Cleaning extremely dirty kitchen for single mom with ADHD with 3 kids for FREE
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- Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024
- I am helping this single mom of 3 kids by cleaning her extremely dirty kitchen. The dishes alone took me 7 hours to wash! Mom suffers from ADHD and her oldest is autistic which has been a challenge. There are also other challenges here as well which I will address more in next week's video.
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The easiest way how to do this is decluttering. They actually need 6 person set and that's all. 6 spoons, 6 forks, 6 plates, 6 cups. And get rid of all the plastic. Leave one sippy cup for every baby/toddler. It's easy to keep everything clean if you just load a dishwasher every night.
Moms & Dads - Please start teaching your children to help at home with the chores. My son is on the spectrum & he was taught early on to empty the dishwasher, take out the trash / recycling, keep his dirty clothing in a big trashcan in his room, etc. He needed constant reminding, but it got done. It helped out so much.
with some that's easier said than done.
My sons with ass are also doing little things in the house ❤
Very good point, there are even online resources with lists of tasks appropriate to teach at different ages. I was raised by a single mom, me not contributing to the chores would have been unacceptable.
@@blessedmommy7805Agree, even a little help is alot of help and beneficial to all even if it's one tiny change for the better... But know what you're saying.
Kudos to you! Special needs kids are often written off as “unteachable” and it’s just not true. My niece has about 1/3 of a brain and my awesome sister taught her to write and read. It’s at about a 1st grade level but it helps her to communicate and feel so good about herself.
What this homeowner could also benefit from is help from a professional decluttering and organizing coach. The volume of water bottles and dishes was overwhelming. Decluttering 75% of the dishes would make her life easier.
Also, you don’t need to apologize for using paper towels! 31:19
Decluttering and organizing saves so much time!
I totally agree! Decluttering and organizing is half the battle. When it gets this bad, you know you have too much stuff!
Agree! Nobody needs that many thermal cups, for starters. Even if she had just two each for her and her three kids, that'd make a big difference.
I agree!! Hope she can get some decluttering help.
@@Snoops510exactly...I have 2, one for water and one for coffee (I have a keen sense of smell/ taste so I don't want to drink water out of my coffee one 😊
Girl never say sorry for a long video. I’m so happy you helped this family. They really needed you
Thank you so much!!
Really great job. I hope she'll be able to begin decluttering and maintain. No one should have enough dishes that it takes 7 hours to wash them. Less stuff, less mess, way less time to keep up.
I couldn't agree more.😊
I have helped a autustic child’s mother before and I myself know the less I have the easier to keep clean. I know Autistic children require a lot of attention but honestly you can keep a home clean at least kitchen and bathroom
Совершенно верно меньше посуды и будет всегда чистота а так такое ощущение что в этом доме живут 20 человек 😊
@@sesiliyaabo4218 Я согласен. Похоже, здесь живет гораздо больше четырех человек!
I think what happened is she ran out of dishes and bough more. Would be better to have paper plates or paper boats to have time to wash the dishes.
It took me 6 hours to clean my elderly uncle's kitchen while my brave sister tackled the refrigerator - he had a series of mini strokes and a little too much drinking so we got his house in better shape one Saturday and went out for a meal to end the day on a social note 😊
That is awesome! So kind of you!
God bless you and your sister for helping your uncle after mini stroke. Six hours is alot of work too! He is so fortunate to have such wonderful nieces to help, especially after something like that. Most importantly that you both cared... Kudos to you both! Much respect to you! 🙏 ❤!
If you don't teach your kids how to help clean and that there are chores to do how will they know what to do when they grow up ? That is the purpose of teaching .and have family time .tell stories about what you did when you was their size and make it a fun time .in a family everyone needs to help.
@@vmdyer6743 agreed! Had a friend who had 2 small children when her husband unalived himself, in the house. A huge trauma.
When the kids were about 8 & 10 she had an all day mandatory event at her college and asked us to watch the kids.
The house was filthy, we had all day, so we engaged the kids in help cleaning.
Like they literally didn't know where the toilet paper was stored. They didn't know where the dishes went. They didn't know how to run the dishwasher nor the clothes washer.
It wasn't lazy, they weren't disabled. No one had ever taught them any of that. Not any of the grandma's, grandpa's, great grandma's, aunt's, uncle's, no one! They had a huge family all living within a few miles, and no one came in and helped mom, nor taught the kids. The kids didn't even object to helping, but we're just dumbfounded. Once the understood the assignment, they were willing to do the work.
I grew up on a house that was far worse than this. It is really healing to see people help others in this scenario. Thank you for your hard work, those kids will remember your kindness
Oh wow, really?! Sadly, I think a lot of people live in these conditions, but they are too ashamed to ask for help and then it just continues to get worse. So I'm curious, did you become really clean because of the mess you grew up in or did living in that kind of mess normalize it and so you continued to live in a similar way?
I know this is 6 months later, but I can too say I grew up in a home that was similar if not also worse. I can remember back when my mom (who suffers from depression, anxiety, epilepsy) struggled with us 3 kids. My dad was constantly working and even worked 15 hours away in another state at one point. That was only because he was opening a new location for his job. Anyway, my point was, she acted as a single mother for a few months while my dad was away. I know she STRUGGLED! I was 13 years old when I recognized her struggle, (also when she had a really aggressive seizure) it basically forced me to grow up quickly, being I was her oldest daughter. I helped out as much as I could with cooking dinner, cleaning, etc. I remember being a little older and thinking to myself that my house isn’t going to be like this when I get older. I started with my room, once my sister moved into my brother’s old room. My parents quickly found out who the cleaner child was 😆. I too thank you for your hard work with this family. I know the mom appreciated everything you’ve done for her and her kids. I also enjoy seeing people help others especially in this day and age sadly.
