In Israel when there was an outbreak of assaults against women, a minister in the cabinet suggested a curfew to keep women in after dark. "But it's the men who are attacking the women," Golda Meir retorted . "If there's to be a curfew, let the men stay at home, not the women,"
It’s obv your prerogative but there’s no shame in covering. Sadhguru a v holy guru even explains elevation by head covering. Golda Meir Zichron L’Vracha did empower women. But just remember; why are diamonds, pearls and such jewels kept behind glass? Because they are precious; as we are in Gd’s eyes. Once I had my white headscarf on built up with a pouf underneath with a navy blue and white dress, makeup on point. This 50 some year old Caucasian blue collar guy could not keep his eyes off me. His mouth dropped when he saw me. He was memorized by my beauty. He even said so. I honestly believe it was the headscarf that made me look and feel regal. Nothing but love and light soul sista! You are really pretty btw 😊
All 3 religions - Judaism, Christianity, Islam asks women to cover heads and men to lower their gaze. While women obey, most men never lower their lustful graze.
Chana from Jar of Fireflies is an ortodox Jewish woman, she has stated that she sometimes wears a wig to avoid anti-semitism. She usually chooses to just wear a different type of head covering. I love learnjng from the both of you. Your faith journey is very personal both you and Chana should both continue to live your faith as you both see fit. Your journey is your own and I am very happy to learn from you both.
The most frequent question I got from family and friends during my conversion process was whether or not I was going to wear a wig after getting married. It's interesting because my loved ones KNOW Jewish people (or at least Jewish celebrities), and none of them wear sheitels...so why were they assuming that I would take on this practice? lol It was a strange dance of me explaining the practice, explaining why I would not be covering my hair (as a Reform Jew), but also emphasizing that Orthodox women should not be stigmatized or criticized for their cultural practice.
Thank you for this video, Marian. I am not Jewish but follow several Jewish channels, mostly to learn and watch the amazing cooking that goes on. And I agree with you...these men that can't control themselves after seeing a woman's real hair should probably stay home. 😜
Lol yes we need to stop asking women to change their behavior because of what a men might do and start demanding men stop acting inappropriately in the first place!
As a long time subscriber to your channel, I watch for I information, recipes, latest trends, inspiration, and of course .........sharing the fun times. But watching this video it dawned on me. I could feel the Honesty. That makes it all work ! Thank you. ⚘️
Hi thank you for explaining so well, I was really confused about the head covering. Love your vlogs, smart but down to earth with chic and class and your lovely family, so natural. 💝
I grew up as a Mennonite and we have similar issues with the head covering and depending on which group you belong to ,that determines the type of veil or covering a woman wears !
Great vid. I went on a trip to Egypt in the mid 90’s. It dawned on me how the desert sand was so brutal. I wore a head scarf to keep the sand out of my hair. It totally ruined my new sunglasses-the sand grazed the lenses so bad ,had to throw them away. When exploring the museums, I noted that gold jewelry was afforded by the upper class. So were head coverings a way to determine marital status before wedding rings were available to the masses in biblical times.
Thank you, Marion, for this interesting and informative segment about hair covering teachings and practices, and how they can differ among the various branches of Judaism.
I love your videos, thank you so much Marian! I would be really interested to hear your perspective on navigating dating and relationships with different levels of Jewish observance. Thank you again for all that you do!
Thank you for sharing. Always love your content. So many rules in so many religions across the world. Main thing is that we all respect each others choices. Oh and I love your hair just as it is ❤ 😊 .
Thank you for your interesting video. I am a Roman Catholic, and I can remember in the 60s having to wear either a hat, scarf or mantilla when attending mass, and we always put on our „best“ clothes too. Women‘s hair was considered her crowning glory and needed to be covered during religious ceremonies. This is no longer a requirement and is optional.
Yes :) I'm a Catholic, too, and I love learning more about my Jewish sisters and brothers. :) I choose the cover my hair during Mass, so I love learning about the ways that women from other faith traditions/cultures their hair.
Marion, your hair is beautiful. Embrace the grays... I always say that my hair has some extra "sparkle" to it lol. Regarding your comments about separate seating in the synagogue, Rabbi Manis Friedman has some interesting remarks about this in his book "Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore". He has a unique perspective on the reasoning for the separations in chapter 15.
Your explanation was very respectful 🙏. Have you looked into the spiritual and kabbalistic benefits of Jewish hair covering? Would love to see a video on the more spiritual reasons behind it.
Thank you for the video. I found it very interesting and informative. I am an athiest, but do not judge the religious beliefs of others unless they are restrictive and abusive. This is the first of your videos that I have watched, and I appreciated the way the information was presented. You are articulate, honest, do not wave your hands in front of your face I a distracting manner (that makes me crazy!), and have a very logical and humorous approach. Your explanations are well thought out and cover the questions that, I think, most non-Jews have. Thank you! I will be watching more of your videos.
You always explain things so well! Thank you for your content! Also, what is the paint color behind you? I am helping my in-laws re-do their new home and I think that might be perfect!
I remember being about 6 years old and discovering my mam's old wig from the 60s. I thought it was an animal and was terrified! My mother was raised Conservative and it was more societal norm to wear sheitel and tichel in Europe until 90s/00s in some communities. I started mainstream school in the West in 1980s and my family dressed so differently to others, I remember being very self-conscious. I look back now and admire my parents for not compromising their values and sense of identity - although I acknowledge it is a difficult decision and anyone who made a different choice still kept their own values in a way that was right for them.
Hi Marion Thank you for the explanation very informative I grew Catholic and I remember looking pictures when my mom was younger while in the church they used to wear head covering while in the church now Days nobody does.Thank you for teaching us now that a lot of Christians want to start following the Torah as everybody should. Shalom❤
Many women do choose to cover their heads, especially in the Traditional Latin Mass communities. I’ve been veiling for at least the past 2 years! It’s a beautiful devotion that is making a return
Thank you for sharing this interesting information! Could you possibly make another video specifically about the differences between the conservative and the orthodox Jewish community? Which aspects exactly are distinct in these two groups (as far as their beliefs, rituals, and just everyday life are concerned)? This would be really great! Regards, Anna
Love your explanation, thank you. I'm not Jewish, but our daughter converted and covers her hair, so I'm learning to understand. She said it's "not about men being tempted, but about keeping your best for his eyes only." This was to answer my query that if an unmarried woman looks pretty with their natural hair and then as soon as they marry, has to hide it, does it not encourage her husband to look at unmarried women, if hair is so tempting? What you say makes so much sense. Thank heaven for conservative and reformed teaching.
