The Importance of Boundaries

Most people have trouble saying "no," and Christians may have an even tougher time because we worry we are being selfish. But because we are finite beings, we have to place limits on our time and relationships. Even Jesus, who was God incarnate, had boundaries; he walked away from the crowds that were thronging to him to be healed in order to spend time with his Father. (see Luke 5:15-16).
On this episode of Let's Talk, Jackie Hill Perry, Jasmine Holmes, and Melissa Kruger talk about boundaries. According to Jasmine, "Boundaries are what enable us to serve God to the utmost of our ability by prioritizing the mission that he's given us on this earth." We shouldn't make boundaries out of laziness or the desire to avoid what is difficult. Jackie says, "I need to interrogate if I'm setting up a boundary because it's the wise thing to do or if I'm using it as an excuse to preserve my own comforts."
A key piece of determining where to set God-honoring boundaries is to remember that we are ultimately called to serve and glorify God, not other people. Of course, we should serve people, but that doesn't mean we should always do what they want us to, especially if it conflicts with the priorities God has placed on our life.
Join Melissa, Jackie, and Jasmine at TGCW22 this June 16-18 in Indianapolis, or online, as we reflect on the theme, ‘Remember Your Joy: Salvation Stories in the Old Testament.’ Learn more and register: TGC.org/tgcw22
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Why Freedom Needs Boundaries
When a Friendship Becomes Co-Dependent
How to Know When to Say No
Let’s Talk: People Pleasing

[@sivemaholwana1738]

Found this so helpful. Especially the connection between setting boundaries & shame, for women specifically. Helps to remember that God set life-giving boundaries, and so can we. 🙏🤍 Thank you ladies.

[@singingsade95]

So many truths, grateful for all of y'all's wisdom

[@pastordanaddo]

These ladies are amazing. I enjoy listening to this podcast so much! Thanks TGC

[@rehoboth_lhf]

Who can imagine that the Jackie who is sitting here and curiously watching Jas & Mel is the stage-bold Jackie? Just been here waiting for her to dissect scripture and preach😄

[@theultimatefoodie2666]

This topic is right on time for me! Whew 🙌🏾

[@joannayeung3705]

I was divorced in 2015, my ex mother in law was very upset. She misses me much. I still feel about uneasy that I didn't tell her that her son was denied me of fertility and made our married home into a cannabis factory. I had forgiven my ex husband all ready. I feel uncompassionate that I couldn't tell her the truth as she was very protective of her son. I pray her and her son to come to know the biblical truth, repent and be renewed in Christ. In Jesus name.amen.🙏✝️

[@chendersson2238]

on point as always

[@glee_again2594]

This is SO good. Ladies. Just found you. I wish I could talk with you. These are my fave kinds of conversations.
Can’t wait for next week. 😍

[@sadiecampbell4213]

This conversation is right on time for me! This is my word, along with balance, for the year as I'm learning to be more intentional about setting boundaries and maintaining them for myself and others.

[@duwandalynruffin328]

That portable CD player was troublesome, but so necessary! Lol

[@sarahshiningayamwe6385]

This was sooo good 😊

[@mslashaundap]

Great conversation as always

[@koalalou68]

Jackie's audible sigh was e'rythinngg @ 26:55 😂😂😂

[@erley643]

Ask God for wisdom!

[@phlegmbuoyant]

Things that make you go hmmmmmm....

[@AngiedehDeharo]

Hi I'm curious and this is not to offend you ladies. I have a question about why you would need a therapist if you have the word of God and sisters in the Lord like pastors wives that you can confide in?

[@nickygp8879]

Sometimes the people that you are in close relation with can be bias. Therefore, it is good to sometimes have a third opinion that it’s outside of your relationships and or friendships to help you dissect your situation or your mental/emotional state. Even dissect past trauma.

[@Smarty2able]

WHat about people who don't respect your boundaries and use scripture against you to manipulate you

[@roselynglover8927]

Older women teach younger women. Younger women must be open to receive.

[@FactsNC300]

Can y’all stop saying “I struggle with people pleasing”. No you don’t. You struggle with idolatry

[@ryanelee]

Can you explain?

[@johntobey1558]

Or narcissism, solipscism and self-protection.

[@gummylens5465]

@Confessions: But every sin is idolatry

[@MoonMoon-fx1op]

​@@gummylens5465exactly. Having a general idea will only bring a general repentance

[@roselynglover8927]

Singles should deal with both husband and wife.

[@roselynglover8927]

All Exes stay in Texas.

[@roselynglover8927]

3rd party mediation:
The Holy Spirit.