Story 1: "Oh. I left you short handed to deal with a death in the family? I left you short handed. That's what is important to you? Well how's this then. I quit effective immediately. How's that for short handed?" Seriously, I know money can be tight and jobs are important but you HAVE to advocate for yourself because bosses sure as hell won't.
In any civilised country it's a legal requirement to give employees at least 1 day off as bereavement leave for a death in the family. Of course this story probably happened in some 3rd world country like the USA.
OP definitely needed to slooow waaay dooown, you got paid the same if you're fast & efficient or slow & sloppy! OR... Tell the manager "got it boss, I'll tell all of my family not to die when I'm scheduled" Then just keep walking out the door & back home. Look for another minimum wage job tomorrow😂!!!
Story 1: Never be the best in low wage jobs because they expected you to shoulder the burden alone without anyone to replace you in times of personal crisis.
Getting more stuff to do can be a positive, actually. Start building up that resume, and if they start exploiting you; quit! Leaving them with more than they can handle. Watch them go under because they treated you like trash, not knowing that things slow to a grinding halt because you were pretty much the only one who did most of the work. IT staff do this all the time.
I grew up hearing "when you work work like you're doing it for God and your bosses will love you and take good care of you." I worked for a year and a half as a dishwasher, I asked for a pay raise, the owners changed the subject, three months later they announced they were hiring a cook for 12 an hour when cooks usually make 9 an hour and yet they couldn't get a dollar an hour pay raise that would have taken me up to 9 an hour.
@@RunnyBabbitMom lol, when I was a dishwasher I regularly got my pay cut if I bussed tables. Didn't know squat about taxes at 15, so he got away with a lot, and died before anyone could sue. By the time I quit, you knew your pay would get cut when they remodeled their home. Learned about the tipping wage since I left and have been against it ever since. It might have meant more if people actually left tips and didn't feel the need to grope you as you passed by. Small part of the reason why I think we need strict child labor laws. The exploitation of their lack of wage law is the biggest reason. Of course, I was pushed out of my next job for being hired full-time, right before the company switched to only hiring part-time. I made as much as a day manager with my overnight differential, and no diagnosis to protect me... that came a decade later, after my husband accidentally got a good family medical plan from his truckstop cashier job. Also the reason my son didn't cost us half a million dollars when he was born and had to spend a month in nicu. My third job was for a decent person who believed in merit. I remember being told every day not to work as hard, but I was getting the stock rooms in order to make the job easier the rest of the time. Also got told never to expect more than minimum wage, but we got three raises while I was there, and it wasn't to keep up with a rising minimum. I've struggled to find a job since that one. I don't put up with an exploitative work environment. Never had a bad job. Only bad employers.
I worked as a stock boy at a local grocery store when I was in high school. I was doing overnights unloading the truck since it was summer. I would work my normal 4ish to 9pm, get some sleep and come back in at midnight, then work until noon or 1 pm some days. My mother got the dates for my senior pictures incorrect. She realized it a few days before my appointment. I called and let the owner know what happen and I would not be able to work. She tried to get me to work and I told her that I could not work all night then take pictures the next morning and also my mother would not let me anyhow. She is paying tons of money for the pictures and is not going to have me looking tired. The next week my hours were cut down to nothing. I asked why and the owner said I was lazy and not performing. I thought "lazy, really?" I just helped you setup your new store and train all your new employees. I was pissed and told my mother. She told me, "she was always a b**** who thought she was better than she really is, you are quitting." Went back to the store and quit. The owner was pissed and would give me the stink eye anytime I walked into the store. Being petty, when I came home on leave from the AF I always made it a point to visit the store. The cashiers that remembered me would always ask how I was doing in the AF and it would annoy the owner.
Bosses like the first one are the reason companies die. Unfeeling, uncaring Employers who only care about looking good, rather than the emotional/mental wellbeing of their employees
And I’ll bet that if it had been the manager’s relative that had died, they would have taken the shift off without a care about the store being short-staffed.
@@Ryanthusar And they hope you don't look the laws up yourself! You can't misuse write-ups like that just to bully people into compliance but some employers do just that...
So, OP left them short handed huh? Sounds more like neither the owner or the manager tried to call anyone else in. I'm assuming OP wasn't the only one working there.
Story 1 - I honestly don’t know what’s worse, a greedy boss or a heartless boss? But I’m with you DarkFluff after that meeting I would’ve quit on the spot.
@@blastodermistrue, but a betrayal from someone who is "just" a friend doesn't hurt as much as betrayal from someone who's a close friend and/or family
@@blastodermistrue, but a betrayal from someone who is "just" a friend doesn't hurt as much as betrayal from someone who's a close friend and/or family
I didn't understand the financials in that story, but I love the "she's old, we're young, we're happy to let these lengthy legal proceedings play out" (paraphrase). Also she will lose her family AND drain the money she values more than them.
Story 5: As Fluff already said, greed brings out the worst in people, and yeah this is a perfect example. The grandmother literally called OP's mom a "milking cow," tried to throw OP and OP's brother out of the will, and even tried to get both of them arrested when confronted. All because she wanted money that she doesn't deserve
Loved the fact that OP wrote that there would be a set of instructions on how to get her buried, under an outhouse. When I heard that, I was drinking water and I literally snorted half the water out my nose and the remaining half out my mouth. That was a funny way to describe how much she's hated for this. And I have to say that she deserves this hate.
Boss : "Oh good, I have a crazy cat lady as an employee." Yumi_Jay : "What's that?" Boss : "You can have a day off." Yumi_Jay : "Thanks boss, you're the best." Boss : "OK. Bye.' Also Boss : "Phew .." don't kill me 😰
I lost my almost 13 year old golden retriever to cancer 8 years. His death hit me harder than the loss of some family because he was always by my side.
Greed, she wanted to strike while the iron was hot. She thought like many entitled people do, that she can do what she wants and everyone thinks like her
@@hardcorenativextreme I disagree, I think this was just malice. She wouldn't get anything from the sale of someone else's house, she just picked the worst possible time to pull this stunt to screw with the whole family, probably for some imagined slight.
Story 1: I can't believe that! There was a freaking death in the family, and they still expected OP to carry on like nothing happened. For all these people knew they wouldn't have been in a good enough state to work. Spending 5 hours with a fake smile plastered on, greeting customers as if nothing's wrong, that's torture. I work in a grocery store, and if people call off we're supposed to make some effort to replace the shift. And if we can't, we have the option of borrowing people from other departments when it's busy, or a manager sucks it up and hops on register. That's not the end of the world. OP was responsible and gave them plenty of warning before a late afternoon shift. It's not on them that the store was understaffed. And I don't think they had multiple call-offs for the same day, or else they wouldn't single out OP, especially when they had a very legitimate reason.
I wasn't surprised by the behavior here I've seen it before. I doubt they even looked for someone to cover them. Honestly this was a no win situation if they had showed up and not been their normal self because of what was going on they still would've been at that meeting with the owner.
Being entitled around the death of a family member is a special type of heartless. I know the pain of losing a close loved one, and I would never inflict such evil on others
Story 3: The audacity, I tell ya. She didn't even care, heck it sounded like she was waiting for his death so she could give the house to someone else. That's a pretty easy way to burn bridges with E V E R Y O N E by not being even the slightest bit of empathetic
All these stories about family dying is so raw since my Momma just passed away Monday and I really hope work is not going to be an AH when I got back in in a couple days.