Omgoodness! I LOVE your approach to this subject and how real you are! It is refreshing to see your faith mixed with the reality of the world. As a lifelong Christian with very little knowledge of Judaism, I have wondered this many times! You are well spoken and easy to listen to! Thank you for this… it’s fascinating! 💕💕💕
Hi Marian! I always enjoy coming across your videos. I was raised conservative and became observant in the last 4 years. One thing that I appreciate about hair covering that wasn't mentioned are the immense blessings in many areas of life that are said by our sages and in Kabbalah to be stimulated when a woman covers her hair. It is considered a "segulah" for receiving Hashem's blessings. Wishing you all the blessings, and hope you are doing alright with all that's been going on these days. Sending love. 💕
I'm just gonna send people this video if they ask about hair covering/modesty! I grew up secular Jewish and am spiritual, and I just do what feels right for me. It's a balance of Sephardic Jewish tradition and contemporary secular values. I love that we get to contiuously interpret sacred texts and laws and apply them to contemporary ways of life. That feels very Jewish to me, and I feel like the religious aspect, Judaism, is very much defined by our relationship (or lack there of) as a people to the divine. While I respect everyone's interpretation of how to be Jewish as valid, I very much align with your point of view. Thank you for sharing it! 💕🌻💕
Due to being a 2+hrs drive to any Jewish community I looked into wrapping. Was concerned that doing so as a single woman wouldn't be appropriate. I also work in a uniform and in the woods, and it is away to do something feminine for myself that could be an issue. While researching, have found that it isn't required, but single women can wrap. There even some who wrap because they are taking something of themselves out of public and for themselves. Have found it does help with connecting Judiasm and an aspect of femininity that I can do without an issue with the job. Other side effect is I'm not fussing and aggravated with my own hair. Wavey hair in high humidity takes on its own life. Nevermind the heat as well. Only real issue I've thus far is putting a wrap on with an energetic cat determined to catch the scarf. As too the embarrassment of loose her on women in history. Loose hair in public was deemed being a loose woman with the man. Likely why the covering had been removed when their decision was made.
Also a lot of ancient jewish culture was influenced by ancient greek culture, especially with the large amount of hellenistic greeks that converted to judaism, and back then in hellenistic religious practice, women who were selected to serve goddesses, had to bind and cover their hair, so hair was tied or intricately braided, and then covered with scarves and topped with decorative clips and jewely, and average women did a simple version of this too, it was a way to show humility and purity and devotion. That probably influenced how the jewish community felt about hair. Modern hellenistic pagans braid and wrap their hair in a way similar to jewish women today which I find really interesting! And its interesting how many other cultures had the same idea about hair. Like in most of korean history, having loose hair for men and women was a sign of being messy and promiscuous, unamarried women wore a braid, which was then placed into a bun with a special pin after marriage, and men also braided and then bunned their hair, and loosening the hair in front of someone was a sign of intimacy.
Lookong for the recipe for the salad dressing chicken but can't find it, can you help please. I love learning about your life and Jewish culture. I plan on making Challa!
Hallo, I'm new to this channel, but I'm happy to find the discussions you guys are having here. I'm a Christian and I have recently come to discover that we are required to keep all the laws given by God to Moses and keep the feasts and sabbath too. I have an issue to contend with concerning head covering though. In 1Cor 11, we read that head coverings in the synagogue is a requirement for women for the sake of Angels(not sure what this means). But that that's the tradition of the churches of God. What are your thoughts? Should we change because people have stopped observing the same?
During my studies of catholic theology (somewhat 25 years ago) I read the book "Standing again at Sinai" by Judith Plaskow where she refers to the "men are distracted by women"-argument. I then thought, why should that be the problem for the women if the men can't control themselves? I'm somewhat grateful that you mention that too 😊. I also never understood why you would cover something with the same thing (although I - somehow - understand and - totally - respect the covering of the head out of traditional or religious reasons). I like the fact that some jewish women are wearing some sort of kippah or even talit while praying.
While my values align closely to the Orthodox in some ways I think lately I am more and more leaning more towards the Conservative, as I am not a fan of the Orah Torah adding rules that aren't explicitly commanded in the Torah. This is one of them. How is a wig that's prettier than your own hair constitute modesty? Thank you for this research! I learn so much from you! Might need to look for a Conservative synagogue near me. :)
The reason a Jewish married woman covers her hair is because a spiritual change takes place. Her hair becomes "ervah" which is Hebrew for nakedness. In other words, she is now obligated to cover that part of her body too. It is not meant to make her less attractive and it is not a sign to other men to not approach her. If a man wants to meet someone he has to go to a matchmaker. He can't just approach a woman at a party or gathering without knowing her status and getting permission. This mitzvah is a mitzvah that goes along with the other mitzvahs of dressing properly in public. A Jewish woman is supposed to look nice and attractive, just not provocative. It's a mitzvah, not a custom. Society also has norms. Men who work in an office in New York City wear a suit and tie even if it's 90 degrees outside. It's their uniform. Some people dress a certain way for business, other people for religious reasons.
i was very curious to know if your were conservative etc...i felt like you were because our lives seem extremely similar where i have relatives who are orthodox and we have major differences. Thanks for this video, im sure many wanted to know about how we all roll...lol...i find that your site, jar of fireflies , and sonyas prep are the only sites i follow and think you are all so fabulous!
Thank you. This practice is probably more historic than religious. Sisters and nuns wore veils for this reason. The hijab or burka probably also comes from this tradition. Covering hair was also a way to keep it clean. However, when a tradition becomes law (read: prescribed by men for women), and breaking that law results in harm, injury or alienation, I have issues.
Thanks! Very informative. I also watched two other Jewish mommies. They both cover their hair. one does a wrap all the time. The other uses a wig and a covering at different times. could you please explain aspect of ritual bathing. I love the whole spiritual oneness a women shares with God.
