Single Mom Wants To Know Why Some Men Dedicate Their Life To Hating On Them

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  • Опубликовано: 18 ноя 2024

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  • @RickHTown
    @RickHTown 7 месяцев назад +498

    We don’t “HATE” single mothers. But we do hate the narrative that only “REAL MEN” take care of another man’s child(ren) and when we refuse to do so we’re Shamed and talked down upon

    • @freddy8479
      @freddy8479 7 месяцев назад +45

      AGREED 💯

    • @eq2092
      @eq2092 7 месяцев назад +50

      Speak for yourself. I hate 'em

    • @KASLtja
      @KASLtja 7 месяцев назад

      BLACK men are THE MOST INVOLVED FATHERS according to the CDC! They want to call men deadbeats to justify their behavior/bad decisions.

    • @733t0ne-yd6qf
      @733t0ne-yd6qf 7 месяцев назад +31

      Speak for yourself.. I hate them

    • @TheOneTrueNoName
      @TheOneTrueNoName 7 месяцев назад

      I knew a couple cool BMs but a lot of them are entitled, shaming, delusional, a holes, that see no problem with doing only fans while being a mother

  • @real-ishstraighttruthnocha1687
    @real-ishstraighttruthnocha1687 7 месяцев назад +219

    I don't hate single moms. I hate that all these women tried to play like they were the prize despite being a single mom. As a man with no kids, I don't owe any woman anything. I don't want to play stepdad, that's my choice. My wallet, my choice.

    • @freddy8479
      @freddy8479 7 месяцев назад +30

      INDEED AND AGREED 💯

    • @RJ12347
      @RJ12347 7 месяцев назад +13

      Drizzle drizzle

    • @Soloman_1800
      @Soloman_1800 6 месяцев назад +8

      👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @honorables9485
    @honorables9485 7 месяцев назад +293

    I am a woman(22 years) and I am against single motherhood. I was raised by one and she completely destroyed my childhood. She resented me so bad and it was not until as I got older that I realized that she hates me because she hates my dad. I was not allowed to see my dad but he still wrote letters to me and tried his absolute best but my mom would just tell me that he abandoned me to be with another woman. I don't wish that on my children one day,to have a hateful single mom who is a misandrist.
    If you are a child free woman who plans on having children,please heal and get off social media before you let other women tell you how your life should be. Family dysfunctions are not supposed to be celebrated

    • @BMiles84ConsciousChannel2
      @BMiles84ConsciousChannel2 7 месяцев назад +28

      Amen!!!!

    • @Zulu-Lemon
      @Zulu-Lemon 7 месяцев назад +16

      👏

    • @Payday-ky7mb
      @Payday-ky7mb 7 месяцев назад +36

      Know one wants to talk about the other side of this. Lots of single mothers are bitter as hell.

    • @honorables9485
      @honorables9485 7 месяцев назад

      @Payday-ky7mb True. Most of them can't even give love to their children,they think they are victims and everyone is out to get them. Single motherhood is a consequence of one's actions.

    • @TheDream3873
      @TheDream3873 7 месяцев назад +18

      Boom 💥 Well said sister!

  • @thesuperdingos
    @thesuperdingos 7 месяцев назад +531

    Don’t bring a kid into the world with someone you’re not sure with. This is a major red flag in itself.

    • @TheBlackTarot95
      @TheBlackTarot95 7 месяцев назад +76

      Poookies get free box from these same women

    • @marvl6472
      @marvl6472 7 месяцев назад +38

      but remember whos insight, foresight and" intuition is never wrong"

    • @johnteill_
      @johnteill_ 7 месяцев назад +17

      The problem with this is it makes to much sense

    • @angelakennebrew6565
      @angelakennebrew6565 7 месяцев назад +14

      Some women may not know until after the fact, always the last to know

    • @MsYBBG
      @MsYBBG 7 месяцев назад +25

      Was a family law attorney for a decade. Pookies and Rays Rays are not the only types of men out here producing children.

  • @clytchan
    @clytchan 7 месяцев назад +110

    We, as black men, don’t “hate” single mothers, we have decided that we don’t want to take on the responsibility of raising Pookie and Ray Ray’s kids; which is most likely the case. Also, we don’t want to deal with the baby-daddy drama that comes along with it, especially if a female has multiple kids by multiple dudes. The majority of men don’t want a ready-made family anyway. There are a lot of issues that we would have to deal with, being in a relationship with a single mother. If a black man chooses to enter into a relationship with a black single mother, fine. But you’re not going to shame the rest of us into doing so by saying, “It takes a real man to raise another man’s seed.” 🙄 At the end of the day, we have choices. And let me add this, call it petty, but I don’t wanna have to constantly see the guy who was with my woman before me, just because y’all have a child together. I’m not feelin’ that!

    • @slinkiegirl2001
      @slinkiegirl2001 7 месяцев назад +9

      And so you should

    • @sunsoza8320
      @sunsoza8320 7 месяцев назад +9

      I agree

    • @thekorsh4230
      @thekorsh4230 7 месяцев назад +12

      One of the worst feeling ever, then they will rub it in your face taunt you. These women knows how to really break a men's feelings.

    • @tyrecarmon20
      @tyrecarmon20 7 месяцев назад +1

      Strongly disagree

    • @gordonallen9095
      @gordonallen9095 7 месяцев назад +2

      Word.

  • @Nightrain349
    @Nightrain349 7 месяцев назад +140

    You let him hit it raw and now you're a single mom now you're a single mom!!

    • @johnniegordon1221
      @johnniegordon1221 7 месяцев назад

      Y’all say ain’t no good men but yooou b!$he$ stay pregnant 😂😂😂

    • @nickming8738
      @nickming8738 6 месяцев назад +14

      Keep the song alive my boi!!!😂😂

    • @ghosttemplar6989
      @ghosttemplar6989 6 месяцев назад +8

      Drizzle Drizzle

    • @soniapinkney1342
      @soniapinkney1342 5 месяцев назад +4

      U guys act like these women are animals , but never call out single Dads !! That don’t take care of their kids …

    • @ghosttemplar6989
      @ghosttemplar6989 5 месяцев назад

      @@soniapinkney1342 Hmmm well why is that do most single days say they can't support the kid before the woman has it anyway?

