@@jonmacdonald2193 yes I didn't mean for it to come across as "don't do anything" just that these pressures society and our peers put on us often are not in our best interests, even if they have good intentions
@@jonmacdonald2193 no, actually even what you chose yesterday doesn't fall into this category. You are not the same person you were yesterday. Don't hold yourself up to the same standards. "just be in the moment bro"
"Ask yourself how much of you making people proud drives what you do" that really hit home for me, especially if you feel indebted to them so you want to make them proud even more
Yes that’s quite a burden too as pressure mounting , perfectionist nature, and you also become a people pleaser and neglect everything about yourself...
I literally just got off the call with my sister and best friend saying the same thing. Funny how this channel gives the video right when I need them the most
I don't give a f about life purpose. My best years of youth are passing by and everything is grey. I don't have the motivation to do anything. I feel just isolated. Sometimes I can relate to how life feels like for other people. And than it makes me even more sad knowing how much I miss.
You live the life you create for yourself, you are what you do If you do nothing, you'll feel that way. If you do something good, you'll feel good, you're just not living right. And it also takes momentum.
The good news is that's not normal. You can have a life you enjoy. I don't know if that means you have to change foe the world, the world has to change for you (it's probably both) but it's possible for life to be worth celebrating
@@relaxative2006So if I hit you with my truck, and you end up paralyzed from the neck down for the rest of your life, then that's your own fault as well as any sadness you feel as a result? Good to know. I'll tell the judge that's how you feel.
Months ago i'm worried about my past, but now i'm worried about my future, life is just full of worrying and anxiety lately that it just sucks sometimes
Has the pandemic made it so bad ? You’re def not alone, can you do something to manage your anxiety like exercise? As you don’t say whether it’s Social anxiety or just on edge . My Son unfortunately has my depression and anxiety gene , I pay , lockdown is over , for him to have neck/head massage once a week , helps with anxiety and stress. If you get down rather than anxiety see your doctor in case it’s depression. Life is full of worries, especially if you are a deep thinker, but if you are low they feel too overwhelming. Once you get some natural endorphins and some help , then a plan to improve things, you can mend some of the thoughts in your head .
It's funny, I was in almost this exact same scenario up until relatively recently. I am currently on my final semester of graduate school. I'm getting a masters of science in information technology. I hated what I was doing for a long time. It was so tough to imagine myself doing IT work because I felt as though I had to to get a job to support myself, it wasn't because I wanted to. I almost dropped out, but in that moment, I gave it a ton of thought, what would I earn for myself if I kept going? Where would I be if I dropped out? Ultimately what I decided was that what I was doing had value. I forced myself to think about it from the perspective of what opportunities would be open to me if I kept going, and how can I use this degree to help people. Now that I'm finishing up my degree, opportunities for work have been getting presented to me almost daily. For the first time in my life I feel like I have the ability to choose what I want to do and where I want to go. If you're the one that asked this question and you're reading this, please give it a lot of thought and consideration, because you can do a lot with a masters, more than you might realize.
@@Koroar hey man, it's never too late. Another great thing a lot of my friends and my brother did was go into the military. It sounds scary but they're all in really great places with amazing benefits for only 4 years of hardship. Even if that doesn't work for you, I truly believe that you can come back from anything with hard work and a positive attitude. Sounds cliche, but I believe it's true.
I needed this more than ever right now dr k, thank you, I’ve been searching for something to give me back my motivation for the past 3 months and I think your inspirational words just sparked something in me
This was a really important perspective to hear. I’m about to start my PhD this fall, and know that pain and suffering throughout the process is inescapable. That’s honestly terrifying to know that going in. But I know that research and science are such meaningful ways that I can contribute my intense dorkiness for the greater good, and the expertise developed during grad school is irreplaceable. Still scared, but here I go...
I think it’s an important to also consider if you’re suffering because of the external hardship or if you’re suffering because something internally is telling you that you need to be on a different path.
I’ve been emotionally isolated for so long and I’ve lost touch with what feelings are, I’ve become so numb to emotions and honestly I don’t want to feel them because of the situation I’m in, I don’t actually want to feel emotions right now because i know if I learn to feel good again I have to learn how to feel bad also, I’m constantly in pain and being numb is a coping mechanism, and intill I get into a better situation I’m not going to try to feel emotions
I was recently struggling with a similar decision myself. I had switched from a course-based master's into a thesis-based one, and for 8 months all of the happiness and positivity I'd previously been experiencing disappeared. It took me a long time to look within myself and acknowledge that "I just don't like this" is a good enough reason to stop if I will be able to succeed later on in life either way. I finally switched out of the thesis and I'm feeling much better already
The key for me was that I was still going to get a master's degree. My undergrad degree was very difficult too, but I suffered through it because I knew I needed it
I appreciate how short, direct, and honest this was. I think a lot of clinicians and providers almost act as if they are PR or marketing staff, and over focus on presenting information to their patients in the most pleasing and consumable way. This can be problematic if truth and facts get omitted or become unclear in the process.
