@@Davtwan While that is true sometimes, it seems to be an exception to the rule. Too many stories out there about one 'golden' becoming spoiled while knowing their sibling is being put down. They even put the other child down to. These are the ones that grow up and demand the sibling's fiance, wedding plans, house etc. .. They are known as Karen, Kevin, Chad etc ...
Apparently the so called parents suck so bad that even their " miracle child " knows they are crap and big sis was probably the only one who actually could understand just how horrible they really are. It probably was the reason they bonded and were likely the only people who they knew loved them. Thus why the little brother isn't entitled trash who looks down on his big sister.
@@SkyEcho751 people get spoiled rotten, only if the are rotten. You don't choose your parents or upbringing - decency is still a choice. To clarify what I mean: in comparison to a 3rd world country, you being literate (as in able to read and write) is being spoiled - you aren't less of a human being for being literate and you wouldn't be more of one if you weren't. Decency is a choice. Edit; your upbringing does influence the opportunities, references, understanding, environment, means etc. But decency is still a choice and a lot of people choose not to make it.
Story 1: Those parents are exactly the types of people who shouldn't be having kids in the first place... First the dad cheats on the mom and gets another woman pregnant, then after they take the kid in, they pretty much abandon her after their "miracle child" was born only to end up disowning him later when he won't live his life just to satisfy them. So basically, this whole time their only motivation for having children was to satisfy their own needs. Good thing the siblings have each other's backs, but wow their parents suck.
I have to say, that if my husband would come to me and say: Hey, I have a kid for you, I made it with another woman and I decided to take it in, you have to care for it now! I would also don´t want to do anything with this child at all....
@@insideAdirtyMind I think that that's fair, but when you agree that you'll get over how the child came to you and raise them anyway, it's unfair for the partner who was cheated on to still hold that over the child's head. I probably wouldn't stick around the raise the kid either, but if I agreed then I have to put my 100% into it.
@@insideAdirtyMind I also wouldn't do that however OP mentioned that there was a deal between all three of them, meaning the stepmom was also involved. Starting from this point, you chose to "deal with this child", as I'm lost for other words.
Honestly with how the stepmom just accepted this it's more likely this was the dad and stepmom's plan. Have the dad getting some random girl pregnant and get custody of the child.
Also, the mom was a millionaire with no custody. Those child support checks would have been substantial indeed. Where did that money go? It sure as sh*t didn't go to OP.
That's what I thought. They were trying to use the love that the siblings had for each other, to guilt her into giving them money for her brother. I doubt if they ever told him about what they were doing.
Make sure if you want to pay for some of your brother's college that it is in a trust. This trust pays directly to the college office. Any refunds from the college must be repaid to the trust directly (or within 30 days of the check from the college being received/ 60 days of the college issuing the refund). Know that his parents might pressure him to pay them money. Protect him from this. And, protect him from them choosing his college and major.
we have to teach people that "my parents were not abusive, of course they yelled at me and ignored me, but they fed me, clothed me, sheltered me and raised me" it's not something to be "thankful" or "owed" that's the least a parent is REQUIRED to do, and that being ignored, belittled and invalidated until they kicked you out as soon as they could, is a type of abuse... especially if you feel like you owe them something for not letting you starve to death on the streets when you were a kid
I second this because I live this life. I wasn't raised with love, care or consideration. I was given the bare minimum and tossed to an uncaring world. My mother can't cope with the idea that she didn't raise me well so she pulls this shit all of the time. Oh well, I'm past it now, personally, but you're right that it's nothing to be proud of when you scrape by being a 'passable' parent at absolute best.
Too bad her mother didn't want to be involved. She sounds like an interesting character, but many people are not cut out to be parents. She virtually put OP up for adoption (while still paying child support), not knowing how a "miracle baby" would affect her so-called parents. And OP did have the love of her grandmother, and against the odds, her brother. I wish OP all the happiness and success in the world -- without her "parents".
The child support, I wonder how much of that actually made it to OP’s welfare, sure housing, food, and warm bed is just basic needs but as OP said she merely existed so I doubt she got toys and no birthdays as she stated. She probably had to argue for other basic stuff like a phone, any clothes she wanted, and etc. I hope OP’s fake parents get old and see that they will just go into retirement home with little to no visits from the kids and future grandchildren. I honestly wonder 💭 why people like this never stop to think what consequences will happen for being an A**hole. :/
My sister is one of those. She just doesn't like kids at all, she's never been the maternal type. My middle son, although he absolutely adores kids and has always been amazing with them, think male Mary Poppins, he and his partner have decided to remain child free. I absolutely support them.
Frankly the bio-mom doesn't come off as very sympathetic either. Did she know she was sleeping with a married man? What was she thinking, giving her child to the "other woman"? I"m also not too wild about her stipulating OP has to go to business school to get her inheritance either. Of course she should learn money management, so have her take some university-level money-management courses. This approach just seems like she's playing puppet-strings.
@@DrownedInExile The story doesn't say definitively, but the way it was phrased -- turns out he was married -- implies more 'no' than 'yes'. In any case, the father was the one who took the vows. And what do mean by 'giving her child to the other woman'? She was giving custody to the FATHER, who begged her to have the child, which she was under no obligation to do. Fathers, surprisingly, have equal responsibility for the care of children as mothers -- if only he thought so. Are you suggesting that she should have either had an abortion or given the child up for adoption? Maybe, as it turned out, but was she supposed to be psychic? So far as she knew at the time, her daughter was going to a reasonable home, to repeat, with her father.
For a couple who was so desperate for kids they had no issue taking in an affair baby and totally gloss over the cheating, It seems really bizarre they would disown them just like that.
They weren't looking for the kids themselves. They were looking for the image. A picture perfect family where the parents say jump and the kids ask how high
@@Treveyon2010 If this was a Fabiosa Life cartoon, OP would have been conceived because her sperm donor ' swapped the contraceptive pills for vitamins!' Lol!
My view is that ironically the bio mom who didn't want OP or to be her mom actually showed more caring towards her and her future than the so called parents who raised her ever did.
@@Andrea.S.Alvey12 Although she didn't have a great relationship with her mother from what OP said it's quite possible and even probable that she did learn of what was going on and that could have been what made her leave everything to OP with the business school stipulation to secure her future.
Bio mum also paid child support. So she at least cared if op was provided for from the start. Because she could have got the father to wave child support if he wanted her to not terminate the baby.
I've heard the first story before but not the update. Good on OPs mom for that clause (although I don't like parents forcing their kid to go to a particular school they want) business school can help her out a lot, and once she's done she can go study what she really wants to do and have the business degree handy too. And I hope her brother can thrive in art school. I went and now I work in a completely different field ( I miss doing art).
I agree with you about parents insisting on a particular school but I'll lay odds that the business school was not only about trying to help OP to be successful, but would also train OP on how to properly handle her inheritance. Many people have no idea how to handle a windfall of money and end up broke before they even realize it.
