed away from suicide. I can’t imagine how heartbroken and shocked they were when their child passed away. In this life there’s no check point where you can save and reload. We need to think things carefully and live without regret.
This Is why I dont want to have kids. The fact is that this world is so cruel to us--in more ways than one. For me to birth an innocent minded child into a world with such hate and disease, etc. scares me. I'm afraid I won't be able to protect them form the harsh reality, or give them the emotional support a child desperately needs to handle certain situations. I'm only 17 now and in my developmental years still. But I have experienced so much in my lifetime so far. I know there are good things in life, but to me it seems like the bad outweighs the good. I wish the best for these parents who are going through similar circumstances.
you right. look up antinatalism, its the only way to stop suffering.
Yes exactly
I’ve always believed that adoption is the only true ethical way to have a child. There are so many children in the system that need a home, bringing another one in by yourself in itself is kinda of messed up if you think about it
I’m not going to shame people for having their own kids of course but I will always heavily encourage adoption
As for being able to support your child, I fully understand that fear, and if you don’t think you’re ready or will ever be ready for that kind of responsibility there is no shame in just not having children at all
It’s a very interesting topic and debate overall, as depressing as it can be to think about
Yep my parent keep on telling me that i should get married and have children. Bruh i dont even like being in this world why should i make a child then let them to experience the same pain as mine 😑😑 Thats why they say, having a child is the biggest egoistic thing human did, it would be lucky if they born in a rich warm family but what if they born in some 3rd world slump village ? They didnt even asked to be born and have to be forced to survive 🙂🙂
@@martiea5787 I completely hear this, and totally agree. My mom and grandma often say stuff like "you'll make a great wife and mom" or "when you get older you can teach your kids this or show them that." Mainly due to my cooking skills 😑Society really puts standards and pressure on people to fulfill these goals because it appears like the "natural" way of living. Anything you do that's not part of those standards, you will most likely be questioned or looked down upon. Ex: This is one of the reasons why lgbtq community is looked down upon. Or, like us who don't comply with having children. There are many, many more examples other than this and it's just sad. I also agree when you said that having kids was (is) the most egotistical thing the human race does.
To anybody reading this, I’m proud of you today. No matter how much or little you did, I’m proud of you. And if things are hard right now, please believe they will get better. Trust me, I know it can be incredibly hard to believe. I myself spent so many years only feeling worse but it will happen. One day you will be surrounded by people you love who love you: friends, family, lovers etc. Whatever appeals most. You’ll be in control of your own time and be free to make your own choices and you will look back at these moments in your life and feel pride at your strength. Keep trying your best, I believe in you
Thank you
Thank you, I needed to read this
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Very thanks
thanks :(
the only thing that stops me from suicide is my family. I just can't hurt them like that.
same here , my big family (not parents) keep me alive , even though my father is authoritarian hardcore and my mother who lazy , neglecting me and foul-mouthed everyone else.
He committed suicide due to family pressure... Parents never try to understand our feelings, someday I will be in that position too and they will be in regret...
My sister committed this year sadly we couldn’t held a funeral cuz of COVID so me(youngest brother) and family did it at home...
It's a big loss. Support your parents as they supported you. Love one another and cross the life line happily when the relieving end comes to take us away.
I am so sorry 😢😭😭
my deepest condolences
Biggest condolences to you n your family🙏
im so sorry for your loss
“Words can never describe the pain of a broken soul”
My mom : " it has to be the phone thats causing this "
"lol he committed suicide only bc he lost his girlfriend what a simp" please be careful with your keyboard. it may have been more than that, there were a bunch of reasons and we wouldn't know, people wouldn't know. his mother just assumed from all possibilities she knew, maybe he had more than being heartbroken. the reason of our suicidal thoughts sometimes isn't something we would share or talk to anybody, so yeah, she prolly didn't know.
"The truth is we're all dying, the lie is we're all living."
shutttttt upppppp
@@ambr0sia282
"There will always be haters. And the more you grow the more they hate; the more they hate the more you grow."
@Meelo Da FartBender we can’t all cherish
I go to sleep every night hoping I don't wake up the next morning.
Sending you love. Don’t think bad About yourself❤️❤️
And what's your plan when you wake up each day?
Sending lots of love.
@@bantuck Most of the time I force myself out of bed to go to work.
