@@diablo12359 healthier cells are produced for reproduction and the older unhealthy cells continuously get replaced by newer healthier cells if you watch that and do the deed while your watching it.
Ruined your life? It is not hard to get it up even if you watch porn lol. not hard att all for me atleast. We are all different. But I don't support Brazzers, I hope Trump shuts it down once and for all.
Alcohol = you need at least 60 days to detox your body and mind. Porn = Just 2 weeks.(also delete instagram, too many hot chicks there, instagram is pretty much a porn gateway now) Also with porn if you relapse its okay just keep resetting, but with alcohol, try to keep up the streak because when you fall, the second attempt is so much harder. It could be the other way for other people but im just sharing my experience. Accidently started porn at 10, drinking at 17. Im now 32 and for the first time in my adult life I feel literally happy for the little things in life, no more depression & anxiety, no brain fog, no binge eating, better sleep, no more emotional outbursts & anger issues, and the law of attraction actually manifests inside you compared to just knowing the theory. One last thing, if you are an empath or a sensitive person, cut out all the negative, narcissistic people out of your life because they may be the cause for stress that makes you seek another dopamine hit through alcohol or porn.
I wasn't much of a drinker, so quitting alcohol was easy. I struggled to stop watching porn, but one day I just said I was done because I wasn't the kind of man who watches that kind of garbage anymore, so I stopped. It's so liberating, I haven't felt this good in years. My only "vice" now is weed, which I feel is good for me, it helps me in many ways. Once a man learns to control his lust, he is truly free.
@@ilsedemolder3973 it is a toxic mixture...sexual content and the way it stimulates the brain makes us forget our problems while consuming. Besides that, f*pping to it is a quick and easy way to a short dopamine high. The worse parts are 1. it´s not natural and 2. you get used to it. So when time goes by, you need more. And not just more, also the content gets more explicit, like he said in the video. That is a dangerous downwards spiral which ends in physical change of your brain structure.
I've been addicted for 16 years now, still can't break free, the longest I can usually go without it is around 3-5 days max. I watch it because I feel lonely yet I know it's contributing to my loneliness.
Same, im addicted for about 20y, i even quit smoking cigarettes but i cant break free from porn and masturbation even tho i have lovely gf and we have nice sex still its to fk hard. My best score was: 7 days without touching pp and month of no watching...
I'd say a thing that really helps is keeping yourself busy and spending time with people you love, but you also gotta fortify your mind and specifically your willpower in order to resist it in the moment where it's easiest to fall into it. Putting up religious imagery around your living space can help too. One of the best methods for just defeating any addiction, is saying "No" out loud as soon as you get that first impulse to indulge in whatever addiction so that you stop it at the beginning of the dopamine cycle where it's the smallest before it gradually grows more and more until you end up doing the very thing you hate. A guy named Hamza has a really good old video about willpower which is like an hour long, another fellow named Kaal Raam has a great video detailing addiction and how to defeat it which I'd recommend. I recommend reading "your brain on porn" or even "atomic habits" and implementing the elements stated in those books into your life.
to me its the other way around, i managed to hold for months until i got a gf now its really hard for me to not burst and i also manage to hold around 3 days i dont know if its impacting my life, but id def rather not do it
This movement of men quitting porn makes me so happy. I’ve been on the journey for years now. You won’t realize how much vitality, confidence, and peace of mind you’ve been robbed of until you quit.
@savitrishirol3801 There are programs like AA buy its called sex and love addicts (something like thst) It's a recovery program that supports your journey. I kmow you are young, but don't be ashamed. Find a program in your area. The meetings are free. If you call a local AA program, theyvwill be able to refer you. Best of luck🙏🏽
@@PuppetMasterdaath144 You’ve been watching and hate commenting on this video for a month straight. I think anyone here would be better off not taking advice from an online weirdo like that. Bye.
i am 29 year old, fighting the addiction, never had gf, never had sexual experience, actually never had much fun experience in my life wether it's a trip with friends or solid party, now i am battling it but i honestly know i fucked my life up - no solid career, no support, social anxiety, no nothing, i don't know how long will i hold but i am still trying to fight it but it's hard especially when i am alone with no support
Hi buak809. The fact that you can acknowledge to yourself where you feel you are at present is a huge step forward. Someone much wiser than me once said that having ones total focus on the past can cause depression and total focus on the future can cause anxiety and acknowledgement of where one is in the present moment is the only true reality. I have a challenge for you set one small attainable goal to be achieved by a specific time in the next few days, that will move you a few millimeters towards what you want. Be it plan a time to look up groups or activities in your area or make a point of going out for a coffee and saying hello to someone that you would like to get to know. The aim is to move from the position you are in to an alternative position and again to move from there. You got this buddy, life does move forward whether we want it to or not. I sincerely hope this helps and I unreservedly apologize if I have overstepped the mark. I found a guy on RUclips recently, newelofknowledge and find him really really good on self development topics. He might be worth a look for you too. Best wishes to you ⭐
Bro I know it's hard to quit but I advice you to force your self 1- Delete the platforms that makes you feel to watch porn such like. Tiktok, Instagram and etc 2- get out your bed when you alone and try 100 pushups everyday 3- force your self to go to the gym and change your comfortable zone I hope that helps you bro but don't forget my words. Try it Peace ✌🏽
A lot of people get exposed to that content when they're kids, that really messes you up for years and sometimes decades, if you're a parent please be close to your kids and get involved in their lifes in a healthy way
@@ilikedrawinggYou're very lucky, try to start meditation as a non-negotiable habit ... If you're into music start learning any instrument of your liking, and read a lot .... Don't read for the sake of finishing books ... Try to grasp the gist of every single one of them ... and most importantly have a disciplined daily routine .... It's your only way out into real freedom @Led_P you too mate ...
@@ilikedrawinggi beg u youngin if what u r saying is true listen to the comments n stop. i wish i had someone tell me that back when i was ur age. learn from ur elders mistakes
@longbeachmaumba7059 from personal experience it's hard at first; but you can do sport, go on long hikes, or binge read novels and stories that take you far away to a nice place. After two months you won't be thinking of it, and when occasion rises you'll be performing like a bull.
@@longbeachmaumba7059my advice is definitely get a hobby take that stuff our your mind walk go to the gym for your health keep you distracted from watching it maybe go outside to watch the beautiful flowers or something or try to make some new friends to try and talk to get your distracted from watching it be productive
I don't think porn is the problem, but just a coping mechanism or distraction. I think its a fun thing you can do, but like anything in life, in excess and not balanced it can consume you. I don't believe in being sober all the time, to me that's a waste of what joys life can bring. When I'm watching too much porn something else is going on in my life, either with my career, choices, or lack of choices/apathy. I'm putting something else off or trying to avoid thinking about how much I've screwed up, but the thing is that's ok to think about that. A problem cannot be solved if it can't be identified first, and I think many others keep "relapsing" with porn because it wasn't really the issue, its just a coping mechanism. The REAL issue is whatever thing you're trying to avoid thinking about or doing while using porn. Its not porn who messed up your life, but YOU and your choices. Its fine btw we have all been there, but I think its important people realize that and acknowledge it in order to fix whatever it is. You wanna say I'm coping or deluded or making excuses go ahead. Problem isn't porn, or weed, or alcohol, or some external thing you can throw the blame on, the problem was you. I've been watching porn through many of my greatest accomplishments in life, never felt drained unless it was a really bad day and I did it 4x times. Keep blaming external things instead of yourself, you are only hurting yourself.
Never watch porn, was addicted for 17 years. Causes depression due to breaking your dopamine system. Also gave me ED for real life women and lost interest to hangout with girls wanting to see me. I was able to finally mostly quit this year with only 3 relapses in the past 10 months.
I'm going through nofap at the moment I've relapsed a few times but your videos really motivate me, I don't want this to be my life and let it control me
fapping once in a while is good i don't know what you are talking about. It is porn what can cause damage as explained in this video. Unless you masturbate so much that it interferes with your life, you should do it if your body tells you to do so. Just don't use porn
I don't think porn is the problem, but just a coping mechanism or distraction. I think its a fun thing you can do, but like anything in life, in excess and not balanced it can consume you. I don't believe in being sober all the time, to me that's a waste of what joys life can bring. When I'm watching too much porn something else is going on in my life, either with my career, choices, or lack of choices/apathy. I'm putting something else off or trying to avoid thinking about how much I've screwed up, but the thing is that's ok to think about that. A problem cannot be solved if it can't be identified first, and I think many others keep "relapsing" with porn because it wasn't really the issue, its just a coping mechanism. The REAL issue is whatever thing you're trying to avoid thinking about or doing while using porn. Its not porn who messed up your life, but YOU and your choices. Its fine btw we have all been there, but I think its important people realize that and acknowledge it in order to fix whatever it is. You wanna say I'm coping or deluded or making excuses go ahead. Problem isn't porn, or weed, or alcohol, or some external thing you can throw the blame on, the problem was you.
