@@MrAlistar99 I know a few people in my town who do. My mom teaches fitness at an office, and one guy who works there comes to work everyday in a kilt. There's also a gutter cleaner in town called "Men in Kilts", they always wear them, though I guess you don't have to count that since it's a part of the business. My father used to wear one somewhat frequently, at least every month, and a buddy of his I've only seen wearing jeans instead of a kilt one time. He's basically always wearing one. This is in northern Colorado.
I never understood the controlling nature of some relationships. When somebody says my partner one out allowed me to do something, that’s a serious red flag
My wife wasn't that thrilled when I bought my first kilt and wore it out. But after the first few times wearing it and hearing the positive comments, she became far more accepting of it.
It was the other way around for me. Although I've always been proud of my Scottish heritage I'd never considered wearing a kilt. My fiance wanted me to go down the aisle kilted but I thought it's a lot of money for something I'd only wear once. However when I saw myself in the kilt makers changing room mirror I thought wow it suits me and I look bloody cool in it. So I married her in it and have worn it many times since, mainly at black tie events where it far outshines a tuxedo in my opinion. She also bought me a targe, broad and back swords and a lowland claymore to hang on the walls ( like your backdrop). I'm so glad I married her.
I remember when I used to live back in England when I went to uni, my girlfriend at the time ...HATED me for wearing my "everyday" kilt. It was kind of funny, since both of us were scottish and she hated the kilt because she hated the fact some people yelled slurs at me etc. But I really don't care. I use my kilt because of me family, where I am from and for who I am. No one can change that. YES.... she eventually broke up with me. lol.
My mrs has just embraced the fact that I am now going to be full time kilt wearer :) Whilst I get *some* looks, I mostly get compliments from guys, and kids ask why am I wearing a skirt, but, they get corrected by their parents. When I go to the pub, nobody now bats an eye, its just a part of who I am. Even my church has said now that it would be weird for me to wear trousers or jeans or something else other than a kilt. Will say this, outside of the highland days, there are not many wearers from what I have seen.
I've been there with the "I'm worried what people will think" part. My husband is Black/African American and occassionally will wear a Dashiki. My white (Irish, Scottish, and German) family were taken aback but I finally got to the point where I was like he can celebrate his culture just as much as we can so STFU! I'm also from Philly so throwing hands may have been the next move.
I started off kilting on special occasions and events. That was okay. Daily wear was iffy for a while until going to work kilted became "normal". When we go out, I will ask her if she minds what I wear (sometimes she just doesn't want the attention). All good.🙂
I wore my kilt in Funchal, Madeira, Hogmanay 2007 and I was wondering what reaction I would get. Some younger people stared, one guy stopped me middle of a pedestrian crossing asking me to pose for a photo so I took him over to the footpath, In a restaurant one guy said, "It's good to see the kilt," he sounede English and could have been a tourist or an expat. A party of policemen asked me to join them. I declined but posed with them for photos, So expect a mixed reaction wherever you are. Lads if any of you are coming to London, please contact me in good time and if there is a meeting of the London Caledonian Society, at that time I will get you an invite to it, if you wish.
Awesome feed back. Forwarded this to a new kilt wearer friend of mine. I'm sure the information will be invaluable to him as it is to others and myself who has been kilted for many many years. Thank you two for the insight and knowledge you pass on to our kilted community. Logan
I started wearing kilts at about age 62 or so and my wife of 35 years freaked out at first. OMG, my husband is wearing a skirt! What are people going to think when I'm seen with him? Four years later, it's not any king of an issue anymore. When we first went out with me wearing a kilt she heard all the compliments I was getting and relaxed. I think she thought it was a mid-life kind of thing. I'd actually been interested in kilts for a long time and had just decided to do something about it. Now I have 5 wool tartan kilts (and 1 on order), 2 PV kilts, and 2 UtiliKilts (and 2 more on order). I've acquired 2 jackets and vests, and a ton of Lewis hose, belt buckles, and kilt pins and she's totally cool with it. In March of 2021 she had a stroke and after 8 months in rehab she's recovering very nicely, and the whole kilt thing is a total non-issue. My support of her recovery has been far more important. As Rocky says, You do You! If it's something you want to do, do it. Be true to yourself. I also agree with Rocky's recommended approach. There's no need to be a jerk. A sensible man would never tell his wife what she can and cannot wear or how to style or cut her hair. I would expect the same courtesy.
My wife doesn’t like me wearing kilts. Rationales in no particular order. 1. I am changing. 2. She has an image of man in a suit. In part this is based upon the fact that I wore suits as an attorney for 45 years and she met me then. 2. She hates the attention and questions from different people and the repetition of the questions and answers. She does tolerate it … kinda. I started with Utilikilts and Stumptown Kilts. 16 years ago. I am moving to a nicer USA kilt. I will be dressed when we go out in a USA tweed or tartan with button shirt. I will wear the kilts with Braemar jacket and vest for weddings and such. I am hoping that the upgrade makes it easier but when I have tried to speak with her she sums it by “I (she) don’t like them. Too different, too much attention.” My reasoning with her is she is upgrading her wardrobe by buying Chanel purses and Burburry coats. I am trying to reason that my upgrade is not that much different, although cheaper. Thoughts?
As a Brit and know Im getting my new Kilt in the next week in my Family Clan colours of KERR! I already had my sister take the micky but I don't care its gonna be interesting wearing outdoors and seeing what others reaction in London! Bring on the adventure!
I asked my wife what she thought about it before I started down the serial kilter road. She could care less what I wear and has shown an interest in my side of the family’s history and been supportive.