God bless
Society can be cruel and unforgiving, I can't imagine the pain the mother feels every day
people say this all the time. but when their friends are the one in pain, they just run to the ends of earth
Sending a virtual hug to anyone that needs it. I love you. ❤
No
You dont
When a person who is battling depression, they can't feel and see love from anybody, and feel that he will always be alone no matter how much he tried. He will feel that he is not good enough, as he felt rejected from people and the world. He will feel worthless, hopeless, very very sad. He will feel he belongs to no where, there are no place for him and there are no where out of this world he feel he doesn't belongs to. He may feel that he is not a human being as he think and feel differently from any individual who don't understand him. No one can understand how a person battling depression feel, only one who is battling it knows. There are people who is supportive, and there are people who do not understand by just throwing cold water. Depression is not a choice of easily 释怀，it is because the brain may be genetically have lesser serotonin compare to people who are not depressed. Depression is a mental illness due to lack of serotonin in the brain and needed to be treated with medication such as antidepressant which increase the serotonin level in the brain. As it will help one to manage depression better. Some people will judge when they don't understand what is depression, and do not understand how a depressed person feel. I hope when people hear someone who is suffering from depression, do not think that they just seek attention, but it was their cry for help. Do not judge them even if they post their negative thoughts or suicidal thoughts on social media, sometime they are crying for help but no one can hear them. Have compassion and be there for them, and give them all the positivity you can, and constantly talk to them and make them feel that they are not alone. As talking is a good therapy for one who is depressed.
Parents being a reason to be depressed and anxious then cry in your garve
At one point I wanted to do this just to hurt them. I quickly realized that I’d be hurting myself more by hurting them.
@@MainCharles I agree. I just contemplated it.
@@letyv9071 u never do this
I thought of it... that maybe my death would cause people to actually care...
I didn't do it however, I was too much of a coward so I just didn't do my duties to take care of my body so that maybe a disease could kill me off, regret that now though multiple disease came alright none of them are fatal though, most of them cause immense pain. just a few years after I stopped being depressed.
Also the reason why I love self sacrifice in any mediums of storyline, I'd rather die than let others die. That means Atleast I did something and not just waste it.
@@animesenpai1163 No, your death wouldn’t make people happy, it will only make people feel pain and sad... They can’t do anything to make you alive again, they can’t cry to god or get angry, they can’t end their own life because of the stress and pressure after you died, it is true, that people will regret, but that doesn’t mean you can hurt yourself, the more you hurt yourself, the more people surround you feel bad and sad but can’t do anything about it, although you might think no one in this world love you or notice you, but there always will be, god always were there for you too, whether you believe in god or not, he still loves you. Remember, a lot of people regret it once they jump off the building, they can’t stop of what they are doing, they can’t shout for help, that’s why, please never ever hurt yourself. You should love yourself first before getting people to love you, there will always be nice people surround you if you try and reach for help, there won’t be anybody else able to replace you or be you, you are precious, wonderful and awesome, you are pretty no matter what. Please don’t let others judge you, stay strong, keep positive, no matter how hard your life is.. please.. keep pushing yourself until you see the exit, don’t let darkness sallows you, keep forward and don’t look back, please, keep safe and protect yourself, god bless you no matter what. :>
For those considering suicide NEVER open up to parents it will be the biggest mistake of your life.
Oh, everyone with a sense already knows that... Anyone who knows life, the world and their own parents good enough...
"Dont pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living. And specially, those who grow up without love"
- Albus Percival Wolfric Brian Dumbledore
How old was the second boy?He looks so young..May both Rest In Peace..
Judging from the look, i'm unfortunate to say he was at least 7 - 9..
11
@@junetan165 Ouch
@@user-hz3qg1kn3m Yeah, how did he even know about suicide?
@@chillysubbie1407 there are ways children can find out about things we wouldn't know they would do, it's quite sad and heartbraking once you put it into thought..
I used to think about suicide when I was a teenager, but then i could not commit it cuz I don't want my parents to live with pain for their entire life. They brought me to the world they give me love ofc if I can't live for myself at least I stay alive for them.
I wouldnt think like that but its your choice
I think like that too
I would live for my family, friends etc.
Yeah
You know suicide doesn't get rid of your pain it pass them to someone else.
@@youtubeaccount1441 I don't think u get what she said. When we die ofc we don't feel anything anymore, but to ppl who really care about us they will feel the pain and live with those memories till the day they die.
@@jisoostea6677 they keep us alive, tbh
my mom is the reason im still alive, i cant do it to her
If the parents didn't give the kid so much stress he wouldn't be dead and he would still be alive...