Hi! Our family is considering converting to Judaism. This is off topic, but in conservative Judaism, is the practice to live within walking distance of the synagogue?
Noob question. Why was there a huge cultural gap between the time of the Rabbi's intepreting the text and the time of the judge who unbraided the hair?
I actually love covering my hair, like the tzitztzit for men, my wrap reminds me of my obedience and love for Abba and His commandments and the Covenant I am in with Him. I don’t expect anyone else to cover, I believe it’s a heart issue. It’s like what a wife would do for her husband - it’s between them. Thank you for sharing and I hope my input is also helpful and encouraging. In regards to men or women controlling themselves, Torah does tell us to not cause one another to stumble. If we know a certain dress or style will cause someone to stumble, then we are held accountable for that - we must help one another out. Yes, we each have to control and discipline ourselves, but we also must be humble enough to be compassionate for our fellow man around us. Shalom and blessings.
Thank you, for sharing this. I am learning myself and I keep hearing everyone say it is for modesty but I thought the bigger reason was to show your submission to ABBA as well as you husband.
My hair is thin, fine, poker straight, long, honey blonde, and oily. It probably costs me more for upkeep than a wig would. My mother had red, thick, curly, coarse, varying lengths in the medium range, dry hair in her youth. Hair envy: hers was gorgeous and manageable. Modesty is in how we present ourselves. You would not be able to play with your hair as much as you do if it were a fall or a wig. Probably you would undo whatever prep had been done. By the time I am done thinking of how easy it might be, I may go out and buy a wig.
I think you are a beautiful example of let your light SHINE. I have tried a wig but it slid off in a restaurant so I tried a sheitel GUESS WHAT yep it keeps falling off. So I wear sheitel on SHABBAT sometimes but not all the time. I am not married anymore and not looking.i do wish I could wear a sheitel and it would stay on, lol Thank you for addressing this I have often wondered what your thoughts were.
There are many tricks to keep it on. The hair has to be tucked in and covered with a wig cap. Then look up velvet headbands and other tools used to keep them in place. Hope this helps.
I make wigs out of Israel and am a hair and wig expert.. you should add more clips (not the hair comb clips) to your wig in the right places, on the sides in the front -that way it’ll be more comfortable, and will not slide off.
As I've aged my scalp has become sensitive to it feeling pulled. I will wear a hat to shade my eyes but after a while need to remove it. Tying back the hair of my crown to keep it out of my face is a problem now also. A wig or tight head covering I see would not work for me. I'm not married so perhaps not a problem. I'm a senior of 70. Anyone else have a sensitive scalp?
I do. I have MS w nerve damage and chronic migraines. I’d never be able to do this. I’m also very heat sensitive. I’m so scalp sensitive that I’ve cut my hair very short now, which has been a great relief!
Please look into this topic on a historical level. Where does the hair for wigs come from? Many years ago synthetic wigs were not an option. There is so much more to this topic. You have just touched a very surface value.
I'm a nonbinary woman so while I take on some traditionally female mitzvot, I also take on the mitzvah of wearing a head covering everywhere I go. I wear a kippah or some kind of hat, like a jewish man traditionally would. Maybe if I ever get married, G-d willing, I might try tichels but I'm most comfortable in a hat. In my community it isn't unusual to take on more "orthodox" mitzvot. Theres actually a modern jewish feminist movement of young unmarried women wearing tichels as a feminine way to take on the male mitzvah of wearing a head covering everywhere. They usually don't wear them in jewish spaces though, lest someone mistake them for being married. It's also important to note that conservative/reform does not equal automatically no coverings, lots of reform and conservative women wear tichels. There are a couple women at my shul that do. And the head covering depends by community location/origin, jewish women from some west asian countries wear a hijab, while european jews tend to use a tichel or hat. And a lot of women who wear kippot to shul, usually only wear it for prayer to respect G-d, not 24/7.
I don't really see any grey, so I won't worry about. I am Reform. I can't see being Orthodox as one, no man is worth wearing a wig over to me. Second, I am a physical therapist, I can't see wearing a skirt or dress all day. We get into some very weird positions to stretch people or be close to the mat table. I couldn't cross my legs all the time.
if you're an orthodox woman in the police or military or a medical professional and need to wear pants to do your job, then there is no problem wearing pants.
I have been watching another YT channel by a Jewish woman. She wears a head covering all the time. Although she seems to find joy in the spiritual side of things, what I am noticing most is that there seems to be more of an emphasis on the letter of the Law rather than the spirit of the Law which as you point out, isn't always based on Scripture, but human interpretation. In the time of the early Israelites, they spent much of their time in the desert. Correct me if I am wrong. Given those conditions, it was quite practical to be wearing a head covering in day-to-day life. Even in Medieval times, women would wear head coverings of some sort. Subscibing
As a clarification, covering the hair is not a tradition, rather a halacha-Jewish law, that all Jewish married women are obligated to observe. I am aware that many of our fellow conservative and reform Jewish brothers and sisters feel and believe that a Jew should only oberve whatever is explicitly written in the Torah and often change around rules and traditions that they feel do not apply to "modern" times, and that the Oral Law is not applicable since it was "made up" by man. However, there is a very important concept in our holy Torah that states that not even a single word in our Torah may be changed and that all rules, laws, and traditions are significant for ALL Jews during all periods of history. This concept also includes the significance of abiding by the Oral Law as well, as it was not simply made up by simple men, but composed by holy, learned and great men, under Gd's direction. We are not free to interpret and change concepts and laws as we see fit and whatever is convenient for us. The Torah also states that as Jews, we are obligated to abide by both the Written and Oral Law. ❤
I see what you're saying but Conservative Judaism doesn't believe Oral Torah isn't law, only that it should continue to evolve and change as it always has (before it was codified and formally written and afterwards). Just as an Orthodox Jew today will often consult their Rav for clarification, Conservative Jews do the same.
I absolutely agree, TheNoah321. Covering the hair is not optional for married women, except when they are covered by the roofs of their respective homes and no unrelated males are present. If, somehow, HaShem blesses me with a husband, I look forward to covering my hair. ❤️
How about SHAVING your head? You’d do that? No? Well, Why not. The rabbis say do it. Also, do you show your underwear to your rabbi? Yes? I’m Jewish, but not a moron.
