His Silence Is A Decision! 3 Things You Should NEVER Do If He’s "Hot And Cold" Or Distant...
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- Discover three things you should NEVER do if a man is acting distant, "hot and cold" or inconsistent in this livestream with Helena Hart.
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And your top is gorgeous, too! Thank you, Helena, for this video! What about a guy you are just starting to date? What about if I'm ok with him giving what he can, as I keep my options open?
You’re welcome! I’d follow what feels good to you - your feelings are always an indicator that things are going well or that something isn’t in alignment with what you TRULY want. 💞
2 months into dating a guy 8 years younger than me. I'm 39 and he is 31. He has a start up and has to concentrate on that. Also he says he has trust issues that has nothing to do with me and he is working on that. With that said, we meet almost every week and mostly on weekdays. He used to text every day and calls every other day. He ain't texting every day now but a couple of weeks he called everyday and recently he couldn't call frequently because he was unwell and had work pressure. How does this situation sound?
P.S. we had a discussion about marriage after a month of dating and he asked for a year to know more about each other to take it to that stage.
@@ennkay2756 if he says he is busy, leave it at that...don't act like it's not going anywhere. You've only been dating for a month and already talking about marriage? You need to chillax, for real. You move too fast and he will think you're a gold digger and just want to get his money. Do what he said and get to know each other better before rushing into something as major as a marriage. He has trust issues as well...you move too fast and you're probably going to get the opposite result. Just saying...don't disregard him and his feelings/choices...if he wants to take a break from you, let him...he needs time to work and sort out his life. If you truly love him, let him do what he needs to do.
I kept affirming I am chosen I am a priority and I am important. We have been going out for 8 months but the pace has never increased and never seems to get off ground. Recently I asked more personal questions and it seemed like he pulled away even more. Then I realise I was affirming choosing myself. Today I had an epiphany. I told him I was unwell and I just wanted to share it with him. He just gave me a usual gif and he didnt even ask me how I was feeling the next day. I just snapped internally. Like I just woke up. I cried for many hours because I was suppressing so much disappointment for so long. But I finally felt free. All the points you said are 100% him. I'm done with making excuses for him. F that. Thank you for this.
You’re welcome! 💜 These videos might also be helpful for future reference: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/JMf0aKfqCBs/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/QGkBi0mjsCA/видео.html.
The truth ladies: if a man likes you, it’s obvious. If he doesn’t, it’s not so we look for crumbs. Helena is spot on!
Yes, thanks for sharing! 💞
It’s a narcissistic man-whom YOU always have to fit YOUR life into HIS schedule. There’s little to no give and take; just give. Your life revolves around him; because in his mind everyone revolves around him (a lot like how a child feels; narcissists never grew up emotionally…no matter HOW responsible they are in the work world, etc.)
Thanks for sharing your insights here! This podcast episode should be helpful for anyone who’s dealing with a narcissistic man (or keeps attracting them) - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/3NE34U7nic4fZqFSvKVAOQ?si=yrOoFOKmSGiLomCXQjgY5Q
…or on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000537158156
Thank you LW on the Rez, a very apt definition/description.
Wow very well said!! I’ve been in a hot and cold situationship for almost 2 years. I love how you said “you can’t scare the right one away”, I need to communicate my boundaries and if it scares him, he’s not the one!!
Thanks Courtney! These videos on boundaries might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/ggTZAJZn1NI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/B51Hi5SBhaE/видео.html.
Oh thanks so much!!! 😁😁 I appreciate that! I love your content! Very straightforward and encouraging!
You’re welcome! ❤️
This just happened to me 10mins ago speaking to a guy for 3days and he asks me out I say ok he said let’s go for a lunch I say ok he said pick somewhere I did and a time. Then tonight (I’m from uk) I text him hi how are you and he responded im shattered from long hours at work. I said oh well rest have a early night he then says I need some TLC …I said only tlc iknow is hot chocolate and rest. He responded I meant hot sexy…doughnut. And I responded whelp krispy cream is a good shout. And he went silent. So 2hours ago I texted him About a tv show no response. And just now I texted see you tomorrow at 13. No response. NOW it’s confirmed to me as I’m not stupid he went into a child strop and gone quiet this evening becos I caught him out in trying to be slick with his words about TLC and I shut it down with hot chocolate. He prob wants to sleep with me. Instead saw this video just now on RUclips and it’s a sign. Lol I’m no going anywhere 2mrow.
