Mothering kids with disabilties
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- Опубликовано: 26 сен 2024
- Attitude pays tribute to mothers of kids with disabilities - It’s not the life they expected for themselves or their children, today they share their wisdom and their insight.
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Watching this in 2023, and it's women's day in my country today. I see strength, courage, vulnerability and sooooo much love. Hope they are still well and thriving for their children and families ❤❤
I want to give these moms a hug and a night off a week. ❤❤
this really helped me appreciate my mom!! I have autism spectrum disorder, sensory processing disorder, reattachment disorder (due to adoption and living in a orphanage before adoption), a learning disability, and a physical chronic condition ehlers-Danlos syndrome, depression, anxiety, and PTSD from events in my life. she didn't know who she was adopting at the time but she has stayed strong in helping and supporting me. she's amazing! there are hard frustrating times but love override the life mom and I have together. I would probably be here if she did adopt me and support me through my depression and frustrating times. thanks for doing this video! theses mother's are strong inspiring women!!! I love this channel! !
Thanks for watching ! Hope you enjoyed!
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Even though this is four years late, I relate to this a lot. I have EDS, depression, anxiety, learning disability that share many similar characteristics as someone on the autism spectrum(though mama won't get me tested for autism), hyper sensitive and so on. I find it strange finding another person who is similar in some ways.
Autism is never caused by bad parenting
I hate how the medical community thinks humans are easily disposable. “Eh, it’s not gonna be perfect, so just suck and flush and try again”
My life has been so blessed by someone born with Cerebral Palsy, 100% the doctor.
He was taught how to walk with crutches at 1 year old. He was a guinea pig for The Scottish Rite hospital, and has very vivid memories of barbaric surgeries. In the first grade, his mother was called to the school and told that he should be moved to a special school because “he scared the other students” a new development as he had not frightened anyone thru Kindergarten at a different school, but as it turns out, a parent complained that HE made her child uncomfortable. His parents never babies him, and as a result he graduated from a top level University, and is a Wealth Management Consultant advising Financial planners all over the country. (USA)
Doctors don’t deeply care, it’s a blip on a computer screen, and if they haven’t seen it in flesh and blood, then does IT really exist?
He’s been my husband for 10 years, and everyday I am faced with the reality that God created him perfectly. We all have gifts and strengths and quality to add to the life we’ve been given, and no one, has a right to put a value on that.
I have high functioning autism and sensory processing disorder and PTSD (due to child abuse) I was not diagnosed until I was 24 years old with autism before that they just labeled me with just a learning disability and ADHD But I did get the speech therapy and occupational therapy I need as a child and was in special ed classes here in the USA
Thank you for sharing your story Kiddly3000, good to hear you received therapy and hope you are living a healthy/happy life now! Thanks for watching!
Never underestimate a mother's love! My mom is my hero. She and I both have early onset arthritis and Ehler-Danlos Syndrome- although I'm more symptomatic- and my brother has ADHD and learning disabilities, and she takes everything with such grace! Thank you for sharing these beautiful stories!
Totally agree Sydney! Hope you enjoyed the episode!😀
Sydney Monroe I also have eds
I'm sorry but what is that syndrome? I don't think I've heard of that.. Thank you☺
@@AttitudeLive hi what year is this episode from?
I know the focus of this show was about the moms and what they go through, but did anyone notice that there are no dads around at all?
Proud Zionist Elliot and Jaden both have a father.
There is mention of fathers, as well as siblings. Just focusing on the mother in this film.
They did another video about dads a little while ago
they had dads in thede families involved. they didnt focus on them though. it was spwcifically for moms. they do have some about both parents, dads. siblings etc.
you are amazing Mother's may God continue blessing you and your family
That's God blessing them? Why not make them healthy?
Thanks for your kind words Rose!
