My daughter committed suicide this time last December and I only found this song by chance last week not knowing anything about the musical. Lots of the lyrics are so appropriate and describe how she found herself in her journey through life which we as a family didn't know about. Those closest to her, her children, partner, ex partner eventually broke her spiritually, emotionally, financially to the point where she presumably saw no other way out to end the pain she was hiding and suffering. We miss her deeply and Christmas for us will never be the same again. Time doesn't heal the mental torment such events befall on families, if she had only cried out for help but alas this was not to be and life goes on within you and without you. I hope I get the chance to see the musical some day but time's running out for me as well at 70+ but at least I now have this wonderful song in my life. To avoid any confusion as seems to be the case with some of the very kind responses I have received, this comes from her father and not her mother.
Leroy Sanchez I have a RUclips channel. I sing covers also... you should check it out and tell me what you think. I would really mean a lot coming from a person of great talent such as yourself!!
You know, even being a man, I find Sara's songs so relatable. She has a wonderful way of painting a picture with her words that you can see in your own life and feel like she understands and has been where you are or have been. Much love Sara, thank you for this one 💙
I am drawn in by Sara’s powerful vocals, and I did not realize it was an emotional, sorrowful song until I listened to the lyrics. So happy to find this song, it is lovely written.
I really want to hug my young self, she feel so cold, she been through a lot and nobody’s by her side. She’s so kind to everybody, wont say no, she brought a whole bag of soft drinks for her friends, in hope they’ll forgive her for doing nothing wrong. But she’s happy, no matter how many times people throw shit at her, she’s smiling, she’s so innocent, she’s beautiful, so beautiful.
I found this song in my healing moment after broke up and getting sick and being positive in covid 19. I cried a lot and pray a lot too, I forgive but not forget the pain that they give to me. I learn and try to love my self more and more, and apreciate people who love me more
In 1967 I was 8 years old. My stepdad began molesting me. That’s when my spirit died and I became someone other than I was supposed to be. I became an alcoholic around age 17. My life was so full of chaos, struggles and losing things forever. I’m now 62 and I’ve been sober for over 11 years. I have two beautiful children who help guide me. I know who I am today. I’m a very strong woman today. My life’s journey made me that way. This song is so relatable and I’m OK. My faith in God saved my life a very long time ago. That little girl has stopped crying. I now love that little girl. I see her every time I look in the mirror and I’m proud of who I’ve become 🙏♥️.
I had a classmate named Sofiya. Once I was yelled at by my teacher and classmates and had an anxiety attack. I was about to cry but she hugged me, a hug that I still feel up to now, it was the most comforting hug ive ever felt. I have never thought of dying, it has always occured to me that I will reach my dreams first before I even die. It was Sunday, I was so happy being able to go to a trip with my class. I went to my best friends house, she showed me the picture my classmates were uploading saying may she rest in peace. I genuinely thought it was a joke, I got angry bc its not something to joke about. I still can't believe it until we went outside. My teacher came up to us with a soft voice, like she was afraid we might break. I still remember the burst of emotions I had I want to stop crying because I don't want to believe it, but I can't. My body felt heavy once the cold air of the venue creeped through my skin. Her name. Her name was there in the chapel. We went up. I saw her picture, I covered my mouth and plugged my earphones, I can't cry, I have no right to cry, this is her family's mourning moments I shouldn't ruin it. It took a while to muster up the courage to see her lying there, lifeless. She's so pale. Her left face is almost destroyed. It was a car crash. But she still looks like an angel. It strucked me. How life is short. How lucky I am to be alive. How much pain I'm feeling. How she affected me even if we're not close friends. Sofiya, you really do shine brightly.
Those are the special and impactful moments that make us who we are, and we remember them always. Sorry for your loss. It sounds like she was a beautiful soul.
When I first heard this song on the radio while driving, I cried. It felt like she was singing about my life, my personality, which is something I never thought of as worthy of being put into a song and be sung about by a beautiful voice. Thank you, Sara Bareilles, for writing a song I can relate to so well.
I was standing in the kitchen, cooking, when autoplay started this. Now, I'm standing in the kitchen, crying, over a song I've never heard before. What a talent!
My daughter sang this tonight for her recital at school. She's been battling an eating disorder for the last year and a half and finally confessed to us a little over a month ago. Needless to say, this song made me cry during her singing. So many parts of the lyrics speak to her and it breaks my heart that she's suffered for so long alone and didn't trust me enough to share with me this disorder. I long for the day she finds herself again and can live a healthy life and see just how beautiful and precious she is. If she could see herself through my eyes, she would never doubt her self worth. To all of those girls and boys who doubt yourself and struggle, to someone in this world, you are the best thing that happened to them and if you could see yourself in their eyes you would know your worthy. May God Bless your paths.
as someone going through recovery from an ED it’s so heartwarming to your comment and how you support your daughter. Your message means so much, sending much love and strength to you and your daughter as well, God bless ❤️
@@erinhuang263 Thank you Erin. I hope you are doing well. I understand it's a struggle to recover from this and it takes time. I will keep you in my prayers as well.
Youre such a great parent, as a girl who has lived an eating disorder without her parent's support and Who feels that this song talks about her, i only can say you thank you for trying to give help. It is a Hard way, and maybe there is more than the ed, probably lots of hidden fears, dudes or Hurt in your daughter's life, but i'm sure that you can overcome all the obstáculos. Don't feel like a bad parent, i am sure that you Will find the way of help her, with lots of love, time, talk and hugs. Best of my wishes, you can go out from the ed. Hugs
When I graduated high school I weighed only 93lbs. At my lowest I hovered around 87lbs. In 1987 when my mom finally found out, after going to our blessed Dr. Miron, called All my friends AND my teachers. They were instructed to watch me like a hawk. My friends made sure I ate lunch and then made sure before the next class that I did not throw it up. That's kinda how they treated it back then. If you would just eat. I was suffering from such crippling depression. That's why I wasn't eating. Mine was not a body dismorphic thing. Only went for help when I was in my early 30s. Been getting therapy for 20 years. And Every time I get really, really down I stop eating. In March I ended up in a psych ward for a week. And I needed to be there. Been hospitalized years before as well. I pray for your precious daughter as well. Sounds like you're a vigilant and loving mom. I lost mine only 2 months after od ing on one of my meds. I wish, wish I hadn't done that and put her through that. Lost my boyfriend only 2 weeks after losing my wonderful amazing mom. Looking back I'm not sure how I survived. Or how I continue to. Mom was only 56. I am now 54(!) And I still struggle. I get help and try to talk. But when I'm in it...every bite is a struggle. Your daughter, I think, with you by her side will prevail. Don't EVER give up on her! You may not fully understand why she does what she does but just be there. Like my mom keep on her, keep telling her you're there and that you love her. NO MATTER WHAT. She'll hear you, she will. Prayers for you both. Keep fighting!
❤️ Much love and support, I'm glad your daughter managed to open up to you after so long. It's the start of a long journey but I have faith that you can both do this together and your bond will be stronger than ever xxx
I'm an old man. I love my music. I Pride myself in loving diversity and challenge for new and beautiful things that we can achieve in this lifetime. I've never quite felt the way I did after hearing this song. Mesmerizing and one of the most beautiful things I've ever heard.
I used to listen to this last 2021. I can still remember clearly how scared, broken, and lost I am that time. And now it's 2024, I tried to listen to it again. I'm happy to share that I'm not scared and broken anymore. I think, I have finally healed from those secret wounds of mine. I made it!!!!☺️❤️
It's weird.. until I heard this song, I never realized I miss the bright-eyed, insecure little girl I used to be. Innocence is so pure and beautiful. What an incredible song.
Raenst0rm As a grown man all I ever wanted was a baby girl to fill my life and that of her sweet mother’s too. I was blessed with many sons, all of whom made my life complete all the same. This song, along with Butterfly Kisses by Bob Carlisle will always make me understand the happy cries and sparkling memories of a little girl kept inside a beautiful woman. It’s funny you know, b cause inside us mere males too, still lives that little boy with similar memories of having lived in glorious times. No matter what gave us strength and wisdoms - parents, siblings and friends alike - we gracefully draw on all of it every time a mesmeric melody is left in our hearts. Kindest wishes and many memories of that little girl again and again :)
I feel like crying. To all my sisters out there who can relate to this song. I love each and every one of you. You are worthy. Your life means something. You are beautiful. And kind. And funny. And special, so so special. I want to hug all of you and look into your eyes and tell you that you mean everything in the world. Because you create your own meaning.
Dear listeners who miss their old selves, It’s not too late, that person is still inside you & when you’re ready, you can start to let them out again. The new you can be their guide & keep them safe so they don’t have to retreat again. It doesn’t matter what changed you, it matters that you’re wiser now & ready to try again. Change may be slow but it will be steady & every tiny step forward counts ❤️
I miss the old me. The one who is an achiever, the one who is so optimistic in life, the one who will still try even if it's seems impossible. I just wish that you didn't listen to those people who doesn't believe in you and just focus on yourself. I think life would be much more easier for the both of us if you let the fire keep burning.
