Being Gay-A Journey into Self-Acceptance

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  • Опубликовано: 5 сен 2024
  • Man: "I am angry, confused, hurt, and disappointed with church and government leaders because they don't accept me as natural, equal, and worthy."
    Katie: "They don't accept you as natural"-is that true?
    In this wonderfully intimate public session, Katie supports the inquiry of a gay man into his beliefs about himself and those around him. My mom once said ... the biggest disappointment would be if one of my children were gay. Katie: And who believed it?
    This video makes it startlingly clear what happens when we believe our stressful thoughts and how, in all innocence, we create our own suffering. The young man doing The Work with Katie shows remarkable courage and openness of heart. He can be an example for all of us, showing us what it means to go deeply inside and discover the truths that set us free.
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Комментарии • 148

  • @LaurelDenver
    @LaurelDenver 9 лет назад +112

    What I love about Byron Katie is this: So much of her material is out there and available FOR FREE for others to learn and do the work. It's such a relief that this isn't all about $$, which so many of these guru types are. Byron Katie actually wants to improve peoples' lives, and she isn't in it for the money. She's in it for the work. I love that.

  • @nnormanV
    @nnormanV 12 лет назад +42

    I am a 23 year old gay man at a very conservative university. I go through so many of the same internal struggles that this guy goes through. I'm so grateful to have seen this process. Thank you so much for this video, and for your work.

  • @mypromisemyprayer
    @mypromisemyprayer 10 лет назад +94

    And I am not a gay. To me, this session is about everything else as well and not only about sexuality. I could apply this session in other areas of my life. Thank you.

  • @merakli07
    @merakli07 11 лет назад +65

    I am a 45 year old gay man. I wish I somehow went to the future 25 years ahead to watch this video during those times when I was contemplating suicide at my 20's.... This video could have prevented a lot of the self torture and hell I went through.....

  • @wease8109
    @wease8109 13 лет назад +30

    as a gay man, this was a HUGE turnaround for me. I am homophobic and after watching this for the 2nd time i'm starting to feel better and forgiving.

  • @jameswcoppedge
    @jameswcoppedge 10 лет назад +105

    35:44 "You'd be amazed who people are once you know yourself." -Byron Katie

  • @TheLovePowerGoddess
    @TheLovePowerGoddess 8 лет назад +50

    The horrible fight to be "accepted" by others is what destroys. Trying to get others to use certain words will not heal your broken heart. Only your self honesty will do that

  • @bettyshome123
    @bettyshome123 12 лет назад +38

    I've never watched a more profound video in my life and i don't think i ever will. This resonated with me massively, im a 20 year old gay guy. I also get irritated when my mother calls me all the time and its for exactly the same reason!!!! WHAT THE HELL. im awe struck.

  • @justsaying8761
    @justsaying8761 9 лет назад +49

    I just watched this persons' whole projection of himself change as he began to see his truth.....incredible stuff.

  • @maggadora2816
    @maggadora2816 8 лет назад +57

    Thank you for this wonderful show.
    When my son came out only 14 yo, I was very happy. It is wonderful to have a gay son. His father and I told him from the beginning to be just who he is and not try to be anything else. And his brother, my other son who is straight, also told him the same. My gay son is doing great and is getting his phd in physics. It was perhaps easier for my gay son to come out this young, because we are very open minded family and we talked a lot about human rights and science with our sons, and also read lot of books from them when they were kids, among them books about the diversity of the human race.

    • @matthiasgab5042
      @matthiasgab5042 7 лет назад +6

      I wish If I where your son am really touched!

  • @doccub
    @doccub 13 лет назад +30

    I cried so much. A lot of this resonated with me. He did a great job.

  • @gatewaytobeing
    @gatewaytobeing 11 лет назад +29

    Hopefully in my lifetime, or my children's lifetime, people will look back on the long history of this struggle and scratch their heads at how society used to have this ridiculous hang-up. Love will get us all there!

  • @SandroAntonucci87
    @SandroAntonucci87 8 лет назад +51

    This video is so emotional and deep and yet so freaking funny! The audience is awesome! The reality is that the toughest part is to accept yourself and who you are, even despite of your sexuality really. You'll then see that whether or not the world will accept you, it will be none of your business.

