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What if a guy is afraid of losing a girl but constantly cheating?? How’s that?? Is it ok to ignore constantly his messages even you’re still together??
@@cheearess321 He doesn't fear losing you, he just wants someone to always come back to. Like You're the 'reserved' girlfriend. he plays the field and tells you "don't worry you're the one I will marry" or "you're the one I truly love"... no. NO NO NO NO. He doesn't respect you and the relationship. He doesn't respect any woman for that matter so why would you think he fears losing you? Let go. He's not worth it. Don't listen to your heart. Listen to your pain. I'm no dating expert but I learned this lesson the hard hard hard hard hard way.
@@cheearess321 I really hope you get over him soon. Don't think of it as depression. You're on your way to healing. Sooner or later you'll find your smile again. Look forward to something. Reconnect with yourself. Pick up those pieces you gave up while being with him. I always tell this to my friends, do not hurry moving on. Enjoy the process. Feel it. Learn from it. Grow from it. You don't have to 'move on" that quickly.. but YOU NEED TO MOVE FORWARD. The time you spend crying over a guy to heal and knowing your self worth is not a waste of time. What a waste of time is giving that kind of guy any of your time at all. Sending you hugs. :)
dimple dimple i’ve never been like this before to any guy😔 he’s still not letting me out from our relationship😔😢 i hope someday i’ll just laugh with all of these, thanks🙂 needed hug
1. No games 2. Don’t check in all the time 3. Maintain your social life 4. Improve your social skills 5. Maintain and improve your health 6. Improve your mind 7. Keep your standard ✅
Lol women be like I am higher value then you. What makes a women higher value. Lol they don't bring to the table what a man does yet they think a man isn't on there level or in there league.
@@jhonjohnjonjondoe5011 when a man can carry a baby for 9 months then I'll believe women bring nothing to the table. This comment is ludacris. Men don't bring more to the table than women. Both bring things. Also, this is for women. Not sure why this sexist comment is on thos page. It's not useful.
Be the type of woman men naturally fear to lose: - Don't play games - Don't check in unnecessarily - keep your individuality - Maintain your social life - Keep enhancing your social skills - Keep nurturing your physical and mental health - Keep growing your mind - Keep your standards
The thing I find with these “games” is that all your focus is on him/them most if not all of the time. Just shift your focus, don’t ignore him, just hang with friends, pick up your hobbies, indulge in physical/mental health I find I’m in a better place this way 😊
I guess what you say is better, shift to your own hobbies a bit more instead of ignoring him or being obsessed. Men do the same! They shift their focus naturally to themselves after a first real bonding and start working out more or getting things done job wise.
Women just don't get it. Men DON'T CARE ABOUT HOW POWERFUL, EMPOWERED, INDEPENDENT, SUCCESSFUL, IN-CONTACT-WITH-YOUR-FEELINGS OR ACADEMIC you are. Men do not care about your curriculum or list of accomplishment. MEN ONLY CARE ABOUT YOUR FAITHFULNESS AND TENDERNESS, THAT'S ALL. Women just don't get it, even when they've been told this 1000 times.
The thing that makes you different from most dating coaches is that you make a point that all of these things can be done by bettering yourself and avoiding games. I really appreciate that - I think being your best self and having your best dating life actually go hand in hand
I agree with everything you said! People are always testing your boundary’s. Without respect, you have nothing. Without-self worth, you have nothing. Games have no place in a relationship. It is okay to be soft and vulnerable while maintaining yourself and your standards-everything else will fall into place naturally.
Games! Society these days is full of toxic methods in order to keep someone guessing. I love how you take an honest approach with it. "How about you learn to put your phone away?" 👏🏼💯
I loved your first point about the phones - how you should be able to reply to texts when you actually see them and when you don't reply it's because you're actually busy. I'm even gonna start doing this with my friends. It shows that you're genuine with everyone. Perfect advice.
Yes.. when I have started taking care of myself and had to focus on priorities he was coming round checking up on me! Thought I was seeing someone etc.. unbelievable!
(1) No games (2) Don’t check in unnecessarily (3) Maintain your own social life (4) Improve your social skills (5) Maintain and improve your health (6) Improve your mind (7) Keep your standards. Thank you! Once again another great video!
Thank you Mark! I love your channel and I totally agree with you. I'd add one thing: be exclusive only when you are in a committed relationship. If you're still dating and he is not clear about his intentions, keep seeing other men, even just for a drink together. I've done it, and has helped to keep me centered on what I want, not him.
Mark this is the best advice. I believe being playful is the best. Playing games is terrible advice. Your advice has been so consistent and I want to thank you for confirming who I just am.
in fact you don't have to be attractive for other men and women you don't owe attraction to anyone you should enjoy being you to enjoy your relationships
You're So Right. You know, attraction is Something that is in the Eyes of the beholder. I recently saw a woman, that is manly in the way She Cuts her hair and dresses, but has a woman's features on her face, and her voice is feminine too, but neutral. She could be lesbian for all I know ( I don't know for sure ), I am Not a lesbian and I don't like women in that sense, but I find her incredible attractive. She wears No makeup and She does have the face and voice of a woman, but is just her Simplicity that I find So appealing and attractive. Of course I will never sleep with a woman, I know that, but Attractiveness depends on the person looking, not on the person being looked at.
Thank you for making me NORMAL. I was told by a " friend" that I " you need to drop your standard." I actually did,I broke off the friendship with her. However , after four years she got hold of my new number, and reached out. Up on realizing she has raised hers, I slowly let her back in. See, a healthy dose of self-love is the foundation of it all. Keep up the good work
I’ve been married for 2 years , I’m currently pregnant and have a 11 month old daughter ( from the same father). And until now I realize that I don’t need to change him , I just need to love myself a lil bit , find some friends stop crying for someone who definitely doesn’t love me . I’ll look for a job rn.