Really reminded me of some Jordan peterson advice that went along the lines of: just because you're a bit miserable if your end goal is what you really want to accomplish you should still try to pursue it. Being happy and only having the goal of happiness is not the only thing that makes life worth living.
gosh this is exactly the advice I need to hear right now! have been feeling stuck in a job that is not technically bad (in fact it is great in many aspects), but I am just not feeling right about it and suffering quite a lot in it. wonderful to hear this and gonna reflect on this for the rest of the workday lol
This really puts into perspective of what you want to do. Your spark is it? Wait is this a sacrifice that's worth it? That's really something to think upon and reflect going through life and your decisions and actions. Because we have one life and there are things we question but putting the question is it worth it makes you focus and remind yourself again of the why you chose to do it. Thank you Dr. K
I though it was the default that graduate students did not want to be a graduate student because many things can suck, whether it’s the workload or the culture.
„Is it really worth it?“ That’s damn good ass question, to ask. Now I’m Gonna ask more often this question, to me. Thank you very much, for this content🙏🏼❤️
How would one address being tired of being alive, not because you're suffering but just as if you've had enough of it (like wanting to go home after a night out)? Or what about feeling like you wish you hadn't been born because now that you're alive you'll have to experience death one day?
Honestly reading the comments on this video is half of the best content on this page, I love you all and keep going on the journey of self improvement.
This is how I think about my undergrad and potential graduate program. I may not enjoy it all the time but it is so worth it for me to be able to gain more knowledge, gain skills, and honestly just earn that credential to set me up for a better life. School has actively made me feel terrible at times but it is so worth it now at the end of my undergrad. I pushed through so I could be where I am now and I can feel the light at the end of the tunnel.
i think 90 % of people won't agree with me but try and stop playing video games for more than 30mins it made a huge different in my daily life. and also take small walks everyday
I never enjoyed life and im just waiting, i am taking everything im ignoring everyone because i just can't stay with others. Evey person i know hates me or is annoyed by be or uses me for his own fun, im just gonna stay here and wait untill i die because im forsed there is nothing i can do.
Hey Doc no clue if you run this account, but I really hope you or someone in your foundation can reach out to Mitch Jones. He was on Miz’s stream yesterday and genuinely was asking for help with this subject. It is not my place to advocate therapy for anyone let alone a stranger but, he means a lot to the community and he was heartbroken when Byron passed away; I don’t want that pain to play out again.
I’m unsure about what’s going on with Mitch Jones, but if he’s been wrecked by Reckful’s suicide, he needs a therapist. Not Dr. K, who will personally tell you that his stream is not a replacement for mental therapy. Not Mizkif. He needs a therapist.
Sorry to hear Mitch is struggling. Everyone needs at least one good session of therapy IMO. I agree with Aravind though that he needs his on dedicated therapist to best serve and help him with what he is currently struggling with. I really hope he get's better since he seems like a great guy.
i was speaking about that with my gf about 20 minutes ago and then i found out that you talked about this few hours ago. Thank you, it really helped me
Surprised how relevant this is for me. Currently going to drop out of a PhD program with a Masters because of a lot of reasons, but the main one is that it's not worth it for my goals.
I wouldn't even start to describe how pathetic and Hopeless my situation is. These people complains with all sorts of money, diplomas, degrees and Actual present Parents... lol I wish i had the same problem...
same thing, trapped in substance-alcohol-porn-videogame addictions. suffering from ptsd from sexual/physical/emotional abuse and psychotic disorder so i cant even EVER get to the same level as these normal non neurodivergent people that complain all the time. euthanasia should be unconditional smh
The way things are won't last forever. They also won't go back to the way they were before, but that just means you'll get to see something new you've never seen before. Keep searching and you'll find your purpose.
@@andrewkelley9405 A few years ago I was in about as dark a place as you could be. I didn't believe it would ever get better and the only thing that kept me going was not wanting to cause pain to the people who cared about me. And then one day about a year ago I went to bed and realized that I had actually been smiling so much my face hurt and for the first time in years I believed that I might actually be ok someday. It certainly hasn't been sunshine and rainbows since then, I still have bad days, but I've gotten to the point where the good generally outweighs the bad. It won't be easy, the easy thing to do is give up. But if you keep fighting and pushing, even if it's the bare minimum, you'll be ok eventually.
I don't know your situation Andrew, but exercise has really helped me through some dark times. It releases endorphins (feel good chemicals) in the brain. The more depression we have, the more we should exercise. Can't hurt to try.
@@ScorpionF1RE_USA Oh yea, and that helps sometimes. It's only temporary though. I may have Anhedonia; or I could have just lost my mind in the last year and a half. Who knows.
I’ve never had any form of a goal or dream. I can’t even figure out how to eat every day let alone figure out what this wasted 8 hours a day should be going towards.
HI, Dr. K. I am pretty much perfect, and I'm surrounded by supportive people. My life is great, and it seems it's going to get even better, and I will achieve many great things and live well and... 😒😒😒
Life is sooo boring. I just can't see anything positive about it. It's just existence that will come to an end at some point. What's the point to even try??. Get money or fame? U will be forgotten anyways.
I started studying electrical engineering last year but within a month a realised that I don’t give a fuck about learning this stuff. I felt like i was wasting my time learning fucking formulas. I just did less and less until I stopped completely. It’s very difficult what way to choose because I’m interested in many things but I don’t want to wake up one day and realise that I wasted my life. Every option seems shit.
I feel a like a rubber band that has been stretched to its maximum, and the only methods of relieving the tension involve stretching the band even more. I don’t have wiggle room.
