How to Escape Brainwashing and Other Emotional Abuse
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- Psychotherapist Mary Jo Rapini addresses the question of why people succumb to brainwashing and how someone can escape their abuser. This is part two of a mini-series on brainwashing. The first video explains 7 common tactics a brainwasher may use to control their victim.
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It’s harder when the brainwashing is made by a parent to a child... 💔
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I had been a victim of brainwashing. Though i always felt something was wrong. Every time i argued with my parents i was always magically 'wrong'. They also used a lot of the tactics you explained. Thank God i knew something was wrong, and that i never lost hope. My real name is Corey btw. I have to show this to my girlfriend.
Thank you.
I feel you man
same thing happened to me too by my relatives and friends
Soo true..can relate 😟🙄 Hope ur out and in a safe peaceful, happy place.. God bless❤🤗🙏
I am so happy found this channel by accident. I am in this situation. I have been having this lady, a counselor, helping me. I cry everytime I remember the way my husband's been treating me
Congratulations to everyone that’s left they’re abuser/batterer 🎉 step 2. No Contact with any of them in any form. Cut out any of their relatives/friends including sometimes your own family. Read as much as you can educate yourself about abusers more than likely you will discover that there was some sort of family dynamic going on in both you and the abusers family in childhood. Which is why we unknowingly navigate back towards these types of people and yes some are very covert! Develop all the time strong boundaries. Don’t let other people tell you what to do, assert yourself, break that cycle of the silent treatment. Put your care first not others. Surround yourself as best as you can with caring loving friends. Wait to date, I literally put my hand up 🙋♀️ and tell these guys No. it’s a good feeling. Journaling you thought about what you read, learn, and your feelings it really helps to read it back out loud, helps undo brainwashing.
I wish this video was done when I went through a lot of abuse on the part of my elders, especially in the years since I graduated from high school. Been out of HS for more than 41 years and still trying to recover. Great video you have there.
thank you for these videos.
they changed my perspective.
I've been surrounded with these manipulators my entire life.
thank you for helping me see it.
I've had inadequate counsellors and help. This has messed me up in ways I can't imagine. Counsellors who believe they are competent when they are the opposite or vis versa can be just as dangerous if not more as it shatters trust in the healing process. Small towns have limited access to therapists (one therapist every three months for a caseload of 600 for example where I live.). In my experience even when one chooses to change and makes the choice, there are such limited options and no people addressing that or even realizing the extent of the problem that it adds to the overwhelm of the problem; trying to can the process is to negate the severity of the issue.
Ummm there is an app called 7 cups , u can afford to get a therapist in a cheap price! And also there’s betterhelp
Was brainwashed and abused to near death for 39 years, healing but still don't know what is real @ 40
Smart and gorgeous bless you for great compassion
This is a totally coherent and logical explanation of the main face of abuse. What I feel is lacking though, is a detailed explanation of what abuse is NOT. in other words, the flip side of it. The reality we live in today also involves many people (especially women) running around claiming abuse at every turn. Many men are also coming forward with sad stories of false abuse allegations. False abuse allegations can, IMHO cause the same damage as true abuse experiences. So we all somehow need a tutorial on what behaviours are for example, plain disagreeing opinions and those which are abuse. Thank you for your work.
Yes totally!!
Mam please make more and more videos on this topic. I'm so lucky now I sae your video now.
Thank You.
Thank you so much
after a decade of being manipulated and emotionally abused by wife and the same fucking treatment i endured as a child from both parents i give up this fight isnt worth fighting anymore this woman has ruined my life destroyed every relationship i ever had with friends and family the only thing left to do is suck start this pistol and end this pain ive been diagnosed with clinical depression have suicidal ideations daily and its just too much to bare thank you for you content mary and i hope it can save someone before they get to the point im at God bless you
Thank you so much Mary u r helping alot of people
Thank You !!!!
Those who think they are being abused should consider keeping a journal/diary of abusive events. They may also consider writing in a code, cipher, or shorthand if they don't feel safe.
I think documenting the abuse will help you break away too.
It can also be admitted into evidence in court if the abuse eclscelates to that level.
I see all of these signs in a long time friends relationship. She was punched in the face on more than one occasion. and I'm sure there more I don't hear about. The second time he spent 3 months in jail. This punk has a history of doing time for domestic violence and other criminal acts. Right now they have a 5 year no contact restraining order. Yet they are now living together. Also she hasn't even known him for a year. During the first month they became engaged . He has her so isolated that when we talk he makes her put it on speaker phone without my knowledge. he told her he has set up cam in the appt. When he found out we talk this punk had the nerve to call me and play tough guy. Big mistake. I got my message across. The most frustrating part for me is the fact that I can't do a thing about it until he kills her
Can you explain what you meant by saying "change your reaction change your mind"
my brother's wife is a psychopath. their family lives next door to me and my 83 yr old parents. my 50 yr old brother is brainwashed to act like a mean dog/slave. it's so weird. even the cadence in his voice is like a barking dog. he wont talk to me, he pretends to be angry and yells at me, mimics me like a 10 yr old. if my parents call him he doesnt really say much on the phone and his voice is devoid of any emotion. i want to help him and the kids but i dont know how.
He might have a Neuralink in his brain. This device is excellent for brainwashing. He cannot HELP himself, and if you confront him, he would not know what are you talking about. The biggest tell tale of Brainwashing is a personality change.