  • @luvbig41
    @luvbig41 7 месяцев назад +353

    It's not hate....It's avoiding problems.

    • @keepmovin1320
      @keepmovin1320 7 месяцев назад +24

      FACTS 💯💯

    • @dearbrave4183
      @dearbrave4183 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@keepmovin1320problems you create, that your gender creates for not being abstinent and having vasectomy? Think harder

    • @frozentundra7446
      @frozentundra7446 7 месяцев назад +17

      That right there!

    • @Cateyes767
      @Cateyes767 7 месяцев назад +2

      You would be the problem.

    • @JSmooth89
      @JSmooth89 6 месяцев назад +13

      ​@@Cateyes767How is avoiding a single mother and all of her baggage make him the problem? Make it make sense...

  • @NOLAPicasso
    @NOLAPicasso 7 месяцев назад +28

    As a man with no children, I'mma say something that will definitely ruffle some feathers, male and female. Single parents should only date other single parents.

    • @fitzgeraldsemelfort3938
      @fitzgeraldsemelfort3938 3 месяца назад

      @@NOLAPicasso a lot of women will date a single dad not much the other way around

    • @Libragirl95
      @Libragirl95 Месяц назад +1

      Facts I'm not being apart of a already made family and 9⃣ times out of 🔟 they're only using you as a placeholder or distraction to get over their ex.

  • @travonjones
    @travonjones 7 месяцев назад +95

    Men should have their own children! Not take care of some other mans

    • @up-uw4op
      @up-uw4op 7 месяцев назад +9

      exactly start making dads take care of their kids and things will change

    • @T.Harry79
      @T.Harry79 7 месяцев назад

      @@up-uw4opTell that to said single mothers. They picked who they allowed to nut in them. It’s THEIR job to unfuck their problems.

    • @GoatHolyfield
      @GoatHolyfield 7 месяцев назад

      The amount of women that think men should put their lives on hold to take care of *their bastards children* is disgusting

    • @GoatHolyfield
      @GoatHolyfield 7 месяцев назад +8

      It disgusting me how so many singles mothers really think men should put their lives on hold to take care of someone's child disgusting

    • @MrT-nh6di
      @MrT-nh6di 7 месяцев назад +2

      1000%

  • @DefiesAllStereotypes
    @DefiesAllStereotypes 7 месяцев назад +117

    I spent my single years avoiding them, not hating on them.

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 7 месяцев назад +13

      Indeed.
      A single mother using the word “hate” when it’s obviously not is another reason to avoid them. Just a preview of the drama that come with single mothers once you’re trapped.

  • @bruceleeroy8302
    @bruceleeroy8302 7 месяцев назад +65

    I have nothing against single mothers. My issue is with women who are careless with their womb, have multiple kids out of wedlock, have multiple BDs and have higher standards for the potential step dad than they have for the father of the kids

    • @slinkiegirl2001
      @slinkiegirl2001 7 месяцев назад +8

      So danm true check out the Kendra g show that show is full of them types

    • @LadyGodiva0611
      @LadyGodiva0611 7 месяцев назад +6

      It’s the Single Mom Make A Wish Foundation 😂😂😂😂

    • @joelbreezy3116
      @joelbreezy3116 6 месяцев назад +3

      Literally going thru this myself. Standards are thru the roof for me...but for them...not a standard in the world

  • @martinfiedler4317
    @martinfiedler4317 7 месяцев назад +104

    What "hatred" for single mother?
    Not wanting a relationship with them is not "hatred"...

    • @Tobit-n9s
      @Tobit-n9s 7 месяцев назад

      Not wanting a relationship with them but choosing to lay down with them still...you sound like a stupid boy!!!?

    • @thewiseone6049
      @thewiseone6049 6 месяцев назад +9

      Holding them accountable is hatred to them. They're basically grown kids who raise other grown kids, hence the prison rate.

    • @SantiagoVeraLoor
      @SantiagoVeraLoor 4 месяца назад

      Single moms are just angry because they exited themselves from the dating market and destroyed their value. They know they made a mistake and blame men for not wanting to clean up or make the same mistakes they made

  • @TheBlackTarot95
    @TheBlackTarot95 7 месяцев назад +150

    Women don't learn from the mistakes of other women.

    • @marvl6472
      @marvl6472 7 месяцев назад +27

      repeated cycles even within the same household

    • @SteveG-k8q
      @SteveG-k8q 7 месяцев назад +37

      They don't even learn from their own mistakes, they just blame something else 😂

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 7 месяцев назад +13

      For decades.

    • @up-uw4op
      @up-uw4op 7 месяцев назад +10

      because very few are educating each other. just like most fathers are not educating their sons

    • @T.Harry79
      @T.Harry79 7 месяцев назад +11

      @@SteveG-k8qExactly. They will make the same mistakes multiple times. For starters, it’s up to women to goalkeep their uterus. And the vast majority are horrible at that.

  • @khalidrashada5989
    @khalidrashada5989 7 месяцев назад +114

    Why is she making about men that are not the fathers? Men are not obligated to take a single mother's children. If anything the single mother should talk about the biological fathers who are deadbeats.

    • @T.Harry79
      @T.Harry79 7 месяцев назад +29

      It would make perfect sense for single mothers to make amends with their child’s father instead of wasting all of that energy whining online. Why is that not an option?? Childless men don’t owe y’all a damn thing.

    • @slinkiegirl2001
      @slinkiegirl2001 7 месяцев назад +4

      Spot on

    • @tyronelorenzovalentio3414
      @tyronelorenzovalentio3414 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@T.Harry79Exactly 😂😂😂😂

    • @GoatHolyfield
      @GoatHolyfield 7 месяцев назад +9

      It disgusting how so many singles mothers think men should put their lives on hold to take care of thier kids ew

    • @garawa1987
      @garawa1987 7 месяцев назад

      Single mothers don't want to hold there dead beat babby daddy because these single mothers don't want to take accountability so much for being a feminist these parasites single mothers are just looking for a host to latch onto

  • @stephentrotter1653
    @stephentrotter1653 7 месяцев назад +235

    Being told the truth is hate this world is crazy😂😂😂

    • @marvl6472
      @marvl6472 7 месяцев назад +1

      "Stop acting like women lay down with men to be single mothers" says the jezebels who are strong and independent, chose a dude with 5 baby mommas, even when they seen it happen to their momma, sister, cousins...they wont go against the child support system, politicians

    • @Primetimeford
      @Primetimeford 7 месяцев назад +8

      Bingo 🎯🎯🎯

    • @Boom38119
      @Boom38119 7 месяцев назад +13

      And that's why I'm convinced we've been in hell..Aint no waiting till you die.... Everything is backwards in our society.