@@Lynn-kh5rs That was my thinking too. OP's birth mother knew just handing OP millions would not be a good idea for OP or for the money she had worked so hard and sacrificed to earn. She wisely wanted OP to get a business degree that would benefit her with the financial knowledge to manage her inheritance even if she didn't actually use it for a career. The birth mother ironically enough might not have wanted OP or to be her mother but bless her because in the end showed more actual caring toward OP and her future than the so called parents who raised her ever did.
Going to business school doesn't require that one go into business. In fact, her artist brother could benefit from studying business as well as art, since becoming an artist is a business, too. The brother can work while waiting for the OP to finish her degree or he could get student loans and then the OP could help pay them off when she receives her inheritance.
@@ladyv5655 That actually is a great idea. Creative people aren't known for being good with money so it would actually benefit the younger brother to take some business classes at least. It would help him greatly if he has some idea of how to handle the business side of selling his art.
OP your mother put conditions on the inheritance because she wanted you to have the business skills to invest that money and make it grow for you. If you throw your money around people will love you until you stop.
The only person in OP's family (her brother) who actually treated her with love, is the only one who got any help from her after she became rich. Let this be a lesson to anyone who mistreats or neglects a member of their family. Thank God they both got away from those toxic parents.
Story 1: the sister’s money is not taken into account with an Ivy League financial aid package. If the family makes less than $200k, the brother would go under scholarship. Don’t even bother until he’s actually accepted to said school.
OP's brother did not want to go to an ivy league college, rather get his degree at an art school. His parents refused to fund his education and kicked him out of their home when he turned 18. OP had to get a degree in business before she received her birth mother's inheritance. She and her brother share an apartment while she works part time and attends business school, when she get's her degree, she will be given her inheritance. She is then going to pay for her beloved brother's education. Bless them both. Such wicked greedy parents. Karma caught up with them. Good Riddance I say.
I dont know about that 200k cutoff. My sister went to Columbia and we made less than 50k/year for a family of 4. She ended up having to get 150k in student loans....I think it was mainly for living expenses.
First story: OP should help and only help her brother. Also, it's good that there's an update. After the update: I consider this an awesome update. Not only did they lose their miracle child, they also lost their retirement plan. I hope OP and her brother get really successful and live their best life. Second story: I want to know what company OP is working at. Because that's a lot of money.
Wow, congratulations on ended up childless AGAIN. What the hell were these people thinking. Dad a cheater to start, infertile step mom accepts baby as hers until she gets her miracle baby, then Disown daughter for something "real". Then they disown him too because he wants to be an artist. I hope both kids have good lives away from those two
I have a question on story 1. Did the bio mom know that her mother was raising OP from the age of 13 up? I ask because of child support that the bio mom was paying to bio dad and wife to raise OP. Did child support get redirected to grandmother, or was dad still keeping it? If dad kept it, OP can sue on behalf of bio mom's estate to get the money refunded to OP, as OP is the trustee of both bio mom's and bio grandmother's estates.
If bio dad was keeping the money, my guess is bio mum found out, eventually. This might be why she made conditions about her will - to prevent the couple from sponging off OP.
1: Im glad OP’s brother is a good guy and is able to realize his parents are full of crap. They did OP dirty but they raised a good kid. I wish them both good luck! 2: Honestly it’s usually better to cut out the middleman and this one was particularly bad lol good for OP!
2: Yep, and a good rule if you are Independent contractor, always know what the client is paying if you use a middleman to get the jobs and have a written contract so you can lawyers involved if necessary.
2. Once he was not getting paid on time, he had the right to ask questions about the money from the client. I would have checked out why such a large professional company with a good reputation was paying their bills late. Also he had the right to contact other companies on his own. He could still have listed the client company as proof of working history. How he got the job (through the broker) didn't need to be mentioned. He put up with it a lot longer than I would have, before he started asking questions.
Also pretty stupid. If he'd turned out as selfish as them, or if he was simply fed up with their selfishness, that "retirement plan" could easily have turned out to be the cheapest, seediest nursing home he could find.
Story 3: That always annoyed me with the online store vs brick and mortar store pricing. The store is competing with itself... Luckily it's not an issue anymore, since they realized online prices and shipping is so competitive now.
I've literally had the same thing happen as story 3 to me before at Walmart..I wanted a laptop charger, and it was like ten dollars more in person than on the website. I ended up standing there, placing an online order, and waiting for someone to grab it and following them to the counter to grab it.
So, OP was basically treated similarly to Harry Potter. The brother wants to go to art school, but his parents refuse to fund it? 😈😏 If I were OP, I would set it up so that he could go to art school. That would be a bit of petty revenge against the so-called "parents". Oh, you want me to fund his education? Suuuure! Just not in the way YOU wanted. 🤣 After the update: Holy crap! They kicked out the brother?! WOW! I'm glad OP took him in and will be funding his art school once she gets her business degree.
It feels like trash to be treated like you’re no more significant to your parents than the furniture unless other people are watching. OP sounds like they’re very resilient and wise. I hope OP keeps on keeping on.
The first story, I knew it! I knew why the dad want to keep op and the stepmom didn't divorce bio dad for cheating and have affair child. Because one thing, money. Also, I hear this story and didn't know the update til today, that make my thoughts set on "why"?. The parents wanted kids as their cash cow, usually parents are happy their siblings are helping their younger siblings to make their dream happen at college but nope on this case. When bio dad wanted brother to educate on lawyer or doctor career choice. So, that make my mind spin til it set. I'm glad the brother didn't turn up into selfish entitled greedy person like their parents are. At least the brother is 18 and move out, that make it easier because this is the chance to permanently go NC on the greedy selfish entitled parents.
I absolutely hate parents and other people, who try to demand how you live your life. They are pure scum. It is fine to suggest, to diss-agree, to want what you think is best for someone, but that does not give you the right to demand. I would gladly go NC with anyone, including family, which I have done, for my right to live my own life.
OP’s bio mom wasn’t meant to be a mom but at the very end, she still did right by her daughter and made sure she would have a comfortable life. Some people just aren’t meant to be parents and they know it. It’s not selfish at all. It would be more selfish if OP’s bio mom was like her stepmom. Stepmom treated her children like trophies and retirement plans. Step parents got what they deserved lol. If you’re having children for the sake of bragging rights, don’t have them. I am really starting to believe that parenting is like that old saying: “sh*t or get off the pot” lol
Story 1: Like you said they need to speak with their brother before making a decision. I also feel like that's a ruse on their part and they aren't going to use that money on their son's schooling, they just want the money they spent on OP back, likely with interest given the price of Ivy League schools... or the parents don't care for either kid, and were only looking out for themselves.
They might not have actually spent any money on OP given that they were receiving child support from OP's wealthy bio-mom. They may even have been turning a profit.
The one thing everyone seemed to be forgetting is that OP didn't actually have the money yet. Assuming bio-mom set the condition of at least a bachelors degree in business, then its at least 4 years of college ahead for her, if she can afford to study full time. Could be more if bio-mom wanted her to get an advanced degree. So brother will probably have to get student loans to cover the art school and OP can help with repayment when she meets the conditions her mother set up. And lets be honest, no one mentioned whether or not brother would even get into the ivy league school that the parents wanted
1. Hahaha. Yeah no. You recieved an inheritance and you owe your Dad and stepmom nothing. Feel free to help your brother directly though, if you want to.
