Back East sistas didn't want me. Now I'm out West, Beckies all on me. But joking aside, if you aren't wanted by one group of women, chances are you'll be that much more appreciated by other groups. The world still operates on an energy of equilibrium.
Been experiencing this since I was a teenager. This topic actually caused a few of my friendships to end because you can't discuss topics like this amongst MOST black folks. Pimpology 101 dictates that a man goes where the cooperation is. Since I've generally gotten most cooperation from "others" that's where I stay.
This video was me. I was too lame/corny for BW but the WW had love for me. I wasn't looking for WW, but, they accepted me with no issues. Best of all, these were thin and attractive WW with good jobs and no kids. Unlike BW, WW have no issues buying dinner.
david grier I ran into that a lot in college. I paid them back, but I always seem to look like the enemy to BW growing up . I had no idea why. I always was treated better by youner (at the time) WW than BW. I ran no game, wasn't trying to fuck either. I would just seem to get more friendly vibes from WW growing up. The ironic thing now is that BW my age ignore me, but younger BW, are cool with me. Older BW are cool with me .Latin women are cool with me. Middle class and wealthy WW are cool with me. Foreign women ,well in general, are cool with me. I came to the conclusion to just go fishing where the fish are biting
This video spoke to my soul. Deal with this everyday. Black women call me square and all the fine asian and Latina women look at me like I'm Prince Arthur. Never understood it. Oh well.
Damn, this definitely describe me to a T in a sense. Funny thing is I have no qualms with the sistas or anything, it's just when it comes to dating them, it's a no go for me. To them, I'm cool enough to be a friend and nothing beyond that. But I've been around non-black women and they're giving me possibilities just from being myself. It's interesting.
I've learned to get in where you fit in and adapt to the situation at hand. Women of the Hispanic or Latina ethnicity find me more attractive, maybe it's because I have more of their ethical features. Black women 8 times out of 10 overlook a brotha and it's all good. I'll keep my bad Mami on my arm and keep pushing. My grandfather always to me " If Mercedes isn't trying to give you a car, BMW or Audi will have something for you". Needless to say, I have a BMW literally and figuratively. At the end of the day, date whom ever makes you happy.
I've been experiencing this since I was a teen. This is a topic that has caused a few of my college friendships to break badly because I've tried expressing this......It NEEEVER ends good amongst most black folks who've never experienced being on the "Non-select for black chicks" end of the spectrum.
I feel u on this Mr.Wills. I myself have no problem getting sisters but the White girls I attract are finer and they seem to be way more into me and pursue me harder...
A true legit goodbar don't have problems with color. Females just love them. It's has nothing to do with your color but more with your aura and that vibe you give to them. If every type of women form every race find you attractive than you are a legit goodbar with a lot of possibilities. I heard this multiple times. Normally i don't date black guys or do something with them but with you i don't see even you're color because you're different. You see it's your aura and that vibe you give too them.
Sniper 11 N.D., I do agree that some men have an X-Factor that sets them apart from others of their sort, but I would be very skeptical of anyone who claims to "not see color" in a person. And a woman who gives the "normally I don't date Black guys, but you're special" line should not be taken seriously. She has probably said something similar to a hundred other Black men with the physical attributes that she favors.
Story of my life . This is why it’s important to find your tribe. And to be honest, I have gone from being select to non-select depending on my location many times . I’ve even experienced this overseas. I had mostly good reception overseas, but in some places I was treated like the non-select just because my look wasn’t what most women were checking for there and in other countries, I was treated like a 9 out of 10 and had great sex with attractive women easily . This is why body game is so important because it helps you get straight to the point with the Women who are into you and not . I remember I wasn’t getting that much play in 🇩🇪 a little here and there, so I decided to go to Bosnia Herzegovina 🇧🇦 and I went from getting a little play here and there, too getting sex offers every other day . This select and non-select thing is a science that I’m constantly studying
Rom! Bro i fit this prototype. But the thing is how do i switch to sisters instead? I would like to keep thing's in house but i always get the attention from outside of it.
That’s my life unfortunately… Been around international schools and high profile tech communities. Still attractive/very attractive women When I go back to black communities it has to be the higher class. In the hood they just like by body/beard but we don’t really match/ vibe mentally Very difficult.
When I moved to Texas from the dmv area that’s where i really got love from black women white and Hispanic in the dmv area i got my fair share but I get way more positive receptiveness in Texas
This video must've been made about me lol. BW find me lame, white-washed, Oreo, say I "talk white", etc, but Asians, WW, and most of all Latinas be choosing me hard. Had several BW tell me I look like I don't deal with BW
This was and still is Me; but you begin to shine to a degree where the sisters begin noticing. I'm a Brotha who skateboards and had a Bangin' sister popping at Me the other day while I was out riding My board. She was Bangin' too! She kept complimenting Me; and I knew what time it was, but I was chillin' and kept telling her I appreciate it and chopped it up with her for a bit. My focus was rippin' on My board though; I figured I might see her again, if not that's cool too.
Had a teammate like this in College. We called him Bo Finger like the Eddy Murphy character. He proceeded to step away from football to focus on track, and only concentrated on the White Girls who loved him. He put up the most "numbers" as anyone on campus. He was easily the goofiest young adult Black Man I've met, and had horrible style, but he was over 6ft and shredded like a dark skinned Alpha Show Piece. I get it now. In hindsight, I'd focus on my body and girls checking for me like he did if I could redo it again.
