Love your video, very beautifully said. Baby girl is so pretty. I'm not married but I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years but I've liked him since 2001. Our relationship was just fine for the 1st 5 years until 2 years ago when his mom passed. As soon as she passed our relationship has shifted now we argue and fuss. we never did this before so to me it seems as though when she left, a piece of him left with her and I don't know what to do cause I love him but I don't like him anymore.
Hi:) self-care doesn't need a single status. In case you do not identify your relationship as abusive, try to give for everything you want him to change, give , grow etc to also give, grow and change into his direction. So you don't feel rejected. and don't ask for perfection if he struggles. figure the bare minimum that you need from each other out. set boundaries so you do not see yourself wanting a break soon after rekindling and get individual therapy too. It is not harmful to be attached, thats the science behind love. your child is attached to you, too. If taking breaks from active parenting is something that helps both of you, you could incorporate that into your schedule by helping each other and getting an 3rd person as childcarer involved too. Again boundaries are important here. separation/ isolation is good for getting a perspective but if after a couple months being single or wanting to be with a person that your partner cannot transform himself into is not what you aim for. Then wanting a better relationship is what you truly want. It is possible that, that is more to yourself and the love of imperfection that you receive and give is so comforting that it stopped you from challenging yourself to grow. That is normal too. take accountability for your development as a human and don't blame an other for cuddling you. If the shrinking was done on his request true ego or passive aggression, then grow enough to make him uncountable before going forward as lovers so he and not you alone feels the struggle of liking you while loving you with ease. -sorry for spelling and grammar-
Marriage is waking up and choosing yourself, then while being yourself choosing your partner…every day. Both people must continue to grow separately in order to grow collectively.
This is very true. I’ve been here. Separated for 5 years now, and I’m at peace with everything. God, has a plan for me just like He has a plan for you. Continue to work on yourself as I know you will. Sometimes it’s needed. But I’m hopeful that you guys can come back stronger than ever. If not I wish you guys the best co parenting in the world. I love you both. I love your family. Peace be with you all.
Isn’t it funny how in the moments you are most overcome with emotion your daughter bursts in the room full of joy embraces you and makes you smile from within.. a true big all teeth smile, it warms my heart. I love my kids and they are always my light in my worst moments. I see the same in you ❤️❤️❤️
Met my estranged husband IN NYC, moved together 4 months in, moved to NC 2 years later, child 3 years later, moved into RV and built a house with our own hands within 5 years of meeting. He left when our daughter was 3 years. Very codependent-- I was a stay at home mom. When he left my life hit rock bottom. I built myself back up to someone better. Him and I are very good friends and almost business partners. It's been a crazy hard journey but if he didn't leave I would havent found myself again. I'm greatful. Many blessings to you.
“Supporting him is supporting all of us because we are still a family.” That is so big of you and it speaks volumes about you as a queen. I applaud you both for working on communicating in a harmonious way. Love and light! ❤️
Yea that got me. 🥺 Hearing someone talk about separation and coparenting without anger or resentment and darkness feels so refreshing & uncommon 🥺 keep flourishing 🥲🤗
@jolie I agree but him being supportive and her shrinking herself are two things that can coexist. I’m not badmouthing him. I personally have had supportive partners but because of my past traumas I shrunk myself for them still. Both can be true.
@jolie I agree with you! However, there is something that happens between couples when a man does not have his own…the woman must know the man can provide or the respect gets lost! I feel Matt can prove himself now…even prove it to himself! I really liked them as a couple…a family but one could see this happening! Her house…her business…her this…her that! I hope they reconcile because I recall the powerful vlog when she was in labor at home and he was bedside supporting her. It was pure ❤️ and Matt loved the new life in the house! I believe she just needs to see him be able to provide financially!
I’m sure the pressure of being “couple goals” was intense. Separation is a great choice, removing that codependent streak, breaking down the ego and letting go!!! Let go of fear, anxiety, and stress. You no longer need to have those white knuckles. Proud of you
my great grand parents hit 50 years but that wasn’t without a 1 year break. My great grandma needed space but she came back because ultimately they loved each other and were best friends.
When couples say they’ve been together for 10, 20, 30+ years, you rarely get to hear how many times they separated for one reason or another. It’s almost never a straight perfect timeline. I hope that if and when you come back together, the time apart will only strengthen your bond and enrich your relationship experience.
@@stephaniec9355 but they should have separated from what I’ve seen and heard! Those long relationships are loaded with 10,000 reasons you should have left long long ago
It seems so small of an action putting pictures in the babies room, but so beautiful and healthy for your child’s environment. Man y’all are doing a great job.
I selfishly want you to build a tiny home in the backyard so y’all can be together and still have space when needed. Love you three! Your soul will find what it needs.
A friend of mine sort of did that. They never got back together (infidelity,) but he moved down the street from her & their son. He lived down there until the boy graduated from college. And they barely liked each other, but they made it work for 15 years.
Sis you don’t owe us any explanation but we do appreciate it. Sending you so much love and strength during this time of transition. Right now you have 333k subs
This is why I keep telling people WOMBMAN need to know who they r. & come into their power. Wombman have lost that but will soon be back on the throne. This does not downplayed Men. When wombman know who she is Man will. This will help him to become greater. Take a look at channel Aamilyaion( the celestial worker ) great channel. Video on this topic: THE REAL MATRIX: PLEASE STAND UP, REBUILDING OUR CRYSTAL CITIES,M & WHO IS GOD. ALL IS IMPERATIVE, INFORMATIVE AND A WAY TO BEGIN 2KNOW CELL(SELF).
It's so refreshing to see a healthy and thoughtful breakup, we need to normalize it being okay to still care but feel like separation isn't the end of everything. I've always loved watching the both of you and your relationship but because it's so honest and you're so smart. I hope you are all doing well ❤
i was listening to a psychology seminar on relationships and learned that the typical 'honeymoon phase' is almost ALWAYS followed by a 'power struggle phase'. and this can be 4 years in! hearing this was so helpful, to feel like we aren't crazy or broken or with no hope - this is a natural human experience.
Every couple is different. Some couples move on to the power struggle phase between several months to a few years. It's all about getting to know your partner. She moved too fast. That was her downfall. He did so as well. He probably is a genuine guy but he's definitely not the right man for her😉 Because from what I know is that after dating a man and learning about him for at least 3-4 months then you can have sex. Plans for marriage may proceed after that but I mean 😳move in as in living together after 3 months of dating🤨😳🧐 That was a red flag on both of them. I am in a relationship with an amazing guy who loves me for me and we've been together for about three years now. And we definitely give each other space. As a matter of fact I love my space 😂 We are both introverts😉 And we have definitely already gone through our power struggle. What helped us was communication, communication, communication. She said they were best friends but yet didn't think of communicating 🤦🏽♀️ Me and my boyfriend when angry with each other would give each other space to cool out and then communicate our needs in the relationship and our dissatisfactions. On a serious note not allowing your significant other space can be the end of your relationship after some time as it was with hers😢
@@cassidye7536 It could be and it also may not be. We change once we become Mothers & if we don’t have the support we need… breakdown happens because we’re usually the ones supporting everyone else.
I don’t know man. To me it sounds like the relationship wasn’t built on solid foundation, which is both shocking and sad to me, as we are talking about two spiritually aware/awake people here. For me, being spiritually awake should give you enough know how to form a bind that is flexible & doesn’t break away in the flimsiest of breezes nor the shortest of time spans. Regular degular people with barely any spiritual intelligence are out here finding their way to love, producing off springs & remaining in healthy relationships for decades. It makes me question the authenticity of what we have truly been watching for all these years 🤔.
At first I was like nooooo. But then you said. "I was making myself small." That hit me right in my heart. I have spent my whole entire life making myself small for Family, friends, relationships, my marriage (now divorced), and co-workers. I have recently started dating a woman who constantly encourages me to shine bright. However, with her being so amazing I worry about becoming co-dependent. She has been so protective of me and is trying her best to help me stand on my own. Sorry to make this about me. I am so sorry to hear that you have to go through this. You both are strong and beautiful souls, I know you both will become the best humans that you can be.
The same way you think the lady you’re dating is amazing, is the same way she sees and thinks you are as well! You deserve to shine bright and own the space. You’ve got this.
this is the first video of yours that I've seen and I am so taken by your honesty and beautiful spirit. im subscribing so i can get more of your energy.
I have been married 22 years. We got married at 18 after 6 months of “dating”. 2 kids and daughter and a son. We have separated 5 times. And it’s what saved us. Sometimes you have to have space to grow as individuals to work as a couple. Loving yourself and making you happy before you can love each other completely. Regardless how it ends, knowing you tried and did what’s best for yourself and your family is all that matters. Regardless of what that best ends up being 🥰
The best advice someone told me is to never loose yourself in a relationship. It looks like you two are on the right path in finding yourselves and growing together in a healthy way. Sending my love to both of you.
Right. You always have to have something that is just you. It gets easy to people please even though you don't think about it like that because you're just being a Mom. But when you start to feel that weight on you its hard to ignore after a while.
