The cream top does look super cool but I feel like it’s the kind of piece we end up never wearing because we don’t feel totally comfortable/confident in it!
Brene brown has a book about this, it's when people don't want to lean into vulnerability you start foreboding joy. The antidote is to be grateful when those thoughts come up. So you are happy and enjoying your day and you think: a car crash is going to happen: then you say thank God my friends are fine, my family is happy and I'm safe and today is Good and that's okay. Even if you don't believe it you should say it or think those words and one day you'll believe it and that's how you become happier not stop having those thoughts.
I can totally relate to what you said about getting anxious when you are happy. It is so frustrating because it makes you feel like you can't even be happy when you are happy. What is really comforting me is that over time I have learned that many of the issues I have with my mental health aren't actually as weird and rare as thought them to be and that there are many people who are feeling the same way. So thank you for sharing this!
Don’t feel embarrassed about your feelings, I sometimes feel like that too. Whenever I’m happy I feel that something bad is going to happen cos this has happened several times in my life. Staying positively focused is a challenge but keep working on it. Sending you my love x
When I have that intrusive thought that something bad is going to happen when I'm happy, I tell myself "That's ok. I can and I will handle the ups and the downs as they come but right now it's very important that I cherish this moment". Then, I picture myself taking mental photos of the moment and let myself feel gratefulness for all the good things in my life. I try to save these moments like little treasures so when things get rough, I can look back at these times I felt pure joy and feel hopeful again. 😊👍🏾
I can relate so much to your fears, i go through the exact same thing… Mine started after the trauma of having my wedding called off abruptly 20 days before the date last year… I think that's where my fear originated… Experiencing such happiness and then the opposite suddently and unexpectedly. Happiness is now linked to the fear of pain following...
I read once because we have a related belief that after laughter we have sadness, the subconscious mind in which this belief is stored begins to interact with the conscious mind and make us sad and that we must change the belief and not link laughter with sadness so that we do not experience this feeling🌷✨
Keep the white top it's really cute on you. Also don't feel bad about your feelings. What you are going through it's normal. As in you have gone through a lot of changes in your life. From losing your grandparents, calling off your engagement and now you bought a house. Change effects everyone differently and can take its toll on your mental health. Just know that you are not alone.
I know it’s easier to say than do, but you can reduce worry and anxiety drastically by staying focused on all the good and gratitude in the present moment. We all need reminders on occasion that worry is like praying for what you don’t want and it truly steals the joy from right now! You’ve got this! Maybe use your five minute journal twice a day when you get anxious. Might be worth a try! 🥰
I also wear the same things over and over again in the house. I also have those same thoughts whenever I am happy and I would return the shirt. I’m glad you returned to these types of blogs! So relatable :)
I’m glad ou mentioned your fears as when I was really young I used to have repeat dreams about my parents dying. The dreams stopped but I now also imagine scenarios on my head where I Los them, same with my dog who is the love of my life.. I know you won’t judge that! It’s like all the good things/most precious will be taken away at a moments notice. Probably not explained very well but basically, you’re not alone. Ha e a great week x
This comment section is so lovely💕💕 I agree, sometimes the anxiety of “something is going to come crashing town” is overwhelming. I think we all appreciate you being so honest and transparent with us, makes me feel so much more human.
Never really comment on videos but I totally relate to the fear about bad things happening when you’re on the positive train. It’s such a bizarre feeling
I’am totally with you on the fear thing…i can never enjoy a moment because I always think the worst is going to happen..after years I have started to realize that if I think the worst then anything else is good.
I read once because we have a related belief that after laughter we have sadness, the subconscious mind in which this belief is stored begins to interact with the conscious mind and make us sad and that we must change the belief and not link laughter with sadness so that we do not experience this feeling🌷✨
I'm the same and for years I have never shared these thoughts with others because I thought no one would get it! Amelia, you have such an adorable personality! I really admire your strength and that you always try to be positive no matter the difficulties and challenges you face! Sending you lots and lots of love!
PS The leggings and the top look AMAZING on you! The shirt I'm not the biggest fan of. You have a gorgeous figure and everything looks great on you but I think the white shirt is not an absolute must, the black corset on the other side was to die for!
