I still remember my escape day like it was yesterday. I had my escape plan, it was years in the making. I was SO SCARED, yet SO BRAVE to finally do it. I waited until he was at work... I decided to pack a suitcase and anything that didn’t fit would be left behind. Unbeknownst to me, someone who new my plan tipped off my ex, and while I thought I still had 6 hours to vacate that apartment and before he would find out, I actually was about to realize how wrong I was, and my biggest fear come to life. My ex, the abuser, he was racing home in a rage ready to stop me from leaving him by any means. Warning!! This next information may be triggering or too graphic for survivors so please take heed. I won’t get too graphic about the attempt on my life though, but I will say a few things to sum up the situation I escaped from... 1 - the reason it was only an _attempt_ on my life, is because the person that tipped off my ex to my plan, realized they may have just killed me with those words, and rushed to the apartment to find him on top of me (killing me) and stopped him. I had lost so much blood that I was fading in and out. 2 - I remember being carried out like a baby by someone, and I remember looking back and seeing the cream carpet drenched about 12ft to 12ft and realizing all that blood was from my body. I needed lots of physical therapy to recover and I’m still in therapy. This was years ago and I’m grateful I escaped. But barely. My advice to women in this position, please make a plan, but don’t tell anyone that isn’t truly on your side. And be brave! I now have one class left before I graduate with my Criminal Justice Degree and am in the process of becoming a police officer. I want to help others. I’m blessed to do that🙏🏽
Thank you so much, god bless you! It’s always a bright future and there’s so much for me to do. I hope anyone that sees this and feels hopeless knows there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s waiting for you 🥰
WOW!! Not only are you a survivor, you are now THRIVING. What an amazing life story you have already…it’s only just begun. God Bless you in all you do!! 🙏🏼💕
I’m disagree with you , because if you do something wrong nothing to do with your family, she’s uncle throw the words to his family , his family of course support him but they are shouldn’t impact from uncle angry, I’m understand his angry but his family not involved on that crime
NEVER have I ever heard of that B.S.! When my husband was murdered I said A LOT to that scumbag! His attorney tried to object and the judge told him that HE was out of order and needed to sit down or he would be sited for contempt! This judge is WRONG!
I have many times, in fact I’ve been shocked during the last few trials what was allowed for victims to say. STILL, I believe victims should be able to say whatever they want! That’s the LEAST the justice system can do for them!!!
In alot of the cases it's easier said than done. I was in a relationship with my "abuser" for around 17yrs before I finally got the courage to end it. We have 2 kids and I had nowhere to go, had no money and there was no way he was going to leave. He got me so messed up that all I believed was no one would ever want me, no one would ever put up with me being "psycho" and that I could never live without him. Folk that say "just leave them" without understanding how hard it is are usually folk that have never been through an abusive relationship.
TERRIBLE JUDGE! I've watched tons of victim impact statements where the victim talks to the guilty party. That judge should've kept her mouth shut, she was wrong to make him change his statement.
Such a load of crap to not let the victims speak freely. After he inflicted so much trauma and suffering on all of them he should be forced to keep his mouth shut while the victims and their loved ones are able to say whatever is on their hearts.
Sorry, but I can't stand judges like this. Why even prepare a freaking statement if you're going to be shut down & told to limit what you say. 😒 OMG, I'm so upset.
Lisa, what a brave woman you are! My heart broke for you and I’m so sorry for what you have been through. You are so strong and I loved the support your man gave you.
This judge is out of order. She could learn from the professionalism of Judge Durrow in the Waukesha Parade trial. The victims impact statement CAN be directed toward the defendant. This country is in total dysfunction on so many levels. She lacks wisdom of the basic understanding of an impact statement. Also, she lacks empathy for the victims family which makes me doubt her ability to judge. Unbiased or biased, I've never witnessed this type of improper instructions for the family of the victim. Of course the very final statement of "dont drop the soap" followed by a kiss was in fact inappropriate. However, let's be clear, the judge completely ruined his entire impact statement and my heart is heavy for the family. It would've taken everything within me to not inform this judge to "GTH". The victims family should be entitled to speak whatever is on their heart. Hats off to the Waukesha Wisconsin Parade judge Jennifer Durrow. What a patient and professional judge.