You can always get her back. She won't be exactly the same but she can be better. Life is mean and people are cruel. I know it's easier said than done. I hear you and I see you. Live life for you. Only do things you want to do.
Dear Self, Don’t give up on me, please. We’ve been through a lot and I know we’ll get through this storm again. I know it’s so hard and it’s messed up right now, but please, forgive yourself. Let them go. It’s never too late to start over. I love you. I love you so much! We can do this. We’ll be free and happy. Genuinely. Soon! ♡ xoxo, me :))
You should check out the kid that sings this on america’s got talent! He’s so good and he actually got to sing this with Sara after she heard him on agt
On god. Same with me, just going through dances and sad songs and a BEAUTIFUL dance came up with this song and I can’t get it out of my head... it’s hitting a little too close to home.
I feel like she's still a little bit underrated as an artist. Yeah she's been nominated in the Grammys but I don't think she's got enough exposure that she deserves. I hope that more people will appreciate and love her music.
plaidissogay02 I'm okay with her being not so mainstream. I think Sara's music speaks to some of us in ways most people just write off as "sad" or "depressing" those of us who get it appreciate every word this woman sings.
I know where you're coming from but, as others say, her music's target audience isn't everyone. And I don't think she really wants to much exposure, sure lots more people should listen to her. She is so inspiring and helps me through life but her music can get sad, most people don't understand music like that and I guess it scares them. They don't know what the singer is talking about, they can't relate and so they ignore the music and listen to the trash on the radio about people's overconfident views on themselves. I do hope she gets more appreciation, though.
I can’t listen to this song without crying. Makes me think of the Me before and after serving in combat. “He is gone but he used to be mine.” I plan on writing a full adaptation of this song for people suffering with PTSD.
"She's imperfect but she tries" "She is good but she lies" "She is hard on herself" "She is broken and won't ask for help" "She is messy but she's kind" "She is lonely most of the time" "She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie" It feels like it's describing me , my life and my feelings :) Anyway Thanks Sara for this song , It's amazing 👌🏻👏🏻
I flew from Canada to New York to see Sara sing this live. I was fully expecting to cry through the song. I wasn’t expecting to cry every time she sang. Sara haunts me like no other artist ever has or will.
The line "It's not easy to know that I'm not anything like I used to be" hurts so much. It's like you know your full potential, and how you perform when you're really passionate on what you're doing, because that's how you were a few years ago. But now, you're just lost. Man, growing up sucks but we have no choice but to move forward.
You and I have so much in common three years ago I used to be the perfect rising star but no I'm considering suicide as my last solution I hate being a teen that's why I always tell my family and friends that I wish I would never grow they think it's weird but now I know I'm not the only person who thinks so
If you say you can't...or you say you can .. you're right. Speak abundance in your life girl...reach out for help ..just like you did now....self-pity be damned!! ❤️
I think in a way I'm actually happy Sara is not so famous; it's like she's a little secret and only the lucky ones get to appreciate her talent. If it were another one of my favorite artists releasing her album almost at the same time as Adele, I'd be freaking out, but with Sara I really don't mind because I know she's not looking for fame, she just wants to sing and be heard, and I definetly want to listen. I will enjoy her music all the same even if she's not breaking VeVo records.
+mariana barrios I'm feeling the same way with you! Though I also hope that people recognize her for her talents in singing and songwriting (and other efforts she's ventured, such as writing).
She articulated what I never seemed able to put into words...and now I have a beautiful song to listen to. Thank God for artists like her who put their soul into their craft.
Dear myself: please give life another chance, and I'm sorry that you've been so lonely, that you've been fighting alone for so long, that I didn't appreciate you enough. Thank you for being the one that's always by my side through my ups and downs. I'm sorry for all the bad things I've said and done to you. I'm sorry... I'm sorry...
Dear Kristene, please don’t give up on life. We all feel lonely sometimes but loneliness is all-consuming and dampens any brightness, but life isn’t just loneliness. I hope you find the beautiful parts in this massive world, even if it’s the small things, a butterfly in summer, the feeling of warm sun on your back as a cool breeze glides by, drinking a hot tea on a snowy day underneath a pile of blankets. Life is difficult and stressful and draining at times but those moments make the beauty in this world that much sweeter. I truly hope you get the chance to experience those little pleasures (a good start could be baking a fresh batch of cookies, letting the smell of vanilla fill your surroundings). It’s taken me a while and I still dip every so often but I appreciate life so much more now that it is in colour again, rather than when it was great and unforgiving. Please listen to yourself and give life another try - even if you falter keep trying. I believe you can do it because you already promised yourself that you would try. (Feel free to message me if you want a cookie recipe or chat). X
A dad with two boys. Crushed by this. I keep playing it when no one’s around. Wife thought it was a religious song. Are deep feelings religious or “spiritual?”The depth of some of her music moves deeply me.
@@beeteebz8944 On the contrary, religion is the only thing that puts meaning into the chaos. Deep feelings are spiritual. 100%. Any religion worth consideration can't deny that, and any religion that doesn't accept these feelings-which are the realest expressions of ourselves we can have-is a joke.
Play this song with your boys in the room. Whatever you feel... they have felt, are feeling or will feel. Music helps others see us in a way that maybe we don't express naturally. I love singing one of my dad's favorite songs "My Way" by Frank Sinatra. I understand him better when I sing it.
@@Jo-nv8yb I suppose it was our first and only huge fight. A lot of things that were said that hurt us both. Things haven't been the same since and I don't know, I just think we never really got over that. It's sad.
Been on a 4-year journey through depression. I can tell you now that I'm closer to the other side of it, that you do get parts of your old self back - it's not gone forever. You learn to be happy again. Some of the old you gets mixed in with some of the new, and you become a different, but good, new version of you. Sending love to you on your journey.
This song reminds me of my mother. I can't listen to it without crying. It's beautiful. She was a single mother, a waitress, and worked all the time. I hardly saw her because she worked so hard to give us a good life. It hurts to listen to this sometimes. every word hits....
47 here and feel exactly the same way. I read my old journals when I was younger and was so hopeful. I miss her too. I will find her again. This year, period. I hope we all do... ❤
Just a dad who ran into this song... and can't stop listening to it. I have 4 daughters and know I can't protect them forever. I think we can all relate to the message of this, that life will beat us up and we gotta find our strength through it
As a daughter who lost her dad, you just made me 😭. I had a great dad. The fact that he isn't here anymore to protect me and give me advice kills me. So the fact that this made you think of how much you want to protect them is so touching to me💗💔
You are fortunate not to be among the troubled top ranks of music industry. Just remain concealed like a gem, Sara. You represent a precious find for those who are in search of valuable treasures.
The music industry didn't want her because she writes her own music, probably produces some of it and can perform it like a pro. Because of these things the music industry would have to share profit with her and they do not want that. They want disposable talent that won't claim any ownership rights to the music and therefore can't profit from it in perpetuity. This is why you see the people you see in the music industry today. It is also why the WGA and SAG are on strike for their rights at this moment. Please support them unless you want to see tv and what is left of movies get even worse.
For anyone wondering what the meaning is behind this song (like I was) she is thinking about who she was and who she thought she would be. I think most of us can relate to this feeling, no matter who you are. Fantastic song!
I dedicate this song to my daughter, struggling with addiction. She is not the same kind, caring woman I raised. Often it feels like she is gone, and the person in her place just looks like her.
please dont give up . I can relate to this unfortunately and I remember EXACTLY what you are saying . Its so hard watch and not be able to fix it . I can tell you this , she has been one year clean and she barely remembers that two year period that destroyed us on every level but one thing she said that has stuck with me is "thank you mom and dad for never giving up on me, I may not be here if you did" Please fight the good fight and remember it isnt your daughter its the drug . Not sure if you are a religious person or not but prayer is does more than we can see. I will be praying for you and your daughter
Respect your mirrors. They don't laugh when you cry. Respect your pillows. They catch ur tears and prevents ur house from flooding. Respect ur knives. They make the pain go away by producing pain. And last but not the least: Respect your eyes. They explain things that ur mouth cannot.
OMG... Love this part. And then she'll get stuck And be scared of the life that's inside her Growing stronger each day 'Til it finally reminds her To fight just a little To bring back the fire in her eyes That's been gone but used to be mine Idk, just love it
I like the kinda double meaning with “the life that’s inside her growing stonger each day...” the character in the musical singing this song is pregnant so there is a literal life growing inside her and when the baby is born it does remind her to “fight just a little...”. But it could also refer to a metaphorical life growing within her in the form of her courage, as she hopes to one day have enough courage to fight back for the beautiful life she deserves
Matthias Tan I did not see the play.. I related to it as courage to create the life she really wants.. the True life inside her. I thought it was a great metaphor.
"you don't have to be perfect" "No one is perfect" "Don't be hard on yourself" "You're good enough" "Don't always think small of yourself" "You did well" "You did amazingly well" "I'm always here" "You can talk to me" "You're not alone" "Never was" "You deserve love" "If no one loves you, I'll love you" "Be confident" "Love yourself more" "Cheer up" "I love you" "We love you"
I could relate to the song but I didn't feel emotional until I read your comment... As I read through it I realised no one ever said these words to me, my life isn't exactly messed up but it's been hard because I feel like I have been pretending to be someone I'm not supposed to be, but now it's too late to start over. As I keep failing, everyone who was by my side, they are now blaming me. It's been two years and no one ever cared to ask me if I need help or if I'm fine... I never knew I was this desperate to hear something this simple...
