What happens during a first therapy appointment? | Kati Morton
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open ended questions like "tell me about your life" scare me
Do they actually ask things like that 😩
kirsten / same like wtf do you need to answer at that question?
That kinda question scares me cuz I feel like I have absolutely nothing to say and I don’t have anywhere to start.... they are like “ok so tell me about your life” and I I’m over here like “ *nervous laugh* I want to end it, can you help me?* “ idk.... #justquirkythings ✌🏻
yeah when i got asked i said idk chuckled and stared at a nail on the wall for 20mins
@@katiekendall3832 mood
First sign of depression, watching this video at 2 am.
2:30 AM here and I'm watching it. I know what u talking about
Aaron Rhubstar 6:21am. #Banter
how are you now
Lastrevio Hey, Fren. |-/
Damn I keep questioning myself right now. But after reading this you're right.
i wish you were my therapist it would be easier to talk to you
laura nunez I know!!!! I was thinking the exact same thing!
laura nunez she was mine and she was amazing! :)
laura nunez ikr! She seems so kind and supportive; a very easy person to talk to
Kaylee Mikulec HOW DID IT GO?!?? HOW DOD IT GOOOOO?!?! HOW.DID IT.GOOOOO?!?!
Kaylee Mikulec daaaaaaw.... Tell ur therapist that someone named BASSFARTZ on the interweb says to treat u well
How tf am I supposed to even get a therapist while having social anxiety
Tracy Carvalho one time I beat up my therapist and she tried to sue me. Pfft what a loser
I almost had a panic attack just making an appointment today after having gone for a couple months years ago. I had to make myself do it. I promise you, it’s not as scary as your mind is making it. But, have your insurance card on hand when you do bc I forgot mine in my car and also lost my keys while on the phone, so just be as prepared as you can and you’ll be okay 💕
I sent an email because i was too scared to call them she seemed nice i guess found her on psychology today and typed my zipcode they showed all the therapist near me they had pictures i went with the person that made me feel less nervous by looking at the picture. I have my 1st appointment this Friday i feel 5% less anxious by watching this video matches what she told me in the email when I asked what would i require this 1st appointment just my insurance and my copay which thank you god is just $30 because i never been able to afford before therapy too expensive and no insurance my new job offers insurance i feel is definitely god lining up things for me to get that needed help i had to get the courage seek the help though took me a year of working there to finally say ok i got to do this i need THE HELP.
Eddie W why tf would you even do that
Cutie Malu IKR
It kills me when a therapist says almost nothing during a session. I wish they would ask questions to help me along. I wish they would realize they aren't changing the subject.
Maybe you need to change a therapist😊
There are different types of therapists. Maybe you haven't found the right one.
@@cat-zu7hj There is no right one, you don’t need therapy, nobody does
@@chorto4038 Ok boomer. Tell that to the millions of people who got better thanks to therapy.
@@cat-zu7hj There are none and mf really said okay boomer, what a fucking joke
I'm going to therapy soon and it's so hard for me to open up plus I have social anxiety so.. We'll see how it goes :/
How'd it go?:)
I have the same issue Paige, social and anxiety and severe anxiety in generals. It's scary, yes but all will be Ok! It'll be worth it!
I have the same problem.
same problem, and im turnin 14 in about a week
Goon just jump straight into it, trust me it's not hard saying your suicidal or you've got another disorder- just say it quickly first, and if they didn't understand, then say it again but slower and it won't feel as heavy
my first appointment is tomorrow and im terrified
me too
my first appointment ever is Monday so goodluck to ya both
us* both :) 💞
Saira Lodhi how’d it go?
Mavis Pierce It was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I had four sessions since then & it really helped me move on from something (someone) I’d been holding on to for 10 years. Thank you asking!
It feels so good to read the comments on this video, I feel less alone now
Idk how I would answer the question "what brought you in today"
Same. I'd probably pass out from fear.
same im so scared
@@Lewiss721 same lol
BAHAHHA I had my first therapy session like 4 days ago and that was the first question he asked, I kid you not i just sat there and was like “........idk🧍🏻”
I’m going in for self harm and personally i would just say it as it is. ‘Hi, I’m in here for self harm and bullying’ sooo yah
I'm in therapy now but every time I go I shut down. From feeling embarrassed or feeling like no one will believe me.