Deceased cousin story: And we all know damned well that if the manager's cousin had been the one to call off due to a death in the family, nothing would have been said to her. Estates story: OP, your uncle isn't the first and will be far from the last to attempt to pull this sort of bs. House story: Good grief! Can't even let the rest of the family hold the wake in peace!!! EA must not have gotten along with her father to do that crap. I hope the houses and properties were sold to someone else. Livestreaming funeral story: I'd have reached over to his phone and cut the call. And maybe tossed the phone outside for good measure. Last story: Granny done f'd up bigtime. Good for OP and brother.
I still think the OP is the asshole in this story, she decides to not let kids come because of MAYBE they won't act good? To me that's more OP being a Karen rather than the aunt and the family was just trying to be nice to her so they wouldn't make her flip out.
Story 1: Boss: Yeah, make sure that there aren’t anymore deaths in your family, causing you to have to take off from work!😠 Employee: Yes boss!😟 Story 1: Wow, what an evil uncle!😢
In 2000 I was working part time at the Disney Store. I had only been working 3 months when my best friend's 13 year old son died. I had to deal with my grief and my kids. My daughter and him had grown up together. When I called in my manager was so understanding and sympathetic. She told me to take all the time I needed and to call her when I was ready to return. The cast members even sent flowers to my friend. I returned 2 weeks later. This is how you manage. I have never forgotten the kindness she showed me.
Aunt demanding her 1yr old attend a funeral didn't care about the son going to the funeral. She needed to psychologically "beat you down" once, which means she knows if she persists she could "beat you down" again and again over what she inherits.
You can never be betrayed by your enemies. They are enemies after all. They wouldn't have access to you. Only family/friends who are trusted can betray you. I have never understood why people seek shocked that only family/friends betray you and not enemies. 🙄
When my uncle died two years ago there was apparently some arguing over his stuff and/or money at the actual funeral, my cousin (uncle's son) just said like" cut it out! My father just died, I am here say goodbye to him, you can do that crap somewhere else. Shame on you!" and they just quit. My father died two weeks ago and if anyone pulled that stunt on his funeral I would literally throw them out of the church. The funeral is for relatives and friends to say their last goodbye to a person they supposedly love, not some money-grabbing event.
I had a vacation planned and my mom died the day before it was supposed to start. My boss just coded the time as vacation instead of bereavement so she wouldn't be out of pocket.
Story 4 about the child-free funeral. Currently in Australia, since early 2020 (before WW quarantining) most funeral companies were starting to offer livestreaming services, and this has now become a standard thing. This is wonderful for those of us who can't afford long trips, or have problematic family relationships.
Story 4: my mom passed due to a pulmonary embolism. She chose to fly to a family reunion despite the Dr telling her it wasn't safe for her to fly. She had a terrible time walking and was always short of breath but she still went anyway. Well, about 2 weeks after returning her sister calls me asking if i had spoken to her because she couldn't get my mom to answer the phone. I said no she was too sick to leave the house and immediately walked to her place. It was too late and she didn't make it. At the wake, my aunt talks about how sick my mom was in the airport and the trouble she was having walking. She told my aunt she wanted to go to the hospital from the airport but my aunt talked her into not going because she (my aunt) was too tired. Needless to say, the blood clot traveled to her lungs and she passed at home on her couch. Mind you, my aunt was fully aware of how sick my mom was because she had just spend 6 days in the hospital on 100% oxygen. I have never and will never forgive her selfishness. If she would've listened and taken my mom to the hospital, maybe she wouldn't have died that day. 😢😢😢
Story 1: Totally happened to me. My best friend's mom died. Boss told me she'd "let me know if I was "allowed to go to the funeral". My response was that I wasn’t asking permission, I was merely giving her a heads-up that I was going to a funeral.
S1. My cousin, a police sergeant, died. I received paid time off and my work sent flowers. No write ups, no discussions just "do you need more time off?". Not in the usa
Story 1: it was ABSOLUTELY the manager who left the store understaffed, NOT op. It is 100% the manager's role and duty to ensure staffing needs are met not the employee taking bereavement leave.
Comment on story 1: I had a boss who was upset with me that I had to take two days off for my uncles funeral the following week. The sad part is that my uncle wasn't even dead yet, but we knew it was coming and I was trying to give her as much notice as possible. This same boss was mad at me for calling out with such little notice when I was in a car accident on my way to work and my car was totalled, she didn't even ask if I was OK. I shouldn't have been surprised at that point.
Speaking of family emergencies: I used to work at pizza hoe for almost a year as a line cook / dish washer / everything where I informed almost two months in advance my manager as well as the regional manager regarding a need to transfer to a location within walking distance to my house due to becoming a caretaker for my mother due to an upcoming back surgery, both agreed to my request only to be notified by the manager that my request was never taken seriously since "training another cook will take too long as such I need you to stay for another month so you can train your replacement" even after all that I left after my request for the recovery day after surgery was denied, was told by the "nice" manager after I explained my situation "if you do not come in today and leave now you will never be allowed to work for pizza hoe again" called in told them I'm done and never looked back From personal experience people do not quit jobs they quit from bad managers
I remember when my brother died and I still went into work the next day. I can tell you it's not a good idea. He's probably mad he couldn't get that cheap child labor. Bosses like this care more about thier pockets than the health of their workers.
Story 2 - sorry, the beneficiaries get paid directly precisely to prevent what the scumbag uncle tried. Did you think you were the first shady jack wagon the courts have had to deal with?
Story 1 reminds me of the time I was working during 9/11 & crying at my desk & my manager was like "do you know anyone there?" And I said "does it matter?" She told me to focus on work & I've never forgiven her for that total lack of empathy.
A good business will provide/allow bereavement leave for their employees. To expect employees to "soldier on" when a family member has died is horrible. You know, if the business owner's family member died, they would be taking more than one day.
Story One: I had the same thing happen to me at the local Dberg’s I worked at here in STL. My best friend’s mom died of cancer. She had been like a second mom to me, especially after like 28 years of being in my life. My buddy was devastated. So I called in that night after getting the news, telling the manager on duty I wasn’t going to be a work the next day. That I was going to see and support my friend. (Who also had no extended family living in the same State.) The following day after comforting my friend, I went into work. Our department manager was a toxic witch. And she immediately attacked me with questions why would I call in for a death of someone I’m not related to…that my calling in completely inconvenienced her. It was because no one knew how to run the kitchen except the assistant managers, and she needed them. According to her, I had ruined her work day. Then about a year later, and after many other toxic incidents, I’m called into the supervisor’s office because the department manager heard that “I was happy about her retirement.” And I replied to both of them that I’m “happy when anyone toxic leave my work environment.” The supervisor asked for examples and I gave the friend/family death incident. The toxic manager’s reply was, “when MY dad died, I still went to work that day. Work was too too important.” I replied to her, “Not all of us are cold, selfish, and unfeeling as you. “ The supervisor took her side. (managers are not as disposable as kitchen workers.) They gave me a warning and said I’d be written up next incident. I told them, I pay union dues and I’d be documenting everything from there out. Sadly, after her there was another red flag manager. We went from a narcissist to a micro-management communist. Needless to say, when I got my welding certification, I ran from that toxic environment.
