I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day. It’s almost impossible to go through life without experiencing some kind of failure. We can choose to see failure as “the end of the world,” or we can look at failure as the incredible learning experience that it often is. Failure stop us only if we left them. Strategies to help you get over the hump. Start redefining what failure means to you. Shade, people like you make the world a better place. You deserve a million thanks and all the hugs I can give, I’ll never be able to repay you for your kindness. We, your followers love ❤.
I am an English language student. I am barely beginning to understand you because yours espeeches, are very fluent to me because I am an english apprentice. Thank you very much, understand you in a completely way is my purpose.
Best teacher, who teaches us,how to live, how come back to our peaceful life, from any kind of depression, tension. Best Guru so call in Indian philosophy.
Wow this is true and enlightening. As a designer who experienced a lot of rejection it made me fear failure, which led me to be a perfectionist and so I procrastinate in every given project. You can also connect this as a result of being a man pleaser.
Ah you make a good point - being a people pleasure and having a strong desire (or need) for social validation can absolutely lead to fear of failure due to the ‘social rejection’ that you associate with failure. Have you found any effective ways to work through your fear of failure?
I do the same...you have put it so well..beginning every single project is associated with fear and then procrastination, I do agree...it results from people lashing back on us and we end up reciprocating that by punishing ourselves by procrastination and mental dilemma..but how do u avoid that..i mean how do u face that fear..can u share?
@@prunes794 @Shadé Zahrai Every time I’m in this state I just accept the reality that I’m stuck but there is also this reality where you really have to move forward and make progress. While I procrastinate, I do research regarding my project, because for me enough knowledge about my project boosts my confidence that I can do a good job. It’s a learning process and sometimes I still stumble on this part. Don’t be too hard on ourselves too. This helps
I have been noticed that I am afraid of fear of failure, i didn't work on atychiphobia over the time, thanks for sharing this wonderful information with us.
Thank you. Time to jump. I agree, Stephany Meyers was rejected 21 times for Twilight and even encouraged to see a psychiatrist... I imagine their reactions when they saw the success of the books and the movies.... BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!!
I learnt after 50 years of age that no matter what any relationship is, it is basically just a type of transaction between two persons. It can be physical, emotional or social but it is just a transaction between two persons. This was an eye opener for me and I am now living in totally different world and my expectations towards myself and my near or dear ones are totally different. Second thing I learnt was everything I do (Even when I get married or have kids) I do it for myself and to make me happy or make me feel better. My wife or my kids or my house.... everything is to make me feel better.
I gave a talk about this topic a few years ago and most of the people in the audience did admit that they had a Fear of Failure. But after giving them solutions to overcome that fear, they were able to turn their lives around and for the better. Sometimes people just need to listen and actually apply what they have learned from people who are trying to help them. And I hope that more people will take your advice because it can totally transform the way they live. Amazing Video Shadé! PS. Outstanding Editing👍🏻
You bring positivity to many people’s life . Failure or success depends on how you think if we always think we move forward whether we get whatever we needed sometimes what we thought at that time wasn’t not the best for you .. thank you shade you make my many days better..
Found the channel via Instagram, really motivating.. please keep us motivated. I use to hold back from things, this open up my mind, will implement this. Thanks for the video.
I have all these problems, fear of failure, perfectionist mind and a procrastinator. Since i have failed so many times and usually it back fires when i have shared my plans with friends and then they start to criticize. So i made 2 changes, first of all i never share my plans until i achieve it. And second, if i do share it, i tell them that i am trying something new to fail in. This way they will have an answer and i also get passed the fear of failure.
This is great! I’m so happy you were able to find a strategy that works for you - and I especially love how you’re embracing the possibility of failing and seeing it as a growth opportunity - more power to you! 💪
Actual pain felt after failure will be less than the anticipated pain of failure. Failure imo hurts as you somehow see that you are not good enough and the world around you makes you feel that way
So Many had Failures Rejections Dejections but came up So Successful. From Rajnikant called Thalaivar was driven out of home. Now A Millennium Super Duper Star known All over the World. Those who listen to you can come up Turning the Tables. ❤
Thank you Shadé. Fear is something I have suffered as a forex trader. I will put this tips to use, expose myself to risk so i can get more comfortable. Thanks again
I learning to be used to it. Since I’m looking for a job now, and went to hiring events, and interviews, and I don’t hear back. I feel bad that I am not able to get a job as fast as some people I know, but I got another one today, and I hope I get it.
Thank you so much for this wonderful video, it was all I needed not to feel disenchanted with my own performance which led to a failure I didn't want to face.😢
Regarding JK, I've heard similar about Thomas Edison and all the ways he learned how not to make a light bulb. But as a Potterhead, knowing we wouldn't have such an amazing franchise if she had given up, penetrates deeper!