Op's Bio Mom, despite never seeing her Daughter, actually Cared about her MORE than her Father and Step Mother! Notice I said Father and Step Mother, not Dad and Mom. Because being a Dad or Mom and being Called as such is a Sign of Respect to and for the Parent. Just being a Father or Mother is about as much respect they'll ever get. And that's not saying much.
1st story: I like that part about paying for college AFTER they graduate. Let them take out the loans and when they graduate the loans get paid off. If they decide parties and “college experience” is more important than actually attending college then they are on the hook for the money.
I have heard some of these stories before but I thoroughly enjoy listening to the way you read them. You have a great voice and a lovely personality. I also enjoy all your comments. Thank you, this is a great channel.
Yea story 2 op is kind of a push over. "It's unprofessional", no it isn't. The second you found out that this late paying Richard takes ⅔ of your real earnings you should've taken this option. But you waited, until lockdown gave you an excuse.
Let’s not forget, birth mom in first story likely paid child support to help with her care while “raised” by father and step-mother. They did the bare minimum for her and that’s a shame.
1st Story - (NTA) The money is legally yours, and if you are of legal age, you can set a trust fund for your brother. Talk to your brother about how much he would need for books, housing, and other things, and set it up. Parent would not have any say or access to the trust.
Before they get the money they need to go to therapy or something. Once the money comes in they are going to be hounded by the parents for money. OP knows this, the brother might know but not truly understand, if the brother isn't prepared to resist the parents manipulation as he has likely never experienced it, the parents pressure could destroy everything.
Sometimes, the sheer stupidity of people surprises me. They practically disowned OP, but still expect her to give them money??? At least OP shut them down and still has a positive relationship with her brother.
Hell no . You don’t owe anyone anything . Don’t feel obligated to do anything for your brother and your parents can kick rocks . They don’t deserve anything from you . You can do whatever you want with your inheritance. If you want to pay his college then that’s your business!!
You are a good person op, and a good sister your brother is so lucky to have you, enjoy business school and your brother enjoys art school, I’m glad you have each other it sounds like you both had a traumatic childhood with such horrendous parents, I’m glad you still are a good person both of you after being treated so badly growing up Go n/c with those so called parents and enjoy both of your lives may it be full of blessings for you and your brother
Story #1 - If the brother is good enough to get into an Ivy League school, tuition won’t be a problem if the parents are poor. Most are entirely self-sufficient due to the school endowment. Yale, it was predicted a few years ago, could get rid of tuition completely for well over 100 years, surviving on the endowment alone.
The Home Depot story is spot on. I used to work for them and that was the policy. He did the correct thing. Thankfully Home office wised up and changed that policy.
A great set of stories Mr. G, but story 2 really made me happy! Us "Creative Types" are so often thought less of for some reason so it's great OP got her Just Desserts and Kevin got to fuck off.
5:07)Putting the account in her brother's name could be wrong. Her father and his wife would play mind games and get the money. Be best if she, or a 3rd party nandled things.
Fun fact about college educations: Most of the time you can get just as good a job from a regular college as from an ivy league college. Probably mom & dad just thought that their golden child deserved an ivy league education and so did they. Also, as a kid who was raised without a birth father in the picture, and finding out in my old age that my dad really DID love and want me, despite what I was told, OP must feel kind of good that her bio-mom did think of her and want to provide for her future. As to OP's parents, what kind of people treat a child like that? What the heck is wrong with her dad - she IS his biological daughter! The stepmom might be a witch, but him? Well - glad OP and her brother have each other.
Well sounds like she has a good relationship with her brother, so I agree if she does do it, she needs to pay the school directly, and maybe try to get him to go to a state school
Whoops. Didn't just lose their first kid, but the golden boy... Who seems like a good kid. The parents may have taught their kids how to be good people, and not entitled people... but they on the other hand...
Few comments on story 1(that OP will never see). 1) Dad was always scumbag as he's a cheater. 2) They "raised" daughter for 13 years--FUNDED by Bio-Mom's child support(likely a generous sum). 3) Did that child support end and go to Grandma AFTER OP went to live with her? My guess is that at least at first, the money kept going to "parents", maybe even after that because of the "agreement" and Bio-Mom probably wouldn't want to be bothered with legal fights. 4) Was child support stipulated to end at 18 or maybe later to take into account College years? IF so, then the parents may have found out about inheritance because payments ceased when she died.
As story #1 is going along "Parents want to send brother to ivy league college as its a dream" ... me ... "I'd find out what he really wants, this sounds like a scam brewing " OP ... "Brother wants to go to art school, parents unsurprisingly want nothing to do with it." Yep, saw that one coming. I'd still make brother work his *** off for art school, don't make it just a free ride. Story #2 - OP should have asked for the $300 they were paying Kevin. If they were happy with that rate before, they'd be happy now.
OP is honestly such a good person, not only do they not have any obligation to but they take in their brother and are going to help him pursue his dream? Seems like they both came up well despite the excuse for parents they got, i wish them all the best
Don't think they could. "Baby daddy" and "husband" don't have the same living/legal implications, and "ex-pouse's new partner" don't have ANY living/legal implications, let alone a mere baby daddy spouse. No living/legal connection with bio-mom, no entitlement to any money she left, even if the money went to someone who they used to live with and pay meals for
Story 2: Does anyone else believe that the accidental email chain exposure was deliberate??? That someone had figured out what was going on and wanted to give the "Creatives" a heads up? (edit to add): Did anyone else find her to be a doormat? Even before email chain, she should have stopped letting Kevin walk over her and then after, there was no excuse for allowing it.
Wow J R! all my videos! That’s amazing 🤩 I’m impressed, thank you :) it’s great to know you enjoy my videos so much, I’ll still release a new video everyday so hopefully it’ll be ok 😉
I remember reading about an experiment done on babies-not sure if it's an urban legend. The carer are not to show affection to them other than doing the bare minimum like changing and feeding them. They were not allowed to show affection or even give comfort. By the time they ended the experiment, half the babies died and some of the few the rescued eventually died as well because the babies just "gave up" by that time. I genuinely do not want to find out more about the validity of the experiment because if it turns out to be true, that's just heartbreaking and even if it's not, someone out there was mad enough to consider it even as a hypothesis. Neither are good in my opinion. This is just a roundabout way of saying-OP's father and stepmother weren't good parents. They didn't care for OP. What they did was the bare minimum.
That's a very old story, I think from the Middle Ages. Some ruler wanted to find out, which language was the first, hebrew, greek or something different. 20 orphaned babies were given to wetnurses, they were fed, clothed all material needs met, but all emotional connections denied. They never learned to speak because nobody spoke to them. All babies died. Failure to thrive. Social contact is a must for humans.
Story 01: If her _brother_ had come to her and asked, then I could see her saying yes. But he didn't. Her dismissive and discarding father and stepmother asked her. Therefore, the answer _needs_ to be "No". Story 01 Update: I'm glad it turned out the way it did, except for his parents being douches.