    • @Armyvet55
      @Armyvet55 7 месяцев назад +2

      😂😂😂😂😂😂exactly 😆

    • @jidowu6019
      @jidowu6019 7 месяцев назад

      I think what she is saying is why are ppl so concerned with the affairs of someone else?

  • @carlosmark9840
    @carlosmark9840 7 месяцев назад +46

    The disdain comes from women in our community choose to become baby momma’s to pookie’s then look for a clean up man. Give pookie their best years best body best attitude and want us to settle for the crumbs

  • @Zulu-Lemon
    @Zulu-Lemon 7 месяцев назад +290

    If it’s a man’s job to take care of his kids, it’s a woman’s job to pick one that will.

    • @jasonBGI
      @jasonBGI 7 месяцев назад +21

      Bars 💯

    • @jidowu6019
      @jidowu6019 7 месяцев назад

      It’s a man’s job to be a man

    • @SlickZero1028
      @SlickZero1028 7 месяцев назад +9

      🎯

    • @NeicyJ1990
      @NeicyJ1990 7 месяцев назад +8

      You summed this up VERY well

    • @Treetop-ji1yz
      @Treetop-ji1yz 7 месяцев назад +5

      BINGO!!!!

  • @JermaineSmalls-se4nu
    @JermaineSmalls-se4nu 7 месяцев назад +107

    Nope, I'm not doing it! Just like they don't want to deal with a man that not over 6 feet, 6 figure income and with a 6 pack! I'm good over here. Drizzle Drizzle!

  • @M.J.TheGr8
    @M.J.TheGr8 7 месяцев назад +29

    These are the same women that won’t open their wallet (50/50) but have no problem opening their legs. Can we make it make sense?

  • @Larry-qz3es
    @Larry-qz3es 7 месяцев назад +64

    She has not given any consideration that those who are fatherless prefer to create their own legacy with a woman who is childless. She also mentioned that the child's father is still in his life...that is all we need to know.

  • @T.Harry79
    @T.Harry79 7 месяцев назад +51

    I believe it’s disrespectful by default to bring an already made family to a childless person.

  • @sbolden123
    @sbolden123 7 месяцев назад +295

    We are not upset about single moms. It's just all of the extra stuff that comes with it. .....usually 🤷‍♂️😒

    • @floydheavyweather3811
      @floydheavyweather3811 7 месяцев назад +50

      Paying child support for a kid that aint yours is #1

    • @Koyasi78
      @Koyasi78 7 месяцев назад +45

      I'm upset with them. They are flooding the nation with trash

    • @sbolden123
      @sbolden123 7 месяцев назад +7

      @@floydheavyweather3811 hell yeah

    • @anthonywilliams9415
      @anthonywilliams9415 7 месяцев назад +2

      📠

    • @Armyvet55
      @Armyvet55 7 месяцев назад +5

      😂😂😂😂😂😂most definitely

  • @thekorsh4230
    @thekorsh4230 7 месяцев назад +196

    It's sad, these black women knows everything but can't keep a man

    • @ZetaZintendo
      @ZetaZintendo 7 месяцев назад +13

      😂😂💯💯

    • @Armyvet55
      @Armyvet55 7 месяцев назад +13

      😂😂😂😂😂😂exactly!!!👏💯

    • @up-uw4op
      @up-uw4op 7 месяцев назад +9

      what men? where?

    • @Payday-ky7mb
      @Payday-ky7mb 7 месяцев назад +8

      When I her them complaining I already ghost.

    • @larrybolton9982
      @larrybolton9982 7 месяцев назад +5

      Perfectly said 👏

  • @visiow2691
    @visiow2691 7 месяцев назад +29

    Every man has a right to want what he wants. No woman has the right to shame them for it

  • @davidamen7747
    @davidamen7747 7 месяцев назад +79

    🎵🎶 You let him hit it raw, now you are a Single Mom 🩰😅

    • @FlyiDCG
      @FlyiDCG 7 месяцев назад +17

      That song is terrorizing them!

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 7 месяцев назад +8

      He made a video I heard

    • @GoatHolyfield
      @GoatHolyfield 7 месяцев назад +1

      🎶you said I'm going to have his kid don't care if he here or not now you're a single mom 🎶

    • @Tobit-n9s
      @Tobit-n9s 7 месяцев назад

      He chose to stick his raw log in her..she didn't get pregnant by her damn self fool!!!!!!

    • @RonnieMyers777
      @RonnieMyers777 7 месяцев назад +1

      🎵 she didnt have 2nd thoughts 🎵

  • @stoneyislandranch9783
    @stoneyislandranch9783 7 месяцев назад +20

    This is a perfect example of "if you let them talk long enough"..

  • @drama_killer
    @drama_killer 7 месяцев назад +37

    Dedicate my life?? No ma’am I want you nowhere near my life .

  • @whatyousaywhatihear9858
    @whatyousaywhatihear9858 7 месяцев назад +200

    No one is hating in single mothers. Many men are avoiding single mothers. Please go get with your child's father and work things out.
    This mindset I can replace the father with the next man is wild. A single mother gets back the streets, and other men are not hollering at her. She wants to blame men who want nothing to do with her. She wants to blame men who are telling her the truth.
    Learn your lesson.

    • @AhlSunnah111
      @AhlSunnah111 7 месяцев назад +13

      🎯

    • @Armyvet55
      @Armyvet55 7 месяцев назад +11

      😂😂😂😂😂facts

    • @blackworldtraveler3711
      @blackworldtraveler3711 7 месяцев назад +29

      She sits in that car talking like it’s our problem when its none of our business.