@@kdogg1372 when people have a child or kids eventually things will find break down because sometime the sparks will go away all the bond goes to the child and the kids best bet .
Relationships were challenged this year. It was a 5 yr symbolizing foundation. The fact you listened to your inner voice shows wisdom. You are also going through your post partum and Saturn return, alot of self reflection and rebirth. Your relationship can withstand anything but it had to be built on solid foundation with solid independent identities. I believe in ya. I know this is just the foundation to a powerful family. Sending you love and healing energy.
Matt was all wrapped up in your world and so it’s really good for him that he’s working on his own stuff. That will help him and your relationship greatly.
Was he wrapped up in her world or did he take over her world? There's a big difference in the two. I don't know they're situation at all so I can't and won't comment on it. I do know I've been in situations with guys who came into the relationship with nothing and completely took over my shit. What was mine became ours. I put in all the effort and they showed up to reap the benefit. I'm exchange for their companionship, I lived for them and they lived for them. It was a toxic mess. I had to take time to work on the part of me that believed I was worth so little that I had to earn a relationship. Hopefully whatever they're going through, they'll come out of it stronger and healthier on the other side.
When you began to express what it was like to feel as though your soul had a deep need to be alone to process and heal. I feel exactly like that right now in my current relationship of almost 4 years. To hear you put that into words for me after battling so long with trying to understand what I’m feeling has truly given me a sense of clarity for the first time in a long time. I haven’t even finished the video yet but i want to say thank you so much for that.
Exactly!!!! This is why I keep telling people WOMBMAN need to know who they r. & come into their power. Wombman have lost that but will soon be back on the throne. This does not downplayed Men. When wombman know who she is Man will. This will help him to become greater. Take a look at channel Aamilyaion( the celestial worker ) great channel. Video on this topic: THE REAL MATRIX: PLEASE STAND UP, REBUILDING OUR CRYSTAL CITIES,M & WHO IS GOD. ALL IS IMPERATIVE, INFORMATIVE AND A WAY TO BEGIN 2KNOW CELL(SELF).
Once I saw the title, I have to say I wasn’t shocked. My own journey was the same; once we had our child together, the dynamic changed and I was no longer tolerant of things that I let slide prior; it became different. We are good friends now and I’m glad I initiated the separation because had we not, we may have ended up hating each other and my daughter wouldn’t have the great relationship with her Dad that she does. Stay strong, sis ❤️❤️
The moment you mentioned the trauma that comes up when having a child, my heart skipped a beat because that was my experience and I had to step away from my relationship because of it. I wish more people spoke about this especially women. I’m not done with the video but thank you for bringing this up. And I hope you are moving forward in your healing process ❤️
Yes. Therapy. Healing. Get back to that healthy relationship because we wanna see you guys grow!! You all are like my inspiration. I’ve been watching you all since the van!!!
Stop letting other people’s relationships be your inspiration. You can want what they have and not know what they’re going through. Imagery can mean nothing at the end of the day.
My husband and I have been together for 16 years. I was 17 he was 21. Since the first night we spent together we never spent a day apart. There definitely has been ups and downs. We had our first son in 2011. Our only daughter passed away unexpectedly at 38 weeks while in labor in 2015. That caused so much issues. Then we found out we were expecting our rainbow son less than 2 months later. We have had to work through so many issues but so far we have made it. Big hugs mama
Awww Mama... sending you and Matt both love to pull through these tough times! You know within your heart what is right for you and the little one. Wishing you heart healing
So I waited before giving any advice because who am I to you. But I feel invested as I have followed y’all from when you lived together in an a apartment in NYC, and talked about living in a van. I thought y’all were nuts, and asking people to support, and Bitcoin investing. However I kept watching, not only getting wonderful information but to see these two free spirits fall madly in love with each other, Mother Earth, and the Universe. Then The house, the baby, the dogs with your skinless cat (Rumi). It was a lot in a short period of time. Plus not being Married, (well I digress) After being Married for 29 years, three children, 3 houses, cats and fish I think I can speak on what went sideways, not wrong. You lost yourself, and then resented each other for what you placed in your mind, the expectations of what a good ___fill in the blank___ should be. What I know for sure, you two belong with each other. Go to counseling do the work. Marriage ain’t for punks (Pastor Roberson) and remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place. Work on getting a life outside of each other, then when you come back together (and you will 😉) it will be so much sweeter because you will have found “You” again. Whether that’s your music, singing, dancing, creating but just do the work and pray. What God has brought together ✌🏽peace n’ love 💜
Reading these comments has me in my feelings. Ladies, I love y’all. We go through so much to bring babies into the world and for some of us we then have to shift into being single mothers. It’s a lot. I’ve gone through it too, and please just know that I love us. Sending all the mamas some good energy and a virtual hug. ❤️
Women don't realize how amazing they r. This is why I keep telling people WOMBMAN need to know who they r. & come into their power. Wombman have lost that but will soon be back on the throne. This does not downplayed Men. When wombman know who she is Man will. This will help him to become greater. Take a look at channel Aamilyaion( the celestial worker ) great channel. Video on this topic: THE REAL MATRIX: PLEASE STAND UP, REBUILDING OUR CRYSTAL CITIES,M & WHO IS GOD. ALL IS IMPERATIVE, INFORMATIVE AND A WAY TO BEGIN 2KNOW CELL(SELF).
I have been married to my husband for 15 years, and together for 22. There will always be peaks and valleys, there are seasons when I feel deeply in love with my husband and times I don’t. When you both CHOOSE to work through the hard times, it will elevate your bond and relationship. Peace and blessings❤️
Amen! Many people give up way too easily nowadays, life is full of ebbs & flows, ups & downs. Relationships are never perfect, but if you both make an effort, know when to give each other space and enter with a pure, willing heart with God on your sides, you can make it past anything and come out stronger❤️
Any couple who has ever been together for any length of time falls in and out of love/like. Alone time is absolutely necessary for individual souls to grow.
I agree completely with this. I’m currently working on the process of walking away. I have one foot out of the door. I know how to avoid this in my next relationship. Working on my healing while we’re still under the same roof is difficult. I’m afraid of the future 😩
This is definitely not the end for you two. I see growth, I see inner work, I see healing. Thank you so much for sharing what you are going through in such a beautiful and inspiring way (even though I know it's tough).
Thank you. I’m currently in a space where I’m not happy in the relationship I’m in and I’m desperately searching for freedom. We’re no longer loving one another, just competing for control. We have three children to raise up strong, but he and I are weakening one another. I haven’t found the strength to walk forward without him. Watching you brought me pride and reassurance. Continued blessings.
I honestly prayed this wouldn’t happen to you guys. I saw how much more was put onto y’all’s plate so fast like you said . And that can be so draining. I see you guys working it out and getting back together again. Y’all’s love is so beautiful nothing wrong with falling in love fast . As long as you are willing to fight through the problems you can make it out together again . I love the honesty and maturity between you both I wish y’all the best DON’T GIVE UP !
Isn’t that the cutest thing ever running down that hallway. I don’t know if I have a 6th sense ( I never saw his video) but the last video when you were around your mom …I felt it.
Sorry to hear this sis 💚 I can relate!! Here’s my story: I remember when I separated with my son’s dad (it was also my choice). We were together for 3 years. When I became pregnant, that’s when our relationship went downhill. I’m so glad that Matt wasn’t harming you in any way. In my case, my son’s dad had become verbally abusive (he was throwing his dirty socks on my altars). We grew together spiritually, went on this whole ascension journey, but the higher we went the further apart we became. And because I’m a perfectionist I didn’t tell anyone we had broken up until after a year of being separated. I had a lot of shame. But I broke up with him and I moved out of the home I was still paying for (we ain’t gonna get into that part, it would bring the energy of the video down). But I had to do it! I didn’t know how I would support myself and my son, but when you become a mother you develop this strength and you find ways out of no way. It all worked out in the long run, and I know it will for you too. I found my happiness. I wish you and Matt and baby girl nothing but the BEST!!! You all deserve to be happy. 💚💚💚
It seems like it's common for "spiritual people" ( i hate that term but u know what I mean) to need seasons of aloneness or have non-traditional relationships. I think we're just more in touch with our needs and are free enough to not stick to old paradigms when they don't feel right. You, Matt and the baby are beautiful and I wish u all best, whatever that looks like.
I totally understand this! I divorced my husband right after I delivered our second child. I just couldn’t fathom taking care of him and two kids. No one was looking out to me, so I had to do it! I will always choose ME! Always! He had a lot of short comings that I overlooked but when you bring a child into the world those things are heightened to the 10th power. Best wishes 🥰💜
Write letters to each other, no matter what time of the day it is, when the mood hits you … sit down and write your heart to him, and he to you. Then exchange thoughts. Let this be the start of therapy.❤️ Profuse peace be unto you both during this journey.
Awww... she's walking now! Sending you peace and love. This is such a healthy and mature way to grow in your relationship. Thank you for your honesty. It will help so many.
I just heard someone say, "marriage is having someone there when you fall back in love with them again." It spoke to me about staying in it for the long haul, but it is not everyone's truth. Thank you for sharing.