Same bro, it's one of the main reasons I go for therapy but weekly
Keep Calm! If you feel that you are unable to open up, it may be time to find a therapist that you perhaps feel more comfortable with or work on understanding that your counselor is only there to help you understand your concerns so that you can move forward. Good Luck:)
Keep calm
@@ximena6001 how
I'm fairly young and I have been dealing with what I believe is a mental disorder. Although I often feel like I'm faking it, I reassure myself, "Why would you fake something and tell no one?" But that doesn't seem to work and my brain is still telling me I'm overreacting to sad days. My "condition" includes mainly feelings of worthlessness, with occasional lack of confidence and often thoughts of self harm/ suicide.
Anyways I'm wanting to see a therapist because I want to get a diagnosis, a word for my emotions. I've taken online quizzes but they all just recommended I seek professionals and they're right. My city is VERY rural and I don't know any therapists for hours of driving. Plus many therapists here, if any, are religious and I don't want that because I feel they will be more judgmental. How do I get help/ do I need it?
I feel you...,
Jada C. Its months later and i feel better/the same but I really don't want any sort of therapy or counseling. I don't want to be diagnosed or really even accept that I might have a problem anymore. But yes, we have a counselor. I don't think I need him. I'm pretty sure I'm fine and if I'm not I don't want to be forced to come to terms with it.
+jada camerøn l-/ school councillors can screw you over. They tend to tell parents despite the issues with that.
there are online chat rooms where you can talk to others going through similar things!
Sam me too..
I'm leaving for my first appointment in a few minutes. I'm so nervous cuz I suck at talking to people I don't know. I hope my therapist is like her. She seems so easy to talk to
How was it?
omg please tell me how it went i’m 12 and i have a apt in 1 hour
@@biancalopari8959 I have one in about 30 min and I’m terrified I’m 13
@@milliewalter6285 can u please tell me about your experience.
@@biancalopari8959
How was it?
First appointment? Very awkward. You are both testing the waters and getting first impressions and getting comfortable. If you are going, you feel it's the best option for you. And they are there to help. They are not there to judge. The more honest you are with them, the more you can grow and be a better you.
I found it easier to go when I realised whatever the therapist asked me it was my choice whether to answer and I could even leave the room if I wanted. Sounds obvious but at the time I was nervous I was going to feel trapped or made to confront things I didn't want to face.
If "anyone" is being confrontational w/ you, tell them "it's none of their business;"
ask them, "Why don't you mind your own business," and if you can find something
to pick on about them do it! Or, put out an evasive: "I'm not comfortable talking
about this subject!" Like if some THERAPTIST, asks if you have ever been
molested sexually, (and you're not ready to talk about it), say "No." Later, say you
would like to talk about somethin', but not everything, go home, come back.
Totally normal. Therapy does challenge you in ways that are uncomfortable some times (for personal growth), but you are always allowed to state your needs and say no to anything in Therapy!
Trust your gut instinct, your body will let you know if you are comfortable around someone or not. Don't be afraid to get the help you deserve. Therapy is the one place on earth where you can go and not have to worry about being judged. Therapists are there to guide you and help you discover yourself, so finding one you click with is essential to growth and healing process. Don't be afraid to call or schedule another appointment with a different therapist. They won't take it personally, it's your process.
Well I told my therapist I wanted to see another one. She said she did not support that idea I said that she was still my therapist
@@cailynvries1788 sorry for being late... If you want to change your current therapist because you don't trust in sharing your deepest thoughts, or don't agree with her methodology, or just didn't made the click, she is professionally complied to referred you to at least 3 different colleagues. If not just don't show up, tell her that you're looking for another professional (if she asks why be honest because it helps to give and receive the feedback). And that's it! She doesn't have the right to hold you.
The first thing I usually do with my clients is ask them what the closest people to them would say positively to them. Strengths>Weaknesses
Pinnacle Of Man TM what if that client doesn't have anyone close to them? I would get stuck on the that question right away, the closest thing I can think of is a animal I haven't seen in 6 yeare.