In the first story poor Op was dealt a terrible hand when it came to “parents” - I’m so glad he found someone who gave him the genuine love he deserved (grandma) and glad the bothers built a close bond. The updates also show how the “golden” child can also experience significant harm by intense preferential treatment and accompanying pressure when self absorbed, selfish parents only see the child as simply an extension of themselves who exist merely to serve as a source of external validation and support meaning their love is still not true rather incredibly conditional.
LG, I haven't enjoyed watching most videos lately, but I love watching yours and a couple of others. I have watched this twice so far, that I remember (may have been more). I just feel satisfied after watching your videos. Peace and Thank You.
Story 1: I’m pretty much in agreement with everyone regarding what OP chooses what to do with the money. But as far as school in general goes, its a better idea for him to just take one year off and just work and then really figure things out with school. Art school is kinda a waste of money as most people who do go in are usually saddled with a lot of debt after graduation and no practical skills for a career.
That really depends. If you do supplement your school in art with useful classes it's easier for you. But for people who just want to create and create? They really don't care.
Art school isn't just for paintings and museums, you also have industrial design, architecture, commercial design, TV/movie/print, mobile/web design, video game, AR/VR etc... There are a lot of well paying fields that are tied to art school.
@@lazarushernandez5827 So-so. Most of those fields also require other degrees/classes that would not be in art school originally. It's a good secondary school after initial two years in college to set a base foundation.
@@BrokensoulRider You don't need a basic degree to be profitable, though. Just some good know-how in what you want to do with your art to start your career.
NTA. It is your money. If you decide you want to help your brother, make sure to lawyer up. Anything you help him with, make sure it is for him and not them. Good luck :-)
Story one NTA.I have a question for op.Your bio mom paid child support to the dad and stepmom so did the grandma get the money from her daughter after op went to live with her grandma or did the step mom and dad keep getting it.Op keep your money and remember that although your bio mom didn't want you she still provided for you
Story 3 is just about a petty customer. If the store rules are that they can't honour the price when bought instore, then the staff can't do it. Even if they wanted to. Something similar.... There was a time where I wanted to book an appointment at the desk, but was told I had to call in to book an appointment. So, staying exactly where I was, I called them. The phone was ringing right next to them. After glaring at me they picked up the phone and arranged an appointment with me. ???
We had the same problem at a former job. The online price was, for example $19 and in store it was $24.95. Online isn’t paying to rent the space, pay for lights and water and sewage, they don’t have employee costs outside of those who ship the item, and they don’t have cost of equipment at the store. Because all online is centralized all those costs are lower so the online price is lower. But you also don’t get the expertise of face to face employee, being able to peruse the item and see if it is what you want, etc etc. There are trade offs to each.
I can truly relate. Online is separate from in-store, they are trying to get people to shop online more. The other thing is their stock is different but I really don't know why you have to buy online only to wait for 30 minutes and pick it up in-store. Still trying to figure that one out. Love how you put your lights back and made someone pick your order. I work for Home Depot and explain that very thing to many people daily 🙂 Most of them are baffled but cool.
Yeesh, only share it with your brother if you do fun stuff, or share with him directly. -From part 1 Part 2 - ART SCHOOL FUND Part 3 - Business sis and art brother! Dream team!
Story 1: You sound like a fantastic big sister your parents treated you differently and you never blamed your little brother for it. He seems like a good person too I wish you both the best of luck.
Story one is kinda amazing tbh. The brother seems like a decent kid, and even when Bio mom wasn’t up for being a parent, she ensured OP had a chance to live a very good life. I hope OP and the brother can continue to be family for each other since it’s clear the (adoptive) parents don’t actually care about the happiness of either of them, and instead just wanted a kid for self serving purposes.
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Wow,its good the "miracle baby" is not entitled spoiled brat. OP and the brother should keep a distance with their parent.
He truly is a "Miracle" child, as it's a Miracle he didn't end up spoiled due to his parents.
Sometimes “spoiled” kids are just oblivious, because they have no reference level. Once they see what’s really going on however...
@@Davtwan While that is true sometimes, it seems to be an exception to the rule. Too many stories out there about one 'golden' becoming spoiled while knowing their sibling is being put down. They even put the other child down to.
These are the ones that grow up and demand the sibling's fiance, wedding plans, house etc. .. They are known as Karen, Kevin, Chad etc ...
Apparently the so called parents suck so bad that even their " miracle child " knows they are crap and big sis was probably the only one who actually could understand just how horrible they really are. It probably was the reason they bonded and were likely the only people who they knew loved them. Thus why the little brother isn't entitled trash who looks down on his big sister.
@@SkyEcho751 people get spoiled rotten, only if the are rotten. You don't choose your parents or upbringing - decency is still a choice. To clarify what I mean: in comparison to a 3rd world country, you being literate (as in able to read and write) is being spoiled - you aren't less of a human being for being literate and you wouldn't be more of one if you weren't.
Decency is a choice.
Edit; your upbringing does influence the opportunities, references, understanding, environment, means etc. But decency is still a choice and a lot of people choose not to make it.
Story 1: OP and her brother are sooooo sweet, I am so glad they managed to have a healthy relationship despite the faults of the horrible parents.
Story 1: Those parents are exactly the types of people who shouldn't be having kids in the first place... First the dad cheats on the mom and gets another woman pregnant, then after they take the kid in, they pretty much abandon her after their "miracle child" was born only to end up disowning him later when he won't live his life just to satisfy them. So basically, this whole time their only motivation for having children was to satisfy their own needs. Good thing the siblings have each other's backs, but wow their parents suck.
I have to say, that if my husband would come to me and say: Hey, I have a kid for you, I made it with another woman and I decided to take it in, you have to care for it now! I would also don´t want to do anything with this child at all....
@@insideAdirtyMind I think that that's fair, but when you agree that you'll get over how the child came to you and raise them anyway, it's unfair for the partner who was cheated on to still hold that over the child's head. I probably wouldn't stick around the raise the kid either, but if I agreed then I have to put my 100% into it.
@@insideAdirtyMind I also wouldn't do that however OP mentioned that there was a deal between all three of them, meaning the stepmom was also involved. Starting from this point, you chose to "deal with this child", as I'm lost for other words.
Dad's a cheater and his wife was a damn fool not to leave him. Not that she's any better than him.
Honestly with how the stepmom just accepted this it's more likely this was the dad and stepmom's plan. Have the dad getting some random girl pregnant and get custody of the child.
"So now I don't know why they want money if it's NOT for his schooling."
because it's going to go to them, they want the money purely for themselves.
Also, the mom was a millionaire with no custody. Those child support checks would have been substantial indeed. Where did that money go? It sure as sh*t didn't go to OP.
@@redshirt49 True, but I have a feeling the child support checks stopped when OP moved in with the grandma.
No, they did want their son to go to ivy league school, but it wasn't about what the son wanted.
That's what I thought. They were trying to use the love that the siblings had for each other, to guilt her into giving them money for her brother. I doubt if they ever told him about what they were doing.