    • @up-uw4op
      @up-uw4op 7 месяцев назад +5

      so people should stay with abusers and cheaters. maybe you're ok with that but not everyone is. if i stayed with their dad me and my kids would be dead right now

    • @evos469
      @evos469 7 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@up-uw4opnot our fault you was stupid to get pregnant by them thinking a baby would stop them from kicking your ass. When a person woman or man puts hands on you. You don't stay you get out of there and press charges.

  • @willmallory9085
    @willmallory9085 7 месяцев назад +68

    Another reason men avoid single mothers: Parentage by Estoppel (step-daddy/father figure child support)

    • @johncoleman3576
      @johncoleman3576 7 месяцев назад +5

      🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

    • @eq2092
      @eq2092 7 месяцев назад +4

      Awesome comment 👍🏾

  • @TheBlackTarot95
    @TheBlackTarot95 7 месяцев назад +41

    Yawl made these bad decisions Yawl choose these guys to have babies with. 9 to 5 guys will not leave you a single mom

    • @Blackrage843
      @Blackrage843 7 месяцев назад +1

      Agreed bruh

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 7 месяцев назад

      Agreed most 9-5 men have structure and stable they hate those men think about that what are the good men to do when the women don’t like the good men

  • @TCR2025
    @TCR2025 7 месяцев назад +110

    Have you seen the dude who was raising her daughter, only for the real dad to come back and the gf basically kicked the stepbf out? Yeaaaaa this is why.

    • @daishawilliams8301
      @daishawilliams8301 7 месяцев назад +11

      That's crazy😂

    • @daishawilliams8301
      @daishawilliams8301 7 месяцев назад +10

      That's crazy😂

    • @Armyvet55
      @Armyvet55 7 месяцев назад +12

      Exactly!!

    •  7 месяцев назад +12

      The daddy always show up after 20 years or whatever when the new guy show up ready to fight over ppl they didnt care about before.

    • @GoatHolyfield
      @GoatHolyfield 7 месяцев назад +5

      Boy that just crazy stay away from single moms

  • @brucewashington5883
    @brucewashington5883 7 месяцев назад +32

    All I hear is no accountability taken!

  • @coupleofreacts8246
    @coupleofreacts8246 7 месяцев назад +163

    If you’ve got kids, go get a single mother. If you don’t have kids, leave those single mothers alone fellas. That simple, really

    • @j.f.7439
      @j.f.7439 7 месяцев назад +10

      Right!

    • @T.Harry79
      @T.Harry79 7 месяцев назад +43

      “If you’ve got kids, go get a single mother”. Nope. I will not participate in the Brady Bunch theory. It’s sounds good though.
      As an active single father, I refuse to coexist with single mothers.
      I raised my child to be highly disciplined and to set good examples so she can move effectively.
      I don’t want my teen daughter around any of these bad ass/undisciplined mother/kids. I don’t have the patience for that. And honestly, we’re too good for that. I don’t hate single mothers, but I understand how they move.

    • @freddy8479
      @freddy8479 7 месяцев назад +5

      INDEED AND AGREED 💯

    • @Wgz945
      @Wgz945 7 месяцев назад +2

      Yupp no question

    • @astro_houston3452
      @astro_houston3452 7 месяцев назад

      Nope

  • @Cleavonmrballer
    @Cleavonmrballer 7 месяцев назад +32

    As a man with no kids I can't date a single mom at all also you ladies loves to leave the relationship and become a single mom , yes some of you guys do pick the wrong guys !

    • @odestryjam2231
      @odestryjam2231 7 месяцев назад +1

      It's incentitized for them. Child support & also they see as a way of power to control a man.

    • @FierceLeo.
      @FierceLeo. 6 месяцев назад +1

      Bravo 👏. I refuse to be step daddy of another man’s jobs . I am Single with no kids and I am at peace until right woman come along. I can’t be another statistic putting my seed in the a woman and then divorce ??

  • @tandemtransport7702
    @tandemtransport7702 7 месяцев назад +50

    Having Children with Boyfriend's instead of Husbands is your biggest Defeat. Boyfriend's come and Go and Husbands at least agree to have a family.
    Lady pls.

  • @Jobs92742
    @Jobs92742 7 месяцев назад +41

    1:25 this is the main reason why dudes don’t want to get involved. Not trying to deal with the real dad getting in the middle of your relationship. No matter what, she will always carry a special place for the kids real father.

    • @coldtruth17
      @coldtruth17 7 месяцев назад +9

      Nah the main reason is it ain't my kid. I didn't get as far as I did to raise someone else's legacy. I don't subscribe to polygamy.

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 7 месяцев назад +15

      She said we co parent GREAT co parent with his daddy and raise yall son leave men alone nobody wants to co parent with her and her baby daddy she need to get out of here with that

  •  7 месяцев назад +17

    Ask her why single mom dont appreciate the guys who do step up and try to have something with them but only get disrespect from her ,her kids and the baby daddies ?

    • @T.Harry79
      @T.Harry79 7 месяцев назад

      The common denominator of the problem is the single mothers and their lack of discernment and foresight.

    • @slinkiegirl2001
      @slinkiegirl2001 7 месяцев назад +2

      Absolutely

    • @GoatHolyfield
      @GoatHolyfield 7 месяцев назад +1

      Ask her why she got knocked up by a loser

    • @philipbell5448
      @philipbell5448 7 месяцев назад +2

      Facts!

  • @stonefacedninja
    @stonefacedninja 7 месяцев назад +26

    Don't look at it as hating. It's really brothers trying to warn other brothers not to mess with them under any circumstances.

  • @RetiredDealerBayArea
    @RetiredDealerBayArea 7 месяцев назад +12

    Baby Daddy still hitting that 💯

  • @coolbreeze2.0-mortemadfasc13
    @coolbreeze2.0-mortemadfasc13 7 месяцев назад +48

    The man is not a deadbeat if he has multiple other kids with different women and you were never even a relationship with the dude. Knew the dude for 4 months and having a baby with him.