Pinnacle Of Man TM can you study in tafe because I looked it up and it said you can but it sounds like you’re a counsellor soCan you please tell me
Great, I’ll have to start talking negatively about myself immediately after walking through the door
She did say in her previous video, some are good at their job and some are bad.
@@thedoctor7247 Perfectly said.
I really want to know what I'm feeling, or what it's called. I want to be diagnosed so that I won't have to question myself everyday about how I'm feeling. I want to know what's wrong so that it could get fixed. but I'm scared to open up to my parents. every time I try to hint at them that I feel like I have depression or anxiety they kind of just blame it on something else. like, I can _feel_ that it's not caffeine it's like I can tell the difference if my heart palpitations are caused by the coffee I drank earlier or if it's what I assume my anxiety. I've taken a lot of online quizzes and answered them truthfully and all of the results were to seek professional help. I feel like I'm faking it though, but I also think I'm not?? sadly, I ran to self harm and find myself relapsing almost every month. I'm now starting a journal to see if what I'm feeling is consistent and so far... same things for the past 3 months.
I'm sorry if this comment was all over the place. I doubt anyone read this anyway. but if you did, do you think this is depression, anxiety or possibly something else?
damn. you just summed up my feelings
damn! that's exactly what I feel!
Should I be laughing? You should tell your parents their not taking you seriously, i've recently told my mom about how i'm feeling and now i'm going to see a therapist tomorrow :)
You are not alone! I hear you, always remember to trust your feelings and seek the help you need. If you cannot talk to your parents then tell a friend so that they may help you find resources. I think that you should speak with someone (counselor) to let them know how you feel. I would stay off of the internet and do not research another thing, because sometimes WE or the internet diagnose us with things that we do not have, speaking from experience. Good Luck and you'll be fine:)
I’m in the exact same situation
Hi Kati 😉,
I found a quote I thought was a great message it reads... "Beating yourself up is never a fair fight" - Andrea Gibson
Laura Lollipops omg andrea gibson is the best
😏😉
I went to my first therapy session a few weeks ago at my university and nearly went into an anxiety attack in the waiting room I was so scared, but it turned out to be one of the best decisions I ever made! My feelings and experiences were validated and I’m going to be starting regular therapy in the new year! If your scared, it’s normal. It took me 2 years to get the courage to go to therapy so I’m so glad I’ve started.
ilike her she's smart and honest
My first therapy appointment was actually kind of fun. I was nervous at first but then I just got to talk about myself which we all love doing so dont be scared and you know it will help.
I’ve literally been wanting to do this for ten years. An ACTUAL DECADE! My life has fallen apart so many times since then. This video gives me so much strength to finally do this
Did you ever do it?
Ya did you ever do it?
I came across your videos at the perfect time. I've been feeling super depressed and anxious lately, and everyone who knows about my issues has been pushing me to contact a therapist, but I didn't know how to. thank you for making these videos for people like me. honestly, I really appreciate it.
I had a therapy appointment today and things went really great! Can’t wait for my next session
Great video!
I've been seeking services and in therapy for years and I still found this video helpful as it provided a clear template for what to do and say to get your needs met in our system since it really can be so difficult to navigate even for veterans.
Thanks kati!
Yesterday I finally had the courage to write an email to a therapist in my area. Today she answered and we're going to talk over the phone tomorrow to schedule an appointment. To be honest I am incredibly nervous. There are so many thoughts spiraling in my head and my brain just won't shut up. But at the same time I am incredibly proud of myself. After all these months of telling myself that I wasn't allowed to see a therapist (I constantly told myself that my problems weren't bad enough and that I was simply looking for an excuse for my behavior that I am not proud of) I finally made the first step and asked for help. Thanks Kati for supporting and encouraging me!!
This is wonderful! So glad to see another professional talking about the things that matter. Good work, lady. Keep it up. Rooting you on!
I like her videos, she breaks things down easily and she's really entertaining. Helping someone should not have to be difficult, thank you for simplifying the process, very much appreciated!!
How do I ask my parents about therapy?
amy bear Ask them you need to talk to someone because it will make you feel better. You do not have to go into detail of what you want to talk about in therapy. Let them know this is something you need and you would like their support.
Maria Sandi Thank you.