Ive been the envy of many past friends because I could get women of every race. 6"2 Red Nigga with hazel eyes. What I noticed is that very rarely did the hottest black women want me in youth before they had kids simply because I wasnt "ballin" enough black enough or w/e, however I could get 7-8+ white/spanish/asian women all my life. I have gotten hate from black women for it but the ones Ive been with (usually the smarty ones) simply came to to realization that I just dont discriminate.
You’re speaking my truth, they don’t want you but if you are with another beautiful woman of another race your a sellout. Lol crazy, why are they so involved in your life? Love , Love , Love me some beautiful black some but they don’t want me . I get in where I fit in
happen to me within the black community I was labeled "thrifty" because I had financial sense at a young age...didn't want to put thousand of dollars into a used vehicle...rims/sound system and such....white girl pursued me and haven't looked back since...now we're married with kids and have a big ol house...my black friends divorce...multiple kids from different fathers/mothers...dead end jobs...I red pill at a early age to show how slanted this country is and you have to fight for every inch..
This video is very special to me. Everything you said in this video reflects my dealings with women with 100% accuracy. It's unbelievably accurate. I'm glad you made this video and after reading through its comments, it's good to know that I'm not the only one who has this experience. It is definitely a strange dynamic. I'm 30, I'll be 31 next month. I have spent many years trying to understand why I am loved, adored, and in some cases, even worshipped by non-black women. However, when it comes to black women, I am the most repulsive, repugnant guy there is. I have been with a few hundred women in my lifetime, and 90% of my conquests were solid 8s, 9s, and 10s as you described. I have tried to figure out why for many years. What is it that makes me so unattractive to black women? Is it a lexical thing? Maybe my diction is a pussy dryer to black women. ...which is ironic, because non-black women (the ones I've dated/banged) find it sexy. Many black women would automatically consider me "whitewashed" or an "oreo" when I speak. I always rebuttal with: "I didn't know the ability to speak articulately belonged exclusively to white people." Could it be my height/weight/build? I'm 5'6, competitive bodybuilder. Who knows? I've only dated/fallen in love with one black woman in my life. ...and she ghosted me for a drug dealer. This was back when I used to work for the Feds in Washington, D.C. It seems that black women collectively have a different measuring stick for men compared to other races/ethnicities of women. I know that many different women could all have different measuring sticks, but it just seems more evident when I compare black women to non-black women with regards to black men. Here's a funny/ironic bit: Men whom black women consider to be "Select" or "Mr. Goodbar" are typically rejected by the non-black women I pull. I still love black women, though. No harm, no foul. No hard feelings. I'm not their cup of tea and they aren't mine. Zero. Fucks. Given. I love being Mr. IR Goodbar.
Brotha you spoke some serious truths. The reality that I'm seeing more and more is American Black women do have a different measuring stick than other women. That's the nature of the issue. It's something I'm still looking at.
I remember about 2014, this older brother, (I'm 34) asked me about my girlfriend while she went into the fitting room, in JC Penney. He mentioned that he had wanted to date one himself, but couldn't get them to appeal to him. I didn't really have an answer, other than, "I was being myself." The weird thing is, when I was much younger, like many guys, sistas didn't quite tap into my magic. There were a few, but I ultimately found success with white and Mexican girls, even though, I'll never reject a girl of any colour. Now it seems like the black babes are all butthurt because guys have went onto social media and started bashing them. That's karma, I suppose.
Chinese Women love my height I'm usually taller then their Male counter parts i even started working out again to gain some muscle I've had non Black Women literally flirting with me right in front their boy friends I'm like Damn this chick is gonna get me killed I've even been groped by Non Black Women before ... I'm like what hell? ??? I turn around i see a cute Chinese Girl giggling at me
You know Rom, you'd think an Intelligent brotha' ( Very degreed or owns a business ) and an intelligent black female would be compatible, but in this society that's not the case. It's just stupid to me. Wouldn't you want a man that you'd have no worries with? Bills paid, house paid, food to eat and a bed to lay on? What woman wouldn't dream of that? Sadly, that's seen as corny or weak. Now I understand why alot of these brothas would rather be with a non-black woman than suffer trying to be like something they're not ( badboy to impress females ).
Don't know if you've heard of that dude "Guy on Girl T.V." but he has a video called, "I only go for women who submit." Or something like that. I thought was an interesting saying that would be a good mantra across the racial spectrum for men to repeat. Then men wouldn't have to explain what they attract, just what they're willing to hold on to.
I've have friend like this...he and I attended grad school together. I've noticed a trend with these guys though; they're usually darker skinned brothas. Never lighter brothas. I guess if she's going to make her daddy mad, why not go all the way. To add, these brothas usually grew up around white folks and have embraced white culture. Though not all, many act, talk, and walk white. But it's the white swag they embrace, not the nerdy or corny disposition you'd imagine.
WEll that's th whole thing thre in and of itself. The drk-skined men, like myself, are no generally considered desirable among many black women in the West - a reality that many black women in the West do not address.
Davy Jones-Locker because black women want pretty babies with good hair, light eyes and probably lighter skin and they don’t think a dark skinned brotha will give them them pretty babies they covet. Not throwing shade just shedding some light onto how some sistas think. But like numerous people have said, go where you’re celebrated and appreciated. If McDonald’s isn’t giving you satisfactory goods and services, there’s always Burger King and Wendy’s.
The same brother that Black women reject for not having enough urban flavor and thug appeal will be accepted as he is by women of other races. Acceptance is powerful and the law of attraction is real. Go with the flow. Get in where you fit in.
Because for the most part, women of other races have different mindsets and priorities than most sistas. Becky is playing chess while Keisha is playing Hungry Hungry Hippos.
