"If your so mature now I think it's time you grow up. Admit you did it we all know you did it. And yet you still gaslight me up." Those lyrics hit me different.
It reminds me of my mother when she cause many problems to my family and treating me bad for no reason when I saw the lyrics, that’s every emotions that I have to go through when she does that….
@@LunarTrap2625 Aww. It reminds me of my father. Who would gaslight me and abuse me. We are getting ready to go to court to get full custody for my mom. I am so sorry you had to deal with that.
Thank you guys for that support since I needed it due to depression and anxiety because of her and I’m trying to talk to people about my problem but what if they don’t know what I have been and just walk away from me?
I’m 52 and my teenage daughter introduced me to this song. I am so glad young women have music like this reminding them of their worth in a very powerful way. The lessons here are ones I wished I had learned much younger. To all you Gen Z girls, never compromise your integrity or your soul for a man. It’s time we held them accountable. I know I’ve had enough.
The only flaw I will point out in this song is how gendered it is. If it was more gender neutral then I think a more wider audience would relate to this. (Like male and non binary victims.) Yeah, most predators are men but we shouldn't forget that alot of predators are women too.
@@zelda7059 I think this song is specifically meant to be empowerment for women, especially since we still have men in power trying to quiet us and take our rights away. Example: Texas wants to make abortion completely illegal AND punishable with death sentence. Rape has a lower bail than abortions. In many places in the world, women are still heavily oppressed.
@@zelda7059 Your comment is probably my favorite one here. I love this song but the only dislike I have is that it seems to make only girls relate to this. Even though it doesn't say every boy is a predator, I would like it to have girls, boys, AND non-binary people.
I realized one of the reasons I love this. Her enunciation and it almost sounds like a Broadway song if the chorus didn't repeat i could hear this in a musical. ALSO she's an alto and we need to normalize people who can sing don't need to hit soprano notes and still sound fire and make an impact.
this gives me Someone Gets Hurt from Mean Girls, kinda Burn from Hamilton and Congatulations vibes (also heather chandler and regina george) I LOVE THIS
i feel like as a man i am not "allowed" to sing along to this since its a song for women whose voices got silenced. but as a victim of rape twice i just can't do anything but sing along. thank you for your amazing song!
@@BLU-ky6bn genders dont need an anthem, I believe this is just a complement for how well written this song is sense no comment should be taken seriously tbh, yeah i wont deny the song is good but it shouldnt just a play a role as an anthem sense this could just genuinely be an experience the singer has went through
As someone who got groomed and has the frustrating experience of said groomer avoiding accountability like the plague, the part 2:58 - 3:17 hits SO hard for me. This entire song makes me feel so much less alone in my resentment and anger towards him. Everyone who's experienced any type of sexual assault, abuse, grooming, etc, is SO strong. And after reading the comments I can confidently say that, we survived hell, and for that we should have the right to feel any emotions we can towards our abusers with no strings attached or others telling us to "forgive and forget". It should be, and IS, up to you how you handle your recovery process - not forgiving whoever hurt you does NOT make you a bad person and it is NOT required to heal. Because it is YOUR choice on how you cope/recover. And nobody from an outside perspective has the right to tell you that it's wrong.
My mom keeps telling me I NEED to forgive my ‘brother’ for things he did to me and I told her no and she gets mad at me every time. She always says ‘you can forgive someone but it doesn’t mean you forget’ and I tell her I’m never forgiving him and that I don’t care about him anymore
YESSSSSS!!! My parents told me “you didn’t tell us at the time, so it’s time to get over it, you can’t keep using that as an excuse” (an excuse for what, I’ve never asked). Fuck that, I’m allowed to be as resentful as I want towards them. Say it louder for those in the back!!!
Damn I feel so sorry for y’all. I’m a trans guy, I had my dad sexually abuse me and rape me multiple times when I was 4-5, and my friends got sexually abused by family members, and my little sister got sexually assaulted by my step great grandfather I know how it feels and I have empathy for all those who had to experience that
Thank the gods I’ve never been SAed, but I was made to feel extremely uncomfortable and vulnerable by a much older man. I was fourteen years old, maybe 4`9`` and 100 LBS soaking wet. I’m also disabled, and as such I took a certain bus full of other kids who couldn’t take the normal bus to school. It came right to my door to pick me up. The bus driver saw me in a very modest sundress. Like when I say modest, I mean knee length dress with a jacket on over it and a ribbon in my hair. I looked like a little girl, and he kept making these extremely uncomfortable comments about how pretty I looked, telling me that the boys would be all over me, how he’d, “See you tomorrow, beautiful lady/pretty girl,” and how I should, “Stop biting those beautiful lips.” It took me crying into a friend’s chest for an hour to be able to report him, and even then he wasn’t fired. I was just moved to a different bus. Until he quit, whenever I passed him, he’d call out, “Hey sweetie,” to me whenever I passed by his bus, and he later went on to comment about how suggestively another disabled friend, who is younger than me, looked in the clothes they were wearing. For reference, they were literally just wearing shorts and a T-shirt. I finally worked up the courage to tell my older brothers about it, and they told me it wasn’t sexual harassment because he didn’t tell me he wanted to have sex with me, and started getting all up in arms defending the adult man who told a fourteen year old girl who looked about twelve years old how beautiful her body was. I feel sick to my stomach just thinking about him, and I still remember his full name and now can only associate the first name with bad things. Though it was nice later on that my bus drivers after him knew exactly what he’d said and one of them outright told me, “You have every right to be angry. Nobody should ever talk to a young girl like that.” It was especially validating because he had previously been friends with the other driver until he learned what he’d done, at which point he stopped respecting him completely and wouldn’t even allow him near the bus when I got off and on. That’s the driver who’s name I wish I remembered
I love that it starts as a song about one specific woman's experience but at the end it becomes an anthem for every girl who has gone through similar problems.
Never had a song make me want to scream the words so loudly as this song has. So beautiful and empowering. You’re so talented and strong for releasing such a song that I’m sure has a large story behind it.