My friend grew up in a house like this and she feels that’s why she is OCD.
I have ADHD, depression, and anxiety and a 7 year old boy with ASD/ADHD and a 4 year old boy. I've always been somewhat of a disorganized person, "piles" tend to follow me. We just moved back to WI from CO and purchased our first home. I've gotten very into minimalism, decluttering, cleaning, homemaking (you know, that ADHD LASER FOCUS) and it's all changing my freaking LIFE. I'm learning that I CAN do it, small bursts at a time. It's been wonderful for me, and I'm finally proud of my home. Is it perfect? Company-ready? Not usually! But I can get it to that point A LOT quicker! I'm a new sub, thanks so much for all you do! I'm LIVING for your pro tips! ❤
Thank you for sharing your experience. I love that it shows what people with these kinds of challenges are capable of. I think decluttering and minimalism is key in these situations. I understand the tendency to overbuy things when you are in a depressed state and that gives you a little boost for a minute, but what it really does in the long run is just adds to the depression and anxiety. I'm so glad you've learned that and are taking steps to keep your new home in order. I applaud you!👏❤️
try an alexa for your living, kitchen and bedroom and do weekly or biweekly commands for you. use your google calendar. become a minimalist. make a command center for when you come home.
my 22 year old has A.D.D. and i have him down to 1 quilt, 2 bedsheet sets, 2 comforters, 1 google nest, 2 tile trackers. #adhdadvocate #dysgraphiaadvocate
I'm AuDHD an completely understand! Minimalism is a Godsend for us ND's!!
What's a sub?
@@myutube5882 I am not affiliated to her chanel . but i did want to answer this for you- its a subscriber. I am sure she will answer you soon. until then- have a wonderful day (-:
I love it when there’s no music and I can hear the cleaning sounds ❤
Me too!! The back and forth from talking to loud crazy music drives me crazy!! Constantly adjusting my volume so I turn it all the way down..then don't hear what they say. So this was really nice
I use a sound machine during nights, the sound of the scrubbing needs to be part of it 😂 it almost made me fall asleep again
I actually had the opposite experience and couldn't get through the video because of it. I think if it had sounded like normal cleaning sounds it might've been different for me but the sound was so distorted and sounded almost underwater, maybe because it's sped up, that it was really grating for me. I do agree about the annoyance of having to constantly adjust volume on some videos with music but that was what I was having to do on this one so I would've preferred, if there wasn't going to be music, just silence between the voiceovers. Either way, you helping her out is a great thing to do for her and for her kiddos!
@@BearcatEm it’s funny how different everyone’s preferences are and it’s impossible for content craters to accommodate everyone. For me I prefer soft piano music or at least music that’s relaxing and without words if there’s going to be music because words force me to change what I’m thinking about due to the words if that makes any sense
Me TOO!!! Thank you so much for NO music!!!!!!❤❤❤❤
I used to clean my brother’s condo 3 times a month when he was a bachelor and I swear he had no idea what a dishwasher was or what it did because I would spend a minimum of 2 hours just washing dishes. I finally took it upon myself and threw out over half of his dishes and he didn’t even notice 😂 but it made my job easier in the long run. Great job Bonnie, I’m glad Mack recommended your channel.
Lol! I'm so tempted sometimes to do the same thing in these homes. I think they would get used to it and realize that they don't need so much and that their lives are actually a lot easier without all of the extra. Too bad I would lose a lot of trust and probably not get any people who wanted to have me help them if I did that.😁 Thanks so much for being here!❤️
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp maybe bring a couple boxes for "time will tell bins" ask them to put their favorites in the cupboard 1st (especially for mugs) and then when they have enough to go a couple meals without washing, put the extras away somewhere to experiment if it's easier to live with less. This was advice I took from, The Minimal Mom, and it has served me well. Extras are still in the basement & I can go shopping there if I break things or have a big dinner party. It has kept me from creating the dish mountains and also makes putting everything away much easier.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp also you're an angel on earth and great cleaning motivation, when I need someone to clean with me! Thanks for helping others! ❤
Such a good idea. When you have fewer dishes you'll actually wash them regularly because you have no choice.
That was such a smart idea to wash all of those dishes outside and let the sun dry them! The sun helped kill bacteria/mold as well. Not to mention how nice it would have been to just work outside. I hope you get to do it with the hose one day. I’d love to see that!
Do you find that dishes get done more when people have fewer dishes? I was surprised at the amount of dishes in the home.
Yeah, I was really looking forward to doing this all outside. And there's just something about being out in the sun that makes you happy and a little more motivated. It all worked out though!
Yes, I definitely think that paring down on the amount of dishes would help keep on top of the dishes because you are forced to wash something before you can use it, rather than just dirtying up more dishes. I personally like to have two of everything for each person in our home with the exception of a few items, like silverware.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpas a baker, I too probably have too much for my tiny kitchen but I've figured out a way in another room to keep alot of items and are easy to get to but yeah, I require alot of items especially since I'm also a part time cake decorator 😊
For the really nasty / gross things paper towels is the only way to go - just toss when done versus having to lug around dirty smelly microfiber towels to have to wash .
