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Finding Out I'm Pregnant!!! (after 6 years of infertility)
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- Published on Feb 13, 2026
- The results of our third IVF transfer and our first Beta HCG results. Thank you guys for supporting us and getting us this far. Your prayers mean everything!! It's a huge milestone to reach this positive test.
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I've never been so happy for complete strangers to be pregnant! God bless this pregnancy and let it be smooth sailing the rest of the way!!!
My very first thoughts too. ❤
I was just about to type this as well 😂 💕💕💕
My thoughts exactly! I am so, so happy for you both. 🥲🥲💖💖
Amen!
Me too !!!
You have thousands of people crying with joy for you both!❤️
Perfectly said!
I love that so many of us have huge love and hope for Jessi and Alessio!! ❤
They sure do...😭😭😭🥰
I was so crying!!!
❤❤❤❤🎉❤❤❤❤
I also had 6 years of infertility- and it all worked out, he’s 33! Blessings to you!
I went 14 years. My daughter is now 31. Congratulations.
So so happy for you!!! Prayers for a smooth journey! 🎉
Dont worry if it doesn’t go up as high as they say it should. My fertility doctor told me I had a blighted ovum at my first ultrasound and even before that told me my HCG levels were not increasing as much as they should and my pregnancy was doomed. My own ob/gyn reminded me that there is a bell curve to these statistics and that pregnancies with less than desirable HCG levels still succeed. 26 years later, my little blighted ovum is close to graduating from medical school! I wish you all the best! Congratulations!
Medical School!?!!? That's fantastic!!! Wow!!
Congratulations! ❤
Every child should be so lucky to be as wanted as yours. Congratulations, you too!
1000 x This ^
Seriously ❤ All the love that’s been put into this little bean ❤❤
Couldn’t agree more! To see them discuss everything and the joy in their faces! I think about their little one watching these videos one day and seeing all their parents went through for them!
🌺💜🌺🙏🌺💜🌺🤗🌺💜🌺Congratulations…richest blessings❣️
gosh isn't that the truth!
The best advice I got from one of my mentors in our miscarriage group, was to celebrate each day, because today you are pregnant. No matter the outcome, today you are pregnant
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I agree celebrate every baby deserves all the love and happiness for however long or short they are here
Happy tears ! I’ve been so invested in your outcome. Prayers and blessings to you both!! Please continue to share your journey.
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So much this!!!
Lord please let this baby stay with this lovely couple. They deserve this 🎉❤ bless this couple.. so happy for y'all stay calm and positive
🎉Congratulations ❤
Yes! 🙌
You said exactly what I am thinking. They deserve it so much!!!
Amen
Amen 🙏🏼
I used to be an Infertility Nurse! These are the BEST TEARS! ❤❤❤❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for Health, Safety, JOY & many blessings!
Correct! HCG will double every 2 days-
I did injections & suppositories for 3 months - you got this!!!!
Not half the world crying happy tears over people we have never met! 😂❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
I am
Yes ma'am 😂😂❤❤
We tried for 7.5 years - got pregnant on my third attempt IVF. Ended up having 3 children-all are in their 30’s now. So happy for you. 😊
Praying for a strong, healthy little one! Congrats!
The whole world is soooooo happy for you both. Remember… it’s not just her that is pregnant, it’s both of you. Alessio, your duties are just as important here. Your protective skills come into play now. I know we don’t have to tell you that. I just heard you say your Amore is pregnant. It’s both of you! Congratulations a million times over!
May the lord wrap his arms around you and protect all 3 of you ❤
I don’t think I’ve ever been so happy for a strangers pregnancy announcement. Been praying for this and will continue to pray for a healthy pregnancy and baby. I think you’re having a girl!
Me2❤
Alessio will make an incredible girl dad!
I see a boy 🥰🇮🇹
Me too bc HGH so high but who knows bc I have no degree in this.
Healthy baby.
0:45 CONGRATULATIONS 🎊 🎉 You both deserve this soooooo much ❤
It's hard to believe it's already been 2 days since you shared this video. I remember watching it right when you posted it, and I can't seem to get enough of your heartfelt reactions. I find myself drawn to it, watching it over and over again. I'm truly happy and excited for you, but I also feel a bit anxious and hope everything goes smoothly for you.
