Yeah, I agree this isn’t misogynist as much as it is patronizing and it’s definitely about the tone usually agree with these guys as commentators but on this, I think they’re missing the point.
@@AndrewRatliff-p6r patronizing??? On this panel every night everyone is using smart-aleck tones with the opposing side. People even result to rolling their eyes while someone is stating a position. You are missing the point. Rules for thee but not for me. Gender and race cards have been overplayed.
@@1rtt1 imagine if he had been debating a man and said “boy” there instead. Not saying there’d be “outrage” but I am saying it makes it much easier to understand their point. Using diminutive nicknames for your colleagues in a debate sounds unprofessional and is completely unnecessary. Lets all be level-headed enough to acknowledge that this ONE time the liberal crybabies actually have a point
This is just like the term, "Bless your heart." It has multiple meanings. I've heard men say dear in an endearing manner as well as a condescending manner.
@@HarmlessComment So? Are you so weak minded you can't handle condescension? Respond back. Or don't respond. And add a mental note: "This person is an idiot. Let's handle him/her differently from now on". Case closed. Stop being a greenhouse frail flower and engage people. Calmly but firmly. Don't regulate what they say (unless they're making threats or false accusations).
Every woman (and man) knows when "dear" is being used condescendingly...and it usually follows your 1st name, with a deliberate and evident condescending tone, when a man/person is trying to talk down to you. I'm not overly sensitive and I can clearly hear it in his voice when he addresses her...the panel (except for Adam surprisingly)) is being deliberately disingenuous...even Tom infers that he wasn't using it "perfectly", he's too smart not to realize this..all the examples he used had "dear" preceding the name🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
When we were kids in trouble my mom always called us dear with her teeth gnashed, as if we were supposed to be her sweet little boys but we were not acting the part. It can be diminutive calling someone dear. Abby is a cute woman not acting the part.
When you're in a face-to-face debate, referring to the person with whom you are debating as "dear" is dismissive and condescending. It is MEANT to be dismissive and condescending and Men know that. And the fact that they're pretending in this video that it's not is offensive
@@FlyOverZone Have you ever watched that particular CNN show more than once? Condescension is abundant no matter the political party affiliation, and no matter if it's a regular or infrequent guest. The moderator engages in the same condescending tones. To point out condescension is silly. Water is wet. There is this one regular guest that on multiple occasions has raised her finger near someone's face while being loud, while making her point and the moderator has never checked her. Those "rules" are only for the conservative men who appear.
I’m conservative, a lawyer, mother and never offended but he was being condescending calling her dear. They were not friends. They were on a show. The dear is patronizing. Abbey is way off though.
Dear is not offense no matter what the r how u spin it dear is a word of endearment a positive words u don’t like the tone but that word can never be negative people trying to change meaning of words
@ not appropriate for a work situation. It’s a bit demeaning. Endearment doesn’t belong on a show where the media people are taking contrary views. She could have just said ‘you are mistaken sweetie. Then what? Makes the show a bit weird no?😂
@@skywriter9359 You mean just like when female anchors or interviewers say "Okay Sirr" in an obviously condescending tone? Only difference is, the men don't freak out over it.
Respectfully, dear in the context he used it is condescending. If she had called him sweetheart in the midst of this discussion, it would be equally inappropriate. Love your show. 😊
Agreed. PBD ends the clip with, “refer to me as Pat or Patrick.” Love these guys and typically agree with them. In general, they are correct with “dear”. Not in this circumstance.
women also address other women or even men and especially children as “dear” during conversation. It’s not a man thing - it may be used in a slightly condescending manner, but it’s not necessarily a man vs woman thing. Thoughts?
@payfernchew5565 the tone he used when he said "dear" is the tone a woman would use when being condescending too. I was in a meeting once where a male coworker called another male coworker "son" and it did not go well. I hear old men use "son" in an endearing way all the time, but here just like the word "dear" it was used to demean
LOL I call everyone honey. lol I ended a call with my boss once saying bye honey. He called me back saying did you just call me honey? lol I was laughing hoping he didn't notice. I said Yes, I'm sorry, I call everyone honey. He laughed and said so do I. He then said by honey and hung up. lol
So. I guarantee you without a shred of hesitation that if you pulled that out in my weekly staff meeting the entire meeting would immediately go completely sideways if you addressed a peer or any female in the work setting as "Dear." The term is condescending and dismissive, especially if the discussion is charged - it is openly a low key dis. A different thing completely in a non work setting or if informally used in conversing with family or friends.
These dear women were triggered by the truth. Pretending to be offended by the word "dear" is just a reaction to the hard core truth this dear man is expressing.
I don't consider it misogyny, but dear can be condescending depending on context and tone. At the very least I could see how she could see it as dismissive in this particular discussion.