Hey there two trans guys! I completely agree. We are all here to support you, and as the song says, NOBODY can demand who you are or your body. You are an amazing human being, and you absolutely deserve rights, no matter how many idiots protest to it. and to whoever reading this, I’m so proud of you for coming this far 🫂
@@SnowieKitten I relate to the subject matter, but I know this song is made for women especially at the end with “here’s to my girls.” I sing along until that point. As a guy I need to stand aside and let voices be heard, if more people could just shut up when people are voicing their hurt then we’d be farther along with true equality by now. I hope you have a great day
Was anyone else struck by: "I don't deserve this, and for your next girlfriend, you need to treat her with respect"? I'm so used to hearing women sing songs about exes and bashing the women who date him after them as slots and hoes. If 2021 is the year that women move more towards standing up for each other and building each other up regardless of what they do or who they date, then at least something good came out of it ❤
Does this bring up memories of parental psychological abuse for anyone else? My dad still gaslights me and has the audacity to demand my presence whenever he wants something done but refuses to acknowledge that I've already done so much for him.
It's always funny when people say you never do anything for them yet they're always the first person they run to when they need something done. But anyway, it honestly *does* remind me about my parents (as well as reminds me of my ex). It's def the typa song that I'll blast once I cut my parents out of my life when I turn 18.
Yes, it reminds me of the verbal, emotional, and psychological abuse my mother put me through. Soon, it'll be the anniversary of my first year free of her, and hearing the section with "gaslighting me up" shook me when I heard it in a short. I will probably listen to this when I have bad days thinking about her from now on.
2:18 It reminds me of the bully started out friend who gave me trauma, the class mates and teachers who stood by and did nothing and blamed me. My dad who reaffirmed the things the bully would tell me. The friends who took advantage of me and left me. The boy who wouldn’t leave me alone and scarred me when I was 6 years old on the school yard. The doctors and therapists who push me to the side and allowed my issues to get worse. The family who loved me only when I behaved. The bully who left my psyche more shattered than Cinderella’s forgotten glass slipper.
I have a story like that it was when I was in kindergarten everyone bully me pinched me and laugh at me and everything bad I was still little so I didn't understand that it was bad and did not tell anyone :(
~Lyrics for those who like to see them all at once like me❤~ So you say you really miss me? (Aah) Well that makes me laugh 'Cause you miss the way I let you walk all over me Broke every bone in my back So you wanna reminisce things? Huh (aah) Well don't come round here with that If we review through your phony excuses I bet it won't change the past Closed for the weekend Don't you apologize I know you don't mean it I quit Here's to the "no"s To the "I think you should go"s To the leave his ass alone's To the hanging up thе phone's To the no man can demand my body, my spirit, my lovе Ooh Here's to the "no"s To the "walk yourself on home"s To the keeping on my clothes To the highs without the lows To the no man can demand my body, my spirit, my love Ooh I've had enough So you're claiming you're a martyr, what? Like I don't have a clue Too bad I'm smarter, be discreet's a starter I'm staring right at the proof Closed for forever (uh-huh) I'm done with shutting up I've learned a lot better Listen Here's to the "no"s To the "I think you should go"s (I think you should go) To the leave his ass alone's To the hanging up the phone's To the no man can demand my body, my spirit, my love Ooh Here's to the "no"s To the "walk yourself on home"s To the keeping on my clothes To the highs without the lows To the no man can demand my body, my spirit, my love, love, love If you're so mature now Then I think it's time you grow up Admit you did it We all know you did it And yet you still gaslight me up You are such a flame out Your only drive left's in the bed (your only drive left's in the bed) I don't deserve this And for your next girlfriend You need to treat her with respect Here's to my girls Standing up for what they're worth Yeah, you know who run the world I am ready to be heard No man can demand my body, my spirit, my love (my body, my spirit, my love) Ooh And for the boys Who don't care who they destroy Told us "NO" was not a choice You cannot silence our voice No man can demand our bodies, our spirits, our love We've had enough
I'm so glad I came across this song! Mainly because for 3 years I got groomed and sexually assaulted by someone who I thought loved me. I was young and dumb but I've since dumped his ass and found an amazing man. To anyone who has experienced this you guys deserve better and you will get through this. If I could go back and change what happened I might but if I did I don't think I would of met my current partner. So I'm not sure..
This song reminds me of one of my dear friends. He got into a relationship that was in short, heavily abusive. He deserved so much better then what he was getting and finally was able to stand up for himself after he realized that this person was being absolutely horrible to him. I know this song has a predominantly female role but it can truely happen to anyone. My best friend who I am now proud to call my lover are as happy as can be and are both getting over our scars from past relationships to help better one another and make a life for ourselves in which we are both comfortable. Cause that’s what love should be, a union that can be associated with both comfort and contentment.
You're right! Personally I don't think this song is necessarily tall is necessarily targeting only women women. Women and men alike go through abusive situations whether it be Physically or sexually. I would say this is a great song but what bothers me the most is how People think only women can go through abusive situations. I've gone through abusive situations myself And as much as I'm happy to hear people standing up for themselves people also have to realize that men go through hardships and abusive situations. I just wish more people realized that.
Boy, this gives me some heathers, mean girls, and Hamilton vibes. With just a pinch of the ladies from Henry 8. I found this song because Instagram gives you tik tok videos. And I fucking love this song! Please don't give up your singing!
this sounds like it could be a part 2 to "All You Wanna Do" from SIX the musical. This song sounds like it can really fit in a musical and I think the message aligns if Katherine did decide to fight back
@@MelinaKB hi love!! ❤ and yw! I wish I heard this song back in hs when I was in my toxic relationship but still, I appreciate and love this song. I listened to it nonstop actually :)
It’s right about the anniversary of when I got with my shitty ex for six years. I left him September and this song has helped me feel like myself again
Thank you for making this song! I’ve been dealing with a lot of PTSD and depression lately and I view this song as a personal theme of mine for the ones who have hurt me in the past thank you! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Even though it's a song about bad men hurting people, I vibe with this on a different level. I'm a trans man who's only been free of an abusive mother for almost a year, and all of my life up to my escape last year was hell. She was discreet, she was good at hiding it and tricking people to turn on me if I tried to use my voice. Even took coming out to my grandfather who passed away by doing it for me without my knowledge. I could write a book how wicked she was. I lost my best friends because of her, and even though I have been struggling... I've been thriving. I have moments where I miss the "safety" of being under her thumb, but then I remember how bad it was... This song is going to be one of a few that I listen to when I think about what I went through.
