This couldn't be more true and I'm glad I recieved this message by your kind words. I'm currently in the process of divorcing a person with dismissive avoidant with narcissistic tendencies and I needed to hear this although I already knew it deep down. He jumped into a full blown relationship within 24hrs after leaving our home and already went on a week vacation with this person. It didn't hurt me so much as disappoint me because it truly showed how little thought of themselves...although I know I need to learn to love them from afar I still hope that one day for the sake of our children he gets the help he needs..
I appreciate your input. So many of these videos highlight the same points but tend to have this sugar coated undertone of “they are hurting from your breakup and want to avoid those feelings”. Your honest hard truth comment of “they’re probably trying to avoid you and want to be distant from you” was something I needed to hear to affirm moving on. My relationship was destined to fail and I can now admit that I was probably a rebound for him and now he monkey branched into another one with someone else. As painful as this process is because my feelings were real for this person, and as often as I’ve wondered if he’ll come back, I know I’m worth more than just being an optional bandaid for someone who refuses to heal their wounds. Thank you!
My ex and I never had an argument in almost 2 years! We were looking for a house together and suddenly I was blindsided with a breakup! No excuse or anything! But 5 months later I see how he carries baggage from one to the other! Not my circus not my monkeys! She was a friend of more than 30 years! I work with them both! I got her the job and she looks like a cabbage patch doll! Low value, she still lives life like we’re in HS..!!I laughed tonight when I heard her call him a fkkn moron to her friends! Honeymoon is almost over! She always said she wants someone who likes sex with money in the bank! They both played themselves and I have a front row seat!
You have a brilliant & warm way of articulating the peaks & valleys of utter heartbreak & dark grief, of breakups & rebounds. Your video & good vibe, came to me at exactly the perfect time. Thank You so much! I needed your kindness, & wisdom. ❣️❣️
The day after Christmas my fiancé left me, the reasons weren’t clear. But I found out she was in a relationship 2 weeks later. I have no idea what I think about it.
My ex cheated on me physically 1 time before this time that I know of.. she begged me to take her back so I did then right after we hit 5 year anniversary she broke up with me again saying something is missing . She said the reason she cheated on me the first time (that I know of) is because she wanted an excuse to get out of the relationship.. I’m confused why did she beg me to take her back after the first cheating incident? If she wanted out to why didn’t she just go.. like she said she wanted to? Now I know she’s in a new rebound relationship.. she’s finally moved out and living where ever.. and I’m trying to heal but I’m still totally in love with her. I’m not depressed like I was but I have moments where I just cry myself to sleep but I kinda have it in my head that if it’s meant to be it will be. Idk. I do know I can’t trust her and I don’t want to take her back and then be scared that she will do this again and again. I don’t want to go through this again with her. It would take lots of counseling , and healing time for me to ever consider taking her back or even dating her again. This sucks.
I would say that's a little unusual and something to explore deeper. Have you been focusing on them over and over for those 2 years? Grieving is hard but it can take deliberate action sometimes so we can get some psychological distance from our ex. Maybe this could be something to talk over with a therapist?
my ex dumped me and he cried for a week after and was very sad, then 2 weeks later after staying in contact we had a weekend together where we were both crying about the split he was telling me how much he loved me etc that he would never forget me and he was soooooo upset a week later he found someone else?? i mean wth when i met him he was still a bit hurt from a girl 7 months b4 and hadnt been with anyone else,and he got over me in a week so it seems by finding someone, fuck that hurts
This couldn't be more true and I'm glad I recieved this message by your kind words. I'm currently in the process of divorcing a person with dismissive avoidant with narcissistic tendencies and I needed to hear this although I already knew it deep down. He jumped into a full blown relationship within 24hrs after leaving our home and already went on a week vacation with this person. It didn't hurt me so much as disappoint me because it truly showed how little thought of themselves...although I know I need to learn to love them from afar I still hope that one day for the sake of our children he gets the help he needs..
I appreciate your input. So many of these videos highlight the same points but tend to have this sugar coated undertone of “they are hurting from your breakup and want to avoid those feelings”. Your honest hard truth comment of “they’re probably trying to avoid you and want to be distant from you” was something I needed to hear to affirm moving on. My relationship was destined to fail and I can now admit that I was probably a rebound for him and now he monkey branched into another one with someone else. As painful as this process is because my feelings were real for this person, and as often as I’ve wondered if he’ll come back, I know I’m worth more than just being an optional bandaid for someone who refuses to heal their wounds. Thank you!
My ex and I never had an argument in almost 2 years! We were looking for a house together and suddenly I was blindsided with a breakup! No excuse or anything! But 5 months later I see how he carries baggage from one to the other! Not my circus not my monkeys! She was a friend of more than 30 years! I work with them both! I got her the job and she looks like a cabbage patch doll! Low value, she still lives life like we’re in HS..!!I laughed tonight when I heard her call him a fkkn moron to her friends! Honeymoon is almost over! She always said she wants someone who likes sex with money in the bank! They both played themselves and I have a front row seat!
You have a brilliant & warm way of articulating the peaks & valleys of utter heartbreak & dark grief, of breakups & rebounds. Your video & good vibe, came to me at exactly the perfect time. Thank You so much! I needed your kindness, & wisdom. ❣️❣️
Thanks Ryan for being so compassionate in the way you share the truth. Needed to hear it.
The day after Christmas my fiancé left me, the reasons weren’t clear. But I found out she was in a relationship 2 weeks later. I have no idea what I think about it.
i love your videos
Needed the entire message. Thank you.
My ex cheated on me physically 1 time before this time that I know of.. she begged me to take her back so I did then right after we hit 5 year anniversary she broke up with me again saying something is missing . She said the reason she cheated on me the first time (that I know of) is because she wanted an excuse to get out of the relationship.. I’m confused why did she beg me to take her back after the first cheating incident? If she wanted out to why didn’t she just go.. like she said she wanted to? Now I know she’s in a new rebound relationship.. she’s finally moved out and living where ever.. and I’m trying to heal but I’m still totally in love with her. I’m not depressed like I was but I have moments where I just cry myself to sleep but I kinda have it in my head that if it’s meant to be it will be. Idk. I do know I can’t trust her and I don’t want to take her back and then be scared that she will do this again and again. I don’t want to go through this again with her. It would take lots of counseling , and healing time for me to ever consider taking her back or even dating her again. This sucks.
Yea but what if it’s 2 years later and you still can’t let go of them
I would say that's a little unusual and something to explore deeper. Have you been focusing on them over and over for those 2 years? Grieving is hard but it can take deliberate action sometimes so we can get some psychological distance from our ex. Maybe this could be something to talk over with a therapist?
Great video z👍
This is horrible 💔
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my ex dumped me and he cried for a week after and was very sad, then 2 weeks later after staying in contact we had a weekend together where we were both crying about the split he was telling me how much he loved me etc that he would never forget me and he was soooooo upset a week later he found someone else?? i mean wth when i met him he was still a bit hurt from a girl 7 months b4 and hadnt been with anyone else,and he got over me in a week so it seems by finding someone, fuck that hurts