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True but with no chemistry it’s sooo boring so how can we have chemistry!!!??? Pleas let women know it can be created between two people if not present at first!!!
I agree with attention means nothing! Chemistry is not something that need to be present at beginin and you can so bring that into the bedroom later on and outside too!
Thank God, I didn’t leave might lose my joy or my sense of humor, and I am very deeply wounded!!! furthermore no one should let anyone take that away from you even if they take everything else that’s something they can never take away from you is the love from God and that support
I met my husband at 30 years old. We are both about the same age, pretty much, except I am a year older. He’s going to be 40 this year. He’s so mature for his age. Always has been. An old soul- I feel so lucky! 😊❤ We both know that it’s not easy these days in the dating world. 10 years married this year in September. 🎉❤
I’ve been widowed twice and I tell ya I’m Getting burned out trying. I am trying to stay positive but just can’t meet anyone legit. They all want a nurse, a purse, they have porn addictions, or are still inlove with their x, or their kids are brats and control Their life. I’m seriously thinking about getting a golden doodle and staying alone forever!! Anyway good luck to all you lovely ladies out there and may you be blessed beyond measure!!
I get it ! Lost my husband 2 years ago, and just started Match a few months ago - have been ghosted, approached for group sex, lied to about age, job, etc - all from men who say they want long term commitment in their profiles -
@@carolinebrown8965 hi Caroline. I hear ya!!! Where has chivalry gone? Love of neighbor. Honesty. Honor. Family. Loyalty. I swear I feel like I’m in a dream as it seems so unreal to me. Stay strong Caroline and stick with Jonathan. He has helped me beyond measure and he makes absolute sense!! All the best to you !!
That's how I see a relationship he has a life you have a life and yall have a life together that's also trust but you need compromises loyalty truth and communication and space 💯
You have to be willing to work on it. You also have to be willing to acknowledge your faults and needs. Express your needs because a man that’s willing to hear you and do that, is a man who you can build something with.
Yes! All THE Selves❣️We need this in our individual lives! Self love, self respect, self independence… Makes Sense, YOU MAKE SENSE, I CANT STOP LISTENING TO U, and I’m a new fan❣️I like you and I Like listening to you❣️ Thank you
I agree a realtionship is NOT for weak people and those be alone in the end with no help but strangers but a true close love is epic. My grandfather loved and adored to woman and later on found a friend they were friends and they ended up having a relationship in the end and leaning on each other to help each other.
Yeah the thing about him chasing the female wasn't sure about it, thank you for the clarity! I have definitely thought having a sense of humor is important! In a relationship. 😊💕
I agree….this whole new viral “black cat v golden retriever” concept is ridiculous. I agree that we should both meet at the “50 yard line” as you said yesterday….
Thanks for sharing these tips Jonathan! I am currently feeling confused about how to proceed after a mutually agreed great first date w a 44yo detective (oncall 24/7, but mostly only works M-F).. he asked me on a second date before we left, spoke after to thank him he said it was great talking and sharing a meal together ❤️ I responded asking his fav music and sent him something I enjoy but then radio silence for 3 days now! Which makes me feel like something changed and at the same time i try to calm myself bc I get that ppl get busy, plus he has an 11yo son. At the same time he is always on his phone, his profile even says hes a big time texter, so it's confusing that he wouldnt get back to me... maybe he changed his mind? Its so frustrating, and yet part of me wants to reach out lightheartedly to be playful and nurturing, and yet I feel like that might be trying too hard!? Such an internal struggle to know what to do!! 😩
Laura, a detectives occupation is 24/7. It's a high stress job with alot of responsibility. He may be looking for companionship when he has time. Did he define his relationship goals? And a chronic texter. I wish you luck. Agree with Jonathon. Rest assured he will run a complete background check on every woman. He may be seeing multiple women. Make sure he's truly single, aligned with you and your relationship goals. Safe People by Henry Cloud The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
In my opinion, you’re leaning forward too much, which is what 99% of women do. If he’s not initiating contact or nailing down the next time he wants to take you out, it because he doesn’t want to at this time, for whatever reason. He owes you nothing. For men that operate out of masculine energy he pursues, you receive. It was one meeting, it’s much better for your emotional stability and health to put him to the side so to speak and continue being available for the man that is looking for you. And continue building a fun, interesting life no matter what he or any man does or doesn’t do. Again, most women can’t or won’t do that, pursue the guy then complain about men 🤷♀️
Well i'm always polite about it when addressing another person But I'm the type of person.I'll say at one time at one time only and if if the answer is no then I'll never bring it up again and he'll never hear about it again
I was always the one to maintain long lasting relationships. But, here I am, after my Ex did a turnabout after we had children… more of a financial problem… I am out here wondering what to do. I was thinking - Johnathan, we didn’t connect 😂 I’m funny & have 3 young boys - come step into the fountain of youth! 😅 - but seriously… what I find with men over 40 (not to over generalize), is this old wounds they carry. I know we all have them & I’m willing to talk about them.. but I’m not willing to compete with them. I hope that makes sense?