I love hearing it be reaffirmed that I'm a high value woman and my husband always has a healthy fear of losing me (hence the whole marriage and keeping romance alive stuff)
How to make him fear ?? Love doesn't speak through fear. Love speak through kindness and safety. Also, I don't think that you have to battle to make him want you. That is his decision, will he love woman or not. You can improve youself, but still, it is his choice if he will fully give his heart to you.
There has to be a little space (and even mystery if you ask Ester Perel) in a relationship, and really that's what I mean when I say 'fear' in this video, because it really amounts to self improvement.
If he doesn't fear losing you, you're not that important to him and he doesn't respect you enough to believe that you're valuable enough to leave if he doesn't treat you right.
@@jaymesigler6402 yess I agree. But in my opinion it's not girls responsibility to make him feel scared of losing her. You cannot force (or manipulate) anyone to be with you.
I enjoyed this. A breath of fresh air. From what others are saying. I like the fact that it’s all about me and that drives him up the wall. Not making him center of attention.
Beautiful... There's nothing more validating than knowing that exactly what I most deeply value and honour in myself - nurturing my mental, spiritual, physical, social (and I'm going to throw in financial/vocational) health and being able to share my inspirations, enthusiasm and realisations with an appreciative partner - is exactly what he most values too. It's such a funny thing in life - it seems the less we try to be what we *think* (and were taught) we are *supposed* to be, but instead live and honour our own truth and values, the more 'right' we seem to get this whole life charade; that which matches us appears and that which doesn't falls away. It's all so divinely simple in the end. Thanks for validating this is your video too, Mark. It's always refreshing to hear a man's perspective.
Excellent advice. People need to be honest in a relationship of any sort. If he doesn't like you or change his mind and leaves, so be it. Get over it, there are plenty of other guys out there, it is not the end of the world....
Oh, Mark.... I absolutely love your coaching style. I hate the games and I hate the dating "advice" that floods the internet nowadays. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and advocating keeping it authentic, high quality, and making vulnerability sexy again. ❤️
Subscribed. Been trying to work on my mental health bc I’ve realized that it actually impacts the relationships that I have, romantic, friendly, even with family. And that if I’m not okay mentally, then having a functional relationship will be a bit far out of reach. Watching this video only made me feel more confident in my process and that in order to have better, I have to BE better. Thank you.
Beautifully said! In the beginning I thought. Then why am I watching “ this video “ Then you actually instilled within me what I am , this is what I do in relationship . Left video feeling amazing! Thank you and keep up your great work!
Loved hearing the lorikeets in the background. Miss Aussie birds. it's so sweet to see an Aussie bloke giving such loving advise to women. I am working hard on myself to love myself so much that someone else is just a bonus
I love your advice. So simple yet so vital! We ladies cannot neglect ourselves and put all of our energy into a guy. We must love ourselves first and he will love us for it!
I love how you encourage women not only how to get a high value guy but to also first and foremost find her own self-worth. Self-respect before feelings! I’m now quoting other videos. They’re all great. 🙂
Great advice Mark. I saw this happen to me lately. I went on vacation and the guy I like was watching all my updates. He asked how my vacation was going.
I believe that if you have to make a guy fear loosing you to keep him on his toes that is not a guy worth having. I watched this video because I was curious but it did remind me not to feel bad for being choosy and having standards. I was feeling lonely because I am always alone but I needed that reminder.
So pleased you mention maintaining your health and appearance! It's true a good guy wouldn't dump you for a few extra pounds, but it's not good for your long term health, and for the best version of your life, you need your health. Appearance will follow with good health.
Thanks for your content. I'm married, but I find your information to be valuable. The other videos online regarding relationships from both men and women are incredibly childish and come from a very bitter point of view. It's like these people hate the idea of love, so they sabotage others.
I have never had a partner to whom i could talk about books and seminars without them mansplaining, degrading, interrupting, minimizing my interest in it and many more negative reactions... never had a man who was not intimidated by me and was not trying to put me down. I am very lucky i have much love around me and now my worth and what not to tolerate... so, it will probably be just me and my fabulous self!!!
I am sorry, i dont want to seem sassy or something but a very important factor is inherited culture and values and the dynamics of society. I am not eager to downgrade my intellect or nature in order to seem less intimidating for some "lady's son" as they state it where i am from... where i am from, men dont even buy their own underwear and women are criticized for every aspect of their existence... even for not having a man of course! So, please... look at your own business
dimitra rena well no see you’re what is known as a femcel. You’re not turning down high quality men by choice, any man that was “intimidated” by you was only chased away but your detrimental ideals and self victimizing tactics. And yes I do look at my own business as well as I am in a successful relationship with a high quality woman who lets me be the dominant one in the relationship. That’s how society was men to be and has strived on for centuries. Don’t fix something that isn’t broken.
Right!! No games or manipulation. People, (male or female) can sense them a mile away. Hate to say this, but I've found guys that try to come across as the "nice guy" pretty manipulative. Just from experience. It usually comes with an agenda.
@@jhonjohnjonjondoe5011 Hate to say it, but that means you're not my kind of woman. And yes, we can smell it a mile away. That's why us guys get super pissed off when we get 'cold shouldered'. For myself, it's grounds for a big long talk about a change in this nasty behaviour, and if still no response, then a break-up.
