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He's using his psychology degree to read rubes like you from across the room, and he knows what he needs to say so you open your wallet. Stay gullible my friends.
You can't seriously listen to his blantant and provably false lies about lobsters. You really think that lobster babble makes sense? Even worse, how could you ever take him seriously after a short google on lobsters? Why listen to a proven liar? If he lies about lobsters, why wouldn't he lie about everything else?
3 years sober! I rarely think about drinking anymore. I can go out with friends who drink and it is okay. I love waking up without a hangover and that horrible feeling of "what did I do last night?" No more blackouts, no more bad decisions. It has been the best thing I did for myself.
3 years myself!!!....my problem is, I can't have 2 beers, I have to have 20!!! Just got tired of the hangovers, drain on my finances, then I gained 18 lbs., then it was affecting my relationships, the list goes on and on.....and the last straw was my doctor telling me I had 'fatty liver' so I quit 'cold-turkey' and at my last Dr.s appointment, he told me my liver was now 'normal' !!! I'm exercising more and losing weight !!!! Best decision I have ever made.!!!
Starting this journey as Im sick of it! Offers nothing anymore except self loathing, exhausted, angry - why?!!! Oh and Im meant to be a fitness instructor?! I got away with it more when I was younger but I feel a total fraud these days as its just not cool being off your face. Go Kelly! I look forward to saying I reach the same milestone! x
You couldn’t have said it any better!!! The hang overs. The shyt feeling the next day but most importantly NOT remembering what you did. That’s beyond terrifying. Especially if I drove. Thanks for your post, it helps reiterate the need to stop for good!
I've been sober since November 4, 2022. I went out with two friends the other day and watched them both drink beers im a big fan of. The thought of me only having one crossed my mind, but I stayed true and remained strong and had a good time anyway sipping on my strawberry lemonade. Stay strong everyone!
I hope the best for your journey I’m 19 and will never care or not want to drink but I’ll never forget what I was taught I health class “At the end of the day it’s use another 24 hours of hell completed”
@@agastyazz6522 Just separate yourself from any influencing factor, weather it's friends, activities etc. Try it one day at a time. Another method is to find something different that will keep you riveted, fixated. Like getting novels, dvd series about things you love, something good but doesn't end quickly, something that might take you a month to complete and whilst you're at it you wish it doesn't end. This might help you forget about the drink. 13 years for me now. Never looking back
@@CrushluigiThis is amazing !! Thank you for taking time to reply and help me find the way will definitely try and comment here in couple of months. ☺☺
Been binge drinking every evening since 2018. Went from a pint of whiskey or vodka a day and the last year drinking close to a fifth a day. Have not had a drink in 24 days. Tougher than i thought but doing it
I drank for 15 years from 27-42 I stopped drinking Christmas day 2021. After 6.5 months off I had a few beers and wine with neighbours over the fence in the garden. It hurt my body. The weekend after I had a drink on Saturday and Sunday. I felt terrible mentally and physically. I realised that I was missing nothing. The things I've made happen and the momentum that I've created in 6.5 months is just the start to what I'm going to achieve. Everything is better in my life now. I have no desire to drink any more alcohol. I'm not even beating myself up about drinking for those 3 days either I tried it and it went against who I've become. Momentum is everything when you want to stop drinking alcohol
Great job. I binge drank for 13 years. I'm now 4 months sober. I've took a sip of beer last week and couldn't swallow it. It has grown away from me. I'm loving it. Your health is more important than your fun
15 months without a drop. Best decision ever. Feel much better physically and mentally. More approachable and engaging. More focused on my work. Father passed away January 30th 2022. Just a month before on Christmas I told him how I quit and he seemed really happy for me. Little did I know that'd be the last time I would have a conversation with him. As he lied in the hospital after suffering a massive heart attack and sustaining cardiac arrest I took a vow to keep myself clean.
I quit drinking and drugs in my late 20s. Stable marriage of 42 years. I am now 69 still working 12 hr shifts and my coworkers can hardly keep up. the people my age are having all sorts of medical problems, diabetes heart disease cancer. I look and feel about 50 . my wife has many medical problems so I have learned patience from her to help others who are not as fortunate.
The longest I made it without alcohol was 63 days, I was so proud of myself. I felt so much better, so much more alive.. now here I am 1 day sober. Back at the start line… here I go all over again in this crazy cycle.
Stay with it. I went to rehab and stopped for 5 months. Then I was put into a triggering situation, and I drank. The hangover was terrible, but I continued to drink daily and the hangovers went away as long as I kept my drinking to a certain amount. So being hangover free felt like I had figured things out, until the hands started shaking in the morning. Trying to shave or run a Q-Tip through my ears was downright dangerous. Brushing teeth was dangerous too. And go ahead and try to drink water when your hands shake. It got downright embarrassing. I supplemented with Milk Thistle because that has been proven to reverse liver damage from alcohol. I also started taking shots of lemon juice with olive oil and Cayenne pepper, which is also known to reduce fatty liver disease. I was trying to supplement my way to keep drinking. But the liver isn't the only organ affected by drinking. The kidneys, the bladder, the urinary tract, the prostrate - are all in play too. So is the colon. I might have the healthiest liver of any heavy drinker, but my body is offering me advice: QUIT. So I am weening my way off the sauce. I know from rehab that quitting cold can be dangerous, so please lower your tolerance and quit slowly and realistically. I wish all of you the very best in conquering this cunning bitch of a disease. May God bless you all.
Be proud of that 1 day, because you can't get to 63 again if you don't start at 1. I have 2 dear friends who fight the same enemy and they are now sober for more than 10 years each and are proud to go to AA Meetings now. If you ever need help, reach out to Friends and Family, Sponsors, Strangers and anybody else that can help. Connect with positive people, they can be addictive too.
I used to consider myself as a social drinker, I was downing 120 pints of premium lager a week, I never realised the damage that the alcohol was doing to my body until a routine blood test showed that the alcohol I was consuming had killed off 2/3 of my liver function. My doctor advised me to seriously cut down on my alcohol consumption or I wouldn't see 50, that was at the end of 2003, I quit drinking alcohol for all of 2004, I'm now going on 66 years old and I'm so glad that my doctor gave me a wake up call about my drinking
I hurt someone I love because of my decisions with alcohol was looking at a couple of years in prison only done 3months an was lucky enough to be realeased I'm never drinking again an I'm sticking to that
100% true! Exercise replaces the need of alcohol. I am almost 40 and I am healthier now than I was in my 20's. I quit drinking. I am able to have endurance I never had before. I can climb 270 flights of stairs nonstop multiple times a week. I have through hiked 1000 miles with 30 lbs on my back. I can go and go and go!!! Truly amazing.
Im a struggling alcoholic. It started when my fiancé called it off to go back to her drug addicted ex boyfriend. Went into deep depression, turned to alchohol as a copping mechanism. Soon it became a habit. Drinking everyday from morning till sunset. Lost my job. Lost two good women who genuinely cared about. Ive lost a tremendous amount of weight, chose to drink than eat. Im heavily in debt as a result. I neglected my self, my children, my responsibilities. All because of alchohol! I currently at low point. But trying to get myself together. Not easy when your alone, but getting there. Drinking socially/occasionally is fine, but not every day. Ive done some much damage. Hoping to recover soon. Prayers up!
Went thru a divorce than a relationship of 4years ended, not because of alcohol; the rejection was too painful, almost drank myself too death. Drank for 2 months all day long. I detoxed and went thru the DDTs; currently 15 months sober.
Brother go to AA, Iv'e been attending reg. Every week; I listen for the similarities not the differences. I go too my knees and pray out of bed and the same at night. Get a 24hr. Prayer book and read that days passages.
I stopped drinking on new years day and started keto too. I look better and most importantly feel better mentally and physically. I'm even down 16lbs. I actually feel much better all the time even better than I thought I felt while I had a buzz.
I used to drink a quart of whiskey every day and it tore up my marriage , my bank account and almost kill me , I was fortunate enough to quit 10 years ago and things have been looking better since, this guy is 100% right, your whole personality changes and you function better
Terry, how long was that behaviour for? I'm pushing it currently, (1/2 your former amount stated), and I'm starting to freak. Congratulations on your quit! Regards and all the best.
I stopped drinking about 10 year ago. Well... maybe a beer or 2 once a year. I drank alot but never to the extent it was a problem. But all but stopping has done wonders on my personal appearance and mindset. He is 100% right
I've been sober for 42 years now & it's the best decision that i ever made for myself. I'm grateful that i got arrested for my 3rd DWI, by the time i was 19, and family intervened and it ended up being a blessing in disguise. My grandfather passed down his longshoreman's union card to me and i lived within a quarter of a mile of the Conley Terminal in South Boston, i got involved with AA and it not only saved my life, but i was able to be there for my son when he was struggling with booze & drugs. I'm retired now and living the dream!!
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Your smile is precious and the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Stay Positive.
I went 21 days without alcohol. After year 2018 of having a drink everyday in my hand, I finally did 21 days it was difficult but easy at the same time. Let's go for 40 days now
You are amazing Eric !!! I started drinking again 18 months ago , i quitter for 7 years , today is my second day not drinking , and I start focusing on a fitness diet more and working out , I used to be a gym rat but ruined it cuz of alcohol
12 days sober!! I started brewing pitchers of tea in replace of drinking my white claws and vodka soda waters. It’s been working really well for now. I haven’t had much of an urge to drink. I even went to an Oktoberfest and to a bar and didn’t even drink. Stay strong everyone!
@@GiuliaCampana I unfortunately ended up collapsing. I actually have a white claw in hand now. I will take another hiatus soon. I don’t think I’ll be done with it forever
Going on 6th week no alcohol, I feel amazing. I became an alcoholic at 14 mentally. Heavy drinking started at 20 years old. Quit a month before turning 31. Happy with live.
Never had an real drinking problem, but something in me always to me: "If you want to stand out grom the crowd in life, you should quit". So I did, I quit drinking a few weeks ago and had the best time drinking water when I was with friend while they eere all drinking beer. Never going back, let's focus on improving ourselves!
I still drink alcohol but I spend some months off every now and then... I feel much better during those times. You could also try getting sparkling water or alcohol free beer (which worked great for me), if you feel the need to blend in the crowd...
I had a relative that drank moderately, then in retirement started drinking tequilla shots. I look back on it now & wish I had tried harder to get him to stop, but anyway he started having strokes at 80 & at 82 was in a wheelchair in a nursing home until his passing at 87. His father lived to 94 & his grandfather lived to 96 & both could still walk when they passed. The antidote folks is get creative & avoid alcohol.
6 weeks sober. Incredible feeling waking up everyday compared to what it was. I’ve lost some social aspects of my life by doing this, but I’ve replaced those losses with boxing and the gym. My goal is to be as fit as possible while working full time. This may sound simple but requires long term consistency and discipline.
Goals are so helpful ❤ I’m so proud of your journey 👏🙏🕊️ you are courageous brave and stronger now and every day - allow the flow breathe through and trust that the moment will pass when you need too along with the raging pride you feel of your achievements
As someone who's health also fell apart recently, I completely relate to what Peterson is saying about how it feels better to be working. For me, going back to work after a six week holiday during which I experienced extreme anxiety about whether I would be able to work again made all the difference. I've been back at work for 3 weeks now and I'm feeling much better. My only regret is nearly letting stress ruin my life. Never again. Thank you Dr. Peterson for sharing your incredible wisdom with the world.