Our King loves the Kilt 😉 if it's worn well for formal events with jacket, waistcoat etc, she'll love it ❤ Wearing it day in day out may be a challenge but weddings, functions, etc are all good 👍
I wore my kilt out for a event and then decide to Check my grandparents mail box and without thinking jumped out of vehicle at the time and did the mail box and was walking to the vehicle and got a complement on me in a kilt and all I could say was thank you. After that I just say to people's getting started with kilts or family are unsure I say it takes time to get use to it.
My wife has strong English roots. After I saw this I asked what she really thought. Without missing a beat, she said "We may have won, but the Scots were real men! Why do you think I married you?" Love that woman!
@@ffotograffydd she is still hanging onto the battles that the English did defeat Scotland, and has a twisted view of the Union of the Crowns. We don't talk about Robert the Bruce...that was our one and really only actual fight. Like, went to bed still mad, type of fight. Lol
@@witchdoc5075 I can't believe anyone in Britain gives a seconds thought to the Anglo-Scottish wars. And what do you mean Robert de Brix (he was Norman) was our only real fight? The battle of Bannockburn was only the very first battle between England and Scotland. Do you not talk about the Battle of Pinkie? or Culloden?
@@Alfred5555 Perhaps you could school me on when Scotland and England went to bed mad? That isn't what I said...but I appreciate your need to give the history lesson, and agree with what you said, just not why you said it.
Why on earth would you be more committed to a kilt than a woman you supposedly love? If you pick up the trend of wearing a kilt after beginning a relationship with a woman, doesn't she have the right to say "this isn't what she signed up for"?
@@Alfred5555well, we don't know if he picked up the "trend" before of after. And yes, if you word it like "choosing between clothes or a woman", it's unhealthy. But wording it like that in a relationship is also manipulative at best. And the problem comes down to "is it worth it to tie your life with a person who will thwart/belittle you every time you change". For me - it's not. Just like I would never dictate to my wife what she can't wear, what she can't do with her hair, what she can't do with make-up, I would never take such barriers from her. But happily I married a partner, not a slave mistress.
@@LoisoPondohva Seems like a two way street. Like it or not there are social conventions. You're saying it's unreasonable or extreme for a person to dismiss a whole relationship over just a piece of clothing, well isn't it equally extreme and unreasonable to in turn dismiss the same relationship just for your personal desire to make a fashion statement and break social convention? Some people want to live within social conventions, other people see breaking social conventions as their way of expressing themselves and feel very attached to that right. These sorts of people probably work well together in a relationship.
@@Alfred5555 no, I don't see it unreasonable to dismiss the relationship because of fundamental irreconcilable disagreement over the agency of an individual.
I think the thing for the guy to do is to wear it around the house a whole lot more so she gets used to it. Then maybe stepping out in it will be no big deal.
My girl only saw one of my kilts, once (last week), and she was not a happy camper. She had been quite degrading about it since. Needless to say, we haven't spoken in three days.
I have been wearing my kilts for about 2 years, not every day (windy, cold or trousers are required for safety / working under desks) but often. I have received many positive comments. The only negative comment was from my brother.
I'd tell her its a package deal. My heritage is a huge part of who I am. (Obviously the same for everyone.) I'd also ask her if she would have the same bias and prejudice if you were a Polynesian man wearing a traditional Sarong? We have a very large transplanted Polynesian population here where I live. (No pun intended.) I have NEVER heard ANYONE question a Samoan or a Tongan about, "why are you wearing a dress"? They would likely get stopped into the pavement anyway. But, most people somehow CAN understand that it is a part of THEIR culture. I don't get the disconnect with the Scottish and the kilt? Just plain ignorance IMHO.
Because it's a cultural item symbolizing "why-te European heritage" and in our current topsy-turvy political dystopia where anything Western is instantly demonized, it's now acceptable to pour scorn on it. This would NEVER be done with any other culture.
@@Miniver765 Of course. I am fully aware of that, and was side stepping the obvious conclusion. Sometimes it is easier to get people to "come to the obvious conclusion themselves". (Or, at least let them "think" they did.) By pointing out this sort of bigotry and not specifically calling it as such. People tend to plant their feet and stop listening IF they think you are trying to change "their minds". I find it much more effective to make your argument (with most folks) then let them digest your arguments without them actually realizing your ARE in fact making an argument. For example, it is far easier to gently coax a mule without it realizing it is cooperating WITH you, than to try to force one that has planted it's feet because you are trying to push or pull him.
12:10 my wife thinks I'm weird. Because I go through some weird phases and hobbies. And I want to get a kilt. I'm not Scottish... that I know of. But my step-dad has Scottish relatives. And I like there culture.
Simple. He should get himself a nice Scottish lass or tell his current SO to get over it. Problem solved.😆How do you think she would react if he made a negative comment on how she dressed???
My late husband was a proud McGlothlin in the US. He wore the kilt for formal occasions, but also sarongs at home and on vacations. Come to think of it, maybe was a bit anti-pants! He was a cop and sure didn't like polyester uniform pants.