RexiousX what if you don’t try to give him the cold shoulder but rather just keep to yourself. Only because you have tried and tired to communicate with him but it’s always one sided and you are never the one who is being listened to or heard. Because whenever you are talking about how you feel he talks over you
Thank you for this video, now I realized how stupid I am putting myself into a mud he's throwing at me and swallowed every pain he gave me and yet still loving him so much that no man can ever measured. Thank you for telling me to stand up on my own and show him how good I can be. Thank you for this video, for making me realize that if there is someone I should give my love more is it's myself than anybody else. Thank you soooo much.
I especially enjoyed this video, I watched it twice just to have it more imprinted in my subconscious ( and saved it to my NoteToSelf folder). Thank you 😇
I’ve just started watching your videos and you’re advices are the most realistic that I’ve ever listened to. I admire the fairness and equality and the empowerment you give to both women and men. I admire the truthfulness in the advices and for targetting the inner improvement of oneself.
Not gonna lie - I was really annoyed at some of the gamey advice in other videos with this title... so this one was a bit of a rebuttal. Come discuss the new vid with me in the Facebook group! facebook.com/groups/766326563553359/ All good if you don't have Facey, I'm also on insta @makehimyours
Hi Mark, thank you for your videos. I have a question. I am in a long distance relationship. My BF is an army sergeant deployed overseas. I found out he was texting someone else mostly sexual. I confronted him and after a long talk, he admitted he had made a huge mistake and that he promised not to betray my trust again I decided to give us another chance. I just don't know how to behave right now with him. We are so far and the only thing we can do is talk, which is getting awkward. I want to tell him that I miss him and that I love him and he to me but it seems weird to say those things now. He believes I won't trust him and I feel like I am not being faithful to me if I just forget what happens. Please help me understand how to show him that what he did was wrong and at the same time that I still love him and I am willing to move on. *** I do not want him to believe that because I am willing to move on that means that I can easily forget what happens and that is ok to do again*** Thank you!
Life is too short to play games. It's a simple do you like me because I like you. If the person doesn't then no hard feelings because people can't control who they are attracted to.
i found out that i am already doing the things you have mentioned about how a woman should act if she wants her man to fear losing her. Thanks for this video, it boost my confidence with myself relationship with my boyfriend.
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good advice. I have been slacking off and not valuing my self worth. My boyfriend is abusive sometimes and manipulative. He pushes my buttons and plays cat and mouse games.I don't play games. We argue about this. He says he is just joking, but I know better. I am not is a strong place right now. He has played on my self confidence. I need to regroup and think about what I want. If he leaves, then so be it.
as someone who have extreme depression and anxiety it will be hard to “flirt” or even leave my house .... luckily i only told my bf that he doesnt have to tell me where he is or what he is doing every single time because i’m not that type of girl i do at least need to know if he’s unable to reply though because that way my anxiety wont go through the roof for maintain and improve health, i have a weak body and heart since i was born; doing work out can literally make me sick, of course i do still walk my dogs to keep me active but i cant do too much
I just want to say I agree about not playing games. Do not ignore calls or texts. Do not go and do something to make him jealous. Thank you kindly for sharing
You've really inspired me . Thank you . Because Ive let several of my relationships, which were all bad and Ive stayed and taken the abuse . My down fall , not respecting myself 😓
Hey Kimmy, I truly appreciate your honesty and vulnerability in sharing your experiences. Recognizing patterns in past relationships is an important step towards self-improvement and growth. It's never too late to start focusing on yourself. Focus on nurturing self-love and developing healthy boundaries. You deserve a partner who treats you with kindness and respect. As you move forward, continue to embrace your worth and prioritize your well-being. Surround yourself with supportive people who uplift you, and don't hesitate to seek professional help if needed. Trust that you have the strength to make positive changes in your life and attract the healthy, loving relationship you deserve. xx
Hi Mark - I just found you on RUclips and have been viewing as many of your videos as I can find. I’m 58 and back into the dating world. You have provided women a great deal of honest information from the male prospective which has been so helpful for me. Don’t go away!! 😁
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I really like your videos.So true a high value woman would never ask " How can I make this guy fear loosing me?" Just being who she is with her actions he already knows and feels that way.
This is brilliant advice just what needed.. he pushed me away but think i need to work on myself as i have given to others to much time i need to find me.
This is great content ! .I still wonder how people can even ask this question. As if women have nothing else to do. If he wants to lose her, that's his problem, not hers.
I'm laughing hard now. When I was with my ex I spent a lot of time with my friends and he was soooo upset because "I was prioritizing them over him" no I wasn't, his ass was just jealous and possessive and wanted to own me, it seems like it was a high value trait from me to do this. It didn't work but I hope it will with a man who's less of an asshole
This was an incredible video… I appreciated that you kept to your values and who you are trying to attract to watching this by stating in the beginning “if you want 100% control then I am not the coach for you” that sentence and the last were my favorite. Thank you for posting
Fantastic advice. Excellent videos with intelligent and substantial advice. You are clearly an animal lover, too.... which says something about your character in my opinion.
Yes mark is on to something here, I like the undertone and how it builds upon being proactive with growing one's self . Its also doesn't tell you information that would use reverse psychology or manipulation just be vibrant and strength yourself every chance you get because that will only make you much more attractive and a good catch. That is beautiful mark I love it . Keep pushing yourself.
"Can you imagine Scarlett Johansson asking that question?" Erm no because of her face and body. I ask that question because of _my_ face and body. Lolol. Love you Marky poo!!
@@shondalegalindo1 A beautiful face and body are not all that a person finds attractive. Your beauty comes from within... what that means is exactly what is being emphasized in this video. Focus on being the best version of yourself and people will notice. Don't focus so much on him and he will notice you. Remember, confidence is beautiful... and very attractive.