Trying to think of an inspirational quote now. Hagrid: "You're a wizard Harry" JK: "And no one would know your story had I given up getting it published after so many rejections"
Your accent is so clear that I am in literally in love with it. I had an Australian coach in my engineering training program... I could not believe that you are Australian... I thought you are Indian😄😄
For me may 23, 1989 at 2:37pm gave me my worst taste of failure that still haunts me to this day. I was 9 yrs old trying to keep my mom from dying. I failed her, my family and myself. And my mind won't let me forget either. Every night in my dreams I watch her die. I've watched her die over 12,000 times.
You are inspirational speaker. I really notice about your presentation and way you speak. Great. I want to be in such position where I can speak up clearly with confidence.
I can relate to this and thankfully overcome, great ideas and explanations, @shadé zahrai you are helping people a lot for which we should be thankful!😊
thanks mam this side vansh oneof your biggest fan watching you since a long time i have become a more and more motivated now you charismatic look energies me the most ☺😊😇❤❤
Thank you so much Felix. My husband and I produce these videos together and it means so much when we receive positive feedback. We hope that you continue to get value from them. 😊
Am thinking of getting smart drugs because of fear of failing my second semester because I know I did not do well last semester, but I read but I do forget and sometimes when I read it doesn't go well because I find it difficult to process somethings.i still trying to save up some money before exam, because I doubt myself, even d person I have interest in is much smarter than me academically,we have no connection,am a recluse, introvert, secluse and I prefer being a taciturn,I wish I could not love 💕, like,nor crush nor even lust anyone, my wish is to be like Bruce Wayne and painkiller and be successful and alone and wealthy.loving someone makes me weak not strong.it doesn't fit me I mean love.solitude is seen as my best friend.
🎉 U are my best instructor ever ; I admire ur tireless effort with patience, " continuous dripping of H2O undeniably can brake a rocky hard emotional behaviour, would u keep it up ? It's not only work; but , it's kind of u , indeed!❤
I carry the attitude of gratitude with me every day. It’s almost impossible to go through life without experiencing some kind of failure. We can choose to see failure as “the end of the world,” or we can look at failure as the incredible learning experience that it often is. Failure stop us only if we left them. Strategies to help you get over the hump. Start redefining what failure means to you. Shade, people like you make the world a better place. You deserve a million thanks and all the hugs I can give, I’ll never be able to repay you for your kindness. We, your followers love ❤.
I am an English language student. I am barely beginning to understand you because yours espeeches, are very fluent to me because I am an english apprentice. Thank you very much, understand you in a completely way is my purpose.
Hey you back again with fresh energy , you're always inspiring👍👍👍👍👍
Thanks! It’s good to be back - with energy! 😛
@@ShadeZahrai yeah.. After all your life your rules 😅😅
Shade zahrai, dear please tell where are you? Where do you live?
@@ShadeZahrai please make more video on this topic
More energy is required to speak continously and to dance.
I have recently started watching your talks . I found you highly informative and inspiring . thank you for your hard work and your intent .
Best teacher, who teaches us,how to live, how come back to our peaceful life, from any kind of depression, tension. Best Guru so call in Indian philosophy.
Wow this is true and enlightening. As a designer who experienced a lot of rejection it made me fear failure, which led me to be a perfectionist and so I procrastinate in every given project. You can also connect this as a result of being a man pleaser.
Ah you make a good point - being a people pleasure and having a strong desire (or need) for social validation can absolutely lead to fear of failure due to the ‘social rejection’ that you associate with failure. Have you found any effective ways to work through your fear of failure?
I do the same...you have put it so well..beginning every single project is associated with fear and then procrastination, I do agree...it results from people lashing back on us and we end up reciprocating that by punishing ourselves by procrastination and mental dilemma..but how do u avoid that..i mean how do u face that fear..can u share?
@@prunes794 @Shadé Zahrai
Every time I’m in this state I just accept the reality that I’m stuck but there is also this reality where you really have to move forward and make progress. While I procrastinate, I do research regarding my project, because for me enough knowledge about my project boosts my confidence that I can do a good job. It’s a learning process and sometimes I still stumble on this part. Don’t be too hard on ourselves too. This helps
I have been noticed that I am afraid of fear of failure, i didn't work on atychiphobia over the time, thanks for sharing this wonderful information with us.
As I'm watching, I feel a lot better about myself. I hope to actually take actions. Thank you!
What a powerful video this is, full of knowledge and facts . Beautifully compressed in 9 mins. Great 👍
Thank you. Time to jump. I agree, Stephany Meyers was rejected 21 times for Twilight and even encouraged to see a psychiatrist... I imagine their reactions when they saw the success of the books and the movies.... BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!!!
