I knew I saw this years ago, but God work in mysterious ways. I am going through the same thing then and now. And I finally let go. God is resending this message to me again. I must let go. I take heed God. You know the conversations that person have behind my back. I'm letting go.
What you experience as Love is the Love that you are! Amen, Hallelujah!! Thank you Iyanla for sharing your incredible wisdom. Gratefully, appreciative for you.
This was very beautiful and confirmation of what I must do. I knew that I needed to leave and you just confirmed it for me. No turning back. Thank you so much. ❤❤❤❤ 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I just want to thank you for answering your call to teach i prayed for someone to come to help for what i was going through for awhile turn on the tv and there you were it blew my mind help my answer thank for stepping up to the needs of so many like me thank you sending peace and joy till next time bye
I love you Miss Iyanla Vanzant , Self love & self respect is the foundation we as women have to stand on . Loving our selves first ❤️💕💕💕💕 I makes use more aware of the people that we allow in to our personal circle, or our hearts .
....💖..I'm LITERALLY going through this with my 19 yr old daughter who is the only child. She has become soooo verbally rude and nasty. I just want to huge and kiss her; baby her, but she pushes me away. She lies CONSTANTLY or won't speak to me. She has made me the enemy, but I've been nothing but her cheerleader and supporter. I MUST walk away. She's breaking my heart. I must walk away. Love you Iyanla💖
I read your post and became so so sad. I have been experienced the same pain with my daughter. The last time we spoke I asked her were that pain was coming from and why towards me. What did I do? Her answer was not to take it personally, thats how she was. I asked her if she realized how her actions were hurtful & the same disdain. Very painful BUT as recent as last week I watched another video from Iyanla when we can not allow others to dis-honor us. I am by no means a perfect woman but I was a caring, supportive and loving Mother. I will, honor myself & will not allow her to have a relationship with me on her terms. It is not an all or nothing but it will be one in which I am honored and respected. I will not tolerate any more non sense even if it means letting her go. I do pray for her every single day and I will pray for you to find Peace. ✨✨✨🌻
@@brightpurpose1869 Thank you kindly...💖 I TOTALLY agree with you. I'm working on understanding and allowing the 'Detatchment' to happen. Once we give birth, and after we raise them, their not ours any longer. But we MUST let go. We MUST honour and respect OURSELVES while were still here on this earth. Everyday that goes by I'm getting closer to death , as we ALL are. This 19 yr old WON'T be the reason I leave prematurely. I ask the Lord' to touch and protect her. To give her discernment and clarity, after that request EVERYDAY I 'let go' mentally. The hard part is watching her hurt, and she has made me the enemy. But when I mentally detach I DON'T fall for the foolishness. I DO RESPECT myself and I DO put her in her place, then a day or so later, she wants 'chit chat' and interact with me. It's ALWAYS short lived. She returns to being nasty in her tone and quick mouthed. I gave her a 30 day eviction notice, AND canceled her car insurance that was in my name for a lesser rate, and informed her that TODAY 9/11/20 by 12 noon her car BETTER be registered and insured in her name or else I'm getting rid of it. Girl I'm over this foolishness. I have taught her how to treat me with ALL her disrespect aimed at me. EVERYTIME I would go back on my word or NOT follow through with the discipline, she was taking it ALL in, BOOM, here we are today. God BLESS your mind, spirit, body, clarity and words. Don't allow your daughter to take you off this earth before your time. Stand up for yourself verbally. Mean what say, and FOLLOW THROUGH!! the detachment will be the icing on the cake. You'll see her crap a mile away and you'll know how to protect yourself mentally and spiritually while understanding yourself and her more, and still loving her. And STOPPPPPP being so hard on yourself. Please STOP. I LOVE you in the spirit and it ain't NOTHING you can do about it..😊💌 Take care.
I love what your saying Miss Iyanla , so far I Believe what your saying . It’s sooo deep . I have to digest it little by little 😀 I have been watching & listening to you when you where a part of the Oprah show , ppurchased some of your books . You are absolutely awesome.. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Does anyone remember the show she had a long time ago with another life coach who was a blonde..where they helped women figure themselves out and they graduated their process in rebuilding their life
I am slowly giving up. I don’t love myself, how can I love my kids or husband. I give up. I’m older, I just want the pain of everything to go away. I don’t need to be with anyone, it’s too much work when you don’t love yourself.