Some people have extremely broken and twisted definitions of kindness, and if they stay that way sober or drunk you must believe they feel nothing because the idea that they somehow feel love yet spend every waking moment making sure anyone else who believes it suffers for it until love isn't worth living for simply cannot be explained anymore than someone walking around without a heart beat. Life is not good, there is nothing more natural to me than distrusting other people's basic capacity for love and kindness, or that people have the capacity to prove anything that they claim to feel or believe isn't destructive oxymoronic garbage, and I especially don't want to see the proof first hand anymore, at least until I can ever physically and mentally relax if that ever happens before I finally die.
I'm at 8 days alcohol free today! It's nice NOT having to deal with the Monday and Tuesday 'bloat drain' where the body basically excretes all that extra water weight that it was holding starting from Friday. Already noticed that my face isn't as puffy either, so it's releasing some of that water as well. Definitely not a heavy drinker, but I don't like waking up in a cloud on Saturday and Sunday, and with a Carmel dry mouth. Just need to manage that end-of-workweek craving with some other type of reward. I started weening away from the craft IPAs, and found that it's best to come away from all beer.
I am very young and don't want to go down the path of addiction. I've abused prescription drugs, cough syrup, and alcohol. I'm so thankful I didn't get addicted. I am making it a goal to stay sober and never do hard drugs.
Leah, a life change is in order. I know, this is asking a lot. But really it's not. First off, no more "I am making it a goal to stay sober...". Second, like personal finance, if you want to succeed, start now. So it's not a matter of stopping, it's a mater of evolving. Leaving what you know is often hard but staying where you are is often awful, just unrecognized. The doors open when you submit to your own faith in who you can be. Peace.
As a father of 5 , now all 25-32, you just need to Start running or exercise , swim etc , and get into a gym… Hang around people that drink socially not drink to drink And read the Bible daily That’s a few things you can do immediately to make sure that doesn’t happen In the end , all up to you 🙏🏼
I remember looking at this video within the first few days of being sober, agreeing with everything said but doubting whether i could do it. Ive lost everything thanks to alcohol. Now, just under 2yrs later im revisiting this video again. IM STILL SOBER! I did it, and so can you
About 35.yrs ago I stopped pleasing other people by drinking alcohol. I had never liked the high or the taste, but peer pressure affected me and I drank like others did. Was as easy as the statement, I quit! Never missed it, and probably should celebrate this decision. Hope all that struggle with this can escape this struggle, and send you all positive vibes. You can do it! 💖
Interesting. I love the buzz/drunk feeling AND the way it tastes entirely apart from that; IMO nothing tastes better or more interesting than good alcohol. But I am now earnestly trying to quit (I say "trying" cuz I won't know if I really am able to stop completely until about 6 months of no drinking is achieved. Fortunately, I have a very good reason to not do it any more, plus the whole drag on health it can present).
I’ve been sober for 15 months now. Last May I was diagnosed With liver failure which progressed to kidney failure by last July. I was on dialysis 3 x a week, getting a paracentesis 2x a week from last July until this February when I was blessed enough to get organ transplant at at MGH-the greatest hospital in Boston. It’s been 4 months now since then and no more dialysis, no paras and of course still not drinking. The scars I now have are ridiculous but enough to remind Me of what I went through. I’m not screwing up this second chance. I feel great today and wish I had quit years ago before all that happened to me. I’m only posting this story of mine to let others know it can get THAT bad. Alcohol is poison -plain and simple. Oh. I’m 50 fyi
18 days sober. I had to write it down and sign it to myself. I’m some ways I feel better, in others way worse. Some days my levels of anxiety consume me, like there’s nothing else, I get immersed pure sadness. Some day I’ll find my happiness again. Wish me luck.
I had my last taste of alcohol (although i didn't know it would be at the time) just over 3 and a half years ago. I remember holding the drink in my hand and realizing that i was physically, emotionally and spiritually exhausted. I got to a point in my life where continuing to drink was actually going to be harder than giving it up.
Im on same boat. 12 years heavy drinking, tried to stop that shit few times but never more than 26 days. Im exhausted, im like hamster on spinning wheel. Im tired all of this bad things im doing to myself. 1 day sober.
My way out of it, (and it took an enormous amount of emotional growing up) was the realisation that in the end I am the one who chooses how I will react to the things that happened to me. Every time I took a drink because of those things I was giving those who did them the power to keep doing it. In the end I chose to not allow that any more and to let that young child trapped within, to finally grow.
I was assistant manager at my job .. I was drinking heavy , but it didn’t effect my work other then going in feeling like shit , and lacking on sleep. I recently got called into work to cover a shift but I had already been off and I had a lot to drink(me thinking my tolerance was high made me think I was good to go into work) when I got their I worked for a couple hours no problem , but then it all hit me at once and I straight blacked out on the clock. I did a lot of stupid shit in front of a coworker , and a did some other things that I don’t remember but watched it the next day on camera . I remember going into work and being functional/coherent then next thing you know I woke up the next day with the big boss saying we needed a meeting , and I needed to stay home from my shift that day. I missed the meeting because I was sleeping off alcohol poisoning. We had a meeting 2 days after the situation , and they told me to resign and they told me they would do one of those silent acts where legally no one is aloud to discuss why I quit . They said they still appreciated my work ethic and all I had done for the establishment, but it’s one thing you can’t undo. I’ve never done something like that a day in my life of drinking. Don’t even remember it . Charges could have been pressed , and I easily could never be able to find a job again , but thankfully my sober me is an amazing person/worker , and they weren’t going to let one MAJOR fuck up undo all the great things I’ve done with 0 issues . I promised myself to never drink again , and if I do…I deserve everything bad that will come with it. Alcohol is unpredictable and anybody is capable of doing ANYTHING if they are drunk enough. Don’t ever think “oh I would never do that drunk” trust me your not in control
Thank you for sharing this my friend , av been drinking for 18 months now the last 6 was a bit heavy, it’s my second day today ! Am determined , the gym and protein shake and healthy food help me a lot , wish you all the best in your life bro !
I figured this might be a good place to share my story... Hope this helps someone I grew up in a drug infested home with parents that abused substances including alcohol. I left home at a young age and ended up joining the USMC. I experienced a lot of traumas in the service and when I got out, I started to self-medicate with Alcohol. As soon as I started to abuse Alcohol my entire life seemed to halt. Things that were very important just didn’t matter anymore. Goals I had seemed distant and out of reach and overtime my life started to spiral out of control. When I abused alcohol, I also seemed to abuse everyone close to me. My marriage struggled, other personal relationships struggled and overall, my life became a struggle. This, combined with the PTSD I suffer from was almost too much. It wasn’t until I was arrested for domestic violence that things started to get better. I had to hit rock bottom. The courts ordered that I got treatment for my PTSD and that I had to quit drinking. Because I didn’t want to go to jail, I was forced to do this. My life began to change for the better almost INSTANTLY. My interpersonal relationships were able to be repaired. My marriage improved and my overall happiness improved. The goals that seemed so distant now seems just right out of grasp. I was able to refocus my life. I went from living paycheck to paycheck with severe depression and anxiety to making over 200k a year. My mental state is overwhelmingly joyful. It seems to me that Alcohol took the place of everything that was important in life. Once I removed that, it was almost like this fog was lifted and I was able to step back and evaluate what was happening. I have not had a single drink in 9 years.
My sister is a recovering alcoholic (Australia) and at the time I wasn't aware of her struggle or the things she use to do to cover it up. For the last twenty five years, she's been the national manager for Alcoholics Anonymous.
I drink mostly because I'm lonely and left a marriage of 33yrs and also dont see my grown up children as much as I left family home..I had to move 3 or 4 times until settled now and my mother died in between all this.. ... .any replies welcome ...I wonder will I ever get over grief...I can't work anymore either. .was looking after children as a Nanny but am exhausted... .
I had to leave my boyfriend who I loved because of his drinking problem, it broke my heart.. He was an unrecognizable and abusive man when drinking. I tried to guide him in love and encouragement but I was also very clear that I could not have an alcoholic in my life. He hid it from me when we first met but I eventually found out, people can only hide these things so long. He admitted he'd had a drinking problem for 7 years and volunteered to go to outpatient. He made an excuse why he didn't go. Then it was going to be AA meetings several times a week, all his idea. He went to maybe 4 meetings in a span of several months. He started drinking and hiding it again, he said he was ok because he'd cut back so much. He really went down hill and I had to leave him. To this day it's heart wrenching to think about but I had to save myself. So whoever thinks they can just cut back, or drink on holidays is fooling themselves. It's all or nothing with alcoholism. You WILL slowly return to your old ways if you don't get help and completely stop. My ex is a 51 year old man who makes 6 figures a year, and has nothing to show for this. He's in poor health physically and mentally, he's in such deep debt he almost went homeless until my family brought him in at one point before we split. His adult children suffer from his alcoholism, he hurts everyone in his life because he doesn't help himself first. Anyone out there read this, it's never too late to quit, there is a better life, you CAN repair yourself and your broken relationships, and broken feelings. Someone out there is waiting on you because they love you. Love yourself. I wish my ex would have, but you can go another way.
I’ve said this in many posts, and you are right. If someone thinks they can just drink once in a while, it’s a delusion. You will slip back into the old ways. Sorry things didn’t work out for you.
Hi Nichole. Hollywood and plenty of real-life people have depicted ALL heavy drinkers as abusive. I'd consider myself as what classifies as a heavy drinker. On any given night I'd put away one or two beers followed by a pint of Jack, which is basically 8 shots. So I was drinking about 10 drinks per night on the daily. It never ever made me mean and abusive. Not all drinkers are the same.
@@tomm3695 I never said all are, I strongly believe that the true person and personality is revealed when someone is intoxicated. My ex couldn't hide what he really was, it was eventually revealed who he is. I wouldn't be defending an abusive alcoholic or any alcoholic...you're essentially defending a man, who physically and psychologically abused me and I'm still recovering. Yes they're all the same in the sense that they hurt the people around them in one way or another. Shame on that.
I understand what you went through . I was in a 30 year marriage very unhealthy . Alcohol was in control of his life . I now know that I deserve a healthy life . I am getting help now for what I went through with Alanon .
I quit drinking at 36 and stopped smoking at 38. I’m now 41 and mentally I feel great. My memory is getting better and the stuttering is as well. My physical shape I’m still working on that due to the weight gain from quitting both habit’s. I’ll never go back to either habit. I have freedom finally now I’m focused on other things
Stuttering is mostly genetics so stopping drinking alcohol won’t help stop that at all. In fact if you start reading you can become a better speaker, but you’ll still have some stuttering. I believe yours is due to drinking too much, but some people stutter when they are born it’s normal
Psychedelics/psilocybin containing mushroom have proven a to be a reliable cure for depression, anxiety, ADHD, bipolar, OCD, insomnia, and other related disorders. Saved my life honestly.