  • @Brivixxycej8
    @Brivixxycej8 10 лет назад +35

    Being gay as well as an active and believing Mormon from a very conservative and rural family from eastern Idaho can suck sometimes. My parents are wonderful but the things they sometimes say, as well intended as they are, can be hurtful. Hearing of the harsh treatment my fellow church members and leaders sometimes extend their LGBT brothers and sisters can also be a source of great pain. I now realize that their problems are not my problems. This video has freed me to own both my religion and my orientation in a much more authentic manner. I cannot thank you enough.

  • @LoftierThanMine
    @LoftierThanMine 13 лет назад +8

    I think every gay man in the world needs to see this video. So powerful.

  • @XVisionary978
    @XVisionary978 8 лет назад +23

    I feel like crying after watching this, cuz I can really relate a lot to him from every angle. Wish I knew who this beautiful loving man is and give him a big warm loving hug. 😪 Katie is a genius wise woman...

  • @hereisalfi
    @hereisalfi 6 лет назад +21

    I m proud to be a lesbian 🌈 💗

  • @ThunderhorsE1213
    @ThunderhorsE1213 12 лет назад +9

    the first time I watched this, I had no idea who this was. This past week I had the privelege to spend time with David and experience him in his brilliance and living completely from his heart. He is an incredible person who I love dearly. I feel that homosexuality has nothing to do with a person's spirit, any more than the fact that I am wearing a slayer shirt right now defines who I am. I will always embrace the differences in other's lifestyles and love unconditionally.

  • @hiteshbarot6082
    @hiteshbarot6082 8 лет назад +33

    I'm in awe of watching this unfold. David you're an amazing soul and thank you for sharing with us. I'm certainly going to see Bryon when she comes to Lomdon this summer. Lucky are your friends and family David for having a light like you in their lives.

  • @maxwellcooper2
    @maxwellcooper2 10 лет назад +36

    This video blows my heart open every time

  • @seastar8
    @seastar8 10 лет назад +31

    He is beautifully honest.

  • @jaesyn26
    @jaesyn26 8 лет назад +12

    I used to believe that something was wrong with me and that I was in the wrong but, you come to a point where you want to end the suffering of accepting everyone else and just accepting yourself.
    It's hard. But you have to first love and accept yourself. You always come first.

  • @ThrivingJean
    @ThrivingJean 8 лет назад +16

    He's VERY handsome.

  • @lovillo73
    @lovillo73 10 лет назад +7

    Katie, you are not just the mother of 3 children, but you got this special magic I see in my Mom, so that you are such a MOTHER SOUL FRIEND, I do Angel readings and the answers to people are very similar to the way you make people find theirs. All my love from El Salvador! Roberto

  • @mthoodstyle
    @mthoodstyle 11 лет назад +11

    Simply amazing. I've spent the weekend delving deeply into Katie's work and I feel so much lighter today! These videos are so beautiful. Watching these people transformed by shedding their overt thoughts, denied belief's and ultimately, their real truth just open's the viewers hearts and minds to our own love and deeply help beliefs that cause our suffering. I am so grateful I decided to give "the Work" another look!

  • @Ishana_Intuitive
    @Ishana_Intuitive 10 лет назад +21

    He made me cry.

  • @spiritwings9726
    @spiritwings9726 9 лет назад +12

    A very Powerful session EVERY ONE would benefit to have with them Selves !

  • @pietergrimbergen
    @pietergrimbergen 6 лет назад +5

    Bravo Byron Katie, but also bravo to this courageous man... What an inspiring video, I am a gay man too, it strenghts me immensely! Thank you very much! Pieter Grimbergen, The Netherlands.

  • @messenjah71
    @messenjah71 11 лет назад +10

    This work is in line with A Course In Miracles, which I find fascinating. It's liberating to shed light on our projections. They are designed to remain hidden but this work turns the light where it needs to shine. Bravo.

  • @sngscratcher
    @sngscratcher 10 лет назад +49

    The idea of something being "natural" (or not) is a man-made construct of the mind that is ultimately meaningless.
    I say forget the labels and learn to accept yourself fully for who you are. Then any and all labels, as well as what other people think of you, becomes irrelevant. Cheers.

  • @MarielleSander
    @MarielleSander 8 лет назад +9

    This is such a powerful discussion about self deception and self acceptance at the same time. Recommended.

  • @jamieanders8931
    @jamieanders8931 8 лет назад +7

    Such a brave and attractive man!!! I so hope he is happy today! And Katie is such a gift for this world. Thank you!!