Reserved, socially anxious people, dislike anything that draws attention towards them. If your partner is like that, very hyper sensitive to external judgement, they could very well be intimidated by the prospect of both of you being stared at for you wearing a kilt. Whether it's about them or not. Personally, I'm a fairly reserved person and dislike attention in public, but I love wearing kilts. I wear one when I'm okay with people coming up to me, feeling social that day. I'm very fortunate that my fiancee loves kilts on me, and is not concerned about what other people think at all. Haven't had much trouble with people having something to say about my style. I wear a wide variety of styles, but in highschool I wore combat boots exclusively for awhile. That was the only time people really gave me a hard time, it was mostly just casual picking though. I just said eh whatever, I like em, are you really wearing what you want to wear? By senior year all anyone ever said was how they appreciated my willingness to dress against standards and thought it was cool. It wasn't intentional, I'm just an expressive person, as is my father. He wore kilts frequently when I was growing up (still does occasionally) and being a part of the punk scene and tattooing, he was always a very expressive person with his style. I think that really paved the way for me, honestly. I'm such a reserved person at heart that if it weren't for my father's leading example, I would have probably kept much of that self expression bottled up, to avoid the attention that comes with it.
I'm a reserved person myself and I can't see a reason why I should wear a kilt even though I do have some Scottish heritage. I wouldn't judge anyone who isn't Scottish for wearing one but if I were to wear one... I don't know. I would just feel like I'm "pretending to be Scottish" while attracting way too much attention from people with questions. 😐 I do have a deep fascination with Scotland. I appreciate my Scottish heritage too but I was born where I was born. Canada, not Scotland. Therefore to me, it wouldn't feel right to me. Maybe I'll change my mind one day...idk.
@@99oildrops It depends. Some people wear them because they want you to know they have Scottish roots, others just wear it because they like kilts whether they have Scottish roots or not. Which one will you be? And actual Scots are going to have different opinions about that and about Americans wearing them. My buddy's dad is from Scotland and he thinks it's cool seeing kilt wearers here, of course not everyone thinks that. I typically just wear one to the local Highlands fest because it's a day to celebrate Scottish heritage and culture, feels appropriate there. I grew up going to that festival and so I've always had a kilt. Occasionally I'll wear one hiking, or dress up nicely going out, because I just like kilts simple as. I didn't know my Scottish roots until later really, but even if I didn't have any I'd wear one because it's not about that. If you feel like you're pretending to be Scottish by wearing it, then I'd imagine you think you have to be Scottish to wear one, but you don't. It's just a piece of clothing, and it just happens to be Scottish. Don't overthink it, but if you don't want the attention, don't wear it. I always have at least one person come up to me and ask about it, always friendly and usually, "Are you Scottish?" To which I say no, I just like kilts. Little bit of heritage is all.
Oh what's that saying... My body my choice :-D I think my OH wasn't overly keen when I started but has got used to it, I very rarely wear anything else now.
luckily my GF loves kilts. but i think the main thing is the first few times wearing a kilt, maybe both people are kinda iffy till a few times and watch a bunch on kilt videos from usa kilts. =) for me watching their vids helped me feel better to get over the first couple times.
Get a new girlfriend. I told my wife I wanted to start wearing a kilt because of all my gut problems. she said ,"OK". Pants and belts kill me, kilts ride higher off the damaged areas. I drank the water at Camp Lejeune... Then when I got a couple, she actually liked them and encouraged me. 28 years of marriage, sir! Get a new girl, there's a lot of them out there that are a lot more supportive than the one you have.
In my experiance most men who frequently wear kilts are at least a bit eccentric. It's not a negative, it just is. While I agree that "dump the gf" would be a knee jerk reaction, I would consider that this may indicate some deeper potential issues.
If she's English then its more than likely to be a "bloke in a skirt" assumption/embarrassment. The old jokes between the English and the Scottish are mostly just friendly banter these days. I'm English and my best friend is a Glaswegian and we throw these jokes at each other all the time but it's all meant in good humour.
One of my ex-girlfriends really didn't like my kilt at first. She thought it looked silly and that guys shouldn't wear stuff like that (she even said that she would refuse to marry me if I insisted on wearing a kilt to our wedding should we get married). She did come to some events with me in my kilt and it grew on her. I don't know if she ever really liked it, but she didn't complain when I wore my kilt and she was my date. Other girlfriends though, most of them liked it.
Eric, when you were being bothered by the obnoxious English gentleman, you should have turned around and *loudly* announced, "I guess some village in England is missing its idiot."
The English: steals the kilt from the Scott’s in the 1700s* Also the English: try’s to steal the kilt today as well* Yep,,,, actually feels natural for some reason,,,, hmmm 🧐😅
+USAKiltsOfficial *Thanks for the debate on a common (but rarely discussed) variance.* Lolita Fashion developed in the State of Japan, spec. In Harazuku District, Tōkyōto. I've yet to see a Sweet Lolita packing an _Earasaid_ as an integral piece of a coordinate; Tartan breeches might be a better counterpart for the male than a kilt in the context of said style.
My French half-Bretonne wife has always loved that I wear the kilt, mostly because I look dead sexy ;) but also because of her own Celtic roots. My daughter, on the other hand.......
I'm an American and when I was in the Army the Britts world train with us and the British troops would make remarks about how us U.S. citizens should still be paying their taxes
Ah! This garment is still disturbing, it is poorly understood by some, and there are lots of prejudices surrounding it. Keep wearing your kilt, when she hears positive comments she will change her mind.
If the girlfriend is biased against Scottish people in kilts. Have her watch the movies:: Braveheart, Rob Roy and Robert the Brufe. If she is still intransigent about kilts, there's nothing for her. Get some toilet paper with the union jack printed on it. I really don't like England because of what the English have done to Scottish people over the centuries and to the McDonald clan specifically ( Rathlin Island massacre in 1575, Eigg island massacre in 1577 and Glencoe massacre in 1692.