After doing some research on the psilocybin benefits, I honestly want to get into shroom microdosing but it's just so hard to get a reliable source. Really need!
Microdosing has genuinely helped me, effectively reducing my depression. It's been the best solution I've found, and considering psilocybin illegal feels like a crime against humanity.
I trust Dr. Raymycolx. Microdosing has been my personal savior. A small amount works wonders-just a cap or two keeps me balanced all day. It's like clearing the mind and refreshing the soul, though it's tough to explain, much like describing colors to someone blind from birth
Jordan helped me quit drinking. Not going to say I'm 100% sober, but I used to drink every day, listening to him I decided to take 2 months off. Now I only drink when it's a holiday or special occasion. I don't feel like I need it anymore. But I had to break my habit and he has my gratitude. 🙏
October 2000 I was arrested & charged, sentenced to 3 year's,looking back it was the best thing that ever happened to me ,it gave me the time to think about what I was doing to myself & how it affected my family, friends . I realised that every time that I got into any kind of trouble, alcohol was involved. There is a saying in jail. We're you arrested or rescued? Needless to say I was rescued,and have been sober ever since. My relationship with family & friends is much better, most importantly I am very happy & healthy.
We have similar stories Greg. The police officer who arrested me, and the Judge who mandated that I attend AA meetings saved my life! The last 28 plus years has been the greatest adventure of living "Happy, Joyous, and FREE! All the best to you!
I've had a cop rear end me, survived thyroid cancer, a house fire that killed my Millie dog, the death of my son and Mother (not even two months apart this year)..... All this shit within 5yrs..... It has kicked my alcoholism into high gear and I desperately need this this video. To those that have stayed sober, congratulations to you. I'm just looking for my first step back to "normality".
32 years sober drug and alcohol treatment specialist strength and conditioning specialist personal trainer studying health coach age 63 going for master trainer
It was my best friend..and worst enemy. I could never have stopped (the very idea was terrifying) without God’s grace. My only advice, no matter the objections, is hit your knees immediately upon getting up in the morning, and humbly ask God for another day of sobriety. Then, right before bed, hit your knees and humbly thank Him for one more day. Sounds too simple, but it’s the winning formula. I stopped drinking in March of 1989. I was 20 years old - never had a legal drink in my life (still haven’t). All due to finally hitting my knees and letting God take over. I have peace now. Often have joy too. Most importantly, though, I have hope - because the One who I didn’t know loved me more than any human being could, just wanted to be given permission to help me. I wish you the best. ❤
Words on a computer screen are empty words. Nothing like having support from human beings actually in your physical space. This is the internet, how can we know your words were even written by a human. Nobody is cheering, you do not actually exist. Typing is not talking. Text is not speech. There is no "community" in cyberspace.
❗ *6 GUIDELINES FOR LIFE:* *1) When you are alone, mind your thoughts.* *2) When you are with your friends, mind your tongue.* *3) When you are angry, mind your temper.* *4) When you are with a group, mind your behaviour.* *5) When you are in trouble, mind your emotions.* *6) When God starts blessing you, mind your ego.*
I think it needs to be said, "minding" sometihng doesn't mean completely disown it. I have been there and let me tell you, completely disconnecting from a behaviour that you find in need of reform in your life is devastaing. I'm not talking about alcoholism, or substance abuse, I'm talking about behaviours, that you will happy to express, but deemed to be ultimately against your goal. "Minding" your emotions does not mean you don't get to feel undesireable emotions, just that you have to realise that the emotions are bad, feeling bad emotions makes you feel miserable, and what does make you feel these bad emotions. Because if you figure out the source, you are already at a better position to do something against it.
1-Mind your thoughts to not stay true to your yourself 2-Mind your tongue to be disingenious 3-Stifle your passion 4-Be disingenuous 5-Be disingenuous 6-Don’t get cocky. At that point a lot of things tend to slip through the cracks
Bless everybody battling the sober life. After two relapses im now 2.5 years sober! Sober life is the only way for me. As a 26 year old male it is rough at times, specialy during the big social occasions. But man.. comparing how my my life used to be. We addicts have been to hell and back, seen the gutter, and some of us barely survived. For anyone reading this, getting sober is worth it! YOU CAN DO IT❤
Takes someone else’s video - adds your own head nods for personal gain. For those of you that are here for the underlying meaning of this video, I applaud you. The internet is all about self interest these days, but I am so proud of what you’ve accomplished. I’m a struggling Alcoholism myself, it’s so nice to see your stories in the comments, keep pushing forward, love you all.
Needed this today after being sick all day from a bender. Today I have decided to finally put my foot down and actually put an effort into quitting and getting my life back. I can and will not continue this path anymore or I'll end up in an early grave.
We’ve never met but you have done so much to improve my life Dr. Jordan Peterson. All by nothing more than coincidence, you were there when I looked for understanding. Thank you. Your greatly appreciated.
Even drinking on the weekends is enough to hold you back from bettering your self, reaching your goals, and presently being there for your family. I can attest that when compared to times of sobriety even a light hang over is enough to curtail your productivity. You have a rough week, (or so you create a rough week for yourself) and crave drink on the weekend, on Sunday's I spent the majority of my day lounging on the couch watching tv, VS weekends where I wouldn't drink I'd get up in the morning on Sunday make breakfast for my family, take them out, do productive things around the house. Alcohol steals your energy and potential, it's a trojan horse just like caffeine.
You are absolutely right. I was a weekend drinker and I use to do a lot of spending at the bar. Real reckless with my money. After the hangover is gone I feel stupid. I might have said some things to people that I would never say because of alcohol. It’s been a month and a half. Just last night I was hanging with my friends and I was sober and stayed that way. I told them to bring me home and I felt better in the house
Caffeine has a net loss effect on the body in terms of alertness. Caffeine drinkers are no more alert than non-caffeine drinkers when tested for alertness. However, they do become much LESS alert when the caffeine starts wearing off, eventually leaving them tired, groggy, brain fog, withdrawals, etc, until they get their next fix. The same goes for energy levels. Whereas energy levels and alertness remained stable in non-caffeine drinkers, who experience 1 dip in energy levels and alertness after lunch, especially if it was a heavy lunch, which resolves within an hour. Caffeine drinkers experience these dips all day and when caffeine is consumed, it just brings them up to baseline, normal levels.
It's videos like this one and the AA that have helped me considerably. Been sober now for 9 days and feeling surprisingly energetic whilst shaking off the flue. To whomever it may help ; I was technically drinking non stop since I was 18 and now I'm 31, binged right through my 20's then the pandemic hit and it spiralled out of control. I had to draw a line from it when I went into somebody's spirit cabinet and began swigging anything I could find secretively. Only the gods and yourself can help you. But sobriety feels great at this stage. Everyone else says it, but it really does feel good not waking up with a hangover.
Almost two years without a sip of alcohol. It was destroying my life. My passions where gone. I gained over 100 pounds. I was stuck, and hiding my drinking from others. I would look in the mirror and hate the guy looking back at me. One night I was having a hard time, stuck in a pit of despair and depression and I hear The Lord say in my spirit that He is in control. I broke down sobbing and I told my wife I need to quite drinking. She told me she agrees but that I needed to tell her how bad i had gotten. I told her about my hiding it. About my excuses, how I would go to the store so I could buy some vodka and then chug it before I went back inside. How I had empty bottles hidden all over the place. She was dumbfounded and she told me to allow God to help me. She should of kicked me out but she showed me grace. I asked for forgiveness and I was transformed in an instant. I haven’t touched alcohol since and owe it all to Jesus who took my sin so that I can be made new.
That is wonderful! This is not about alcohol, but I suffered with postpartum depression with my first child in '68. I felt helpless and hopeless. I was so desperate one day that I dropped to my knees and asked God to please help me. Two days later, the fog started to lift and each day I got better. God is SO good....all the time! Stay in touch with Him and you'll be just fine! ✝🌈
@@lindahandley5267 thank you for sharing. It means a lot. May The Lord continue to bless you and your family even when the storms come. I look forward to the day when we will all get to be together celebrating with our King.
*Bible Talk With BW* look forward to that day too. I wish everyone realized that God is always close by, waiting for us. All we have to is humble ourselves, reach out and ask for His help. He will take us into his loving arms, forgive our sins, take away our old desires and give us new ones! I didn't think that it was possible, but it absolutely is! Stay well my brother in Christ! ✝
7 months cali sober now after 2 relapses, longest so far and i can finally say im proud now that i have a support network, just weed, psychedelics and caffeine and sugar and im a whole new better person! i can finally now say with integrity that never again will i ever consume alcohol again and will never use hard drugs again unless prescribed and monitored by my doctor and even then i changed my medical preferences to only ever prescribed if absolutely necessary or everything else failed. I am now happier, healthier, lost weight and repaired bridges. If anyone reading this is struggling with alcoholism and is trying to quit; don’t give up, it gets better every day, keep going Im rooting for you! ✌🏻
It’s been 5 years. Now and then I still regret time wasted. I passed a scary moment 2-3 months once the decision was made and a seizure nearly ended my life. I controlled it; thinking about my children. Once the seizure stopped I realised the gift I had.
18 months drinking alcohol , today is my second day not drinking and focusing on working out and a good diet . ENOUGH of letting me waste like that , life is too short to waste on loser things
@@Iammighty good on you ,I would most likely be dead or in jail from shit decision made drinking, I found for me I just went fishing like mad for first twelve months,find some thing else you love to do,I never really drunk much boating so was good escape zone , still smoke bit of weed here n there harmless enough , suggest avoid all that rehab bullshit, after all it's something only you can do for your self ,but whatever works best for you main thing ,out and about at first I drank coke with ice in small glass , people think you drinking spirit so you don't get all the , come on have a beer bullshit , from friends while out ,volenter to be skipper drive home works to , keep up good work but if it really drive n you nuts ,walk down buy one beer ,walk home again n drink it , you might slip a little bit but at least it will get you fit , LoL it doesn't take long before you will think wtf did I do that for ,best of luck cz keep me posted if you want
23 years drinking heavily, I don't know how or why I am still alive, a walking miracle! 3 days ago, I chose to go back to the day I chose to turn to alcohol to cope with not feeling loved or valued (long story). The constant pain of waking up many mornings full of guilt and deep disappointment in myself was far more painful than looking at that day of choosing and the 'back story' which took me to that point. I am healing my inner child and using timeline therapy to confront the voices of yesterday. I ask for prayers and I send prayers to all of you on your journey of new found strength and self-discovery.
@@janeybee6679 I haven't touched a drop since 1992, and it was the best thing I could have ever done for myself. A lot of terrible things have happened since then, but returning to alcohol would never have helped me cope. I stayed in my head and got real help for problems, and became a stronger person for it. Stand firm!
@@getoverit2789 That's amazing! 30 years is a long time to be sober! I am hoping I have 30 years left in me, would love to see my teenager's continue to grow into their beautiful souls. Yes, sadly, alcohol was a terrible coping mechanism for denial, denying the past and fearful of looking at it. It's been hard, but I found the courage from somewhere deep down and a lot of praying for my god to help me (Universal God). I am going away tomorrow and I am a little fearful/ curious how I will cope with not having my regular go to, but keep reminding myself that I need to be in touch with my soul, and my senses. To wake up and smell the salt in the air, the birds singing and the grass between my toes (camping near the sea) and to be 'present', taking part in the simple joys of life. I will try and stand firm, and thank you so much for your inspiring, thoughtful message.