This song feels like the solo in the musical right before the interval where the good girl who is loved by everyone finally gives up and becomes the villian
hello I've recently left a 3 year relationship because he cheated on me again and your song is helping me not to be soft to him and take him back. thank you 🥺🥺
This song gives me the vibes of what I feel towards my Father(change some of the words of course, but the "If your so mature now, then I think it's time you grow up, admit you did it, we all know you did it, and yet you still gas light me up, your are such a flam out" reminds me of him trying to abuse us, and how he acts like he is so much better than us
This is the exact song ive been waiting made me cry even if it was upbeat,, i had a courage to break up with him since all he think is the 'bed' even if i told him no... The part where "and for your next girlfriend you need to treat her with respect" thats exactly what i told him.. but he kept his stand thinking he respect me.. so sad.. im happy im free
You did the right thing breaking up with him. A good, mature, and caring boyfriend Willis understand if you weren’t ready for that and would wait as long as you need. I’m really happy for you and I hope you find someone who will treat you how you deserve 💕 also I agree, this song is so good and made me more confident especially about breaking up with my ex.
This song makes a huge statement, especially with all the bullshit going on in the US right now. All my women, they/them's, trans queens, and anyone else who stands with women, like this comment.
I am so in love with this song!! Like others have said, it gives me MAJOR musical vibes and it's absolutely brilliant! I can soo imagine a whole broadway sequence to this... I hope you make more songs like this and pursue a broadway sound since you do it so well.
i want you to know i didn’t know how underrated you were when i first found your song on spotify. i’ve been listening to it NONSTOP for weeks, months actually. this is SO good. it’s so powerful too freaking go girl
I saw you post it on TikTok and I’ve fallen in love already. I’ve listened to the song at least 20 times by now and it’s only been a day. Your voice is beautiful 💕
OK this is officially my favourite song ever- Ik someone else said it but- These lyrics hit different. "If you're so 'mature' now, then I think it's time you grow up. Admit you did it, we ALL KNOW you DID it, and yet you still gaslight me up.."
It's been one week since I started listening to this song... I'm sure it's a sign, 'cause the song I listened before this one was all you wanna do from six the musical. Both of them talk about abuse.... It's hitting me so hard that I feel like someone took me down suddenly and I couldn't do anything about it
I know this is aimed at relationships and boundaries, but this reminds me of my family trauma. Especially the if your so mature now bit. Idk if it’s a good or bad feeling listening to this, but I can’t stop.
I really hope an instrumental of this is released in the future, I was recommended this during some intense spousal abuse and I have both cried and sung triumphantly to it. Thank you so much for putting these feelings into words, and into a beautiful arrangement at that. If I’m missing any instrumentals and if anyone reads this lmk! I really want to cover it as the first song I would’ve covered in a year but I’ve only found one shoddy version. I may learn it on the piano and play it. I want to express all this pain I’m feeling and put it out there whether or not people in my life believe the abuse has been real.
If I changed some of the lyrics it would fit how I feel about my dad, so I did just that: So you say you really miss me Well, that makes me laugh Cause you miss the way I let you walk all over me Broke every bone in my back So you wanna reminisce things Well, don’t come ‘round here with that If we review through your phony excuses I bet it won’t change the past I won't go this weekend Don’t you apologize I know you don’t mean it I quit Here’s to the “no”s To the “I think you should go”s To the “just leave me alone”s To the hanging up the phone To the my dad can't demand my presence, my voice or my love Oh Here’s to the “no”s To the “drive yourself on home”s To the “I’m not gonna go”s To the highs without the lows To the my dad can't demand my presence, my voice or my love Oh, I’ve had enough So you’re claiming you’re a martyr Like I don’t have a clue Too bad I’m smarter Be discreet’s a starter I’m staring right at the proof I won't go, not ever I’m done with shutting up I’ve learned a lot better Listen Here’s to the “no”s To the “I think you should go”s To the “just leave me alone”s To the hanging up the phone To the my dad can't demand my presence, my voice or my love Oh Here’s to the “no”s To the “walk yourself on home”s To the “I’m not gonna go”s To the highs without the lows To the my dad can't demand my presence, my voice or my love, love, love If you’re so mature now Then I think it’s time you grow up Admit you did it We all know you did it And yet you still gaslight me up You are such a flame out There’s something so wrong with your head I don’t deserve this Just think of your children You need to treat us with respect Here’s to the ones Standing up for what they’re worth Yeah, We can run the world I am ready to be heard my dad can't demand my presence, my voice or my love And for the dads Who don’t care who they destroy Told us no is not a choice You cannot silence our voice No one can demand our presence, our voice or our love We’ve had enough!
I know that I was technically all of my abusers were women, (not men) I still love this song with all of my heart. (I just change a few of the words around whenever I sing it, so it fits my pov more accurately)
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This song sounds like it could be in a musical
Ohhhh so that’s why i like it so much
THATS WHAT I WAS THINKING !!
My exact freaking thought!!!
That’s what I was thinking
Liene Baumane I was really hoping it was! It would be so bomb.
"If your so mature now I think it's time you grow up. Admit you did it we all know you did it. And yet you still gaslight me up." Those lyrics hit me different.
It reminds me of my mother when she cause many problems to my family and treating me bad for no reason when I saw the lyrics, that’s every emotions that I have to go through when she does that….