I know how you feel.😢 I
suffer from depression as well and I am trying to fight it because I don’t want my family to suffer like you do and I am really sorry for your lost. I’m just letting you know that he will always love you no matter what.💕😭
"Hang in there bro" ( ¬‿¬)
Same
I hope you get help and you are open with your family. Please do not fight this battle on your own. I’m praying for you.
@@ntombenhlelanga7174 Thank you for this nice comment. That makes me feel better.☺️
@@aquam777 we are together on that I have been fighting for 9 years now and I still suffer alot but I won't end my life
I am 30 years old man. Thinking of suicide everyday. But I can't bcoz I love my family. I don't know how many times I can control myself.
Hi, please hang in there. You did a great job and you would thank yourself later.
I'm same i think to kill myself every single day but I'm worried about my family how they'll receive my death
Lost my daughter 23 . It’s painful .
@@neetalashbeautyspa4976 how?
@@neetalashbeautyspa4976 stay strong >3
3:02 My tears started to flow. The way she caressed the picture is..
This is making me stay. i dont want my family to go through this pain .. i wish this woman so much love ♡
“When their alive you don’t really care or think about the time you spend with them but when they are gone you wish you had spent more time with them”
Truth
@Bread Neo none will last forever. Everyone is made of dust...n will turn into dust oneday. Cherish the ones u hv.
@Bread Neo I already lost 2 of my favorite youtuber
That’s why we have to spend time in our love ones everyday. Because we don’t know when their going away.
I applaud them for sharing their stories publicly. Asian parents (based on my personal experience at least ) don’t ever acknowledge depression. Speaking up your struggle is seen as weakness. They would rather have filthy rich successful depressed kids with big titles after their name than happy well adjusted kids
crazy how our parents/families are one of the main reasons why we have mental illnesses.
"Suicide doesn't end the pain, it passes it to someone else."
Dumb
@@youtubeaccount1441 stfu
@@MrJhthang pathetic, you dont even have any valid points so you felt the need to type something stupid
@@MrJhthang "StFu"
@@youtubeaccount1441 Pathetic, you don't even have any valid points so you felt the need to type something stupid
I have heard people saying to depressed people: stop being sad
The level of ignorance is just OUT OF THE WORLD
Oh my god, what an idea, why didn't I think of that.
Ah yes if u dead just be alive
Have never used the chinese words 节哀顺变 after my mum death 17 years ago. One can never feel the " " from another's loss. Comforting words are no longer required to remind them of the loss, except the miracle of bringing the lost souls back to exchange their last good byes.😭😭😭
thats me next. i dont
think my parents care
about me anyways.
they just pretend to care
but never take action.
Your parents might not care, but I care for you because I know how you feel and I am going through same thing as you.
Sweetheart, they do care. Parents get so caught up in their own lives they forget how precious their children are. I know. My son killed himself last March and I was three weeks from graduating with a Master's in teaching so I was all wrapped up in my own life. I promise you if he had given me an indication that he was considering suicide I would have dropped every damn thing in my life to stop it. Let them know how you feel...please, for God's..and their sakes..i never want another parent to feel the pain i endure everyday because i was too focused on making straight A's and making something of my wretched life to know my son was hurting. Bozarre as it was, the day he did it I called him(he lived wit
h his dad because i was messed up for a long time but had finally straightened out my life and was making something of myself he could be proud of...none of which matters at all now) and he did not answer...he was already gone. Ten minutes after I made the call his dad showed up at my house and told me my son was gone. My life will never be whole again and my heart is broken forever. I would join him if I could but I have a daughter who is 7 so I make it through one more day for her. Please, please, please....try to do the same. It will get better...they do care regardless of how it seems...there is no pain greater than losing a child, especially when you feel its your fault for not knowing. Take care of yourself, and if you ever, and i mean EVER need someone to talk you down, I will be here and will stay up all night to make sure you do, too.
Your mom cared to keep you in her stomach for 9 months, go through labor, educate you, provide you with shelter. Maybe you have this block in your mind to think they don't care enough. Trust me they do, way more than any of your friends or anyone. Let's assume they don't which is definitely not the case but you do care about them right? And would never want them to go through what these moms did. Please know they do care, on the days of all your occasions they will be happiest, even more than you probably and when they see you cry, their hearts will melt. Trust me they love you and care about you, please grow out of your silly notion.
I tell my parents that love is not just putting food on the table, putting clothes on my back, having a roof over my head and giving me money when I needed it. They insist it is, and I explain it is not. 5 languages of love plays.. but they never listen. This kills me everyday.