WTF! I wish the judge would had said something like that to us during victim impact, the only response & it would be completely worth being held in contempt Appropriate Response: “NEITHER IS MURDERING A HUMAN BEING, BUT HERE WE ARE”! There is no situation where tip toeing around a defendant convicted of MURDER feelings is even the slightest bit of concern to the family F**k coddling him…he was worried about how her family felt when he acted w/ malice and took her away from her family
@ashleypg1708 I wish the judge would had said that on a trial my family was part of during victim impact, my immediate response would be “Neither is killing another human being, BUT HERE WE ARE”
These families have every right to address the killer. They have waited long enough and for this idiotic judge to limit their statements is down right disgusting!!!
Horrible Judge!!!! The victims have a right to speak. The prosecutor reading statements is terrible as well. She doesn’t come across like she cares about the victims at all. Reads like a 12 year old not a practiced attorney.
oh he was getting rid of his lawyer, she didn't do a motion for new trial and he was pissed. I think it was strategic on his part, probably wanted sentencing delayed so he wasn't in prison over Christmas
This judge and defense attorney are wrong for this. He kept quiet the whole time and only had this moment to speak. Every courtroom gives a bit of wiggle room for the victims to speak as long as they aren't cussing profussely. So disrespectful to not allow him to speak. I would have been even more upset if I couldn't even talk when he could murder my family and attempt to murder another. Were Chad's poor Chad feelings too hurt to allow this man a moment to tell him how much he disliked him and what he had done to women who couldn't defend themselves? Poor Chad. I hope you get yours in prison. They say and do far worse than a victim impact statement you pansy a$$.
Not one person spoke for him. And he of course continues to lie and claim innocence, without any statement of at least apologizing to Joseph that he will never have a mother from this point fwd. I pray that he thrives and loves! And fully believe in Jesus and that he will have no pain someday…no more tears 🙏
Why would the prosecutors allow the uncle to prepare a statement directed to the defendant? They surely knew that was not allowed. The court will not allow you to get up and speak to the defendant in that way. If you include one sentence directed toward the defendant that's one thing, but to get up their and berate him the entire time is not acceptable. The prosecutors dropped the ball and allowed the uncle to be reprimanded by the judge.
I hate victim impact statements. In this case it sounds like people knew there were bad things happening but no one could or would help, including the victim or her sister.
And this is how victim statements should be read, unlike the way the prosecution and judge for the Cruz case considered themselves and allowed the grieving parents to personally attack the defense. I understand that they were deeply in pain, I can fully empathize, but in a court of law, that is highly inappropriate. There should still be decorum in court. I think that judge should be reported to the bar, that’s how unprofessional and unethical I think her behavior was.
The parents should've attacked the defense. Laughing, joking and giving the bird to the court. They were disrespectful as hell to the trial and the parents. They don't have to worry if someone like you will get offended. Nor should they. Why would anyone on earth care if you thought it was inappropriate? Reported to the bar🙄
I still remember my escape day like it was yesterday.
I had my escape plan, it was years in the making. I was SO SCARED, yet SO BRAVE to finally do it.
I waited until he was at work... I decided to pack a suitcase and anything that didn’t fit would be left behind.
Unbeknownst to me, someone who new my plan tipped off my ex, and while I thought I still had 6 hours to vacate that apartment and before he would find out, I actually was about to realize how wrong I was, and my biggest fear come to life.
My ex, the abuser, he was racing home in a rage ready to stop me from leaving him by any means.
Warning!! This next information may be triggering or too graphic for survivors so please take heed. I won’t get too graphic about the attempt on my life though, but I will say a few things to sum up the situation I escaped from...
1 - the reason it was only an _attempt_ on my life, is because the person that tipped off my ex to my plan, realized they may have just killed me with those words, and rushed to the apartment to find him on top of me (killing me) and stopped him. I had lost so much blood that I was fading in and out.
2 - I remember being carried out like a baby by someone, and I remember looking back and seeing the cream carpet drenched about 12ft to 12ft and realizing all that blood was from my body.
I needed lots of physical therapy to recover and I’m still in therapy. This was years ago and I’m grateful I escaped. But barely.
My advice to women in this position, please make a plan, but don’t tell anyone that isn’t truly on your side. And be brave! I now have one class left before I graduate with my Criminal Justice Degree and am in the process of becoming a police officer. I want to help others. I’m blessed to do that🙏🏽
God bless you n I hope everything works out for you 🙏❤️🙏
Thank you so much, god bless you!