Lynnette B been there, done that. Fact: Men are visual. Fact: I’m not pretty. I’ve learned to live with it, and I do try to be my best - always a work in progress 😊
This is something very resourceful. Earlier, I had seen videos on this topic which were made by women or were described by them, but those videos lacked at some places as only a man can tell why he would fear to lose a woman.
Lucky I found this video. It is indeed added to my knowledge of life as well. And I believe it grows my mindset & I guess became more attractive as well? 😅 Thanks for the video, so helpful, so true in all the steps mentioned in the video ✌🏼
God send and I'm not even religious. That was just what I needed to pull me out of this funk. I am so hyper focused on him, I lost sight of my friends and spending time apart. I think that was the best tip as well as maintaining your looks. I'm with a very dominant man that wants me to keep my hair long and blah blah blah...he met me with it short and blonde and freaking cute..I was sassy..now I feel frumpy...I need to get myself back. Thank you Mark!!
The video I needed about 7 years ago was HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF FEAR LOSING YOURSELF. Because that's what the relationship I was in has done to me. Cheaters really suck. Narcissism is destructive.
I was not expecting this unfortunately I have no met any guys on this level of Intellectualality most guys would be like yeah just be hot and dont complain lol ...but basically work on yourself was the overall message I got
That might be what they SAY initially Meredith... until they find themselves no longer attracted to the hot woman they're with. It takes a lot of deeper emotional awareness to be aware of precisely why you're no longer feeling the urge to chase
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What if a guy is afraid of losing a girl but constantly cheating?? How’s that?? Is it ok to ignore constantly his messages even you’re still together??
@@cheearess321 He doesn't fear losing you, he just wants someone to always come back to. Like You're the 'reserved' girlfriend. he plays the field and tells you "don't worry you're the one I will marry" or "you're the one I truly love"... no. NO NO NO NO. He doesn't respect you and the relationship. He doesn't respect any woman for that matter so why would you think he fears losing you? Let go. He's not worth it. Don't listen to your heart. Listen to your pain. I'm no dating expert but I learned this lesson the hard hard hard hard hard way.
dimple dimple thank you for an eye opener advice🙂 i’ve been suffering from depression for more than 2 months now
@@cheearess321 I really hope you get over him soon. Don't think of it as depression. You're on your way to healing. Sooner or later you'll find your smile again. Look forward to something. Reconnect with yourself. Pick up those pieces you gave up while being with him. I always tell this to my friends, do not hurry moving on. Enjoy the process. Feel it. Learn from it. Grow from it. You don't have to 'move on" that quickly.. but YOU NEED TO MOVE FORWARD. The time you spend crying over a guy to heal and knowing your self worth is not a waste of time. What a waste of time is giving that kind of guy any of your time at all. Sending you hugs. :)
dimple dimple i’ve never been like this before to any guy😔 he’s still not letting me out from our relationship😔😢 i hope someday i’ll just laugh with all of these, thanks🙂 needed hug
I love how you encourage every woman to focus on her self growth. That's wonderful and truly the thing men love us for.
Amen anne!!!
If you are only obssesed with your self then i dont think a guy would fall in love for that person
couldn’t of said it any better 😚
how would you know xd
1. No games
2. Don’t check in all the time
3. Maintain your social life
4. Improve your social skills
5. Maintain and improve your health
6. Improve your mind
7. Keep your standard ✅
Thaank you, A Hoy! x
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Be yourself! If they stay, great! If they don't, also great! 😀
Nicely said D'Leaha
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Lol women be like I am higher value then you. What makes a women higher value. Lol they don't bring to the table what a man does yet they think a man isn't on there level or in there league.
@@jhonjohnjonjondoe5011 when a man can carry a baby for 9 months then I'll believe women bring nothing to the table. This comment is ludacris. Men don't bring more to the table than women. Both bring things. Also, this is for women. Not sure why this sexist comment is on thos page. It's not useful.
Exactly! I am who I am. Accept it or leave it simple s that hehe
Be the type of woman men naturally fear to lose:
- Don't play games
- Don't check in unnecessarily - keep your individuality
- Maintain your social life
- Keep enhancing your social skills
- Keep nurturing your physical and mental health
- Keep growing your mind
- Keep your standards
Nicely done Trinh
Yes!!! Screen shotting this!!
Thank u!
Im going to apply these to my life thank you so helpful
Thank u lol
If the guy loves you truly he always afraid of losing you. So simple.
The thing I find with these “games” is that all your focus is on him/them most if not all of the time.
Just shift your focus, don’t ignore him, just hang with friends, pick up your hobbies, indulge in physical/mental health
I find I’m in a better place this way 😊
I guess what you say is better, shift to your own hobbies a bit more instead of ignoring him or being obsessed. Men do the same! They shift their focus naturally to themselves after a first real bonding and start working out more or getting things done job wise.
Basically....a women needs to respect herself 😁
Hahahaha. I'll replace the video description with this ;)
Yes!
Yesss. N put your foot down. Don't ever tolerate crap. Keep your standards from day 1
Women just don't get it. Men DON'T CARE ABOUT HOW POWERFUL, EMPOWERED, INDEPENDENT, SUCCESSFUL, IN-CONTACT-WITH-YOUR-FEELINGS OR ACADEMIC you are. Men do not care about your curriculum or list of accomplishment. MEN ONLY CARE ABOUT YOUR FAITHFULNESS AND TENDERNESS, THAT'S ALL.
Women just don't get it, even when they've been told this 1000 times.
@@elputas sorry what you mean to say is..... Men only care if you're fat or not and look good. The end.
