It’s been a month of nc, I’ve been focusing on myself and goals, working out and now will be starting cnc machining classes in may. When we were together I was only focused on her and her health not mine. Since we’ve been broken up I’ve found myself learning to choose myself and explore my life more. I was a anxious bf and she was a avoidant. It hurts letting her go but you can’t force someone to stay in your life. Trust me focus on yourself and better yourself. If they come back they come back if they don’t you’ll be able to move on and live life. It’s not easy at all. It’s very stressful and sad at times but as time goes on it gets easier and easier. Keep it up don’t give up or break nc 🙏🏻
I like your videos and everything you say. I've been listening a lot these two weeks to coaches and I feel like you're the most realistic and grounded. I suppose I want to say that for me no contact is the only natural occurence. I break up with someone if I feel that there's nothing left to be said, so no contact is really all there is. My ex is very complicated on the surface, making the underlying issues impossible to reach. I want back the woman I was with in 2022, she was the most amazing woman I've ever met. The 2023 version of her... not so much. I fear that this version of her reflects the reality much more than 2022. Therefore, I am in fact looking to move on, and no contact is happening because I have nothing left to say to her. But, that's what hurts me. Going from talking every day for the last 7 months to never speaking again. She's a ghost suddenly, and that is painful, it feels like a death. She's definitely avoidant, but like on another level. In any case, on the last day we were together, I told her that there is nothing left to say... she tried to hug me before leaving and I barely hugged her back. I returned one particular gift which had a symbolism of our relationship... and we haven't spoken since. Her quality of life significantly improved when she met me on all levels. Now, she's in a good place, which she reached herself regardless of me, although I was instrumental in the transition... and I hope that she'll keep getting work in the way she is now. However, the safety net is gone. Moral, financial, practical. I think that safety might become a reason for her to attempt to reach out to me... I also think that I treated her so well and made her love me so much at some point, that she will eventually miss that... But as a raging avoidant, perhaps she'll stop herself from reaching out. Who knows. In any case, if I were to attempt a no contact "strategy" to get her back, I've certainly taken all the necessary steps.
You skipped #4 Second round of no contact. First lasted from NYE to Feb 17 & only broke because we saw each other at a wake. He made sure I got home safely as I was too drunk. We started back up again slowly & he pulled away because it felt too good, more than he wants to admit & ghosted me again. That was the last time I saw / heard from Casper. Told him that if he wanted to ghost that he was dead to me & I never existed. It’s been 6 weeks since we were last physically together & 4 weeks since the breakup. Only time will tell….
It’s been a month of nc, I’ve been focusing on myself and goals, working out and now will be starting cnc machining classes in may. When we were together I was only focused on her and her health not mine. Since we’ve been broken up I’ve found myself learning to choose myself and explore my life more. I was a anxious bf and she was a avoidant. It hurts letting her go but you can’t force someone to stay in your life. Trust me focus on yourself and better yourself. If they come back they come back if they don’t you’ll be able to move on and live life. It’s not easy at all. It’s very stressful and sad at times but as time goes on it gets easier and easier. Keep it up don’t give up or break nc 🙏🏻
You’re the top 3 best on RUclips! I feel grounded and back to my confident and secure self when I watch your videos. Thank you!
I like your videos and everything you say. I've been listening a lot these two weeks to coaches and I feel like you're the most realistic and grounded.
I suppose I want to say that for me no contact is the only natural occurence. I break up with someone if I feel that there's nothing left to be said, so no contact is really all there is.
My ex is very complicated on the surface, making the underlying issues impossible to reach. I want back the woman I was with in 2022, she was the most amazing woman I've ever met. The 2023 version of her... not so much. I fear that this version of her reflects the reality much more than 2022. Therefore, I am in fact looking to move on, and no contact is happening because I have nothing left to say to her.
But, that's what hurts me. Going from talking every day for the last 7 months to never speaking again. She's a ghost suddenly, and that is painful, it feels like a death.
She's definitely avoidant, but like on another level. In any case, on the last day we were together, I told her that there is nothing left to say... she tried to hug me before leaving and I barely hugged her back. I returned one particular gift which had a symbolism of our relationship... and we haven't spoken since.
Her quality of life significantly improved when she met me on all levels. Now, she's in a good place, which she reached herself regardless of me, although I was instrumental in the transition... and I hope that she'll keep getting work in the way she is now. However, the safety net is gone. Moral, financial, practical. I think that safety might become a reason for her to attempt to reach out to me... I also think that I treated her so well and made her love me so much at some point, that she will eventually miss that...
But as a raging avoidant, perhaps she'll stop herself from reaching out. Who knows. In any case, if I were to attempt a no contact "strategy" to get her back, I've certainly taken all the necessary steps.
Number 4.
My NC is for me, I need to health and recovery myself.
She move on after no contact
You skipped #4
Second round of no contact. First lasted from NYE to Feb 17 & only broke because we saw each other at a wake. He made sure I got home safely as I was too drunk. We started back up again slowly & he pulled away because it felt too good, more than he wants to admit & ghosted me again. That was the last time I saw / heard from Casper. Told him that if he wanted to ghost that he was dead to me & I never existed. It’s been 6 weeks since we were last physically together & 4 weeks since the breakup. Only time will tell….
Number 4 😂😂😂
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