@hs-fu6qt True, but if you think about it many words can be offensive depending on how and why they are said. So "dear" can be sweet if said in a fond way or dismissive if said in a patronizing way. I wouldn't call it a slippery slope, it's normal communication. You're definitely right about people being too thin skinned though!
Last time I checked I was a woman and being referred to as "dear" is in no way sexist...In Australia,its really only Indian born men who say it at all and they say it to all age females..boohoo,keep looking for things to be offended by...this ain't it🇦🇺❤️🇺🇸
@@T.L.Turner what's wrong with people like you? It's always the same old comment about how the other person is thirsty blah blah blah,when it looks to me like you are the thirsty one in need of attention. It's pathetic actually,but ,go your hardest 😘
@@T.L.Turner "Pick me" can mean neurodivergent female. Sometimes with neurodivergent females, their special interests are -thing- focused, not -people- focused. Males are generally thing focused. Such as video games, tech, systems thinking, special interests with hyper-focus, dark sense of humor as coping etc... Sometimes a "pick me" is just an autistic or ADHD chick (or au-DHD), who is very likely on the asexual spectrum and has no interest or attraction to people. The struggle of the neurodiverse gal; so many females have hated me for being a nerd that it is insanity. If your husband is in my Dungeons and Dragons table top role playing game, I can promise you I don't find him attractive and the thought of sex is disgusting lol. Plus I have a deep seeded hatred of homewreckers. Now, a homewrecker, that is what it is. And I think every woman with their head screwed on straight knows what to do with them. Heat up the hot-poker and close the hole indefinitely :D Ladies need to band together over that and stop it.
Not really. The same way they don’t sit at that debate table and call their male colleagues “boy” they shouldnt call the women “dear.” It’s just not good decorum in that setting. In a friendly setting it’s totallyyy fine.
Spare the decorum argument. Anyone who has seen that show 3 or more times knows that the moderator never checks the unreasonable outbursts from the people that she favors. On CNN and MSNBC, guests get called racist for disagreeing on a point even when the topic is unrelated to race.
@@Tati_257 He didn't call her the B word or "girl" lmao. Terrible comparison. It would be more akin to her calling him sweetheart or honey in a condescending manner. And women do stuff like that ALL the time. Only difference is that men don't freak out over it.
Because there is nothing wrong with addressing someone with dear. Years back people used to address their letters with ‘Dear sir or madam’. It’s an old term that was simply more friendly to address someone, or even a subject matter with. Nothing wrong with it.
It’s like honey, sweetie. Just because no one said anything doesn’t mean they don’t think you’re a dbag. It also make women think you’re a mark. Lacks self control and self awareness. Foolishly driven by women, will easily be manipulated. And because the women feel disrespected they don’t care to use you and burn you. It’s really not smart to speak to random women like that
I actually disagree on this one, he was being condescending. Women do this to me when they are trying to dismiss what I'm saying by saying stuff like "sweetheart" or "honey" and they never referred to me as that before. It's the timing of it and tone because they are trying to flex dominance over the dialog.
Even kids do it when they're being scolded or disciplined, they'll say "ok, DAD" or something like "yes, MOTHER" with a certain tone as a rebellion. You know what I mean too...
I believe I agree with Adam's take. The tone of the "dear" might have been a bit condescending....... a bit, but they took it to another level with the "don't call a woman "dead" at my table..."
Who are these crazy women who act so frail over being called dear--misogyny-REALLY GET OVER YOURSELF. I see the man’s frustration at yet another host/ guest with no facts, ignoring the las and spewing nonsense. If there was no proof to charge him then there is no crime. She wants to control the narrative and yet act as if she’s important!
Except that there was no heated, contentious argument; it was a civil conversation. I agree about context or tone. Society should be able to have civil disagreements without getting offended.
BS! Its condescending! Its a way to talk down to a woman when in a professional setting. At home, it's fine.He didn't call a man "dear". Yeah... its a no in the professional world.
The way he said it was at least patronizing and condescending. But she was also trying very hard to get offended Andrew's head like she has moral superiority. Bulshit can go both ways
@@VicecrackVoldermort sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t. The man in the clip was being condescending. He was trying to win a point by trying to make her seem small and inconsequential by demeaning her. Made him look bad instead.
No it was not, it was used in a manner that corrected the blatantly obvious legal reality. She was wrong. More than wrong she was attempting to be misleading.
@@LeslieRobertson-m4inah he made his point watch the video banning a man because he said fear is wild women on cnn do far more condescending things no one cares but oh call a women dear and he’ll brakes lose wild
Hey guys - Luv watching ur shows. In this context (CNN video) the gent had a tone that was condescending. Its like a guy saying to a guy OK ...Dude. Simply say OK. Cheers from Vancouver
I agree with your lady friend! I am tough to offend and not sensitive. But I heard tone in the clip you played. I would’ve called that guy a diminutive pet name right back! Context and tone are everything. The vast majority of the time it is charming.