Enabler I say that because I'm some of these parents go through everyday I have a 12 year old son who is ADHD and I also have a 8 year old son with autistic / ADHD so I know what these mothers go through everyday now hard is it for them but every day God gives me strength to hang in there so I can be there for them being a good mother's best that I can. 💙💙
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Like Jarem I have dyspraxia and although some things have been a challenge I now have a degree in forensic psychology and have moved countries with my partner and I'm now learning a new language and hoping to pursue a degree in nursing so there is still a future as an independent adult. It might be hard but with support it's possible to live a lot like anyone else.
Thank you for your feedback BBand3DG! Hope you enjoyed the episode!
I am very interested in that field!
Still our children and we love them!
If any of these moms didn’t sometimes feel like running away from home I would wonder about them! The stress is nonstop and no matter how much we love our children, we are still only human. After 49 years of caring for my disabled daughter my health isn’t good and I have systemic lupus among other issues.
I understand xx
Hats off to those mother's they are true angels
I feel bad for Elliot, I know he has the best of care but that's no way of life, no child deserves to go through that ever.
Thanks for the support Emily!
Have been watching videos on the channel for couple of days now. God, parents and people in general in NZ are strong and so-so-so brave. Bless them. Love and positive thoughts from Russia.
Awesome to have your support from Russia, we really appreciate it. And hope you stay tuned for new videos!
TheSandrineLeto go Russians!!! I'm adopted from Russia as well! :)
MsRespect247 niiice.:3
Вероника Жаворонкова sane from Australia 😃💜🇦🇺
My friend Judy Reece has a son with a similar disability as Elliot has. Please pray for her. God Bless. Prayers are with you all.
Jen Wall who’s benefiting from this...
Sharon is a really great mother...
I haven't watched the whole video yet; I just got the part about Jake. And i have to say that I think Jake's mom made the best decision! A decision that I wish more families on this channel that have similar circumstances would do. It's so sad that Jake's mom is compelled to feel defensive or shamed for prioritizing EVERYONE (including their other children) equally; not.just the child whom is disabled.
That s How youtube can change our minds. Thsnks a lot
Glad you enjoyed this Ronny! Thanks for watching
I used to watch autism awareness programmes when i was in school ,my heart used to go out to those children but now that i have a child with autism i can truly relate to the mothers as well,i wish many blessings and love for all these special families and kids,the moms however have to be mountain of strength ,certainly not easy life but is indeed rewarding .
My son has autism but I will always love him no matter what because he is my everything and I love him to the moon and back 💝💝 💝💝 💝😘 😘😘 😘😘 😘
I have Asperger syndrome and I'm very blessed to be who I am!
Thanks for sharing Morgan, you are indeed! Thanks for the support - glad to have you as part of our community!
Such amazing families. I've seen Kim and her kids on afew of these docos and shes just amazing. Kim speaks so positively about her boys and her life. Shes still doing such a great job and all on her own! Kim deserves Top mum award!
I can relate to send I'm a stroke victim myself due to a brain tumor your child will run how to read it just takes forever for people and his situation to do so when they're born like that I can relate to him very much so
Jaden seems like such a smart child!
Totally! Hope you enjoyed the video CrazyWorld!
Love this video. I have a child with special needs and I like how this video show the real life struggles and strengths we have as parents. A lot of times special needs parents are seen as super strong and able to endure anything but on the inside there is a lot going on that isn't being shared. I think it helps those who are not going through this to possibly be more supportive by being understanding and hopefully less judgmental. Although, I do think that the judgemental stuff can be what someone thinks is helpful but really isn't.
After hearing different stories of people who have Autistic children in New Zealand are not getting the therapies like we get here in the US. My youngest has moderate Autism, microcephaly and mild CP had numerous therapies several times a week starting when he was a year old. He was at UCP preschool until he was three then started public school program for children with disabilities. At five he went to the speech impaired kindergarten then after that attended main stream school until he graduated with a regular diploma at 18. He is now 21 he is in college getting his certifications in IT/networking and he has a part time job. He has speech but finds it hard to speak to people. His only social life is online and at this point can't live alone. But he has accomplished way more than any doctor thought he would. My oldest has PDD-NOS and severe learning disabilities. He is 27 has a job and lives with my second son so he partially living on his own. Both boys have a rare chromosome disorder called Duplication 15q syndrome. My other two children do not have this. We did not find out the diagnosis until my youngest was around 11. If we had found out my oldest had it when he was little we probably wouldn't have had four children so not finding out until much later I would of missed out on my daughter and youngest son. I'm so blessed just like these mothers. You learn not to sweat the small stuff and patience.