My mother is a wonderful person. The second youngest of four daughters, she made mistakes. She got pregnant at 20. Barely ready for a child. She walked away from one abusive man and did what she had to, to raise her son. She worked two jobs. She found him a good father figure...someone she thought was a good father figure. She got him his first dog. She believed in him no matter what. When that father figure turned out to be manipulative she walked away, and made so many mistakes. And it was the son's chance to remind her of all she'd done for him and make sure she landed back on her feet. This song shattered me. I'm in pieces. I'm sobbing. All the things my mother sacrificed, all the pain and the mistakes. She's not the same woman she was, how could she be? I know she has regrets. And somehow, magically, I know I'm not one of them, even thogh my existence caused so much. I shared this with her and she cried with me. Thank you for Sara Bareilles. We can't change the past. We can't make scars vanish. But knowing that others have felt this. That others know that fight to find that fire again. It means to the world to my mom. It means the world to her son. Thank you.
Gizmo, Your beautiful, flawed, BRAVE resilient Mom has OBVIOUSLY accomplished something SPECTACULAR in her life and that is YOU!! To have a son who recognizes his mother’s struggles and pain and most of all her HEART must be the gift from God that makes her Life worth ALL she endured. You are her ultimate VICTORY over everything life put in her path and you are BOTH so very lucky to have each other. ❤️
This video, this song, this artist equally deserves every view the lovely Adele has in her new single and it really makes me so incredibly insane that "Hello" will eclipse "She Used to be Mine" in almost every media outlet, instead of sharing the spot, for no other reason than the comeback break. Seriously, Sara Bareilles has top-notch skills and she hasn't gotten the spotlight she rightfully deserves, goddammit.
+Yannick Rodríguez All the kids today don't sit down and take the time to listen to meaningful songs. All they want is a catchy beat and lyrics that weren't even written by the "artist." Let's say a new Taylor Swift song comes out, they don't listen to it because it's good, they listen to it because it's Taylor Swift.
+Christopher Tong "Blank Space" was great; it is the best thing she's ever done. It was a pure satire of herself, her fans and the media. I also like shake it off. Having said that, you're are correct; she is no Sara "B"!
+Christopher Tong Excuse me, but could you not generalize people based on their age? I'm thirteen and I don't only want "a catchy beat." I have no interest in Taylor Swift and every single song I listen to has meaning. Saying "all the kids" is completely inaccurate; you're just describing those who have no musical taste, those who enjoy rap and such garbage. I think that if you paid a little more attention, you'd see that a large number of us are nothing like that at all. But you won't pay more attention, will you? You'll continue to consider adolescents as uneducated children, just like every other adult. You will generalize and generalize and generalize until no one even remembers that kids like myself exist-- kids who care about what they listen to and stay far away bad music. I suppose this isn't a big deal to you, or to anyone who's going to call me out on this comment, but I am sick of it. Entirely and irrevocably sick.
I think every women feels this way at some point in her life. What a tragic song. It's good to hear to remember where you've come from and return to the woman who is free.
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Mariah Carey has only won 5 Grammys in her entire 30 year career. She has tons of other awards and accolades and is the biggest selling female recording artist in history. She also writes all her own music (except for covers), as well aa produces her own records... Yet 5 Grammys in 30 years.
It's not simple to say That most days I don't recognize me That these shoes and this apron That place and its patrons Have taken more than I gave them It's not easy to know I'm not anything like I used be, although it's true I was never attention's sweet center I still remember that girl She's imperfect, but she tries She is good, but she lies She is hard on herself She is broken and won't ask for help She is messy, but she's kind She is lonely most of the time She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie She is gone, but she used to be mine It's not what I asked for Sometimes life just slips in through a back door And carves out a person and makes you believe it's all true And now I've got you And you're not what I asked for If I'm honest, I know I would give it all back For a chance to start over and rewrite an ending or two For the girl that I knew Who'll be reckless, just enough Who'll get hurt, but who learns how to toughen up When she's bruised and gets used by a man who can't love And then she'll get stuck And be scared of the life that's inside her Growing stronger each day 'til it finally reminds her To fight just a little, to bring back the fire in her eyes That's been gone, but used to be mine Used to be mine She is messy, but she's kind She is lonely most of the time She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie She is gone, but she used to be mine
This song reminds me of my mom who got caught in a marriage she couldnt leave because she was not economically independent. She passed away last year but the idea of her wanting to pursue a career inspires me to be a better woman. Life is unpredictable, we should live the life we want. Thank you, Sara for being so relatable.
Oh fuck, your comment literally made me cry. I'm so sorry for your mom, at least now she's free from the horrible world that we live, and if heaven exists, it would be for her :'3
"She is broken and won't ask for help" that phrase always gets me because I had never ask for help while I was suffering my depresion alone and in silence. I had to have a breakdown in front of my mom to finally ask for help or I would have committed suicide. This song describes a lot how I felt before I asked for help to my parents and speak out loud. To all the people who is suffering from depression, there is always help and someone who loves you and its by your side.
"to women" nothing about people in general I'm just saying this could speak to men too. Your using harsh words for nothing, i'm fine thanks for asking, but honey how are you?
I am fine.... my comment did not say the song didn't speak to men but as I am not 'a man' I did not speak for them... when you read more than there is into someones comments,and say you HATE feminists ..(which is pretty harsh considering a feminists wants fairness and equality for both sexes), that speaks volumes about how fine you are... and I was great until you decided to attack my comment for being something it wasn't .. have a great day... :) I just love the song as it speaks to ME as a woman and I know it speaks to many of my friends I have shared it with... if it speaks to you that's GREAT too ..
oh do stop. this song is about a woman, it's about women. women identify with it, no person said men can't. troll elsewhere and leave her to enjoy this song.
Lyrics She Used To Be Mine It's not simple to say Most days I don't recognize me These shoes and this apron That place and its patrons Have taken more than I gave 'em It's not easy to know I'm not anything like I used to be Although it's true I was never attention sweet center I still remember that girl She's imperfect but she tries She is good but she lies She is hard on herself She is broken and won't ask for help She is messy but she's kind She is lonely most of the time She is all of this mixed up And baked in a beautiful pie She is gone but she used to be mine It's not what I asked for Sometimes life just slips in through a back door And carves out a person And makes you believe it's all true And now I've got you And you're not what I asked for If I'm honest I know I would give it all back For a chance to start over And rewrite an ending or two For the girl that I knew Who be reckless just enough Who can hurt but Who learns how to toughen up when she's bruised And gets used by a man who can't love And then she'll get stuck and be scared Of the life that's inside her Growing stronger each day 'Til it finally reminds her To fight just a little To bring back the fire in her eyes That's been gone but it used to be mine Used to be mine She is messy but she's kind She is lonely most of the time She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie She is gone but she used to be mine
it truly was an unforgettable experience to cry in a theatre full of strangers watching sara perform this song. don't get me wrong jessie mueller was a great jenna but I can honestly say that the way sara sang this song was one of the most the moving and powerful performances I have ever seen on a broadway stage.
Delaney Lam Honestly anyone who sang it is amazing. I’ve watched Jessie, Sara, and Betsy all perform live and was blown away by each one. Oh, and then cried my eyes out.
I agree! I went to see Waitress without even realizing Sara was performing it. Unforgettable - she sounds even better live than recorded, which is proof of her heaven-sent talent.
It's the 8th of June 2018 and because my wife adores Josh Groban I watched the interview with Sara about their hosting the Tony Awards this Sunday and had NO IDEA WHATSOEVER who Sara was or what she had done and now I am COMPLETELY overwhelmed by her and this performance and am working my way through all her songs on You Tube !
I teared up just when they were doing the silence your phone announcement. I could not believe she was right there. I grew up listening to her music, so it was so surreal. Her performance... AMAZING. Great experience, thank you, Sara. (Ps. after the show, she signed EVERYONES ' playbill. She stayed there for a while taking pictures and talking to fans. More reasons to love her)
"It's not simple to say That most days I don't recognize me That these shoes and this apron That place and its patrons Have taken more than I gave them It's not easy to know I'm not anything like I used be, although it's true I was never attention's sweet center I still remember that girl She's imperfect, but she tries She is good, but she lies She is hard on herself She is broken and won't ask for help She is messy, but she's kind She is lonely most of the time She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie She is gone, but she used to be mine It's not what I asked for Sometimes life just slips in through a back door And carves out a person and makes you believe it's all true And now I've got you And you're not what I asked for If I'm honest, I know I would give it all back For a chance to start over and rewrite an ending or two For the girl that I knew Who'll be reckless, just enough Who'll get hurt, but who learns how to toughen up When she's bruised and gets used by a man who can't love And then she'll get stuck And be scared of the life that's inside her Growing stronger each day 'til it finally reminds her To fight just a little, to bring back the fire in her eyes That's been gone, but used to be mine Used to be mine She is messy, but she's kind She is lonely most of the time She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie She is gone, but she used to be mine ". Songwriter: Sara Bareilles
I see myself SO MUCH in this song that makes me cry every single time... I don't even know if is from happiness for someone understand what I'm feeling and sang that, or just the lyrics that speaks directly through my heart like a sword... Thanks, Sarah, for this masterpiece. ❤❤❤
I am a man of 60+ but I can easily share the feeling described and perfectly portrayed in Saras beautiful but sad song....because it's a sequence of my life too.