My family is from Eastern Europe and I completely relate to fearing something bad will happen imminently. I’m convinced it’s partially a cultural thing related to growing up in countries with political/economic instability - my parents grew up in the soviet union and I definitely experienced that anxiety around me even though everything is fine here in London
Hi Amelia, Don't every feel stupid for your feelings! I actually am reading Dare to Lead by Brene Brown right now and so many people have that fear when they experience joy. You are not alone!
Really enjoyed watching this with my tea. It's so lovely to see you at events again! And, I feel the same about feeling happy and then feeling sacred too x
What you were saying about the fear of someone passing away. I have exactly that too. Would be interesting to hear more about how you are dealing with this. Thank you for sharing!
I totally get what you mean about the fear that comes when everything is going well, it is precisely the subject of the book I am currently reading. It is "The big leap: conquer your hidden fear" by Gay Hendricks. You deserve to be happy 🌻 Thank you for the good vibes, you are so precious 💛
Brene Brown calls it " Foreboding Joy" and she talks about it in her book Gifts of Imperfection. It helps to hear her talk about it and try to let it go a little bit
I think the jacket at the end looks super flattering and elegant, though you gotta feel comfortable with the button holes… I mean if anyone can pull it off stunningly, it’s you so a big yes to the jacket!! ✨🤍
The jaquemus top is supercool but maybe for an event where you stand up, rather than a “sitdown” if that makes sense hahah!! loved the vlog and I hope you can be able to let yourself be happy 💘💘💘
that top look so so gorgeous on you! i love it! also, how does the Maya necklace look just perfect with any outfit? the countdown to treating myself with Raemi should be over soon and i'm pretty convinced Maya will be in my cart. All your pieces are just so stunning! wishing you a lovely week ahead, lots of love!
It’s the way of the world..it’s just the balance..enjoy the happy times, BIG TIME, and deal with the crap when it comes, if you worry about the crap before it arrives..you end up having double crap..enjoy your life xxx
I’ve had that exact same anxious feeling related to feeling happiness or looking forward to something so many times. It’s a terrible feeling and makes me feel like I have to constantly try to keep my head above the water. Since I’ve become Christian my anxiety like that had gone way down though. I still get those feelings but I don’t ride with them because I lean on the Lord for all my help. I can’t do anything on my own anyways, so I ask Him for help and feel this peace.
Oh I can relate to that, maybe I can even top it. When I feel happy and content my brain pops up stuff to make me nervous. For e.g. what I forgot to do, what I could have done wrong which in the end turns out I did everything the right way. It is really annoying and I don't know why that happens.
Not loving that white top at the end. Those holes do look weird. It’s completely normal to feel like something bad is going to happen when things are going well. Sending you hugs. 🥰
I feel the same way, Amelia. Every time I am happy I just feel this sense of dread and that something bad is going to happen and I also feel like I don't deserve to be happy. I was actually talking to one of my friends about this a few days ago. It's like I'm not allowed to be happy. And if I am, something horrible is going to happen... it's such a weird feeling.
Keep the top it is lovely and you look very beautiful on it. The Sky glass tv is great, I have seen a demo already and I will go for it at one point circumstances permitting. Love your vlogs. I am close to my 60th birthday but love your vibe and your personality
we all do this...(the fear thing in good times)...and we just continue to keep enjoying the moments and the blessings...an in the ''off" times'...'this too shall pass..blessings!
I definitely relate to how you’re feeling life is like the sea and sometimes it’s rough and sometimes it’s really smooth sailing so yeah definitely have some anxiety sometimes thinking what’s going to happen tomorrow or the next day, i’m really not sure about the shirt I think you should return it I’m not sure about the holes in the front
I understand your fear, I feel the same, like if I am happy or enjoying something I am afraid I am jinxing Karma. But it is also because I had so much negativity that it feels “new” and “strange” when something is positive. Also COVID and isolation didn’t help anyone, I think after the sickness there will be a lot of people with mental questions, adjusting to the new normal is also a challenge
I am so glad I am not the only one that thinks like that lol. Honestly, now that I have kids my fear of someone dying went up to a thousand percent. And when I am happy I start thinking something bad is going to happen. I hate it!
Love the black blouse you wore to Naomi’s anniversary, you looked lovely. Do wish they’d also make leather or leather look trousers in a navy blue as well 💙.