***** Thank you!
+Kati Morton (Mental Health Vlogger) ... I asked me parents. They said they couldn't afford it and issues I thought I had were just a chemical imbalance and I just need to see an herbalist and they need a tune-up, too. They acted like my problems weren't any kind of problems at all. I reluctantly agreed to start elsewhere. I have been with an herbalist/chiropractor for a month or so. I physically feel better, able to breathe and whatnot (I had a misaligned rib), but as far as mental health (death thoughts and suicide ideation, ADHD, and depression), I feel absolutely the same as before. Maybe worse. Mom has not seen improvement on my ADHD, so he changed my "prescription" (herbs), but apparently I got better at hiding my depression... She knows I have depression, but I don't think she understands how bad it really is and I don't have the words to describe it to her. And then there is the thoughts. The thoughts that never leave. The thoughts that randomly pop into my head that I KNOW are incorrect but they are so hard to ignore. Like... delusions. Delusions that I know are delusions but at the same time can't stop them. And they act as though it is nothing. It was hard enough to be my own bad guy. I don't want help; I need it. I want to sit in my room and do nothing but cry and sleep. Being your own bad guy? REALLY hard. I wanted my parents to do that for me. To force me to go so I didn't have the taunting option of not getting help. But they didn't. At this point, I don't want to ask again. It will get worse. Fine. Let it get worse. Eventually, maybe it will be undeniable Maybe I will stop caring what others think, and talk back to the voices even when others can hear me. At that point, the point of which where I have lost every lost piece of sanity that I am so desperately holding onto right now, maybe then they'll see I wasn't joking when I said I needed a therapist. Or at that point, a psychiatrist. Maybe when I am no longer in what I believe to be the prodromal period of psychosis they will see, and finally start being the bad guy. I am not asking again. I have my answer. And honestly, I am not sure I want a different one. Because then I would have to be the bad guy. Maybe I will never leave the prodromal period. It started in sixth grade, maybe seventh. I am in tenth now.
Sydney Pettit how are you now?
Only watching this in 2020 (at 2am🤭) and its so helpful. Thanks so much.
Thank you for making this! This makes me feel a lot better about going to my first therapy session
Went to my first therapy session and I think you helped me get there. Between being a guest on Always Open and your channel I found the strength to do it. Thank you!
I'm a licensed psychotherapist from Portugal and I can confirm everything you said :) Going to therapy for the first time does not have to be scary! WE'RE HERE TO HELP! :) ask for help! Everyone deserves it! We do not have to go through difficult times alone! :) x
I'm 13- and im going to my first therapy session and I'm very nervous about it and this video helped a lot-
I’m nervous just trying to find one that seems right for me! I’m glad you’re doing it earlier in life haha 13 is when I needed therapy most
im 13 too. howd it go? my first session is in 2 days....
I love this video :) I came from the "how to know you should get professional help", and I'm actually a psychologist myself, and of course I am in therapy :P but still ... this video is really so straight-forward, I'm so glad you posted it. I think it's so awesome that you've created this space to talk about mental health and you're helping make it so accessible to people, addressing concerns, explaining, being just overall supportive and awesome!
Had my first day and it went great. I am so happy I took this leap, thank you for these videos
I feel like I have a depression(my hobby is looking up mental illnesses because I am interested in psychology) but.. I don't know. I feel like what I have experienced is not so bad because I know that so many people go through something way worse than something I have experienced. I want to talk to therapist to figure out what is this thing that I am going through because I am so confused what it is. But I am concerned that it is not something so serious maybe and if I am just fooling myself that it is because I am so interested in it, uk. And maybe it is something that everyone goes through, uk. I will be very embarassed if it is... I feel like visiting the therapist will make it such a huge deal when it isn't...
Younse! Thank you for being so open and honest about sharing your feelings about depression. Often at times we feel like were alone, and were not. I think that you not diagnose yourself, but make an appointment or have someone that you trust make an appointment for you to see a professional to see what's going on. Please note that you can always do your research to find the right therapist for you and they'll put you in the right hands and find out whats going on. Avoid doing anymore research on what it is that you think you have and just make an appointment. Often at times our minds are like hamsters on a wheel and it causes us to think things that are not even true.