Yo, this is me since day one..... This is all link to the educated lame issue. Most BW do not like BM who are intellectually incline, even if the BM look like Usher, whereras other women from other ethnic groups will roll out the red carpet for a smart black man who looks like Usher................... That would be a great topic: attractive educated lames. ..........I heard back in the Salt from salt&pepper dissed Will Smith because she thought he was lame.
That always made me laugh 'cause in the end Will Smith won. He is a multi-millionaire, married a woman who looks way better than Salt. Last time l saw Salt she was doing a geico commercial. Success is the best revenge in that aspect.
Facts nothing but facts. The majority of girls who seem to give me attention were WW and asians. BW would always see me as lame or "he cool." All well ,l just see this video reinforcing the video of check for those who check for you. Good job Rom Sensei
I think some Men just good with women in general. Universal appeal. Most IR good bars i know kill it in they race aswell as every other race. With all the different archetypes of women. Type of dudes you see out wit any girl and you know why she chose up on the brother. lol the "she usually don't step out her race" or "typically not my type" kinda girls but they will all take the risk for this particular guy. Mechad Brooks, Ricky Whittle, Channing Tatum, Russell Wong. William Levy These are Universal types Celebrity status aside. they got looks that any girl(even the extreme outliers of female preference) can find appealing and they not overwhelming ya with they ethnicity or cultural stereotypes without hiding or compensating for it either. They got smooth and easy personalities too so they disarm the rest of the assumptions.
Big bro I'm really starting to believe in this whole synchronicity thing because once again I had this same conversation with 2 coworkers Monday. They both could not believe that I have never been with a black American woman. It was interesting because on of them broke it down to me by saying that because of my some what pleasant friendly demeanor sisters are some what put off by it. He added a lot of them like guys with an edge because for some strange reason I will never understand feel a sense of protection. On the flip side Spanish women in my case have the opposite reaction they feel that they can trust me and feel more comfortable around me. He even compared my to my older brother who is an alpha male and a good bar type who does have quite the edge and appeal to women. Interesting video big bro.
+Rom Wills This is one of the biggest (legitimate) complaints made by Brothas, especially over the last ten years. The harsh truth about so-called "Black" (Amerindian) women and their dating crisis is that it's almost entirely self-inflicted and self-created. This has also been confirmed by people such as Sharazad Ali ("The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Black Woman") and T.C. Writer ("I Hate Black Women").
Im starting to feel that way with myself Im a have to totally overhaul my attractions to women of other cultures. Blackwomen aint been feelin me since young and Im have to accept the cold hard truth on that. I keep my options open cuz i just aint feelin the Albanoids aestheically thats all and philosophically I may say some things that may offend them.
Interesting POV.....this will resonate with many men and women. Years ago, I'd take them blind, cripple and crazy.... Now, I repel and attract women with my outspoken conservative views.
Sistas seem to be on some stupid group-think, helpless thoughtless trajectory bro. They can't seem to use their brains and minds to figure out how to mate with the long term survival goal in mind...lol...sad bunch...moving on...lol
Solid Message. As crazy as my comment may sound the Races of women I tend to attract at a given time tend to go in 'phases'. For example I'm attracting more Sistas these days at the age of 31 than other races of women. In High school and College I tend to attract more Non-Black Women. Lately I've been giving off a more ' Marvel Black Panther-ish' kind of Aura and sisters have been more responsive to it.. Lol. It is very true that the Aura you give off tends to Attract the women attracted to that Aura.
FGAlele Maybe that strong, proud black aura is what a lot of black women like. Though some do like goofy and nerdy. But black women generally are a lot of work.
black bgs says, the assimilation is happening. People are separating more by class than by race. Class has a distinct culture in personality to it. sign of the times
Alvin Hollinger III, I've noticed this phenomenon for some years now: Elite Blacks assimilating with similarly classed and cultured Whites. But, I don't think that's an automatic or pervasive result of class ascension among Blacks. In my observation, the majority of elite Blacks don't fully assimilate. They maintain identity with and connection to the lower and middle-class Black culture many of them grew up with. The ones that completely assimilate into White upper-class society are still a rare, and eccentric, flock of birds.
Alvin Hollinger III, Well, in two or three generations, people will stratify themselves based on levels of genetic and cybernetic enhancement. Socio-economic class, race, and even education may all be less relevant than brain and body implants.
Alvin Hollinger III, In short, I don't think there will be an era when elite Blacks and elite Whites will CONSISTENTLY disregard their racial differences and congeal as a consolidated group apart from the lower classes. This doesn't count that tiny minority within the minority of elite Blacks who have long assimilated and become culturally unrecognizable from elite Whites. Before race truly trumps class, the new Elites will be cyborgs.
Rom, may you explain this odd phenomenon: For some black guys, the MORE money and status they build, the more black women are attracted to them, and the LESS white women are attracted to them? I have seen this occurrence in the lives of many brothas. Are the non-black women intimidated by his wealth/status ?
Honestly I haven't seen that. Definitely see more sistas be attracted to increasing wealth and status. I haven't observed white women going the other way. Maybe it's who I'm around.
You know what? I think you described me and my potential Niche. I may be that IR Goodbar, except that I'm not an Oreo. Although many IR good bars are and Many Black people think I am. Oh well. Great video.
This my situation but I'm only feeling my sistas. I think it ain't about the aura but more so sometimes it's hard for black women to believe that good men actually do still exist and will treat them right so they think your whole character is a gimmick and you just trying to fuck lol. Other race of women are just able to hone in on who's gone be best for them and handle business. Idk what's going on with our sistas
Many sistas deal with self-esteem issues. Instead of being vulnerable where a man may work with them they become defensive. We see how well that's working.
