We don’t “HATE” single mothers. But we do hate the narrative that only “REAL MEN” take care of another man’s child(ren) and when we refuse to do so we’re Shamed and talked down upon
I don't hate single moms. I hate that all these women tried to play like they were the prize despite being a single mom. As a man with no kids, I don't owe any woman anything. I don't want to play stepdad, that's my choice. My wallet, my choice.
I am a woman(22 years) and I am against single motherhood. I was raised by one and she completely destroyed my childhood. She resented me so bad and it was not until as I got older that I realized that she hates me because she hates my dad. I was not allowed to see my dad but he still wrote letters to me and tried his absolute best but my mom would just tell me that he abandoned me to be with another woman. I don't wish that on my children one day,to have a hateful single mom who is a misandrist. If you are a child free woman who plans on having children,please heal and get off social media before you let other women tell you how your life should be. Family dysfunctions are not supposed to be celebrated
@Payday-ky7mb True. Most of them can't even give love to their children,they think they are victims and everyone is out to get them. Single motherhood is a consequence of one's actions.
Indeed. A single mother using the word “hate” when it’s obviously not is another reason to avoid them. Just a preview of the drama that come with single mothers once you’re trapped.
As a man with no children, I'mma say something that will definitely ruffle some feathers, male and female. Single parents should only date other single parents.
@@SteveG-k8qExactly. They will make the same mistakes multiple times. For starters, it’s up to women to goalkeep their uterus. And the vast majority are horrible at that.
We, as black men, don’t “hate” single mothers, we have decided that we don’t want to take on the responsibility of raising Pookie and Ray Ray’s kids; which is most likely the case. Also, we don’t want to deal with the baby-daddy drama that comes along with it, especially if a female has multiple kids by multiple dudes. The majority of men don’t want a ready-made family anyway. There are a lot of issues that we would have to deal with, being in a relationship with a single mother. If a black man chooses to enter into a relationship with a black single mother, fine. But you’re not going to shame the rest of us into doing so by saying, “It takes a real man to raise another man’s seed.” 🙄 At the end of the day, we have choices. And let me add this, call it petty, but I don’t wanna have to constantly see the guy who was with my woman before me, just because y’all have a child together. I’m not feelin’ that!
Single moms are just angry because they exited themselves from the dating market and destroyed their value. They know they made a mistake and blame men for not wanting to clean up or make the same mistakes they made
"Stop acting like women lay down with men to be single mothers" says the jezebels who are strong and independent, chose a dude with 5 baby mommas, even when they seen it happen to their momma, sister, cousins...they wont go against the child support system, politicians
She has not given any consideration that those who are fatherless prefer to create their own legacy with a woman who is childless. She also mentioned that the child's father is still in his life...that is all we need to know.
I have nothing against single mothers. My issue is with women who are careless with their womb, have multiple kids out of wedlock, have multiple BDs and have higher standards for the potential step dad than they have for the father of the kids
Why is she making about men that are not the fathers? Men are not obligated to take a single mother's children. If anything the single mother should talk about the biological fathers who are deadbeats.
It would make perfect sense for single mothers to make amends with their child’s father instead of wasting all of that energy whining online. Why is that not an option?? Childless men don’t owe y’all a damn thing.
Single mothers don't want to hold there dead beat babby daddy because these single mothers don't want to take accountability so much for being a feminist these parasites single mothers are just looking for a host to latch onto
The disdain comes from women in our community choose to become baby momma’s to pookie’s then look for a clean up man. Give pookie their best years best body best attitude and want us to settle for the crumbs
Nope, I'm not doing it! Just like they don't want to deal with a man that not over 6 feet, 6 figure income and with a 6 pack! I'm good over here. Drizzle Drizzle!
No one is hating in single mothers. Many men are avoiding single mothers. Please go get with your child's father and work things out. This mindset I can replace the father with the next man is wild. A single mother gets back the streets, and other men are not hollering at her. She wants to blame men who want nothing to do with her. She wants to blame men who are telling her the truth. Learn your lesson.
so people should stay with abusers and cheaters. maybe you're ok with that but not everyone is. if i stayed with their dad me and my kids would be dead right now
@@up-uw4opnot our fault you was stupid to get pregnant by them thinking a baby would stop them from kicking your ass. When a person woman or man puts hands on you. You don't stay you get out of there and press charges.
1:25 this is the main reason why dudes don’t want to get involved. Not trying to deal with the real dad getting in the middle of your relationship. No matter what, she will always carry a special place for the kids real father.
She said we co parent GREAT co parent with his daddy and raise yall son leave men alone nobody wants to co parent with her and her baby daddy she need to get out of here with that
Have you seen the dude who was raising her daughter, only for the real dad to come back and the gf basically kicked the stepbf out? Yeaaaaa this is why.
As a man with no kids I can't date a single mom at all also you ladies loves to leave the relationship and become a single mom , yes some of you guys do pick the wrong guys !
Bravo 👏. I refuse to be step daddy of another man’s jobs . I am Single with no kids and I am at peace until right woman come along. I can’t be another statistic putting my seed in the a woman and then divorce ??