I'm learning about reform Judaism. It appears that reform and conservative congregations deny the authenticity of the oral Torah given to Moses as the written Torah was also given to Moses on har Sinai? I was at a speech given by a reform Jew once and he tried to convince the audience there was no God. I'm confused because if reform believes Moses gave the written Torah and accept it, why not the oral Torah that was given to him? How do you trust Moses and the truth of the Torah at all? Is there is no real belief in God - maybe many just like the cultural aspect of Judaism, the holidays, etc.? There are many Jews that profess to be atheist. Also, do you do research beyond what the rabbis tell you is correct? Do you look outside the box on your own in Jewish matters or only listen to conclusions from conservative and reform? I know it's sounds progressive, but I'm a religious Jew and am always searching for the truth everywhere I go. I will never stop seeking the truth. Thank you.
I dont think that's how Conservative and Reform Jews would explain it. Both the Torah and Oral Torah are important but both have always been studied and interpreted. Long before these movements existed rabbis have always disagreed about what things mean.
HaRav Ovadya Yosef tz"l, gadol hador, established that Jewish women cover their hair with hats or scarves, and not wigs. King David sang in Psalm 45 about the daughter of the King is "within", i.e. not flaunted. Just as men cover their head to always be reminded of the One Above, so too women should cover their heads in modesty and respect of the One Above. It is a wondrous mitzva to keep, to be reminded we are indeed daughters of the King. Shana Tova!!!
Most women that cover their hair with wig is to blend in... Especially the women that don't live in Israel. In Israel most eone cover their hair in many different ways mostly with a kind of scarf and it's very fashionable and cool. Men also cover their hair with a kipa or a hat of any kind. As for men and women sitting together they found that in high school when boys and girls sit in diffrent classes the actual do better academicly because it's easier to concentrate, there for it would be easier to concentrate to pray when men and women are apart and I feel that I would like to be in a place like that when I want yo talk to God....
You probably already know this, but the Christian scriptures specifically recommend that women cover their hair (1 Cor. 11). Most believe it to be merely a cultural practice of the time that is no longer binding however. I once heard a pastor compare it to wearing an engagement ring today. Other groups continue to cover hair during services, as was the expectation for Roman Catholic women before the ‘60s, or during daily life, like the Amish.
Hey I agree. The only thing that is unique and that I like most about myself is my hair and eye color. They’re both very unusual in color and hair in texture. In my younger years I do not think I “tempted” any man with my hair. I feel like God gave me this unique hair to share his creation with the world. It’s like covering a flower or a beautiful animal. I’m not Jewish btw. Marion your hair looks nice and healthy. Just keep it the way it is. I love those little boys and think they’re absolutely adorable.
In Israel when there was an outbreak of assaults against women, a minister in the cabinet suggested a curfew to keep women in after dark. "But it's the men who are attacking the women," Golda Meir retorted . "If there's to be a curfew, let the men stay at home, not the women,"
Agreed . this is a problem everywhere.
The problem is: If the men were docile enough to obey a law requiring them to stay home, they wouldn't be attacking women.
It’s obv your prerogative but there’s no shame in covering. Sadhguru a v holy guru even explains elevation by head covering. Golda Meir Zichron L’Vracha did empower women. But just remember; why are diamonds, pearls and such jewels kept behind glass? Because they are precious; as we are in Gd’s eyes. Once I had my white headscarf on built up with a pouf underneath with a navy blue and white dress, makeup on point. This 50 some year old Caucasian blue collar guy could not keep his eyes off me. His mouth dropped when he saw me. He was memorized by my beauty. He even said so. I honestly believe it was the headscarf that made me look and feel regal.
Nothing but love and light soul sista! You are really pretty btw 😊
All 3 religions - Judaism, Christianity, Islam asks women to cover heads and men to lower their gaze. While women obey, most men never lower their lustful graze.
@@arifmaghribi Christianity doesn't ask women to cover their heads.
Chana from Jar of Fireflies is an ortodox Jewish woman, she has stated that she sometimes wears a wig to avoid anti-semitism. She usually chooses to just wear a different type of head covering. I love learnjng from the both of you. Your faith journey is very personal both you and Chana should both continue to live your faith as you both see fit. Your journey is your own and I am very happy to learn from you both.
Hard to imagine having to deal with anti- semitism, because you are Jewish.
I love her videos. Many women who follow the Noahide faith cover their hair too.
definitely agree with you. Love the both of them
Antisemitism is just another word for hatred
Shavua Tov ✡️
The most frequent question I got from family and friends during my conversion process was whether or not I was going to wear a wig after getting married. It's interesting because my loved ones KNOW Jewish people (or at least Jewish celebrities), and none of them wear sheitels...so why were they assuming that I would take on this practice? lol It was a strange dance of me explaining the practice, explaining why I would not be covering my hair (as a Reform Jew), but also emphasizing that Orthodox women should not be stigmatized or criticized for their cultural practice.
So interesting!! Thanks for sharing that!
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@@Eyawork I hope that you are wrong, but I fear that you are correct. ❤️
@@MyJewishMommyLife it's your choice,I know that jewish from UK and French will comevin the close future as he said
Not sure I would answer that question at all. Don't like what is or isn't on my head is none of anyone else's concern .
Thank you for this video, Marian. I am not Jewish but follow several Jewish channels, mostly to learn and watch the amazing cooking that goes on. And I agree with you...these men that can't control themselves after seeing a woman's real hair should probably stay home. 😜
Lol yes we need to stop asking women to change their behavior because of what a men might do and start demanding men stop acting inappropriately in the first place!
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As a long time subscriber to your channel, I watch for I information, recipes, latest trends, inspiration, and of course .........sharing the fun times.
But watching this video it dawned on me.
I could feel the Honesty. That makes it all work ! Thank you. ⚘️
Aww I appreciate that!
Hi thank you for explaining so well, I was really confused about the head covering. Love your vlogs, smart but down to earth with chic and class and your lovely family, so natural. 💝
I grew up as a Mennonite and we have similar issues with the head covering and depending on which group you belong to ,that determines the type of veil or covering a woman wears !