I met a guy in Dec and it is long distant and see each other once a month...he is 47 and always want to dance and dont care going out till 2h30 am...he will make a video call introduce me and disappear till he gets home...he spent the weekend with two lady friends and we had hardly time chatting...i spoke to him and he said he will give me attention...20 min later he is out with them again and show me where they are and disappeared again for the whole day since 10 am its 20h15bans havent heard from him yet..but he say he loves me and want to be with me....I believe he is not betraying me because he introduced me to the ladies..i dont know what to think....
That’s confusing when he introduces you to people in his life, this doesn’t sound like a situation that will make you happy in the long term. IMO, it’s best to not waste a lot of energy on something that won’t go anywhere. It keeps you away energetically from the guy who is looking for you! 💗
This word midlife and all that stuff makes me depressed😢 A mid forty man didn‘t want a relationship, as he still had one but he lied. I‘m done with men 😊
Nice video Jonathon, one thing i will say is i do have other opinions, honestly I would be weirded out if a guy was chasing me, to aggressive, pushing me or unboundaried, and honestly some men might lay back which is smart, some woman may take it as harassment or even stalking, just saying, hopefully both parties respect each other and are mutually compatible
I agree with you. The whole “feminine lean back” thing doesn’t work with a grown man. It took me a minute to realize this. My recent issue has been that I was so busy screening a man with a love-bombing narc filter, that I over-corrected. I might have mistaken bread crumbing for “normal, non love bombing.”
I disagree with women chasing men - men today are looking for mothers and women to chase them and people please. These men have too many female traits.
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True but with no chemistry it’s sooo boring so how can we have chemistry!!!??? Pleas let women know it can be created between two people if not present at first!!!
I agree with attention means nothing! Chemistry is not something that need to be present at beginin and you can so bring that into the bedroom later on and outside too!
Thank God, I didn’t leave might lose my joy or my sense of humor, and I am very deeply wounded!!! furthermore no one should let anyone take that away from you even if they take everything else that’s something they can never take away from you is the love from God and that support
I meed fun and don’t need some boring person!
I met my husband at 30 years old. We are both about the same age, pretty much, except I am a year older. He’s going to be 40 this year. He’s so mature for his age. Always has been. An old soul- I feel so lucky! 😊❤ We both know that it’s not easy these days in the dating world. 10 years married this year in September. 🎉❤
That is awesome!
Jessica that is wonderful and thx for sharing.
Is it because you guys are the same race? Did that help things? Just really curious.
I’ve been widowed twice and I tell ya I’m
Getting burned out trying. I am trying to stay positive but just can’t meet anyone legit. They all want a nurse, a purse, they have porn addictions, or are still inlove with their x, or their kids are brats and control
Their life. I’m seriously thinking about getting a golden doodle and staying alone forever!! Anyway good luck to all you lovely ladies out there and may you be blessed beyond measure!!