It’s always a bright future and there’s so much for me to do. I hope anyone that sees this and feels hopeless knows there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it’s waiting for you 🥰
WOW!! Not only are you a survivor, you are now THRIVING. What an amazing life story you have already…it’s only just begun. God Bless you in all you do!! 🙏🏼💕
Thank you soo much Jenny 💕💘that means everything to me, more than you know! Bless you baby 😘
So glad you made it out alive and doing well. God Bless.❤️
Absolutely wrong of that judge not to allow the Uncle speak freely!! Heart goes out to the victims and Victims families
I agree with you
I’ve never seen them restricting what they can say. That bothered me.
Totally, look how the Parade victims and Parkland got to speak freely
I’m disagree with you , because if you do something wrong nothing to do with your family, she’s uncle throw the words to his family , his family of course support him but they are shouldn’t impact from uncle angry, I’m understand his angry but his family not involved on that crime
@@aminn3380 what?????
Telling Chad not to drop the soap was HIGHLY appropriate.
NEVER have I ever heard of that B.S.! When my husband was murdered I said A LOT to that scumbag! His attorney tried to object and the judge told him that HE was out of order and needed to sit down or he would be sited for contempt! This judge is WRONG!
I totally agree. And I'm sorry for your loss.
These judges have very sensitive ego and they like to be in control.
@@jaknap1 same with cops or anyone in a position of power they are supposed to be neutral and fair!!!
This judge is totally out of line.
That judge is completely wrong. I’ve never seen a judge restrict them from speaking their mind
I have many times, in fact I’ve been shocked during the last few trials what was allowed for victims to say. STILL, I believe victims should be able to say whatever they want! That’s the LEAST the justice system can do for them!!!
Ladies and Gentlemen
If you are being abused
LEAVE THEM !
They can and will ultimately steal your life
In alot of the cases it's easier said than done. I was in a relationship with my "abuser" for around 17yrs before I finally got the courage to end it. We have 2 kids and I had nowhere to go, had no money and there was no way he was going to leave. He got me so messed up that all I believed was no one would ever want me, no one would ever put up with me being "psycho" and that I could never live without him. Folk that say "just leave them" without understanding how hard it is are usually folk that have never been through an abusive relationship.
I hear you... brought back memories ( ugly ones) I am happy for you & in a better place..as am I...
@@craftygirl138 I understand
I have been too
TERRIBLE JUDGE! I've watched tons of victim impact statements where the victim talks to the guilty party. That judge should've kept her mouth shut, she was wrong to make him change his statement.
Such a load of crap to not let the victims speak freely. After he inflicted so much trauma and suffering on all of them he should be forced to keep his mouth shut while the victims and their loved ones are able to say whatever is on their hearts.
Sorry, but I can't stand judges like this. Why even prepare a freaking statement if you're going to be shut down & told to limit what you say. 😒 OMG, I'm so upset.
Oh this judge is absolutely out of hand! VICTIMS HAVE A FIRST AMENDMENT RIGHT!!! Why are we the victims always being stepped on!
Lisa, what a brave woman you are! My heart broke for you and I’m so sorry for what you have been through. You are so strong and I loved the support your man gave you.
His statement was really powerful.
Shame how the victims are censored what a joke!
They're not supposed to be..😒
This judge is out of order. She could learn from the professionalism of Judge Durrow in the Waukesha Parade trial. The victims impact statement CAN be directed toward the defendant. This country is in total dysfunction on so many levels. She lacks wisdom of the basic understanding of an impact statement. Also, she lacks empathy for the victims family which makes me doubt her ability to judge. Unbiased or biased, I've never witnessed this type of improper instructions for the family of the victim. Of course the very final statement of "dont drop the soap" followed by a kiss was in fact inappropriate. However, let's be clear, the judge completely ruined his entire impact statement and my heart is heavy for the family. It would've taken everything within me to not inform this judge to "GTH". The victims family should be entitled to speak whatever is on their heart. Hats off to the Waukesha Wisconsin Parade judge Jennifer Durrow. What a patient and professional judge.