I just got out of a year and a half relationship with one of these guys. He was consistently seeing me every other week for 4 days, rarely more. I finally had a good talk with him and said I wanted more than that in my relationship. Now he is gone, no communication. His silence is his decision. It hurts but it is for the best. No more of these guys!!
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Wendy! I know many women can relate. These videos should also be helpful for future reference: ruclips.net/video/_jARxknc160/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/1obo_qVEIHs/видео.html.
A narcissist will often have all the qualities/traits you’re looking for in a partner: he’s social, spiritual, super smart, funny, happy, optimistic, high energy, etc., etc., etc. So you end up putting him on that pedestal…which is RIGHT where he wants to be (but not in the long run). And if he hurries into a committed relationship, you may think, “Wow! I’ve never received such intense interest and motivation for commitment from a guy before!” Narcissists rush into relationships. They don’t give themselves enough time to get to know the other person long-term; or even get to know THEMSELVES when around this person. Don’t fool yourself: just because he “has all the qualities” you’re looking for,…how do YOU feel about YOURSELF when you two are a thing? Do you feel insecure about whether he cares as deeply for you as you do for him? Women, make sure the guy loves you JUUUST a little more than you love him! -so you can feel secure he’s in it for the long run.
Thanks for sharing your insights here! This podcast episode should be helpful for anyone who’s dealing with a narcissistic man (or keeps attracting them) - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/3NE34U7nic4fZqFSvKVAOQ?si=yrOoFOKmSGiLomCXQjgY5Q
…or on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000537158156
Ladies! Dont think that being understanding of his excuses about the situation is gonna inspire him to want more with you. He has to EARN your understanding AFTER he has been consistent in showing up in your life. Because lets keep it 💯, WE ALL HAVE STUFF GOING ON IN OUR LIVES. And, Im sure many of you still make time for the people you love even if it's hard. Therefore, his excuse for why he cant do "x" right now is trivial. You want someone you can depend on and you can build a life with someone who does make you a top priority!
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Kiana! These videos might also be helpful for anyone who’s in a similar situation: ruclips.net/video/_jARxknc160/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/2oFG-2Ro48Y/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/1obo_qVEIHs/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/l-8gcLyphow/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/_fiTUm_DCAw/видео.html.
So true
I‘m watching this and I’m SHOCKED how much I refused to take all the signs seriously. We’ve been in a relationship for three years and I felt for a long time that he’s not giving me what I want and deserve. When we fight everything is my fault, how I want to be treated is „just not his way“ (he literally said that calling and flowers and other stuff is not his way of showing love but obviously good communication and true consistency isn’t either so what is?) and my expectations are too high, „that’s not how a relationship works“. On other days he’s lovey dovey and crazy about me and the next day I’m stupid for not being able to give him what he needs. My gut told me long ago that it’s not working and I silenced these feelings and rationalized everything, hoping he would come around and if I just work on myself everything will work out.
Well: i worked on myself A LOT, I grew massively personally, still nothing changed, but I developed the strength to wish him all the best and walk away. Never again.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many people can relate. I’m glad you were able to find the strength to walk away! 💕
I had this type situation in my youth. After watching the movie "He's just not that into you" decades later, I finally got it! I went on with my life got married had kids etc.....he NEVER married!
Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💕
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you Helena. There is so much more to share....just don't feel comfortable sharing it on a public forum.
You’re welcome! I definitely understand. 💜
Id like to hear more the type of man you went for who you married. I keep wanting the wrong type.
You can never say the wrong thing to the right person....If he loves you , you will know ladies.. Keep your standard . know your worth .
Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💞
I just learned recently that a man's kindness can be mistaken. I thought that my neighbor who was interested in me because he was always doing nice things for me, but I was mistaken he has been seeing someone for a while.
The “ always something “ man.
I like it.
Thanks Jenn! I talked more about that type of man in this video: ruclips.net/video/1obo_qVEIHs/видео.html
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I’ve been trying to figure out how it became this way, and you hit the nail on the head. Taking my energy back. I deserve so much more than this!
Thanks for sharing your experience here. Yes, you definitely deserve more than this! ❤️
I love what you said about ‘managing down my expectations’ wow 🤩 eye opening…..thanks Helena xx
You’re welcome, Donna! 💕
Thank you, Helena, for laying out all the signs that he’s not the one! Unfortunately, I got tangled up with this guy who was every point on this list to look out for, for 8.5 years! He is a narcissist, and he refuses to let me go, despite me finally cutting all ties with him for good. He just surfaced again recently (and multiple times since last December) full of apologies and begging for me to respond to him, NEVER AGAIN!
His behavior destroyed my self esteem, which then took me two years to repair. I love me too much to allow him back in to my life, in any capacity.
At our foundation, despite what he says to the contrary, I realize that he was never my friend. I recognize that a true friend would never treat me like he did, nor press on my vulnerabilities now to selfishly try to hook me again.
It’s awful to realize how often this happens (that you addressed it in a video and so many girls can relate), but it’s extremely helpful to have validation via your insight that these signs are red flags and an indication to value yourself and leave the situation. Thank you so much, Helena!!🤗
You’re welcome! ❤️ Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here, I know many women can relate. These videos might be helpful for future reference: ruclips.net/video/_jARxknc160/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/aHDHiOJALjc/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/1obo_qVEIHs/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/VcjFqtaGj3Y/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/z6Gskn7EOGk/видео.html.
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you for the links!
I also went through this with my narc ex . He abandoned me and our son to go out with different women. He was always unsure about us. It has destroyed my self esteem 😔
So sorry to hear that, Gigi. This video might be helpful: ruclips.net/video/kcG-Utr3DpQ/видео.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you so much ! I’m trying to keep strong 💪 for me and my baby . 😔
Aha moment! Thank you! I needed this today. He ghosted me after 2yrs of dating exclusively. He turned into the guy your speaking of.
You’re welcome! ❤️
Love your no-nonsense advice. Back in the dating scene after divorce and this is the stuff I need to hear.
Thank you, Eileen! 💜 These videos might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/CSvHan3u8s8/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/_jARxknc160/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/fiD8_uq6hPc/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/rRfg2zzkiQc/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/1obo_qVEIHs/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/QGkBi0mjsCA/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/V3Z2W9cyO6A/видео.html.
If a man likes you, he will pursue you.
Your video is EXCELLENT!
This is what I needed to hear!
Everything you say is accurate.
What I have been going through the past 5 months.
Good looking, hard working Indian man I met online in December
We live 7 hours apart in CA.
He love bombed me at first.
Excuses, he started bew job, stress and promotion.
I have been worried and stressed about him for months.
I literally asked him again about us and finally meeting?
I do not trust him.
We have had falling out.
Now he doesn't call me.
Just breadcrumb messages.
Done with him, sick of him.
I have bent over backwards.
Space, time, patient, accommodating.
I stopped initiating contact.
If he sends me message, I will no longer respond.
He has not stepped up.
Thanks for sharing your experience here. I’m glad this helped! 💗
Excellent… we need to focus on being high value women
Thanks Heather! These videos should be helpful for anyone who needs some extra help with that: ruclips.net/video/A1RxP88Jtu8/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/GVnjg3UFYdY/видео.html.
Helena can you talk about if we have anxious attachment? Then even a man whose energy is coming towards us (sometimes they're slow but steady 😂) we have trouble feeling good/secure unless we take control (and then are in our masculine energy) and we end up sabotaging or cutting off abruptly something that could have been nice.
Love to you, wish i had a friend like you! ☺️
Great question! These videos should be helpful: ruclips.net/video/v2NkEPYVovA/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/-fmaR8gbZng/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/Smr_BATJ830/видео.html.