I understand
I get it ! Lost my husband 2 years ago, and just started Match a few months ago - have been ghosted, approached for group sex, lied to about age, job, etc - all from men who say they want long term commitment in their profiles -
@@carolinebrown8965 hi Caroline. I hear ya!!! Where has chivalry gone? Love of neighbor. Honesty. Honor. Family. Loyalty. I swear I feel like I’m in a dream as it seems so unreal to me. Stay strong Caroline and stick with Jonathan. He has helped me beyond measure and he makes absolute sense!! All the best to you !!
That's how I see a relationship he has a life you have a life and yall have a life together that's also trust but you need compromises loyalty truth and communication and space 💯
You have to be willing to work on it. You also have to be willing to acknowledge your faults and needs. Express your needs because a man that’s willing to hear you and do that, is a man who you can build something with.
Exactly
Please have a guest on your show to address dating from a widowed perspective - love your channel and your personality !!!
Yes! All THE Selves❣️We need this in our individual lives! Self love, self respect, self independence… Makes Sense, YOU MAKE SENSE, I CANT STOP LISTENING TO U, and I’m a new fan❣️I like you and I Like listening to you❣️
Thank you
I really like the narrative from Wayne Dwyer, Jonathon.Thank you and I appreciate you quoting this today.Take care.
Thanks for listening
Thank you for this. I needed a strong review.
Glad it was helpful!
I agree a realtionship is NOT for weak people and those be alone in the end with no help but strangers but a true close love is epic. My grandfather loved and adored to woman and later on found a friend they were friends and they ended up having a relationship in the end and leaning on each other to help each other.
Yes
Yes. Us in mid life years do need these information as well. Very much indeed.
Yes we do
Yeah the thing about him chasing the female wasn't sure about it, thank you for the clarity! I have definitely thought having a sense of humor is important! In a relationship. 😊💕
Hi John, I am back for more wisdom
Hope you enjoy it...
Hello jonathan
Great Content and Shared Experience! Thank You Jonathon~🙏❤️🤗
Glad you enjoyed it!
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Thanks for your videos Johnathan you help a lot
Glad you like them!
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Yes! Thank you!
Without the playfulness, we’re all screwed Jonathan 😬🤭
I agree….this whole new viral “black cat v golden retriever” concept is ridiculous.
I agree that we should both meet at the “50 yard line” as you said yesterday….
I just Googled it... interesting.
Seems I took the wrong advice
I like this woman but this particular concept might not be for my age group….ruclips.net/video/WqsXtZYSSk4/видео.htmlsi=EgRutqLB3IVDufR5
Thanks for sharing these tips Jonathan!
I am currently feeling confused about how to proceed after a mutually agreed great first date w a 44yo detective (oncall 24/7, but mostly only works M-F).. he asked me on a second date before we left, spoke after to thank him he said it was great talking and sharing a meal together ❤️ I responded asking his fav music and sent him something I enjoy but then radio silence for 3 days now! Which makes me feel like something changed and at the same time i try to calm myself bc I get that ppl get busy, plus he has an 11yo son. At the same time he is always on his phone, his profile even says hes a big time texter, so it's confusing that he wouldnt get back to me... maybe he changed his mind? Its so frustrating, and yet part of me wants to reach out lightheartedly to be playful and nurturing, and yet I feel like that might be trying too hard!? Such an internal struggle to know what to do!! 😩
Ask him out on a date. This way, you'll know if he's still interested, and if not, you can move on or have closure rather than guessing.
@@JonathonAslay thanks, I will try that! 😊
Laura, a detectives occupation is 24/7. It's a high stress job with alot of responsibility. He may be looking for companionship when he has time. Did he define his relationship goals? And a chronic texter. I wish you luck. Agree with Jonathon.
Rest assured he will run a complete background check on every woman.
He may be seeing multiple women. Make sure he's truly single, aligned with you and your relationship goals.
