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- Опубликовано: 18 сен 2024
- Bishop Irenei of London & Western Europe (ROCOR)
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First, and here to say "All glory to our Only Living Eternal Powerul God and His Only Son, our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ ❤"
And may Him bless everyone who is watching this video and everyone who was envolved in this video 🙌
Amen and Amen 🙏🏻
In Jesus name.
This video feels custom-made for me. 😢 I'm mid 20s yet feel stunted (and don't feel or look my age at all). I had a limited anxious childhood, and there's so much God blessed me with but I'm a nervous mess, really. So much I need to try, potential to unlock still, after a very rough but blessed year. Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on us to actually make the most of our life without anxiety and take our paths
Edit: also I'm autistic
Based anime pfp❤
@@colfury100thank you, it's erufuda, overdue for a change I was lazy haha
@@seronymus I recognized the manga, always good to find other orthos into anime 🫡
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@@colfury100 God bless you col, feel free to add me as a friend somewhere if you want (and I'm honored by PatristicNectar for the prayer too!)
Went to my first vespers service tonight. God bless!
Me too
Congrats, thank God! I started by going to Vespers and was baptized recently, after about a year and a half as a catechumen!
Thanks you Father ☦️❤️
❤Thank you dear Father!
Thank you, your grace. ☦️🙏. Ive been shocked how right Father Trenham has been when he mentions how marriage is under attack. Ive been seeing it all around me and its affecting the way of dating anyone in the west.
Could not have come at a better time, thanks be to God!
19 year old guy here. Dating is hard for my generation, especially if you are one who wants to live the devout Christian life of asceticism and faith. The world deems the avoidance of carnal pleasures and desires (partying, hooking up, gossiping, drinking, etc) as boring. So finding a woman my age who questions this secular paradigm at the very least is seemingly impossible.
I am 42. Believe me, they are there, despite the state of so many secular young women mired in degeneracy. Many young women nowadays want to leave that life, but never do because they simply don’t know how. They don’t know where to start. It is more of a subconscious thing, but their heart longs for a good man to whom they can join themselves.
My wife and I both were worldly and debauched when first we met. When I found Christ and joined the Church, she followed me into it with open arms. My wife suffers from cancer and other ailments, so perhaps my example is not as relatable for most, but one thing I can promise you younger lads is this; you need to make that first move, in prayer and humility, and the Lord WILL lead the right woman to you. Many of those completely lost and fallen women we see are in pain. Frustrating as they can be, angering as the situation is, not all of them wish to remain stuck in that demonic lifestyle. They just see no way out.
But the first step is not falling into despair over the way everything is right now. Women are kind of like children in that sense, they are not influenced by what you tell them, they are moved by what they see.
I also thought normal women are quite rare and hidden, but it isnt the case. You simply need to change the circles where you move. Stumbling upon one good community can change everything.
For me it definitely did. This summer i was lead into an absolutely wonderful community gathered around conserving the ruins of a 17.c franciscan monastery of st. Catherine (Thank God for her!). It has been alive for the last 30years, not far from where i live (50km). Things are often right under our noses. But without God in heart we wont see.There are plenty of people really serious with following God and traditional values and many couples have met each other there. Maybe I have also already met with the One... pray for me that my heart is sincere! Though we joke that it isnt supposed to be a dating community, which is to say you shouldnt come into a community with that particularly in mind. But with the intention of sincerely meeting people, heart open to friendships and work. Then marriages often naturally come out of that.
And also if you look at it from the bright side: it is only ONE person we need to meet :D
Amd iam starting to suspect that there is so much more sincere christians out there and not only that but also secular people who actually yearn for God and real values but dont have the space where it will manifest. Sometimes maybe we are not to simply find a person who shares Godly values but whom God wants us to bring to Him through marriage.
Try to shift your perspective to opening up to that there are many good women who also yearn for true marriage and growth.
Really we only need to meet one and trust that God is guiding us towards each other.
I believe it can happen even through a random encounter on a train if our heart is open to people in general. But we cant look through the attitude of 'i am looking for a wife' that way we block ourselves to actually seeing her. Be curious, generous and interested in all the people you encounter - brothers and sisters alike and this way you will sooner or later embed yourself in a community and intimate relationships are bound to naturally flow out of that.
Trust that God actually has someone prepared for you and you for them!
May He bless all your relations!