Porn ruined me, I'm fucking vulnerable. I'm preparing for an exam which could potentially change my life but in the name of preparing all i do is fap every day. It's depressing. Just fapped 10 mins ago and found this vid. I swear to my life I am never doing that shit again. I'm done not living in the moment, I'm done not being happy as i used to be, I'm done never having a convo with females by myself even after having a good face, I'm done being vulnerable. I'm done with porn.
I feel I can relate to a lot what your saying, I used to do the same, I thought I was alone in this, but to hear you having the same problem means that porn really is something damaging to the mental human psyche if overly abused to cope with stress, anger, sexual frustration, sadness, or disappointment. I hope one day you find the answer. If you can try watching easy peasy way to quit porn, I feel it gives good insight on the bad things about pmo, even if on the service it feels like beating you over the head with the negatives but I felt what some of it brought up very much pertained to my life. I hope you find the solution to your problem, and that one day, you can enjoy life on your terms.
I think I know what your problem is. Often we are triggered into watching prawn by internal and external cues. Random images of scantily clad women on our social media feed is one such cue(External) . Stress is an internal response to an external stimuli. In your case ,exams , their thoughts or the preparation process alone can be stressful. And guess what? stress is an excellent trigger to watch prawn cuz prawn can soothe and calm you and you may have noticed this until someone (me) pointed this out to you. I know this, cuz it has happened to me. My triggers are images on screen, mental stress, physical tiredness due to heavy activity,boredom, sounds such as someone showering (I kid you not), having a heavy meal, taking my phone to the twoilet etc. These are some common triggers for many people including myself. See if you've any common one's or try to identify what triggers you watch it. Solution is to avoid exposure to such triggering stimuli. Triggers can come through all senses(touch, sight ,smell ,sound , mind you. When you get the urge, identify what triggered you and say to yourself loudly "I only want to watch it cuz I got triggered by ____" Do this as quickly as possible after you get the urge , as it doesn't take much time( around 3 seconds )to give into the urge.
@@davidwong7283 it's been 2 weeks, tbh I fapped 4-5 times in these 14 days. Of course not impressive at all but for me it's an improvement because before I used to fap every single day
Bro, you described my life as if you were a psychic. Yes, I am sorta addicted to P*rn. However, I am not one of those people who doesn't have a goal or an ambition. Yes, I also have a goal in my life - I want to start studying coding and start my career as a programmer. Sounds ambitious enough, I wasn't able to start working on it because of anxiety and fear of failure. So, I resort to watching more p*rn and playing video games a lot. And when I am playing video games, I wasn't enjoying myself because I know myself that I am doing this by ignoring my responsibilities. So, all I ended up was just with a depression. Thanks for the video. You helped me coping with my problem. ❤
everyone has amibtions, it's human nature, it's taking action that makes the difference, maybe you saying 'you have ambition' is a way to COPE, harsh truth for you sorry
Can totally relate, P*rn Brainf*cked me to no end, but I have ( after many attempts ) self disciplined myself to abstain from watching/doing anything s4xual..I have always believed that it is important to see yourself in third person and try to correct your flaws to be the best that you can possibly be. When it comes to programming I’d highly suggest Python or Lua as a stepping stone, you could then go to a site such as exercism where you can solve problems to further build your skills. (it’s free) Perhaps even build simple games using their relative frameworks, eventually moving to a more performant language if need be, it’s never too late to learn and develop a new skillset. Good luck bro
Damn, man. Thanks for speaking so openly about this addiction. When you described the moment you were about to lose virginity it was like listening to my own life's story... I'm over 30 now, and this poisonous addiction is still controlling my life to some degree even though I managed to kind of tune it down it a little bit. Funny thing is, I managed to quit drinking after being a drunkard for over 10 years, and I quit smoking. But I can't quit this crap completely. But I haven't given up yet, wish me luck!
It's not crap it's good stuff, It's what men do. It's normal natural and beautiful. I'm grateful and thankful for it. Exact opposite of poison. It's a good thing in life.
My problems are a little different than yours, now in my 40's, Iv'e had soo many long relationships in my 20's and 30's but now adult movies are a lot easier than heartbreak or dealing with someones elses crap all the time. Thats the sad truth rn.
It takes real balls to open up like this about your life, in order to help random (young) men on the internet. You're a real one, Rob. Je wordt enorm gewaardeerd.
Wow! Thank you so much for being completely open. I've seen this happen to too many boys/men. When I bring up the subject, people act like I'm a prude. But I'm very aware how excessive porn can diminish a man's desire to be openly intimate with another human being.
This speaks to me so much.. I know my preferences have changed a lot since I first started watching it years ago. Its true that you barely get excited by normal stuff if you get hooked on freaky stuff. It has also made me avoid social interactions and made me very ashamed
@@cajampa You proposed the idea that IF unable to get hard without doing XYZ THEN do XYZ, but this is giving into the conditional statement, not a solution to removing the conditions.
I didn't make this connection until I was in my late 20s. It's something I still struggle with. I'm isolated and with basically no prospects of romance in my life. I've spent time and money satisfying these urges and desires, and I'm filled with so much regret because of it.
Studies have suggested a correlation between excessive porn use and mental health issues, such as anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Individuals may feel shame or guilt about their consumption habits, leading to a negative self-image
Correlation is the right term. Still not clear if excessive porn causes these symptoms or if the symptoms lead one to excessive porn. No question in my mind you need to tackle both the mental health issues and the porn at the same time. They fuel each other
Guys are depressed so they watch porn all day. It's not the porn doing it. I watch porn, have for years, and have a very active sex life with my wife. If a guy has a problem getting it up at 15, it's more likely because he spends his time on video games, poor diet and poor sleep.
It's never late bro. You still breathing yeah. And live. So just change your comfort zone. And start new things such like. Going gym. Or doing pushups challenge 200 everyday. And etc
I'm a stoner, and I don't get triggered at comments like this. Weed is a very iffy topic, imo, because it either can ruin your life, or make it better. For me, it's the latter, it's helped me in so many ways... Helps me manage my depression, enhances my creativity, and genuinely has helped me mature. I'm sorry it took such a toll on you though, I genuinely hope things are/will be better for you
i done both and i'd say *orn addiction is like x10 times worst than weed addiction, *orn addiction acts in a similar way to CRACK COCAINE, you heard that right, this addiction is designed to make you a giant extreme loser
Thanks so much for making this video. On youtube and all those nofap videos you always hear about all the side effects of p*rn but hearing youre story makes the whole thing so much more real in my mind. Thanks for beeing so open and making this vid!!!
I think that if one can quits: Porn, masturbation, fornication, alcohol, smoking, drugs, video games, secular music, movies, gossiping, clubbing etc... You'll find yourself becoming free as a kid again and being an adult at the same time able to take care of business.
32 and never had a girlfriend, largely due to lack of drive caused by the easy option of po*n. Have been trying to stop for ages. This has also cost me money. Major problem in my life. Lately been doing a little better...
The best why to stop is to go to gym i know maybe your having social anxiety and depression now you can't go to gym but you can workout at home do calisthenics or anything
Read the book (its free and available online) called " Easy Pesey method" its modeled after a book for smoking addiction and it's easy to comprehend and helps break limiting beliefs. Another thing you got to as well is find a foundation spiritually. Eventually feeling better results healthy habits to be considered like reading, the gym, being productive, etc.
Man, I know how it feels. I would sound like everybody, but this is true: just keep your mind busy with usefull stuff. Read books, try to perform better at job (or get a job), play an instrument, do programming on you PC, enroll on a web course about something you like, ride a bike... Do something that is important and satisfying to you, no matter everyone.
I knew I was developing a porn problem over the years, my faps were getting longer and I would need to keep stimulating myself physically. But in my mind I always expected that when the real moment comes there will be no problem. But no... There was a problem. Recently I had a intimate encounter in which I struggled to keep it up, I had to think about porn rather than enjoying the beautiful woman that was in front, on top, all over me... That was fvking depressing. I felt like a depraved scumbag because porn messed up my performance, and I felt bad for the girl because she was gorgeous and it wasn't her fault. I've stopped watching porn for a week and not even touching my meat unless I'm washing myself in the shower. Already I'm feeling better and errections feel better, but it will take time.
Bro don't be so hard on yourself. When you haven't done it with anyone for a while it takes some time to get back in the grove, if you have been focusing your s xuality on other things. Just keep doing what you are doing and it will be just fine. As in step back from the pron and find your lust in something real again.
Same happened 2 me, been with gorgeous women and my wang remained soft, the last time it happened I snapped out of this shit and now I'm 8 months clean, I am curious 2 see how I'll perform with a girl now.
I've been a follower of your channel for a few years now. I really appreciate your self-reflecting a lot. RUclips needs more content creators like you! One of the most significant effects of nofap I've experienced has been increased truthfulness and conscientiousness in my personality. It makes me feel somewhat more, first of all, confident but also more sincere, since I'm able to face women with primarily respect instead of uncontrollable lust.
good on you for quitting. The industry owes us a life and half for carelessly throwing it out into the world and internet, making it so easily available and derailing so many developing minds, ruining so many relationships, and commodifying so many people for profit. It's a sick and vile thing.