Dear is literally a term of endearment, it shows people you like them. It's not patronizing at all. There are a million things that are nice that you could say in a patronizing way. I know people who will call you Mr. Smith or whatever but it's not said with respect it's said with contempt. I used to call a woman I worked with Miss Smith but used her real name and she always thought I said it with respect but I was actually making fun of her because she thought she was special.
Exactly. 💯 In an argument or debate it’s equivalent to calling a man “boy” or “son” and is patronizing. In a friendly setting, like an older man saying “thanks dear” to a waitress or something, it’s totally fine.
I wouldn’t like someone calling me dear in the context of an argument . This can come from a man or a woman, it doesn’t matter. A simple ma’am would’ve been fine. He was being passive aggressive and condescending. Let’s not mansplain because the man wouldn’t call another man dear during an argument/debate.
I don't know about misogyny but it's definitely patronizing the way he said it. I wouldn't want anyone calling me 'dear' that I have no relationship with, when they are pointing out that I am wrong.
He said it as 99.9% of men say it...I am a woman and I suggest you develop a thicker skin, a sense of humor, and stop demanding special treatment if Iyou want repect.
He said it as 99.9% of men say it...I am a woman and I suggest you develop a thicker skin, a sense of humor, and stop demanding special treatment if Iyou want repect.
I agree that it was patronizing, but the response was unhinged. CNN is know for elevated discourse and his response was to her was tame compared to the crazy CNN airs.
Even if he was. Take and keep moving on Girls do this 24/7 to men in arguments But when we CALL YALL OUT . Yall lie say “no i was t” Thats why the girls were so quick to attack him
@@Juliet475lmao you say that right now but if you were in an argument/debate with a man you didn’t like and he called you that to purposely be condescending toward you I guaran-fu**ing-tee you wouldnt like it. 🙄
Using terms of endearment like buddy,dear,sweetie, pal to a stranger, or acquaintance during an argument can be viewed as condescending. Its like a passive-aggressive way to gain dominance
Of course he would of said same to a man, except he might of used a different word. It’s not the word “dear’ that made it sound condescending, but the way he said it may have sounded like it. Replace the word dear with any other word n it would of sounded the same. There is nothing wrong with saying dear to someone.
He was using it improperly. It’s a word I use a lot when addressing woman. I am very careful about who and how. I use sweetheart, hon and girl friend also. I also get it back from them in return. I live in the south tho and it is more common and excepted down here. I have been told many times by various people men and women alike that you can’t say those words other than to a spouse. I have been called out before, but I kindly remind them it comes from a place of respect and friendship and remind them this is the south. I am not going to change the way I talk, I mean no ill will. Just let me know and I will respect your wishes. But be nice about it.
I don't like being called "dear", "sweetie" etc. I'm a 62 year old female military veteran who has run crews of 100+ men, and those diminutives are like a verbal pat on the head, something you say to a 93 year old or a 3 year old, or someone you know we'll. Dear as a salutation is a totally different situation.
I'm sixty-three years old, and I don't like being called honey, sweetie, dear, or any other term of endearment, especially in a professional environment period. It's inappropriate.
I had a boss who came up behind me while I was testing a machine. He needed to speak to me and to acknowledge him, I said "yes dear". His reply was "Dear?" I asked if he preferred that or what do you need? He preferred dear.
Then they are offened because you ignore them. Some people you just can't win with. If I'm going to lose, I choose to lose on my own terms not by forced speech or actions dictated by someone else. They don't have to like it just like I don't like being told what to say.
Conservative British male here. I would find someone saying "Dear" very patronising in a professional setting. Similar to a man calling me "buddy" in a work environment
He was condescending. He was using the term sarcastically not as a term of endearment. It would be like arguing with an elder gentleman and calling him Grandpa in the middle of it .
Please look into why in England Joe Rogan is being censored? I’ve tried to look at his new post and it just spins and goes to private?? Are we being censored? Help!
And women do that and far more passive aggressive stuff all the time on these shows. Only difference is the men don't throw a fit. Total double standard.
Oh dear, they are so touchy.
Pathetic!
Yes, sweetie, they are
@@Lacey13-i3b go make me a 🥪.
@@Lacey13-i3bOh honey...let's just refer to her as "toots"
From now on,
everybody should adress Abby Phillips as DEAR ABBY!!!!
That used to be a weekly column in the Newspapers.😊
No, it should be Abby, my dear.
You win! Best comment of the day!