I do the same with my house clothes! And also that white top looks so cool, I like it on you! And I like how the holes are designed. The only thing is if you’d feel comfortable wearing it? Lol.
I wear the same top and clothes at home everyday as well. Sometimes I will put my clothes in the wash in the evening when I put my pyjamas on so I can wear the same thing again the next day.😁 I think a lot of people including me are always expecting the worse. I just work hard on being positive x love the top!!! X
Oh my god i feel exactly the same. Story of my life. I almost forbid myself from feeling happy just in case something bad happens so that i don’t get too depressed ! It’s the worst
I read once because we have a related belief that after laughter we have sadness, the subconscious mind in which this belief is stored begins to interact with the conscious mind and make us sad and that we must change the belief and not link laughter with sadness so that we do not experience this feeling🌷✨
Hey Amelia, you look superb in every outfit and I adore the sunglasses, I would return the white top as it looks like it's gaping a bit. You hair is looking so incredibly healthy & shiny and your vlogs are so full & interesting, thanks for sharing 👌🏻🥰💋
Amelia, it’s literally in Brene’s book regarding Dress Rehearsing Tragedy because we are too scare to feel Joy.. Thought you’ve read the book and watch the movie? 🤔 If you haven’t then it’s a must! 💕
@@amelialiana Daring Greatly by Brene Brown, esp in chapter when she discuss about vulnerability and Joy.. we dress-rehearsing tragedy because joy is the most vulnerable emotions.. instantly reminds me of the chapter! Hope it helps you find the answer on this matter 🥰🥰
So happy you shared your fear I was just thinking how perfect your life seems and I wish I could be more content like you are with good things happening and just enjoy it… your a great inspiration in my life. Thank you for being real …🙏❤️
The top looks great on you but I would return it because I don’t care for how it opens up down the middle. Wish they had it close because it is a beautiful and flattering top.
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It's not just you! I wear the same "house clothes" as I call them for a week!
The cream top does look super cool but I feel like it’s the kind of piece we end up never wearing because we don’t feel totally comfortable/confident in it!
Yes!
I 100% relate to thinking something bad is going to happen when you’re feeling really happy!
Brene brown has a book about this, it's when people don't want to lean into vulnerability you start foreboding joy. The antidote is to be grateful when those thoughts come up. So you are happy and enjoying your day and you think: a car crash is going to happen: then you say thank God my friends are fine, my family is happy and I'm safe and today is Good and that's okay. Even if you don't believe it you should say it or think those words and one day you'll believe it and that's how you become happier not stop having those thoughts.
@@zeynand4039 thank you for the reply to my comment! I will definitely check out the book you mention 😊
I can totally relate to what you said about getting anxious when you are happy. It is so frustrating because it makes you feel like you can't even be happy when you are happy. What is really comforting me is that over time I have learned that many of the issues I have with my mental health aren't actually as weird and rare as thought them to be and that there are many people who are feeling the same way. So thank you for sharing this!
Don’t feel embarrassed about your feelings, I sometimes feel like that too. Whenever I’m happy I feel that something bad is going to happen cos this has happened several times in my life. Staying positively focused is a challenge but keep working on it. Sending you my love x
Thank you sweetie! Sending love back ❤️
I would return the Jacquemas top, like you said the holes at the front🤔
When I have that intrusive thought that something bad is going to happen when I'm happy, I tell myself "That's ok. I can and I will handle the ups and the downs as they come but right now it's very important that I cherish this moment". Then, I picture myself taking mental photos of the moment and let myself feel gratefulness for all the good things in my life. I try to save these moments like little treasures so when things get rough, I can look back at these times I felt pure joy and feel hopeful again. 😊👍🏾
Thank you for sharing that, it's quite empowering 💗
World mental health day today and many of us can relate. Self care first! Love the sky event outfit!!!!
I can relate so much to your fears, i go through the exact same thing… Mine started after the trauma of having my wedding called off abruptly 20 days before the date last year… I think that's where my fear originated… Experiencing such happiness and then the opposite suddently and unexpectedly. Happiness is now linked to the fear of pain following...
So Sorry that happened to you 🥰
So sorry that happened to you. I hope with time that fear passes and I bet you have come through the other side 10 times stronger!
Also wanted to say: it's OK to feel happiness. Wishing you more and more.