There's a reason why it's free in the first place, because we are the consumer, what started from big tiddies eventually turn to the most heinous stuff. It's not worth it.
takes a lot of courage to talk about these things like that so automatically respect for that. and yeah exsesisve maasturbation and porn are very harmful to men. some cultures talk specifically how retaining semen and abstaining from masturbation (even worse porn) is very important to improving your life as male (female too I think can benefit from this). I am glad you recognized the problem and work towards fixing and repairing the damage. respect bro
@@voidwalker7774 Indeed! I remember when I was young (~11-13) me and my friends would find porn sites, especially when we didn't know what porn really was and just did it for a laugh like the Dragon Ball Z hentai ones. However, pretty much every site gave only a few pics and then asked you to subscribe with a credit card for unlimited access etc. Now these days you can find thousands and thousands of free, high-quality videos of anything you want with zero effort. In fact, Google provides the biggest and most well-known site as a top result all the time, so that even kids can find this crap.... Defiantly an agenda behind it all, but when you try to talk about it with facts then out come the shills and gas-lighters lol.
you are not alone. its ruining my own and my psyche. my mental health energy and spirit. but it comes from the internet, movies, music videos, tv . we need to shut of from this.
Been almost exactly a year since I quit. I still relapse sometimes, about once a month, but drastic reduction and now I know it's bad for me. Life changing, i was changing lots of things, quit smoking weed, quit vaping, got a better diet, reduced sugar intake. But ultimately it was porn that was causing the major social issues I was having. Unfortunately I never lost my virginity when I was younger so my sex mind was all porn based. Really really messed me up.
Thank you for sharing this video, i also was addicted for most of my life and it started with the 5th grade. I have had problems with guilt and shame for a very long time when i was watching things that were not moral to watch. I quit that almost 10 years ago but would still be struggling with the regular porn on and off. I have been on no fap journey for many years now and i have relapsed back into porn many times but thank god i am now again clean for more then a month. Its time this industry was exposed for how many lifes its ruining.
We’re the same age and I’m actually quite surprised that happened to you so young. It has happened to me but a lot later in life. Great message for the youngsters. Thanks buddy!
Thank you for making this video. These topics can be very uncomfortable to discuss but it is so so so important that they are talked about. I got caught in the addictive cycle when I was far too young, my parents did everything right but they still couldn't have protected me. It is an evil industry, and even though I evaded a number of the worst side-effects, my live has continued to improve the more I win my battle. I have my wonderful girlfriend to thank for being the straw that broke the camel's back, finally allowing me to make some real strides in the direction I knew I wanted to go. For anyone out there struggling, just know that you are strong enough. You can break free and put control of your life into your own hands no matter what you are addicted to. Find your reason, put it above all, and tell yourself every day that it is worth fighting and whatever has invaded your life does not control you. Good luck, all.
I don't think porn is the problem, but just a coping mechanism or distraction. I think its a fun thing you can do, but like anything in life, in excess and not balanced it can consume you. I don't believe in being sober all the time, to me that's a waste of what joys life can bring. When I'm watching too much porn something else is going on in my life, either with my career, choices, or lack of choices/apathy. I'm putting something else off or trying to avoid thinking about how much I've screwed up, but the thing is that's ok to think about that. A problem cannot be solved if it can't be identified first, and I think many others keep "relapsing" with porn because it wasn't really the issue, its just a coping mechanism. The REAL issue is whatever thing you're trying to avoid thinking about or doing while using porn. Its not porn who messed up your life, but YOU and your choices. Its fine btw we have all been there, but I think its important people realize that and acknowledge it in order to fix whatever it is. You wanna say I'm coping or deluded or making excuses go ahead. Problem isn't porn, or weed, or alcohol, or some external thing you can throw the blame on, the problem was you.
ED at 15? Wow... For me the symptoms didn't start until I was 24. From 29 year old onwards I was totally unable to ever get it up with a woman.... After I had already tried everything I was finally cured 7 years later at the age of 36 when I found out about the noble practice of semen retention. So I did 4 months of semen retention and total abstinence from watching porn and lo and behold my ED was cured. Got married the same year and not even once has there be a failed intercourse since then. This testimony is true and I just wish that whosoever suffereth from ED would give SR a try because it's guaranteed to work...
Reading the comments im getting an impression that people here literally fapped every day or two non stop and im not talking about 20-30 min fap but for hours. Most people during sex only needs like 5-20 mins to orgasm and thats it. Doing it for hours, of couse that is going to harm your junk, unless youre poking a woman. Most guys will tire out before their junk fails them anyway. Do people not know moderation. Even all things good in excess can be harmful. You can indulge in porn just not every goddamn day. Once a week sounds about right no? Keep the pipes running and not get some testicular cancer or something. Full on abstinence for months/years is just asking for trouble. Or dont even watch porn. Just fap by yourself from mental imagery or not even that.
Rob I want to thank you for your content related to nofap. This specific video, alongside with others you have done in the past, are so relatable to me and have helped me fight my corn addiction that has lasted since I was 14 ( I am 30 now). Thank you very much and keep up the good work
Ive been lurking on ur nofap stuff for a while but im glad u actually shared ur story and were brave enough to do so to show support ive given u a sub to show support
I used to laugh at the idea of being a porn addict and the whole no-fap movement considering I've struggled with drug addiction and porn just seemed to pale in comparison. I realize now that that's kind of the most dangerous thing about porn. It seems so benign and masturbation we've been told is natural and healthy. That's the thing though, the abuse of the two is an insidious and slow poison. I never wanted to accept that it's bad and still want to believe a healthy balance can be achieved, but for me personally I think I just need to take a good looooooong break. It's got my brain all fucked up.
One of the most honest speakers ive ever seen ... i dont know how it is possibe to speak to thousand peoples for such personal things and be so calm like speaking to your self . Amazing , Huge respect for the content
The fact that you also became addicted to junkfood and world of warcraft and aimed to avoid human interaction shows that it's not just the porn that is the problem but that there's deeper underlying psychological issues that cause you (and a lot of others) to become addicted to those things in first place. Picking one thing (porn in this case) and using it as a scapegoat for everything that went wrong in your life is a very bad approach to be honest.
@@Frobbl Porn could potentially be the cause for it though, after all.. when he did watch that stuff, that was his downfall. But you're right, it could be that he has some underlying mental issue that couldve influenced his addiction. He seems to be doing good now, so honesty, if this strategy helped him then why is it bad? It worked.
@@XterNuLL I doubt it. It's the same thing as with drug addicts. In the vast majority of cases the drug itself wasn't the cause but there was other causes that led to people 1. even getting into contact with drugs and 2. starting to abuse them to escape life. What you want to find out is why you want to distract yourself from your life. THAT is the cause for you even becoming addicted in first place. Most drug addicts were in horrible situations of their lifes when they became drug addicts. Fixing the reasons why your life is in a horrible situation is the way to go.
Well Rob, I understand where your coming from. Well done for opening up like that, it takes balls. Thanks for sharing this because it might help other people especially young lads.
When you blame the thing you lack the discipline to use in moderation, you are being deeply immature. It's no different than suing the fast food place for making you fat.
I see that excuse as people avoiding personal accountability. Porn and weed aren't the problem, it's about how and why you use them. Anything can become bad if you misuse it for long enough periods of time. Not everyone who watches porn is unhinged.
Not really comparable lol..porn seeps in at a young age because of no access to real partners, curiosity, and how the dopamine system works, so when it becomes a habit, it turns into an addiction. As a kid I always knew drugs were dangerous..nothing would ever make try heroin crack or meth, but I was using porn regularly cause I thought it was normal. If I was educated on how porn worked when I was 12 I would have never fucking abused it.
2:12 This reminds me somehow of that one South Park episode when Randy said "once you go that path you can't go back watching naked women on magazines" and damn he was right.
This is the most helpful video I have ever seen. It’s a true heart to heart. Bro to bro psa. Thank you. I feel changed and like I finally realized what my life has become because of my addiction. I was addicted since age 6 and this is the first video out of millions that I’ve seen where I really feel like a new person with a fresh start. Thank you so much.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, Steve_porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place. Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac. He's constantly talking about killing someone. He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Find a hobby that you can do with other people and exercise. I think those two things have saved me from a lot of unnecessary hardships. Be strong and be mindful of your own psychology, start thinking of what you want your next chapter to be. Lets go!
BRO , You Talking about like You are 75years old Porn destroyed My life .Come on We can't change the past You and me we lucky That we wake-up And we can Fix our problem before it's to late i lost 10years of this Addiction also Now iam my late 20ths And iam Busy building my Future. Let's Learn our past and Focus looking forward 💪🏽💪🏽🦁 . Salamu Alaikum☝🏽.