I’m a total stranger and I’m crying because I’m so happy for you. Praying for you and sending positive vibes your way. 🙏🏻
Same!
Will pray it holds....I'm so thrilled for you!!
Same!
Same here!
Same!!
Lord, please don't let them lose this baby. Watch over them and let them have a healthy & perfect baby. 🙏
In the mighty name of Jesus 🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Amen❤
Ameen ❤
Amen
Let's have a babyshower online. This is soo exciting
Fabulous idea! If they set up a PO box, we can send gifts
Yes yes! Registry and P.O. box please❤
That would be precious ❤
That is an awesome idea!
Love this idea 💡 ❤
No one deserves it more than you! This baby will be so blessed to be born in your arms! ❤🎉
Who is cutting the onions??? 😭😭😭
Damn onion ninjas in my house! 😂
I know. So excited
I was. Sorry!
Trying not to let the onions get to me. ❤❤❤
Had to take of my glasses, i cried so hard❤
0:23 screams in 24% French 🎉🎉🎉
😂😂😂
Rest! No lifting!My Mom had to wait 8 years for me and I came 11 weeks early many many years ago.
Congrats! I understand that bliss 100%. We've been trying for 8yrs it was about to be 9 when we found out we are pregnant. Here we are 13wks and over the moon. We prayed everyday for this little one ❤ God bless you guys im so happy to hear. Just to think doctors tells us to give up or stop trying and it's so good to hear that you beat that. 😊
I've never been so happy for two people I've never met! I cried right along with you. When I first got pregnant with my son, after several losses, my doctor had told me to come into the office the DAY I got a positive pregnancy test. I was probably 3 and a half weeks pregnant at that point, but he started me that day on daily progesterone suppositories. I'm convinced that's the reason I was able to have my baby boy! He just turned 19 last month and is an engineering major away at college!
Mommy of twins. Our girls are from a frozen transfer Not everyone made it
And my husband & I were done not hopeless but resolved w whatever.
They choose the best for embryos to transfer; I cried after my transfer, but the nurse said that I had to have faith in the Dr. felt confident of the embryos that had made it.
I didn’t test in advance because I had suffered loss so when they called me with the results, I expected failure; and every call in every appointment and day after day, I remain pregnant; I did develop preeclampsia and was hospitalized for 6 1/2 weeks and my girls were preemie and small, but healthy ; and to tell you that I just dropped them off for college the last two years great sobs anyone traveling the road of infertility knows the pain in the heart I couldn’t be happier for the most lovely sweet couple of all of you tube 😢
Progesterone is so helpful and many people don’t get advised to take that to help the pregnancy to stay. So happy to hear you had a happy result! Congratulations on your son being happy in college, too! ❤🎉
I have been depressed for the last 2 days and saw this video and it broke me. I cried my eyes out, in complete happiness for the joy you both showed the second you saw the results. The tears were real, the feelings were raw and deep in my soul I was renewed. Thank you so much for sharing your amazing news. It has completely changed my mood and outlook. You have brightened my life and I couldn't be happier for you both. Nothing but the best of wishes for great results moving forward. THANK YOU FOR THE JOY YOU BRING.
Sending you a huge hug - your happiness is ALSO contagious!
The way I GASPED OUT LOUD AT WORK when I saw the title!!! Congratulations!!! This gives me hope, I am going for my endometriosis lap surgery in a month and I hope we will be able to get pregnant after. 🙏🏻
You will be! Enjoy your pregnancy 😊
I gasped too 🎉🎉
Soooo happy flor you both!! ❤
Sending positive energy your way!
Wishing you a speedy recovery.