This is so difficult for me to take in, their family always seemed so whole but it goes to show you know no one’s journey just by watching a few thirty minute videos. Manifesting comfort for all three of you !! Cheers to healing ❤️🩹
seeing this now, when i need it most. currently in the very slow process of splitting from my partner of six years. we're both dependent on each other financially, so we're collectively working towards a lifestyle where we can each regain control of our finances & have our own homes separately. we moved into an rv a few months ago, and in ~10 days, we're moving to colorado where i'll get to build my own tiny house over the next year or so. it's an uncommon narrative for an end of a relationship, but it's what makes the most sense for us, and i think that's all that matters.
Queen, I. SEE. YOU! You have carefully and elegantly articulated EVERYTHING that I have been feeling since my Starseed came into this world in January. The freakin' rose colored glasses are off. Everything I was choosing to be ignorant to, I couldn't hide from anymore because I didn't want those patterns to be repeated in my daughter. Like I had to let her father go...I. SEE. YOU!
That’s another piece of info people dont tell you. Kids change a relationship…as it should. The two of u learned each other well, the next step is learning each other with a child and the learning continues with each child. Then when the child is grown, the parents are alone again and have to learn each other and sometimes they seem to be strangers again. It is all ebb and flow, growing and learning, leaving old mindsets and finding new ones…that is life and if partnership is important, you have to navigate that with the other person very step of the way. Communicate your concerns and past traumas so u can understand each other better. But in the end you have to do what is best for u. I recommend listening to The Love Hour Podcast…a lot of good relationship and individual gems in there.
I remember I was with a guy for a little over a year. And me and him were also attached at the hip from the beginning. Like damn near obsessed lol as time went on, I started seeing the red flags for what they were, fell out of love, left the relationship and never looked back. That was years ago, but I can see that our foundation was rooted in toxic codependency.. I'm not even sure it was real love, but early on if you guys rush into it, it's a strong possibility that it will come crashing down just as quickly. Now I make sure to take my time with relationships and to give proper space early on. In the meantime, I hope you guys figure out what works best for you.
When you're spending your life with someone, these things happens. You have moments when you don't connect and when you need time and space to reflect. I recognize your courage. I hope you two can work things out so that you can look back at this moment, from the other side, and be glad that you held on tightly! That feeling is so rewarding!
Right. This is why I keep telling people WOMBMAN need to know who they r. & come into their power. Wombman have lost that but will soon be back on the throne. This does not downplayed Men. When wombman know who she is Man will. This will help him to become greater. Take a look at channel Aamilyaion( the celestial worker ) great channel. Video on this topic: THE REAL MATRIX: PLEASE STAND UP, REBUILDING OUR CRYSTAL CITIES,M & WHO IS GOD. ALL IS IMPERATIVE, INFORMATIVE AND A WAY TO BEGIN 2KNOW CELL(SELF).
Although my son's father and I never "got back together", we agreed in actions (never in words) to take care of our wonderful son together. He is now 17 and lives between the both of us. Hi father and I are friends to this day. Whatever good or bad things that happen in our lives, we share them. I'm constantly grateful and happy for his successes. At this 17 year mark, I think we do a great job parenting and loving our son and caring for each other in ways that show love and compassion for each other. It will be hard in the beginning, but always power though. Your daughter is completely worth it.
Hit super close to home, still coping from a traumatic break-up in July too and soo many similarities it's scary lol. Thank you for your vulnerability; wish nothing but the best for you and Matt and sending you the same light, peace, and healing that your words have often brought me ❤️
Same! My relationship of 8 years ended in a separation at the end of July as well. So much of this video hits home. The only difference is we don't have children together so we won't need to co-parent. Sending you and everyone here lots of love.
WTF !...you guys are my inspiration...I luv u guys!...we have five planets in retrograde right now so at this time we have a lot of mis communication going on between relationships...the energy is all mixed up and crazy right now...hopefully you guys will work it out and get back synchronize with each other...this is the time to really meditate together and get through the healing process...sit in silence back to back with each other and inhale and exhale together at the same time for 15 to 20 minutes or face each other forehead to forehead and hold hands and align yourselves back with each other...do not let the negative energy and negative entities and forces conquer and destroy this beautiful union you guys have built together!...someone has allowed the negative to shift them off course and change their polarities....in these days of changes you guys have to really protect yourself and space and energy!...may our ancestors continue to protect and bring you guys much success, prosperity and abundance, joy and laughter and happiness and a beautiful reunion!...sending you guys much love and healing energy...peace EMPRESS & EMPEROR! 💪💪💪💪💪
I’ve watched a couple of your videos now, and I can’t describe how much I align with your description of yourself in relationship to parenting, partnership and just you being you. You’re taking words right out of my head.
This is why I keep telling people WOMBMAN need to know who they r. & come into their power. Wombman have lost that but will soon be back on the throne. This does not downplayed Men. When wombman know who she is Man will. This will help him to become greater. Take a look at channel Aamilyaion( the celestial worker ) great channel. Video on this topic: THE REAL MATRIX: PLEASE STAND UP, REBUILDING OUR CRYSTAL CITIES,M & WHO IS GOD. ALL IS IMPERATIVE, INFORMATIVE AND A WAY TO BEGIN 2KNOW CELL(SELF).
This is not the end. It will never be an end. You are bonded as family for ever. Couples and families transition to different dynamics all the time. Healing will come day be day. Stay positive.
I’m 100% going through this right now and thank God im in a peaceful mindset! I also initiated my breakup because I became tired of making it work by myself when I knew space was needed
I feel like when I became a parent, I needed to give my child everything that I did not get as a child and more. For you n Matt please always keep communication open no matter hard it gets. Love y'all!
Me and my now husband went through a separation for a year after having our first daughter at about 15months old. It was also my decision and the absolute hardest thing I ever did. He is and was my best friend, and we spent every moment together. However, I lost myself in being a mother, and resented him for being away for work. The separation was so necessary for him to heal, for me to discover myself again in this new space and phase. I pray you both find the peace, healing and guidance.
I'm crying :( I'm lost in words. But I've must admit I can agree that becoming parents it is TOUGH, it's a new level in being in a relationship with someone you truly love.
I’m going through the same thing. I have been with my man for 7 years but I’m unhappy here in NY. I want more. I’m moving to GA and he doesn’t agree but even though I love him I have to love myself more and give my kids a better quality of life. He hurts so bad because heart is with him but my mind and soul is telling me to grab my kids and start over. I understand and I’m sorry I can’t give you advice because I need some myself. But I do see that you have a beautiful soul and you are strong. God will guide you just let the steering wheel go he got you and your beautiful daughter. Just pray and so will I. Thank you for sharing
Him starting his own life apart from you is incredibly crucial for a man. I think that will be the ultimate change he needs and it will give you the space to heal and grow!
Awwww Matt is a good man… Everything will work itself out. It’s all about the healing and getting counseling to figure out where the issues lay and what needs to be addressed. I am praying for your beautiful Union ❤️❤️❤️
On a spiritual level I don’t think this is the end but rather than the beginning with such maturity and understanding with two that it sounds like you two are really just getting time to heal within and take time out with self…outside looking in there a HUGE possibility of you guys reconciliation either way your internet fam is here with you both on your journies 💛
Oh most definitely lol neither are going anywhere ! This space and time is going to be so healthy & worth it for their COME BACK 🙌🏻 The 2 of them were literally made for each other 🌹 They got this
I agree. I love them both and literally pray for their separate healing as well as their relationship healing. I’m rooting for both of them. I hope they hear my prayers 🙏🏽📿🤲🛐🧎🏽♀️
I went through a similar breakup this year, deep love and true friendship, it honestly feels like a death. You are so strong for listening to your gut and only growth and passion lies ahead for you. You are young and beautiful and lived a beautiful story with him. Just continue to practice anything that is healing to you and take care of yourself. You will be okay and life will be fun again:)
It’s simple - love is only defined by the resistance that it faces. It’s easy to love when the sun is shining. The rain and tornadoes are the defining moments. Glad you guys are still together, in love, even if you’re miles apart in separate living spaces. #ThisIsLove ❤️🙏🥰
You story resonates extremely with mine. It is so full. So much, simultaneously healing and revealing a lot of generational patterns I DO NOT care to repeat. I've done so much, even going no contact from my family because (gurrrrrrl, no!), pro counseling and advising, and discovered SOMEONE ELSE needs to address, accept, and course correct their shadow work. But, the misfire in communication and walls i have to climb, chisel, and demolish down just reach another wall. It's a tough pill....will not let my partner nor his family wheel my ship with repeated projections of control and abuse. I have two, 18mos apart. As a former childhood educator and working with my own childhood trauma, I cannot accept the risk of what these behaviors could lead to again. Love and light, Mama! I have learned so much from you both on your journey and I thank you so much for your transparency. Women are not talking about this. We hold, harbor, and protect so much. We are not supposed to be vessels of discourse and pain. We will heel. These babies are magical. We got it, Mama. I love y'all. 💫
I have felt that often where I have been out of like with my husband, and I feel like that's normal. We love each other dearly and are in love, but we do have days where we dont like each other's behavior. I wish you all the best and truly want you to achieve the healing you desire!