“If you’ve got kids, go get a single mother”. Nope. I will not participate in the Brady Bunch theory. It’s sounds good though. As an active single father, I refuse to coexist with single mothers. I raised my child to be highly disciplined and to set good examples so she can move effectively. I don’t want my teen daughter around any of these bad ass/undisciplined mother/kids. I don’t have the patience for that. And honestly, we’re too good for that. I don’t hate single mothers, but I understand how they move.
Ask her why single mom dont appreciate the guys who do step up and try to have something with them but only get disrespect from her ,her kids and the baby daddies ?
Having Children with Boyfriend's instead of Husbands is your biggest Defeat. Boyfriend's come and Go and Husbands at least agree to have a family. Lady pls.
The man is not a deadbeat if he has multiple other kids with different women and you were never even a relationship with the dude. Knew the dude for 4 months and having a baby with him.
they ignored good men when they were aged 15-35, had kids with non good men, now they trying to circle back and give the good man a chance now that they see the good man is done with the building phase, expecting him to be the clean up man and step up, naw we good, and thats where the term "you should have chosen better" came from
Instead of getting on this app daily and wasting your time pining for validation (after preening for two hours applying your mask and wig for your selfie) why don’t you spend more time parenting, building up your career, taking accountability and getting your life together?
I wouldn't say its "Hatred" but more course correction. Since I've been alive, for the past 30 years bare min, being a Single Mother was the highest praise any woman, especially a black woman, could somehow achieve. It was treated as this grandiose honor and privilege to bring a child into this world without considering who the father would be, then remove that man from the picture, for any reason, in order to struggle to raise a child on your own, while relying on Spousal Support, Child Support, Government Assistance, *ALL TO THE DETERMENT* of the child who didn't choose such an environment to be born into. The world is growing tired of it and believe it or not, the men and women who are against Single-Motherhood, were children raised by Single-Mothers and saw the stress and pain and suffering such a lifestyle inflicted on everyone around them, including themselves. They're tired of praising people who don't consider the consequences of sleeping around with someone and accepting the seed of a man who doesn't prove his ability, worth and swear his loyalty to said woman who then wants to complain about the man "Not Stepping Up". She said it herself, there are people who put on a front in this world to get what they want from others. If you know there are humans willing to lie about who they are to take advantage of others, and these same people won't change who they are because they feel no guilt for their actions, shouldn't you take the responsibility to vet the person as best as you can, before you risk your body to bring their seed into this world, then blame them because you had their baby after knowing them less than 1 year? People are tired of women (Not all) who want to blame men they chose to lay down with, simply because they were horny and didn't take any measures to consider the consequences of their actions and choices. Moreover, they're sick and tired of hearing these same women, who created negative situations for innocent child, *BEING PRAISED* for doing so. Its enough.
@Covers-and-Commentary because no one praises deadbeat fathers. Show me a single talkshow from the 90's - 00's where a man was praised for being a deadbeat. How about a song from a famous artist who talks about their love for absentee fathers. Show me somewhere in media where men and women alike, cheer on in mass for these types of guys and stay it's the hardest thing in the world to do to abandon a family. If you can't, that's because it doesn't happen. Women are praised for creating broken homes and many for choosing the very men who leave. Men who break homes are punished, insulted and looked down upon. The only people who give positive feedback to babydaddies are the same women willing to sleep with said babydaddies, especially after learning he's not in his child/children's lives.
@@Covers-and-Commentary: Black women like you will never get it. And that is why a Single Black Childless man would be a complete fool to even think about dealing with you. The fact you are concerned about a black man correcting a MAN that YOU chose to have a child with is completely INSANE. Your mentality is why you are single and why you will never get a man higher than the one you chose to have a child with.
Nobody tryna play another man's saved game and if that ain't enough the laws will trap us to take care of a child that ain't ours. Why deal with a losing hand when you can win by not playing the game.
If seeing comments from a number of men saying how they don't want to date or prefer women with children is hate. Then is it hate when women say they don't want to date short, broke, average, men?
She just only said that bullshit so she can feel comfortable with her bad decisions! A damn ego boost! This is another form of playing victim and avoiding accountability. 💯
As a black woman without children, I observe a recurring pattern where many black men and women form relationships only to realize they aren't truly compatible. Consequently, it's crucial to prioritize building strong marriages rather than bringing children into uncertain or tumultuous circumstances.
No, that is bs. They deserve judgement too. This idea that they should be uplifted and praised for being a single-mother is what is causing all of the havoc in the Black community.. Heck, the majority of the children are being created by single-mothers and high-recidivism and/or drug using men. In fact, the majority of Black men are in the middle class and childless. These women are choosing unfit men to mate with, and then want everyone to praise them for it.
It's long been time for shame. Understanding is what allowed this problem to balloon into self genocide. When you do they math what you have is hyper sexual, bad planning, horrible parenting, nation destroying behavior.
She should focus on enjoying co-parenting with her babies' daddies and pay deaf ears to whatever any other person is saying. After all, it's the choice she made and no body made it for her. She should also know that men, including her babies daddies have their own right also to make better choice to build lives with fresh beautiful women and not single mamas.
I said same thing focus on your co parenting no man wants to be involved with co parenting with her baby daddy and her she in the damn way her and her co parenting 😅
Partially agree... except "CO PARENTING"??? 🤣🤣🤣 There's no such thing (rarely happens). Typically, the person w custody does most of the work & controls the kid's schedule. When r we gonna stop lying?!? 🤥 Everytime celebrities & their therapist come up w new terms, we jump on the bandwagon!