My daughter committed suicide this time last December and I only found this song by chance last week not knowing anything about the musical.
Lots of the lyrics are so appropriate and describe how she found herself in her journey through life which we as a family didn't know about.
Those closest to her, her children, partner, ex partner eventually broke her spiritually, emotionally, financially to the point where she presumably saw no other way out to end the pain she was hiding and suffering.
We miss her deeply and Christmas for us will never be the same again.
Time doesn't heal the mental torment such events befall on families, if she had only cried out for help but alas this was not to be and life goes on within you and without you.
I hope I get the chance to see the musical some day but time's running out for me as well at 70+ but at least I now have this wonderful song in my life.
To avoid any confusion as seems to be the case with some of the very kind responses I have received, this comes from her father and not her mother.
I am sorry for your loss. She's in a better place now. No more pain or sorrow. I hope you are doing okay now. God is watching over her now.
THEROLLINGROAD2010
My heart is with you.
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
My prayers for you.
I am so so so very sorry.
So damn amazing
OMG! I know you!
Leroy Sanchez and so are you
Leroy Sanchez Ikr
Leroy Sanchez I have a RUclips channel. I sing covers also... you should check it out and tell me what you think. I would really mean a lot coming from a person of great talent such as yourself!!
SOOO when are you gonna cover this song?!?
You know, even being a man, I find Sara's songs so relatable. She has a wonderful way of painting a picture with her words that you can see in your own life and feel like she understands and has been where you are or have been. Much love Sara, thank you for this one 💙
Everyone can relate to this song
The Groovy Guitar Dude - Daily Guitar Lessons
Couldn't agree more
Omg yesss very descriptive
Nunca falta una "loca" comentando en español ! Hahahaha☺! life in this musical gem!
greetings from PERÚ !!
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I am drawn in by Sara’s powerful vocals, and I did not realize it was an emotional, sorrowful song until I listened to the lyrics. So happy to find this song, it is lovely written.
I really want to hug my young self, she feel so cold, she been through a lot and nobody’s by her side. She’s so kind to everybody, wont say no, she brought a whole bag of soft drinks for her friends, in hope they’ll forgive her for doing nothing wrong.
But she’s happy, no matter how many times people throw shit at her, she’s smiling, she’s so innocent, she’s beautiful, so beautiful.
:(
Allah is good...when you felt no human good to you just know that Allah is always good to you..
hugs 🤗
She still is--beautiful.
I found this song in my healing moment after broke up and getting sick and being positive in covid 19. I cried a lot and pray a lot too, I forgive but not forget the pain that they give to me. I learn and try to love my self more and more, and apreciate people who love me more
In 1967 I was 8 years old. My stepdad began molesting me. That’s when my spirit died and I became someone other than I was supposed to be. I became an alcoholic around age 17. My life was so full of chaos, struggles and losing things forever.
I’m now 62 and I’ve been sober for over 11 years. I have two beautiful children who help guide me. I know who I am today. I’m a very strong woman today. My life’s journey made me that way.
This song is so relatable and I’m OK.
My faith in God saved my life a very long time ago. That little girl has stopped crying. I now love that little girl. I see her every time I look in the mirror and I’m proud of who I’ve become 🙏♥️.
Hope that doesn't hurt you anymore, and you're so much stronger than before.
best wishes, ma'am
I don't know you... but after reading this I feel proud of you too.
❤️
You're so strong, we're so proud of you💗💗
I had a classmate named Sofiya. Once I was yelled at by my teacher and classmates and had an anxiety attack. I was about to cry but she hugged me, a hug that I still feel up to now, it was the most comforting hug ive ever felt. I have never thought of dying, it has always occured to me that I will reach my dreams first before I even die. It was Sunday, I was so happy being able to go to a trip with my class. I went to my best friends house, she showed me the picture my classmates were uploading saying may she rest in peace. I genuinely thought it was a joke, I got angry bc its not something to joke about. I still can't believe it until we went outside. My teacher came up to us with a soft voice, like she was afraid we might break. I still remember the burst of emotions I had I want to stop crying because I don't want to believe it, but I can't. My body felt heavy once the cold air of the venue creeped through my skin. Her name. Her name was there in the chapel. We went up. I saw her picture, I covered my mouth and plugged my earphones, I can't cry, I have no right to cry, this is her family's mourning moments I shouldn't ruin it. It took a while to muster up the courage to see her lying there, lifeless. She's so pale. Her left face is almost destroyed. It was a car crash. But she still looks like an angel. It strucked me. How life is short. How lucky I am to be alive. How much pain I'm feeling. How she affected me even if we're not close friends. Sofiya, you really do shine brightly.
Wow... I’m so sorry for your loss!!! 💗💗
I'm so sorry.
Those are the special and impactful moments that make us who we are, and we remember them always. Sorry for your loss. It sounds like she was a beautiful soul.
@@amymbeauty8765 she was...she really was
@Historia Antiqua ???
Where has this amazing song been hiding? Wow.
Right?😢
When I first heard this song on the radio while driving, I cried. It felt like she was singing about my life, my personality, which is something I never thought of as worthy of being put into a song and be sung about by a beautiful voice. Thank you, Sara Bareilles, for writing a song I can relate to so well.
I feel the same way :')
Diddo - I bawled for my wife, then shared it with her. Then she cried her eyes out too.
same
me too, I heard it while driving after a long night. It was so beautiful and I'm so proud of Sara
I was standing in the kitchen, cooking, when autoplay started this. Now, I'm standing in the kitchen, crying, over a song I've never heard before. What a talent!
I can't believe you have never heard this song..... Glad you found it 💜
Just heard it tonight....wow.
Your comment is what keeps me coming back again n again. Good that you appreciate her voice and talent
Lee Mac 😪🤧hard to cook while you bawling😭
Same :)
My daughter sang this tonight for her recital at school. She's been battling an eating disorder for the last year and a half and finally confessed to us a little over a month ago. Needless to say, this song made me cry during her singing. So many parts of the lyrics speak to her and it breaks my heart that she's suffered for so long alone and didn't trust me enough to share with me this disorder. I long for the day she finds herself again and can live a healthy life and see just how beautiful and precious she is. If she could see herself through my eyes, she would never doubt her self worth. To all of those girls and boys who doubt yourself and struggle, to someone in this world, you are the best thing that happened to them and if you could see yourself in their eyes you would know your worthy. May God Bless your paths.
as someone going through recovery from an ED it’s so heartwarming to your comment and how you support your daughter. Your message means so much, sending much love and strength to you and your daughter as well, God bless ❤️
@@erinhuang263 Thank you Erin. I hope you are doing well. I understand it's a struggle to recover from this and it takes time. I will keep you in my prayers as well.
Youre such a great parent, as a girl who has lived an eating disorder without her parent's support and Who feels that this song talks about her, i only can say you thank you for trying to give help. It is a Hard way, and maybe there is more than the ed, probably lots of hidden fears, dudes or Hurt in your daughter's life, but i'm sure that you can overcome all the obstáculos. Don't feel like a bad parent, i am sure that you Will find the way of help her, with lots of love, time, talk and hugs. Best of my wishes, you can go out from the ed.
Hugs
When I graduated high school I weighed only 93lbs. At my lowest I hovered around 87lbs. In 1987 when my mom finally found out, after going to our blessed Dr. Miron, called All my friends AND my teachers. They were instructed to watch me like a hawk. My friends made sure I ate lunch and then made sure before the next class that I did not throw it up.
That's kinda how they treated it back then. If you would just eat.
I was suffering from such crippling depression. That's why I wasn't eating. Mine was not a body dismorphic thing. Only went for help when I was in my early 30s. Been getting therapy for 20 years. And Every time I get really, really down I stop eating. In March I ended up in a psych ward for a week. And I needed to be there. Been hospitalized years before as well. I pray for your precious daughter as well. Sounds like you're a vigilant and loving mom. I lost mine only 2 months after od ing on one of my meds. I wish, wish I hadn't done that and put her through that. Lost my boyfriend only 2 weeks after losing my wonderful amazing mom. Looking back I'm not sure how I survived. Or how I continue to. Mom was only 56. I am now 54(!) And I still struggle. I get help and try to talk. But when I'm in it...every bite is a struggle.
Your daughter, I think, with you by her side will prevail. Don't EVER give up on her! You may not fully understand why she does what she does but just be there. Like my mom keep on her, keep telling her you're there and that you love her. NO MATTER WHAT. She'll hear you, she will. Prayers for you both. Keep fighting!