    • @davidguyholmes
      @davidguyholmes 8 лет назад +2

      +Jamie Anders Thank you Jamie! All is well, The Work continues over here. xoxo

  • @tadimdiabridges8732
    @tadimdiabridges8732 5 лет назад +8

    I saw this after watching several other Byron Katie videos, watching her "work" with audience members. This one finally clicked with me. I got it. I got the turn around, the whole thing. I share this link with others when I am introducing them to her and the "work" as I find it is always the "aha!" for others as well.

  • @j4m3s1
    @j4m3s1 8 лет назад +15

    This all was so beautiful for me to see that some one can help see that they have to accept them self before others can it is a good lesson for straight, gay, or anyone with differences of self image issues. Loved this vid.:)

  • @Liornew2611
    @Liornew2611 8 лет назад +14

    It touched me so much! I am amazed by how much this gentleman is open! Thank you so much ! you helped me a lot

  • @dilioni
    @dilioni 9 лет назад +8

    so inspiring to watch. Byron is such a giving person and the guy is so perceptive to her helping hand of wisdom. it touches me deeply to watch this and i wish for him to have a beautifull man in is his life, because he is beautifull too, inside and out.

    • @davidguyholmes
      @davidguyholmes 8 лет назад +2

      +Lex van Leeuwen Thank you for your kind words! :) So much Gratitude and Love for Byron Katie and The Work.

  • @jetohu
    @jetohu 10 лет назад +18

    Thank you, Byron Katie!! This is just awesome.

  • @Vlatka211
    @Vlatka211 6 лет назад +8

    man I watched this two times, Katie is so good...

  • @judithpfeiffer9154
    @judithpfeiffer9154 8 лет назад +4

    I'm so moved every time I watch it! Falling in love with him and his authenticity every time. I'm so glad I found the Work of Byron Katie.

  • @bbjonas4233
    @bbjonas4233 6 лет назад +7

    I've never seen Katie cry before

  • @karltschurtz5448
    @karltschurtz5448 10 лет назад +11

    bravo and thank you...this is my favourite demonstration of the work so far

  • @renecollier1046
    @renecollier1046 9 лет назад +4

    What a beautiful example of love! This man in courageous and handsome, he's inspired me today!

  • @RafaelSaffiotti
    @RafaelSaffiotti 9 лет назад +5

    This is SO good and this process of inquiry it's a truly life changer and saver!

  • @Mickereeno
    @Mickereeno 10 лет назад +13

    wow, incredible breakthrough.

  • @aahhhyess
    @aahhhyess 12 лет назад +4

    I have so much more peace now after watching many of Katie's exchanges and reading her book, my brain talk is shifting and my brain, heard and body feel a sense of relief. Was able to invite family members in to live with me and Katie's work is what kept me MUCH more grounded and aware of the love i have for myself and them, thank you Katie.

  • @mypromisemyprayer
    @mypromisemyprayer 10 лет назад +4

    Great session. He is one of the most courageous men that I ever got to witness. And I am honored for that. He is so honest to the point that his statements made me finally understand some of my gay friends' angry comments in the past. Byron is good.....homophobic.....never even thought about such thing that you could have phobia for who you are naturally. I am wondering if I have same sort of phobia for myself. I sometimes think I am in denial of who I am...Great topic, great session...Just great!

    • @davidguyholmes
      @davidguyholmes 8 лет назад +1

      +grace1delight1 "I could apply this session in other areas of my life"...Yes! I revisit this session a lot and I'm always finding new "work" to do. Thank you for your kind words...sitting with Byron Katie was one of the most peaceful and loving energies I have ever felt.

  • @NadjaAfi
    @NadjaAfi 10 лет назад +8

    This is so beautiful, my gosh, i am so thankfull that i have seen this video...

  • @PaulGalloro
    @PaulGalloro 10 лет назад +10

    I would love to know where this guy is now and how this has all changed his life. Angel blessings!

    • @chevy1693
      @chevy1693 8 лет назад +1

      same!

    • @davidguyholmes
      @davidguyholmes 8 лет назад +22

      +Paul Galloro My life forever changed that day Byron Katie picked me out of the crowd and simply held and shared a loving space with me to do The Work. I hope one day soon I will be able to share space with her again and talk about the past 4 years...and how my Work continues. Much Love and Gratitude for all of you doing The Work! xoxo

    • @PaulGalloro
      @PaulGalloro 8 лет назад +2

      David Holmes

    • @VICTORRIVERA-fp1gj
      @VICTORRIVERA-fp1gj 7 лет назад

      David Holmes you are love

    • @bibofmahatti9000
      @bibofmahatti9000 7 лет назад +1

      David Holmes ❤️ For you and all of us ❤️ (and love your sense of humor 😊)

  • @MCookies21
    @MCookies21 8 лет назад +4

    23:55 - literally came close to home this worthy part

  • @MotherWar7891
    @MotherWar7891 11 лет назад +2

    broke down at 16 mins when that lady started talking..amazing stuff.