When I was in the Army, I was into porn and it unchained me from giving women the halo effect when they were doing this or that socially. I was more anxious and apprehensive and standoffish in regards to relationships and questioned guys girls when they were doing this or that. One guy said I acted like a virgin and another said I was weak. After I ets'ed from the Army the guy who said I was weak became a cop and found his wife cheating on him and blew his head off. The guy who said I complained like a virgin was tipped off by his mother in law that his wife/her daughter was cheating at that moment. He raced back home and caught her in the act but fucked up and didn't record it. When going through court process for divorce his mother in law refused to testify against her daughter "because that's her daughter". He'll be paying child support to her and will never see his daughter again afyer she cheated on him and took his house. So the guy who said I was weak killed himself and the guy who said I was a virgin will never see his daughter again. 🤷🏻 Porn can derail your life like any vice. You drink too much it can destroy your body, as with drugs. But, in regards to vices it's a more tame one. Don't let it make you neglect your studies, don't let it derail your goals, don't let it control you. Maybe get yourself a partner and you can comfortably watch adult movies together, talk about what made them or you both feel this or that and maybe you can gain a more intimate and deep understanding of each other's "shadow" so to speak. But yeah man, it definitely sounds like it was ruining your life and you were right to cold turkey and quit the stuff. Porn might have prevented me from being driven into the ground by one of these parasites out here.
I've never really heard anyone describe using porn to unchain yourself from caring about the dating pool being tainted by todays activities, but i used to be like that But I grew up with a lot of rough fellas who did unspeakable shit behind their girlfriends back, and i also grew up with alot of people who treated them well. The same goes for girls, and if you try to imagine men and women on the same specrum of horrid, you can see you just need to be smart about the woman you select. Easier said than done but trust your gut, if you have doubts, dont date them in the first place and end up trapped because you're spineless. I met my mrs when she was 18, i was 23, she'd only been with 1 other fella, she was quiet, didn't party much, was into art and studied at university. I knew that relationship would go the mile, and we're 5 years strong. No marriage, we rent and have 2 cats, why rush
I would suggest that those guys were probably infected by porn too. Picked the wrong woman on top of that. It's not easy either way but porn definitely sabotages relationships in a slow "death by 1000 cuts" method. I know there are guys who put the Pu**y on a pedestal which is a recipe for disaster however. Perhaps it saved you from bad woman in the past, but it fucks you for a good woman in the future, in a long term relationship.
4 years in and it’s eroding to the point of fading into a faint but dark memory yet despite that it’s always there, but I know eventually I will overcome it.
You’re right boss !!!! I quit for 7 months and fell back into it now I’m 2 months strong 👊🏾👊🏾 it’s a battle but I can feel myself healing and getting there
hm ... to me pon was always boring , bcz peoplehaving sex infront of the camera seem to be missing diginity for some reason.... the whole thing looks sad to me tbh. but i am borderline asexual 39 srs old male. my life is good tho... wife, daugher, good job, own cars , 2 apartments...play in 2 metal bands, plenty of time to relax and read and play guitar... the only thing i miss about my pre marriage life is world of warcraft. i mean i still have time to play it but it lost its magic and no other video games are interesting to me. i played wow for more than 10 years. man i miss that feeling. resto druid raid healer main ... i was good. i dont know why im writing this. guess i really loved to play WoW.
Never even thought about any of this. And from a Young Person Cant describe enough how much this has helped. You deserve more attention Brother❤ Someone who actually cares and is spreading awareness on a Parasite of sorts, That ruins your life.
Instead of simping you should focus on bettering yourself first. Get a good degree or go to trade school. Hit the gym. Pray to God. Build a solid career. When you have those things done, women will eventually come to you. Good luck with that.
"ultimate gooner pmv" now thats the pro stuff! I stop fapping usually when i got a lot of work, and it keeps me from being bored on my pc, most of the stuff you said is relatable, a very helpful clip, thanks!
guys STOP porn, its worth it, but dont forgett, wounds need time to heal !
You right man 🚶🏼♂️
It’s not good to stop watching it because you need to replace old cells with new healthier cells if you know what I mean.
@@Holy_Crusader that make no sense to me
@@diablo12359 healthier cells are produced for reproduction and the older unhealthy cells continuously get replaced by newer healthier cells if you watch that and do the deed while your watching it.
Yes but it's like to tell heroin addicts to stop shots
Porn is the devil in a red tight dress
Nah porn is piper perri in a school girl uniform
@@AnimeSmash37 Dude, Anna Bell Peaks or Anita Blond.
You guys are making me horny with these.
What have we done to our brains?
The devil are the small hats who run the industry.
Ruined your life? It is not hard to get it up even if you watch porn lol. not hard att all for me atleast. We are all different.
But I don't support Brazzers, I hope Trump shuts it down once and for all.
I quit alcohol and porn, my dopamine receptors have been completely repaired.
King shit, you love to hear it
Congratulations! How much time did it take?
Alcohol = you need at least 60 days to detox your body and mind.
Porn = Just 2 weeks.(also delete instagram, too many hot chicks there, instagram is pretty much a porn gateway now) Also with porn if you relapse its okay just keep resetting, but with alcohol, try to keep up the streak because when you fall, the second attempt is so much harder. It could be the other way for other people but im just sharing my experience. Accidently started porn at 10, drinking at 17. Im now 32 and for the first time in my adult life I feel literally happy for the little things in life, no more depression & anxiety, no brain fog, no binge eating, better sleep, no more emotional outbursts & anger issues, and the law of attraction actually manifests inside you compared to just knowing the theory. One last thing, if you are an empath or a sensitive person, cut out all the negative, narcissistic people out of your life because they may be the cause for stress that makes you seek another dopamine hit through alcohol or porn.
I wasn't much of a drinker, so quitting alcohol was easy. I struggled to stop watching porn, but one day I just said I was done because I wasn't the kind of man who watches that kind of garbage anymore, so I stopped. It's so liberating, I haven't felt this good in years. My only "vice" now is weed, which I feel is good for me, it helps me in many ways.
Once a man learns to control his lust, he is truly free.
@@ThePeakOfHumanEvolution69weed is a drug, it not good for your body and brain
22 and addicted, this shit is poison
What exactly is so addictive about it?
@@ilsedemolder3973 u just chase the feeling of being wanted but sometimes for me its just out of boredom or just out of habit
@@ilsedemolder3973 it is a toxic mixture...sexual content and the way it stimulates the brain makes us forget our problems while consuming. Besides that, f*pping to it is a quick and easy way to a short dopamine high. The worse parts are 1. it´s not natural and 2. you get used to it. So when time goes by, you need more. And not just more, also the content gets more explicit, like he said in the video. That is a dangerous downwards spiral which ends in physical change of your brain structure.
@@ilsedemolder3973 What do you think? Take a guess..
@@ilsedemolder3973 the easy option, endless, no effort, studies have compared the dopamine to heroin.
I've been addicted for 16 years now, still can't break free, the longest I can usually go without it is around 3-5 days max. I watch it because I feel lonely yet I know it's contributing to my loneliness.
Same, im addicted for about 20y, i even quit smoking cigarettes but i cant break free from porn and masturbation even tho i have lovely gf and we have nice sex still its to fk hard. My best score was: 7 days without touching pp and month of no watching...
Try 12 steps program it really makes you free
I'd say a thing that really helps is keeping yourself busy and spending time with people you love, but you also gotta fortify your mind and specifically your willpower in order to resist it in the moment where it's easiest to fall into it. Putting up religious imagery around your living space can help too. One of the best methods for just defeating any addiction, is saying "No" out loud as soon as you get that first impulse to indulge in whatever addiction so that you stop it at the beginning of the dopamine cycle where it's the smallest before it gradually grows more and more until you end up doing the very thing you hate.
A guy named Hamza has a really good old video about willpower which is like an hour long, another fellow named Kaal Raam has a great video detailing addiction and how to defeat it which I'd recommend.
I recommend reading "your brain on porn" or even "atomic habits" and implementing the elements stated in those books into your life.
to me its the other way around, i managed to hold for months until i got a gf
now its really hard for me to not burst and i also manage to hold around 3 days
i dont know if its impacting my life, but id def rather not do it
it's not contributing that much to your situation, stop blaming yourself; for lots of men the circumstances with women are just bad
This movement of men quitting porn makes me so happy. I’ve been on the journey for years now.
You won’t realize how much vitality, confidence, and peace of mind you’ve been robbed of until you quit.
Please help me ,I am a 17 year old boy trying quit this but I just can't
Plzz help me ,how did you overcome it,don't ignore my message
@savitrishirol3801
There are programs like AA buy its called sex and love addicts (something like thst) It's a recovery program that supports your journey. I kmow you are young, but don't be ashamed. Find a program in your area. The meetings are free. If you call a local AA program, theyvwill be able to refer you. Best of luck🙏🏽
you people always exaggerate so much lol
@@PuppetMasterdaath144 You’ve been watching and hate commenting on this video for a month straight. I think anyone here would be better off not taking advice from an online weirdo like that. Bye.