Man it's like I have to do so much convincing with black women they be having me feeling like a lame but you're a sell if you date non black. Shit so frustrating man
Rom Wills Black women? Allow themselves to be vulnerable? Not when the world has shown them that vulnerability will break you. There's no police, father or brother protecting black women and you want them to let their guard down the second you say Hi? Nah guys.
Okuhle Osh ...Where you at?..Black women DOWN SOUTH got more protection than an army..They do have the Police and dame sure got Blood Brothers for protection to the full package bro..DOWN SOUTH if your out in public dating a black woman her 15 male BLOOD CUSINS always walking up and will say ":YOU ALRIGHT CUZ?"".I don't know where you live but DOWN SOUTH the sistas well Protected to the fullness.
Hey ROM, could you do a video on why a woman who breaks up with you would "check in" and come back later? everybody's had that one who leaves and then returns with the "sorry I fucked you over" story. I'm going through it now.
Goes hand and hand with Being Select in a Niche... As an aside that thumbnail brotha looks like a mix. between these Brasilian soccer players Fernadinho/Robinho. I wonder id thats their wife or sumthin.
Sorry Rom, felt I have to go racial here. When it comes to IR good bars, Its quite deep in racism. Alot of white men are cocky and think they are goodbars for BW but really they are not. Its because we live in the Western world where we are surrounded by white male authority. So when I read or hear white guys showing off and boasting they get more black women than black men, I have to SMH. Had to tell Vegainator on one of his videos its because he is white that's why hes the "swirl king" as he calls himself. And I could tell he got off on the fact he slept with a BW who has a BM as a fiancé. With alot of these white guys its the "revenge on the black bull" thing. Have to say, without western social conditioning, WM are not alluring to BW in general. But I do see few sistas genuinely check a few types of WM: The ones that remind them of BM. Ones that are passionate and come from an exotic culture (Italy Spain, Cuba). And the hard French and Russian men that are masculine, blunt and grumpy (Which I find funny). Yea I was gonna explain about something else, but this is a touchy issue.
I'm glad you called this out, most white men are good bars because of the social status. The black man are the true good bars, we are at the bottom of the barrel but women still find us exotic even black women.
GOKU92SON Thanks guys. I try avoid writing long comments. Yea, I've read what white men say in forums and recently these fake "raceplay" stories on Tumblr. The jealousy of the black man is real. Its real for black women too. I see how jealous and cocky alot of white women are. See, we men see the whole picture. So the "brothas don't have the sistas back" is a damn lie.
Malon23 dealwitit It doesn't matter how many blacks marry interracially. They will cheat with their own. I've seen how BM stare at BW while he has a white girlfriend. We are the secret bedmates of other races for a reason.
I was wondering when this video would come up. just like other men on here it's like pulling teeth with no anesthetic to get a black woman but very easy to get women of other races. worked like that for me a lot and still does to this day.
jaws2003 Black men want easy women while black women are nothing but easy... We been dealing with black men our whole lives, we know their games, but we still gotta be easy?
Okuhle Osh not easy but more feminine. Yes there are men that play games but at the same time there are men that are good. My belief is there are more that are good than bad. These men often get overlooked. Hence why there are a lot of men's movements today and the topic of this video.
Back East sistas didn't want me. Now I'm out West, Beckies all on me.
But joking aside, if you aren't wanted by one group of women, chances are you'll be that much more appreciated by other groups. The world still operates on an energy of equilibrium.
Truth.
Been experiencing this since I was a teenager. This topic actually caused a few of my friendships to end because you can't discuss topics like this amongst MOST black folks. Pimpology 101 dictates that a man goes where the cooperation is. Since I've generally gotten most cooperation from "others" that's where I stay.
Gotta do what you gotta do.
This video was me. I was too lame/corny for BW but the WW had love for me. I wasn't looking for WW, but, they accepted me with no issues. Best of all, these were thin and attractive WW with good jobs and no kids. Unlike BW, WW have no issues buying dinner.
It's a real dynamic.
david grier I ran into that a lot in college. I paid them back, but I always seem to look like the enemy to BW growing up . I had no idea why.
I always was treated better by youner (at the time) WW than BW. I ran no game, wasn't trying to fuck either. I would just seem to get more friendly vibes from WW growing up.
The ironic thing now is that BW my age ignore me, but younger BW, are cool with me. Older BW are cool with me .Latin women are cool with me. Middle class and wealthy WW are cool with me. Foreign women ,well in general, are cool with me.
I came to the conclusion to just go fishing where the fish are biting
This video spoke to my soul. Deal with this everyday. Black women call me square and all the fine asian and Latina women look at me like I'm Prince Arthur. Never understood it. Oh well.
MV922 this nigga said "like I'm Prince Arthur" 😂
Very common dynamic.
MV922 you should be grateful my brother 👍🏾
Damn, this definitely describe me to a T in a sense. Funny thing is I have no qualms with the sistas or anything, it's just when it comes to dating them, it's a no go for me. To them, I'm cool enough to be a friend and nothing beyond that. But I've been around non-black women and they're giving me possibilities just from being myself. It's interesting.
Seen
Perverted Alchemist Amen to that. It's pure insanity when they think this way.
That's what's up.
I've learned to get in where you fit in and adapt to the situation at hand. Women of the Hispanic or Latina ethnicity find me more attractive, maybe it's because I have more of their ethical features. Black women 8 times out of 10 overlook a brotha and it's all good. I'll keep my bad Mami on my arm and keep pushing. My grandfather always to me " If Mercedes isn't trying to give you a car, BMW or Audi will have something for you". Needless to say, I have a BMW literally and figuratively. At the end of the day, date whom ever makes you happy.