Good Luck! You have this:)
i have the same problem, i feel like im just faking and i can just snap out of it whenever, but i can't, i don't know if im just making myself think i have a mental illness of if i really do and im just trying to get out of it but either way feeling like this sucks
Something similar happend to me.. I didnt know what I was going thru and what was wrong with me but I physically couldnt get out of my bed (at least it's how it felt) and I just wanted to sleep it off, I'd get really bad headaches and my hair would fall out ALOT but I didnt want to go to the doctor because I was embarrassed she'd think l was crazy or something.. but I COULDN'T live like that (I have a 5yr old son) so I finally went and she said maybe it was stress and I wasn't satisfied so I made an appointment with a therapist and I've only had like 4sessions but I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety 😥 just make an appointment and make sure (I still question myself If I should even continue going its not easy)
SAME I literally feel the same, but honestly I decided to go see a therapist and I told my parents about that and they are still tlsea4ching for a good therapist that can help me lol😂😂😂
i had my first appointment yesterday. basically all we did was go through my patient paperwork that i did before hand and i answered questions about my past experiences, how i feel etc. she was really nice and at the end she had enough information to diagnose me with clinical depression and GAD and prescribe me meds. it was about an hour and a half and $300
edit: also wanted to mention this therapist is the same one that sees my sister. ive seen my sister flourish under her care so im glad i get to see her too
I know you sent this 2 years ago but would you be able to update us on your experience? And possibly who your therapist is/how to contact her?
@@YawninHaze yes ofc! i misnamed her as a therapist when she is a psychiatrist, so kinda different but yeah. i see heidi harrom MD in Nashville ! i've switched medications since way back then and I do really well when I'm seeing her regularly
Every video I see from you helps me so much! Thanks for uploading them!
i appreciate your simplicity
Currently on my way to my first appointment after rehab 2+ years ...I’m nervous and scared . This is going to be a turning point !!!
Hi to whoever is reading this... Thanks for existing. I’m so glad you’re here 🤍
this video gave me so much comfort for my appointment today thank you
Thanks for sharing this information. I think it's really important to know what we can expect so that if it's our first time, we have one less thing to worry about or stress over!
The thought of getting up the motivation / courage to actually call a therapist for the first time and then going and then ending up not liking the therapist and doing it all over again really really puts me off. 😭
Ahh, I have my first therapy appointment today, I'm so scared😰.
Also, good video
After watching this video about 50 times over and over again I finally called and made an appointment! Thank you for everything you do Kati!!
Update....I have found a great therapist and have been seeing her for over a year now!
I’m going to my first appointment today and I am extremely nervous about talking about myself and my personal issues because i’m use to keeping to myself but this video is definitely making me more relaxed and ready. so thank you!
I told my doctor yesterday that i've felt more depressed and that i've felt that i've had social anxiety, and then she started to ask me so many questions. Afterwards, she gave me a referral to go to a Psychologist, and i'm a little nervous. Though I might go next month; i'm not sure yet.
You are not alone! Try it out, your counselor is only there to help you. I would give it a chance:)
how are u now?
going to my first one today, im really excited to get some help because I want to be a better person :)
Great!!! Good luck, I'm so happy for you! (1st step)
I made an appointment with a therapist after I went into a partial program. ILOVE my therapist. We click so well. We have "fun" and we laugh a lot. She is slowly helping with my ED and my trauma and she has helped me with my memories and omg. She's great. Kati, you're great too! We watch your videos in therapy too. I will bring it up in a conversation and we would watch it :)
Thank you! Going to my first therapy intake session today after years of putting therapy off. I've been diagnosed with depression, bipolar II and GAD since I was a preteen and I'm 23. I've only ever seen psychiatrists because I'm terrified to have to talk to someone for a long period of time. So this video really helped me feel a little better about it! Thank you!!
This was so helpful. Thank you. My first therapist appointment is in three day and I'm freaking out.
I feel you, I am in the exact same situation. Less than three days now for me. I'm so beyond nervous I feel like I'm gonna throw up whenever I think about it. I see this comment was from a week ago so I hope your appointment went well.
It went alright. I was so nervous but it wasn't terrible. I have another one scheduled this week. How was yours?