My ""friend"" who is an avid watcher of Doctor K has broken my trust and divulged personal information to strangers, emotionally abused me for months, calmly listened to my father beat me and scream at me in a call, discarded me after baiting me and using for company, purposely brought up topics that trigger my trauma (attempted suicide), isolated me from all my social contacts and left me for dead in a depressed and paranoid state while i was practically begging for help. But thanks to this channel he can now cope with his supposed """guilt""" and feel completely fine as he calls me a monster, talks about me behind my back, laughs in my face when I talk about looking up info on DBT, blames all of his anger on me and refuses to have a conversation about anything other than specifically topics that trigger me. Thanks, Doctor K, really making the world a better place with your advice.
Lol I shouldn’t complain but I’m flipping miserable but that’s because I’m struggling deeply and I have no real direction. Doing well in school and work, but I am taking on a lot of stress and it feels like it’s for nothing. Maybe I should consider the group therapy thing.
I wish my issues were this simple. Mine is grief loss of my entire adult family. 2 failed marriages, I have disabled twins with no support. I can’t work properly because my kids require special care so I live in poverty. Nothing in my house works anymore. It’s old the washer dryer does not work? The A/C furnace does not work ,My hot water tank went out flooded my home my water bill is over $6k they turned my water off. My only vehicle the motor went out it’s in impound now I can’t afford to get it out nor fix it. I don’t see a way out of this hardship and it it has me so very very depressed my kids are all I have to keep me going. How can someone not be depressed when this is their situation?
Hi Dr. K. I’ve been following you since day one and you have only gotten better please keep up the great work. I have simple question for you. Can certain types of stress/anxiety manifest in very specific parts of the body. For example if your feeling anxious over work you may feel pain the chest or if you are feeling stressed about life being fulfilling you feel it in your back.
its just that im kinda broke atm and i really want to get out of this shitty situation, but i dont know how. my parents always provide for me but i dont want to be a burden anymore. im still a student in a uni and i hate being here because ive been in college for almost 10 years, but i dont know how to get out of my current situation. i've been a huge slacker during my early days as an engineering student but now i realize i should've not done that, now i'm studying business ad and i feel left out. any insights would really be appreciated.
Fulfilment and well being isn’t all bought with money that’s for sure .. firstly some physical exercise.. even whether you love or hate it gives you endorphins.. which lift your mood .. running, cycling, walking are free , even 30 minutes a day .. also search up any group with common interests where you aren’t under pressure to chat but do if that makes sense.. as I have no clue about you umm for instance.. volunteer at environmental groups if that’s your thing, animal sanctuaries, book clubs, anything that you are interested in to meet people. Also my advice is as some point you have to start living your life not for your parents and meeting their standards and release that pressure on yourself then you can be yourself. Isn’t it better to have a slightly less paid job but you are happy at last ? My parents are all about academia and I had pressure my whole life, then they started on my two sons. I think they probably come from a good place but go about it wrong, well mine did . It’s not too late to change track in your life, I messed up and switched careers completely, as I felt far too much anxiety and stress what I trained in , I felt immense guilt to my parents but they had to get over it . As a parent it’s just worry they just want you sorted . So make a new plan that suits you and aim for that and you can find contentment. Things always seem too hard to face but life is a challenge and you will be surprised at your inner strength.I was . I am not minimising what you are saying as I have been at the depths of despair and really messed up , that along with my social anxiety and depression etc but somehow I realised I needed to take control.
I'm a bit confused, this sort of feels like kicking the question from "wanting to do something" to "worth it to do something," and both questions seem to depend on what the intended goal is, right?
@@rogerdinhelm4671 the meaning of life has been derived from religion from the start. When the man couldn't see life as fulfilling as it should be, he created meaning through God, because he alone doesn't suffice. So, when people say they fight for "something", they actually mean "someone". If you look for the life's purpose of different ppl, the pattern will be other than "me", including God, nature or beauty. A man wouldn't search for meaning if he's happy, this state is only obtained when you are loved and useful. So, while I agree with what you say, I believe "meaning" stops being the right word, and ends up being "love". The first term implies everything you do has some kind of effect on something greater than yourself so when you die you still there (a quasi-religious concept), the latter talks more about our relationships in general.
Hey so this guy named Kyle Hill on RUclips who runs a really entertaining sort of science channel recently put up a video talking about his recent (2016) journey to an Aspergers diagnosis. He is a really fascinating guy with lots of cool insights and I thought he might be interesting to talk to. I dont know how you normally go about connecting with guests but hear you mention "you guys keep telling me to talk to X person" and such so figure I may as well just mention it. As always, thanks for the awesome content. I personally felt really understood in your talks with Mizkiff and think you have a fascinating way of connecting your knowledge to the stories and challenges of the people you meet with in a way that feels very approachable and not overly instructive (is that a word?)