Well said.
Genius. The funny thing is, you can't even discuss this topic with people (male or female). Rom you make me feel sane after listening to your videos.
I've been experiencing this since I was a teen. This is a topic that has caused a few of my college friendships to break badly because I've tried expressing this......It NEEEVER ends good amongst most black folks who've never experienced being on the "Non-select for black chicks" end of the spectrum.
Glad to be of service.
I feel u on this Mr.Wills. I myself have no problem getting sisters but the White girls I attract are finer and they seem to be way more into me and pursue me harder...
As long as you are feeling them.
Alfonse Capone white girls are easy because they see us as a fetish. I prefer my sister's though
The Bizness Not all white women see black men as a fetish.
A true legit goodbar don't have problems with color. Females just love them. It's has nothing to do with your color but more with your aura and that vibe you give to them. If every type of women form every race find you attractive than you are a legit goodbar with a lot of possibilities. I heard this multiple times. Normally i don't date black guys or do something with them but with you i don't see even you're color because you're different. You see it's your aura and that vibe you give too them.
True about the aura.
Don't give up brother.
Bob Bruce You probably Ugly, Lazy & Broke with No game.. I get women of All races.. especially white women the most.
Sniper 11 N.D., I do agree that some men have an X-Factor that sets them apart from others of their sort, but I would be very skeptical of anyone who claims to "not see color" in a person. And a woman who gives the "normally I don't date Black guys, but you're special" line should not be taken seriously. She has probably said something similar to a hundred other Black men with the physical attributes that she favors.
Brian Heightz,
Please show some compassion. Many men don't got it like you.
Story of my life . This is why it’s important to find your tribe. And to be honest, I have gone from being select to non-select depending on my location many times . I’ve even experienced this overseas. I had mostly good reception overseas, but in some places I was treated like the non-select just because my look wasn’t what most women were checking for there and in other countries, I was treated like a 9 out of 10 and had great sex with attractive women easily . This is why body game is so important because it helps you get straight to the point with the
Women who are into you and not . I remember I wasn’t getting that much play in 🇩🇪 a little here and there, so I decided to go to Bosnia Herzegovina 🇧🇦 and I went from getting a little play here and there, too getting sex offers every other day . This select and non-select thing is a science that I’m constantly studying
I have a cousin who has always had fine white women
There are brothers who have it like that.
Rom! Bro i fit this prototype. But the thing is how do i switch to sisters instead? I would like to keep thing's in house but i always get the attention from outside of it.
That’s my life unfortunately…
Been around international schools and high profile tech communities. Still attractive/very attractive women
When I go back to black communities it has to be the higher class. In the hood they just like by body/beard but we don’t really match/ vibe mentally
Very difficult.
When I moved to Texas from the dmv area that’s where i really got love from black women white and Hispanic in the dmv area i got my fair share but I get way more positive receptiveness in Texas
This video must've been made about me lol. BW find me lame, white-washed, Oreo, say I "talk white", etc, but Asians, WW, and most of all Latinas be choosing me hard.
Had several BW tell me I look like I don't deal with BW
Had to come back to this one after the Black Man Swag video.
I’m loving this
Oreo isn’t an accurate term to use. Some of them have chocolate filling, including dark chocolate.
This was and still is Me; but you begin to shine to a degree where the sisters begin noticing. I'm a Brotha who skateboards and had a Bangin' sister popping at Me the other day while I was out riding My board. She was Bangin' too! She kept complimenting Me; and I knew what time it was, but I was chillin' and kept telling her I appreciate it and chopped it up with her for a bit. My focus was rippin' on My board though; I figured I might see her again, if not that's cool too.
Had to deal w/ this a lot in MN....
Had a teammate like this in College. We called him Bo Finger like the Eddy Murphy character. He proceeded to step away from football to focus on track, and only concentrated on the White Girls who loved him. He put up the most "numbers" as anyone on campus. He was easily the goofiest young adult Black Man I've met, and had horrible style, but he was over 6ft and shredded like a dark skinned Alpha Show Piece. I get it now. In hindsight, I'd focus on my body and girls checking for me like he did if I could redo it again.
Moral of the story is that a man needs to be appealing to every race of women! More spice for your life!
Ive been the envy of many past friends because I could get women of every race. 6"2 Red Nigga with hazel eyes. What I noticed is that very rarely did the hottest black women want me in youth before they had kids simply because I wasnt "ballin" enough black enough or w/e, however I could get 7-8+ white/spanish/asian women all my life. I have gotten hate from black women for it but the ones Ive been with (usually the smarty ones) simply came to to realization that I just dont discriminate.
AIN'T it the truth!
Story of my life. IR goodbar of Becky/asian chicks into their Lenny Kravitz/Jimi Hendrix lust itch. Get absolutely no play with hip hop thots.
Rom Goodbar
You’re speaking my truth, they don’t want you but if you are with another beautiful woman of another race your a sellout. Lol crazy, why are they so involved in your life? Love , Love , Love me some beautiful black some but they don’t want me . I get in where I fit in
happen to me within the black community I was labeled "thrifty" because I had financial sense at a young age...didn't want to put thousand of dollars into a used vehicle...rims/sound system and such....white girl pursued me and haven't looked back since...now we're married with kids and have a big ol house...my black friends divorce...multiple kids from different fathers/mothers...dead end jobs...I red pill at a early age to show how slanted this country is and you have to fight for every inch..