    • @Theeorie4393
      @Theeorie4393 7 месяцев назад +4

      Yeah, that's the classic definition of a deadbeat

    • @Blackrage843
      @Blackrage843 7 месяцев назад +1

      ​@Theeorie4393 no Because they knew he wasn't no good to begin with and still lay down with him

    • @up-uw4op
      @up-uw4op 7 месяцев назад

      uh yea he absolutely is

    • @Blackrage843
      @Blackrage843 7 месяцев назад +15

      But these women slept with him knowing that he is no good from the jump. What does that make them

    • @Theeorie4393
      @Theeorie4393 7 месяцев назад

      @Blackrage843 The only issue was whether or not men in this category are deadbeats, which they are

  • @Netherwolf6100
    @Netherwolf6100 7 месяцев назад +32

    I wouldn't say its "Hatred" but more course correction. Since I've been alive, for the past 30 years bare min, being a Single Mother was the highest praise any woman, especially a black woman, could somehow achieve. It was treated as this grandiose honor and privilege to bring a child into this world without considering who the father would be, then remove that man from the picture, for any reason, in order to struggle to raise a child on your own, while relying on Spousal Support, Child Support, Government Assistance, *ALL TO THE DETERMENT* of the child who didn't choose such an environment to be born into.
    The world is growing tired of it and believe it or not, the men and women who are against Single-Motherhood, were children raised by Single-Mothers and saw the stress and pain and suffering such a lifestyle inflicted on everyone around them, including themselves. They're tired of praising people who don't consider the consequences of sleeping around with someone and accepting the seed of a man who doesn't prove his ability, worth and swear his loyalty to said woman who then wants to complain about the man "Not Stepping Up".
    She said it herself, there are people who put on a front in this world to get what they want from others. If you know there are humans willing to lie about who they are to take advantage of others, and these same people won't change who they are because they feel no guilt for their actions, shouldn't you take the responsibility to vet the person as best as you can, before you risk your body to bring their seed into this world, then blame them because you had their baby after knowing them less than 1 year? People are tired of women (Not all) who want to blame men they chose to lay down with, simply because they were horny and didn't take any measures to consider the consequences of their actions and choices. Moreover, they're sick and tired of hearing these same women, who created negative situations for innocent child, *BEING PRAISED* for doing so. Its enough.

    • @FlyiDCG
      @FlyiDCG 7 месяцев назад

      Good take

    • @Covers-and-Commentary
      @Covers-and-Commentary 7 месяцев назад +1

      Why don’t yall course correct THE MEN?????? yall literally create broken homes

    • @Netherwolf6100
      @Netherwolf6100 7 месяцев назад +14

      @Covers-and-Commentary because no one praises deadbeat fathers. Show me a single talkshow from the 90's - 00's where a man was praised for being a deadbeat. How about a song from a famous artist who talks about their love for absentee fathers. Show me somewhere in media where men and women alike, cheer on in mass for these types of guys and stay it's the hardest thing in the world to do to abandon a family.
      If you can't, that's because it doesn't happen. Women are praised for creating broken homes and many for choosing the very men who leave. Men who break homes are punished, insulted and looked down upon. The only people who give positive feedback to babydaddies are the same women willing to sleep with said babydaddies, especially after learning he's not in his child/children's lives.

    • @dman221
      @dman221 7 месяцев назад

      @@Covers-and-Commentary: Black women like you will never get it. And that is why a Single Black Childless man would be a complete fool to even think about dealing with you. The fact you are concerned about a black man correcting a MAN that YOU chose to have a child with is completely INSANE. Your mentality is why you are single and why you will never get a man higher than the one you chose to have a child with.

    • @T.Harry79
      @T.Harry79 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@Covers-and-CommentaryIt’s called child support. Focus on the topic at hand. The single mothers.

  • @jmeeks9613
    @jmeeks9613 7 месяцев назад +29

    There are no benefits being with a single mom name one....I'll wait

    • @crystal.holmes
      @crystal.holmes 7 месяцев назад

      Quality person

    • @theblacklexluthor11
      @theblacklexluthor11 7 месяцев назад +5

      Quality person? Wrong answer! Otherwise the stigma wouldn't be there.

    • @proimagerah
      @proimagerah 7 месяцев назад

      @@crystal.holmesWe can find that overseas with no children.. checkmate ♟️

    • @GoatHolyfield
      @GoatHolyfield 7 месяцев назад +6

      Zero which is why they have to shame you good Products sell themselves

    • @jazzjackson9875
      @jazzjackson9875 7 месяцев назад +4

      @@crystal.holmes 🤣🤣

  • @visiow2691
    @visiow2691 7 месяцев назад +36

    I’m in my soft guy era! So single mothers need to pay a man to be with them it’s 2024. Drizzle drizzle

    • @reggiewest8975
      @reggiewest8975 7 месяцев назад

      Its Coming!! A reversal of child support would most definitely let them know that the tables will turn 😮

  • @ECO473
    @ECO473 7 месяцев назад +18

    Avoiding snakes is not the same as hating snakes.

    • @RJ12347
      @RJ12347 7 месяцев назад +3

      Enough sugarcoating we hate them... Since they want to play the guilt tripping game

  • @floydheavyweather3811
    @floydheavyweather3811 7 месяцев назад +56

    They still fucking 😂😂

  • @ECO473
    @ECO473 7 месяцев назад +16

    Keeping a safe distance from single mothers is not hate. Not going into a known train wreck is just common sense.

    • @Bootyeater999
      @Bootyeater999 7 месяцев назад

      What if you can repair the mess left after the train wreck lol? 😂

    • @ECO473
      @ECO473 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@Bootyeater999 Why should I???

  • @deshaungainer4489
    @deshaungainer4489 7 месяцев назад +12

    What if i don't have kids, why should I take of another man responsibility 🤔

    • @GlenroseMakgorogo
      @GlenroseMakgorogo 7 месяцев назад +1

      Even if you do have kids. You don't have business with another man's DNA

  • @tpolerex7282
    @tpolerex7282 7 месяцев назад +9

    Instead of getting on this app daily and wasting your time pining for validation (after preening for two hours applying your mask and wig for your selfie) why don’t you spend more time parenting, building up your career, taking accountability and getting your life together?

  • @MrBmic
    @MrBmic 7 месяцев назад +13

    So she equates a man having standards with hatred?

    • @BigRoqq
      @BigRoqq 7 месяцев назад +2

      No accountability taken. Thats what they do to move the goal post

    • @gordonallen9095
      @gordonallen9095 7 месяцев назад

      Poor attempt at "gaslighting."

    • @nickrod9526
      @nickrod9526 5 месяцев назад +1

      @Mr, right! Make it make sense! No accountability whatsoever.