Thank you soo much lovely!!
I read once because we have a related belief that after laughter we have sadness, the subconscious mind in which this belief is stored begins to interact with the conscious mind and make us sad and that we must change the belief and not link laughter with sadness so that we do not experience this feeling🌷✨
That does not sound silly. I think many of us can relate. Thank you for sharing ❤️
Keep the white top it's really cute on you. Also don't feel bad about your feelings. What you are going through it's normal. As in you have gone through a lot of changes in your life. From losing your grandparents, calling off your engagement and now you bought a house. Change effects everyone differently and can take its toll on your mental health. Just know that you are not alone.
Thanks so much lovely 😍
I know it’s easier to say than do, but you can reduce worry and anxiety drastically by staying focused on all the good and gratitude in the present moment. We all need reminders on occasion that worry is like praying for what you don’t want and it truly steals the joy from right now! You’ve got this! Maybe use your five minute journal twice a day when you get anxious. Might be worth a try! 🥰
I also wear the same things over and over again in the house.
I also have those same thoughts whenever I am happy and I would return the shirt.
I’m glad you returned to these types of blogs! So relatable :)
I’m glad ou mentioned your fears as when I was really young I used to have repeat dreams about my parents dying. The dreams stopped but I now also imagine scenarios on my head where I Los them, same with my dog who is the love of my life.. I know you won’t judge that! It’s like all the good things/most precious will be taken away at a moments notice. Probably not explained very well but basically, you’re not alone. Ha e a great week x
This comment section is so lovely💕💕 I agree, sometimes the anxiety of “something is going to come crashing town” is overwhelming. I think we all appreciate you being so honest and transparent with us, makes me feel so much more human.
Aww thank you lovely❤️
Never really comment on videos but I totally relate to the fear about bad things happening when you’re on the positive train. It’s such a bizarre feeling
Thank you for sharing your feelings and fears ❤️ I know I absolutely feel the same quite often and it's comforting to know I'm not alone.
I’am totally with you on the fear thing…i can never enjoy a moment because I always think the worst is going to happen..after years I have started to realize that if I think the worst then anything else is good.
I read once because we have a related belief that after laughter we have sadness, the subconscious mind in which this belief is stored begins to interact with the conscious mind and make us sad and that we must change the belief and not link laughter with sadness so that we do not experience this feeling🌷✨
I'm the same and for years I have never shared these thoughts with others because I thought no one would get it! Amelia, you have such an adorable personality! I really admire your strength and that you always try to be positive no matter the difficulties and challenges you face! Sending you lots and lots of love!
PS The leggings and the top look AMAZING on you! The shirt I'm not the biggest fan of. You have a gorgeous figure and everything looks great on you but I think the white shirt is not an absolute must, the black corset on the other side was to die for!
Sending you love right back!!
My family is from Eastern Europe and I completely relate to fearing something bad will happen imminently. I’m convinced it’s partially a cultural thing related to growing up in countries with political/economic instability - my parents grew up in the soviet union and I definitely experienced that anxiety around me even though everything is fine here in London
Hi Amelia, Don't every feel stupid for your feelings! I actually am reading Dare to Lead by Brene Brown right now and so many people have that fear when they experience joy. You are not alone!
Really enjoyed watching this with my tea. It's so lovely to see you at events again! And, I feel the same about feeling happy and then feeling sacred too x
Thank you lovely! SO happy to be going to events again toooo❤️
What you were saying about the fear of someone passing away. I have exactly that too. Would be interesting to hear more about how you are dealing with this. Thank you for sharing!
I totally get what you mean about the fear that comes when everything is going well, it is precisely the subject of the book I am currently reading. It is "The big leap: conquer your hidden fear" by Gay Hendricks.
You deserve to be happy 🌻 Thank you for the good vibes, you are so precious 💛
Thank you for sharing, I will check out that book!
Mindfulness will help you with those feelings because it keeps you in the moment 💞
Amelia, I hear you. And it's not dumb - I can relate. There is a fear sometimes that "what is going to go wrong now?". Sending love to you.
Thank youu lovely, sending love back!