❤️ Much love and support, I'm glad your daughter managed to open up to you after so long. It's the start of a long journey but I have faith that you can both do this together and your bond will be stronger than ever xxx
The duet with Rufus Wainwright brought me here 😊
It was beautiful. Perfection!
Me too!
Me too!
Me too.
me too!!
Does anybody ever feel they just need a good cry? Like, voluntarily cry? This never fails me when I need one
It's cathartic
Same. I listen to this song when I want to get a good cry. I
Mine’s gravity. If I needed to cry, I just listen to it. Reminds me of the person who introduced Sara’s songs to me. He passed 2years ago.
Yes
Yeah, one of the very few songs that can do this. Tears just well up each time I hear it.
This song simply hit a place in my soul that I did not know I had.
I know what you mean
Hello. Kindly visit Morissette Amon's version, i'm sure you'll like it too. Thank you. ✌
Absolutely same, I’ve never felt more understood
I'm an old man. I love my music. I Pride myself in loving diversity and challenge for new and beautiful things that we can achieve in this lifetime. I've never quite felt the way I did after hearing this song. Mesmerizing and one of the most beautiful things I've ever heard.
Makes me think of my ex girlfriend, I really miss her
These tears that fall now, are not of sadness but rather understanding
Man, you are insightful. Thank you for you succinct and powerful post! Truly.
YES!! You said what I was thinking ❤️
Yessssss 🙏
This comment 💛
crying
I used to listen to this last 2021. I can still remember clearly how scared, broken, and lost I am that time. And now it's 2024, I tried to listen to it again. I'm happy to share that I'm not scared and broken anymore. I think, I have finally healed from those secret wounds of mine. I made it!!!!☺️❤️
I'm so happy to hear this... It's why I'm revisiting the song too 😊❤
Wow! That is so beautiful! 🥹
It's nice to know, internet stranger :) Stay safe!
@@Andrea_404 stay safe too dear!
God bless you always!
It's weird.. until I heard this song, I never realized I miss the bright-eyed, insecure little girl I used to be. Innocence is so pure and beautiful. What an incredible song.
All I can say is me too 😔
Raenst0rm As a grown man all I ever wanted was a baby girl to fill my life and that of her sweet mother’s too. I was blessed with many sons, all of whom made my life complete all the same. This song, along with Butterfly Kisses by Bob Carlisle will always make me understand the happy cries and sparkling memories of a little girl kept inside a beautiful woman. It’s funny you know, b cause inside us mere males too, still lives that little boy with similar memories of having lived in glorious times. No matter what gave us strength and wisdoms - parents, siblings and friends alike - we gracefully draw on all of it every time a mesmeric melody is left in our hearts. Kindest wishes and many memories of that little girl again and again :)
She means herself?(she used be mine)?
@@mery6457
Yes. The song is about losing oneself
Thank you for making me cry
I feel like crying. To all my sisters out there who can relate to this song. I love each and every one of you. You are worthy. Your life means something. You are beautiful. And kind. And funny. And special, so so special. I want to hug all of you and look into your eyes and tell you that you mean everything in the world. Because you create your own meaning.
Thank You and I'm sending you 💘 💘 💘
thank you, from me in 2022♡
Im so sad
Thank you I am sending love and strong Vibes to all our sisters out there
Thank you, I needed to hear that....
Dear listeners who miss their old selves,
It’s not too late, that person is still inside you & when you’re ready, you can start to let them out again. The new you can be their guide & keep them safe so they don’t have to retreat again. It doesn’t matter what changed you, it matters that you’re wiser now & ready to try again. Change may be slow but it will be steady & every tiny step forward counts ❤️
I believe in you & I believe in myself 💗 It’s taken me a long time to get here, but you will too 😊
all my life in this musical jewel! Greetings from Peru
Jen Scott you’re welcome Jen, you’ll get there 💕
Thank you, I really needed to hear that today
jodi therres you’re welcome Jodi, I hope tomorrow’s better :) 💕
I miss the old me. The one who is an achiever, the one who is so optimistic in life, the one who will still try even if it's seems impossible.
I just wish that you didn't listen to those people who doesn't believe in you and just focus on yourself.
I think life would be much more easier for the both of us if you let the fire keep burning.
You can get back there. The next moment can be exponentially better. The next moment after that, even better.
You can always get her back. She won't be exactly the same but she can be better. Life is mean and people are cruel. I know it's easier said than done. I hear you and I see you. Live life for you. Only do things you want to do.
Dear Self,
Don’t give up on me, please. We’ve been through a lot and I know we’ll get through this storm again. I know it’s so hard and it’s messed up right now, but please, forgive yourself. Let them go. It’s never too late to start over. I love you. I love you so much! We can do this. We’ll be free and happy. Genuinely. Soon! ♡
xoxo, me :))
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Thank you. Fighting
Sending you love!
Best miracles happen accidentally...
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This is one of the most beautiful songs ever written, and the arrangement is magnificent.
This is beyond true.
You should check out the kid that sings this on america’s got talent! He’s so good and he actually got to sing this with Sara after she heard him on agt
This song brings so many emotions
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I mourn the person I could’ve been if my depression hadn’t snatched who I was and am.
Exactly my thoughts
@@nikki7287 me too but you can live a different life, very hard but it can be done.
Orphic it ain’t over yet, keep pushing babygirl. Try to find things that make you happy outside of the house and dive into that. You are loved!
@@nikki7287 i miss the person iwas too and the person i might have been
Love this
Whoever whose reading this, i hope you heal at your most perfect phase in life.
Looking forward for that day :)
I hope you too. We all deserve to.
❤️
To whoever wrote this comment, I hope the love you put out in the world comes back to you with compound interest.
:(
Accidentally played this song. Gotta say this is the best accident that ever happened in my life.
RUclips still has some value.
Same 🥺
On god. Same with me, just going through dances and sad songs and a BEAUTIFUL dance came up with this song and I can’t get it out of my head... it’s hitting a little too close to home.
Sameee
Period sis 😍😍😍😍
I feel like she's still a little bit underrated as an artist. Yeah she's been nominated in the Grammys but I don't think she's got enough exposure that she deserves. I hope that more people will appreciate and love her music.
Most people are busy worshiping trash, not everyone can appreciate true talented artists like Sara, I'd say let's keep it this way ^_^
plaidissogay02 I'm okay with her being not so mainstream. I think Sara's music speaks to some of us in ways most people just write off as "sad" or "depressing" those of us who get it appreciate every word this woman sings.
I know where you're coming from but, as others say, her music's target audience isn't everyone. And I don't think she really wants to much exposure, sure lots more people should listen to her. She is so inspiring and helps me through life but her music can get sad, most people don't understand music like that and I guess it scares them. They don't know what the singer is talking about, they can't relate and so they ignore the music and listen to the trash on the radio about people's overconfident views on themselves. I do hope she gets more appreciation, though.
I agree 100%. I have been listening to her for years. I love her music. I can relate to a lot of her songs.
plaidissogay02 I agree. She is authentic and raw. Truly talented.
Her voice is at another level…
The smoothness n the control is beyond words. Adele on another level.
I've never heard a song be so relatable. And the way Jessie sings it on the show is something else. Should've won something
She wins me...
She did win something. She won the praise of millions of people across the world. Her music speaks to the youth. 😊
I"m sorry..........who's Jessie?
waitressthemusical.com/index.php
+Ashley Taccone Jessie Mueller, she plays Jenna in the musical that Sara composed and wrote the lyrics for, Waitress.
I can’t listen to this song without crying. Makes me think of the Me before and after serving in combat. “He is gone but he used to be mine.” I plan on writing a full adaptation of this song for people suffering with PTSD.
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Thank you so much for your service 🙏 this song resonates with so many people in so many situations.
Thank you for your service.
I hope you succeed. Best wishes!
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"She's imperfect but she tries"
"She is good but she lies"
"She is hard on herself"
"She is broken and won't ask for help"
"She is messy but she's kind"
"She is lonely most of the time"
"She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie"
It feels like it's describing me , my life and my feelings :)
Anyway Thanks Sara for this song , It's amazing 👌🏻👏🏻
Ya mine to
me too
Mine too🥺🥺🥺
Same🤚😭😭😭😭😢😢
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I flew from Canada to New York to see Sara sing this live. I was fully expecting to cry through the song. I wasn’t expecting to cry every time she sang. Sara haunts me like no other artist ever has or will.
Im here for SARA who wrote and sang this masterpiece. Forever a fan. 👊🏼
i could not disagree. thats my boy👌
She's something else
Im going to her concert 😃
Absolutely, Chad! 👍
Agree and I give u ur 1k
The line "It's not easy to know that I'm not anything like I used to be" hurts so much. It's like you know your full potential, and how you perform when you're really passionate on what you're doing, because that's how you were a few years ago. But now, you're just lost. Man, growing up sucks but we have no choice but to move forward.