Story 1: I would have responded: "If there is a choice between family and a shift...family will always be chosen. Every. Single. Time." (Yes...even when I was a teen this would be said) Story 3: Even worse is the fact that Karen's friends could see that the family was basically having a wake and still toured the place! Really good indicators of what they are. Story 5: A workaround the lock change: Report every bit of your property located in the apartment as STOLEN. Make a police report listing as many items as possible. After that go there and demand entry...if refused...just call the police & show the report. Tell them grandmother is in possession of stolen property and demand her arrest for that crime.
As you were wrapping up this video I reached for my soda.l took a sip of ginger ale and almost Chocked myself when you were saying that the aunt moved to the old country and then that part that it was cheaper to live there rather than here. I ended up with soda coming out of my nose and my husband began laughing at the sight of me. Thanks again o.p.
First story if you have an owner and/or manager acts like this, do not quit. Let them fire you because then you will have a great legal case for wrongful termination retaliation and being able to get the entire business experience or at least the negative parts of the business experience wiped off your record which they will never be allowed to speak about
I had a great aunt and an aunt like the grandmother in the last story. This evil mother and daughter team would contest the wills of any relative that died and would keep it tied up in court for so long that either the rest of the family would just give up and let them have everything or the families lawyers would end up with everything. These greedy old ladies would even try to fight the wills of cousins and in-laws. It was so bad that my aunts own kids refused to have any contact with her and she ended up totally alone when she died. She had her funeral arrangements in her will and her lawyer made all of the funeral arrangements. Later everyone learned that the only person who went to her funeral was her lawyer. She left everything to her neighbor woman who was just as greedy as she was who was always helping her trying to swindle people in some way or another.
3:16:There are actual laws about that kind of thing, if you have a funeral to go to than they can't do anything to you, and they more than can not tell a High School student to "come in for a talk" during school hours, that is when you get a lawyer and sue them for breach of child labor laws and creating a hostile work environment for not letting you have time to morn the death of a family member.
I was working a job as a postal clerk. Our boss was stupid as Shizer. We were a small staff of five. About a month before Christmas ( our busiest month my boss’s dad was diagnosed with with stage four lung cancer and died within 30 days of that diagnoses. My boss took the entire month off and I covered everyone of her shifts while she was going through this horrible experience. Fast forward 10 months. It was Thanksgiving and three of the five were asking for time off to see family out of town. I had friends in town I was going to see and my boss had family in town so she was going nowhere also. But she didn’t ever want to work a weekend. My mother who lives with me had a stroke and was rushed+to the hospital the day before my weekend shift. So I’m alone in the hospital as there is no family near by, wondering if my mom was dying or worse gonna become incapacitated in anyway.. Oh and it was literally on Thanksgiving. So as she’s being rushed into emergency surgery I text my boss saying I was in ER, explained what was happening and that I wouldn’t be in to work that Saturday. She texted back that I better find some one to cover my shift or I’d be written up. I told her bot( my cell and pad were dying and I had no charger cord( not a thing I thought to bring given I was riding in the back of an ambulance). There is no response for about 15 minutes and then the quiry. “So do you want ME to find some one to cover for YOU?” I wrote back. “ YOUR compassion Is overwhelming and yes please” also I didn’t have any of coworkers numbers in my phone. And it was Thanksgiving so I had volunteered to take the holiday so they could go outta town. My boss ended up shutting the office down for those two days and yes I was about to be written up but I brought a Doctors note from the hospital. her boss had a soul and ended up writing her up for not covering my shifts in an emergency. I left that job shortly after.
Can we talk about the people that the entitled aunt in story three brought to the house? Who in their right mind would gladly go on a house tour in a house full of grieving people!? I wouldn’t even be surprised if these “friends“ ended up harassing OP‘s parents if they refuse to sell the house
Story 1: I know what that's like, having worked in retail, being given a verbal lashing for when I was unable to do the work they wanted me to do for reasons outside of my control. I used to be the cart wrangler at my last job (even though I was qualified to do more than that, like cashiering and running the self checkouts), but whenever I got sick or injured, the first words out of some of the team leads' mouths were, "Who's going to take care of the carts now!?" I told them that that wasn't my job to figure out. Of course, having a death in the family is so much worse, and it was very callous and cruel of the store to not be accommodating to OP. In contrast, when my paternal grandmother passed away, my father's boss allowed him to take the full bereavement that he was allowed in his union contract and even gifted him a potted plant as a token of sympathy; we kept that plant for years. That some employers care more about the day-to-day operations of their business than the mental of physical wellbeing of their employees just disgusts me.
Yep, just make it so no one dies when you are scheduled to work! I’ve filled in for colleagues on short notice. One required a flight be scheduled and hotels be changed. Of course, there was laundry and packing!
in Norway a boss would not be able to do anything aigenst you there. we have something protecting the workers making it so they can be with their family, or just at hope a few days (maybe a weeks time) if a death in your near famiily and i think if a close friends die.
Story 1: I started my Horst night working security back in 85. Something happened and I went into a daze. The boss saw me asked what’s up? I snapped too and informed him my dad had died that morning. He said go home you shouldn’t be working. I said working was best for me right now. But very understanding boss and continued to work me until I was able to do my job without any hesitation.
Story 1: what a bunch of crock! Leave immediately!! And here at least my managers are understanding and care about our mental health. I just lost a very good friend over memorial weekend and i didnt even know about it until almost a week later by googling her husbands name because neither one was getting back to me and something wasnt sitting well. I texted my boss that i was going to be late to work, i needed to calm myself down before getting in the car, and as soon as i told him the article i had read when i got in, my supervisor and his boss both told me to go home if i needed it. I left work about 3 hrs early because i couldnt keep my mind straight any longer.
The first story: because OP was young, she didn't have the life experience to stand up for herself and just leave. Had she been older, I suspect she would have told both the manager and the store owner to stick it where the sun doesn't shine. The callousness, the heartlessness, the lack of empathy and sympathy for the fact that OP went to a death in the family is just staggering. Let this be a lesson to others out there: don't ever the superstar go-to person at your job. This whole story just reeks of the adage that people don't quit bad jobs, they quit bad bosses
Honestly, I think face-timing was a reasonable compromise... if Uncle is in the back and not making a spectacle of himself in the process. AND if Aunt is muted. We don't want any sort of temper tantrum to disrupt the funeral, right? Some would say the better option was to just get a babysitter, but OP didn't want children at the funeral. Clearly, that includes the Aunt.
I’ve said it about other karen stories before, but story1’s manager simply sounds like another one of those cases: she sounds like a literal psychopath! Not even an “Oh my gosh! I’m very sorry for that! Do you need any time off?”, she just ignored the family death announcement and went straight to the point of reminding OP to be in for the Saturday evening shift.
Story #1 what makes it especially bad is the that OP is just a kid, not an adult and these people are telling him he shouldn’t have gone to his family after a family member dies! What the hell is wrong with people?
First Story: Never let a boss pull something like this. A death in the family is a legally protected reason for missing work. How can they possibly expect you to work while grieving and also worrying about how your family is coping with the loss?
Last one. if the grandmother had managed to get the lawyer in for the signing the will would have been demed invalid because of the agressive brain tumer and ops mother not beeing in a state of mind where she could do any desision like that. the mothers medical records and statements from the doctors etc would all been able to prove that to be the case puting the grandmother and potentialy the lawyer in legal trouble for doing it.
For story 1. Why can’t the owner pitch in if it’s so important. It’s the responsibility of owners and manager to make sure the store can run. No one else’s.