Precious. Precious. Precious child of God. You've made it this fair being mentally EXHAUSTED. Now imagine how much farther you could go if you would start setting boundaries. Stop putting up with your own crap. Check YOURSELF first. Then start with one or two small goals totally for YOURSELF ONLY. Stick with those goals through hell and high water. And that my love is the START of a boundary. Love YOU first. Love you first. Let your yes be yes, and your no be no...starting with yourself FIRST..!!! Yes. Please give up. Give up ALLLLLL that dead crap inside of you, and replace it with sweet, new ideas and love for yourself FIRST. Love you in the spirit..💖
“It was your love , you just had somewhere to focus it”... ABSOLUTELY! 💯
Right? ♡
Thanks....letting go of a toxic relationship....I needed this.
Me too, this came right on time, like it was god sent!
That one hit the soul
Right there with you on that!
"I'M LOVING ME RIGHT NOW, I'M FEELING MY 💖 RIGHT NOW" #YESYES 😊
After 30 years I seem not able to let go.
It broke me but still I'm hanging on.
I've watched this at least a dozen times...still relevant and a good point of reference for me. Thank you Iyanla 💞
I knew I saw this years ago, but God work in mysterious ways. I am going through the same thing then and now. And I finally let go. God is resending this message to me again. I must let go. I take heed God. You know the conversations that person have behind my back. I'm letting go.
What you experience as Love is the Love that you are! Amen, Hallelujah!! Thank you Iyanla for sharing your incredible wisdom. Gratefully, appreciative for you.
I'm so ready for this one💜
Auntie, thank you! It has been over 2 years that I have been beaten down by these thoughts and memories and desires. You are speaking to me!
Choice is your power
Take a breath and change the thought...👏👏👏👏
I listen to her videos everyday when I go on my walks. You’ve given me the tools to heal so much of myself. Eternally grateful for you, auntie. ❤️
I'm listening on repeat. This is the message I've been seeking. Thank you.
I will watch this video each single day for 1yr
This was very beautiful and confirmation of what I must do. I knew that I needed to leave and you just confirmed it for me. No turning back. Thank you so much. ❤❤❤❤ 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Well said 🍀
I remember watching this when she first posted it ..... she gives perfect advice
This is absolute, pure gold. Grateful.
1. Train your mind - to focus on yourself.
2. Be grateful - for what you have experienced.
3. Acknowledge your wants but set boundaries.
I just want to thank you for answering your call to teach i prayed for someone to come to help for what i was going through for awhile turn on the tv and there you were it blew my mind help my answer thank for stepping up to the needs of so many like me thank you sending peace and joy till next time bye
Momma Iyanla ALWAYS right on time!!!🙌🏾 I needed this like right now. God knew!!
This helps so much, I'll be listening to it again until it sinks in and I'm doing the work. Thank you, Iyanla ❤
I have watch this video 9times and am still watch
I love you Miss Iyanla Vanzant , Self love & self respect is the foundation we as women have to stand on . Loving our selves first ❤️💕💕💕💕 I makes use more aware of the people that we allow in to our personal circle, or our hearts .
Thank you ♥️🖤💚
Once you give yourself permission to let go it starts the new process of letting go it doesn't happen overnight but it will happen all is well✋🏾💙😇🕊
Yes, Iyanla you spoke to my heart with this one. Lord knows I needed this message as confirmation for what I already knew. Thank you for sharing
Letting go of a headache is easy, it is holding on to value that is hard.
SO powerful! Thank you Iyanla!❤❤
Your words are so powerful and we thank you so much we need to here this type of positive reinforcement God bless✌💛👍
Within You! My love focus from the inside out! I am LOVE.
I'm loving me right now 🧘🏽♀️
....💖..I'm LITERALLY going through this with my 19 yr old daughter who is the only child.
She has become soooo verbally rude and nasty. I just want to huge and kiss her; baby her, but she pushes me away.
She lies CONSTANTLY or won't speak to me. She has made me the enemy, but I've been nothing but her cheerleader and supporter.
I MUST walk away. She's breaking my heart. I must walk away.