The wallpaper in your bedroom is stunning
Brene Brown calls it " Foreboding Joy" and she talks about it in her book Gifts of Imperfection. It helps to hear her talk about it and try to let it go a little bit
Happy Sunday 🌸
I think the jacket at the end looks super flattering and elegant, though you gotta feel comfortable with the button holes… I mean if anyone can pull it off stunningly, it’s you so a big yes to the jacket!! ✨🤍
The jaquemus top is supercool but maybe for an event where you stand up, rather than a “sitdown” if that makes sense hahah!! loved the vlog and I hope you can be able to let yourself be happy 💘💘💘
that top look so so gorgeous on you! i love it! also, how does the Maya necklace look just perfect with any outfit? the countdown to treating myself with Raemi should be over soon and i'm pretty convinced Maya will be in my cart. All your pieces are just so stunning! wishing you a lovely week ahead, lots of love!
awww wishing you one right back!
I think the white blouse was very cute on you. The holes give it a bit of an edge. Thank you for sharing your life with us.
It’s the way of the world..it’s just the balance..enjoy the happy times, BIG TIME, and deal with the crap when it comes, if you worry about the crap before it arrives..you end up having double crap..enjoy your life xxx
The guilt about feeling too happy can be a trauma response. Had to work that one out with my therapist!
I’ve had that exact same anxious feeling related to feeling happiness or looking forward to something so many times. It’s a terrible feeling and makes me feel like I have to constantly try to keep my head above the water. Since I’ve become Christian my anxiety like that had gone way down though. I still get those feelings but I don’t ride with them because I lean on the Lord for all my help. I can’t do anything on my own anyways, so I ask Him for help and feel this peace.
👏❤️
Oh I can relate to that, maybe I can even top it. When I feel happy and content my brain pops up stuff to make me nervous. For e.g. what I forgot to do, what I could have done wrong which in the end turns out I did everything the right way. It is really annoying and I don't know why that happens.
Not loving that white top at the end. Those holes do look weird.
It’s completely normal to feel like something bad is going to happen when things are going well. Sending you hugs. 🥰
I think the last top is so cool!!
I made it to the end and I definitely think you should keep the shirt. You look great in it!
It’s strange isn’t it that what we want to achieve is contentment/happiness. Then when we’re in contentment/happiness we get scared
so trueeee
That contest top was perfect for you ! And it's awesome that Sky Glass is carbon neutral!
I feel the same way, Amelia. Every time I am happy I just feel this sense of dread and that something bad is going to happen and I also feel like I don't deserve to be happy. I was actually talking to one of my friends about this a few days ago. It's like I'm not allowed to be happy. And if I am, something horrible is going to happen... it's such a weird feeling.
I get into that mindset too... fearing losing someone I love... I can totally relate.
Keep the top it is lovely and you look very beautiful on it. The Sky glass tv is great, I have seen a demo already and I will go for it at one point circumstances permitting. Love your vlogs. I am close to my 60th birthday but love your vibe and your personality
the top is sooo nice! keep it
we all do this...(the fear thing in good times)...and we just continue to keep enjoying the moments and the blessings...an in the ''off" times'...'this too shall pass..blessings!
I definitely relate to how you’re feeling life is like the sea and sometimes it’s rough and sometimes it’s really smooth sailing so yeah definitely have some anxiety sometimes thinking what’s going to happen tomorrow or the next day, i’m really not sure about the shirt I think you should return it I’m not sure about the holes in the front
I liked seeing you and Niomi here...you two have such positive spirits together ☺ 💕
Aww thank you!
your friend's dress totally gives wonder woman vibe!
Looooove that Jacquemus top😍😍😍
Omg, i know exactly what you mean! But we have to remind us self, that we deserve to be happy❤️❤️
Aww love that thank you lovely!
Keep the Jacquemus top, I think it looks great!
I understand your fear, I feel the same, like if I am happy or enjoying something I am afraid I am jinxing Karma. But it is also because I had so much negativity that it feels “new” and “strange” when something is positive. Also COVID and isolation didn’t help anyone, I think after the sickness there will be a lot of people with mental questions, adjusting to the new normal is also a challenge
I am so glad I am not the only one that thinks like that lol. Honestly, now that I have kids my fear of someone dying went up to a thousand percent. And when I am happy I start thinking something bad is going to happen. I hate it!
You at 3:19 in that top just made my whole month! Wow......