@@rakshitaramaprasad6634 The items you mentioned are obligatory and their responsibility. Children don't ask to be brought into this world. It's the parents responsibility to give the best chance of life to a child and that includes *Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.*
When you say "trust me they do" that's absolute BS. Trust is earned and parents must/need to show. Children grow up to be a product of their environment.
I'm so glad I didn't do it. It would have broken my mom. That's the only reason why I didn't do it. I wanted to commit suicide at 12. You may think its because of me being exposed to things online. I didn't have much access to the internet and I wasn't really exposed to that type of thing. But even so wanting to die at the age of 12. Is just scary to think because a child literally wanting to end their life. I'm glad I didn't do it. I'm 24 now. Going to be 25 in a week. I'm happy with my life. There's so much to experience in this life. The pain won't last forever. It does get better. Some will disagree. But that's because I had to do the self work to get better.
THANK god u doing good
@@blackpinkot4812 yeah I'm good. I'm so much happier with my life.
i cant imagine doing that to my mom and my dad, i never want them to hear that im gone.
The only reason I’m still here is because of my parents, when they’re gone I’ll soon follow
Noooo plz nooo , please know that ur parents gave u birth and this life u are the most precious person to them and think when they will pass away and see u doing the same thing how broken they will be I am sure u know how it feels like to loose the most precious person of ur life so please promise urself u will not give the same feeling to ur beautiful parents they love u we love u they will want a beautiful life and future for u even after they leave think how much it will hurt them that u won't be alive to see that so plz stop think about ur parents think about this person who cares about u and took time to tell u that and think about the gift ur parents have given u in name of life yea I know it's hard and cruel but we all are with u tons of people feeling the same let's not loose hope so that when our parents see us from above they will be proud and happy that their child is so strong and cherishes their gift so much even if u don't have anyone u wanna live for apart from ur parents plz live for me and urself I am sure ur parents will be the happiest in heaven seeing u plz don't give up we can do this I believe in u ,me and all of us 💜!!!
- from a person who wants u to live and loves u❤️
I used to say the same...well...until life got a little bit better unexpectedly. So I say hang in there a little bit more, the world won't change that much for the better...yes,but I believe it has something good in store for everyone that keeps stayin' around. So that's what I hope you'll do. Stay alive a little bit more,the way you know how...and who knows what will follow.
Please don’t give in to those thoughts. Life sometimes is really hard an can take its toll. Let’s hold on it and keep going. Better days are coming for those who wait, it’s a sentence that also says that after difficulty comes ease🌟🌟 So Dont give up. Also try to change your subconscious mind through self talk self speak, write positive affirmations try doing something you like or listen to music. Some things to heal you. But definitely seek someone or something that you can hold on into, that will get you out of these thoughts. Believe me sis or brother, better days are definitely coming🌟
EMILY, PLEASE DONT. WE LOVE YOU AND I UNDERSTAND THAT YOURE SAD BUT PLEASE... You have so much to live for, adventures, Love, friends.. please.
This taught me a different perspective of suicide. Now, I live for the fact that my mom would be devastated if I was gone.
It's ilegal to put things related to suicide in the news because this may trigger people
I don't know about your country but thats how things happens in mine
God bless
i wish my mother cared like this ):
I tried suicide one , didn't scare of death at all. But imagine my parents suffering like this day by day made me stop. It's hard to live a life u don't want to
The reason why I'm still live is for people who cared with me :(
@Bread Neo thank you for your advice :D
Hey that’s good but please don’t live for others live for yourself
To anyone reading this:
I promise everything will get better. Sending virtual hugs ❤️
Edit: do not mind the person saying suicided is ok. It is not and never will be. Please seek help if you feel worthless or suicidal. Remember that life is worth so much and don’t throw it away
@@youtubeaccount1441 Experience. When you life feels awful and you think you’ll have to cope with this and live a miserable life, remember you have potential to do great things. Choose your path, before you run out of time.
Suicide is never ok. You’re giving away something so valuable. You’re giving away potential to do great things, you could save lives, you could do anything. It’s never worth it.
@@BookishCat you have potential to win the lottery if you spend your money on lottery tickets. Does that mean you should spend money on lottery tickets?
@@BookishCat I have no obligation to have to use my potential and abilities and be a slave to society and those around me. Also, not all lives are valued and it matters if the person values their own life in most cases, not others.
@@youtubeaccount1441 That’s gambling, it’s different. I can’t control what you do, I can only give advice. This is comfort for people who need it, clearly not you though.
