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  • Опубликовано: 15 авг 2024
  • Dr.Nyaboke Nduati has achieved what the majority of us would call success. She is a blessed mother of three, a wonderful wife, a PHD holder, and the head of one of the country's best schools, but something that happened to her when she was nine keeps holding her back.
    Today, she is here to break the silence hoping her story will put an end to that act
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  • @LynnNgugi
    @LynnNgugi  7 месяцев назад +37

    Good morning team LNN,
    What is your take home from today's conversation with Dr.Nyaboke?
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    • @francesinganga1038
      @francesinganga1038 7 месяцев назад +3

      Lynn their is an interview done on Nicholas kioko channel about an intersex guy. I feel
      you could have handled the interview better than it was. The guy needs help. 😢

    • @garveyinc
      @garveyinc 7 месяцев назад +1

      Exactly uyo kioko isn't good enough...mambo ya watu wazima awachane nayo..Lynn tafta Dan..

    • @balancedviewpoint7418
      @balancedviewpoint7418 7 месяцев назад

      I am also from Kisii where property is divided among boys and nil to girls. I personally chose to divide all my estate to all my four kids(2boys and 2 girls) equally. Actually my estate after my demise should benefit all my grand children not even my grown boys and girls(All married but one(last born). Guys, we are Africans, let us love all our children equally. Boys and girls are are equally good to us parents. You will never know the amount of support you can get from the daughters you are letting go. Me I know what each child can benefit the parents.

    • @c.m4085
      @c.m4085 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@balancedviewpoint7418Yes Kisiis we do this a lot.I hope my dad wont be like this.He has been so violent that we left him to live alone. I feel sorry for my brothers lacking a mentor.But we had to save our mum.

    • @gayzienkatha22
      @gayzienkatha22 7 месяцев назад +1

      Hello Lynn,there is a lady you interviewed back then that she was divorced bcz she could not get a child,she is now happily married
      Tuletee hii follow up

  • @henryodongo1911
    @henryodongo1911 7 месяцев назад +166

    There are talk show hosts and then there's LYNN NGUGI. the way you conduct your interviews is admirable... top tier!!! you should be studied. infact, you should be an independent unit being studied at HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL! you are a powerhouse and a Hallmark of excellence. may you grow from strength to strength and become a reference point for others, particularly those who feel it's impossible to be done!!! you are an inspiration..... I stan! HAPPY NEW YEAR TRIBE...

    • @margaretmbae1928
      @margaretmbae1928 7 месяцев назад +4

      I agree with you.Lynn has her unique way of interviewing her guests,allowing them space to tell their story without being hurried, etc.Only lynn can do that🎉take your flowers 🎉now Lynn.

    • @LynnNgugi
      @LynnNgugi  7 месяцев назад +13

      Dear Henry,🙏
      You know I appreciate this, right. Truly, deeply, honestly appreciate this. Thank you for your kind words 🙏
      God Bless

    • @LynnNgugi
      @LynnNgugi  7 месяцев назад +7

      @@margaretmbae1928Dear Margaret, I receive the flowers and appreciate your love and support 🙏

    • @juliettachiengotieno6710
      @juliettachiengotieno6710 7 месяцев назад +4

      Wueh, Henry amesema yote!! You don't finish their sentences and don't pre empt their thoughts, you don't channel the story the way you want it to go. And there is no time limit. For real, for such a time as this, giving each person space for their own authentic voice You're a midwife, Lynn.

    • @sharonchepkemboi695
      @sharonchepkemboi695 7 месяцев назад +5

      Wow...Henry has put into words what most of us think of Lynn.This is truly kind.
      Thank you Henry and thank you Lynn.

  • @janegithinjji3060
    @janegithinjji3060 7 месяцев назад +38

    I am so touched. Nobody deserves this. You are one brave woman, Nyaboke. This has triggered a memory I have buried. Some 26 years ago, my marriage almost broke up because my MIL insisted that my daughter undergo the cut. I hadn't gone through it myself. She would spit in derision and murmur: egesagane whenever she came into her sight or passed by. I fought for my daughter to the extent of almost exiting my marriage. I stood up to my MIL, all and sundry. My husband "finally" stood with me.
    The pressure by society was overwhelming.
    It is well, Daktari. May the LORD bless and keep you!

    • @kairatouoliver8614
      @kairatouoliver8614 7 месяцев назад +1

      I know we just bury it traumatize

    • @janegithinjji3060
      @janegithinjji3060 7 месяцев назад +4

      @kairatouoliver8614 This one I am buying for myself, my daughter, and friends. If it helps save just one little gal; it will be worth it.

  • @mauricelyonmusic6658
    @mauricelyonmusic6658 7 месяцев назад +32

    The way am a committed member of LNN. All the way from Tuko, a committed member from Uganda. Every morning at my office desk as i open my computer, the first thing is run to RUclips to see the day's episode. Thank you lynn for blessing us and we are always inspired, transformed, minds are awakened. With love, Hope is my real name just this is my lil broz profile.