Think about the environment
To each their own
@@zohraabdulwould you put greasy cloths in your washing machine? I’m sure I wouldn’t, sometimes paper towels are the best thing
When my brother's x-wife was struggling with depression, her place was like this. I went in everyday and cleaned it up. I got her kids to help and in the process they learned how to clean while also having fun and helping mum. She was so grateful but as I told her "You might be seperated from my brother but your still my sister"
That's so nice of you to help. I have an ex-sister-in-law like that as well who felt like a sister and I miss her dearly. She is now getting remarried and I'm so happy for her!
@vintagebrew
One of the loveliest comments regarding the end of your brother’s marriage but your acknowledgment of your love for your sister-in-law, now sister by choice. Blessings to you.
I wish I had got you as my sister in law.😢
Thank you for helping this overwhelmed mom.
Decluttering the kitchen would be a good place for her to start! Since she is not running a cafeteria just feeding a family, more than 1/2 of those dishes should be donated. I know it is not easy, but once you get started it becomes a happy habit.
All I can say is THANK YOU. I have one 6 year old on the spectrum and have autism myself as well as depression and anxiety. I struggle with my home and it’s nice to see that I’m not the only one who doesn’t have a home that looks like a magazine as this is what we see everyday on Instagram, etc. Fortunately I have started feeling better on a new medication and have began to tackle my home one room at a time. I wish there was a service like this in my area. For someone who is ready to make a change, getting the home to a point where it is ready to be maintained would be a huge stress relief. I love you for this! ❤
Thank you so much for your comment and for sharing your perspective on this because, you're absolutely right, you Are Not Alone and those Instagram homes that you see can make people like yourself feel really bad about their situation I think. I think the reality is there are A LOT more people who have homes like the ones you see in my video than we would ever imagine, but they are just too ashamed to ask for help. I think a lot of people just give up because they see no way out of their situation and it just continues to get worse and worse. But you're right, if someone is ready for change, they definitely need someone who is not going to judge them for how things got that way and simply just help them get started with the process of taking back control.🥰🙏
I agree and am in same situation as me, may I ask what medication you are in that actually works?
There's a channel called Remi Clog who struggles with Executive Disfunction and shows how she cleans her home. I find her very sweet and understanding and maybe it also helps you to watch someone who struggles with mental health but still just tries her best. ❤
@@Smittenhamster I love Remi! I don't have a ton of time anymore to watch other cleaning channels, but try to listen to them in the background as I clean. She would be a good one to "watch" more of. I also just hired a helper who has ADHD and executive dysfunction and she is very helpful in navigating these types of situations and also learning new skills herself. I'm learning a lot from each of these situations.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp hahah Remi would be perfect as a kind of podcast in the background, as she talks so much (no hate, just...well it is what it is 😄). I also found her really enlightening as to what it feels like to have Executive Disfunction and possibly other mental health disorders. Anyway, i subbed to your channel as well. All the best to you!
No judgement here, but I can say from experience that the more dishes you have, the lazier you become. I used to have a boat load of silverware so that I didn't have to wash dishes until they were piled all over my kitchen. Then when I didn't have any clean dishes to use, I would look at the pile of dirty ones knowing that they now needed to be washed and I would have a full-on panic attack. I finally did a kitchen declutter, and now my kitchen stays clean. I kept only 4 plates, four bowls, spoons, forks ETC. It's only me and my husband, so there is no need to have an overwhelming amount of kitchen stuff.
I got rid of all my extra dishes too. I would have piles of dishes in the sink and on the side of the sink. I would get overwhelmed and shut down so nothing would get done. I decided I would keep enough in the cabinet for two days worth. It has really helped. I still have a pile but I can get it done easier now.
I raised my 4 amazing kids completely by myself their whole lives. Thankfully they never wrote on my walls like this & my house never got this out of control. But Id go 4/5 days without cleaning the house sometimes because of work,school,sports. And zapped of energy. Then had to spend all day long catching back up. But we all fall off of track sometimes ❤ some people have a harder time to get back on it. Weve all been there. Thank you for helping this momma get her hone back in order for her & her kiddos♡ also tell her to get rid of alot & declutter. Thats what helped me. Less stuff less mess.
Yes, it can be such a struggle for some people. Decluttering is such a huge part of keeping things under control. She got rid of quite a lot of stuff in her room so I'm hopeful she will continue that trend.😊👍
That is because you had a handle on your household and you were consistent and your kids knew better. That was my siblings and I we just knew better my mom wasn’t having it at all.
Your scrubbing sounds on the sink gave me a chuckle - sounded like a big moth in the window. 😂
Yeah, I guess it does kind of sound like that. 😄I really love the scrubbing sounds, but particularly when they are a little sped up. I don't know why, but I just love it!
You did an amazing job! I love that it was not a bunch of music and just normal cleaning noises.
Thank you! 😊
Totally agree, fantastic work with no music. Now, all the ADS just need to be disposed of permanently 😊❤👍
first thing she must do it’s to declutter. You did a great job 👏
We had 8 kids in my family, my mother did all the chores herself, she didn't have a dishwasher and I can't remember ever seeing a dirty dish in the sink. She had minimal dishes and furnishings. I think this allowed her to keep things spotless. We wore hand me down clothes, which helped with space saving.