If he doesn't have a Scottish accent. She's probably afraid he's gunna piss off Scottish people. Fearing that any Scots they encounter will take offense at him "assuming the right to wear a kilt" It bollocks either way. Just one Brit's opinion 😉
Its not really considered "acceptable to wear a kilt in England. Outside of a Formal occasion or in a Pip band. Why...for Historical reasons. If you wear a Kilt outside these occasions your perceived 'attitude' might be that you appear to be Thumbing your nose at England. Don't forget Scotland "became" part of Britain. Wearing the Kilt ( for no other reason than you like doing so - Which is really a American way of looking at it & neither Irish, Scots or English ) looks like a form of protest to some English people, or your simple trying to attract attention for whatever reason. This can make some ( not all) English people nervous or self conscious.
Ok so I understand it's in the UK so there is a different social rule. However, being the gung-ho American I am. lol If it were me here in the states for my fellow serial kilters here in the states. I'd ditch the *****. I have no time for a hater, especially when it's a significant other. I'm proud as **** to be Scottish American, kilts are better than pants or shorts (aka leg prisons) and I'd be focused on the next girl to date. However when in Rome right? If I were in the UK and not as a tourist reconnecting to my Scottish roots, I'd just blend in which she would probably be happy with. However she'd have to put up with a tartan flat cap every day just about it. *evil laugh*
Be aware that in Scotland kilts are traditionally highland wear and not lowland wear. I have heard lowland Scots that are a bit sniffy about kilts too. Some totally buy into kilts, but it's not universal.
May be a bit late to the conversation, but take it as a big clue and upgrade to a new girlfriend! This is akin to, "I don't want you going to baseball games, they're boring." Or, "I don't like motorcycles. I'm not going to ride one so neither should you and I'm going to nag the ever-loving frack out of you still you sell it." Ok...move along...move along!
Almost guaranteed this an American (with an American accent) living in England (outside possibility living in Scotland), wanting to wear a kilt outside the house. The clue is that he says he's got an English girlfriend, but doesn't state his own nationality and that he lives in "the UK". Imagine a whole nation full of people following your boyfriend round saying "He' thinks he's Scottish, He thinks he's Scottish", while she prob also thinks it's ridiculous. If he was also English, he'd have either mentioned it or not mentioned his gf's nationality. If he was Scottish he'd have mentioned it. If I'm right then you've got the dual mix of kilts not really being everyday wear even in Scotland, and especially if the guy has an American (or Ozzy, Canadian etc) accent then, maybe unfortunately, you've got 99% of people thinking he's the Scottish equiv of a "plastic Paddy". If he had a Scottish accent, people might think it a little strange but acceptable. If he had a (posh) English accent they'd accept it better ironically an assume he was off to a function somewhere.
Most of the people in the street don't care if you wear a kilt, It's just a garment like a jean. Everybody wears jeans in the West but no one is a cowboy or a California miner. Do the population says that the streets are populated with plastic cowboys? You are exploiting a prejudice. Kilts are for everybody, most of the scots say it themselves.
"My English GF hates my kilt!"
*Time to upgrade to a Scottish GF*
@@ffotograffydd Wasn't trying to, but that's a fair point to make.
@@ffotograffydd who would wear one on a daily?
@@MrAlistar99 I know a few people in my town who do. My mom teaches fitness at an office, and one guy who works there comes to work everyday in a kilt. There's also a gutter cleaner in town called "Men in Kilts", they always wear them, though I guess you don't have to count that since it's a part of the business. My father used to wear one somewhat frequently, at least every month, and a buddy of his I've only seen wearing jeans instead of a kilt one time. He's basically always wearing one. This is in northern Colorado.
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@@HaggisDruid Why do Americans do this? If they want to be British, why don't they just move to Britain or at least drop the pretence?
I never understood the controlling nature of some relationships. When somebody says my partner one out allowed me to do something, that’s a serious red flag
My wife wasn't that thrilled when I bought my first kilt and wore it out. But after the first few times wearing it and hearing the positive comments, she became far more accepting of it.
It was the other way around for me. Although I've always been proud of my Scottish heritage I'd never considered wearing a kilt. My fiance wanted me to go down the aisle kilted but I thought it's a lot of money for something I'd only wear once. However when I saw myself in the kilt makers changing room mirror I thought wow it suits me and I look bloody cool in it. So I married her in it and have worn it many times since, mainly at black tie events where it far outshines a tuxedo in my opinion. She also bought me a targe, broad and back swords and a lowland claymore to hang on the walls ( like your backdrop). I'm so glad I married her.
"One of us should wear a skirt, and you usually don't."
I remember when I used to live back in England when I went to uni, my girlfriend at the time ...HATED me for wearing my "everyday" kilt. It was kind of funny, since both of us were scottish and she hated the kilt because she hated the fact some people yelled slurs at me etc. But I really don't care. I use my kilt because of me family, where I am from and for who I am. No one can change that. YES.... she eventually broke up with me. lol.
Erik, it cracks me up every time you attempt an English accent 😂
So cringe.
Good advice. My wife was incredibly supportive once she understood my reasons for wanting to wear a kilt.
I'd have a hard time stomaching someone that thinks I look like an idiot in any context.
If she was my partner, I'd tell her, "I'm wearing my kilt and that's that." Then I'd move.