If someone loves u they will naturally fear losing u..if not they won't care nd u shouldn't either
Amen
"Dont text him back"
Mark:I'M SORRY THATS JUST RUDE!!!
Lol! 🤣
Loved that! 😍👍
Thanks Lisa! It's super important
Hahaha Mark.... Hmmm that's my bf name, he ignore me couse his jealous, my ex suddenly text me when i'm with Mark(bf).... Huh
Lisa Mitchell
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The world needs more men like this. Good points throughout video.
There are more then enough men just like this they are in your friends zone
I like this guy. He seems like he actually knows his stuff
The thing that makes you different from most dating coaches is that you make a point that all of these things can be done by bettering yourself and avoiding games. I really appreciate that - I think being your best self and having your best dating life actually go hand in hand
I agree with everything you said! People are always testing your boundary’s. Without respect, you have nothing. Without-self worth, you have nothing. Games have no place in a relationship. It is okay to be soft and vulnerable while maintaining yourself and your standards-everything else will fall into place naturally.
Games! Society these days is full of toxic methods in order to keep someone guessing. I love how you take an honest approach with it. "How about you learn to put your phone away?" 👏🏼💯
I loved your first point about the phones - how you should be able to reply to texts when you actually see them and when you don't reply it's because you're actually busy. I'm even gonna start doing this with my friends. It shows that you're genuine with everyone. Perfect advice.
My ex boyfriend was very insecure and started accusing me of cheating when I would try to improve my health by going to the gym!
Too insecure
Yes.. when I have started taking care of myself and had to focus on priorities he was coming round checking up on me! Thought I was seeing someone etc.. unbelievable!
Immature & Selfish, to say the least!!
He may be projecting what he or his friends would do if they were you!
Men have ISSUES, and is Nobody's fault, but their Stupidity.
All so true. You have to respect yourself first. Before you bond with another. ‘ I don’t need you. But I want you.’
(1) No games (2) Don’t check in unnecessarily (3) Maintain your own social life (4) Improve your social skills (5) Maintain and improve your health (6) Improve your mind (7) Keep your standards.
Thank you! Once again another great video!
Thanks Trinity - really glad you liked the video and my content! xx
Thank you Mark! I love your channel and I totally agree with you. I'd add one thing: be exclusive only when you are in a committed relationship. If you're still dating and he is not clear about his intentions, keep seeing other men, even just for a drink together. I've done it, and has helped to keep me centered on what I want, not him.
Mark this is the best advice. I believe being playful is the best. Playing games is terrible advice. Your advice has been so consistent and I want to thank you for confirming who I just am.
in fact you don't have to be attractive for other men and women
you don't owe attraction to anyone
you should enjoy being you to enjoy your relationships
You're So Right. You know, attraction is Something that is in the Eyes of the beholder. I recently saw a woman, that is manly in the way She Cuts her hair and dresses, but has a woman's features on her face, and her voice is feminine too, but neutral. She could be lesbian for all I know ( I don't know for sure ), I am Not a lesbian and I don't like women in that sense, but I find her incredible attractive. She wears No makeup and She does have the face and voice of a woman, but is just her Simplicity that I find So appealing and attractive. Of course I will never sleep with a woman, I know that, but Attractiveness depends on the person looking, not on the person being looked at.
Thank you for making me NORMAL. I was told by a " friend" that I " you need to drop your standard." I actually did,I broke off the friendship with her. However , after four years she got hold of my new number, and reached out. Up on realizing she has raised hers, I slowly let her back in.
See, a healthy dose of self-love is the foundation of it all.
Keep up the good work
I’ve been married for 2 years , I’m currently pregnant and have a 11 month old daughter ( from the same father). And until now I realize that I don’t need to change him , I just need to love myself a lil bit , find some friends stop crying for someone who definitely doesn’t love me . I’ll look for a job rn.
Makes perfect sense. Keep beautiful, keep healthy, and enjoy your life. Whatever man loves you for you, is a bonus, ❤️
I love hearing it be reaffirmed that I'm a high value woman and my husband always has a healthy fear of losing me (hence the whole marriage and keeping romance alive stuff)
That's awesome, Sarah. You're killing it! You deserve to give yourself a pat in the back. Thanks for sharing x
How to make him fear ?? Love doesn't speak through fear. Love speak through kindness and safety.
Also, I don't think that you have to battle to make him want you. That is his decision, will he love woman or not. You can improve youself, but still, it is his choice if he will fully give his heart to you.
There has to be a little space (and even mystery if you ask Ester Perel) in a relationship, and really that's what I mean when I say 'fear' in this video, because it really amounts to self improvement.
@@Markrosenfeld I understand but still fear and space are two different things.
If he doesn't fear losing you, you're not that important to him and he doesn't respect you enough to believe that you're valuable enough to leave if he doesn't treat you right.
@@jaymesigler6402 yess I agree. But in my opinion it's not girls responsibility to make him feel scared of losing her. You cannot force (or manipulate) anyone to be with you.
Reci Mi Istinu by Jelena I agree
This was very very constructive! Tough, honest, unapologetic and on point! Need to keep hearing this time and again. Good bless
I enjoyed this. A breath of fresh air. From what others are saying. I like the fact that it’s all about me and that drives him up the wall. Not making him center of attention.
Beautiful... There's nothing more validating than knowing that exactly what I most deeply value and honour in myself - nurturing my mental, spiritual, physical, social (and I'm going to throw in financial/vocational) health and being able to share my inspirations, enthusiasm and realisations with an appreciative partner - is exactly what he most values too.