As a single parent of two daughters you are spot on with having to navigate all our suppressed “stuff”, it’s a journey I’m still on and learn everyday! Sending much love! Being alone can be such a beautiful thing
The Details aren’t important. My husband and I have been joined at the hip since day one as well. I will say that it doesn’t matter what it looks like on the outside, when you are called to make a move you go with it because the vision was given to you. You clearly have a partner that no matter how messy it gets he will stick by your side. I feel that you are the consistent growth (change) that you all need and Matt is the consistent stability (security) that you all need. It’s all about strengths and weaknesses. The Like comes in waves. The Love Always stays. Taking this break sounds like it’s because you want to Regain balance. With yourself baby and Matt and when I tell you Every woman has those (Can no one need me for just 5 minutes/ can I not be the brains for this entire operation for 5 minutes) pauses! I’m dead ass serious! Continue to go with the flow of this shift! Matt Will Rise So Will You this is the change you both need to enter this next level as whom you are both meant to be. Be it together or not it’s needed and will be beautiful 💛 I always tell myself “If the vision is giving to me! Then it is on me to get us where we are meant to be” Emotionally Detaching From The Outcome is Key 🔑 You guys are doing great! Everything is as it should be! You aren’t alone all of our breaks look different but they are needed! As women it’s very important that we regain our balance because we are source 💛✨ Peace Light and Love To You and Your Family 🤗
First of all, thank you so much for sharing such a personal, intimate experience. My husband & I have been together since highschool. Together for 30 years, married for 22 years. we have 2 adult daughters and 3 grandchildren. About 10+ yrs ago when our youngest daughter went away to College, we found ourselves heading in different directions. We no longer had soccers games, or dance recitals, or daughters full-time needs to focus on and somehow, somewhere along the way we lost sight of each other and ourselves. We had to take a break from each other and discover ourselves, not as parents or spouses but as individuals, our likes and wants in this very new role...as empty nesters. It was a long process, with many emotions, hard truths both good and unpleasant but after a few years we both decided that no matter what happens in our lives, we want to experience it together. I wish you all strength, love and healing. I'm keeping your family in my thoughts and I hope that you and Matt will find your way back to each other. Please take care of yourself.
The only thing that I would like to leave with you is fight for your family. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. And as an old gospel song once said " After you've done all you can, you just stand". I love you and your family and will definitely be praying and rooting for you two to get through this season because I believe that's just what it is, a season 😥.
Thank you so much for opening up this space. The comments show that a lot of women have had similar experiences but haven’t been able to share it. As women we get wiser and more intuitive as we age. There’s nothing wrong with changing your mind or wanting something different. Unfortunately society tells us that unless the person does something tragically and toxically wrong, that relationships are forever. Sometimes love is not enough reason to stay. No matter how deep it is.
I came across this video in the right time. I’m 3 kids in my relationship and I’m having the hardest time figuring out how to heal outside of our relationship and heal within our relationship but it can be so much that I think separation is the best option. Like you said you had all those things telling you not to but only you know what’s best for you and your family. SOOO after all that said I commend you for grinding and finding your strength to find yourself separate.
you and Matt are doing so amazing at this. my parents are separated and it was a very unhealthy process that split our family eternally. I’m sure Aura appreciates the maturity and dynamic that y’all are displaying. Best wishes to all three of you
Hey V! My heart goes out to you. This is a huge transformation! For what it’s worth ISTA (international school of temple arts) is a really healing training for intimacy and sexuality that comes to mind if you’re looking to check out different therapies during this time in your life. I did it and it totally broke my heart open and deepened my intimacy with others on a whole new level. Sending love
Your vanlife chapter was one that inspired my partner and I when we were first interested in a more nomadic lifestyle. Watching your adventures helped get our own off the ground. Thank you! You deserve the beautiful future that I know you will manifest.
Grace and Mercy & I usually say Divorce but in your case Grace, Mercy & Separation for the soul and conscience. I and so glad you listened to spirit over Humanity. You have the tools within both of you to grow from this space of coparenting & development. Your generosity to support him will be rewarded
You have 333k subs, that’s a powerful number for 3 powerful beings. We love you all. I hope that you all heal, and I send you my love and support, and sooooo much positivity. ❤️❤️❤️ love to see you.
My partner and I are navigating these deep traumas that have come up through genetically marrying with one another. I resonate with being so deeply in love, but not really at all in like with them…oh bitter sweet and painful chances to learn and grow. I love you and your beautiful family Veladya. Thank you for honoring the woman that you are; you are such an inspiring woman and mama.
@@Superlife1369 I can understand your confusion. Maybe my wording is a bit odd… I mean like partnering with someone on all levels of being including spiritually. By committing to a person and honoring the kharma that has been created between your two souls.
thank you for being so honest and open and transparent about loving someone but needing to be alone. it’s something that isn’t talked about often and i really needed to hear it right now. loving someone is beautiful but you don’t need to be WITH someone to love them. thank you and i hope this journey is smooth and healing for you both !
Wow! I just discovered your channel and I find you astonishing! I mean can you even be stronger? I love how real you are, how you open up and I think its so great and strong to realize all this stuff while being in a relationship. And I absolutely love how you put your daughter first, but for real! Wow! ♥
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Love your video, very beautifully said. Baby girl is so pretty. I'm not married but I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years but I've liked him since 2001. Our relationship was just fine for the 1st 5 years until 2 years ago when his mom passed. As soon as she passed our relationship has shifted now we argue and fuss. we never did this before so to me it seems as though when she left, a piece of him left with her and I don't know what to do cause I love him but I don't like him anymore.
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It's called being young,y'all didn't do nothing wrong ,you are both first in adulthood, love is timeless.
Just except,The gift of all your happiness, teachings from,God it's all for you.
Hi:) self-care doesn't need a single status. In case you do not identify your relationship as abusive, try to give for everything you want him to change, give , grow etc to also give, grow and change into his direction. So you don't feel rejected. and don't ask for perfection if he struggles. figure the bare minimum that you need from each other out. set boundaries so you do not see yourself wanting a break soon after rekindling and get individual therapy too.
It is not harmful to be attached, thats the science behind love. your child is attached to you, too.
If taking breaks from active parenting is something that helps both of you, you could incorporate that into your schedule by helping each other and getting an 3rd person as childcarer involved too. Again boundaries are important here.
separation/ isolation is good for getting a perspective but if after a couple months being single or wanting to be with a person that your partner cannot transform himself into is not what you aim for. Then wanting a better relationship is what you truly want. It is possible that, that is more to yourself and the love of imperfection that you receive and give is so comforting that it stopped you from challenging yourself to grow. That is normal too. take accountability for your development as a human and don't blame an other for cuddling you. If the shrinking was done on his request true ego or passive aggression, then grow enough to make him uncountable before going forward as lovers so he and not you alone feels the struggle of liking you while loving you with ease.
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Marriage is waking up and choosing yourself, then while being yourself choosing your partner…every day. Both people must continue to grow separately in order to grow collectively.
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This is very true. I’ve been here. Separated for 5 years now, and I’m at peace with everything. God, has a plan for me just like He has a plan for you. Continue to work on yourself as I know you will. Sometimes it’s needed. But I’m hopeful that you guys can come back stronger than ever. If not I wish you guys the best co parenting in the world. I love you both. I love your family. Peace be with you all.
I love this!
Few people will ever have this level of maturity. You are a beautiful being.
THIS!!!
Agreed!!!!!
Amen😘
AMEN!!!!
Absolutely
All I can say is
1. Thank you for what you’ve given us.
2. Trust yourself.
Yes this 1,000,000 times
Hey Lili! Didn't expect to see you here lol
@@plantbasedguy lol I'm creeping all over RUclips :)
Lili look at you popping up! What else you be watching ? Lolol
whew "you can be so deeply in love with someone but out of like with them" my goodness 😭
So true!
I heard you loud & clear🤲🏾🙏🏾✊🏾🤎
Agreed
I totally felt that
She airing me out rn fr
Isn’t it funny how in the moments you are most overcome with emotion your daughter bursts in the room full of joy embraces you and makes you smile from within.. a true big all teeth smile, it warms my heart. I love my kids and they are always my light in my worst moments. I see the same in you ❤️❤️❤️
She totally felt her energy
thats what i was thinking like she knows mama is struggling a little and is being super supportive
Met my estranged husband IN NYC, moved together 4 months in, moved to NC 2 years later, child 3 years later, moved into RV and built a house with our own hands within 5 years of meeting. He left when our daughter was 3 years. Very codependent-- I was a stay at home mom. When he left my life hit rock bottom. I built myself back up to someone better. Him and I are very good friends and almost business partners. It's been a crazy hard journey but if he didn't leave I would havent found myself again. I'm greatful. Many blessings to you.
Blessings upon you. I've through a journey (right down to us having business deals together) and couldn't agree more with what you said❤️
Blessings my sister
Many blessings 💕
This is beautiful!! Many blessings to you Queen.