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This video is very special to me. Everything you said in this video reflects my dealings with women with 100% accuracy. It's unbelievably accurate. I'm glad you made this video and after reading through its comments, it's good to know that I'm not the only one who has this experience. It is definitely a strange dynamic. I'm 30, I'll be 31 next month. I have spent many years trying to understand why I am loved, adored, and in some cases, even worshipped by non-black women. However, when it comes to black women, I am the most repulsive, repugnant guy there is. I have been with a few hundred women in my lifetime, and 90% of my conquests were solid 8s, 9s, and 10s as you described.
I have tried to figure out why for many years. What is it that makes me so unattractive to black women? Is it a lexical thing? Maybe my diction is a pussy dryer to black women. ...which is ironic, because non-black women (the ones I've dated/banged) find it sexy. Many black women would automatically consider me "whitewashed" or an "oreo" when I speak. I always rebuttal with: "I didn't know the ability to speak articulately belonged exclusively to white people."
Could it be my height/weight/build? I'm 5'6, competitive bodybuilder. Who knows?
I've only dated/fallen in love with one black woman in my life. ...and she ghosted me for a drug dealer. This was back when I used to work for the Feds in Washington, D.C.
It seems that black women collectively have a different measuring stick for men compared to other races/ethnicities of women. I know that many different women could all have different measuring sticks, but it just seems more evident when I compare black women to non-black women with regards to black men.
Here's a funny/ironic bit: Men whom black women consider to be "Select" or "Mr. Goodbar" are typically rejected by the non-black women I pull.
I still love black women, though. No harm, no foul. No hard feelings. I'm not their cup of tea and they aren't mine. Zero. Fucks. Given.
I love being Mr. IR Goodbar.
Brotha you spoke some serious truths. The reality that I'm seeing more and more is American Black women do have a different measuring stick than other women. That's the nature of the issue. It's something I'm still looking at.
I want me a bad ass lil chocolate chip !
Im puerto rican , how do I pull em? I got west side swag like a brother.
Just do you.
How do you Know your Niche Better ?
Mine pulls seem all over the place.
Just pay attention to the characteristics of the women who seem to respond to you the most and the easiest.
thank you Rom :)
This is me.
Seen,
I remember about 2014, this older brother, (I'm 34) asked me about my girlfriend while she went into the fitting room, in JC Penney. He mentioned that he had wanted to date one himself, but couldn't get them to appeal to him. I didn't really have an answer, other than, "I was being myself." The weird thing is, when I was much younger, like many guys, sistas didn't quite tap into my magic. There were a few, but I ultimately found success with white and Mexican girls, even though, I'll never reject a girl of any colour. Now it seems like the black babes are all butthurt because guys have went onto social media and started bashing them. That's karma, I suppose.
Well Black women have been bashing Black men since the seventies. It really is karma.
This is me
That's what's up.
Go where you're celebrated not where you're tolerated ✌
Exactly.
i Like that :)
I had this problem with black women all my life. That is why I date non black women.
That's cool. Do what's best for yourself.
Thanks Rom.
Chinese Women love my height
I'm usually taller then their Male counter parts i even started working out again to gain some muscle
I've had non Black Women literally flirting with me right in front their boy friends
I'm like Damn this chick is gonna get me killed
I've even been groped by Non Black Women before ... I'm like what hell? ???
I turn around i see a cute Chinese Girl giggling at me
Go where you are appreciated.
that pretty much describes my experience
I feel you.
You know Rom, you'd think an Intelligent brotha' ( Very degreed or owns a business ) and an intelligent black female would be compatible, but in this society that's not the case. It's just stupid to me. Wouldn't you want a man that you'd have no worries with? Bills paid, house paid, food to eat and a bed to lay on? What woman wouldn't dream of that? Sadly, that's seen as corny or weak. Now I understand why alot of these brothas would rather be with a non-black woman than suffer trying to be like something they're not ( badboy to impress females ).
The funny thing is that these same women will go on national TV and complain they cant find an educated man.
great video man. im waiting to see the continuation of 5 sexual types of women. some of the videos look intimidating but the knowledge is always good.
Each type is a two hour video at minimum.
Don't know if you've heard of that dude "Guy on Girl T.V." but he has a video called, "I only go for women who submit." Or something like that. I thought was an interesting saying that would be a good mantra across the racial spectrum for men to repeat. Then men wouldn't have to explain what they attract, just what they're willing to hold on to.
That's a good mantra.
I've have friend like this...he and I attended grad school together. I've noticed a trend with these guys though; they're usually darker skinned brothas. Never lighter brothas. I guess if she's going to make her daddy mad, why not go all the way. To add, these brothas usually grew up around white folks and have embraced white culture. Though not all, many act, talk, and walk white. But it's the white swag they embrace, not the nerdy or corny disposition you'd imagine.
Good observations.
Rom Wills Other than Terrence Howard, I can't think of another light skinned male celebrity married to a white or non black woman.
WEll that's th whole thing thre in and of itself. The drk-skined men, like myself, are no generally considered desirable among many black women in the West - a reality that many black women in the West do not address.
Davy Jones-Locker its not just dark skinned men either
Davy Jones-Locker because black women want pretty babies with good hair, light eyes and probably lighter skin and they don’t think a dark skinned brotha will give them them pretty babies they covet. Not throwing shade just shedding some light onto how some sistas think. But like numerous people have said, go where you’re celebrated and appreciated. If McDonald’s isn’t giving you satisfactory goods and services, there’s always Burger King and Wendy’s.
"Love those who love you."
Correct.
The same brother that Black women reject for not having enough urban flavor and thug appeal will be accepted as he is by women of other races. Acceptance is powerful and the law of attraction is real. Go with the flow. Get in where you fit in.