I would love to live like a minimalist but my husband is so sentimental about everything. He keeps 5-6 copies of pages and books just in case. He's a teacher so...🤓🤓🤓
Yes! Even though people especially in the US are tired of hearing this but I really believe that if you only keep the essentials in your house, you won't end up with this kind of mess (coming from a naturally messy person). If you only have one or two water bottles you will be forced to clean them regularly and won't end up with a bucket full of water bottles to tend to.
Also, kids played outside the majority of the time. So the house stayed clean mainly.
I grew up one of 6 kids and dishes were our chore so started doing dishes for 8 at 9 years old. Honestly at that point the dishwasher makes it take so much longer.
Its hard for people to keep on top of things when they have an illness or a condition.
My kids are on the spectrum too! They do chores but I would be lying if I did not understand how hard it can be especially if your ill, have no support to help you catch up when things get hectic. It can be draining mentally/physically.
I’m glad you are helping her. All of that mess must be overwhelming & people spend to much time saying negative things without actually turning up to help. God bless you for helping ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you. And bless you for being so understanding.❤️🙏
What a blessing you are for this single mom. You did a great job.
Thank you so much!
@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp do you get paid to clean homes?
MAC recommended you. I’m so impressed with your energy, enthusiasm and kindness!
Welcome!! And thank you! So glad you're here!
I have a question. Do you ever go into a space and feel immediately overwhelmed? Like “where do I even start”?!
Definitely. And then I just take a minute to look around and see what would make the biggest difference the fastest because that always gets me motivated to just keep going. In this case, it was gathering the dishes and getting them soaking. In some cases, it's gathering the laundry or picking up the trash. But then I still have my moments like I did in this one where I just don't know where to put anything when there's such limited space and every square inch is covered with stuff!
And that’s exactly what the mum feels and gets exhausted thinking about it then can’t do anything it’s a vicious cycle
I have a friend who had so much clothing that she could go 6 weeks without washing..... can we say too much clothing, or too many dishes?? Sometimes our messiness is from owning too many things.
I completely agree
Messiness comes from mental health
Gosh, this is so sad. Thank you so much for helping those kids.
What is it about scrubbing and scraping sounds that make us love to hear them? I admire your happy nature and your compassion - and especially your sense of order! Love your videos❤
Yeah, I don't know what it is about those sounds. They are just so soothing.😊
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The homeowner must have been so happy when she came home to this kitchen! Great Job. Looking forward to your Oct. collaboration.
I can’t say how much I’m loving this trend of RUclipsrs helping others! Win-Win-Win! I’m so glad you could help this overwhelmed mom out. As I’m new to your channel, I’d love to hear more about you, whether this is a series, etc. in the intro of your next video!
Welcome! I'm working on my next video as we speak! I do have my videos organized into playlists if there is more than one video to a house. There is one particular house that has I think six different videos to it right now. It's one that I actually went back to to help some more with and everything is explained in the video as to why I did that. Just keep in mind that I've only been doing this about 4 and 1/2 months so those very first few videos are not the best. And please, please overlook the gum chewing in my very first one.. lol! I wish I could re-record that part.😬😁 So glad you're here! Enjoy! 💜❤️
I've been a gum chewer pretty much all of my life, I find it very relaxing. 😂
You did an awesome job! I'm sure she was greatly appreciative, sometimes people just need a little help when feeling overwhelmed.
Absolutely!! Thanks so much.
Dish washers are a waste of space & time if I had to CHOOSE I'd take two washing machines & two dryers B4 a dish washer. An industrial freezer & FRIDGE to put my baked goods. After baking & decorating..
Thanks!
Oh my goodness! Thank you so much! That's very generous and I really appreciate it!! God bless!💕😘
I love what you do for people who are struggling in life 👍 from across the pond 🇬🇧 🇺🇸 ✊
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@@lia-liz2012 i most certainly have 👍😁
Well done!
I think when it’s really oily, it can be more wasteful to use reusable by the time we use all the hot water and soap to rinse it off. So sometimes paper towels makes sense.
I noticed her stand mixer was clean despite the fresh buns. I think she did do dishes just didn’t manage to wash as fast as they were dirtied.
Ah yes. I can see my future.
No but, for real, I have days where I struggle with staying on top of things, but the days where my routine gets broken are absolute wreckers. Can't imagine doing all that AND THEN ADD 3 kids on top. And a surgery????
I do agree she should declutter a few things (less dishes = less time between having to wash them), but if the kids are doing fine, they are clean,they are loved, they are cared for with their mental health struggles and conditions (and there's no massive bug infestation), as far as I'm concerned, she's been doing a great job. You go mom!
Also, paper towels are better with greasy water/messes as reusable towels being rinsed will mess up plumbing/septic with grease plugs. Don’t heed the haters, you do great work.
Great job! I found you through Midwest Magic Cleaning and I’m glad I did! Great videos! I’m looking forward to your collaboration with him and Barbie! I know it will be hard work but I bet you all will have fun!
😊 me too
Me too
Same for me!
Me three 😋
She’s collaborating with Barbie?!
I found this channel through Midwest as well - that guy really does recommend other people’s channels - what a great guy!
Great job Bonnie! Kitchen cupboards looked brand new. Please let the homeowner to clean her can opener on a regular basis as old food can
transfer from the cutting edge. It is possible to get botulism or food poisoning from improper cleaning. ❤
If you struggle to keep on top of your dishes own fewer dishes. I have ADHD and I have 4 of each item while also having only ONE of certain things. Like 1 travel mug, 1 Stanley water cup (and no other water bottles) 1 frying pan, 1 pot of each size (sm, med, lg), 1 whisk etc. Minimizing my cooking utensils means if I want to eat I HAVE to do dishes, this is HUGE in combating the ADHD.