Safe People by Henry Cloud
The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
In my opinion, you’re leaning forward too much, which is what 99% of women do. If he’s not initiating contact or nailing down the next time he wants to take you out, it because he doesn’t want to at this time, for whatever reason. He owes you nothing. For men that operate out of masculine energy he pursues, you receive. It was one meeting, it’s much better for your emotional stability and health to put him to the side so to speak and continue being available for the man that is looking for you. And continue building a fun, interesting life no matter what he or any man does or doesn’t do. Again, most women can’t or won’t do that, pursue the guy then complain about men 🤷♀️
@@Sunlightsam24 thanks for sharing your perspective 🙏🏼
Jonathon my psychiatrist said that is untrue to say most guys are good guys. He says when men use brothels they are not using their frontal cortex
Most means 51% or more. I believe most humans are good vs. evil. But I'm not saying humans are good in relationships.
God's blessings and healing to all Amen 🍀🙏😇😇🙏😇🙏
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It is hard to find a partner when you are 63 been single for 20 years. Abuse. DV. I want to date but with the right person.
I understand...
Well i'm always polite about it when addressing another person But I'm the type of person.I'll say at one time at one time only and if if the answer is no then I'll never bring it up again and he'll never hear about it again
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I was always the one to maintain long lasting relationships. But, here I am, after my Ex did a turnabout after we had children… more of a financial problem… I am out here wondering what to do. I was thinking - Johnathan, we didn’t connect 😂 I’m funny & have 3 young boys - come step into the fountain of youth! 😅 - but seriously… what I find with men over 40 (not to over generalize), is this old wounds they carry. I know we all have them & I’m willing to talk about them.. but I’m not willing to compete with them. I hope that makes sense?
Hello Jonathan Could you please describe the content of your video below? Because I don't always have time to watch videos?
Thanks in advance❤💯
I met a guy in Dec and it is long distant and see each other once a month...he is 47 and always want to dance and dont care going out till 2h30 am...he will make a video call introduce me and disappear till he gets home...he spent the weekend with two lady friends and we had hardly time chatting...i spoke to him and he said he will give me attention...20 min later he is out with them again and show me where they are and disappeared again for the whole day since 10 am its 20h15bans havent heard from him yet..but he say he loves me and want to be with me....I believe he is not betraying me because he introduced me to the ladies..i dont know what to think....
He's wasting your time. Move on
This is the challenge with distance. Sorry you're going through this... 🙏
That’s confusing when he introduces you to people in his life, this doesn’t sound like a situation that will make you happy in the long term. IMO, it’s best to not waste a lot of energy on something that won’t go anywhere. It keeps you away energetically from the guy who is looking for you! 💗
I would tell him you’re feeling breadcrumbed. Give him one chance to make it right. Sounds like an immature man to me
Thank you. I know I must move on, but I think the rejection and I actually did nothing wrong is terrible
Thank you!
You're welcome!
This word midlife and all that stuff makes me depressed😢 A mid forty man didn‘t want a relationship, as he still had one but he lied. I‘m done with men 😊
That's sad...
Yes , a lot of them lie. They are not all good men…
I think you should have two RUclips channels. It's the men who need your advise more. Have a men's channel. That would help the women more.
I do have a men's channel
What's it called? I searched your name on youtube and only found the one for women.
@@JudyHill-kk2wr I agree with you! And be as tough or tougher to men, than he is to us . Not more gentle , they do play and lie more.
How do you carry on shared hobbies and interests if it's a long distance relationship
Move closer...
Nice video Jonathon, one thing i will say is i do have other opinions, honestly I would be weirded out if a guy was chasing me, to aggressive, pushing me or unboundaried, and honestly some men might lay back which is smart, some woman may take it as harassment or even stalking, just saying, hopefully both parties respect each other and are mutually compatible
Thank you 😊
@JonathonAslay can you please add chapters or summarise each one of the points in the description?
I’ve turned into an ior
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Question: where does one go first to develop emotional maturity? What do you think a woman who is emotional mature is like?
I agree with you. The whole “feminine lean back” thing doesn’t work with a grown man.
It took me a minute to realize this.
My recent issue has been that I was so busy screening a man with a love-bombing narc filter, that I over-corrected. I might have mistaken bread crumbing for “normal, non love bombing.”
I understand
I disagree with women chasing men - men today are looking for mothers and women to chase them and people please. These men have too many female traits.
Jonathan, I did meet with him last night. I’ll email you what happened. It went well.