@@janeybee6679 You're so welcome! And remember... you're the only YOU that this planet will ever have. Be FULLY YOU, 100% of the time, and embrace it! God bless you!
I lost the person I love because of my drinking and drug abuse. That's my biggest regret. even after finding someone who would even think of loving me it still wasn't enough for me to stop. I felt like giving up. I'm now 40 days sober and feeling a lot better I'm finally getting over the relationship and I don't ever see myself on that path again. I lost her but I hope she is happy and I hope I can be a better person in the future. I want to stay strong.
Yes you can. We don't need alcohol to solve or broblems. And if we really love someone : let them free. I had also a lot of pain ,but you become an adult if you are more open minded. Respect yourself and others. Take good care of yourself. 🙋 🌏
Ive drank for 25 years, recently everyday. I really want to make a go of this. Ive been 6 days dry. Im going on a family holiday in 3 days with my young boys. This is it. Im going to give it everything in the next 2 weeks and see where i end up. Im a fighter, im going to fight 🙏
I'm just over 30 days sober and I really feel good. Re connection to.God is truly helpful when dealing with dependence on Alcohol. Thank you Dr. Peterson
This is such an important topic. Lewis does such an amazing job with his interviews. People really need more awareness about the dangers of alcohol. This should be taught in schools extensively starting at an early age.
I don’t agree with Jordan on everything, but on this particular subject he is spot on. Drink ruined all that was good in my life and now I’m trying to put that right. 6 years sober now and nothing bad happens anymore, BUT the damage done by drink is not easy to erase. Every action has consequences forever. There is no upside to alcohol consumption, I believe that wholeheartedly now.
I am so proud of your sobriety. I was never a drinker, but my husband was. Definitely not looking for any kind of sympathy I just came across your comment and realized it can be done, you can get sober. I have been married to my husband for 27 years. The first 20 were like something out of a fairy tale, my true soulmate or so I thought. The latter seven years, he has been a full-fledged blackout alcoholic. My son and I suffer in silence every day. I don't want to lose this man but he has changed. The drink made him a different person and not a good one. 27 years of marriage, sometimes I don't know whether to run or if I could actually stay and help him. Seems like he doesn't want help and like I said before he is a completely different person. Other women and lots of lying and deceiving. What I don't know, is if I could ever do anything to help him. Or is this just something he has to do for himself because I am failing big time trying to help him put the pieces of his life back together. I've never gone through this experience before so I don't know do you stay or do you go? Anyways your comments stuck out to me and congratulations on 6 years of sobriety.WELL DONE.🙏
@@susannetaylor9914 Thanks for your kind words. In answer to your question, he has to do it himself - I believe that’s the only way. He needs, what I had, a moment of clarity and he needs to be sick of what it does to him and his family. It was June 2016 when the lightbulb finally went on in my crazy head. I was standing in a London suburb pub, arguing with an idiot about another idiot and it suddenly hit me. I’d been talking to these people for 35 years and it only ever caused me trouble - it had to stop. I lost my first wife from drink and after I stopped it all I went round to see her and apologise. Luckily she is a forgiving person and told me I was more like the person she married now, but I disappeared for 30 years!! Unfortunately my actions meant I will never be with her again and she is happy now, but every action, however long ago, has consequences to this day. We can try to make amends, but we cannot erase everything. Your husband must be honest, be aware of the consequences of his behaviour and start caring about those that truly love him. Only then will he stop the demon that is drink. Addictions want you to be alone, that’s what he must remember. I wish you all the best.
@@susannetaylor9914 There’s a song called ‘Too Good For Giving Up’ by Liam Gallagher that I love. The lyrics are so relevant to me and well worth a listen if you’ve not heard it.
My oldest son doesn't think he's an alcoholic, but he is. It doesn't affect his job or bank account, but it certainly affects his relationships. I pray for him every day.
A little over three years ago I started drinking again. I hadn’t touched a drop in six and a half years. I’m not going to tell you that I’m a mess now, but it’s had negative consequences. I’m fairly active, but I’ve put on at least thirty pounds, that is impossible to take off, my sleep absolutely suffers from it, I have spent a good amount of money on it. I have made an ass of myself a few times, and one time is way too many, and lost motivation is the cherry on top. I’m quitting again, and I can’t see me starting again. Good luck to everybody. 🤞🏼🍀
Love these videos! Truthful and hard hitting but very HELPFUL. I’m 103 days sober from alcohol and cocaine. I was 5 months before I relapsed but that’s part of my journey and I’m glad it happened bcos the fear and thoughts of wanting to die after it happened DRIVE me everyday to remain being sober ✊🏻 24 hours is all we look for keep on going people 😊
It's crazy that he said.."Doing things for other people is by far more rewarding than drinking alcohol" That's pretty much exactly how i felt when completely giving it up close on 10 years ago. Instead of getting smashed every weekend, i found looking after my nieces, and my older family members was way more rewarding. Plus no hang overs, so i could enjoy my whole weekend. Things worked out great, my older family members looked after me when i was a child, and i helped and hung out with them at the end. No place i would have rather been. This whole...Alcohol culture to me is nonsense. If you want to drink fine, but it's also fine to say no. Life's too short to be hung over all the time.
I had the most INTENSE case of anxiety several days ago due to the a 2 day binge that landed me in the hospital. I think that was the last straw for me. I thought I was going to die. I thank God I didn't, and I thank my wife for her patience with being there, and not leaving me a long time ago. Praying everyday since that I don't go back 🙏.
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He's using his psychology degree to read rubes like you from across the room, and he knows what he needs to say so you open your wallet. Stay gullible my friends.
You can't seriously listen to his blantant and provably false lies about lobsters. You really think that lobster babble makes sense? Even worse, how could you ever take him seriously after a short google on lobsters? Why listen to a proven liar? If he lies about lobsters, why wouldn't he lie about everything else?
How has your journey been?. God bless and good luck
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@@williambowling1885 bob
3 years sober! I rarely think about drinking anymore. I can go out with friends who drink and it is okay. I love waking up without a hangover and that horrible feeling of "what did I do last night?" No more blackouts, no more bad decisions. It has been the best thing I did for myself.
3 years myself!!!....my problem is, I can't have 2 beers, I have to have 20!!!
Just got tired of the hangovers, drain on my finances, then I gained 18 lbs., then it was affecting my relationships, the list goes on and on.....and the last straw was my doctor telling me I had 'fatty liver' so I quit 'cold-turkey' and at my last Dr.s appointment, he told me my liver was now 'normal' !!! I'm exercising more and losing weight !!!! Best decision I have ever made.!!!
Best life investment ever!
I'm always sober and can't get anything done in my life. I don't know how people that are literally blacking out all the time can even function.
Starting this journey as Im sick of it! Offers nothing anymore except self loathing, exhausted, angry - why?!!! Oh and Im meant to be a fitness instructor?! I got away with it more when I was younger but I feel a total fraud these days as its just not cool being off your face. Go Kelly! I look forward to saying I reach the same milestone! x
You couldn’t have said it any better!!! The hang overs. The shyt feeling the next day but most importantly NOT remembering what you did. That’s beyond terrifying. Especially if I drove.
Thanks for your post, it helps reiterate the need to stop for good!
8 days sober wish me luck
SENDING YOU LUCK AND ❤
Good luck. I'll be rooting for you!
@@Nita265 ❤❤
You can do it man. Give it time. You'll start to feel better physically and emotionally. You got this!
Good luck. Dont beat yourself up if you fall. Get back up and start again remembering why you want to stop.
I really want to stop drinking starting 2023 with no alcohol. please pray for me
How you doing
You need to make that decision yourself first
My wife did and our lives have been so much better. Less fighting, she's sleeping better, we are better. Proud of you babe.
Going on 1 week sober after drinking everyday for over 10 years I feel confident I can do this
keep at :-)
Still sober I feel so much better actually sleeping normal and waking up well rested and more motivated to be productive!!
@@backwoodsbadgerqfmx wow great! Wonderful to hear that, keep it up and good luck on your journey through a clear minded life!
Every week things will get better and better. Health and work and brain and mind. Every week. Keep going ❤️👊
You are going to do it!!!💪🏽💪🏽
I've been sober since November 4, 2022. I went out with two friends the other day and watched them both drink beers im a big fan of. The thought of me only having one crossed my mind, but I stayed true and remained strong and had a good time anyway sipping on my strawberry lemonade. Stay strong everyone!
Good for you keep it up , been sober v2o yrs ,it gets easier every day
Keep strong, u don’t need it !
@@Winstonchurchill-t5i getting on to 9 months without it on Aug 4th
Over time the desire for alcohol fades. You learn, or come to realize, it’s a ridiculous immature habit. That was my perspective when I quit in 2017.
78 days sober. Praying everyday, and praying for everyone on a similar journey.
72 days here. Keep it up. You’re not alone
Keep at it people . Never give up . God bless 🙏
recently went 90. actually got to a place where the idea of having fun without alcohol no longer sounded ridiculous and naïve. i can’t wait to resume
I hope the best for your journey I’m 19 and will never care or not want to drink but I’ll never forget what I was taught I health class “At the end of the day it’s use another 24 hours of hell completed”
@@joevirzi1676 thanks Joe, still going strong.
Stopped drinking and smoking 8 years ago. Best decision of my life. Everyone should try this and fight that evil
That is SO great!!!
2 years and 3 months for me couldn’t agree more 👍🏼
How did you do it please help
GODBLESS YOU
@@agastyazz6522 Just separate yourself from any influencing factor, weather it's friends, activities etc. Try it one day at a time. Another method is to find something different that will keep you riveted, fixated. Like getting novels, dvd series about things you love, something good but doesn't end quickly, something that might take you a month to complete and whilst you're at it you wish it doesn't end. This might help you forget about the drink. 13 years for me now. Never looking back
@@CrushluigiThis is amazing !!
Thank you for taking time to reply and help me find the way will definitely try and comment here in couple of months.
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Been binge drinking every evening since 2018. Went from a pint of whiskey or vodka a day and the last year drinking close to a fifth a day. Have not had a drink in 24 days. Tougher than i thought but doing it
Keep it up. Well done!
KEEP GOING!!! I'm rooting for you! I haven't touched a drop since 1992, and it was THE best decision I EVER made!!! Keep it up!
Keep it up. It will get easier… trust me… 14 months sober
I drank for 15 years from 27-42
I stopped drinking Christmas day 2021.
After 6.5 months off I had a few beers and wine with neighbours over the fence in the garden. It hurt my body.
The weekend after I had a drink on Saturday and Sunday. I felt terrible mentally and physically.
I realised that I was missing nothing.
The things I've made happen and the momentum that I've created in 6.5 months is just the start to what I'm going to achieve.
Everything is better in my life now.
I have no desire to drink any more alcohol.
I'm not even beating myself up about drinking for those 3 days either
I tried it and it went against who I've become.