    • @LynnNgugi
      @LynnNgugi  7 месяцев назад +3

      We highly appreciate your presence🙏🙏

    • @Nachi37
      @Nachi37 7 месяцев назад +1

      Me too, all the way from Zambia I have taught my sister, now she is becoming a pro😂

    • @ruthratemo416
      @ruthratemo416 7 месяцев назад +1

      Nyaboke Nyaboke Dr. So inspiring

    • @mavismwiinga3446
      @mavismwiinga3446 Месяц назад

      Am Zambian and have known her from Tuko.I find her voice comforting.She has so much respect for her guests and us the viewers.

  • @christinemuga9956
    @christinemuga9956 7 месяцев назад +15

    I have noticed that in all these stories the main thing that causes trauma is abuse during childhood. People never really heal from these kinds of abuse. May God protect all children

    • @ednahchirchir1924
      @ednahchirchir1924 7 месяцев назад +2

      Once one recognizes the trauma you can search within and seek help to overcome bcoz you might pass it to your children which will be a cycle

  • @isabellmuya1523
    @isabellmuya1523 7 месяцев назад +9

    She's a superstar and a good mentor where my daughter goes to school.She does her work professionally. Well done Dr Nduati.
    We appreciate you.

  • @simplymum9860
    @simplymum9860 7 месяцев назад +20

    What a story! What courage! What a woman! What calm and grace! What a powerful message that is going to change so many lives!! Thank you 🙏🏾

  • @leonidaobwocha2746
    @leonidaobwocha2746 7 месяцев назад +16

    Childhood traumas. Oh my goodness. I can clearly relate to Doc's story. Violence, passing on of parents, FGM....Very traumatising indeed. You're a strong woman💪 Thank you Lynn for this episode. You're indeed a power house. One day l'll share mine😮

  • @lucybenedict102
    @lucybenedict102 7 месяцев назад +10

    It's very traumatizing. It was done to me at 14 years old. I'm now 60 and I've never been able to talk about it. The shame is real. I was not aware, and it just happened one evening in our sitting room. I will never forget the experience. I won't wish it for any girl.

    • @dianaNia81
      @dianaNia81 7 месяцев назад

      I feel you. Same here

    • @perrymatasa1581
      @perrymatasa1581 6 месяцев назад

      Wah wah I real I feel for you that's madness

  • @pekay2019
    @pekay2019 7 месяцев назад +22

    Women go through a lot. Behind every smile there is a story.

  • @graceg1706
    @graceg1706 7 месяцев назад +25

    I went through this at the age of 14. For us they were waiting until we do our KCPE. Thank you doc,I believe I'll find the love of my life soon.

    • @anngathoni9030
      @anngathoni9030 7 месяцев назад +6

      Me too... I went through that after KCPE😢😢NOW 38YRS single 😢

    • @graceg1706
      @graceg1706 7 месяцев назад +1

      ⁠your name sounds familiar, I'm Gathoni too

    • @peach5860
      @peach5860 7 месяцев назад

      ​@@graceg1706lol Grace Gathoni like my mom

    • @gachaumary5038
      @gachaumary5038 7 месяцев назад

      Ciamucii ticomo andu a nyumba

    • @anngathoni9030
      @anngathoni9030 6 месяцев назад

      @graceg...Ann gathoni are not my real names

  • @sheilahendrich6995
    @sheilahendrich6995 7 месяцев назад +20

    She is beautiful, her smile is contiguous. Love her already and her story is inspiring us.Thank you Lynn ❤️

  • @MshauriPeter
    @MshauriPeter 7 месяцев назад +18

    When God lines up your path to destiny, no human being can interrupt it. Dr. Nyaboke's purpose in life was well aligned right from birth, and His grace manifested every step hitherto. Maybe what I can feel as a devastating or painful episode is that of being molested by someone she knew, albeit naive. But the good thing is, Jehovah directed her to a "REAL" man who helped her process her past slowly jini ya maji. Big up Nyaboke. "You can define your own power. Don't let people do it. " powerful partying shot👏👍🙌

    • @teresiahwachira1099
      @teresiahwachira1099 Месяц назад +1

      She didn't define it she has opportunity that made her spread her wings if those opportunities did appear the story will be different everybody no matter what we go through we have potential the difference is the opportunity aligned on our path that's the difference

  • @moraattitude
    @moraattitude 7 месяцев назад +12

    why is your childhood like mine, I didn't want to be called egesagane too! And struggled alot with wanting acceptance. Thank you for sharing your story am glad we made it out!