Make sure if you want to pay for some of your brother's college that it is in a trust. This trust pays directly to the college office. Any refunds from the college must be repaid to the trust directly (or within 30 days of the check from the college being received/ 60 days of the college issuing the refund).
Know that his parents might pressure him to pay them money. Protect him from this. And, protect him from them choosing his college and major.
we have to teach people that "my parents were not abusive, of course they yelled at me and ignored me, but they fed me, clothed me, sheltered me and raised me" it's not something to be "thankful" or "owed" that's the least a parent is REQUIRED to do, and that being ignored, belittled and invalidated until they kicked you out as soon as they could, is a type of abuse... especially if you feel like you owe them something for not letting you starve to death on the streets when you were a kid
In the inmortal words of Chris Rock "Don't expect praise for feeding your kids you low expectations muderfvcker"
@@cesaravegah3787 'what do you want.. a cookie'
@@SilverMaychan lol, I have to lol for that stand yo again, very funny and should be mandatory on schools
You may have missed the fact that the bio mother actually paid child support. So she probably fed clothed and provided for op.
I second this because I live this life. I wasn't raised with love, care or consideration. I was given the bare minimum and tossed to an uncaring world. My mother can't cope with the idea that she didn't raise me well so she pulls this shit all of the time. Oh well, I'm past it now, personally, but you're right that it's nothing to be proud of when you scrape by being a 'passable' parent at absolute best.
Too bad her mother didn't want to be involved. She sounds like an interesting character, but many people are not cut out to be parents. She virtually put OP up for adoption (while still paying child support), not knowing how a "miracle baby" would affect her so-called parents. And OP did have the love of her grandmother, and against the odds, her brother. I wish OP all the happiness and success in the world -- without her "parents".
The child support, I wonder how much of that actually made it to OP’s welfare, sure housing, food, and warm bed is just basic needs but as OP said she merely existed so I doubt she got toys and no birthdays as she stated. She probably had to argue for other basic stuff like a phone, any clothes she wanted, and etc. I hope OP’s fake parents get old and see that they will just go into retirement home with little to no visits from the kids and future grandchildren. I honestly wonder 💭 why people like this never stop to think what consequences will happen for being an A**hole. :/
My sister is one of those. She just doesn't like kids at all, she's never been the maternal type. My middle son, although he absolutely adores kids and has always been amazing with them, think male Mary Poppins, he and his partner have decided to remain child free. I absolutely support them.
Frankly the bio-mom doesn't come off as very sympathetic either. Did she know she was sleeping with a married man? What was she thinking, giving her child to the "other woman"? I"m also not too wild about her stipulating OP has to go to business school to get her inheritance either. Of course she should learn money management, so have her take some university-level money-management courses. This approach just seems like she's playing puppet-strings.
@@DrownedInExile The story doesn't say definitively, but the way it was phrased -- turns out he was married -- implies more 'no' than 'yes'. In any case, the father was the one who took the vows. And what do mean by 'giving her child to the other woman'? She was giving custody to the FATHER, who begged her to have the child, which she was under no obligation to do. Fathers, surprisingly, have equal responsibility for the care of children as mothers -- if only he thought so. Are you suggesting that she should have either had an abortion or given the child up for adoption? Maybe, as it turned out, but was she supposed to be psychic? So far as she knew at the time, her daughter was going to a reasonable home, to repeat, with her father.
Did op's bio mother was tricked to have affair. It's not if she knew father was married or not.
For a couple who was so desperate for kids they had no issue taking in an affair baby and totally gloss over the cheating, It seems really bizarre they would disown them just like that.
They weren't looking for the kids themselves. They were looking for the image. A picture perfect family where the parents say jump and the kids ask how high
Honestly it makes me wonder if OP wasn't an accident and the dad and step mom planned for him to knock up some random woman to get a kit.
@@Treveyon2010 not just any woman either, but a wealthy one who they might get money out of
@@GabrielleHayes1921 might bio mum agreed to pay child support. So they did get money out of her.
@@Treveyon2010 If this was a Fabiosa Life cartoon, OP would have been conceived because her sperm donor ' swapped the contraceptive pills for vitamins!' Lol!
Her BO mom set her up good . Even though she wasn’t involved she left her everything to elevate herself and be independent
My view is that ironically the bio mom who didn't want OP or to be her mom actually showed more caring towards her and her future than the so called parents who raised her ever did.
Perhaps her birth mother figured out (through her own mother?) what was going on?
@@Andrea.S.Alvey12 Although she didn't have a great relationship with her mother from what OP said it's quite possible and even probable that she did learn of what was going on and that could have been what made her leave everything to OP with the business school stipulation to secure her future.
Bio mum also paid child support. So she at least cared if op was provided for from the start. Because she could have got the father to wave child support if he wanted her to not terminate the baby.
The biomom, I hope felt she at least had a duty to set her daughter up for success at the very least.
I've heard the first story before but not the update. Good on OPs mom for that clause (although I don't like parents forcing their kid to go to a particular school they want) business school can help her out a lot, and once she's done she can go study what she really wants to do and have the business degree handy too. And I hope her brother can thrive in art school. I went and now I work in a completely different field ( I miss doing art).
I agree with you about parents insisting on a particular school but I'll lay odds that the business school was not only about trying to help OP to be successful, but would also train OP on how to properly handle her inheritance. Many people have no idea how to handle a windfall of money and end up broke before they even realize it.
@@Lynn-kh5rs That was my thinking too. OP's birth mother knew just handing OP millions would not be a good idea for OP or for the money she had worked so hard and sacrificed to earn. She wisely wanted OP to get a business degree that would benefit her with the financial knowledge to manage her inheritance even if she didn't actually use it for a career. The birth mother ironically enough might not have wanted OP or to be her mother but bless her because in the end showed more actual caring toward OP and her future than the so called parents who raised her ever did.
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Going to business school doesn't require that one go into business. In fact, her artist brother could benefit from studying business as well as art, since becoming an artist is a business, too. The brother can work while waiting for the OP to finish her degree or he could get student loans and then the OP could help pay them off when she receives her inheritance.
@@ladyv5655 That actually is a great idea. Creative people aren't known for being good with money so it would actually benefit the younger brother to take some business classes at least. It would help him greatly if he has some idea of how to handle the business side of selling his art.
OP your mother put conditions on the inheritance because she wanted you to have the business skills to invest that money and make it grow for you. If you throw your money around people will love you until you stop.
The only person in OP's family (her brother) who actually treated her with love, is the only one who got any help from her after she became rich. Let this be a lesson to anyone who mistreats or neglects a member of their family. Thank God they both got away from those toxic parents.
Story 1: the sister’s money is not taken into account with an Ivy League financial aid package. If the family makes less than $200k, the brother would go under scholarship. Don’t even bother until he’s actually accepted to said school.
I was wondering that also. Has he been accepted yet.