I can so relate to this feeling, I have it often...but at least I'm not on my own in this thinking! Great vlog as always 💕 x
Love the black blouse you wore to Naomi’s anniversary, you looked lovely. Do wish they’d also make leather or leather look trousers in a navy blue as well 💙.
I do the same with my house clothes! And also that white top looks so cool, I like it on you! And I like how the holes are designed. The only thing is if you’d feel comfortable wearing it? Lol.
would love to see a makeup tutorial of this look!
Your thoughts and feelings about happiness and fear. My thoughts are the same as yours, I put it down to life xxx
Loooove the Jaquemus top on you, absolutely keep it !
OMG !! Keep the jacquemus top ! It look so good on you !
Thank you!!!
I like the blouse!
i think the top looks really good on you, i would never wear it though since i always have food babies
I guess one upside to having to wake up at 4:30am on a Sunday for work is I get to be here so early!
What is the jelly to oil cleanser you used? Thanks
My opinion is to return the jacqemus top
Love the top at the end!
Good morning amelia babe you are so beautiful I hope you and you lovely family are well and duke and leo thanks so much for your lovely vlog
Where is your manifest t-shirt from - i love it!!
Love the last top, so flattering 😍
I wear the same top and clothes at home everyday as well. Sometimes I will put my clothes in the wash in the evening when I put my pyjamas on so I can wear the same thing again the next day.😁 I think a lot of people including me are always expecting the worse. I just work hard on being positive x love the top!!! X
Oh my god i feel exactly the same. Story of my life. I almost forbid myself from feeling happy just in case something bad happens so that i don’t get too depressed ! It’s the worst
I read once because we have a related belief that after laughter we have sadness, the subconscious mind in which this belief is stored begins to interact with the conscious mind and make us sad and that we must change the belief and not link laughter with sadness so that we do not experience this feeling🌷✨
That shirt looks beautiful 💕
LOVE the top
You look lovely in your leather trousers also the black top looks good on you x
Thank youu lovely!!
And...something good or even great is coming. Cheers honey! You're terrific. 💛✨✨💛✨💙
Hey Amelia, you look superb in every outfit and I adore the sunglasses, I would return the white top as it looks like it's gaping a bit. You hair is looking so incredibly healthy & shiny and your vlogs are so full & interesting, thanks for sharing 👌🏻🥰💋
i totally relate. same thing whenever i go shopping and spend loads of money- try not to put it into words and give it legs. lol
I love the white shirt!
Amelia, it’s literally in Brene’s book regarding Dress Rehearsing Tragedy because we are too scare to feel Joy.. Thought you’ve read the book and watch the movie? 🤔 If you haven’t then it’s a must! 💕
Oooh which book?!
@@amelialiana Daring Greatly by Brene Brown, esp in chapter when she discuss about vulnerability and Joy.. we dress-rehearsing tragedy because joy is the most vulnerable emotions.. instantly reminds me of the chapter! Hope it helps you find the answer on this matter 🥰🥰
@@meitaaznira1561 I have this book. I need to read it again!
@@terryfischer1070 you should! It’s a great one
I relate completely.
I love the white top
I like the shirt at the end :)
This is the first time I have seen my boots on the outfit of the day guest that I actually like them.
Love your vlogs always but yes not sure about the shirt tbh, for what it’s worth I’d return it as it looks uncomfortably bizarre with gaping holes lol
the top is so cute!!!! but so expensive lol im going to look for dupes
So happy you shared your fear I was just thinking how perfect your life seems and I wish I could be more content like you are with good things happening and just enjoy it… your a great inspiration in my life. Thank you for being real …🙏❤️
21:03 that top is sooooo Jennifer Aniston vibes!
Does anyone remember what perfume Amelia said someone stopped her on the street when she was wearing it the other day? Thanks!!🙋🏻♀️💗
Kilian love dont be shy!
@@amelialiana Queen, Thank you for replying!!💗💗💗💗
Hello! Where is your manifest t-shirt from? It looks so comfy!
No to the top at the end! And you're moving into your house?? Not moving the things to storage??
I would say return for the top😉😉😉
The top looks great on you but I would return it because I don’t care for how it opens up down the middle. Wish they had it close because it is a beautiful and flattering top.
Love the shirt!
Where’s the manifest shirt from??
Keep the Jaqcuemus omgggg