Excellent post. Dear Abby is perfect. Abby, my dear, is great also.
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When you are looking for any reason to be offended... you'll find one.
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guys im on youre side bu this was more about tone of voice
Yeah, I agree this isn’t misogynist as much as it is patronizing and it’s definitely about the tone usually agree with these guys as commentators but on this, I think they’re missing the point.
@@AndrewRatliff-p6r patronizing??? On this panel every night everyone is using smart-aleck tones with the opposing side. People even result to rolling their eyes while someone is stating a position. You are missing the point. Rules for thee but not for me. Gender and race cards have been overplayed.
You have the best answer of all..... thank-you for the common sense.
Tom with thee PERFECT answer to PBD's question! 👏🏼
Imagine the outrage if he called her Ma'am
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@@1rtt1 imagine if he had been debating a man and said “boy” there instead. Not saying there’d be “outrage” but I am saying it makes it much easier to understand their point. Using diminutive nicknames for your colleagues in a debate sounds unprofessional and is completely unnecessary. Lets all be level-headed enough to acknowledge that this ONE time the liberal crybabies actually have a point
If Kamala won, we'd have another 1 to be able to use Ma'am or Sir.
@@Tati_257 Big difference saying "Boy" and "dear".
😂 now that’s offensive!
It’s not sexist, just makes me feel old…
They can call people fascists and Nazis but don’t call women dear
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Oh dear!
Hahaha, great!
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She is the new Joy Reid.
As a trini myself, you all had me in stitches
This is just like the term, "Bless your heart." It has multiple meanings. I've heard men say dear in an endearing manner as well as a condescending manner.
Yes and he was being condescending here with that tone
Yes he was being condescending,
@@HarmlessComment
So?
Are you so weak minded you can't handle condescension?
Respond back.
Or don't respond. And add a mental note: "This person is an idiot. Let's handle him/her differently from now on". Case closed.
Stop being a greenhouse frail flower and engage people. Calmly but firmly. Don't regulate what they say (unless they're making threats or false accusations).
What's the problem with someone who has an opposing point of view being condescending in a debate?
@@HarmlessComment ok. And? So what? They call us nazis on a daily basis. This is nothing
Stop it!!! FFS, calling a woman Dear is NOT misogyny!!! FOH
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To be fair it was the way he used it , all the same women are painfull at times
Not sexist at all. But it is demeaning like calling someone boy
Not misogyny....I have had more women call me dear, honey, or sweetheart than any men have....
Ok dear
Dear Jeanna and Jeanna Dear are 2 different things.
Oooo great simple way to explain it
Every woman (and man) knows when "dear" is being used condescendingly...and it usually follows your 1st name, with a deliberate and evident condescending tone, when a man/person is trying to talk down to you. I'm not overly sensitive and I can clearly hear it in his voice when he addresses her...the panel (except for Adam surprisingly)) is being deliberately disingenuous...even Tom infers that he wasn't using it "perfectly", he's too smart not to realize this..all the examples he used had "dear" preceding the name🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Thanks for the clarification, dear.
Explain.
When we were kids in trouble my mom always called us dear with her teeth gnashed, as if we were supposed to be her sweet little boys but we were not acting the part. It can be diminutive calling someone dear. Abby is a cute woman not acting the part.
It ain't misogyny. It can just be perceived as patronizing. Using a nice word in a not nice way.
Yup, it can be patronizing but its not offensive, and i can call her dear anytime i want 🤣😅😂
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When you're in a face-to-face debate, referring to the person with whom you are debating as "dear" is dismissive and condescending. It is MEANT to be dismissive and condescending and Men know that. And the fact that they're pretending in this video that it's not is offensive
@@FlyOverZone Have you ever watched that particular CNN show more than once? Condescension is abundant no matter the political party affiliation, and no matter if it's a regular or infrequent guest. The moderator engages in the same condescending tones. To point out condescension is silly. Water is wet. There is this one regular guest that on multiple occasions has raised her finger near someone's face while being loud, while making her point and the moderator has never checked her. Those "rules" are only for the conservative men who appear.
That's because oh girl be in her feelings 24/7.
He meant it in a condescending way but they do the same when they say “OKAY SIR”
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Donna Brazille calls men "baby" all the time. No CNN feminist meltdown. Hypocrisy does not discriminate.
exactly.........that is sexism against men also.............she needs to be called out.
I love this! “That right, Baby” is the perfect response. Fixes everything
Offended by everything, apologies for nothing.
Yes, very true, sweet cheeks
I can’t believe this, but Adam actually explained the situation better than everyone else FOR ONCE
Yes he did there is a first time for everything but at the end it kinda looked like he was taking the woman’s side which he does alot
That's because he got a PhD in Karening 😂 and toxic feminism 🎉🎉🎉 it's he's area of expertise ❤
Dear Lord
Great!!!