Alesha Lawson Mine went similarly. I guess the lady turned out to be an art therapist so that's kinda weird. I'm not sure if doing art is gonna solve my problems lol. Maybe I should have been a little less vague when talking to my mom about therapy haha
Bananastroodle Thats strange. Lol. I didn't even know that was a thing.
***** Even if therapy can be scary and nerve-racking, it really does help people. You owe it to yourself to try get the help you deserve.
You have said that many therapists see their own therapist. But as a therapist, how much can you tell your own therapist? Are you allowed to tell them about situations with your own clients?
Thank you!
I finally found an amazing therapist who is not only an excellent listener but also highly interactive with me, talking & sharing some stuff about himself too. I feel way more comfortable about opening up and talking about my own issues coz we're both talking & it's a two way process. Wished I too have known about him ages ago instead of all the other less effective therapists I've seen over the years.
Sometimes I think RUclips is the best therapy I can find as an introvert although I know it does nothing to alter my life
“What brought you in today?🥰” “oh ya know. I just have absouloutly no motivation to do anything any day, and I just wanna kill myself, and don’t even mention when I see rooes, bridges, or even cliffs, it just reminds me that I’m going to do it one day.🙃”
#KatiFAQ Hi, Kati. Love your videos. :)
I wanted to ask if you could share any advice on how to open up to our emotions? In addition to anxiety & depression, I have trouble feeling my emotions at all. Instead, I often suffer from pretty bad constricted breathing, muscle tension, which only gets better when I manage to "guess" the emotion & communicate it. I think I learned to automatically disregard any emotions that were "unreasonable", not productive, scary, "weak"("Be a man!" etc) or created conflict, and now I can't really access them even though I want to.
Oh my gosh I've actually started feeling like this too. I'm so confused I don't even understand what I'm feeling but my body is tripping out on me. I hope you figure out what's wrong so you can feel better soon!!
#katifaq please answer this one!!
***** Thanks, great idea!
Thank you Kati and RUclips so much.
Thanks for making things less uncertain Kati!
My first appointment was scary. I was going for anxiety and depression as well as minor OCD so I was a little reluctant to talk. The second one was even worse but it just kept getting better.
I stopped having panic attacks every other day and now I have one probably twice a month.
Never been to therapy.
***** I don't mind sharing, if its going to help someone :)
Dunno why I’m watching this. I’m never gonna have enough strength to get a therapist 🤷♀️
oh my gosh i saw you on a ad i hope it brings alot of attention to you because everyone should get some therapy !!! im so happy to see therapy being advertised >.>
I finally made my appointment. It's taken me 36 years. Thank you
Me having social anxiety making an appointment to talk about anxiety 👁👄👁
My mother is forcing me to go to therapy. I've been recovering from my situation and she isn't making it better by forcing this onto me. I'm terrified.
Great video!! I remember sitting in my room for hours before I pressed the call button. But it was one of the best decisions I ever made. Me being on crutches at my first appointment kinda broke the ice at first so it made me less nervous. I kind of expected really intrusive questions but a lot were very general at my first session a bit like kati said at any regular appointment you may get those questions. And if you don't want to answer you don't have to. Say as much as you want to say, they go at the pace you want to go.
I honestly didn't think I would ever ever sit in a room and tell someone things I have never even told my closest family and friends but I'm starting to tell more now and I actually look forward to just off loading all the shitty bits to someone once a week. Being so true to yourself and dropping down the guard you build up around yourself even just for 50 mins a week can save your life!
I put off going to therapy for so so long at the times when I really needed it but it is so worth the nerves and anxiety of those first steps.
Also anyone from the UK please get help ASAP of your going to get therapy via the NHS. It's such such a long wait. But remember even if you are waiting and frustrated know that there is help coming to you and you've survived 100 % of your worst days so far so don't give up!
P.S #katifaq I am yet to cry in therapy, i struggle with crying in front of people anyway but is it normal not to cry even when talking about the worst things? I just kinda feel numb when talking about abuse?
Xxxx
Going to my first therapy session tomorrow and I'm anxious and doubtful. Thank you for this video!
i feel like i need therapy because of alot of stuff that happened and stuff im worried about for the future but here are the reasons i know i wont be able to get it
1my dad wont believe me if i tell him or ask me why wich i would be un comfortable with telling him.