OMG!!! MY WARMEST AND SINCEREST CONGRATULATIONS!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉 As soon as i saw the title of the video i clicked on it! This is some of the best news and has made my day! I've been following your journey and know just how much you want this baby... this baby is blessed more than it can comprehend. You are both such sweet and genuine ppl in such a connected and loving relationship. I got chills as you further confirmed things and i saw the distinct lines and then the even more distinct lines!!! I truly hope the pregnancy goes as smoothly as possible and everything turns out as it's supposed to be. Sending ALL the positive thoughts and vibes and energy possible along with all my love to you both. Thank you for giving others hope as well by continuing to have faith and pursue your dreams in spite of all the obstacles. Your love is inspiring! 🥰🥰🥰🤞🙏💖
😭😭😭Thank you Lord!!! May this child know the love these two have for each other & him or her!!! I’m balling over here!! I’m so happy for you both!!! ❤❤❤
I'm currently 6w4d pregnant 😭❤ I pray our babies stick.. I want this for you guys more than I've ever wanted anyone to have this. You deserve it so much! Best wishes
Grow, baby, grow!!
Congratulations 🎈
Congratulations 🎉 ❤
Congratulations
Congratulations to you!
Congratulations! I'm literally one day behind you with my rainbow! 6w 3d
Laughing & crying with two precious deserving people congratulations prayers for a easy pregnancy 😊❤
Congrats! It’s so nice to see that kind of reaction to a baby. Get ready, your heart will open up to a new level of love that you haven’t experienced before
I’m over the moon for you guys! Those HCG numbers are fantastic, such a strong start! No rocky roads, just obviously pregnant and glowing. 💕 You deserve nothing less than the smoothest, most joyful ride from here on out.
Thanks for letting us all be a part of this process from praying for little one to stick, to now celebrating with you!! Congratulations!
Congratulations and God Bless your little family!
Such a strong line!!!! I’m crying happy tears for you guys!!!!
I just said that, too. I'm so happy for them
Very strong...brilliant
My thoughts too, nice and dark
Yes very strong for first line
Waiting for the latest blood test! Keep checking here every few hours, a bit anxious fir you all 🥰
Oh my gosh, I’m so excited. I’m crying no two people ever deserved it more. God bless you both and that little precious cargo.
Praise the Lord! I’m so so happy for you all
This comment will get buried, but I discovered you guys while going through my infertility journey. Four years, lost my two boys when I was 20 weeks due to a genetic mutation I carry. I did 3 years of IVF with zero success. Never got anything. I cried every day for years. I somehow got pregnant with a healthy daughter after being told to stop treatments. Told I’d never be a mom. I can’t tell you how happy I am for you two. Complete strangers, but I can empathize with the emotional toll this takes. A very warm congratulations. I can’t think of two more deserving people for this gift than the Pasinis. ❤
Such great news
How would they know the gender
@suemurray5848it was IVF, so some doctor picked which embryo to put in her.
Because she was 20 weeks along with both of her baby's so she had to deliver them and could clearly see that they were boys
@suemurray5848they do genetic testing on embryos and fetuses ya moron
Saw FB post from them. The second set of numbers was amazing - over 1000!!
Yay, baby Pasini!
Thank you letting us take this journey with you! I started crying with you! Congratulations!
I'm not crying, my eyes are just sweating
You guys!? We've never met, yet I'm tearing up!! Tears of joy!! My whole family love you both and your foodie shows with grades and points. So my 9 year old son just yelled, Mom!! Alessi and Jessi are going to be parents!! RUclips, you know , it has updates! So just know, we pray for you and think of you , so happy and wow!? Over the moon happy , you both worked so hard up to this point. Yay!!! 🎉🫶🍾💐 Enjoy the journey💐 Many blessings ❤
How sweet! 🥹
Praying today’s numbers brought more good news, comfort and confirmation that all is well and baby is growing!! Stick baby stick and grow grow grow! 🙏❤️
OUR PRAYERS HAVE BEEN ANSWERED!!! 😭 CRYING SOOOOOO HARD!!! I KNEW ITTTTT!!!!! 🙌🏼 THANK YOU SOOOOOO MUCH LORD!!! ❤️
Dear Jessi and Alessio, I just wanted to come on here and thank you for sharing your videos and story with the world. My husband and I have also been on this infertility roller coaster for almost 7 years. Your videos gave me strength to keep going, watching you going through countless surgeries and procedures while my husband and I were going through the same thing. Congratulations on your pregnancy and I know it will be a blessed one. In a weird twist of fate and the universe today my beta came back positive as well! So now I feel even more connected to you both, even through we are strangers. Thank you for all you have shared! Much love and gratitude
Congrats!