Interesting
I love watching your videos! You remind me so much of my best friend in real life :)
Thank you for such a thorough explanation! This is very informative!
"He should stay home". !! how I laughed. As always, excellent explanation, thank-you Marion.
Always great content, you are amazing!
Such a great and clear video 😄
Especially for me the part of why it's aloud to wear a wig that looks even better than real hair 😉
Thank you 😊
Glad it was helpful!
Great vid. I went on a trip to Egypt in the mid 90’s. It dawned on me how the desert sand was so brutal. I wore a head scarf to keep the sand out of my hair. It totally ruined my new sunglasses-the sand grazed the lenses so bad ,had to throw them away. When exploring the museums, I noted that gold jewelry was afforded by the upper class. So were head coverings a way to determine marital status before wedding rings were available to the masses in biblical times.
Another really interesting point thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much for sharing this information. Also, your hair is beautiful.
Thank you, Marion, for this interesting and informative segment about hair covering teachings and practices, and how they can differ among the various branches of Judaism.
You're so welcome!
I love your videos, thank you so much Marian! I would be really interested to hear your perspective on navigating dating and relationships with different levels of Jewish observance. Thank you again for all that you do!
Thank you for sharing. Always love your content. So many rules in so many religions across the world. Main thing is that we all respect each others choices. Oh and I love your hair just as it is ❤ 😊 .
Honestly, you are fabulous!🙌🏻👏🏻
I love your content. You are so smart & thoughtful. Thanks for the education ❤
Thank you for your interesting video. I am a Roman Catholic, and I can remember in the 60s having to wear either a hat, scarf or mantilla when attending mass, and we always put on our „best“ clothes too. Women‘s hair was considered her crowning glory and needed to be covered during religious ceremonies. This is no longer a requirement and is optional.
I worked at a catholic nursing home and loved how the little old ladies would still tie a scarf over their hair before going to chapel.
@@alladreamwedreamed I arttend Latin mass once in a while just so I can wear a mantilla. I find it reverend.
Women are still required to cover their hair at the Latin holy Sacrifice of the Mass.
Yes :) I'm a Catholic, too, and I love learning more about my Jewish sisters and brothers. :) I choose the cover my hair during Mass, so I love learning about the ways that women from other faith traditions/cultures their hair.
In the Norvus Ordo they stopped. In the true Traditional Catholic faith, this has never stopped. I cover my hair.
I've wondered about this too. You gave a really solid explanation.
Thank you!
Marion, your hair is beautiful. Embrace the grays... I always say that my hair has some extra "sparkle" to it lol. Regarding your comments about separate seating in the synagogue, Rabbi Manis Friedman has some interesting remarks about this in his book "Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore". He has a unique perspective on the reasoning for the separations in chapter 15.
Thank you for sharing that!!
This was so much fun! Thank you. I have an Orthodox Jewish friend and admit I probably can be pretty taxing with all my questions.
Your explanation was very respectful 🙏. Have you looked into the spiritual and kabbalistic benefits of Jewish hair covering? Would love to see a video on the more spiritual reasons behind it.
You are so adorable. Thank you for explaining this.
Glad it was helpful!
Thank you for the video. I found it very interesting and informative. I am an athiest, but do not judge the religious beliefs of others unless they are restrictive and abusive. This is the first of your videos that I have watched, and I appreciated the way the information was presented. You are articulate, honest, do not wave your hands in front of your face I a distracting manner (that makes me crazy!), and have a very logical and humorous approach. Your explanations are well thought out and cover the questions that, I think, most non-Jews have. Thank you! I will be watching more of your videos.
Good morning 🌞 thank you for your video I was curious of why some cover their hair and some don't. Have a great day
You're welcome!
You always explain things so well! Thank you for your content! Also, what is the paint color behind you? I am helping my in-laws re-do their new home and I think that might be perfect!
I remember being about 6 years old and discovering my mam's old wig from the 60s. I thought it was an animal and was terrified!
My mother was raised Conservative and it was more societal norm to wear sheitel and tichel in Europe until 90s/00s in some communities.
I started mainstream school in the West in 1980s and my family dressed so differently to others, I remember being very self-conscious. I look back now and admire my parents for not compromising their values and sense of identity - although I acknowledge it is a difficult decision and anyone who made a different choice still kept their own values in a way that was right for them.
Wow very powerful memory!!
Your hair is beautiful!!!
Thank you 🙏 Your video was lovely, and your hair is beautiful 💖💖💖 Greetings from Costa Rica 🌞🌞🌞
Hi Marion Thank you for the explanation very informative
I grew Catholic and I remember looking pictures when my mom was younger while in the church they used to wear head covering while in the church now Days nobody does.Thank you for teaching us now that a lot of Christians want to start following the Torah as everybody should.
Shalom❤
Many women do choose to cover their heads, especially in the Traditional Latin Mass communities. I’ve been veiling for at least the past 2 years! It’s a beautiful devotion that is making a return
Thank you for sharing this interesting information!
Could you possibly make another video specifically about the differences between the conservative and the orthodox Jewish community? Which aspects exactly are distinct in these two groups (as far as their beliefs, rituals, and just everyday life are concerned)?
This would be really great!
Regards,
Anna
Love this!
Love your explanation, thank you.
I'm not Jewish, but our daughter converted and covers her hair, so I'm learning to understand. She said it's "not about men being tempted, but about keeping your best for his eyes only." This was to answer my query that if an unmarried woman looks pretty with their natural hair and then as soon as they marry, has to hide it, does it not encourage her husband to look at unmarried women, if hair is so tempting?
What you say makes so much sense.
Thank heaven for conservative and reformed teaching.
Omgoodness! I LOVE your approach to this subject and how real you are! It is refreshing to see your faith mixed with the reality of the world. As a lifelong Christian with very little knowledge of Judaism, I have wondered this many times! You are well spoken and easy to listen to! Thank you for this… it’s fascinating! 💕💕💕
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I appreciate that so much, thank you!
Do you not accept the Pauline epistles, Chely? He was quite clear on the topic, even if women choose to ignore him. ❤️
You nailed it very succinctly🙂
I absolutely agree.
Don't color your hair unless it's what you want to do. You are perfect just as you are.