I learnt after 50 years of age that no matter what any relationship is, it is basically just a type of transaction between two persons. It can be physical, emotional or social but it is just a transaction between two persons. This was an eye opener for me and I am now living in totally different world and my expectations towards myself and my near or dear ones are totally different. Second thing I learnt was everything I do (Even when I get married or have kids) I do it for myself and to make me happy or make me feel better. My wife or my kids or my house.... everything is to make me feel better.
Really worthy points for us to avoid fear in communications.
You are conveying things with extreme clarity. Impressive. Also, contents are well arranged.
Inspiring
We suffer a lot more in our thoughts than we do for real..
I gave a talk about this topic a few years ago and most of the people in the audience did admit that they had a Fear of Failure.
But after giving them solutions to overcome that fear, they were able to turn their lives around and for the better.
Sometimes people just need to listen and actually apply what they have learned from people who are trying to help them.
And I hope that more people will take your
advice because it can totally transform the way they live.
Amazing Video Shadé!
PS.
Outstanding Editing👍🏻
I think people follow rules but legends follow principles. There is no such thing as FAILURE.
You bring positivity to many people’s life . Failure or success depends on how you think if we always think we move forward whether we get whatever we needed sometimes what we thought at that time wasn’t not the best for you ..
thank you shade you make my many days better..
Found the channel via Instagram, really motivating.. please keep us motivated.
I use to hold back from things, this open up my mind, will implement this.
Thanks for the video.
You're welcome! Thank you for making time to watch and so glad that this content is empowering you. 😊
@@ShadeZahrai Hi! I am learning a lot from your videos, please do make this kind of contents.
Im so happy that i found you❤
Trust me you are the best.. I love the way you present things. It really helped me. Thank you and God bless
You are so charismatic and your voice has quite an affect. 🥳
I have all these problems, fear of failure, perfectionist mind and a procrastinator. Since i have failed so many times and usually it back fires when i have shared my plans with friends and then they start to criticize. So i made 2 changes, first of all i never share my plans until i achieve it. And second, if i do share it, i tell them that i am trying something new to fail in. This way they will have an answer and i also get passed the fear of failure.
This is great! I’m so happy you were able to find a strategy that works for you - and I especially love how you’re embracing the possibility of failing and seeing it as a growth opportunity - more power to you! 💪
@@ShadeZahrai thank you for all the great and helpful content you always provide 😊
Thoughts are not facts, yet we treat them as though they are!!!!! Impact full
All of your videos are highly relatable to my conditions. They really help to understand the issue clearly and solve it. Thank you!
Actual pain felt after failure will be less than the anticipated pain of failure. Failure imo hurts as you somehow see that you are not good enough and the world around you makes you feel that way
I wish i was as confident as you when speaking....
This sentence which you said is incorrect bcz this is conditional sentence so was replaced by were
It is amazing to see your videos and informations are backed by research findings instead of just " so called facts"
So Many had Failures Rejections Dejections but came up So Successful. From Rajnikant called
Thalaivar was driven out of home.
Now A Millennium Super Duper
Star known All over the World.
Those who listen to you can come up Turning the Tables. ❤
You are one of a kind...çok guzel🧿
Thank you Shadé. Fear is something I have suffered as a forex trader. I will put this tips to use, expose myself to risk so i can get more comfortable. Thanks again
One of the Bestest channel..She is really helping me a lot.. Thank you so much for all of your work...❤️
thanks you so much for this powerful video,receive my regreet from mexico, hasta luego baby !!!!!
Just discovered your channel .thank you so much for this great video .with love . New follower from Morocco
Nice and simple explanations. 10 points.
I learning to be used to it. Since I’m looking for a job now, and went to hiring events, and interviews, and I don’t hear back. I feel bad that I am not able to get a job as fast as some people I know, but I got another one today, and I hope I get it.
I love your lecture too much.
Very well researched inspiring content delivered with finesse. Good Work Ms. Shade. Mindfulness is the key to make the shift.
Failures is the mother of success!
Thank you so much for this wonderful video, it was all I needed not to feel disenchanted with my own performance which led to a failure I didn't want to face.😢
wow.... you have the Power of influencing, Acceptance... this is the first time i feel im learning new skills without feeling bored..
Regarding JK, I've heard similar about Thomas Edison and all the ways he learned how not to make a light bulb. But as a Potterhead, knowing we wouldn't have such an amazing franchise if she had given up, penetrates deeper!
Trying to think of an inspirational quote now.
Hagrid: "You're a wizard Harry"
JK: "And no one would know your story had I given up getting it published after so many rejections"
Am a psychiatrist and recommend ur channel to my patients
Thank you Ravi! We're glad that this content can be of service to your patients in some small way. 🙏🏽😊
"Failure is an inevitable part of success". Beautifully said.
Amazing source of information Liked ur videos..