1st story yea that owner would have been cussed out soooo bad hear ears would still be burning. Then I'd walked out and never thought about that place ever again.
"What exactly do you expect me to do?" Your job, Karen, *your* job. Also "you left us understaffed" - no, owner, he did not, as he is not responsible for staffing, schedules and the like - *managers* are. And for their *responsibilities* they are paid more.
Story 1: had a manager like that when I worked at a K-mart in 1999 as a teenager. I got in a car crash when the throttle in my old beat up truck jammed open. Pretty nasty crash too that resulted in a fractured arm and bruised ribs on top of having to talk home about a mile and a half due to cellphones not being available yet where I lived. Before going to get medical care I called my work only for the manager tell me that she didn't believe me that I was in a wreck and told me to get to work or I was fired. The kicker was that even after I came to work after the ER just to show how beat up I was the crazy lady said I was faking it even thought I had an obvious cast on my left arm as well as cuts on my face.
Story 1 - I have a similar story, worked at a restaurant and found out less than an hour before I started work that my uncle was in a bad atv accident and had to be airlifted to the hospital. When I got to work, I was in bad shape but felt I had to go in because of the short notice and told I would receive a write up if calling in with less than two hour notice. So I go in, obviously having a bad day, and after a couple hours, the manager pulled me aside, told me I’m doing horrible and asked why. When I told him, he said I should have called out regardless and then a peer said I was probably lying and just trying to cover up. He agreed and told me to just go home. That was the one and only time I drank to just get fked up when I got home. I sadly didn’t learn my lesson and would stay with the chain for many years. The manager, he ended up moving up in the corporate chain. Shit tends to float up after all.
When my stepdad’s father passed away, my step-cousin’s husband was walking around bragging that this was now HIS property and we had 30 minutes to get out before he “called the cops on trespassers”. That’s the first time I’ve ever seen a grown man call out for his mommy when my stepdad and his 2 brothers pounded this grown male into a bloody heap. Then physically thrown out of the house onto the front yard….
At my brother's baptism, when I was only 4 years old, I accidentaly tripped in church and hit my head in one of the pews. But I did not say a word, not a peep came out of my mouth according to my mother. I knew you should not scream and shout in church. So I could have attended funerals, but at the same time my mother woild not have argued if I could not go to a funeral if they said no kids. Because manners and adultness, not like auntie Karen in the story.
At least they waited till OP's grandpa passed... my grandma's health wasn't very well towards the end. During one of the times when she was at home, my aunt (uncle's wife) came barging in with her mom. They didn't say hi to my grandma or acknowledge her... they just walked in and started to look at the shelves, and my grandma's stuff. Making comments about what they want or doesn't want... Yeah. But then again, my cousin is also the one who would only visit grandma when grandma has money to give her, so I shouldn't have been surprised.
My grandma ( mom’s mom) called when my mom passed (at 54 from breast cancer) leaving me and my siblings to deal with everything (all in our 20s) and demanded to know what she left her. My mom did not have a close relationship with her mom or siblings except one and that was even fairly distant and would be the only one to speak to her on occasion at that. So to have her demand this angered all of us. She called several times. This caused us to change our childhood phone number (landline) and that was honestly the last time we heard from her.
I would have had filmed that intervention and use that as proof that the grandmother that she was being such a horrible person towards her own daughter. Maybe even presented to court to exclude her from the estate because of her actions towards her daughter were shown as abusive and manipulative. To get her off of their backs.
Story #3: just to spite her i would not sell the house but as OP's parent I would gift it to OP under the condition OP would not sell it in the next 5 years and NEVER sell it to aunt or friends of aunt
Businesses suck when it comes to family members death. But most businesses don't consider Aunts, Uncle's, and Cousins as family. Step family is considered family, but not aunts, uncles, and cousins. So the Business really doesn't care about the O.P.s cousin dying. In thier opinion, a cousin's death shouldn't matter. I'm not saying that it is right, I'm just saying that this is my experience with businesses.
Story 4: I can't undrstand why they would want a 1-year old kid attend to a funeral. He won't remember anything and it would just be another boring/irritating moment of his life, so of course he'll cause a scene.
Story 1: "Oh. I left you short handed to deal with a death in the family? I left you short handed. That's what is important to you? Well how's this then. I quit effective immediately. How's that for short handed?" Seriously, I know money can be tight and jobs are important but you HAVE to advocate for yourself because bosses sure as hell won't.
In any civilised country it's a legal requirement to give employees at least 1 day off as bereavement leave for a death in the family. Of course this story probably happened in some 3rd world country like the USA.
Especially since the OP was a highschool student. It's not like this was their career. I'm sure the OP could've gotten another job right away.
@@H-to-O Exactly my thought.
OP definitely needed to slooow waaay dooown, you got paid the same if you're fast & efficient or slow & sloppy! OR...
Tell the manager "got it boss, I'll tell all of my family not to die when I'm scheduled" Then just keep walking out the door & back home. Look for another minimum wage job tomorrow😂!!!
Story 1: Never be the best in low wage jobs because they expected you to shoulder the burden alone without anyone to replace you in times of personal crisis.
And also they tend to heap more and more responsibility on you without any raise or benefit.
Getting more stuff to do can be a positive, actually.
Start building up that resume, and if they start exploiting you; quit! Leaving them with more than they can handle. Watch them go under because they treated you like trash, not knowing that things slow to a grinding halt because you were pretty much the only one who did most of the work.
IT staff do this all the time.
I thought the same thing until I found a decent boss. They retired, though... one in freaking million, though.
I grew up hearing "when you work work like you're doing it for God and your bosses will love you and take good care of you." I worked for a year and a half as a dishwasher, I asked for a pay raise, the owners changed the subject, three months later they announced they were hiring a cook for 12 an hour when cooks usually make 9 an hour and yet they couldn't get a dollar an hour pay raise that would have taken me up to 9 an hour.
@@RunnyBabbitMom lol, when I was a dishwasher I regularly got my pay cut if I bussed tables. Didn't know squat about taxes at 15, so he got away with a lot, and died before anyone could sue.
By the time I quit, you knew your pay would get cut when they remodeled their home. Learned about the tipping wage since I left and have been against it ever since. It might have meant more if people actually left tips and didn't feel the need to grope you as you passed by. Small part of the reason why I think we need strict child labor laws. The exploitation of their lack of wage law is the biggest reason.
Of course, I was pushed out of my next job for being hired full-time, right before the company switched to only hiring part-time. I made as much as a day manager with my overnight differential, and no diagnosis to protect me... that came a decade later, after my husband accidentally got a good family medical plan from his truckstop cashier job. Also the reason my son didn't cost us half a million dollars when he was born and had to spend a month in nicu.
My third job was for a decent person who believed in merit. I remember being told every day not to work as hard, but I was getting the stock rooms in order to make the job easier the rest of the time. Also got told never to expect more than minimum wage, but we got three raises while I was there, and it wasn't to keep up with a rising minimum.
I've struggled to find a job since that one. I don't put up with an exploitative work environment. Never had a bad job. Only bad employers.
If it were me in the first story, i would have said, "Well I'm about to make you even more understaffed. I quit."
Same.
Exactly. I would have walked out then and there.
@@Leslie58 and tell everyone on the way out exactly why
I would have gotten the reason for the warning in writing and then quit.