OP's brother did not want to go to an ivy league college, rather get his degree at an art school. His parents refused to fund his education and kicked him out of their home when he turned 18. OP had to get a degree in business before she received her birth mother's inheritance. She and her brother share an apartment while she works part time and attends business school, when she get's her degree, she will be given her inheritance. She is then going to pay for her beloved brother's education. Bless them both. Such wicked greedy parents. Karma caught up with them. Good Riddance I say.
I dont know about that 200k cutoff. My sister went to Columbia and we made less than 50k/year for a family of 4. She ended up having to get 150k in student loans....I think it was mainly for living expenses.
@@solomondang-goldberg3042 how about Harvard and Yale put need based aid in place a few years ago. Columbia will put you in student loan prison.
@@solomondang-goldberg3042 Harvard is really the one with the enormous endowment and scholarship program. Each Ivy is different.
First story: OP should help and only help her brother. Also, it's good that there's an update.
After the update: I consider this an awesome update. Not only did they lose their miracle child, they also lost their retirement plan. I hope OP and her brother get really successful and live their best life.
Second story: I want to know what company OP is working at. Because that's a lot of money.
sounds like those agencies for creative talents kinda like the middleman.
@@sleepyearth well darn.
Wow, OP's parents sound so wonderful if they're willing to toss both kids out...
Oh I'd bet they will show up when the need something or when miracle boy has something they want, like a baby, or success with his art.
First Story: What a wonderful tale of both conditional love (parents) and unconditional love (siblings).
I wish all the best for OP and her brother.
Wow, congratulations on ended up childless AGAIN. What the hell were these people thinking.
Dad a cheater to start, infertile step mom accepts baby as hers until she gets her miracle baby, then Disown daughter for something "real". Then they disown him too because he wants to be an artist.
I hope both kids have good lives away from those two
I have a question on story 1. Did the bio mom know that her mother was raising OP from the age of 13 up? I ask because of child support that the bio mom was paying to bio dad and wife to raise OP. Did child support get redirected to grandmother, or was dad still keeping it? If dad kept it, OP can sue on behalf of bio mom's estate to get the money refunded to OP, as OP is the trustee of both bio mom's and bio grandmother's estates.
If bio dad was keeping the money, my guess is bio mum found out, eventually. This might be why she made conditions about her will - to prevent the couple from sponging off OP.
Good point!
I think bio mom insisted on giving up her rights legally. so she wouldn't have to pay child support.
@@aadreastrother5911 which, while that sucks for OP, is probably a good idea and shows that she knows the child support would not go towards OP at all
1: Im glad OP’s brother is a good guy and is able to realize his parents are full of crap. They did OP dirty but they raised a good kid. I wish them both good luck!
2: Honestly it’s usually better to cut out the middleman and this one was particularly bad lol good for OP!
Lol they didn’t raise her, she was just natural a good person and her brother being a good kid too help her carry on in life.
@@FuzzyColors2012 I was talking about them raising her brother
2: Yep, and a good rule if you are Independent contractor, always know what the client is paying if you use a middleman to get the jobs and have a written contract so you can lawyers involved if necessary.
2. Once he was not getting paid on time, he had the right to ask questions about the money from the client.
I would have checked out why such a large professional company with a good reputation was paying their bills late.
Also he had the right to contact other companies on his own. He could still have listed the client company as proof of working history. How he got the job (through the broker) didn't need to be mentioned.
He put up with it a lot longer than I would have, before he started asking questions.
Nah. The kids raised each other.
The parents just gave them food and shelter.
So the "Parents" had your brother to use as their retirement plan. The nerve!
Also pretty stupid. If he'd turned out as selfish as them, or if he was simply fed up with their selfishness, that "retirement plan" could easily have turned out to be the cheapest, seediest nursing home he could find.
Story 1: glad to hear the update. Karma bites once again!🤑😆
Story 3: That always annoyed me with the online store vs brick and mortar store pricing. The store is competing with itself...
Luckily it's not an issue anymore, since they realized online prices and shipping is so competitive now.
The Op is a such a kind person
I heard story 1 before and it's amazing how OP, the comments and RUclips comments overlooked the stipulation in the will
Second story
LG’s closing comment for this story, “boo hoo Kevin” brought a wide grin 😄. Well told LG!
Thanks Larry!
Haha! Kevin took advantage. Now his "gravy train" has derailed. Good for OP and the others.
I have a soft spot for siblings who love and take care of each other 💖
I've literally had the same thing happen as story 3 to me before at Walmart..I wanted a laptop charger, and it was like ten dollars more in person than on the website. I ended up standing there, placing an online order, and waiting for someone to grab it and following them to the counter to grab it.
If you want to pay for your brother's school, the sister should pay the school directly. The father and stepmother should have no hand in it.
So, OP was basically treated similarly to Harry Potter. The brother wants to go to art school, but his parents refuse to fund it? 😈😏 If I were OP, I would set it up so that he could go to art school. That would be a bit of petty revenge against the so-called "parents". Oh, you want me to fund his education? Suuuure! Just not in the way YOU wanted. 🤣
After the update: Holy crap! They kicked out the brother?! WOW! I'm glad OP took him in and will be funding his art school once she gets her business degree.
It feels like trash to be treated like you’re no more significant to your parents than the furniture unless other people are watching. OP sounds like they’re very resilient and wise. I hope OP keeps on keeping on.
The first story, I knew it! I knew why the dad want to keep op and the stepmom didn't divorce bio dad for cheating and have affair child. Because one thing, money. Also, I hear this story and didn't know the update til today, that make my thoughts set on "why"?. The parents wanted kids as their cash cow, usually parents are happy their siblings are helping their younger siblings to make their dream happen at college but nope on this case. When bio dad wanted brother to educate on lawyer or doctor career choice. So, that make my mind spin til it set.
I'm glad the brother didn't turn up into selfish entitled greedy person like their parents are. At least the brother is 18 and move out, that make it easier because this is the chance to permanently go NC on the greedy selfish entitled parents.
just the tittle sparked an inmediate "oh hell, no"...the nerve some people have
They knew ABOUT YOUR family WEALTH
I absolutely hate parents and other people, who try to demand how you live your life. They are pure scum. It is fine to suggest, to diss-agree, to want what you think is best for someone, but that does not give you the right to demand. I would gladly go NC with anyone, including family, which I have done, for my right to live my own life.
OP’s bio mom wasn’t meant to be a mom but at the very end, she still did right by her daughter and made sure she would have a comfortable life. Some people just aren’t meant to be parents and they know it. It’s not selfish at all. It would be more selfish if OP’s bio mom was like her stepmom. Stepmom treated her children like trophies and retirement plans. Step parents got what they deserved lol.
If you’re having children for the sake of bragging rights, don’t have them.
I am really starting to believe that parenting is like that old saying: “sh*t or get off the pot” lol
Story 1: Like you said they need to speak with their brother before making a decision. I also feel like that's a ruse on their part and they aren't going to use that money on their son's schooling, they just want the money they spent on OP back, likely with interest given the price of Ivy League schools... or the parents don't care for either kid, and were only looking out for themselves.
They might not have actually spent any money on OP given that they were receiving child support from OP's wealthy bio-mom. They may even have been turning a profit.