I’m conservative, a lawyer, mother and never offended but he was being condescending calling her dear. They were not friends. They were on a show. The dear is patronizing. Abbey is way off though.
Congratulations for being soft
Dear is not offense no matter what the r how u spin it dear is a word of endearment a positive words u don’t like the tone but that word can never be negative people trying to change meaning of words
@ not appropriate for a work situation. It’s a bit demeaning. Endearment doesn’t belong on a show where the media people are taking contrary views. She could have just said ‘you are mistaken sweetie. Then what? Makes the show a bit weird no?😂
@@skywriter9359 You mean just like when female anchors or interviewers say "Okay Sirr" in an obviously condescending tone? Only difference is, the men don't freak out over it.
@ didn’t notice that… but I’m clearly not convincing you… happy thanksgiving!
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It's the "MAFAia"!
Respectfully, dear in the context he used it is condescending. If she had called him sweetheart in the midst of this discussion, it would be equally inappropriate. Love your show. 😊
Agreed. He put a lot of emphasis on that "dear" 😂 this panel is way to agreeable lately.
Agreed. PBD ends the clip with, “refer to me as Pat or Patrick.” Love these guys and typically agree with them. In general, they are correct with “dear”. Not in this circumstance.
Women do passive aggressive stuff like this all the time and men don't bat an eye. That's the difference 😂.
women also address other women or even men and especially children as “dear” during conversation. It’s not a man thing - it may be used in a slightly condescending manner, but it’s not necessarily a man vs woman thing. Thoughts?
@payfernchew5565 the tone he used when he said "dear" is the tone a woman would use when being condescending too. I was in a meeting once where a male coworker called another male coworker "son" and it did not go well. I hear old men use "son" in an endearing way all the time, but here just like the word "dear" it was used to demean
I was raised by my Irish grandparents, and I call every woman “dear.”
LOL I call everyone honey. lol I ended a call with my boss once saying bye honey. He called me back saying did you just call me honey? lol I was laughing hoping he didn't notice. I said Yes, I'm sorry, I call everyone honey. He laughed and said so do I. He then said by honey and hung up. lol
@@frotobaggins7169 now that is nice, isn't it?
This is a professional setting. It was inappropriate.
Oh are you saying you grew up in a middle class family
So. I guarantee you without a shred of hesitation that if you pulled that out in my weekly staff meeting the entire meeting would immediately go completely sideways if you addressed a peer or any female in the work setting as "Dear." The term is condescending and dismissive, especially if the discussion is charged - it is openly a low key dis. A different thing completely in a non work setting or if informally used in conversing with family or friends.
A man calling a woman Dear in this context is just as annoying/patronizing as a woman calling a man Love in the same context.
These dear women were triggered by the truth. Pretending to be offended by the word "dear" is just a reaction to the hard core truth this dear man is expressing.
This is the exact reason NONE of these ppl need to come to Tennessee EVER! We are all misogynistic here.
Ohhh dear!😱❤️🥰🤣🤣🤣
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Same for Texas.
I got read the riot act in Chicago for calling a convenience store cashier "ma'am" back in 2008.
@@SugerCreek You should never address a man like that!
@@thethrillofpattaya8404 That video will never get old 😂😂😂
I don't consider it misogyny, but dear can be condescending depending on context and tone. At the very least I could see how she could see it as dismissive in this particular discussion.
Then it becomes slippery slope any words can be offensive in that way. Ppl need to be less sensitive about words n focus more on actions
@hs-fu6qt True, but if you think about it many words can be offensive depending on how and why they are said. So "dear" can be sweet if said in a fond way or dismissive if said in a patronizing way. I wouldn't call it a slippery slope, it's normal communication.
You're definitely right about people being too thin skinned though!
Last time I checked I was a woman and being referred to as "dear" is in no way sexist...In Australia,its really only Indian born men who say it at all and they say it to all age females..boohoo,keep looking for things to be offended by...this ain't it🇦🇺❤️🇺🇸
Men only do that in conversations where they are trying to exert dominance. Don't be ignorant. OR a "pick me"
In the workspace, it is considered dimunitive. It marks power boundaries.
@@T.L.Turner what's wrong with people like you? It's always the same old comment about how the other person is thirsty blah blah blah,when it looks to me like you are the thirsty one in need of attention. It's pathetic actually,but ,go your hardest 😘
@@afrangipani2786 Indian men use the term "dear" in every aspect of life..older Australian men use it in a completely non offensive way, generally...