    • @user-df4vh2sy7c
      @user-df4vh2sy7c 7 месяцев назад +3

      Same as me gal one day I will share my story it has cost me alot I wish I was big to talk for my self I regret that thing

    • @hylmak
      @hylmak 7 месяцев назад +1

      True, that was the language they used to entice us. I wish I knew better 😢

  • @balancedviewpoint7418
    @balancedviewpoint7418 7 месяцев назад +17

    Wow, Lynn what a show, what a guest and what an incredible learning curve. It's quite a rebuilding story. She has given purpose to her pain. I agree with you on that Lynn.
    Nilifanyiwa yes but that is the past that helped me learn to pick up the pieces and redefine my purpose to my destiny. That's what experiences teaches us in life journey guys. Lynn thanks for impacting the larger audience, globally. On that set, you are two awesome beauties in black. You look unapologetically stunning, the Kenyan incredible women of purpose.
    Dr. Nyaboke baba you are unapologetically beautiful and a woman of purpose out to change the stereotypes and or the cultural norms that have been outdated if I can call that. I come from kisii and can readily relate to what you are saying. I grew up in the 60s and 70s when the circumcision practice was a rule rather than an exception. But, growing up and getting children in the 80s and the 90s, many things had changed and the practice of female circumcision was kind of hedging off. I and my wife decided we can't subject our two daughters to such dehumanising act. That was it. Today, all our children(2 boys, 2 girls) are adults and successfully married in/out without any problem or regrets whatsoever.
    Nyaboke, the children traumas you experienced as you are narrating it on GBV in-house is sad and by all means unacceptable. I witnessed first hand the same in my parents but our mother took a bold step to educate us albeit the violence till I achieved university degree. I promised that I will never touch my wife or allow my children to suffer any sort of ridicule. Many Kisii men are very violent as you are saying. I can confirm it because I am from there. It's basically the choice that one has to make. I chose love, purpose and peace over violence. Today I live a fulfilled life full of peace, incredible family love and exceptional mental wellness.
    I have given a bit of my side to help validate Nyaboke's story and secondly to motivate Lynn's fans that life happens in not very kind or smooth path but one with lots of disappointments and rough terrains. The only positive affirmation is that such experiences don't define you or your destiny but purpose does. Every nasty experience you pass through guys teaches you courage and a reason to live to your purpose. Life is not meant to be that smooth and free-flowing. Each one of us has a a side part that is often silent to the public gallery. The fact that Nyaboke is coming out with a traumatic experience coupled with a book to be serialised as one to be remembered in Kenyas anals of history is something special. Nyaboke baba, I affirm you for the courage and intention to bring this out. The book and your story stands a great lesson to the kisii, Kalenjin and Maasai culture. I believe it shall serve as a great reference point.
    Lynn, keep bringing relevant contents like this that impacts society positively. As always, you are our Kenyan Queen of hearts. I pray for your health and mental wellness as you keep touching lives.

    • @Alba-Shi
      @Alba-Shi 7 месяцев назад +3

      I dated a guy from your area. 2006. I remember he used to refer to me as 'egesagane ke". And his friends would refer to me that way. Initially I didn't know what that meant until a gal from Kisii told me, and she told me it's very offensive. Mark you, that's at postgraduate level😢. I felt so offended. I left the relationship

    • @ruthirene9051
      @ruthirene9051 6 месяцев назад

      I never knew that the Kisiis do that.

  • @salomeorina3579
    @salomeorina3579 7 месяцев назад +6

    Dr Nyaboke Nduati you are so beautiful,you just talk kind words
    There is hope at the end of the tunnel.May i get power for what i am going through.

  • @blaquecinderella3560
    @blaquecinderella3560 7 месяцев назад +15

    Who else noticed she zoned out while looking at the floor when she was narrating how the dad told them to look at their mum for the last time😢

    • @BobS8
      @BobS8 7 месяцев назад +1

      You could see the sight of her mother in her eyes.... glory to God she has been healed.

  • @josjossie5230
    @josjossie5230 7 месяцев назад +31

    Have also been ashamed of myself for 2 years, keeping quiet about everything and not telling people what am going through but when the year started I prayed to God to give me the strength to start opening up because I was loosing myself 😢have not started the journey of healing but I know I'll make it...

    • @listanthenya5392
      @listanthenya5392 7 месяцев назад +5

      May God give you strength and May his blessing be upon you. God loves you and you are perfect. Don’t live in fear. Favor is your potion in Christ.

    • @josjossie5230
      @josjossie5230 7 месяцев назад

      @@listanthenya5392 thank you

    • @martharinebiseko1457
      @martharinebiseko1457 7 месяцев назад +1

      Hugs from Ug.
      Let it out

    • @greenhouse9833
      @greenhouse9833 7 месяцев назад +1

      It's so terrible. I am glad the eyes are opening 😊. Stop with sexual abuse of woman.

    • @dotgazelle
      @dotgazelle 7 месяцев назад

      Sending hugs of comfort. ❤ God loves you and no situation defines you coz you are stronger. May you rise and shine. Blessings

  • @winnienyambura3566
    @winnienyambura3566 7 месяцев назад +15

    Here hyping for the book to be released as a Netflix series! What a story of triumph! This reminds me of the ‘Maid’ series on Netflix, not exactly the same story..but No Tears for the Cherished is definitely a story that the world needs to see ❤️❤️❤️

  • @jomasing
    @jomasing 7 месяцев назад +5

    Asante sana, Nyaboke, for sharing your moving and inspirational story. Your strength and character shines through and the lessons you share prompt each of us to examine our role in supporting people and ending harmful cultural traditions. We are proud of you!