I regret getting involved with a single mother because her son is a handful and doesn’t like me. Plus she herself is hard to please and I have did a lot for her
I was a single father for twenty years so it's not beneath me to date single mothers. However I still exercise my right to walk away from the relationship baggage, trust issues and financial hardships they usually come with
I see why it didn't work out between her and her baby daddy. They could't figure out they weren't a match before they made a child. Men are tired of picking up the tab on someone else's mistakes! Tuff! ma'am get over it!!!
@@mzskipwith If you are dating again without taking a bit of time to figure out where you went wrong before, because having a baby alone is things going wrong, then you are just setting yourself up to repeat the same actions and same outcomes. That is the crux of the problem among our people. Too many of us do not even stop to consider what we have done wrong that led us to the poor outcome. Too many of us continue to do the same thing, get the same outcomes, and complain about why things are not changing for the better. So, before you get out there to date again, opening your legs to another man, maybe, just maybe you take the time to make sure he is actually a good man. Maybe just maybe, you make sure you don't give any children to men who are unfit to be fathers. It is not hard to have just a bit of discernment. The guy does drugs, avoid him. The guy is in and out of prison, avoid him. The guy has to come live with you, instead of having his own place, avoid him. Etc...
Yes i agree, a person should take time to evaluate themselves before getting into another relationship but this guy said if you co parent you shouldn't be dating. Im trying to understand why a person whose co parenting cant date@HeruUrAusar
😂😂😂 so because us men have a preference of NOT dealing with single mothers its now considered hating 🤔🤔🤔. Nah yall buggin. Why should I have to settle and lower my standards for a single mother.
@@marvl6472 and there are alot of black men with standards when it comes to dating out these days phil has stated in one of his videos that brothas are raising there standards
Men make fun of the things they see in their real life. Especially when they see a lack of accountability.. Also we all see the detriment it has on the community. You cant be out here and become a single mother because you are reckless with your sex life and then want to still be treated good after you get the consequence's of your actions. Its seriously delusional and we all pay for it as taxpayers. Lets face facts..
Never in my adult life have I remotely considered being a stepdad how about women making better decisions without blaming childless men it’s all cost responsibility and liabilities there is no upside to any of that
The saddest part about this whole video is we single guys with no kids are pulling out the toys on this beautiful Saturday about to hit the car wish. We arrogant, selfish, spoiled and care nothing about this.
Has nothing to do with hate. Once you have a kid. You're in the bad option category. Deal with it. I'm sure some simp like Russell Wilson will come take care of it.
Russell Wilson is rich, he can afford the problems whether he’s a simp or not. The average ninja is aw working class man . I single with no kids and at peace .
Most people don't hate single mothers, they hate the rhetoric espoused by those women. And more importantly the idea that you don't know a man is bs, you know what would help in that regard? Not having children out of wedlock, they lack accountability on this topic, and I'm gonna call it out everytime
@@Covers-and-Commentaryyou tell me, I only spoke on what I experienced and witnessed, I started out with the mindset it was men causing all the problems so I complied, I now know where the problem lays beyond any shadow of doubt , enjoy hell fire 👋👋👋
@@Covers-and-Commentary Left what? Their has to be an established family in order for a man to leave. Women screw around and one of their sex partners get them pregnant, then you lie about being left. Nobody is leaving you ladies. You are loose with your bodies and you have bad outcomes. Our community lives in dysfunction.
As a 41 year old single male with no kids , I love black woman but I ain't going date a single mom at all I don't see the reason to . I don't understand why black woman just don't tell other black woman pick better !
There is a shortage of childless women. I have a good relationship with my mom and dad etc. No shade to single moms they do what they have to do definitely not my type though.
No, no, and no! They are YOUR LEGS! and it was your choice to allow who you allowed to be there. So YOU deal with the consequences of your actions bottom line.
There's no HATE towards single mom's, the problem is that some women chose a deadbeat Pookie or Ray Ray to have children with instead of the so-called "lame", boring, hard-working man but soon as y'all get ran through and used up, you wanna find a good man to help raise kids that aren't his and I'm not taking care of another man's responsibility
We don’t “HATE” single mothers. But we do hate the narrative that only “REAL MEN” take care of another man’s child(ren) and when we refuse to do so we’re Shamed and talked down upon
AGREED 💯
Speak for yourself. I hate 'em
BLACK men are THE MOST INVOLVED FATHERS according to the CDC! They want to call men deadbeats to justify their behavior/bad decisions.
Speak for yourself.. I hate them
I knew a couple cool BMs but a lot of them are entitled, shaming, delusional, a holes, that see no problem with doing only fans while being a mother
I don't hate single moms. I hate that all these women tried to play like they were the prize despite being a single mom. As a man with no kids, I don't owe any woman anything. I don't want to play stepdad, that's my choice. My wallet, my choice.