God bless these families!
My girl now 12 is high functioning. Starting speaking at 4 and never had agressive behaviors. My son is 4 still nonverbal. Very hyper and very agressive towards himself and I. I have been bit and bruised many times . He seems less autistic then his sister did at this age though. He's more present and affectionate. I don't know if he will be able to speak soon or if behavior will calm down. Very much in limbo. Can't help but worry about the future. If he remains this way. If I'll be able to keep him and myself safe when he's bigger. I do know I'll try every way possible to keep him in my care. Meds , programs , therapist , communication alternatives. Unless my health isn't good or I can't keep him safe , then I'd have to do residential. Though I think it would kill me and I'd be there daily to see him . My heart hurts even thinking about it.
I'm glad to see i am not alone
My 4 year old has ASD and let me tell you he is the biggest blessing in my life. My son has impressed me so much and is starting to talk. Hearing mommy and I love you melts me. So thankful for his existence. Sometimes we don’t talk much it’s just good vibes ❤️
I wish you were my mother you are a blessing your kids are good they are apart
I completely agree--my son has definitely changed me for the better ❤️
20:40 ... that lady gives me hope. Mad respect.
Hope you enjoyed the episode ! Thanks for watching!
My friend Abbas Safideen also has a son with autism. Prayers are with you all. God Bless.
God will bless you for keeping the kids and loving them.
God bless them all 😊so strong
Im a single mom with Bipolar II and my son has Aspergers.
We manage with love and one day at the time.
Big up for all the mom's that struggle with disabilities, in their family and in themselves.
Love from Portugal
Glad you are enjoying the videos The16BitLolita! Thank you!
Does Elliot have actual brain activity? What are his thoughts? I'm wondering if he's cognizant or aware of anything going on around him...
luxconcept don’t be cruel! He has brain activity or he won’t be alive!
b Consilio not true. It is possible to have no brain activity and still be alive. And they weren’t being cruel, it was just a simple question. I was actually wondering the same thing.
If he had no brain actiity he would be on a life support machine. His body is sustaining itself even if he has no movement, he must have some brain function even if it's minimal.
There's a scene where he moves one of his hands to his face and it looks like he's scratching his nose or something. I doubt he's able to think the way you or I would, but he's somewhere above a vegetative state.
The fact he is breathing is all the proof needed to show he has “some” brain activity. A scary thought is if he had something along the lines of “locked in syndrome” or whatever the name is. You can think, hear and smell but have no movement or any way to communicate whatsoever. I’m not saying he has that and I doubt he does, but anything is possible. Most likely he’s basically just alive and that’s the extent of it. Very very sad and I truly believe more countries need to come up with a law allowing assisted suicide if the family wishes. If the family wishes to take care of a person in a state like this then by all means they have that right. If a family agrees the quality of life isn’t worth living or it’s a situation where the person is in constant pain then I think it should be allowed. This is of course after doctors have said without a doubt there is no chance of improvement.
Love to these amazing people ❤
Good on you walking out on the rude doctor 😃💜👍🇦🇺
Heartbreaking when you’re child can’t respond!
Some of these mothers are sooo strong and patient.
Having Spina Bifida and being a left below the knee amputee I am truly grateful for the breaks I have been given, I wish I coild give them to someone more deserving. I have the worst form of Spina Bifida yet am able to walk where as others with lesser forms can't walk. Seeing this growing up taught me to not ask "Why me?" and ask myself "Why not me?".
Thanks for sharing your story Allison! Hope you enjoyed the episode!
Allison Scheirer that takes some strong thinking to thing "why not me" god bless you! your life is a important part of the world. I love using this phrase, "disability is just ability with a dislocation in front of the word, an it's rude to discuss other." :) meaning just because you have some challenges in your life you have amazing ability that can override the bad times. it takes strong and wise people to realize what you and I realize! I support you and hope the best for you!