I worked as a stock boy at a local grocery store when I was in high school. I was doing overnights unloading the truck since it was summer. I would work my normal 4ish to 9pm, get some sleep and come back in at midnight, then work until noon or 1 pm some days. My mother got the dates for my senior pictures incorrect. She realized it a few days before my appointment. I called and let the owner know what happen and I would not be able to work. She tried to get me to work and I told her that I could not work all night then take pictures the next morning and also my mother would not let me anyhow. She is paying tons of money for the pictures and is not going to have me looking tired.
The next week my hours were cut down to nothing. I asked why and the owner said I was lazy and not performing. I thought "lazy, really?" I just helped you setup your new store and train all your new employees. I was pissed and told my mother. She told me, "she was always a b**** who thought she was better than she really is, you are quitting." Went back to the store and quit. The owner was pissed and would give me the stink eye anytime I walked into the store.
Being petty, when I came home on leave from the AF I always made it a point to visit the store. The cashiers that remembered me would always ask how I was doing in the AF and it would annoy the owner.
Bosses like the first one are the reason companies die. Unfeeling, uncaring Employers who only care about looking good, rather than the emotional/mental wellbeing of their employees
And I’ll bet that if it had been the manager’s relative that had died, they would have taken the shift off without a care about the store being short-staffed.
Idiot bosses like that are the sort that never look into the state/country work place laws around bereavement.
@@Ryanthusar And they hope you don't look the laws up yourself! You can't misuse write-ups like that just to bully people into compliance but some employers do just that...
People leave managers, not jobs. Lousy managers make lousy jobs.
So, OP left them short handed huh? Sounds more like neither the owner or the manager tried to call anyone else in. I'm assuming OP wasn't the only one working there.
Story 1 - I honestly don’t know what’s worse, a greedy boss or a heartless boss? But I’m with you DarkFluff after that meeting I would’ve quit on the spot.
Dark Fluff makes up these stories for views etc. So none of it is actually true... discussing why or where is all hypothetical.
@@PreservationEnthusiast Sweet summer child. To think this is fake, you must have had such an easy life. How fortunate for you.
Story 2 - OP’s last statement is very true, the worst kind of betrayal doesn’t come from your enemy but from your own friends and family.
Technically, betrayal can't come from one's enemy.
Of course, because only people you trust can betray you
@@blastodermistrue, but a betrayal from someone who is "just" a friend doesn't hurt as much as betrayal from someone who's a close friend and/or family
@@blastodermistrue, but a betrayal from someone who is "just" a friend doesn't hurt as much as betrayal from someone who's a close friend and/or family
@@blastodermisright?! I'm so confused on the comment lol
Final Story - There’s a special place in Hell waiting for granny when her time finally comes.
A ring in Hell tinged with green skies, an industrial wasteland, polluted oceans and ruled by a jester-capped demon named Mammon.
I'd like to imagine the toilet of a Golgothan.
I didn't understand the financials in that story, but I love the "she's old, we're young, we're happy to let these lengthy legal proceedings play out" (paraphrase). Also she will lose her family AND drain the money she values more than them.
1st Story: Jeez, talk about a heartless owner?!
Story 5: As Fluff already said, greed brings out the worst in people, and yeah this is a perfect example. The grandmother literally called OP's mom a "milking cow," tried to throw OP and OP's brother out of the will, and even tried to get both of them arrested when confronted. All because she wanted money that she doesn't deserve
Loved the fact that OP wrote that there would be a set of instructions on how to get her buried, under an outhouse. When I heard that, I was drinking water and I literally snorted half the water out my nose and the remaining half out my mouth. That was a funny way to describe how much she's hated for this. And I have to say that she deserves this hate.
No. Granny claimed OP's mother milked HER when she was growing up.
Correction : Grandma said she was OP's mother milking cow. Not the other way around.
When I took my late cat to the vet and they confirm her cancer diagnosis, I called my boss at my job. He gave me the day off.
Sorry for your cat's diagnosis. Just lost my dog on May 2nd.
Loss of a pet is always heart wrenching. They are deep family after all
A boss that’s human? Damn what a rarity.
Boss : "Oh good, I have a crazy cat lady as an employee."
Yumi_Jay : "What's that?"
Boss : "You can have a day off."
Yumi_Jay : "Thanks boss, you're the best."
Boss : "OK. Bye.'
Also Boss : "Phew .."
don't kill me 😰
I lost my almost 13 year old golden retriever to cancer 8 years. His death hit me harder than the loss of some family because he was always by my side.
3:36 they didn't fire you because they would get sued for wrongful termination
Story 3 - The sheer audacity of that woman is beyond words!😡😡😡😡
Greed, she wanted to strike while the iron was hot. She thought like many entitled people do, that she can do what she wants and everyone thinks like her
@@hardcorenativextreme I disagree, I think this was just malice. She wouldn't get anything from the sale of someone else's house, she just picked the worst possible time to pull this stunt to screw with the whole family, probably for some imagined slight.
Story 1: I can't believe that! There was a freaking death in the family, and they still expected OP to carry on like nothing happened. For all these people knew they wouldn't have been in a good enough state to work. Spending 5 hours with a fake smile plastered on, greeting customers as if nothing's wrong, that's torture. I work in a grocery store, and if people call off we're supposed to make some effort to replace the shift. And if we can't, we have the option of borrowing people from other departments when it's busy, or a manager sucks it up and hops on register. That's not the end of the world. OP was responsible and gave them plenty of warning before a late afternoon shift. It's not on them that the store was understaffed. And I don't think they had multiple call-offs for the same day, or else they wouldn't single out OP, especially when they had a very legitimate reason.
I wasn't surprised by the behavior here I've seen it before. I doubt they even looked for someone to cover them. Honestly this was a no win situation if they had showed up and not been their normal self because of what was going on they still would've been at that meeting with the owner.
This makes me mad I'd have been F you I quit and I'm making a complaint to HR and your Regional manager have fun with that
Being entitled around the death of a family member is a special type of heartless. I know the pain of losing a close loved one, and I would never inflict such evil on others
Story 3: The audacity, I tell ya. She didn't even care, heck it sounded like she was waiting for his death so she could give the house to someone else. That's a pretty easy way to burn bridges with E V E R Y O N E by not being even the slightest bit of empathetic
Story 1: No, I couldn’t, I had put in for the cancer to wait until Monday, but unfortunately …
Story 1:
If that had been me, my parents would have given the owner a talking to they'd never forget.
All these stories about family dying is so raw since my Momma just passed away Monday and I really hope work is not going to be an AH when I got back in in a couple days.
My deepest sympathies! 😢
@@sarahfullerton6894 thank you so much
I’m so sorry for your loss 😢
🫂
Deceased cousin story: And we all know damned well that if the manager's cousin had been the one to call off due to a death in the family, nothing would have been said to her.
Estates story: OP, your uncle isn't the first and will be far from the last to attempt to pull this sort of bs.
House story: Good grief! Can't even let the rest of the family hold the wake in peace!!! EA must not have gotten along with her father to do that crap. I hope the houses and properties were sold to someone else.
Livestreaming funeral story: I'd have reached over to his phone and cut the call. And maybe tossed the phone outside for good measure.
Last story: Granny done f'd up bigtime. Good for OP and brother.
That's the privilege that come with manager status. You jealous? 🤪
Story 3, if i turned up to view a house and there was a wake going on nothing would get me in that house.... how disrespectful.