Hi Marian! I always enjoy coming across your videos.
I was raised conservative and became observant in the last 4 years. One thing that I appreciate about hair covering that wasn't mentioned are the immense blessings in many areas of life that are said by our sages and in Kabbalah to be stimulated when a woman covers her hair. It is considered a "segulah" for receiving Hashem's blessings.
Wishing you all the blessings, and hope you are doing alright with all that's been going on these days. Sending love. 💕
I'm just gonna send people this video if they ask about hair covering/modesty! I grew up secular Jewish and am spiritual, and I just do what feels right for me. It's a balance of Sephardic Jewish tradition and contemporary secular values. I love that we get to contiuously interpret sacred texts and laws and apply them to contemporary ways of life. That feels very Jewish to me, and I feel like the religious aspect, Judaism, is very much defined by our relationship (or lack there of) as a people to the divine. While I respect everyone's interpretation of how to be Jewish as valid, I very much align with your point of view. Thank you for sharing it! 💕🌻💕
I'm so glad to know this one resonated, thanks so much!
An excellent informative vlog
Thank you for this sharing and teaching. I am Christian 🙏 and I am so thankful for your understanding. Blessings to you and your family.
So interesting. My cousin covers with a wig, and it is more “mainstream attractive” than her natural hair. This helped me understand
My mom never followed this mitzvah but my sister loves wearing tichels due to the variety of styles.
Great video! It does get confusing, especially on RUclips!
Thanks for the level of research you did on this one! Lol, "I'd get a nicer wig." I do have a wig for days I give up, but not for religious reasons.
You're very welcome! Thanks for watching!
Thanks 4that -it helps .hey is that yr new top ?!
Thank you for the explanation
Marion! You are delightful!😊
Love your style and application of your knowledge! Also love the hair 😜
Due to being a 2+hrs drive to any Jewish community I looked into wrapping. Was concerned that doing so as a single woman wouldn't be appropriate. I also work in a uniform and in the woods, and it is away to do something feminine for myself that could be an issue.
While researching, have found that it isn't required, but single women can wrap. There even some who wrap because they are taking something of themselves out of public and for themselves.
Have found it does help with connecting Judiasm and an aspect of femininity that I can do without an issue with the job.
Other side effect is I'm not fussing and aggravated with my own hair. Wavey hair in high humidity takes on its own life. Nevermind the heat as well. Only real issue I've thus far is putting a wrap on with an energetic cat determined to catch the scarf.
As too the embarrassment of loose her on women in history. Loose hair in public was deemed being a loose woman with the man. Likely why the covering had been removed when their decision was made.
Thanks for sharing your perspective!
Also a lot of ancient jewish culture was influenced by ancient greek culture, especially with the large amount of hellenistic greeks that converted to judaism, and back then in hellenistic religious practice, women who were selected to serve goddesses, had to bind and cover their hair, so hair was tied or intricately braided, and then covered with scarves and topped with decorative clips and jewely, and average women did a simple version of this too, it was a way to show humility and purity and devotion. That probably influenced how the jewish community felt about hair. Modern hellenistic pagans braid and wrap their hair in a way similar to jewish women today which I find really interesting!
And its interesting how many other cultures had the same idea about hair. Like in most of korean history, having loose hair for men and women was a sign of being messy and promiscuous, unamarried women wore a braid, which was then placed into a bun with a special pin after marriage, and men also braided and then bunned their hair, and loosening the hair in front of someone was a sign of intimacy.
You are adorable, and so informative!
Thanks for watching!
This is very interesting Marion. Do you use hair products, and if not, why not?
Not really lol! I just have never been that interested in it. I also have never used any face products, I've wanted to make a video about that too!
Lookong for the recipe for the salad dressing chicken but can't find it, can you help please. I love learning about your life and Jewish culture. I plan on making Challa!
Hallo, I'm new to this channel, but I'm happy to find the discussions you guys are having here. I'm a Christian and I have recently come to discover that we are required to keep all the laws given by God to Moses and keep the feasts and sabbath too. I have an issue to contend with concerning head covering though.
In 1Cor 11, we read that head coverings in the synagogue is a requirement for women for the sake of Angels(not sure what this means). But that that's the tradition of the churches of God. What are your thoughts? Should we change because people have stopped observing the same?
During my studies of catholic theology (somewhat 25 years ago) I read the book "Standing again at Sinai" by Judith Plaskow where she refers to the "men are distracted by women"-argument. I then thought, why should that be the problem for the women if the men can't control themselves? I'm somewhat grateful that you mention that too 😊. I also never understood why you would cover something with the same thing (although I - somehow - understand and - totally - respect the covering of the head out of traditional or religious reasons). I like the fact that some jewish women are wearing some sort of kippah or even talit while praying.
Women should be respectful of the biological weaknesses of males.
Thanks!
Thank you!!
Great job
While my values align closely to the Orthodox in some ways I think lately I am more and more leaning more towards the Conservative, as I am not a fan of the Orah Torah adding rules that aren't explicitly commanded in the Torah. This is one of them. How is a wig that's prettier than your own hair constitute modesty? Thank you for this research! I learn so much from you! Might need to look for a Conservative synagogue near me. :)
Definitely some worthwhile food for thought!
The reason a Jewish married woman covers her hair is because a spiritual change takes place. Her hair becomes "ervah" which is Hebrew for nakedness. In other words, she is now obligated to cover that part of her body too. It is not meant to make her less attractive and it is not a sign to other men to not approach her. If a man wants to meet someone he has to go to a matchmaker. He can't just approach a woman at a party or gathering without knowing her status and getting permission. This mitzvah is a mitzvah that goes along with the other mitzvahs of dressing properly in public. A Jewish woman is supposed to look nice and attractive, just not provocative. It's a mitzvah, not a custom. Society also has norms. Men who work in an office in New York City wear a suit and tie even if it's 90 degrees outside. It's their uniform. Some people dress a certain way for business, other people for religious reasons.
Thank you 🙏🏻❤️
i was very curious to know if your were conservative etc...i felt like you were because our lives seem extremely similar where i have relatives who are orthodox and we have major differences. Thanks for this video, im sure many wanted to know about how we all roll...lol...i find that your site, jar of fireflies , and sonyas prep are the only sites i follow and think you are all so fabulous!