I have worked for both Home Depot and Lowes. Yes, the managers are that petty.
Down here they are known as "Home Despot".
Story 1 OP did the right thing for her and her brother. 👏
The one thing everyone seemed to be forgetting is that OP didn't actually have the money yet. Assuming bio-mom set the condition of at least a bachelors degree in business, then its at least 4 years of college ahead for her, if she can afford to study full time. Could be more if bio-mom wanted her to get an advanced degree. So brother will probably have to get student loans to cover the art school and OP can help with repayment when she meets the conditions her mother set up. And lets be honest, no one mentioned whether or not brother would even get into the ivy league school that the parents wanted
1. Hahaha. Yeah no. You recieved an inheritance and you owe your Dad and stepmom nothing. Feel free to help your brother directly though, if you want to.
This is the earliest I've ever been to a video lol.
Me too 🥳
This has also reminded me that I have college homework I need to do lol
Ditto
Op's Bio Mom, despite never seeing her Daughter, actually Cared about her MORE than her Father and Step Mother!
Notice I said Father and Step Mother, not Dad and Mom. Because being a Dad or Mom and being Called as such is a Sign of Respect to and for the Parent. Just being a Father or Mother is about as much respect they'll ever get. And that's not saying much.
Why do they think they have any claim on YOUR mother’s money? That is really entitled.
1st story: I like that part about paying for college AFTER they graduate. Let them take out the loans and when they graduate the loans get paid off. If they decide parties and “college experience” is more important than actually attending college then they are on the hook for the money.
Hello LG. If you want to help your brother, then do so. Give NOTHING to parents.
I agree with you. She can help her brother without giving money to her "parents".
I have heard some of these stories before but I thoroughly enjoy listening to the way you read them. You have a great voice and a lovely personality. I also enjoy all your comments.
Thank you, this is a great channel.
It's awesome to know that you're enjoying my videos Ruth :) Thank you for watching!
Yea story 2 op is kind of a push over. "It's unprofessional", no it isn't. The second you found out that this late paying Richard takes ⅔ of your real earnings you should've taken this option. But you waited, until lockdown gave you an excuse.
Let’s not forget, birth mom in first story likely paid child support to help with her care while “raised” by father and step-mother. They did the bare minimum for her and that’s a shame.
1st Story - (NTA) The money is legally yours, and if you are of legal age, you can set a trust fund for your brother. Talk to your brother about how much he would need for books, housing, and other things, and set it up. Parent would not have any say or access to the trust.
I feel sorry to OP's brother
I wouldn't give him Jack. Remember he didn't care.
Before they get the money they need to go to therapy or something. Once the money comes in they are going to be hounded by the parents for money. OP knows this, the brother might know but not truly understand, if the brother isn't prepared to resist the parents manipulation as he has likely never experienced it, the parents pressure could destroy everything.
Sometimes, the sheer stupidity of people surprises me.
They practically disowned OP, but still expect her to give them money??? At least OP shut them down and still has a positive relationship with her brother.
Hell no . You don’t owe anyone anything . Don’t feel obligated to do anything for your brother and your parents can kick rocks . They don’t deserve anything from you . You can do whatever you want with your inheritance. If you want to pay his college then that’s your business!!
Dang I'm way late, better late than never I guess lol. Can't wait to see what LG has in-store for today 😁
You are a good person op, and a good sister your brother is so lucky to have you, enjoy business school and your brother enjoys art school, I’m glad you have each other it sounds like you both had a traumatic childhood with such horrendous parents, I’m glad you still are a good person both of you after being treated so badly growing up
Go n/c with those so called parents and enjoy both of your lives may it be full of blessings for you and your brother
Story #1 - If the brother is good enough to get into an Ivy League school, tuition won’t be a problem if the parents are poor. Most are entirely self-sufficient due to the school endowment. Yale, it was predicted a few years ago, could get rid of tuition completely for well over 100 years, surviving on the endowment alone.
The Home Depot story is spot on. I used to work for them and that was the policy. He did the correct thing. Thankfully Home office wised up and changed that policy.
A great set of stories Mr. G, but story 2 really made me happy! Us "Creative Types" are so often thought less of for some reason so it's great OP got her Just Desserts and Kevin got to fuck off.
5:07)Putting the account in her brother's name could be wrong. Her father and his wife would play mind games and get the money. Be best if she, or a 3rd party nandled things.
That's a good 👍 idea to lust directly pay the school for brother education.
Fun fact about college educations: Most of the time you can get just as good a job from a regular college as from an ivy league college. Probably mom & dad just thought that their golden child deserved an ivy league education and so did they. Also, as a kid who was raised without a birth father in the picture, and finding out in my old age that my dad really DID love and want me, despite what I was told, OP must feel kind of good that her bio-mom did think of her and want to provide for her future. As to OP's parents, what kind of people treat a child like that? What the heck is wrong with her dad - she IS his biological daughter! The stepmom might be a witch, but him? Well - glad OP and her brother have each other.
Well sounds like she has a good relationship with her brother, so I agree if she does do it, she needs to pay the school directly, and maybe try to get him to go to a state school
Story 1, give the father and step mother nil, help your 1/2 brother if you want and make it conditional on results each semester, NTA
Whoops. Didn't just lose their first kid, but the golden boy... Who seems like a good kid.
The parents may have taught their kids how to be good people, and not entitled people... but they on the other hand...
Tyvm LG.. Stay safe please. PEACE
Few comments on story 1(that OP will never see). 1) Dad was always scumbag as he's a cheater. 2) They "raised" daughter for 13 years--FUNDED by Bio-Mom's child support(likely a generous sum). 3) Did that child support end and go to Grandma AFTER OP went to live with her? My guess is that at least at first, the money kept going to "parents", maybe even after that because of the "agreement" and Bio-Mom probably wouldn't want to be bothered with legal fights. 4) Was child support stipulated to end at 18 or maybe later to take into account College years? IF so, then the parents may have found out about inheritance because payments ceased when she died.
As story #1 is going along "Parents want to send brother to ivy league college as its a dream" ... me ... "I'd find out what he really wants, this sounds like a scam brewing " OP ... "Brother wants to go to art school, parents unsurprisingly want nothing to do with it." Yep, saw that one coming. I'd still make brother work his *** off for art school, don't make it just a free ride. Story #2 - OP should have asked for the $300 they were paying Kevin. If they were happy with that rate before, they'd be happy now.
First story. OP has to be 18, 19 at most and her brother must be 16 but probably 17, nearly a legal adult.
The parents in this story are disgustingly horrible! They lost BOTH of their kids bc of their greed
OP is honestly such a good person, not only do they not have any obligation to but they take in their brother and are going to help him pursue his dream? Seems like they both came up well despite the excuse for parents they got, i wish them all the best
Brother can go to a community college and get himself THROUGH Ivy League school. Don’t give them a DIME. No way in hell it’s OP’s
Your dad just wants the money.
Walmart pulls the same crap as Home Depot when you ask them to match the online pricing. Horrible customer service.