Momentum is everything when you want to stop drinking alcohol
I wish you well , I’m sure your life is so much better now , I’m starting today , scared as I can’t get past 4 days
Respect, hoping to become the person you have
What a Powerful story! Stay Well!! ❤️
Great job. I binge drank for 13 years. I'm now 4 months sober. I've took a sip of beer last week and couldn't swallow it. It has grown away from me. I'm loving it. Your health is more important than your fun
alcohol is attractively packaged poison
15 months without a drop. Best decision ever. Feel much better physically and mentally. More approachable and engaging. More focused on my work. Father passed away January 30th 2022. Just a month before on Christmas I told him how I quit and he seemed really happy for me. Little did I know that'd be the last time I would have a conversation with him. As he lied in the hospital after suffering a massive heart attack and sustaining cardiac arrest I took a vow to keep myself clean.
I pray for everyone struggling against addiction thank You Father in Heaven
I quit drinking and drugs in my late 20s. Stable marriage of 42 years. I am now 69 still working 12 hr shifts and my coworkers can hardly keep up. the people my age are having all sorts of medical problems, diabetes heart disease cancer. I look and feel about 50 . my wife has many medical problems so I have learned patience from her to help others who are not as fortunate.
Oh wow keep it up am 20 any advice
The longest I made it without alcohol was 63 days, I was so proud of myself. I felt so much better, so much more alive.. now here I am 1 day sober. Back at the start line… here I go all over again in this crazy cycle.
@Yvonne Oxier keep coming back. It works if you work at and you’re worth it, so work it. I’m in my 23rd year of sobriety now and life is wonderful
Stay with it. I went to rehab and stopped for 5 months. Then I was put into a triggering situation, and I drank. The hangover was terrible, but I continued to drink daily and the hangovers went away as long as I kept my drinking to a certain amount. So being hangover free felt like I had figured things out, until the hands started shaking in the morning. Trying to shave or run a Q-Tip through my ears was downright dangerous. Brushing teeth was dangerous too. And go ahead and try to drink water when your hands shake. It got downright embarrassing. I supplemented with Milk Thistle because that has been proven to reverse liver damage from alcohol. I also started taking shots of lemon juice with olive oil and Cayenne pepper, which is also known to reduce fatty liver disease. I was trying to supplement my way to keep drinking. But the liver isn't the only organ affected by drinking. The kidneys, the bladder, the urinary tract, the prostrate - are all in play too. So is the colon. I might have the healthiest liver of any heavy drinker, but my body is offering me advice: QUIT. So I am weening my way off the sauce. I know from rehab that quitting cold can be dangerous, so please lower your tolerance and quit slowly and realistically. I wish all of you the very best in conquering this cunning bitch of a disease. May God bless you all.
I just learned after failing for one day, I could start over and I did. Don’t give up!❤
We are survivors ❤
Be proud of that 1 day, because you can't get to 63 again if you don't start at 1. I have 2 dear friends who fight the same enemy and they are now sober for more than 10 years each and are proud to go to AA Meetings now. If you ever need help, reach out to Friends and Family, Sponsors, Strangers and anybody else that can help. Connect with positive people, they can be addictive too.
I used to consider myself as a social drinker, I was downing 120 pints of premium lager a week, I never realised the damage that the alcohol was doing to my body until a routine blood test showed that the alcohol I was consuming had killed off 2/3 of my liver function. My doctor advised me to seriously cut down on my alcohol consumption or I wouldn't see 50, that was at the end of 2003, I quit drinking alcohol for all of 2004, I'm now going on 66 years old and I'm so glad that my doctor gave me a wake up call about my drinking
❤️🙏👏👏🇨🇦
Fair play - that said I think at 17 pints a day you are passed social! Good luck 👍
The money you must be saving........
I quit smoking and drinking, cold turkey, 20 years ago (by the grace of God) and it was the best thing I have ever done.
Thanks
16 days and it’s amazing. Problems don’t go away, but having the clarity to tackle them head on and be done with it is an incredible feeling ❤
“CLARITY” IS THE KEY WORD. WHEN WE’RE SOBER, WE PROBLEM SOLVE FAR BETTER. WISHING YOU HEALTH, HAPPINESS & PROSPERITY ON YOUR AMAZING JOURNEY💕🙏💕🙏
This is big facts
I hurt someone I love because of my decisions with alcohol was looking at a couple of years in prison only done 3months an was lucky enough to be realeased I'm never drinking again an I'm sticking to that
Good . What is it about us human , that it has to takes tragic or hurtful things for us to b to willing.
Hey, Eternal, this is one guy saying good for you, man! Stay on The Path. Live clean, live strong
Life is meant to teach...we understand our limits thru living life
It's been 6 months, Eternal How's it going?
Although I have never have a drug or alcohol problem I have had loved ones that have...many blessings and prayers to any of you that are struggling. ❤
Its a choice one makes. I also chose to avoid supporting bad habits. Bad habits is acwaste of hard earned money.
Thanks.
28 days to forever sober!! Let’s gooo 🙏🏽🙏🏽
100% true! Exercise replaces the need of alcohol. I am almost 40 and I am healthier now than I was in my 20's. I quit drinking. I am able to have endurance I never had before. I can climb 270 flights of stairs nonstop multiple times a week. I have through hiked 1000 miles with 30 lbs on my back. I can go and go and go!!! Truly amazing.
VERY GOOD ! GREAT GOAL
Im a struggling alcoholic. It started when my fiancé called it off to go back to her drug addicted ex boyfriend. Went into deep depression, turned to alchohol as a copping mechanism. Soon it became a habit. Drinking everyday from morning till sunset. Lost my job. Lost two good women who genuinely cared about. Ive lost a tremendous amount of weight, chose to drink than eat. Im heavily in debt as a result. I neglected my self, my children, my responsibilities. All because of alchohol! I currently at low point. But trying to get myself together. Not easy when your alone, but getting there. Drinking socially/occasionally is fine, but not every day. Ive done some much damage. Hoping to recover soon. Prayers up!
Keep your head head up and keep going brother!
I hope you are doing well.
Went thru a divorce than a relationship of 4years ended, not because of alcohol; the rejection was too painful, almost drank myself too death. Drank for 2 months all day long. I detoxed and went thru the DDTs; currently 15 months sober.
@@edpolanco6936 i need help
Brother go to AA, Iv'e been attending reg. Every week; I listen for the similarities not the differences. I go too my knees and pray out of bed and the same at night. Get a 24hr. Prayer book and read that days passages.
Life is so much better sober. People can't see that until they get outside of that box.
I’m really trying to see it. Life looks so bleak without a drink
I stopped drinking on new years day and started keto too. I look better and most importantly feel better mentally and physically. I'm even down 16lbs. I actually feel much better all the time even better than I thought I felt while I had a buzz.
It’s true. Alcohol is a liquid prison.
I used to drink a quart of whiskey every day and it tore up my marriage , my bank account and almost kill me , I was fortunate enough to quit 10 years ago and things have been looking better since, this guy is 100% right, your whole personality changes and you function better
Alcohol in excess becomes an aldehyde and pickles the body.
Self embalming.
@@Geezerelli absolutely
I was fine with drinking in the beginning. But as the years went by , I became a mean angry drunk.
Alcohol becomes acetyl aldehyde in the body and pickles you like formaldehyde.
Terry, how long was that behaviour for? I'm pushing it currently, (1/2 your former amount stated), and I'm starting to freak. Congratulations on your quit! Regards and all the best.
I stopped drinking about 10 year ago. Well... maybe a beer or 2 once a year. I drank alot but never to the extent it was a problem. But all but stopping has done wonders on my personal appearance and mindset. He is 100% right
I've been sober for 42 years now & it's the best decision that i ever made for myself. I'm grateful that i got arrested for my 3rd DWI, by the time i was 19, and family intervened and it ended up being a blessing in disguise. My grandfather passed down his longshoreman's union card to me and i lived within a quarter of a mile of the Conley Terminal in South Boston, i got involved with AA and it not only saved my life, but i was able to be there for my son when he was struggling with booze & drugs. I'm retired now and living the dream!!
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Your smile is precious and the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Stay Positive.
This is one of the most beautiful, simple , things I have ever heard a complete stranger say...YOU are precious...you should also be a writer
I think with this demon alcohol that we lose our hope first. I try but sometimes wish I were a better person.
my smile is not that precious.. I have only like 6 teeth left..
@@Mikau-gb8uo 😂😂
Your post made me cry and I believe you. Thank you!
Sending love to everyone struggling with this!
AMEN !
I went 21 days without alcohol. After year 2018 of having a drink everyday in my hand, I finally did 21 days it was difficult but easy at the same time. Let's go for 40 days now
Difficulty is the perception of a weak MAN! Adversity reveals genius! Let's go ERIC!
You are amazing Eric !!! I started drinking again 18 months ago , i quitter for 7 years , today is my second day not drinking , and I start focusing on a fitness diet more and working out , I used to be a gym rat but ruined it cuz of alcohol
@@Iammighty Start with some burpees mate!
I got 210 days sober after drinking for 8 years straight
Well done, Eric. WELL done! Keep us updated. ❤
i really respect him and i love him for being kind and showing the right way
12 days sober!! I started brewing pitchers of tea in replace of drinking my white claws and vodka soda waters. It’s been working really well for now. I haven’t had much of an urge to drink. I even went to an Oktoberfest and to a bar and didn’t even drink. Stay strong everyone!
I’m so happy for you!
How are you doing ❤
@@GiuliaCampana I unfortunately ended up collapsing. I actually have a white claw in hand now. I will take another hiatus soon. I don’t think I’ll be done with it forever
Going on 6th week no alcohol, I feel amazing. I became an alcoholic at 14 mentally. Heavy drinking started at 20 years old. Quit a month before turning 31. Happy with live.
Never had an real drinking problem, but something in me always to me: "If you want to stand out grom the crowd in life, you should quit". So I did, I quit drinking a few weeks ago and had the best time drinking water when I was with friend while they eere all drinking beer. Never going back, let's focus on improving ourselves!
Same journey 4 years now such a better life
Good for you man! 💪
I still drink alcohol but I spend some months off every now and then... I feel much better during those times. You could also try getting sparkling water or alcohol free beer (which worked great for me), if you feel the need to blend in the crowd...
@@joconst2880 nice man, keep going!
@@lindahandley5267 thanks!
I had a relative that drank moderately, then in retirement started drinking tequilla shots. I look back on it now & wish I had tried harder to get him to stop, but anyway he started having strokes at 80 & at 82 was in a wheelchair in a nursing home until his passing at 87. His father lived to 94 & his grandfather lived to 96 & both could still walk when they passed. The antidote folks is get creative & avoid alcohol.
He had strokes at eighty? he was nothing but a kid! Alcohol is bad
I'd sign that contract right now he lived a long life everybody I know is dying between 4r and 60
He lived a full and excellent life. He must of had a great caring staff to survive 5 years at a nursing home
How lucky to live to 87.
6 weeks sober.
Incredible feeling waking up everyday compared to what it was.
I’ve lost some social aspects of my life by doing this, but I’ve replaced those losses with boxing and the gym.