Thank you. This practice is probably more historic than religious. Sisters and nuns wore veils for this reason. The hijab or burka probably also comes from this tradition. Covering hair was also a way to keep it clean. However, when a tradition becomes law (read: prescribed by men for women), and breaking that law results in harm, injury or alienation, I have issues.
Thanks! Very informative. I also watched two other Jewish mommies. They both cover their hair. one does a wrap all the time. The other uses a wig and a covering at different times. could you please explain aspect of ritual bathing. I love the whole spiritual oneness a women shares with God.
I have a few videos on Mikvah just search 'myjewishmommylife Mikvah' on youtube and it should come up!
I LOVE ALL OF YOUR CONTENT! Shavua Tov ✡️
I was raised orthodox Jewish in Sc I’ve been covering since 20 years old I’m 60 now. There was a a time of 12 years I was a widow but I still covered.
How do you feel about hair dye? Also do you think the chemicals can harm you?
Personally I haven't done it yet but maybe soon! Yes for pregnancy reasons I've avoided it for years.
Hi! Our family is considering converting to Judaism. This is off topic, but in conservative Judaism, is the practice to live within walking distance of the synagogue?
Nope, many Conservative Jewish families make an exception for driving to synagogue on Shabbat.
Given the turmoil in Iran over the HIJAB 🧕 this is very interesting 👍
Noob question. Why was there a huge cultural gap between the time of the Rabbi's intepreting the text and the time of the judge who unbraided the hair?
Many many generations difference, time I guess is the answer!
I actually love covering my hair, like the tzitztzit for men, my wrap reminds me of my obedience and love for Abba and His commandments and the Covenant I am in with Him. I don’t expect anyone else to cover, I believe it’s a heart issue. It’s like what a wife would do for her husband - it’s between them. Thank you for sharing and I hope my input is also helpful and encouraging.
In regards to men or women controlling themselves, Torah does tell us to not cause one another to stumble. If we know a certain dress or style will cause someone to stumble, then we are held accountable for that - we must help one another out. Yes, we each have to control and discipline ourselves, but we also must be humble enough to be compassionate for our fellow man around us.
Shalom and blessings.
Very true, thanks for sharing!
Thank you, for sharing this. I am learning myself and I keep hearing everyone say it is for modesty but I thought the bigger reason was to show your submission to ABBA as well as you husband.
I made salad dressing chicken a couple of days ago! Thank you for the recipe! We like it and I’ll be making it again.
Aww it's the best!!
Hello from Finland 🇫🇮
Hello!
I learned recently that some women shave their heads because of the mikvah and then we're a wig on top of that. Is this true?
Bravo, well said 👏 👍❤️😃😘
Thank you!
My hair is thin, fine, poker straight, long, honey blonde, and oily. It probably costs me more for upkeep than a wig would. My mother had red, thick, curly, coarse, varying lengths in the medium range, dry hair in her youth. Hair envy: hers was gorgeous and manageable. Modesty is in how we present ourselves. You would not be able to play with your hair as much as you do if it were a fall or a wig. Probably you would undo whatever prep had been done. By the time I am done thinking of how easy it might be, I may go out and buy a wig.
Lol yes hair envy is so common!
If you go the wig route find one you are very comfortable wearing for a long period of time. They tend to get hot and itchy. Best wishes
I think you are a beautiful example of let your light SHINE. I have tried a wig but it slid off in a restaurant so I tried a sheitel GUESS WHAT yep it keeps falling off. So I wear sheitel on SHABBAT sometimes but not all the time. I am not married anymore and not looking.i do wish I could wear a sheitel and it would stay on, lol
Thank you for addressing this I have often wondered what your thoughts were.
I appreciate that so much, thank you!
There are many tricks to keep it on. The hair has to be tucked in and covered with a wig cap. Then look up velvet headbands and other tools used to keep them in place. Hope this helps.
I make wigs out of Israel and am a hair and wig expert.. you should add more clips (not the hair comb clips) to your wig in the right places, on the sides in the front -that way it’ll be more comfortable, and will not slide off.
Oh, Polly, you sound like me. I'm Catholic, but my scarfs and chapel veils slide off, even if pinned. I wonder why???
What's your take on people that have Jewish father, but mother is not Jewish.
How can you get round government for passport photo requirements?
What is your view on women wearing talit or kipah ?
is kosher shampoo a thing?
As I've aged my scalp has become sensitive to it feeling pulled. I will wear a hat to shade my eyes but after a while need to remove it. Tying back the hair of my crown to keep it out of my face is a problem now also. A wig or tight head covering I see would not work for me. I'm not married so perhaps not a problem. I'm a senior of 70. Anyone else have a sensitive scalp?
I do. I have MS w nerve damage and chronic migraines. I’d never be able to do this. I’m also very heat sensitive. I’m so scalp sensitive that I’ve cut my hair very short now, which has been a great relief!
Please look into this topic on a historical level. Where does the hair for wigs come from? Many years ago synthetic wigs were not an option. There is so much more to this topic. You have just touched a very surface value.
MARION THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR EXPLAINING THIS YOUR HAIR LOOKS GOOD 👍 🥰🦋🦋🦋🌻🌻🌻🐝
You are so welcome, I'm glad you enjoyed this one!
Your hair nice .
You also missed it in Korach it is alluded to!
I'm a nonbinary woman so while I take on some traditionally female mitzvot, I also take on the mitzvah of wearing a head covering everywhere I go. I wear a kippah or some kind of hat, like a jewish man traditionally would. Maybe if I ever get married, G-d willing, I might try tichels but I'm most comfortable in a hat. In my community it isn't unusual to take on more "orthodox" mitzvot.
Theres actually a modern jewish feminist movement of young unmarried women wearing tichels as a feminine way to take on the male mitzvah of wearing a head covering everywhere. They usually don't wear them in jewish spaces though, lest someone mistake them for being married.
It's also important to note that conservative/reform does not equal automatically no coverings, lots of reform and conservative women wear tichels. There are a couple women at my shul that do. And the head covering depends by community location/origin, jewish women from some west asian countries wear a hijab, while european jews tend to use a tichel or hat. And a lot of women who wear kippot to shul, usually only wear it for prayer to respect G-d, not 24/7.