Wow thank you so much Helena! Finding your videos has been a game-changer. I'm so appreciative for your guidance and wisdom.
You’re welcome! ❤️
Some men will talk and talk and will tell you a fairytale, but don’t act upon it. Actions or words alone don’t mean anything. Words need to match the actions.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Elizabeth! 💜
Such a great insightful and thorough video!! "Work is really crazy" 🤣🤣 I just laugh whenever they pull that card. Thats awful... I had so many hopes about him. He was perfect 10/10, only felt like that once about someone in my whole 35 years old life, it was the second time. But had to let him go. Shame
Thank you! My latest livestream should also be helpful for anyone who’s in a situation like that: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html
Never met him,got breadcrumbed ,and hurt but my own fault for letting him do the sht he did. DONE, and these boots are made for walkin......✌✌
Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💕
Thank you for this video Helena. Your words and advice here go right to the core. A reality check!
You’re welcome! 💜 These videos might also be helpful for anyone who’s in a similar situation: ruclips.net/video/_jARxknc160/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/2oFG-2Ro48Y/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/1obo_qVEIHs/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/l-8gcLyphow/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/_fiTUm_DCAw/видео.html.
They will tell you what you want to hear also..... We will get married one day, you are mine, you are my heart blah blah... but they will ignore your calls for a day, take trips without you and your gut will feel it constantly.
Thanks for sharing, Heather! These videos might also be helpful for anyone who’s experienced something like that: ruclips.net/video/zKEos5BY2nA/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/DdKuS6cineY/видео.html.
Helena our QUEEN 😍😍
Aww you’re so sweet! ❤️
With my boyfriend mark, he and I have been together, for two years. He started out being, a really nice guy, and being really into me. But over time it got to the point, were he was willing to let me go. And he and I were always on and off so many times when we were seeing each other. And over two weeks ago, he was willing to leave me, and I told him that I was leaving him. and the whole time we have been apart, he started coming back around again. And just last week I told him, that I was willing to take him back again.
Thanks for sharing your experience here! “On and off” is usually a red flag, in my opinion. These videos might be helpful: ruclips.net/video/_jARxknc160/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/aHDHiOJALjc/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/1obo_qVEIHs/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/VcjFqtaGj3Y/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/z6Gskn7EOGk/видео.html.
1) you feel his energy is coming to you consistently
I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞
Whao! This is just mind blowing! I stumbled on this video and I loved every part of it. You just gained a subscriber.
I’m glad this resonated with you! 💜 My latest livestream might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html
Nailed him to a tee
I’m glad this resonated with you! 💞 These videos might also be helpful for anyone who’s in a similar situation: ruclips.net/video/_jARxknc160/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/2oFG-2Ro48Y/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/1obo_qVEIHs/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/l-8gcLyphow/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/_fiTUm_DCAw/видео.html.
Thank you, So spot on, with everything hits home on all levels...
You’re welcome! 💜 These videos might also be helpful for anyone who’s in a similar situation: ruclips.net/video/_jARxknc160/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/2oFG-2Ro48Y/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/1obo_qVEIHs/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/l-8gcLyphow/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/_fiTUm_DCAw/видео.html.
Always something kinda of person. 100%
I’m glad this resonated with you! My last two livestreams might also be helpful for anyone who’s dealing with someone like this: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/QGkBi0mjsCA/видео.html.
@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you so much
You’re welcome! 💕
Perfectly said am having that experience right now thanks 👍
You’re welcome! My latest livestream might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html
Hey Helena,
There is this guy, I have been going to his gym. We have been texting for over 4 month. He is definately hot and cold.
We went on one Date and he asked me that same evening if i would go on abother one.... that didn't happen, instead he keeps helping me with moving to a new apartment and renovating that. Whenever he is helping me he calls me honey and touches my hands or shoulder etc. but he has not made a move to kiss me...
When i asked him how to thank him he said no need to thank him and he is very happy to help me.