  • @jondoe4307
    @jondoe4307 7 месяцев назад +35

    No, no, and no! They are YOUR LEGS! and it was your choice to allow who you allowed to be there. So YOU deal with the consequences of your actions bottom line.

  • @skygrace3008
    @skygrace3008 7 месяцев назад +43

    A baby don’t keep a man, It makes them run 🏃‍♂️ from you.

    • @SoloDeus_Rey
      @SoloDeus_Rey 7 месяцев назад +1

      Say it louder for the Slow ones in the back of the church, my boi😂😂😂

    • @up-uw4op
      @up-uw4op 7 месяцев назад +4

      then he wasnt a real man

    • @SoloDeus_Rey
      @SoloDeus_Rey 7 месяцев назад +6

      @@up-uw4op a pookie won’t run… you deserve a “Fresh” who will tap then ghost you😳✊🏾

    • @proimagerah
      @proimagerah 7 месяцев назад

      @@up-uw4opand you determine that how? In what world, even the animal kingdom, is a man “manly” enough when he plays janitor for you idiots..

    • @tyronelorenzovalentio3414
      @tyronelorenzovalentio3414 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@up-uw4opu don’t know a real one to begin with

  • @JaiOva
    @JaiOva 7 месяцев назад +13

    Through the rant you'll hear why we don't choose single mothers

  • @PPBsince2003
    @PPBsince2003 7 месяцев назад +18

    😂😂😂 so because us men have a preference of NOT dealing with single mothers its now considered hating 🤔🤔🤔. Nah yall buggin. Why should I have to settle and lower my standards for a single mother.

    • @marvl6472
      @marvl6472 7 месяцев назад +2

      They the same women who even told BM "BM need to have standards" but that only applies when it comes to dating out I guess

    • @PPBsince2003
      @PPBsince2003 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@marvl6472 right 🤣🤣

    • @jaymac8496
      @jaymac8496 7 месяцев назад +2

      Drizzle Drizzle😂😂😂

    • @PPBsince2003
      @PPBsince2003 7 месяцев назад +2

      @@jaymac8496 FAAAAAAAAACTS 🤣🤣

    • @Angel05433
      @Angel05433 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@marvl6472 and there are alot of black men with standards when it comes to dating out these days phil has stated in one of his videos that brothas are raising there standards

  • @Silversiren-d1b
    @Silversiren-d1b 7 месяцев назад +26

    As a black woman without children, I observe a recurring pattern where many black men and women form relationships only to realize they aren't truly compatible. Consequently, it's crucial to prioritize building strong marriages rather than bringing children into uncertain or tumultuous circumstances.

    • @HeruUrAusar
      @HeruUrAusar 7 месяцев назад

      No, that is bs. They deserve judgement too. This idea that they should be uplifted and praised for being a single-mother is what is causing all of the havoc in the Black community.. Heck, the majority of the children are being created by single-mothers and high-recidivism and/or drug using men. In fact, the majority of Black men are in the middle class and childless. These women are choosing unfit men to mate with, and then want everyone to praise them for it.

    • @Koyasi78
      @Koyasi78 7 месяцев назад

      It's long been time for shame. Understanding is what allowed this problem to balloon into self genocide. When you do they math what you have is hyper sexual, bad planning, horrible parenting, nation destroying behavior.

  • @Dshak347
    @Dshak347 7 месяцев назад +14

    Men make fun of the things they see in their real life. Especially when they see a lack of accountability.. Also we all see the detriment it has on the community. You cant be out here and become a single mother because you are reckless with your sex life and then want to still be treated good after you get the consequence's of your actions. Its seriously delusional and we all pay for it as taxpayers. Lets face facts..

  • @mrquackers8986
    @mrquackers8986 7 месяцев назад +11

    they ignored good men when they were aged 15-35, had kids with non good men, now they trying to circle back and give the good man a chance now that they see the good man is done with the building phase, expecting him to be the clean up man and step up, naw we good, and thats where the term "you should have chosen better" came from

  • @js43168
    @js43168 7 месяцев назад +18

    We choosing better. Drizzle

  • @orangegreen7
    @orangegreen7 7 месяцев назад +3

    A lot of guys saw how their mother behaved as a single mom and they do not want this for themselves or for the next guy.

  • @boogitybear2283
    @boogitybear2283 6 месяцев назад +3

    Having children out of wedlock on purpose is unacceptable plain and simple.

  • @bossplayermfs5972
    @bossplayermfs5972 7 месяцев назад +8

    Brothers don't hate y'all they just telling y'all that you can't get on the internet talking about all of these standards that you've created for a responsible BM but y'all didn't have anything for you're dna donor to uphold. No man is going to hide irresponsibility, that's going to be displayed front and center but y'all thought that you're box was going to make the males that you chose to procreate with into responsible men/fathers and it failed like it always does you can't get mad at these brothers for telling the truth.

  • @Bsharpnoflats
    @Bsharpnoflats 4 месяца назад +3

    If a man has no kids, he should search for a woman without kids as well

  • @tarshagreene4661
    @tarshagreene4661 6 месяцев назад +3

    I am a single mother of a 14year old Son my husband, who is my son father as well passed away 13 years ago.

  • @shagans6701
    @shagans6701 7 месяцев назад +52

    They're arrogant and unrepentant

    • @Covers-and-Commentary
      @Covers-and-Commentary 7 месяцев назад +1

      But the men who left aren’t???

    • @shagans6701
      @shagans6701 7 месяцев назад +6

      @@Covers-and-Commentaryyou tell me, I only spoke on what I experienced and witnessed, I started out with the mindset it was men causing all the problems so I complied, I now know where the problem lays beyond any shadow of doubt , enjoy hell fire 👋👋👋

    • @jlcarter04
      @jlcarter04 7 месяцев назад +4

      ​@Covers-and-Commentary nope. Yall chose em. 🤷🏾‍♂️

    • @jlcarter04
      @jlcarter04 7 месяцев назад +6

      Exactly!! The arrogance of these women is really abominable.