My goal is to be as fit as possible while working full time. This may sound simple but requires long term consistency and discipline.
Goals are so helpful ❤ I’m so proud of your journey 👏🙏🕊️ you are courageous brave and stronger now and every day - allow the flow breathe through and trust that the moment will pass when you need too along with the raging pride you feel of your achievements
Amen. Consistency is key with everything
As someone who's health also fell apart recently, I completely relate to what Peterson is saying about how it feels better to be working. For me, going back to work after a six week holiday during which I experienced extreme anxiety about whether I would be able to work again made all the difference. I've been back at work for 3 weeks now and I'm feeling much better. My only regret is nearly letting stress ruin my life. Never again. Thank you Dr. Peterson for sharing your incredible wisdom with the world.
“Doing things for other people is virtually more rewarding than anything you can do”. Perfect statement and so true, we have one life, be kind
I live my life by these 3 pillars:
Gratitude
Mindfulness
Altruism
They keep me grounded, HAPPY and get me through challenging times 😊
I agree to some extent. Looking out for & protecting innocent animals, & nature itself, is the most rewarding feeling
Some people have extremely broken and twisted definitions of kindness, and if they stay that way sober or drunk you must believe they feel nothing because the idea that they somehow feel love yet spend every waking moment making sure anyone else who believes it suffers for it until love isn't worth living for simply cannot be explained anymore than someone walking around without a heart beat. Life is not good, there is nothing more natural to me than distrusting other people's basic capacity for love and kindness, or that people have the capacity to prove anything that they claim to feel or believe isn't destructive oxymoronic garbage, and I especially don't want to see the proof first hand anymore, at least until I can ever physically and mentally relax if that ever happens before I finally die.
I'm at 8 days alcohol free today! It's nice NOT having to deal with the Monday and Tuesday 'bloat drain' where the body basically excretes all that extra water weight that it was holding starting from Friday. Already noticed that my face isn't as puffy either, so it's releasing some of that water as well.
Definitely not a heavy drinker, but I don't like waking up in a cloud on Saturday and Sunday, and with a Carmel dry mouth. Just need to manage that end-of-workweek craving with some other type of reward. I started weening away from the craft IPAs, and found that it's best to come away from all beer.
I love listening to his trueth, it’s helped my life tremendously.
“Trying to jump into a car at 200 ml” totally relate.
Truth is found in the word of God
I am very young and don't want to go down the path of addiction. I've abused prescription drugs, cough syrup, and alcohol. I'm so thankful I didn't get addicted. I am making it a goal to stay sober and never do hard drugs.
Leah, a life change is in order. I know, this is asking a lot. But really it's not. First off, no more "I am making it a goal to stay sober...". Second, like personal finance, if you want to succeed, start now. So it's not a matter of stopping, it's a mater of evolving. Leaving what you know is often hard but staying where you are is often awful, just unrecognized. The doors open when you submit to your own faith in who you can be. Peace.
Beware of doctors and their drugs too. Our educational system fails us on this subject.
Listen to your inner voice ☀️💞
As a father of 5 , now all 25-32, you just need to Start running or exercise , swim etc , and get into a gym… Hang around people that drink socially not drink to drink
And read the Bible daily
That’s a few things you can do immediately to make sure that doesn’t happen
In the end , all up to you 🙏🏼
Dude, it's a fine line between abuse and addiction. And the prognosis is identical.
How you doing today?
I remember looking at this video within the first few days of being sober, agreeing with everything said but doubting whether i could do it. Ive lost everything thanks to alcohol. Now, just under 2yrs later im revisiting this video again. IM STILL SOBER! I did it, and so can you
About 35.yrs ago I stopped pleasing other people by drinking alcohol. I had never liked the high or the taste, but peer pressure affected me and I drank like others did. Was as easy as the statement, I quit! Never missed it, and probably should celebrate this decision. Hope all that struggle with this can escape this struggle, and send you all positive vibes. You can do it! 💖
Interesting. I love the buzz/drunk feeling AND the way it tastes entirely apart from that; IMO nothing tastes better or more interesting than good alcohol. But I am now earnestly trying to quit (I say "trying" cuz I won't know if I really am able to stop completely until about 6 months of no drinking is achieved. Fortunately, I have a very good reason to not do it any more, plus the whole drag on health it can present).
I’ve been sober for 15 months now. Last
May I was diagnosed
With liver failure which progressed to kidney failure by last July. I was on dialysis 3 x a week, getting a paracentesis 2x a week from last July until this February when I was blessed enough to get organ transplant at at MGH-the greatest hospital in Boston. It’s been 4 months now since then and no more dialysis, no paras and of course still not drinking. The scars I now have are ridiculous but enough to remind
Me of what I went through. I’m not screwing up this second chance. I feel great today and wish I had quit years ago before all that happened to me. I’m only posting this story of mine to let others know it can get THAT bad. Alcohol is poison -plain and simple. Oh. I’m 50 fyi
Thank you ❤️
Iam a nurse in Canada. You just gave the best advice. Your a soldier and keep strong
18 days sober. I had to write
it down and sign it to myself.
I’m some ways I feel better, in others way worse. Some days my levels of anxiety consume me, like there’s nothing else, I get immersed pure sadness.
Some day I’ll find my happiness again.
Wish me luck.
I had my last taste of alcohol (although i didn't know it would be at the time) just over 3 and a half years ago. I remember holding the drink in my hand and realizing that i was physically, emotionally and spiritually exhausted. I got to a point in my life where continuing to drink was actually going to be harder than giving it up.
Bingo! At some point, a person hopefully realizes that the pain of staying the same is GREATER than the pain of changing.
My experience was similar. I just got so tired of my own bs. I couldn't take it anymore.
Same here on April 2020 stopped smoking too
I’m getting to that point. Getting sick of it .
Im on same boat. 12 years heavy drinking, tried to stop that shit few times but never more than 26 days. Im exhausted, im like hamster on spinning wheel. Im tired all of this bad things im doing to myself. 1 day sober.
My way out of it, (and it took an enormous amount of emotional growing up) was the realisation that in the end I am the one who chooses how I will react to the things that happened to me. Every time I took a drink because of those things I was giving those who did them the power to keep doing it. In the end I chose to not allow that any more and to let that young child trapped within, to finally grow.
damn that hit me
I needed to read this
I was assistant manager at my job .. I was drinking heavy , but it didn’t effect my work other then going in feeling like shit , and lacking on sleep. I recently got called into work to cover a shift but I had already been off and I had a lot to drink(me thinking my tolerance was high made me think I was good to go into work) when I got their I worked for a couple hours no problem , but then it all hit me at once and I straight blacked out on the clock. I did a lot of stupid shit in front of a coworker , and a did some other things that I don’t remember but watched it the next day on camera . I remember going into work and being functional/coherent then next thing you know I woke up the next day with the big boss saying we needed a meeting , and I needed to stay home from my shift that day. I missed the meeting because I was sleeping off alcohol poisoning. We had a meeting 2 days after the situation , and they told me to resign and they told me they would do one of those silent acts where legally no one is aloud to discuss why I quit . They said they still appreciated my work ethic and all I had done for the establishment, but it’s one thing you can’t undo. I’ve never done something like that a day in my life of drinking. Don’t even remember it . Charges could have been pressed , and I easily could never be able to find a job again , but thankfully my sober me is an amazing person/worker , and they weren’t going to let one MAJOR fuck up undo all the great things I’ve done with 0 issues . I promised myself to never drink again , and if I do…I deserve everything bad that will come with it. Alcohol is unpredictable and anybody is capable of doing ANYTHING if they are drunk enough. Don’t ever think “oh I would never do that drunk” trust me your not in control
Wow thank you for sharing such a great storyb
Thank you for sharing this my friend , av been drinking for 18 months now the last 6 was a bit heavy, it’s my second day today ! Am determined , the gym and protein shake and healthy food help me a lot , wish you all the best in your life bro !
I figured this might be a good place to share my story... Hope this helps someone
I grew up in a drug infested home with parents that abused substances including alcohol. I left home at a young age and ended up joining the USMC. I experienced a lot of traumas in the service and when I got out, I started to self-medicate with Alcohol. As soon as I started to abuse Alcohol my entire life seemed to halt. Things that were very important just didn’t matter anymore. Goals I had seemed distant and out of reach and overtime my life started to spiral out of control. When I abused alcohol, I also seemed to abuse everyone close to me. My marriage struggled, other personal relationships struggled and overall, my life became a struggle. This, combined with the PTSD I suffer from was almost too much. It wasn’t until I was arrested for domestic violence that things started to get better. I had to hit rock bottom. The courts ordered that I got treatment for my PTSD and that I had to quit drinking. Because I didn’t want to go to jail, I was forced to do this. My life began to change for the better almost INSTANTLY. My interpersonal relationships were able to be repaired. My marriage improved and my overall happiness improved. The goals that seemed so distant now seems just right out of grasp. I was able to refocus my life. I went from living paycheck to paycheck with severe depression and anxiety to making over 200k a year. My mental state is overwhelmingly joyful. It seems to me that Alcohol took the place of everything that was important in life. Once I removed that, it was almost like this fog was lifted and I was able to step back and evaluate what was happening. I have not had a single drink in 9 years.
Thank you for sharing ❤️
lets go! tnx for sharing :)
My sister is a recovering alcoholic (Australia) and at the time I wasn't aware of her struggle or the things she use to do to cover it up. For the last twenty five years, she's been the national manager for Alcoholics Anonymous.
@@Parawingdelta2 miraculous!!!🙏🙏❤️
I drink mostly because I'm lonely and left a marriage of 33yrs and also dont see my grown up children as much as I left family home..I had to move 3 or 4 times until settled now and my mother died in between all this.. ... .any replies welcome ...I wonder will I ever get over grief...I can't work anymore either. .was looking after children as a Nanny but am exhausted... .
I quit drinking alcohol November 25, 1993. If I kept up drinking like I did, I would not be alive today.
this was the day that I was born in Dublin, Ireland - a beginning for both of us!
See this is what social media intended to do. Make people relate, but instead it’s a bunch of teenage girls shaking their ass to soundcloud rappers
@@tswan1086 Cool
I had to leave my boyfriend who I loved because of his drinking problem, it broke my heart.. He was an unrecognizable and abusive man when drinking. I tried to guide him in love and encouragement but I was also very clear that I could not have an alcoholic in my life. He hid it from me when we first met but I eventually found out, people can only hide these things so long. He admitted he'd had a drinking problem for 7 years and volunteered to go to outpatient. He made an excuse why he didn't go. Then it was going to be AA meetings several times a week, all his idea. He went to maybe 4 meetings in a span of several months. He started drinking and hiding it again, he said he was ok because he'd cut back so much. He really went down hill and I had to leave him. To this day it's heart wrenching to think about but I had to save myself. So whoever thinks they can just cut back, or drink on holidays is fooling themselves. It's all or nothing with alcoholism. You WILL slowly return to your old ways if you don't get help and completely stop. My ex is a 51 year old man who makes 6 figures a year, and has nothing to show for this. He's in poor health physically and mentally, he's in such deep debt he almost went homeless until my family brought him in at one point before we split. His adult children suffer from his alcoholism, he hurts everyone in his life because he doesn't help himself first. Anyone out there read this, it's never too late to quit, there is a better life, you CAN repair yourself and your broken relationships, and broken feelings. Someone out there is waiting on you because they love you. Love yourself. I wish my ex would have, but you can go another way.