In my most depressed newly single mother days my counselor told me to switch to disposable dishes til I could handle the cleaning better. I felt guilty but it really did help for a few months.. you do what you can!
I think that's great counsel. If it helps to get you through those rough days, I think it's a perfectly reasonable thing to do. I hope you are a better place now!💕
I love, love, love your channel. I watch MMC, Auri, yourself and Barbie. So therapeutic. Thank you so much xx
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This is the first video I've watched of yours and I love that you talk more through the video and don't have music. I always want to mute the videos that have music but I don't want to miss what the person is saying. I also love when you explain what you're doing and the products/ tools you're using. You've got a new subscriber!
This is what I thought too. But I like the voice overs the best!!
Thank you. You might want to skip my first two or three videos I posted...LOL! I was not quite sure whether to do music or not and I added music to those ones before I learned that most people don't like that. I'm actually very relieved because adding music was just one more thing to do.😊
You don't like music huh.
@Temms it's not that she doesn't like music🤦♀️we're here to watch cleaning not to listen to back & forth loud music & talking. I have a Playlist for music.I have to turn my volume all the way down then don't hear what they are saying. So it's nice to finally find a cleaning video that's just that & a walk through..without of & on random loud music
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I stopped watching other channels because of the music. So definitely subscribing to yours! Thank you! ❤
Way too much stuff on her counter. It helps when there is less. Fantastic job. That was amazing. Thanks
Agreed. I wish there had been more cupboard space for me to put some of that away, but they were pretty full!
Recommend to get paper plates when things get hard. They are not very expensive and they can pop the utensils in the dishwasher ❤ Good job!! That waa a lot!!
Sie müssen sich nicht entschuldigen, das Sie Papierrolle zum reinigen nehmen. Die Menschen, die das kritisieren, sollten selber einmal den Job machen. Wie wunderbar, was Sie für andere Menschen tun. 🌺
Danke!
Exactly!
@@NiNitosixgenau!
Right! 💙
I had an uncle who would just keep buying clothes because he hated the laundromat.
When he died, we threw away 47 pairs of underwear and took 6 big black yard bags to a thrift store. Then we found his boat full of more clothes, all gross from fishing.
It was insane!!
When you are depressed and just tired of the world, convenience becomes a priority.
Simple things like cleaning can become a mountain really fast.
Thanks for sharing. It absolutely can get out of control so quickly when you can't manage things anymore or have lost the desire to.
Looking forward to your collab with Mack and Barbie!!!! From midwest cleaning, suck it! lol
HAHAHA! Love it!
Even with all this mess and clutter this home looks beautiful! I can imagine how good it will looks once it will be clean and little bit renovated. All it need is a good cleaning and a fresh paint on the walls and it will be brand as new.
You did a wonderful job there. The house honestly didn't look tooooo bad, just like she needed a friend to help her with and some declutterering.
Btw on the paper towels, if covid taught me one thing it's that hygiene and environmentally friendliness unfortunately often don't go together. Paper towels were the right call here.
Thank you so much. ❤️And, yes, the more people comment about how much time and resources it takes to wash something rather than just using paper towels, which is a renewable resource, the less I think I need to apologize for being "wasteful."
Bonnie @ABeautifulMess
You work so hard and you are making such a big difference in others life. I want to say Thank you for making the world a better place by being you!
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Such a lovely turn around. I’m sure the stress relief has done wonders for the families mental health ❤
I absolutely LOVE that Dawn Power Wash Spray! I used it on someone's walls that had 25 years of tobacco stained on them and they turned out as white as if they were freshly painted. The grease mixed with tobacco in that kitchen came off too, but some of that grease was so old and thick that I took off some paint with it. To be fair, the lady said she'd only used one coat of paint in the kitchen all those years ago, so she wasn't upset.
Yes, it's one of my favorite cleaners as well. You'll actually see a lot of it in the video I'm putting out this weekend.
I hope the homeowner is able to keep things relatively clean after all your hard work.
I hope so!
That was a huge job! Looks so much better, I'm an only three items on any flat surface kind of gal because I'm not willing to move a bunch of stuff to clean, so looks a bit cluttered with everything on the counter, but I understand not everyone has space to hide stuff.
Yes, I don't like a lot of things on my countertops either. There was definitely limited space here to put away all of the items on the counter.
My counter space is limited in my tiny kitchen too.
I am also a single mom with 3 kids, and my oldest also has autism. When they were young the 2 youngest naturally imitated their older sibling as kids do, so it was like having 3 with autism instead of one until they got old enough to understand. So i totally understand her and can relate.
Yes, sounds like a very similar situation! It's nice to hear other people have the same struggles so that others don't feel so alone in their situations. Thanks for sharing.🥰
When my mom was older and living alone she got rid of most of her dishes. She was able to put everything in the dishwasher at one time. She said it solved having a sink full of dirty dishes. In my home when one of us is ill we use a lot of paper plates and bowls. It keeps things more in control.
I was going to say this too! We have a family of 3 and can fit 75% of our dishes in the dishwasher. (Excluding big things like pots, etc)
Sent here by Midwest Magic Cleaning. Great job on that hoarder house!! It was such a gorgeous home!!!!