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“Supporting him is supporting all of us because we are still a family.” That is so big of you and it speaks volumes about you as a queen. I applaud you both for working on communicating in a harmonious way. Love and light! ❤️
A billion percent!!
Exactly
Very well put. Yes, love and light to all ❤
Yea that got me. 🥺 Hearing someone talk about separation and coparenting without anger or resentment and darkness feels so refreshing & uncommon 🥺 keep flourishing 🥲🤗
“I was making myself small” I felt that!!!
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Yup, we watched her do it
@jolie I agree but him being supportive and her shrinking herself are two things that can coexist. I’m not badmouthing him. I personally have had supportive partners but because of my past traumas I shrunk myself for them still. Both can be true.
@jolie I agree with you! However, there is something that happens between couples when a man does not have his own…the woman must know the man can provide or the respect gets lost! I feel Matt can prove himself now…even prove it to himself! I really liked them as a couple…a family but one could see this happening! Her house…her business…her this…her that! I hope they reconcile because I recall the powerful vlog when she was in labor at home and he was bedside supporting her. It was pure ❤️ and Matt loved the new life in the house! I believe she just needs to see him be able to provide financially!
I’m sure the pressure of being “couple goals” was intense. Separation is a great choice, removing that codependent streak, breaking down the ego and letting go!!! Let go of fear, anxiety, and stress. You no longer need to have those white knuckles. Proud of you
Pressure of “couple goals” girl
oh man...this spoke to my heart big time
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I also love how she’s choosing to support him even through her pain. Bless them
my great grand parents hit 50 years but that wasn’t without a 1 year break. My great grandma needed space but she came back because ultimately they loved each other and were best friends.
And you have to wonder whether they would've hit that amazing mark without that year. always trust the timing. what a great relationship.
When couples say they’ve been together for 10, 20, 30+ years, you rarely get to hear how many times they separated for one reason or another. It’s almost never a straight perfect timeline. I hope that if and when you come back together, the time apart will only strengthen your bond and enrich your relationship experience.
Agree! He needs to prove himself to himself
That’s not true 😂 many ppl stay married for 30+ years w/o separation
@@stephaniec9355 but they should have separated from what I’ve seen and heard! Those long relationships are loaded with 10,000 reasons you should have left long long ago
@@stephaniec9355 Many people do. But even more people don’t.
Yep. This.
One thing I learned 25 years later is that a lot of my feelings were because of postpartum. You are on the right path.
Makes sense. Quite possible was my issue years ago
It seems so small of an action putting pictures in the babies room, but so beautiful and healthy for your child’s environment. Man y’all are doing a great job.
I selfishly want you to build a tiny home in the backyard so y’all can be together and still have space when needed. Love you three! Your soul will find what it needs.
Yaaass
It VERY much so sounds like they are still in love, but need their own respective space🙏🏽
What a heartfelt soulful ideal.💗
A friend of mine sort of did that. They never got back together (infidelity,) but he moved down the street from her & their son. He lived down there until the boy graduated from college. And they barely liked each other, but they made it work for 15 years.
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😂😂😂😂😂 I love this
Aura having the time of her life while you record a heartfelt video is just the juxtaposition we needed! 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣. Yo she had no f’s to give!!!
Always stay true to yourself. May blessings, peace, and love rain on your family during this time. 🙏🏽🤍🤍🤍
Right?! She’s totting around doing her thing and entertaining herself. Love it.
Sis you don’t owe us any explanation but we do appreciate it. Sending you so much love and strength during this time of transition.
Right now you have 333k subs
Yes! 3s are very significant!
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Beautiful comment! The ascended masters are with her and all of us! Also taking heart based action to cocreate your reality and manifest 💖
Your likes on this are at 444. 💕
This is why I keep telling people WOMBMAN need to know who they r. & come into their power. Wombman have lost that but will soon be back on the throne. This does not downplayed Men. When wombman know who she is Man will. This will help him to become greater. Take a look at channel Aamilyaion( the celestial worker ) great channel. Video on this topic: THE REAL MATRIX: PLEASE STAND UP, REBUILDING OUR CRYSTAL CITIES,M & WHO IS GOD. ALL IS IMPERATIVE, INFORMATIVE AND A WAY TO BEGIN 2KNOW CELL(SELF).
It's so refreshing to see a healthy and thoughtful breakup, we need to normalize it being okay to still care but feel like separation isn't the end of everything. I've always loved watching the both of you and your relationship but because it's so honest and you're so smart. I hope you are all doing well ❤
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i was listening to a psychology seminar on relationships and learned that the typical 'honeymoon phase' is almost ALWAYS followed by a 'power struggle phase'. and this can be 4 years in! hearing this was so helpful, to feel like we aren't crazy or broken or with no hope - this is a natural human experience.
Every couple is different. Some couples move on to the power struggle phase between several months to a few years. It's all about getting to know your partner. She moved too fast. That was her downfall. He did so as well. He probably is a genuine guy but he's definitely not the right man for her😉
Because from what I know is that after dating a man and learning about him for at least 3-4 months then you can have sex. Plans for marriage may proceed after that but I mean 😳move in as in living together after 3 months of dating🤨😳🧐 That was a red flag on both of them.
I am in a relationship with an amazing guy who loves me for me and we've been together for about three years now. And we definitely give each other space. As a matter of fact I love my space 😂
We are both introverts😉 And we have definitely already gone through our power struggle. What helped us was communication, communication, communication. She said they were best friends but yet didn't think of communicating 🤦🏽♀️ Me and my boyfriend when angry with each other would give each other space to cool out and then communicate our needs in the relationship and our dissatisfactions.
On a serious note not allowing your significant other space can be the end of your relationship after some time as it was with hers😢
It’s very common when we have babies, you’re not alone
Would this be a form of postpartum after having a baby?
So true. We are all in this together.
@@cassidye7536 It could be and it also may not be. We change once we become Mothers & if we don’t have the support we need… breakdown happens because we’re usually the ones supporting everyone else.
@@Msluckycharms101 If we All got together as a community of Mothers & support systems… there’s beauty in this process
I don’t know man. To me it sounds like the relationship wasn’t built on solid foundation, which is both shocking and sad to me, as we are talking about two spiritually aware/awake people here.
For me, being spiritually awake should give you enough know how to form a bind that is flexible & doesn’t break away in the flimsiest of breezes nor the shortest of time spans.
Regular degular people with barely any spiritual intelligence are out here finding their way to love, producing off springs & remaining in healthy relationships for decades. It makes me question the authenticity of what we have truly been watching for all these years 🤔.
At first I was like nooooo. But then you said. "I was making myself small." That hit me right in my heart. I have spent my whole entire life making myself small for Family, friends, relationships, my marriage (now divorced), and co-workers.
I have recently started dating a woman who constantly encourages me to shine bright. However, with her being so amazing I worry about becoming co-dependent. She has been so protective of me and is trying her best to help me stand on my own.
Sorry to make this about me.
I am so sorry to hear that you have to go through this. You both are strong and beautiful souls, I know you both will become the best humans that you can be.
The same way you think the lady you’re dating is amazing, is the same way she sees and thinks you are as well! You deserve to shine bright and own the space.
You’ve got this.
Yea.. embrace it ❣️
Please don’t apologize for sharing your experience. Thank you for sharing. It actually helped me reflect too. Thank you.
@@jayb.5114 Thank you for that. 🥰
@@LadykookieTF I am glad it helped. People hardly ever talk about their experience so we have to make it up as we go. Good luck.❤️
this is the first video of yours that I've seen and I am so taken by your honesty and beautiful spirit. im subscribing so i can get more of your energy.
Oh wow😍 I love her! Watch all videos from the beginning ❤️
same.
Me too, all 3 in the family are beautiful souls. Girl I'm Loving those precious earrings. I wish I had a pair. Sending Love and Light to all 💖
She's amazing, worth the follow.💛
OMG HI DEVIN!! Happy you found your way to Veladya’s space, I’ve been following you both for years. Love this!
I have been married 22 years. We got married at 18 after 6 months of “dating”. 2 kids and daughter and a son. We have separated 5 times. And it’s what saved us. Sometimes you have to have space to grow as individuals to work as a couple. Loving yourself and making you happy before you can love each other completely. Regardless how it ends, knowing you tried and did what’s best for yourself and your family is all that matters. Regardless of what that best ends up being 🥰
The best advice someone told me is to never loose yourself in a relationship. It looks like you two are on the right path in finding yourselves and growing together in a healthy way. Sending my love to both of you.
Right. You always have to have something that is just you. It gets easy to people please even though you don't think about it like that because you're just being a Mom. But when you start to feel that weight on you its hard to ignore after a while.
@Dominique Monay it’s true than for everything
@@kdogg1372 when people have a child or kids eventually things will find break down because sometime the sparks will go away all the bond goes to the child and the kids best bet .
Relationships were challenged this year. It was a 5 yr symbolizing foundation. The fact you listened to your inner voice shows wisdom. You are also going through your post partum and Saturn return, alot of self reflection and rebirth. Your relationship can withstand anything but it had to be built on solid foundation with solid independent identities. I believe in ya. I know this is just the foundation to a powerful family. Sending you love and healing energy.