    • @jwdoublej
      @jwdoublej 7 месяцев назад

      @@Covers-and-Commentary Left what? Their has to be an established family in order for a man to leave. Women screw around and one of their sex partners get them pregnant, then you lie about being left. Nobody is leaving you ladies. You are loose with your bodies and you have bad outcomes. Our community lives in dysfunction.

  • @dariush.4241
    @dariush.4241 7 месяцев назад +21

    Because it's a bad trend in the community.

  • @ZetaZintendo
    @ZetaZintendo 7 месяцев назад +11

    Nobody tryna play another man's saved game and if that ain't enough the laws will trap us to take care of a child that ain't ours. Why deal with a losing hand when you can win by not playing the game.

  • @Lostintranslationpodcast
    @Lostintranslationpodcast 7 месяцев назад +5

    I see why it didn't work out between her and her baby daddy. They could't figure out they weren't a match before they made a child. Men are tired of picking up the tab on someone else's mistakes! Tuff! ma'am get over it!!!

    • @menocrats
      @menocrats 7 месяцев назад

      Naw yall incels need to get over your trauma. Cowardly Azz dudes aiming for women. Yall dudes is weirdos

  • @sir1junior
    @sir1junior 7 месяцев назад +8

    Why you sleep with a deadbeat? "Now your a single Mom, Now your a Single Mom"🎶

  • @215RANDOM
    @215RANDOM 7 месяцев назад +8

    Leave Pookie and Ray Ray alone from jump..

  • @Truthmasters96
    @Truthmasters96 7 месяцев назад +13

    Has nothing to do with hate. Once you have a kid. You're in the bad option category. Deal with it. I'm sure some simp like Russell Wilson will come take care of it.

    • @GlenroseMakgorogo
      @GlenroseMakgorogo 7 месяцев назад +1

      😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣Tru

    • @Thegoddessgenesis
      @Thegoddessgenesis 6 месяцев назад

      Understood.

    • @FierceLeo.
      @FierceLeo. 6 месяцев назад

      Russell Wilson is rich, he can afford the problems whether he’s a simp or not. The average ninja is aw working class man . I single with no kids and at peace .

  • @Seldomseen77
    @Seldomseen77 7 месяцев назад +5

    I'm a man with no children and I choose not to be with a single mother unless the father of the child is deceased! I can do good all by myself.

  • @blast4me754
    @blast4me754 7 месяцев назад +25

    The saddest part about this whole video is we single guys with no kids are pulling out the toys on this beautiful Saturday about to hit the car wish. We arrogant, selfish, spoiled and care nothing about this.

  • @ChildrenoftheAncient
    @ChildrenoftheAncient 7 месяцев назад +3

    She said everything but the fact that you let a man that’s NOT YOUR HUSBAND, shoot up the club… the delusion

  • @AmphibiousCarbine816
    @AmphibiousCarbine816 7 месяцев назад +23

    If you are co- parenting...Dating should be the last thing on your mind.
    You opened your legs to the wrong dude.
    YOUR FAULT.

    • @mzskipwith
      @mzskipwith 7 месяцев назад +2

      Huh? What does that have to do with dating

    • @HeruUrAusar
      @HeruUrAusar 7 месяцев назад +8

      @@mzskipwith If you are dating again without taking a bit of time to figure out where you went wrong before, because having a baby alone is things going wrong, then you are just setting yourself up to repeat the same actions and same outcomes. That is the crux of the problem among our people. Too many of us do not even stop to consider what we have done wrong that led us to the poor outcome. Too many of us continue to do the same thing, get the same outcomes, and complain about why things are not changing for the better.
      So, before you get out there to date again, opening your legs to another man, maybe, just maybe you take the time to make sure he is actually a good man. Maybe just maybe, you make sure you don't give any children to men who are unfit to be fathers. It is not hard to have just a bit of discernment. The guy does drugs, avoid him. The guy is in and out of prison, avoid him. The guy has to come live with you, instead of having his own place, avoid him. Etc...

    • @mzskipwith
      @mzskipwith 7 месяцев назад +3

      Yes i agree, a person should take time to evaluate themselves before getting into another relationship but this guy said if you co parent you shouldn't be dating. Im trying to understand why a person whose co parenting cant date​@HeruUrAusar

  • @seatofhonourchurch
    @seatofhonourchurch 7 месяцев назад +14

    She should focus on enjoying co-parenting with her babies' daddies and pay deaf ears to whatever any other person is saying. After all, it's the choice she made and no body made it for her. She should also know that men, including her babies daddies have their own right also to make better choice to build lives with fresh beautiful women and not single mamas.

    • @GETBIG4WARD
      @GETBIG4WARD 7 месяцев назад +3

      I said same thing focus on your co parenting no man wants to be involved with co parenting with her baby daddy and her she in the damn way her and her co parenting 😅

    • @justthinking4421
      @justthinking4421 7 месяцев назад +2

      Partially agree... except "CO PARENTING"??? 🤣🤣🤣 There's no such thing (rarely happens). Typically, the person w custody does most of the work & controls the kid's schedule. When r we gonna stop lying?!? 🤥
      Everytime celebrities & their therapist come up w new terms, we jump on the bandwagon!

  • @iceman_2360
    @iceman_2360 7 месяцев назад +6

    If seeing comments from a number of men saying how they don't want to date or prefer women with children is hate. Then is it hate when women say they don't want to date short, broke, average, men?

    • @jazzjackson9875
      @jazzjackson9875 7 месяцев назад +3

      All of it is preference… difference is men don’t go around crying about it, we just adapt and move on

  • @RudolphManor
    @RudolphManor 7 месяцев назад +4

    She just only said that bullshit so she can feel comfortable with her bad decisions! A damn ego boost! This is another form of playing victim and avoiding accountability. 💯

  • @coreysanders6197
    @coreysanders6197 7 месяцев назад +13

    🤣🤣🤣these moms ain't single...trust me

  • @Lou_Da_4th
    @Lou_Da_4th 7 месяцев назад +10

    The ladies dont get it. Its about scaring the youth into not making the same mistakes.

  • @Free_J_ghasta
    @Free_J_ghasta 7 месяцев назад +9

    Trojan must be going out of business

  • @TallT43
    @TallT43 7 месяцев назад +3

    I regret getting involved with a single mother because her son is a handful and doesn’t like me. Plus she herself is hard to please and I have did a lot for her

  • @NickM_FirstofHisName
    @NickM_FirstofHisName 7 месяцев назад +3

    Weren't they fine when BLK men's reputation was slandered? Now that they're held accountable, it's hate?