@@LunarTrap2625 Aww. It reminds me of my father. Who would gaslight me and abuse me. We are getting ready to go to court to get full custody for my mom. I am so sorry you had to deal with that.
That’s what I came here for
@@LunarTrap2625 the same thing is also happening to me too..I hope you're feeling better now
Thank you guys for that support since I needed it due to depression and anxiety because of her and I’m trying to talk to people about my problem but what if they don’t know what I have been and just walk away from me?
I’m 52 and my teenage daughter introduced me to this song. I am so glad young women have music like this reminding them of their worth in a very powerful way. The lessons here are ones I wished I had learned much younger. To all you Gen Z girls, never compromise your integrity or your soul for a man. It’s time we held them accountable. I know I’ve had enough.
Ty!
The only flaw I will point out in this song is how gendered it is. If it was more gender neutral then I think a more wider audience would relate to this. (Like male and non binary victims.) Yeah, most predators are men but we shouldn't forget that alot of predators are women too.
@@zelda7059 I think this song is specifically meant to be empowerment for women, especially since we still have men in power trying to quiet us and take our rights away. Example: Texas wants to make abortion completely illegal AND punishable with death sentence. Rape has a lower bail than abortions. In many places in the world, women are still heavily oppressed.
@@zelda7059 Your comment is probably my favorite one here. I love this song but the only dislike I have is that it seems to make only girls relate to this. Even though it doesn't say every boy is a predator, I would like it to have girls, boys, AND non-binary people.
@@yestheprofileismyart6435
Agreed
I realized one of the reasons I love this. Her enunciation and it almost sounds like a Broadway song if the chorus didn't repeat i could hear this in a musical. ALSO she's an alto and we need to normalize people who can sing don't need to hit soprano notes and still sound fire and make an impact.
Yeah it does! For some reason “you are such a flame out. Your only drive left’s in the bed” really reminded me of a broadways show idk why
I would love any Broadway musical she sings in. Cuz it does and it sounds amazing.
That’s actually the reason I really dislike this song
@@katpage9378 to each their own
@@tanginamo12321 thanks. I really dislike frozen too
this gives me Someone Gets Hurt from Mean Girls, kinda Burn from Hamilton and Congatulations vibes (also heather chandler and regina george) I LOVE THIS
YES oh my gosh thank you!!!! That is such a huge compliment!
I thought the same
Yes exactly
YEAH EXACTLY
Oh gosh so that's why a small part of me was like, this vibe feels kinda familiar
As a boy, who's was molested by a young adult at the age of 8 for months, and nothing was done about it, I can't help but love and sing this song
I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope you’re doing better now. ❤
I hope you're feeling alright and if you're not that you find the path of healing. Mental pain may linger but we can learn to be happy despite it 💖
You are not alone
youre struggle is valid, and we're all here for you
Girl or not sa is a horrible experience. I hope you’ve mentally healed.
I DO NOT BELIEVE IN SIGNS BUT THIS CAME OUT ON WHAT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE MY ONE YEAR WITH A SHITTY EX. THIS IS THE SONG I NEED TO HEAR TODAY
I AM SENDING YOU SO MUCH LOVE & AM SO GLAD THIS SONG REACHED YOU
Same like wtf
Then you should start to believe
@@wowsports8800 dont force beliefs on people :/
@@theincarnateofkurro I Thought They Were Repeating What Parappa The Rapper Said-
*"I Gotta Believe!"*
Added this to my “the only time I miss a man is when I swing and he ducks” playlist 😌
why do i feel like me and you would be friends
Imma need that playlist, thanks
Don't be shy share the playlist (jk u don't have too)
PLEASE- I LOVE IT
Omg I saw duck and I just thought of the song duck is lord
The "I survived a toxic relationship" Anthem and im here for it
AM I THE ONLY ONE WHO GETS PARTNERS IN CRIME BY SET IT OFF VIBES FROM THIS??? I LOVE THIS.
YES I HEAR THE SIMULAROTIES
Pov: the partners in crime splitted up
@@calicothecreator. YES LMAO
OMG THANK YOU, I THOUGHT I RECOGNIZED THIS SONG
@@calicothecreator.
YES
this is the song you listen to while planning to ruin your exes life and i’m all for it-
Absolutely & thank youuu!!!
Don't just plan, do it 😶🤭 it's more fun that way
Let's burn down their house I believe in you
Wouldn’t make you any better.
@@MelinaKB this is amazing
✨👏🏾✨
i feel like as a man i am not "allowed" to sing along to this since its a song for women whose voices got silenced. but as a victim of rape twice i just can't do anything but sing along. thank you for your amazing song!
This song should be for everyone.
This song isn't directed at every man in the world. It's for the ones that abuse, assault, etc. Sing on!
I hope your doing better 🥺❤️
good sir sing to your hearts content
I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope you're in a much better place and doing better now.
IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS ONE! SO EXCITED TO ADD THIS TO MY PLAYLIST.
ME TOO SIS
OMG THANK YOU!!
@@CacahueteParlante Y'all are SO SWEET
@@MelinaKB I'm not gonna say I know you BUT GREAT VIDEO❤❤❤
Wait a second....
WHY ISN'T THIS THE WOMEN'S ANTHEM YET?
This song and "When A Girl" By Cary should be our anthem 💞✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿💞
Thanks for commenting this song! I went to listen to it & I love it
Question? Why do women need an anthem? Does every gender need one orrr?