Jewish women don't have to wear a yarmulka. We have ours built in because our souls have it's source in a higher place (spiritually speaking).
I don't really see any grey, so I won't worry about. I am Reform. I can't see being Orthodox as one, no man is worth wearing a wig over to me. Second, I am a physical therapist, I can't see wearing a skirt or dress all day. We get into some very weird positions to stretch people or be close to the mat table. I couldn't cross my legs all the time.
Very true and thank you!
if you're an orthodox woman in the police or military or a medical professional and need to wear pants to do your job, then there is no problem wearing pants.
I see some women who there wigs just slightly askew as to show a pinch of hair. I don't if it's on wrong or if they are being rebelously stylish.
I have been watching another YT channel by a Jewish woman. She wears a head covering all the time. Although she seems to find joy in the spiritual side of things, what I am noticing most is that there seems to be more of an emphasis on the letter of the Law rather than the spirit of the Law which as you point out, isn't always based on Scripture, but human interpretation.
In the time of the early Israelites, they spent much of their time in the desert. Correct me if I am wrong. Given those conditions, it was quite practical to be wearing a head covering in day-to-day life. Even in Medieval times, women would wear head coverings of some sort.
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You're beautiful just the way you are! You're neshama is shining bright
Wow, thank you!
As a clarification, covering the hair is not a tradition, rather a halacha-Jewish law, that all Jewish married women are obligated to observe. I am aware that many of our fellow conservative and reform Jewish brothers and sisters feel and believe that a Jew should only oberve whatever is explicitly written in the Torah and often change around rules and traditions that they feel do not apply to "modern" times, and that the Oral Law is not applicable since it was "made up" by man. However, there is a very important concept in our holy Torah that states that not even a single word in our Torah may be changed and that all rules, laws, and traditions are significant for ALL Jews during all periods of history. This concept also includes the significance of abiding by the Oral Law as well, as it was not simply made up by simple men, but composed by holy, learned and great men, under Gd's direction. We are not free to interpret and change concepts and laws as we see fit and whatever is convenient for us. The Torah also states that as Jews, we are obligated to abide by both the Written and Oral Law. ❤
I see what you're saying but Conservative Judaism doesn't believe Oral Torah isn't law, only that it should continue to evolve and change as it always has (before it was codified and formally written and afterwards). Just as an Orthodox Jew today will often consult their Rav for clarification, Conservative Jews do the same.
I absolutely agree, TheNoah321. Covering the hair is not optional for married women, except when they are covered by the roofs of their respective homes and no unrelated males are present.
If, somehow, HaShem blesses me with a husband, I look forward to covering my hair. ❤️
Can you please explain to me how tearing toilet paper on Shabbat is work?
How about SHAVING your head? You’d do that? No? Well, Why not. The rabbis say do it. Also, do you show your underwear to your rabbi? Yes? I’m Jewish, but not a moron.
Catholics feel the same way. There is a Divine oral Tradition that must be kept, though traditions invented by men are not in that category.
I'm learning about reform Judaism. It appears that reform and conservative congregations deny the authenticity of the oral Torah given to Moses as the written Torah was also given to Moses on har Sinai? I was at a speech given by a reform Jew once and he tried to convince the audience there was no God. I'm confused because if reform believes Moses gave the written Torah and accept it, why not the oral Torah that was given to him? How do you trust Moses and the truth of the Torah at all? Is there is no real belief in God - maybe many just like the cultural aspect of Judaism, the holidays, etc.? There are many Jews that profess to be atheist. Also, do you do research beyond what the rabbis tell you is correct? Do you look outside the box on your own in Jewish matters or only listen to conclusions from conservative and reform? I know it's sounds progressive, but I'm a religious Jew and am always searching for the truth everywhere I go. I will never stop seeking the truth. Thank you.
I dont think that's how Conservative and Reform Jews would explain it. Both the Torah and Oral Torah are important but both have always been studied and interpreted. Long before these movements existed rabbis have always disagreed about what things mean.
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May i ask about 1corinthians 11:5
Those of us with alopecia are sincerely wondering where we'd stand? 🤔
HaRav Ovadya Yosef tz"l, gadol hador, established that Jewish women cover their hair with hats or scarves, and not wigs. King David sang in Psalm 45 about the daughter of the King is "within", i.e. not flaunted. Just as men cover their head to always be reminded of the One Above, so too women should cover their heads in modesty and respect of the One Above. It is a wondrous mitzva to keep, to be reminded we are indeed daughters of the King. Shana Tova!!!
Most women that cover their hair with wig is to blend in... Especially the women that don't live in Israel. In Israel most eone cover their hair in many different ways mostly with a kind of scarf and it's very fashionable and cool. Men also cover their hair with a kipa or a hat of any kind. As for men and women sitting together they found that in high school when boys and girls sit in diffrent classes the actual do better academicly because it's easier to concentrate, there for it would be easier to concentrate to pray when men and women are apart and I feel that I would like to be in a place like that when I want yo talk to God....
That's one idea but we're not talking about high schoolers here!
You probably already know this, but the Christian scriptures specifically recommend that women cover their hair (1 Cor. 11). Most believe it to be merely a cultural practice of the time that is no longer binding however. I once heard a pastor compare it to wearing an engagement ring today. Other groups continue to cover hair during services, as was the expectation for Roman Catholic women before the ‘60s, or during daily life, like the Amish.
That's really interesting thank you for sharing!
It doesn't have to be literal. It could be that we cover with prayer- not a physical cover.
Catholic women still cover their hair when worshipping at the traditional Latin holy Mass. In chapel, we still sit separate from the men.
Hey I agree. The only thing that is unique and that I like most about myself is my hair and eye color. They’re both very unusual in color and hair in texture. In my younger years I do not think I “tempted” any man with my hair. I feel like God gave me this unique hair to share his creation with the world. It’s like covering a flower or a beautiful animal. I’m not Jewish btw. Marion your hair looks nice and healthy. Just keep it the way it is. I love those little boys and think they’re absolutely adorable.
If that's all it takes to tempt a man then he has issues
@@eileenmcdonald1599 you are correct.