It really was such a cool home. I haven't even watched back all of the footage that I took, but I may include some extra shots of other rooms because it was just too cool not to share. Thanks for being here!❤️
I actually do like music, but sometimes I'll mute the video and listen to my own music so definitely just make the video how you want to and don't worry about it:) I can tell from a lot of the comments that many viewers enjoy how you present it! ❤
I don’t blame you at all for using paper towels where you did. 👍🏻 Great job!
Had a neighbor with 10 kids that believed in keeping nothing on her counters. That always blew me away considering how she was a hoarder ..Oh man the yard and garage were the worst. They had an inground pool that they messed up then filled with debris before topping it with some soil. But hey, her counters were always free of clutter.
Oh wow! That's crazy/kind of funny.😮
When someone presses toothbrushes into cleaning service and does mini blinds and wall scrubbing; the client is getting a deluxe quality cleaning. The before and after pics were awesome.A phenomenal day’s work for one person and I hope someone made a cup of tea for you when you got home. 🫖 ☕️
I never judge people by the conditions of their homes, because you never know what someone might be going through, BUT I really struggle when they let their dirty dishes pile up like that. If the dishes and laundry are able to pile up then you need to declutter some. I know when I reached out for help that’s what I asked for help with. So no judgement from me just a kindred soul sharing my story. ❤ great job I bet that mom really appreciated all your help.
It's not judging but she DOES have issues that would make her not see things the way others do and it's definitely contributed to her illness. I personally can't let stuff get stuck on my dishes but she might not even think about it in her certain states of mind.
I actually believe there is some executive dysfunction going on here. I will talk a little bit more about that in next week's video, but it would make sense in this situation because I really don't think she is able to really "see" the mess as we do. I think a lot of the people that I help have executive dysfunction and it makes it really hard for them to keep on top of their homes. They definitely would benefit from a schedule and some decluttering.
Definitely executive functioning saying you can’t leave dishes like that is judging. Overwhelming issues stop you from doing things. Lots of mental health issues underlying this. She may be thinking she doesn’t want to leave it like this but can’t physically do it. This is what I’m going through.
Thank you for helping out this lady. Those that are really great at organising have you ever considered helping out someone like this?
Amazing job! Love that you don't have music so we can hear the beautiful cleaning sounds! Thanks so much for helping this lady, you work so hard and put in so much time and effort, I'm sure it was much appreciated! The world is a better place for having you in it! 🙂👍
Awww...thank you. That's so nice of you!😍
Came over from Midwest Magic Cleaning and love your videos. I soak dishes in totes when I clean houses without counter space. Kudos to your homeowner for drinking her water. 🎉
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The water bottles! I have a similar collection; I think it's my ADHD. Every time I get to where I can't remember to drink water (or just defiantly avoid it), I get a new water bottle and it helps for a little while, lol. The dopamine boost just kinda helps me get my life together - if only for a short time, haha!
OMG, what an amazing transformation!!! You really did an incredible job!!! I'm looking forward to your next Video!!! Thank you Bonnie for having such a big heart to help those people in need!! ❤❤❤
Thank you so much!!
Great job, you always have your work cut out for you. You are so sweet to help out these people.😊
😊 thank you
Incredible clean! Respect to you. You can just see the layers of an overwhelmed mom, work, kids, doctors, everyday recycle of dinner, dishes, laundry, bills, extras and take the time to bake or do something you really want to do and other things pile up high and deep, she's only one person, but agree to get kids involved to help but when this overwhelmed, how to incorporate little by little? We all need a better system for inbetween running the gauntlet (a white water rafting term when running the worst of rapids, analogy of life) To how to have better systems in place as things change to manage this better rather than digging out all the time in whatever area it is, respect to this mom too for doing the best that she can everyday in these struggles of this season...God bless you and others that help with these seasons life. I'm positive you helped lift years of stress off of her shoulders with your amazing cleaning skills and hard work. We can all help and learn alot ourselves from videos like these.
Thank you for your analogies and for the kindness you've shown to this mom. It's so easy to judge, so I'm so glad that there are so many people who can see past the mess to the trauma and tough stuff that some people go through.🥰👍
Just felt the need to say your tenacity is admirable! I watch your videos and they overwhelm me so much but you just get in and get it done. Cannot imagine the strength and endurance needed to do this and to do it for free. You are a warrior girl! 💪🤜🤛🎉❤️
Wow, thank you!😊🙏
I get overwhelmed in my home with the mess so I can imagine how other people feel, I clean and pick up daily but it’s never enough for my sanity. You are a blessing
Drying the dishes outside was a genius idea! Too bad about the rain 🫤
Oven liner is needed !! Saves scrubbing the bottom of the oven, they DO NOT catch fire !! Fantastic job you have done here. 💐
I hope God keeps blessing through this ministry. Blessing you, the recipient and the viewers. I have chronic medical conditions and have been struggling with depression, also have raised a child on the spectrum. Sometimes people just have so much mental and physical stress that they don’t have anymore energy for anything extra. Advocating, dealing with behaviors, Drs. Appointments, therapists can take a toll, especially single parents. Thank you for your support, encouragement and understanding of the human condition. 💗
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Great job! I can’t wait for the collaboration with you, Barbie and Mac!
Me too!! Thank you!