Don't compare your children result with other kid result..Every word must be kind.Always tell ur kid u love them whatever u become...
That's true
Our kid is our kid ,other is other
There's no need compare , because our kid have their own potential and ability
This makes me want to cry. I’m the child thinking about suicide. And I know others who think the same. This gives me a huge new perspective to this topic, thank you
🥺Hope you get better soon
My father commited suicide one year ago.
My heart goes out to all the people who stay behind, and have to go through life scarred so deeply by the tragic death of their loved ones. I feel that i will never be happy again in my life, not truly happy at least. There will always be a part of me that is scarred and in pain by the reality of my fathers choice.
Power to you, and hope you can keep on going, find adequete support, be strong, and find happiness in the gift that is life, despite the tragic moments you had to live through. May we all do...
My dad attempt suicide first and passed away not knowing what reason in 2014. Until today 2021, I still haven't overcome it. Ever since he passed away. My life just went spiral and spiral down. During 2019, I lost my grandma and uncle. That kind of grief and agony is really very terrible.. ever since I've been trying to end my life. Hope that you'll live a more meaningful life.
All fathers were boys once. Having their own childhood and growing up life experiences.
Before they were gone or still around, we as children should do up a journal or memoir of their life for the next generations and next. This should be a proud heritage as a father of handing down your duties and responsibilities, not evading or hiding from them.
As a real father, be a strong life source and a pillar of hope for the family, till your last breathe.
To anyone who's watching this? Please. PLEASE do not let someone make you feel so low about yourself, that you end up taking your own life. Ex partners, ex friends, bad family member etc It's not worth leaving your dearest loved ones in pain and life WILL get better for you.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Think of all your problems that lead to the thought of suicide.
Can't I just stop thinking about the problem and go on with my life?
It always work for me not to get sad, I may be alone but I find myself happier when no one is judging me.
@@TheAfrilazeeq I understand completely where you're coming from. Sometimes, it's better to accept the truth of certain events that have occured in your life and keep moving forward no matter what. We have a tendency of holding ourselves back from ever making peace in our own minds to the point, we end up trapping ourselves. Talk about your problems openly with loved ones, take action to solve them and more importantly, try not to over analyse the past too. It's done and it no longer exists.
And what if it's no one else? What if it's just me and my absolute lack of any redeeming quality? The fact that I have no brains? Failing college? I feel unable to do anything properly
@@razzvyberry4694 you are not alone. I am a senior in highschool, struggling to keep my grades up! I feel like giving up but I’m literally almost there. I stay motivated by thinking of my future and how I want to live. Traveling, having my dream cars (Tesla’s and gwagon- no one asked) and being happy. You have brains! You made it to college. You can do it, I know it can be hard to stay positive so I won’t tell you to. But I will tell you that I love you and I hope you can live without worry one day♥️ good luck in college. I know you can do it.
wow i started watching the first 3 seconds and i’m already crying. a mother’s pain is worse than anything in this world and i can’t help but regret the time when i felt the same way as the young people portrayed in this video who have since passed on.
Incredible this video was on my recommended. Anyone else?
I’m having bad marks at tests lately and I thought about suicide but when I saw this video I want to live again thank you for this
When I was in middle school, I felt the same way, but just keep going and things will get better
dear soul,
Suicide is not the answer for your marks..probably it means a lot to you to have things all the time in order but this is life ...unfortunately we go through good days, bad days. Life is more than a mark, a bill ecc. Life is about experiences, love(in any way you want to express it. For example : MUSIC it is and will always be my first love.) I try not to depend on people's love because they will dissapoint you when you are least expeting it. So you must be depending on yourself and not on your teachers' tests and marks...you got a bad mark? It's okay..even Einstein failed twice to get to his university. ...keep running and keep growing because life is GROWTH. 💜💜💜
Test scores don’t matter! I used to be like you and now I realise they don’t matter at all
Sucide is not the solution school will get over soon you have your whole life ahead.TEST MARKS DONT MATTER
Low marks in tests are really going to be the smallest part of your whole life. Never give up the forest for a few withered leaves
My respects for those who lost their sons and daughters.
People dont understand how much people hurt, and how much pain someone is in until there is no helping them anymore
I wanna give this two mom a tight hug. They deserve to have some peace in their heart.
there..
parents should learn,. that they don't own their child..
I hope the mother in the first case didn't blame his gf for this to happen.
Sometimes even family cannot help but worsen someone's mental health...
It sucks when you reached out to family and friends but they ignored the signs until you're dead