This comment made me so emotional. My eyes watered by sentence number 2. Definitely rings true.
Matt was all wrapped up in your world and so it’s really good for him that he’s working on his own stuff. That will help him and your relationship greatly.
He was wrapped up in her world? I never saw it that way. Interesting.
I could see that because this channel was hers to begin with and it transitioned to a family channel.
@@kdogg1372 It blew up b/c it became a couples channel - for a loooong time it was the two of them. THEY built this.
Was he wrapped up in her world or did he take over her world? There's a big difference in the two. I don't know they're situation at all so I can't and won't comment on it. I do know I've been in situations with guys who came into the relationship with nothing and completely took over my shit. What was mine became ours. I put in all the effort and they showed up to reap the benefit. I'm exchange for their companionship, I lived for them and they lived for them. It was a toxic mess. I had to take time to work on the part of me that believed I was worth so little that I had to earn a relationship. Hopefully whatever they're going through, they'll come out of it stronger and healthier on the other side.
When you began to express what it was like to feel as though your soul had a deep need to be alone to process and heal. I feel exactly like that right now in my current relationship of almost 4 years. To hear you put that into words for me after battling so long with trying to understand what I’m feeling has truly given me a sense of clarity for the first time in a long time. I haven’t even finished the video yet but i want to say thank you so much for that.
Wishing you peace and healing as the next season in your life is about to start
Same. Peace and love to you. 🙏🏾
Exactly!!!!
This is why I keep telling people WOMBMAN need to know who they r. & come into their power. Wombman have lost that but will soon be back on the throne. This does not downplayed Men. When wombman know who she is Man will. This will help him to become greater. Take a look at channel Aamilyaion( the celestial worker ) great channel. Video on this topic: THE REAL MATRIX: PLEASE STAND UP, REBUILDING OUR CRYSTAL CITIES,M & WHO IS GOD. ALL IS IMPERATIVE, INFORMATIVE AND A WAY TO BEGIN 2KNOW CELL(SELF).
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Once I saw the title, I have to say I wasn’t shocked. My own journey was the same; once we had our child together, the dynamic changed and I was no longer tolerant of things that I let slide prior; it became different. We are good friends now and I’m glad I initiated the separation because had we not, we may have ended up hating each other and my daughter wouldn’t have the great relationship with her Dad that she does. Stay strong, sis ❤️❤️
The moment you mentioned the trauma that comes up when having a child, my heart skipped a beat because that was my experience and I had to step away from my relationship because of it. I wish more people spoke about this especially women. I’m not done with the video but thank you for bringing this up. And I hope you are moving forward in your healing process ❤️
Yes!
This. Wow.
Yes. Therapy. Healing. Get back to that healthy relationship because we wanna see you guys grow!! You all are like my inspiration. I’ve been watching you all since the van!!!
Amen to this!
Yes love the van life!
Stop letting other people’s relationships be your inspiration. You can want what they have and not know what they’re going through. Imagery can mean nothing at the end of the day.
It is good that you know yourself and it sounds like you will be back together. 💚
My husband and I have been together for 16 years. I was 17 he was 21. Since the first night we spent together we never spent a day apart. There definitely has been ups and downs. We had our first son in 2011. Our only daughter passed away unexpectedly at 38 weeks while in labor in 2015. That caused so much issues. Then we found out we were expecting our rainbow son less than 2 months later. We have had to work through so many issues but so far we have made it. Big hugs mama
I tap on your blessings 🙌
god bless you 💓💓💓
Awww Mama... sending you and Matt both love to pull through these tough times! You know within your heart what is right for you and the little one. Wishing you heart healing
So I waited before giving any advice because who am I to you. But I feel invested as I have followed y’all from when you lived together in an a apartment in NYC, and talked about living in a van. I thought y’all were nuts, and asking people to support, and Bitcoin investing. However I kept watching, not only getting wonderful information but to see these two free spirits fall madly in love with each other, Mother Earth, and the Universe. Then The house, the baby, the dogs with your skinless cat (Rumi). It was a lot in a short period of time. Plus not being Married, (well I digress) After being Married for 29 years, three children, 3 houses, cats and fish I think I can speak on what went sideways, not wrong. You lost yourself, and then resented each other for what you placed in your mind, the expectations of what a good ___fill in the blank___ should be. What I know for sure, you two belong with each other. Go to counseling do the work. Marriage ain’t for punks (Pastor Roberson) and remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place. Work on getting a life outside of each other, then when you come back together (and you will 😉) it will be so much sweeter because you will have found “You” again. Whether that’s your music, singing, dancing, creating but just do the work and pray. What God has brought together ✌🏽peace n’ love 💜
Reading these comments has me in my feelings. Ladies, I love y’all. We go through so much to bring babies into the world and for some of us we then have to shift into being single mothers. It’s a lot. I’ve gone through it too, and please just know that I love us. Sending all the mamas some good energy and a virtual hug. ❤️
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Women don't realize how amazing they r. This is why I keep telling people WOMBMAN need to know who they r. & come into their power. Wombman have lost that but will soon be back on the throne. This does not downplayed Men. When wombman know who she is Man will. This will help him to become greater. Take a look at channel Aamilyaion( the celestial worker ) great channel. Video on this topic: THE REAL MATRIX: PLEASE STAND UP, REBUILDING OUR CRYSTAL CITIES,M & WHO IS GOD. ALL IS IMPERATIVE, INFORMATIVE AND A WAY TO BEGIN 2KNOW CELL(SELF).
I have been married to my husband for 15 years, and together for 22. There will always be peaks and valleys, there are seasons when I feel deeply in love with my husband and times I don’t. When you both CHOOSE to work through the hard times, it will elevate your bond and relationship. Peace and blessings❤️
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Amen! Many people give up way too easily nowadays, life is full of ebbs & flows, ups & downs. Relationships are never perfect, but if you both make an effort, know when to give each other space and enter with a pure, willing heart with God on your sides, you can make it past anything and come out stronger❤️
Right, I told my husband last night I did like him...Tonight...but I still loved him..he came back with ditto....been married 30 years.
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Any couple who has ever been together for any length of time falls in and out of love/like. Alone time is absolutely necessary for individual souls to grow.
I agree completely with this. I’m currently working on the process of walking away. I have one foot out of the door. I know how to avoid this in my next relationship. Working on my healing while we’re still under the same roof is difficult. I’m afraid of the future 😩
@@keesha1918 you got this KeeSha. 🙏 💙
Yes always and if it’s meant to be it was never a problem in the first place it’s all about balance and forgiveness
Shows the importance of alone time during the relationship so it doesn’t have to end with separation.
This is definitely not the end for you two. I see growth, I see inner work, I see healing. Thank you so much for sharing what you are going through in such a beautiful and inspiring way (even though I know it's tough).
Everyone please support Matt’s channels, as we are still his virtual family as much as we support V ❤️
Thank you. I’m currently in a space where I’m not happy in the relationship I’m in and I’m desperately searching for freedom. We’re no longer loving one another, just competing for control. We have three children to raise up strong, but he and I are weakening one another. I haven’t found the strength to walk forward without him. Watching you brought me pride and reassurance. Continued blessings.
Sounds like my situation except I’m happy we just have 1 kid. I can’t imagine giving him more. Trying to escape as well we got this 💯
I honestly prayed this wouldn’t happen to you guys. I saw how much more was put onto y’all’s plate so fast like you said . And that can be so draining. I see you guys working it out and getting back together again. Y’all’s love is so beautiful nothing wrong with falling in love fast . As long as you are willing to fight through the problems you can make it out together again . I love the honesty and maturity between you both I wish y’all the best DON’T GIVE UP !
Isn’t that the cutest thing ever running down that hallway. I don’t know if I have a 6th sense ( I never saw his video) but the last video when you were around your mom …I felt it.
Same.
Same
Same... But blessings💞
Ssme
Same
Sorry to hear this sis 💚 I can relate!! Here’s my story:
I remember when I separated with my son’s dad (it was also my choice). We were together for 3 years. When I became pregnant, that’s when our relationship went downhill. I’m so glad that Matt wasn’t harming you in any way. In my case, my son’s dad had become verbally abusive (he was throwing his dirty socks on my altars). We grew together spiritually, went on this whole ascension journey, but the higher we went the further apart we became. And because I’m a perfectionist I didn’t tell anyone we had broken up until after a year of being separated. I had a lot of shame. But I broke up with him and I moved out of the home I was still paying for (we ain’t gonna get into that part, it would bring the energy of the video down). But I had to do it! I didn’t know how I would support myself and my son, but when you become a mother you develop this strength and you find ways out of no way. It all worked out in the long run, and I know it will for you too. I found my happiness. I wish you and Matt and baby girl nothing but the BEST!!! You all deserve to be happy. 💚💚💚
Courage
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It seems like it's common for "spiritual people" ( i hate that term but u know what I mean) to need seasons of aloneness or have non-traditional relationships. I think we're just more in touch with our needs and are free enough to not stick to old paradigms when they don't feel right. You, Matt and the baby are beautiful and I wish u all best, whatever that looks like.