We don’t own a dishwasher. My family takes turns doing dishes so no one person ends up doing them all the time. We also take turns cooking, doing chores, and yard work. No one is above law, no excuses, get it done. I’m disabled and cannot do stuff alone, nor is it fair to lay that on me. I will not live in a dump and I do not want ‘bugs’. 🤨
I’m glad to meet someone else who knows the right way to load a dishwasher. Ha! My adult kids still laugh about me fuming over the way they’d “dangle cups and bowls on sticks!” (The upright rods to separate plates)
You had a frustrating time at this house, with the outside dishwashing scheme not working out, the spilled water, the corrupted files, etc., but you made a great video from it.
Love your channel!
Haha! Yes, don't they know that dangling cups on those little rods doesn't work? It just means that the cups will get flipped and end up with water inside of them.😁
An incredible cleaning job! Thank you for your loving support of this family. Been a subscriber of your channel for a little while now.
Thank you so much!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpmack mentioned he has to pack himself and his wife. Does that mean you're meeting somewhere? I guess I missed that. I know Barbie is flying in from NY and you from Utah.
Yes, we are meeting in Danville, Illinois. That's where the house is that we will be cleaning.
I’ll never understand why people who hate to wash dishes, let them pile up and get all hard and crusty! I love to wash dishes but only because I always let EVERYTHING soak first. Start the morning with a sink full of hot,soapy water and submerge everything. Then while you’re heating up your lunch in the microwave,wash those soaked dishes until the timer goes off,I usually get all the breakfast dishes done during a three minute reheat, BECAUSE THERE’S NO SCRUBBING NEEDED!!!!🙌🏻
I use charles soap to get the badly stained shower. You have a kind heart.
I have ONE water bottle, for both hot and cold and I know where it is at all times. Having only one saves a lot of cabinet storage space and eliminates a lot of clutter. EDIT: The one thing I would have taken outside was the blinds above the kitchen sink. They’re easy to remove and it is much faster to wash and rinse them on the deck.
That's true. I'm actually surprised I didn't think about that. They weren't too big though, so it was manageable.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpI really don't like taking them down. I prefer your method 😏
Good for you
I keep 2 each of us so one is clean while the other gets cleaned. But honestly thats all we need. We only drink water so keeping the bottles sanitized is very important to me.
Yup I cleaned homes for a living and also as a service for overwhelmed new parents or any overwhelmed mom. I took down blinds and cleaned them outside much easier faster and let them dry sanitized by sun. Homeowner had to put them back up. Only home work I ever left. Generally not more than a blind per time so nothing big.
My mom used to clean for a friend. She hadn't washed dishes in a year. IT took my mom a week to clean the kitchen ❤
Oh wow! I believe it!😱
I’m looking forward to the collaboration with you, Mack and Barbie!
Me too i can't wait 👍
I cannot wait for this time next week!🥰
An amazing job Bonnie, can't believe the difference. I absolutely love washing up but even I would baulk at the thought of doing 7 hours worth. Mind you I do love those squeaky noises the plates make when they're really clean. TFS - I'm now off to go finish off my kitchen, I've been doing bits all day then watching your videos 5 minutes at a time. The perfect motivation 😁
I love your cleaning process...clean, break to watch for 5 minutes, repeat! Sounds like a good cleaning routine. 😁 Thanks for letting me be part of your cleaning routine!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp thank you for being part of the inspiration behind it! I must confess I did just watch your latest Mira's craft room video all it one go but I did then go and finish off the room I was working on. I found out late Thursday that we were having a home inspection on Tuesday as part of the process of adopting two kittens. I want to make a really good impression and even though it's something I've wanted to do since 2020, I'm still finding it really hard to get motivated (I think my brain hates me sometimes lol). Watching your videos in 5 minutes chunks is my reward for putting the work in even when I've started to feel overwhelmed. It has really motivated me so thank you. 😊
First time watching and I gotta say I like your whole method of taking the dishes out to dry. The sun actually kills bacteria and that’s recommended to do once cleaning your wooden cutting boards is direct sunlight.
Secondly the whole paper towels. I like that you used that for your first time cleaning up the floors. Since it picks up all the bacteria and you said there was mold! Way to go on taking safe measures unconsciously 😉
Subscribed and looking forward to binge watching some of your videos while I clean too 🤗
Thank you. You're so nice! 😊❤️
I didn't like putting the dishes out to dry; you'd have flies & other bugs landing on the clean dishes. As far as them being outside over night I just wonder how many little critters were touching them . Yuck!😛🐀🐿🐇🐦🐛🐜🐞
You are a sweet and awesome, lady. Your help to this Mom, will go a long way, in her life. 😊
I hope so! Thank you!❤️❤️
Completely understandable having an autistic child. Poor mother wouldn’t be able to prioritise her own health or home. Thank you for doing this cleaning and posting the content!
Exactly. Not to mention she has a lot of mental health challenges herself which make this even more difficult. Hopefully she'll give me permission to talk more about that in the next video.😊
Other people manage their own lives in worst case scenario
@@jill9119 you never know that for sure and you don't really know the situation. People that struggle are really good at panic cleaning where what you see is what they want you to see and most of the mess gets moved to other places in the house. Also, she has multiple kids with their own challenges and struggles herself. She may have absolutely no support. If you've ever been on your own completely without the means for childcare it is extremely hard to just get basic things done. Things stack up quickly when you just don't have the time. It's a shame that people feel the need to compare when this mom was brave enough to seek help and air it to the world online. She shouldn't be shamed for trying to do better.