I'm very confused cause he is very sweet and keeps asking me if he should help me. However whe i suggest something like making dinner for him there isn't much of a reaction.
Should I forget him?
I don't understand why he does that. He helps gets cold, helps gets cold. Why does he put so much efford into this and then nothing happens....
I don’t know but girl, do not make him dinner. Does he deserve wife privileges yet? I think not…lean back and let him step up or not.
Uh-uh...forget this 'wife privilege' bullshit femi-nazi propaganda. If he didn't like you, he would NOT be doing stuff for you. Perhaps he's just shy or is worried how you'll react if he makes a move...the #method and false allegations of rape are real...if you like him and want to know if he feels the same, fucking ask him! Stop being coy and wondering...just be honest!!!!!
In one of these, on and off for years, he just contacted me after breaking up with his girlfriend of 2 years, of course he tells me he cares about me a lot but he does want to date me. He doesn't want a relationship, I need to just cut it.
Yes, “on and off” for years is always a red flag in my opinion (especially if he doesn’t want a relationship). I talked more about that in my latest livestream: ruclips.net/video/zKEos5BY2nA/видео.html
Going through it right now.
Hi Priscila, my last two livestreams might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/QGkBi0mjsCA/видео.html.
You nailed it Helena, thank you!
You’re welcome! ❤️ I did another livestream yesterday on a related topic - here’s the link if anyone would like to check it out: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html
4 years late,lol this confirmation really helped,thank you,
You’re welcome! 💜 My latest two videos might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/NcsXbpe1sX8/видео.html.
Wow, thank you thank you thank you Helena. This video really resonates with me and I think it will help me decide on what I need to do. You're amazing, i enjoy your videos ❤️
You’re welcome, Linda! 💗 These videos might also be helpful for anyone who’s in a similar situation: ruclips.net/video/_jARxknc160/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/2oFG-2Ro48Y/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/1obo_qVEIHs/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/l-8gcLyphow/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/_fiTUm_DCAw/видео.html.
Thank you for this video. It was very helpful.
You’re welcome! My last livestream should also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html
Well this is a hard truth for me. 😢
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Exactly what I needed to hear.
My latest livestream might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html
Haha! “I’m very independent” means that he is seeing a lot of other women. Stringing them along.
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Natalia! 💙
Every single point. Wow.
I’m glad this resonated with you! 💞 These videos might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/QGkBi0mjsCA/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/_jARxknc160/видео.html, ruclips.net/video/1obo_qVEIHs/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/V3Z2W9cyO6A/видео.html.
Girls, 22 years of marriage to a guy just like this. Let him go. Mine is a philanderer. All of these years.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Gabriella! 💜
Yep this is exactly it.
Thanks Blair! My latest livestream might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html
In my experience, these 'there's always something' men have a habt of keeping conversations at a shallow level. Like the physical breadcrumbing, they also seem to hold back on proper talking.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Domi! 💞
@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you for insightful video
You’re welcome! I’m glad you enjoyed it. 💜
I was with one like this for 6 years 😥 I just saw he got engaged to someone else after 2 years.
Thanks for sharing your experience here. Yes, I hear similar stories ALL the time with this type of man. 💜
Latest guy after a week texting and one phone conversation, despite always initiating he started gradually taking longer to reply and his most ridiculous excuse was that his phone fell in the bath. I replied with a laugh and soon cancelled our first date. I told him why and he ghosted
Holy crap. Thank you.
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I have a situation with my neighbor we have been neighbors for many years, and a year-and-a-half ago he lost his wife. For the past few months we have talked a lot on the phone but nothing else. He said a few times he was not interested in being in a relationship with anyone but recently he has been talkin to a lady at his church and recently took her out to eat. This has been very hurtful to me because I was hoping we could have a relationship. Two or three times a week we would talk on the phone 2 to 3 hours. I am having a hard time dealing with him being with this lady.. I really felt like he was starting to care for me because he's been doing nice things for me when I was sick caking me to run my errands when I was not able to drive because of having surgery and he would always bring me food that he cooked. I am very confused!
He keeps doing things that doesn’t feel good to me then says it’s me doing these things.