WTF! I wish the judge would had said something like that to us during victim impact, the only response & it would be completely worth being held in contempt
Appropriate Response:
“NEITHER IS MURDERING A HUMAN BEING, BUT HERE WE ARE”!
There is no situation where tip toeing around a defendant convicted of MURDER feelings is even the slightest bit of concern to the family
F**k coddling him…he was worried about how her family felt when he acted w/ malice and took her away from her family
It's bullshit judge that you won't let the victims family speak what they want to speak against that pos that killed them.
some Judges do not let the victims disparage the guilty
Not right. Judge should not be allowed to tell them what they can say about the killer!
Judge, "That's not appropriate." Shut up 🙄
I agree with you
@@challanger275 I'm glad the uncle got that comment in though. Good for him!
@ashleypg1708 I wish the judge would had said that on a trial my family was part of during victim impact, my immediate response would be “Neither is killing another human being, BUT HERE WE ARE”
She threw his entire statement off. Glad he got the soap comment in. 😅
These families have every right to address the killer. They have waited long enough and for this idiotic judge to limit their statements is down right disgusting!!!
I wonder what happened here. Defendant looks angry. I wish there was sound at the beginning.
He is not happy about this being called a scumbag
Horrible Judge!!!! The victims have a right to speak. The prosecutor reading statements is terrible as well. She doesn’t come across like she cares about the victims at all. Reads like a 12 year old not a practiced attorney.
oh he was getting rid of his lawyer, she didn't do a motion for new trial and he was pissed. I think it was strategic on his part, probably wanted sentencing delayed so he wasn't in prison over Christmas
Prosecutor is a beast! ❤
Wow this so wrong if not now when he should be allowed to direct his statements to him
This judge and defense attorney are wrong for this. He kept quiet the whole time and only had this moment to speak. Every courtroom gives a bit of wiggle room for the victims to speak as long as they aren't cussing profussely. So disrespectful to not allow him to speak. I would have been even more upset if I couldn't even talk when he could murder my family and attempt to murder another. Were Chad's poor Chad feelings too hurt to allow this man a moment to tell him how much he disliked him and what he had done to women who couldn't defend themselves? Poor Chad. I hope you get yours in prison. They say and do far worse than a victim impact statement you pansy a$$.
Judge that was highly appropriate what the Uncle said..Up Yours🖕🖕🤮
It wasn't appropriate that the pos defendant killed two women either.
he only killed one his girlfriend the sister was wounded badly
Not one person spoke for him. And he of course continues to lie and claim innocence, without any statement of at least apologizing to Joseph that he will never have a mother from this point fwd. I pray that he thrives and loves! And fully believe in Jesus and that he will have no pain someday…no more tears 🙏
Why would the prosecutors allow the uncle to prepare a statement directed to the defendant? They surely knew that was not allowed. The court will not allow you to get up and speak to the defendant in that way. If you include one sentence directed toward the defendant that's one thing, but to get up their and berate him the entire time is not acceptable. The prosecutors dropped the ball and allowed the uncle to be reprimanded by the judge.
Why is there no sound in the beginning???
What did the officer take out of his hand?
I'm not sure but I think it kind of looked like a paper clip
It was a ink pen
A pen or pencil. They can be used as weapons or self harm.
This judge😒
Does anybody know why Lisa's boyfriend at the time ran outdide and left the girls on their own with this killer. That sound cowardly to me.
Wth judge?
Sounds starts at about 4:27
his trial is on youtube if you want to watch it
how do I watch the whole trial on youtube?
She mumbles
Why does the thumbnail look like his twin?
I hate victim impact statements. In this case it sounds like people knew there were bad things happening but no one could or would help, including the victim or her sister.
What? Are you serious?
Monsters 👹 from 🔥
And this is how victim statements should be read, unlike the way the prosecution and judge for the Cruz case considered themselves and allowed the grieving parents to personally attack the defense. I understand that they were deeply in pain, I can fully empathize, but in a court of law, that is highly inappropriate. There should still be decorum in court. I think that judge should be reported to the bar, that’s how unprofessional and unethical I think her behavior was.
The parents should've attacked the defense. Laughing, joking and giving the bird to the court. They were disrespectful as hell to the trial and the parents. They don't have to worry if someone like you will get offended. Nor should they. Why would anyone on earth care if you thought it was inappropriate? Reported to the bar🙄