  • @madrisnjeru6357
    @madrisnjeru6357 7 месяцев назад +9

    Exactly what happened to me...aki Lynn,i would like to share my story too...

  • @christinemuga9956
    @christinemuga9956 7 месяцев назад +8

    Lynn the stories you bring are not just anything out there but are things that inspire all of us. Not for views but for building and inspiring all of us

  • @stephenmwangi4866
    @stephenmwangi4866 7 месяцев назад +10

    Incredible story..being true to yourself and embracing healing by having grace to forgive and mercy not to inflict pain to yourself or the other person who wronged you... keep on shining.. Good work Lynn ❤❤❤

  • @ruthnjeri2049
    @ruthnjeri2049 6 месяцев назад +3

    This is my very first time commenting on your shows Lynn. I will also finally subscribe after writing this. Am so sad that this lady went through that. My oldest sister went through it too which breaks my heart. Somehow my other sister and I were supposed to go though the same time but am so glad that God gave us a light to say no to our mom the one and only time she mentioned it. My mom is so happy that she didn't put us through that. This lady is a brave woman and may God bless her always .

  • @beckymondi4397
    @beckymondi4397 7 месяцев назад +5

    I know her. She went to my high School . Backbthen she was soo quiet and very drawn to her. Now i know😢

  • @mercywekesa3795
    @mercywekesa3795 7 месяцев назад +2

    Am spoken to and touched . God give me the strength to step out and get uncomfortable this year... Freedom begins where fear ends

  • @Mind_Body_and_Soul
    @Mind_Body_and_Soul 7 месяцев назад +11

    Lynn you are such a great inspiration. Do you know my mom is one of your greatest follower and she loves your show! God bless you. Much love from Turkana. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @jackieb3822
    @jackieb3822 7 месяцев назад +3

    Dr. Nyaboke has quite a powerful story. I admire the work she’s done to heal the pain of her past. This will inspire a lot of people stuck in the trauma of their past to see that true healing and peace is possible as long as one is willing to do the work.

  • @MshauriPeter
    @MshauriPeter 7 месяцев назад +8

    I affirm you, Dr. Nyaboke for what you have become after hypnosis therapy. God purposed you to a good man. It's not easy to deal with someone who hasn't processed childhood trauma that was as extreme as yours. On a lighter note, it was God that ended to a hubby that comes from another community. Everything happens for a reason, and I, too, appreciate and affirm your great man. Pat him for me.
    Fans, therapy heals past experiences successfully. Borrow a leaf from Nyaboke and many more guests that have featured in Lynn show.
    Lynn, thanks for this guest coming to enlighten the world with such an inspiring story.

    • @kadzo6614
      @kadzo6614 7 месяцев назад

      Boke*

    • @lynmoraah
      @lynmoraah 7 месяцев назад

      @@kadzo6614she is Dr Nyaboke

  • @wanjiruolive
    @wanjiruolive 7 месяцев назад +2

    Dr nyaboke is also very courageous because not many ladies from her area come in the open to talk about. They're really silenced by society. One hurtful thing is that for the ladies they went to some dingy place and the boys were really taken care of walienda hosi. Pole sana if youve experienced this.

  • @wanjikunjuguna8386
    @wanjikunjuguna8386 7 месяцев назад +5

    Doc you are such a strong woman. We all have life scars...thank God for such a loving hubby besides you. you have a beautiful family. You are such a beautiful gal, inside and outside. Wishing you a happy new year!!!

  • @catherinewambui4595
    @catherinewambui4595 7 месяцев назад +10

    Finding power in experiences❤A very beautiful statement.
    Thanks Lynn for bringing Dr on the platform 🙏

  • @annsitymakena2382
    @annsitymakena2382 7 месяцев назад +3

    I can find my own power, don't let people define me. Thanks Doc.

  • @lynmoraah
    @lynmoraah 7 месяцев назад +2

    Dr Nyaboke good job for coming out and sharing with the world
    ION you look like Esther Wahome of the famous Kuna Dawa song

  • @fedelisnjenga2285
    @fedelisnjenga2285 6 месяцев назад +1

    Dr.Nyaboke, you are smart,glowing and have an amazing smile all through. I have connected with your story and i am encouraged to keep pushing on despite me being an orphan. I love how you are calm and how things aligned themselves for you. Flowers to your husband for his support and stability. Thank you and be blessed

  • @l.w.pilale3214
    @l.w.pilale3214 7 месяцев назад +2

    This takes a strong woman and courage to come out and share such a story.
    You deserve the best girl!!
    So many children are going through hell.
    May God bless you as you mentor the youth.
    Thanks Lynn for bringing this out. It'll surely encourage many. God bless

  • @obarefamily
    @obarefamily 7 месяцев назад +7

    Childhood trauma can make you emotionless. You can see that as she narrates loss of both parents.If she was a child that grew up in love, the amount of tears or emotions she could have shed on this show, ni Mungu! A lesson to us as parents, we might lack all the good things to give to our kids,but please please never deny your children unconditional love.