I ended up in a marriage with a man I did not want to be with. He would make me feel guilty for not wanting to be with him. His family were in on it too. The brainwashing was gradual. They were trying to get me lost in my own head and become subdued. Some people are truly evil. They would say things like 'everyone is a bad person'. Unfortunately I didn't know these people were baters. They try to get you to believe their lie by saying it with a straight face and no emotion. I got caught arguing. I would cry all the time. I felt trapped. He was always around me 16 hours a day. 8 hours I was at work. He always wanted to know everything I did. He would gaslight me. We argued all the time over the same things. It was exhausting. I finally had my ah-ha moment when I realised my morals were starting to change. I escaped almost two years ago. Unfortunately for me, my so-called friends and family did not believe me. They tried to convince me back into it. They told me that I'm wanting too much. They told me happiness is not real. Love is not real. I even had people try to take advantage of my situation and try to play their own hand. Thank God I was strong enough to put them in check. It was a living nightmare. I almost went insane. I lost my self and my confidence. I was haunted by nightmares, anxiety, questioning reality. Even recently, my own brother told me maybe I misunderstood what was going on. When he had reached out to my abuser to help him with something. People will sell you out just to move up. I know I'm not a liar or one to make things up. Literally, I've been alone and God has seen me through. It's not easy at all. I have cut everyone off, thanks to Covid-19. It was long overdue. Because initially I was still questioning myself. They tried to convince me that I cannot just throw away people. It's funny how abusers try to convince you, you're too sensitive. At least I know that I can trust myself, even though they tried to convince me otherwise. I realised I was surrounded by a lot of bad bad people (demons). I am slowly getting back my peace and I'm looking forward to MY future again.
I am so proud of your strength, courage and vulnerability to share. Thank you. Bad people do happen to us, but within each bad person is a lesson and an opportunity to gain insight. Don't give up, you have so much to give the world!
@@MaryJoRapini thank you so much. 😊
thank u for this video... i thught me aoit about brainwashing... im not sure if i am one of the victim but its helps me alot thank u
Absolutely tremendous, Thank you so much for this beautiful lady, Peace, love, Respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory to the universe, The most high, God is great 🐉🌲😘🦄😊🌈🌌💙👽☘🐎🕊🦁✌😍😃🌝❤
So what's your opinion on religion
Religion are brainwashed and programmed !
The phrase: "Your thoughts are irrational." Is a common reply from an abuser.
Truth!
Hello Mary Jo,
Thanks for your insightful and educative counsel on this topic.
Please I want to know what one can do if your brainwashing abuser is your spouse. Thanks
Get legal and mental health counseling. Both of those can guide you. Do not try to go. It on your own.
Don't let your loved one become isolated? You mean like being quaranteened or social distancing? Like that?
Yes, you need at least one or two people you can confide fully in. You need real friends, and don't tell them about the brainwashing until you are sure you know them and they know you. Otherwise they will not believe you.
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Anyway.they even try to tell u who u can n can not talk to
Anyway.they even try to tell u who u can n can not talk to
Any help on triggers and hypnosis? I have a friend who was brainwashed by traffickers. They hypnotised her several times, though she is no longer involved she still feels that she has some trigger words that are still lingering, years later. She has cut herself off from the people but a 'certain person' still decide to show up unexpected when she is alone playing cat and mouse.
I think more helpful than hypnosis will be cognitive behavioral therapy. Therapy and time can help you learn to manage your boundaries and shut off the thoughts when they resurface.
You are a godsend .I hope Paris Hilton sees you.and all the others who have fallen victims
Thank you so much 💕💕
great video! does anyone know what kind of mental illness abusers have?
Narsassisim and psychopathy
I need help.where do I start
Just a thought for anyone watching this video rn,
If you watch the Darrell Brooks trial, it's a good study of a game playing, lying abuser in real time.
Anytime who has shades of that guy is probably best avoided.
Can you please advice me what to do. My daughter has been brainwashed by her boyfriend almost 2 years now. She stop communicating with every single person in her family. Not able to see her at all. I am so worried about her. She even changes her phone number. I am desperately needing some answers of what happened to her.
Where can I get the help that I need in Canada
My friend got brainwash from her boyfriend what should I do
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Does this apply to a cult?
I do believe Cults use a form of brainwashing, but I am talking more about what happens in intimate relationships when your partner, sister, brother or parents brainwash the people closest to them.
My past employer used this tactic to control me. It started controlling whom I talk in personal life, digital control. In professional life it was in complete control anyway. Then it used to contact these people in personal life and communicate to me through these people. I got to know their tactic immediately. Then I used same tactic back on them. Big joke. 😀
Yesss! ❤️
Ok well. The thing is do you realize how much effort what you're talking about would take? I'm not saying it doesn't exist. What you're talking about sounds like actual prison to me. I don't know if I have experienced brain washing because I'm still not sure what it is. But from what you're saying I have experienced types of scenerios like you mentioned in your video and the good news is the effects I have experienced are mostly temporary. What a person does while it's going on though that's a scary thing from my experience. I have felt in my life that everyone wanted to harvest my organs and we're trying to get me to kill myself. I have cut my wrists. I have been in and out of psychiatric therapy and been on many different psychiatric drugs. I don't care to go on to all of the effects they have had on my brain and body which were many and probably unbelievable to someone who hasn't experienced it. But I can agree with you that someone who has been through what you describe can go on to live a pretty normal life even if it's still happening. My hope is that because what you are talking about takes so much energy that it is a rare occurrence. You can reach me at 2692678680 text first please as I don't answer unknown numbers as a rule. My name is Robert.
Thank you so much Mary u r helping alot of people