This is sort of a familiar situation to me expect I'm being forced to do something that's got nothing to do with what I like and want to do with my life and won't help me or get me any closer to it, whatsoever. But from what I've been hearing from the same people forcing me to do it, sometimes we HAVE to do things that makes us suffer in order to be happy, so when Dr. K said: but does doing it actually get you closer to your goals? I just wish I could spend all day working on and getting better at what I like instead of wasting my time with meaningless three dimensional bullshit
0:00 I know that the business smile is generally something that is good when trying to convince someone of something (in this case it being really positive for their personal growth). But most people that would sign up for the couching program are already people from the community and I think that one of Dr.K’s most valued traits by this community is his super genuine behaviour. That “business promo” intro just doesn’t feel quite right. I don’t know, it could just be me...
stop worshipping "smile and fun 24/7" It is okay to feel sadness etc. just don't let it fully control you making lazy and or stupider constantly its not always as problematic as your fears towards it sometimes let many pains strenghten your determination
I am preparing for banking exams I always stay home get up do the house chores and then study ya sometime I laugh on jokes but somewhere I feel lost like is my hard working give something to me am I enjoying it am I happy I feel like I am not enjoying my life I am not able to do what I want I am not learning anything new just get up and study or I just watch reels when day starts when day ends I dont understand sometime I have dreams where I see myself into a small room with a dim light and no windows I am regretting I feel I am just wasting my life not meeting new people I am just living not enjoying I want lot off things but I can't get those I want to stay happy I wanna enjoy and try everything try new thing learn new thing but how to manage studies and hobbies together
What if your life purpose is to find knowledge just for the sake of finding knowledge and learning things, kinda like being a student of life by researching a lot of things and taking in information, what do I do with that? Lol
I totally understand what you mean when you say you really enjoy learning just to learn. Here's my take on that: THAT is a sign of intellectual curiosity and it is a wonderful thing. But, it's not a skill and it's not inherently valuable in and of itself. For example, if there was someone who was intellectually passionate about worm biology but there were no jobs for him, was it worth it to spend years utilizing his curiosity just so he could be homeless? Obviously not. You have to use that curiosity to explore your interests and then use creativity and research to find known and unknown ways to make your interests valuable. As you get older you tend to figure out what you like to learn about vs. just everything in general. For example, I used to think physics and science would be cool. Nope lol I can't stand science. So the key is to not fall for the shiny item syndrome but to maintain the child-like interest in learning without becoming burnt out by going way over your head in one thing(so basically don't get a Ph.D. or go for a super hard major haha). Natural intellectual curiosity =/= having a strong passion for one subject, advanced or otherwise.
@@raderT90 that's what I'm kinda scared of. I don't want to pursue something and I realized I don't like it because everyone else seem to like one thing but I like learning a lot of things but just not doing them. In a way, I want to be like a polymath of some sort but it doesn't seem realistic enough. So in general I like psych since it seems to have a broad field and humans somewhat interest me lmao. But you are right about holding onto natural curiosity.
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Too many people fall into the trap of what you're "Supposed" to do before you realize that you're not SUPPOSED to do ANYTHING.
@@jonmacdonald2193 yes I didn't mean for it to come across as "don't do anything" just that these pressures society and our peers put on us often are not in our best interests, even if they have good intentions
Nihilism, Yay!
@@jonmacdonald2193 no, actually even what you chose yesterday doesn't fall into this category. You are not the same person you were yesterday. Don't hold yourself up to the same standards. "just be in the moment bro"
@@jadedbreadncircus9159 are u saying that in bad way or a good way xD ?
ok if i dont do anything ill end up homeless and die so i have to do something even if i dont want to
the thumbnails become more relatable every time
Especially “A Psychiatrist’s guide to feeling dead inside”
FeelsGoodMan pain
the comments too
Kind of ironic because that could mean the videos start to help you less and less😂 (or was that the whole joke?)
True. lol xD
"Ask yourself how much of you making people proud drives what you do" that really hit home for me, especially if you feel indebted to them so you want to make them proud even more
Yes that’s quite a burden too as pressure mounting , perfectionist nature, and you also become a people pleaser and neglect everything about yourself...
I literally just got off the call with my sister and best friend saying the same thing. Funny how this channel gives the video right when I need them the most
Literally thooo sameeee
For real.
Synchronicities :)
Literally !? Are you a white girl from the valley 💅
I don't give a f about life purpose. My best years of youth are passing by and everything is grey. I don't have the motivation to do anything. I feel just isolated. Sometimes I can relate to how life feels like for other people. And than it makes me even more sad knowing how much I miss.
You live the life you create for yourself, you are what you do
If you do nothing, you'll feel that way.
If you do something good, you'll feel good, you're just not living right. And it also takes momentum.
The good news is that's not normal. You can have a life you enjoy. I don't know if that means you have to change foe the world, the world has to change for you (it's probably both) but it's possible for life to be worth celebrating
@@relaxative2006So if I hit you with my truck, and you end up paralyzed from the neck down for the rest of your life, then that's your own fault as well as any sadness you feel as a result? Good to know. I'll tell the judge that's how you feel.
@@relaxative2006Sometimes even if you do something you still feel like shit.
@@TheFracturedfuture do it for long enough. If you also eliminate bad habits, you'll start to adapt and enjoy what good you do even more
“Life swings like a pendulum backward and forward between pain and boredom.”
“Man would rather will nothingness than not will”
@@smoothinvestigator First Schopenhauer, second Nietzsche
The world as will and representation
@@rasnauf Ironic since Schopenhauer thinks we don't have free will
will yourself into thinking about something different lol... stupid.
whoever makes these thumbnails deserves a raise
Honestly I haven’t watched healthgamerGG for a good while but this is the first video I have watched in like weeks
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Months ago i'm worried about my past, but now i'm worried about my future, life is just full of worrying and anxiety lately that it just sucks sometimes
Has the pandemic made it so bad ? You’re def not alone, can you do something to manage your anxiety like exercise? As you don’t say whether it’s Social anxiety or just on edge . My Son unfortunately has my depression and anxiety gene , I pay , lockdown is over , for him to have neck/head massage once a week , helps with anxiety and stress. If you get down rather than anxiety see your doctor in case it’s depression. Life is full of worries, especially if you are a deep thinker, but if you are low they feel too overwhelming. Once you get some natural endorphins and some help , then a plan to improve things, you can mend some of the thoughts in your head .