  • @EinhornAnspitzer
    @EinhornAnspitzer 9 лет назад +5

    Wow. That's just amazing. I'm so happy for him.

  • @stephenflynn5571
    @stephenflynn5571 7 лет назад +1

    This is incredibly brave to do this in front of an audience. Well done to this guy. Lots of love.xx

  • @runecircle
    @runecircle 10 лет назад +5

    Amazing and moving. Going out to the bookstore tomorrow.

  • @mahue171
    @mahue171 8 лет назад +6

    Thank you David. My Story

  • @cosmicartsastrologicalserv242
    @cosmicartsastrologicalserv242 5 лет назад +5

    This was a beautiful one.

  • @TheLady2luv
    @TheLady2luv 8 лет назад +4

    God bless him, wish him the best with his life.

    • @davidguyholmes
      @davidguyholmes 8 лет назад +3

      +TheLady2luv Thank you! God bless you too!

  • @MissFitstoYou
    @MissFitstoYou 6 лет назад +3

    Yes, they do not consider us as natural. How are we supposed to imagine our life without the social messaging that envelops our childhood and life. Yes, we're supposed to break free of that message - but it's a real message.

  • @badadviceforfree
    @badadviceforfree 12 лет назад +4

    this is really touching, and i can relate on other issues....

  • @MissSunbeam41
    @MissSunbeam41 10 лет назад +6

    I absolutely love this....Katie is awesome!!

  • @weedy984
    @weedy984 13 лет назад +3

    So amazing. Made me waterwork central. Absolutely beautiful. I related to so much of it. She is very good at what she does.

  • @freeman2922
    @freeman2922 9 лет назад +4

    I am 25 yo and i'm actually struggling with the same issues!
    This made me cry a lot and i think it will be a life changing for me...
    Thank you Bryon and thanks for this gentle man so brave of you.
    sorry for making it long! but how would i respond to myself when i have thoughts like God hates me for being a gay? and as i am a catholic it is stated that i am a sinner :(
    LOVE YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART

    • @saranotenboom4313
      @saranotenboom4313 8 лет назад +1

      Thank you for your courage. ♡

    • @davidguyholmes
      @davidguyholmes 8 лет назад +2

      Thank you +Free Man, keep your head up...you are worthy of the best that love and life have to offer you.

  • @aahhhyess
    @aahhhyess 12 лет назад

    This is much deeper than other ways i have seen to open the door to what can be driving us.
    Life can be messy and Katie is a great help.

  • @jameswcoppedge
    @jameswcoppedge 10 лет назад +5

    The lady commenting at 18:20 brought back a memory I had with my aunt (she happens to want me to change sexuality but I her anyway and me. ) The conversation went like this.
    Me: What do you like about men physically?
    Aunt: Well, I like the way the are built. The broad shoulders, butt, penis, face, arms legs.
    Me: Me too.
    (We both bust out laughing with. my aunt turned red with glee although she didn't "like" it she knew it was funny then tapped me in a not so serious but disapproval way.)

  • @WandaJ59
    @WandaJ59 10 лет назад +7

    The Work is awesome; it is a process that in my opinion really works; much more so than a lot of 'self-help' programs out here that insist on telling you what is wrong with you and what you can do about it. From what I've seen, The Work let's you find the answer to "What's wrong with me?" yourself, and then helps you find the answer to "How do I fix it?".
    Of course that's JMO-YMMV.

  • @laurarose754
    @laurarose754 8 лет назад +3

    I adore this guy.

  • @robertasmith6402
    @robertasmith6402 9 лет назад +3

    She could step right into Hamlet and give him counsel, better than Polonius, better than the word of God. This is a genius

  • @jackson4socks
    @jackson4socks 11 лет назад +1

    The "problem" is in the thought that same sex sex is a line that should not be crossed and is a problem.