  • @mitchellaa9444
    @mitchellaa9444 7 месяцев назад +4

    Dr.Nduati❤❤❤Thank you for sharing your story

  • @koladadog4978
    @koladadog4978 7 месяцев назад +13

    THATS MY MOTHER
    (Nyaboke Nduati😊😊)

    • @LynnNgugi
      @LynnNgugi  7 месяцев назад +2

      Your mother is a STAR🙏❤️❤️

    • @koladadog4978
      @koladadog4978 7 месяцев назад +2

      😁😁😁

    • @tabithamacharia9901
      @tabithamacharia9901 7 месяцев назад +2

      Your mother is a strong woman

    • @wanjafaith
      @wanjafaith 7 месяцев назад +2

      We are proud of your Mum for being a voice to the voiceless!

    • @koladadog4978
      @koladadog4978 7 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you 😁😁😁

  • @maureenwanja9708
    @maureenwanja9708 7 месяцев назад +4

    I did my tp at nova and she is the principal .waaaoo she inspires me

  • @benadettnjeri8288
    @benadettnjeri8288 7 месяцев назад +4

    Dr this is inspiring and let's buy the book and be able to learn and get inspired.... Lynne keep inspiring the world

  • @Eunice2136
    @Eunice2136 7 месяцев назад +2

    Dr Nyaboke, your story is inspiring and thanks Lynn for bringing her to us. I have placed my book order on Amazon and will definitely gift my friends.

  • @Sarahirara
    @Sarahirara 7 месяцев назад +8

    Let me listen carefully to this one, , thank you for sharing ❤❤❤

  • @wincatekigoro1915
    @wincatekigoro1915 7 месяцев назад +18

    This was my lecturer in KU..... Nobody could tell you have passed through this. Hugs

  • @wmusinya97
    @wmusinya97 7 месяцев назад +9

    Good morning LNN family 👋
    Ready to listen and learn ❤

  • @francismworia4606
    @francismworia4606 7 месяцев назад +2

    Oh soo touching. Have never known you have experienced this kind of pain cz you are always smiling.

  • @juddysusan1114
    @juddysusan1114 7 месяцев назад +7

    There are tribes in kenya that one must not even marry into. Their practices are backward

  • @maggieshish4517
    @maggieshish4517 7 месяцев назад +3

    Such a beautiful soul. I can resonate with every bit of your story needless to say that mine is almost a replica. Thank you for being bold and Glory to God to your healing.

  • @maryannnduku6049
    @maryannnduku6049 7 месяцев назад +2

    I like this last last...statement which she says " being out there gave me the bargaining power".

  • @rebecccaaor3462
    @rebecccaaor3462 7 месяцев назад +1

    Dr. Nyaboke Nduati you are an inspiration to many who go through stigma of loosing their loved ones. Big up Lynn for this wonderful interview.

  • @glslatifahnsubuga51
    @glslatifahnsubuga51 7 месяцев назад +4

    But why is it that those people that we always prioritise when the situation turns upside down they always disappear, we should always think twice when we choosing our circle

  • @nelisasifaofficial
    @nelisasifaofficial 7 месяцев назад +9

    Congrats Dr Boke! So proud of you cuz and thanks Lynn for the platform that gives many the opportunity to share their uplifting stories. Blessings!

    • @LizieLiz
      @LizieLiz 7 месяцев назад

      You are so beautiful Dr Nyaboke, God is great; we can figure out the paedophile that sexually abused you and they'll live with the guilt for the rest of their lives as l guarantee you have had a better life than them a million times. Adversities only make us stronger when God is with us. May you n Ur gorgeous family always be blessed and may God always walk with you. We are really very proud of you. We r hope that your mum is kept by God in a restful place forever.

  • @catherinenyawira4858
    @catherinenyawira4858 7 месяцев назад +4

    I gave birth in Nyamira referral. It was the most traumatic experience. Since I belong to a different tribe the nurse beat me

    • @catherinenyawira4858
      @catherinenyawira4858 7 месяцев назад +1

      Then she accused me of taking COVID there. Mind you this was 2021. She called my daughter stupid when she was born

    • @user-mw3rz6bm1e
      @user-mw3rz6bm1e 7 месяцев назад +1

      ​@catherinenyawira4858 sorry for what you went through. Your daughter is definately not stupid. People can be mean but l m glad it doesnt define who you are. Wishing you all the best in your life.😊

    • @juddysusan1114
      @juddysusan1114 7 месяцев назад +1

      So sad but there are tribes that are just horrible.

  • @alicekimaiga4285
    @alicekimaiga4285 7 месяцев назад +2

    Dr.Rosemary my primary school classmate…soo proud of you…I remember from way back you could write very good compositions.

