Ruining her moment the wedding is supposed to be the bride’s and groom’s ceremony and big day isn’t she allowed to have her own day and it Lucy should know about selfish she’s being selfish and yeah op should charge her for the announcement party Also op should hold a grudge once they realized she’s not there for their abuse they’ll tear each other apart and I’m willing to bet this family had rifts before Story 2 oh my god what the hell is about mothers stealing their daughters husbands Im mean there was that disgusting story with the mother and husband carrying on the affair for like decades and some of her kids are actually half brothers if this op hadn’t found the evidence would this had been another story like that one?
The mother said "you are not the victim" Then who is? Who was cheated on? Who's mother broke her family? Who was backstabber by their mother and husband?
She really thought she was the victim. These people have all the audacity to act like they're being slighted when they start facing consequences for their actions.
Trust me, its better to raise a child without a father than with a cheater and homewrecker piece or c.rp. Also, mother lives in her own world. What did she think would happen? Shell marry the husband and be a loving grandmother/step mother to the kid whose mother she betrayed? Lmao. How delusional can one be?!
What Lucy did was way out of line. The wedding is supposed to be about the bride and groom. I had three family members at my wedding who had infants with then. not one of them made an announcement of the birth at my wedding. I was introduced to my youngest niece at the reception. The wedding photographer got a picture of me holding the baby. Meeting my baby niece for the first time, getting to hold her for the first time made my special day even more special.
Take hubby and the skank to court. Go for every penny possible. Once court is done, put the word out to everyone. Their work, friends, family, neighbors all should know about their baby. How they got their baby.
That last story, I don't blame OP for walking away from the kid that was only conceived by the husband having an affair with her ex-friend. Her parents are also an AH
S3: NTA, the kid is two, so this is the best time for her to leave, just like anyone else. At first the kid will be upset but they will slowly edge OP out of their memories. The bio mom and dad will expect OP to take the kid if she keeps her parental rights so they can fck off into the sunset. It's best if she drops everyone to do with this situation.
1st story: Sounds to me like OP is left with the options to either walk out of the family or be pushed out. They aren't going to change, how could they as they refuse to see how they messed up? Drop them, tell others why and move on to live your best life. Karma will get them eventually. 2nd story: Out them - to stbx parents and family, to your own family, to friends and others, end it with "as a last sign of respect, I'll allow them what their hearts want, free and in the open, but I'm out because that's what my heart wants. Whatever comes next is on them" and sign off. Your kid won't be without parental figures and will be instilled sound values, just be far away from those who don't know love from abuse, care for blatant disrespect and emotional harm.
S1: OP still isn't at the stage of realizing that she could be the best person in the world but their golden child is the only one that matters to them. It will take time, but hopefully OP sees how much her husband and family on her side care about her and cut out everyone else. And I kinda disagree with taking legal action. OP will just get harassed, likely have her name blasted on social media, and just create more problems for her. S2: I'm surprised no one was calling her "bitter" for leaving and telling her to stay for the baby. I read another reddit story where the husband cheated with a barely 18 year old (he was 30+) and people were calling her an ahole for keeping their child away since the guy could apparently still be a good father. But children can tell when you hate their father or mother and are better off with one loving parent than a dysfunctional family keeping itself together for that false narrative that two parent households are always better than being a single parent (sometimes, but only with two loving parents). S3: Plenty of fathers walk away from their biological kids, usually for no reason. Why should OP raise a child that isn't even hers, especially the product of an affair?
Story #1 - I have a different take on this. Traditionally, the Wedding Ceremony is about the bride and groom. The Reception however IS NOT. It's about the two families being joined by their marriage, an opportunity for them to get to know each other. At least traditionally, the reception would have been considered an appropriate place for such an announcement, and many others of that nature. This "My Day" shit is obnoxious. The reception is about your family, not you. That is it's entire function. It's literally called a "reception". And what are you "receiving" at the reception (if anyone says "gifts", I swear to God, I'll slap the shit out of them, lol). You are receiving family for the first time as a newly married couple. When receiving guests, they are the focus, not the host. The intent of the tradition is built into the name, you'd have to be functionally illiterate not to pick up on that, lol. That being said, the sister didn't spend thousands of dollars on this event, it needs to be cleared with the bride and groom. It wasn't. They expressly said "No", and that is to be honored. So I'm on OP's side in principle, but she was being a bit dramatic. A person can be in the right and still over-react. I'm on OP's side, but damn... pick your battles. The whole "My Day" perspective is relatively new, is a complete reversal of the tradition, undermines the entire purpose of the reception, and just comes off as petty and entitled. You are hosting to the party you paid for, and have control to that extent, but you do not hold agency over every else's attention just because you put out some food and picked a DJ. Your moment was the ceremony. Even if you are upset (and you are entitled to your feelings), handle it with a little grace and dignity, don't walk-off teary-eyed and harboring a grudge over some ill-timed, but otherwise happy news. The commentors here are unhinged. • Go No-Contact with your family (that's proportionate, lol) • Take her to court (You'd be laughed out of court by a judge, that's not an actionable cause, you'd get stuck with court costs and get a very stern talking-to by an extremely annoyed judge) I'm just fed up with brides who think they alone must be the sole point of attention. That misses the point entirely and calls into question why they are even marrying in the first place. Is this even a valid union that deserves respect, or did you just want a big fancy party and attention? It's not about the bride and groom, it's about their vows and their families coming together. The sister was out of line, but that only ruins the day if you let it.