This is the most honest video I’ve ever watched about porn addiction; it feels like I’m the one talking in this video.
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Same i think porn should be illegal
This is the most honest fake story you mean. Don't believe a word he says.
@@chocolatecookie8571Satan is yo daddy
i am 29 year old, fighting the addiction, never had gf, never had sexual experience, actually never had much fun experience in my life wether it's a trip with friends or solid party, now i am battling it but i honestly know i fucked my life up - no solid career, no support, social anxiety, no nothing, i don't know how long will i hold but i am still trying to fight it but it's hard especially when i am alone with no support
same just 32, it doesnt get better
Keep battling. Go one day. Then two days. Then beat the 3 day slump. If you can get 3 days you can go more.
@@taeveo9471 the furthest time I can go without is 2 days. it's so annoying.
Hi buak809. The fact that you can acknowledge to yourself where you feel you are at present is a huge step forward. Someone much wiser than me once said that having ones total focus on the past can cause depression and total focus on the future can cause anxiety and acknowledgement of where one is in the present moment is the only true reality.
I have a challenge for you set one small attainable goal to be achieved by a specific time in the next few days, that will move you a few millimeters towards what you want. Be it plan a time to look up groups or activities in your area or make a point of going out for a coffee and saying hello to someone that you would like to get to know. The aim is to move from the position you are in to an alternative position and again to move from there. You got this buddy, life does move forward whether we want it to or not. I sincerely hope this helps and I unreservedly apologize if I have overstepped the mark. I found a guy on RUclips recently, newelofknowledge and find him really really good on self development topics. He might be worth a look for you too. Best wishes to you ⭐
Bro I know it's hard to quit but I advice you to force your self
1- Delete the platforms that makes you feel to watch porn such like. Tiktok, Instagram and etc
2- get out your bed when you alone and try
100 pushups everyday
3- force your self to go to the gym and change your comfortable zone
I hope that helps you bro but don't forget my words. Try it
Peace ✌🏽
A lot of people get exposed to that content when they're kids, that really messes you up for years and sometimes decades, if you're a parent please be close to your kids and get involved in their lifes in a healthy way
your right, i got addicted to it at 11 and im 12 now
@@ilikedrawingg i got addicted to it at 8, im 17 now (literally)
@@ilikedrawinggYou're very lucky, try to start meditation as a non-negotiable habit ... If you're into music start learning any instrument of your liking, and read a lot .... Don't read for the sake of finishing books ... Try to grasp the gist of every single one of them ... and most importantly have a disciplined daily routine .... It's your only way out into real freedom @Led_P you too mate ...
@@ilikedrawingg bro your still very young please stop it right now or it will ruin your life.
@@ilikedrawinggi beg u youngin if what u r saying is true listen to the comments n stop. i wish i had someone tell me that back when i was ur age. learn from ur elders mistakes
Porn stole 20 years of my life, thanks God I'm 8 months free of it right now.
Amen.
same im 38 now and need to recover to save my life
Which god?
Same brother. Off since 01.01.24💪
@@folksurvivalthere's only one God
I've deleted porn from my life for more than 2 months. This is the best thing that ever happened to me!
How do you deal with the cravings bro?
@longbeachmaumba7059 from personal experience it's hard at first; but you can do sport, go on long hikes, or binge read novels and stories that take you far away to a nice place. After two months you won't be thinking of it, and when occasion rises you'll be performing like a bull.
Im now 1day porn-free
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@@longbeachmaumba7059my advice is definitely get a hobby take that stuff our your mind walk go to the gym for your health keep you distracted from watching it maybe go outside to watch the beautiful flowers or something or try to make some new friends to try and talk to get your distracted from watching it be productive
Porn is like a vampire draining you of vitality.
Marriage to the wrong person does the same thing. So I don't see the difference.
Absolutely.
More like a succubus
I don't think porn is the problem, but just a coping mechanism or distraction. I think its a fun thing you can do, but like anything in life, in excess and not balanced it can consume you. I don't believe in being sober all the time, to me that's a waste of what joys life can bring. When I'm watching too much porn something else is going on in my life, either with my career, choices, or lack of choices/apathy. I'm putting something else off or trying to avoid thinking about how much I've screwed up, but the thing is that's ok to think about that. A problem cannot be solved if it can't be identified first, and I think many others keep "relapsing" with porn because it wasn't really the issue, its just a coping mechanism. The REAL issue is whatever thing you're trying to avoid thinking about or doing while using porn. Its not porn who messed up your life, but YOU and your choices. Its fine btw we have all been there, but I think its important people realize that and acknowledge it in order to fix whatever it is.
You wanna say I'm coping or deluded or making excuses go ahead. Problem isn't porn, or weed, or alcohol, or some external thing you can throw the blame on, the problem was you.
I've been watching porn through many of my greatest accomplishments in life, never felt drained unless it was a really bad day and I did it 4x times. Keep blaming external things instead of yourself, you are only hurting yourself.
@@thepunisherxxx6804 why are you copy pasting the same message everywhere ?
Never watch porn, was addicted for 17 years. Causes depression due to breaking your dopamine system. Also gave me ED for real life women and lost interest to hangout with girls wanting to see me. I was able to finally mostly quit this year with only 3 relapses in the past 10 months.
I never seen a more weird statement my entire life lol
@@PuppetMasterdaath144 but its true
@@PuppetMasterdaath144Yup found you on another comment you hater
@@ٴٴ007dont worry about he hates on every comment
Right into the camera. You are a strong man, sir.
21 day nofap never watching that shit again
I always say this to my self and after two months I go back to watch it and masturbate to it and feel do fuck up for months 🤦🏾♂️
Don't count the days, measure the improvement
the famous last words of every nofapper before they open up the hub and rub one out
Awesome man. It can be HARD sometimes, but you've COME a long way.
@@trollingisasport Just wait until it’s BEATING your door down.
I'm going through nofap at the moment I've relapsed a few times but your videos really motivate me, I don't want this to be my life and let it control me
fapping once in a while is good i don't know what you are talking about. It is porn what can cause damage as explained in this video. Unless you masturbate so much that it interferes with your life, you should do it if your body tells you to do so. Just don't use porn
You can do it, remember to replace watching porn with some new activity
And delete Instagram and shit like that
Best way to do it is just don't think about it if that makes sense
I don't think porn is the problem, but just a coping mechanism or distraction. I think its a fun thing you can do, but like anything in life, in excess and not balanced it can consume you. I don't believe in being sober all the time, to me that's a waste of what joys life can bring. When I'm watching too much porn something else is going on in my life, either with my career, choices, or lack of choices/apathy. I'm putting something else off or trying to avoid thinking about how much I've screwed up, but the thing is that's ok to think about that. A problem cannot be solved if it can't be identified first, and I think many others keep "relapsing" with porn because it wasn't really the issue, its just a coping mechanism. The REAL issue is whatever thing you're trying to avoid thinking about or doing while using porn. Its not porn who messed up your life, but YOU and your choices. Its fine btw we have all been there, but I think its important people realize that and acknowledge it in order to fix whatever it is.
You wanna say I'm coping or deluded or making excuses go ahead. Problem isn't porn, or weed, or alcohol, or some external thing you can throw the blame on, the problem was you.
Porn ruined me, I'm fucking vulnerable. I'm preparing for an exam which could potentially change my life but in the name of preparing all i do is fap every day. It's depressing. Just fapped 10 mins ago and found this vid. I swear to my life I am never doing that shit again. I'm done not living in the moment, I'm done not being happy as i used to be, I'm done never having a convo with females by myself even after having a good face, I'm done being vulnerable. I'm done with porn.
I feel I can relate to a lot what your saying, I used to do the same, I thought I was alone in this, but to hear you having the same problem means that porn really is something damaging to the mental human psyche if overly abused to cope with stress, anger, sexual frustration, sadness, or disappointment. I hope one day you find the answer. If you can try watching easy peasy way to quit porn, I feel it gives good insight on the bad things about pmo, even if on the service it feels like beating you over the head with the negatives but I felt what some of it brought up very much pertained to my life. I hope you find the solution to your problem, and that one day, you can enjoy life on your terms.
So Did you do it last 2 days ?
I think I know what your problem is. Often we are triggered into watching prawn by internal and external cues. Random images of scantily clad women on our social media feed is one such cue(External) . Stress is an internal response to an external stimuli. In your case ,exams , their thoughts or the preparation process alone can be stressful. And guess what? stress is an excellent trigger to watch prawn cuz prawn can soothe and calm you and you may have noticed this until someone (me) pointed this out to you. I know this, cuz it has happened to me.
My triggers are images on screen, mental stress, physical tiredness due to heavy activity,boredom, sounds such as someone showering (I kid you not), having a heavy meal, taking my phone to the twoilet etc.
These are some common triggers for many people including myself.