    • @MargaretWaruiru
      @MargaretWaruiru 7 месяцев назад +1

      Dr. Nyaboke well done!! I always wondered why you did not socialize in High School even within our class. I knew something was wrong, but I did not know about depression and mental health. You have gone through a lot and I can still see you holding back, but its your journey and I am very proud of what you have achieved all on your own.

  • @charitywanyela418
    @charitywanyela418 7 месяцев назад +3

    My college mate, room mate.. Such a great inspiration

  • @wanjiru-usa1
    @wanjiru-usa1 7 месяцев назад +15

    Hello dear Alumnus. Thanks for sharing your story with us. It takes courage to come out and talk of our past traumas. Since I came to know you, I’ve always admired you and looked up to you. You are a true definition of defying the odds. Who could tell what you’ve been through. You are a truly refined gold. Your story will inspire many. Thanks Lynn for hosting Dr. Nyaboke!

    • @may_sk7813
      @may_sk7813 7 месяцев назад

      Wow new subscribers

    • @lucygithui1791
      @lucygithui1791 7 месяцев назад

      Am so inspired by Doc. I truly thank God for her life. All things are possible

  • @Greg-rj6ml
    @Greg-rj6ml 7 месяцев назад +2

    Washington state cut rates for men 10%, Oregon 10%, California 23% , New Mexico 16%,West Virginia 91% highest in US .
    West, North Africa highest rates, followed by Central .
    US rates dropping after America Medical Association in 1990 declared the procedure cosmetic for men and traumatic for women .
    US government insurance no longer supports routine infant procedure in multiple states .
    East and Southern Africa Variations and lowest rates in Southern Africa territories . North Africa high rates due to religious and cultural reasons .
    In Kenya rates for men have gone up for medical reasons including in communities that historically had low rates .
    Ghana 91.6%, Eritrea very high 97.2%, Uganda lower 26.7%,South Africa 44.7%,Zimbabwe 9.2%,Zambia 12.8% .
    Like any procedure Pros and Cons up to doctors and families .

  • @leonoraatieno5705
    @leonoraatieno5705 7 месяцев назад +4

    You are strong Dr . Very good conversation Lynn.

  • @rosemaryfuankeh5328
    @rosemaryfuankeh5328 2 месяца назад

    It has been mind blowing listening to Angie. Thank you so much for this beautiful life story.
    Your Motherhood Chronicles is amazing

  • @MshauriPeter
    @MshauriPeter 7 месяцев назад +7

    Lynn, its hard to change the larger society or regulate how individuals behave in their respective diverse environments. People grow in unique settings that triggers or circumstances drive them to. The best we can do as individuals is to try and process the past for the purpose of healing and moving on. However,the first step MUST be forgiving. Until you forgive the tormentors that impacted your life negatively, the heavy load inside your unconscious mind can weigh you down. Just forgive guys and know that counselling is the best avenue to your mental wellness.

  • @penninahthegrace3036
    @penninahthegrace3036 7 месяцев назад +2

    That is exactly what happened after my moms burial my moms co-wives were like msijali sisi tuko we shall take care of you and we shall take care of your children the way your mom used to,i was like you people are you serious? Mi sikuwajibu😢,i hate what relative's do when one past away😢😢

  • @GileadPro
    @GileadPro 7 месяцев назад +8

    Some two or so years ago I would discourage my person (RIP) from watching Lynn's channel coz she would binge on the really sob stories and would get emotionally charged and moody or say things like, 'haki you men are so evil', etc.
    Over the last one year, the content has really balanced out, like this video, and speaks to an even larger audience. I've even had the chance to patronized some of the guests services.

  • @naftalichepkoit9630
    @naftalichepkoit9630 7 месяцев назад +2

    Happy 2024 Lynn and thank u for keeping us yearning for for these great stories. Dr. Boke is very inspirational and will touch quite some live with her stories. Thanks

  • @Jerriannadawkins
    @Jerriannadawkins 7 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks for putting it in Amazon it’s easier for anyone anywhere in the world 🌎 to get it. U are strong, beautiful and inspiring 🙏🏾

  • @fridahnyaboke2479
    @fridahnyaboke2479 7 месяцев назад +1

    Hugs girlfriend and namesake Dr. Nyaboke. You are a brave girl. I still love you.

  • @ReginahNdiema-hj1tb
    @ReginahNdiema-hj1tb 6 месяцев назад +1

    My thesis for my Masters degree was on "PTSD on Maasai Girls who had undergone FGM" and the finding was shocking 98% of them had developed PTSD.(Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) Traumatic

  • @jemimahnjoroge1322
    @jemimahnjoroge1322 7 месяцев назад +2

    Wow Nyaboke Nduati 👏👏 KU comrade good to see you here

  • @sarahngige1589
    @sarahngige1589 7 месяцев назад +2

    Me And my aunt we run away at that night we were to be taken but Ile kichapo tulionyeshwa na shosh😢ni uncle saved us n he told his mom let them be

  • @shehasvision
    @shehasvision 7 месяцев назад +10

    This was so incredibly inspirational, I'll say it now Dr Nyaboke if you decide to make your book an audio book I will be first in line to grab a copy and would even be honoured to be the voice behind one of the chapters if you'll have me. "We are the ones we've been waiting for" Wishing you all the best that life has to offer. Thank you Lynn as always for bringing us another amazing story of resilience, hope and the power within us by God's grace ❤

    • @kadzo6614
      @kadzo6614 7 месяцев назад +2

      Dr. Boke*

    • @shehasvision
      @shehasvision 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@kadzo6614 Thank you, my apologies that's how I heard it.