Story 4: Karen demanding her son be allowed to attend or she wouldn't - don't threaten OP with a good time.
I still think the OP is the asshole in this story, she decides to not let kids come because of MAYBE they won't act good? To me that's more OP being a Karen rather than the aunt and the family was just trying to be nice to her so they wouldn't make her flip out.
Story 1: Boss: Yeah, make sure that there aren’t anymore deaths in your family, causing you to have to take off from work!😠
Employee: Yes boss!😟
Story 1: Wow, what an evil uncle!😢
Story 4 - I would’ve taken that phone and thrown it across the road.
In 2000 I was working part time at the Disney Store. I had only been working 3 months when my best friend's 13 year old son died. I had to deal with my grief and my kids. My daughter and him had grown up together. When I called in my manager was so understanding and sympathetic. She told me to take all the time I needed and to call her when I was ready to return. The cast members even sent flowers to my friend. I returned 2 weeks later. This is how you manage. I have never forgotten the kindness she showed me.
Fake, disney would never allow this. Money is all that matters to disney and whatever non-profittable to them is their enemy...
She was the Fezzywig to your Scrooge.
Aunt demanding her 1yr old attend a funeral didn't care about the son going to the funeral. She needed to psychologically "beat you down" once, which means she knows if she persists she could "beat you down" again and again over what she inherits.
You can never be betrayed by your enemies. They are enemies after all. They wouldn't have access to you. Only family/friends who are trusted can betray you. I have never understood why people seek shocked that only family/friends betray you and not enemies. 🙄
Story 1: it is illegal to disallow a time of mourning following a death in the family. Eff these ghouls.
Story 1 :"just make sure it doesn't happen again."
"OK, IM SORRY. ILL MAKE SURE NONE OF MY FAMILY DIES WHILE I WORK."
When my uncle died two years ago there was apparently some arguing over his stuff and/or money at the actual funeral, my cousin (uncle's son) just said like" cut it out! My father just died, I am here say goodbye to him, you can do that crap somewhere else. Shame on you!" and they just quit.
My father died two weeks ago and if anyone pulled that stunt on his funeral I would literally throw them out of the church. The funeral is for relatives and friends to say their last goodbye to a person they supposedly love, not some money-grabbing event.
I had a vacation planned and my mom died the day before it was supposed to start. My boss just coded the time as vacation instead of bereavement so she wouldn't be out of pocket.
Sorry for the loss of your mom.
@@DianeCasanova Thanks. It's been almost two years, and I miss her every day.
Story 4 about the child-free funeral. Currently in Australia, since early 2020 (before WW quarantining) most funeral companies were starting to offer livestreaming services, and this has now become a standard thing. This is wonderful for those of us who can't afford long trips, or have problematic family relationships.
The first story, that manager, was bad enough. But the owner was even worse.
Story 4: my mom passed due to a pulmonary embolism. She chose to fly to a family reunion despite the Dr telling her it wasn't safe for her to fly. She had a terrible time walking and was always short of breath but she still went anyway.
Well, about 2 weeks after returning her sister calls me asking if i had spoken to her because she couldn't get my mom to answer the phone. I said no she was too sick to leave the house and immediately walked to her place. It was too late and she didn't make it.
At the wake, my aunt talks about how sick my mom was in the airport and the trouble she was having walking. She told my aunt she wanted to go to the hospital from the airport but my aunt talked her into not going because she (my aunt) was too tired. Needless to say, the blood clot traveled to her lungs and she passed at home on her couch.
Mind you, my aunt was fully aware of how sick my mom was because she had just spend 6 days in the hospital on 100% oxygen.
I have never and will never forgive her selfishness. If she would've listened and taken my mom to the hospital, maybe she wouldn't have died that day. 😢😢😢
Story 1: Totally happened to me. My best friend's mom died. Boss told me she'd "let me know if I was "allowed to go to the funeral". My response was that I wasn’t asking permission, I was merely giving her a heads-up that I was going to a funeral.
Story 2: Of course betrayal doesn't come from enemies. By definition betrayal requires trust. Who trusts their enemies?
S1. My cousin, a police sergeant, died. I received paid time off and my work sent flowers. No write ups, no discussions just "do you need more time off?". Not in the usa
Story 1: it was ABSOLUTELY the manager who left the store understaffed, NOT op. It is 100% the manager's role and duty to ensure staffing needs are met not the employee taking bereavement leave.
The "nice" manager also neglect to find replacement. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@@gorilladisco9108 Yes, agree, but the Karen manager was on duty at the time and received the call and really should have been the one to act.
Comment on story 1: I had a boss who was upset with me that I had to take two days off for my uncles funeral the following week. The sad part is that my uncle wasn't even dead yet, but we knew it was coming and I was trying to give her as much notice as possible. This same boss was mad at me for calling out with such little notice when I was in a car accident on my way to work and my car was totalled, she didn't even ask if I was OK. I shouldn't have been surprised at that point.
Speaking of family emergencies: I used to work at pizza hoe for almost a year as a line cook / dish washer / everything where I informed almost two months in advance my manager as well as the regional manager regarding a need to transfer to a location within walking distance to my house due to becoming a caretaker for my mother due to an upcoming back surgery, both agreed to my request only to be notified by the manager that my request was never taken seriously since "training another cook will take too long as such I need you to stay for another month so you can train your replacement" even after all that I left after my request for the recovery day after surgery was denied, was told by the "nice" manager after I explained my situation "if you do not come in today and leave now you will never be allowed to work for pizza hoe again" called in told them I'm done and never looked back
From personal experience people do not quit jobs they quit from bad managers
Who needs to be TOLD not to bring an infant to a funeral????
Please tell me I'm not the only one who wishes the DarkFluff we see on the screen was the real DarkFluff so we could pet a beautiful talking sheep.
Story #1: "I'm sorry my cousin died at an inopportune time for you. My next relative who dies will be asked to be more considerate of your schedule."
I remember when my brother died and I still went into work the next day. I can tell you it's not a good idea. He's probably mad he couldn't get that cheap child labor. Bosses like this care more about thier pockets than the health of their workers.
As a family man I can’t understand people who exclude kids. I see it as extremely selfish entitlement contrary to the story here
Story 2 - sorry, the beneficiaries get paid directly precisely to prevent what the scumbag uncle tried. Did you think you were the first shady jack wagon the courts have had to deal with?
Tale as old as time.
Story 1 answers in order.
"What do you expect me to do?"
"Your job, manage a solution."
"What required you to miss your shift?"
"Grief."
Story 1: You’re a high school student and you’re working a shitty part-time minimum wage job I would’ve walked just to stick it to them.
Story 1 reminds me of the time I was working during 9/11 & crying at my desk & my manager was like "do you know anyone there?" And I said "does it matter?" She told me to focus on work & I've never forgiven her for that total lack of empathy.
What a fucking disgrace of a human. The horror of the event is only relevant when you know people working there? What a complete psycho.
The title alone has me saying WTAF??!!😮🤬🤬🤬
ETA: Hello Fluff and Steve-o!😘💖🫂🐾🐾
Well, yeah. Duh.
If they're betraying you, they can't be your enemy because then it wouldn't be a betrayal.
A good business will provide/allow bereavement leave for their employees. To expect employees to "soldier on" when a family member has died is horrible. You know, if the business owner's family member died, they would be taking more than one day.