Congratulations
Congratulations! 🎉 So excited for you! 🫂
Congratulations! Wishing you well.
Congratulations!
I'm not crying, you're crying 😭
We're ALL crying.
I AM crying ❤
Prayers and blessings for a healthy, happy pregnancy ❤
Oh my God. Tears are pouring down my face !! I am SO happy for you guys! And I’m just an old man of 73 that follows you guys!
Congratulations!!
I’m bawling my eyes out watching this!! This is your miracle!!!!! Praise the Lord. Jesus is sooo good!!!! Answered prayers!! #forthischildwehaveprayed 1 Samuel 1:27-28
Amen
It's not a miracle, it's medicine and science.
This is science nothing to do with and imaginary god
@AnotherprisonsystemMedicine and science only go so far in a materialistic worldview. Jesus and God are real.
Amen!!!!! ❤🎉🎉🎉🎉❤
So so happy for you both!!!!
Thank you Dear Lord for hearing our prayers ❤
Congrats…I’ll be watching as you continue the journey!
YESSSSSSSSSSSS!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤ CONGRATULATIONS RAGAZZI!!! Couldn't happen to a lovelier couple. All the very best of luck and prayers for a happy, healthy pregnancy!!!!❤❤❤❤❤
OMG!! IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS!! CONGRATULATIONS!! ❤❤
I've followed your IVF/endo journey loosely. I am SO SO incredibly happy for you right now. My grandma passed away on Thursday, I took care of her until the end [she was 90]; I am so happy to come across your great news while trying to mindlessly keep my brain occupied.
If your fetus has half the tenacity, strength of character and will power as my beloved head-strong grandmother...you'll have your hands full. Congratulations on the fantastic news!
Molto felice per voi, congratulazioni!
When you said you were pregnant, I started crying. I am so happy for both of you. Your child hit the parent jackpot! Sending love and prayers for an easy pregnancy and delivery. God bless all of you ❤❤❤
Omg!! I’m so very happy for you!!! I’m storming the heavens with prayers for a healthy pregnancy and baby !!!! ❤
Dear Jessi and Alessio, huge congratulations on this amazing milestone, I am so happy for you! You deserve all the happiness, and I hope you have a healthy pregnancy! I had my 5 day transfer on September 2nd, and a week later we had our positive test too! Today I am 5 weeks. Unfortunately I developed a bad case of OHSS and it got even worse because of the fresh transfer, and I ended up in the hospital the day after our positive test. I've been admitted for a little over a week now and have finally turned a corner, but with over 10 kg of water weight gain, it'll be a long road to recovery. But the doctors are optimistic and we hope I can go home this weekend! HCG has been rising, but not exactly doubling so we are only very cautiously hopeful, but we have not completely lost hope. Today it was 815 and two days ago 426.
CONGRATULATIONS! I hope and pray that you will have a healthy preganancy and healthy baby!
I never clicked faster! I am so so happy for you guys! Been thinking about you the last few days and been waiting for an update. Wishing you all the best and I cannot wait to follow your journey 😭♥️♥️♥️
I couldn’t be more excited for 2 people to be pregnant than you 2!! Praying this little one hangs on for 9 months!!
Čestitke! Zaslužili ste nakon dugotrajne borbe. Uživajte!!!!
This is incredible news! I’m watching this as our triple rainbow baby is kicking away in my belly. I’m a fellow IVF mama and am crying happy tears with you all. You both are SO deserving!
I yelled to my husband “great news”! I made him watch this video and he had no idea who you were but I’ve been talking about you both ! Now he gets it and he smiled watching it! 🙏🏻 continuing to pray for this baby to cuddle in and get cozy!
I showed my guy their story the other day, he asked why I was stalking their social media 😂, i just scream texted the good news. He called me immediately as excited as I am 😂😂😂 never been so excited for anyone in my whole life 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Haha, me too! Just sent it to our fam chat, with the 2 teen sons as well, I'd been telling them all how invested I was and now I'm sobbing with happiness and sharing it!