@@T.L.Turner "Pick me" can mean neurodivergent female. Sometimes with neurodivergent females, their special interests are -thing- focused, not -people- focused. Males are generally thing focused. Such as video games, tech, systems thinking, special interests with hyper-focus, dark sense of humor as coping etc... Sometimes a "pick me" is just an autistic or ADHD chick (or au-DHD), who is very likely on the asexual spectrum and has no interest or attraction to people. The struggle of the neurodiverse gal; so many females have hated me for being a nerd that it is insanity. If your husband is in my Dungeons and Dragons table top role playing game, I can promise you I don't find him attractive and the thought of sex is disgusting lol. Plus I have a deep seeded hatred of homewreckers. Now, a homewrecker, that is what it is. And I think every woman with their head screwed on straight knows what to do with them. Heat up the hot-poker and close the hole indefinitely :D Ladies need to band together over that and stop it.
Praise God for His Grace and Mercies ❤
Victimhood mentality!!!
Not really. The same way they don’t sit at that debate table and call their male colleagues “boy” they shouldnt call the women “dear.” It’s just not good decorum in that setting. In a friendly setting it’s totallyyy fine.
Spare the decorum argument. Anyone who has seen that show 3 or more times knows that the moderator never checks the unreasonable outbursts from the people that she favors. On CNN and MSNBC, guests get called racist for disagreeing on a point even when the topic is unrelated to race.
@Tati_257, are you serious??
@@Tati_257 He didn't call her the B word or "girl" lmao. Terrible comparison. It would be more akin to her calling him sweetheart or honey in a condescending manner. And women do stuff like that ALL the time. Only difference is that men don't freak out over it.
No sweet cheeks, it was used deliberately to diminish her. You know it, and I know it.
She should have replied, “Sure Babe!” 😂😂😂
Or "Whatever,Babe." and turned her head away from him.
@Ldog404 Men would take that as..... Hey you want to give me a BJ at lunch?
I have always addressed women by dear. I’ve never received any negative feedback from women for addressing with dear. Wow this is getting ridiculous
Obviously you're not hanging around with the right type of people 😉
The women these days are pathetic
Evidently you dont associate with liberal women and I dont blame you.
Because there is nothing wrong with addressing someone with dear. Years back people used to address their letters with ‘Dear sir or madam’. It’s an old term that was simply more friendly to address someone, or even a subject matter with. Nothing wrong with it.
It’s like honey, sweetie. Just because no one said anything doesn’t mean they don’t think you’re a dbag. It also make women think you’re a mark. Lacks self control and self awareness. Foolishly driven by women, will easily be manipulated. And because the women feel disrespected they don’t care to use you and burn you. It’s really not smart to speak to random women like that
I actually disagree on this one, he was being condescending. Women do this to me when they are trying to dismiss what I'm saying by saying stuff like "sweetheart" or "honey" and they never referred to me as that before. It's the timing of it and tone because they are trying to flex dominance over the dialog.
Okay dear lol
@@hs-fu6qt it was on the way he said it, not the word itself.
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Even kids do it when they're being scolded or disciplined, they'll say "ok, DAD" or something like "yes, MOTHER" with a certain tone as a rebellion. You know what I mean too...
Agree. I was thinking the same. It is not so much about the word itself but the condescending dismissive tone of it
It was the tone!
Like when my husband calls me "Honey!" LOL
There was nothing wrong with the tone given that it's a debate.
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I believe I agree with Adam's take. The tone of the "dear" might have been a bit condescending....... a bit, but they took it to another level with the "don't call a woman "dead" at my table..."
Since when was condescension a line to be crossed in debates? It's not an overt attack. At best it is patronising.
exactly my thoughts.
he's not a sailor you know....
This is one of the rare times I actually agree with Adam.
They want to run the world but can't handle words smh.
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It is about the tone, but also that if he is not a "friend" of hers.
You can’t reason with unreasonable people
Or cnn . For there most of the anchors are unintelligent or like to pick a fight.
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This was a fantastic and funny interview. You can see that they are enjoying themselves
Nothing wrong whit what the man said.
I agree with Adam. It’s all about the tone. I don’t mind being called dear, but the intonation in this case came across as demeaning. It had emphasis
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Who are these crazy women who act so frail over being called dear--misogyny-REALLY GET OVER YOURSELF.
I see the man’s frustration at yet another host/ guest with no facts, ignoring the las and spewing nonsense. If there was no proof to charge him then there is no crime.
She wants to control the narrative and yet act as if she’s important!
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It's like I would do to a young lady my daughters age.It's is very respectful.
Calling a grown woman "dear" during a heated or contensious conversation is condensending. And I am by no means a feminist or wokie.
I agree
Agreed. Context matters.
Except that there was no heated, contentious argument; it was a civil conversation. I agree about context or tone. Society should be able to have civil disagreements without getting offended.