    • @daschalydiasahabo2857
      @daschalydiasahabo2857 7 месяцев назад

      She did introduce herself as Nyaboke. I don't think you made a mistake.

  • @gracewanyaga3322
    @gracewanyaga3322 7 месяцев назад +1

    Such a humble interectual human being, congratulations Rose,you are a special germ.😊

  • @neyoschannel3760
    @neyoschannel3760 7 месяцев назад +2

    this is my daughters principle waoh. Nyaboke? am very very proud of you.
    and why dont you try the healing with the girls also. alot of them havbe issues from here to south africa

  • @katenjoroge2019
    @katenjoroge2019 7 месяцев назад +1

    Truly inspiring testimony of overcoming against all odds!!! God's Gracious Hand was upon her all the while in the heart wrenching suffering!!! congratulations 👏👏 doc!!!

  • @sheilahanyango7619
    @sheilahanyango7619 7 месяцев назад +2

    Aye my school mate. So proud of you girl for just coming out and sharing your story..

  • @estherinyang4779
    @estherinyang4779 7 месяцев назад

    You are a strong woman. I'm glad you got things working out because you refused to stay down. You didn't let self-pity keep you down too long. You kept going for your dreams and you achieved them. Well done Dr. I learn from you to take bold steps and keep going no matter what.

  • @moyowangutu1774
    @moyowangutu1774 7 месяцев назад +1

    Lynn's Fewest Words on This Episode as She Walked with Doc Nyaboke ❤

  • @celiaayodi
    @celiaayodi 6 месяцев назад

    This story is of how God recovers your lost years. I loved it. She's very beautiful.

  • @KalosMillers
    @KalosMillers 7 месяцев назад +7

    it’s so unfortunate baby girl is treated less when it comes to inheritance .

  • @lucykalcher7016
    @lucykalcher7016 7 месяцев назад +5

    Who else noticed this beautiful smile from the beginning to the end?
    She is wonderfully made and a strong woman. Everyone who went through this act should learn how to accept herself and learn from this wonderful woman. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @norahmiriti2633
    @norahmiriti2633 7 месяцев назад

    Yes Doc,you're cherished,despite the tears...BRAVO....To Lynn,bring more interactive segments dear

  • @teresiahwachira1099
    @teresiahwachira1099 Месяц назад

    Wow she has beautiful family u see now this is the confidence she has everything beautiful family careerr good job she doesnt care what u think or say about her

  • @boohookidscreations8003
    @boohookidscreations8003 7 месяцев назад

    Very empowering interview with Dr. Nyaboke. We are not our circumstances, and her star is shining bright. Its a beautiful ending, marriage, career, kids, healing and peace of mind. Congrats Doc, you did well🎉

  • @Wahgees
    @Wahgees 7 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you for sharing this story....its a "But God" type of story. Sigh....😢....I feel sad that the perpetrator has walked away free. I couldn't help wondering how many other children he abused. I really feel he should be reported, called out as part of justice. Often families try to resolve sexual abuse to no avail. The perpetrator walks away free and continues to molest other children in the community. I wish you would seek justice for you and the others he molested ( I feel like you weren't his only victim).

    • @BintiAfrikaLeenaD
      @BintiAfrikaLeenaD 6 месяцев назад

      I agree, closure could come from facing the perpetrator, .......how many other vulnerable kids have been victims and possibly still in danger. While not holding grudges, other children could also have justice

  • @YourVoiceIsMyAction
    @YourVoiceIsMyAction 7 месяцев назад +3

    Dr. Nduati ''Former Boss, very great story. Good Job Lynn for such an Inspiring Story

  • @lucyachieng2232
    @lucyachieng2232 7 месяцев назад +1

    And when a MAN loves right you just grow and Glow and become more preetier.

  • @MsMwende
    @MsMwende 7 месяцев назад +2

    Inner healing is very important for personal development

  • @fatoucham4171
    @fatoucham4171 7 месяцев назад +3

    Just ordered the book 🇺🇸

  • @nancysimiyu3107
    @nancysimiyu3107 7 месяцев назад +2

    Wow!!!! This takes a lot of courage to talk about this! But it is time. I commend you for coming forward 🎉🎉🎉

  • @Happi-Aziidah
    @Happi-Aziidah 6 месяцев назад

    @Lynngugi one day I'll be in that yellow sofa, telling you what and how i went through different stages and types of abuse, sometimes watching these kind of stories triggers me that i even hide myself and cry so bad, I'm a Ugandan who grew up in ke. But currently working as a house manager in Saudi Arabia,
    I wish you'll give me a chance to express myself, because really, i went through hell, hopefully I'll be given a chance and be able to do it😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