And power by little mix
Don't forget "boys will be boys" by dua lipa💗
@@BLU-ky6bn genders dont need an anthem, I believe this is just a complement for how well written this song is sense no comment should be taken seriously tbh, yeah i wont deny the song is good but it shouldnt just a play a role as an anthem sense this could just genuinely be an experience the singer has went through
As someone who got groomed and has the frustrating experience of said groomer avoiding accountability like the plague, the part 2:58 - 3:17 hits SO hard for me. This entire song makes me feel so much less alone in my resentment and anger towards him. Everyone who's experienced any type of sexual assault, abuse, grooming, etc, is SO strong. And after reading the comments I can confidently say that, we survived hell, and for that we should have the right to feel any emotions we can towards our abusers with no strings attached or others telling us to "forgive and forget". It should be, and IS, up to you how you handle your recovery process - not forgiving whoever hurt you does NOT make you a bad person and it is NOT required to heal. Because it is YOUR choice on how you cope/recover. And nobody from an outside perspective has the right to tell you that it's wrong.
ive experienced this exact same damn thing, and i agree with EVERYTHING you said. yes maam 👏
My mom keeps telling me I NEED to forgive my ‘brother’ for things he did to me and I told her no and she gets mad at me every time. She always says ‘you can forgive someone but it doesn’t mean you forget’ and I tell her I’m never forgiving him and that I don’t care about him anymore
YESSSSSS!!! My parents told me “you didn’t tell us at the time, so it’s time to get over it, you can’t keep using that as an excuse” (an excuse for what, I’ve never asked). Fuck that, I’m allowed to be as resentful as I want towards them. Say it louder for those in the back!!!
Damn I feel so sorry for y’all. I’m a trans guy, I had my dad sexually abuse me and rape me multiple times when I was 4-5, and my friends got sexually abused by family members, and my little sister got sexually assaulted by my step great grandfather I know how it feels and I have empathy for all those who had to experience that
Thank the gods I’ve never been SAed, but I was made to feel extremely uncomfortable and vulnerable by a much older man. I was fourteen years old, maybe 4`9`` and 100 LBS soaking wet. I’m also disabled, and as such I took a certain bus full of other kids who couldn’t take the normal bus to school. It came right to my door to pick me up. The bus driver saw me in a very modest sundress. Like when I say modest, I mean knee length dress with a jacket on over it and a ribbon in my hair. I looked like a little girl, and he kept making these extremely uncomfortable comments about how pretty I looked, telling me that the boys would be all over me, how he’d, “See you tomorrow, beautiful lady/pretty girl,” and how I should, “Stop biting those beautiful lips.” It took me crying into a friend’s chest for an hour to be able to report him, and even then he wasn’t fired. I was just moved to a different bus. Until he quit, whenever I passed him, he’d call out, “Hey sweetie,” to me whenever I passed by his bus, and he later went on to comment about how suggestively another disabled friend, who is younger than me, looked in the clothes they were wearing. For reference, they were literally just wearing shorts and a T-shirt. I finally worked up the courage to tell my older brothers about it, and they told me it wasn’t sexual harassment because he didn’t tell me he wanted to have sex with me, and started getting all up in arms defending the adult man who told a fourteen year old girl who looked about twelve years old how beautiful her body was. I feel sick to my stomach just thinking about him, and I still remember his full name and now can only associate the first name with bad things. Though it was nice later on that my bus drivers after him knew exactly what he’d said and one of them outright told me, “You have every right to be angry. Nobody should ever talk to a young girl like that.” It was especially validating because he had previously been friends with the other driver until he learned what he’d done, at which point he stopped respecting him completely and wouldn’t even allow him near the bus when I got off and on. That’s the driver who’s name I wish I remembered
The pre chorus is the actual embodiment of a chefs kiss
ahaha I love this comment thank uuu!!!
The part everyone uses: 2:18 - 3:05
The best part of the song: 0:01 - 3:31
Hell yeah!!!
Yes!!
Yessss
Facts
Fr the best part is the whole song bro
screaming this while still in an abusive relationship, fuelling the future me who WILL have the strength that i don’t now.
june 2023- i’m out ❤️
you got this girl!!!
you can do it hon!!!! we’re rooting for you!
I’M CHEERING YOU ON!!!
You got this love!! Rooting for you ❤️
@@justherebruh6822 i get stronger and closer every day ❤️
I award you the highest honor,
**Makes an animatic in my head of this, never to be created**
Wow I was thinking only I do that 😅
Same I would make an animatic but I don't know how to animate
Relatable 😂
Oh mood
I thought I was the only one who did that lol
That one dislike is from the ex
TEA TEAAAAA
@@MelinaKB girl don’t forget us when you become famous pleaseee
@@heyitsmeurcat6951 LOVE THE PFP
Scar_ Rat
I READ ‘I LOVE THE PP’ HELP
@@batsybuns5911 BHAHAHA
I love that it starts as a song about one specific woman's experience but at the end it becomes an anthem for every girl who has gone through similar problems.
My mother works with abused women and she absolutely loves this song!
Tell your mom that she’s awesome. ✨
Tell your mom that she is awesome and also tell your mom to tell the women she works with that they are awesome!
Tell ya mom she's based and got the highest respect from humanity
THIS SONG GAVE ME FUCKIN CHILLS!!! AS A SURVIVOR THANK YOU MA'AM!!!! I DIDN'T DESERVE WHAT I GOT AND I AM PROUD TO SAY THAT NOW
Right there with you, beautiful song
this hits now more than ever.
): yea
America, you let us down this time…. ❤️🩹
Everyone is an idiot. Why America?!
2:18 the part that everyone heard at tiktok
Yasss I love my Tik tok fam❤️
Tyyyy
@@MelinaKB
We love you too /p
@@rosebud577 AWWW THANK U
that's literally where im here from
Never had a song make me want to scream the words so loudly as this song has. So beautiful and empowering. You’re so talented and strong for releasing such a song that I’m sure has a large story behind it.
I relate so much! Personally, it gives me a kind of feeling of… closure? Whatever it is, I think it’s good?
This needs to be in a musical. Like seriously.
I agree, this would be a cool musical
agreed
IT ISN'T?!
as a trans guy I just- yes. stand up and be HEARD, ladies- I may not be one of you anymore but you've sure as hell got my support
hi, also a trans guy! That's super cool :D
Hey there two trans guys! I completely agree. We are all here to support you, and as the song says, NOBODY can demand who you are or your body. You are an amazing human being, and you absolutely deserve rights, no matter how many idiots protest to it.
and to whoever reading this, I’m so proud of you for coming this far 🫂
I support you!