1st story: I would have sued the company for violation of labor laws and emotional trauma
Story One: I had the same thing happen to me at the local Dberg’s I worked at here in STL.
My best friend’s mom died of cancer. She had been like a second mom to me, especially after like 28 years of being in my life. My buddy was devastated. So I called in that night after getting the news, telling the manager on duty I wasn’t going to be a work the next day. That I was going to see and support my friend. (Who also had no extended family living in the same State.)
The following day after comforting my friend, I went into work. Our department manager was a toxic witch. And she immediately attacked me with questions why would I call in for a death of someone I’m not related to…that my calling in completely inconvenienced her. It was because no one knew how to run the kitchen except the assistant managers, and she needed them. According to her, I had ruined her work day.
Then about a year later, and after many other toxic incidents, I’m called into the supervisor’s office because the department manager heard that “I was happy about her retirement.” And I replied to both of them that I’m “happy when anyone toxic leave my work environment.” The supervisor asked for examples and I gave the friend/family death incident. The toxic manager’s reply was, “when MY dad died, I still went to work that day. Work was too too important.”
I replied to her, “Not all of us are cold, selfish, and unfeeling as you. “
The supervisor took her side. (managers are not as disposable as kitchen workers.) They gave me a warning and said I’d be written up next incident.
I told them, I pay union dues and I’d be documenting everything from there out.
Sadly, after her there was another red flag manager. We went from a narcissist to a micro-management communist. Needless to say, when I got my welding certification, I ran from that toxic environment.
Story 1: I would have responded: "If there is a choice between family and a shift...family will always be chosen. Every. Single. Time." (Yes...even when I was a teen this would be said)
Story 3: Even worse is the fact that Karen's friends could see that the family was basically having a wake and still toured the place! Really good indicators of what they are.
Story 5: A workaround the lock change: Report every bit of your property located in the apartment as STOLEN. Make a police report listing as many items as possible.
After that go there and demand entry...if refused...just call the police & show the report. Tell them grandmother is in possession of stolen property and demand her arrest for that crime.
As you were wrapping up this video I reached for my soda.l took a sip of ginger ale and almost
Chocked myself when you were saying that the aunt moved to the old country and then that part that it was cheaper to live there rather than here. I ended up with soda coming out of my nose and
my husband began laughing at the sight of me. Thanks again o.p.
First story if you have an owner and/or manager acts like this, do not quit. Let them fire you because then you will have a great legal case for wrongful termination retaliation and being able to get the entire business experience or at least the negative parts of the business experience wiped off your record which they will never be allowed to speak about
I had a great aunt and an aunt like the grandmother in the last story. This evil mother and daughter team would contest the wills of any relative that died and would keep it tied up in court for so long that either the rest of the family would just give up and let them have everything or the families lawyers would end up with everything. These greedy old ladies would even try to fight the wills of cousins and in-laws. It was so bad that my aunts own kids refused to have any contact with her and she ended up totally alone when she died. She had her funeral arrangements in her will and her lawyer made all of the funeral arrangements. Later everyone learned that the only person who went to her funeral was her lawyer. She left everything to her neighbor woman who was just as greedy as she was who was always helping her trying to swindle people in some way or another.
3:16:There are actual laws about that kind of thing, if you have a funeral to go to than they can't do anything to you, and they more than can not tell a High School student to "come in for a talk" during school hours, that is when you get a lawyer and sue them for breach of child labor laws and creating a hostile work environment for not letting you have time to morn the death of a family member.
I was working a job as a postal clerk. Our boss was stupid as Shizer. We were a small staff of five. About a month before Christmas ( our busiest month my boss’s dad was diagnosed with with stage four lung cancer and died within 30 days of that diagnoses. My boss took the entire month off and I covered everyone of her shifts while she was going through this horrible experience. Fast forward 10 months. It was Thanksgiving and three of the five were asking for time off to see family out of town. I had friends in town I was going to see and my boss had family in town so she was going nowhere also. But she didn’t ever want to work a weekend. My mother who lives with me had a stroke and was rushed+to the hospital the day before my weekend shift. So I’m alone in the hospital as there is no family near by, wondering if my mom was dying or worse gonna become incapacitated in anyway.. Oh and it was literally on Thanksgiving. So as she’s being rushed into emergency surgery I text my boss saying I was in ER, explained what was happening and that I wouldn’t be in to work that Saturday. She texted back that I better find some one to cover my shift or I’d be written up. I told her bot( my cell and pad were dying and I had no charger cord( not a thing I thought to bring given I was riding in the back of an ambulance). There is no response for about 15 minutes and then the quiry. “So do you want ME to find some one to cover for YOU?” I wrote back. “ YOUR compassion Is overwhelming and yes please” also I didn’t have any of coworkers numbers in my phone. And it was Thanksgiving so I had volunteered to take the holiday so they could go outta town. My boss ended up shutting the office down for those two days and yes I was about to be written up but I brought a Doctors note from the hospital. her boss had a soul and ended up writing her up for not covering my shifts in an emergency. I left that job shortly after.
9:00 betrayal never comes from your enemies becaue they have no loyalty to betray
In which jurisdiction can a person’s life estate be “bought out?”
Can we talk about the people that the entitled aunt in story three brought to the house? Who in their right mind would gladly go on a house tour in a house full of grieving people!? I wouldn’t even be surprised if these “friends“ ended up harassing OP‘s parents if they refuse to sell the house
Story 1: I know what that's like, having worked in retail, being given a verbal lashing for when I was unable to do the work they wanted me to do for reasons outside of my control. I used to be the cart wrangler at my last job (even though I was qualified to do more than that, like cashiering and running the self checkouts), but whenever I got sick or injured, the first words out of some of the team leads' mouths were, "Who's going to take care of the carts now!?" I told them that that wasn't my job to figure out.
Of course, having a death in the family is so much worse, and it was very callous and cruel of the store to not be accommodating to OP. In contrast, when my paternal grandmother passed away, my father's boss allowed him to take the full bereavement that he was allowed in his union contract and even gifted him a potted plant as a token of sympathy; we kept that plant for years. That some employers care more about the day-to-day operations of their business than the mental of physical wellbeing of their employees just disgusts me.
Yep, just make it so no one dies when you are scheduled to work!
I’ve filled in for colleagues on short notice. One required a flight be scheduled and hotels be changed. Of course, there was laundry and packing!
If I didn't experience it first hand I wouldn't have believed that a sibling would rob the estate of a parent or grandparent. Live and learn.
in Norway a boss would not be able to do anything aigenst you there. we have something protecting the workers making it so they can be with their family, or just at hope a few days (maybe a weeks time) if a death in your near famiily and i think if a close friends die.
It's the same in the US. Some people are just that heartless.
@@matteoinocencio9702 Has empathy died in the U.S.?
@@JamesDavy2009
Among half the country probably
Story 1: I started my Horst night working security back in 85. Something happened and I went into a daze. The boss saw me asked what’s up? I snapped too and informed him my dad had died that morning. He said go home you shouldn’t be working. I said working was best for me right now.
But very understanding boss and continued to work me until I was able to do my job without any hesitation.
12:23 Even if you wanted to see the house sold to someone else at least wait for the mourning process to finish before doing this.
Was the house even left to her in the will? If not, it wasn't her decision to sell to start with.
Story 4: Aunt sounds too loud to attend the funeral, let alone the children!