Exactly the advice I need right now, this channel never disappoints 👍🏼
It's funny, I was in almost this exact same scenario up until relatively recently. I am currently on my final semester of graduate school. I'm getting a masters of science in information technology. I hated what I was doing for a long time. It was so tough to imagine myself doing IT work because I felt as though I had to to get a job to support myself, it wasn't because I wanted to. I almost dropped out, but in that moment, I gave it a ton of thought, what would I earn for myself if I kept going? Where would I be if I dropped out? Ultimately what I decided was that what I was doing had value. I forced myself to think about it from the perspective of what opportunities would be open to me if I kept going, and how can I use this degree to help people. Now that I'm finishing up my degree, opportunities for work have been getting presented to me almost daily. For the first time in my life I feel like I have the ability to choose what I want to do and where I want to go. If you're the one that asked this question and you're reading this, please give it a lot of thought and consideration, because you can do a lot with a masters, more than you might realize.
Thank you for sharing
It's official and from a bear. Trust.
Glad you made the right choice. I gave up and now my life is utterly fucked, no way to get better, I hope other people don't give up.
@@Koroar hey man, it's never too late. Another great thing a lot of my friends and my brother did was go into the military. It sounds scary but they're all in really great places with amazing benefits for only 4 years of hardship. Even if that doesn't work for you, I truly believe that you can come back from anything with hard work and a positive attitude. Sounds cliche, but I believe it's true.
It's so simple but some of us avoid spending time with ourselves and thinking about the details
I love that 'wow' at the beginning, it sparks so much joy.
I needed this more than ever right now dr k, thank you, I’ve been searching for something to give me back my motivation for the past 3 months and I think your inspirational words just sparked something in me
Without drive you can go far
This was a really important perspective to hear. I’m about to start my PhD this fall, and know that pain and suffering throughout the process is inescapable. That’s honestly terrifying to know that going in. But I know that research and science are such meaningful ways that I can contribute my intense dorkiness for the greater good, and the expertise developed during grad school is irreplaceable. Still scared, but here I go...
3 years into my PhD right now and it is great! For me personally, 80% of the experience has been great, so don't be too scared!
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I think it’s an important to also consider if you’re suffering because of the external hardship or if you’re suffering because something internally is telling you that you need to be on a different path.
I’ve been emotionally isolated for so long and I’ve lost touch with what feelings are, I’ve become so numb to emotions and honestly I don’t want to feel them because of the situation I’m in, I don’t actually want to feel emotions right now because i know if I learn to feel good again I have to learn how to feel bad also, I’m constantly in pain and being numb is a coping mechanism, and intill I get into a better situation I’m not going to try to feel emotions
do you take any drugs?
@@xCxRxAxVxExNx I wish
@@John-eh2zc thanks bro, I hope you’re doing well
@@John-eh2zc how long have you been using it?
thanks for your reply, it really helps alot.
@@jonathankirkpatrick9493 dont start
I was recently struggling with a similar decision myself. I had switched from a course-based master's into a thesis-based one, and for 8 months all of the happiness and positivity I'd previously been experiencing disappeared. It took me a long time to look within myself and acknowledge that "I just don't like this" is a good enough reason to stop if I will be able to succeed later on in life either way. I finally switched out of the thesis and I'm feeling much better already
The key for me was that I was still going to get a master's degree. My undergrad degree was very difficult too, but I suffered through it because I knew I needed it
I appreciate how short, direct, and honest this was. I think a lot of clinicians and providers almost act as if they are PR or marketing staff, and over focus on presenting information to their patients in the most pleasing and consumable way. This can be problematic if truth and facts get omitted or become unclear in the process.
Really reminded me of some Jordan peterson advice that went along the lines of: just because you're a bit miserable if your end goal is what you really want to accomplish you should still try to pursue it. Being happy and only having the goal of happiness is not the only thing that makes life worth living.
sounds beautiful
too bad after his coma he broke every single one of his own rules, was pretty sad, we needed sensible conservative perspecties in canada.
Goals are overrated
gosh this is exactly the advice I need to hear right now! have been feeling stuck in a job that is not technically bad (in fact it is great in many aspects), but I am just not feeling right about it and suffering quite a lot in it. wonderful to hear this and gonna reflect on this for the rest of the workday lol
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This really puts into perspective of what you want to do. Your spark is it? Wait is this a sacrifice that's worth it? That's really something to think upon and reflect going through life and your decisions and actions. Because we have one life and there are things we question but putting the question is it worth it makes you focus and remind yourself again of the why you chose to do it. Thank you Dr. K
Takeaway: the big question is ask yourself if the suffering is worth it for you
Oh I didn’t realize it was really common for people to be in graduate school and not want to be there anymore
That’s very helpful
I though it was the default that graduate students did not want to be a graduate student because many things can suck, whether it’s the workload or the culture.
There couldn’t have been a better time for this video to come out....... Dr. K is the best! 😁😁😁
I really helps to focus on each moment we have - the rest is a concept anyway
„Is it really worth it?“
That’s damn good ass question, to ask. Now I’m Gonna ask more often this question, to me.