It's such a funny thing in life - it seems the less we try to be what we *think* (and were taught) we are *supposed* to be, but instead live and honour our own truth and values, the more 'right' we seem to get this whole life charade; that which matches us appears and that which doesn't falls away. It's all so divinely simple in the end.
Thanks for validating this is your video too, Mark. It's always refreshing to hear a man's perspective.
Excellent advice. People need to be honest in a relationship of any sort. If he doesn't like you or change his mind and leaves, so be it. Get over it, there are plenty of other guys out there, it is not the end of the world....
Oh, Mark.... I absolutely love your coaching style. I hate the games and I hate the dating "advice" that floods the internet nowadays. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and advocating keeping it authentic, high quality, and making vulnerability sexy again. ❤️
Subscribed.
Been trying to work on my mental health bc I’ve realized that it actually impacts the relationships that I have, romantic, friendly, even with family. And that if I’m not okay mentally, then having a functional relationship will be a bit far out of reach. Watching this video only made me feel more confident in my process and that in order to have better, I have to BE better.
Thank you.
This is excellent! Where I have failed in my present relationship has been lowering my lifelong standards, that needs to stop right now!
far out this is saving me, sanity restored! ive forgotten everything I am and was and this has been a big trigger to reclaim that!
Beautifully said! In the beginning I thought. Then why am I watching “ this video “
Then you actually instilled within me what I am , this is what I do in relationship . Left video feeling amazing! Thank you and keep up your great work!
Loved hearing the lorikeets in the background. Miss Aussie birds. it's so sweet to see an Aussie bloke giving such loving advise to women. I am working hard on myself to love myself so much that someone else is just a bonus
this is the most reliable video I've seen in years. thank you.
I love your advice. So simple yet so vital! We ladies cannot neglect ourselves and put all of our energy into a guy. We must love ourselves first and he will love us for it!
“be a social person”
me an introvert: haha funny
Thanks for watching and writing in, DestineeClaire!
Seriously lol. I was like, 'But I don’t wanna!'
Just a little event with your closest friends works fine
I love how you encourage women not only how to get a high value guy but to also first and foremost find her own self-worth. Self-respect before feelings! I’m now quoting other videos. They’re all great. 🙂
Thanks so much, Dr. Kathryn Rickard! Really glad you loved the video. 😊 Great to have you on here!
This feels to me like the most genuine advice I have ever received!
So wonderful to hear Healthy wisdom, instead of toxic games.
Great advice Mark. I saw this happen to me lately. I went on vacation and the guy I like was watching all my updates. He asked how my vacation was going.
Marly! Great to see your face. Appreciate you watching the video and being so loyal. Got some great stuff for you in 2019 - keep an eye out!
I believe that if you have to make a guy fear loosing you to keep him on his toes that is not a guy worth having. I watched this video because I was curious but it did remind me not to feel bad for being choosy and having standards. I was feeling lonely because I am always alone but I needed that reminder.
Thank you ..this high value standards are simple to those women who loves themselves 1st. It's so important to love ourselves 1st than 2 others.
So pleased you mention maintaining your health and appearance! It's true a good guy wouldn't dump you for a few extra pounds, but it's not good for your long term health, and for the best version of your life, you need your health. Appearance will follow with good health.
Nice thoughts Christina, thanks for sharing it. And thanks for watching xx
Thanks for your content. I'm married, but I find your information to be valuable. The other videos online regarding relationships from both men and women are incredibly childish and come from a very bitter point of view. It's like these people hate the idea of love, so they sabotage others.
This was so refreshing holy moly! Games get so tiring... specifically lying! I love how honest this man is 💯
Thanks so much SM- really appreciate it xx
I have never had a partner to whom i could talk about books and seminars without them mansplaining, degrading, interrupting, minimizing my interest in it and many more negative reactions... never had a man who was not intimidated by me and was not trying to put me down. I am very lucky i have much love around me and now my worth and what not to tolerate... so, it will probably be just me and my fabulous self!!!
You seem like the type of woman to drive away high quality men considering what you’ve said.
@@everythingleftturns7782 I HAVE only met high quality men who were only good as friends
I am sorry, i dont want to seem sassy or something but a very important factor is inherited culture and values and the dynamics of society. I am not eager to downgrade my intellect or nature in order to seem less intimidating for some "lady's son" as they state it where i am from... where i am from, men dont even buy their own underwear and women are criticized for every aspect of their existence... even for not having a man of course! So, please... look at your own business
dimitra rena well no see you’re what is known as a femcel. You’re not turning down high quality men by choice, any man that was “intimidated” by you was only chased away but your detrimental ideals and self victimizing tactics. And yes I do look at my own business as well as I am in a successful relationship with a high quality woman who lets me be the dominant one in the relationship. That’s how society was men to be and has strived on for centuries. Don’t fix something that isn’t broken.
The most educational video on RUclips in the romance/dating sector. Everyone should watch this one. These are also qualities I find attractive in men.
That's a really beautiful comment, Yuki Lovato! Thanks so much! I'm glad you liked the content. 😊
Your videos are so informative and really help to reassure that standards are a good thing and not being bitchy.
Thanks Katie. I don't think you could give me any higher complement x
How can this video have any dislikes ?!?!?! It is phenomenal!!! This guy is awesome and on point! GREAT VIDEO!!!!!!
Right!!
No games or manipulation.
People, (male or female) can sense them a mile away.
Hate to say this, but I've found guys that try to come across as the "nice guy" pretty manipulative.
Just from experience.
It usually comes with an agenda.
This is friggin true!
The problem is women are hard wired to manipulate men
@@jhonjohnjonjondoe5011 get help.