Story 1 : story is fake because any wise person would go completely nc with such family. Story 3: who can a women can walk away from child support but men can't
Ruining her moment the wedding is supposed to be the bride’s and groom’s ceremony and big day isn’t she allowed to have her own day and it Lucy should know about selfish she’s being selfish and yeah op should charge her for the announcement party Also op should hold a grudge once they realized she’s not there for their abuse they’ll tear each other apart and I’m willing to bet this family had rifts before Story 2 oh my god what the hell is about mothers stealing their daughters husbands Im mean there was that disgusting story with the mother and husband carrying on the affair for like decades and some of her kids are actually half brothers if this op hadn’t found the evidence would this had been another story like that one?
One thing I have learned after 56 years on this planet, you can raise a child by yourself
Fr. Y'know what would mess up a child's mind? Finding out your dad and grandma were smashing 🤮
I don't know how he thought that 'I didn't think she'd get pregnant with only my child" made it better at all.
Last story: OP will feel the betrayal every time she looks at him. She is doing the right thing for the kid by walking away
Ruining her moment the wedding is supposed to be the bride’s and groom’s ceremony and big day isn’t she allowed to have her own day and it Lucy should know about selfish she’s being selfish and yeah op should charge her for the announcement party
Also op should hold a grudge once they realized she’s not there for their abuse they’ll tear each other apart and I’m willing to bet this family had rifts before
Story 2 oh my god what the hell is about mothers stealing their daughters husbands Im mean there was that disgusting story with the mother and husband carrying on the affair for like decades and some of her kids are actually half brothers if this op hadn’t found the evidence would this had been another story like that one?
I suggest you go back to school and learn proper writing.
Wait there's another story like that?!
I've reached a point in my life where i live by "eye for an eye" logic. If you feel what you did to me is 100% reasonable, expect the same.
The mother said "you are not the victim"
Then who is? Who was cheated on? Who's mother broke her family? Who was backstabber by their mother and husband?
My temper would EXPLODE
She really thought she was the victim. These people have all the audacity to act like they're being slighted when they start facing consequences for their actions.
Trust me, its better to raise a child without a father than with a cheater and homewrecker piece or c.rp.
Also, mother lives in her own world. What did she think would happen? Shell marry the husband and be a loving grandmother/step mother to the kid whose mother she betrayed? Lmao. How delusional can one be?!
What Lucy did was way out of line. The wedding is supposed to be about the bride and groom. I had three family members at my wedding who had infants with then. not one of them made an announcement of the birth at my wedding. I was introduced to my youngest niece at the reception. The wedding photographer got a picture of me holding the baby. Meeting my baby niece for the first time, getting to hold her for the first time made my special day even more special.
NTA. They both did wrong. The baby is hers and your ex. And get a lawyer. You paid her to have their child not yours.
Take hubby and the skank to court. Go for every penny possible. Once court is done, put the word out to everyone. Their work, friends, family, neighbors all should know about their baby. How they got their baby.
“YOUR SON”? That isn’t op’s son. It’s her cheating ex and former best friend’s child
Why do you love them? They sure don't love you. Nta. Go, no contact. Your sister is tacky and self-centered.. It wasn't here big moment, it was yours.
Self-centred on her own wedding? interesting
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So here we are. Mom isn't the bio mom, and she's walking away. I don't want to hear anyone shame a man who does the same after this. 😂
I guarantee you if OP did the same to Lucy, all Hell would’ve broke loose
That last story, I don't blame OP for walking away from the kid that was only conceived by the husband having an affair with her ex-friend. Her parents are also an AH
Let them say what they want...of course don't let your emotions bottle up, people will say ugly things because it didn't happen to them
Story 2. The ICK is strong with this one. JFC. THE MOM? 😮
Lucy deserves a black eye
No not a black eye. A stillbirth.
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@@agentscuzz7637man I hate her but not to where I wish ill to the unborn
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its hurting me that hes cutting thw bamboo with an axe
OP should have kicked her out because she was told not to do it and charge her for it.
Story 2: Jesus. They can cry crocodile tears all they want. Don’t feel bad for cheaters. They made their choice and can live with it.