Thank you very much, for this content🙏🏼❤️
Commented more than four words and it is a real person. Love your content
I really liked to moment, that we do not enjoy life all the time and we have to make sacrifices sometimes.
Thanks for the video!
How would one address being tired of being alive, not because you're suffering but just as if you've had enough of it (like wanting to go home after a night out)? Or what about feeling like you wish you hadn't been born because now that you're alive you'll have to experience death one day?
You're such a great person. keep up the good work man
Honestly reading the comments on this video is half of the best content on this page, I love you all and keep going on the journey of self improvement.
This is how I think about my undergrad and potential graduate program. I may not enjoy it all the time but it is so worth it for me to be able to gain more knowledge, gain skills, and honestly just earn that credential to set me up for a better life. School has actively made me feel terrible at times but it is so worth it now at the end of my undergrad. I pushed through so I could be where I am now and I can feel the light at the end of the tunnel.
i think 90 % of people won't agree with me
but try and stop playing video games for more than 30mins
it made a huge different in my daily life.
and also take small walks everyday
@@abhaya5524 hi
Dr. K is so great. I am so happy to have found him online!
Dr. K, put captions on your videos. It helps with the RUclips algorithm so your advice will be able to reach more people :)
I never enjoyed life and im just waiting, i am taking everything im ignoring everyone because i just can't stay with others. Evey person i know hates me or is annoyed by be or uses me for his own fun, im just gonna stay here and wait untill i die because im forsed there is nothing i can do.
viktor frankl's man's search for meaning is a great book on "meaning", for those who are interested.
its long
@@Blessupph777 what? It's a very short book actually.
@@ForeverMasterless Im a slow reader maybe
I loved that book
Thanks for the daily pog psychology Dr. K! Very interesting
I can't help but get distracted by twitch chat on the side lol
Hey Doc no clue if you run this account, but I really hope you or someone in your foundation can reach out to Mitch Jones. He was on Miz’s stream yesterday and genuinely was asking for help with this subject. It is not my place to advocate therapy for anyone let alone a stranger but, he means a lot to the community and he was heartbroken when Byron passed away; I don’t want that pain to play out again.
I’m unsure about what’s going on with Mitch Jones, but if he’s been wrecked by Reckful’s suicide, he needs a therapist. Not Dr. K, who will personally tell you that his stream is not a replacement for mental therapy. Not Mizkif. He needs a therapist.
Sorry to hear Mitch is struggling. Everyone needs at least one good session of therapy IMO.
I agree with Aravind though that he needs his on dedicated therapist to best serve and help him with what he is currently struggling with. I really hope he get's better since he seems like a great guy.
The point is, someone professional and well versed in these conversations aiding Mitch to get the help he needs.
i was speaking about that with my gf about 20 minutes ago and then i found out that you talked about this few hours ago. Thank you, it really helped me
Congrats on 500k subscribers on RUclips!
All the insightful perspectives Dr. K shares with us
Surprised how relevant this is for me. Currently going to drop out of a PhD program with a Masters because of a lot of reasons, but the main one is that it's not worth it for my goals.
Hey Dr K, I miss Reckful so much, feeling so empty for a a while now!!
Thank you as always dr k and team.
I really appreciate how articulated and realistic/straightforward this man is.
Enjoyment / happiness is a goal that can be dropped at any time for more important goals such as your life purpose
Such as someone else’s life purpose 😂😂😂
Bro you just motivate me to do something on my situation, i know you Will never read this but thank you for not letting me throw away my life
I wouldn't even start to describe how pathetic and Hopeless my situation is.
These people complains with all sorts of money, diplomas, degrees and Actual present Parents... lol
I wish i had the same problem...
same thing, trapped in substance-alcohol-porn-videogame addictions. suffering from ptsd from sexual/physical/emotional abuse and psychotic disorder so i cant even EVER get to the same level as these normal non neurodivergent people that complain all the time. euthanasia should be unconditional smh
same
@@chillyourself4880porn is basically the highlight of my day, i hate going to work, i hate school, dont carr about anything at this point.
If it means anything I feel for you and everyone who replied to this. I truly hope you feel better somehow. You are valued ❤
Honestly, after how 2020 has turned out I don’t know if anything is worth anything anymore.
The way things are won't last forever. They also won't go back to the way they were before, but that just means you'll get to see something new you've never seen before. Keep searching and you'll find your purpose.
@@blaked2352 I'm just going to take your word for it at this point; because I don't know what else to do.
@@andrewkelley9405 A few years ago I was in about as dark a place as you could be. I didn't believe it would ever get better and the only thing that kept me going was not wanting to cause pain to the people who cared about me. And then one day about a year ago I went to bed and realized that I had actually been smiling so much my face hurt and for the first time in years I believed that I might actually be ok someday. It certainly hasn't been sunshine and rainbows since then, I still have bad days, but I've gotten to the point where the good generally outweighs the bad. It won't be easy, the easy thing to do is give up. But if you keep fighting and pushing, even if it's the bare minimum, you'll be ok eventually.
I don't know your situation Andrew, but exercise has really helped me through some dark times. It releases endorphins (feel good chemicals) in the brain. The more depression we have, the more we should exercise. Can't hurt to try.