Fck this hit too close to home ☹
You and I have so much in common three years ago I used to be the perfect rising star but no I'm considering suicide as my last solution I hate being a teen that's why I always tell my family and friends that I wish I would never grow they think it's weird but now I know I'm not the only person who thinks so
If this ain't me 🥺
Yeah it hurts but life goes on :')
@@Wonyse11297 that is NEVER the answer, you will get through this. Life is ups and downs. Wait for the up, it is coming. God bless you
I haven't felt like myself in 7 years. And everyday I remember less and less of the girl I once was. And I can't get her back.
Same !
Try listening to Jessie j's who you are! Helps me get back to who I once knew.
I’m literally crying..I miss HER and I wish I could apologise to her once but she’s gone. The part of me I will miss forever.
So sad
If you say you can't...or you say you can .. you're right. Speak abundance in your life girl...reach out for help ..just like you did now....self-pity be damned!! ❤️
This is a masterpiece
Sara bareilles is the most honest song writer that I've heard this generation. He music isn't like all the others, it's deep and emotional.
yeahhh
you guys should listen to Maria Mena to..
I'm with you. A true talent.
truee
+cm1727 Passenger too....and Sam Smith (in terms of lyrics and delivery).
I think in a way I'm actually happy Sara is not so famous; it's like she's a little secret and only the lucky ones get to appreciate her talent. If it were another one of my favorite artists releasing her album almost at the same time as Adele, I'd be freaking out, but with Sara I really don't mind because I know she's not looking for fame, she just wants to sing and be heard, and I definetly want to listen. I will enjoy her music all the same even if she's not breaking VeVo records.
+mariana barrios I know right.
Agreed!
Well put!
+mariana barrios I'm feeling the same way with you! Though I also hope that people recognize her for her talents in singing and songwriting (and other efforts she's ventured, such as writing).
ah you speak my thoughts!
I'm 6 years too late to discover this, but listening to this is worth it, this is soooooo beautiful
It's never too late to discover Sara ♥️
@@alexcal24 true
same lol
Same, it’s kinda sad
i cant accept not discovering this after 7 years now its one of my fave songs i can relate to
This is the most poignantly beautiful and powerfully moving song I've ever heard.
She articulated what I never seemed able to put into words...and now I have a beautiful song to listen to. Thank God for artists like her who put their soul into their craft.
Erica Edwards ❤️
I could not have said that better myself!
these are my thoughts exactly. I'm obsessed with this song and find it so relatable...
Exactly what I was thinking!
Who's listening to this in 2020 ?.....one of the songs I'm taking with me this year
Yes me just discovered this beautiful song Christmas
Same! 😢
oh hi
Fatima NB me right now
Just discovered this song today (1/10/20).
"when you're happy you enjoyed the song but when you're sad you understand the lyrics" - unknown
L U very deep message
-Frank Ocean
exactly
por albita 😍😍😍😍
L U :(
We are all baked in a beautiful pie. Don't forget that.
“When she’s bruised and get used by a man who can’t love.”
My heart really felt the lyrics.
Hello. Kindly visit Morissette Amon's version, i'm sure you'll like it too. Thank you. ✌
Get out!!
Oh so did mine ...
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the way she sings them with such anger and also upset some how makes them very relatable and human
Dear myself: please give life another chance, and I'm sorry that you've been so lonely, that you've been fighting alone for so long, that I didn't appreciate you enough. Thank you for being the one that's always by my side through my ups and downs. I'm sorry for all the bad things I've said and done to you. I'm sorry... I'm sorry...
Sending love
Be strong, you’re not fighting alone
Dear Kristene, please don’t give up on life. We all feel lonely sometimes but loneliness is all-consuming and dampens any brightness, but life isn’t just loneliness. I hope you find the beautiful parts in this massive world, even if it’s the small things, a butterfly in summer, the feeling of warm sun on your back as a cool breeze glides by, drinking a hot tea on a snowy day underneath a pile of blankets. Life is difficult and stressful and draining at times but those moments make the beauty in this world that much sweeter. I truly hope you get the chance to experience those little pleasures (a good start could be baking a fresh batch of cookies, letting the smell of vanilla fill your surroundings). It’s taken me a while and I still dip every so often but I appreciate life so much more now that it is in colour again, rather than when it was great and unforgiving. Please listen to yourself and give life another try - even if you falter keep trying. I believe you can do it because you already promised yourself that you would try. (Feel free to message me if you want a cookie recipe or chat). X
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Keep going ❤️❤️
A dad with two boys. Crushed by this. I keep playing it when no one’s around. Wife thought it was a religious song. Are deep feelings religious or “spiritual?”The depth of some of her music moves deeply me.
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Absolutely 100% Spiritual. They come from within. Religion is just man made chaos.
We are born with our feelings, empathy. Nobody is born with religion. That's a choice or your indoctrinated into it.
@@beeteebz8944 On the contrary, religion is the only thing that puts meaning into the chaos. Deep feelings are spiritual. 100%. Any religion worth consideration can't deny that, and any religion that doesn't accept these feelings-which are the realest expressions of ourselves we can have-is a joke.
Play this song with your boys in the room. Whatever you feel... they have felt, are feeling or will feel. Music helps others see us in a way that maybe we don't express naturally. I love singing one of my dad's favorite songs "My Way" by Frank Sinatra. I understand him better when I sing it.
Instant tears as soon as the music starts. Hits to close to home. But i still love the song. Shes amazin!
My wife played this in the car once. I told her she's still here, and we love her, very much. She cried.
That is so kind. I would never play this for my husband, though I desperately want to.
@@cyndieK1 why not?
@@Jo-nv8yb married 32 yrs. Last 10 have been loveless. He wouldn't care.
@@cyndieK1 I see - what changed at year 20?
@@Jo-nv8yb I suppose it was our first and only huge fight. A lot of things that were said that hurt us both. Things haven't been the same since and I don't know, I just think we never really got over that. It's sad.
As someone that's fighting depression and going through therapy, this song really hits me different.
Same!
We'll make it through this - one day after the other.
I hope it’s gonna be okay, stay strong - one day after the other ! Take care of yourself!
Same , this song gives u strength, stay strong n take it easy on yourself and keep fighting back 💖🙏
Been on a 4-year journey through depression. I can tell you now that I'm closer to the other side of it, that you do get parts of your old self back - it's not gone forever. You learn to be happy again. Some of the old you gets mixed in with some of the new, and you become a different, but good, new version of you. Sending love to you on your journey.
Same here keep swimming 💪
Her voice is so emotional and beautiful to listen to. I'm glad to finally hear a new song from her!
ya, same here...
+chocodo9 hell yeah!
This song reminds me of my mother. I can't listen to it without crying. It's beautiful. She was a single mother, a waitress, and worked all the time. I hardly saw her because she worked so hard to give us a good life. It hurts to listen to this sometimes. every word hits....
me too
Im 47 and this song sums up me now. Life has an effect. I was once hopeful, a romantic, a believer in happy endings. And I miss her.
This beautiful song can apply to all people, regardless of who they are. We all lose our early selves, I hope you find her again.💙
47 here and feel exactly the same way. I read my old journals when I was younger and was so hopeful. I miss her too. I will find her again. This year, period. I hope we all do... ❤
So true. I am 50. I agree with you.
I agree .. feeling pretty lost these days. "She is lonely most of the time" just hits me. The one who was so social one time not that many years ago.
Same 😢😢
"she is good but she lies"
"She is messy but she's kind" basically me
Same
Same ... Btw search before u go x heather x she used to be mine its a good mix song :(
mmmk
Same here
"She is broken, but wont ask for help" thats me...
Just a dad who ran into this song... and can't stop listening to it. I have 4 daughters and know I can't protect them forever. I think we can all relate to the message of this, that life will beat us up and we gotta find our strength through it
Same here brother, only 1 daughter but she is my heart and soul.
Makes me happy to see dad's who love their daughters so much
Their is hope.
You are not JUST a dad, Good fathers are just as important as good mothers, don't think of yourself or men in general as lesser parents.
As a daughter who lost her dad, you just made me 😭. I had a great dad. The fact that he isn't here anymore to protect me and give me advice kills me. So the fact that this made you think of how much you want to protect them is so touching to me💗💔
You are fortunate not to be among the troubled top ranks of music industry. Just remain concealed like a gem, Sara. You represent a precious find for those who are in search of valuable treasures.
The music industry didn't want her because she writes her own music, probably produces some of it and can perform it like a pro. Because of these things the music industry would have to share profit with her and they do not want that. They want disposable talent that won't claim any ownership rights to the music and therefore can't profit from it in perpetuity. This is why you see the people you see in the music industry today. It is also why the WGA and SAG are on strike for their rights at this moment. Please support them unless you want to see tv and what is left of movies get even worse.
For anyone wondering what the meaning is behind this song (like I was) she is thinking about who she was and who she thought she would be. I think most of us can relate to this feeling, no matter who you are. Fantastic song!
Thank you
Thank you.
Gee Einstein, it’s almost like anyone with a small bit of intellectual capacity could didact that.
Well she also found out she got pregnant from a man she didn’t love and who didn’t love her
Well for me...i think its like a song for a mother...
Tears of a mom and a victim of domestic abuse.
This song is a mirror of some one Beautiful
Exactly
Big hugs!! I'm in that boat with you.