I’ve said this in many posts, and you are right. If someone thinks they can just drink once in a while, it’s a delusion. You will slip back into the old ways. Sorry things didn’t work out for you.
Hi Nichole. Hollywood and plenty of real-life people have depicted ALL heavy drinkers as abusive. I'd consider myself as what classifies as a heavy drinker. On any given night I'd put away one or two beers followed by a pint of Jack, which is basically 8 shots. So I was drinking about 10 drinks per night on the daily. It never ever made me mean and abusive. Not all drinkers are the same.
@@tomm3695 I never said all are, I strongly believe that the true person and personality is revealed when someone is intoxicated. My ex couldn't hide what he really was, it was eventually revealed who he is. I wouldn't be defending an abusive alcoholic or any alcoholic...you're essentially defending a man, who physically and psychologically abused me and I'm still recovering. Yes they're all the same in the sense that they hurt the people around them in one way or another. Shame on that.
I understand what you went through . I was in a 30 year marriage very unhealthy . Alcohol was in control of his life . I now know that I deserve a healthy life . I am getting help now for what I went through with Alanon .
I quit drinking at 36 and stopped smoking at 38. I’m now 41 and mentally I feel great. My memory is getting better and the stuttering is as well. My physical shape I’m still working on that due to the weight gain from quitting both habit’s. I’ll never go back to either habit. I have freedom finally now I’m focused on other things
Stuttering is mostly genetics so stopping drinking alcohol won’t help stop that at all. In fact if you start reading you can become a better speaker, but you’ll still have some stuttering. I believe yours is due to drinking too much, but some people stutter when they are born it’s normal
@@spartanalphamode2987 he will get better
I'm 42 and 2 years off alcohol and smoke. Started a plant based diet and a lots of running I'm in better shape than in my middle 20's.
@@jorgeazevedo3721 man you need meat Eggs dairy brother or you lose muscle and age faster, look at the vegans.
Quit drinking 2020, two years later, life is so pure
Psychedelics/psilocybin containing mushroom have proven a to be a reliable cure for depression, anxiety, ADHD, bipolar, OCD, insomnia, and other related disorders. Saved my life honestly.
After doing some research on the psilocybin benefits, I honestly want to get into shroom microdosing but it's just so hard to get a reliable source. Really need!
Yes! Very sure of Dr.Raymycolx
Microdosing has genuinely helped me, effectively reducing my depression. It's been the best solution I've found, and considering psilocybin illegal feels like a crime against humanity.
How do I reach out 🙏? Can I find him on insta
I trust Dr. Raymycolx. Microdosing has been my personal savior. A small amount works wonders-just a cap or two keeps me balanced all day. It's like clearing the mind and refreshing the soul, though it's tough to explain, much like describing colors to someone blind from birth
Jordan helped me quit drinking. Not going to say I'm 100% sober, but I used to drink every day, listening to him I decided to take 2 months off. Now I only drink when it's a holiday or special occasion. I don't feel like I need it anymore. But I had to break my habit and he has my gratitude. 🙏
October 2000 I was arrested & charged, sentenced to 3 year's,looking back it was the best thing that ever happened to me ,it gave me the time to think about what I was doing to myself & how it affected my family, friends .
I realised that every time that I got into any kind of trouble, alcohol was involved. There is a saying in jail. We're you arrested or rescued? Needless to say I was rescued,and have been sober ever since. My relationship with family & friends is much better, most importantly I am very happy & healthy.
We have similar stories Greg. The police officer who arrested me, and the Judge who mandated that I attend AA meetings saved my life! The last 28 plus years has been the greatest adventure of living "Happy, Joyous, and FREE! All the best to you!
I've had a cop rear end me, survived thyroid cancer, a house fire that killed my Millie dog, the death of my son and Mother (not even two months apart this year)..... All this shit within 5yrs..... It has kicked my alcoholism into high gear and I desperately need this this video. To those that have stayed sober, congratulations to you. I'm just looking for my first step back to "normality".
Praying for you
32 years sober drug and alcohol treatment specialist strength and conditioning specialist personal trainer studying health coach age 63 going for master trainer
Beautiful, congrats on all ur success 💪
Do you have Instagram? I like to follow people that still in shape after 40's
THIS MAN SHOULD BE IN A POSITION TO PROMOTE THE CONSTITUTION. DR. PETERSON IS DEFINITELY ONE OF A KIND !
My first day being sober , I am all in to quit this evil alcohol completely.
It was my best friend..and worst enemy. I could never have stopped (the very idea was terrifying) without God’s grace.
My only advice, no matter the objections, is hit your knees immediately upon getting up in the morning, and humbly ask God for another day of sobriety. Then, right before bed, hit your knees and humbly thank Him for one more day.
Sounds too simple, but it’s the winning formula.
I stopped drinking in March of 1989. I was 20 years old - never had a legal drink in my life (still haven’t). All due to finally hitting my knees and letting God take over.
I have peace now. Often have joy too. Most importantly, though, I have hope - because the One who I didn’t know loved me more than any human being could, just wanted to be given permission to help me.
I wish you the best. ❤
*If you are reading this, never ever give up. We will succeed. I'm cheering for you!*
Have a great day! 🖤
Words on a computer screen are empty words. Nothing like having support from human beings actually in your physical space.
This is the internet, how can we know your words were even written by a human.
Nobody is cheering, you do not actually exist.
Typing is not talking. Text is not speech. There is no "community" in cyberspace.
Words on a computer screen are empty words.
Nothing like having support from human beings actually in your physical space.
This is the internet, how can we know your words were even written by a human.
Nobody is cheering, you do not actually exist.
❗ *6 GUIDELINES FOR LIFE:*
*1) When you are alone, mind your thoughts.*
*2) When you are with your friends, mind your tongue.*
*3) When you are angry, mind your temper.*
*4) When you are with a group, mind your behaviour.*
*5) When you are in trouble, mind your emotions.*
*6) When God starts blessing you, mind your ego.*
I think it needs to be said, "minding" sometihng doesn't mean completely disown it. I have been there and let me tell you, completely disconnecting from a behaviour that you find in need of reform in your life is devastaing. I'm not talking about alcoholism, or substance abuse, I'm talking about behaviours, that you will happy to express, but deemed to be ultimately against your goal.
"Minding" your emotions does not mean you don't get to feel undesireable emotions, just that you have to realise that the emotions are bad, feeling bad emotions makes you feel miserable, and what does make you feel these bad emotions. Because if you figure out the source, you are already at a better position to do something against it.
1-Mind your thoughts to not stay true to your yourself
2-Mind your tongue to be disingenious
3-Stifle your passion
4-Be disingenuous
5-Be disingenuous
6-Don’t get cocky. At that point a lot of things tend to slip through the cracks
Comment of the day 🏆
It sounds like if you have to check yourself that much it must be hard for you to fit into society
6) When walking on roads , mind the drain gaps.
27 months in recovery and it's just amazing path I am on and loving life now thank you Jordan Peterson you are amazing.
Bless everybody battling the sober life. After two relapses im now 2.5 years sober! Sober life is the only way for me. As a 26 year old male it is rough at times, specialy during the big social occasions. But man.. comparing how my my life used to be. We addicts have been to hell and back, seen the gutter, and some of us barely survived. For anyone reading this, getting sober is worth it! YOU CAN DO IT❤
best thing I did, drinker for 20± years, sober for 8 months, its amazing how much happier I am and how much better life is :-)
Takes someone else’s video - adds your own head nods for personal gain. For those of you that are here for the underlying meaning of this video, I applaud you. The internet is all about self interest these days, but I am so proud of what you’ve accomplished. I’m a struggling Alcoholism myself, it’s so nice to see your stories in the comments, keep pushing forward, love you all.
Needed this today after being sick all day from a bender. Today I have decided to finally put my foot down and actually put an effort into quitting and getting my life back. I can and will not continue this path anymore or I'll end up in an early grave.
We’ve never met but you have done so much to improve my life Dr. Jordan Peterson. All by nothing more than coincidence, you were there when I looked for understanding. Thank you. Your greatly appreciated.
Needed this.
Even drinking on the weekends is enough to hold you back from bettering your self, reaching your goals, and presently being there for your family. I can attest that when compared to times of sobriety even a light hang over is enough to curtail your productivity. You have a rough week, (or so you create a rough week for yourself) and crave drink on the weekend, on Sunday's I spent the majority of my day lounging on the couch watching tv, VS weekends where I wouldn't drink I'd get up in the morning on Sunday make breakfast for my family, take them out, do productive things around the house. Alcohol steals your energy and potential, it's a trojan horse just like caffeine.
You are absolutely right. I was a weekend drinker and I use to do a lot of spending at the bar. Real reckless with my money. After the hangover is gone I feel stupid. I might have said some things to people that I would never say because of alcohol. It’s been a month and a half. Just last night I was hanging with my friends and I was sober and stayed that way. I told them to bring me home and I felt better in the house
Like caffeine?
What’s wrong with caffeine?
@@maryannechalifoux6458 it’s addicting! That’s what’s wrong with it!
Caffeine has a net loss effect on the body in terms of alertness. Caffeine drinkers are no more alert than non-caffeine drinkers when tested for alertness. However, they do become much LESS alert when the caffeine starts wearing off, eventually leaving them tired, groggy, brain fog, withdrawals, etc, until they get their next fix. The same goes for energy levels.
Whereas energy levels and alertness remained stable in non-caffeine drinkers, who experience 1 dip in energy levels and alertness after lunch, especially if it was a heavy lunch, which resolves within an hour.
Caffeine drinkers experience these dips all day and when caffeine is consumed, it just brings them up to baseline, normal levels.
I wish you all the best on your journey! Take everything that comes your way and keep pushing!
I have listened to both Jordan Peterson and Lewis Howes on a number of topics, none more important than this. Thank-you both.
It’s good to read everyone’s comments. I’m on a 5 day bender and I came here for help because I don’t know where else to look
Two years in February 2021.
I didn't wait till it messed up my life.
I quit before it did.
thank you Jordan your message is a blessing to all
💛
This man is amazing. I love him so much.......he has helped me sooooo much.
I love this guy so much, he is the only person that gives me another day on earth 😢
It's videos like this one and the AA that have helped me considerably. Been sober now for 9 days and feeling surprisingly energetic whilst shaking off the flue. To whomever it may help ; I was technically drinking non stop since I was 18 and now I'm 31, binged right through my 20's then the pandemic hit and it spiralled out of control. I had to draw a line from it when I went into somebody's spirit cabinet and began swigging anything I could find secretively. Only the gods and yourself can help you. But sobriety feels great at this stage. Everyone else says it, but it really does feel good not waking up with a hangover.