@@ScorpionF1RE_USA Oh yea, and that helps sometimes. It's only temporary though. I may have Anhedonia; or I could have just lost my mind in the last year and a half. Who knows.
God this helped me put things into perspective. Working on a degree right now, and ultimately think that the process aligns with my purpose
I’ve never had any form of a goal or dream. I can’t even figure out how to eat every day let alone figure out what this wasted 8 hours a day should be going towards.
congrats on 500k subs on youtube!!
HI, Dr. K. I am pretty much perfect, and I'm surrounded by supportive people. My life is great, and it seems it's going to get even better, and I will achieve many great things and live well and...
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Can't chase happiness if you're not moving
I got Covid and I'm happier than before because I was bored of living the same day everyday and now is something different.
Congrats on 500k
Thanks Dr. K!
Hey Dr. K, friends here.
Life is sooo boring. I just can't see anything positive about it. It's just existence that will come to an end at some point. What's the point to even try??. Get money or fame? U will be forgotten anyways.
@@przemyslawjankowski9290 dude I say the exact same thing such boring and meaningless world
I started studying electrical engineering last year but within a month a realised that I don’t give a fuck about learning this stuff. I felt like i was wasting my time learning fucking formulas. I just did less and less until I stopped completely. It’s very difficult what way to choose because I’m interested in many things but I don’t want to wake up one day and realise that I wasted my life. Every option seems shit.
I feel a like a rubber band that has been stretched to its maximum, and the only methods of relieving the tension involve stretching the band even more. I don’t have wiggle room.
Man this content literally feels made for me.
There is no such thing as enjoying life. Birth is pain. Death is pain. Life is pain. It's all the same.
Both can be true
lol Both what?@@caseyharrington4947
pain, suffering even
i probably should have heard this 2 years ago before it was too late
Reminder to post the talk with hjune it was hella good
I have no meaning to life cus of covid I also have mad anxiety. Your not alone dudes
Where is the new book📚?
Thanks Dr. K, but I already excel at not enjoying life
My ""friend"" who is an avid watcher of Doctor K has broken my trust and divulged personal information to strangers, emotionally abused me for months, calmly listened to my father beat me and scream at me in a call, discarded me after baiting me and using for company, purposely brought up topics that trigger my trauma (attempted suicide), isolated me from all my social contacts and left me for dead in a depressed and paranoid state while i was practically begging for help. But thanks to this channel he can now cope with his supposed """guilt""" and feel completely fine as he calls me a monster, talks about me behind my back, laughs in my face when I talk about looking up info on DBT, blames all of his anger on me and refuses to have a conversation about anything other than specifically topics that trigger me. Thanks, Doctor K, really making the world a better place with your advice.
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Lol I shouldn’t complain but I’m flipping miserable but that’s because I’m struggling deeply and I have no real direction. Doing well in school and work, but I am taking on a lot of stress and it feels like it’s for nothing. Maybe I should consider the group therapy thing.
i never enjoyed my life, but i took drugs when i was younger, now ive got schizophrenia
I wish my issues were this simple. Mine is grief loss of my entire adult family. 2 failed marriages, I have disabled twins with no support. I can’t work properly because my kids require special care so I live in poverty. Nothing in my house works anymore. It’s old the washer dryer does not work? The A/C furnace does not work ,My hot water tank went out flooded my home my water bill is over $6k they turned my water off. My only vehicle the motor went out it’s in impound now I can’t afford to get it out nor fix it. I don’t see a way out of this hardship and it it has me so very very depressed my kids are all I have to keep me going. How can someone not be depressed when this is their situation?
Thanks for this
Hi Dr. K. I’ve been following you since day one and you have only gotten better please keep up the great work. I have simple question for you.
Can certain types of stress/anxiety manifest in very specific parts of the body. For example if your feeling anxious over work you may feel pain the chest or if you are feeling stressed about life being fulfilling you feel it in your back.
its just that im kinda broke atm and i really want to get out of this shitty situation, but i dont know how. my parents always provide for me but i dont want to be a burden anymore. im still a student in a uni and i hate being here because ive been in college for almost 10 years, but i dont know how to get out of my current situation. i've been a huge slacker during my early days as an engineering student but now i realize i should've not done that, now i'm studying business ad and i feel left out. any insights would really be appreciated.
Fulfilment and well being isn’t all bought with money that’s for sure .. firstly some physical exercise.. even whether you love or hate it gives you endorphins.. which lift your mood .. running, cycling, walking are free , even 30 minutes a day .. also search up any group with common interests where you aren’t under pressure to chat but do if that makes sense.. as I have no clue about you umm for instance.. volunteer at environmental groups if that’s your thing, animal sanctuaries, book clubs, anything that you are interested in to meet people. Also my advice is as some point you have to start living your life not for your parents and meeting their standards and release that pressure on yourself then you can be yourself. Isn’t it better to have a slightly less paid job but you are happy at last ? My parents are all about academia and I had pressure my whole life, then they started on my two sons. I think they probably come from a good place but go about it wrong, well mine did . It’s not too late to change track in your life, I messed up and switched careers completely, as I felt far too much anxiety and stress what I trained in , I felt immense guilt to my parents but they had to get over it . As a parent it’s just worry they just want you sorted . So make a new plan that suits you and aim for that and you can find contentment. Things always seem too hard to face but life is a challenge and you will be surprised at your inner strength.I was . I am not minimising what you are saying as I have been at the depths of despair and really messed up , that along with my social anxiety and depression etc but somehow I realised I needed to take control.