Same!!! I may not be a woman anymore, but ill still stand by and support women forever.
Sameee
I feel like as a guy I’m not worthy to sing along to this song, BUT ITS SO MF GOOD
i feel like guys are allowed to also relate to & enjoy songs like these, so u shouldn't feel like u can't sing it!
@@SnowieKitten I relate to the subject matter, but I know this song is made for women especially at the end with “here’s to my girls.” I sing along until that point. As a guy I need to stand aside and let voices be heard, if more people could just shut up when people are voicing their hurt then we’d be farther along with true equality by now. I hope you have a great day
@@flyingblind5677 people like you are holding onto the thin strings of hope we have for humanity
@@naureenabdulmajeed526 well hope isn’t inherently worthless, but at this point, it may be so
You have every right to sing this. Everyone has the right to feel powerful.
Was anyone else struck by: "I don't deserve this, and for your next girlfriend, you need to treat her with respect"?
I'm so used to hearing women sing songs about exes and bashing the women who date him after them as slots and hoes.
If 2021 is the year that women move more towards standing up for each other and building each other up regardless of what they do or who they date, then at least something good came out of it ❤
I've been so excited for this to come out. I have not been disappointed. Such an amazing song
Oh my gosh thank you, that means the world!!!
''And for the boys, Who don't care who they destroy, Told us "No'' was not a choice, You can not silence our voice."
probably my favorite line.
Does this bring up memories of parental psychological abuse for anyone else? My dad still gaslights me and has the audacity to demand my presence whenever he wants something done but refuses to acknowledge that I've already done so much for him.
It's always funny when people say you never do anything for them yet they're always the first person they run to when they need something done.
But anyway, it honestly *does* remind me about my parents (as well as reminds me of my ex). It's def the typa song that I'll blast once I cut my parents out of my life when I turn 18.
Yes, it reminds me of my mom…
yes very
Yes, it reminds me of the verbal, emotional, and psychological abuse my mother put me through. Soon, it'll be the anniversary of my first year free of her, and hearing the section with "gaslighting me up" shook me when I heard it in a short. I will probably listen to this when I have bad days thinking about her from now on.
This is so good. The set it off tone/beat. The strength of burn in Hamilton. Omggggg. This is so fucking good
First burn/congratulations vibes
yep
AYE SET IT OFF AND HAMILTON
It reminds me of the beginning of your obedient servant
2:18
It reminds me of the bully started out friend who gave me trauma, the class mates and teachers who stood by and did nothing and blamed me. My dad who reaffirmed the things the bully would tell me. The friends who took advantage of me and left me. The boy who wouldn’t leave me alone and scarred me when I was 6 years old on the school yard. The doctors and therapists who push me to the side and allowed my issues to get worse. The family who loved me only when I behaved. The bully who left my psyche more shattered than Cinderella’s forgotten glass slipper.
Yooo!
Same dude, wanna talk ‘bout it?
If not we good but like trauma isn’t very fun
Reminds me of my emotionally abusive mother
I have a story like that it was when I was in kindergarten everyone bully me pinched me and laugh at me and everything bad I was still little so I didn't understand that it was bad and did not tell anyone :(
That is so sad like
This song fits unnervingly well with the USA right now-
It does, and it sucks that men still don't know the answer no.
It does
This song literally made me think that there was a whole ass Broadway musical I was missing out on!! It’s so good I’m just jamming to it repeatedly!!!
🛐You need to write a friking musical or I would cry. Tienes un chingo de talento, sigue así y llegarás lejos
@Victoria Crow The song is so good that people would pray to it.
As a victim of SA, this song speaks to me.
same WE SHALL RISE BITCHES
Who wants to bet that the one dislike is from the person the song is about 😂
LMFAOOOO or some of them just misclicked
@@samanthadelacruz3289 true
~Lyrics for those who like to see them all at once like me❤~
So you say you really miss me? (Aah)
Well that makes me laugh
'Cause you miss the way I let you walk all over me
Broke every bone in my back
So you wanna reminisce things? Huh (aah)
Well don't come round here with that
If we review through your phony excuses
I bet it won't change the past
Closed for the weekend
Don't you apologize
I know you don't mean it
I quit
Here's to the "no"s
To the "I think you should go"s
To the leave his ass alone's
To the hanging up thе phone's
To the no man can demand my body, my spirit, my lovе
Ooh
Here's to the "no"s
To the "walk yourself on home"s
To the keeping on my clothes
To the highs without the lows
To the no man can demand my body, my spirit, my love
Ooh
I've had enough
So you're claiming you're a martyr, what?
Like I don't have a clue
Too bad I'm smarter, be discreet's a starter
I'm staring right at the proof
Closed for forever (uh-huh)
I'm done with shutting up
I've learned a lot better
Listen
Here's to the "no"s
To the "I think you should go"s (I think you should go)
To the leave his ass alone's
To the hanging up the phone's
To the no man can demand my body, my spirit, my love
Ooh
Here's to the "no"s
To the "walk yourself on home"s
To the keeping on my clothes
To the highs without the lows
To the no man can demand my body, my spirit, my love, love, love
If you're so mature now
Then I think it's time you grow up
Admit you did it
We all know you did it
And yet you still gaslight me up
You are such a flame out
Your only drive left's in the bed (your only drive left's in the bed)
I don't deserve this
And for your next girlfriend
You need to treat her with respect
Here's to my girls
Standing up for what they're worth
Yeah, you know who run the world
I am ready to be heard
No man can demand my body, my spirit, my love (my body, my spirit, my love)
Ooh
And for the boys
Who don't care who they destroy
Told us "NO" was not a choice
You cannot silence our voice
No man can demand our bodies, our spirits, our love
We've had enough
This is literally a lyric video
@@epilepsylizard2469 they clearly said, “Lyrics for those who like seeing them all at once.”