I’m in my sixties and married for 37 years. The same issues always existed , ok maybe now more nuts but I was thinking back then that I would never find someone who’s not controlling or jealous or abusive. There was a monk visiting our churches in my city and when I went to confession he told me that I will have to pray that God shows me the right person for me. I did pray sincerely, I met someone through my dear cousin, there was a clique but things didn’t continue because I was still in high school. Well five years later we met at my cousin’s wedding and courting started. In six months, we decide that we are meant for each other snd we married in the dead winter , snow storm and all! We truly were meant for each other. We communicate, we respect each other and have the best intentions for each other. We’ve had MANY difficulties come our way but once we placed God first then many blessings came our way. On God’s timing✝️✝️✝️. Don’t be discouraged, pray and trust God. He also wants the best for you. You are His creation. Don’t rush, don’t idle talk. Be silent and your soul will hear His response. God bless you. ❤️✝️
Perfect timing, Vladika. I am guilty of this. Thank you to Vladika Irenei and Patristic Nectar for this production.
Thank you for the word of encouragement, your Grace.
I spent 40 years procrastinating !! On everyrhing in life😬. Now I can't imagine how the teenagers will even be able to get off the ground in the economic tyranny we find ourselves in
This was a great video. I am Catholic, but I do love this channel. God bless all of you.
God really spoke to through this video, very edifying. Thanks your Grace
Thank you Father!
Blessed Vladika. Me and my Wife met when I was 17 years old. Being a child of the 80's we are outliers in this regard. We were not within the faith (I had lost mine) but the cornerstone who is Christ and some fundamentals simply could not be rubbed out and guided us.
Life was rough many times, we struggled but today I am Orthodox and I am blessed with my fourth child of just 1 year and I would not ever change a thing.
I am so greatful to God for everything and even though new struggles happen I doubt less, I push forward more and I leave more in Gods hands than mine own.
I loved this video, very needed. Thank you Father!
I loved this, too. Very timely and needful. Thank you, Father Irenei.
Thank you for this, Your Grace! God bless
So wise words,thank you Father ,we need this reminder
Very well said your Grace.
Amen. Bless you, Father. This message has been helpful. 🙏
GOD BLESS!
I wish your message hit me about 20 years ago, Father. Well said.
Thank you very much father for this very much needed message for our times and also for me! I propably havent heard the word "together" spoken in such a beautiful way so many times in a row :) Your words have a strong effect! God keep you in His Grace!
what a beautiful and powerful contemplation. thank you so much for sharing these words with us Father 🙏🏻
In Jesus name, amen
Same here. Thinking much too much instead of trying all these ideas out. Depends on the past, psyche etc.
It's tough to find a godly man nowadays who accepts you and wants to marry.
Repentance cant be in the past its unreliable to be in the future, repentance is now. Thank you for this
Act boldly and with faith, without waiting for the perfect moment. Don’t delay - God will bless your steps if you genuinely seek spiritual growth and service.
Thank you for this video xx 🤗❤️
I am extremely guilty of this, I look back on my life and it seems that most of it was wasted in this.
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Are marriage or the monastery the only options in Orthodoxy? I’m beginning to believe that it is, so where does that leave the enormous numbers who aren’t suited for either path? This is very concerning for me at this point in my life.
What do you propose as the alternative?
No. There’s always the single life…if that’s what God is giving you.
This video was made exactly for you. Marriage or monasticism, be good! A father of a household would make a good monk and a good monk would make a good father of a household.
Don’t be discouraged.
@@a_ChildOfChrist I believe that is exactly the question that he was asking; what is the alternative?
Same here brother
Master bless. A study I recall from school showed that 50 percent of divorces were of couples less than 25 years old, at least in the USA. This led me to believe that people were marrying too soon. I am new to Orthodoxy, so am unsure of divorce rate within her. Does it bear out to marry earlier than later in the Russian Orthodox tradition? Within my own protestant life I was married at 19, definitely too soon for maturity reasons. When I heard you mention to get into marriage and figure it out together when young, I think of my case and it doesn't make sense. I think waiting until 25 or later is a good idea. Especially in light of a proverb that says to make it right in the field and then build a house. I took that to mean, prepare 1st (start a career) then when work is good, start a family. Can you elaborate briefly on some fundamental principles that should be in place, at any age, for marriage to work? Kissing your right hand. Daniel
I have a fantastic girlfriend from eastern Europe, i m an italian orthodox, we met at church she is amazing, we want to marry but i prefer to wait more because we ve just start collage.
Master Bless. Thank you for your advice in this video. If you see this, what would you say to those who feel drawn to the clergy rather than marriage or monasticism?