I totally understand this! I divorced my husband right after I delivered our second child. I just couldn’t fathom taking care of him and two kids. No one was looking out to me, so I had to do it! I will always choose ME! Always! He had a lot of short comings that I overlooked but when you bring a child into the world those things are heightened to the 10th power. Best wishes 🥰💜
Write letters to each other, no matter what time of the day it is, when the mood hits you … sit down and write your heart to him, and he to you. Then exchange thoughts. Let this be the start of therapy.❤️ Profuse peace be unto you both during this journey.
Great idea
@@gigiamharic468 Thank you. I felt this video and I have followed this family from the beginning, I’m invested.❤️
@Asisipho Mnyaka Thank you.
Awww... she's walking now! Sending you peace and love. This is such a healthy and mature way to grow in your relationship. Thank you for your honesty. It will help so many.
I just heard someone say, "marriage is having someone there when you fall back in love with them again." It spoke to me about staying in it for the long haul, but it is not everyone's truth. Thank you for sharing.
This is so difficult for me to take in, their family always seemed so whole but it goes to show you know no one’s journey just by watching a few thirty minute videos. Manifesting comfort for all three of you !! Cheers to healing ❤️🩹
seeing this now, when i need it most. currently in the very slow process of splitting from my partner of six years. we're both dependent on each other financially, so we're collectively working towards a lifestyle where we can each regain control of our finances & have our own homes separately. we moved into an rv a few months ago, and in ~10 days, we're moving to colorado where i'll get to build my own tiny house over the next year or so. it's an uncommon narrative for an end of a relationship, but it's what makes the most sense for us, and i think that's all that matters.
Queen, I. SEE. YOU! You have carefully and elegantly articulated EVERYTHING that I have been feeling since my Starseed came into this world in January. The freakin' rose colored glasses are off. Everything I was choosing to be ignorant to, I couldn't hide from anymore because I didn't want those patterns to be repeated in my daughter. Like I had to let her father go...I. SEE. YOU!
Becoming a parent makes you see things in a completely different light as sometimes even regret who you chose as a co-parent
Very true
So true.
That’s another piece of info people dont tell you. Kids change a relationship…as it should. The two of u learned each other well, the next step is learning each other with a child and the learning continues with each child. Then when the child is grown, the parents are alone again and have to learn each other and sometimes they seem to be strangers again. It is all ebb and flow, growing and learning, leaving old mindsets and finding new ones…that is life and if partnership is important, you have to navigate that with the other person very step of the way. Communicate your concerns and past traumas so u can understand each other better. But in the end you have to do what is best for u. I recommend listening to The Love Hour Podcast…a lot of good relationship and individual gems in there.
I remember I was with a guy for a little over a year. And me and him were also attached at the hip from the beginning. Like damn near obsessed lol as time went on, I started seeing the red flags for what they were, fell out of love, left the relationship and never looked back. That was years ago, but I can see that our foundation was rooted in toxic codependency.. I'm not even sure it was real love, but early on if you guys rush into it, it's a strong possibility that it will come crashing down just as quickly. Now I make sure to take my time with relationships and to give proper space early on. In the meantime, I hope you guys figure out what works best for you.
When you're spending your life with someone, these things happens. You have moments when you don't connect and when you need time and space to reflect. I recognize your courage. I hope you two can work things out so that you can look back at this moment, from the other side, and be glad that you held on tightly! That feeling is so rewarding!
Right.
This is why I keep telling people WOMBMAN need to know who they r. & come into their power. Wombman have lost that but will soon be back on the throne. This does not downplayed Men. When wombman know who she is Man will. This will help him to become greater. Take a look at channel Aamilyaion( the celestial worker ) great channel. Video on this topic: THE REAL MATRIX: PLEASE STAND UP, REBUILDING OUR CRYSTAL CITIES,M & WHO IS GOD. ALL IS IMPERATIVE, INFORMATIVE AND A WAY TO BEGIN 2KNOW CELL(SELF).
Although my son's father and I never "got back together", we agreed in actions (never in words) to take care of our wonderful son together. He is now 17 and lives between the both of us. Hi father and I are friends to this day. Whatever good or bad things that happen in our lives, we share them. I'm constantly grateful and happy for his successes. At this 17 year mark, I think we do a great job parenting and loving our son and caring for each other in ways that show love and compassion for each other. It will be hard in the beginning, but always power though. Your daughter is completely worth it.
Blessings and prosperity to you Hun!!
Everything will fall into place with time.
I think it’s beautiful that you put his picture in her play area for her to see him. That shows you care about their bond.
Sometimes our partners do not grow the same way as you do. Praying and sending healing light and energy to you all.
I've been married 29 years happily. Our Faith and Grace shines on us everyday. May Blessings continue to rain on you and your family.Selah.
29years? You look 30 though
Hit super close to home, still coping from a traumatic break-up in July too and soo many similarities it's scary lol. Thank you for your vulnerability; wish nothing but the best for you and Matt and sending you the same light, peace, and healing that your words have often brought me ❤️
Same! My relationship of 8 years ended in a separation at the end of July as well. So much of this video hits home. The only difference is we don't have children together so we won't need to co-parent. Sending you and everyone here lots of love.
WTF !...you guys are my inspiration...I luv u guys!...we have five planets in retrograde right now so at this time we have a lot of mis communication going on between relationships...the energy is all mixed up and crazy right now...hopefully you guys will work it out and get back synchronize with each other...this is the time to really meditate together and get through the healing process...sit in silence back to back with each other and inhale and exhale together at the same time for 15 to 20 minutes or face each other forehead to forehead and hold hands and align yourselves back with each other...do not let the negative energy and negative entities and forces conquer and destroy this beautiful union you guys have built together!...someone has allowed the negative to shift them off course and change their polarities....in these days of changes you guys have to really protect yourself and space and energy!...may our ancestors continue to protect and bring you guys much success, prosperity and abundance, joy and laughter and happiness and a beautiful reunion!...sending you guys much love and healing energy...peace EMPRESS & EMPEROR! 💪💪💪💪💪
I’m so proud of you both for taking those steps. I couldn’t imagine how hard that was but I am here for the growth for you both 😊
I’ve watched a couple of your videos now, and I can’t describe how much I align with your description of yourself in relationship to parenting, partnership and just you being you. You’re taking words right out of my head.
i love the part where you talked about our children coming forward to help us to learn and grow and heal our trauma
This is why I keep telling people WOMBMAN need to know who they r. & come into their power. Wombman have lost that but will soon be back on the throne. This does not downplayed Men. When wombman know who she is Man will. This will help him to become greater. Take a look at channel Aamilyaion( the celestial worker ) great channel. Video on this topic: THE REAL MATRIX: PLEASE STAND UP, REBUILDING OUR CRYSTAL CITIES,M & WHO IS GOD. ALL IS IMPERATIVE, INFORMATIVE AND A WAY TO BEGIN 2KNOW CELL(SELF).
This is not the end. It will never be an end. You are bonded as family for ever. Couples and families transition to different dynamics all the time. Healing will come day be day. Stay positive.
Transmutation .. respect in every dynamic
I absolutely love your tattoos. I haven’t seen your channel in a little while.
I feel like you are explaining exactly what is going on with my relationship at this very moment. I needed this so bad, thank you. 🌿
I’m 100% going through this right now and thank God im in a peaceful mindset! I also initiated my breakup because I became tired of making it work by myself when I knew space was needed
Aura was literally building a new house in the back without a care in a world… LOL 😩🥺💕☮️
Lol yes she was too cute 🥰
I feel like when I became a parent, I needed to give my child everything that I did not get as a child and more. For you n Matt please always keep communication open no matter hard it gets. Love y'all!
Me and my now husband went through a separation for a year after having our first daughter at about 15months old. It was also my decision and the absolute hardest thing I ever did. He is and was my best friend, and we spent every moment together. However, I lost myself in being a mother, and resented him for being away for work.
The separation was so necessary for him to heal, for me to discover myself again in this new space and phase. I pray you both find the peace, healing and guidance.
I'm crying :( I'm lost in words.
But I've must admit I can agree that becoming parents it is TOUGH, it's a new level in being in a relationship with someone you truly love.
You and I both. But healing is needed to grow. I totally understand.
This is so evolved. Take your time to be yourselves. Keeping growing. Enjoy each other in the now. No matter what the future holds.
I’m going through the same thing. I have been with my man for 7 years but I’m unhappy here in NY. I want more. I’m moving to GA and he doesn’t agree but even though I love him I have to love myself more and give my kids a better quality of life. He hurts so bad because heart is with him but my mind and soul is telling me to grab my kids and start over. I understand and I’m sorry I can’t give you advice because I need some myself. But I do see that you have a beautiful soul and you are strong. God will guide you just let the steering wheel go he got you and your beautiful daughter. Just pray and so will I. Thank you for sharing
Him starting his own life apart from you is incredibly crucial for a man. I think that will be the ultimate change he needs and it will give you the space to heal and grow!