See if you've any common one's or try to identify what triggers you watch it.
Solution is to avoid exposure to such triggering stimuli.
Triggers can come through all senses(touch, sight ,smell ,sound , mind you.
When you get the urge, identify what triggered you and say to yourself loudly "I only want to watch it cuz I got triggered by ____"
Do this as quickly as possible after you get the urge , as it doesn't take much time( around 3 seconds )to give into the urge.
@@furious_malic7808 thanks man! I hope best for you too!
@@davidwong7283 it's been 2 weeks, tbh I fapped 4-5 times in these 14 days. Of course not impressive at all but for me it's an improvement because before I used to fap every single day
Bro, you described my life as if you were a psychic. Yes, I am sorta addicted to P*rn. However, I am not one of those people who doesn't have a goal or an ambition. Yes, I also have a goal in my life - I want to start studying coding and start my career as a programmer. Sounds ambitious enough, I wasn't able to start working on it because of anxiety and fear of failure. So, I resort to watching more p*rn and playing video games a lot. And when I am playing video games, I wasn't enjoying myself because I know myself that I am doing this by ignoring my responsibilities. So, all I ended up was just with a depression. Thanks for the video. You helped me coping with my problem. ❤
everyone has amibtions, it's human nature, it's taking action that makes the difference, maybe you saying 'you have ambition' is a way to COPE, harsh truth for you sorry
You're 27 and want to *start* your career as a programmer? Bro is looooost
@@-andreiDNAdon’t be so judgemental! I started programming at 26 and now at 32 am a senior software engineer.. life is long!
@@irishrepublican756 did u get a degree for that? I was wondering if someone needs a degree to be a software engineer.
Can totally relate, P*rn Brainf*cked me to no end, but I have ( after many attempts ) self disciplined myself to abstain from watching/doing anything s4xual..I have always believed that it is important to see yourself in third person and try to correct your flaws to be the best that you can possibly be. When it comes to programming I’d highly suggest Python or Lua as a stepping stone, you could then go to a site such as exercism where you can solve problems to further build your skills. (it’s free) Perhaps even build simple games using their relative frameworks, eventually moving to a more performant language if need be, it’s never too late to learn and develop a new skillset. Good luck bro
You are saying exactly what i experience in my life... You are truly kind and humble
Damn, man. Thanks for speaking so openly about this addiction. When you described the moment you were about to lose virginity it was like listening to my own life's story... I'm over 30 now, and this poisonous addiction is still controlling my life to some degree even though I managed to kind of tune it down it a little bit. Funny thing is, I managed to quit drinking after being a drunkard for over 10 years, and I quit smoking. But I can't quit this crap completely. But I haven't given up yet, wish me luck!
It's not crap it's good stuff, It's what men do. It's normal natural and beautiful. I'm grateful and thankful for it. Exact opposite of poison. It's a good thing in life.
@@duke613 ill behavior
@@XterNuLL natural and healthy behavior
@@duke613 how about you go rot in lonely-ness you biased.
Thanks for your courage to share this.
" thanks for your courage to get monitized on youtube "
You are happy because you experienced this in your 15. I had the same situation at 25...
I started at 24 and Im 34 and I'm going crazy if I dont stop this year I really want to kms
Porn stole 25 years of my life, thank jesus in heaven for his salvation im now 2 days free
lmao
I hope youre not joking and you actually try to quit it 25 years is just hell
longest i ever went was 4 days, had to masturbate because i was worried I couldn't get it up after such a long time, wow SUPER ORGASM
My problems are a little different than yours, now in my 40's, Iv'e had soo many long relationships in my 20's and 30's but now adult movies are a lot easier than heartbreak or dealing with someones elses crap all the time. Thats the sad truth rn.
It takes real balls to open up like this about your life, in order to help random (young) men on the internet. You're a real one, Rob. Je wordt enorm gewaardeerd.
Respect your honesty. Only people with balls can confess such things
U understand me, been trapped to it at the age of 12 -13 and still strugling ruined my life 😢😢😢!!!
Bro, I salute your courage & guts that you came publicly with your dark side.. actually your past will definitely work as a medicine for all of us.
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Wow! Thank you so much for being completely open. I've seen this happen to too many boys/men. When I bring up the subject, people act like I'm a prude. But I'm very aware how excessive porn can diminish a man's desire to be openly intimate with another human being.
This speaks to me so much.. I know my preferences have changed a lot since I first started watching it years ago. Its true that you barely get excited by normal stuff if you get hooked on freaky stuff. It has also made me avoid social interactions and made me very ashamed
I feel your pain. I can only have sex with women who are trapped in ovens or under beds. It just never happens sadly.
I mean... There's always those kind of 'services'
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Find some one who likes to role play is the solution bro.
@@cajampa LOL I don't think that's real solution
@@cajampa You proposed the idea that IF unable to get hard without doing XYZ THEN do XYZ, but this is giving into the conditional statement, not a solution to removing the conditions.
Man, thanks for your BRAVERY to stand up and say so personal things like this to help others. You did a good thing, hope it'll return to you.
Thank you Rob. This really is a terrible thing for anyone. Especially young people.
This video absolutely broke my heart. Thank you for your honesty 💜
I didn't make this connection until I was in my late 20s. It's something I still struggle with. I'm isolated and with basically no prospects of romance in my life. I've spent time and money satisfying these urges and desires, and I'm filled with so much regret because of it.
Studies have suggested a correlation between excessive porn use and mental health issues, such as anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Individuals may feel shame or guilt about their consumption habits, leading to a negative self-image
@@Mystic_Paths it can also lead to gender dysphoria.
wow ur so smart
Correlation is the right term. Still not clear if excessive porn causes these symptoms or if the symptoms lead one to excessive porn. No question in my mind you need to tackle both the mental health issues and the porn at the same time. They fuel each other
Imagine being ashamed of watching corn... That could never be!
Guys are depressed so they watch porn all day. It's not the porn doing it. I watch porn, have for years, and have a very active sex life with my wife. If a guy has a problem getting it up at 15, it's more likely because he spends his time on video games, poor diet and poor sleep.
You don't realise you're addicted until is too late
15 yeara too late!
Never too late, never give up
@@Seekingsophia00 remember till there's life, lies hope ahead in the tunnel my friend
Hit me 18 years in, was 25 like... well shit that's my life flushed down the drain.
It's never late bro. You still breathing yeah. And live.
So just change your comfort zone. And start new things such like. Going gym. Or doing pushups challenge 200 everyday. And etc
Thanks for sharing your story. This is so relatable and to me, feels so uncomfortable to talk about. It really shouldn't... 🤔
Weed ruined my life, the haters and the mindless stoners might get triggered if they read this though.
Gym ruined mine but gym slaves who are brainwashed get really triggered when I tell em, they're destroying themselves. It's suicide!
I'm a stoner, and I don't get triggered at comments like this. Weed is a very iffy topic, imo, because it either can ruin your life, or make it better. For me, it's the latter, it's helped me in so many ways... Helps me manage my depression, enhances my creativity, and genuinely has helped me mature. I'm sorry it took such a toll on you though, I genuinely hope things are/will be better for you
i done both and i'd say *orn addiction is like x10 times worst than weed addiction, *orn addiction acts in a similar way to CRACK COCAINE, you heard that right, this addiction is designed to make you a giant extreme loser
Why did it ruin it if u dnt mind can u give few points plz
@@Kaniala-l7s must have done something wrong then
Thanks so much for making this video. On youtube and all those nofap videos you always hear about all the side effects of p*rn but hearing youre story makes the whole thing so much more real in my mind. Thanks for beeing so open and making this vid!!!
The moment u try to stop something is the moment you know you have a problem. Stay strong men.
thanks man 🚶🏼♂️
You, sir, are an inspiration! It takes a lot of courage to speak about these kinds of things, let alone to the whole world!
Thank you.
wow such a powerful video. so similar to my story as well.
I think that if one can quits: Porn, masturbation, fornication, alcohol, smoking, drugs, video games, secular music, movies, gossiping, clubbing etc... You'll find yourself becoming free as a kid again and being an adult at the same time able to take care of business.
Nothing wrong with video games. Except for the bad ones
@@halami2149 There are many fun things that adults can do, but video games ain't 1 of them. Just my opinion
@@ThomasBoulard-p3b Okay
Music is the most amazing thing
About life. I got about 2000 albums
on CD.
Thanks God and thanks to you
32 and never had a girlfriend, largely due to lack of drive caused by the easy option of po*n. Have been trying to stop for ages. This has also cost me money.
Major problem in my life. Lately been doing a little better...
Wish you the best brother
Why you don't stop now
The best why to stop is to go to gym i know maybe your having social anxiety and depression now you can't go to gym but you can workout at home do calisthenics or anything
Read the book (its free and available online) called " Easy Pesey method" its modeled after a book for smoking addiction and it's easy to comprehend and helps break limiting beliefs. Another thing you got to as well is find a foundation spiritually. Eventually feeling better results healthy habits to be considered like reading, the gym, being productive, etc.