INDEED AND AGREED 💯
Drizzle drizzle
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I am a woman(22 years) and I am against single motherhood. I was raised by one and she completely destroyed my childhood. She resented me so bad and it was not until as I got older that I realized that she hates me because she hates my dad. I was not allowed to see my dad but he still wrote letters to me and tried his absolute best but my mom would just tell me that he abandoned me to be with another woman. I don't wish that on my children one day,to have a hateful single mom who is a misandrist.
If you are a child free woman who plans on having children,please heal and get off social media before you let other women tell you how your life should be. Family dysfunctions are not supposed to be celebrated
Amen!!!!
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Know one wants to talk about the other side of this. Lots of single mothers are bitter as hell.
@Payday-ky7mb True. Most of them can't even give love to their children,they think they are victims and everyone is out to get them. Single motherhood is a consequence of one's actions.
Boom 💥 Well said sister!
I spent my single years avoiding them, not hating on them.
Indeed.
A single mother using the word “hate” when it’s obviously not is another reason to avoid them. Just a preview of the drama that come with single mothers once you’re trapped.
As a man with no children, I'mma say something that will definitely ruffle some feathers, male and female. Single parents should only date other single parents.
@@NOLAPicasso a lot of women will date a single dad not much the other way around
Facts I'm not being apart of a already made family and 9⃣ times out of 🔟 they're only using you as a placeholder or distraction to get over their ex.
Women don't learn from the mistakes of other women.
repeated cycles even within the same household
They don't even learn from their own mistakes, they just blame something else 😂
For decades.
because very few are educating each other. just like most fathers are not educating their sons
@@SteveG-k8qExactly. They will make the same mistakes multiple times. For starters, it’s up to women to goalkeep their uterus. And the vast majority are horrible at that.
You let him hit it raw and now you're a single mom now you're a single mom!!
Y’all say ain’t no good men but yooou b!$he$ stay pregnant 😂😂😂
Keep the song alive my boi!!!😂😂
Drizzle Drizzle
U guys act like these women are animals , but never call out single Dads !! That don’t take care of their kids …
@@soniapinkney1342 Hmmm well why is that do most single days say they can't support the kid before the woman has it anyway?
We, as black men, don’t “hate” single mothers, we have decided that we don’t want to take on the responsibility of raising Pookie and Ray Ray’s kids; which is most likely the case. Also, we don’t want to deal with the baby-daddy drama that comes along with it, especially if a female has multiple kids by multiple dudes. The majority of men don’t want a ready-made family anyway. There are a lot of issues that we would have to deal with, being in a relationship with a single mother. If a black man chooses to enter into a relationship with a black single mother, fine. But you’re not going to shame the rest of us into doing so by saying, “It takes a real man to raise another man’s seed.” 🙄 At the end of the day, we have choices. And let me add this, call it petty, but I don’t wanna have to constantly see the guy who was with my woman before me, just because y’all have a child together. I’m not feelin’ that!
And so you should
I agree
One of the worst feeling ever, then they will rub it in your face taunt you. These women knows how to really break a men's feelings.
Strongly disagree
Word.
What "hatred" for single mother?
Not wanting a relationship with them is not "hatred"...
Not wanting a relationship with them but choosing to lay down with them still...you sound like a stupid boy!!!?
Holding them accountable is hatred to them. They're basically grown kids who raise other grown kids, hence the prison rate.
Single moms are just angry because they exited themselves from the dating market and destroyed their value. They know they made a mistake and blame men for not wanting to clean up or make the same mistakes they made
Being told the truth is hate this world is crazy😂😂😂
"Stop acting like women lay down with men to be single mothers" says the jezebels who are strong and independent, chose a dude with 5 baby mommas, even when they seen it happen to their momma, sister, cousins...they wont go against the child support system, politicians
Bingo 🎯🎯🎯
And that's why I'm convinced we've been in hell..Aint no waiting till you die.... Everything is backwards in our society.
😂😂😂😂😂😂exactly 😆
I think what she is saying is why are ppl so concerned with the affairs of someone else?
Don’t bring a kid into the world with someone you’re not sure with. This is a major red flag in itself.
Poookies get free box from these same women
but remember whos insight, foresight and" intuition is never wrong"
The problem with this is it makes to much sense
Some women may not know until after the fact, always the last to know
Was a family law attorney for a decade. Pookies and Rays Rays are not the only types of men out here producing children.
She has not given any consideration that those who are fatherless prefer to create their own legacy with a woman who is childless. She also mentioned that the child's father is still in his life...that is all we need to know.
Every man has a right to want what he wants. No woman has the right to shame them for it
Men should have their own children! Not take care of some other mans
exactly start making dads take care of their kids and things will change
@@up-uw4opTell that to said single mothers. They picked who they allowed to nut in them. It’s THEIR job to unfuck their problems.
The amount of women that think men should put their lives on hold to take care of *their bastards children* is disgusting
It disgusting me how so many singles mothers really think men should put their lives on hold to take care of someone's child disgusting
1000%
I have nothing against single mothers. My issue is with women who are careless with their womb, have multiple kids out of wedlock, have multiple BDs and have higher standards for the potential step dad than they have for the father of the kids
So danm true check out the Kendra g show that show is full of them types
It’s the Single Mom Make A Wish Foundation 😂😂😂😂
Literally going thru this myself. Standards are thru the roof for me...but for them...not a standard in the world
It's not hate....It's avoiding problems.