Almost two years without a sip of alcohol. It was destroying my life. My passions where gone. I gained over 100 pounds. I was stuck, and hiding my drinking from others. I would look in the mirror and hate the guy looking back at me. One night I was having a hard time, stuck in a pit of despair and depression and I hear The Lord say in my spirit that He is in control. I broke down sobbing and I told my wife I need to quite drinking. She told me she agrees but that I needed to tell her how bad i had gotten. I told her about my hiding it. About my excuses, how I would go to the store so I could buy some vodka and then chug it before I went back inside. How I had empty bottles hidden all over the place. She was dumbfounded and she told me to allow God to help me. She should of kicked me out but she showed me grace. I asked for forgiveness and I was transformed in an instant. I haven’t touched alcohol since and owe it all to Jesus who took my sin so that I can be made new.
Amen.
Amen brother 🙏
That is wonderful! This is not about alcohol, but I suffered with postpartum depression with my first child in '68. I felt helpless and hopeless. I was so desperate one day that I dropped to my knees and asked God to please help me. Two days later, the fog started to lift and each day I got better. God is SO good....all the time! Stay in touch with Him and you'll be just fine! ✝🌈
@@lindahandley5267 thank you for sharing. It means a lot. May The Lord continue to bless you and your family even when the storms come. I look forward to the day when we will all get to be together celebrating with our King.
*Bible Talk With BW* look forward to that day too. I wish everyone realized that God is always close by, waiting for us. All we have to is humble ourselves, reach out and ask for His help. He will take us into his loving arms, forgive our sins, take away our old desires and give us new ones! I didn't think that it was possible, but it absolutely is! Stay well my brother in Christ! ✝
7 months cali sober now after 2 relapses, longest so far and i can finally say im proud now that i have a support network, just weed, psychedelics and caffeine and sugar and im a whole new better person! i can finally now say with integrity that never again will i ever consume alcohol again and will never use hard drugs again unless prescribed and monitored by my doctor and even then i changed my medical preferences to only ever prescribed if absolutely necessary or everything else failed. I am now happier, healthier, lost weight and repaired bridges. If anyone reading this is struggling with alcoholism and is trying to quit; don’t give up, it gets better every day, keep going Im rooting for you! ✌🏻
It’s been 5 years. Now and then I still regret time wasted. I passed a scary moment 2-3 months once the decision was made and a seizure nearly ended my life. I controlled it; thinking about my children. Once the seizure stopped I realised the gift I had.
Hello, thank you for telling your story. Can I please ask what the seizure was? Was this after quitting alcohol? I am afraid
So sober, strong, healthy and emotionally open. That's good advice.
18 months drinking alcohol , today is my second day not drinking and focusing on working out and a good diet . ENOUGH of letting me waste like that , life is too short to waste on loser things
you got this 💖💪🏽
Good for you 2o years quit it gets easier every day ,find other things to enjoy is key ,do what makes you happy
@@jeffreystorer4966 hey friend , am glad to let you know that am officially sober again , that’s my 2023 looks like right now !!
@@Iammighty good on you ,I would most likely be dead or in jail from shit decision made drinking, I found for me I just went fishing like mad for first twelve months,find some thing else you love to do,I never really drunk much boating so was good escape zone , still smoke bit of weed here n there harmless enough , suggest avoid all that rehab bullshit, after all it's something only you can do for your self ,but whatever works best for you main thing ,out and about at first I drank coke with ice in small glass , people think you drinking spirit so you don't get all the , come on have a beer bullshit , from friends while out ,volenter to be skipper drive home works to , keep up good work but if it really drive n you nuts ,walk down buy one beer ,walk home again n drink it , you might slip a little bit but at least it will get you fit , LoL it doesn't take long before you will think wtf did I do that for ,best of luck cz keep me posted if you want
I stop drinking 5 years ago... Believe... It is true.... I'm 35.. but I feel like 23.. drinking is not a way of life....
23 years drinking heavily, I don't know how or why I am still alive, a walking miracle! 3 days ago, I chose to go back to the day I chose to turn to alcohol to cope with not feeling loved or valued (long story). The constant pain of waking up many mornings full of guilt and deep disappointment in myself was far more painful than looking at that day of choosing and the 'back story' which took me to that point. I am healing my inner child and using timeline therapy to confront the voices of yesterday. I ask for prayers and I send prayers to all of you on your journey of new found strength and self-discovery.
Keep going!! You can do this! You're worth it!
@@getoverit2789 Thank you for your kind strong words. X
@@janeybee6679 I haven't touched a drop since 1992, and it was the best thing I could have ever done for myself. A lot of terrible things have happened since then, but returning to alcohol would never have helped me cope. I stayed in my head and got real help for problems, and became a stronger person for it. Stand firm!
@@getoverit2789 That's amazing! 30 years is a long time to be sober! I am hoping I have 30 years left in me, would love to see my teenager's continue to grow into their beautiful souls. Yes, sadly, alcohol was a terrible coping mechanism for denial, denying the past and fearful of looking at it. It's been hard, but I found the courage from somewhere deep down and a lot of praying for my god to help me (Universal God). I am going away tomorrow and I am a little fearful/ curious how I will cope with not having my regular go to, but keep reminding myself that I need to be in touch with my soul, and my senses. To wake up and smell the salt in the air, the birds singing and the grass between my toes (camping near the sea) and to be 'present', taking part in the simple joys of life. I will try and stand firm, and thank you so much for your inspiring, thoughtful message.
@@janeybee6679 You're so welcome! And remember... you're the only YOU that this planet will ever have. Be FULLY YOU, 100% of the time, and embrace it! God bless you!
Jste úžasný, děkuji .Vaše práce mě hodně pomáhá.
I lost the person I love because of my drinking and drug abuse. That's my biggest regret. even after finding someone who would even think of loving me it still wasn't enough for me to stop. I felt like giving up. I'm now 40 days sober and feeling a lot better I'm finally getting over the relationship and I don't ever see myself on that path again. I lost her but I hope she is happy and I hope I can be a better person in the future. I want to stay strong.
Yes you can.
We don't need alcohol to solve or broblems. And if we really love someone : let them free. I had also a lot of pain ,but you become an adult if you are more open minded. Respect yourself and others.
Take good care of yourself. 🙋
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This guy. Is a real friend of humanity. THERE IS NO VALUE, that can be even given to THAT WHEN ITS REAL AND ACTUAL.
Ive drank for 25 years, recently everyday. I really want to make a go of this. Ive been 6 days dry. Im going on a family holiday in 3 days with my young boys. This is it. Im going to give it everything in the next 2 weeks and see where i end up. Im a fighter, im going to fight 🙏
Good luck🙏
I'm just over 30 days sober and I really feel good. Re connection to.God is truly helpful when dealing with dependence on Alcohol. Thank you Dr. Peterson
76 days into recovery, not on dope, not on the street, not unemployed, not starving, and not considering suicide.
I'm grateful for the things I'm not
This is such an important topic. Lewis does such an amazing job with his interviews. People really need more awareness about the dangers of alcohol. This should be taught in schools extensively starting at an early age.
I don’t agree with Jordan on everything, but on this particular subject he is spot on. Drink ruined all that was good in my life and now I’m trying to put that right. 6 years sober now and nothing bad happens anymore, BUT the damage done by drink is not easy to erase. Every action has consequences forever.
There is no upside to alcohol consumption, I believe that wholeheartedly now.
A lot of us have the same story. Congrats on your 6 years!
I am so proud of your sobriety. I was never a drinker, but my husband was. Definitely not looking for any kind of sympathy I just came across your comment and realized it can be done, you can get sober. I have been married to my husband for 27 years. The first 20 were like something out of a fairy tale, my true soulmate or so I thought. The latter seven years, he has been a full-fledged blackout alcoholic. My son and I suffer in silence every day. I don't want to lose this man but he has changed. The drink made him a different person and not a good one. 27 years of marriage, sometimes I don't know whether to run or if I could actually stay and help him. Seems like he doesn't want help and like I said before he is a completely different person. Other women and lots of lying and deceiving. What I don't know, is if I could ever do anything to help him. Or is this just something he has to do for himself because I am failing big time trying to help him put the pieces of his life back together. I've never gone through this experience before so I don't know do you stay or do you go?
Anyways your comments stuck out to me and congratulations on 6 years of sobriety.WELL DONE.🙏
@@susannetaylor9914 Thanks for your kind words. In answer to your question, he has to do it himself - I believe that’s the only way. He needs, what I had, a moment of clarity and he needs to be sick of what it does to him and his family.
It was June 2016 when the lightbulb finally went on in my crazy head. I was standing in a London suburb pub, arguing with an idiot about another idiot and it suddenly hit me. I’d been talking to these people for 35 years and it only ever caused me trouble - it had to stop. I lost my first wife from drink and after I stopped it all I went round to see her and apologise. Luckily she is a forgiving person and told me I was more like the person she married now, but I disappeared for 30 years!! Unfortunately my actions meant I will never be with her again and she is happy now, but every action, however long ago, has consequences to this day. We can try to make amends, but we cannot erase everything.
Your husband must be honest, be aware of the consequences of his behaviour and start caring about those that truly love him. Only then will he stop the demon that is drink. Addictions want you to be alone, that’s what he must remember.
I wish you all the best.
@@susannetaylor9914 There’s a song called ‘Too Good For Giving Up’ by Liam Gallagher that I love. The lyrics are so relevant to me and well worth a listen if you’ve not heard it.
My oldest son doesn't think he's an alcoholic, but he is. It doesn't affect his job or bank account, but it certainly affects his relationships. I pray for him every day.
A little over three years ago I started drinking again. I hadn’t touched a drop in six and a half years. I’m not going to tell you that I’m a mess now, but it’s had negative consequences. I’m fairly active, but I’ve put on at least thirty pounds, that is impossible to take off, my sleep absolutely suffers from it, I have spent a good amount of money on it. I have made an ass of myself a few times, and one time is way too many, and lost motivation is the cherry on top. I’m quitting again, and I can’t see me starting again. Good luck to everybody. 🤞🏼🍀
Love these videos! Truthful and hard hitting but very HELPFUL. I’m 103 days sober from alcohol and cocaine. I was 5 months before I relapsed but that’s part of my journey and I’m glad it happened bcos the fear and thoughts of wanting to die after it happened DRIVE me everyday to remain being sober ✊🏻 24 hours is all we look for keep on going people 😊
It's crazy that he said.."Doing things for other people is by far more rewarding than drinking alcohol" That's pretty much exactly how i felt when completely giving it up close on 10 years ago. Instead of getting smashed every weekend, i found looking after my nieces, and my older family members was way more rewarding. Plus no hang overs, so i could enjoy my whole weekend. Things worked out great, my older family members looked after me when i was a child, and i helped and hung out with them at the end. No place i would have rather been. This whole...Alcohol culture to me is nonsense. If you want to drink fine, but it's also fine to say no. Life's too short to be hung over all the time.
2 years sober 12/26/22 best thing have ever done
I had the most INTENSE case of anxiety several days ago due to the a 2 day binge that landed me in the hospital. I think that was the last straw for me. I thought I was going to die. I thank God I didn't, and I thank my wife for her patience with being there, and not leaving me a long time ago. Praying everyday since that I don't go back 🙏.
I’m glad he opened himself up for the world ♥️ 🌍