Man, I know how it feels. I would sound like everybody, but this is true: just keep your mind busy with usefull stuff. Read books, try to perform better at job (or get a job), play an instrument, do programming on you PC, enroll on a web course about something you like, ride a bike...
Do something that is important and satisfying to you, no matter everyone.
similar story... at one point you just have to know youre done with it... all about willpower because its everywhere
Very brave an honest. Thanks for warning people about this truly underestimated addiction.
I knew I was developing a porn problem over the years, my faps were getting longer and I would need to keep stimulating myself physically. But in my mind I always expected that when the real moment comes there will be no problem. But no... There was a problem. Recently I had a intimate encounter in which I struggled to keep it up, I had to think about porn rather than enjoying the beautiful woman that was in front, on top, all over me... That was fvking depressing. I felt like a depraved scumbag because porn messed up my performance, and I felt bad for the girl because she was gorgeous and it wasn't her fault. I've stopped watching porn for a week and not even touching my meat unless I'm washing myself in the shower. Already I'm feeling better and errections feel better, but it will take time.
Bro don't be so hard on yourself.
When you haven't done it with anyone for a while it takes some time to get back in the grove, if you have been focusing your s xuality on other things. Just keep doing what you are doing and it will be just fine. As in step back from the pron and find your lust in something real again.
Same happened 2 me, been with gorgeous women and my wang remained soft, the last time it happened I snapped out of this shit and now I'm 8 months clean, I am curious 2 see how I'll perform with a girl now.
@@raidarusorry why look for women if you watch that shit? I don't get it
@@ohnoohnono I watched be4, now I'm 8 months clean.
@@raidaru thx for the reply
Remove the guilt and shame, enjoy your own body. The battle is the guilt around watching and pleasuring yourself.
LIFE ruined my life.
The realest shit
But being born in a world 3tirhd country is the worst
life is a disease which ends into death :) don't take it too seriously, the life I mean
@@YoshiToshiSamYou why? explain please.
@@Dallas3212 to be born in third world countries is tye worst nightmare 😢
I've been a follower of your channel for a few years now. I really appreciate your self-reflecting a lot. RUclips needs more content creators like you!
One of the most significant effects of nofap I've experienced has been increased truthfulness and conscientiousness in my personality. It makes me feel somewhat more, first of all, confident but also more sincere, since I'm able to face women with primarily respect instead of uncontrollable lust.
good on you for quitting. The industry owes us a life and half for carelessly throwing it out into the world and internet, making it so easily available and derailing so many developing minds, ruining so many relationships, and commodifying so many people for profit. It's a sick and vile thing.
There's a reason why it's free in the first place, because we are the consumer, what started from big tiddies eventually turn to the most heinous stuff. It's not worth it.
takes a lot of courage to talk about these things like that so automatically respect for that. and yeah exsesisve maasturbation and porn are very harmful to men. some cultures talk specifically how retaining semen and abstaining from masturbation (even worse porn) is very important to improving your life as male (female too I think can benefit from this). I am glad you recognized the problem and work towards fixing and repairing the damage. respect bro
lets not forget the spiritual aspects of porn, very destructive
The question is why would someone want to distribute this stuff for free in this mass.
Talk about spiritual warfare !
@@voidwalker7774 Indeed! I remember when I was young (~11-13) me and my friends would find porn sites, especially when we didn't know what porn really was and just did it for a laugh like the Dragon Ball Z hentai ones.
However, pretty much every site gave only a few pics and then asked you to subscribe with a credit card for unlimited access etc. Now these days you can find thousands and thousands of free, high-quality videos of anything you want with zero effort. In fact, Google provides the biggest and most well-known site as a top result all the time, so that even kids can find this crap.... Defiantly an agenda behind it all, but when you try to talk about it with facts then out come the shills and gas-lighters lol.
@@voidwalker7774 wait till they find out who owns all the corn production studios and publishers.
@@voidwalker7774 That was always the goal from day one. It's programming.
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May God be with you and may God protect you, granting you a long and fulfilling life. 🙏
Thanks for for saying the ashaming truth that nobody has the balls to say. I respect you for that 👍
you are not alone. its ruining my own and my psyche. my mental health energy and spirit.
but it comes from the internet, movies, music videos, tv
. we need to shut of from this.
Been almost exactly a year since I quit. I still relapse sometimes, about once a month, but drastic reduction and now I know it's bad for me. Life changing, i was changing lots of things, quit smoking weed, quit vaping, got a better diet, reduced sugar intake. But ultimately it was porn that was causing the major social issues I was having. Unfortunately I never lost my virginity when I was younger so my sex mind was all porn based. Really really messed me up.
Thank you for sharing this video, i also was addicted for most of my life and it started with the 5th grade. I have had problems with guilt and shame for a very long time when i was watching things that were not moral to watch. I quit that almost 10 years ago but would still be struggling with the regular porn on and off. I have been on no fap journey for many years now and i have relapsed back into porn many times but thank god i am now again clean for more then a month. Its time this industry was exposed for how many lifes its ruining.
This post is so informative. Thanks for helping us.
IMO this is a MUST SEE video for teenage boys. Thank you for having the balls to make this very honest video.
We’re the same age and I’m actually quite surprised that happened to you so young. It has happened to me but a lot later in life. Great message for the youngsters. Thanks buddy!
Rob..... you're really doing good work. This is motivation everyone, especially myself, need. Thank you for sharing your stories
a girlfriend at 15? yeah this vid is not for me bruh
Thank you for making this video. These topics can be very uncomfortable to discuss but it is so so so important that they are talked about. I got caught in the addictive cycle when I was far too young, my parents did everything right but they still couldn't have protected me. It is an evil industry, and even though I evaded a number of the worst side-effects, my live has continued to improve the more I win my battle. I have my wonderful girlfriend to thank for being the straw that broke the camel's back, finally allowing me to make some real strides in the direction I knew I wanted to go.
For anyone out there struggling, just know that you are strong enough. You can break free and put control of your life into your own hands no matter what you are addicted to. Find your reason, put it above all, and tell yourself every day that it is worth fighting and whatever has invaded your life does not control you. Good luck, all.
Broo, how do you know my life !?? 😭, I'm 27 and experiencing same thing like you ,
I don't think porn is the problem, but just a coping mechanism or distraction. I think its a fun thing you can do, but like anything in life, in excess and not balanced it can consume you. I don't believe in being sober all the time, to me that's a waste of what joys life can bring. When I'm watching too much porn something else is going on in my life, either with my career, choices, or lack of choices/apathy. I'm putting something else off or trying to avoid thinking about how much I've screwed up, but the thing is that's ok to think about that. A problem cannot be solved if it can't be identified first, and I think many others keep "relapsing" with porn because it wasn't really the issue, its just a coping mechanism. The REAL issue is whatever thing you're trying to avoid thinking about or doing while using porn. Its not porn who messed up your life, but YOU and your choices. Its fine btw we have all been there, but I think its important people realize that and acknowledge it in order to fix whatever it is.
You wanna say I'm coping or deluded or making excuses go ahead. Problem isn't porn, or weed, or alcohol, or some external thing you can throw the blame on, the problem was you.
ED at 15? Wow... For me the symptoms didn't start until I was 24. From 29 year old onwards I was totally unable to ever get it up with a woman.... After I had already tried everything I was finally cured 7 years later at the age of 36 when I found out about the noble practice of semen retention. So I did 4 months of semen retention and total abstinence from watching porn and lo and behold my ED was cured. Got married the same year and not even once has there be a failed intercourse since then. This testimony is true and I just wish that whosoever suffereth from ED would give SR a try because it's guaranteed to work...
Reading the comments im getting an impression that people here literally fapped every day or two non stop and im not talking about 20-30 min fap but for hours. Most people during sex only needs like 5-20 mins to orgasm and thats it. Doing it for hours, of couse that is going to harm your junk, unless youre poking a woman. Most guys will tire out before their junk fails them anyway. Do people not know moderation. Even all things good in excess can be harmful. You can indulge in porn just not every goddamn day. Once a week sounds about right no? Keep the pipes running and not get some testicular cancer or something. Full on abstinence for months/years is just asking for trouble. Or dont even watch porn. Just fap by yourself from mental imagery or not even that.
Rob I want to thank you for your content related to nofap. This specific video, alongside with others you have done in the past, are so relatable to me and have helped me fight my corn addiction that has lasted since I was 14 ( I am 30 now).
Thank you very much and keep up the good work
Don't start if you haven't already. This is not a habit worth building. If this is a habit already then try to cut down if you can.
Ive been lurking on ur nofap stuff for a while but im glad u actually shared ur story and were brave enough to do so to show support ive given u a sub to show support
I used to laugh at the idea of being a porn addict and the whole no-fap movement considering I've struggled with drug addiction and porn just seemed to pale in comparison. I realize now that that's kind of the most dangerous thing about porn. It seems so benign and masturbation we've been told is natural and healthy. That's the thing though, the abuse of the two is an insidious and slow poison. I never wanted to accept that it's bad and still want to believe a healthy balance can be achieved, but for me personally I think I just need to take a good looooooong break. It's got my brain all fucked up.