I dated a guy 25 yrs ago for a couple of months and we was falling for each other i. Broke up with my ex prior to this guy and went back to him..fast forward we broke up but i never got over how i really felt about this guy and hes never had a relationship that was serious.. hes still single as am i and i recently told him he means the world to me and even put his name on me. When he saw it he couldnt believe it but he wont tell me how he feels just tells me to chill out and when i initiate meeting he always has an excuse but never takes a rain check.. i really hurt him wen i left him he said my mum would of been buying a hat the following yr .. i love him soo much ..what do you think?
Love your videos
Thank you so much! ❤️
I feel this sooo much.
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Hi Helena, my situation is different my man is not in my country. At first he was giving me his time and always talked with me and for the last month he has changed and doesn't do what he use to do.
This applies to long distance relationships as well. It takes VERY little effort to call or send a text message. 💜
I met some guy online, first two months were good, even though I didn't talk to him as deeply as I usually do with someone I'm into, but he was sweet, asked about my day, always texted me first. Then we had some disagreement and it changed but we texted tiny bit, but it was shitty. He wanted to come see me but then he said he is busy with new work that involves travelling, but I saw him partying on his friend's story and caught him on a lie, since I asked when is he coming home from that "travel". Now I just don't care at all, I ignored him and he started texting me more now, showing more interest but I just don't give a poop anymore but he is doing that probably to make me want him to come or something? What do I do?
It depends on what kind of man you’re dealing with here. My latest livestream should help give you some clarity: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html
He always comes to m8ne but doesn't want me at his. He only ever took me to his once.
Thank you ⚘ for this video🎯 , everything you have said I had start looking at actions,👀 instead of what has been said ,👂 and it keeps me from falling into the Trap, of the Ex covert narcissist🤡🤥🤐 HEYOKA empath 👁
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Thank you ❤
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Even in LBGTQ & Poly communities!!
Hi girls ❤
Hi, thanks for watching! 💕
9 months later and I have never met any of his family, I have never been invited to his home or town. I haven’t been invited to anything, he keeps in touch by text sometimes phone I see him once a fortnight sometimes once a week. He seems secretive, we both have kids but mines are younger and live with me and he doesn’t seem interested in getting to know them. We don’t go out on dates I think it’s because I have children that I am responsible for full time. So hard when you have children.
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Hey!!
Hi Jennifer, thanks for watching! 💕
Helena, I'm really worried now because of how accurate this is. Is it worth it to keep exploring? There is an excuse for his behaviour, but it's an excuse, of course. Can it still change..? I listen to the things you mention to not do. Anything I CAN do?
It’s important to understand what kind of man you’re dealing with here in order to know what to do. He likely falls into one of the two categories I described in my latest livestream: ruclips.net/video/kdzffPA_IAI/видео.html
@@HelenaHartCoaching I think he's the good one, I just have to wait and see. Thank you
You’re welcome! 💜
Hi Helena I haven't heard from him in over a week and we meant to be going on holiday at end of month, I've been with him year and half and I've split with him about 3 times Overtime, maybe he sick of it but I think he needs to txt me first this time as I don't want to b too needy with him and I'd feel better if he contacted me first.
While I don’t know the details of your situation, breaking up three times in a year and a half is usually a red flag (not hearing from him in over a week if you’re in a relationship also sounds strange). I talk more about that in this video: ruclips.net/video/_jARxknc160/видео.html
My goodness this is what I needed today I am right here, in the second week of knowing him he called me last Saturday he called me the Saturday before that we’re going on our third Saturday, if that’s consistency we definitely need to speed things along to find out where we want where we are at where we going. Thank you
Maybe he's just busy...you push him, he will rebel...just a heads-up.
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Hi helena
Hi Debra, thanks for watching! 💕
What happens if its not been that long?
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#4 my ex has me strung along I keep break free
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Cool loved this 😜😇💕
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My last guy to a T.
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What do you suggest you do if you have an always something man
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Do I just stop responding to his breadcrumb texts or do I tell him that I'm moving on?
