In an effort to fill up the holes in our hearts with a man, we inadvertently re-create the same scenarios with our daughters/sons. We choose that mediocre man for the sake of creating a 'whole' family but what happens is we create the same situation for them as was done to us. Another generation of fatherless children.
Marie55, I grew up in with five siblings, we had a Great mother who taught us to always treat others the way you would want to treated !! And prayer was a way we coped with our fathers alcoholism for years. My father was really never there for us children @ anytime,so it's like we were fatherless!! He always would make promises to us & everytime break them!! He lived until he was 83 & passed away. I have serious issues with not trusting men in general!! Even my husband of 36 yrs. He is a Veteran
This is great advice because I always believe that you should tell your children the truth because my mom would always lie to me since I was a young girl and make up excuses for my dad's bad behavior. He was very emotionally and verbally abusive towards us and I would resent her for her weakness to treat a woman like that and treat her children like that. I made my peace with what was and with who I am today.
I grew up without my father .My mother never told lies about him when he never showed up to get me and my sister.But she taught me about finding my worth so i could grow up and heal from the pain of him not being around...And forgiveness and i know he was just not father material ..I pray for those that still are struggling with their fathers not being in their lives ..all your un-answered questions you may have and even the pain you still feel the emotions and damage it leaves scares God Bless
We all have a responsibility to each other. It's not men against women, we really need each other. I read comments from angry people bashing whole genders but a belief in the Almighty makes that an indictment of his creation. We must learn to have and show genuine love and empathy toward each other and stop the selfishness. That's a reason I appreciate listening to Iyanla frame questions and respond...I see you must not be mad at others experience of you,a situation, etc it is their experience and doesn't need your approval, it's theirs.That episode with Saigon really brought the connectivity home.
It's coo if y'all got new loves I'm here for the kids I chase my kids not my bms I'm trying to mend and make a peaceful environment for our kids with respect I don't want to make them feel as if they have to pick a side because they don't
3 step plan huh? What about 3 easy questions for stater, you can ask a man before you become intimate with, that will help you determine if this man is qualified to be a good daddy.
This is what I can't understand about women, an Iyanla keeps hinting around it. Why do women "keep" choosing too have these guys babies if they know he isn't any good. 2nd question why keep repeating the cycle of being a Daddy less daughter. Last question are for those who know there father an just don't understand what a part it plays in your dating WORLD too connect with NEW boyfriend... 🤔🤔🤔
@SoneHere You don't need too help me. But for your comment "haven't been told the truth" NOT too take it put of context but Mother's need too tell there daughter's the truth, about "there" relationshipS an what too DO & DON'T DO....even if she hasn't found that KING yet!
@SoneHere No noo there's no RIGHT orr wrong. I understand if you feel like you may have misinterpreted what I said. I truly wasn't looking for a precise answer But too rebuttal off what you said. The tools are there for free. But the problem is the young women don't hang around the older women with since to get it.🤔😉
Amen amen amen. As a woman it's my responsibility to find and build a life with a man who is father material.
In an effort to fill up the holes in our hearts with a man, we inadvertently re-create the same scenarios with our daughters/sons. We choose that mediocre man for the sake of creating a 'whole' family but what happens is we create the same situation for them as was done to us. Another generation of fatherless children.
Marie55, I grew up in with five siblings, we had a Great mother who taught us to always treat others the way you would want to treated !! And prayer was a way we coped with our fathers alcoholism for years. My father was really never there for us children @ anytime,so it's like we were fatherless!! He always would make promises to us & everytime break them!! He lived until he was 83 & passed away. I have serious issues with not trusting men in general!! Even my husband of 36 yrs. He is a Veteran
This is great advice because I always believe that you should tell your children the truth because my mom would always lie to me since I was a young girl and make up excuses for my dad's bad behavior. He was very emotionally and verbally abusive towards us and I would resent her for her weakness to treat a woman like that and treat her children like that. I made my peace with what was and with who I am today.
I grew up without my father .My mother never told lies about him when he never showed up to get me and my sister.But she taught me about finding my worth so i could grow up and heal from the pain of him not being around...And forgiveness and i know he was just not father material ..I pray for those that still are struggling with their fathers not being in their lives ..all your un-answered questions you may have and even the pain you still feel the emotions and damage it leaves scares God Bless
I know it’s been 8+ years since you wrote this but thank you for the comment 💞
Thank u universe thank u GOD thank u ma Kali and all the amazing woman that are mom and dad I'm sorry that we failed
"Daddy gone! Daddy gone."
We all have a responsibility to each other. It's not men against women, we really need each other. I read comments from angry people bashing whole genders but a belief in the Almighty makes that an indictment of his creation. We must learn to have and show genuine love and empathy toward each other and stop the selfishness. That's a reason I appreciate listening to Iyanla frame questions and respond...I see you must not be mad at others experience of you,a situation, etc it is their experience and doesn't need your approval, it's theirs.That episode with Saigon really brought the connectivity home.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽!
It's coo if y'all got new loves I'm here for the kids I chase my kids not my bms I'm trying to mend and make a peaceful environment for our kids with respect I don't want to make them feel as if they have to pick a side because they don't
3 step plan huh? What about 3 easy questions for stater, you can ask a man before you become intimate with, that will help you determine if this man is qualified to be a good daddy.
This is what I can't understand about women, an Iyanla keeps hinting around it. Why do women "keep" choosing too have these guys babies if they know he isn't any good.
2nd question why keep repeating the cycle of being a Daddy less daughter.
Last question are for those who know there father an just don't understand what a part it plays in your dating WORLD too connect with NEW boyfriend... 🤔🤔🤔
@SoneHere You don't need too help me. But for your comment "haven't been told the truth" NOT too take it put of context but Mother's need too tell there daughter's the truth, about "there" relationshipS an what too DO & DON'T DO....even if she hasn't found that KING yet!
@SoneHere No noo there's no RIGHT orr wrong. I understand if you feel like you may have misinterpreted what I said. I truly wasn't looking for a precise answer
But too rebuttal off what you said. The tools are there for free. But the problem is the young women don't hang around the older women with since to get it.🤔😉
@Memoirs Of A Mariah That was a kind and careful response. Good for you.