Yep, that would bug me, too.
Yeah I agree
I'm from Trinidad in the Caribbean and no we dont take offence with this. And not Armenian. Thank you Adam for shouting out the Trini friends
Please come retrieve Abby even though she was technically born here
Oh Dear
It’s how it’s said. I’ve been called dear in an affectionate way and in a patronising way too. Always about the way the way we say it.
She is right! Nothing wrong with saying Dear but Wrong place to say it
The "D" word! 🤦
The lightest of slights.
Used that way “Dear” could be considered condescending, but would apply to both sexes. A female could say the same thing to a male in the same way.
"Please do not address a grown woman as dear"
"OK Whore"
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Who else would you address as dear though if not a grown woman? Makes no sense lol
LMAO. good one
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Dear shows endearment. Total Respect. She sounded stupid.
It's actually in the word.
Oh Dear😂
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BS! Its condescending! Its a way to talk down to a woman when in a professional setting. At home, it's fine.He didn't call a man "dear". Yeah... its a no in the professional world.
The way he said it was at least patronizing and condescending. But she was also trying very hard to get offended Andrew's head like she has moral superiority. Bulshit can go both ways
That’s crazy
This is just not good, the way the world is going.smh
Blame women, men are not in any contributing to this stuff.
It was used in a condescending manner, in disrespect.
Patronizing sure. Condescending? "dear" is not condescending. Disrespect? Calling someone "dear" is disrespectful.
@@VicecrackVoldermort sometimes it is, sometimes it isn’t. The man in the clip was being condescending. He was trying to win a point by trying to make her seem small and inconsequential by demeaning her. Made him look bad instead.
No it was not, it was used in a manner that corrected the blatantly obvious legal reality. She was wrong. More than wrong she was attempting to be misleading.
@@LeslieRobertson-m4inah he made his point watch the video banning a man because he said fear is wild women on cnn do far more condescending things no one cares but oh call a women dear and he’ll brakes lose wild
@@glassinithank you only people focus on the dear part not the argument itself
I would responded “ Ok Honey” so ridiculously petty.
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It's the way he said it. Let's be honest he did Accentuate, dear..
Exactly what I was thinking. The delivery & tone is everything
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In this context (CNN video) the gent had a tone that was condescending.
Its like a guy saying to a guy OK ...Dude.
Simply say OK.
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Ok.. darling
I love being called names!
I agree with your lady friend! I am tough to offend and not sensitive. But I heard tone in the clip you played. I would’ve called that guy a diminutive pet name right back! Context and tone are everything. The vast majority of the time it is charming.
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Smh women
Do not refer to a grown woman as dear. This is why we keep losing respect for these people daily
"Dear" is not sexist, but it is patronizing.
Massaging lol something like that
Dear is literally a term of endearment, it shows people you like them. It's not patronizing at all. There are a million things that are nice that you could say in a patronizing way. I know people who will call you Mr. Smith or whatever but it's not said with respect it's said with contempt. I used to call a woman I worked with Miss Smith but used her real name and she always thought I said it with respect but I was actually making fun of her because she thought she was special.
@ no it’s not a term of endearment
@ you are wrong
Exactly. 💯 In an argument or debate it’s equivalent to calling a man “boy” or “son” and is patronizing. In a friendly setting, like an older man saying “thanks dear” to a waitress or something, it’s totally fine.
I wouldn’t like someone calling me dear in the context of an argument . This can come from a man or a woman, it doesn’t matter. A simple ma’am would’ve been fine. He was being passive aggressive and condescending. Let’s not mansplain because the man wouldn’t call another man dear during an argument/debate.
I don't know about misogyny but it's definitely patronizing the way he said it. I wouldn't want anyone calling me 'dear' that I have no relationship with, when they are pointing out that I am wrong.
He said it as 99.9% of men say it...I am a woman and I suggest you develop a thicker skin, a sense of humor, and stop demanding special treatment if Iyou want repect.
He said it as 99.9% of men say it...I am a woman and I suggest you develop a thicker skin, a sense of humor, and stop demanding special treatment if Iyou want repect.
I agree that it was patronizing, but the response was unhinged. CNN is know for elevated discourse and his response was to her was tame compared to the crazy CNN airs.
Even if he was. Take and keep moving on
Girls do this 24/7 to men in arguments
But when we CALL YALL OUT . Yall lie say “no i was t”
Thats why the girls were so quick to attack him
@@Juliet475lmao you say that right now but if you were in an argument/debate with a man you didn’t like and he called you that to purposely be condescending toward you I guaran-fu**ing-tee you wouldnt like it. 🙄
Using terms of endearment like buddy,dear,sweetie, pal to a stranger, or acquaintance during an argument can be viewed as condescending. Its like a passive-aggressive way to gain dominance
that is true. But those lefty women on CNN etc are too snobby idiots.