Oh Hell No I would have told them My COUSIN DIED, WHAT THE HELL DO YOU EXPECT ME TO DO!! Plus its Greif so she should have had time off. 4:04
Story 4: intransigence on both sides. No one wins.
Story 1: if u have such a toxic owner, no wonder he has a karen manager! 🤬
Story 1: what a bunch of crock! Leave immediately!! And here at least my managers are understanding and care about our mental health. I just lost a very good friend over memorial weekend and i didnt even know about it until almost a week later by googling her husbands name because neither one was getting back to me and something wasnt sitting well. I texted my boss that i was going to be late to work, i needed to calm myself down before getting in the car, and as soon as i told him the article i had read when i got in, my supervisor and his boss both told me to go home if i needed it. I left work about 3 hrs early because i couldnt keep my mind straight any longer.
Never seen a fight like inheritance…. Every time, they turn on each other like sharks after blood
The first story: because OP was young, she didn't have the life experience to stand up for herself and just leave. Had she been older, I suspect she would have told both the manager and the store owner to stick it where the sun doesn't shine. The callousness, the heartlessness, the lack of empathy and sympathy for the fact that OP went to a death in the family is just staggering. Let this be a lesson to others out there: don't ever the superstar go-to person at your job. This whole story just reeks of the adage that people don't quit bad jobs, they quit bad bosses
Story 1: you can actually file a complaint against the work place with the union or ombudsman
Not necessarily. Maybe the uncle treats his own kids like shit too. If he does, he kept the letter of the promise, not the spirit.
Honestly, I think face-timing was a reasonable compromise... if Uncle is in the back and not making a spectacle of himself in the process. AND if Aunt is muted. We don't want any sort of temper tantrum to disrupt the funeral, right?
Some would say the better option was to just get a babysitter, but OP didn't want children at the funeral. Clearly, that includes the Aunt.
I’ve said it about other karen stories before, but story1’s manager simply sounds like another one of those cases: she sounds like a literal psychopath! Not even an “Oh my gosh! I’m very sorry for that! Do you need any time off?”, she just ignored the family death announcement and went straight to the point of reminding OP to be in for the Saturday evening shift.
Story #1 what makes it especially bad is the that OP is just a kid, not an adult and these people are telling him he shouldn’t have gone to his family after a family member dies! What the hell is wrong with people?
First Story: Never let a boss pull something like this. A death in the family is a legally protected reason for missing work. How can they possibly expect you to work while grieving and also worrying about how your family is coping with the loss?
Last one. if the grandmother had managed to get the lawyer in for the signing the will would have been demed invalid because of the agressive brain tumer and ops mother not beeing in a state of mind where she could do any desision like that. the mothers medical records and statements from the doctors etc would all been able to prove that to be the case puting the grandmother and potentialy the lawyer in legal trouble for doing it.
For story 1. Why can’t the owner pitch in if it’s so important. It’s the responsibility of owners and manager to make sure the store can run. No one else’s.
1st story yea that owner would have been cussed out soooo bad hear ears would still be burning. Then I'd walked out and never thought about that place ever again.
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"What exactly do you expect me to do?" Your job, Karen, *your* job. Also "you left us understaffed" - no, owner, he did not, as he is not responsible for staffing, schedules and the like - *managers* are. And for their *responsibilities* they are paid more.
Story 1: had a manager like that when I worked at a K-mart in 1999 as a teenager. I got in a car crash when the throttle in my old beat up truck jammed open. Pretty nasty crash too that resulted in a fractured arm and bruised ribs on top of having to talk home about a mile and a half due to cellphones not being available yet where I lived. Before going to get medical care I called my work only for the manager tell me that she didn't believe me that I was in a wreck and told me to get to work or I was fired. The kicker was that even after I came to work after the ER just to show how beat up I was the crazy lady said I was faking it even thought I had an obvious cast on my left arm as well as cuts on my face.
Only people you trust can betray you. It never comes from enemies because you never expect them to be loyal in the first place. That’s the whole point
Story 1 - I have a similar story, worked at a restaurant and found out less than an hour before I started work that my uncle was in a bad atv accident and had to be airlifted to the hospital. When I got to work, I was in bad shape but felt I had to go in because of the short notice and told I would receive a write up if calling in with less than two hour notice.
So I go in, obviously having a bad day, and after a couple hours, the manager pulled me aside, told me I’m doing horrible and asked why. When I told him, he said I should have called out regardless and then a peer said I was probably lying and just trying to cover up. He agreed and told me to just go home.
That was the one and only time I drank to just get fked up when I got home. I sadly didn’t learn my lesson and would stay with the chain for many years. The manager, he ended up moving up in the corporate chain. Shit tends to float up after all.
When my stepdad’s father passed away, my step-cousin’s husband was walking around bragging that this was now HIS property and we had 30 minutes to get out before he “called the cops on trespassers”. That’s the first time I’ve ever seen a grown man call out for his mommy when my stepdad and his 2 brothers pounded this grown male into a bloody heap. Then physically thrown out of the house onto the front yard….
At my brother's baptism, when I was only 4 years old, I accidentaly tripped in church and hit my head in one of the pews. But I did not say a word, not a peep came out of my mouth according to my mother. I knew you should not scream and shout in church. So I could have attended funerals, but at the same time my mother woild not have argued if I could not go to a funeral if they said no kids. Because manners and adultness, not like auntie Karen in the story.
At least they waited till OP's grandpa passed... my grandma's health wasn't very well towards the end. During one of the times when she was at home, my aunt (uncle's wife) came barging in with her mom. They didn't say hi to my grandma or acknowledge her... they just walked in and started to look at the shelves, and my grandma's stuff. Making comments about what they want or doesn't want... Yeah. But then again, my cousin is also the one who would only visit grandma when grandma has money to give her, so I shouldn't have been surprised.
My grandma ( mom’s mom) called when my mom passed (at 54 from breast cancer) leaving me and my siblings to deal with everything (all in our 20s) and demanded to know what she left her. My mom did not have a close relationship with her mom or siblings except one and that was even fairly distant and would be the only one to speak to her on occasion at that. So to have her demand this angered all of us. She called several times. This caused us to change our childhood phone number (landline) and that was honestly the last time we heard from her.
The last one... I can tell how they are feeling... from how they want to make it an outhouse...
The cemetery authority won't allow them to do that, though.
I guess Granny Karen didn’t count on one thing, her own time was her enemy whereas op and op’s brother had plenty of time.
I would have had filmed that intervention and use that as proof that the grandmother that she was being such a horrible person towards her own daughter. Maybe even presented to court to exclude her from the estate because of her actions towards her daughter were shown as abusive and manipulative. To get her off of their backs.
Thank you
Story #3: just to spite her i would not sell the house but as OP's parent I would gift it to OP under the condition OP would not sell it in the next 5 years and NEVER sell it to aunt or friends of aunt
Businesses suck when it comes to family members death. But most businesses don't consider Aunts, Uncle's, and Cousins as family. Step family is considered family, but not aunts, uncles, and cousins. So the Business really doesn't care about the O.P.s cousin dying. In thier opinion, a cousin's death shouldn't matter. I'm not saying that it is right, I'm just saying that this is my experience with businesses.
Story 4: I can't undrstand why they would want a 1-year old kid attend to a funeral. He won't remember anything and it would just be another boring/irritating moment of his life, so of course he'll cause a scene.
I didn't remember the first time I lived out of state on account of being 1. It was the last time Halley's Comet showed up.