  • @bradleycampbell245
    @bradleycampbell245 7 месяцев назад +7

    So men with no kids did having a preference became hate now? It’s no different from women not wanting a broke man or man that’s short.

  • @D.Star01
    @D.Star01 7 месяцев назад +5

    Single moms will never respect you as a man They'll see you as a opportunity to clean up their mistakes.

  • @mateaukalua4426
    @mateaukalua4426 7 месяцев назад +18

    There is a shortage of childless women. I have a good relationship with my mom and dad etc. No shade to single moms they do what they have to do definitely not my type though.

    • @up-uw4op
      @up-uw4op 7 месяцев назад +1

      the birth rate is going down so its not hard to find someone childless

    • @mateaukalua4426
      @mateaukalua4426 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@up-uw4op Yes but how many women have 1 child? And never have another child? That's why the birth rate fell so much.

    • @alphapimp0073
      @alphapimp0073 7 месяцев назад +3

      @@mateaukalua4426Having a kid with a single mom is not a good thing at all.

    • @mateaukalua4426
      @mateaukalua4426 7 месяцев назад

      @@alphapimp0073 I have had endless single mom coworkers. One who would let me hit right now. I never did or will though bro. I am not an idiot.

  • @theunit4366
    @theunit4366 7 месяцев назад +2

    She said he manipulated her yet she is wearing makeup which is a manipulation. I can already tell she has zero accountability.

  • @automatic_systematic
    @automatic_systematic 7 месяцев назад +3

    I was a single father for twenty years so it's not beneath me to date single mothers. However I still exercise my right to walk away from the relationship baggage, trust issues and financial hardships they usually come with

  • @Cleavonmrballer
    @Cleavonmrballer 7 месяцев назад +23

    As a 41 year old single male with no kids , I love black woman but I ain't going date a single mom at all I don't see the reason to . I don't understand why black woman just don't tell other black woman pick better !

    • @freddy8479
      @freddy8479 7 месяцев назад +1

      INDEED AND AGREED 💯

  • @ayyyjirachi6530
    @ayyyjirachi6530 7 месяцев назад +7

    Most people don't hate single mothers, they hate the rhetoric espoused by those women. And more importantly the idea that you don't know a man is bs, you know what would help in that regard? Not having children out of wedlock, they lack accountability on this topic, and I'm gonna call it out everytime

  • @Nsynced
    @Nsynced 7 месяцев назад +9

    Some women actually choose to be a single mom, NOT ALL but I even know a woman personally who choose that option.

    • @marvl6472
      @marvl6472 7 месяцев назад +1

      Government, laying down with the same man who got 5 baby mommas and dont even see his kids...some love the repeated cycle

    • @GoatHolyfield
      @GoatHolyfield 7 месяцев назад

      Single motherhood has and always will be a choice

  • @sbolden123
    @sbolden123 7 месяцев назад +8

    Childhood trauma is oftentimes not treated properly 😢

  • @brothacurbstomp
    @brothacurbstomp 7 месяцев назад +2

    It's one thing if they have one child, but if they have multiple different fathers, it's a super red flag.

  • @antwanowens4013
    @antwanowens4013 7 месяцев назад +3

    Never in my adult life have I remotely considered being a stepdad how about women making better decisions without blaming childless men it’s all cost responsibility and liabilities there is no upside to any of that

  • @RJames-uy2mt
    @RJames-uy2mt 7 месяцев назад +2

    A man that’s not currently raising a kid is not trying to come deal with your baby daddy situation.

  • @willmallory9085
    @willmallory9085 7 месяцев назад +9

    Many assume because what she named is the VAST MAJORITY!

  • @MrBucketlist
    @MrBucketlist 7 месяцев назад +3

    "Dedicate their lives to hating on them" *correction. Most well to do men don't want anything to do with them.

  • @AmphibiousCarbine816
    @AmphibiousCarbine816 7 месяцев назад +91

    Nothing says failure like single motherhood.
    You do a disservice to yourself and especially your children.
    Classic dysfunction.

    • @AhlSunnah111
      @AhlSunnah111 7 месяцев назад +3

      A whole word!!! ✅🎯✅🎯

    • @GREGG.T
      @GREGG.T 7 месяцев назад +3

      CLASSIC DYSFUNCTION and FAILURE

    • @up-uw4op
      @up-uw4op 7 месяцев назад +4

      so do the dads

    • @GREGG.T
      @GREGG.T 7 месяцев назад

      @@up-uw4op STOP. Just stop. Women control which men have access to sex and which men propagate their seed.

    • @T.Harry79
      @T.Harry79 7 месяцев назад +13

      @@up-uw4opThe topic is about single mothers. Stay focused.

  • @NickM_FirstofHisName
    @NickM_FirstofHisName 7 месяцев назад +3

    0:50 Holding BW accountable isn't hate!

  • @3ShadesBlack5
    @3ShadesBlack5 7 месяцев назад +3

    Dating a single mom is like finding a piece of gum on the sidewalk and chewing it.

    • @ashantiscoot
      @ashantiscoot 4 месяца назад

      Same for a single dad

    • @3ShadesBlack5
      @3ShadesBlack5 4 месяца назад +2

      @@ashantiscoot Go tell your baby daddies that, because IDGAF.

    • @eikichionizuka2206
      @eikichionizuka2206 3 месяца назад +1

      @@ashantiscootnope

  • @cerromeceo
    @cerromeceo 7 месяцев назад +18

    It takes two to tangle. I doubt every woman getting with a dude who changed up after yall had a baby. Plus, I seen a lot of women baby father and I'm not impressed 😕

    • @T.Harry79
      @T.Harry79 7 месяцев назад +6

      I agree. That’s their go-to excuse. And the kicker is that they’re telling the entire world they suck at goalkeeping their uterus.

    • @GoatHolyfield
      @GoatHolyfield 7 месяцев назад +2

      "He changed after i got Pregnant" no he didn't he was the exact same man when you met him you just realized you couldn't changed him

  • @MrAli07783
    @MrAli07783 7 месяцев назад +5

    We are bringing shame back