Correct.
Because for the most part, women of other races have different mindsets and priorities than most sistas. Becky is playing chess while Keisha is playing Hungry Hungry Hippos.
Yo, this is me since day one..... This is all link to the educated lame issue. Most BW do not like BM who are intellectually incline, even if the BM look like Usher, whereras other women from other ethnic groups will roll out the red carpet for a smart black man who looks like Usher................... That would be a great topic: attractive educated lames. ..........I heard back in the Salt from salt&pepper dissed Will Smith because she thought he was lame.
Yeah many Classic Men are physically attractive to women but some sistas are looking for certain personality traits.
That always made me laugh 'cause in the end Will Smith won. He is a multi-millionaire, married a woman who looks way better than Salt. Last time l saw Salt she was doing a geico commercial. Success is the best revenge in that aspect.
sure will brother
Facts nothing but facts. The majority of girls who seem to give me attention were WW and asians. BW would always see me as lame or "he cool." All well ,l just see this video reinforcing the video of check for those who check for you. Good job Rom Sensei
Thank you.
Variety is the spice of life!
Truth.
my friends called me oreo and coconut in h.s
You cool tho.
A Real Player will taste the whole Rainbow.... ;) Great Video Big Bro.
Leslie Porter... I CONCUR PLAYA!!!
Very true Bro. Leslie.
Truth. Bro. Porter
I grew up on the Mainline of Philadelphia and saw plenty of brothers like that.
Okay. I graduated from St. Joseph's University. Didn't see it as much back in the day.
I think some Men just good with women in general. Universal appeal.
Most IR good bars i know kill it in they race aswell as every other race. With all the different archetypes of women. Type of dudes you see out wit any girl and you know why she chose up on the brother. lol the "she usually don't step out her race" or "typically not my type" kinda girls but they will all take the risk for this particular guy.
Mechad Brooks, Ricky Whittle, Channing Tatum, Russell Wong. William Levy
These are Universal types
Celebrity status aside. they got looks that any girl(even the extreme outliers of female preference) can find appealing and they not overwhelming ya with they ethnicity or cultural stereotypes without hiding or compensating for it either. They got smooth and easy personalities too so they disarm the rest of the assumptions.
Real Talk.
I agree and can't wait because I believe that will truly be a beautiful day.
Big bro I'm really starting to believe in this whole synchronicity thing because once again I had this same conversation with 2 coworkers Monday. They both could not believe that I have never been with a black American woman. It was interesting because on of them broke it down to me by saying that because of my some what pleasant friendly demeanor sisters are some what put off by it. He added a lot of them like guys with an edge because for some strange reason I will never understand feel a sense of protection. On the flip side Spanish women in my case have the opposite reaction they feel that they can trust me and feel more comfortable around me. He even compared my to my older brother who is an alpha male and a good bar type who does have quite the edge and appeal to women. Interesting video big bro.
One day American Black women are going to collectively wake up and kick themselves for their criteria because quite frankly it hasn't worked for them.
+Rom Wills
This is one of the biggest (legitimate) complaints made by Brothas, especially over the last ten years. The harsh truth about so-called "Black" (Amerindian) women and their dating crisis is that it's almost entirely self-inflicted and self-created.
This has also been confirmed by people such as Sharazad Ali ("The Blackman's Guide to Understanding the Black Woman") and T.C. Writer ("I Hate Black Women").
Im starting to feel that way with myself Im a have to totally overhaul my attractions to women of other cultures. Blackwomen aint been feelin me since young and Im have to accept the cold hard truth on that. I keep my options open cuz i just aint feelin the Albanoids aestheically thats all and philosophically I may say some things that may offend them.
Check out Black women from other countries.
Rom Wills no doubt Rom
Interesting POV.....this will resonate with many men and women.
Years ago, I'd take them blind, cripple and crazy....
Now, I repel and attract women with my outspoken conservative views.
That's what's up.
Sistas seem to be on some stupid group-think, helpless thoughtless trajectory bro. They can't seem to use their brains and minds to figure out how to mate with the long term survival goal in mind...lol...sad bunch...moving on...lol
Unfortunately it's the dynamic out here.
Women are hive minded in general but of course you know black folk. We gotta be extra with our shit..
Solid Message. As crazy as my comment may sound the Races of women I tend to attract at a given time tend to go in 'phases'. For example I'm attracting more Sistas these days at the age of 31 than other races of women. In High school and College I tend to attract more Non-Black Women. Lately I've been giving off a more ' Marvel Black Panther-ish' kind of Aura and sisters have been more responsive to it.. Lol. It is very true that the Aura you give off tends to Attract the women attracted to that Aura.
The aura is powerful. There's probably some other things going on too. Some metaphysical ish I don't discuss publicly.
FGAlele Maybe that strong, proud black aura is what a lot of black women like. Though some do like goofy and nerdy. But black women generally are a lot of work.
black bgs says, the assimilation is happening. People are separating more by class than by race. Class has a distinct culture in personality to it. sign of the times
I still have to do a video on class issues.
Alvin Hollinger III, I've noticed this phenomenon for some years now: Elite Blacks assimilating with similarly classed and cultured Whites. But, I don't think that's an automatic or pervasive result of class ascension among Blacks. In my observation, the majority of elite Blacks don't fully assimilate. They maintain identity with and connection to the lower and middle-class Black culture many of them grew up with. The ones that completely assimilate into White upper-class society are still a rare, and eccentric, flock of birds.
Karim Bennett Thats valid for now but will that be the same in like 2 or 3 more genwrations?