Then move ! ! ! …..you’d have to find the teaspoons to make your own coffee then….too hard mate
My mrs has just embraced the fact that I am now going to be full time kilt wearer :) Whilst I get *some* looks, I mostly get compliments from guys, and kids ask why am I wearing a skirt, but, they get corrected by their parents. When I go to the pub, nobody now bats an eye, its just a part of who I am. Even my church has said now that it would be weird for me to wear trousers or jeans or something else other than a kilt. Will say this, outside of the highland days, there are not many wearers from what I have seen.
Sounds familiar! Where do you live?
@@USAKiltsOfficial about 30 miles north of London, England
I've been there with the "I'm worried what people will think" part. My husband is Black/African American and occassionally will wear a Dashiki. My white (Irish, Scottish, and German) family were taken aback but I finally got to the point where I was like he can celebrate his culture just as much as we can so STFU! I'm also from Philly so throwing hands may have been the next move.
I'm from Delco. I hail from the Meetinghouse Rd Wawa. You'll quite often see me wearing a kilt.
I started off kilting on special occasions and events. That was okay. Daily wear was iffy for a while until going to work kilted became "normal". When we go out, I will ask her if she minds what I wear (sometimes she just doesn't want the attention). All good.🙂
Time to ask her if it's ok for you to wear trousers?
I wore my kilt in Funchal, Madeira, Hogmanay 2007 and I was wondering what reaction I would get. Some younger people stared, one guy stopped me middle of a pedestrian crossing asking me to pose for a photo so I took him over to the footpath, In a restaurant one guy said, "It's good to see the kilt," he sounede English and could have been a tourist or an expat. A party of policemen asked me to join them. I declined but posed with them for photos, So expect a mixed reaction wherever you are.
Lads if any of you are coming to London, please contact me in good time and if there is a meeting of the London Caledonian Society, at that time I will get you an invite to it, if you wish.
Just tell her "I supported you in your Paris Hilton phase a few years back, so the least you can do is support my Highlander Phase!" 😆
THERE CAN BE ONLY ONE!
The only logical solution to this situation is to find a new SO who appreciates the glory of the Kilt.
My wife LOVES my kilts....
Awesome feed back. Forwarded this to a new kilt wearer friend of mine. I'm sure the information will be invaluable to him as it is to others and myself who has been kilted for many many years. Thank you two for the insight and knowledge you pass on to our kilted community. Logan
Ditch the girlfiend, keep the kilt.
Indeed 😂😂😂
Shouldn't that be channeling inner Godfather:
Leave the girlfriend, take the kilt.
This.
I started wearing kilts at about age 62 or so and my wife of 35 years freaked out at first. OMG, my husband is wearing a skirt! What are people going to think when I'm seen with him? Four years later, it's not any king of an issue anymore. When we first went out with me wearing a kilt she heard all the compliments I was getting and relaxed. I think she thought it was a mid-life kind of thing. I'd actually been interested in kilts for a long time and had just decided to do something about it. Now I have 5 wool tartan kilts (and 1 on order), 2 PV kilts, and 2 UtiliKilts (and 2 more on order). I've acquired 2 jackets and vests, and a ton of Lewis hose, belt buckles, and kilt pins and she's totally cool with it. In March of 2021 she had a stroke and after 8 months in rehab she's recovering very nicely, and the whole kilt thing is a total non-issue. My support of her recovery has been far more important. As Rocky says, You do You! If it's something you want to do, do it. Be true to yourself. I also agree with Rocky's recommended approach. There's no need to be a jerk. A sensible man would never tell his wife what she can and cannot wear or how to style or cut her hair. I would expect the same courtesy.
100%! And best wishes to your wife.
@@maxwellfan55 Thanks! After 40 years of marriage she's still the love of my life!
I said the same to my OH, you choose your look and I choose mine 👍
My wife doesn’t like me wearing kilts. Rationales in no particular order. 1. I am changing. 2. She has an image of man in a suit. In part this is based upon the fact that I wore suits as an attorney for 45 years and she met me then. 2. She hates the attention and questions from different people and the repetition of the questions and answers. She does tolerate it … kinda. I started with Utilikilts and Stumptown Kilts. 16 years ago. I am moving to a nicer USA kilt. I will be dressed when we go out in a USA tweed or tartan with button shirt. I will wear the kilts with Braemar jacket and vest for weddings and such. I am hoping that the upgrade makes it easier but when I have tried to speak with her she sums it by “I (she) don’t like them. Too different, too much attention.” My reasoning with her is she is upgrading her wardrobe by buying Chanel purses and Burburry coats. I am trying to reason that my upgrade is not that much different, although cheaper. Thoughts?
As a Brit and know Im getting my new Kilt in the next week in my Family Clan colours of KERR! I already had my sister take the micky but I don't care its gonna be interesting wearing outdoors and seeing what others reaction in London! Bring on the adventure!
Indeed.👍
I wear one of my kilts to church every sun day LOL
I asked my wife what she thought about it before I started down the serial kilter road. She could care less what I wear and has shown an interest in my side of the family’s history and been supportive.
Respect for being a serial kilter. Bravo. We need more guys in kilts (more women too!)
Our King loves the Kilt 😉 if it's worn well for formal events with jacket, waistcoat etc, she'll love it ❤ Wearing it day in day out may be a challenge but weddings, functions, etc are all good 👍
I wore my kilt out for a event and then decide to Check my grandparents mail box and without thinking jumped out of vehicle at the time and did the mail box and was walking to the vehicle and got a complement on me in a kilt and all I could say was thank you. After that I just say to people's getting started with kilts or family are unsure I say it takes time to get use to it.