Bishop Irenei made a video about this topic a few months ago, titled “Should you become a priest?” 🙏
I'm in University right now. If anyone older has some advice I'd love to hear it. If I'm on the apparent path to a career in business, does that then make me someone less fit to be monastic? I have and will continue to practice asceticism by cutting myself off from things I ought not possess or engage with. However, I feel as if I really don't know whether I'll be pursuing monasticism or a married life. Is this okay? Will it begin to unfold as I become more wise and faithful? Or am I wasting time simply being indecisive? I feel I've found a good medium in denying myself worldly pleasures and belongings, but also preparing myself for a family man type of life if I would be so blessed to engage with that as I get older. Any advice would help me so much. God bless
This is going to be chaotic because I'm just spewing thoughts, but hopefully something will be useful to you.
Understanding does not come to us freely. We have to go out and seek it. I often hear people say they lacked understanding in their youth, but I think this is a mischaracterization. I understood much when I was younger, but I understand things *differently* as I gain knowledge and experience. Age has nothing to do with it; unless we use the extra years to seek out wisdom, knowledge, experience, etc. Experience is the best teacher we will ever have. Even God became man so that He could experience.
My advice to anyone who is young enough and not bound to a spouse or family is to GAIN EXPERIENCE. Good or bad doesn't matter. Pleasant or unpleasant doesn't matter. Most things in life only last a short while; and none of it lasts forever (life is a temporary state of being). Trying to decide what you'll enjoy doing is a silly guessing game - you may end up hating the thing that sounded thrilling. And happiness is never guaranteed to us. Life is not about being happy. You have to decide what life is about. Only you know what makes life worthwhile to you. So, it's smarter to ask what will give you the most experience or the most useful experience. Only you know what type of experience is useful to you. The most interesting and balanced people I've met have all had many, many bad experiences. Sometimes due to other people and sometimes due to poor choices.
If you cannot experience something first hand, speak with someone who has. If you cannot speak with someone, read about it. But not online. Get a book. It's different. Reading a book is, in itself, an experience.
Listen to everyone, even if they are loud and stupid. You always learn something when you listen, even if the speaker did not intend to teach you.
Learn by living, by doing, by seeing. Experience things you cannot experience as a monastic. And experience what it is like to live a monastic life.
Speak with your priest. Tell him your struggles. Then talk to others.
Visit a monastery. Be honest about being uncertain. Even if you immediately decide that this is not the life you want to live, the experience will teach you things that you can never learn any other way.
Pray. Pray to God. Pray to your saint. Pray to the angels. Saint Xenia can help you find a spouse, job, or home. Mary Magdalen answers prayers regarding changes. The Three Heirarchs answer to prayers regarding decisions. Archangel Michael will help provide a good end to your life; so it stands to reason he could help to find a path that leads to a good end.
Above all, be bold. Dont fear mistakes. One mistake will teach you more than 15 correct choices. Don't fear starting something you'll have to back out of - everyone does this at times. You are never stuck. Never. There is *always* some way out that leads to a better path. Always. Always. Always. Doesn't matter if you've become addicted to something, chosen an unhappy career, married an abusive spouse... I'm not saying it is easy to back out of things, and backing out is definitely not something we should make a habit of doing, but when it is necessary, it is possible... so long as we don't let the bad situation kill us first. So, no worries about making the wrong choice the first time.
You are never too old for anything; not even huge life changes. Odds are good that you are smarter than you think. Your job can either be just a job, or it can be the main purpose of your life. If you choose any job outside of the church, a career is a lousy measure of a life. Your health, sanity and family should come first. That means it is just a job. Don't let it rule over you.
TL;DR gain as much experience and knowledge as possible while you are young. Be bold even in the face of fear because nothing is permanent unless you decide it is (or wait too long to pull yourself out). Pray. Ask others their thoughts and learn from them. Don't doubt yourself, even if it seems appropriate... I think that was all ha! If you read that whole thing, I sure hope it was worth the time it took.
Not helpful for deserted wives left with children. :-)
and why should it? go somewhere else
@@MiguelGonzález-k5pthat’s not cool. I’m wondering the same. I am a divorced mom with 2 teens who went through abuse so much that my priest couldn’t believe I held on so many years. Don’t tell us to go elsewhere. The church is for everyone.
@@MiguelGonzález-k5p gee what a kind christian response. so mean.
@@MiguelGonzález-k5pthis is why atheists can't take us seriously.
Garbage
Thank you Father! ☦️