I'm a bit confused, this sort of feels like kicking the question from "wanting to do something" to "worth it to do something," and both questions seem to depend on what the intended goal is, right?
yeah, the main point is to find meaning in a religious kind of way. if you are an atheist is kinda useless.
@@sugarcravings1797 It is more of an abstract concept, one does not have to be religious for that.
@@rogerdinhelm4671 the meaning of life has been derived from religion from the start. When the man couldn't see life as fulfilling as it should be, he created meaning through God, because he alone doesn't suffice. So, when people say they fight for "something", they actually mean "someone". If you look for the life's purpose of different ppl, the pattern will be other than "me", including God, nature or beauty. A man wouldn't search for meaning if he's happy, this state is only obtained when you are loved and useful.
So, while I agree with what you say, I believe "meaning" stops being the right word, and ends up being "love". The first term implies everything you do has some kind of effect on something greater than yourself so when you die you still there (a quasi-religious concept), the latter talks more about our relationships in general.
Thanks for this.
Long back I looked at what MBA was about. People teach to make money, people pay to learn. Institutes are to make money.
i kinda feel the same way he does. except with high school. the difference is i didnt choose this. im forced into this.
Hey so this guy named Kyle Hill on RUclips who runs a really entertaining sort of science channel recently put up a video talking about his recent (2016) journey to an Aspergers diagnosis.
He is a really fascinating guy with lots of cool insights and I thought he might be interesting to talk to.
I dont know how you normally go about connecting with guests but hear you mention "you guys keep telling me to talk to X person" and such so figure I may as well just mention it.
As always, thanks for the awesome content. I personally felt really understood in your talks with Mizkiff and think you have a fascinating way of connecting your knowledge to the stories and challenges of the people you meet with in a way that feels very approachable and not overly instructive (is that a word?)
This is sort of a familiar situation to me expect I'm being forced to do something that's got nothing to do with what I like and want to do with my life and won't help me or get me any closer to it, whatsoever.
But from what I've been hearing from the same people forcing me to do it, sometimes we HAVE to do things that makes us suffer in order to be happy, so when Dr. K said: but does doing it actually get you closer to your goals? I just wish I could spend all day working on and getting better at what I like instead of wasting my time with meaningless three dimensional bullshit
Get sick if all if this! It’s so overwhelming, painful, boring, frustrating, scary, hard, shitty
500k subs !!! :D
caught this while its fresh
0:00 I know that the business smile is generally something that is good when trying to convince someone of something (in this case it being really positive for their personal growth). But most people that would sign up for the couching program are already people from the community and I think that one of Dr.K’s most valued traits by this community is his super genuine behaviour. That “business promo” intro just doesn’t feel quite right. I don’t know, it could just be me...
stop worshipping "smile and fun 24/7"
It is okay to feel sadness etc. just don't let it fully control you
making lazy and or stupider constantly
its not always as problematic as your fears towards it
sometimes let many pains strenghten your determination
Thumbnail is fucking gold 😤👌
As they say in the MBA schools "Is the juice worth the squeeze"
Dr. K actually carrying the med school experience
I am preparing for banking exams I always stay home get up do the house chores and then study ya sometime I laugh on jokes but somewhere I feel lost like is my hard working give something to me am I enjoying it am I happy I feel like I am not enjoying my life I am not able to do what I want I am not learning anything new just get up and study or I just watch reels when day starts when day ends I dont understand sometime I have dreams where I see myself into a small room with a dim light and no windows I am regretting I feel I am just wasting my life not meeting new people I am just living not enjoying I want lot off things but I can't get those I want to stay happy I wanna enjoy and try everything try new thing learn new thing but how to manage studies and hobbies together
Title made me think it would be a collection of terrible life advice from out of context Dr.K videos
What if your life purpose is to find knowledge just for the sake of finding knowledge and learning things, kinda like being a student of life by researching a lot of things and taking in information, what do I do with that? Lol
I totally understand what you mean when you say you really enjoy learning just to learn.
Here's my take on that: THAT is a sign of intellectual curiosity and it is a wonderful thing. But, it's not a skill and it's not inherently valuable in and of itself. For example, if there was someone who was intellectually passionate about worm biology but there were no jobs for him, was it worth it to spend years utilizing his curiosity just so he could be homeless? Obviously not.
You have to use that curiosity to explore your interests and then use creativity and research to find known and unknown ways to make your interests valuable. As you get older you tend to figure out what you like to learn about vs. just everything in general. For example, I used to think physics and science would be cool. Nope lol I can't stand science.
So the key is to not fall for the shiny item syndrome but to maintain the child-like interest in learning without becoming burnt out by going way over your head in one thing(so basically don't get a Ph.D. or go for a super hard major haha).
Natural intellectual curiosity =/= having a strong passion for one subject, advanced or otherwise.
@@raderT90 that's what I'm kinda scared of. I don't want to pursue something and I realized I don't like it because everyone else seem to like one thing but I like learning a lot of things but just not doing them. In a way, I want to be like a polymath of some sort but it doesn't seem realistic enough. So in general I like psych since it seems to have a broad field and humans somewhat interest me lmao. But you are right about holding onto natural curiosity.
the answer is pretty much always no, given enough time...
now we’re talkin
i watch this 3x a week