My wife hates my kilts, but I wear anyways
Defend the kilt, not the girlfriend. Do not deny your heritage
My wife has strong English roots. After I saw this I asked what she really thought. Without missing a beat, she said "We may have won, but the Scots were real men! Why do you think I married you?" Love that woman!
@@ffotograffydd she is still hanging onto the battles that the English did defeat Scotland, and has a twisted view of the Union of the Crowns. We don't talk about Robert the Bruce...that was our one and really only actual fight. Like, went to bed still mad, type of fight. Lol
@@witchdoc5075 I can't believe anyone in Britain gives a seconds thought to the Anglo-Scottish wars. And what do you mean Robert de Brix (he was Norman) was our only real fight? The battle of Bannockburn was only the very first battle between England and Scotland. Do you not talk about the Battle of Pinkie? or Culloden?
@@Alfred5555 Perhaps you could school me on when Scotland and England went to bed mad? That isn't what I said...but I appreciate your need to give the history lesson, and agree with what you said, just not why you said it.
I guess it depends on which he is more committed to the kilt or his girlfriend.
Why on earth would you be more committed to a kilt than a woman you supposedly love? If you pick up the trend of wearing a kilt after beginning a relationship with a woman, doesn't she have the right to say "this isn't what she signed up for"?
@@Alfred5555well, we don't know if he picked up the "trend" before of after. And yes, if you word it like "choosing between clothes or a woman", it's unhealthy. But wording it like that in a relationship is also manipulative at best.
And the problem comes down to "is it worth it to tie your life with a person who will thwart/belittle you every time you change". For me - it's not. Just like I would never dictate to my wife what she can't wear, what she can't do with her hair, what she can't do with make-up, I would never take such barriers from her. But happily I married a partner, not a slave mistress.
@@LoisoPondohva Seems like a two way street. Like it or not there are social conventions. You're saying it's unreasonable or extreme for a person to dismiss a whole relationship over just a piece of clothing, well isn't it equally extreme and unreasonable to in turn dismiss the same relationship just for your personal desire to make a fashion statement and break social convention?
Some people want to live within social conventions, other people see breaking social conventions as their way of expressing themselves and feel very attached to that right. These sorts of people probably work well together in a relationship.
@@Alfred5555 no, I don't see it unreasonable to dismiss the relationship because of fundamental irreconcilable disagreement over the agency of an individual.
@@LoisoPondohva You must have a problem with paying for train tickets, all those ticket gates literally barring your individual agency.
My wife asks me to wear a kilt from time to time.... LOL
I think the thing for the guy to do is to wear it around the house a whole lot more so she gets used to it. Then maybe stepping out in it will be no big deal.
My girl only saw one of my kilts, once (last week), and she was not a happy camper. She had been quite degrading about it since. Needless to say, we haven't spoken in three days.
I have been wearing my kilts for about 2 years, not every day (windy, cold or trousers are required for safety / working under desks) but often. I have received many positive comments. The only negative comment was from my brother.
I'd tell her its a package deal. My heritage is a huge part of who I am. (Obviously the same for everyone.) I'd also ask her if she would have the same bias and prejudice if you were a Polynesian man wearing a traditional Sarong? We have a very large transplanted Polynesian population here where I live. (No pun intended.) I have NEVER heard ANYONE question a Samoan or a Tongan about, "why are you wearing a dress"? They would likely get stopped into the pavement anyway. But, most people somehow CAN understand that it is a part of THEIR culture. I don't get the disconnect with the Scottish and the kilt? Just plain ignorance IMHO.
Because it's a cultural item symbolizing "why-te European heritage" and in our current topsy-turvy political dystopia where anything Western is instantly demonized, it's now acceptable to pour scorn on it. This would NEVER be done with any other culture.
@@Miniver765 Of course. I am fully aware of that, and was side stepping the obvious conclusion. Sometimes it is easier to get people to "come to the obvious conclusion themselves". (Or, at least let them "think" they did.) By pointing out this sort of bigotry and not specifically calling it as such. People tend to plant their feet and stop listening IF they think you are trying to change "their minds". I find it much more effective to make your argument (with most folks) then let them digest your arguments without them actually realizing your ARE in fact making an argument. For example, it is far easier to gently coax a mule without it realizing it is cooperating WITH you, than to try to force one that has planted it's feet because you are trying to push or pull him.
12:10 my wife thinks I'm weird. Because I go through some weird phases and hobbies. And I want to get a kilt. I'm not Scottish... that I know of. But my step-dad has Scottish relatives. And I like there culture.
Simple. He should get himself a nice Scottish lass or tell his current SO to get over it. Problem solved.😆How do you think she would react if he made a negative comment on how she dressed???
The daggers would be straight out for sure! Whatever happened to equality?
My late husband was a proud McGlothlin in the US. He wore the kilt for formal occasions, but also sarongs at home and on vacations. Come to think of it, maybe was a bit anti-pants! He was a cop and sure didn't like polyester uniform pants.
Rocky you are come across as a psychologist. That is how we were taught to counsel people.
Easy. If a love interest doesn't like your kilt, or something that honors your family...then dump them!
Man in kilt = 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
If you are with a partner who doesn’t think your kilt is dead sexy, please find one who does.
What a waist to not love him.
if she don't like the kilt, she gotta go....
Reserved, socially anxious people, dislike anything that draws attention towards them. If your partner is like that, very hyper sensitive to external judgement, they could very well be intimidated by the prospect of both of you being stared at for you wearing a kilt. Whether it's about them or not. Personally, I'm a fairly reserved person and dislike attention in public, but I love wearing kilts. I wear one when I'm okay with people coming up to me, feeling social that day. I'm very fortunate that my fiancee loves kilts on me, and is not concerned about what other people think at all.