I'm so glad I came across this song! Mainly because for 3 years I got groomed and sexually assaulted by someone who I thought loved me. I was young and dumb but I've since dumped his ass and found an amazing man. To anyone who has experienced this you guys deserve better and you will get through this. If I could go back and change what happened I might but if I did I don't think I would of met my current partner. So I'm not sure..
I am so sorry no one should ever have to go through that
This song reminds me of one of my dear friends. He got into a relationship that was in short, heavily abusive. He deserved so much better then what he was getting and finally was able to stand up for himself after he realized that this person was being absolutely horrible to him. I know this song has a predominantly female role but it can truely happen to anyone. My best friend who I am now proud to call my lover are as happy as can be and are both getting over our scars from past relationships to help better one another and make a life for ourselves in which we are both comfortable. Cause that’s what love should be, a union that can be associated with both comfort and contentment.
You're right! Personally I don't think this song is necessarily tall is necessarily targeting only women women. Women and men alike go through abusive situations whether it be Physically or sexually. I would say this is a great song but what bothers me the most is how People think only women can go through abusive situations. I've gone through abusive situations myself And as much as I'm happy to hear people standing up for themselves people also have to realize that men go through hardships and abusive situations. I just wish more people realized that.
Boy, this gives me some heathers, mean girls, and Hamilton vibes. With just a pinch of the ladies from Henry 8. I found this song because Instagram gives you tik tok videos. And I fucking love this song! Please don't give up your singing!
this sounds like it could be a part 2 to "All You Wanna Do" from SIX the musical. This song sounds like it can really fit in a musical and I think the message aligns if Katherine did decide to fight back
I’VE BEEN WAITING ANS THIS DID NOT DISAPPOINT
AWEEE THANK YOU!!!!
@@MelinaKB OFC!! THIS WENT STRAIGHT ON MY PLAYLIST
can we just take a minute to admire how gorgeous she looks in that picture~ like how??
We ladies need this song more than ever before
Came here straight from tik tok and I'm in love! ❤
Awee hi!!! Thank you so much🥺🥺❤️
@@MelinaKB hi love!! ❤ and yw! I wish I heard this song back in hs when I was in my toxic relationship but still, I appreciate and love this song. I listened to it nonstop actually :)
It’s right about the anniversary of when I got with my shitty ex for six years. I left him September and this song has helped me feel like myself again
I'm so happy for u
Thank you for making this song! I’ve been dealing with a lot of PTSD and depression lately and I view this song as a personal theme of mine for the ones who have hurt me in the past thank you! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS ONE!!! TURN IT UPP🔊🔊🔊🔊🔊
HEHE THANK UUUUUUU
@@MelinaKB tism
‘ *admit you did it we all know u did it* ‘
Those lines hit me so bad in the heart
Even though it's a song about bad men hurting people, I vibe with this on a different level.
I'm a trans man who's only been free of an abusive mother for almost a year, and all of my life up to my escape last year was hell. She was discreet, she was good at hiding it and tricking people to turn on me if I tried to use my voice. Even took coming out to my grandfather who passed away by doing it for me without my knowledge. I could write a book how wicked she was.
I lost my best friends because of her, and even though I have been struggling... I've been thriving. I have moments where I miss the "safety" of being under her thumb, but then I remember how bad it was... This song is going to be one of a few that I listen to when I think about what I went through.
This is Angelica vibes with Eliza's voice from Hamilton, it's like Burn & Congratulations but she's actually burning him.
This song feels like the solo in the musical right before the interval where the good girl who is loved by everyone finally gives up and becomes the villian
As a girl who is dealing with trouble..this is my motivation song!!
Your vocals, the mean of the lyric, GOD I LOVE THIS SO MUCH
THANK YOU SO MUCH🥺❤️
@@MelinaKB even new kanye is better like even carnival is better
I’ve been playing the songs back to back for the last two days, Best song ever
I relate to this on a spiritual level but about my toxic and controlling "friend"
hello I've recently left a 3 year relationship because he cheated on me again and your song is helping me not to be soft to him and take him back. thank you 🥺🥺
This song gives me the vibes of what I feel towards my Father(change some of the words of course, but the "If your so mature now, then I think it's time you grow up, admit you did it, we all know you did it, and yet you still gas light me up, your are such a flam out" reminds me of him trying to abuse us, and how he acts like he is so much better than us
I'm really sorry
This song blew my mind. Usually I think cool song and move on. I ran to google from tik Tok to listen to the full version.
This song literally describes what I’m going through but it’s with people I used to be friends with 😩
This has only been on here for two days and I’ve already lost caught of how many times I’ve listened to this on loop.
This feels like such a main character moment in a Broadway musical.
I love this it's a combination of every strong woman who had dealt with a toxic man and is just done
OH IM ACTUALLY NOT THAT LATE! I have seen you so much on my fyp your so talented girl thank you for gifting the world with this beautiful song :))
oh my gosh hi! that is SO COOL TO HEAR, you are so sweet thank you!
Tiktok brought me here cause you were so good! I’m so happy for you that your music is spreading around tiktok too
@@MelinaKB u know what else will be cool your body when the life drains from it
I get the vibes of SIX the musical, I love it
I’m going through my first heartbreak feeling used/sad/hurt/angry and this EXACTLY describes how I feel. THIS IS THE BAD BITCH ANTHEM I NEEDED.
This is the exact song ive been waiting made me cry even if it was upbeat,, i had a courage to break up with him since all he think is the 'bed' even if i told him no... The part where "and for your next girlfriend you need to treat her with respect" thats exactly what i told him.. but he kept his stand thinking he respect me.. so sad.. im happy im free
Thank you for this song 💜
You did the right thing breaking up with him. A good, mature, and caring boyfriend Willis understand if you weren’t ready for that and would wait as long as you need. I’m really happy for you and I hope you find someone who will treat you how you deserve 💕 also I agree, this song is so good and made me more confident especially about breaking up with my ex.