Love you Iyanla💖
I read your post and became so so sad. I have been experienced the same pain with my daughter. The last time we spoke I asked her were that pain was coming from and why towards me. What did I do? Her answer was not to take it personally, thats how she was. I asked her if she realized how her actions were hurtful & the same disdain. Very painful BUT as recent as last week I watched another video from Iyanla when we can not allow others to dis-honor us. I am by no means a perfect woman but I was a caring, supportive and loving Mother. I will, honor myself & will not allow her to have a relationship with me on her terms. It is not an all or nothing but it will be one in which I am honored and respected. I will not tolerate any more non sense even if it means letting her go. I do pray for her every single day and I will pray for you to find Peace. ✨✨✨🌻
@@brightpurpose1869 Thank you kindly...💖
I TOTALLY agree with you. I'm working on understanding and allowing the 'Detatchment' to happen. Once we give birth, and after we raise them, their not ours any longer.
But we MUST let go. We MUST honour and respect OURSELVES while were still here on this earth. Everyday that goes by I'm getting closer to death , as we ALL are. This 19 yr old WON'T be the reason I leave prematurely.
I ask the Lord' to touch and protect her. To give her discernment and clarity, after that request EVERYDAY I 'let go' mentally.
The hard part is watching her hurt, and she has made me the enemy. But when I mentally detach I DON'T fall for the foolishness. I DO RESPECT myself and I DO put her in her place, then a day or so later, she wants 'chit chat' and interact with me. It's ALWAYS short lived. She returns to being nasty in her tone and quick mouthed.
I gave her a 30 day eviction notice, AND canceled her car insurance that was in my name for a lesser rate, and informed her that TODAY 9/11/20 by 12 noon her car BETTER be registered and insured in her name or else I'm getting rid of it.
Girl I'm over this foolishness. I have taught her how to treat me with ALL her disrespect aimed at me. EVERYTIME I would go back on my word or NOT follow through with the discipline, she was taking it ALL in, BOOM, here we are today.
God BLESS your mind, spirit, body, clarity and words. Don't allow your daughter to take you off this earth before your time.
Stand up for yourself verbally. Mean what say, and FOLLOW THROUGH!!
the detachment will be the icing on the cake. You'll see her crap a mile away and you'll know how to protect yourself mentally and spiritually while understanding yourself and her more, and still loving her.
And STOPPPPPP being so hard on yourself. Please STOP.
I LOVE you in the spirit and it ain't NOTHING you can do about it..😊💌
Take care.
Miss Iyanla Thank you! Your advice is helping me so much. Helping me heal my heart ❤ Thank you!
Is it me or often you post videos that are exactly what I need to watch and hear ?! ☺️ Thanks ! 🙏🏼💙
Wow. This is very timely. "It is about our ability to love". Thank you!!!
I love what your saying Miss Iyanla , so far I Believe what your saying . It’s sooo deep . I have to digest it little by little 😀 I have been watching & listening to you when you where a part of the Oprah show , ppurchased some of your books . You are absolutely awesome.. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕
Thank You so much 🙂❤🇿🇦
Thank you 🙏🏾
Keep it real, thank you.
Wow........just........wow!👏 🙏
That was beautiful
This video was for me only
Does anyone remember the show she had a long time ago with another life coach who was a blonde..where they helped women figure themselves out and they graduated their process in rebuilding their life
Starting Over
Let It GO!!!! 💯
So helpful
O.m.g. o.m.g . O.m.g amazing amazing amazing the very first self help tape I ever got was from you I needed this video ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I am slowly giving up. I don’t love myself, how can I love my kids or husband. I give up. I’m older, I just want the pain of everything to go away. I don’t need to be with anyone, it’s too much work when you don’t love yourself.
Precious. Precious. Precious child of God.
You've made it this fair being mentally EXHAUSTED. Now imagine how much farther you could go if you would start setting boundaries.
Stop putting up with your own crap. Check YOURSELF first. Then start with one or two small goals totally for YOURSELF ONLY. Stick with those goals through hell and high water. And that my love is the START of a boundary.
Love YOU first. Love you first. Let your yes be yes, and your no be no...starting with yourself FIRST..!!!
Yes. Please give up.
Give up ALLLLLL that dead crap inside of you, and replace it with sweet, new ideas and love for yourself FIRST.
Love you in the spirit..💖
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