Haven't had much trouble with people having something to say about my style. I wear a wide variety of styles, but in highschool I wore combat boots exclusively for awhile. That was the only time people really gave me a hard time, it was mostly just casual picking though. I just said eh whatever, I like em, are you really wearing what you want to wear? By senior year all anyone ever said was how they appreciated my willingness to dress against standards and thought it was cool. It wasn't intentional, I'm just an expressive person, as is my father. He wore kilts frequently when I was growing up (still does occasionally) and being a part of the punk scene and tattooing, he was always a very expressive person with his style. I think that really paved the way for me, honestly. I'm such a reserved person at heart that if it weren't for my father's leading example, I would have probably kept much of that self expression bottled up, to avoid the attention that comes with it.
I'm a reserved person myself and I can't see a reason why I should wear a kilt even though I do have some Scottish heritage. I wouldn't judge anyone who isn't Scottish for wearing one but if I were to wear one... I don't know. I would just feel like I'm "pretending to be Scottish" while attracting way too much attention from people with questions. 😐 I do have a deep fascination with Scotland. I appreciate my Scottish heritage too but I was born where I was born. Canada, not Scotland. Therefore to me, it wouldn't feel right to me. Maybe I'll change my mind one day...idk.
@@99oildrops It depends. Some people wear them because they want you to know they have Scottish roots, others just wear it because they like kilts whether they have Scottish roots or not. Which one will you be? And actual Scots are going to have different opinions about that and about Americans wearing them. My buddy's dad is from Scotland and he thinks it's cool seeing kilt wearers here, of course not everyone thinks that. I typically just wear one to the local Highlands fest because it's a day to celebrate Scottish heritage and culture, feels appropriate there. I grew up going to that festival and so I've always had a kilt. Occasionally I'll wear one hiking, or dress up nicely going out, because I just like kilts simple as. I didn't know my Scottish roots until later really, but even if I didn't have any I'd wear one because it's not about that. If you feel like you're pretending to be Scottish by wearing it, then I'd imagine you think you have to be Scottish to wear one, but you don't. It's just a piece of clothing, and it just happens to be Scottish. Don't overthink it, but if you don't want the attention, don't wear it. I always have at least one person come up to me and ask about it, always friendly and usually, "Are you Scottish?" To which I say no, I just like kilts. Little bit of heritage is all.
If she looks like the lady in the thumbnail, the kilt is gone 🤣🤣😂
am scots and live in england i wear my kilt wwhenever e,g clubbing , football , allsorts
YOU LOOK BETTER IN IT THAT'S WHY!
Oh what's that saying...
My body my choice :-D
I think my OH wasn't overly keen when I started but has got used to it, I very rarely wear anything else now.
Could the issue be the Black Watch tartan? I know there are perceived issues due to the military regimental connection.
BW is universal.
@@maxwellfan55 Yes, absolutely! I got one!
luckily my GF loves kilts. but i think the main thing is the first few times wearing a kilt, maybe both people are kinda iffy till a few times and watch a bunch on kilt videos from usa kilts. =) for me watching their vids helped me feel better to get over the first couple times.
i My wife is second generation Scottish American. I don't have a problem.😁
Get a new girlfriend. I told my wife I wanted to start wearing a kilt because of all my gut problems. she said ,"OK". Pants and belts kill me, kilts ride higher off the damaged areas. I drank the water at Camp Lejeune...
Then when I got a couple, she actually liked them and encouraged me. 28 years of marriage, sir! Get a new girl, there's a lot of them out there that are a lot more supportive than the one you have.
Maybe we should talk about Rocky's tartan, it's amazing, and as it's Celtic Nations (muted) I guess anyone can wear it.
Wow! What school of psychology did you guys attend?
In my experiance most men who frequently wear kilts are at least a bit eccentric. It's not a negative, it just is. While I agree that "dump the gf" would be a knee jerk reaction, I would consider that this may indicate some deeper potential issues.
If she's English then its more than likely to be a "bloke in a skirt" assumption/embarrassment.
The old jokes between the English and the Scottish are mostly just friendly banter these days. I'm English and my best friend is a Glaswegian and we throw these jokes at each other all the time but it's all meant in good humour.
One of my ex-girlfriends really didn't like my kilt at first. She thought it looked silly and that guys shouldn't wear stuff like that (she even said that she would refuse to marry me if I insisted on wearing a kilt to our wedding should we get married). She did come to some events with me in my kilt and it grew on her. I don't know if she ever really liked it, but she didn't complain when I wore my kilt and she was my date.
Other girlfriends though, most of them liked it.
Other girlfriends? Now you're bragging!
Eric, when you were being bothered by the obnoxious English gentleman, you should have turned around and *loudly* announced, "I guess some village in England is missing its idiot."
Tempting for sure. However as I am a gentleman, I chose to ignore him. ;)
The English: steals the kilt from the Scott’s in the 1700s*
Also the English: try’s to steal the kilt today as well*
Yep,,,, actually feels natural for some reason,,,, hmmm 🧐😅
I think it's in the bible somewhere, "thou shalt not suffer a woman who hateth thy kilt."
She would change her mind once the other ladies start paying attention.
Why put a British union jack for an English flag
Go find a new girlfriend... Damn Sassenachs.
+USAKiltsOfficial *Thanks for the debate on a common (but rarely discussed) variance.* Lolita Fashion developed in the State of Japan, spec. In Harazuku District, Tōkyōto. I've yet to see a Sweet Lolita packing an _Earasaid_ as an integral piece of a coordinate; Tartan breeches might be a better counterpart for the male than a kilt in the context of said style.