FACTS 💯💯
@@keepmovin1320problems you create, that your gender creates for not being abstinent and having vasectomy? Think harder
That right there!
You would be the problem.
@@Cateyes767How is avoiding a single mother and all of her baggage make him the problem? Make it make sense...
Why is she making about men that are not the fathers? Men are not obligated to take a single mother's children. If anything the single mother should talk about the biological fathers who are deadbeats.
It would make perfect sense for single mothers to make amends with their child’s father instead of wasting all of that energy whining online. Why is that not an option?? Childless men don’t owe y’all a damn thing.
Spot on
@@T.Harry79Exactly 😂😂😂😂
It disgusting how so many singles mothers think men should put their lives on hold to take care of thier kids ew
Single mothers don't want to hold there dead beat babby daddy because these single mothers don't want to take accountability so much for being a feminist these parasites single mothers are just looking for a host to latch onto
The disdain comes from women in our community choose to become baby momma’s to pookie’s then look for a clean up man. Give pookie their best years best body best attitude and want us to settle for the crumbs
PRRACH!!!
This is a perfect example of "if you let them talk long enough"..
Dedicate my life?? No ma’am I want you nowhere near my life .
I believe it’s disrespectful by default to bring an already made family to a childless person.
It is completely disrespectful
These are the same women that won’t open their wallet (50/50) but have no problem opening their legs. Can we make it make sense?
Nope, I'm not doing it! Just like they don't want to deal with a man that not over 6 feet, 6 figure income and with a 6 pack! I'm good over here. Drizzle Drizzle!
Drizzle Drizzle🤣🤣
😅 gettem broo!!
Drizzle Drizzle
soft guy era in full effect
Drizzle Drizzle
We are not upset about single moms. It's just all of the extra stuff that comes with it. .....usually 🤷♂️😒
Paying child support for a kid that aint yours is #1
I'm upset with them. They are flooding the nation with trash
@@floydheavyweather3811 hell yeah
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😂😂😂😂😂😂most definitely
If it’s a man’s job to take care of his kids, it’s a woman’s job to pick one that will.
Bars 💯
It’s a man’s job to be a man
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You summed this up VERY well
BINGO!!!!
All I hear is no accountability taken!
🎵🎶 You let him hit it raw, now you are a Single Mom 🩰😅
That song is terrorizing them!
He made a video I heard
🎶you said I'm going to have his kid don't care if he here or not now you're a single mom 🎶
He chose to stick his raw log in her..she didn't get pregnant by her damn self fool!!!!!!
🎵 she didnt have 2nd thoughts 🎵
Another reason men avoid single mothers: Parentage by Estoppel (step-daddy/father figure child support)
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Awesome comment 👍🏾
No one is hating in single mothers. Many men are avoiding single mothers. Please go get with your child's father and work things out.
This mindset I can replace the father with the next man is wild. A single mother gets back the streets, and other men are not hollering at her. She wants to blame men who want nothing to do with her. She wants to blame men who are telling her the truth.
Learn your lesson.
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😂😂😂😂😂facts
She sits in that car talking like it’s our problem when its none of our business.
so people should stay with abusers and cheaters. maybe you're ok with that but not everyone is. if i stayed with their dad me and my kids would be dead right now
@@up-uw4opnot our fault you was stupid to get pregnant by them thinking a baby would stop them from kicking your ass. When a person woman or man puts hands on you. You don't stay you get out of there and press charges.
1:25 this is the main reason why dudes don’t want to get involved. Not trying to deal with the real dad getting in the middle of your relationship. No matter what, she will always carry a special place for the kids real father.
Nah the main reason is it ain't my kid. I didn't get as far as I did to raise someone else's legacy. I don't subscribe to polygamy.
She said we co parent GREAT co parent with his daddy and raise yall son leave men alone nobody wants to co parent with her and her baby daddy she need to get out of here with that
It's sad, these black women knows everything but can't keep a man
😂😂💯💯
😂😂😂😂😂😂exactly!!!👏💯
what men? where?
When I her them complaining I already ghost.
Perfectly said 👏
Baby Daddy still hitting that 💯
Have you seen the dude who was raising her daughter, only for the real dad to come back and the gf basically kicked the stepbf out? Yeaaaaa this is why.
That's crazy😂
That's crazy😂
Exactly!!
The daddy always show up after 20 years or whatever when the new guy show up ready to fight over ppl they didnt care about before.
Boy that just crazy stay away from single moms
Avoiding snakes is not the same as hating snakes.
Enough sugarcoating we hate them... Since they want to play the guilt tripping game
As a man with no kids I can't date a single mom at all also you ladies loves to leave the relationship and become a single mom , yes some of you guys do pick the wrong guys !
It's incentitized for them. Child support & also they see as a way of power to control a man.
Bravo 👏. I refuse to be step daddy of another man’s jobs . I am Single with no kids and I am at peace until right woman come along. I can’t be another statistic putting my seed in the a woman and then divorce ??
Don't look at it as hating. It's really brothers trying to warn other brothers not to mess with them under any circumstances.
Keeping a safe distance from single mothers is not hate. Not going into a known train wreck is just common sense.
What if you can repair the mess left after the train wreck lol? 😂
@@Bootyeater999 Why should I???