That depends. What's going on in his life, he might just be dealing with some stuff.
@@jessicathompson236His attachment style is dismissive avoidant and I know he's been stressed with mom being sick and his school. But it's been a month since we hung out and he keeps saying that we'll see each other soon but will not pick a date. We dated last year and he was hot hot hot and then boom COLD. He's a good guy and I'd like to remain friends (after a break) which is the only reason I thought about sending him a text and nicely telling him it's over. On the other hand, if his mom is doing worse right now, then sending that would be cruel. His mom has stage 4 cancer. I don't want to kick him while he's down. So hard...
BTW, he and I were solely dating eachother but he didn't want a title because ithey come with "expectations and stress." So not his gf....
@@appleflappen , I'd probably just tell him something like, "I know that you are dealing with some difficult things right now and I'm here for you"
You don't deserve breadcrumbs. You are worth more than that, just go no contact and block him. He isn't worth your time. The right guy will never breadcrumb you.
Stop responding
Stop thinking about him
Go do things that make you smile
Actions don't lie... if a man really wants a woman, his actions will leave no room for second guessing...
Thanks for sharing your insights here - I agree! 💞 My husband and I talked about that in this video: ruclips.net/video/rnXoKSMAToA/видео.html
When you are with the right person, everything is easy. Things just fall into place, like a jigsaw puzzle with the right pieces.
Thanks for sharing your insights here - I agree! 💞
Totally fits the dsmissive avoidant man I was seeing for a year... Thank goodness I left; He was emotionally EXHAUSTING, and I even recall consciously thinking he was breadcrumbing me, and "managing down my expectations!" Ladies, stay mindfully present and be prepared to LEAVE if need be! We all deserve a healthy, consistent love! Wishing you all the best!
Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here! I’m glad you were able to move on. 💕
LEAVE!!
I just did a few weeks ago. It totally sucks, but the sooner you end it the better. "Situationships" are the most toxic of all.
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ALWAYS mirror a man! That's exactly how you know his worth. Helena is right...in doing so....keep keeping on....keep dating other men....go out with your friends......enjoy family time...enjoy your hobbies....travel....trust and believe......look for his consistency and mood swings...2 very important things. Many men claim they want a relationship when in reality...they only want casual sex and they have multiple women in motion at one time.
Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💜
What does mean?
"... With the right person, it's enough..." - Helena Hart
I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞
Yikes! Been there. This sounds like an Avoidant and/or Narcissistic man. You deserve the best! ❤️ Easy to see in retrospect it wasn’t what I wanted. They will use your energy. Agree! Trust the actions.
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If he ignores you he is not interested.
Yes, I agree! 💙
Ladies, time wasted is just time wasted. My motto is I don't want anyone who doesn't want me. I'm not begging for his time or attention. Nor am I auditioning for his love. I chose me and my peace always.
Thanks for sharing, Janie - I’m happy to hear that! 💜
Thanks so much for this! I had a relationship with a man who behave in all of these signs for 6 months. At the end, I decided to let him go and I am now in a much better place 😌.
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“Leaning back trying to get a guy to chase you is actually being in your masculine energy” whoa mind blowing. My first video of yours and I learned SO much. You have a new subscriber
Thank you, I’m happy to hear that! Yes, feminine energy is a state of mind - it’s about not being attached to the outcome of any interaction you have with a man. If you’re leaning back because you’re trying to “make something happen” or as a strategy to get a man to do something, you’re actually in your masculine energy. 💕
18 months of wasted time with a man just like this! Tragically I still love him but I love myself more. I will get over him.
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Avoidants ought to be avoided:)
Thanks for sharing your insights here, Beatrice! 💙
"Always something man!" That's a perfect description!
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@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you! You have great advice!
You’re welcome! ❤️
This is exactly what's going on with my boyfriend that I've been with for over a year. We love each other and we're best friends. But this is exactly spot on.
Thanks for sharing your experience here. I’m glad this resonated with you! 💞
This was hard to listen. It was so spot on. But I needed to hear it. Thank you 🙏🏼
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How do we work on forgiving ourselves for being so stupid and falling for these “excuses?”