Great advice for that girl LG
Story 1: Could they contest the will? If not, you owe them nothing.
Don't think they could. "Baby daddy" and "husband" don't have the same living/legal implications, and "ex-pouse's new partner" don't have ANY living/legal implications, let alone a mere baby daddy spouse. No living/legal connection with bio-mom, no entitlement to any money she left, even if the money went to someone who they used to live with and pay meals for
Story 2: Does anyone else believe that the accidental email chain exposure was deliberate??? That someone had figured out what was going on and wanted to give the "Creatives" a heads up? (edit to add): Did anyone else find her to be a doormat? Even before email chain, she should have stopped letting Kevin walk over her and then after, there was no excuse for allowing it.
Why does he need to go to an ivy league school. A regular college is fine.
Siblings are wonderful. I don't know what I'd do without mine. They're the only people who seem to understand me.
I’m up to date on all your videos and now I don’t know what to do with my life. I must wait like others now 😭😭😭
Wow J R! all my videos! That’s amazing 🤩 I’m impressed, thank you :) it’s great to know you enjoy my videos so much, I’ll still release a new video everyday so hopefully it’ll be ok 😉
Why do parents have kids to take care of them in their old age?! 🤦🏽♀️
NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU PAY THEM , THEY WILL STILL HATE YOU, YOU CANNOT PAY PEOPLE to LOVE You , NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU pAY THEM
I remember reading about an experiment done on babies-not sure if it's an urban legend. The carer are not to show affection to them other than doing the bare minimum like changing and feeding them. They were not allowed to show affection or even give comfort. By the time they ended the experiment, half the babies died and some of the few the rescued eventually died as well because the babies just "gave up" by that time.
I genuinely do not want to find out more about the validity of the experiment because if it turns out to be true, that's just heartbreaking and even if it's not, someone out there was mad enough to consider it even as a hypothesis. Neither are good in my opinion.
This is just a roundabout way of saying-OP's father and stepmother weren't good parents. They didn't care for OP. What they did was the bare minimum.
That's a very old story, I think from the Middle Ages. Some ruler wanted to find out, which language was the first, hebrew, greek or something different. 20 orphaned babies were given to wetnurses, they were fed, clothed all material needs met, but all emotional connections denied. They never learned to speak because nobody spoke to them. All babies died. Failure to thrive. Social contact is a must for humans.
@@andreabartels3176 Now that's even more disturbing to learn...
Op should never share his bio mom inheritance with his dad and stepmom they dumped op he keep money maybe help out brother but parents get nothing
Story 01: If her _brother_ had come to her and asked, then I could see her saying yes. But he didn't. Her dismissive and discarding father and stepmother asked her. Therefore, the answer _needs_ to be "No".
Story 01 Update: I'm glad it turned out the way it did, except for his parents being douches.
In the first story poor Op was dealt a terrible hand when it came to “parents” - I’m so glad he found someone who gave him the genuine love he deserved (grandma) and glad the bothers built a close bond. The updates also show how the “golden” child can also experience significant harm by intense preferential treatment and accompanying pressure when self absorbed, selfish parents only see the child as simply an extension of themselves who exist merely to serve as a source of external validation and support meaning their love is still not true rather incredibly conditional.
Brother could get a job for a year or two and get some real world experience that will hold him in good stead when he does go the art school.
LG, I haven't enjoyed watching most videos lately, but I love watching yours and a couple of others. I have watched this twice so far, that I remember (may have been more). I just feel satisfied after watching your videos. Peace and Thank You.
Story 1: I’m pretty much in agreement with everyone regarding what OP chooses what to do with the money. But as far as school in general goes, its a better idea for him to just take one year off and just work and then really figure things out with school. Art school is kinda a waste of money as most people who do go in are usually saddled with a lot of debt after graduation and no practical skills for a career.
That really depends. If you do supplement your school in art with useful classes it's easier for you. But for people who just want to create and create? They really don't care.
Art school isn't just for paintings and museums, you also have industrial design, architecture, commercial design, TV/movie/print, mobile/web design, video game, AR/VR etc...
There are a lot of well paying fields that are tied to art school.
@@lazarushernandez5827 So-so. Most of those fields also require other degrees/classes that would not be in art school originally. It's a good secondary school after initial two years in college to set a base foundation.
@@BrokensoulRider You don't need a basic degree to be profitable, though. Just some good know-how in what you want to do with your art to start your career.
@@tcrpgfan Trust me I know. I know several successful artists.
The siblings from story 1 make my cold heart warm up a little :'3
NTA. It is your money.
If you decide you want to help your brother, make sure to lawyer up. Anything you help him with, make sure it is for him and not them.
Good luck :-)
Story one NTA.I have a question for op.Your bio mom paid child support to the dad and stepmom so did the grandma get the money from her daughter after op went to live with her grandma or did the step mom and dad keep getting it.Op keep your money and remember that although your bio mom didn't want you she still provided for you
Bye Kevin!!!! Lol
Story 3 is just about a petty customer.
If the store rules are that they can't honour the price when bought instore, then the staff can't do it. Even if they wanted to.
Something similar.... There was a time where I wanted to book an appointment at the desk, but was told I had to call in to book an appointment.
So, staying exactly where I was, I called them. The phone was ringing right next to them. After glaring at me they picked up the phone and arranged an appointment with me.
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We had the same problem at a former job. The online price was, for example $19 and in store it was $24.95. Online isn’t paying to rent the space, pay for lights and water and sewage, they don’t have employee costs outside of those who ship the item, and they don’t have cost of equipment at the store. Because all online is centralized all those costs are lower so the online price is lower. But you also don’t get the expertise of face to face employee, being able to peruse the item and see if it is what you want, etc etc. There are trade offs to each.
I can truly relate. Online is separate from in-store, they are trying to get people to shop online more. The other thing is their stock is different but I really don't know why you have to buy online only to wait for 30 minutes and pick it up in-store. Still trying to figure that one out.
Love how you put your lights back and made someone pick your order. I work for Home Depot and explain that very thing to many people daily 🙂 Most of them are baffled but cool.
This belongs in pro revenge. It’s the best kind- the kind that happens without malice and with integrity.
Story one- parents owe GMA child support.
Yeesh, only share it with your brother if you do fun stuff, or share with him directly. -From part 1
Part 2 - ART SCHOOL FUND
Part 3 - Business sis and art brother! Dream team!
Story 1: You sound like a fantastic big sister your parents treated you differently and you never blamed your little brother for it. He seems like a good person too I wish you both the best of luck.
Story one is kinda amazing tbh. The brother seems like a decent kid, and even when Bio mom wasn’t up for being a parent, she ensured OP had a chance to live a very good life. I hope OP and the brother can continue to be family for each other since it’s clear the (adoptive) parents don’t actually care about the happiness of either of them, and instead just wanted a kid for self serving purposes.
SO HAPPY TO GET RID OF YOU, THAT MADE THEM SO VERY HAPPY. DID THEY SEND YOU GIFTS , VISIT YOU, send CARDS SAYING HOW MUCH THEY REALLY MISS You ?