Yawl made these bad decisions Yawl choose these guys to have babies with. 9 to 5 guys will not leave you a single mom
Agreed bruh
Agreed most 9-5 men have structure and stable they hate those men think about that what are the good men to do when the women don’t like the good men
If you’ve got kids, go get a single mother. If you don’t have kids, leave those single mothers alone fellas. That simple, really
Right!
“If you’ve got kids, go get a single mother”. Nope. I will not participate in the Brady Bunch theory. It’s sounds good though.
As an active single father, I refuse to coexist with single mothers.
I raised my child to be highly disciplined and to set good examples so she can move effectively.
I don’t want my teen daughter around any of these bad ass/undisciplined mother/kids. I don’t have the patience for that. And honestly, we’re too good for that. I don’t hate single mothers, but I understand how they move.
INDEED AND AGREED 💯
Yupp no question
Nope
Ask her why single mom dont appreciate the guys who do step up and try to have something with them but only get disrespect from her ,her kids and the baby daddies ?
The common denominator of the problem is the single mothers and their lack of discernment and foresight.
Absolutely
Ask her why she got knocked up by a loser
Facts!
Having Children with Boyfriend's instead of Husbands is your biggest Defeat. Boyfriend's come and Go and Husbands at least agree to have a family.
Lady pls.
Husbands come and go as well.
They ain't gonna listen to this though
@@melvinlucas4579
But at least it's out here
Having children out of wedlock on purpose is unacceptable plain and simple.
The man is not a deadbeat if he has multiple other kids with different women and you were never even a relationship with the dude. Knew the dude for 4 months and having a baby with him.
Yeah, that's the classic definition of a deadbeat
@Theeorie4393 no Because they knew he wasn't no good to begin with and still lay down with him
uh yea he absolutely is
But these women slept with him knowing that he is no good from the jump. What does that make them
@Blackrage843 The only issue was whether or not men in this category are deadbeats, which they are
So she equates a man having standards with hatred?
No accountability taken. Thats what they do to move the goal post
Poor attempt at "gaslighting."
@Mr, right! Make it make sense! No accountability whatsoever.
What if i don't have kids, why should I take of another man responsibility 🤔
Even if you do have kids. You don't have business with another man's DNA
If a man has no kids, he should search for a woman without kids as well
Through the rant you'll hear why we don't choose single mothers
A lot of guys saw how their mother behaved as a single mom and they do not want this for themselves or for the next guy.
they ignored good men when they were aged 15-35, had kids with non good men, now they trying to circle back and give the good man a chance now that they see the good man is done with the building phase, expecting him to be the clean up man and step up, naw we good, and thats where the term "you should have chosen better" came from
Instead of getting on this app daily and wasting your time pining for validation (after preening for two hours applying your mask and wig for your selfie) why don’t you spend more time parenting, building up your career, taking accountability and getting your life together?
I'm a man with no children and I choose not to be with a single mother unless the father of the child is deceased! I can do good all by myself.
I wouldn't say its "Hatred" but more course correction. Since I've been alive, for the past 30 years bare min, being a Single Mother was the highest praise any woman, especially a black woman, could somehow achieve. It was treated as this grandiose honor and privilege to bring a child into this world without considering who the father would be, then remove that man from the picture, for any reason, in order to struggle to raise a child on your own, while relying on Spousal Support, Child Support, Government Assistance, *ALL TO THE DETERMENT* of the child who didn't choose such an environment to be born into.
The world is growing tired of it and believe it or not, the men and women who are against Single-Motherhood, were children raised by Single-Mothers and saw the stress and pain and suffering such a lifestyle inflicted on everyone around them, including themselves. They're tired of praising people who don't consider the consequences of sleeping around with someone and accepting the seed of a man who doesn't prove his ability, worth and swear his loyalty to said woman who then wants to complain about the man "Not Stepping Up".
She said it herself, there are people who put on a front in this world to get what they want from others. If you know there are humans willing to lie about who they are to take advantage of others, and these same people won't change who they are because they feel no guilt for their actions, shouldn't you take the responsibility to vet the person as best as you can, before you risk your body to bring their seed into this world, then blame them because you had their baby after knowing them less than 1 year? People are tired of women (Not all) who want to blame men they chose to lay down with, simply because they were horny and didn't take any measures to consider the consequences of their actions and choices. Moreover, they're sick and tired of hearing these same women, who created negative situations for innocent child, *BEING PRAISED* for doing so. Its enough.
Good take
Why don’t yall course correct THE MEN?????? yall literally create broken homes
@Covers-and-Commentary because no one praises deadbeat fathers. Show me a single talkshow from the 90's - 00's where a man was praised for being a deadbeat. How about a song from a famous artist who talks about their love for absentee fathers. Show me somewhere in media where men and women alike, cheer on in mass for these types of guys and stay it's the hardest thing in the world to do to abandon a family.
If you can't, that's because it doesn't happen. Women are praised for creating broken homes and many for choosing the very men who leave. Men who break homes are punished, insulted and looked down upon. The only people who give positive feedback to babydaddies are the same women willing to sleep with said babydaddies, especially after learning he's not in his child/children's lives.