Ur high demanding an apology and saying never use that langue again is way more passive aggressive and controlling
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Dear fellows, why are we still giving this people any of our time?????
It was condescending he would not have said that to a man that way.
I agree it was meant to be condescending but if he was talking to a man it would have been like bud, chief or boy.
"it's a charge guy"
Of course he would of said same to a man, except he might of used a different word. It’s not the word “dear’ that made it sound condescending, but the way he said it may have sounded like it. Replace the word dear with any other word n it would of sounded the same. There is nothing wrong with saying dear to someone.
He was using it improperly.
It’s a word I use a lot when addressing woman. I am very careful about who and how. I use sweetheart, hon and girl friend also. I also get it back from them in return. I live in the south tho and it is more common and excepted down here. I have been told many times by various people men and women alike that you can’t say those words other than to a spouse. I have been called out before, but I kindly remind them it comes from a place of respect and friendship and remind them this is the south. I am not going to change the way I talk, I mean no ill will. Just let me know and I will respect your wishes. But be nice about it.
@@brando8086 I’m not your guy, buddy.
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“Dear” is not sexist, but on a news outlet it’s unprofessional and patronizing. He’s using it as a put down.
And I loved every second of it. She as spouting off bs and he checked her 😂
Like how it’s unprofessional to call maga nazi’s? Cnn is a joke and being offended over dear is the least of their worries
100 percent. He used it to diminish her.
@Lacey13-i3b lol. They call us nazis on a daily basis. Dear is nothing HONEY
They not only want to control what you say but how you say it.
They’re lives are doing a 360°.
They are lives are doing a 360? 🤔
I don't like being called dear, because it makes me think of an old lady. But I wouldn't be offended 🤣
I'm sorry dear
I don't like being called "dear", "sweetie" etc. I'm a 62 year old female military veteran who has run crews of 100+ men, and those diminutives are like a verbal pat on the head, something you say to a 93 year old or a 3 year old, or someone you know we'll. Dear as a salutation is a totally different situation.
I'm sixty-three years old, and I don't like being called honey, sweetie, dear, or any other term of endearment, especially in a professional environment period. It's inappropriate.
I felt this use of dear was condescending in this instance
agreeed but I don't think they needed to flip out.
And women do this and far more passive aggressive stuff regularly. Only difference is men don't freak out over it 😂.
I had a boss who came up behind me while I was testing a machine. He needed to speak to me and to acknowledge him, I said "yes dear". His reply was "Dear?" I asked if he preferred that or what do you need? He preferred dear.
They've lost their minds! They have no idea what they want. Just ignore them and boycott everything and anything they do.
Then they are offened because you ignore them. Some people you just can't win with. If I'm going to lose, I choose to lose on my own terms not by forced speech or actions dictated by someone else. They don't have to like it just like I don't like being told what to say.
She's easily triggered. I have seen her jump swamps at so many occasions. A host can't be so minor like that. She need-helps.
He was being condescending. Geezus you will never get it. How about her saying “listen to what I said “pumpkin”.
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Call me whatever. Wouldn't bother me. I can throw it right back at you. Sticks and stones right DEAR?
I really really don't like to be called dear
I takemam'm , lady, etc. But dear? I can't handle it 😮😅
Conservative British male here. I would find someone saying "Dear" very patronising in a professional setting. Similar to a man calling me "buddy" in a work environment
Completely agreed. In this context it was patronizing
We aren't that sensitive in the United States.
Buddy is a normal thing to say in blue collared work (trades etc) is it only offensive in pencil pushing jobs?
It was so obviously patronising
AGREE!!
Is it also like dear " friend"? It's an ok response. It's also adding a friendly n kind feeling. 😊
I call every one dear
Calling somebody "Dear" is not sexist. This is just another way for women to feel as if they got somebody told.
He was condescending. He was using the term sarcastically not as a term of endearment.
It would be like arguing with an elder gentleman and calling him Grandpa in the middle of it .
perhaps but she is a grown woman. being triggered and not coming to her sense in this situation was childish.
He should have called her "honey"......Lol 😅😂
It definitely seemed condescending but not sexist. It's more diminutive than anything.
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Y'all are putting people in jail for memes!
He meant it to be demeaning. What if during an online debate she called him 'hon'? That would be unacceptable also.
And women do that and far more passive aggressive stuff all the time on these shows. Only difference is the men don't throw a fit. Total double standard.
I disagree, the inflection in his voice was disrespectful
It was condescending. Im 50 and saying that to a woman was always considered disrespectful.
That’s like saying “honey” … it’s most definitely condescending being used like that