@@somomm733 been there come through. You don’t know me to make assumptions it was my opinion and mine alone so respect that before sticking your nose in end of this matter.
@@jill9119 this is a public forum. I assumed you would be opnion (edit: open) to having others have an opnion on your opnion. It wasn't personal I just thought that without the whole story we can't really judge her situation. There's plenty people that do better in tougher situations I didn't disagree. But that doesn't really help anyone going through struggles like this to reach out for help by pointing it out. I only offered a differing opnion so anyone that may not have it as rough wouldn't feel shame for asking for help. Some people just can't do it on their own. (Edit#2: the reason I chose your comment to reply to was because it was that exact comment that kept my parents from getting any help when I was a child. Kids deserve a clean or at least manageable space.)
Hint from a European in housekeeping: we don’t have carpets. Wooden stairs, and upstairs, tiled floors downstairs. Easier house keeping.
Love what you’re doing!
Thanks for donating to such a worthy cause...very generous of you 😊
Thank you, Christine! That's so nice of you! I really appreciate your support!
Tip for cleaning those kitchen window blinds..... They unclip and slip out of the end holders VERY easily.....lay them in the bathtub with cleaner of your choice.
You always do such a great job. Thank you for helping others. You’re a huge blessing.
Thank you!
How nany times a week are you told what a miracle worker you are? Blessings to you.
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Fantastic job !!! Ask Mac for one of his, "Oh look, more dishes" tees 😅. Murphy's Oil now makes a spray, has made things so much easier than making up a batch. My husband got a new car with that really luxious PLEATHER 😂😂😂 and uses the spray. It works great and he loves the smell. Save you some time as well.
Yep, you definitely earned a dishes t-shirt! 😉
We might have to have a spin kick battle and, if I win, I get one of those shirts for free! 😂😂Great tip with the Murphy's Oil Soap spray!I have so many cleaners right now that I need to use up, but that is definitely one that I do want to try.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp That is hilarious because I have fits and starts of the same thing, just found like 6 cans of Comet, 🙄. Same rule, use it up and quit buying so much.
When I was a teenager and babysitting, the people I sat for had a kitchen that was so disgusting, the dishes were moldy and crusted. It took me about 5 hours to do just the dishes. I feel for you and the time and effort you put in.
Yeah, it's crazy the amount of time it can take. You would never look at it and think it would be an all-day job!
Mack recommended you and Barbie! I have my own housekeeping business, but I have not encountered this kind of mess. I understand about the mental health issues. So many people need a helping hand. You're awesome Bonnie. Can't wait to see the collaboration with Midwest Magic Cleaning, Clean with Barbie, and a Beautiful Mess! It's gonna be fantastic! And you need Mack's shirt"Look More Dishes"
I'm so glad you're here. And feel free to give me any suggestions if you are a housekeeper by trade. I just do it for fun, so sometimes I may do something that is less than optimal.😊 Yes, the collab is going to be fantastic!
@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp you are doing great! I use the Pink Stuff paste on hard baked on stove tops, or let it soak with oven cleaner and plastic wrap. I like your squeegee for floors. Gonna have to get one of those. I clean vacation rentals VRBO and Airbnb and a couple of residential homes. My daughter and I tag team these. We are always turning them around.
Having fewer possessions forces you to clean them more regularly. For example, if you only have 5 water bottles and you use one per workday, you need to clean them at least once a week if you're going to have clean water bottles for the next week. Same goes for clothing, towels, etc. Having excess allows you to postpone cleaning-until it has developed into a massive "project" like this. A greatly simplified home with regular cleaning routines would also be beneficial to the son with autism. Clutter and chaos causes stress in autistic people.
I 100% agree with everything you have said. That's exactly how I manage stuff at my house. I can only do so much here because I'm not a therapist, but I always hope that they reduce the amount of items they own to make it easier for them to keep it clean.
Well, since she’s a single mom, she has a kid who’s autistic, other kids to take care of and the single mom has ADHD, then works. She doesn’t think about less clutter would be easier, maybe in her mind she can’t deal with a lot especially doing it all herself is hard. She probably buys something new and clean so she doesn’t have to think about cleaning, it’s easier for her. She’s overwhelmed, stressed and again, no one to help her everyday. Some people think they should live and be like them but they have no idea what that person is going through personally everyday. You can leave a message for on here, I’m sure she reads these comments. Let her know she needs to get rid of most of her water bottles and dishes so she can clean up more often. I’m sure she’ll thank you for pointing out how her home looks. 🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
Your relief from realizing there was mostly just water in the water bottles, haha.
Also, the way I look at it it's prioritizing your sanity over sustainability what with using that paper towel. I feel like people often don't realize how many extra steps it takes to be sustainable. And although sustainability has been kind of my obsession for a while, I now realize that sometimes trying to stay sane and functional means not being able to be sustainable for a bit.
The blinds and toaster look especially clean after, amazing!
I couldn't have said it better!😁
Cleaning the oven is the one time I use paper towels.
Sometimes paper towels are just expedient. You don’t want to create more laundry. I wish people would realize in these situations you are going for the best result in the time available. What we do at home or they may do in the future… this is now! (Same comment about recycling… you don’t have time, even though you may recycle at home and they may in the future.)
Exactly. Thanks for understanding. That's something Mack is really good at is explaining why we do the things we do as free cleaners.😁
Totally agree! ❤