  • @Mugtree
    @Mugtree 13 лет назад

    OMG amazing. He spoke for me. I need to accept and love myslef and stop being so angry all the time. Thank you

  • @jasmineshaw9016
    @jasmineshaw9016 8 лет назад +2

    One of your very best pieces of work

  • @omarsvlla1287
    @omarsvlla1287 8 лет назад +3

    gracias

  • @robagor
    @robagor 12 лет назад +1

    im a gay 28yr old.... i have similar situations with this guy... (he seems so sweet and cute)

  • @abouncyfrog
    @abouncyfrog 13 лет назад +1

    I love this so much, it made me cry several times, and definitely changed a lot of my views on - everything. Thank you Byron Katie! :D

  • @moonlike3871
    @moonlike3871 8 лет назад +1

    please help me with english what it means here "if you really get this down..." GET DOWN - ? (accept?)

  • @voguee2
    @voguee2 12 лет назад +2

    beautiful! made me cry

  • @SocialAlchemyProject
    @SocialAlchemyProject 9 лет назад +1

    Well-stated. Tyler Lord Hamilton

  • @johnmichaelarnaud
    @johnmichaelarnaud 7 лет назад +1

    Right there with you, brother. We can do this.

  • @TempleGreen
    @TempleGreen 13 лет назад

    Beautiful, pertinent and so useful! I love the concept of, "Self induced epiphanies"... brilliant. Thank you.

  • @j4m3s1
    @j4m3s1 8 лет назад +1

    Loved this vid great lesson for anyone with inner self issues

  • @MrJaviershaman
    @MrJaviershaman 6 лет назад +1

    So moved by this journey

  • @chochephil
    @chochephil 13 лет назад +1

    Very moving...she is amazing

  • @DuchessofMilton
    @DuchessofMilton 13 лет назад +1

    STUNNING. STUNNING. STUNNING. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!

  • @officewife
    @officewife 12 лет назад +3

    I love this work. Wonderful. Applies to everyone, not just gay. Kewl.

  • @Mortemartissime
    @Mortemartissime 8 лет назад +2

    Beautiful moment

  • @tjmichael8773
    @tjmichael8773 7 лет назад

    what helps enlighten me and gives me purpose is to volunteer for causes that support my beliefs. otherwise I find myself being more reactive.

  • @CharlieCleveland
    @CharlieCleveland 7 лет назад +1

    So beautiful. Thank you so much.

  • @Oli3TB76
    @Oli3TB76 13 лет назад +1

    Amazing. I need some of this!

  • @jenniferraybaud8827
    @jenniferraybaud8827 8 лет назад +2

    This was amazing!

  • @Pieceofpeace43
    @Pieceofpeace43 13 лет назад

    One of the best and beautiful video so far i saw this year. Thanks a lot the work of Kat¡ie is just amazing!!

  • @amymoore4053
    @amymoore4053 9 лет назад

    Wow.. best reality check ever... very good work...

  • @AvivaEvron
    @AvivaEvron 7 лет назад +1

    an empowering session!

  • @padmalocana6108
    @padmalocana6108 8 лет назад +2

    I love this man!

  • @robertasmith6402
    @robertasmith6402 9 лет назад +2

    The depth and nobility and wisdom and gentility of this woman. Her understanding of the human condition! I bet she could rival Shakespeare and easily write a play with all the same depth and understanding of the full spectrum of the human mind. Amazing. Try a stage play.. or and epic poem. People with this kind of depth and empathy of the human condition create the greatest literature.

    • @robertasmith6402
      @robertasmith6402 8 лет назад

      LOL I love my sarcasm....oh my god. The psychosis of the psychopath continues to progress in the U.S.of A. "No Trespassing" 1300 a.d. The civil law is an obstruction to chaotic oportunities to rut on a ruffied cougar in an ambulance and people train their inner torturer in how to best bring nightmares into their minds. what a show

  • @kazuemai3795
    @kazuemai3795 8 лет назад +1

    Divine. Thank you.

  • @shawnofca7
    @shawnofca7 12 лет назад +1

    Love this!

  • @7barabas
    @7barabas 12 лет назад

    So much good stuff in this video!

  • @tulipsontheorgan
    @tulipsontheorgan 12 лет назад +2

    adorable.....!!!

  • @NonDual1799
    @NonDual1799 9 лет назад +2

    Wow!!! powerful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @neoheartalchemy
    @neoheartalchemy 13 лет назад

    Incredible work!

  • @heikalbwz3984
    @heikalbwz3984 6 лет назад

    She is amazing and help me so much - it's related

  • @mumty1
    @mumty1 9 лет назад +1

    Wonderful!