I have autism spectrum disorder, ehlers-Danlos syndrome, learning disabilities, server depression. that's why I say "you and i" but it's challenges that I can overcome and become stronger as a individual :)
Allison Scheirer damn allison you shuold be featured on this channel!
It must be so hard to have autistic children that are violent. I have many friends with autistic boys that are the opposite...very kind and gentle. Lowering sugar may help.Hugs to all the moms and children.
I've always planned to adopt kids with disabilities. Good video :) very educational. I will one day be a proud mother to beautiful children with beautiful differences.
Thank you as someone with multiple disabilities in a horrible home
@@heidibell9257 In the three years since I posted that comment, I have discovered that I myself have disabilities. My adoption comment still stands true, however. I wish you loads of good luck with your situation, and I assure you, if you need help, myself and others would be happy to help.
You are an inspiration!!
I have a learning disability all my life which effect my learning I have my up and downs with it I wish that I hadn't have learning disability but my mum said if you didn't have your learning disability it would be you my mum said I'm special in any way witch I'm happy 😀
3 kids and all with problems, that's like winning some kind of reversed lottery. Their mom though impresses me so much that words can not describe it, to be such a positive person in face of such a tragedy.
its not that uncommom with things like autism adhd etc. or other genetic conditions
autism often has a genetic link even if they never test for it or know.
what I feel is teachers and Educators should show this while they're teaching so quote normal students understand the effect they have in this Society because people wouldn't on disabilities don't understand until it happens to them or their family I just wanted to Clues you that's what I want and this is what I have a learning disability myself and it's quite difficult still you don't to this day I need lots of help yeah I live on my own you know I did you I am looking for work again which is cool because everybody needs money I can communicate I can tell people what I want what I don't want but stop looking at people with issues with disabilities like they're monsters you know they have feelings you have a new not understand quite what you're saying but if you adopt and try to accept them and try to speak in their level they're going to understand you even if they don't speak I just wanted to sing like I said that's it I'm crying because this is my passion I love people with disabilities it's just makes me feel good that they're getting to be included and everything in life you know marriage if they want to be married religion if they want to have a religion cool if they want to go to school work if they can work drive if they can drive have a girlfriend have a boyfriend whatever it may be that's all I want anyways I hope my voice is heard have a good day
I love this channel thanks
Thanks for watching Loretta! Hope you enjoyed the documentary!
I have Spina Bifida too
Talented
anyway, I am from Banyuwangi - Indonesia
Take care and blessing...
That's must be so hard to have three kids wito disability I don't know how you do I have a mild disability my self
Same when you’re a Widow!
My bleeding disorder is called Factor XIII Deficiency
I have a bleeding Disorder, mild mentally challenged I have ADD
Elliot is suffering Poor kid...How is he doing Now we all wonder.
I have a question that may never be answered but has Finns mother ever showed him finding memo and show him that even people with a little Finn cannot be stopped and can accomplish anything?. I think that would be cute! Also I love your videos
I'm a minute in and was like, oh, no disabled girls? okay...
Help
Sometimes, we have to accept and be grateful with what the Lord gave to us, including child/ren. Of course, if we may choose, we all wish to have Normal wonderful child but the reality may different from our wish. Lord gave me 2 boys and one of them is Intellectual disability child.
Whats dispraxia?
My baby has a backbone problem he can't do anything 6 yrs now struggling with him and his brother 3yrs old .anyone can surport him the wheelchair or hospital therapy bcz it's hard for me as a single mother
06:46 that face
Make a communication board
What is dyspraxia?
Hannah Rose it's a developmental disorder where motor coordination is compromised. meaning the areas of the brain that control coordinative movements , fine motor skills (such as using utensils or buttoning a jacket) and gross motor control skills (walking running) are probably not able to transmit those messages correctly or accurately. so basically you understand and have an idea of what you want to do, lets say button your shirt but you cant coordinate your finger movement to do so. dys praxia (greek praxis =act. so literally difficulty in action )
blueninja That's so interesting! For the longest time, I just thought they were mispronouncing "dyslexia." Thank you!
come to think about it, yeah they do sound similar! it can get confusing for sure!