I’ll keep that in mind for future video topics, thanks for the suggestion! In the meantime, this article I wrote might be helpful: helenahartcoaching.com/how-to-stop-being-hard-on-yourself-to-get-the-love-you-want/
@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you!! 🥰🥰
You’re welcome! ❤️
Met an older “divorced” guy from out of state when I was out one night. We really hit it off and he pursued me daily for over 2 months. Good morning/goodnight texts and consistent communication throughout the day even LD. He even drove back to visit me for my birthday weekend. However, the texts started fading over a few days span and then I just didn’t get the usual text back from him. I waited 4 days and still 👻 I got a weird gut feeling so I checked his FB and to my surprise his status said “married” when it didn’t say that before. I got pissed! Immediately cursed him out and blocked him.
Thanks for sharing your experience here, Kourtney! 💙
I think when it comes to dating to be open and be honest helps.
Update!!!!
The guy, his "wife" and their 2 friends came into my local bar tonight and the wife's friend confronted me. Told me to "stay in my own lane". I told her to get out of my face and back off or I'll have her arrested for harassment. So warped how they blame me for him being unfaithful to her and me having no clue. Unbelievable!
@@kourtney5749 You didn't have to react so violently. It was wrong to blame you, though. I would've said "I didn't know. He lied to me". Put it back on them.
@@starcatcher3691 there was no violence involved. She actually put her hand up in the air and kept pointing it at me. I was in the line for the bathroom, she walked up stood within 2 feet of me and "confronted" me. I put both of my hands up to block her. Even my friend told her to back off. It was uncalled for and childish actually. Btw, I don't do well with confrontation. It triggers ptsd from past abuse.
I married this man and made two beautiful daughters with him.
I have never felt his love and is never consistently there for me. There's always something that stops him from loving me.
He blames his childhood.
I am so grateful for my children but wish I was in a loving and respectful relationship.
It was my dad's funeral last week and he's not been able to be there for me.
W0W!
Prayers for your family 🙏🏽🙏🏽
What the. We are here for you ❤
Oh hun, i am so sorry, that would really really hurt. Sending you a big hug x
He needs therapy. Tell him the marriage is in trouble because you lack connection. Go to marriage counseling together
It's been like a month at first he was taking things too first asked him to slow it, he wants an assurance there and then yet we are just getting to know each other.. but he is now hot and cold rarely calls or text. Tired of such games
I've been going through this with a man. I felt all these feelings like l was being managed down! Thanks Helena for being very clear on what that means.
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I just went through this for the SECOND time with same man. He’s showed all 10 warnings. Tried telling me the second time that he has more time. But, he doesn’t, at least not for me, anyway. Just told him the other day that, not only can’t i be FWB, but can’t be friends with him at all. I’ve felt sooooo much lighter since then. No longer feeling like I am doing something wrong and why didn’t he want to have a relationship with me. Thank you for the validation that I did the right thing!!
You’re welcome, Cherie Anne! Yes, you definitely did the right thing. 💕
Thank you for the reality check. All of the videos about how to attract the specific person are bs. Rather than put all of that energy into ‘magically’ attracting him, put energy into your own growth and self care.
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I really love this it fall to everything I have been doing I have been healing my past traumas to actually get someone who actually care about me, now I can see does red flags 🚩som I’m very happy to listen to this video because I can see how much I have grown ❤🎉
I’m happy to hear that, thanks for sharing your experience here! 💗 This video I recorded with my husband might also be helpful: ruclips.net/video/_D37APGOy8Y/видео.htmlsi=NW6QFOmpAx_FTnca
You are describing my ex.of 2.5yrs. This is a emotionally unavailable man most likely with Narcsistic Personality Disorder, (NPD) My ex had no empathy or a conscience to cheat.
The hot and cold make Cognative Disonence which creates a Trauma Bond
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Thanks for sharing your experience here, Lisa! 💜
@@HelenaHartCoaching ❤
Me too girl after 4 years 😕😔
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