Your accent is so clear that I am in literally in love with it.
I had an Australian coach in my engineering training program... I could not believe that you are Australian... I thought you are Indian😄😄
Our intuition guides in one direction only, it's okay to be flamboyant I do, but I take my work first....
Just like an enlightened woman! Thanks a lot ♥️🙏🏻
Thanks for all advice that you gave😊😊
This is so well explained!!!!! 🌟
Glad you think so!
Hi shade
Now i seen your vedios i am impressed great way of explanation
For me may 23, 1989 at 2:37pm gave me my worst taste of failure that still haunts me to this day.
I was 9 yrs old trying to keep my mom from dying. I failed her, my family and myself.
And my mind won't let me forget either. Every night in my dreams I watch her die. I've watched her die over 12,000 times.
“Thoughts are not fact”
Thanks a lot Shade...loved the video 🤘🏼
You’re so charismatic
Thank you! I hope you found value in the video 🙂
@@ShadeZahrai definitely, you spread the right message! I’ve always found failure and success just sides of the same coin!
I am amazed with your psychological tricks in videos.
Just "woooow"
Hi Hrai. Thank's alot.This content is the true value of a Femme leadership of our time.!🎉❤
The subs growing up so fast! 😉
She deserves that !
You are inspirational speaker. I really notice about your presentation and way you speak. Great. I want to be in such position where I can speak up clearly with confidence.
I think mindfulness is the key for this♥️
Thanks Shade!!!
Thanks for your all the video it's really helpful developed myself thanks 💝
I can relate to this and thankfully overcome, great ideas and explanations, @shadé zahrai you are helping people a lot for which we should be thankful!😊
Great content. I needed it. Thank you
Wow such a fab accent you have. I love to pronounce the way you do❤️
thanks mam this side vansh oneof your biggest fan watching you since a long time i have become a more and more motivated now you charismatic look energies me the most ☺😊😇❤❤
Great video!! This couples in really nicely with a growth mindset!
Hi Shade,
An interesting and informative video. I appreciate your efforts.
Thank you,
You bring good energy !! Thanks.
You are so welcome
Hi Shade Zahrai mam you are furnishing really fabulous content to solve the problems of people
Just discovered this channel, brilliant videos, really helpful, thnx a lot for such gr8 content ❤️🙏
Glad you like them! 🙏🏽😊
Thanks Amartya for introducing me to her channel. Exquisite content, Shadé! 😊
Insightful piece.
Your videos helps a lot
Wonderful and powerful
thankyouuu so much for this 🥰
U deserve more subscribers.. u r awesome ❤
Thank you so much 😀
@@ShadeZahrai 😊❤
This is a really beautiful episode.
Loved it, thank you
Thank you! Very helpful advice. I am going to take action!
You have such an amazing voice 😍
Your talks are well researched.. well organised and focused... so many benefit from your hard work... Thank you
Thank you so much Felix. My husband and I produce these videos together and it means so much when we receive positive feedback. We hope that you continue to get value from them. 😊
Am thinking of getting smart drugs because of fear of failing my second semester because I know I did not do well last semester, but I read but I do forget and sometimes when I read it doesn't go well because I find it difficult to process somethings.i still trying to save up some money before exam, because I doubt myself, even d person I have interest in is much smarter than me academically,we have no connection,am a recluse, introvert, secluse and I prefer being a taciturn,I wish I could not love 💕, like,nor crush nor even lust anyone, my wish is to be like Bruce Wayne and painkiller and be successful and alone and wealthy.loving someone makes me weak not strong.it doesn't fit me I mean love.solitude is seen as my best friend.
Inspiring video
🎉 U are my best instructor ever ; I admire ur tireless effort with patience, " continuous dripping of H2O undeniably can brake a rocky hard emotional behaviour, would u keep it up ? It's not only work; but , it's kind of u , indeed!❤
Amazing As usual ♥️♥️
I just hope I can change the narrative playing in my mind..this was really informative..thanks
Little by little. Day by day. Just plan daily action that help you and be deliberately consistent. 💪🏼
@@ShadeZahrai 💯👏👏
i liked your content 👍🏼❤️
New sub here, really you're the one I was looking for i am at start and want same guidence tysm for bringing this out.. ✨💫
Well done!
Worth listening.
That helped me motivate myself👍👍👍
Thnxs
Really superb
Very beneficial. Thanks
Can you make a video on working with ADHD? And does CBT help get reduce of ADD completely?
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Vielen Dank für gute Info 👍❤️❤️❤️
You always inspiring me with your great ideas and refreshing thoughts👌👌👌👌👍👍
Keep going💪💪💪💪💪
You voice is too gooood!
You nailed it. You the best!
As always, your topics are very useful
Hey your words are making me to stay positive... Thank you and continue the same❤