@@Covers-and-Commentary: Black women like you will never get it. And that is why a Single Black Childless man would be a complete fool to even think about dealing with you. The fact you are concerned about a black man correcting a MAN that YOU chose to have a child with is completely INSANE. Your mentality is why you are single and why you will never get a man higher than the one you chose to have a child with.
@@Covers-and-CommentaryIt’s called child support. Focus on the topic at hand. The single mothers.
She said everything but the fact that you let a man that’s NOT YOUR HUSBAND, shoot up the club… the delusion
Nobody tryna play another man's saved game and if that ain't enough the laws will trap us to take care of a child that ain't ours. Why deal with a losing hand when you can win by not playing the game.
A baby don’t keep a man, It makes them run 🏃♂️ from you.
Say it louder for the Slow ones in the back of the church, my boi😂😂😂
then he wasnt a real man
@@up-uw4op a pookie won’t run… you deserve a “Fresh” who will tap then ghost you😳✊🏾
@@up-uw4opand you determine that how? In what world, even the animal kingdom, is a man “manly” enough when he plays janitor for you idiots..
@@up-uw4opu don’t know a real one to begin with
Trojan must be going out of business
I’m in my soft guy era! So single mothers need to pay a man to be with them it’s 2024. Drizzle drizzle
Its Coming!! A reversal of child support would most definitely let them know that the tables will turn 😮
Single moms will never respect you as a man They'll see you as a opportunity to clean up their mistakes.
The ladies dont get it. Its about scaring the youth into not making the same mistakes.
There are no benefits being with a single mom name one....I'll wait
Quality person
Quality person? Wrong answer! Otherwise the stigma wouldn't be there.
@@crystal.holmesWe can find that overseas with no children.. checkmate ♟️
Zero which is why they have to shame you good Products sell themselves
@@crystal.holmes 🤣🤣
If seeing comments from a number of men saying how they don't want to date or prefer women with children is hate. Then is it hate when women say they don't want to date short, broke, average, men?
All of it is preference… difference is men don’t go around crying about it, we just adapt and move on
0:50 Holding BW accountable isn't hate!
I am a single mother of a 14year old Son my husband, who is my son father as well passed away 13 years ago.
She just only said that bullshit so she can feel comfortable with her bad decisions! A damn ego boost! This is another form of playing victim and avoiding accountability. 💯
Weren't they fine when BLK men's reputation was slandered? Now that they're held accountable, it's hate?
Childhood trauma is oftentimes not treated properly 😢
So men with no kids did having a preference became hate now? It’s no different from women not wanting a broke man or man that’s short.
As a black woman without children, I observe a recurring pattern where many black men and women form relationships only to realize they aren't truly compatible. Consequently, it's crucial to prioritize building strong marriages rather than bringing children into uncertain or tumultuous circumstances.
No, that is bs. They deserve judgement too. This idea that they should be uplifted and praised for being a single-mother is what is causing all of the havoc in the Black community.. Heck, the majority of the children are being created by single-mothers and high-recidivism and/or drug using men. In fact, the majority of Black men are in the middle class and childless. These women are choosing unfit men to mate with, and then want everyone to praise them for it.
It's long been time for shame. Understanding is what allowed this problem to balloon into self genocide. When you do they math what you have is hyper sexual, bad planning, horrible parenting, nation destroying behavior.
Leave Pookie and Ray Ray alone from jump..
Because it's a bad trend in the community.
Riiight
It literally ruined the community to be honest
She should focus on enjoying co-parenting with her babies' daddies and pay deaf ears to whatever any other person is saying. After all, it's the choice she made and no body made it for her. She should also know that men, including her babies daddies have their own right also to make better choice to build lives with fresh beautiful women and not single mamas.
I said same thing focus on your co parenting no man wants to be involved with co parenting with her baby daddy and her she in the damn way her and her co parenting 😅
Partially agree... except "CO PARENTING"??? 🤣🤣🤣 There's no such thing (rarely happens). Typically, the person w custody does most of the work & controls the kid's schedule. When r we gonna stop lying?!? 🤥
Everytime celebrities & their therapist come up w new terms, we jump on the bandwagon!
I can care less what a single mom has to say
I regret getting involved with a single mother because her son is a handful and doesn’t like me. Plus she herself is hard to please and I have did a lot for her
I was a single father for twenty years so it's not beneath me to date single mothers. However I still exercise my right to walk away from the relationship baggage, trust issues and financial hardships they usually come with
I see why it didn't work out between her and her baby daddy. They could't figure out they weren't a match before they made a child. Men are tired of picking up the tab on someone else's mistakes! Tuff! ma'am get over it!!!
Naw yall incels need to get over your trauma. Cowardly Azz dudes aiming for women. Yall dudes is weirdos
She said he manipulated her yet she is wearing makeup which is a manipulation. I can already tell she has zero accountability.
If you are co- parenting...Dating should be the last thing on your mind.
You opened your legs to the wrong dude.
YOUR FAULT.
Huh? What does that have to do with dating
@@mzskipwith If you are dating again without taking a bit of time to figure out where you went wrong before, because having a baby alone is things going wrong, then you are just setting yourself up to repeat the same actions and same outcomes. That is the crux of the problem among our people. Too many of us do not even stop to consider what we have done wrong that led us to the poor outcome. Too many of us continue to do the same thing, get the same outcomes, and complain about why things are not changing for the better.