*would understand
" I don't deserve it and for your next girlfriend, you need to teach her with respect " it's the most beautiful part. It hits different :)
As part of the 97% this song speaks with my soul. I LOVE THIS SONG WITH MY WHOLE HEART!
So many musical vibes I love it (also like Heather Chandler and Regina George kinda vibes lol
My abusive ex tried texting me yesterday after over a year. I'm so proud of myself for shutting him down and telling him where he can shove it
Put this woman in a musical and I will watch it straight away, this song give of Hamilton x mean girls vibes
can not stop playing this song!!!!!!! It reminds me on one of my ex's and made me feel so much better
This song makes a huge statement, especially with all the bullshit going on in the US right now. All my women, they/them's, trans queens, and anyone else who stands with women, like this comment.
Honestly, the little baffled “what?” At 1:21 might seriously be my favorite part of the whole song, I can’t help but laugh every time
I am so in love with this song!! Like others have said, it gives me MAJOR musical vibes and it's absolutely brilliant! I can soo imagine a whole broadway sequence to this... I hope you make more songs like this and pursue a broadway sound since you do it so well.
I know this song is about a romantic relationship but listening to this after finally standing up to my boss, who belittled me to no end feel so good
I am so glad I stumbled upon your music yesterday. I love your style of music and this song is now my new favorite!
Thank you so much!!🥺 that means so much to hear!
@@MelinaKB know what else is good to hear when this song finishes
i want you to know i didn’t know how underrated you were when i first found your song on spotify. i’ve been listening to it NONSTOP for weeks, months actually. this is SO good. it’s so powerful too freaking go girl
My fav part "If your so mature now
Then I think it's time you grow up,
Admit you did it! We all know you did it! And yet you still gaslight me up"
I saw you post it on TikTok and I’ve fallen in love already. I’ve listened to the song at least 20 times by now and it’s only been a day.
Your voice is beautiful 💕
OK this is officially my favourite song ever-
Ik someone else said it but-
These lyrics hit different.
"If you're so 'mature' now, then I think it's time you grow up. Admit you did it, we ALL KNOW you DID it, and yet you still gaslight me up.."
u want a good relationship song lil bro listen to runaway
i love this song so much. It goes straight to the point. And I think that's what we are needing to do in these times.
I am obsessed! This makes me feel very powerful and less of a pushover! ❤️❤️
It's been one week since I started listening to this song... I'm sure it's a sign, 'cause the song I listened before this one was all you wanna do from six the musical.
Both of them talk about abuse.... It's hitting me so hard that I feel like someone took me down suddenly and I couldn't do anything about it
I know this is aimed at relationships and boundaries, but this reminds me of my family trauma. Especially the if your so mature now bit. Idk if it’s a good or bad feeling listening to this, but I can’t stop.
I wish i had this song when i broke up with my last bf but god its soooo good and you did amazing
I really hope an instrumental of this is released in the future, I was recommended this during some intense spousal abuse and I have both cried and sung triumphantly to it. Thank you so much for putting these feelings into words, and into a beautiful arrangement at that. If I’m missing any instrumentals and if anyone reads this lmk! I really want to cover it as the first song I would’ve covered in a year but I’ve only found one shoddy version. I may learn it on the piano and play it. I want to express all this pain I’m feeling and put it out there whether or not people in my life believe the abuse has been real.
It’s insane how relevant these lyrics are to a situation I’m going through.
I hope you'll be able to get out of that situation
Another song to listen to on repeat for 2 weeks 😩❤️
If I changed some of the lyrics it would fit how I feel about my dad, so I did just that:
So you say you really miss me
Well, that makes me laugh
Cause you miss the way
I let you walk all over me
Broke every bone in my back
So you wanna reminisce things
Well, don’t come ‘round here with that
If we review through your phony excuses
I bet it won’t change the past
I won't go this weekend
Don’t you apologize
I know you don’t mean it
I quit
Here’s to the “no”s
To the “I think you should go”s
To the “just leave me alone”s
To the hanging up the phone
To the my dad can't demand my presence, my voice or my love
Oh
Here’s to the “no”s
To the “drive yourself on home”s
To the “I’m not gonna go”s
To the highs without the lows
To the my dad can't demand my presence, my voice or my love
Oh, I’ve had enough
So you’re claiming you’re a martyr
Like I don’t have a clue
Too bad I’m smarter
Be discreet’s a starter
I’m staring right at the proof
I won't go, not ever
I’m done with shutting up
I’ve learned a lot better
Listen
Here’s to the “no”s
To the “I think you should go”s
To the “just leave me alone”s
To the hanging up the phone
To the my dad can't demand my presence, my voice or my love
Oh
Here’s to the “no”s
To the “walk yourself on home”s
To the “I’m not gonna go”s
To the highs without the lows
To the my dad can't demand my presence, my voice or my love, love, love
If you’re so mature now
Then I think it’s time you grow up
Admit you did it
We all know you did it
And yet you still gaslight me up
You are such a flame out
There’s something so wrong with your head
I don’t deserve this
Just think of your children
You need to treat us with respect
Here’s to the ones
Standing up for what they’re worth
Yeah, We can run the world
I am ready to be heard
my dad can't demand my presence, my voice or my love
And for the dads
Who don’t care who they destroy
Told us no is not a choice
You cannot silence our voice
No one can demand our presence, our voice or our love
We’ve had enough!
Love this
I know that I was technically all of my abusers were women, (not men) I still love this song with all of my heart. (I just change a few of the words around whenever I sing it, so it fits my pov more accurately)
The one dislike was from the ex and their friend that feels bad for them :)
PLEASE ADD THIS TO SOUNDCLOUDDD I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS FOREVER BESTIEEEE
This sounds like a musical song and I’m LIVING FOR IT
WOAHH THIS IS FIRE 🔥🔥🔥
the people who dislike this amazing music are probably the toxic people