2 Its to expensive.
3 Im Too shy id literally need to get my phone out and go to my notes thing and have the person read it!
I know that at my school they have real counselors, and that they can have discounts and if (in Seattle) your 13 or older you can sign yourself up and your parents don't need to even know
Have a first therapy session because my mom taught it would be a good idea. Is online so it’s worse because everyone in my house could hear and I don’t know what to say. I don’t feel like telling my problems
Also, I usually just lied because I feel so embarrassed
Thank you for making this video, I really needed this.
At my first therapy appointment I was nine and I wrote out a questionnaire for my therapist to fill out, I still have the same therapist and it's amazing
Is it true that you have to literally pay for all health care in the US? I never have to pay?????!!! That seems awful :(
Yes! Every single therapist visit, doctors visit ect. Even with insurance I have a 40 dollar copay. So I have to pay $40 every single appointment.
Hannah Muday Oh my :( That's scary. We do have to pay for private practices (GP) but in terms of anything in the hospital - it is all funded by our district health board. Adult/youth mental health services are free, all inpatient services are free EXCEPT private psychotherapists and the one private hospital we have here.
All Health Care costs money. Some pay through Insurance coverage, some pay cash, some pay through inflated taxes and end up with a bloated Government. IMO there’s no perfect solution or perfect health care system.
@@johnsongrounds6734 We have free health care here in Colombia and I'm not paying any inflated taxes lol
That sounds wonderful 👍🏻 lucky you. Everything in the US is driven by money.
I was so excited to do therapy but It's 150$-250$ a session. Fuck my life.
I'm lucky that my sessions are 100% free of charge. Thankgod for Headspace Australia (Government Funded).
Coconut Kitty wha??? Now its scaring me
Find one that your insurance covers. Mine are just $30 copays
Thank you! Finally, after waiting for 2 years, I booked my appointment.
New here. Thank you so much for your positivity!!!! Your so brilliant. ♥️
I need a therapist but I don’t wanna bother a therapist with my problems and make them upset
don’t worry, therapy is where u can tell them your problems
I really need a Therapy really bad...
Nita! I think that this is the first step realizing that you need help, your moving in the right direction. Please let me know your journey, good luck, you got this!!!
I started watching you when I was 13. I'm now 19 and I just reached out to a therapist for the first time. It's veryyyy scary but i've watched this like 5 times 😂 I'm really excited but nervous.
This is so helpful! I'm a licensed therapist and there is such a stigma against asking for help. We are healthcare providers because we see value in asking for help and want to help people. Therapy is for EVERYONE. Thanks for advocating for this, if you need help take that first step, it will be the best gift you ever give to yourself!
I just wish I had the money 💰
I just blurted evreything out lmao he was shooked and scrared xDDDD
Hey, just wanna say your such a beautiful person and your videos help me alot. Thank you
Kati. You have so many wonderful and helpful videos. Saw this one being recommended to me while watching a recent video. I need to start. With a new insurance and thus a new in network therapist. Great insight for starting anew. I’m so glad I rediscovered this earlier video. You are especially so relatable here. Sort of goofy-which i mean as a huge compliment. I feel like I am listening to a real person, and not some overly polished “professional-product”. Discovered you wrote a book and have workshops. Definitely will be checking those out.
What if you are not much of a talker? Thats really what scares me i don't talk much, it takes me awhile to warm up to people and even still i wont say much. Like i know for a fact I need help, i believe i am depressed but ugh it is so hard
My appointment is in 1 hour, I’m gonna cry 😀 I’m 12 btw so like-
I hope your appointment went well 😁
I liked when you said we're friendly, we're nice and we're here to help, cuz of my trust issues and confusion
Thank you so much for this video. I’ve seen your stuff before and just yesterday, I made my first appointment to see a local therapist. I’m struggling and not quite sure why. I feel like I’ve lost all joy and pleasure in things and I’m looking forward to speaking with someone who can give me some insight and listen without being judge mental and biased.
How do you tell your parents that you think you need therapy?
James Rowe I struggled with this for so many year. I bottled up everything inside of me and was afraid to let any one know what was going on. Just a few month ago I finally went my mom and said I have been experiencing anxiety attacks at school. This opened up the door and made my mom
more involved in what was going on. I also told my doctor at my physical that I have been experiences anxiety and that’s when they told me to go see a therapist and gave me and my parents local therapist and said it is probably a great idea to make an appointment.