So, before you get out there to date again, opening your legs to another man, maybe, just maybe you take the time to make sure he is actually a good man. Maybe just maybe, you make sure you don't give any children to men who are unfit to be fathers. It is not hard to have just a bit of discernment. The guy does drugs, avoid him. The guy is in and out of prison, avoid him. The guy has to come live with you, instead of having his own place, avoid him. Etc...
Yes i agree, a person should take time to evaluate themselves before getting into another relationship but this guy said if you co parent you shouldn't be dating. Im trying to understand why a person whose co parenting cant date@HeruUrAusar
Why you sleep with a deadbeat? "Now your a single Mom, Now your a Single Mom"🎶
😂😂😂 so because us men have a preference of NOT dealing with single mothers its now considered hating 🤔🤔🤔. Nah yall buggin. Why should I have to settle and lower my standards for a single mother.
They the same women who even told BM "BM need to have standards" but that only applies when it comes to dating out I guess
@@marvl6472 right 🤣🤣
Drizzle Drizzle😂😂😂
@@jaymac8496 FAAAAAAAAACTS 🤣🤣
@@marvl6472 and there are alot of black men with standards when it comes to dating out these days phil has stated in one of his videos that brothas are raising there standards
Men make fun of the things they see in their real life. Especially when they see a lack of accountability.. Also we all see the detriment it has on the community. You cant be out here and become a single mother because you are reckless with your sex life and then want to still be treated good after you get the consequence's of your actions. Its seriously delusional and we all pay for it as taxpayers. Lets face facts..
A man that’s not currently raising a kid is not trying to come deal with your baby daddy situation.
Never in my adult life have I remotely considered being a stepdad how about women making better decisions without blaming childless men it’s all cost responsibility and liabilities there is no upside to any of that
It's one thing if they have one child, but if they have multiple different fathers, it's a super red flag.
The saddest part about this whole video is we single guys with no kids are pulling out the toys on this beautiful Saturday about to hit the car wish. We arrogant, selfish, spoiled and care nothing about this.
We choosing better. Drizzle
Has nothing to do with hate. Once you have a kid. You're in the bad option category. Deal with it. I'm sure some simp like Russell Wilson will come take care of it.
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣Tru
Understood.
Russell Wilson is rich, he can afford the problems whether he’s a simp or not. The average ninja is aw working class man . I single with no kids and at peace .
Some women actually choose to be a single mom, NOT ALL but I even know a woman personally who choose that option.
Government, laying down with the same man who got 5 baby mommas and dont even see his kids...some love the repeated cycle
Single motherhood has and always will be a choice
Most people don't hate single mothers, they hate the rhetoric espoused by those women. And more importantly the idea that you don't know a man is bs, you know what would help in that regard? Not having children out of wedlock, they lack accountability on this topic, and I'm gonna call it out everytime
They're arrogant and unrepentant
But the men who left aren’t???
@@Covers-and-Commentaryyou tell me, I only spoke on what I experienced and witnessed, I started out with the mindset it was men causing all the problems so I complied, I now know where the problem lays beyond any shadow of doubt , enjoy hell fire 👋👋👋
@Covers-and-Commentary nope. Yall chose em. 🤷🏾♂️
Exactly!! The arrogance of these women is really abominable.
@@Covers-and-Commentary Left what? Their has to be an established family in order for a man to leave. Women screw around and one of their sex partners get them pregnant, then you lie about being left. Nobody is leaving you ladies. You are loose with your bodies and you have bad outcomes. Our community lives in dysfunction.
As a 41 year old single male with no kids , I love black woman but I ain't going date a single mom at all I don't see the reason to . I don't understand why black woman just don't tell other black woman pick better !
INDEED AND AGREED 💯
"Dedicate their lives to hating on them" *correction. Most well to do men don't want anything to do with them.
Many assume because what she named is the VAST MAJORITY!
But not all…it goes also both ways
@@LilySteph1949 true
How are those women going to get welfare and Childsupport checks without getting pregnant?
They just choose to ignore the obvious
That’s why they’re stuck in a goofy position.
Which is why they have multiple baby daddy's
Risk Management 101 = avoid single mothers
There is a shortage of childless women. I have a good relationship with my mom and dad etc. No shade to single moms they do what they have to do definitely not my type though.
the birth rate is going down so its not hard to find someone childless
@@up-uw4op Yes but how many women have 1 child? And never have another child? That's why the birth rate fell so much.
@@mateaukalua4426Having a kid with a single mom is not a good thing at all.
@@alphapimp0073 I have had endless single mom coworkers. One who would let me hit right now. I never did or will though bro. I am not an idiot.
No, no, and no! They are YOUR LEGS! and it was your choice to allow who you allowed to be there. So YOU deal with the consequences of your actions bottom line.
We are bringing shame back
Good show uncle Phill. We need more marriages in our community. You are right and on point.
There's no HATE towards single mom's, the problem is that some women chose a deadbeat Pookie or Ray Ray to have children with instead of the so-called "lame", boring, hard-working man but soon as y'all get ran through and used up, you wanna find a good man to help raise kids that aren't his and I'm not taking care of another man's responsibility