@@jhonjohnjonjondoe5011 Hate to say it, but that means you're not my kind of woman. And yes, we can smell it a mile away. That's why us guys get super pissed off when we get 'cold shouldered'. For myself, it's grounds for a big long talk about a change in this nasty behaviour, and if still no response, then a break-up.
RexiousX what if you don’t try to give him the cold shoulder but rather just keep to yourself. Only because you have tried and tired to communicate with him but it’s always one sided and you are never the one who is being listened to or heard. Because whenever you are talking about how you feel he talks over you
Thank you for this video, now I realized how stupid I am putting myself into a mud he's throwing at me and swallowed every pain he gave me and yet still loving him so much that no man can ever measured. Thank you for telling me to stand up on my own and show him how good I can be. Thank you for this video, for making me realize that if there is someone I should give my love more is it's myself than anybody else. Thank you soooo much.
NOt to blow my own horn but I do all these effortlessly. 😊😊😊no manipulation whatsoever and its a happy state to be in
onalenna thobega here here
How do you know if they are manipulating?
I envy that, sis. God bless.
Then why are you watching this video
onalenna thobega me too
I love that you encourage self improvement and not playing games. I have to work at this every day and it makes me like me even more.
I especially enjoyed this video, I watched it twice just to have it more imprinted in my subconscious ( and saved it to my NoteToSelf folder). Thank you 😇
I’ve just started watching your videos and you’re advices are the most realistic that I’ve ever listened to. I admire the fairness and equality and the empowerment you give to both women and men. I admire the truthfulness in the advices and for targetting the inner improvement of oneself.
Not gonna lie - I was really annoyed at some of the gamey advice in other videos with this title... so this one was a bit of a rebuttal. Come discuss the new vid with me in the Facebook group! facebook.com/groups/766326563553359/ All good if you don't have Facey, I'm also on insta @makehimyours
Wonder if you are referring to that game-y coach lady I am thinking?! 😂😂😂
Hey I can't have either of those 😭
Hi Mark, thank you for your videos. I have a question. I am in a long distance relationship. My BF is an army sergeant deployed overseas. I found out he was texting someone else mostly sexual. I confronted him and after a long talk, he admitted he had made a huge mistake and that he promised not to betray my trust again I decided to give us another chance. I just don't know how to behave right now with him. We are so far and the only thing we can do is talk, which is getting awkward. I want to tell him that I miss him and that I love him and he to me but it seems weird to say those things now. He believes I won't trust him and I feel like I am not being faithful to me if I just forget what happens. Please help me understand how to show him that what he did was wrong and at the same time that I still love him and I am willing to move on. *** I do not want him to believe that because I am willing to move on that means that I can easily forget what happens and that is ok to do again***
Thank you!
Yeah, I checked Elliot Scott's video too on this. Not a fan. WAY too much game-playing there, not gonna lie.
Life is too short to play games. It's a simple do you like me because I like you. If the person doesn't then no hard feelings because people can't control who they are attracted to.
i found out that i am already doing the things you have mentioned about how a woman should act if she wants her man to fear losing her. Thanks for this video, it boost my confidence with myself relationship with my boyfriend.
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Boom! Thank you Mark for teaching us to truly value ourselves♥
Boom! Haha my pleasure Betty!
good advice. I have been slacking off and not valuing my self worth. My boyfriend is abusive sometimes and manipulative. He pushes my buttons and plays cat and mouse games.I don't play games. We argue about this. He says he is just joking, but I know better. I am not is a strong place right now. He has played on my self confidence.
I need to regroup and think about what I want. If he leaves, then so be it.
as someone who have extreme depression and anxiety it will be hard to “flirt” or even leave my house ....
luckily i only told my bf that he doesnt have to tell me where he is or what he is doing every single time because i’m not that type of girl
i do at least need to know if he’s unable to reply though because that way my anxiety wont go through the roof
for maintain and improve health, i have a weak body and heart since i was born; doing work out can literally make me sick, of course i do still walk my dogs to keep me active but i cant do too much
I just want to say I agree about not playing games. Do not ignore calls or texts. Do not go and do something to make him jealous. Thank you kindly for sharing
Wow needed this. I'm in a happy relationship but I've lost my spunk, and my mental space is not the same. Time to get back to me.
You've really inspired me . Thank you . Because Ive let several of my relationships, which were all bad and Ive stayed and taken the abuse . My down fall , not respecting myself 😓
Hey Kimmy, I truly appreciate your honesty and vulnerability in sharing your experiences. Recognizing patterns in past relationships is an important step towards self-improvement and growth. It's never too late to start focusing on yourself. Focus on nurturing self-love and developing healthy boundaries. You deserve a partner who treats you with kindness and respect.
As you move forward, continue to embrace your worth and prioritize your well-being. Surround yourself with supportive people who uplift you, and don't hesitate to seek professional help if needed. Trust that you have the strength to make positive changes in your life and attract the healthy, loving relationship you deserve. xx
The way u explain each point that is so awesome !! But wait why 🤔 you have to look so good every time 😍. Love to watch your videos
Hi Mark - I just found you on RUclips and have been viewing as many of your videos as I can find.
I’m 58 and back into the dating world. You have provided women a great deal of honest information from the male prospective which has been so helpful for me.
Don’t go away!! 😁
Thanks but I don’t want my ex back
Amazing advice!! You are wonderful thank you
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for the glory and happiness he gave to me, Dr Owolo help me Restore my
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I really like your videos.So true a high value woman would never ask " How can I make this guy fear loosing me?" Just being who she is with her actions he already knows and feels that way.