Moral is don’t feel afraid to tell your parents what you are going through because 99% of the time they are going to be supported and fine with it/you.
My moms making me go 😰 and I really don't want to go.
Jocelyn Miller sammmee
I have to go tomorrow
I want to go.. but I'm very scared.
Girl i wish I could go... I’m in desperate need of help but my parents don’t really take mental health seriously and I’m brok af
The first time I went to therapy I went with one friend of my father and I was so scared and embarrassed to tell him what was going on that I just told lies after lies. Then I left home (I'm over 18 now) and I think I"ll try again on my own after the holidays. I am pretty scared but ok, it may be really worthy. I really trust you, Kati! And I am so happy to have found your videos...Thank you very much for your support and your advices!
Thank you for answering these difficult questions Kati.
Me: Probs having depression
Also me: Too dead inside and broke for therapy
Me: This is fine, everything's fine
There's a great album by David Archuleta he recently released called "Therapy Sessions" and one song is called "Ok, Alright". I recommend giving it a listen. Music to me is very theraputic. Ever since I was a kid. :) I've read somewhere online that if you can't afford it, keep actively searching out content like this service and reading books for free.
@@adrianaavila8853 Thanks! I'm doing much better now that I've lightened my workload and began paying attention to my stress levels. I will definitely check out the music though!
I want to be a therapist when I’m older
Good luck, m8!
Thank you so much Katie. I will do that.Im pretty lonely these days. I did start seeing a therapist I really like. I love watching your vlogs.Big Hugs xo
this video was linked in today's video and it's exactly the video I needed. my first therapy appointment is tomorrow.
Hey Kati is there a difference between therapy and counselling? I was seeing a counsellor and it wasn't really working out so I got referred to a therapist for therapy (and I have no idea what the difference is if there is one)
All counselors (who you see to talk about life/psychological issues) are therapists. Some therapists are counselors. When we say therapist in this context, we mean psychotherapist. Psychotherapists can be mental health counselors, marriage and family therapists (like Kati), social workers, psychiatric nurses, psychologists, or psychiatrists. There may be other licenses in other countries or states...but this is what is true in New York State (where I live).
Typically "going for therapy" and "going for counseling" are interchangeable terms. However, if we were to be a stickler about it, counseling is typically for problems that are more like life/adjustment related. It's more short term. The word therapy can be used in more serious contexts where a person struggles with a psychological disorder.
But, for all intents and purposes, the modern use of these two words is interchangeable. I'm a mental health counselor in training. I can say that I'm a therapist and that I do "therapy." I can also say that I'm a counselor and that I do "counseling."
A lot of times, it takes a few tries to find the right therapist/counselor. I'm really sorry to hear that you've had a bad time. Good luck!
I just realized that this post is 3 years old. I hope therapy worked out and you're doing well!
@@theRealCrazyOne hi. Um.. I'm going to my first therapy appointment tomorrow, and I don't know how I should act in front of her. I hope it works out well.. oh Lord I am freaking out.
@@samsunnahar3337 How did it go?
@@henbane2247 thanks for asking.. it went well but I'm not ready to go too often.. so I'm gonna go every two weeks.
I have social anxiety and I can barely talk to a friend my age how am I going to talk to a random adult I don't know and my parents are forcing me to go
I hope you are well. Maybe it could be helpful that you write down what triggers the social anxiety. You could then share that written document with the therapist, you don't even have to speak but they can read it. Or you can read from the paper sort of like a script. When did you self diagnosis? Can you write down examples of how you felt during specific situations? I wish you all the best. Light and hope are being sent your way. :)
@@adrianaavila8853 Thank you so much you are very helpful.
@@idk-tx6xu Relatable, I dont even have no friends in school ;0, always alone! the only friend i have is my mom. Wbu? but just try and get therapy im going to get therapy after this pandemic we are in because, im tired of Social anxiety ruining my life.
Thank you for making this process less terrifying.
Going to one tonight. Was excited and relieved when it got set up a couple days ago. Then I started getting nervous about it yesterday. Thanks for this video.