Exactly. 100% agree.
If things were different, that could have been me. I'm glad I'm only 21. I'm with you though.
You're not a victim. You are a survivor and you are strong.
I just can't... she is so underrated, this song is as good as Adele's if not better. People don't know what they're missing.
totally!
so so sooo true... this is soooo beautiful. .. the tone of her voice. .. sigh... gave me chills
you're right!
if Adele sang this, it would be a hit. writing is good.
Exactly !
What an absolute beautiful woman with a beautiful voice
"She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie"
That hits different... What a composition!!*sobs*
Who's here with me listening and crying to this song now?
Yup😢
Me!
Me, A quick right jab in my soul
Me I’m 59 year old woman crying her eyes out. I wanted to be nice but people saw as weakness
right here
I dedicate this song to my daughter, struggling with addiction. She is not the same kind, caring woman I raised. Often it feels like she is gone, and the person in her place just looks like her.
"Bring back the fire in her eyes" you got this!
Praying for y’all. Addiction is a horrible thing.
I hope you can find it within you to be loving and kind towards her. She needs your love the most when she is unlikable.
please dont give up . I can relate to this unfortunately and I remember EXACTLY what you are saying . Its so hard watch and not be able to fix it . I can tell you this , she has been one year clean and she barely remembers that two year period that destroyed us on every level but one thing she said that has stuck with me is "thank you mom and dad for never giving up on me, I may not be here if you did" Please fight the good fight and remember it isnt your daughter its the drug . Not sure if you are a religious person or not but prayer is does more than we can see. I will be praying for you and your daughter
It’s when we go though troubling tough times we discover great music.
4 days ago I lost my mother and today one of my best friends.
her voice, this song's lyric, and everything, is totally a masterpiece.
I agree ♡
Absolutely!! 🫶🏻✌🏻
Respect your mirrors. They don't laugh when you cry.
Respect your pillows. They catch ur tears and prevents ur house from flooding.
Respect ur knives. They make the pain go away by producing pain.
And last but not the least:
Respect your eyes. They explain things that ur mouth cannot.
I cried reading this. This is true and. ✋✊✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏿✊🏾
Beautiful!
I love this. 💜💜💜
Wow just wow
Plz don’t use knives in that way tho
OMG... Love this part.
And then she'll get stuck
And be scared of the life that's inside her
Growing stronger each day
'Til it finally reminds her
To fight just a little
To bring back the fire in her eyes
That's been gone but used to be mine
Idk, just love it
NATA B-A-K-A I felt the same way 💙
I like the kinda double meaning with “the life that’s inside her growing stonger each day...” the character in the musical singing this song is pregnant so there is a literal life growing inside her and when the baby is born it does remind her to “fight just a little...”. But it could also refer to a metaphorical life growing within her in the form of her courage, as she hopes to one day have enough courage to fight back for the beautiful life she deserves
Matthias Tan I did not see the play.. I related to it as courage to create the life she really wants.. the True life inside her. I thought it was a great metaphor.
Kills me every time. This song is me and I am broken each time I hear it.
wait..is there a musical with this song?
Broken hearts heal. Don't ever give up.❤
"you don't have to be perfect"
"No one is perfect"
"Don't be hard on yourself"
"You're good enough"
"Don't always think small of yourself"
"You did well"
"You did amazingly well"
"I'm always here"
"You can talk to me"
"You're not alone"
"Never was"
"You deserve love"
"If no one loves you, I'll love you"
"Be confident"
"Love yourself more"
"Cheer up"
"I love you"
"We love you"
I could relate to the song but I didn't feel emotional until I read your comment... As I read through it I realised no one ever said these words to me, my life isn't exactly messed up but it's been hard because I feel like I have been pretending to be someone I'm not supposed to be, but now it's too late to start over. As I keep failing, everyone who was by my side, they are now blaming me. It's been two years and no one ever cared to ask me if I need help or if I'm fine... I never knew I was this desperate to hear something this simple...
@@maitrayeedubey6545 It's never too late to start over. Self awareness is a huge step towards finding yourself. You'll get there, I believe in you!
@@maitrayeedubey6545 I'm 58 left an abusive 30 yr marriage..its never too late
@@gloriaohara3213 I am trying, I can't be perfect but I'll be better... Thanks for the encouraging words
I love you too😭😭😭😭😭😭
My mother is a wonderful person. The second youngest of four daughters, she made mistakes. She got pregnant at 20. Barely ready for a child. She walked away from one abusive man and did what she had to, to raise her son. She worked two jobs. She found him a good father figure...someone she thought was a good father figure. She got him his first dog. She believed in him no matter what. When that father figure turned out to be manipulative she walked away, and made so many mistakes. And it was the son's chance to remind her of all she'd done for him and make sure she landed back on her feet. This song shattered me. I'm in pieces. I'm sobbing. All the things my mother sacrificed, all the pain and the mistakes. She's not the same woman she was, how could she be? I know she has regrets. And somehow, magically, I know I'm not one of them, even thogh my existence caused so much. I shared this with her and she cried with me. Thank you for Sara Bareilles. We can't change the past. We can't make scars vanish. But knowing that others have felt this. That others know that fight to find that fire again. It means to the world to my mom. It means the world to her son. Thank you.
Beautifully said ❤
Gizmo, Your beautiful, flawed, BRAVE resilient Mom has OBVIOUSLY accomplished something SPECTACULAR in her life and that is YOU!! To have a son who recognizes his mother’s struggles and pain and most of all her HEART must be the gift from God that makes her Life worth ALL she endured. You are her ultimate VICTORY over everything life put in her path and you are BOTH so very lucky to have each other. ❤️
This video, this song, this artist equally deserves every view the lovely Adele has in her new single and it really makes me so incredibly insane that "Hello" will eclipse "She Used to be Mine" in almost every media outlet, instead of sharing the spot, for no other reason than the comeback break. Seriously, Sara Bareilles has top-notch skills and she hasn't gotten the spotlight she rightfully deserves, goddammit.
+Yannick Rodríguez Couldn't agree with your more!
i cannot agree more
+Yannick Rodríguez All the kids today don't sit down and take the time to listen to meaningful songs. All they want is a catchy beat and lyrics that weren't even written by the "artist." Let's say a new Taylor Swift song comes out, they don't listen to it because it's good, they listen to it because it's Taylor Swift.
+Christopher Tong "Blank Space" was great; it is the best thing she's ever done. It was a pure satire of herself, her fans and the media. I also like shake it off. Having said that, you're are correct; she is no Sara "B"!
+Christopher Tong Excuse me, but could you not generalize people based on their age? I'm thirteen and I don't only want "a catchy beat." I have no interest in Taylor Swift and every single song I listen to has meaning. Saying "all the kids" is completely inaccurate; you're just describing those who have no musical taste, those who enjoy rap and such garbage. I think that if you paid a little more attention, you'd see that a large number of us are nothing like that at all. But you won't pay more attention, will you? You'll continue to consider adolescents as uneducated children, just like every other adult. You will generalize and generalize and generalize until no one even remembers that kids like myself exist-- kids who care about what they listen to and stay far away bad music. I suppose this isn't a big deal to you, or to anyone who's going to call me out on this comment, but I am sick of it. Entirely and irrevocably sick.
Just beautiful. For all of us that are re-finding ourselves somehow.
I think every women feels this way at some point in her life. What a tragic song. It's good to hear to remember where you've come from and return to the woman who is free.
Rachel Forest ❤️
Every person*
but yes
And to the man...
Hello! I don't mean to bother you, but for some reason you came up in the comment box but I do not think I know vou, I thought I just write and say hello, maybe we could be friends, I hope vou are comfortable with that😍😍😍😘❤️
I love the fact that by the title we think it's just a love song but in fact it's a song about yourself. It's powerful lyrics Trying to find yourself!
I refuse to believe that she only has one grammy in her entire career.
she’s the best song writer out there
that shows how twisted the industry is..
Sometimes talent don’t need phiscally awards you are her awards
Mariah Carey has only won 5 Grammys in her entire 30 year career. She has tons of other awards and accolades and is the biggest selling female recording artist in history. She also writes all her own music (except for covers), as well aa produces her own records... Yet 5 Grammys in 30 years.
She is young
Full body chills and tears. So powerful.
It's not simple to say
That most days I don't recognize me
That these shoes and this apron
That place and its patrons
Have taken more than I gave them
It's not easy to know
I'm not anything like I used be, although it's true
I was never attention's sweet center
I still remember that girl
She's imperfect, but she tries
She is good, but she lies
She is hard on herself
She is broken and won't ask for help
She is messy, but she's kind
She is lonely most of the time
She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie
She is gone, but she used to be mine
It's not what I asked for
Sometimes life just slips in through a back door
And carves out a person and makes you believe it's all true
And now I've got you
And you're not what I asked for
If I'm honest, I know I would give it all back
For a chance to start over and rewrite an ending or two
For the girl that I knew
Who'll be reckless, just enough
Who'll get hurt, but who learns how to toughen up
When she's bruised and gets used by a man who can't love
And then she'll get stuck
And be scared of the life that's inside her
Growing stronger each day 'til it finally reminds her
To fight just a little, to bring back the fire in her eyes
That's been gone, but used to be mine
Used to be mine
She is messy, but she's kind
She is lonely most of the time
She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie
She is gone, but she used to be mine
Thank you 😊 💓
@@lewisslewis5352 welcome
Thanks
💋💋💋
Just amazing and thank you for your music that touches my soul. Mmmmuuuaahh!!