Alvin Hollinger III, Well, in two or three generations, people will stratify themselves based on levels of genetic and cybernetic enhancement. Socio-economic class, race, and even education may all be less relevant than brain and body implants.
Alvin Hollinger III, In short, I don't think there will be an era when elite Blacks and elite Whites will CONSISTENTLY disregard their racial differences and congeal as a consolidated group apart from the lower classes. This doesn't count that tiny minority within the minority of elite Blacks who have long assimilated and become culturally unrecognizable from elite Whites. Before race truly trumps class, the new Elites will be cyborgs.
Rom, may you explain this odd phenomenon: For some black guys, the MORE money and status they build, the more black women are attracted to them, and the LESS white women are attracted to them?
I have seen this occurrence in the lives of many brothas. Are the non-black women intimidated by his wealth/status ?
Honestly I haven't seen that. Definitely see more sistas be attracted to increasing wealth and status. I haven't observed white women going the other way. Maybe it's who I'm around.
Another gem. Rom
Thank you.
This is a great video... very nice picture.
Thank you sis.
You know what? I think you described me and my potential Niche. I may be that IR Goodbar, except that I'm not an Oreo. Although many IR good bars are and Many Black people think I am. Oh well. Great video.
Many brothas are in that niche.
Thanks for the video Uncle Rom, I can relate to this 100% literally. Plus I do love my 🐇.
As long as you're happy.
Oh Oh..another winner!
Yep.
Keep em comin' Rom.
Thank you.
This my situation but I'm only feeling my sistas. I think it ain't about the aura but more so sometimes it's hard for black women to believe that good men actually do still exist and will treat them right so they think your whole character is a gimmick and you just trying to fuck lol. Other race of women are just able to hone in on who's gone be best for them and handle business. Idk what's going on with our sistas
Many sistas deal with self-esteem issues. Instead of being vulnerable where a man may work with them they become defensive. We see how well that's working.
Man it's like I have to do so much convincing with black women they be having me feeling like a lame but you're a sell if you date non black. Shit so frustrating man
Rom Wills Black women? Allow themselves to be vulnerable? Not when the world has shown them that vulnerability will break you.
There's no police, father or brother protecting black women and you want them to let their guard down the second you say Hi? Nah guys.
Okuhle Osh ...Where you at?..Black women DOWN SOUTH got more protection than an army..They do have the Police and dame sure got Blood Brothers for protection to the full package bro..DOWN SOUTH if your out in public dating a black woman her 15 male BLOOD CUSINS always walking up and will say ":YOU ALRIGHT CUZ?"".I don't know where you live but DOWN SOUTH the sistas well Protected to the fullness.
The only thing I could do is laugh. 😄😉
I feel you.
Hey ROM, could you do a video on why a woman who breaks up with you would "check in" and come back later? everybody's had that one who leaves and then returns with the "sorry I fucked you over" story. I'm going through it now.
Yeah I'll do one.
Rom, may you do a video on false accusations & how to avoid them in the dating game? ...
I'll work on something. I'll have to word that one carefully because false accusations ultimately lead to legal problems.
I think Rom made this show just for me...lol
Many brothas are going through this.
Goes hand and hand with Being Select in a Niche... As an aside that thumbnail brotha looks like a mix. between these Brasilian soccer players Fernadinho/Robinho. I wonder id thats their wife or sumthin.
Yeah it's about that niche.
A philosophy channel would be interesting.
I might start one in a few months.
Sorry Rom, felt I have to go racial here. When it comes to IR good bars, Its quite deep in racism. Alot of white men are cocky and think they are goodbars for BW but really they are not. Its because we live in the Western world where we are surrounded by white male authority.
So when I read or hear white guys showing off and boasting they get more black women than black men, I have to SMH. Had to tell Vegainator on one of his videos its because he is white that's why hes the "swirl king" as he calls himself. And I could tell he got off on the fact he slept with a BW who has a BM as a fiancé. With alot of these white guys its the "revenge on the black bull" thing.
Have to say, without western social conditioning, WM are not alluring to BW in general. But I do see few sistas genuinely check a few types of WM: The ones that remind them of BM. Ones that are passionate and come from an exotic culture (Italy Spain, Cuba). And the hard French and Russian men that are masculine, blunt and grumpy (Which I find funny). Yea I was gonna explain about something else, but this is a touchy issue.
This is real talk. Always feel free to share that.
I'm glad you called this out, most white men are good bars because of the social status. The black man are the true good bars, we are at the bottom of the barrel but women still find us exotic even black women.
GOKU92SON Thanks guys. I try avoid writing long comments. Yea, I've read what white men say in forums and recently these fake "raceplay" stories on Tumblr. The jealousy of the black man is real. Its real for black women too. I see how jealous and cocky alot of white women are. See, we men see the whole picture. So the "brothas don't have the sistas back" is a damn lie.
Malon23 dealwitit It doesn't matter how many blacks marry interracially. They will cheat with their own. I've seen how BM stare at BW while he has a white girlfriend. We are the secret bedmates of other races for a reason.
I was wondering when this video would come up. just like other men on here it's like pulling teeth with no anesthetic to get a black woman but very easy to get women of other races. worked like that for me a lot and still does to this day.
It's a real dynamic.
jaws2003 Black men want easy women while black women are nothing but easy... We been dealing with black men our whole lives, we know their games, but we still gotta be easy?
Okuhle Osh not easy but more feminine. Yes there are men that play games but at the same time there are men that are good. My belief is there are more that are good than bad. These men often get overlooked. Hence why there are a lot of men's movements today and the topic of this video.