That's 'Ouji' (王子) or 'Dandy' (ダンディ) style.
Breeches will never be as classy as a kilt.
My French half-Bretonne wife has always loved that I wear the kilt, mostly because I look dead sexy ;) but also because of her own Celtic roots. My daughter, on the other hand.......
I'm an American and when I was in the Army the Britts world train with us and the British troops would make remarks about how us U.S. citizens should still be paying their taxes
You should
@@Richard-od3gc make us)
Over thinking this. It is quite simple, some people don’t like kilts.
People don’t have to like them.
Ah! This garment is still disturbing, it is poorly understood by some, and there are lots of prejudices surrounding it. Keep wearing your kilt, when she hears positive comments she will change her mind.
George Jones said it best , he stopped loving her today 😎
There's the door English...
If the girlfriend is biased against Scottish people in kilts. Have her watch the movies:: Braveheart, Rob Roy and Robert the Brufe. If she is still intransigent about kilts, there's nothing for her. Get some toilet paper with the union jack printed on it. I really don't like England because of what the English have done to Scottish people over the centuries and to the McDonald clan specifically ( Rathlin Island massacre in 1575, Eigg island massacre in 1577 and Glencoe massacre in 1692.
Robert the Bruce, not Robert the Brufe!
@@josephmcdonald764
Scot’s invaded England more times than the other way round
You sound like a typical yank
@@josephmcdonald764
Don’t worry we aren’t overly found of you either😂
If he doesn't have a Scottish accent. She's probably afraid he's gunna piss off Scottish people. Fearing that any Scots they encounter will take offense at him "assuming the right to wear a kilt"
It bollocks either way.
Just one Brit's opinion 😉
Its not really considered "acceptable to wear a kilt in England. Outside of a Formal occasion or in a Pip band. Why...for Historical reasons. If you wear a Kilt outside these occasions your perceived 'attitude' might be that you appear to be Thumbing your nose at England. Don't forget Scotland "became" part of Britain. Wearing the Kilt ( for no other reason than you like doing so - Which is really a American way of looking at it & neither Irish, Scots or English ) looks like a form of protest to some English people, or your simple trying to attract attention for whatever reason. This can make some ( not all) English people nervous or self conscious.
Ok so I understand it's in the UK so there is a different social rule. However, being the gung-ho American I am. lol If it were me here in the states for my fellow serial kilters here in the states. I'd ditch the *****. I have no time for a hater, especially when it's a significant other. I'm proud as **** to be Scottish American, kilts are better than pants or shorts (aka leg prisons) and I'd be focused on the next girl to date. However when in Rome right? If I were in the UK and not as a tourist reconnecting to my Scottish roots, I'd just blend in which she would probably be happy with. However she'd have to put up with a tartan flat cap every day just about it. *evil laugh*
Get rid of the kilts!
....oh, did I say kilts? I ment gf, get rid of the girlfriend
Be aware that in Scotland kilts are traditionally highland wear and not lowland wear. I have heard lowland Scots that are a bit sniffy about kilts too. Some totally buy into kilts, but it's not universal.
Totally agree on the over dressed point.
Sounds like he needs a new girlfriend
What’s not practical about it? If someone doesn’t like something about you or who you are, maybe it’s not a match?
She hated it.
I still have the kilt.
Seriously……get a new girlfriend
She is very insecure. She doesn't like the attention, not all on her. Jealousy clearly
She's probably jealous of other females paying him attention over the kilt.
She may be a girl, but she's not your friend.
Pick her favorite outfit and tell her the same.
Then get a better girlfriend.
Imperialist bourgeoise 👸
Dump her and find a lass who thinks kilts are grand!
May be a bit late to the conversation, but take it as a big clue and upgrade to a new girlfriend! This is akin to, "I don't want you going to baseball games, they're boring." Or, "I don't like motorcycles. I'm not going to ride one so neither should you and I'm going to nag the ever-loving frack out of you still you sell it." Ok...move along...move along!
Sassenach dames! What can ya do?
I feel sorry for you, man.
get a new gf
Just call her a biggit and wear it ! Its your heritage and play the woke card
Almost guaranteed this an American (with an American accent) living in England (outside possibility living in Scotland), wanting to wear a kilt outside the house. The clue is that he says he's got an English girlfriend, but doesn't state his own nationality and that he lives in "the UK". Imagine a whole nation full of people following your boyfriend round saying "He' thinks he's Scottish, He thinks he's Scottish", while she prob also thinks it's ridiculous.
If he was also English, he'd have either mentioned it or not mentioned his gf's nationality. If he was Scottish he'd have mentioned it.
If I'm right then you've got the dual mix of kilts not really being everyday wear even in Scotland, and especially if the guy has an American (or Ozzy, Canadian etc) accent then, maybe unfortunately, you've got 99% of people thinking he's the Scottish equiv of a "plastic Paddy". If he had a Scottish accent, people might think it a little strange but acceptable. If he had a (posh) English accent they'd accept it better ironically an assume he was off to a function somewhere.
Most of the people in the street don't care if you wear a kilt, It's just a garment like a jean. Everybody wears jeans in the West but no one is a cowboy or a California miner. Do the population says that the streets are populated with plastic cowboys? You are exploiting a prejudice. Kilts are for everybody, most of the scots say it themselves.
Guess she's gotta go
Get a new girlfriend.......
You need to find an actual woman then.