  • @marym2800
    @marym2800 7 месяцев назад

    My beautiful college mate and coursemate in KU, Rosemary Nyaboke Ogugu, you are a big inspiration ❤

  • @eunicewanjiru147
    @eunicewanjiru147 7 месяцев назад +2

    What I can say abt this whole conversation is that we need to teach the men in every society that still champions on FGM on the hazard that it comes with , because statically men are the ones who force their daughters to undergo the cut not knowing what happens afterwards young girls die , young girls after the cut they wont be able to smile again their happiness is taken from that act , there should be a campaign for the men in regard to this whole conversation,

    • @phillipsidhojapap1461
      @phillipsidhojapap1461 7 месяцев назад +1

      which statistics? You don't know what you are saying. Mostly it's mothers who talk their daughters to be circumcised. And for good reasons regarding marriage traditions in their culture. But as men, we are okay with receiving even undue criticism. From your school, we know that every problem in the world is men

  • @lucyshallum9371
    @lucyshallum9371 6 месяцев назад

    How l love you Lynn,,,l knew you at the time my life was at the critical moment,,,I don't know how just God made me to enter into RUclips and you episodes starting popping in my screen,,,l can say 60% of my healing l have gotten from you,, Your episodes are my therapist everytime l watch,,, I will watch and stay here till the coming of Jesus,,,,sikuizi n kwa hoofer tu
    Anyway receive our regards here from Rongo university, Migori ,,,,l have fans here who loves you too

  • @Lifeisgoodkitty
    @Lifeisgoodkitty 7 месяцев назад +1

    Nyaboke, gaki pole! I escaped narrowly..others around me weren't so lucky..

  • @stellahmarriswambuwah9919
    @stellahmarriswambuwah9919 7 месяцев назад +1

    GOD BLESS LYNN TEAM AND DR NYABOKE❤ WE KEEP LEARNING EVERY DAY🌹🙏🏾

  • @Greg-rj6ml
    @Greg-rj6ml 7 месяцев назад +2

    Worldwide less than 35% of men and 200 million women have undergone cut procedure . Most men(65%) and most women(97%) worldwide have not undergone the cut .
    Africa , Middle East, some parts of US and a few parts of Asia and the South Pacific have had the highest rate historically due to Religious, Cultural and Medical reasons but US and Canada rates dropping compared to Africa and Middle East and some parts of Asia/South Pacific .

  • @abigailkhumaloel-selahgosp9922
    @abigailkhumaloel-selahgosp9922 7 месяцев назад +1

    "This (my past), is not what my life is going to be".. !!!!

  • @Greg-rj6ml
    @Greg-rj6ml 7 месяцев назад +1

    Washington state cut rates for men 10%, Oregon 10%, California 23% , New Mexico 16%,West Virginia 91% highest in US . Midwest US highest rate, West and Southwest US lowest rate .
    US procedure increased in the 20th century due to AMA doctors recommendation but since 1990 they have taken a different position . For US parents optional .
    South, Central America(Mexico 15.4%) and Caribbean lowest rates less than 3% for most of region in the planet(less than 35% men cut) together with Europe .
    Most of Europe rates lower than 10% . Canada rate roughly 33% . Both US and Canada dropping rates .

  • @teresiahwachira1099
    @teresiahwachira1099 Месяц назад

    This is what i say when u go through alot of shame in the past and u achieve great milestone for ua life u no longee feel shame for what u went through but if u went through those pains and still nothing good has come out of ualife u feel lost and dont deserve worth loving u feel like a dead living

  • @Greg-rj6ml
    @Greg-rj6ml 7 месяцев назад +2

    Most men worldwide do not go through the procedure(roughly 65%) . For women Somali(97% highest FGM worldwide),Burkina Faso, Mali, Guinea(95%),Djibouti(94%) high rates on women .
    Roughly 35% of men have undergone procedure worldwide . China population 1.4B, rate of men with the procedure 14% . India Population 1.42 B, rate of procedure 13.5% .
    US population 335 million, rate of procedure on boys in 1979 was 64% ,In 2023 US rates have dropped to 55% .

    • @Greg-rj6ml
      @Greg-rj6ml 7 месяцев назад

      The American Medical Association no longer supports routine procedure on infants and the rates in the US and Canada are fastest dropping in the 21st century after some states no longer using state insurance cover and also states with higher education and higher Hispanic populations dropping .
      Less than 10% of men in EU have undergone procedure for medical reasons .

  • @BEATRICEKALUMUNA
    @BEATRICEKALUMUNA 6 месяцев назад

    Linn god bless u,❤,mimi nipo Tanzania nakufatilia sana,unasaidia watu na wanapata tumaini Tena,Icho ni kipawa Mungu amekupa jitunze sana

  • @faithkisiangani5702
    @faithkisiangani5702 7 месяцев назад +1

    😢😢thank God in my community its not there wee pole mama