Yep happened to me too. You don't even think about it. Then you realise that in time it really messes your brain up. Fs up your dopamine etc.
One of the most honest speakers ive ever seen ... i dont know how it is possibe to speak to thousand peoples for such personal things and be so calm like speaking to your self . Amazing , Huge respect for the content
The fact that you also became addicted to junkfood and world of warcraft and aimed to avoid human interaction shows that it's not just the porn that is the problem but that there's deeper underlying psychological issues that cause you (and a lot of others) to become addicted to those things in first place.
Picking one thing (porn in this case) and using it as a scapegoat for everything that went wrong in your life is a very bad approach to be honest.
@@Frobbl Porn could potentially be the cause for it though, after all.. when he did watch that stuff, that was his downfall. But you're right, it could be that he has some underlying mental issue that couldve influenced his addiction. He seems to be doing good now, so honesty, if this strategy helped him then why is it bad? It worked.
@@XterNuLL I doubt it. It's the same thing as with drug addicts. In the vast majority of cases the drug itself wasn't the cause but there was other causes that led to people 1. even getting into contact with drugs and 2. starting to abuse them to escape life.
What you want to find out is why you want to distract yourself from your life. THAT is the cause for you even becoming addicted in first place.
Most drug addicts were in horrible situations of their lifes when they became drug addicts. Fixing the reasons why your life is in a horrible situation is the way to go.
Well Rob, I understand where your coming from.
Well done for opening up like that, it takes balls.
Thanks for sharing this because it might help other people especially young lads.
When you blame the thing you lack the discipline to use in moderation, you are being deeply immature. It's no different than suing the fast food place for making you fat.
I see that excuse as people avoiding personal accountability. Porn and weed aren't the problem, it's about how and why you use them. Anything can become bad if you misuse it for long enough periods of time. Not everyone who watches porn is unhinged.
Not really comparable lol..porn seeps in at a young age because of no access to real partners, curiosity, and how the dopamine system works, so when it becomes a habit, it turns into an addiction. As a kid I always knew drugs were dangerous..nothing would ever make try heroin crack or meth, but I was using porn regularly cause I thought it was normal. If I was educated on how porn worked when I was 12 I would have never fucking abused it.
Thank you for speaking about this so openly. It did mess my life up and I'm still recovering...
2:12 This reminds me somehow of that one South Park episode when Randy said "once you go that path you can't go back watching naked women on magazines" and damn he was right.
Thanks for sharing this. I hate to think how many lives are destroyed because of porn.
12 steps program helped me in my addiction to porn alcohol and feeling guilty and lonely it made me free
This is the most helpful video I have ever seen. It’s a true heart to heart. Bro to bro psa. Thank you. I feel changed and like I finally realized what my life has become because of my addiction. I was addicted since age 6 and this is the first video out of millions that I’ve seen where I really feel like a new person with a fresh start. Thank you so much.
It's not that porn ruined your life, is that you ruined your life with porn... there is a difference.
Absolutely yes. Tired of this fluffy soft "men". Porn it's not problem if you're not fu**ing pus*y who crying in corner of his mind.
It's such a silly topic, but it is a very real battle. Thanks for sharing your story, you are appreciated.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes, Steve_porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this
Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
Is he on instagram?
Yes he is Steve_porassss
Find a hobby that you can do with other people and exercise. I think those two things have saved me from a lot of unnecessary hardships.
Be strong and be mindful of your own psychology, start thinking of what you want your next chapter to be.
Lets go!
BRO , You Talking about like You are 75years old Porn destroyed My life .Come on We can't change the past You and me we lucky That we wake-up And we can Fix our problem before it's to late i lost 10years of this Addiction also Now iam my late 20ths And iam Busy building my Future. Let's Learn our past and Focus looking forward 💪🏽💪🏽🦁 . Salamu Alaikum☝🏽.
Really condident for sharing this and helping other people understand and relate. Very humble, thankyou a lot!
When I was in the Army, I was into porn and it unchained me from giving women the halo effect when they were doing this or that socially.
I was more anxious and apprehensive and standoffish in regards to relationships and questioned guys girls when they were doing this or that. One guy said I acted like a virgin and another said I was weak.
After I ets'ed from the Army the guy who said I was weak became a cop and found his wife cheating on him and blew his head off. The guy who said I complained like a virgin was tipped off by his mother in law that his wife/her daughter was cheating at that moment.
He raced back home and caught her in the act but fucked up and didn't record it. When going through court process for divorce his mother in law refused to testify against her daughter "because that's her daughter". He'll be paying child support to her and will never see his daughter again afyer she cheated on him and took his house.
So the guy who said I was weak killed himself and the guy who said I was a virgin will never see his daughter again. 🤷🏻
Porn can derail your life like any vice. You drink too much it can destroy your body, as with drugs. But, in regards to vices it's a more tame one. Don't let it make you neglect your studies, don't let it derail your goals, don't let it control you. Maybe get yourself a partner and you can comfortably watch adult movies together, talk about what made them or you both feel this or that and maybe you can gain a more intimate and deep understanding of each other's "shadow" so to speak.
But yeah man, it definitely sounds like it was ruining your life and you were right to cold turkey and quit the stuff. Porn might have prevented me from being driven into the ground by one of these parasites out here.
Facts
I've never really heard anyone describe using porn to unchain yourself from caring about the dating pool being tainted by todays activities, but i used to be like that
But I grew up with a lot of rough fellas who did unspeakable shit behind their girlfriends back, and i also grew up with alot of people who treated them well. The same goes for girls, and if you try to imagine men and women on the same specrum of horrid, you can see you just need to be smart about the woman you select. Easier said than done but trust your gut, if you have doubts, dont date them in the first place and end up trapped because you're spineless. I met my mrs when she was 18, i was 23, she'd only been with 1 other fella, she was quiet, didn't party much, was into art and studied at university. I knew that relationship would go the mile, and we're 5 years strong. No marriage, we rent and have 2 cats, why rush
I would suggest that those guys were probably infected by porn too. Picked the wrong woman on top of that. It's not easy either way but porn definitely sabotages relationships in a slow "death by 1000 cuts" method. I know there are guys who put the Pu**y on a pedestal which is a recipe for disaster however. Perhaps it saved you from bad woman in the past, but it fucks you for a good woman in the future, in a long term relationship.
4 years in and it’s eroding to the point of fading into a faint but dark memory yet despite that it’s always there, but I know eventually I will overcome it.
Younger men need to hear this! Stay strong brothers, find your ambitions and go hunting
You’re right boss !!!! I quit for 7 months and fell back into it now I’m 2 months strong 👊🏾👊🏾 it’s a battle but I can feel myself healing and getting there
why you all sound like alcoholic 😂✌
hm ... to me pon was always boring , bcz peoplehaving sex infront of the camera seem to be missing diginity for some reason.... the whole thing looks sad to me tbh. but i am borderline asexual 39 srs old male. my life is good tho... wife, daugher, good job, own cars , 2 apartments...play in 2 metal bands, plenty of time to relax and read and play guitar... the only thing i miss about my pre marriage life is world of warcraft. i mean i still have time to play it but it lost its magic and no other video games are interesting to me. i played wow for more than 10 years. man i miss that feeling. resto druid raid healer main ... i was good. i dont know why im writing this. guess i really loved to play WoW.
Maybe ur just autistic. But I miss WoW, too.
Never even thought about any of this. And from a Young Person Cant describe enough how much this has helped. You deserve more attention Brother❤ Someone who actually cares and is spreading awareness on a Parasite of sorts, That ruins your life.
Johnny Sins
you are so right man.... I decided to stop a few days ago and you made me realise that my searches were becoming more and more specific
bro i am not addicted to corn but i don't know how to talk to girls , i am 18 and never had a girlfriend , what should i do 😢
Stop playing with your meat! Go to the gym, start reading, less screen time…
@@ciprianion4142 will that help me in getting confidence talking to girls , bro i have so much anxiety around girls 😭
Pray to god, go to the gym ,be kind to your parents, learn new things
Instead of simping you should focus on bettering yourself first.
Get a good degree or go to trade school. Hit the gym. Pray to God. Build a solid career. When you have those things done, women will eventually come to you. Good luck with that.
@@yes3293 thx bro , will keep that in mind
Your content is honestly valuable to people, congratulations, thank you and be proud to be who you are.
Happned to me too i felt so ashamed.
But it's okay, no shame no pleasure hahahhaa
Embrace it
@@edisonchin2463shut up
"ultimate gooner pmv" now thats the pro stuff! I stop fapping usually when i got a lot of work, and it keeps me from being bored on my pc, most of the stuff you said is relatable, a very helpful clip, thanks!
8:39 lmao 😂😂😂😂