But anyway you're very welcome :) :)
Hannah Rose Reviews I’m dyslexic and I also have ADD and muscle problems
I stopped And watched. My son has a brain injury. Really would like to talk to someone about this it's so Hard
I used to look after a boy can't walk and talk
What Finn his disability?
wilfred jenkins rewatch video. They said it
He had a Stroke, so part of his Brain was oxygen deprived and it caused Brain Damage.
Elliot has no quality of a real life he’s basically a vegetable that’s alive it’s super sad
The way the second mom worded her putting her son in a home sounds so wrong, I can get the point shes trying but the way she's saying it sounds horrible
Yes esp in cases like Elliott it makes u wonder "what makes quality of life? "and "what makes life worth continuing?" In cases like these I honestly don't blame parents that kill their child and then commit suicide. Esp for parents that are senior citizens and have their now adult child at home. If they are no longer able to care for their child is it right to end their child's life or do u risk on putting the child in a sometime uncaring system.
I have severe asd
Ellie pop101 qnd u can be on youtube
The mom who kinda gave away her son should be ashamed.
My son is autistic. And believe me... It is really hard. But I WOULD NEVER, NEVER leave my boy alone in residential Care... NEVER!!!
I feel sorry for jake but no parent should ever do that to their son, even if they are autistic you should still love them and care for them xx
I don't think you should judge anyone. Especially if you're not in their shoes.
Melissa Moya I’m not judging them, I’m just saying that she should take care of her own son
6:57
that's not a thing. it doesn't just "get worse". parents may just start to notice more autistic traits as their child ages and is more comparable to children their age. people can also gain and lose autistic traits over the course of their lives at random or more commonly because of factors in their environment. frequently the only reason why they gain traits (often ones that are more stigmatized or quote "violent") is because no one is listening to them and no one speaks the same "language" as them, they're for coping with one's surroundings and attempts at communication. no one wants to learn their language and understand their way of being, they just want them to conform and be like the majority of society.
locked in syndrome maybe?
Thanks for watching ! Hope you enjoyed!
Well I have Autism :) aka a carrot
I think it’s Terrible that the mom gave up jake just to spend time with her other boys... I think kids deserve to be with their families no matter what. I have spinabifida and feel very strongly about this
Emma Befus I agree, It is not easy raising kids especially ones with a disability , but when u become a parent that is ur job for life.u just can't give up because it is hard and send them away.
U are not in her shoes so u wont kno how tough the decision sas for her
I know a family in an identical situation. You can't judge because no parent chooses to just give their child away. You have to look at the safety and quality of life of everyone in the family. Your not giving your child away. Your trying to find a way for everyone in the family to be safe and happy. If she didn't care, then she would never want to see him
God bless all the mothers out there ❤️ just continue to love those kids
These women or moms are the angels of the world! No matter how bad their kid's situation is, they always keep hope in their kids and never give up. So touched.
Hi I am from Bangladesh thanks for your. Comments
Jake is so precious. He reminds me of my nephew (also with severe autism), especially when his mama kisses him. My nephew moved out into a care facility in his late teens for similar reasons: violent behavior, anxiety, sleeping only four hours a day... at that point my sister was holding on by a thread and on antidepressants and trying to get help from everybody but no help could be found. They're both happier now and my nephew's behavior has improved, partially in thanks to every second of his day being structured and predictable and not having siblings to contend with when it comes to noise and chaos and unpredictability. My message is to the mama on here: You did a great job raising your son. Don't feel guilty for anything. He's a beautiful young man and you did a great job.
Thanks for your kind words Forensic Mama, hope you enjoyed the documentary!
So much props goes to these mom's it's very difficult to raise a child with a disability but with the love for your child it can be done
Finn is extremely cute and clever x
Thank you for watching Finn 😊
I have Autism too