This song reminds me of my mom who got caught in a marriage she couldnt leave because she was not economically independent. She passed away last year but the idea of her wanting to pursue a career inspires me to be a better woman. Life is unpredictable, we should live the life we want.
Thank you, Sara for being so relatable.
your mom would be so proud of you. I have been where your mom was and it is not easy. take those steps every day
I just posted your comment as my status. So much wisdom.
Oh fuck, your comment literally made me cry. I'm so sorry for your mom, at least now she's free from the horrible world that we live, and if heaven exists, it would be for her :'3
Not comparing anyone ... watch Morissette Amon perform this on Stages Sessions. Please, for your sake.
Not exact, but we have very similar stories. Wishing you the very best & brightest future. I love you, & we can do this!❤️
"I was never attention's sweet center." That's a great lyric.
Sara is freaking amazing. How can anyone not love her?
"She is broken and won't ask for help" that phrase always gets me because I had never ask for help while I was suffering my depresion alone and in silence. I had to have a breakdown in front of my mom to finally ask for help or I would have committed suicide. This song describes a lot how I felt before I asked for help to my parents and speak out loud.
To all the people who is suffering from depression, there is always help and someone who loves you and its by your side.
You are loved and valuable, needed and have a purpose. Please know that you are loved
@@chrismacfly6122 thank you so much for your words
@Dreamer Girl thank you. Everyday is a fight, but here I am fighting
@ I'm so sorry for your lost. There is always light in dark places, keep fighting sweetie.
@ 😊😊
This is the one of the most amazing and beautiful songs that I've ever heard!
True
Agreed!
very true
Oh what a beautiful song that speaks to so many of us women... thank you WOW
what does it matter if its women what about men. huh? I HATE FEMINIST
are you OK ... this song speaks to me as a woman.... nothing bloody feminist about my comment... grow up
"to women" nothing about people in general I'm just saying this could speak to men too. Your using harsh words for nothing, i'm fine thanks for asking, but honey how are you?
I am fine.... my comment did not say the song didn't speak to men but as I am not 'a man' I did not speak for them... when you read more than there is into someones comments,and say you HATE feminists ..(which is pretty harsh considering a feminists wants fairness and equality for both sexes), that speaks volumes about how fine you are... and I was great until you decided to attack my comment for being something it wasn't .. have a great day... :) I just love the song as it speaks to ME as a woman and I know it speaks to many of my friends I have shared it with... if it speaks to you that's GREAT too ..
oh do stop. this song is about a woman, it's about women. women identify with it, no person said men can't. troll elsewhere and leave her to enjoy this song.
I’ve literally listened 1000 times so soothing and beautiful.
Lyrics
She Used To Be Mine
It's not simple to say
Most days I don't recognize me
These shoes and this apron
That place and its patrons
Have taken more than I gave 'em
It's not easy to know
I'm not anything like I used to be
Although it's true
I was never attention sweet center
I still remember that girl
She's imperfect but she tries
She is good but she lies
She is hard on herself
She is broken and won't ask for help
She is messy but she's kind
She is lonely most of the time
She is all of this mixed up
And baked in a beautiful pie
She is gone but she used to be mine
It's not what I asked for
Sometimes life just slips in through a back door
And carves out a person
And makes you believe it's all true
And now I've got you
And you're not what I asked for
If I'm honest I know I would give it all back
For a chance to start over
And rewrite an ending or two
For the girl that I knew
Who be reckless just enough
Who can hurt but
Who learns how to toughen up when she's bruised
And gets used by a man who can't love
And then she'll get stuck and be scared
Of the life that's inside her
Growing stronger each day
'Til it finally reminds her
To fight just a little
To bring back the fire in her eyes
That's been gone but it used to be mine
Used to be mine
She is messy but she's kind
She is lonely most of the time
She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie
She is gone but she used to be mine
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Thank you for this lyrics
Thank you
this song is me and it hurts, i am not tough enough
@@richvanne7334 please hold on. You don't have to become too taugh, but there's strength and light inside you, reach for it and hold on
She is imperfect but she tries, so touching, the song is so rich..
Im NOT here for Luke. I’m here for Sara. You’re beautiful. You have a wonderful voice and I will always love.
Cruiz Rolandson well u should look at his audition bc he was amazing.
same.
looks like luke brought you here just admit
She is just magnificent. ☺
AND writing ability!!!!!
Masterpiece
No just singing, they feel what they're singing
it truly was an unforgettable experience to cry in a theatre full of strangers watching sara perform this song. don't get me wrong jessie mueller was a great jenna but I can honestly say that the way sara sang this song was one of the most the moving and powerful performances I have ever seen on a broadway stage.
Delaney Lam Honestly anyone who sang it is amazing. I’ve watched Jessie, Sara, and Betsy all perform live and was blown away by each one. Oh, and then cried my eyes out.
I agree! I went to see Waitress without even realizing Sara was performing it. Unforgettable - she sounds even better live than recorded, which is proof of her heaven-sent talent.
Truly incredible
It's the 8th of June 2018 and because my wife adores Josh Groban I watched the interview with Sara about their hosting the Tony Awards this Sunday and had NO IDEA WHATSOEVER who Sara was or what she had done and now I am COMPLETELY overwhelmed by her and this performance and am working my way through all her songs on You Tube !
I teared up just when they were doing the silence your phone announcement. I could not believe she was right there. I grew up listening to her music, so it was so surreal. Her performance... AMAZING. Great experience, thank you, Sara. (Ps. after the show, she signed EVERYONES ' playbill. She stayed there for a while taking pictures and talking to fans. More reasons to love her)
"It's not simple to say
That most days I don't recognize me
That these shoes and this apron
That place and its patrons
Have taken more than I gave them
It's not easy to know
I'm not anything like I used be, although it's true
I was never attention's sweet center
I still remember that girl
She's imperfect, but she tries
She is good, but she lies
She is hard on herself
She is broken and won't ask for help
She is messy, but she's kind
She is lonely most of the time
She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie
She is gone, but she used to be mine
It's not what I asked for
Sometimes life just slips in through a back door
And carves out a person and makes you believe it's all true
And now I've got you
And you're not what I asked for
If I'm honest, I know I would give it all back
For a chance to start over and rewrite an ending or two
For the girl that I knew
Who'll be reckless, just enough
Who'll get hurt, but who learns how to toughen up
When she's bruised and gets used by a man who can't love
And then she'll get stuck
And be scared of the life that's inside her
Growing stronger each day 'til it finally reminds her
To fight just a little, to bring back the fire in her eyes
That's been gone, but used to be mine
Used to be mine
She is messy, but she's kind
She is lonely most of the time
She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie
She is gone, but she used to be mine
".
Songwriter: Sara Bareilles
Good song I love your songs.☺💖
G
Made the likes 1k!!
Beautiful ❣️
not all heroes wear capes
Understatement: This lady knows how to write songs.
Yaa I have never heard a more beautiful masterpiece even though it's a women's song..
❤
FINALLY FOUND IT
And sing!
Just don’t ask her to write you a love song.
I see myself SO MUCH in this song that makes me cry every single time... I don't even know if is from happiness for someone understand what I'm feeling and sang that, or just the lyrics that speaks directly through my heart like a sword... Thanks, Sarah, for this masterpiece. ❤❤❤
Its almost impossible not to get emotional with this song especially when events have changed you and you reminisce and miss your old self...
nina genardo LOL
Hello. Kindly visit Morissette Amon's version, i'm sure you'll like it too. Thank you. ✌
Mental illness hurt me, but it will not destroy me.
Thank you for giving my hurt a voice, Sara.
Well said and true
Beautifully said...
You got that right. Stay strong sister friend.
Stay strong :)
You are strong. You are beautiful. Nothing can bring you down. 😚
Thank you Sara for this amazing song!
is that Avril's TBDT logo lol
I mean I love it too :)
Joshua Takahashi 😃Yes it is!
Joshua Takahashi I love it so much too! It's never too old to use it, tho I'm 25 now lol
Nesreen A
So rare to find a person who likes both Sara AND Avril.
High five!
I have cried so many times to this song. Thank you for making this song.❤
She is hard on herself
She is broken and won't ask for help
She is messy, but she's kind
She is lonely most of the time 💔
She is me😢
Thula Mbonane shes everyone. Depressed or not she is everyone. I feel you. It sucks missing your old self
It's like this song is me
I really feel that
He is me
I am a man of 60+ but I can easily share the feeling described and perfectly portrayed in Saras beautiful but sad song....because it's a sequence of my life too.
it'll get better sir,
btw,indonesian?
you know what? Thank God for Sara Bareilles.
Hi Nicole how are you?
stalker@^
This wholesome song reflect myself; my whole soul.