Awwww Matt is a good man… Everything will work itself out. It’s all about the healing and getting counseling to figure out where the issues lay and what needs to be addressed. I am praying for your beautiful Union ❤️❤️❤️
As she is a good woman. They are both good beings 🥰🥰
On a spiritual level I don’t think this is the end but rather than the beginning with such maturity and understanding with two that it sounds like you two are really just getting time to heal within and take time out with self…outside looking in there a HUGE possibility of you guys reconciliation either way your internet fam is here with you both on your journies 💛
Oh most definitely lol neither are going anywhere ! This space and time is going to be so healthy & worth it for their COME BACK 🙌🏻 The 2 of them were literally made for each other 🌹 They got this
I agree. I love them both and literally pray for their separate healing as well as their relationship healing. I’m rooting for both of them. I hope they hear my prayers 🙏🏽📿🤲🛐🧎🏽♀️
I went through a similar breakup this year, deep love and true friendship, it honestly feels like a death. You are so strong for listening to your gut and only growth and passion lies ahead for you. You are young and beautiful and lived a beautiful story with him. Just continue to practice anything that is healing to you and take care of yourself. You will be okay and life will be fun again:)
I am here for you Motavi
@@bajapickleball1052 Sending you love❤❤❤
It’s simple - love is only defined by the resistance that it faces. It’s easy to love when the sun is shining. The rain and tornadoes are the defining moments. Glad you guys are still together, in love, even if you’re miles apart in separate living spaces. #ThisIsLove ❤️🙏🥰
They’re broken up not together unfortunately. Only time will tell if they decide to be together again.
You story resonates extremely with mine. It is so full. So much, simultaneously healing and revealing a lot of generational patterns I DO NOT care to repeat. I've done so much, even going no contact from my family because (gurrrrrrl, no!), pro counseling and advising, and discovered SOMEONE ELSE needs to address, accept, and course correct their shadow work. But, the misfire in communication and walls i have to climb, chisel, and demolish down just reach another wall. It's a tough pill....will not let my partner nor his family wheel my ship with repeated projections of control and abuse. I have two, 18mos apart. As a former childhood educator and working with my own childhood trauma, I cannot accept the risk of what these behaviors could lead to again.
Love and light, Mama! I have learned so much from you both on your journey and I thank you so much for your transparency. Women are not talking about this. We hold, harbor, and protect so much. We are not supposed to be vessels of discourse and pain. We will heel. These babies are magical. We got it, Mama. I love y'all. 💫
I have felt that often where I have been out of like with my husband, and I feel like that's normal. We love each other dearly and are in love, but we do have days where we dont like each other's behavior. I wish you all the best and truly want you to achieve the healing you desire!
As a single parent of two daughters you are spot on with having to navigate all our suppressed “stuff”, it’s a journey I’m still on and learn everyday! Sending much love! Being alone can be such a beautiful thing
The Details aren’t important. My husband and I have been joined at the hip since day one as well. I will say that it doesn’t matter what it looks like on the outside, when you are called to make a move you go with it because the vision was given to you. You clearly have a partner that no matter how messy it gets he will stick by your side. I feel that you are the consistent growth (change) that you all need and Matt is the consistent stability (security) that you all need. It’s all about strengths and weaknesses. The Like comes in waves. The Love Always stays. Taking this break sounds like it’s because you want to Regain balance. With yourself baby and Matt and when I tell you Every woman has those (Can no one need me for just 5 minutes/ can I not be the brains for this entire operation for 5 minutes) pauses! I’m dead ass serious! Continue to go with the flow of this shift! Matt Will Rise So Will You this is the change you both need to enter this next level as whom you are both meant to be. Be it together or not it’s needed and will be beautiful 💛 I always tell myself “If the vision is giving to me! Then it is on me to get us where we are meant to be” Emotionally Detaching From The Outcome is Key 🔑 You guys are doing great! Everything is as it should be! You aren’t alone all of our breaks look different but they are needed! As women it’s very important that we regain our balance because we are source 💛✨ Peace Light and Love To You and Your Family 🤗
Beautifully said! 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I love how you let your daughter be happy.
First of all, thank you so much for sharing such a personal, intimate experience. My husband & I have been together since highschool. Together for 30 years, married for 22 years. we have 2 adult daughters and 3 grandchildren. About 10+ yrs ago when our youngest daughter went away to College, we found ourselves heading in different directions. We no longer had soccers games, or dance recitals, or daughters full-time needs to focus on and somehow, somewhere along the way we lost sight of each other and ourselves. We had to take a break from each other and discover ourselves, not as parents or spouses but as individuals, our likes and wants in this very new role...as empty nesters. It was a long process, with many emotions, hard truths both good and unpleasant but after a few years we both decided that no matter what happens in our lives, we want to experience it together. I wish you all strength, love and healing. I'm keeping your family in my thoughts and I hope that you and Matt will find your way back to each other. Please take care of yourself.
The only thing that I would like to leave with you is fight for your family. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. And as an old gospel song once said " After you've done all you can, you just stand". I love you and your family and will definitely be praying and rooting for you two to get through this season because I believe that's just what it is, a season 😥.
Yasss! Fight for it
Yessss I felt that. Loving someone sooo deeply and not knowing if you like them!! Yessss
Can't understand that... You don't like someone's behaviours...
@@jennifergrant5422 i can give an example.. my sisters don’t like each other but they do love each other. It’s hard to explain lol
@@jennifergrant5422 and yes that applies to the father of my kids too. I don’t like him aka his behaviors but I do love him🙃
My eyes were dry until the black n white pic at the end. I know we'll be okay too. That's a promise dattebayo.
Thank you so much for opening up this space. The comments show that a lot of women have had similar experiences but haven’t been able to share it. As women we get wiser and more intuitive as we age. There’s nothing wrong with changing your mind or wanting something different. Unfortunately society tells us that unless the person does something tragically and toxically wrong, that relationships are forever. Sometimes love is not enough reason to stay. No matter how deep it is.
I came across this video in the right time. I’m 3 kids in my relationship and I’m having the hardest time figuring out how to heal outside of our relationship and heal within our relationship but it can be so much that I think separation is the best option. Like you said you had all those things telling you not to but only you know what’s best for you and your family. SOOO after all that said I commend you for grinding and finding your strength to find yourself separate.
you and Matt are doing so amazing at this. my parents are separated and it was a very unhealthy process that split our family eternally. I’m sure Aura appreciates the maturity and dynamic that y’all are displaying. Best wishes to all three of you
Hey V! My heart goes out to you. This is a huge transformation! For what it’s worth ISTA (international school of temple arts) is a really healing training for intimacy and sexuality that comes to mind if you’re looking to check out different therapies during this time in your life. I did it and it totally broke my heart open and deepened my intimacy with others on a whole new level. Sending love
This spoke volumes to me. You’ve so elegantly described the emotions I’ve been feeling. You are a blessing.
Your vanlife chapter was one that inspired my partner and I when we were first interested in a more nomadic lifestyle. Watching your adventures helped get our own off the ground. Thank you! You deserve the beautiful future that I know you will manifest.
What a sweet comment ✨
She worded this so well. Sending positive vibes to you and matt. 🙏
Grace and Mercy & I usually say Divorce but in your case Grace, Mercy & Separation for the soul and conscience. I and so glad you listened to spirit over Humanity. You have the tools within both of you to grow from this space of coparenting & development. Your generosity to support him will be rewarded
I don’t believe the title !! But it just started .. omg she is getting so big and adorable!!
It’s true mattt made a video .
@@indiee4971 it won’t be for long 🙌🏻 They got this 🌹
You have 333k subs, that’s a powerful number for 3 powerful beings. We love you all. I hope that you all heal, and I send you my love and support, and sooooo much positivity. ❤️❤️❤️ love to see you.
My partner and I are navigating these deep traumas that have come up through genetically marrying with one another. I resonate with being so deeply in love, but not really at all in like with them…oh bitter sweet and painful chances to learn and grow.
I love you and your beautiful family Veladya. Thank you for honoring the woman that you are; you are such an inspiring woman and mama.
What is a “genetic marriage”? I tried googling it and it sounded like close relatives marrying one another....
@@Superlife1369 I can understand your confusion. Maybe my wording is a bit odd…
I mean like partnering with someone on all levels of being including spiritually. By committing to a person and honoring the kharma that has been created between your two souls.
@@Superlife1369 🤣🤣🤣
@@elizabethherr1775 Ok, thank you because she used the same phrase too and I didn’t understand. Thanks
If you don’t mind, could you please elaborate on how it feels to be in love or love someone but not be or feel in like with them? What is that like?
thank you for being so honest and open and transparent about loving someone but needing to be alone. it’s something that isn’t talked about often and i really needed to hear it right now. loving someone is beautiful but you don’t need to be WITH someone to love them. thank you and i hope this journey is smooth and healing for you both !
Wow! I just discovered your channel and I find you astonishing! I mean can you even be stronger? I love how real you are, how you open up and I think its so great and strong to realize all this stuff while being in a relationship. And I absolutely love how you put your daughter first, but for real! Wow! ♥