Idk how I got here but your accent and biceps 😍
Awww Thanks Amber. It must be the potatoes
Mark Rosenfeld it’s your spirit and your vibe too. And the accent and biceps are only an added bonus lol! 😉😊
This is brilliant advice just what needed.. he pushed me away but think i need to work on myself as i have given to others to much time i need to find me.
Glad you find this video helpful Rosemary. I hope everything will turn out well for you xx
Great advice! Extremely helpful!
This is great content ! .I still wonder how people can even ask this question. As if women have nothing else to do. If he wants to lose her, that's his problem, not hers.
Number 1: Be so attractive
2. Be so attractive
Nailed it!
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When I was single I loved buying flowers. My boyfriend took note & brought me my favorite flowers. I was so touched & surprised that he noticed!
Well that's lovely! Thanks for sharing it xx
I'm laughing hard now. When I was with my ex I spent a lot of time with my friends and he was soooo upset because "I was prioritizing them over him" no I wasn't, his ass was just jealous and possessive and wanted to own me, it seems like it was a high value trait from me to do this. It didn't work but I hope it will with a man who's less of an asshole
This was an incredible video… I appreciated that you kept to your values and who you are trying to attract to watching this by stating in the beginning “if you want 100% control then I am not the coach for you” that sentence and the last were my favorite. Thank you for posting
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Fantastic advice. Excellent videos with intelligent and substantial advice. You are clearly an animal lover, too.... which says something about your character in my opinion.
Yes mark is on to something here, I like the undertone and how it builds upon being proactive with growing one's self . Its also doesn't tell you information that would use reverse psychology or manipulation just be vibrant and strength yourself every chance you get because that will only make you much more attractive and a good catch. That is beautiful mark I love it . Keep pushing yourself.
Amazing video, thank you for the good advice, awesome!
Awesome advice and now I know why a target was aimed!! Thank you.
This never worked for me! They always stayed with the one is there with them...
Thank you for discouraging the games, including the "High Value Wannabe" game, and accepting games from him! Great video. Keep 'em coming.
So glad you like the video and my content, Hawaiian. I'll keep them coming for y'all! Thanks for watching x
you're so handsome ❤️
Daw. I'm blushing.
Iqra Qaali 😂😂😂😂😂😂
N those arms😍
Yea he is
U win the game already girl.... 😂
first step is done now ask if he is still single if yes then there u go chances are less haha he is handsome☺️😍😃
You go mark!! Love your smile. Take your hair down please. You are a good coach.
"Can you imagine Scarlett Johansson asking that question?" Erm no because of her face and body. I ask that question because of _my_ face and body. Lolol. Love you Marky poo!!
Hahahahha lots of high value women who THINK like Scarlett but don't LOOK like her also ask that question ;)
Hahah that's the same thing I thought ' uhm no I don't look like Scarlett Johansson duh'
Yeah, when one is NOT blessed with a beautiful face and body - like me, one does ask that question!
@@shondalegalindo1 A beautiful face and body are not all that a person finds attractive. Your beauty comes from within... what that means is exactly what is being emphasized in this video. Focus on being the best version of yourself and people will notice. Don't focus so much on him and he will notice you. Remember, confidence is beautiful... and very attractive.
Lynnette B been there, done that. Fact: Men are visual. Fact: I’m not pretty. I’ve learned to live with it, and I do try to be my best - always a work in progress 😊
This is something very resourceful. Earlier, I had seen videos on this topic which were made by women or were described by them, but those videos lacked at some places as only a man can tell why he would fear to lose a woman.
The way u touch ur hair♡♡♡ so cool!
Hahahahha oh gawd
Thank you. Yours is one of the most authentic channels on RUclips.
Lucky I found this video. It is indeed added to my knowledge of life as well. And I believe it grows my mindset & I guess became more attractive as well? 😅
Thanks for the video, so helpful, so true in all the steps mentioned in the video ✌🏼
Myyyyyyyyyyyy pleasure Vin V
God send and I'm not even religious. That was just what I needed to pull me out of this funk. I am so hyper focused on him, I lost sight of my friends and spending time apart. I think that was the best tip as well as maintaining your looks. I'm with a very dominant man that wants me to keep my hair long and blah blah blah...he met me with it short and blonde and freaking cute..I was sassy..now I feel frumpy...I need to get myself back. Thank you Mark!!
Do you need help ?
@@julietosin6663 in which way..lol
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One of your very best videos, Mark! Thanks! 💮🐝
Thanks Mireille! -
Jesus Christ! Finally some good, useful, non bullshit advice that actually makes sense and that we can actually use. Mark you’re amazing
Thanks Jackie! What a lovely comment
Mark Rosenfeld you’re welcome Mark as always. I adore you and value and respect your opinions and advice very much. Keep it up
This was strong and perfect. Thank you very much.
The video I needed about 7 years ago was HOW TO MAKE YOURSELF FEAR LOSING YOURSELF. Because that's what the relationship I was in has done to me. Cheaters really suck. Narcissism is destructive.
I hope you're doing well now. sorry to hear what happened. Thanks for watching LilWayneOnTheBrain xx
That was perfect tips👌. I like the way you are talking to us👍🌹🌹
I have just realised I have fully transformed to a high-valued woman. Thanks Mark!
👏👏 really happy to hear that, Emilie! I'm so proud of you! Thanks so much for sharing that! xx
I was not expecting this unfortunately I have no met any guys on this level of Intellectualality most guys would be like yeah just be hot and dont complain lol ...but basically work on yourself was the overall message I got
That might be what they SAY initially Meredith... until they find themselves no longer attracted to the hot woman they're with. It takes a lot of deeper emotional awareness to be aware of precisely why you're no longer feeling the urge to chase