My husband has been watching their story unfold with me. On our recent trip to Italy, we explained everything to my mom, who was traveling with us, and she got invested as well. As soon as I saw the video title, I sent it to them both so we could all watch it together. We've actually been smiling and cheering so much that our cheeks are sore! 😂 We're wishing them all the best throughout the pregnancy. This has been the highlight of the decade! ❤❤❤❤❤
We are all crying ❤🎉
Mi avete fatto piangere!! Sono felicissima per voi!!! ❤️💕
I’m crying with joy for you! In public! On an airplane! Praying for an easy safe pregnancy!
You're so sweet ❤
I don't even know you and I'm blubbering like a baby right now. I'm so very happy for you!
Was the numbers higher today did they go up by 80% been on my mind all day ❤
Can I just express huge love that throughout this video, Alessio said "we". "We" have to take medications. "We" were experiencing spotting. There was no "she" in his vocabulary. He is so firmly committed.
He is the best version of a man, truly, and even more so, the best version of an Italian man!!!
Yes he’s so supportive and sweet ❤
The other day i read a comment how this is inappropriate and patriarchal because it takes away from the woman’s suffering. Which I think is absolutely silly.
I agree with you. They do this together.
@Feelinggrapeofficial_ I think that, at the end of the day, it all comes down to how the pregnant lady feels about her partner using that "we" expression. Mila Kunis spoke about it in an interview - especially for women who have gotten pregnant and post-partum multiple times, they feel it is unfair for the men to brag about "we are pregnant, we gave birth, we are breatfeeding" when the hard work of doing all those things is done literally by the women´s body. So, it is not "silly" at all.
@marianamachado2992 I completely agree, it minimizes what women go through to bring life into this world even more than they are already. A woman’s partner can support her and be there to lean on, but in reality, they are not dealing with morning sickness, cravings, food aversions, limitations on food and drug consumption (meaning no NSAIDS, no alcohol, having to go off of 98% of prescription medications for other illnesses), complications like gestational diabetes, HG, preeclampsia, and so much more. If a woman doesn’t mind her partner saying “we” that’s fine, but it shouldn’t be the default.
I can’t stop crying for you guys and I don’t even know you. I have been on the same journey as you both and I’m holding my 8 week old IVF baby boy. I will keep sending prayers and good thoughts for a safe pregnancy journey. ❤❤❤❤ 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Congrats! 😊❤
🎉🎉❤❤🎂🎂 congrats!!! Praying for a healthy, wonderful pregnancy. I’m so happy!
Congratulations! Very happy for you! Love and positive vibes for the continuation of your journey! 🎉❤
Congrats!!🎉
I feel like we've all been walking alongside you on this journey for over six years, through every high and low, every laugh and tear, every moment of hope and heartbreak. And now… this incredible moment has finally arrived.
After all the trials, the strength, the love, and the perseverance, you two are stepping into the chapter you’ve been dreaming of. Congratulations you two!!
Congratulations and God bless
I literaly started to cry when you screamed. I wish you the best and that you have a healthy and beautiful pregnancy! God bless you both!
😭😭😭😭😭 Crying happy tears for you guys. You so, so deserve this. This baby is going to have the best parents.
Oh, I am BEYOND excited for you!! I had seven years of secondary infertility, and am now 35 weeks pregnant - giving you all the happy baby dust!! ❤
35 weeks pregnant here too!
Congrats
Congratulations ❤❤❤
@Musicology4thePeoplewe’re so close!! I just wish it weren’t so dang hot out still 😵💫
@celestel8186thank you!! 🥹 I’m crossing everything I physically can for them to get a sticky pregnancy this round!
I'm so happy for you, guys!!!!! I wish all the best for that little soul and you both ❤
Omg not me over here sobbing im so so so so happy for you like really what a journey i hope this baby is healthy and everything goes great with the pregnancy im over the moon for you guys all that hard work, procedures, shots and now you'll have your miracle baby!!!!!
I am crying! Praying for a healthy pregnancy!!