S3: NTA, the kid is two, so this is the best time for her to leave, just like anyone else. At first the kid will be upset but they will slowly edge OP out of their memories. The bio mom and dad will expect OP to take the kid if she keeps her parental rights so they can fck off into the sunset. It's best if she drops everyone to do with this situation.
the child not yours its his and other womens she has right to e parentul rights back to father real mother other can back off
Shockingly did find this one on reddit. WOW, that's rare. Op's account has been suspended.
1st story: Sounds to me like OP is left with the options to either walk out of the family or be pushed out. They aren't going to change, how could they as they refuse to see how they messed up? Drop them, tell others why and move on to live your best life. Karma will get them eventually.
2nd story: Out them - to stbx parents and family, to your own family, to friends and others, end it with "as a last sign of respect, I'll allow them what their hearts want, free and in the open, but I'm out because that's what my heart wants. Whatever comes next is on them" and sign off. Your kid won't be without parental figures and will be instilled sound values, just be far away from those who don't know love from abuse, care for blatant disrespect and emotional harm.
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S1: OP still isn't at the stage of realizing that she could be the best person in the world but their golden child is the only one that matters to them. It will take time, but hopefully OP sees how much her husband and family on her side care about her and cut out everyone else. And I kinda disagree with taking legal action. OP will just get harassed, likely have her name blasted on social media, and just create more problems for her.
S2: I'm surprised no one was calling her "bitter" for leaving and telling her to stay for the baby. I read another reddit story where the husband cheated with a barely 18 year old (he was 30+) and people were calling her an ahole for keeping their child away since the guy could apparently still be a good father. But children can tell when you hate their father or mother and are better off with one loving parent than a dysfunctional family keeping itself together for that false narrative that two parent households are always better than being a single parent (sometimes, but only with two loving parents).
S3: Plenty of fathers walk away from their biological kids, usually for no reason. Why should OP raise a child that isn't even hers, especially the product of an affair?
story 1: if i was the husband, i'd be very pissed and say shit to that in-laws....
excuss you father it her big day not the sister quit entitle the brat
Story 1
No Sympathy for Doormats 🙄, if I was the Husband I would be thinking of divorce already...
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Story #1 - I have a different take on this.
Traditionally, the Wedding Ceremony is about the bride and groom.
The Reception however IS NOT. It's about the two families being joined by their marriage, an opportunity for them to get to know each other. At least traditionally, the reception would have been considered an appropriate place for such an announcement, and many others of that nature. This "My Day" shit is obnoxious. The reception is about your family, not you. That is it's entire function.
It's literally called a "reception". And what are you "receiving" at the reception (if anyone says "gifts", I swear to God, I'll slap the shit out of them, lol). You are receiving family for the first time as a newly married couple. When receiving guests, they are the focus, not the host. The intent of the tradition is built into the name, you'd have to be functionally illiterate not to pick up on that, lol.
That being said, the sister didn't spend thousands of dollars on this event, it needs to be cleared with the bride and groom. It wasn't. They expressly said "No", and that is to be honored. So I'm on OP's side in principle, but she was being a bit dramatic. A person can be in the right and still over-react.
I'm on OP's side, but damn... pick your battles. The whole "My Day" perspective is relatively new, is a complete reversal of the tradition, undermines the entire purpose of the reception, and just comes off as petty and entitled. You are hosting to the party you paid for, and have control to that extent, but you do not hold agency over every else's attention just because you put out some food and picked a DJ. Your moment was the ceremony. Even if you are upset (and you are entitled to your feelings), handle it with a little grace and dignity, don't walk-off teary-eyed and harboring a grudge over some ill-timed, but otherwise happy news.
The commentors here are unhinged.
• Go No-Contact with your family (that's proportionate, lol)
• Take her to court (You'd be laughed out of court by a judge, that's not an actionable cause, you'd get stuck with court costs and get a very stern talking-to by an extremely annoyed judge)
I'm just fed up with brides who think they alone must be the sole point of attention. That misses the point entirely and calls into question why they are even marrying in the first place. Is this even a valid union that deserves respect, or did you just want a big fancy party and attention? It's not about the bride and groom, it's about their vows and their families coming together. The sister was out of line, but that only ruins the day if you let it.
Story 1 : story is fake because any wise person would go completely nc with such family.
Story 3: who can a women can walk away from child support but men can't
Story 1: you haven't listened to enough of these stories haven't you.
Idk about that you’d be surprised on how many people have low self esteem
i would’ve gone no contact immediately.
Ruining her moment the wedding is supposed to be the bride’s and groom’s ceremony and big day isn’t she allowed to have her own day and it Lucy should know about selfish she’s being selfish and yeah op should charge her for the announcement party
Also op should hold a grudge once they realized she’s not there for their abuse they’ll tear each other apart and I’m willing to bet this family had rifts before
Story 2 oh my god what the hell is about mothers stealing their daughters husbands Im mean there was that disgusting story with the mother and husband carrying on the affair for like decades and some of her kids are actually half brothers if this op hadn’t found the evidence would this had been another story like that one?