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!! I'm so INCREDIBLY excited and happy for you both!!! Will be praying continued STICKY vibes! Snuggle into your momma, baby -- nestle in TIGHT and grow, Grow, GROW! From one (5 yr long) infertile couple to another -- we are rooting so hard for you! 😃🥰
Congrats! I've watched you guys through my own infertility struggle over the years. 26 weeks pregnant with my miracle baby.
I've had the day from h3ll today and I finally sat down to pause my situation and turned on RUclips and this came up! ❤❤🎉🎉🎉 I'm so happy for y'all. I cried. Gave me something to be happy about today!
I burst into tears! I’m SO happy for the two of you!!!!! Sticky baby dust flying all over the internet today!!!!
I'm in tears with you. This baby will be so blessed to have you two as it's parents!
I too had 6yrs infertility. Invitro, now shes 29. Bellissimo!!!!!! God is soooo good. I too had spotting, take it easy,please
Absolutely freaking stoked for you both!!! Never in my life have I wanted 2 strangers to see those 2 lines more than I have for you. Congratulations!!!! Sending so much love and good wishes for a safe and healthy pregnancy ❤ from Adelaide, South Australia xx
I knew it in my heart. That this day would come ✝️❤👶🏻! I am so, so happy for you both!!!!😊
I literally screamed out loud at your results and started crying happy, happy, happy tears! Congratulations!!! 🎉❤ Sending all the love!!
Congratulations. Ive followed some of your vids over the years, and was somewhat aware of your struggles. Glad your dreams are a reality.
I think they could hear his cheer all the way in Italy! Congrats to both of you
Congratulations!! I’ve never been more excited for people I didn’t know. You’ll be amazing parents. So happy for you!
What a rollercoaster of emotions! I was yelling out loud with Alessio upon reading the results while, at the same time, tearing up with Jesse. Amazing! I don’t comment on your guys’s stuff often, but I’ve been cheering in the background. These news couldn’t have gone to a better couple, real spit. Congratulations y’all. A wise man once said “May your first child be a masculine child”. I say “May your first child be a healthy child.” I’m sure it’ll be the case. 🙏❤️💯
I was screaming for them with pure happiness of tears!! 😢😊👶 I feel like their a part of my family watching them for so long with their trips to and from Italy all the adventures of everything especially them getting this extremely happy news!! ❤👶💙 Always sending positive energy and prayers for this lovely couple!! 🙏 😍😊🎉🎉🎉👶 🙏
CONGRATULATIONS!!!! All the prayers, good vibes, and happy things for all 3 of you!!!
Crying with you...,..
Been praying for you that you would be blessed with your own child
I adopted after IVF failed a few times for me..
Hope you get twins......
In the end I adopted twins. My greatest accomplishment in my life, actually. 2 marvelous girls, now 20, living their best life.
Im praying for your pregnancy now. For safety and protection
I AM FILLED WITH SO MUCH JOY HEARING THIS NEWS!!! I've been on pins and needles almost not even looking, I was so anxious.
I know none of us can imagine what you both must have been thinking, but to see that positive test!! Please know that we have all been praying for you. There aren't two people more deserving that I can think of. We don't need to know you personally to pray for you or wish you the most joyous outcome!
Soooooo happy for you!!
Oh my gosh! I am so happy for you! I can understand your joy because I also spent years of infertility...Not endometriosis, but PCOS....And when we found out we were finally pregnant, it was like the sun was shining brighter, the colors more vivid, my love for my husband was bigger. Bless you both and your little one to be. I'll keep you all in my prayers. 😊 🙏🏻
I have watched this about 10 times. I'm so beyond happy for you both. I remember the heartache of infertility all too well. Now the two lines from MY cheap dollar store test is a sophomore in college. I am praying for you and for a easy and successful pregnancy. It will be scary the whole time... but just remember you dont stop worrying about them even when they are born. It's constant and your new job. :) Congratulations to you both. I'm over the moon for you.
OH MY DAYS!!! IM IN TEARS! HOW WONDERFUL!!
CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Congratulations. I pray for a sticky bean. You really deserve this. I know these nerve wrecking first months. I remember how unreal these positive tests felt like after years of infertility. But today I am lying next to my IVF children. I am.so grateful for them even though being a parent is really hard sometimes. Seeing you both reminds me why we have fought for our children.